Reddit Bridezilla Ruined Our Friendship For Her Destination Wedding
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Bride - "I miss you."
MoH - "I DON'T miss you!"
MoH:"You gave me an aneurysm!"
If she had told me "I miss you," I'd have said, "No one does."
Bride: doesn't tell which room she's staying at
also Bride: why didn't you stay the night with me in my room?
that's what she gets for being a bridezilla!
.....honestly, I would have smacked the hell out of her. I'm happily engaged & already flat out told my fiance "The shoes, the dress, no red roses or lavender...after that, you could show up dressed up in tye-dye & we could do McD's for reception & I'd be happy".
Never let someone make you shift your entire life around for their wedding, or any other event. A decent person would never even ask.
Agreed, and please stop whining about being a "poor broke college student", "I spend over XXXX dollars" or "She's my friend / I was trying to keep the peace / I didn't want to ruin HER BIG DAY".
Just be a good little doormat and lay there.
You're so right. It seems that we have allowed brides to change from being 1/2 of the wedding couple to being completely the center of attention, with the other members of the wedding being her slaves/servants, and looks being so important that persons in wheelchairs are not allowed to be bridesmaids, groomsmen, or walk them down the aisle! ("No thanks, Dad, you'd ruin the whole look!") AAARGH! I will, however, allow the bridal party to spill red wine all over any guest who dares to wear a white outfit to the wedding. Red wine should always be a staple for the attendants!
@@StPetersFriend
"Red wine should always be a staple for the attendants!"
I'm shocked that you're not getting death threats!!
Seems strange that bride has enough money to fly herself and all these family members to her destination wedding and yet can't find anything she likes or can afford in the US. She's either got super high expectations or way too picky.
Bride - "I miss you."
MoH - "Good. Keep on missin me. Later."
I never understood why brides think that the world should revolve around them completely on their wedding day. I can understand it being a big day, but it's like they expect the rest of the world to grind to a halt and if it doesn't go perfectly, then they go berserk. Then when it's over, they don't understand how they managed to burn the bridges of most of their friends.
Because companies have been brain washing people to think that way for just over a century. It's a way to maximize the money they can get out of you. You are much easier to extract money from, if you are told constantly that it's the one day you are supposed to be treated with rediculous opulence, and given to believe in impossible to obtain standards.
It all started in the 1920's when magazines started printing the latest trend of super rich people flaunting how fabulously wealthy they were by breaking with tradition and wearing... WHITE! (because untill that point, not even royalty could afford white, as it stained permanatly far too quickly, and would not last even half a day before it would need to be thrown away.)
Diomands were worthless before adverts convinced us they were neccessary for proposing. So instead of putting 3 months wages towards a new life, you put it on your wifes finger... forget the fact even today it looses 2/3 of it's value the moment you walk out the shop with it.
These companies do not care about the social damage, they only care about taking your money. And will happily twist expectations and traditions out of all proportion in order to do it.
I partially blame Disney and the princesses and crap. Nobody cares if the guy gets his happily ever after, it's all about the girls...and the merchandising. I always hated the golden age of Disney (which is why I love Shrek and Into The Woods--the stage play, not the POS movie: They tear that pretty damsel and boring prince thing to shreds!)
I just don't get why young women are still dreaming of their big day in the 2000s. This isn't the 1800s where the best you could hope for WAS a great wedding and an understanding, good, loyal husband because women were property more than anything, so i can understand young women being obsessed with their wedding days then. But not today. On the other hand, instant gratification and entitlement seem to rule in 2000s society, and everyone wants their 15 minutes of fame (even copied-fame, trying to live like a Kardashian for a day or some stupid shit). That's probably where most of it is.
Since when does the maid of honor spend the night before the wedding with the bride??? I have NEVER in 64 years heard of this. And how was OP supposed to know the bride wanted her to do that if she didn't ASK her to? What a horrible woman.
That "bridal glow" is apparently supposed to come with telepathy. They're supposed to read her mind and know what she wants because she's so obvious and blissful that people should just KNOW what she wants by looking at her.
I'm so glad I don't have in-person close friends. If anyone ever asked me, "So, hey, can you spend thousands of dollars and reschedule your whole life so you can come watch me have my sparkly-princess-dress-up day because I require ATTENTION," I would probably just laugh and ask, "What are you, five?"
😂😂 my friend took me out of the bridal party because i couldnt make it till rehearsal dinner. Mind me it was in cancun. Not that easy and $$$
My best friend IS marrying and she would pay to have me there. She asks absolutely nothing of me but being present, cause that makes me Happy, but would never BE upset with me, If I could Not make it. Indeed she does pay to have some Special food made for me, since I have a Lot of food intolerances. I would BE fine Just dealing without food, or something really simplistic, Like , but No, she Made me make a list of what I can eat and contacted the caterer to creat an additional 4tu dish Just for me, cause she wants me to have something really nice Like everyone Else too.
