Wow. This is exactly what I needed to hear. My girlfriend Of almost 4 years (since 15 y/o) has been talking about space. And she even said it doesn’t mean the end of us just like the video explained. She just needs some time to be herself again and as much as it killed me, it might be good for me too. It will help me find myself as well, and I kinda like that. I’m exited to tell and hear from my gf ab both of our little experience on not being in the same routine of the last 4 years. I even believe it will make us stronger. If you took the time to read this, I appreciate you, and your obviously here for a reason so I hope you get through whatever your going through.God bless❤️
"Oof" I bet things didn't work out in the end. When the significant other says "I need space" or "we need space", they basically want to get away from you to explore other options.
So he's going to simp for her. Guys, as couples, work through your problems in real-time while remaining together. An adult can fix his or her self while still being in a loving relationship. She can still discover herself--whatever that fake pop-psych fable might means--without leaving you. Same goes if you've got personal problems you need to address, except uncontrollable rage issues or something. The whole reason she wants away from you is to find a more take-charge guy or one who can provide a better, more secure deal. But hey, like you say, let her go, fix your own simp-issue(s), get some Jesus, and see what's out there, guilt-free when you have time, if you want. Annnnnd, don't ever take her back. If she does this to you/for herself once , she'll find some or any pretext to do it again. And again. And again. And again. That's a lot of other dudes occupying her headspace and her hootie haha when it should be just you. Do better and fix yourselves, then watch how fast green flag women find you. Be MEN.
My boyfriend basically said he didn't want contact for a few days and it quite hurts to give him what he needs. We did have a good talk beforehand but he also said some hurtful things a few days before. We DO love each other al lot. And being scared to text a simple goodmorning or goodnight just hurts a lot.
@@akaaka898 well, it turns out he just really needed some space to think. He was going through a rough patch. And to be honest looking back we both were. It's not bad to want to be alone or don't feel like you need to distance yourself from someone for a bit. It's hard to be on the other end of that, not knowing what's going on in someone else's mind. What I learned from that was that every relationship has ups and downs, some bigger than others. But it's also important to realize that your partner isn't the only person in the world. Sometimes you can't help someone by actively doing something. Being that dependant isn't healthy for either. Now that is way easy to say, and I am super sorry you are feeling this way. I don't blame him for feeling the way he did, I felt bad that I have him the reason to think certain things while I never meant for them to come across that way. I would say to not be scared either way. Do what you feel like you need to do now. Maybe they just really need to be left alone to think, ponder or reconsider. Maybe they are really not feeling great and don't want to talk about it. Be careful not to come across as clingy or demanding but if you want it's never bad to let someone know you are there for them. I really hope for you it's just a small thing and, like me, are overreacting. Because I certainly was!
Also, as to our relationship. We did break up. But that was on a 100% completely unrelated note to what was going on. We just grew apart over time. Still love him with all my heart but no longer as a boyfriend. (Don't think my current love would be happy with that either) ;)
@@daanroelofs119 hey Do you still love him? Why did you guys break up after giving that space he want!! What was he said at the last moment of separation?? I am going through the same situation He doesn't know that what's he want now! He just asking me peace and space for a while. I don't know what will happen next. I just waiting for him to come back. Is that ok to asking peace? Although i also want space but I can't breathe without him. It's feel like dying. Our relationship crossed 4 years. And now he want space. Cause we did argue several times of a month. So we both need space right now. I actually respect that thing. But at the end of the day I missed him very much. And the worst feeling is not knowing what will happen at last. Even this relationship will last at the end. He means a lot to me.
the weirdo You need to give her a valid reason for the space ( death) , how long and reassure her that it isn't a break up and you won't keep your option open. The reason why women freak out it is because Most men who ask for space are too coward to break up.
The trick to taking space and it not being a big deal is exactly as she says in the video: reassure your anxious partner that you two are okay, that you love them, and that your need for space is only your unique way of recharging your batteries. Set a deadline for your alone time, otherwise they will think you're ending things. Honor the deadline and come back with a smile. Tell them you love them all the more for their understanding of how important this is to you. Tell them you hope they can, too, enjoy the extra free time doing what they love, and that when you get back together you both can have lots of new stuff to talk about.
my current partner has been on and off asking for space, but he does come back. it's just in my previous relationship, my ex asked for a single moment of space, and it was then the end 😞 and whenever I ask my current partner if he still loves me, he couldn't say it on the moment he asks for. he tells me he has to weigh things
when a girl tells she needs space you stand there and accept it. Nothing you can't do about it. when you tell a girl you need space they go ape shit and let's you have it.
Idk why asking for space is considered a "bad thing" for most people. In fact, I'd consider that mentality a red flag. Seriously, we all need our alone time. We have our own individual goals, hobbies and to do list we'd like to accomplish. We can't always be with someone 24/7 threw out our lives. That's insanity. If you believe someone taking their alone time as a sign of them leaving you, or "not liking you anymore". You'll make it happen. To believe that mentality and not respecting their space. You're only going to push them further away to the point they will leave or lash out. So for God sake, respect their space. To turn "having space" an issue is a weakness in a relationship that needs to be fixed. Personally, as someone who values their independence and time very much, someone not respecting and shaming me having my alone time would infuriate me.
this helped me. but I just don't know how long will this space he is requesting would last. Cause its more likely a huge space that he has been requesting from me. :( Though it hurts, I have to respect his decision.
yo just countine on ur life when u give space it actually creates attraction lol its not over and when u accept it and show u don't care they will come back to u lol guaranteed
krisna marie Embornas ikr, in a relationship for 2years 3 months my boo ask for space to fix him, before we fall apart. I don't like it, it hurts like crazy. but I get it too I'm letting him do him while I do me until the time is over
My girlfriend said she needs a few days to herself of us not talking or seeing each other. . . I was being clingy because I had recently opened up to her about something that made me very vulnerable and it overwhelmed her, and she said she needs a few days to herself but idk how I can do that because I love her so much and I’m afraid of losing her. Any tips?
When I got into a relationship with my boyfriend, we started spending alot of time together, almost everyday. Not to mention we worked together. I also have a 6 year old daughter that needed my time as well. So when I finally broke it down to him, after spending a lot of time together, he didn't take it to well and I felt like he only saw the negative side of wanting space which was not spending every single minute of every single hour together of every single day, rather than seeing it as giving me time to spend with my daughter exceptionally. This caused an argument between us. Another reason I had suggested space was because we had been spending so much time around each other that we started to argue quite often due to the fact that we were still getting to know one another.
Compass Amour thank you for your post ! Idk know you but I’ve felt pushy needy and my girlfriend has a young daughter. I understand Ive been selfish ! And need to fix that !
I’m currently giving myself and my girlfriend some space. The issue is I do not know where things stand. I don’t know if the relationship instantly demoted to a friend level or just a couple giving each other time. I want clarity but am worried that I’m being too anxious to find out where things stand. I’m meeting her for coffee today and don’t know if asking where the relationship stands is something I should just do, my mind wants to but something tells me not to. I’m conflicted hell lmao
This is always incredibly difficult. How did it go? Generally I try to get a feeling for the mood, and if rhe mood is good then I gently bring up the tough questions. Hopefully she was happy to see you.
What if my GF wants space - I respect that and dont contact her for 2 weeks and after I contact her again she tells me that i should have done it sooner? Like wtf? Now she is like "you didnt care, thats why u havent contacted me"
Yeah my boyfriend wants space and stuff but whenever he wants space the next thing i know we be calling and you know we catch up and everything and all of a sudden he has all these new plans with his girl bestie and there friends and all this new stuff and i’m over here like, so u want space and you don’t want to include me with ur friend group, and i am the one who always asks to hang out i think it’s becoming one sided
Im 17 i havent worked out for 5 days i have slept home once this week. I tried to Get a day doing my things buy then i got to hear that i was a terrible person
I got cheated on while I gave space. Now I'm trying to let go and I'm scared to trust. I dont know what to do. I'm Holding onto someone who wants space. Just know hes not coming back. Almost gave a whole 2years fighting with him tryna keep us together and he just let go.
