Thank you guys for opening up to us about Polyamory. We don't understand the concept of it at first but we are open to listen to you guys. so THANK YOU. Thank you Jess & Alex (& also Zac) for this time. Love you all guys! 😎🥰💖🏳🌈
You guys open my mind to what it means to be in this kind of relationship. As you know I was married for 10 years and a widow but after I started it to follow you through your old UA-cam channel. I got to know my boys. Now after almost three years, it has been amazing and challenging but I wouldn't change it for anything. Thank you guys!!😘♥👍 Btw The boys said "Hello"💖💖💖💖
We love your story Rey! It’s been so fun hearing it develop over the years as we have chatted with each other. Beautiful things have blossomed for you and the boys! 🎉❤ always wishing you all love and happiness
Guys...thank you for a great video! Love your easy conversational style...I've been a subscriber for years and enjoy you all as much - if not more - than I did when I found you.....the educational aspects of each of you has been very valuable to me...Terry in Palm Springs.
Thanks for joining us here Terry! So happy you enjoyed the conversation. Hope to do more videos like this soon and include Zac so we can better answer people’s questions
Alex said last polynrelationship is that cause yous can’t see anything but future with Zac or it that if things don’t work out with Zac is that the end and no more just Jesse Alex forever
This question is for before Zach 😊 how do you deal when you are dating someone and one of you is totally in love and your other partner is not feeling this relationship with the third..
Hello! This video is amazing. My husband and I just recently opened our relationship, and became a throuple for the past 8 months. This is really great to know there are others out there that go through these same things and its nice to see such a positive among all the hatred that is out there! Cant wait for more videos!
Therapy is the key. Relationships are tough sometimes as it is. For me I’m a jealous insecure guy, I’d constantly need therapy to be comfortable in a throuple . Kudos to all of you.. I wish you luck in continuing your lives together. Love is such a strong feeling with so much emotion attached. I’m still searching for that love myself , so happy you all found that in this relationship.
I have been with my husband for nearly 36 years and have been totally in love with each other since the day we met. Now, I am his caregiver while he battles terminal brain cancer, which I am happy to do. But, the one thing I can honestly say is that when you find someone special, love and embrace them in whatever form that is.
I'm what people call a "Sigma" , I guess. Intimacy is not hard at all for me, but the relationship is. Also as a gay , masculine dude, I don't feel I have to explain or apologize of who and how I function but never really understood my personality until now. Let's face it, we're not straight nor are we women, so variety will be in our DNA for the rest of our lives so I totally understand , agree and can relate to your personal choices. If you're gay , married and monogamy works for you , all the best but I have NEVER met a gay couple that have been married for years that haven't played or had an open relationship at one point. Either openly or secretly behind each other's back, it happens. As soon as we come to terms not only to be honest but to understand we're males. We function differently from women, and finally understand , we should not be ashamed but understand and love ourselves. Hey if you're not hurting anyone and honest, then it's right for you ! I
I think you guys set such a loving & healthy example of the possibilities of a poly relationship. One question I’d ask would be how do you set the foundation of equality in the throuple when there’s an established duo; in your case married, & how do you make the new third partner feel equal in the relationship?
The concept of polyamory is very intriguing. I do have a question and I'm sure it's different for every throuple. Do you have rules when it comes to physical intimacy when let's say Alex is out of town for example. Is that part of the relationship something you reserve for the three of you to always share together ? I apologize if this question is to personal. So very happy for the three of you. ❤❤❤
It's great that you have explained this in detail. The jealousy thing would have been my main concern to ask. If someone sometimes gets more left out feeling. Or isn't getting the same amount of attention as another.
its all situational - the key when anything feels off or there is a concern is that we bring it up and discuss it together. Usually when a moment of jealousy or anger or sadness pops up it is becuase we need to examine what it is triggering and see if we have set appropriate boundaries within the relationship. We feel the full range of emotions - including jealousy and anger - that is true of all of us and part of being human.
The worst part about a relationship like this is that you both are married and the third will never have the life you both get. This ONLY works when no one is married. I have been in this before and it never works. The third will ALWAYS feel left out. The married couple will have all the benefits that life gives and the third will be the extra paycheck. I was the third and it was pure hell after a few month in. When it came to car loans or the house mortgage I was always left out. These just don’t work when a couple is married.
That’s your experience, that does not make it the experience of all throuples or all polyamorous people :) That is not our experience so far. Each relationship on this planet (polyamorous or not) is unique and the people in the relationship make choices that are best for their life and happiness. Your experience is valid, but that does not make it true for us or everyone else on the planet.