She does Not demand Gifts or Money, does Not Care what I wear, . . .she Just wants everyone to BE Happy and have a good time. She did Not invites all that many people, No bridal shower, our bacholerett Party was 2 calm days at the beach Not far from where WE live cause WE rarely get to See eachother AS a group . . . With exactly 3 members . . .
There are people, that do Not Turn into bridezillas!!!
She celebrates on a sunday, so her brides Boss does.not have to Close His Shop to come.
The Narnia references were straight on point! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽🤗🤗❤️❤️🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟
First time i've seen a Narnia reference in one of these videos. Loved those books and it really made the comment stand out.
To me a destination wedding is the perfect excuse to not go.
I had to leave my bff wedding early (was a friday, my bosses gave me half a day to get ready, but then pretty much demanded for me to visit a client really really early the next day, because the client needed the consultation, I was the only one that could do it, and they could only do it on that saturday)...and my best friend was just like "don't worry, I'm just glad you could come"
I attended what we called the Royal wedding. From what I gathered it cost close to $75,000. It didn't even last a year. She took him for everything he had, and now he is living with a friend, and flipping burgers for a living.
Poor guy
People are never shocked when they see a divorced man sleeping in his van, but are also shocked when men dont wanna get married or even live together.
@@zibix4562 everyone should just sign the prenup imo
I went to a wedding like that. Massive, six bridesmaids, horse drawn carriage, full orchestra the entire works. Lasted 2 years.
Evidently, in the second story, the groom had his own candidate for Maid of Honor, and was resentful of OP
What many people don't understand is that the "clever trick" they are trying to pull is something that attendants have been hearing again and again and again, often on the same day, and not only they are fed up and they don't believe you, but they can risk being reprimanded for letting you do something you are not supposed to , so... it's not going to happen!
Those references were on point
The last one was crazy and aggravating! I have a friend whose wedding was in mid March (this year) and my cousin was also getting married in March...both on the SAME FREAKING DAY AND AT THE SAME TIME!!! The only difference was one was in NY and the other in NJ. FML. When I told my friend this, she changed her wedding date to the following weekend so that I can go. I felt grateful and guilty at the same time. Unfortunately, as everybody on the fking planet knows, Covid19 hit. My cousin still got married in NJ and me and my family couldn't go because I live with a family member that's immunocompromised. My friend's mom got the virus on the day she was supposed to get married. Thankfully she's better. SHe's having a virtual wedding ceremony this month and a drive-by congrats and dessert.
That’s the way to do it!!
there is a groomsilla there too
destination bride's friend, bride is not your friend. friendship revovles around you/me. i was estatic when my best friend annouced her wedding, asked to be maid of honour. i was abit jealous, but its my best friend, i'm hers, we look after each other, still do 50 years on.
So the BIG question is...is the Bridezilla from the Dominican Republic ceremony even still married....or did her marrage crumble due to her self-centered attitude???
@@Geeky189 ah but if both are self centered, that could cause major conflict
Husband sounded like a simp.
The husband seems just as self-centered as she does. And super passive-aggressive on top of it.
I didn't have any bridesmaids when I got married. My brother in law walk me down the aisles and that was it.
I am the only bridsmaide for my best friend, with our Other best friend being Maid of Honor. The Other bride has her own Maid of Honor and her Brothers will lead them "down the aisle" thats it, thats the bridal Party
The second couple seem like they're the Karen and Chad memes in human form
Honestly, OP should have just told the bride once she changed locations to DR that it would be impossible to go to her wedding. That it was too expensive and there are things you just cant move around in your life to accomodate hers. Its not entirely on the bride, but some of it is cos she let herself be a doormat to her friend and have her own needs and priorities be pushed down to accomodate someone else. Noone else cares about your stuff more then you, always put yourself before you consider if you can do something for someone else. If you have kids, your needs come second, but not all the time, otherwise you will go insane.
Exactly. She allowed her boundaries to be crossed and then was upset when the bride and groom kept crossing them. But she was allowing it to happen.
A U.S. wedding could be anywhere from $10,000 (Cheap) to $100,000. I think the average is about $30-40,000). I'm not completely sure but there are many television programs about wedding. Some even costing more. It's ridiculous.
Mine was like 5k. Why do people want a destination wedding so bad?
Mine was less than $200 because I eloped. Sometimes it's just not possible to spend thousands of dollars and it's definitely not right to expect others to pay thousands to be at your wedding. That being said having a calm and reasonable conversation about what you can and can't afford with guests and the couple is a something that would make most of these situations go better.
Those are the ones you see on tv. People get married every day, they are not spending that much money
That’s why I would just want a mutually beneficial prenup, a white showgirl or bunny girl outfit, an elopement, and honeymoon to Vegas or to Reno. I would do my best to keep it in the four figures zone, never into five figures or higher. I’d rather have that money for an investment portfolio or a nice house.
