@@ktolwalReduce the amount of exchange in her needs. Stop sexual urges for some days and do nofap without telling her. She feels useless and do everything for you. I write a bond paper this works 100%
If we're not respecting & appreciating the person whom we chose to stay with for the rest of life .... Thn we are creating biggest mess for ourselves & coming generation too...
FRIENDSHIP FRIENDSHIP FRIENDSHIP because passion wears off so fast. Need to be with someone who brings you joy and vice versa, especially when sexual libido declines as we age & stay together longer. Also what I lack, he makes up for. What he lacks, I make up for. Together, we GROW like a flower. And loyalty to each other is first and foremost. Don't underestimate the power of laughter and kindness towards each other
We have to take into this the idea that marriage is not only about happiness. My huaband has a mental illness. We have ups and downs due to this reality. But..we are committed to each other. Happiness cabnot be the sole purpose of marriage. Does this make sense?
@@missanonoymous7829 hey even my brother has mental illness, he can't speak though he is 13 yrs old taking care of him is very difficult it sometimes frustrates the whole family but we take care bcz we love him.. he doesn't understand anything but whenever I get hurt he starts crying like anything looking at this it gives us happiness... We love him and are sure that one day he can achieve good and that will give us happiness.... He is happy bcz he loves us too so isn't a family threaded together by happiness and nourished by love? Ik there are many other things but the soul purpose is happiness and that's why we r together. So I don't think that person is wrong.... Btw hope you all are good and safe in this pandemic
Marriage is not about happiness or love ! It's about duty and responsibility to the society and kids .. its hard work and sacrifice for a bigger good .. rather than petty happiness for one self... Yes happiness can come as a by product that may come out of the satisfaction of fulfilling one's duty but surely ain't the sole purpose to begin with ...
@@jayeshjoseph8122 what will you get out of contributing to society? After making many childrens you will only increase the load on mother earth. Marriage is about love and happiness.
Thank you Sadhguru, i don't understand yoga at all, but i can feel you are a wise man telling the truth, during a storm i learned how to light a flame inside my heart and now i don't need to stay in darkness. Much love from Brazil, please come visit our people, thanks for your outstanding work and contribution to humanity.
There is nothing called as an ideal wife or an ideal husband in this world. No one is perfect or can be perfect. We all are humans and have some or the other kind of expectations from each other. Problem comes from here when we start expecting and we want to change the other person according to our own needs. We need to understand that everyone is unique and different in their own ways and there are both positives and negatives in a human being and we should learn to accept it. We can't always please others and we can't always keep others happy because it's human nature that we get sad, angry, depressed, annoyed, happy, disappointed. Human being is made up of all these feelings. So instead just try to be the best of you and be happy. Because if you are happy then only you can keep others happy. Just be healthy emotionally and physically so you can enjoy your life the way it is.
See whatever you are saying is It's your POV and this POV is good only when you want to live your life all alone otherwise this ideology will not help you to make your married life successful... The first and the most important aspect that you have said that please don't change for others It's completely wrong because har kisi ko apne partner ke liya badlana he padhta hai rishton ki ahmiyat hai toh badalane Mai koi burai bhi nhi honi chahiye waise bhi change is the universal law aap shaadi karo yaa naa karo aap ka jiwan kabhi ek jaisa nhi rehna wala hai shaadi karane ke baad bhi changes aate hai aur nhi karne mai bhi changes aate hai now its upto you ki konsa change aap ko jyada Aacha lagta hai shaadi karke yaa bina shaadi kare .. Secondly to make married life successful and to have a happy and lovable bond between husband and wife expectations rakhni chahiye apne partner se aur sath mai apne partner ki expectations puri bhi karani chahiye after all you are doing all of this for your partner not for anyone else .. Hmm their is no one perfect ye baat toh aap ne theek kahi hai I agree with that but that doesn't mean you Don't have to make efforts to make your relationship successful... Maine kaha naa ki rishton ki ahmiyat agar aap ke dill mai hai aur pyaar hai toh effort lagane mai koi burai nhi warna shaadi he mat karo .. Aur sabse badi baat jo aap ne kahi hai ki pehle apne aap ko kush rkhna chahiye tabhi dusron ko kush rakh payenge toh ye bhi yaad rakhna ki apne aap ko kush rakhne ke chakar mai sirf apna apna he nat dekhti rehna sirf kyuki jo sirf apne he bare mai sochega wo khudgarz keh lata hai dusron ki kushi ke bare mai bhi soch lena kabhi kabhi ...
The more I watch sadhguru, the more I hate to talk or make any comments or want to act smart because I realized I know nothing, so better learn by observation and meditation.
men remained almost same as they are from past 500 years , we wore same shirts and pants from then on only changes happened with women , changes also happened with men major changes happened with women . feminist
Modern woman are not fit to be married ! If u don't have a predefined roles in a marriage it doesn't work .. nor anywhere for that matter .. The concept that love makes a marriage works is delusion!
