In actual fact most are lesser material than US women. But a wedding is a more economical relationship for their parents. In earlier times a marriage meant we build our life together. Nowadays many Asian girls more or less want to get a ready made nest along with the wedding, at least a small one.
The question they didn't ask is HOW much money. Of course people are going to want you to be employed but the difference in China is the expected level of earning. This entire video missed the most interesting point about Chinese culture and the expectation of men to not just earn a living but provide way above and beyond.
I recently travelled to Beijing and Shanghai, only staying in Shanghai for 2 days and 1 night and was in so much shock between the differences of Beijing from Shanghai! Beijing being far more diplomatic and traditional, while Shanghai was far more materialistic and modern. The price difference between everything was far pricier in Shanghai as well. I'm sure there would be a much more diverse opinion if they had interviewed people in Beijing.
For me, both the guy wearing a grey shirt in 5:48 and the guy wearing a white shirt in 9:22 gave the best answers. 5:48 “...But, people should know their roles and responsibilities in a relationship. We can’t ask for more benefits while taking on less responsibility.” 9:22 “Because after pursuing a materialistic life, pursuing deeper things is the ultimate goal.” AMENNNNN
Josh Chacón haha maybe it’s just a happenstance coz I also agree with that one girl who answered at 3:22 that both the parties are equal. Or maybe because the men were the ones at the other side of the question this video begs to answer?
Obviously, money can be important, but how important is it when choosing a significant other? Would you be able to date a Chinese woman based on the standards stated in our video? Share your thoughts on the matter!
I prefer personality. that one lady is right. you could have all the money in the world but if you don't get along, you don't get along. money can't fix that.
shame on you Asian Boss, just google ‘Sex ratio china 2018’，and the first one tells you ：'The sex ratio of the total population was 1.080 (1,080 males per 1 000 ...'
Just a advice not only to Chinese woman but generally. "Choose the permanent things not those temporary." Money can surely buy you anything but it can be temporary but those permanent like personality and his values can be permanent in this life even beyond.
@@Supe204 people's values are not changing. The people who change are the people that put a mask in the begining and then showed their true selves. And nope, most people don't change in their beliefs. So I disagree with your comment but I wi a free a bit because some people won't stay the same.
The Chinese don't believe in anything beyond this life and that plays an important role in shaping their values. In a Christian or even Buddhist worldview, people that are "successful" in this life may very well be hell bound or headed for a bad reincarnation based on their selfishness. In the worldview of Atheistic materialism, which is the quintessential worldview of Marxism-Leninism, all that really exists is power on THIS Earth. If killing political dissidents for Chairman Mao furthers the power of the "proletariat," so be it. If committing genocide against Uyghurs furthers the material interest that China has in Xinjiang's natural resources, so be it. There is nothing besides power on Earth. So why would Chinese women care about anything besides how much power/wealth a man has managed to accumulate?
Luis Carrion My girlfriend is from south korea. She does not care about money at all. :) When i wanted to buy here a gucci bag she said she does not want because she looks materialistic then. She prefers :) To buy a simple snack and chat.
Shanghai may not be a good place to reflect whole Chinese girls’ idea. Just think about will you believe New York girls’ idea is a good representative for US girls’ ?
I think this applies to all countries out there if you sample just the urban areas. However, Asian Boss likely has limited resources to interview in other parts (ie: people, & especially money, bc how much can youtube really pay and also they have to support work in multiple countries, not just China)
Yes! Because I will live in New York and that's the information I'd like to know the most. Who cares about the rest of China? (Just trying to be sarcastic
shalom1948hellyeah, the reason for gender imbalance partly has to do with health care though. More boys are born than girls, but if all survive, that means there'll simply be more boys than girls, which leads to more men than women. I don't think that's particularly strange.
Been married to a Shanghai woman and I knew all this crap before watching the video. While dating she never asked me for money or gave me the impression of a materialistic woman. Things changed after marriage, without any explanation. "Man pay" was her motto, but I never heard that from her before getting married. In China, and not only there, rich man are less likely to be faithful, but these women are dreaming. They don't know the difference between NEED and WANT. And money is not a bipolar item - you have or you don't have. Finances are complex and you can live a happy life without lots of money, as long as your needs are covered. It's funny how the least attractive woman in the video (the one with a hat) is also the one expecting the most from a man!
DON'T hit streets in Shanghai!!! Shanghai people are the most materialistic in China!! Try hitting streets in Guangzhou, PLEASE!!! You will get another type of opinions!
I think they got a tendency that if you're living in the most developing China city, they're probably go to bath to hook up each other. I feel like it is also kind of environment
I don't think there's anything wrong with hearing the opinions from Shanghai too. Inform us that you think more materialistic people are present in Shanghai but it's good to hear different opinions. If you just want to hear people agree with your views then what's the point of watching videos such as this one? I know a lot of people get antsy even if one out of one-hundred people say money is more important but to me, I find it to be as interesting of a response, if not more interesting, since it's not always the case that those who prioritise money are materialistic. For obvious reasons, one being that they want to ensure a good life for their future children. I find that perspective to be an interesting one to hear from. So it's a shame people immediately dismiss an answer they don't like without allowing the person to go more into their reasoning. Though I can understand your concern. People will take one video as an example for the general population which is obviously quite an annoying thing to witness, especially if used to criticise a whole nation based on the actions of a few.
We have a saying in our state ,"Rather than dining in riches with a person you dont love, its better working hard, sharing tears and sweat with the one you love" and i really agree
When you don’t have food to eat, children can not go to school, you don’t have money to buy insurance or go to hospital or rent a place to live……the love disappears
You should have asked the girls for their expectation of salary for a boyfriend. Without that, it's kind of ambiguous when they say they expect the guys to have money.
@@nocapbeatz7542 Chinese women generally place a lot of emphasis on financial security. The husband must be seen as able to not only support the wife and children but also her parents in the event of emergencies. Also this video was shot in Shanghai where the cost of living is among the highest in China, so financial standing is highly looked upon here. However, if the woman is earning a high salary, then maybe she won't demand too much from her potential spouse but such women are the minority.
Culturally, money is the most important. I once had a couple middle eastern friends over, and my parents would later say bad things about them after they left. So, I would say in a stereotypical way “Well, they have oil money and very rich.” Immediately my mom would say in a joking but almost serious way, “You must marry a middle eastern girl immediately then.” I died laughing inside lol. But seriously, money is what is looked upon by both families, its not even whether shes a golf digger or not. Its just a cultural thing and common among Chinese people and many other countries. I personally don’t like it.
Q: which is more important, money or personality? A: personality. Q: should he pay for everything when dating? A: Yes, he should. nice standard for good personality......lol
You stingy man, I don't think anyone's going to date you. You're not a gentleman. Would you like the Lady to take the initiative to invite you to dinner? Men have to take the initiative. If every time she wants you to pay for it, it means she thinks of you as a moving purse. Men must pay for it in the early days.
@@hongyimo From a girl's perspective, how can she know you love her or not? Sometimes girls might feel secured and feel loved when guy pays for sth (not everything)
@@如是我闻-h3z Why does it always have to be the man to take the initiative? If you like someone, no matter what ur gender, you take the initiative. The excuse of tradition, “it’s always been that way” is in hindsight not a logical reason. Don’t sit on your ass expecting something to be handed to you on a silver platter. Yes, if a women has interest in a man she should invite him to dinner. Sounds like a great idea and many men appreciate women making the first move.
As an Asian guy money isn't at the top, what's important is the personality, belief and values because without it all you have is a toxic relationship and there's no point of keeping such relationship when it's just a waste of time, effort and resources. Being a traditional men of course I'd prefer paying for the dates and most of all I want my girl to rely on me but all I'm asking is to have my girl's innocence still intact because I want to build my world with my girl and share everything with her. I don't want girls who've slept around with alot of guys just for material things without regards to their own well being.
Why are so much pressure put on men everywhere? If you have high expectations from a man, then you should have equally high attributes to offer. Otherwise, you need to lower your standards. It's a two way street.
ricardo c is that the same mentality u have when you walk into a store to buy clothes? Sure sometimes you can settle but most times you reach when its in your head
@@youngz13o This is called fairness. Hey if you don't mind being exploited, if you don't mind being treated unfairly, then that is your problem. I absolutely agree with ricardo c - a relationship is a two-way street. Both sides have to contribute equally to make it work. A man who has enough self-respect will always take it to heart.
You're going to be single with that attitude. You have to prove your worth to women. That's how it's always been I'm afraid. Be a better persona nd you'll attract better people.
Ricardo c @ I agree . However when you take into account the average woman's unrealistic standards of men and add in a population landslide in which men outnumber women 5 to 1 , believe, and you get such results as this where even a below average/average looking woman can afford to have ridiculously high standards that she doesn't meet herself yet be able to easily pull a rich Chinese guy .