Alex works in Project Management, Jess is in the process of opening a new business, Zac works in Content Strategy and Marketing. Would love to share more cooking here soon! His mother just sent him a cookbook with the families recipes 🎉 He does most of the cooking in our home
Hey Jess, Alex, Zack, Thank you for sharing about your relationship and being so open to the public about what it’s like to be in a polyamorous monogamous relationship. ❤ Being in a polyamorous monogamous relationship myself, going for our first 1yr anniversary together next month, and I was always curious to see other people’s experiences and perspectives and insights about their relationship. I do agree that being in this peculiar relationship, you learn about yourself and your partner and what it’s like to love another person outside of your marriage. I’m happy to see that you guys are happy with each other and for each other. After being in this relationship, communication and respect is def. Key to staying in a healthy relationship Please keep the content coming and share your stories experiences with us. 🙏🏼 Can’t wait to see the next video content 👋🏼
i just want to say to you 3 handsome guys..i pray that you will always be together and always talk to one another and don't let anyone come between your relationship. you 3 are just so funny and loveable. keep loving each other.. your friend David❤
I was involved with a gay married couple for about 6 months. There were a couple of issues with it. The main reason was that one of the guys had a lot of FWB before he was married. Also, he was on several gay sex sites while he was married. His husband traveled continuously for 6 months out of the year. So, many times sex was with the 3 of us plus 1-2 other guys too. It wasn’t a truffle relationship because the guy wanted sex at will with guys he met on sex sites too. He couldn’t understand why I got jealous but it wasn’t just 3 of us. I had to communicate with many people in the “group”. I was hurt in the end but was ok after 2 years.
You introduced me to a word that I’d never heard before, “compersion”. I feel that that’s the way I treat a partner, in that I take great joy in them feeling joy and pleasure (plus it makes me more aroused). However, just wanted to tell you that you should check on the pronunciation of the word “amicable” at 13:16 (sorry handsome, but you pronounced it incorrectly). Love you guys!!
I love this!! I love that u address the difficulties, mental health, and the positive things about this kind of relationship. I wonder if guys who u have dated have ever been intimidated by ur relationship or feel like the 3rd wheel. Also, do u all have the same preferences in partners.
I think some of the difficulty with a lot of our past partners is that none of them had dated poly before us, and most have not since. Much of the time we were frustrated feeling like guys liked the idea of a throuple but not the reality of it after the initial excitement and butterflies and we were essentially their "tester couple" for them to try it out. Poly isnt a fad for us, we identify as polyamorous... for some like us, it feels like a deep part of who we are, while for others its more of a choice. Both are cool, but the boyfriends of the past that dont identify as poly and chose to try it always ended up leaving us to pick up the pieces when the novelty wore off, while they quickly moved on to non-poly relationships. I know a couple past boyfriends did voice concerns of not "being #1" and in those cases breakup was inevitable. Alex and I (Jess) have always sought to equalize our relationship with our new partner... but we cant just fast track a new partner and our relationship with them to fully equal the love, time, and committment Alex and I have built over 10 years. It takes time to build those things... they have to be in the relationship and spend the time to develop the committment and trust and love to get there. (just as Zac has done with us over the past year)
@JessAlexZac I love that! And Zac definitely seems secure in the relationship! I'm so happy for all of you that you have something sweet and loving. You all are beautiful, inside and out. 🥰
I've been with my husband for 6 years, we are monogamous but we do have friends in poly relationships, and the dynamic is pretty much the same in the sense of love for one another. There is nothing wrong with a poly relationship, it aint for everyone but if you three communicate and respect eachother time and love then you guys will be fine.
Congrats on 6 years and thanks for sharing! I think many people's biggest hang up is they believe there is a "right way" (their way)... when really, there are many ways to happily love and have successful relationships!
Bonjour, je suis français et j’aimerai savoir... le polyamour est encore très tabou chez nous on en parle peu même si ça commence a arriver... je souhaiterai savoir quand vous dites que vous avez eu des essais avant d'être avec Zach, ça veut dire que vous êtes en couple plus un troisième qui va et qui viens mais toujours à deux ou votre relation pourrait amener l'un de vous deux à se séparer et rester avec Zach de façon monogame ou poly avec un autre et accepter de perdre le mari. Et vu que l'on parle d'amour et de sentiments, est possible pour vous de tomber amoureux d'une autre personne et de l'intégrer ou c'est une relation fermée à trois. ( que Zach tombe amoureux d'un autre ou vous, ouvririez vous votre trouple pour passer a 4 ou plus et comment ferriez vous pour gérez cela?) Dans la vidéo d'une journée type, j'ai remarquez que Alex était un peu plus à l'écart, pas les même horaires par exemple, comment vous faites pour y palier et comment faites vous pour avoir du temps à deux avec l'un ou l'autre vu que vous vivez ensemble? voilà ça fait beaucoup désolé... j'aime beaucoup vos vidéos. vivement la prochaine. En vous remerciant
If we judge a relationships ability to work on the last one or last however many, then we can say monogamous marriage doesn’t work because divorce rates are high. It’s a person to person basis and can work no matter what the relationship looks like.
