The Problem of Awe | Salman Asif Siddiqui | مرعوبیت: ایک بڑا نفسیاتی مسئلہ
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- Опубліковано 21 січ 2019
- 'Mar'oobyiat' (marobiat / مرعوبیت) is a huge yet widely unrecognized problem of our society today. We do not realize how we tend to become overly impressed by superficial things such as money and fame, or become too influenced by some people such as celebrities. In this talk, Salman Asif Siddiqui addresses this problem, the root causes of it, and how an individual can bring him/herself out of it.
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ماشاءللہ۔ بہت مفید گفتگو رہی۔
علاج میں سے ایک علاج یہ بھی ہو سکتا ہے کہ کسی ایسے اللہ والے کی صحبت میں رہا جائے جو مرعوبیت کے فتنے سے بچا ہوا ہو ۔۔۔۔
Relationship with a Mentor certainly is a huge help in this regard. ua-cam.com/video/ijoxhpo1-IY/v-deo.html&lc=UgwtU8i3ZalKagenzqt4AaABAg
ماشاءاللہ سر جی بہت مفید باتیں سننے کو ملیں۔ اللہ اس مفید گفتگو کو آپکے لئے توشہِ آخرت بنادے۔ آمین
اللہ تعالی آپ کو جزائے خیر عطا فرمائے
آپ کی عمر صحت کاملہ کے ساتھ دراز کرے۔
اور آپ کے اہل وعیال کو بھی دنیا و آخرت کی خوشیاں دے
آمین۔۔۔۔۔
JazakAllah
Very nice lecture
Jzk for uploading
Really like it
May Sllah always keep showering his blessing on your family
Ameen
Ameen
پھھھھھھھھھپھھ
لنللل
Things I always thought but didn't have words to describe them, found them here. I will see more of your videos sir. Thanks for sharing.
Glad it helped you. You are welcome to the channel.
Summary:
1. Ask yourself why do you feel worthy? Is it some materialistic entity? If yes then you must know that your taken by awe of that thing that you use to define your worth.
2. Concious Zikr of Allah, absorbing the fact that Allah is the greatest. There is no one worthy of awe other than Allah Himself. "Kalmay ko shao'or ki teh main utarain".
3. Tadabbur, analyzing things around you. Redefining your concepts. Challenging your conditioning.
4. Dunya k mamlay main apne se neechay walon ko dekho, naiki k mamlay main khud se uper walon ko dekho.
Some important answers :
1. kisi insaan ki kisi silahiyat se maro'b nahi hona. Ilm se mar'ob hona jaiz hai. Kisi insaan main ilmiyat ka nazar ana uska Kamal nahi hai, Allah ka Karam hai us banday pe. Kisi insaan se maro'ob nahi hona.
2. Jo insaan maro'ob hogaa wo maro'ob b karega. Hum jis cheez se maro'ob hote hain, us se doosron ko maro'ob krne ki koshish krainge.
3. Bachay maro'ob nahi hote.Hairaan hote Hain, maro'ob nahi hote. Maro'obiyat sirf Allah ki hai Dil pe. Jis k pass Jo hai wo Allah ka diaa huaa hai. Or Allah sb ka hai.
great work full of attention, help me overview the whole lecture
Allah Pak aap ko barkat da, aur app ka saya salamat rakhay.
was waiting for this. Thank you ERDC
Jazak Allah khairan 💐 May Rabay Kareem bless you with best knowledge and success.
Asalamu alaikum Sir I Have watched All ur vedios sir
I am from kashmir.I have a lot of time to recognise self as the environment is not stable.Your knowledge adds my belief and practice.
Thank you so much for bringing unique and enlightening content. It’s great to see someone speak on these topics in light of Islam and I as living in the west can honestly benefit from it a great deal 👏👏👏
اللہ اکبر۔ اللہ تعالیٰ آپکو جذائے خیر عطا فرمامیں۔ آمین۔
Jazakum Allah ho khairan kaseerah
Ameen summa ameen
JazakAllah wa barakAllah fih .Dil me utar gai har baat .Dil me 2 mohabbaten aik sath jma nhi hosakti.