Pls make video on ASIAN FESTIVALS too..There are so many different cultures and different festivals in Asia..Festivals play big role in our Asian culture..I want to know more about other Asian colourful festivals...🙆🙆🙆
Fayt Strife Wow..i would really love to know about this festivals..BTW Ganesh Chaturthi and Navratri is coming too..Navratri is basically a nine nights dance festival..Thousands of people dances together for nine nights..its really fun😀
let's not forget looks. I prefer personality. I can't get along with a person if I can't stand them. a bad personality drives me nuts and that's not in a good way. he can't be ugly either but I ain't good looking myself so 🤷♀️
It is bad if Asian girls choose a guy who is rich cause sure he maybe rich,but he won't be the man you want cause he can have a bad personality with money. With no money but middle class guys? You can find a guy who a great personality. Take me for instance. I am not rich and I am middle class and have a personality that comes off great and I rather be a great guy than a rich prick.
@Anthony Ex-Dem USA of course personality matters. They are not stupid they just want financial stability and some level of well-being (which depends on person)
I been living in Shanghai for 15 years. And I think this video represents the average opinion quite well. Attitudes are changing tho, with dramatic increase in living standards and wealth these things happen. Also Chinese cities are competitive and expensive. Its not like in Europe where u have social safety nets.. in China you really have to fend for yourself. Having a house has always been a priority for Chinese girls... but that’s also because when you rent in China you have zero protection, your landlord can do whatever he wants so you can keep moving around if you can’t pay the rental increases.. kinda hard to raise a family that way.. all these things create this environment. You don’t own a house, your kids can’t go to school locally (good schools) and u end up paying higher school fee’s.. so having a property is a big thing!
@Aze Fan Cool, then. Has it really been a thing on Chinese media though due to pornography concerns? Just looked up a Guardian article. That's hilarious.
as from a man's side, it feels very much like.. chinese girls today, not all girls but most of them, they are quite demanding, 5Cs are already not enough for those greedy women, still expect their ideal bf or pre-husband to be in good social status, high-pay job, handsome with suitable height and built, and even take care of her parents more than his own... the demand standard is too much higher than hk, tw, sg and m'sia. All these requirements are really hard to achieve, that's people always see and hear plenty of aged single ladies today. Im very regret to know that there are so many of such cases here in china, but for men, i shall and must encourage my fellow single chinese brothers, the 3:1 ratio of men and women, is not a problem. If u cant find a ideal gf in china, never mind~ try to look far.. there are quite alot of nice + traditional + elegant girls in taiwan, malaysia, vietnam, thailand, philippines and indonesia, many choices for us, maintain strong body conditions, having a not bad job/skill, learn to perform proper communication behaviours, we will have our happy life and family soonest. Let those fussy and demanding chinese girls just be there alone.
@Phil Fry In most of eastern countries, men dont need women to have stronger career above them, so for ladies from eastern countries, the more success they get, the chances to be single are bigger, unless they would like to be with western angmohs. That is the natural logic.
The thing about men should pay for things and so on, I think that makes perfect sense in a society where men earn more than women. If you earn more, you should pay more. Here in Sweden, if I decide to pay for dinner, that's for one of three possible reasons. 1. I'm generous. 2. The other person can't pay. 3. The other person will pay the next time. There's really nothing more to it. Men and women earn about the same these days in Sweden, so there's little reason to not split the bill.
BS San Yeah. Why wouldn't she? At least a proportionate amount. I think it's the same no matter the gender. If women earn more, they pay more. If men earn more, they pay more. If they earn an equal amount, they pay equally. Seems fair to me.
Trollseeder True. Stability is always something desirable, and being able to give a strong support as well. I don't think it's a good reasoning for not having basically equal pay though. Men usually go for better paying jobs to begin with as well.
Money isn't everything, but it puts food on the table, pays for the kid's schooling, maintains a roof over your head, keeps the utilities flowing, the car running, the clothing clean, etc.
where are those sensible and generous women we often see in movies?? Money is important but I think personality of a person is more important, what if a man suddenly lost his job and hit rock bottom, would it be fair for his gf or wife to leave him on those circumstances??
The extreme poverty in China happened only a few generations ago. They still feel the impact of it today so their selectiveness is not something shallow. Money talks.
I don't think they're materialistic, they seemed practical when they explained their opinions, it's obvious that they're thinking about their future and the stability of their future family
Stop giving excuses for gold digging. If you want stability, get a job! Don't leech off a good man and expect him to do most of the work. The majority expect the man to make double than what they make which is disgusting. No wonder there are many leftover women. They should be more concerned about their leftover guys because it's an actual fact.
1.08:1 , just google ‘Sex ratio china 2018’，and the first one tells you ：'The sex ratio of the total population was 1.080 (1,080 males per 1 000 female'
3:34 M confused Girl who told she want Money in BF wants him remember her Birthday & buy cake , present gift ? Girl who want BF with Personality wants Ipad , bag ?
They don't have black or white thinking. She said money because she wants stability a then said cake because she loves cakes :D The other girl... if she want that kind of things only for a birthday then it is not so bad believe me :D
You need to understand what background each woman was coming from. It could be the girl who thinks money is important is financially more insecure and grew up in a situation like that therefore mentions money as the priority, and to her a cake was a valuable and nice enough gift. Whereas the lady who mentioned personality might come from a more financially stable background and is independent and well employed, thus to her things like an ipad is a normal nice gift but not extravagant in anyway, perhaps to her requesting for a car or precious jewelry is what is considered unreasonable. No need to compare people by what they say like for like.
My wife is Asian, and we share similar beliefs regarding Love, Family, and Successes... for us, it is our children that absolutely Must come first. We chose to make children, so therefore we chose place their lives ahead of our own! That being said, once a couple chooses to procreate, they voluntarily sacrifice “personal choices” and pass those choices on to their children so that they will likely have a better chance at a better life than their parents.
Its simple really, a good personality will mean your find that person more attractive, and fun to be around long term. Money will help you live easier but if you put it all before love in a relationship your get to a point where your ask yourself if the effort and money you have put into that relationship is making you happy, even more so if you dont get really click with your partner. You could have all the money in the world but if you dont click as couple your soon be looking elsewhere for that intimacy, after all money cant buy you love.
Most people live together now days, I lived with both of my exs. you don't have to get marry to date around However you do get married to start a family. I make more than my husband and I came from a well off family. His family is a normal average family. It is not that the guy has to be rich but the guy has to hold a DECENT paying job to take care of the family. What happens if I am in an accident? The child no longer needs to be feed? It can cost up to 1million dollar to raise a child in the states, who do you think is providing this? My husband is my best friend and I love him alots. I love him as much as I loved my exs but I did not want to marry them. My last bf was a bartender, when he gets old what will he do? Can he feed the child? he can barely feed him self. Yes I don't mind dating him and being with him but there is no way I would marry him. My husband as well, if he didn't have a decent job I wouldn't marry him, I would date him and love him but not I would not marry him. In the end it is not really equal is it? The mom is still expected to take care of the child even if she works. No one compliments= a working mom for changing the diaper but our society sure compliments male who changes the diaper. It was never equal, what did you expect?
@Captain Brandon Horror Film Lover I'm European and I have lived in China. They are the opposite ends of the scale in many ways, most definitely not the same in this regard. So yes, I'm sure.
I've graduated in 2019 & pursuing my higher studies in Law. This insight gave me a warning for a Foresighted issues which Youths in India generally face. I'm working on with my overall personality development & my profile. I'm confident that Indian youth will not face the grime situation as the Chinese youth are experiencing now! Thank you Asian Boss from Chennai, 🇮🇳
Also I'm from Italy and the less materialistic girls I've ever met were Chinese from Beijing. If you think Chinese girls are materialistic you should try the italians ones!!
Yes they told me that too ahah Infact if I will ever go to work or study in China I'll go to Beijing and not Shangai :) Also is such a stereotype to say "chinese women think about money"
You are right, you are smart guy, unlucky not all people are as smart as you , its very easy for them to be brainwashed. its very simple obvious view that there are good people and bad people in everywhere and every country.
I live in North West u.s. I'm quite stressful with my Chinese girl friend. I pay almost everything for 5 months. Money is ok as I earn quite enough. What I'm worrying is she maybe narcissist who doesn't appreciate and think from others perspective. Last week, she paid dinner after very long time. I need to watch her more before making a decision for next step.
Dongseong Hwang damn. do you love her really As a Chinese. I think you should be honest with each other. If you want her to do something, you need to tell her. If she has the ability but doesn't want to, then it's over. Maybe she wants to be a housewife.