Hi guys. I have been following you since your last poly-relationship on youtube. I have no other way, I have no social media (on purpose). I lost track when the adult industry jump. I saw suddenly a suggested video showed Jess. I was thinking that had to do with the adult industry or so that thing (in youtube? o.O). But I was happy to see that after those years you two (+ 1) are back. I'm poly too, but in my case, single looking for other poly guy or two guys. At the moment, without success. Everytime I say I'm poly my datings put strange faces and disappear. I know it is that. I'm quite good looking/body (ok, not a model but quite good), my mental health without any special issues .... but still they don't want that. I feel a kind of resistance to that type of relationships, here in Europe (Berlin). Yes, everyone wants sex, but none a committed relationship, unfortunately. Anyway, Happy to see you back. All the luck for you three guys. Big kiss.
So glad you found us here. Yes, I think dating is very difficult much of the time in "gay world". I know many of our friends struggle with finding meaningful connections with so much hook-up culture. Polyamory adds a whole new tricky element to the mix. Dont give up! we hope you find your person / persons out there. Our relationship was completely unexpected - none of us were seeking it and it just worked out and came together on its own. So glad youre here with us!
I hope yous don’t take offence to this question, but I’m curious you know when you were with joe, it ended cause he wanted and seen something differnt in his life, do you think he used your platform on social media to get where he wanted to be and he more followers, as from seeing him and then Zac they completely different joe seemed very forward and enjoyed the stuff you done where as Zac at the beginning seemed more reserved and you can just tell he loves yous and not in it for anything else as he off social media
yes, we 100% think Joe used us for fame and money. He has a history of using people like that before us and in the years since he left... but we had no idea of his reputation. Many came forward after the fact telling us so much of what had been going on behind our backs. We were duped by a conman - We believed the act and trusted when we should not have. It all became very clear after he abruptly left us and went on a rampage trying to cover his tracks and do us financial and emotional harm. took us years to heal and start dating again. Zac is night and day different. He is Loyal, Kind, trustworthy, shy, and good hearted. There really is no comparison between the two. He wanted nothing to do with our personas or social media... had ZERO interest in social media or fame, and was financially stable and successful all on his own. He has been a good sport and joined us through our accounts. When the right one comes along - all the others in the PAST are so clearly and shockingly lacking and wrong for us in comparison. Zac is the "unicorn" that we didnt think existed.
@@JessAlexZac I’m so sorry to hear that and I hope you didn’t mind me asking, I was just curious. I only started watching your stuff on UA-cam around time yous with joe, but I didn’t really like him if honest, but we all learn by past mistakes and tho not nice, maybe it needed to happen so can have eyes opened for future and know what is genuine love and what is not
‘It was twen ummm a long time ago’ lol As with all relationships communication and compromise is key, I always say you do you, be who you wanna be Great chat Jess & Alex ❤
I've been with my husband for almost 29 years now. Back in the day, we "frolicked" with our chosen clan. Then came a period where hubby "found Jesus" and pretty much ostracized those we cared about. It was a rough time for us. Eventually, he let go of his Catholic guilt and came around again. I hate judgmental people. Religion is manmade and no one should force their beliefs on anyone else... period. For the record - I'm a preacher's kid... and I ADORE you boys! Both hubby and I wish you the very best! xoxo
Oh wow! that is quite a journey - and so much that i can relate to coming from a mormon upbringing. Can be hard to let go of a lot of that guilt from it all. Alex was patient for me as i worked through mine in the earlier years of our marriage! Thanks so much for sharing a little of your experience with us!
@@JessAlexZac - Anytime, loves! I'm just here to remind you that, when others come at you preaching hellfire and brimstone, you all KNOW that they are preaching from a place of hate and non-acceptance. God (should you choose to believe in Her) is LOVE and nothing less. God created you in HER image ... and since God doesn't create anything less than perfect... you should ALL know by now that you are loved just the way you are PERFECTLY loved and by the way you PERFECTLY love others! Rant over.... and hugs again from your family in Long Beach! ;-)
I dont get it at all,seems like an open relationship? and where does it stop,must cause many issues am I missing something. If it works for you thats great but definitely nit for me
@@robp2882 it was an open relationship before. We decided that worked for us and our relationship and then set our boundaries for what we felt worked for us. Now that we are 3, it’s a closed relationship between us 3. Relationships “stop” wherever the boundaries are set for the people within the relationship. That is up to each person and what they feel is right for them and what they agree to with their partner(s)… just as you expressed polyamory isn’t right for you 😊
Poly amorous is A different life style ,,it has the +/- is all a 100% commitment n live forever n ever n Forever young ,,what ever make you happy n life too short,,,Best from California ,,love the name of Pine apples
Love your videos. In this world anything is possible including a loving and strong gay truple relationship. I would like to see you guys buy a house together instead of spending so much money on rent though. Time seriously flies and before you know it you will be twenty years older. Trust me (62). It happens. Love all three of you!
