When To Say "I LOVE YOU"
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- Опубліковано 6 бер 2017
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When I was 15 I met my now boyfriend at a christian holiday camp that we both went to. Over the next five years, we continued to stay friends but both of us always felt some kind of pull towards each other, but neither of us said anything. When we were 20, I had a realisation that I didn't want to date "boys", but wanted the next person I dated to be something serious. It caught me off guard, but eventually I realised I felt very strongly towards him. We were living in different cities at the time, so I sat down one day and wrote him a letter, and at the end of it told him I love him. It sounds crazy, but there was something about the situation where I felt so certain that he was the one for me, and knew that if he felt the same way I would never date anyone else. A few days after I posted the letter, he contacted me and told me he had always loved me. Two years later I have moved back to my home city, where he lives, and we talk about getting married. (((:
OH. MY.GOSH. im screenshoting your story for inspiration. Im so happy for you and im so happy you met young (cause i hope i can) and im so happy even tho you were young, you didn't get sexual temptations. Ahhh i love this story thank you for commenting
Are you getting married?
Congrats that's awesome, did y'all get married yet?
Sarah Yzendoorn oh my gosh, that’s so frickin sweet ughh. I’m 15 rn I wish I could have that😂 but ill be ok with however God sends my husband.
Any updates?
I am in a relationship and my boyfriend said “I love you” first. He said he had been praying about it for 7 months! He knew he loved me but he wanted to really make sure. I think that the man should say it first.
Cassidy Freeman I second that. He should say it first🔥
I think it's ok for the girl to say it first but yes I do agree
0.33 look at how paul looks at her and says, "Wow!..." 😍😅
I’m cracking up because almost the exact same thing happened to my boyfriend and I it was two months into dating and I said I love you and he didn’t say it back but I think he had a little better response he said “I know I’m definitely falling in love with you” but that still wasn’t the response I was hoping for and it kinda sucked but then the next day he came to me and was like “I thought about what you said and at first was like isn’t this kinda soon but then I thought about you and I realized I really do love you” and now we’re getting married in May so happy ending! Haha
Morgan can saaaaanggg 👏👏👏
Haha yes she can! 😊 -Paul
Natalie Urbina Right??? She’s very talented.:)
I wish she would sing more! Her voice is too beautiful to not share with everyone ♥️
Yup!😁😁😁
I have had a lot of relationships and I am a female in my early 40s. I usually will not say it first. My current boyfriend told me about 2 weeks in and now we are a little over a month in. I have still not said it. He told me he loves me the next day too, but I just can't bring myself to say it. This relationship is very different from the others I have been in and is definitely very special and for the first time ever, I see a potential for an amazing future with him. We both have a strong faith, and he reminds me to be faithful when I am feeling fearful or weak. That means so much to me. But more importantly than saying it, he shows me love in every possible way. I don't doubt him at all. But based on my past experiences, I think what scares me is that I have had men tell me they love me and then change once I reveal my love for them. Every once in a while I feel so much strong emotion toward him and I want to say it. But I know as I have grown up, that love is so much more than just a feeling. I have said it before, to other men, but I have never felt it in the way I feel it for him. I almost doubt that what I felt before is love, because it's not even close to what I have experienced now. We share a really deep intimacy and we seem to understand each other so well. He stopped saying it and then about a week later, said it again. I asked him why he doesn't say it more often and he said he doesn't want it to get old. I said, "how is that ever going to get old?" Now he says it all the time, but more importantly, he shows it. I asked him if he feels like I love him and he said yes. So even though I am not saying it with words, my actions show it. Which is so important to me. I told him I am just not ready to say it yet. He seems to be ok with it. At least for now. So for me, it's really important for the guy to say it first. Just make sure he backs it up with actions. If this guy didn't ever say it, it would still be obvious to me 🙂 I think my hesitation also has to do with me understanding that love is a serious commitment and takes a lot of work and I want to be sure I am really able to commit to that before I say the words. I have issues and I am flawed and I don't want to mislead anyone. If I feel like I can't handle real love, I don't want to say I love you.
I definitely think saying “I love you” should be saved for someone you can see yourself marrying. I’m also of the opinion that the guy should take the lead on it a little bit. I just feel like because biblically, the guy is the leader of the relationship, so words that mean as much as “I love you” should come from him first. Just my opinion. 🤷🏼♀️
Love your videos by the way!
Nine times out of ten the girl falls in love first, so the man should say it first. By the time he's ready, she will be ready to reciprocate, and it doesn't get awkward. Most of the time, anyway.
I definitely agree with you! Girls get attached very easily in a relationship especially if the guy treats her very well.
