Improve extraverted Sensing: A Hilariously Simple Technique
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- Опубліковано 29 вер 2024
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If you’re new to Geek Psychology, my name is Matt Sherman. People call me Sherman. I'm a personality type expert, life coach, hypnotist, author, podcaster, and course creator. I help mainly INFPs embrace their unique strengths and navigate life's challenges. Through practical strategies and deep insights, I aim to help people like you live a more fulfilling and authentic live where you can wake up and feel good about who you are and your impact on the world. This technique to improve extraverted Sensing (Se) is so simple, and yet many of us struggle with it. As an INFP, it's way down on my list of priorities and skills - in fact, it's a weakness for me. But improving awareness of extraverted Sensing is very beneficial for everyone.
As I say in the video, it's more about awareness than "improving" and actual skill.
I know it's an easy tip, but really give it a try.
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For an INFJ with the extroverted sensing last, this is a plot of a horror movie.
literally
I literally am sitting in a train and decided to look up at the interior of the train and saw it and the windows surrounding it all at the same time, and smelt the post rain weather out the opened windows and felt the wind and wondered wow, is this extraverted sensing? Its kinda nice not being in my head all the time
@Xan Hinojosa i can't even name the shops i pass on my 30 minute journey to work
At least it’s your inferior, and for me as ENTP that has Se Demon? 🤣
Is this why sometimes I look at things like the sunset and I feel teary-eyed? Like wth this beautiful thing EXISTS? I'm floored.
Meanwhile, extroverted sensors are simply eating an apple.
lmaoo im eating a apple
😂😂😂😂
Curry. I am eating curry and it's fucking amazing! - ESTP
Oh, hello Zoro there~
It sounds easier than it is for me as an INFJ. I can already see myself trying to do the apple exercise and start a new thinking train about the analogy of the apple and the meaning of life
So, found this six years later. You describe using an experiencing Se in a very Si way, like going down a checklist for the senses. Even the idea of going outside and just focusing on one thing for a while struck me as using Se to help Si by categorizing all the things you see and feel.
irrelevant but, i guessed in the first 3 seconds that you were an INFP, you guys have such a characteristic facial expression lmao!
Thank you kindly ✍️
Is practicing Se possible for ones who don't have it like ISTJs?
Absolutely! This person is an INFP and doesn’t have Se either, so yes definitely
I have a crush on you! Iam always attracted to fellow INFPs as they're the only ones i could relate to with girls me adoring them and boys crushing on! We are the best people but people can't watch it unless they become too close to us. The best is hidden inside us like a secret! Lots of love for the work(sry passion) u're doing!
idk if u rly are an INFP then. Usually the same type should trigger u a bit
@@kadsenvieh our introverted feeling is so self centered that we enjoy other people with fi as a dominant. I'm an infp and sometimes I can't control myself with fi users.
he is an attractive infp 😍 -another infp :>>
I don't know I am cringing by just thinking about it 🥲
Funny - Note that to demonstrate SE you decided to use an object (apple) that wasn't actually there, even though many objects were available, and you could have easily obtained a real apple for the video. It is literally easier to work with an abstraction than a material object.
lol. Ya got me.
And I thought I was stimulating my Se while imagining it with him loll 😂😂😂
LMAOO
@@GeekPsychologythat Se still need work 😉 As an INFP/A I need to as well bc now that I'm 50 I'm becoming absorbed in my function stack, mostly working at Te while the others flow more easily, I'm getting way too comfortable not using my others functions and it's causing what feels like laziness.. maybe when I'm older it'll be okay but right now I feel like way too early and I'll be in a cocoon within like 10 years 😭 I wanna be a butterfly lol 🦋😅
Lollzz! The struggle is real 💛💛💛💛 What happens inside our heads is where reality does seem to exist .... 💛💛💛🍎
Nice to know I can this easily, start walking around without hitting walls and breaking stuff. Who knew food tastes so good. Weird...
It’s the little things in life, isn’t it? lol
As an INFJ who breaks stuff and once broke an unbreakable stapler I feel your pain. ❤
Yes I always end up falling from stairs, hitting my head on the wall, getting bruises and also getting lost.
Growing up as Infp when I was a child, my teachers would mock me for not having common sense. They would tell my parents things as if I'm weird, like why is your child like this? Can't take and do simple instructions properly, it's like I have my own world during class, it's like I'm lost when they try to speak to me. I thought there was something wrong with me. I went through highschool thinking I'm weird, people will not like me for who I am. I became ashamed of myself. I wanna make friends but I simply just can't. Something repressed me. Then i found out this 16 personality. I am apparently an INFP. I might have weak sensors, but that what makes me who I am. I became so usd to having no friends to the point that it doesn't hurt anymore. I decided to move to a university after junior high, thinking I could escape and start anew, with a mindset of just letting things be. I was surprised that there were a lot of people who can think and act like me, and people who can accept me for who I am. For once I became open to people.
happy for you honey stay strong
INFJ here. I do find INFP's pretty "weird" because of their dominant Fi, like they're not aware of the Tribe's vibe (of course this is from my Fe view) However, if you INFP's don't mind the "weird" and embrace it, it becomes a special thing about you and not a flaw or weakness. I think many view INFP's as charming and adorable.