What is an ideal wife should be the question. Her mother must have been an amazing mother but how can she as a daughter decide if her mother was ideal wife or good wife. This should come from his dad, isnt it?
After only reading title : Why anyone has to be ideal ?? Why can't they be themselves and be true version of themselves. Why is it about female? P.s: this video popped up in my feed and these were thoughts came into my mind just by reading the title.
When yu are hungry and need a Brownie, if the waiter misplaces ur order with a boiled egg, will u eat and pay for it silently saying i accept egg as such its nature? Likewise its evry1s choice to prefer ideal woman.. If yu r not the 1,then pick ur groom accordingly...but remember almost all guyz like ideal woman.
There's no such a thing as ideal wife or husband. Love each other, ask what matters most for him/her. We show our love through different things, so, what matters for me, might not matter for my spouse.
Why is there no discussion about whether a man can be an ideal husband...that that question is not discussed is the reason why the modern woman is perceived as not an ideal wife..
Because I think nature has created us (females) unique n more perfect than men..so our responsibility towards our family n society is more.. We r the shapers of our family n society... Sometimes just believe n try to understand nature's law rather than debating over men's vs. women's....
I respectfully disagree with you. He did answer the question for both man and woman. The basis of a happy marriage, I.e. being an “ideal” wife or husband, is that each one of them is happy and they do not depend on the other to be happy, then their union can be a happy one.
Definition of culture is " moving with the times...in a positive way......" If a woman is not modern she is not cultured........how can she be a good wife.....sound education plays a critical role in a person's ability to differentiate the positive & negative aspects of human activities...... & they must be bold enough to ditch all negative activities...or else society will stay in a stagnant mode.....a woman who fully understands this is able & will prove to be an efficient & understanding wife & mother....
My aunts belittle my career achievements and personal goals, and measure my worth based on how many traditional dishes I cook (not even one, am cosmopolitan). This video is exactly what I needed.
Only patience and understanding of the root cause of problems and giving up on each other (husband and wife) will make difference (good way). And staying patience until bad situations pass away,If you have baby it's good be responsible. Don't marry according to someone s force or don't convince someone forcefully to marry take time and talk about their advantages and disadvantages (not family) You're both going to alive for next 85 year Not who forcefully convinced to marry , Everything has its own advantages and disadvantages. In my opinion marriage is good. Good evening all 🙏🙏
Just be loving, caring, understanding and be the best friend of your man, and the man yours best friend too. Talk every problem out, contribute equally to everything (not monetarily), maintain an equal give and take. Make the relationship go to a soul depth. There you go, the best wife/husband.
Everyone has a different definition for an ideal partner but a few things remains same. Honesty Loyalty Responsible Mature Independent Good values And the list goes on
@@pij6277 I agree. That's also important for both husband and wife (no one is an exception) . It depends on mentality. People are becoming more open minded now.
That is precisely the problem - that there is a long list! Most of us are deeply flawed with inconsistent views driven by hormones. If we judge ourselves by the standards we judge others and had a fair view of reality, we would have happier relationships!
Probably the best video till date... I hate the fact that Nepalese parent's force their daughter to be an ideal wife... We from our very first day we are treated as outsider and our parents especially mother teaches us to do household stuff rather than other useful things ,so that we can be ideal wife .... Well I'm not saying this is not useful... It's the basic skill of life we girls are blessed 🙏 of , but why are we forced to do these things.... ??? Now being 18 i started to think the same will i be a good wife.... Or should i not be get married because we won't have life for ourselves after marriage.... We need to think of other people and husband and relationship.... So i thought i will never get married.... But if any men get this point and this video... Than surely not every man thinks like my mother.... !!
I had no idea he had a center in TN! In our part of the state every child must learn from all their elders no matter their gender the basics of living a peaceful life. Thanks Sadhguru for this lovely video. Blessings
@@dhiranjana_baniya I actually looked it up & his yoga center is about an hour from our family's farm. I hope you enjoy your trip! We've had a lot of rain this year so hopefully this year's autumn colors will show up before October for everyone visiting. Blessings
Start respecting women as human beings first, before assessing them as ‘wives’, and most of the issues with unwarranted expectations will disappear. A simple thing such as not forcing the woman to change her name/ surname after marriage will suffice.
When it comes to women being the ideal anything I think it's important for women to not to compare themselves to a ideal as ideals can be to much pressure to follow and stress it's more important just to be the best ideal you one you achieve that then you will be the best woman for any situation in life including marriage
@@ice4659 like self developing, building their community, being independent enough to be breadwinner themselves. There is so much more to do today as a woman than to be just a man's wife
Indraa Arasu also breadwinning for your self is your choice, it is not forced upon you. there are many women who choose to marry a breadwinner and become a loving housewife like sadhgurus mother. so you cannot really use that as an excuse. I am sure your father is perfectly happy to provide for you or a potential husband.