Neither my daughter nor her husband wanted a big wedding. They just had it in the court house with family.
She wore a nice dress. But that's only because she was told by the judge that she had to wear one. No rings, they didn't want them.
After the ceremony, we all went out to Applebee's. We paid.
I misread the title. I thought it said Bridezilla meets Karen and ruins her dress. This one was fun too but I really wanted to find out how Bridezilla was going to ruin that dress and the fallout. 😅
Unfortunately, there was no fallout update on that one, we'll have to take OP's word for it.
I don’t know who someone can even think about traveling for a wedding when there are so many obligations at college and work. It doesn’t matter if is Georgia or DR. If you have debts, you don’t travel to expensive hotels, which a destination wedding normally would. You tries to get your money budgeted to pay your debts. It even reasonable to think about it.
Glad you dropped the background music!
Why do you rehearse dinner? Haven't you eaten before?
lol i was very confused the first time i was invited to one. Only in the US. 😊
It's a rehearsal for the wedding ceremony, and traditionally the groom's family pays for everyone to eat afterwards.
All of the weddings I've been to just have BBQ and/or pizza and they really aren't a big of deal as the people in this story was making it out to be.
🥁 **rimshot**
caused the bride stress what about the stress caused OP with her demands and expectations and OP having to beg and plead about changing shifts etc that bride is a nasty piece of work
The problem is less the bridezillas and more the doormat friends they have
DESTINATION WEDDING : the purpose of a destination wedding is to reduce the turnout to those who are rich.
Weddings in the US can easily cost tens of thousands of dollars.
My husband and I cut costs everywhere we could and as a result paid no more than $6,000 including the honeymoon.
I told my husband to be if he wanted to have a wedding he had $100 over the cost of the license. I was fine with having a JP do the ceremony at the courthouse when we bought the license.
I had already agreed to marry him over my own reservations about his inability to handle money. We were already starting a marriage over $10,000 in debt and I had prioritized paying that off.
We managed to have a very nice wedding from donated materials. He spent money only for a piece of plywood to make a table and a few small things.
Frankly, I never thought spending thousands of dollars for a single day was ever a good idea.
My mum got married in an actual castle and her wedding cost 3k. It can be done.
You ma’am, are a smart and responsible person
Very good! That’s the way to go!
I think the groom annoys me more than the bride.
Yes, I have the feeling the bride is so nasty because of the groom?!
Your voices are amazing. They crack me up all the time 😅
Their parents were not paying for the wedding and it was too expensive to have a wedding, so she decided on a destination wedding in the DR???
Gosh I can’t even imagine. When my SIL got married we had work and a newborn and couldn’t attend as a family but instead we paid for my husband and FIL to fly to the wedding, attend ceremony and fly home. It wasn’t appreciated until they learned the whole story years later
Then when my lifelong bestie got married 2,000 kms away I drove down with my 2 year old by myself when pregnant and stayed 2 nights to be her bridesmaid. She was so lovely and appreciated the effort, even though I didn’t do a bridesmaid things.
So glad she is my best friend for over 30 years
I would have LOVED to have such a dedicated bridesmaid. I had three of four SIL getting on my throat because I asked them to be my bridesmaids. They thought it would take "their personality" away if they would wear all the same dress (I didn't even say anything about wearing the same dress) and kept complaining what a big hassle it was to buy that darn dress. When I told them the bridesmaid idea was off they complained I was making them out to be the bad ones and I couldn't just chancel it now. They just went ahead with buying the darn dress and didn't tell me anything about it (as surprise as they put it) and didn't help with ANYTHING. Biggest mistake I made about my wedding but it opens my eyes for good about them. They got their hair done with their favorite hairdresser and helped each other getting ready. I got ready on my own. I so regret inviting them for that. All they did was creating drama and b*tching about every little thing, specially about the inconvenience of getting the same dress. As if the wedding was about that f*cking dress! I distanced myself from them for good after that.
This nasty witch of a Bridezilla in the titular story sounds like the one who fired me from the MOH position after she fired her sister from MOH after a fight. She then fired me after replacing her sister because one of the groomsmen recognized me from his cousin’s bachelor party after I popped out of a cake and danced (burlesque, not stripper). It was also a destination wedding, but to Hawaii.
Brilliant Aslan
The medical student OP was an idiot, jeopardizing her life and schooling for anyone, and for something as stupid as a wedding which probably wouldn't even last. I've stopped blaming the bridezillas and groomzillas. The blame is squarely on the people, including the Ops who seem afraid to say no. What's the worst that could happen, you lose a "friend"?