+ashutosh the Olympics is filled with performance sports, where you memorize and practice a routine a thousand times, they Chinese struggle in team sports like Soccer, Basketball
Exactly, I'd rather live alone if I'd only had to choose between either or the other. You want your future husband to have at least a little of those too or you'll most likely end up unhappy ;)
China, and lots of Asian countries believe that hardworking would have you achieve successes. Along with the success, definitely having money is a significant sign of success. This relation is determined by capitalism markets. Compare with other Asians, Chinese just prefer addressing their true thoughts.
The need of finding a man with a stable income is evolving from the fact, that women when giving birth, having children are still screwed in our society. So we are sadly forced into this. And men as well. They know there will be a time when having kids, the income of the women will drastically decrease. So this expectations are sadly constructed by the work/society situation we still live in. If women wouldn’t get disadvantages by simply getting pregnant and children this topic would easily disappear.
I'm not sure about this. Women only came to start really participation/allowed to participate in most jobs as men, in the last century. But the thing of women looking for men who are financially well-off has been the case for way longer than that. In fact, I would argue that only recently are we introducing at the concept that women must contribute financially to a relationship as well.
It's good to listen to these young people. I married a Chinese woman four years ago, but she is older (like me). I went to China to find what has been lost in the western culture - and that is devotion.
The two girls that are hanging with each other are perfect examples of selfish & shallow girls - expects their boyfriends to be rich while they themselves aren't that good looking. Not once did I hear from them about personality - caring, kindness, responsibilities, funny, or other characters.
@@ayPersonality no cause money isn't what a relationship should be based on. People with normal lives and normal salaries make it perfectly fine in life without needing to exaggerate their needs in life. Just because someone makes alot of money that doesn't mean that their partner should be based on their salary as well. Alot of guys are dating jobless women while they make alot of money. Do you see those guys demanding from their girls to make the same amount of money? No. The whole difference stands on the fact women have the advantage that no matter what men will chase them and men need them. And since women have this advantage, they are trying to get the maximum out of it. Everybody should contribute the same in a relationship and have something to give and get. If money exists already then money should not be the issue.
I love what Asian Boss is doing and I love a lot of these videos, but I wish they would have asked better questions in this one. There's a difference between 'poor' and 'no job' and how high of a salary a girl or her parents require a potential boyfriend to have. Anybody remember the Chinese girl who famously said, "I'd rather cry in a BMW than laugh on the back of a bike"? They should have asked about that. Maybe Asian Boss can do a sequel? Also, the gender imbalance was misrepresented. There are about 30 million more men than women, and those men who are likely to never get married or even date. But you're not going to find them on the streets of Shanghai. They're concentrated in poor, rural areas. Also, the one-child policy had a huge effect: as a result, you'll find more relatively rich women in cities, and relatively more poor men outside of them. When the women in the video said they felt there were more single women around them, that's because there are.
I'm Chinese American who has visited China often and I can say without any uncertainty that Chinese women, on aggregate, highly value money over looks or personality. However, I can also confirm that not all Chinese girls are like this, i.e. my wife.
@@EnyuZeeMukbang i find this accent to be more pleasent to hear than the usual chinese I heard from chinese students. Not sure what the accent was, but they were too loud and it sounded like they were fighting oftentimes
Man I pray to god I never meet a girl like the ones that said materialism is normal or expected Chinese or otherwise. Rather die alone then be around that kind of thinking
This is a true story guys, hear me out, I once "dated" a chinese beauty (girl) and I'm chinese, and when her birthday came I gave her a present 13 days after Her birthday. When *My* birthday came, she said Happy birthday to me 13 days after my birthday. What I learnt from this is personality is important at first, and after than money. Thank you guys all for hearing me out! :D
I think it's great that you came to the change in preference from money to personality however I wouldn't entirely blame her, if you do blame her. I don't know if you're saying that you interpreted the situation as her not holding materialistic items with great importance (hence why she felt no need to give one to you), so that's when you learned materialistic items held less value when it came to love and therefore personality is more important. Or if you're saying that you interpreted that situation as her not giving you a gift as her taking but never giving (materialistic). So you realised you think such a personality is not worth having money for and therefore personality is more important. If it is the latter, I wouldn't blame her entirely unless you've deliberately stated that you wanted to give gifts to each other. You chose to give a gift on her birthday on your own accord, however she does not owe you one on your birthday simply because you gave her one. I criticise such logic because a lot of people ruin relationships with this thinking. Using a simpler example; you hold the door for someone and when they don't hold the door open for you next time, you get mad at them for not opening the door for you. Even though you never established the agreement to open doors for each other, you blame the person for not catching on? It doesn't make much sense to me because then you're not doing it out of kindness but to get something else out of it (respect?). I say so because I don't catch on to these things in my life. If someone doesn't tell me that they want to give gifts, I won't give gifts simply because I dislike gift-giving. And if said person becomes upset with me because I didn't abide by their made up contract which they didn't tell me about, then interpret my lack of participation as materialism, I wouldn't like it. Although, there's likely to be a culture difference here regarding gift-giving on a birthday equating to a healthy relationship or love? I don't hold birthdays with such importance so my perspective also derives from there too. I'm not saying you are like this but I thought it'd be interesting to provide a different perspective.
Money shouldn't be the topic in a relationship in dating. But in marriage and settling down. Avoiding the issue is rough. But money shouldn't be the foundation towards your relationship. All of those crash hard because the love is materialistic and not on each other.
MONEY. After seeing the title I didn’t even have to watch the video (dated several and married so I am an expert). EDIT: After reading several of the comments (which are obviously from a western perspective most of them) it isn’t necessarily always for the fanciest bag, but it’s concern for children and family and it’s a sign of stability and hard working personality of the guy.
@@byong557 I don't know about that. Maybe in countries where wealth was scarce and new wealth was created only in the last 1 or 2 generations. America's newly-rich are different, honestly. They're more subtle about expectations. Not saying they don't have expectations, but it's different
As though “old money” people are better, ha! Old money people look down on ppl no matter what, unless you’re old money just like them and have a big family name. At least these people believe in changing your own status
I'm trying to learn Chinese by Tandem, and the girls that chat to me always ask me about my income. I'm gonna start to say that i'm living under a bridge and i have no job, i'm very sick with that kind of materialistic questions
Completely agree with everyone in the video. Not being materialistic but you need money to have a comfortable life, buy stuffs you love and most importantly buy your basic needs under the current system of things. It's been that way since the ancient times.
Chinese culture and traditional family values still see the man as the main breadwinner. Society provides men the role of protector and provider, that many Chinese men actually grow up wanting to fulfil (hence that one guy's comment about feeling embarrassed if he made less than his partner) Parent's don't want their daughter's husband to not be able to "protect and provide" for her and earning ability is the most direct way of evaluating this. You're also talking about a society where the gender pay gap is a lot larger than western economies. (It's not as bad as Japan's gender pay gap, but it's bigger than USA) add that to living in expensive cities, just as expensive as any other big city in the world..well most women want a stable life for themselves and their children. I live in Hong Kong and I know a whole list of girls that won't consider anything serious if the guy doesn't seem to have good career prospects. Not current salary but future salary potential. It is romantic? nope. but does it make sense? yes, it does.
It’s definitely NOT 3:1 if you consider the females in non-major cities, Tibet, Inner Mongolia, Xinjiang and include overseas Chinese in Southeast Asia, the US, Canada and Australia, it’s pretty balanced. Trust me on this fact.
Fiona Wang i think you wanted the reason and from my knowledge it’s because when china had the 1 child policy people in rural areas especially, wanted a boy who’d grow up to make money and provide for the parents according to the parents. So, they used to kill the baby as soon as they find out it’s a girl and they’d try again until they got a boy. I cant believe it was so common there mustve been some other reasons too😭 damn china
The high level of anxiety in people from countries that have a history of poverty tend to be reduced to mere survival. Healthy relationships require healthy connection. Empathy. When people are afflicted by anxiety... The anxiety overrides their empathy. So rather than judging them, it helps to understand where they are coming from inside. Terrible things like the sex trade and slave labor feed on the people in situations like that. Money comes and goes. I've never been worried about money... I'm not rich in money but I am rich in life. The best things in life are free.
I don't fundamentally disagree with the points that these women (and men) made on the necessity of financial security etc. I can also understand the desire for the man to by a higher wage-earner given the evolutionary and cultural programming for men and women (especially in a country like China) to seek this dynamic. Much of the discomfort we in the west probably feel when watching this emerges simply from the uncomfortable frankness in the expression of this consumerist attitude. Some of it though is also based in a underlying view of marriage/dating as something more transactional and empty than I would want for myself.
Money is a completely independent factor. If you are in a relationship or if you are not in a relationship you still need money to live. People also twist reality because when you share your life with someone else life becomes actually cheaper, you share a lot of costs and divide chores. Most chinese girls seem very insecure and just want more confortable life getting a rich or richer boyfriend without doing anything in their side. Many think their only duty is to be pretty...
This gave me anxiety. Maybe if you just apply your life to what is happening you can find someone who genuinely cares. Money comes and goes, as long as the other person helps support enough to live a decent life that is all that should matter.