@@ice4659 my father and mother are both successful entrepreneurs and my father is not emasculated by my mother's ability to work and nurture because he does both too. Combined success has sent both me and my brother overseas and develop intellect to argue with people who believe women only have to be a "loving housewife" when they can and want to do more. So do more is what women of this generation will do
The title should be "true meaning & value of relationships ,🙏.... It's not just the women should be good wife ... But it should be from both ends ... Bcoz we need the person to share, care & love ....
Sadguru u r geart for make people understand about man women companionship which is way more practical that wester thought *marriages r made in heaven*
What are the characteristics of an ideal husband ? Who is an ideal wife ? Questioning herself - Populist stand from lady asking the question . Touched 😉
Is being a "geared" human being superior to not being one? What is the ideal way to live? With or without the support of social support. And finally, what does one really need to do with his/her life? What does it mean when Sadguru says that one must know this piece of life in its entirety? What is the significance of that and what will such an understanding culminate to? Someone please send this to Sadguru and make him make a video on it or something.
Everyone is making video how women should be... Not how a man should be ..... Do your own work and love others, don't try to judge a man or a woman ..... Because everyone is different just like our fingerprint🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗
pls update this stuff without edits. no music. no cuts. no intros on a different channel. i really used to like this and download it on my phone and listen to it while on my way to uni but now it's really something else. i need to cut out the intros everytime y.y
I believe in today's world women should start to explore their soul more than concentrating on physical and emotional needs. World is so dangerous that women need to stop being emotional. It s not only considered weakness by men but also made fun of being emotional.
@@muaythairaja good men are given way more stick than they ever deserve... we hv done well for most of last 100 years... playing multiple roles ...cheers to that 🍷🤘😎😇
You just end up in bad relationships because you refuse to learn from your life experiences. That's why they repeated enough to make you dislike men. I'm sorry
@@tanvi1742 I hope your not my doppleganger too Tanvi 🤣???But seriously I never get it why are women always told to compromise ,be it before marriage or after marriage ,why is the boy never asked to adjust ??
Sadhguru ji I request you to give these kind of thoughts spread knowledge in kannada also so that people who don't know English can understand. Please do consider we want our elders to have this knowledge and it's highly difficult for us to make them understand because they think we are not still not matured enough say anything to them.
Eswar Theja everyone thought they found the right person that is why they married each other. Its more than finding right person. There is no right person
Cause it's a myth...The closest ideal husbands in legends were Vishnu and Shiva...And i repeat "closest". Well, I will say a man is like a clay ball, a proper woman moulds them into ideal men.
Kriz Yamz women are not here to fix men. men are responsible for themselves. a woman can't make a man ideal. when a woman tries to "fix" a man and make him ideal it usually leads to heartache
According to women ideal husband shouldnt smoke, earn more than his wife, has to be handsome, rich and fit. Women expect everything. But when men expect women to not smoke... He becomes a misogynist patriarchial lol
The idea, that there is a somebody special and meeting him/her will fulfill everything you've wanted and the relationship will be magical is beyond illusionary. You should have the love in you to nurture a relationship and it's you on whom it truly depends how beautiful your union with anyone will be. There's definitely fate but it's you who'll make a relationship sweet and beautiful or ugly and pathetic. People who are having or have had relationships admired for the beauty of it have invested the necessary with the intent. It's only your desire for making something better or making a life better which makes things beautiful and gracious and not anything else. If you lack that desire, don't even think of being with someone, it'll ruin their and your life.
Everyone is asking Sadhguru all these life, spiritual and deep questions and here I am, just a simple man, wanting to know why he always sits with one leg folded under. I think I'll try it for some time and see.
His only problem is he never answer, he either ask another question, or tell story or explain how it is use to be in past..... Man please answer, we look to you for answers
Priyanka Yadav Sadhguru's aswers are more than yes or no, he makes you think by your own, that's the way you can appreciate the truth, when it comes by yourself
Because most of the questions people ask him are not like what is 2+2 or what is the current capital of any particular country for which the answer is the same for all. He is often asked opinions and he expresses his opinions in forms of stories or in an indirect manner. If he answers the question in a direct yes or no, then people will put him in any particular group/category.
We should get marry with the attitude of "How to make my life partner happy". Then married life will be very beautiful. If we get marry with the attitude of "How can I be happy with my life partner" then there will be problems in married life.
Most of our society it is seen that a person only marry a girl but a girl marries not only a person but his entire family... I think problem starts from there....
That's not a problem. You thinking you are doing your man a favour by leaving your house for his is the problem. Think why women need a husband in the first place. And you will understand
@@jaynerama4654 Because a woman always seeks a husband superior to her in finances, intellect and social status. The one who is inferior partner needs to adjust to the superior one. If you want a husband to ajdust to your needs, marry down. Simple.
He makes u understand that living life is the most simplest thing to do......
i seriously order from uber eats every single day twice. inspite of my wife being a good cook. 🤐
yea, you wake up, wash yourself and go.
situation have changed now, your comment was 2yrs ago
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@@ktolwalReduce the amount of exchange in her needs.