Outstanding sir!!
May Allah accept your all deeds
God bless you!!
Masha Allah, very informative, knowledgeable and deeply thought lectures.
boht kuch qeemti izafa kr lia ap k lectures se
ماشاء اللہ بہت ہی اعلیٰ اور بہترین کلام سبحان اللہ سبحان اللہ محمد فاروق سعدی واہ کینٹ
BarakAllaahu feek for bringing to us such self-reflective and thought provoking subjects. may Allah subhanao tala help you succeed in your mission and grant insight , ikhlaas and saaleh amaal to us and our nation.
we are standing right on top of a big moral values collapse as a society, all relationships have become superficial and somewhat abusive, especially marriages which have become so painfully difficult to get into and even maintain despite one's best intentions.
I do feel that in our society, women follow the objective trends and values that powerful men of the society dictate to their families, however women are also more flexible to change being soft hearted. At this time, if one realizes and tries to practice change, the society rejects you, the marriage and career industry rejects you. how do we find like minded people in such chaotic times and even try to inspire change in such isolationistic times when our values are not being looked at with the eyes of awe. If one is not rich, good looking, high acheiver and famous, it is only a handful few of people who will be with you or support your cause. the majority has a qibla of their own.
ما شا اللہ اللہ آپ کی زندگی میں برقت دے please sir یہ کام جاری رکھیں
Subhan Allah
Jazakallah khair.
No one ever touched this topic in such a way ...JazakAllah khairan kaseera...this pr3is silent killer of taqwa
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JazakAllah khaira
sir you have changed my perspective of seeing things.thanks
Alhamdulillah for this.
I listen to your this particular video every two three months to remind myself.
The Imam (as) said: ‘O Abu Abdullah! Knowledge is not obtained by learning. Rather, it is a light which enters the heart of whoever Allah, the Blessed and Exalted, wishes to guide. So if you want knowledge, first find in yourself the reality of slavery. Seek knowledge by utilizing it and ask Allah to make you understand, then He will make you understand.’
فقال (عليه السلام): يا أبا عبد الله ليس العلم بالتعلم انما هو نور يقع في قلب من يريد الله تبارك وتعالى ان يهديه فان اردت العلم فاطلب اوّلا في نفسك حقيقة العبودية. اطلب العلم باستعماله واستفهم الله يفهمك.He (as) said: ‘Reality of slavery has three strands:
Firstly, a slave does not see ownership for himself of the things that Allah has entrusted to him, because slaves do not possess ownership. Slaves see wealth as that of Allah and place it wherever He has commanded them to.
Secondly a slave does not plan his own affairs, being entirely occupied with what Allah, the Exalted has planned.
Thirdly, he is entirely occupied with what Allah, the Exalted, has commanded him to do and prohibited him from doing.
قال (عليه السلام):
ثلاثة اشياء: ان لا يرى العبد لنفسه فيما خوّله الله ملكا لان العبيد لا يكون لهم ملك يرون المال مال الله يضعونه حيث امرهم الله به، ولا يدبّر العبد لنفسه تدبيرا، وجملة اشتغاله فيما امر الله تعالى به ونهاه عنه.
So if a slave does not see any ownership for himself of that which Allah has entrusted to him, it would be easy for him to spend only in the way that Allah, the Exalted, has commanded him to spend, and if a slave leaves the management of his self to his Manager then the afflictions of this world become easy on him, and if a slave occupies himself with what Allah, the Exalted, commanded him to do and prohibited him from doing he will not have the free time to engage in futile debate and boasting with people.
فاذا لم ير العبد لنفسه فيما خوّله الله تعالى ملكا هان عليه الانفاق فيما امره الله تعالى ان ينفق فيه وإذا فوّض العبد تدبير نفسه على مدبّره هان عليه مصائب الدنيا وإذا اشتغل العبد بما امره الله تعالى ونهاه لا يتفرغ منهما الى المراء والمباهاة مع الناس.