Idk if anyone still reads this but Id just like ur insight on this on what anyone would given what my bf recently went through. The past month, he had just been so flooded by academics to the point even if he wanted to make an effort in the relationship, he couldnt. And I noticed he couldnt even have time for himself, so I was just there constantly supporting and telling him not to worry about me and focus on his things first. But then by mid month, his grandmother passed away, right a day before we were supposed to meet. And I told him to go to his family, they need him and he needs them, and that he doesnt need to worry about me for now. But even when he was with his family, he couldn't mourn the death of his grandmother properly because his academics just really ridiculously stacked high on top of each other. And I just kept supporting and reminding him to take breaks because Im afraid he might feel burnt out at that rate. And recently, by the end of the month, we met and he said although he still loves me, he just cant feel himself at that time, and so empty, and possibly falling out of love too alrdy, and that maybe he just needs some space because he feels so overwhelmed by everything that's happened. And I just feel so powerless to help him because everything that's happened is because of external factors. Right now, Im respecting the space he asked for but when he replies sometimes its also cold. Do you think he just needs time to like really figure himself out and be himself again before being back together with me? Any insight or advice would be greatly appreciated
I'm sorry :/ that sounds very difficult for both of you. Unfortunately you can't push someone to be with you but you're doing good respecting his space. I believe that if it's meant to be it will be. It sounds like he is swamped with difficult life things but hopefully he will take time to sort it out and decide what he wants relationship wise. Hopefully he comes back to you and the space is temporary. But if not, don't be too defeated. Be with someone who can and will put in the time to be with you.
i hope you 2 are doing well now. Ive gone through this recently with my girlfriend she is in a similar situation just overwhelmed with stuff that theres no time to make an effort for a relationship with me although we are alright and like each other. she asked for space i respected her request and i stayed away no contact while she gets things situated with work career kids etc. its very painful im hurt but ill be strong and i let her know just reach out when she is ready if that happens.
In my opinion, in hard times like your boyfriends'... He should want you around for support and to lean on someone. When a man is with a women he values, nothing would make him leave. He will take space focus and come right back... No one wants to be alone and its not a natural behavior. Humans need humans.
My girl said she needs space, but, she still loves me and wants to marry me and still finds me attractive and this has nothing to do with another guy but just being alone and at peace. This is due to some arguing and I know it's my fault. So basically I've given her space for about 1 week and a half and I plan on giving another week and a half. I have a lot of things to get fixed in my life before I hit her up. I've set my own date so I can be ready and fix all my problems before I text her. Does this seem like it will work out? She first tried to say that she has no feelings for me and she doesn't know where the feelings went, but, she was comforting me and still wanted to kiss and was tearing up as the conversation went on she kissed me multiple times and said she still felt something and was happy and at the end of the day she was texting me before we went to sleep will hearts and saying she still loves me but for me to respect the space so she can miss me.
claudio baldizon I'm the exact same situation, what happened afterwards? I still have like 4 days to go until that "time" we both agreed on is over, so I do need some advice
dont do anything raul. ua-cam.com/video/BLn-OP7cPJk/v-deo.html watch this video its Coach corey wayne. he knows what he is doing and he teaches it very well.
I'm kinda in the same boat except its with a guy... It's been 5 days lol not a week though... I feel like I'm being clingy but at the same time I don't want to pressure him. You're lucky that you still know she wants you, I don't even know if "my guy" wants a relationship anymore... He literally said he doesn't know anymore, and I'm kinda scared that this is gonna end... But hey, things get better, right? lol
Sorry bro. Move on. Your story is literally mine. Its been 3 weeks and all ive gotten is scratch. She said she needs to know if she will miss me and pretty much that means... im not trying to be rude but i want to see other people or specifically someone else.
it seems like space means you don't want me to be around. i want someone who wants to be around me. I know what I want. If i needed space in the beginning, I would say. The word "space," will conflict a committed relationship.
Bennie D LOL It’s not that I didn’t “want my fiancé around”, see you’re making it 100% about YOU and not the entirety of the relationship. The reason why I told him we needed time apart is because his responses during our past few discussions pertaining to a certain issue became reactionary. He was reacting on nothing but anger, in short he couldn’t talk about the core subject without getting angry or raising his voice or saying a few hurtful things. I CARE about him and the connection we share, I’m desperately in love with this man and have been with him over 3 years, but it was going to destroy us if we continued like that for any longer. I told him we needed 2wks for us to both think things through, then we’d reconvene and see where we stood and hopefully we would come up with similar solutions. If not? Then we’ll know where to go from there. I didn’t want us seeing each other aka didn’t want him to come over to my place because all it was doing was distracting me AND my daughter. I was a very independent person when we met. Last year, I had 2 major reconstructive surgeries, and it threw me into a deep depression since I couldn’t walk for months Now, I’m still struggling and I’ve always been a worker, but since he’s always over here and I’ve been focusing more on our future and our marriage than on what me and my daughter need, I’m not doing good financially. I haven’t taken any time to get back to normal physically or mentally SO sometimes ITS NOT JUST ABOUT NOT WANTING TO SEE THE GUY!!!
it can be hard, but trying to understand is key. Sometimes it can be work schedules/recent events being tiring and things just not making sense. nobody can be in two places at one time and all of us do need to spend some time with ourselves.
i met a guy and we're in LDR (11.287km). Didnt expect he fell first and catch feelings. Day by day, he told me when he got work in a day thats mentally exhausting. He works at mental asylum even he said helping crazy people = no time off + his schedule always weird (irregular schedule). I put trust in him, we werent talking 24/7 bc different times and we have other qualities (especially him but i could talk 24/7 if he able but i always understand his condition). So i give him space and time for figuring out things. I allow all of that. Btw, im a secure person thankfully so im the type girl who dont make relationship complicated. During this phase, i let him go
I need this!! So I broke up with my bf I’d say like 2 months ago. I do love him and care for him but we were fighting constantly. It just wasn’t working. We didn’t have space. We hung out all the time. And i broke up with him because I needed time. I needed space. And I don’t think he understands that. He’s said things like I’m giving up on us. All this stuff when really I just need time for myself. Because it’s so easy to lose yourself in a relationship. I’ve had a lot of trials this year. Had a spinal fusion. Almost died twice. And I’ve lost a lot of weight. I’ve had a rough year and I truly need space to figure things out. To be on my own and with Jesus. So I guess I just needed advice. I don’t want to give up what I want to not hurt him.
Told the love of my life this and that it didn’t mean I wanted to meet other people it’s literally that I’m overwhelmed with life and I don’t want to take it out on you .. but we broke up a few days ago sooo y’all can see how insecurities can ruin a relationship 🤷🏾♂️ oh well I’m not hurt cause he clearly wasn’t the one
My GF is 11 years older and used to not let me leave her sight. The first year of our relationship she would pick me up after work and if I wanted to hang with friends or do anything she would get pissed and essentially wouldn't let me. She accused me of cheating every time I would try to stay a night at a buddies house on a weekend when she just wanted to sleep all day but she just expected me to sit in her room and watch tv all day while she slept. I begged for space but was never granted any. I was working 12's and she still made me go directly to her house every night. Then one day about 7 months ago she got a job at our local grocer and quickly became a manager. Now she's "needed space and time to herself to see what she wanted to do" for the last 2 and a half months. Funny how hypocrisy works. She would have literally attacked me if i tried to break up with her in 2018/early 2019 nut now all of a sudden it's okay to nott see me for almost 3 months because she's the one that needs space.
See, my boyfriend and I are currently on a break. And the reasoning is because lately our lives have been bombarded with different opportunities that could change our future for the better or worse. We both have different lives and we decided to go on a break so we could get in touch with ourselves again. Personally, I felt that I was losing touch and independence with myself and he felt bad that he couldn't give me the attention like he wanted because of how busy he is. So, at the moment, we aren't on speaking terms as we're trying our best to focus on ourselves without having to worry about giving each other attention. A tip for when you think you and your significant other need a break... have a mutual understanding and communicate. Ask each other why you guys think you need a break. And find a balance and set a boundary.
I just blocked my husband right now. We're having an argument and I asked him to please give me some time to think & process my emotions. But he never gives that. He always wants to fix this right away. When I'm mad I just want space to process everything. To realize a lot of things. I never have my space because he always wanna talk even if my mind is clouded with so much negative emoations.
What buisness is going to swoop in now? Sickning! Short cuts with targetting instead of having the people who need to get a job, finish school or stop harassing thier husband should be addressed first! Not to mention the social experimenting on people!