Stop sexual urges for some days and do nofap without telling her. She feels useless and do everything for you.
I write a bond paper this works 100%
If we're not respecting & appreciating the person whom we chose to stay with for the rest of life .... Thn we are creating biggest mess for ourselves & coming generation too...
You would think thats common sense.
Its true
Exactly 💯
FRIENDSHIP FRIENDSHIP FRIENDSHIP because passion wears off so fast. Need to be with someone who brings you joy and vice versa, especially when sexual libido declines as we age & stay together longer. Also what I lack, he makes up for. What he lacks, I make up for. Together, we GROW like a flower. And loyalty to each other is first and foremost. Don't underestimate the power of laughter and kindness towards each other
hello lyda well said 👏🏾
Right
lol. nice joke
Very well said.
@@lordoffools9457 joke ? Well, if u think that this is a joke, then u r probably inviting the opposite of happiness.
Conclusion :- Learn to GEAR UP....Don't always expect others to change for you.
I love the way his body bounces when he laughs! 😂😂😂
🤣🤪😂
Shoulders* ....shoulders* bounce
This comment made me laugh really loud and hard at the midst of night
Freespirited laugh😂
🤣🤣🤣 hilarious
He is absolutely right. If two happy people meet than happiness will multiply. Namaste from India🙏
We have to take into this the idea that marriage is not only about happiness. My huaband has a mental illness. We have ups and downs due to this reality. But..we are committed to each other. Happiness cabnot be the sole purpose of marriage. Does this make sense?
@@missanonoymous7829 hey even my brother has mental illness, he can't speak though he is 13 yrs old taking care of him is very difficult it sometimes frustrates the whole family but we take care bcz we love him.. he doesn't understand anything but whenever I get hurt he starts crying like anything looking at this it gives us happiness... We love him and are sure that one day he can achieve good and that will give us happiness.... He is happy bcz he loves us too so isn't a family threaded together by happiness and nourished by love? Ik there are many other things but the soul purpose is happiness and that's why we r together. So I don't think that person is wrong.... Btw hope you all are good and safe in this pandemic
Marriage is not about happiness or love ! It's about duty and responsibility to the society and kids .. its hard work and sacrifice for a bigger good .. rather than petty happiness for one self...
Yes happiness can come as a by product that may come out of the satisfaction of fulfilling one's duty but surely ain't the sole purpose to begin with ...
@@jayeshjoseph8122 what will you get out of contributing to society? After making many childrens you will only increase the load on mother earth. Marriage is about love and happiness.
Can you always be happy? Or what is happy people?
Situations have changed but expectations are still the same.
I feel sorry for you.... get well soon...
Expect nothing and you'll be happy.
vs textiles and you...get smart soon!
@@anosjc you said the right thing expectation hurt...when it's not fulfilled.....
Yes my expectations are still same
Thank you Sadhguru, i don't understand yoga at all, but i can feel you are a wise man telling the truth, during a storm i learned how to light a flame inside my heart and now i don't need to stay in darkness. Much love from Brazil, please come visit our people, thanks for your outstanding work and contribution to humanity.
Love from the UK I have no religion but your words touch me
There is nothing called as an ideal wife or an ideal husband in this world. No one is perfect or can be perfect. We all are humans and have some or the other kind of expectations from each other. Problem comes from here when we start expecting and we want to change the other person according to our own needs. We need to understand that everyone is unique and different in their own ways and there are both positives and negatives in a human being and we should learn to accept it. We can't always please others and we can't always keep others happy because it's human nature that we get sad, angry, depressed, annoyed, happy, disappointed. Human being is made up of all these feelings. So instead just try to be the best of you and be happy. Because if you are happy then only you can keep others happy. Just be healthy emotionally and physically so you can enjoy your life the way it is.
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Well said
So true :)
See whatever you are saying is It's your POV and this POV is good only when you want to live your life all alone otherwise this ideology will not help you to make your married life successful...
The first and the most important aspect that you have said that please don't change for others It's completely wrong because har kisi ko apne partner ke liya badlana he padhta hai rishton ki ahmiyat hai toh badalane Mai koi burai bhi nhi honi chahiye waise bhi change is the universal law aap shaadi karo yaa naa karo aap ka jiwan kabhi ek jaisa nhi rehna wala hai shaadi karane ke baad bhi changes aate hai aur nhi karne mai bhi changes aate hai now its upto you ki konsa change aap ko jyada Aacha lagta hai shaadi karke yaa bina shaadi kare ..
Secondly to make married life successful and to have a happy and lovable bond between husband and wife expectations rakhni chahiye apne partner se aur sath mai apne partner ki expectations puri bhi karani chahiye after all you are doing all of this for your partner not for anyone else ..
