As an ENFJ, I agree with what you said about the gut feeling and realising that a relationship will end up by the ENFJ getting played. I agree because I went through this quite recently... I knew how it was going to end deep down and went with it anyway and now it's just pain. However, I have learnt that it's just better to trust my gut
I'm a ENFJ-A. I learning my love language and understanding my needs. I love balance. Too much or too little irritates me. I love the happy medium. I had a problem asserting my boundaries, saviour complex and putting my needs last in the best. It was war on myself to learn to be "selfish" more. Asserting boundaries was one of the hardest to do. Not coming to everyone's rescue was another as well as stopping being a people pleaser! Now, my life is sooo much easier and I have more respect then I ever did. Love with a romantic partner is still hard for me. I love my space and peace including the lifestyle I've created for myself. Currently working with a therapist to understand why I keep attracting men who want me to dime my life, change myself and only focus on them. Turns out, I'm not quite done with over coming the 'people pleaser' energy. All I can do, is walk away and refuse to engage. Perfectly made video ❤ Thank you!
Five months late. I saw this video in my recommendations. Tammy, no. ENFJs aren't heartbreakers. We might be hopeless romantics, but no! We don't break hearts! **I hug Tammy tightly** ~ENFJ
Forget about the "we", people and also ENFJs are different. There are always more mature and less mature people, and people in different phases. I (ISFP) met an ENFJ in Fe-Se-Loop, he was pushy and a player. He lived in a half open relationship. His partner was unhappy with it, but he could talk about it in a very caring sound. I'd call it manipulation.
This is so good and so true. Can you do a video about how ENFJ’s handle being stonewalled and ignored? I recently tried to have a conversation with a love interest about some concerns that I had. He completely stonewalled me. It hurt me very badly. I know that I cannot have a relationship with someone who refuses to communicate. I feel like I failed at yet another connection. 🥲❤️🙏 ENFJ
Lots of hugs to you! I know how hurtful that must feel. These days, I’m all about self protection. He’s setting up a pattern that could be detrimental to a healthy relationship. As painful as it is right now, think about how life would be if you get stuck in a situation like that. Thanks for the video suggestion!
As an ENFJ, I agree with what you said about the gut feeling and realising that a relationship will end up by the ENFJ getting played. I agree because I went through this quite recently... I knew how it was going to end deep down and went with it anyway and now it's just pain. However, I have learnt that it's just better to trust my gut
You’re so right! Also, wishing you speedy healing ❤️🩹.
@@TamsPsychAdvice thank you :)
I'm a ENFJ-A. I learning my love language and understanding my needs. I love balance. Too much or too little irritates me. I love the happy medium.
I had a problem asserting my boundaries, saviour complex and putting my needs last in the best. It was war on myself to learn to be "selfish" more. Asserting boundaries was one of the hardest to do. Not coming to everyone's rescue was another as well as stopping being a people pleaser!
Now, my life is sooo much easier and I have more respect then I ever did.
Love with a romantic partner is still hard for me. I love my space and peace including the lifestyle I've created for myself. Currently working with a therapist to understand why I keep attracting men who want me to dime my life, change myself and only focus on them.
Turns out, I'm not quite done with over coming the 'people pleaser' energy. All I can do, is walk away and refuse to engage.
Perfectly made video ❤ Thank you!
I think we can all learn from your experiences and life lessons. Thanks 😊 so much for watching!
Five months late. I saw this video in my recommendations.
Tammy, no. ENFJs aren't heartbreakers. We might be hopeless romantics, but no! We don't break hearts!
**I hug Tammy tightly**
~ENFJ
Awwww 😊
Forget about the "we", people and also ENFJs are different. There are always more mature and less mature people, and people in different phases.
I (ISFP) met an ENFJ in Fe-Se-Loop, he was pushy and a player. He lived in a half open relationship. His partner was unhappy with it, but he could talk about it in a very caring sound. I'd call it manipulation.
This is so good and so true. Can you do a video about how ENFJ’s handle being stonewalled and ignored? I recently tried to have a conversation with a love interest about some concerns that I had. He completely stonewalled me. It hurt me very badly. I know that I cannot have a relationship with someone who refuses to communicate. I feel like I failed at yet another connection. 🥲❤️🙏 ENFJ
Lots of hugs to you! I know how hurtful that must feel. These days, I’m all about self protection. He’s setting up a pattern that could be detrimental to a healthy relationship. As painful as it is right now, think about how life would be if you get stuck in a situation like that. Thanks for the video suggestion!
Going through this. It feels like failure. Shame spiral