Classic Pusha T line, “Wealth don’t buy health”. Money and materials will always be there, the main components are empathy, mental support/well being, and acknowledging/understanding. If you can get those points down, the relationship is impeccable. That’s my opinion.
Also, Chinese people are much more family-oriented, so we do see a lot of women giving up jobs to raise children. I think it's pretty natural then to have hopes that your husband, who will most likely continue working after kids, is able to provide for the family.
Don't expect someone to marry you for your integrity when you have shallow reasons to be with them. If you're a man who wants a hot wife, you better be prepared for her to be a nightmare gold digger from hell. If you're a woman who wants a rich husband, you better be prepared for them to throw your ass out on the street the second you stop looking good. Everyone else should seek a good balance of integrity and a stable household.
As a male westerner. Age 24. I genuinely appreciate female femininity & gender roles. I believe God created things in a certain order & that life prospers the best when followed. I also plan on looking outside the states for a wife in the near future.
If a women accepts an official date, gets ready and looks great... one way the guy can show appreciation is to foot the bill. If it's a casual "let's grab a burger" then it's better to split or man or woman can pay. In any relationship... it's about relating to each other and the situations. If someone makes much more money, it would be appreciated but not required that they pay. The great thing about life together, is that we can make choices that free each other, not enslave one another.
It really surprises me that in a city with such huge gender imbalance, the women interviewed still say is difficult to find a quality boyfriend, the same thing happen here in my country, even though there’s no gender imbalance. Further studies are need it
Wow they sure proved the stereotype true in this. lol she said Money is more important than personality. And then the other girl said Money is the NUMBER ONE most important thing in a relationship lol. That is pretty low.
7:30 lol you can just go to parks and walk. id find that more romantic than a shopping spree. dates arent just about GETTING things, its the experience that counts.
When a culture significantly values raising children as the primary purpose of marriage, it becomes inevitable that money is highly valued in the relationship.
I hate how women feel self-conscious about the fact that they need security in relationships, and that they look for men who have more money than they do. It makes perfect sense evolutionarily. We men don't have to worry much about things like being physically vulnerable to assault 24/7 which is why we don't care about security at all. I don't need a women to help me with bills and what not, I need her for emotional support. Plus i'm ambitious, i don't care if i have to pay for most things. Being a leader comes naturally to us men.
I’m a feminist and what responsibility are we not taking on in a relationship??? I’d pay on a date/split the bill. I don’t expect guys to open the door for me or treat me like a princess.
The question is not about materialism , it’s about whats the purpose and priority of every single individual. Money it’s just the mean to get there. Remember money is abstract but value is in the eye of the beholder .
Money/materialism in China is such an interesting topic imo. You have a generation coming up in a thriving, basically capitalist economy for the first time after a long period of economic hardship, so it makes sense that they're concerned about material security! And at the same time, while China as a whole is getting richer, there are still a lot of people who are extremely poor, so there's definitely still economic anxiety about that. I agree with the man who said that after pursuing a materialistic lifestyle, people will eventually move toward deeper pursuits--I just hope the Chinese economy transitions smoothly out of its intense growth spurt and settles down without much pain for the citizens.
so they're reasonable and straightforward-- in larger, world-class cities cost of living is higher. materialistic? no more than new yorkers.
In actual fact most are lesser material than US women. But a wedding is a more economical relationship for their parents.
In earlier times a marriage meant we build our life together. Nowadays many Asian girls more or less want to get a ready made nest along with the wedding, at least a small one.
The question they didn't ask is HOW much money. Of course people are going to want you to be employed but the difference in China is the expected level of earning. This entire video missed the most interesting point about Chinese culture and the expectation of men to not just earn a living but provide way above and beyond.
Generally, big city wages pay much more than if you lived in a more rural small city.
@@BeyondTechnical Why "of course?" Many men won't care if a girl is unemployed. This is a very gendered perspective, and that's at least interesting.
@@BeyondTechnical I agree
I recently travelled to Beijing and Shanghai, only staying in Shanghai for 2 days and 1 night and was in so much shock between the differences of Beijing from Shanghai! Beijing being far more diplomatic and traditional, while Shanghai was far more materialistic and modern. The price difference between everything was far pricier in Shanghai as well. I'm sure there would be a much more diverse opinion if they had interviewed people in Beijing.
They should do the same interview in Beijing
For me, both the guy wearing a grey shirt in 5:48 and the guy wearing a white shirt in 9:22 gave the best answers.
5:48 “...But, people should know their roles and responsibilities in a relationship. We can’t ask for more benefits while taking on less responsibility.”
9:22 “Because after pursuing a materialistic life, pursuing deeper things is the ultimate goal.”
AMENNNNN
Agreed ~ best answers
Yass...they were the best answers...
Agree. They seem very down to earth
A lot better answers than the ones females gave, hmmmmm.... 🤔
Josh Chacón haha maybe it’s just a happenstance coz I also agree with that one girl who answered at 3:22 that both the parties are equal. Or maybe because the men were the ones at the other side of the question this video begs to answer?
“Money can’t do everything, but without it, you can’t do anything.” My favorite line from the entire video.
Obviously, money can be important, but how important is it when choosing a significant other?
Would you be able to date a Chinese woman based on the standards stated in our video? Share your thoughts on the matter!
I prefer personality. that one lady is right. you could have all the money in the world but if you don't get along, you don't get along. money can't fix that.
Money can't buy real love, emotional...
shame on you Asian Boss, just google ‘Sex ratio china 2018’，and the first one tells you ：'The sex ratio of the total population was 1.080 (1,080 males per 1 000 ...'
@@joecai266 relax everyone make mistake. I don't want want to see your comment everywhere.
No.I am a 16 yr old from singapore and I am still studying,and will be until 22 or 25,depends whether I go to university.
Just a advice not only to Chinese woman but generally. "Choose the permanent things not those temporary." Money can surely buy you anything but it can be temporary but those permanent like personality and his values can be permanent in this life even beyond.
Nothing is permenet... people can change also at least get what you can get at the moment
@@Supe204 people's values are not changing. The people who change are the people that put a mask in the begining and then showed their true selves. And nope, most people don't change in their beliefs. So I disagree with your comment but I wi a free a bit because some people won't stay the same.
@@Supe204 In my country there is a say, " Nature and Signature never change"
The Chinese don't believe in anything beyond this life and that plays an important role in shaping their values. In a Christian or even Buddhist worldview, people that are "successful" in this life may very well be hell bound or headed for a bad reincarnation based on their selfishness. In the worldview of Atheistic materialism, which is the quintessential worldview of Marxism-Leninism, all that really exists is power on THIS Earth. If killing political dissidents for Chairman Mao furthers the power of the "proletariat," so be it. If committing genocide against Uyghurs furthers the material interest that China has in Xinjiang's natural resources, so be it. There is nothing besides power on Earth. So why would Chinese women care about anything besides how much power/wealth a man has managed to accumulate?
i dont think only chinese girl are materialistic... its all over the world
how can you live without money come on
Free Floating my point is the case in this video not only happen in china.. its everywhere
Zeosth China and South Korea are more materialistic than other countries though. I don't think it's even close.
@Luis Carrion It depends on a person. Even in SK you can find woman who is not all about money.
@Rikus Goede this kind of people who make fetish from brand and expensive things. Just avoid those people problem solved.
Luis Carrion My girlfriend is from south korea. She does not care about money at all. :) When i wanted to buy here a gucci bag she said she does not want because she looks materialistic then. She prefers :) To buy a simple snack and chat.
Shanghai may not be a good place to reflect whole Chinese girls’ idea. Just think about will you believe New York girls’ idea is a good representative for US girls’ ?
I think this applies to all countries out there if you sample just the urban areas. However, Asian Boss likely has limited resources to interview in other parts (ie: people, & especially money, bc how much can youtube really pay and also they have to support work in multiple countries, not just China)
中国和美国太大了。中西部的美国和南部的美国和西海岸都不一样，同理上海，北方，南方，偏远地区所反映的中国也天差地别。这主要还是一个给外界提供了解中国窗口，非学术的频道。个人觉得asian boss在这么多media outlet里面算很良心的了！
Hell no! NYC girls are the worst breed
Yes! Because I will live in New York and that's the information I'd like to know the most. Who cares about the rest of China? (Just trying to be sarcastic
Yes I would.
3:1? Are you serious? Have your team checked this number before posting online? The gender imbalance is somewhere between 1.x:1
it's actually 1.08 : 1,i feel sad for Asian Boss
google ‘Sex ratio china 2018’，and the first one tells you ：'The sex ratio of the total population was 1.080 (1,080 males per 1 000 female'
I know, but i'm sure there is an explanation for this error. Maybe the ratio is only in Shanghai? (or just a mistake)
How does a 1.8 man looks like? xD (bad joke)
shalom1948hellyeah, the reason for gender imbalance partly has to do with health care though. More boys are born than girls, but if all survive, that means there'll simply be more boys than girls, which leads to more men than women. I don't think that's particularly strange.
