Teenage Matters | Part 01 | A workshop by Salman Asif Siddiqui
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- Опубліковано 19 січ 2018
- Teenage Matters is a short workshop for Parents, organized by Hiba magazine and conducted by Salman Asif Siddiqui.
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Key points
Tarbiyah is responsibility of parents
Parents or teacher ko bachun ka mentor bn k unki tarbiyat krni hogi
21 century k do Bary challenges
Ilm e nafay kun sa ha mjy asal me Kia sekhna chaye
Sekha hua ilm ko mehfoz rakhna mushkil horaha ha
Child should know about personal learning needs
Bachun ko nhn maloom k us ky nafs k haqooq Kia ha or usy ksy qaboo me rakha jaye
Three screw of learning
Note taking
Sharing knowledge
Application
Basic objectives
Teen age reality challenges and perspective
As parents our response towards our child
Problem of teenage
Communication gap
No direction
Comparision
Identity
Aggression Agr Hum problem ko unky perspective sy nhn dekhn gy to masly ko Hal nhn kr payngy
Bachun ko samjny j liye bonding ja strong hona zarori ha
Emotionally staf child ka apny emotions pr qaboo rakhna mushkil hota ha
Bachy ki expectation parents sy bohat zyada hoti hn
Suggestion
Learn to look things from their perspective
Understand and acknowledged their feeling
Give them unconditional love
Treat them as an adult
Respect their privacy and maintain their confidentially
Seek their advice in your affairs
Never criticise their friends
Don’t decide thing for them let them decide by themselves
Keep communication engaged with reflective conversation
Graduated ptcc batch 30
JazakAllah.
Mashallah and thanks alot
@Yusra:
Thanks for Summing up👍
JazakAllah khair
جزاكم الله خيرا.
Your comment helped me a lot in understanding it as a whole.
I think the word spoken by Sir is "Emotionally starved".
Starved means بھوکا.
Love from India ❤️❤️...i have watched this series many times... whenever I watch it,i learn something new....kaash mai aap se mil paati...my bonding with my children is superb ...i keep on updating myself,still I was missing some points....u r great man
i really impressed by ur motivative speech Rab kareem ap ko dono jahan k naimaty brkaty afiat ata frmye u can believe ye sb sunnay k bd mri tention solve hogai
I have no words,just want to say..
I really love this lecture....
Ma sha ALLAH most beneficial talk Jazak Allah ho khaira
Reflection
Sir salman k hr lecture me hamary liye bohat si esi batn hoti hn Jis pr hum reflect krsakty hn unki batn or unki observation hmain sochny pr majbor krdyti ha Sir salman ny teenage k kitny n masayl or bt ki ha wo bt bilkul thk ha me b apni teenage me isi hi chezn Mehsos krti thi likn ab Hal zyada bura ha hamari jo aj k teenage hn un k masail bohat zyada hn depression high blood pressure sucide attempt or is jesy bohat sy problem sy hamary bachy guzar rahy hn jis ki bri waja communication gap no strong bonding with parents lack of confidence emotionally staff inhi ki waja sy hamary bachy bohat si oreshaniyun sy do chaty hn qk unko suny wala koi nhn ha na unsy bt Krny wala ...
MashAllah.
V nice JazakAllahu khairan.
ٹین ایجرز کی تربیت ایک تھکا دینے والا عمل ہے ۔۔ اس لئیے ماں باپ کو بہت بہت صبر و تحمل کی ضرورت ہے ۔۔ جب میرا بیٹا چھ مہینے کا تھا تب ایک بار اس نے ایک پبلک پلیس پر رو رو کر بُرا حال کر لیا ۔۔ سب کے سامنے کھڑی ہو کر اسے چپ کروانے اور سلانے کی کوشش کر رہی تھی ۔۔ سب لوگ مڑ مڑ کر دیکھ رہے تھے ۔۔ آخر وہ سو گیا ۔۔ ایک بوڑھے گورے نے میرے کندھے پر ہاتھ رکھ کر کہا ۔۔ its the beginning of 20 years hard work ..