I love her and I wasn't thinking about it and I love to hug and touch but I just love her she says she needs space and tierd of touching and hugging I'm sorry I'm just loving that's all
If you have someone good how much space you need like seriously.. they don’t tell you that when they are in a abusing relationship but when they have someone good “oh I need some space” yeah that’s the sign of they want someone else new
JadorecocoTV dude I was told she needed space back around a month ago. And I was a emotional wreck. The AMOUNT of fear and anxiety was making me feel like I was drowning in quick sand at times.
Any time that will make your girlfriend or boyfriend wake up and realize that you are actually important in their life I personally think is a good thing as long as its been done amicably and everything explained and bounderies set in the absense of each other
@@melaninbotswana2474 I can agree, all you’re saying if there is clarity. But in the case of, I need space, and I’d prefer if we don’t have contact for at least 4 months, then, if you still have my number you can shoot a call……
I'm in this situation right now & where I'm from that's means it's over. So right now she's like I need space. But we both needs space to get right. To much back & fourth idk how much space she needs but I'm willing to give it to her. Relationship break is what we AGREED on but it's no title like she wants to feel the love again but want me to be around & do xyz. She's moving in with her best friend & taking only her clothes but leaving everything else here with me. She wants to enjoy her life she's 25 I'm 33 so it's like how long is to long. But I'm not looking at it as a negative maybe some people but we just need time
Hi, I seen your video and wanted to ask you this question. Why does my ex take me back and pretend to love me and then break up with me again and again and again? It's like a repeat cycle. I do no contact, she comes back for a little bit just to break up again. I mean, I always play it like Im cool and okay with the break up and do no contact, she always comes back only for a little bit though, why? She is even dating other guys now and I just slept with her for a few days this week and she ended it again and it said it was a mistake. Why? What am I supposed to do?
Matt Brady you know why she always breaking up with you its because their something wrong with you that you need to realize what is that to correct. thats all
I need a break is usually a way to lead to break up. Rarely does this change. I am in this now and she has broken up with me before. I am the one that screwed up and caused her to request a break. I think this is going to end our relationship of 2 years 5 months. We planned to be married in 2 months but I caused her to leave and she was hurt maybe never getting over what I did so if it happens we both lose because we are both 66 and very hard to find partners that are as good for each other as we are/ were...
Hi thank you for this video. Me and my gf has been together for 10 years, since we were 14.. Ive never appreciated her enough.. I thought I was ''the only guy on earth'' until today.. Recently she decided to part for a bit.. She said she still loves me, she wants to marry me but she is not strong enough.. She needs to fix herself in order to love me.. I took the smile from her, she has always prioritized me, my dreams etc. It really shocked me and when I realize she really means it.. she really wanna part in order to love herself .. Im cant stop crying.. I have never cried for a girl in my life.. Ive always been the guy who was confident and I always thought I was the real thing until today.. I reflected on our relationship and my behaviours.. Im truly sorry and mad at myself for stealing her years.. I felt like it was one sided one.. She gave me everything, but I did not. I feel egoistic and manipulating. I don't wanna be like this... I feel like everything I did was a behaviour of a sosiopat towards my gf. Yet she said that we will still be in relationship.. but we wont live together until she is healed.. I dont know how I can live without her.. I'm scared and Im lost.. she was and is my lottery. I want to fix myself and come back as a man, not a man child.. But right now, I do not have strenght to fight.. I'm trying, i really do.
@@pmdal yo thanks for asking ! its been good.. she is recovering, and im recovering.. we dont live together. For a month ago I was unlucky to rupture my achilles tendon. She has been come over to take care of my laundires, food and supplies.. I just need to give her time for herself and work my man self! thanks for asking man!
I felt bad for needing space. You know that couple hours you need to yourself. My boyfriend is SUPER affectionate and very touchy. Of course, it’s not grounds for wanting to end the relationship with him. I love it but I feel he gets the best me after having SOME distance ❤😂
the problem that I hate is when you know and inform to the other partner I think you need space and they say no... And then two weeks after they scream that they need there space! I mean really? the space problem was already building up! And she knows it! That's the problem, when it's girls they don't wanna say it but, and they end up forcing shit... When its a guy we say it so we know what's up!!
I've learned to like space with age! Ever notice this is usually one sided geared to the buisness of people pleasing or for looks because the secrets got exposed! So to make this not one sided consider a fresh partner not knowing how unrealalistic people are, yet paint all sorts of false imagery for points! Then you get wiser and realise the space is for sanity and to continue life without preditor phycology and has nothing to do with love for one another!
Please help me I textedy girlfriend the wrong things and I didn't want to be like that I was just angry 😡 and stressed out and now her parents don't trust me now and don't want me over there at her house so do I move on ?
simply needing space is needing space however i do not understand the concept because if i do not resolve the issue so they’re not upset for a prolonged period and that doesn’t make sense. yeah sure maybe time to think but what if they overthink.. then what it doesn’t make sense to be upset over longer than you have to..
Lol my ex said I need space so we can’t be in a relationship of 3 years anymore and the next day I caught her over at her baby’s daddy’s apt hmmmmm I walked away
So I have been with this girl for over a month now and I know it's only been one month but everything went perfectly. First, she wasn't sure that she was ready for a relationship due to her past experiences, but after we met she just fell in love with me and wanted to meet me the whole time. She smiled at me when I looked at her and the way she did it and looked at me I could feel that everything made sense. She always used to call me when she got off work and she always said she missed me and things like that. We have kissed and have had sex, and I even got invited to her mom's wedding and well she even got jealous one time when I texted a specific girl because she could feel that the girl was into me somehow. She wasnt mad about it haha, but anyway we were gonna meet this Friday and she longed and hyped it up the whole time. 3 days ago though she felt down and I tried speaking to her about it and trying to calm her down and all. The other day she came back to school, was with her classmates (only Girls), and then she told me that things were going too fast and that she needed time for herself to fully think about herself and what she wanted. First, I was confused and tried to text her but the day after I realized that I should back off and let her text me from now om and continue focusing on myself. So far she doesnt feel very well when she is home and she hangs with her girlfriends alot. I have just been worried if she never was truly in love with me from the start because it clearly seemed like she was. I do agree things went fast but I am not that type of person to notice that. I do not expect her to come back, but I respected her decision and I hope she will. I will give an update. She is barely in her social medias and on snapchat she typed in our convo for like 2 min and then she stopped and was into the convo for like 5 - 10 min. Weird, well its only been like 3 days so far. I am new to this whole space thing.
Well, it didn't go that well. Apparently she is dealing with stuff in her life and I didn't really give her space at all in the first week. A big mistake we both made was that we were never really clear what kind of space she wanted. Like if she wanted me to contact her sometimes to ask how she is, or if she literally just wanted herself to text me whenever she was ready. Sometimes she did text, but she never really wanted to talk about us. More about what she has done, and what I have done so far. I broke up with her or quit things with her a week ago because I feel like it's good for both of us to just let go. She clearly wasnt ready for anything and it will pain us both to know that we are still not completely broken up. In the end I just waited for answers to see if I could move on or not. Just wait 100 percent till she texts you. Maybe like 2 - 3 weeks later you can ask how she is and how it is going with her and stuff, but thats about it.
When you have the comfort of work, home, and relationship it does create a problem because you get stuck in that constant routine. If you take the space but come home at the end of the day talk and tell each other about your day and be more positive but still create that time for together then things will work out slowly. Don't be to pressured or do not create situations in your mind that make you push and push and push it's just normal to get space and give it back. Otherwise it will fall apart and you cannot salvage it.
Honestly ik that not everyone is perfect me and my girl gets into fight some worst than other but in the end I do know we love each other and recently we r living right now in a diff place because we kept arguing so it got to the pint where she ask for space I took it as in so dosent love me or etc but slowly I’m starting to understand that she does want me she does love me and wanna make things work especially cause where talking to a relationship therapist to communicate better and hopefully all this can get solve and be able to live with each other again as soon as possible after this video it gave me a clear picture so I’m gonna make sure not to overly stress her with questions or being neediness if she or he’ll tells u that they still want u and love u and wanna make things work especially in front of a therapist believe them because no body would be wasting their times that much
I'm currently giving a friend space. We haven't been getting along cuz of my arguing. I finally said since this is my last chance. I'm gna give u space. Since u haven't been doing well. I'll let u come to me when ur ready. I'm scared that she will not come back.
