I’m always a silent watcher. I’ve probably commented on a handful of videos over the decade I’ve watched UA-cam. But I just wanna say that it does get better, you seem like a beautiful soul to share your story this way. The best thing you can do is feel, cry, write, talk, be upset. Allow yourself to because it’s what makes you evolve. Healing isn’t linear and we often go in spirals until we learn the lesson (especially with suppressing). Affirm that you won’t allow yourself to be treated in these awful ways again, have boundaries, be kind to yourself, write about, think about and do things that your younger self would like. These things really helped me heal, because I started living for myself again. For example I’ve wrote letters to my younger self, played games and watched films I liked, have been crafting again and baking. I’ve also wrote unsent letters to the people that hurt me, just telling them how shit it was but also I forgive them because the pain they caused has shown me how big my heart is etc. anyway this is rambles but I hope if you do read this you feel something of it resonates. Anyway have an amazing new year! ❤
@@rosiegrace5808 Aw thank you, I really appreciate that! You’re so right and I used to do quite a bit of inner child work and this is definitely where we understand our behaviour and grow. Your words mean a lot 🙏 Happy new year x
Feeling shit is so hard! Especially after you haven’t for so long! You got this! I’m feeling all my shit finally too and I strongly want to get off this floating rock but I can’t so well enjoy the beauty of life ❤
Burying things works to an extent for a small amount of time but not in the long run. Sooner or later you'll need to find a safe space and process whatever it is that you've suppresed. Distance and time are usually good for enabling this process, going on holiday etc 👍
Bison will turn into a snow storm rather than drifting with the wind because they instinctively know that walking into the storm will get them out of the weather quicker. Be more Bison
Really beautiful sentiment Remi, the idea of allowing yourself to feel things. Think there are too many people that try to solve everything with their heads when sometimes we just need to feel it with our hearts. Glad to have found the channel :)
Awwww. Well, things matters. You can ignore it for a while, but it allways returns. And meditation, training and everything else you do is great for everyday stress and concerns, but deeper things that comes back long after, might need a professional. It needs to be resolved before you can move on. And crying your eyes out is like popping a bottle of champagne. It relieves a lot. I got trauma from i was 8, and spent 6 years with a therapist. ( yes, it´s the worst thing you can think of for a kid) It might not work for everyone, but it´s my best advice. Sending comforting hugs.
@@vidarmyhre4654 Thank youuu! Just wondering how other people handle their problems but yes I have heard so many good things about therapy so I think it could be beneficial at some point for sure. I hope you’re well :)
Currently feeling the same atm so your not alone I’ve had my fair share of crying at the gym. I find going on walks and doing colouring helps. Just started doing voicenotes on my phone to process my thoughts too.
in the grand scheme of things, you definitely have to feel things to grow from them, if everything was painless we wouldn't be able to tell good from bad (even though its not always easy anyway) also quoting Interstellar and newton's third law: to move forward, you gotta leave something behind but yea, I just completely detach from the situation that's causing me pain, tough it out for a month or two, try to cheer myself up with things, sometimes it doesn't work - so we are sad, and then days go by, you wake up in the morning and you feel fine, it's still in the back of your mind somewhere, but it just doesn't move you the same anymore done yappin
Sweetheart you are doing well, you are unconsciously dealing with it right now with what you are saying just keep questioning yourselve about life and your feelings and eventually you will work your way through it. Just don't try to put a time or date for it to be over in, you will get there I promise. Hang in there beautiful soul ❤❤❤❤❤
If it hurts and you feel like crying. Do it. Allow yourself to cry. It is good for the body, it is expressing itself. Then your mind gets quiet from there you can start recognizing and analyzing. Why did you get hurt? Was it because of luck of boundaries, or whatever? Then next time you will see it coming and with new eyes. ;)
Honestly I don't know, everyone is different. I don't know what you're going trough with so it's hard to say and even if I did I'm still not sure what I would say. It's easy to think of logical solutions to logical problems but emotion is not logical. There's nothing wrong with feeling. How do I deal with my emotions? I don't even know myself 😅 I know it's cliché but the more you go through the more you can take, you do get stronger as time goes on. Yeah I do think there's an element of sitting trough pain, people talk about the 7 stages of grief I think there is an element of a process you go through. When my mum died I went a bit round the bend for a bit, it happens. When the same thing happened to a friend of mine (their mum died) and they asked me how I dealt with it I almost didn't know what to tell them😅 In some sense it's just time, processing things takes time. Try not to hurt yourself while you're going through that process. People care about you, things will be okay, you'll be alright, trust me. We have a remarkable ability to bounce back from things. Be kind to yourself. Peace N love