Hmm their is no one perfect ye baat toh aap ne theek kahi hai I agree with that but that doesn't mean you Don't have to make efforts to make your relationship successful... Maine kaha naa ki rishton ki ahmiyat agar aap ke dill mai hai aur pyaar hai toh effort lagane mai koi burai nhi warna shaadi he mat karo ..
Aur sabse badi baat jo aap ne kahi hai ki pehle apne aap ko kush rkhna chahiye tabhi dusron ko kush rakh payenge toh ye bhi yaad rakhna ki apne aap ko kush rakhne ke chakar mai sirf apna apna he nat dekhti rehna sirf kyuki jo sirf apne he bare mai sochega wo khudgarz keh lata hai dusron ki kushi ke bare mai bhi soch lena kabhi kabhi ...
The more I watch sadhguru, the more I hate to talk or make any comments or want to act smart because I realized I know nothing, so better learn by observation and meditation.
Can a modern man be a ideal husband? Should be the next video for sure.
There is no modern man🤣🤣
No man say he is modern 🙄
men remained almost same as they are from past 500 years , we wore same shirts and pants from then on only changes happened with women , changes also happened with men major changes happened with women .
feminist
Yea , no man says I'm modern
Modern woman are not fit to be married ! If u don't have a predefined roles in a marriage it doesn't work .. nor anywhere for that matter ..
The concept that love makes a marriage works is delusion!
He has Divine Knowledge with some amazing sense of humour .
nothing divine.. He is just smart and intelligent.
Indeed
watch sadhguru vdo on bermuda triangle....he is cunning man....fooling people in the name of religon
@@rashmii_kashyap02 😂 good so you are listening to some of his speeches.. It will definitely help you on the long run..
Oh bhai😆 watch his video on lactation on birth of twins.
Angel of light! Thanks for the enlightment & guidance!
vishal kumar shining the light on a the topic or subject matter! Wisdom is shared to the masses to awake the mind !
Why is this question being asked? Can a modern education compare to a 1950's education?
Right, she asked how should she feel. It's a head scratched.
Because girls or wife's r compared with mother's . That time a wife feels that she is not doing well enough ☹️
You are mixing literacy with education these two terms are totally different in 1990 they were educated but present generation are just literate only
What is an ideal wife should be the question. Her mother must have been an amazing mother but how can she as a daughter decide if her mother was ideal wife or good wife. This should come from his dad, isnt it?
@@akaciateague2204 true !
This person is amazing.
I never said it about anybody else.
After only reading title : Why anyone has to be ideal ?? Why can't they be themselves and be true version of themselves. Why is it about female?
P.s: this video popped up in my feed and these were thoughts came into my mind just by reading the title.
When yu are hungry and need a Brownie, if the waiter misplaces ur order with a boiled egg, will u eat and pay for it silently saying i accept egg as such its nature? Likewise its evry1s choice to prefer ideal woman.. If yu r not the 1,then pick ur groom accordingly...but remember almost all guyz like ideal woman.
@@duesdiaries371 when men become ideal and perfect then we will be ideal and perfect
@@imsoftdonttouchme8351being non ideal is the very nature of men.
@@duesdiaries371 and being non ideal is the very nature of women , actually of every human being !
Here one more feminist really you people are suffering god bless you
Knowledge..it is as precise, as clear and as simple as it can be when it comes through Sadhguru
even the continuum hypothesis?
Why am i goosebumps and tears in my eyes after watching this.
Because you understand him. Lot of people don't and very few do.
Wow..,.he is such a great genius soooo updated with current generation... look what he said uber,swiggy, etc...
There's no such a thing as ideal wife or husband. Love each other, ask what matters most for him/her. We show our love through different things, so, what matters for me, might not matter for my spouse.
I lived on my own and depended on myself my whole life.
No mother ever? I'm sorry man. 😔 I woulda raised you , given the chance.
Profound saying. Now a days people are after squeezing happiness from the other people
If you are a misery and you need source of happiness... Then well... It'll multiply.. 😄😄👌👌👌
Jagan Mohan love it!!
That's not even the quote, dude.
Love this, humour and beautiful message. Made me laugh with your humour, and relayed a message so important, thank you Sadghuru 🙏.
How should I feel about it???
Feelings are to be felt not to be asked
This was the first thing I thought.
@Age of Dreams yeah that's why she asked....coz perspectives can change....we can change how we feel once we know Abt it.
Not always. A direction is required sometimes. Even being high on weed feels good.
Next conference: Can a Modern Man be an ideal Husband?
Applies on men as well 😇
Thank you. SMH.
@@aparnatripathi9158 ye indian men ni samjhenge na jub tak video ni banta
Yes much needed
Please watch the video first !!
He will always have answers to everything
He is the Enlightened one. A wise and amazing personality.
Why there is no video about, is he good husband or how to be a good one? Time to change the topic on wives. 🤷♀️
People are only asking these kind of questions, what can he do?
May be you haven't searched for that.
I love Sadhguru .....💗❤️💞
Why is there no discussion about whether a man can be an ideal husband...that that question is not discussed is the reason why the modern woman is perceived as not an ideal wife..