She wants space? Means its time to leave!!!!!! That's a caked icing way of a person saying I need more of other things in where YOU are not part of it OR I'm looking for something/someone else. If any woman tells me I need a little more space? Okay dear I grant you the rest of your life and now you have a life time of space. This isn't an attitude of anger emotion on my part BUT is in where I am not going to be around people that need space away from me. They don't want to be around you so leave them alone.
Well we lived together for 2.5 tears. He moved to another town for a job and we have been living apart for 6 months. He said the distance means he may be falling out of love but he need space. We agreed 2 to 3 weeks space. It'd now 2 weeks and i haven't heard from him. He did say he didn't want to break up, he just wasn't sure.
What if she didn't tell me how long a break? She wanted a break because we argue so much, im the main one that causes the arguments:/ im working on myself also and I'm not going to be clingy at all, I have been giving her the space she wants
@Jayden Bollier I deal with depression and anxiety and she knew that but she expected me to snap out of it fast , that is something not easy to deal with but she eventually lead me on, after 2 days I contacted her and saying what are the break standards like what we can and can't do, and eventually she said " we are no longer together " she didn't had it in her to actually break up with me, so I was looking dumb for 2 days thinking we were together still but on a break. Its been 4 weeks now
@Jayden Bollier I let her walk away and I only begged her once saying " give me another chance " she had all my social media passwords and everything so never once did I cheated and also when we argued , it wasn't toxic , we just gave each other the silent treatment so I guess u can say no communication happened when we argued but we both never yelled or cuss at each other , we just stayed quite, still i told her I was going to get better mentally but she just gave up and left and blocked me like I was nothing to her
@@sacrifice308 personally ive been through the same thing. You just have to understand nit everyone can handle ppl mental and Emotional situations. I have depression and anxiety and my ex i was with did the same thing. But the new boyfriend i have is amazing he understands he reassures. He helps me Talk my feelings out and help me with my depression and anxiety. She simply isn’t the one. You will find someone else better and love u for You with whatever problems you have. But remember also u have to back track and realize. That you have to understand where your partner is coming from, and realize the wrong youve done too. The arguments will put a strain on a relationship especially everyday. For rn work on your and learn your bad traits so if u do catch yourself doing it fix them or find other ways to communicate.
“The more space he wants the more I want to hold on” And the more you hold on the more they need space. People just have low self esteem, they take it so personally when someone is in need of some space and they get sensitive and make it about themselves and be like: “you don’t want to be with me” It’s just crazy like it was not about you but you making it about you and getting clingy and suffocating you’re making me in need of space from you and because of you. Which wasn’t the case in the beginning.
Space to let things or emotions calm down, is completely normal IMO. In adult relationships, it should be understood by both sides. But not everyone understands this. Recently, I was in a long-standing argument with my dad. It took a long time and it finally got resolved, unfortunately for me, not to my benefit. I was disappointed, angry (not entirely, but at least in part rightfully so) and I thought to myself - "I need distance for a while from this bullshit and from him". Not forever, but just a little bit of space so things can settle down and I can gain some perspective on them. My dad however can't compute this behavior and to him, once this thing got resolved, it's ALL over and I should IMMEDIATELY start behaving as if nothing happened at all. And if I still have emotions about the whole situation and need space, he's baffled, he immediately starts to emotionally blackmail by acting as if you were hurting his feelings, and if you insist on keeping the distance, he gets really offended and takes it personally. It's really weird to me, the complete disregard for someone else's feelings, it's not even malicious, but I don't get it. It actually offends me to be honest and whenever I'm in a situation like this, I feel like the other person is pushing me somewhere I don't want to be and I either bend to his/her will, or I'm seen as an asshole.
It sounds like he felt guilty but didn't know how to admit it and thus resorted to manipulation tactics. Usually when I need space from family like this, I just take it without saying anything. I keep conversation brief, ignore phone calls sometimes, and don't visit. I do reassure if they seem to get worried but otherwise I back off.
Men should give their women space anyways without her even asking her for it. She should be asking when to see you, having her mind wondering. You as a man should always be focusing on yourself.
“Expert” my ass! When somebody needs space, that somebody is NOT for you. They’re people meant to be alone and will leave your ass whenever they want because they’re also naturally selfish, hence the decision. “I need space” does not mean “I need space”, it means “I don’t want to be with you”. It’s just a cowardly way to walk away.
I ended an LDR over this I need space crap, this is where the girl just drops of the map! Never again people! If she can't accept space from you she's not worth your time and energy and devotion!
me and my girl broke up at the end of April she Minchin she wanted and she try to say there was nothing in our relationship no more and i backed away for a couple weeks and texted her and we just talked by texting then she went hot and cold and we argued even so i did some things i shouldn't did but i apologized but didn't seem to forgive and then i find out one of her friends told me she had a new boyfriend which is a bit odd which do you think she could be lying just to have her space? didn't make any sense then i confronted her and she texted me im sorry the relationship didn't work out so we argued in june even so i said somethings i shouldn't have said but i was up set and after that argument we haven't spoken since so im giving space and doing the no contact rule the question is would she forgive even so she knew i was good to her thats a big if.
Tell that to women. If you don't coddle their egos every moment of the day, it's the end of world. God I can't stand needy women, it's like dealing with a child
Wow. This is exactly what I needed to hear. My girlfriend Of almost 4 years (since 15 y/o) has been talking about space. And she even said it doesn’t mean the end of us just like the video explained. She just needs some time to be herself again and as much as it killed me, it might be good for me too. It will help me find myself as well, and I kinda like that. I’m exited to tell and hear from my gf ab both of our little experience on not being in the same routine of the last 4 years. I even believe it will make us stronger. If you took the time to read this, I appreciate you, and your obviously here for a reason so I hope you get through whatever your going through.God bless❤️
So what happened did she come back
Are you still together?
Not the same when girls say that. Always a branch they are grabbing as they consider swinging
"Oof" I bet things didn't work out in the end. When the significant other says "I need space" or "we need space", they basically want to get away from you to explore other options.
So he's going to simp for her. Guys, as couples, work through your problems in real-time while remaining together. An adult can fix his or her self while still being in a loving relationship. She can still discover herself--whatever that fake pop-psych fable might means--without leaving you. Same goes if you've got personal problems you need to address, except uncontrollable rage issues or something. The whole reason she wants away from you is to find a more take-charge guy or one who can provide a better, more secure deal. But hey, like you say, let her go, fix your own simp-issue(s), get some Jesus, and see what's out there, guilt-free when you have time, if you want. Annnnnd, don't ever take her back. If she does this to you/for herself once , she'll find some or any pretext to do it again. And again. And again. And again. That's a lot of other dudes occupying her headspace and her hootie haha when it should be just you. Do better and fix yourselves, then watch how fast green flag women find you. Be MEN.
my girlfriend said that she needed a week space, that we are still together, but she needed space because I told her a truth and I think it hurt her.
Marcos Espinoza same
Space means space to do something without you.
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Lol how do u say a weak man without saying weak man
My boyfriend basically said he didn't want contact for a few days and it quite hurts to give him what he needs. We did have a good talk beforehand but he also said some hurtful things a few days before. We DO love each other al lot. And being scared to text a simple goodmorning or goodnight just hurts a lot.
how are things now?
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Hey
Any updates?
Cause I'm going through the same situation 😃
@@akaaka898 well, it turns out he just really needed some space to think. He was going through a rough patch. And to be honest looking back we both were. It's not bad to want to be alone or don't feel like you need to distance yourself from someone for a bit. It's hard to be on the other end of that, not knowing what's going on in someone else's mind.
What I learned from that was that every relationship has ups and downs, some bigger than others. But it's also important to realize that your partner isn't the only person in the world. Sometimes you can't help someone by actively doing something. Being that dependant isn't healthy for either. Now that is way easy to say, and I am super sorry you are feeling this way.
I don't blame him for feeling the way he did, I felt bad that I have him the reason to think certain things while I never meant for them to come across that way.
