tea talk : insecurities

[@jjs4lyfe]

It's fine to want to look nice and people do appreciate it and in a sense I see it as marketing yourself but what isn't fine is ruining your mental health over it. I once watched this thing idk who it was vogue or Victoria secret whatever i don't know much about these things but one of the models was talking. She was saying even these literal models who are arguably the most beautiful women in the world have plenty of insecurities. You can't avoid it and it's maybe sometimes worse when your career revolves around being good looking. I have insecurities and so does everyone else it's nothing to feel shame about, it's very human and admitting it is a great first step that many people can't even do. I said this before a while ago and I'm saying it again, you have a really nice down to earth personality, you're introspective, you think deeply about things, you're empathetic and seem genuine and that's quite attractive in itself, many people don't have those things. I think your character can really stand out. It's really at the end of the day it's entirely up to you what you want to do with your body, if there was a god I don't think he would judge you for changing it but I am telling you your looks are not holding you back because yeah you are beautiful and you don't need anything being done to you. When I saw a video of yours for the first time I was shocked that it didn't have way more views. If you're looking for more views I would suggest something more structured. More editing and professionalism, more varied content. Maybe a thumbnail of you looking attractive to lure people in, maybe a clickbait title. It is marketing. You have all the right components but you need to see it as something like gym or art, a craft to be tweaked and tweaked and tweaked focusing on constant improvement all the time. I think when you go travel you will certainly get more views as it will vary your content more and people want to live vicariously through others sometimes when they work a lot etc. There's an algorithm and it has to be cracked, it's something that can be studied like any subject. Saying that sometimes it about putting the reps in and just being persistent. Anyway I think a big part of insecurity is when someone else makes you feel insecure and a big part of getting over insecurity is learning to 1. not care about other peoples (often false) opinions of you and 2. Surround yourself with people that aren't going to make you feel like you're not good enough for whatever reason. Also realising not everyone is going to like you and not everyone's personality matches with yours and that's alright. It will drain you being surrounded by negativity, it will rub off on you but the beautiful thing is positivity rubs off on people too. A lot of life I feel like is just about saying F you to everyone and just doing whatever you want to do that makes you happy because there is a lot of force in this world that tries to bring you down and you have to be strong to be able to fight it and go up against it and sometimes when you do it serves as inspiration to others to do the same thing too. Your own strength give others strength too. Peace N Love

[@fujivato]

Here is one perspective, natural (unmodified) beauty is unparalleled. Every alteration people make to themselves degrades it every so slightly and they end up a worse version of themselves. If there are any loud voices feeding their insecurities then they probably haven't met enough people to know that external appearance is nothing compared to personality anyway so there is little point in worrying about it 😂

[@celestialapocalypse-q7]

People have insecurities including me and i think that its what degrade your confidence and everything . I hate ppl who makes video on 'curing ur insecuriites' or 'get over ur insecurities' blah blah ... but yes some ppl doesnt care about them but a lot of ppl like me do . Doing skincare , getting your hairdone , getting ur braces , like everything u do on ur body are stuff you do to vanish out those insecurities and be a better you and idt its a thing you can cure with your mind . If we are doing fillers , botox , surgery or whatever its totslly ok cz at the end of the day its just our body and our money and we aint doin some harm to other peeps . But i think doing these fillers or doing implants is sometimes better when you are much older like 40s or 50s and i have seen a lot of ppl getting bad results after 10 or 12 yrs after doing these in their 20s but its just personal preferance . So doing something to ur body to cure ur insecurities is totally okay cz ur not degrading urself , its just making urself more beautiful and confident ❤