At first, it would seem like the 3-way relationship would be complicated. But, after doing a little research, I understand how easy it can be with eager Jess is the sandwich meat in the middle. Jess is a super needy submissive who has more than enough to satisfy 2 active men. Jess isn't going to leave anyone wanting for more l, especially when jess is serving from both ends. It's easy. Everyone is happy and satisfied.
I am 77 and lost my accepting wife to MS after 51 years of marriage. I cared for her for almost 26 years. I am gay and happy to remain single. If I were married to a man, it would have to be monogamous. Most unlikely. That is just me.
So sorry for the loss of your accepting wife! 🕊️ If monogamy is what’s right for you, that’s great! Many relationship styles that work for different people in polyamory. Ours is a version of “monogamy” - we are poly-monogamous - closed relationship between the 3 of us. Thanks for sharing and tuning in!
HI KC AND JAX DID YOU BOTH KNOW LAST JANUARY LATE I FELL OFF TOILET IT HIT MY FACE IT MADE BLEEDING MY NOSE GOT BRUCE UP AND MY HEAD THAT I LAND ON SHOWER FLOOR AND I END UP STAY AT HOSPITAL 4 DAY AND I CAME HOME JAN 28 AND JUST RESTING NOW FEBUARY IM ALL BETTER STILL ON MEDIATION FOR THE REST OF MY LIFE KC AND JAX I LOVE YOU BOTH VERY MUCH HOPE YOUR WORRY ABOUT ME LOVE DAVID
YEAH I AM ALL BETTER NOW KC AND JAX YOUR ROOMMATE IS CUTE OH I HAVE 1200 DOLLS I ONLY COLECTION THEM I DON'T PLAY WITH THEN IT MAKES ME GAY OR NOT THEYARE WOTH LOT MONEY LOVE DAVID😀🥰😀🥰🥰🥰
Just remember when you’re married you don’t share yourself with others, you have to be true to your husband! And if you’re not, then it might as well be open and you’ve become 2 faced. I take the marriage vow very serious, ok?
There are a lot of different marriages and relationships around the globe. Each relationship is welcome to apply their marriage rules and guidelines and vows to their relationship and/ marriage as they deem right for themselves… and we will continue to enjoy OUR marriage as we deem right for us. Big proponents of the idea that there is no “one size fits all” relationship type or style. What works for someone else may not work for us - but we still find it beautiful and valid and interesting to see other relationship forms and styles being practiced around the world!
Thank you guys for opening up to us about Polyamory.
We don't understand the concept of it at first but we are open to listen to you guys. so THANK YOU.
Thank you Jess & Alex (& also Zac) for this time. Love you all guys! 😎🥰💖🏳🌈
Each relationship is unique with who it involves and what is right for that relationship. Happy to share a glimpse of what works for us! 🤗💛💛💛
You guys open my mind to what it means to be in this kind of relationship. As you know I was married for 10 years and a widow but after I started it to follow you through your old UA-cam channel. I got to know my boys. Now after almost three years, it has been amazing and challenging but I wouldn't change it for anything. Thank you guys!!😘♥👍 Btw The boys said "Hello"💖💖💖💖
Oh! Alex don't change. You are still as funny as ever. Love you mate!! I love you too Jess!💖
We love your story Rey! It’s been so fun hearing it develop over the years as we have chatted with each other. Beautiful things have blossomed for you and the boys! 🎉❤ always wishing you all love and happiness
18 years widowed same boat God bless.
Guys...thank you for a great video! Love your easy conversational style...I've been a subscriber for years and enjoy you all as much - if not more - than I did when I found you.....the educational aspects of each of you has been very valuable to me...Terry in Palm Springs.
Thanks for joining us here Terry! So happy you enjoyed the conversation. Hope to do more videos like this soon and include Zac so we can better answer people’s questions
Alex said last polynrelationship is that cause yous can’t see anything but future with Zac or it that if things don’t work out with Zac is that the end and no more just Jesse Alex forever
This question is for before Zach 😊 how do you deal when you are dating someone and one of you is totally in love and your other partner is not feeling this relationship with the third..
Hello! This video is amazing. My husband and I just recently opened our relationship, and became a throuple for the past 8 months. This is really great to know there are others out there that go through these same things and its nice to see such a positive among all the hatred that is out there! Cant wait for more videos!
So great to hear of others like us!
Therapy is the key. Relationships are tough sometimes as it is. For me I’m a jealous insecure guy, I’d constantly need therapy to be comfortable in a throuple . Kudos to all of you.. I wish you luck in continuing your lives together.