I would say to not be scared either way. Do what you feel like you need to do now. Maybe they just really need to be left alone to think, ponder or reconsider. Maybe they are really not feeling great and don't want to talk about it. Be careful not to come across as clingy or demanding but if you want it's never bad to let someone know you are there for them.
I really hope for you it's just a small thing and, like me, are overreacting. Because I certainly was!
Also, as to our relationship. We did break up. But that was on a 100% completely unrelated note to what was going on. We just grew apart over time. Still love him with all my heart but no longer as a boyfriend. (Don't think my current love would be happy with that either) ;)
@@daanroelofs119 hey
Do you still love him?
Why did you guys break up after giving that space he want!!
What was he said at the last moment of separation??
I am going through the same situation
He doesn't know that what's he want now!
He just asking me peace and space for a while.
I don't know what will happen next.
I just waiting for him to come back.
Is that ok to asking peace?
Although i also want space but I can't breathe without him.
It's feel like dying.
Our relationship crossed 4 years.
And now he want space.
Cause we did argue several times of a month.
So we both need space right now.
I actually respect that thing.
But at the end of the day I missed him very much.
And the worst feeling is not knowing what will happen at last.
Even this relationship will last at the end.
He means a lot to me.
My girlfriend just cannot understand this. She thinks I don't love her anymore.
same
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the weirdo You need to give her a valid reason for the space ( death) , how long and reassure her that it isn't a break up and you won't keep your option open. The reason why women freak out it is because Most men who ask for space are too coward to break up.
Same
i actualy sufering thise fate ,i realy think that i just lost my hobis. and hate it to be on each others nose for every single day
The trick to taking space and it not being a big deal is exactly as she says in the video: reassure your anxious partner that you two are okay, that you love them, and that your need for space is only your unique way of recharging your batteries. Set a deadline for your alone time, otherwise they will think you're ending things. Honor the deadline and come back with a smile. Tell them you love them all the more for their understanding of how important this is to you. Tell them you hope they can, too, enjoy the extra free time doing what they love, and that when you get back together you both can have lots of new stuff to talk about.
my current partner has been on and off asking for space, but he does come back. it's just in my previous relationship, my ex asked for a single moment of space, and it was then the end 😞 and whenever I ask my current partner if he still loves me, he couldn't say it on the moment he asks for. he tells me he has to weigh things
when a girl tells she needs space you stand there and accept it. Nothing you can't do about it.
when you tell a girl you need space they go ape shit and let's you have it.
+Danny Reyna Fr Fr
Danny Reyna you are right
Not true because when I asked for space mine freaked, was upset I would leave
@@bohemiandream590 yours is just crazy then
I just moved out of my boyfriends apartment because I needed my feminine space. I feel so much better.
are you guys still together?
Minerva Negron we are not. We broke up shortly after however, we continue to casually see each other and maybe we will work on things later.
What is feminine space
Space doesn't hurt anyone that's actually secure in their relationship.
its already over if you want space your just being gentle to ease yourself out the relationship without too much emotional pain involved.
Yeah when he or she says need space. It's code language for "back off dude, you're coming on too strong"
Colin exactly spot on point
Yrah nack it means "Im breaking up with you."
Idk why asking for space is considered a "bad thing" for most people. In fact, I'd consider that mentality a red flag. Seriously, we all need our alone time. We have our own individual goals, hobbies and to do list we'd like to accomplish. We can't always be with someone 24/7 threw out our lives. That's insanity.
If you believe someone taking their alone time as a sign of them leaving you, or "not liking you anymore". You'll make it happen. To believe that mentality and not respecting their space. You're only going to push them further away to the point they will leave or lash out. So for God sake, respect their space.
To turn "having space" an issue is a weakness in a relationship that needs to be fixed.
Personally, as someone who values their independence and time very much, someone not respecting and shaming me having my alone time would infuriate me.
This comment should be pinned to the top 💯👍
this helped me. but I just don't know how long will this space he is requesting would last. Cause its more likely a huge space that he has been requesting from me. :( Though it hurts, I have to respect his decision.
yo just countine on ur life when u give space it actually creates attraction lol its not over and when u accept it and show u don't care they will come back to u lol guaranteed
krisna marie Embornas ikr, in a relationship for 2years 3 months my boo ask for space to fix him, before we fall apart. I don't like it, it hurts like crazy. but I get it too I'm letting him do him while I do me until the time is over
Raider Nation
You are so right.
how long did it go then?
Space works when needed. The communication just has to continue to be a focal point here so nothing gets misconstrued
My girlfriend said she needs a few days to herself of us not talking or seeing each other. . . I was being clingy because I had recently opened up to her about something that made me very vulnerable and it overwhelmed her, and she said she needs a few days to herself but idk how I can do that because I love her so much and I’m afraid of losing her. Any tips?
Update?
When I got into a relationship with my boyfriend, we started spending alot of time together, almost everyday. Not to mention we worked together. I also have a 6 year old daughter that needed my time as well. So when I finally broke it down to him, after spending a lot of time together, he didn't take it to well and I felt like he only saw the negative side of wanting space which was not spending every single minute of every single hour together of every single day, rather than seeing it as giving me time to spend with my daughter exceptionally. This caused an argument between us. Another reason I had suggested space was because we had been spending so much time around each other that we started to argue quite often due to the fact that we were still getting to know one another.
Compass Amour thank you for your post ! Idk know you but I’ve felt pushy needy and my girlfriend has a young daughter. I understand Ive been selfish ! And need to fix that !
I’m currently giving myself and my girlfriend some space. The issue is I do not know where things stand. I don’t know if the relationship instantly demoted to a friend level or just a couple giving each other time. I want clarity but am worried that I’m being too anxious to find out where things stand. I’m meeting her for coffee today and don’t know if asking where the relationship stands is something I should just do, my mind wants to but something tells me not to. I’m conflicted hell lmao
dbev519 what happen at the coffee meeting? Are you back together?
This is always incredibly difficult. How did it go? Generally I try to get a feeling for the mood, and if rhe mood is good then I gently bring up the tough questions. Hopefully she was happy to see you.
1 month of space is a break up. lol
What if my GF wants space - I respect that and dont contact her for 2 weeks and after I contact her again she tells me that i should have done it sooner? Like wtf? Now she is like "you didnt care, thats why u havent contacted me"
Yeah my boyfriend wants space and stuff but whenever he wants space the next thing i know we be calling and you know we catch up and everything and all of a sudden he has all these new plans with his girl bestie and there friends and all this new stuff and i’m over here like, so u want space and you don’t want to include me with ur friend group, and i am the one who always asks to hang out i think it’s becoming one sided
Im 17 i havent worked out for 5 days i have slept home once this week. I tried to Get a day doing my things buy then i got to hear that i was a terrible person
I got cheated on while I gave space. Now I'm trying to let go and I'm scared to trust. I dont know what to do. I'm Holding onto someone who wants space. Just know hes not coming back. Almost gave a whole 2years fighting with him tryna keep us together and he just let go.
What happened?
Idk if anyone still reads this but Id just like ur insight on this on what anyone would given what my bf recently went through. The past month, he had just been so flooded by academics to the point even if he wanted to make an effort in the relationship, he couldnt. And I noticed he couldnt even have time for himself, so I was just there constantly supporting and telling him not to worry about me and focus on his things first. But then by mid month, his grandmother passed away, right a day before we were supposed to meet. And I told him to go to his family, they need him and he needs them, and that he doesnt need to worry about me for now. But even when he was with his family, he couldn't mourn the death of his grandmother properly because his academics just really ridiculously stacked high on top of each other. And I just kept supporting and reminding him to take breaks because Im afraid he might feel burnt out at that rate. And recently, by the end of the month, we met and he said although he still loves me, he just cant feel himself at that time, and so empty, and possibly falling out of love too alrdy, and that maybe he just needs some space because he feels so overwhelmed by everything that's happened. And I just feel so powerless to help him because everything that's happened is because of external factors. Right now, Im respecting the space he asked for but when he replies sometimes its also cold. Do you think he just needs time to like really figure himself out and be himself again before being back together with me?