اور میں مسکرا کر رہی گئی ۔۔ آج ماشاللہ پندرہ سال گزر گئے ۔۔ ہارڈ ورک صرف اور ہارڈ ہوا ہے اب تک ۔۔ الحمد للہ😊
LEARNING POINTS: PART 01
Beautiful explanation by Sir Salman on the problems of today's teenagers.
This workshop has two main objectives.
a) Teenager's perspective,teenage life reality,its challenges, and its facts..difference between our teenage life and today's teenage life.
b) As parents: Our responses and approaches
21st century has created two biggest challenges of learning and everyone in today's era faces these challenges.
1- What is worth learning about?
2- What ever we learn.....transforms into distraction...or we are unable to perceive and practically implement this information in our lives.
Today's man learns everything but he doesn't have this sense that what are his PERSONAL LEARNING NEEDS. So everybody should know about his or her personal learning needs. Everyone should know that what are the rights of his own Self and what are his learning priorities.
Teenagers learn everything but it is becoming difficult for them to retain this information or practically apply this in their lives....
Whatever we learn...doesn't reflect from our personality or from our day to day dealings with our fellows....So if we want to lock all the things , we learn ...we should tighten them with three screws of learning.
1) Note taking 2) Sharing 30 Application
PROBLEMS OF TEENAGERS:
1) One of the biggest problems is that we look at their every problem from our perspective....We don't want to understand their views, their thoughts and their problems.
2) We, as parents , don't have bonding with our kids.
To understand our relationship with our kids, we should understand three levels of human connections.
Human connections can be built three basic levels.
a) Rapport: When we feel comfortable with someone.
b) Relationship: When we are able to share our problems with someone.
c)Bonding: When we feel urge of togetherness...When we develop a strong bond with someone so we cannot live without them.
Use your ears for tarbiyah of your kids, not your tongue...When you become a good listener ...your kids will automatically share their every problem with you.
SANA HUSSAIN
GRADUATED
PTCC-BATCH 30
JazakAllah for the detailed sharing
Mashallah great job sir keep it up stay blessings to all
May Allah bless with health and long life 💕💕💕
Bohat koob ALLAH AAP KO SALAMAT RAKAY
Very healthy & thoughtfull lecture , JazakAllah
Asalamoalaikum we really appreciate ur honest work and dedication. Your humbleness and witty attitude spread calmness and confident environment plus learning the beautiful Urdu language. JazakAllahu khairan
As salamu alaikum.bahut khoobsurat baten......
What a great programme I really like it and I learned alot .
Thank you 💗 so much 💖
Amazing! I'm very impressed by sir Salam💯❤️
Thank you. Do share this knowledge with others too.
Very wise discussion..
Owesome.
I really like this guy I love him he is doing positive role for the public
Your comment is much appreciated. If you find it good for people then do share it with them :)
Very appealing .....n inspirative too
Thanks :)
Great
Describing problems from the angle of the teenagers . “Too much pressure” “I’m disturbed” “not sure what to do” “want to share but don’t know who to share with” “some Problems that I cannot share with anyone and haven’t yet been able to share with anyone”
PROBLEM NEEDS TO BE DEFINED FROM THEIR PERSPECTIVE
They feel like we don’t understand their problems
And that’s what I feel too .
A lot of distance between what is their problem and what “we” perceive it to be .
Personal learning needs...👍full marks leker...na... joty k tasmy bhi ni baandny aty...na button lagana.
"Basri aaloodgi"😁👍
Sir Salman has always addressed the common problems with different angle. JazakAllah for sharing this sesaion.
Sharmeen Pirzada agree salman sir has a beautiful approach
Thanks for watching. share this with your family and friends :)
Zaberdast, ma sha Allah , every parent should listen this...