So if Allah honors the slave with these three, the world, Iblis and all creation would become low in the eyes of the slave and he would not yearn after this world, its wealth or personal pride. He would not seek what people have, for glory or superiority (amongst them) and would not leave his days to pass away in vain. This is the first stage of piety. Allah, the Blessed and Exalted, said:
فاذا أكرم الله العبد بهذه الثلاثة هان عليه الدنيا وابليس والخلق ولا يطلب الدنيا تكاثرا وتفاخرا ولا يطلب ما عند الناس عزا وعلوا ولا يدع ايامه باطلا. فهذا اول درجه التقي. قال الله تبارك وتعالى:
‘(As for) that future abode, We assign it to those who have no desire to exalt themselves in the earth nor to make mischief and the good end is for those who guard (against evil)’(28:83).
"تلك الدار الآخرة نجعلها للذين لا يريدون علوا في الارض ولا فسادا والعاقبة للمتقين".
I said: ‘O Abu Abdullah, advise me further on this matter. He (as) said: ‘There are nine things to advise for those seeking the path to Allah, the Exalted and I ask Allah to guide you in putting this advice into practice. Three of them are with regards to self- asceticism, three of them are with regards to forbearance and three of them are with regards to knowledge. Maintain them and guard against taking them lightly.’’
قلت يا ابا عبد الله: اوصني. قال (عليه السلام):
اوصيك بتسعة اشياء فإنها وصية لمريدي الطريق الي الله تعالي والله اسال ان يوفقك لاستعماله، ثلاثة منها في رياضة النفس وثلاثة منها في الحلم وثلاثة منها في العلم فاحفظها واياك والتهاون بها.
Unwan said: ‘so I gave him my full attention, and he (as) continued:
قال عنوان: ففرغت قلبي له.
Regarding the self-asceticism, be wary of eating that which you do not crave for because this leads to stupidity and imbecility. Do not eat unless you are hungry and if you eat, eat that which is halal, mentioning the name of Allah, and remember the narration of the Messenger (S) where he says: ‘No human has filled a cavity worse than his stomach. Let him leave a third for his food, a third for his drink, and a third for the air he breathes.’
فقال (ع): اما اللواتي في الرياضة: فإياك ان تأكل مالا تشتهيه فانه يورث الحماقة والبله ولا تأكل الا عند الجوع وإذا اكلت فكل حلالا وسم الله واذكر حديث الرسول (ص): ما ملاء آدمي وعاء شرا من بطنه فان كان ولابد فثلث لطعامه وثلث لشرابه وثلث لنفسه.
With regards to forbearance; if someone says to you ‘if you say one thing (of insult to me), you will hear ten things’ you should say to him: ‘if you say ten (insulting) things, you will not hear even one from me’. If someone swears at you, say to him: ‘if you are truthful in what you say then I ask Allah to forgive me, and if you are lying in what you say, then I ask Allah to forgive you’. Finally, if someone promises you obscene language then promise him advice and care.
وامّا اللواتي في الحلم: فمن قال لك ان قلت واحده سمعت عشرا. فقل ان قلت عشرا لم تسمع واحده. ومن شتمك فقل له ان كنت صادقا فيما تقول فأسال الله ان يغفر لي وان كنت كاذبا فيما تقول فأسأل الله ان يغفر لك. ومن وعدك بالخنى فعده بالنصيحة والرعاء.
❤ Jab tak hum ❤ALLAH❤ se Attached nahi hon ge tab tak insano se maruob ho ker un insan ya un Buzurg ke dil bhi kharab kerte rahen ge (kiun ke phir un ke dil se Taqwa halka ya aahista aahista khatam hone lagta hy aur un bicharo ko ye Aehsas bhi jata rehta hy ke wo kis marz mein mubtila ho chuke hyn ya hone wale hyn!! Best Behtreen Lecture!!