This is a highly misogynistic channel. What else do you expect 🙄??!!!
its bcause no one there asked the question. If someone asked that questio then sadguru would nswr that as beautifly as well
Because I think nature has created us (females) unique n more perfect than men..so our responsibility towards our family n society is more.. We r the shapers of our family n society... Sometimes just believe n try to understand nature's law rather than debating over men's vs. women's....
Manasvee Singh stop.. there is no place for a feminazzi here ...
I respectfully disagree with you. He did answer the question for both man and woman. The basis of a happy marriage, I.e. being an “ideal” wife or husband, is that each one of them is happy and they do not depend on the other to be happy, then their union can be a happy one.
Definition of culture is " moving with the times...in a positive way......" If a woman is not modern she is not cultured........how can she be a good wife.....sound education plays a critical role in a person's ability to differentiate the positive & negative aspects of human activities...... & they must be bold enough to ditch all negative activities...or else society will stay in a stagnant mode.....a woman who fully understands this is able & will prove to be an efficient & understanding wife & mother....
always awesome Sadhguru.
What a blessing to have YOU amidst us
Pranam
My aunts belittle my career achievements and personal goals, and measure my worth based on how many traditional dishes I cook (not even one, am cosmopolitan). This video is exactly what I needed.
Only patience and understanding of the root cause of problems and giving up on each other (husband and wife) will make difference (good way). And staying patience until bad situations pass away,If you have baby it's good be responsible. Don't marry according to someone s force or don't convince someone forcefully to marry take time and talk about their advantages and disadvantages (not family) You're both going to alive for next 85 year
Not who forcefully convinced to marry , Everything has its own advantages and disadvantages. In my opinion marriage is good.
Good evening all 🙏🙏
@@SOUNDCLOUD.COM_JABRONZKI not surely I will
Just be loving, caring, understanding and be the best friend of your man, and the man yours best friend too. Talk every problem out, contribute equally to everything (not monetarily), maintain an equal give and take. Make the relationship go to a soul depth.
There you go, the best wife/husband.
Everyone has a different definition for an ideal partner but a few things remains same.
Honesty
Loyalty
Responsible
Mature
Independent
Good values
And the list goes on
Virginity.... But this will draw the ire of women.
@@pij6277 I agree. That's also important for both husband and wife (no one is an exception) . It depends on mentality. People are becoming more open minded now.
That is precisely the problem - that there is a long list! Most of us are deeply flawed with inconsistent views driven by hormones. If we judge ourselves by the standards we judge others and had a fair view of reality, we would have happier relationships!
Probably the best video till date... I hate the fact that Nepalese parent's force their daughter to be an ideal wife... We from our very first day we are treated as outsider and our parents especially mother teaches us to do household stuff rather than other useful things ,so that we can be ideal wife .... Well I'm not saying this is not useful... It's the basic skill of life we girls are blessed 🙏 of , but why are we forced to do these things.... ???
Now being 18 i started to think the same will i be a good wife.... Or should i not be get married because we won't have life for ourselves after marriage.... We need to think of other people and husband and relationship.... So i thought i will never get married.... But if any men get this point and this video... Than surely not every man thinks like my mother.... !!
I had no idea he had a center in TN! In our part of the state every child must learn from all their elders no matter their gender the basics of living a peaceful life. Thanks Sadhguru for this lovely video. Blessings
MrsFord06 ya the one in TN is beautiful esp in fall. I’m going in August . Sadhguru will be there 😊
@@dhiranjana_baniya I actually looked it up & his yoga center is about an hour from our family's farm. I hope you enjoy your trip! We've had a lot of rain this year so hopefully this year's autumn colors will show up before October for everyone visiting. Blessings
Tn is?
tips hut Tennessee in the US
Start respecting women as human beings first, before assessing them as ‘wives’, and most of the issues with unwarranted expectations will disappear. A simple thing such as not forcing the woman to change her name/ surname after marriage will suffice.
You better live single for life you want woman happy
@@vinaydhiwar8604 what?
Start respecting men first who are building the whole world for you before expecting them to 'respect' your repulsive personality.
When it comes to women being the ideal anything I think it's important for women to not to compare themselves to a ideal as ideals can be to much pressure to follow and stress it's more important just to be the best ideal you one you achieve that then you will be the best woman for any situation in life including marriage
What Sadhguru said + women today have to do 100´s of things that the grandmother did not have to do, its not easy 🕉
Like what?
@@ice4659 like self developing, building their community, being independent enough to be breadwinner themselves. There is so much more to do today as a woman than to be just a man's wife
Indraa Arasu I believe our grandmothers would have done that as well...Plus more.
Indraa Arasu also breadwinning for your self is your choice, it is not forced upon you. there are many women who choose to marry a breadwinner and become a loving housewife like sadhgurus mother. so you cannot really use that as an excuse. I am sure your father is perfectly happy to provide for you or a potential husband.