I agree, although my bf said it first and I have not said it yet.
@@notebookluvr oh wow
@@account10558 he wasn't really in love, he was in lust. His love was a feeling, not an intention to show love and truly care about the other person and love unconditionally. He was "feeling" love. I showed it intentionally (without any "feelings" involved) and to me, that's real love. Because your feelings can change, but if you aren't going to react because of how you're feeling, your love is consistent. I didn't tell him I loved him until I was sure I could consistently show him that kind of love.
@@account10558 btw, because he wasn't ready for that kind of love and didn't want the same kind of relationship I do, he broke up with me.
Loving someone is a commitment and a choice, not just an emotion. I believe that the reason so many marriages and relationships fail is because people don't realize that soon enough. Love is a choice you make to serve someone and be committed to them. So, I agree with them saying you should only say "I love you" if you see yourself marrying that person. Great topic and story 👍😂
Me and my boyfriend have been dating over a year. On our first date he said I love you, but I told to not tell me that again until he meant it 100%. He said it 3 months later. I told him I wasn’t ready to say it yet. So 3-4 months after that I was ready to say it. He was patient the entire time. But I just wanted to wait until I knew 100% and also I wanted to see how he lived his life and how he handled situations before I said it.
Hi guys, I just discovered your channel and I love it!
Regards to when / who should say. It doesn't matter. As biblical love, it is a choice, not a feeling. When he/she says I love you, in my opinion in Christian context, it means the person has made his/her choice to protect you, be patient with you, honour you, respect you and the list goes on.
Thanks for your support! :)
This is so well said, i love your comment!
This is an especially insightful comment; I wholeheartedly agree with the opinion.
I know I love her, but we haven’t been on a date yet... also, she’s already said it!! Loving someone is a choice. There is no falling into it or out for that matter.
@@shawnmendrek3544 waiting…
aahhh!!! That is the most awkward thing ever!! I totally understand you Morgan, I have been there. When God tells you something but you're just like "nah I got this!"
I am a FIRM believer in waiting for the guy to initiate things like that. They are the pursuers!
Julia Olliges same girl
Hi Paul! Hi Morgan! Could you guys please make a video on true love versus going through the motions with your feelings? I would really appreciate that :-)
Yes, please!!!
I agree saying it should wait. I've said it to many guys and had guys pressure me to say it. It should not have to be pressured and I think actions speak louder than the words itself speak. Also sometimes saying it to people takes the turn for the worst. Wait until you been dating a long time not just because. Saying these words sould not just be thrown around like your used to saying it every two seconds to them. Say it when your ready and the time is right and not every 2 seconds or so. These are special words use them right and cherish them.
I said “I love you” first in my relationship. We were also 2 months into the relationship, but I was about to have a serious surgery and my family was eleven hours away. I wanted him to know how I really felt.
This is one of my favourite videos classic thinker feeler moment. I totally get Pauls response - mind, process, emotions follow later.
So something like this quite often happens in relationships I reckon.
I have said I love you and never meant it cause I didn’t want to hurt someone’s feelings I guess I thought love is a choice right
- I just hope If I get to say it again I can be free to process it with my mind and have my heart follow really meaning it, having thought out and owning that decision.
My friend told me he loved me over the phone, which I thought was not ideal at all. I know it takes courage to say, but in my opinion it should at least be said in person. Basically I told the guy that I didn't believe him. I told him that he didn't really love me. And I told him that he possibly could think he loved me, but that no matter how hard he tried, if he didn't love God above all then he couldn't truly love me because he didn't know what true love actually was... But I told him to keep pursuing God and that God one day would give him the person he was looking for. But that I wasn't it. He understood and kept persisting but I always tried to keep things clear. Now he is still working on his relationship with God and so am I. But I feel peace and confident in my decision that he's not the one.
Do it when you genuinely love the person. There is no time limit or who does it first. When you feel the emotion and want them to know, tell them. Feelings change too! You can genuinely feel love for a person and tell them that you love them, and then lose that love later on. That doesn’t make it any less real. Love also isn’t exclusive to relationships. Do I have to know for absolute sure if my best friend at the time is going to be my maid of honor before I tell her I love her? No. The same goes for your romantic partner. And like anything in a relationship, saying I love you first is not a gendered issue. It’s ok for girls to initiate things.
I may have misinterpreted you, but it sounds to me like your understanding of love is different from mine. Love is forever, it even says so in the Bible. If you truly love someone, you always will. It doesn't mean you will always feel the same way about them, but you will always have love for them. Love is an action word. Not just a strong emotion. Love is something we choose, not just let our emotions carry us until we don't feel it anymore. The emotion can usually be defined as desire or adoration or just intense feelings of affection, fondness or attachment. These are the feelings associated with love but the kind of love taught by Jesus is action based. Not just an emotion.