Been married to a Shanghai woman and I knew all this crap before watching the video. While dating she never asked me for money or gave me the impression of a materialistic woman. Things changed after marriage, without any explanation. "Man pay" was her motto, but I never heard that from her before getting married. In China, and not only there, rich man are less likely to be faithful, but these women are dreaming. They don't know the difference between NEED and WANT. And money is not a bipolar item - you have or you don't have. Finances are complex and you can live a happy life without lots of money, as long as your needs are covered. It's funny how the least attractive woman in the video (the one with a hat) is also the one expecting the most from a man!
yeah, same thinking. Those two least attractive women expecting the most hahahaha they will left over women 100%
What happens if she reads this comment?
its crazy that 2s have high demands too XD
DON'T hit streets in Shanghai!!! Shanghai people are the most materialistic in China!! Try hitting streets in Guangzhou, PLEASE!!! You will get another type of opinions!
没办法，在那里生存一个月没个15000人民币就很难活
at least they look like they wash themselves unlike other parts of china lol
I think they got a tendency that if you're living in the most developing China city, they're probably go to bath to hook up each other. I feel like it is also kind of environment
칭찬해아주 you can suggest them hit the street of soeul, at least the dogs there can bark unlike other parts of the vassal state of China
I don't think there's anything wrong with hearing the opinions from Shanghai too. Inform us that you think more materialistic people are present in Shanghai but it's good to hear different opinions. If you just want to hear people agree with your views then what's the point of watching videos such as this one?
I know a lot of people get antsy even if one out of one-hundred people say money is more important but to me, I find it to be as interesting of a response, if not more interesting, since it's not always the case that those who prioritise money are materialistic. For obvious reasons, one being that they want to ensure a good life for their future children. I find that perspective to be an interesting one to hear from. So it's a shame people immediately dismiss an answer they don't like without allowing the person to go more into their reasoning.
Though I can understand your concern. People will take one video as an example for the general population which is obviously quite an annoying thing to witness, especially if used to criticise a whole nation based on the actions of a few.
We have a saying in our state ,"Rather than dining in riches with a person you dont love, its better working hard, sharing tears and sweat with the one you love" and i really agree
We have another old saying”贫穷夫妻百事哀”. poverty consume marriage
When you don’t have food to eat, children can not go to school, you don’t have money to buy insurance or go to hospital or rent a place to live……the love disappears
Beautiful
@@Zoe-ss6vr are you chinese?
You should have asked the girls for their expectation of salary for a boyfriend. Without that, it's kind of ambiguous when they say they expect the guys to have money.
Most Chinese women want their potential spouses to earn at least twice their own incomes, the more the better....
They're gold diggers. No more need be explained.
@@Ori0n1975 Money is important no doubt, but, dating someone can't just because of money alone. We are humans.
@@nocapbeatz7542 Chinese women generally place a lot of emphasis on financial security. The husband must be seen as able to not only support the wife and children but also her parents in the event of emergencies. Also this video was shot in Shanghai where the cost of living is among the highest in China, so financial standing is highly looked upon here. However, if the woman is earning a high salary, then maybe she won't demand too much from her potential spouse but such women are the minority.
these interviewees are speaking so coherently without any signs of shyness, anxiety, or stage fright..
Most of them said personality at least, but success definitely resonate with a lot of money
Lol
"I think men and women are equal so we can split the bill"
I'm in love.
yeah mostly they say in video is split...but when in reality they want you to pay the bill hahahahahahaha
Honestly if the guy didnt offer to pay we’d be pretty upset... but if they did many of us would say no after the first few times
Don't forget to do half of the household chores and give birth to half of the baby
I don't take that at face value when it's said.
I SWEAR, gender equality! This woman respects the concept! Someone put a ring on it!
Culturally, money is the most important. I once had a couple middle eastern friends over, and my parents would later say bad things about them after they left. So, I would say in a stereotypical way “Well, they have oil money and very rich.” Immediately my mom would say in a joking but almost serious way, “You must marry a middle eastern girl immediately then.” I died laughing inside lol. But seriously, money is what is looked upon by both families, its not even whether shes a golf digger or not. Its just a cultural thing and common among Chinese people and many other countries. I personally don’t like it.
Q: which is more important, money or personality?
A: personality.
Q: should he pay for everything when dating?
A: Yes, he should.
nice standard for good personality......lol
You stingy man, I don't think anyone's going to date you.
You're not a gentleman.
Would you like the Lady to take the initiative to invite you to dinner? Men have to take the initiative.
If every time she wants you to pay for it, it means she thinks of you as a moving purse. Men must pay for it in the early days.
@@hongyimo From a girl's perspective, how can she know you love her or not? Sometimes girls might feel secured and feel loved when guy pays for sth (not everything)
@@如是我闻-h3z Why does it always have to be the man to take the initiative? If you like someone, no matter what ur gender, you take the initiative. The excuse of tradition, “it’s always been that way” is in hindsight not a logical reason. Don’t sit on your ass expecting something to be handed to you on a silver platter.
Yes, if a women has interest in a man she should invite him to dinner. Sounds like a great idea and many men appreciate women making the first move.
@@Naruto-bp6hm Most women don't, especially in Asia.
I like that girl
As an Asian guy money isn't at the top, what's important is the personality, belief and values because without it all you have is a toxic relationship and there's no point of keeping such relationship when it's just a waste of time, effort and resources. Being a traditional men of course I'd prefer paying for the dates and most of all I want my girl to rely on me but all I'm asking is to have my girl's innocence still intact because I want to build my world with my girl and share everything with her. I don't want girls who've slept around with alot of guys just for material things without regards to their own well being.
Why are so much pressure put on men everywhere? If you have high expectations from a man, then you should have equally high attributes to offer. Otherwise, you need to lower your standards. It's a two way street.
ricardo c is that the same mentality u have when you walk into a store to buy clothes?
Sure sometimes you can settle but most times you reach when its in your head
@@youngz13o This is called fairness. Hey if you don't mind being exploited, if you don't mind being treated unfairly, then that is your problem. I absolutely agree with ricardo c - a relationship is a two-way street. Both sides have to contribute equally to make it work. A man who has enough self-respect will always take it to heart.
You're going to be single with that attitude. You have to prove your worth to women. That's how it's always been I'm afraid. Be a better persona nd you'll attract better people.
Heehee... all men are secret billionaires!
Ricardo c @ I agree . However when you take into account the average woman's unrealistic standards of men and add in a population landslide in which men outnumber women 5 to 1 , believe, and you get such results as this where even a below average/average looking woman can afford to have ridiculously high standards that she doesn't meet herself yet be able to easily pull a rich Chinese guy .
As the old expression goes, "money can't buy love, but you sure as hell can rent it!"
Pls make video on ASIAN FESTIVALS too..There are so many different cultures and different festivals in Asia..Festivals play big role in our Asian culture..I want to know more about other Asian colourful festivals...🙆🙆🙆
Fayt Strife Wow..i would really love to know about this festivals..BTW Ganesh Chaturthi and Navratri is coming too..Navratri is basically a nine nights dance festival..Thousands of people dances together for nine nights..its really fun😀
Yulin is my personal favorite. It's interesting, to say the least.
let's not forget looks.
I prefer personality. I can't get along with a person if I can't stand them. a bad personality drives me nuts and that's not in a good way.
he can't be ugly either but I ain't good looking myself so 🤷♀️
@Free Floating sup 🙋♀️
Yes,I think it would be more interesting if they asked to choose between handsome and rich :D
It is bad if Asian girls choose a guy who is rich cause sure he maybe rich,but he won't be the man you want cause he can have a bad personality with money. With no money but middle class guys? You can find a guy who a great personality. Take me for instance. I am not rich and I am middle class and have a personality that comes off great and I rather be a great guy than a rich prick.
i disagree with your last point ..id say your exquisite
@Anthony Ex-Dem USA of course personality matters. They are not stupid they just want financial stability and some level of well-being (which depends on person)
I been living in Shanghai for 15 years. And I think this video represents the average opinion quite well. Attitudes are changing tho, with dramatic increase in living standards and wealth these things happen. Also Chinese cities are competitive and expensive. Its not like in Europe where u have social safety nets.. in China you really have to fend for yourself. Having a house has always been a priority for Chinese girls... but that’s also because when you rent in China you have zero protection, your landlord can do whatever he wants so you can keep moving around if you can’t pay the rental increases.. kinda hard to raise a family that way.. all these things create this environment. You don’t own a house, your kids can’t go to school locally (good schools) and u end up paying higher school fee’s.. so having a property is a big thing!
first the ASMR ban, then this 3:1 ratio. Can Asian Boss stop making up fake news about China?