Any insight or advice would be greatly appreciated
I'm sorry :/ that sounds very difficult for both of you. Unfortunately you can't push someone to be with you but you're doing good respecting his space. I believe that if it's meant to be it will be. It sounds like he is swamped with difficult life things but hopefully he will take time to sort it out and decide what he wants relationship wise. Hopefully he comes back to you and the space is temporary. But if not, don't be too defeated. Be with someone who can and will put in the time to be with you.
i hope you 2 are doing well now. Ive gone through this recently with my girlfriend she is in a similar situation just overwhelmed with stuff that theres no time to make an effort for a relationship with me although we are alright and like each other. she asked for space i respected her request and i stayed away no contact while she gets things situated with work career kids etc. its very painful im hurt but ill be strong and i let her know just reach out when she is ready if that happens.
In my opinion, in hard times like your boyfriends'... He should want you around for support and to lean on someone. When a man is with a women he values, nothing would make him leave. He will take space focus and come right back... No one wants to be alone and its not a natural behavior. Humans need humans.
My girl said she needs space, but, she still loves me and wants to marry me and still finds me attractive and this has nothing to do with another guy but just being alone and at peace. This is due to some arguing and I know it's my fault. So basically I've given her space for about 1 week and a half and I plan on giving another week and a half. I have a lot of things to get fixed in my life before I hit her up. I've set my own date so I can be ready and fix all my problems before I text her. Does this seem like it will work out? She first tried to say that she has no feelings for me and she doesn't know where the feelings went, but, she was comforting me and still wanted to kiss and was tearing up as the conversation went on she kissed me multiple times and said she still felt something and was happy and at the end of the day she was texting me before we went to sleep will hearts and saying she still loves me but for me to respect the space so she can miss me.
claudio baldizon I'm the exact same situation, what happened afterwards? I still have like 4 days to go until that "time" we both agreed on is over, so I do need some advice
dont do anything raul. ua-cam.com/video/BLn-OP7cPJk/v-deo.html watch this video its Coach corey wayne. he knows what he is doing and he teaches it very well.
Thanks for the suggestion. Corey appears to be an amazing relationship coach.
I'm kinda in the same boat except its with a guy... It's been 5 days lol not a week though... I feel like I'm being clingy but at the same time I don't want to pressure him. You're lucky that you still know she wants you, I don't even know if "my guy" wants a relationship anymore... He literally said he doesn't know anymore, and I'm kinda scared that this is gonna end... But hey, things get better, right? lol
Sorry bro. Move on. Your story is literally mine. Its been 3 weeks and all ive gotten is scratch. She said she needs to know if she will miss me and pretty much that means... im not trying to be rude but i want to see other people or specifically someone else.
I live and work with my wife. Its overwhelming sometimes even though we have a great relationship. But space is definitely needed.
I can so relate!! Thank you for this wonderful video.
it seems like space means you don't want me to be around. i want someone who wants to be around me. I know what I want. If i needed space in the beginning, I would say. The word "space," will conflict a committed relationship.
No one should be attached at the hip 24/7
Bennie D
LOL It’s not that I didn’t “want my fiancé around”, see you’re making it 100% about YOU and not the entirety of the relationship.
The reason why I told him we needed time apart is because his responses during our past few discussions pertaining to a certain issue became reactionary. He was reacting on nothing but anger, in short he couldn’t talk about the core subject without getting angry or raising his voice or saying a few hurtful things.
I CARE about him and the connection we share, I’m desperately in love with this man and have been with him over 3 years, but it was going to destroy us if we continued like that for any longer. I told him we needed 2wks for us to both think things through, then we’d reconvene and see where we stood and hopefully we would come up with similar solutions.
If not? Then we’ll know where to go from there. I didn’t want us seeing each other aka didn’t want him to come over to my place because all it was doing was distracting me AND my daughter.
I was a very independent person when we met.
Last year, I had 2 major reconstructive surgeries, and it threw me into a deep depression since I couldn’t walk for months Now, I’m still struggling and I’ve always been a worker, but since he’s always over here and I’ve been focusing more on our future and our marriage than on what me and my daughter need, I’m not doing good financially. I haven’t taken any time to get back to normal physically or mentally SO sometimes ITS NOT JUST ABOUT NOT WANTING TO SEE THE GUY!!!
it can be hard, but trying to understand is key. Sometimes it can be work schedules/recent events being tiring and things just not making sense. nobody can be in two places at one time and all of us do need to spend some time with ourselves.
exactly
i met a guy and we're in LDR (11.287km). Didnt expect he fell first and catch feelings. Day by day, he told me when he got work in a day thats mentally exhausting. He works at mental asylum even he said helping crazy people = no time off + his schedule always weird (irregular schedule). I put trust in him, we werent talking 24/7 bc different times and we have other qualities (especially him but i could talk 24/7 if he able but i always understand his condition). So i give him space and time for figuring out things. I allow all of that. Btw, im a secure person thankfully so im the type girl who dont make relationship complicated. During this phase, i let him go
I need this!! So I broke up with my bf I’d say like 2 months ago. I do love him and care for him but we were fighting constantly. It just wasn’t working. We didn’t have space. We hung out all the time. And i broke up with him because I needed time. I needed space. And I don’t think he understands that. He’s said things like I’m giving up on us. All this stuff when really I just need time for myself. Because it’s so easy to lose yourself in a relationship. I’ve had a lot of trials this year. Had a spinal fusion. Almost died twice. And I’ve lost a lot of weight. I’ve had a rough year and I truly need space to figure things out. To be on my own and with Jesus. So I guess I just needed advice. I don’t want to give up what I want to not hurt him.
how are you doing?
Told the love of my life this and that it didn’t mean I wanted to meet other people it’s literally that I’m overwhelmed with life and I don’t want to take it out on you .. but we broke up a few days ago sooo y’all can see how insecurities can ruin a relationship 🤷🏾♂️ oh well I’m not hurt cause he clearly wasn’t the one
Lol literally proving everyone on here right. 😂
My GF is 11 years older and used to not let me leave her sight. The first year of our relationship she would pick me up after work and if I wanted to hang with friends or do anything she would get pissed and essentially wouldn't let me. She accused me of cheating every time I would try to stay a night at a buddies house on a weekend when she just wanted to sleep all day but she just expected me to sit in her room and watch tv all day while she slept. I begged for space but was never granted any. I was working 12's and she still made me go directly to her house every night. Then one day about 7 months ago she got a job at our local grocer and quickly became a manager. Now she's "needed space and time to herself to see what she wanted to do" for the last 2 and a half months. Funny how hypocrisy works. She would have literally attacked me if i tried to break up with her in 2018/early 2019 nut now all of a sudden it's okay to nott see me for almost 3 months because she's the one that needs space.
She sounds controlling, dude. Your partner should never control your entire life! To anybody in your situation I'd say get out...
@@matthewk7999 yeah I'm over her
Live together 12 years, work together 18 hours a week. Space doesn't mean goodbye it means "I'm an only child this is over stimulation".
*TOTALLY GOT MY ANSWER*
In need of some advise 😞 the girl i love told me she needed space do i freak out do i move on 😥
What happens when you give them space and they are realize they are happier without you?
huh? if i were you i will gladly happy seeing him happy when we're in space.
I miss him so much huhu I want to talk to him but I need space and tine to fix myself.. :(
Ffs
amazing video thank you for bringing light to this topic
Be wary. If a gf or wife says she "needs space" and the man is not smothering her, almost 100% she is monkeybranching.
My fiancée ask for space bcos of what she’s going through but I understand her but I miss her
See, my boyfriend and I are currently on a break. And the reasoning is because lately our lives have been bombarded with different opportunities that could change our future for the better or worse. We both have different lives and we decided to go on a break so we could get in touch with ourselves again. Personally, I felt that I was losing touch and independence with myself and he felt bad that he couldn't give me the attention like he wanted because of how busy he is. So, at the moment, we aren't on speaking terms as we're trying our best to focus on ourselves without having to worry about giving each other attention.
A tip for when you think you and your significant other need a break... have a mutual understanding and communicate. Ask each other why you guys think you need a break. And find a balance and set a boundary.
DauntlessK Vlogs I’m going through the same thing now! Did it help your relationship? Are you still together?
what ended up happening?
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Going through that now .. seems like the end 💔😭😭😭
She told me to give her space... I did, haven't seen her....it's been 1 year...mmmm
SimplyFilipino5 hahaha...
SimplyFilipino5 Did you ever find out what she meant or wanted from the space?