So good 👌
Addicted to sir salman lectures.. ALLAH bless him with more knowledge..
Always enjoyed and learned from Sir Salman's lectures!
:)
owsam
Asslamoalicum sirf bhot badiya
Fatimah,zainab,ibraheem university...👍
ہر ماں اور باپ کو لازمی سنا چاہیے جن کے بچے ١٠ سال کے ہیں
Bhai Mai kehta hun aik non parent keliye dekhna ziyada zaruri hai
parents must watch this
Yes , do share brother. All parents and teachers should watch this.
Every person I think who is above 15
REFLECTION:
A very thought provoking and inspiring discussion by Sir Salman..
We always want others especially our teenage kids to understand everything from our perspective.As today's parents ,its very hard for us to understand and to look at the problems from their angle....It is just because,we are unable to make a strong bond with our kids.....So, if we want to understand our kids better and really want them to share their everything with us....we have to work on our relationship with our kids....
I am really feeling blessed after doing PTCC FROM ERDC...This course and Sir Salman's mentoring not only changed my personal perspective about life...but it has also made a remarkable difference in my parenting skills,made me understand my kids in a better way and strengthened my bond with my kids....:)
SANA HUSSAIN
GRADUATED
PTCC-BATCH 30
Thanks for watching Sana Hussain. Do share it with others as well.
Can you share the letter address from dawn discussed in as an activity in this session please
ya Allah guide us as parents Ameen
Jzk khair Kaseera sir
You are welcome to watch more talks on ua-cam.com/users/ERDCpkVideos . Do share with others. Thanks.
Nice sir
No one has sympathised with daughter neither father nor mother
Mother should ask daughter to please consider me ur friend, rest assure we will solve the problem as u want my lovely daughter
00:25:00
How can I attend the full workshop which salman sb has referred ?
As salaamu alaykum! Isthere part two in english? Baaraka Allaahu feekum.
I think this kind a meeting also held in every city of pakistan. Sir please come to my city "Wah Cantt", i think we need people i you because i am teenager myself and seriously i want to change this but whenever i do something to converse my parents they always put back on me after hearing other people opinoion and i am totally sick of this. Not only me but all of teenagers surrounding me behave the same. And the worse part is my teachers specially female teachers. Sir! I kindly want to you and your team to come to my city and lecture like this in my city.
IA someday if time permits. But you can also play a part in spreading this knowledge. Share this talk and several other sessions on our channel ua-cam.com/users/ERDCpk . Keep praying, dont get frustrated and continue to politely work for the change.
@@ERDCPK i will , thank you for these kinds of videos.
Sir how can i meet you. ..i need consultation for my son
Is vedo mai problem hai.
Chaltee naho stuck kar jaater hai
I want to attend your workshop regarding teenage behaviour with my husband.. Please let me know when u conduct in lahore... JazaakAllah
Asslam oa likum
personal learning need ki hamarey aaj k curriculum ko ziada need hai
hum bacahy ki need samjhay bagair apni wishes os pai daltay jatay hain ,hum sab kuch jaantay bojhtay itna bara zulm ka jatay hain jis k jawabdah hum ALLAH k aga hain ALLAH pochay gai hum se hamaray ik ik amal ka hisab woh amal jo hum jaaan bojh k zulm or jabar ki sorat ik masoom se bacahy pai kia ,woh bacaha jo sab kuch jaaan na chahta hai ssamjhna chahta hai mager hum apni ana or khud ko bara sabit karni ki koshish main apni hath se os bacahy ko tabah kar detay hain
ALLAH HUM SAB KO HIDAYAT DAI
Asma shahbaz bathch 32
May Allah help us all and give us the required clarity. We hope you would continue to share your learning of the course with others.
How can I contact you I have questions but I don't tell you in publicly related my 13 year old dougter please sir I am in trouble 😐
Asslomu alaikum asif sadiqe sb sy baat kaisy ki jaa sukti hy please reply soon ERDC team
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Kiya Mujhe salam sahab ki books ki link mil jaygi??