Love is such a strong feeling with so much emotion attached. I’m still searching for that love myself , so happy you all found that in this relationship.
Thanks. I now have a better understanding of what you guys are talking about. Gary
Thanks for tuning in Gary 🩵🩵🩵
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I have been with my husband for nearly 36 years and have been totally in love with each other since the day we met. Now, I am his caregiver while he battles terminal brain cancer, which I am happy to do. But, the one thing I can honestly say is that when you find someone special, love and embrace them in whatever form that is.
Listening is key. I talk a lot and should listen more than talk! Your shirts look great👍
Thank you for the insight 🩵🩵🩵
How do you all feel when one partner is with the other without you
I'm what people call a "Sigma" , I guess. Intimacy is not hard at all for me, but the relationship is. Also as a gay , masculine dude, I don't feel I have to explain or apologize of who and how I function but never really understood my personality until now. Let's face it, we're not straight nor are we women, so variety will be in our DNA for the rest of our lives so I totally understand , agree and can relate to your personal choices. If you're gay , married and monogamy works for you , all the best but I have NEVER met a gay couple that have been married for years that haven't played or had an open relationship at one point. Either openly or secretly behind each other's back, it happens. As soon as we come to terms not only to be honest but to understand we're males. We function differently from women, and finally understand , we should not be ashamed but understand and love ourselves. Hey if you're not hurting anyone and honest, then it's right for you ! I
I can’t get one person to be in a relationship with never mind a third. God bless you guys I wish you well.
thank you so much
@londona9862 ..me too dear waiting for one
I think you guys set such a loving & healthy example of the possibilities of a poly relationship. One question I’d ask would be how do you set the foundation of equality in the throuple when there’s an established duo; in your case married, & how do you make the new third partner feel equal in the relationship?
The concept of polyamory is very intriguing. I do have a question and I'm sure it's different for every throuple. Do you have rules when it comes to physical intimacy when let's say Alex is out of town for example. Is that part of the relationship something you reserve for the three of you to always share together ? I apologize if this question is to personal. So very happy for the three of you. ❤❤❤
It's great that you have explained this in detail.
The jealousy thing would have been my main concern to ask. If someone sometimes gets more left out feeling. Or isn't getting the same amount of attention as another.
its all situational - the key when anything feels off or there is a concern is that we bring it up and discuss it together. Usually when a moment of jealousy or anger or sadness pops up it is becuase we need to examine what it is triggering and see if we have set appropriate boundaries within the relationship. We feel the full range of emotions - including jealousy and anger - that is true of all of us and part of being human.
@@JessAlexZac it's great that the communication is there. It can be difficult.
My husband and I have been in an open, polyamorous relationship for almost 40 years. I am happy to see videos like yours.
His is so incredible to hear! Congratulations on 40 years together! 💛💛💛
@@JessAlexZac We find that living in Long Beach, CA, the environment is far more welcoming to our relationship. We can be open.
Alex I love your facial expressions...Wishing you three much love in the future...
The worst part about a relationship like this is that you both are married and the third will never have the life you both get. This ONLY works when no one is married. I have been in this before and it never works. The third will ALWAYS feel left out. The married couple will have all the benefits that life gives and the third will be the extra paycheck. I was the third and it was pure hell after a few month in. When it came to car loans or the house mortgage I was always left out. These just don’t work when a couple is married.
That’s your experience, that does not make it the experience of all throuples or all polyamorous people :)
That is not our experience so far.
Each relationship on this planet (polyamorous or not) is unique and the people in the relationship make choices that are best for their life and happiness.
Your experience is valid, but that does not make it true for us or everyone else on the planet.
So well spoken. Therapy is a great thing.
What type of jobs do you have now? The 3 of you should write a cookbook. How do you decice who cooks. When I started following you Alex was a chef
Alex works in Project Management, Jess is in the process of opening a new business, Zac works in Content Strategy and Marketing.
Would love to share more cooking here soon! His mother just sent him a cookbook with the families recipes 🎉 He does most of the cooking in our home
I watch all your videos and keep myself inspired..
Hey Jess, Alex, Zack,
Thank you for sharing about your relationship and being so open to the public about what it’s like to be in a polyamorous monogamous relationship. ❤
Being in a polyamorous monogamous relationship myself, going for our first 1yr anniversary together next month, and I was always curious to see other people’s experiences and perspectives and insights about their relationship. I do agree that being in this peculiar relationship, you learn about yourself and your partner and what it’s like to love another person outside of your marriage. I’m happy to see that you guys are happy with each other and for each other. After being in this relationship, communication and respect is def. Key to staying in a healthy relationship
Please keep the content coming and share your stories experiences with us. 🙏🏼
Can’t wait to see the next video content 👋🏼
Love this! Thank you so much for sharing with us about your polyamorous relationship 🎉🩵
Happy (Early) 1 year Anniversary to you all!!
i just want to say to you 3 handsome guys..i pray that you will always be together and always talk to one another and don't let anyone come between your relationship. you 3 are just so funny and loveable. keep loving each other.. your friend
David❤
Great explanation: 14:11 - u get joy in seeing ur partner enjoy with someone else.