Buhat hi zabardast. Allah apku jaza dey. Ameen . Never got a chance to learn about this important word.
You are very profound MR. Asif!🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
Ma Sha Allah you are doing a great job. May Allah bless you.
Lots of prayers for Salman sahab for enlightening us with such lovely concepts.
Thanks for liking it. Do share. JazakAllah.
Kindly make your speech shortened and outline the clear solution of this disease problem, save time and make the short summary next time please so that more people can take benefit from your speech
@@ayeshaabduljabbar778 Watch on 2X speed if you don't have enough time...
لبیک یا رسول اللّٰہ صلی اللّٰہ علیہ وسلم ❤️
واہ واہ، ماشاء اللہ، سبحان اللہ
بہت شکریہ . مزید بہت ساری ویڈیوزآپ چینل کے پیج پر دیکھ سکتے ہیں
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Mashaallah, very good lecture
Nafay ilm jazaklah allah swt ap ke ilm me aur izafa kray subhanallah
MashaAllah SubhhanALLAH Alhhamdulillah ❤💕💐
JazakAllaha
perfect 👌 morning dose ....MashaAllah keep up the great work.🤲🏻
Excellent topic...wish this root inserted in us since childhood.
Jazakallah khair Allah apko Khush rakhe from India
Buht umda ma sha Allah
ماشاءاللہ! بہت عمدہ
Assalam Alaikum wrwb brother Salman,
Please post the duas which you mention in lectures. It will help us.
JazakAllahu khairan for all your beautiful trainings. May Allah swt reward you immensely.
jaza kalallah khair
Masha Allah, Subhan Allah
I like 2 much ERDC 4 salman sahab
Jszak Allah kharan kaseera❤🤲
Great sir👌
Thank you ❤
Every session is special. Sometime its seem the new is best then the last... Thanks ERDC for all this... Plz if easy a session for homeschooling we wait for this... Extra thanks.. اللہ آپ سے راضی ہو جائے آمین
Sure, please keep in touch. Thanks.
@@ERDCPK جزاک اللہُ خیرا
@@ERDCPK thanks
@@ERDCPK you posted a lecture on fulfilling our own emotional needs there were two topics within that one regarding wishes and the other regarding worries. Please conduct sessions on these two points if possible.
MashaAllah SUBHANALLAH BAARAKAALLAHU FEEK
Alhamdulillah for this lecturw
ماشاءاللہ۔۔۔۔ یا اللّٰہ کریم مرعوبیت کے عذاب سے بچا۔۔
Aameen!!
Excellent sir!! Bilkul esa hi hy..
Mera beta BSS mien perta hy aur aksar hi qeemti garion aur watches etc etc is tra ki discussions krta hy ger a ker..
Mujy heraat hoti hy parents kids k sath kesi batien krty hn jo school a kr b wo esi hi batein frends sy discuss krty hn..
Hmary society mn parents apny complexes kids mien transfer kr rhy hn..
True. We should pray a lot for ourselves and people around us.
@@ERDCPK good sir
MASHA ALLAH. SUBHAN ALLAH.
Loved ur videos sir 💜and sir please home schooling ki complete details k sath videos upload karein
اللہ ہمیں مرعوبیت کے شرور سے محفوظ رکھے
جس کے دل میں اللہ کا رعب اور خوف ہو وہ کسی سے مرعوب نہیں ہوتا نہ ڈرتا ہے
Jzk uploading
Allah Pak ap ko jazay khair dy
Thanks and regards
Very great. Thanks a lot
Thanks for the appreciation.
you are good man ۔i like you.
Sir Nice Message
REQUESTING TO PUT CAPTIONS FOR NON URDU SPEAKING AUDIENCE
we are loving your content here
I am sharing this with many peoples
Allah apko lambi zindagi ata farmaye. ❤
Just one statement لا اله الا الله is enough to describe the complete lecture .nafi asbaat
Amin masaallah ek adna rikves hei aap tablighi jamat ki ray De. Insaallah aap jariyae najat bane or ummte muslima
sir i love yr andaz e bayaan .