ASMR ban? Is that for real? 😂😂😂
@Aze Fan Cool, then. Has it really been a thing on Chinese media though due to pornography concerns? Just looked up a Guardian article. That's hilarious.
@Aze Fan Lol dude by Chinese media I obviously mean the internet, the streaming sites and stuff.
3:1 is so unscientific btw.
its on reseach paper. get to internet search it
as from a man's side, it feels very much like.. chinese girls today, not all girls but most of them, they are quite demanding, 5Cs are already not enough for those greedy women, still expect their ideal bf or pre-husband to be in good social status, high-pay job, handsome with suitable height and built, and even take care of her parents more than his own...
the demand standard is too much higher than hk, tw, sg and m'sia. All these requirements are really hard to achieve, that's people always see and hear plenty of aged single ladies today. Im very regret to know that there are so many of such cases here in china, but for men, i shall and must encourage my fellow single chinese brothers, the 3:1 ratio of men and women, is not a problem. If u cant find a ideal gf in china, never mind~ try to look far.. there are quite alot of nice + traditional + elegant girls in taiwan, malaysia, vietnam, thailand, philippines and indonesia, many choices for us, maintain strong body conditions, having a not bad job/skill, learn to perform proper communication behaviours, we will have our happy life and family soonest. Let those fussy and demanding chinese girls just be there alone.
@Phil Fry In most of eastern countries, men dont need women to have stronger career above them, so for ladies from eastern countries, the more success they get, the chances to be single are bigger, unless they would like to be with western angmohs. That is the natural logic.
so.. that's why we can see there are more and more aged single ladies today, becos their expectations are really too high to get a life time partner.
The thing about men should pay for things and so on, I think that makes perfect sense in a society where men earn more than women. If you earn more, you should pay more. Here in Sweden, if I decide to pay for dinner, that's for one of three possible reasons. 1. I'm generous. 2. The other person can't pay. 3. The other person will pay the next time. There's really nothing more to it. Men and women earn about the same these days in Sweden, so there's little reason to not split the bill.
So if the woman earns more she should pay then?
BS San Yeah. Why wouldn't she? At least a proportionate amount. I think it's the same no matter the gender.
If women earn more, they pay more. If men earn more, they pay more. If they earn an equal amount, they pay equally.
Seems fair to me.
Fair. But not in their nature. Give all the "equality measures" you want, women will still be drawn to rich men.
Trollseeder True. Stability is always something desirable, and being able to give a strong support as well. I don't think it's a good reasoning for not having basically equal pay though. Men usually go for better paying jobs to begin with as well.
I'm surprised finding such thoughtful balanced view point in a YT comment section.
Money isn't everything, but it puts food on the table, pays for the kid's schooling, maintains a roof over your head, keeps the utilities flowing, the car running, the clothing clean, etc.
where are those sensible and generous women we often see in movies?? Money is important but I think personality of a person is more important, what if a man suddenly lost his job and hit rock bottom, would it be fair for his gf or wife to leave him on those circumstances??
Keyword is "movies", welcome to reality.
In realty, man loses his job, he loses his wife and kids. She's shagging Carlos the landscaping guy or waiter.
The extreme poverty in China happened only a few generations ago. They still feel the impact of it today so their selectiveness is not something shallow. Money talks.
The ratio of men to women was118:100
They are numbers based off of people who aren't in relationships/unmarried, not total population as far as I know.
You're just totally guessing at this point...
正解
@@billwang3104 并不正确，你可以上知乎上看一下关于这个问题的讨论，虽然男女比例失衡是存在的，但并不是这么高的比例。
赵江宁 好的 要去了解一下
I don't think they're materialistic, they seemed practical when they explained their opinions, it's obvious that they're thinking about their future and the stability of their future family
Stop giving excuses for gold digging. If you want stability, get a job! Don't leech off a good man and expect him to do most of the work. The majority expect the man to make double than what they make which is disgusting. No wonder there are many leftover women. They should be more concerned about their leftover guys because it's an actual fact.
Hello honey you are very beautiful and very attractive love you
Asian Boss 3:1 ratio? Can you give us source of this? Or have you just made it up to sound more dramatic?
1.08:1 , just google ‘Sex ratio china 2018’，and the first one tells you ：'The sex ratio of the total population was 1.080 (1,080 males per 1 000 female'
It sounds more like a rural statistic, where the gender imbalance really does get that bad
Doncarlo Agustino
what's your source, stop making assumptions, dumbass.
Doncarlo Agustino
You sound so dumb
Felipe 我一直觉得这个账号找的中国区记者很白痴，翻译也极其谬误
Well,most women expect a man to at least have a job it does not matter what country you live in.
True. I have a job and so should he. Even if he is a trash collector, i don't care...but you have to work.
@@ninacuk how about woman? arent they suppose to have a job too?
if thats true then why do I see so many white girls dating black guys in the US if black guys are the ones who are least likely to get a job
3:34
M confused Girl who told she want Money in BF wants him remember her Birthday & buy cake , present gift ?
Girl who want BF with Personality wants Ipad , bag ?
They don't have black or white thinking. She said money because she wants stability a then said cake because she loves cakes :D The other girl... if she want that kind of things only for a birthday then it is not so bad believe me :D
women always want both, get used to it kiddo
I don't think that's a contradiction!
Idk maybe her standards are very high
You need to understand what background each woman was coming from. It could be the girl who thinks money is important is financially more insecure and grew up in a situation like that therefore mentions money as the priority, and to her a cake was a valuable and nice enough gift. Whereas the lady who mentioned personality might come from a more financially stable background and is independent and well employed, thus to her things like an ipad is a normal nice gift but not extravagant in anyway, perhaps to her requesting for a car or precious jewelry is what is considered unreasonable.
No need to compare people by what they say like for like.
My wife is Asian, and we share similar beliefs regarding Love, Family, and Successes... for us, it is our children that absolutely Must come first. We chose to make children, so therefore we chose place their lives ahead of our own! That being said, once a couple chooses to procreate, they voluntarily sacrifice “personal choices” and pass those choices on to their children so that they will likely have a better chance at a better life than their parents.
You are a real family man. GOD bless you and your family
3:25 I love the way of her thinking
my favorite
Simp
@@llounfox9290 simp
I am from Shanghai, I can say it is really hard to be a man in Shanghai and China in general
Why?
All the upper middle class Chinese men are chained to their desk working 21 hr days
The same in European countries.
上海男人还不吃香？你在搞笑哦，没钱就娶个外地人，有钱就娶个本地人
@@Aguijon1982 Probably because of 996 in most major Chinese metro cities.
Its simple really, a good personality will mean your find that person more attractive, and fun to be around long term. Money will help you live easier but if you put it all before love in a relationship your get to a point where your ask yourself if the effort and money you have put into that relationship is making you happy, even more so if you dont get really click with your partner. You could have all the money in the world but if you dont click as couple your soon be looking elsewhere for that intimacy, after all money cant buy you love.
That's when they divorce you and take half of what you have or more if there are kids involved
Most people live together now days, I lived with both of my exs. you don't have to get marry to date around However you do get married to start a family. I make more than my husband and I came from a well off family. His family is a normal average family. It is not that the guy has to be rich but the guy has to hold a DECENT paying job to take care of the family. What happens if I am in an accident? The child no longer needs to be feed? It can cost up to 1million dollar to raise a child in the states, who do you think is providing this? My husband is my best friend and I love him alots. I love him as much as I loved my exs but I did not want to marry them. My last bf was a bartender, when he gets old what will he do? Can he feed the child? he can barely feed him self. Yes I don't mind dating him and being with him but there is no way I would marry him. My husband as well, if he didn't have a decent job I wouldn't marry him, I would date him and love him but not I would not marry him. In the end it is not really equal is it? The mom is still expected to take care of the child even if she works. No one compliments= a working mom for changing the diaper but our society sure compliments male who changes the diaper. It was never equal, what did you expect?
thats why in china its almost typical to cheat for both sides of the couple
@@MASTURBIKER That's why it's so important to not marry someone who's only in it for the money and there's something seriously wrong about such women.
One of them says: it's difficult to find quality men, what about finding a quality woman?
3:1 is impossible, is really a joke.
actually is 1.5:1
不要张口就来！make up number in your mind! 1.08:1 !!!
Many girls were killed as babies 😞
@@ludmilamaiolini6811 not that many.
Thats only all of China combined but in megacities in China I'm pretty sure there are more girls than guys
I have money, but there's something about spending time with someone you love. Finance cannot satisfy the souls desire to love.
This kind of opinion is common in every part of the world....
Shilpa Choudhury Yeah almost like common sense
no its not. quit using this untrue deflection whenever theres argued about cultural differences
It's definitely not like this in Europe. China is exceptionally materialistic and into amassing as much of money as possible
Because the questions that were asked were quite dumb. It wasn't asked correctly.