I was involved with a gay married couple for about 6 months. There were a couple of issues with it. The main reason was that one of the guys had a lot of FWB before he was married. Also, he was on several gay sex sites while he was married. His husband traveled continuously for 6 months out of the year. So, many times sex was with the 3 of us plus 1-2 other guys too. It wasn’t a truffle relationship because the guy wanted sex at will with guys he met on sex sites too. He couldn’t understand why I got jealous but it wasn’t just 3 of us. I had to communicate with many people in the “group”. I was hurt in the end but was ok after 2 years.
opinions 'scholpinions', it's only about love and you three exemplify it. Beautiful.
This was really interesting. Thanks so much for sharing and being so open guys! 💛
So glad you enjoyed it! Thanks for tuning in and joining us 🩵🩵🩵
Thank you for the experience of listening what have been you poly relation. Hope that this is the one for you 3 and live happy forever ❤
May I ask what makes this one differnt from the other ploy relationships you been in, does this one feel differnt from the others?
You introduced me to a word that I’d never heard before, “compersion”. I feel that that’s the way I treat a partner, in that I take great joy in them feeling joy and pleasure (plus it makes me more aroused). However, just wanted to tell you that you should check on the pronunciation of the word “amicable” at 13:16 (sorry handsome, but you pronounced it incorrectly). Love you guys!!
SMOKING HOT 🔥
New follower absolutely in love with you guys the magnetism and love you 3 guys share is amazing
Thanks for following! hope you continue to enjoy the channel!
I love this!! I love that u address the difficulties, mental health, and the positive things about this kind of relationship. I wonder if guys who u have dated have ever been intimidated by ur relationship or feel like the 3rd wheel. Also, do u all have the same preferences in partners.
I think some of the difficulty with a lot of our past partners is that none of them had dated poly before us, and most have not since. Much of the time we were frustrated feeling like guys liked the idea of a throuple but not the reality of it after the initial excitement and butterflies and we were essentially their "tester couple" for them to try it out.
Poly isnt a fad for us, we identify as polyamorous... for some like us, it feels like a deep part of who we are, while for others its more of a choice. Both are cool, but the boyfriends of the past that dont identify as poly and chose to try it always ended up leaving us to pick up the pieces when the novelty wore off, while they quickly moved on to non-poly relationships.
I know a couple past boyfriends did voice concerns of not "being #1" and in those cases breakup was inevitable. Alex and I (Jess) have always sought to equalize our relationship with our new partner... but we cant just fast track a new partner and our relationship with them to fully equal the love, time, and committment Alex and I have built over 10 years. It takes time to build those things... they have to be in the relationship and spend the time to develop the committment and trust and love to get there. (just as Zac has done with us over the past year)
@JessAlexZac I love that! And Zac definitely seems secure in the relationship! I'm so happy for all of you that you have something sweet and loving. You all are beautiful, inside and out. 🥰
@@kimorgan1211 thanks so much! ❤️❤️❤️
I've been with my husband for 6 years, we are monogamous but we do have friends in poly relationships, and the dynamic is pretty much the same in the sense of love for one another. There is nothing wrong with a poly relationship, it aint for everyone but if you three communicate and respect eachother time and love then you guys will be fine.
Congrats on 6 years and thanks for sharing! I think many people's biggest hang up is they believe there is a "right way" (their way)... when really, there are many ways to happily love and have successful relationships!
hi guys......enjoy your channel.....question: what brand are your HATS.....THANK YOU
Great honest conversation guys thanks so very much.
So glad you enjoyed it!
Bonjour, je suis français et j’aimerai savoir... le polyamour est encore très tabou chez nous on en parle peu même si ça commence a arriver...
je souhaiterai savoir quand vous dites que vous avez eu des essais avant d'être avec Zach, ça veut dire que vous êtes en couple plus un troisième qui va et qui viens mais toujours à deux ou votre relation pourrait amener l'un de vous deux à se séparer et rester avec Zach de façon monogame ou poly avec un autre et accepter de perdre le mari.
Et vu que l'on parle d'amour et de sentiments, est possible pour vous de tomber amoureux d'une autre personne et de l'intégrer ou c'est une relation fermée à trois. ( que Zach tombe amoureux d'un autre ou vous, ouvririez vous votre trouple pour passer a 4 ou plus et comment ferriez vous pour gérez cela?)