I’m always a silent watcher. I’ve probably commented on a handful of videos over the decade I’ve watched UA-cam. But I just wanna say that it does get better, you seem like a beautiful soul to share your story this way. The best thing you can do is feel, cry, write, talk, be upset. Allow yourself to because it’s what makes you evolve. Healing isn’t linear and we often go in spirals until we learn the lesson (especially with suppressing). Affirm that you won’t allow yourself to be treated in these awful ways again, have boundaries, be kind to yourself, write about, think about and do things that your younger self would like. These things really helped me heal, because I started living for myself again. For example I’ve wrote letters to my younger self, played games and watched films I liked, have been crafting again and baking. I’ve also wrote unsent letters to the people that hurt me, just telling them how shit it was but also I forgive them because the pain they caused has shown me how big my heart is etc. anyway this is rambles but I hope if you do read this you feel something of it resonates. Anyway have an amazing new year! ❤
@@rosiegrace5808 Aw thank you, I really appreciate that! You’re so right and I used to do quite a bit of inner child work and this is definitely where we understand our behaviour and grow. Your words mean a lot 🙏 Happy new year x
Feeling shit is so hard! Especially after you haven’t for so long! You got this! I’m feeling all my shit finally too and I strongly want to get off this floating rock but I can’t so well enjoy the beauty of life ❤
Thank you so much!! X
Burying things works to an extent for a small amount of time but not in the long run. Sooner or later you'll need to find a safe space and process whatever it is that you've suppresed. Distance and time are usually good for enabling this process, going on holiday etc 👍
Bison will turn into a snow storm rather than drifting with the wind because they instinctively know that walking into the storm will get them out of the weather quicker. Be more Bison
Really beautiful sentiment Remi, the idea of allowing yourself to feel things. Think there are too many people that try to solve everything with their heads when sometimes we just need to feel it with our hearts.
Glad to have found the channel :)
@@JayWallace Thank you for the message :)
Awwww. Well, things matters. You can ignore it for a while, but it allways returns. And meditation, training and everything else you do is great for everyday stress and concerns, but deeper things that comes back long after, might need a professional. It needs to be resolved before you can move on. And crying your eyes out is like popping a bottle of champagne. It relieves a lot. I got trauma from i was 8, and spent 6 years with a therapist. ( yes, it´s the worst thing you can think of for a kid) It might not work for everyone, but it´s my best advice. Sending comforting hugs.
@@vidarmyhre4654 Thank youuu! Just wondering how other people handle their problems but yes I have heard so many good things about therapy so I think it could be beneficial at some point for sure. I hope you’re well :)
Currently feeling the same atm so your not alone I’ve had my fair share of crying at the gym. I find going on walks and doing colouring helps. Just started doing voicenotes on my phone to process my thoughts too.
@@iyanu1413 love voice memos, art is a good idea actually. I hope you’re okay!
in the grand scheme of things, you definitely have to feel things to grow from them, if everything was painless we wouldn't be able to tell good from bad (even though its not always easy anyway)
also quoting Interstellar and newton's third law: to move forward, you gotta leave something behind
but yea, I just completely detach from the situation that's causing me pain, tough it out for a month or two, try to cheer myself up with things, sometimes it doesn't work - so we are sad, and then days go by, you wake up in the morning and you feel fine, it's still in the back of your mind somewhere, but it just doesn't move you the same anymore
done yappin
@@Sixtehfifteh So this is a universal experience ahaha, thanks for sharing. Completely agree 🙏
Sweetheart you are doing well, you are unconsciously dealing with it right now with what you are saying just keep questioning yourselve about life and your feelings and eventually you will work your way through it. Just don't try to put a time or date for it to be over in, you will get there I promise. Hang in there beautiful soul ❤❤❤❤❤
@@davidmurphy1653 Thank you! Very kind I appreciate it 🙏
If it hurts and you feel like crying. Do it.
Allow yourself to cry. It is good for the body, it is expressing itself. Then your mind gets quiet from there you can start recognizing and analyzing. Why did you get hurt? Was it because of luck of boundaries, or whatever? Then next time you will see it coming and with new eyes. ;)
Honestly I don't know, everyone is different. I don't know what you're going trough with so it's hard to say and even if I did I'm still not sure what I would say. It's easy to think of logical solutions to logical problems but emotion is not logical. There's nothing wrong with feeling. How do I deal with my emotions? I don't even know myself 😅 I know it's cliché but the more you go through the more you can take, you do get stronger as time goes on. Yeah I do think there's an element of sitting trough pain, people talk about the 7 stages of grief I think there is an element of a process you go through. When my mum died I went a bit round the bend for a bit, it happens. When the same thing happened to a friend of mine (their mum died) and they asked me how I dealt with it I almost didn't know what to tell them😅 In some sense it's just time, processing things takes time. Try not to hurt yourself while you're going through that process. People care about you, things will be okay, you'll be alright, trust me. We have a remarkable ability to bounce back from things. Be kind to yourself. Peace N love
@@jjs4lyfe true it’s all different depending on how the individual processes things, thanks for that :)
YA QUEEN YE FORGET SAD, GET YOUR COAT YOUVE PULLED😂🤗💞
maybe u feel sad because someone is sending u negative energy