@Captain Brandon Horror Film Lover I'm European and I have lived in China. They are the opposite ends of the scale in many ways, most definitely not the same in this regard.
So yes, I'm sure.
I've graduated in 2019 & pursuing my higher studies in Law. This insight gave me a warning for a Foresighted issues which Youths in India generally face.
I'm working on with my overall personality development & my profile.
I'm confident that Indian youth will not face the grime situation as the Chinese youth are experiencing now!
Thank you Asian Boss from Chennai, 🇮🇳
Also I'm from Italy and the less materialistic girls I've ever met were Chinese from Beijing.
If you think Chinese girls are materialistic you should try the italians ones!!
RAD Lab you are right . Shanghai girls are much more materialistic than Beijing. And other provinces also very much focus on personality
Yes they told me that too ahah Infact if I will ever go to work or study in China I'll go to Beijing and not Shangai :)
Also is such a stereotype to say "chinese women think about money"
Hai incontrato le ragazze sbagliate allora
Quello sicuro
You are right, you are smart guy, unlucky not all people are as smart as you , its very easy for them to be brainwashed. its very simple obvious view that there are good people and bad people in everywhere and every country.
I live in North West u.s. I'm quite stressful with my Chinese girl friend. I pay almost everything for 5 months. Money is ok as I earn quite enough. What I'm worrying is she maybe narcissist who doesn't appreciate and think from others perspective. Last week, she paid dinner after very long time. I need to watch her more before making a decision for next step.
damn. do you love her really
Trust your instinct.
No next step.Don´t be stupid.Materialism has nothing to do with love or companionship in a true relation.Kick her ass.
Be honest about it and tell her you will leave her if this continues then watch her reaction.
Dongseong Hwang damn. do you love her really
As a Chinese. I think you should be honest with each other. If you want her to do something, you need to tell her.
If she has the ability but doesn't want to, then it's over.
Maybe she wants to be a housewife.
Just have a balance of great personality and money
Ok thank you so much Asian boss!
+ashutosh the Olympics is filled with performance sports, where you memorize and practice a routine a thousand times, they Chinese struggle in team sports like Soccer, Basketball
Exactly, I'd rather live alone if I'd only had to choose between either or the other. You want your future husband to have at least a little of those too or you'll most likely end up unhappy ;)
you know that feeling when even though his not that handsome but his personality makes him so crazily attractive ????
China, and lots of Asian countries believe that hardworking would have you achieve successes. Along with the success, definitely having money is a significant sign of success. This relation is determined by capitalism markets. Compare with other Asians, Chinese just prefer addressing their true thoughts.
Man, when that quiet girl wearing a hat starts dropping some truth bombs.
The need of finding a man with a stable income is evolving from the fact, that women when giving birth, having children are still screwed in our society. So we are sadly forced into this. And men as well. They know there will be a time when having kids, the income of the women will drastically decrease. So this expectations are sadly constructed by the work/society situation we still live in. If women wouldn’t get disadvantages by simply getting pregnant and children this topic would easily disappear.
I'm not sure about this. Women only came to start really participation/allowed to participate in most jobs as men, in the last century. But the thing of women looking for men who are financially well-off has been the case for way longer than that. In fact, I would argue that only recently are we introducing at the concept that women must contribute financially to a relationship as well.
It's good to listen to these young people. I married a Chinese woman four years ago, but she is older (like me). I went to China to find what has been lost in the western culture - and that is devotion.
The two girls that are hanging with each other are perfect examples of selfish & shallow girls - expects their boyfriends to be rich while they themselves aren't that good looking. Not once did I hear from them about personality - caring, kindness, responsibilities, funny, or other characters.
Just another cat lady in the making
It's a reflection of their own vapid selves.
What if the girls made a lot of money themselves? Would it then be okay for them to expect a rich husband without being super good looking?
@@ayPersonality no cause money isn't what a relationship should be based on. People with normal lives and normal salaries make it perfectly fine in life without needing to exaggerate their needs in life. Just because someone makes alot of money that doesn't mean that their partner should be based on their salary as well.
Alot of guys are dating jobless women while they make alot of money. Do you see those guys demanding from their girls to make the same amount of money? No.
The whole difference stands on the fact women have the advantage that no matter what men will chase them and men need them. And since women have this advantage, they are trying to get the maximum out of it.
Everybody should contribute the same in a relationship and have something to give and get. If money exists already then money should not be the issue.
@@meganod279 but the question was man with money or no money.. average salary wasn't an option.
I love what Asian Boss is doing and I love a lot of these videos, but I wish they would have asked better questions in this one. There's a difference between 'poor' and 'no job' and how high of a salary a girl or her parents require a potential boyfriend to have. Anybody remember the Chinese girl who famously said, "I'd rather cry in a BMW than laugh on the back of a bike"? They should have asked about that. Maybe Asian Boss can do a sequel?
Also, the gender imbalance was misrepresented. There are about 30 million more men than women, and those men who are likely to never get married or even date. But you're not going to find them on the streets of Shanghai. They're concentrated in poor, rural areas. Also, the one-child policy had a huge effect: as a result, you'll find more relatively rich women in cities, and relatively more poor men outside of them. When the women in the video said they felt there were more single women around them, that's because there are.
The Chinese language seems like such a beautiful language, I love the way the words sound
I'm Chinese American who has visited China often and I can say without any uncertainty that Chinese women, on aggregate, highly value money over looks or personality. However, I can also confirm that not all Chinese girls are like this, i.e. my wife.
Chinese is so beautiful language
Im glad the cantonese accent stereotype is being exposed 😭😂
I agree.😄
FYI this is Mandarin, Chinese official language
@@EnyuZeeMukbang i find this accent to be more pleasent to hear than the usual chinese I heard from chinese students. Not sure what the accent was, but they were too loud and it sounded like they were fighting oftentimes
@Far J You can have both actually
Man I pray to god I never meet a girl like the ones that said materialism is normal or expected Chinese or otherwise. Rather die alone then be around that kind of thinking
This is a true story guys, hear me out, I once "dated" a chinese beauty (girl) and I'm chinese, and when her birthday came I gave her a present 13 days after Her birthday.
When *My* birthday came, she said Happy birthday to me 13 days after my birthday.
What I learnt from this is personality is important at first, and after than money.
Thank you guys all for hearing me out! :D
even I know it's rude to celebrate birthdays AFTER it's over much less a week later. you'll never get a girl if you keep doing that 😆
at least you didn't wait a month 🤷♀️
Happy birthday
I think it's great that you came to the change in preference from money to personality however I wouldn't entirely blame her, if you do blame her. I don't know if you're saying that you interpreted the situation as her not holding materialistic items with great importance (hence why she felt no need to give one to you), so that's when you learned materialistic items held less value when it came to love and therefore personality is more important. Or if you're saying that you interpreted that situation as her not giving you a gift as her taking but never giving (materialistic). So you realised you think such a personality is not worth having money for and therefore personality is more important.
If it is the latter, I wouldn't blame her entirely unless you've deliberately stated that you wanted to give gifts to each other. You chose to give a gift on her birthday on your own accord, however she does not owe you one on your birthday simply because you gave her one. I criticise such logic because a lot of people ruin relationships with this thinking.
Using a simpler example; you hold the door for someone and when they don't hold the door open for you next time, you get mad at them for not opening the door for you. Even though you never established the agreement to open doors for each other, you blame the person for not catching on? It doesn't make much sense to me because then you're not doing it out of kindness but to get something else out of it (respect?).
I say so because I don't catch on to these things in my life. If someone doesn't tell me that they want to give gifts, I won't give gifts simply because I dislike gift-giving. And if said person becomes upset with me because I didn't abide by their made up contract which they didn't tell me about, then interpret my lack of participation as materialism, I wouldn't like it.
Although, there's likely to be a culture difference here regarding gift-giving on a birthday equating to a healthy relationship or love? I don't hold birthdays with such importance so my perspective also derives from there too.
I'm not saying you are like this but I thought it'd be interesting to provide a different perspective.
Nightcor EDM you gave her a present 13 days after???? That's a big no no by Chinese standards. Surprised you were still "dating" after that.
Money shouldn't be the topic in a relationship in dating. But in marriage and settling down. Avoiding the issue is rough. But money shouldn't be the foundation towards your relationship. All of those crash hard because the love is materialistic and not on each other.
MONEY. After seeing the title I didn’t even have to watch the video (dated several and married so I am an expert). EDIT: After reading several of the comments (which are obviously from a western perspective most of them) it isn’t necessarily always for the fanciest bag, but it’s concern for children and family and it’s a sign of stability and hard working personality of the guy.
This nouveau riche attitude that Chinese and South Koreans have is cringe-worthy and depressing at the same time.
it's not just china and south korea，every country is the same.