I spent about $4,000 to attend my best friend’s cruise wedding. It included arriving there the day before for the stag and dough party the night before. I justified the cost because I looked at it as a vacation and wedding for myself and my daughter, which is why the cost was so high. That hit me hard! Even though I didn’t relax much because the bride and groom hat activities every single day when we were not on the islands, I still think it was worth it to be there for her. However, unlike this bridezilla, my friend expressed gratitude to every single person, multiple times. She even omitted bridesmaids dresses to keep our cost down as much as possible.
How to say you're a complete doormat without saying you're a complete doormat: story #2
It's Jadis, OP, not Jandis, IIRC. It's been a while, admittedly.
I just screemed at my laptop🙄... This makes me so mad! How could you. The MoH did everything for her!
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He's Chilean.
@funzjag as @Gala correctly states, I'm chilean.
Also, I'm really happy you enjoy the channel :) thanks for giving my videos a chance
@@LostGenre Thanks for the response. Your English is excellent. Do you live in Chile? If so, where did you learn English? I only recognized you as a Spanish speaking man due to my numerous friendships with Hispanic people and my father is a speech pathologist, so I've been exposed to a variety of speech. You should have heard my Italian great grandmother speaking. She came to the US when she was a young woman and spoke the most broken English for her whole life! Great cook though!!
@funzjag Thank you! At the moment, I don't live in Chile. I learned English as a kid in the US (KY). My family lived there while my dad was getting his masters at KSU and then I kept my english through sitcoms, music and books.
You have a great ear! Also, original Italian cooking... è magnifico :)
@@LostGenre I thought you were German when you read that German text from another Bridezilla story. (the one where the spoiled brat wanted to take her sister's wedding venue that op had scheduled 3 years in advance. )
In what universe is a wedding at a resort in the DR cheaper than a lowkey wedding in the states?
There is no such thing as a red eye flight from New York to the Dominican Republic.
That's not how route systems work.
I would have told off both the bride and the groom when the groom first accused me of causing the bride stress, said that I resign as MOH, and then cut all contact with them. They both sounds like narcissists. Let them whine and cry about how "awful" I am while I get on with my life.
Friend: be my MOH.
Also friend: it's a destination wedding!
Me: will you be paying my way?
Friend: no!
Me: sorry. Can't come.
Friend: you're a terrible friend!
Me: I guess so. Bye, now!
Friend contacts later: I miss you!
Me: Fuck you and Groomzilla. *block*
Why do people accept the responsibility of MoH when they live hundreds or thousands of miles away? It's hard enough if you live close to the bride, never mind another state. Just say thanks, I'm not able to do it, just send me an invite and if it's possible I'll attend. If the bride does anything except smile and say "sure" then run away. There were so many red flags in story 2. I'd have just backed out as soon as I started getting abuse or complaints. "Don't like it? Fine. I'm out."
My sister is my MOH and she lives in Scotland, but my best friend is kinda taking on the duties of the MOH, because of that. Then again, I'm not having a destination wedding and I'm not a jerk to the bridal party. We are also gonna have it in our backyard once we close on the house we are trying to buy.
Those are just examples of why they would choose a specific person. But it sounded as if this bride didn't actually care and just wanted a doormat
anyone else find it a little weird that she said 3000 dollars was a *weeks* worth of income? she’s making 12,000 a month bartending???
My only problem here is that the MOH was never in a position with her studies to be a MOH. She should never have accepted to be MOH. She was in the middle of med school and clinical. Not to mention money is tight and getting any vacation is almost impossible. OP made a bad choice accepting the duties of MOH.
So OP is somewhat responsible for making this bad and stupid choice.
Karma is awesome
First story... 😂.. Karma is the bitch..
I don’t understand why us wedding’s are expensive that’s bull
Sea cadets 4 lyfe
No offence but the last story the op is a loser. So many red flags that the bride is not really your friend but you went along with being a doormat. Have some dignity. A caring person would be empathetic to the op’s situation. If a person is always me me me me then it’s obvious they aren’t a good friend. The op should have seen trouble coming a mile off.
Destination wedding: Adding insult to injury is this OP ignored EVERY red flag due to knowing bridezilla from childhood. I hope this intelligent ( = medical student) but low in common sense OP finally decides the bridezilla is not a friend she wants to retain!
Happens when we prefer QUANTITY (= number of friends) over QUALITY of friendships!
Why is this so much if a common thing in this day and age. Entitiled mileanils.
I can believe that!!
It's as if parents don't have the balls to tell their precious children that the world doesn't revolve around them, their wants, their desires, etc., and get the eff over themselves.
Nah. I'm a boomer myself and I know for a fact that there are plenty of entitled boomers and Gen-Xers, too. Probably the last less entitled generation was the Greatest Generation. When you've gone through the Great Depression and WWII you don't whine as much about stupid stuff like who comes to your bachelorette party or if you get professionally done make-up and hair.