Plz meri rehnomai Karen
Men Indian hon
اسّلام و علیکم - سلمان صاحب کا بچوں اور نصاب کے لئے کیا جانے والا کچھ کام ای.آر.ڈی.سی کے تحت مختلف وقتوں میں کیے جانے والے پروجیکٹس میں موجود ہے. آپ ان کا کچھ تعارف ہماری ویب سائٹ پر دیکھ سکتے ہیں لیکن پاکستان سے باہرخصوصاً انڈیا میں اس کو حاصل کرنا شاید تھوڑا دشوار ہو. البتہ 'میرا اقبال' سیریز کی ترسیل شاید ممکن ہو سکے. اس کے لئے آپ نیچے دیے گے فون نمبرز پر رابطہ کر سکتے ہیں :
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اس کے علاوہ سلمان صاحب کا زیادہ تر کام تا حال ( نومبر٢٠١٩) مسلسل مصروفیت اور کام کے پھیلاؤ کے بائس غیرمطبوعہ ہے. اخبارات اوررسالوں میں کچھ مقالے شایع ہوتے رہے لیکن استفادے کی بڑی صورت ورکشاپس، کورکس ، سیمینارزاور دیگر گفتگوں میں استعمال ہونے والا مواد رہی ہے. اس کو منظّم شکل میں شایع کرنے کا کام جاری ہے. آپ سے دعاؤں کی درخواست ہے کہ الله جلد اسکو مکمل کروانے. آمین.
I want to attend your work shop i am a teacher and a single mother of one teen ager and one adolescent
How to contact for consultation?
آپکی باتیں بہت ہی متاثر کرتی ہیں جیسے کہ آپ نے فرمایا کہ میں معلم و والدین کے لئے لکھتا بھی ہوں براہ کرم اگر آپکی کتابوں کا لنک مل جاتا تو بڑی مہربانی ہوگی
میں ہندوستان سے ہوں آپکی کتابیں نہیں خرید سکتا
اسّلام و علیکم - سلمان صاحب کا بچوں اور نصاب کے لئے کیا جانے والا کچھ کام ای.آر.ڈی.سی کے تحت مختلف وقتوں میں کیے جانے والے پروجیکٹس میں موجود ہے. آپ ان کا کچھ تعارف ہماری ویب سائٹ پر دیکھ سکتے ہیں لیکن پاکستان سے باہرخصوصاً انڈیا میں اس کو حاصل کرنا شاید تھوڑا دشوار ہو. البتہ 'میرا اقبال' سیریز کی ترسیل شاید ممکن ہو سکے. اس کے لئے آپ نیچے دیے گے فون نمبرز پر رابطہ کر سکتے ہیں :
MARYAM ACADEMY, Urdu Bazar, Sadar, Karachi.
Cell & WhatsApp: +92 332 2251998 , +92 331 2425264
Landline : +92 21 32634243
erdconline.org/publications
اس کے علاوہ سلمان صاحب کا زیادہ تر کام تا حال ( نومبر٢٠١٩) مسلسل مصروفیت اور کام کے پھیلاؤ کے بائس غیرمطبوعہ ہے. اخبارات اوررسالوں میں کچھ مقالے شایع ہوتے رہے لیکن استفادے کی بڑی صورت ورکشاپس، کورکس ، سیمینارزاور دیگر گفتگوں میں استعمال ہونے والا مواد رہی ہے. اس کو منظّم شکل میں شایع کرنے کا کام جاری ہے. آپ سے دعاؤں کی درخواست ہے کہ الله جلد اسکو مکمل کروانے. آمین.
Sir mai baiti k liye parishan hu .how I meet you
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Aap ki ankhen soi hoi lagti hen
No one has sympathised with daughter neither father nor mother
Mother should ask daughter to please consider me ur friend, rest assure we will solve the problem as u want my lovely daughter