@@ice4659 my father and mother are both successful entrepreneurs and my father is not emasculated by my mother's ability to work and nurture because he does both too. Combined success has sent both me and my brother overseas and develop intellect to argue with people who believe women only have to be a "loving housewife" when they can and want to do more. So do more is what women of this generation will do
The title should be "true meaning & value of relationships ,🙏.... It's not just the women should be good wife ... But it should be from both ends ... Bcoz we need the person to share, care & love ....
Ocodile Agreed🙌🏻
Because it is what today's girl's should learn they're living in a dilutional movie dramas that it can be real in their life.
Sadhguru.... Just wow... Big big pranam to you.. bless us all 🙏
Sadguru u r geart for make people understand about man women companionship which is way more practical that wester thought *marriages r made in heaven*
Yes...I think a modern woman can be a good wife but only with the man she is truly in love with 💓
Wao.! 🙏🏼 truly inspiring..!
Listening to him made me realise I'm gearless. 😐😐 and I have so much friction that one could simply light a matchstick 😶😶
U will be fine,man..
The girl asking question is wearing a pink mekhela chador.. A traditional Assamese attire 😻😻
Expectations.... we are in a time of excessive and unrealistic expectations.
And Women are the worst when it comes to being realistic, or should I say the lack of the ability to be realistic, and not materialistic!
What are the characteristics of an ideal husband ?
Who is an ideal wife ? Questioning herself - Populist stand from lady asking the question . Touched 😉
Depends on the relationship and what that person wants. But generally it's someone with compassion, patience and a loving personality.
How to be a good human being : watch a new video of Sadhguru every morning .
Just watching a mystic speaks doesn't make you a good human
@@militaryaeronautix812 he made me
Great wisdom Sir.
Sending Love, From Tanzania, TZ
We all too send love and prayers to you all
Is being a "geared" human being superior to not being one? What is the ideal way to live? With or without the support of social support. And finally, what does one really need to do with his/her life? What does it mean when Sadguru says that one must know this piece of life in its entirety? What is the significance of that and what will such an understanding culminate to? Someone please send this to Sadguru and make him make a video on it or something.
Very wise!
Everyone is making video how women should be... Not how a man should be ..... Do your own work and love others, don't try to judge a man or a woman ..... Because everyone is different just like our fingerprint🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗
pls update this stuff without edits. no music. no cuts. no intros on a different channel. i really used to like this and download it on my phone and listen to it while on my way to uni but now it's really something else. i need to cut out the intros everytime y.y
I believe in today's world women should start to explore their soul more than concentrating on physical and emotional needs. World is so dangerous that women need to stop being emotional. It s not only considered weakness by men but also made fun of being emotional.
Most underrated comment. I agree with you completely.
Now i hope he puts out a video on....how a modern man can also be an ideal husband 😎🤘
Just be a real man. But modern corporate guys can't even manage that.
@@muaythairaja good men are given way more stick than they ever deserve... we hv done well for most of last 100 years... playing multiple roles ...cheers to that 🍷🤘😎😇
Modern men are already an ideal husband ..
@@MohitSingh-gv3gf He he... 😉
@@JitenShende it's true ..
Applause 👏 what an explanation.
The lady is Assamese. Where this interaction has been held?
Sadhguru has the answers which Google doesn't have ;)
As always wisdom at is best!! 🙏..
Seems that you are a great devotee of Lord shiva Ammada. From where are you?
My life, thought process have been profoundly impacted by Sadhguru.
A woman can either be modern or ideal but
It's better to not waste time on that so sit and watch TV
The real question is why have men never been an ideal husband? They had years to perfect it.
Because women allowed it
You just end up in bad relationships because you refuse to learn from your life experiences.
That's why they repeated enough to make you dislike men. I'm sorry
That's impossible, simply because women are never satisfied.
Sushmita: an interesting topic which SadhGuru answered so beautifully AND with a punch of course 😀 Love you Guru-Ji 😍
Simple truth...beautifully expressed.....as aways!
♥️ ನಮಸ್ಕಾರಗಳು ಸದ್ಗುರು ಅವರೇ ♥️
🙏 Namaskaram sadhguru 🙏
📕📖📖📖📖📖📖📖📖📖📕
Which language do you know
Srinidhi ಶ್ರೀ sharanu
Kush Dwivedi Kannada
Tq sadhguru...
From Malaysia...
@@mayursakri5889 lmao
How gracefully explained..
Wise words ...thanks !
one shld address wht is th meaning of being a wife...nomatter good or bad
The girl with the mic, is she from Assam.. Coz she is wearing Mekhela Sador.. 😍😍
The young man sitting near this woman is Momin Saqib's elder brother!
I wasn't born to be someone's wife i was born to be myself
Lie .....
REVENGE 93 do you?
Master of all Trades Tuhin what’s a lie? That she is herself? And that she can exist without a man in her bed?