@@byong557 I don't know about that. Maybe in countries where wealth was scarce and new wealth was created only in the last 1 or 2 generations. America's newly-rich are different, honestly. They're more subtle about expectations. Not saying they don't have expectations, but it's different
BY: No.
As though “old money” people are better, ha! Old money people look down on ppl no matter what, unless you’re old money just like them and have a big family name. At least these people believe in changing your own status
I'm trying to learn Chinese by Tandem, and the girls that chat to me always ask me about my income. I'm gonna start to say that i'm living under a bridge and i have no job, i'm very sick with that kind of materialistic questions
imagine if men started saying “quality women” .... sh** would hit the fan
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The man wearing glass almost cried, so sad.
Completely agree with everyone in the video. Not being materialistic but you need money to have a comfortable life, buy stuffs you love and most importantly buy your basic needs under the current system of things. It's been that way since the ancient times.
Chinese culture and traditional family values still see the man as the main breadwinner. Society provides men the role of protector and provider, that many Chinese men actually grow up wanting to fulfil (hence that one guy's comment about feeling embarrassed if he made less than his partner) Parent's don't want their daughter's husband to not be able to "protect and provide" for her and earning ability is the most direct way of evaluating this. You're also talking about a society where the gender pay gap is a lot larger than western economies. (It's not as bad as Japan's gender pay gap, but it's bigger than USA) add that to living in expensive cities, just as expensive as any other big city in the world..well most women want a stable life for themselves and their children.
I live in Hong Kong and I know a whole list of girls that won't consider anything serious if the guy doesn't seem to have good career prospects. Not current salary but future salary potential. It is romantic? nope. but does it make sense? yes, it does.
It’s definitely NOT 3:1 if you consider the females in non-major cities, Tibet, Inner Mongolia, Xinjiang and include overseas Chinese in Southeast Asia, the US, Canada and Australia, it’s pretty balanced. Trust me on this fact.
Not really
In Singapore the girls care about personality
Money is not a thing for them as long as you make enough
3:1? Where does that number come from?
the leftover number of unmarried men are the same size as the whole population of canada.
2018 China Population：
Current population：1,398,987,950
Current male population (51.9%)：726,329,677
Current female population (48.1%)：672,658,273
Fiona Wang fake news
google ‘Sex ratio china 2018’，and the first one tells you ：'The sex ratio of the total population was 1.080 (1,080 males per 1 000 female'
Fiona Wang i think you wanted the reason and from my knowledge it’s because when china had the 1 child policy people in rural areas especially, wanted a boy who’d grow up to make money and provide for the parents according to the parents. So, they used to kill the baby as soon as they find out it’s a girl and they’d try again until they got a boy. I cant believe it was so common there mustve been some other reasons too😭 damn china
This was awesome! Please make more videos in China!!
1. Money
2. Wealth
3. Rich
4. Money again
The high level of anxiety in people from countries that have a history of poverty tend to be reduced to mere survival. Healthy relationships require healthy connection. Empathy. When people are afflicted by anxiety... The anxiety overrides their empathy. So rather than judging them, it helps to understand where they are coming from inside. Terrible things like the sex trade and slave labor feed on the people in situations like that. Money comes and goes. I've never been worried about money... I'm not rich in money but I am rich in life. The best things in life are free.
I don't fundamentally disagree with the points that these women (and men) made on the necessity of financial security etc. I can also understand the desire for the man to by a higher wage-earner given the evolutionary and cultural programming for men and women (especially in a country like China) to seek this dynamic. Much of the discomfort we in the west probably feel when watching this emerges simply from the uncomfortable frankness in the expression of this consumerist attitude. Some of it though is also based in a underlying view of marriage/dating as something more transactional and empty than I would want for myself.
Older. Western man. Grandfather actually. I liked this video. Very intelligent young people. And pleasantly honest. I wish them well.
“ a lot of girls don’t feel secure that’s why they have all these requirements” she was on to something
Money is a completely independent factor. If you are in a relationship or if you are not in a relationship you still need money to live. People also twist reality because when you share your life with someone else life becomes actually cheaper, you share a lot of costs and divide chores. Most chinese girls seem very insecure and just want more confortable life getting a rich or richer boyfriend without doing anything in their side. Many think their only duty is to be pretty...
This gave me anxiety. Maybe if you just apply your life to what is happening you can find someone who genuinely cares. Money comes and goes, as long as the other person helps support enough to live a decent life that is all that should matter.
Classic Pusha T line, “Wealth don’t buy health”. Money and materials will always be there, the main components are empathy, mental support/well being, and acknowledging/understanding. If you can get those points down, the relationship is impeccable. That’s my opinion.
Shanghai women (and even their family): "I want a sugar daddy"
Danny Orange some of them are not from Shanghai, accents
Most of them are not Shanghainese. Only one might be Shanghainese. I know ... cos I am. Shanghainese accent is quite noticeable.
Also, Chinese people are much more family-oriented, so we do see a lot of women giving up jobs to raise children. I think it's pretty natural then to have hopes that your husband, who will most likely continue working after kids, is able to provide for the family.
i’m impressed by how progressive some of these interviewed were
IVE WANTED THIS VIDEO FOR SO LONG
Don't expect someone to marry you for your integrity when you have shallow reasons to be with them. If you're a man who wants a hot wife, you better be prepared for her to be a nightmare gold digger from hell. If you're a woman who wants a rich husband, you better be prepared for them to throw your ass out on the street the second you stop looking good. Everyone else should seek a good balance of integrity and a stable household.
As a male westerner. Age 24. I genuinely appreciate female femininity & gender roles. I believe God created things in a certain order & that life prospers the best when followed. I also plan on looking outside the states for a wife in the near future.
Amen! Titus 2 explains these things.
the male to female ratio is 3:1 lmao. its 1.15:1 get your facts straight please
If a women accepts an official date, gets ready and looks great... one way the guy can show appreciation is to foot the bill. If it's a casual "let's grab a burger" then it's better to split or man or woman can pay. In any relationship... it's about relating to each other and the situations. If someone makes much more money, it would be appreciated but not required that they pay. The great thing about life together, is that we can make choices that free each other, not enslave one another.
Chinese sounds so cool. It's such a sexy language honestly. I can't be alone in this.
欢迎学习中文和来中国旅游！
It really surprises me that in a city with such huge gender imbalance, the women interviewed still say is difficult to find a quality boyfriend, the same thing happen here in my country, even though there’s no gender imbalance. Further studies are need it
Wow they sure proved the stereotype true in this. lol she said Money is more important than personality. And then the other girl said Money is the NUMBER ONE most important thing in a relationship lol. That is pretty low.
Great video. I like what the guy said at the end about relationship goals. :) Thanks!
7:30 lol you can just go to parks and walk. id find that more romantic than a shopping spree. dates arent just about GETTING things, its the experience that counts.
When a culture significantly values raising children as the primary purpose of marriage, it becomes inevitable that money is highly valued in the relationship.
2:26 hat down to this honest girl
I hate how women feel self-conscious about the fact that they need security in relationships, and that they look for men who have more money than they do. It makes perfect sense evolutionarily. We men don't have to worry much about things like being physically vulnerable to assault 24/7 which is why we don't care about security at all. I don't need a women to help me with bills and what not, I need her for emotional support. Plus i'm ambitious, i don't care if i have to pay for most things. Being a leader comes naturally to us men.
"We can't ask for more benefits while taking on less responsibility." SAY IT LOUDER FOR THE FEMINISTS IN THE BACK!
That made me wet
Well I never met a feminist who isn't willing to take responsibility
I’m a feminist and what responsibility are we not taking on in a relationship??? I’d pay on a date/split the bill. I don’t expect guys to open the door for me or treat me like a princess.
@Jeannie You should expect to be a spinster or a lesbo being a feminist as most guys don't like them.
The question is not about materialism , it’s about whats the purpose and priority of every single individual. Money it’s just the mean to get there. Remember money is abstract but value is in the eye of the beholder .
2:52 that girl speaks the truth. Born poor -not your problem.
Staying poor is definitely your problem.
@Shayan Raj It isn't simple as that. A hardworking person can stay poor even if he sweats night and day.
best part of this video was that sign off marie did at the end of the video, loved it, it was cool and cute
“Money doesn’t matter”
3:34 “I want a pc, laptop, iPad etc”
Money/materialism in China is such an interesting topic imo. You have a generation coming up in a thriving, basically capitalist economy for the first time after a long period of economic hardship, so it makes sense that they're concerned about material security! And at the same time, while China as a whole is getting richer, there are still a lot of people who are extremely poor, so there's definitely still economic anxiety about that. I agree with the man who said that after pursuing a materialistic lifestyle, people will eventually move toward deeper pursuits--I just hope the Chinese economy transitions smoothly out of its intense growth spurt and settles down without much pain for the citizens.