That wasn't space, that was outer space lol
I just blocked my husband right now. We're having an argument and I asked him to please give me some time to think & process my emotions. But he never gives that. He always wants to fix this right away. When I'm mad I just want space to process everything. To realize a lot of things. I never have my space because he always wanna talk even if my mind is clouded with so much negative emoations.
Grow up have a conversation like a adult
u literally stonewalling him. Too much of it is abuse.
What buisness is going to swoop in now? Sickning! Short cuts with targetting instead of having the people who need to get a job, finish school or stop harassing thier husband should be addressed first! Not to mention the social experimenting on people!
when dating make sure you have your own apartment or home when the word (Space) enter into the conversation
i ask a ques
is there any girl.whos crazy af who dont think relatiomship is burden
I love her and I wasn't thinking about it and I love to hug and touch but I just love her she says she needs space and tierd of touching and hugging I'm sorry I'm just loving that's all
If you have someone good how much space you need like seriously.. they don’t tell you that when they are in a abusing relationship but when they have someone good “oh I need some space” yeah that’s the sign of they want someone else new
This actually helped me see my boyfriends side of things! I was the one who brought up “space” not even thinking that I might’ve scared him.
JadorecocoTV dude I was told she needed space back around a month ago. And I was a emotional wreck.
The AMOUNT of fear and anxiety was making me feel like I was drowning in quick sand at times.
@@_camy_ oh man me too. any tips for that?
I love your way of explaining this matter 😍🔥
What is reasonable time for “need space”? a week? A few? A few months? 6?
I guess months
Any time that will make your girlfriend or boyfriend wake up and realize that you are actually important in their life I personally think is a good thing as long as its been done amicably and everything explained and bounderies set in the absense of each other
@@melaninbotswana2474 I can agree, all you’re saying if there is clarity.
But in the case of, I need space, and I’d prefer if we don’t have contact for at least 4 months, then, if you still have my number you can shoot a call……
Thank you so much, I really needed to hear this. If anybody could mention the lady's name here I'll be grateful.
What if she doesn't specify how long for???
i know it’s been 2 years since u asked this question, but, hey, u gotta wait. give ur girl some time.
I'm in this situation right now & where I'm from that's means it's over. So right now she's like I need space. But we both needs space to get right. To much back & fourth idk how much space she needs but I'm willing to give it to her. Relationship break is what we AGREED on but it's no title like she wants to feel the love again but want me to be around & do xyz. She's moving in with her best friend & taking only her clothes but leaving everything else here with me. She wants to enjoy her life she's 25 I'm 33 so it's like how long is to long. But I'm not looking at it as a negative maybe some people but we just need time
Are you guys together now?
I love when she speaks.
I’m not sure if he needed space or he did just broke up with me
Hi, I seen your video and wanted to ask you this question. Why does my ex take me back and pretend to love me and then break up with me again and again and again? It's like a repeat cycle. I do no contact, she comes back for a little bit just to break up again. I mean, I always play it like Im cool and okay with the break up and do no contact, she always comes back only for a little bit though, why? She is even dating other guys now and I just slept with her for a few days this week and she ended it again and it said it was a mistake. Why? What am I supposed to do?
Damn. Let her go find a another female
Matt Brady you know why she always breaking up with you its because their something wrong with you that you need to realize what is that to correct. thats all
I like space bug boyfriend says no. only space is when I poop.
I need a break is usually a way to lead to break up. Rarely does this change. I am in this now and she has broken up with me before. I am the one that screwed up and caused her to request a break. I think this is going to end our relationship of 2 years 5 months. We planned to be married in 2 months but I caused her to leave and she was hurt maybe never getting over what I did so if it happens we both lose because we are both 66 and very hard to find partners that are as good for each other as we are/ were...
Thank you so much for this video....this helped me so much
Hi thank you for this video. Me and my gf has been together for 10 years, since we were 14.. Ive never appreciated her enough.. I thought I was ''the only guy on earth'' until today.. Recently she decided to part for a bit.. She said she still loves me, she wants to marry me but she is not strong enough.. She needs to fix herself in order to love me..
I took the smile from her, she has always prioritized me, my dreams etc. It really shocked me and when I realize she really means it.. she really wanna part in order to love herself .. Im cant stop crying.. I have never cried for a girl in my life.. Ive always been the guy who was confident and I always thought I was the real thing until today..
I reflected on our relationship and my behaviours.. Im truly sorry and mad at myself for stealing her years.. I felt like it was one sided one.. She gave me everything, but I did not. I feel egoistic and manipulating. I don't wanna be like this... I feel like everything I did was a behaviour of a sosiopat towards my gf.
Yet she said that we will still be in relationship.. but we wont live together until she is healed..
I dont know how I can live without her.. I'm scared and Im lost.. she was and is my lottery.
I want to fix myself and come back as a man, not a man child.. But right now, I do not have strenght to fight.. I'm trying, i really do.
Man...
How are you?
@@pmdal yo thanks for asking ! its been good.. she is recovering, and im recovering.. we dont live together. For a month ago I was unlucky to rupture my achilles tendon. She has been come over to take care of my laundires, food and supplies.. I just need to give her time for herself and work my man self! thanks for asking man!
I felt bad for needing space. You know that couple hours you need to yourself. My boyfriend is SUPER affectionate and very touchy. Of course, it’s not grounds for wanting to end the relationship with him. I love it but I feel he gets the best me after having SOME distance ❤😂
Love this ✨
the problem that I hate is when you know and inform to the other partner I think you need space and they say no... And then two weeks after they scream that they need there space! I mean really? the space problem was already building up! And she knows it! That's the problem, when it's girls they don't wanna say it but, and they end up forcing shit... When its a guy we say it so we know what's up!!
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I've learned to like space with age! Ever notice this is usually one sided geared to the buisness of people pleasing or for looks because the secrets got exposed! So to make this not one sided consider a fresh partner not knowing how unrealalistic people are, yet paint all sorts of false imagery for points! Then you get wiser and realise the space is for sanity and to continue life without preditor phycology and has nothing to do with love for one another!
Please explain how being married works then ? 😅 🤣
What about a need for extended space in friendship?
My boyfriend / ex doesn’t understand this at all
Love this video!
Please help me I textedy girlfriend the wrong things and I didn't want to be like that I was just angry 😡 and stressed out and now her parents don't trust me now and don't want me over there at her house so do I move on ?
I Really needed this! Thank u
simply needing space is needing space however i do not understand the concept because if i do not resolve the issue so they’re not upset for a prolonged period and that doesn’t make sense. yeah sure maybe time to think but what if they overthink.. then what it doesn’t make sense to be upset over longer than you have to..
I need space too, 50 years. lol
Lol my ex said I need space so we can’t be in a relationship of 3 years anymore and the next day I caught her over at her baby’s daddy’s apt hmmmmm I walked away
Last time I heard that, she dumped me. I don't need this kind of drama.
So I have been with this girl for over a month now and I know it's only been one month but everything went perfectly. First, she wasn't sure that she was ready for a relationship due to her past experiences, but after we met she just fell in love with me and wanted to meet me the whole time. She smiled at me when I looked at her and the way she did it and looked at me I could feel that everything made sense. She always used to call me when she got off work and she always said she missed me and things like that. We have kissed and have had sex, and I even got invited to her mom's wedding and well she even got jealous one time when I texted a specific girl because she could feel that the girl was into me somehow. She wasnt mad about it haha, but anyway we were gonna meet this Friday and she longed and hyped it up the whole time. 3 days ago though she felt down and I tried speaking to her about it and trying to calm her down and all. The other day she came back to school, was with her classmates (only Girls), and then she told me that things were going too fast and that she needed time for herself to fully think about herself and what she wanted. First, I was confused and tried to text her but the day after I realized that I should back off and let her text me from now om and continue focusing on myself. So far she doesnt feel very well when she is home and she hangs with her girlfriends alot. I have just been worried if she never was truly in love with me from the start because it clearly seemed like she was. I do agree things went fast but I am not that type of person to notice that. I do not expect her to come back, but I respected her decision and I hope she will. I will give an update. She is barely in her social medias and on snapchat she typed in our convo for like 2 min and then she stopped and was into the convo for like 5 - 10 min. Weird, well its only been like 3 days so far. I am new to this whole space thing.