Dans la vidéo d'une journée type, j'ai remarquez que Alex était un peu plus à l'écart, pas les même horaires par exemple, comment vous faites pour y palier et comment faites vous pour avoir du temps à deux avec l'un ou l'autre vu que vous vivez ensemble?
voilà ça fait beaucoup désolé... j'aime beaucoup vos vidéos. vivement la prochaine.
En vous remerciant
I love watching 3 of u fr. Philippines ❤❤
The Philippines! We are so happy to have you on our channel, Very glad you are enjoying our videos!
Hey my loves sending you three lots of love ❤❤❤
Thank you for the love! Much love and happiness to you as well 🩵🩵🩵
So are the three of you married or just of you married can the three of you get married legally in your country. Genuine question.
If we judge a relationships ability to work on the last one or last however many, then we can say monogamous marriage doesn’t work because divorce rates are high. It’s a person to person basis and can work no matter what the relationship looks like.
Completely agree!
Hi guys. I have been following you since your last poly-relationship on youtube. I have no other way, I have no social media (on purpose). I lost track when the adult industry jump. I saw suddenly a suggested video showed Jess. I was thinking that had to do with the adult industry or so that thing (in youtube? o.O). But I was happy to see that after those years you two (+ 1) are back.
I'm poly too, but in my case, single looking for other poly guy or two guys. At the moment, without success. Everytime I say I'm poly my datings put strange faces and disappear. I know it is that. I'm quite good looking/body (ok, not a model but quite good), my mental health without any special issues .... but still they don't want that. I feel a kind of resistance to that type of relationships, here in Europe (Berlin). Yes, everyone wants sex, but none a committed relationship, unfortunately.
Anyway, Happy to see you back. All the luck for you three guys. Big kiss.
So glad you found us here. Yes, I think dating is very difficult much of the time in "gay world". I know many of our friends struggle with finding meaningful connections with so much hook-up culture. Polyamory adds a whole new tricky element to the mix.
Dont give up! we hope you find your person / persons out there. Our relationship was completely unexpected - none of us were seeking it and it just worked out and came together on its own.
So glad youre here with us!
@@JessAlexZac 😘
I hope yous don’t take offence to this question, but I’m curious you know when you were with joe, it ended cause he wanted and seen something differnt in his life, do you think he used your platform on social media to get where he wanted to be and he more followers, as from seeing him and then Zac they completely different joe seemed very forward and enjoyed the stuff you done where as Zac at the beginning seemed more reserved and you can just tell he loves yous and not in it for anything else as he off social media
yes, we 100% think Joe used us for fame and money. He has a history of using people like that before us and in the years since he left... but we had no idea of his reputation. Many came forward after the fact telling us so much of what had been going on behind our backs. We were duped by a conman - We believed the act and trusted when we should not have. It all became very clear after he abruptly left us and went on a rampage trying to cover his tracks and do us financial and emotional harm. took us years to heal and start dating again.
Zac is night and day different. He is Loyal, Kind, trustworthy, shy, and good hearted. There really is no comparison between the two. He wanted nothing to do with our personas or social media... had ZERO interest in social media or fame, and was financially stable and successful all on his own. He has been a good sport and joined us through our accounts. When the right one comes along - all the others in the PAST are so clearly and shockingly lacking and wrong for us in comparison. Zac is the "unicorn" that we didnt think existed.
@@JessAlexZac I’m so sorry to hear that and I hope you didn’t mind me asking, I was just curious. I only started watching your stuff on UA-cam around time yous with joe, but I didn’t really like him if honest, but we all learn by past mistakes and tho not nice, maybe it needed to happen so can have eyes opened for future and know what is genuine love and what is not
‘It was twen ummm a long time ago’ lol
As with all relationships communication and compromise is key, I always say you do you, be who you wanna be
Great chat Jess & Alex ❤
So happy you enjoyed it 🩵🩵🩵
You guys such a cute couple all three of you guys love your videos 😊
I've been with my husband for almost 29 years now. Back in the day, we "frolicked" with our chosen clan. Then came a period where hubby "found Jesus" and pretty much ostracized those we cared about. It was a rough time for us. Eventually, he let go of his Catholic guilt and came around again. I hate judgmental people. Religion is manmade and no one should force their beliefs on anyone else... period. For the record - I'm a preacher's kid... and I ADORE you boys! Both hubby and I wish you the very best! xoxo
Oh wow! that is quite a journey - and so much that i can relate to coming from a mormon upbringing. Can be hard to let go of a lot of that guilt from it all. Alex was patient for me as i worked through mine in the earlier years of our marriage! Thanks so much for sharing a little of your experience with us!