I am in 11th grade........ You guys saying that for someone to say I love u needs to be close to marrying them scares me!!!!!
Ikr same, im younger than you😂
Brand new to your channel and just heard your singing voice for the first time. Didn't expect that at all! Beautiful ❤️
Aw thank you! :) Welcome to the P&M Fam!
I met this guy in Dec 2017, and about 3 months in I realised I really liked this guy to the point of possibly loving him (I'm usually very hesitate about whether or not I'm actually in love with someone or if it's just a really big crush). For a couple more weeks I struggled with possibly telling this guy how I felt... So I wrote him a note and gave him a gift, to say thank you, but also because I wanted to hint that I liked him. He responded to the gifts, but didn't really say anything about liking me. A couple weeks later there was this marriage seminar at the church, we both went... We didn't go together, because he already had his seat and everything and I decided to go about 30 mins before it started. Long story short, he messaged me afterwards about the message I got from the seminar... And I was like... I really like you... He didn't respond 😂😂😭. We still talk, but he hasn't said anything verbally about liking me 😭😭.
Thank you! God bless!
Nice hair Morgan :)
My husband was the first guy I told: "I love you." I only say "I love you" when I deeply mean it for LIFE!
I said it too fast into my relationship & it speed things up quick, yes Hindsight is always 20/20!
I remember with my ex boyfriend, we were in a chapel with a young group from church and we were in that moment of the relationship when you both know you're in love with each other but nobody has said those 3 words. And then we were listening to kind of a "lecture" and he suddenly turned to me and whispered in my ear what I THOUGHT was "i love you". BUT the thing is, I have a hard time listening and understanding stuff (I'm not deaf, it just gets messy for me sometimes), so I wasn't exactly sure if he said I love you or I like you lmao
Anyway, later that day I said it to him and he said it back, but he never told me the real truth of what he actually said in the chapel, even after we broke up so yeah 🤷🏻♀️
i can’t stop binge watching your videos😂😂 btw morgan you’re SO PRETTY😭 i love you guys
Ah that’s so sweet! My boyfriend told me he loved me first and my response was “I’m gonna marry you”. I told him I loved him back a week later...
AWWWW
"I think I love you" haha Savage Paul
Y'all are super amazing...new subbie
You guys are too funny!
And nice singing
I know there will be a lot of disagreement, but you should say: I love you! , before you kiss a person and romantically commit. There is no such a thing as a casual dating, at least not without the consequences for your heart. We are living in time of sexual inflation, where our emotions are worthless and our bodies replaceable and disposable.
Perfect timing!! Literally 2 hours ago a guy I was talking to said he loves me! We’re barely known each other for two weeks, and went on 1 date. To be honest I kinda went off and said that was way to soon. And how do you even know? It scared me, and I wasn’t and still not sure how to react. I don’t quite feel this way. Is it too soon, any advice on what to do?
Oh morgan you're hilarious LOL
Ohh thank you! :D
My "I love you" with my boyfriend. We already moved in. We purposely decided not to say I love you. One morning we were waking. He lifted my nightgown, not thinking I was awake and traced ”L.O.V.E. Y.O.U". He broke the rule first. He wrote in on my spine.
To this date we still refuse to bother with marriage and love each other deeply as each day goes on.
It was so long ago. Real life things for a healthy relationship I can pass on here.
Communication is the key. Even if that means a couple needs to argue it for hours. Talk about the good things.
Get to know your partners habits and needs. If your need isn't getting met speak up.
Understanding, not everything is going to be perfect. The honeymoon will die off and real life begins. If a stable relationship has been build it will survive.
Learn how to agree to disagree. We do not have the same views on politics and religion. We respect the other boundaries.
Age and maturity does change things. We have a relationship now that we couldn't have had in our 20s. Things such as marriage document. Hopes dreams and whatnot have all changed. It focuses on what we really want in life. Not all things are as they seem.
Most important is loving your own life and self. Put your needs first. If not you'll suffocate.
Think of it this way. If you give out water from your cup so many times you'll be empty. However, focus on your own cup and put it under a tap. You can give and give and give. Your needs come first. After you can't help but to fill others with love.