Pasand karnay ka buhat shukriya.
You r grate sir,
اللھم آمین🌹
ALLAH HU AKBAR❤
Perfect
Please summarise this video and make another video on the same topic. Please share it again with key indicators and solutions.
Pta nai mai ny is channel ko pehly q nai dekhaa
SubhanAllah
Subhan Allah
Subhan allah
Zbrdst
Masha allah
JAZAKALLAH kHAIRA ameeeen
MashaAllah
Dunya k mamle me apne se kam walon ko dekho jab ke naiki ke mamle me apne se uper walon ko dekho
sir owesome
Must listen
I really enjoyed the presence of little girl at around 1:04:38
Well done
کہنے کو بہت ہیں، مگر میں یہ کہنا چاہوں گا، اور میں یہ سمجھتا بھی ہوں کہ آپ جیسے لوگوں کی ہمارے برِ صغیر کے مُعاشرے کو اتنی ضرورت ہے جیسے پیاسے کو پانی ضرورت ہوتی ہے۔
ہندوستان، مُمبئی۔
Assalam o alaikum..
Sir aik question hay k Agr hm Kisi Shks sy jo k hmein Maroob krna chahta hay or us base pr hm sy respect expect krta hay..hum agr us sy la.taluq ho jayen asar na lein..maroob na hon to Wo smjhta hay k ye jeoulous ho rha hay ..wo phir hum sy kata taluq ho kr dosro k pas jaye ga jo us sy mutasir hoty hn..is situation ko kesy deal krein?
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Apney apny session ke start me aik dua phari mujy is dua ki Arabic+ urdu/English translation, aur hadees ka reference chaiye, plz ager ap meri mada krsaken, Allah pak apko iski jaza aata kren
اللهم ارنا الحق حقاً وارزقنا اتباعه وارنا الباطل باطلا وارزقنا اجتنابه
Allahumma arinal haqqa haqqaw warzuqnat tiba’ah, wa arinal batila batilaw warzuqnaj tinabah
Translation: O Allah! show us the truth as true, and inspire us to follow it. Show us falsehood as falsehood, and inspire us to abstain from it.
See Sharhul Ihya, vol.10 pg.106)
اے ﷲ ہمیں حق کو حق دکھا اور اس پر چلنے کی توفیق عطا فرما۔ اور باطل کو باطل دکھا اور اس سے بچنے کی توفیق عطا فرما
Taqwa: Allah ki azmat ka dil ma naqsh hojana..
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Please do a lecture about how to stop attempting to awe people. Like doing everything just to get people appreciation/ validation/ awe. Riyakaari se kesy bacha jayay?
Ayesha ji,
Riya' is a disease.... nasty.
All our Good deeds, acts are gone coz of Riya'. .
There's a strong hadeeth e Mubaraka: thori si Riya' bhi shirk hai.
Yahan shirk se Murad ' shirk e khafi' small shirk hai .
Difficult to control, but not impossible to get rid of Riya'.
1) excessively zikul Lah
2) check, control desires
3) read Quran with ' tadabbur'
Meaning ponder over it.
4) 2 rakat hajat namaz, especially before going to a party.
Technically, as our level of Taqwa grows, our humbleness increases..
Sir in your last your video you said manners in argument but sir if some one shouts at you in arguments then how do you deal sir in such situations sir I try my level best in communicating
I have maroobiyt of taqwa
Is it good or bad
I love you sir main appke elm se maroob ho Gaya
please write duaa which one is starting before this lecture
Ye starting Wali dua likh dein. If any one knows it…
لیکن سر ایک حدیث کا مفہوم تو یہ بھی ہے نا کہ لوگوں کے مراتب کا خیال رکھو،یعنی جو اللہ نے کسی کو مقام دیا ہمیں بھی اس کو عزت دینی چاہیئے
What is Acute intellect deficit sir?