@@JessAlexZac - Anytime, loves! I'm just here to remind you that, when others come at you preaching hellfire and brimstone, you all KNOW that they are preaching from a place of hate and non-acceptance. God (should you choose to believe in Her) is LOVE and nothing less. God created you in HER image ... and since God doesn't create anything less than perfect... you should ALL know by now that you are loved just the way you are PERFECTLY loved and by the way you PERFECTLY love others! Rant over.... and hugs again from your family in Long Beach! ;-)
Interesting
Three heart and one love ❤
@@brandyoart1751 yes! 🤗🩵🩵🩵
Just found ur channel and already intrigued
Hope you enjoy the content! Welcome to the channel 🤗
Sound is very low
Lost one of our mics 🫣 so we shared one - will work on that
I dont get it at all,seems like an open relationship? and where does it stop,must cause many issues am I missing something. If it works for you thats great but definitely nit for me
@@robp2882 it was an open relationship before. We decided that worked for us and our relationship and then set our boundaries for what we felt worked for us.
Now that we are 3, it’s a closed relationship between us 3.
Relationships “stop” wherever the boundaries are set for the people within the relationship. That is up to each person and what they feel is right for them and what they agree to with their partner(s)… just as you expressed polyamory isn’t right for you 😊
Well, that question was answered
Poly amorous is A different life style ,,it has the +/- is all a 100% commitment n live forever n ever n Forever young ,,what ever make you happy n life too short,,,Best from California ,,love the name of Pine apples
Much admiration. You are funny too....love the comment it's not a gay thing.
Thank you! Very happy you are enjoying the content that we are sharing!
Love your videos. In this world anything is possible including a loving and strong gay truple relationship. I would like to see you guys buy a house together instead of spending so much money on rent though. Time seriously flies and before you know it you will be twenty years older. Trust me (62). It happens. Love all three of you!
Beautyfull 💖🌹💖🌹💖🌹
Thanks for tuning in 🎉🩵🩵🩵
At first, it would seem like the 3-way relationship would be complicated. But, after doing a little research, I understand how easy it can be with eager Jess is the sandwich meat in the middle. Jess is a super needy submissive who has more than enough to satisfy 2 active men. Jess isn't going to leave anyone wanting for more l, especially when jess is serving from both ends. It's easy. Everyone is happy and satisfied.
Now that you’ve left the adult industry, what career are you pursuing? You have a business degree, correct?
Yes, I have an MBA.
I am currently in the process of opening a new business 🎉😊
@@JessAlexZac Good for you. Best of luck. 😉🤞🍀
Zac es.precioso❤
El de polera verde es muy rico
I am 77 and lost my accepting wife to MS after 51 years of marriage. I cared for her for almost 26 years. I am gay and happy to remain single. If I were married to a man, it would have to be monogamous. Most unlikely. That is just me.
So sorry for the loss of your accepting wife! 🕊️
If monogamy is what’s right for you, that’s great! Many relationship styles that work for different people in polyamory. Ours is a version of “monogamy” - we are poly-monogamous - closed relationship between the 3 of us.
Thanks for sharing and tuning in!
HI KC AND JAX DID YOU BOTH KNOW LAST JANUARY LATE I FELL OFF TOILET IT HIT MY FACE IT MADE BLEEDING MY NOSE GOT BRUCE UP AND MY HEAD THAT I LAND ON SHOWER FLOOR AND I END UP STAY AT HOSPITAL 4 DAY AND I CAME HOME JAN 28 AND JUST RESTING NOW FEBUARY IM ALL BETTER STILL ON MEDIATION FOR THE REST OF MY LIFE KC AND JAX I LOVE YOU BOTH VERY MUCH HOPE YOUR WORRY ABOUT ME LOVE DAVID
Hope all is better now David 😊❤️🩹
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YEAH I AM ALL BETTER NOW KC AND JAX YOUR ROOMMATE IS CUTE OH I HAVE 1200 DOLLS I ONLY COLECTION THEM I DON'T PLAY WITH THEN IT MAKES ME GAY OR NOT THEYARE WOTH LOT MONEY LOVE DAVID😀🥰😀🥰🥰🥰
Cute❤
Ar least you guts are open about it
Just remember when you’re married you don’t share yourself with others, you have to be true to your husband! And if you’re not, then it might as well be open and you’ve become 2 faced. I take the marriage vow very serious, ok?
There are a lot of different marriages and relationships around the globe.
Each relationship is welcome to apply their marriage rules and guidelines and vows to their relationship and/ marriage as they deem right for themselves… and we will continue to enjoy OUR marriage as we deem right for us.
Big proponents of the idea that there is no “one size fits all” relationship type or style. What works for someone else may not work for us - but we still find it beautiful and valid and interesting to see other relationship forms and styles being practiced around the world!
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sitting home watching youtube while the other two are in Cancun fucking does not appeal.....aint gonna happen.