@@mastertuhinbaruah9614 clearly it's you who's living in a lie
@REASON more than you think
Why is the question not reframed as "do modern men make good husband's ??"
We both share name n this thought too.. I was scrolling down to see if anyone also thinked this.. Luckily i got u 😅
@@tanvi1742 I hope your not my doppleganger too Tanvi 🤣???But seriously I never get it why are women always told to compromise ,be it before marriage or after marriage ,why is the boy never asked to adjust ??
@@tanvishetty1 exactly
@@tanvi1742 guess we "Tanvis" gotta stick together 🤣🤣
Sadhguru ji I request you to give these kind of thoughts spread knowledge in kannada also so that people who don't know English can understand. Please do consider we want our elders to have this knowledge and it's highly difficult for us to make them understand because they think we are not still not matured enough say anything to them.
There is Kannada channel named sadhguru Kannada check out
It always comes to finding the right person ...then he/she wil become best husband /wife for each other
Eswar Theja everyone thought they found the right person that is why they married each other. Its more than finding right person. There is no right person
Why no definition for ideal husband.....
Deepshree Buchade an ideal woman is so powerful she can make any man ideal
Because the list is off the chart.
Cause it's a myth...The closest ideal husbands in legends were Vishnu and Shiva...And i repeat "closest".
Well, I will say a man is like a clay ball, a proper woman moulds them into ideal men.
Kriz Yamz women are not here to fix men. men are responsible for themselves. a woman can't make a man ideal. when a woman tries to "fix" a man and make him ideal it usually leads to heartache
According to women ideal husband shouldnt smoke, earn more than his wife, has to be handsome, rich and fit. Women expect everything. But when men expect women to not smoke... He becomes a misogynist patriarchial lol
As always briliant :)
Is that really hard to give simple answer?
When one feels that my life partner's happiness is my happiness, then the married life will be very beautiful naturally.
The idea, that there is a somebody special and meeting him/her will fulfill everything you've wanted and the relationship will be magical is beyond illusionary. You should have the love in you to nurture a relationship and it's you on whom it truly depends how beautiful your union with anyone will be. There's definitely fate but it's you who'll make a relationship sweet and beautiful or ugly and pathetic. People who are having or have had relationships admired for the beauty of it have invested the necessary with the intent. It's only your desire for making something better or making a life better which makes things beautiful and gracious and not anything else. If you lack that desire, don't even think of being with someone, it'll ruin their and your life.
Everyone is asking Sadhguru all these life, spiritual and deep questions and here I am, just a simple man, wanting to know why he always sits with one leg folded under. I think I'll try it for some time and see.
He says he like that posture cause it's relaxing for him. It's an Indian posture
@@izac90210 Cool. Thank you for this reply.
@@izac90210 Human is not Indian/American.
@@parha123 Not in contradiction with my point brother
There is already a video on this
Eye opening things every time.
🙏🌺🍃🌼🌱🌹🌱🌸🌺🍃🙏Pranam Sadhguru 🙏
It's all about exploiting nowadays
@Debanjan Banerjee and you too. Grow up kid.
Situations R totally different 🍁
100% correct
My woman should just know when and what to order thats it😂
His only problem is he never answer, he either ask another question, or tell story or explain how it is use to be in past..... Man please answer, we look to you for answers
Priyanka Yadav Sadhguru's aswers are more than yes or no, he makes you think by your own, that's the way you can appreciate the truth, when it comes by yourself
Because most of the questions people ask him are not like what is 2+2 or what is the current capital of any particular country for which the answer is the same for all. He is often asked opinions and he expresses his opinions in forms of stories or in an indirect manner. If he answers the question in a direct yes or no, then people will put him in any particular group/category.
I also feel same...
this was beautiful
Thank you lot Sadhguru and this channel.
I love India 🇮🇳 I love Indians
Thanku sir for solving our daily life problms so easily
Always Right !!!! Thank you!!!!
Nice talk
We should get marry with the attitude of "How to make my life partner happy".
Then married life will be very beautiful.
If we get marry with the attitude of "How can I be happy with my life partner" then there will be problems in married life.
Right
Lol I tried but all they do is whine and saying I’m not doing enough
It should be neither of those, it should be more about "how can we be happy together"
Most of our society it is seen that a person only marry a girl but a girl marries not only a person but his entire family... I think problem starts from there....
That's not a problem. You thinking you are doing your man a favour by leaving your house for his is the problem. Think why women need a husband in the first place. And you will understand
@@Iam1nsane no, what she was trying to say is that if a woman is expected to accept his whole family, then why doesn't he do the same?
@@jaynerama4654 Because a woman always seeks a husband superior to her in finances, intellect and social status. The one who is inferior partner needs to adjust to the superior one. If you want a husband to ajdust to your needs, marry down. Simple.
Was the traditional man ever a good husband ?
You women aren't asking men for marriage tho.
Jack Frost really? Women in India have stopped proposing ? Or have they gotten more judicious and when and whom to marry ?