Another great topic! I definitely think the guy should say it first but I'm glad that it ended up well for you guys
Thank you :)
My friend's bf told her he loved her about 2weeks I to their relationship. But he is also the type of person who will never say something without really thinking about it becuase he never wants to regret something he said. My friend told him up front look I'm not ready to say that you yet even though she definitely does feel that way towards him. He was actually really glad she told him that and he told her that I don't want you say it back until your ready.
this is freaking hilarious lololololol
The guy told me i love you in gleaming chat box ,... but i said to him "it's easy to fall in love, but it's hard to get committed "
And i think i offended him tht way
I've heard it said that in Christian dating they guy should say it first and only when he is ready to propose marriage.
🤣🤣🤣 i can relate to morgan 🤣🤣🤣 thats what i also did somehow
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Oh girl that voice!
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Morgan, your hair is beautiful
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I love everyone
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Love your username and profile pic |-/
Morgan can sing...
Aww thank you! :)
I think I’ve done a lot of the things Paul has 😂
I recommend to wait to say " I LOVE YOU" right before the pastor says you may Kiss the Bride or right after the Kiss👨👰
His face when he is sitting back 😂 Damn ok it will be hard for me to not say I love you because I love giving love to those who need it or won’t take it for advantage.
Ohmygooosh your voice is soooooooo beautiful, Morgan!
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dangggggggg morgan
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Hey I'm curious (if you don't mind of course) what branch of Christianity are you guys? I chilled with the Pentecostals for a while and it was the worst experience of my life they kinda killed the whole Jesus thing for me. But you guys are adorable the most bearable Christian channel by far. (I actually binge y'alls vids all the time 😂)
I wish I knew that too
I really do respect my bff, were not dating but we definitely have a bond unbreakable, were waiting till marriage, idc about sex, im very disappointed in myself for disobeying God, but i do wanna hold her in my arms, and give her a million kisses on the cheek, shes so precious to me, i just wanna know if im able to kiss her on the cheek, if i dont think sexuality or nothing towards that, i just wanna express, how much i love and appreciate her she's so amazing. I just wanna show her pure unconditional love. Idc about kissing, id rather Just cuddle for the rest of my life, like a son holding his mom. I Respect her so much. And wanna treat her like a daughter of God and a Princess!
I am pro: saying it when you feel it. Even if it doesnt last I won't die cause we said it or not. I mean: if I married a different guy than my current bf I would have had a two year relationship prior to dating that other person and kissing, huging and "i love yous" would still be within my tolerable limits of safety
Can we hear the rest of this I love you story?? Or some more details- I feel like this was a cliff hanger lol
Morgan is so cool and cute.
I'm jealous of pauls Jawline
HAHAHA Aren't we all! :P
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My husband told it first, on the phone... 2 DAYS into our relationship 😄
Sarah Eisele wow. Y'all don't wait long, lol! But that's so cool!
I LOVE YOU
There is going to be a few messups along the way and things that have to be worked out. You just have to be willing to be humble and apologize at times.
me and my girlfriend said ' I love you' like a week to relationship and I have an idea of marrying her
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Hilarious!
A friend of my told me to say " I love you" after married.
Dbora Teles I personally don’t agree with that just cause you marry the person because you love them and your love for them grows as you are married
Hahahahahahahha
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Def the guy should say it first because the Bible even says that the man is the leader and should lead the relationship. That doesn’t mean dominate but he’s supposed to be a person who is strong and prepared for everything.
I believe either the man or woman can say I love you but it should be at a point in the relationship where you have decided your going STEADY and marriage is possible
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Are Squishy and Ricky the same animal or are there two pets?
Squishy is their dog I think
I dont know the perfect time, but I think that todays people are not afraid of to say that much earlier than u.. (because they did not mean it...)
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guys let the girl say it first. best way to go. even if you want to tell her. feminine energy is about bonding connecting, opening up to receive love. if you start coming on too strong talking about being in love and locking her down to a relationship it is definitely not attractive bc in essence you are being a woman. women fall in love slowly
this is where modern society with feminized men and movies where all the men have to profess their love for the woman and prove themselves to her and pursue her till they get her, do absolutely nothing to help your relationship. Works great in the movies but will get you nowhere in real life. Bc the roles are completely reversed the men are acting like women, they are weak and needy and approval seeking. when a man acts like a woman it completely turns the woman off bc it destroys the polarity in the relationship. the man at least needs to be more of a man than she is. this means having a mission and purpose outside of her and being direct and decisive.
you must not try and control and possess a woman she must come to you bc she truths your masculine core.
You guys only dated 4 months?!
PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE stop the high -speed chipmunk voices!!! I cannot even understand what Morgan is saying and I really wanted to hear her response!! This makes me not want to watch these videos anymore!
I don't want to be mean, but the silly voices make the video unwatchable.
No it made it very funny
@@mely260 it's funny but it made it very difficult for me to understand what Morgan was saying.