Similar thing happening to me rn, lmk how it went.
Well, it didn't go that well. Apparently she is dealing with stuff in her life and I didn't really give her space at all in the first week. A big mistake we both made was that we were never really clear what kind of space she wanted. Like if she wanted me to contact her sometimes to ask how she is, or if she literally just wanted herself to text me whenever she was ready. Sometimes she did text, but she never really wanted to talk about us. More about what she has done, and what I have done so far. I broke up with her or quit things with her a week ago because I feel like it's good for both of us to just let go. She clearly wasnt ready for anything and it will pain us both to know that we are still not completely broken up. In the end I just waited for answers to see if I could move on or not. Just wait 100 percent till she texts you. Maybe like 2 - 3 weeks later you can ask how she is and how it is going with her and stuff, but thats about it.
@@SupaahAQW thanks man, you got a social media you use? You seem like a chill guy.
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When you have the comfort of work, home, and relationship it does create a problem because you get stuck in that constant routine. If you take the space but come home at the end of the day talk and tell each other about your day and be more positive but still create that time for together then things will work out slowly. Don't be to pressured or do not create situations in your mind that make you push and push and push it's just normal to get space and give it back. Otherwise it will fall apart and you cannot salvage it.
That was really good❤
I end up not wanting to be with him.
Lovely 🥰
What a toxic topic
Exactly the words I needed to hear
Love the way she putt it good wording
Dorothy is very wise! Good advice here.
This coach is hot! What is her name?
Ok now I know what it means
Honestly ik that not everyone is perfect me and my girl gets into fight some worst than other but in the end I do know we love each other and recently we r living right now in a diff place because we kept arguing so it got to the pint where she ask for space I took it as in so dosent love me or etc but slowly I’m starting to understand that she does want me she does love me and wanna make things work especially cause where talking to a relationship therapist to communicate better and hopefully all this can get solve and be able to live with each other again as soon as possible after this video it gave me a clear picture so I’m gonna make sure not to overly stress her with questions or being neediness if she or he’ll tells u that they still want u and love u and wanna make things work especially in front of a therapist believe them because no body would be wasting their times that much
This is amazing
Great video
I'm currently giving a friend space. We haven't been getting along cuz of my arguing. I finally said since this is my last chance. I'm gna give u space. Since u haven't been doing well. I'll let u come to me when ur ready. I'm scared that she will not come back.
Update
@@v3ken637 she's been slowly talking to me again. So it's getting better.
She wants space? Means its time to leave!!!!!! That's a caked icing way of a person saying I need more of other things in where YOU are not part of it OR I'm looking for something/someone else. If any woman tells me I need a little more space? Okay dear I grant you the rest of your life and now you have a life time of space. This isn't an attitude of anger emotion on my part BUT is in where I am not going to be around people that need space away from me. They don't want to be around you so leave them alone.
Earl Guyton honestly thats what ive got to be honest to with my guy :(((( ur point is clear i lied to him n myself
Amen.
Exactly
Stop being clingy
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Well we lived together for 2.5 tears. He moved to another town for a job and we have been living apart for 6 months. He said the distance means he may be falling out of love but he need space. We agreed 2 to 3 weeks space. It'd now 2 weeks and i haven't heard from him. He did say he didn't want to break up, he just wasn't sure.
How did it go?
What if she didn't tell me how long a break? She wanted a break because we argue so much, im the main one that causes the arguments:/ im working on myself also and I'm not going to be clingy at all, I have been giving her the space she wants
@Jayden Bollier I deal with depression and anxiety and she knew that but she expected me to snap out of it fast , that is something not easy to deal with but she eventually lead me on, after 2 days I contacted her and saying what are the break standards like what we can and can't do, and eventually she said " we are no longer together " she didn't had it in her to actually break up with me, so I was looking dumb for 2 days thinking we were together still but on a break. Its been 4 weeks now
@Jayden Bollier I let her walk away and I only begged her once saying " give me another chance " she had all my social media passwords and everything so never once did I cheated and also when we argued , it wasn't toxic , we just gave each other the silent treatment so I guess u can say no communication happened when we argued but we both never yelled or cuss at each other , we just stayed quite, still i told her I was going to get better mentally but she just gave up and left and blocked me like I was nothing to her
@@sacrifice308 personally ive been through the same thing. You just have to understand nit everyone can handle ppl mental and
Emotional situations. I have depression and anxiety and my ex i was with did the same thing. But the new boyfriend i have is amazing he understands he reassures. He helps me
Talk my feelings out and help me with my depression and anxiety. She simply isn’t the one. You will find someone else better and love u for
You with whatever problems you have. But remember also u have to back track and realize. That you have to understand where your partner is coming from, and realize the wrong youve done too. The arguments will put a strain on a relationship especially everyday. For rn work on your and learn your bad traits so if u do catch yourself doing it fix them or find other ways to communicate.
“The more space he wants the more I want to hold on”
And the more you hold on the more they need space.
People just have low self esteem, they take it so personally when someone is in need of some space and they get sensitive and make it about themselves and be like: “you don’t want to be with me”
It’s just crazy like it was not about you but you making it about you and getting clingy and suffocating you’re making me in need of space from you and because of you. Which wasn’t the case in the beginning.
Space to let things or emotions calm down, is completely normal IMO. In adult relationships, it should be understood by both sides.
But not everyone understands this.
Recently, I was in a long-standing argument with my dad. It took a long time and it finally got resolved, unfortunately for me, not to my benefit. I was disappointed, angry (not entirely, but at least in part rightfully so) and I thought to myself - "I need distance for a while from this bullshit and from him". Not forever, but just a little bit of space so things can settle down and I can gain some perspective on them. My dad however can't compute this behavior and to him, once this thing got resolved, it's ALL over and I should IMMEDIATELY start behaving as if nothing happened at all. And if I still have emotions about the whole situation and need space, he's baffled, he immediately starts to emotionally blackmail by acting as if you were hurting his feelings, and if you insist on keeping the distance, he gets really offended and takes it personally.
It's really weird to me, the complete disregard for someone else's feelings, it's not even malicious, but I don't get it. It actually offends me to be honest and whenever I'm in a situation like this, I feel like the other person is pushing me somewhere I don't want to be and I either bend to his/her will, or I'm seen as an asshole.
It sounds like he felt guilty but didn't know how to admit it and thus resorted to manipulation tactics. Usually when I need space from family like this, I just take it without saying anything. I keep conversation brief, ignore phone calls sometimes, and don't visit. I do reassure if they seem to get worried but otherwise I back off.
Men should give their women space anyways without her even asking her for it. She should be asking when to see you, having her mind wondering. You as a man should always be focusing on yourself.
Adrian Shaw how not to treat your partner 101
“Expert” my ass!
When somebody needs space, that somebody is NOT for you. They’re people meant to be alone and will leave your ass whenever they want because they’re also naturally selfish, hence the decision.
“I need space” does not mean “I need space”, it means “I don’t want to be with you”. It’s just a cowardly way to walk away.
I want to understand space.. but he is not making it clear whether it's space or seperation..
I ended an LDR over this I need space crap, this is where the girl just drops of the map! Never again people! If she can't accept space from you she's not worth your time and energy and devotion!
me and my girl broke up at the end of April she Minchin she wanted and she try to say there was nothing in our relationship no more and i backed away for a couple weeks and texted her and we just talked by texting then she went hot and cold and we argued even so i did some things i shouldn't did but i apologized but didn't seem to forgive and then i find out one of her friends told me she had a new boyfriend which is a bit odd which do you think she could be lying just to have her space? didn't make any sense then i confronted her and she texted me im sorry the relationship didn't work out so we argued in june even so i said somethings i shouldn't have said but i was up set and after that argument we haven't spoken since so im giving space and doing the no contact rule the question is would she forgive even so she knew i was good to her thats a big if.
Move on
I need a break is a break up,period. Don't fool people. If someone tells you that,one advice,don't give them space. Show them you won't let them go
Tapiwa Dhaura bad advice dude. If they need space give them space. If they need a break then end the relationship.
Wth u cant be like that
🤣🤣🤣
Tell that to women. If you don't coddle their egos every moment of the day, it's the end of world. God I can't stand needy women, it's like dealing with a child