People wants to not hurt by anyone yeah believe me infp's are very well in this. @@LittleMew133
Practicing mindfulness has greatly helped me as an INFP. I once rushed through mundane tasks and taking the time to actively notice my actions, the sounds, texture, etc has brought me peace.
Yes! Me too. It’s so out of my normal approach to life.
I started doing some 4 steps daily in order to improve my Se, and one of them is to take time with yourself, to pay attention to what's going on with yourself without putting any thought into it, basically just observing without thinking (the instructions said that it should be done multiple times a day - 10/15 min). The first time I tried to do this, I couldn't even make it 2 min. It was soooo difficult to just observe the outside world or myself without having any thought process behind it. One day I managed to do it for 30 min and I was so shocked, never in my life have I gone that long without any kind of background thinking.
How do you go that long without thinking. I've gotten to a few minutes of little to no thought, how'd you get to 30?
@@gloriouslyaesthetic practise, also you don't have to just sit still, you can do other things, inside or outside of the house.
Me, an INTP: What kind of apple should I imagine? Is one apple variety more useful to imagine than another? Would the tartness and bitterness of a Granny Smith be more helpful to picture than the sweetness of a Fuji? If my mouth starts watering, does that mean it's working, or am I engaging some other function? What am I even doing?
I'd like to know too. xD
Lmao thats your Ti speaking
This is so relatable 🤣🤣🤣-INTP
Me in an ENTP shell
Iv been doing this thing when I’m having an anxiety attack is start looking around the room and focusing on different object and almost immediately I get leveled back out. I Believe dialectical behavior therapy and cognitive behavior therapy help me a Tone!
Good idea! Get out of the future (anxiety) and back into the now.
I took a class on CBT but don't remember much...
Se is not Intuitive fellas things.. same with me as INFJ Laura...
INFJ here.. I don't think this is easy... I am brutally struggling with both Se and Si.. while people around me think I am aloof.. glad that atleast I know the difference before actually thinking being an outcast..
This is a great video, great advice. I’m developing this right now bc it’s become a problem for me in life. I started to realize on my own I have trouble connecting with and seeing clearly the external world and eventually I got myself into some toxic situations bc of this. And it at times has led to a lot of anxiety. Sooooo, that said, I’m going to focus heavily on developing my SE and experience how that gives me more balance and sense of control / ease in new environments and depth and perspective in life. I’m grateful to just have finally figured out he missing link, and it’s going to be a great journey now that I have a focus to solve it.
Anyway thank you for this! It’ll be powerful :) I’m INFJ!! 😁
hey lauren, i am having the same issue, all up in my head too much and not really noticing existence, when i think some more, i feel its quite selfish/individualistic, and practicing this would help straighten out some odd relationships with family/friends simply because im more in touch with my environment/tasks, i think in the modern world being too INFP is not really conducive to a healthy life lol but there is a time for imagination/intellectual/spiritual engagement. Your comment was 9 months ago, hows it going putting SE into practice more?
Today I'm eating a piece of cake this way and I realize how much I have been missing out in life.
INFJ
I feel like without developed Se you can't really enjoy your life...My Fi and Ne are keeping me stuck in my head and no matter how much I prefer to stay in this state it doesn't really bring me anything good including enjoyment, instead just keeps me disconnected and isolated from the world around me. And it takes a great effort to get out of my head without using alcohol to slow down my thinking process....Kind of envy xSFP and xSTP types
Fe is keeping you in your head? Try having Ti! XD
@@Ignasimp I meant to say Fi but I accidently wrote Fe....
Ti function is a blessing and a curse lol
@Bonnie Steel Not really...if I try to be more present or force myself to enjoy something it has reverse effect so maybe just to forget about it
@@ivanab6858 that makes more sense XD.
@@ivanab6858 yes, in my case trying to be more present makes me overthink everything.
Yea I’ve been really trying to apply extroverted sensing more, being my inferior function. I used to eat meals at full speed, only taking in what the food will do nutrients wise or to suppress a craving. Now I am learning to slow down and utilize something I’ve left undeveloped
Passive Se like raw feeling the moment I can do in a stop and go pattern (I can't keep it up long term continuously), but assertive Se is rare and hard to do. For instance, I can do sports, but I'm too laid back physically to get competitive. As a kid I could role play a chase scene and I might outrun a friend, but that's about it.
Same! I can do little bursts of Se, like paying attention to detail for a minute or too but my mind gets way too busy after that
As an ENTJ this sounds useless n boring af😂 BUT I suppose I do this in my garden. It's super easy to get lost in my plants. Like time stops and I connect to the earth. That's about it.
You made me realize that as long as I can remember I have a ritual when eating to always have something playing either a movie or series, and if it was a short UA-cam video for example and it ends while I’m eating, I stop eating until I find something else to watch.
@Diana same ritual, the only difference is that instead of watching movies and series I watch courses and lectures 🤓
literally same
I’m in an INFP. When you were describing how to eat and look at the apple, I started salivating and literally tasted apple in my mouth!
As a intp , oh boy does Se cuz me trouble. Ppl would ask me while eating if I even know what I’m eating.. lol they would tell me I look like I’m chewing wood .. but the biggest issue is litterly forgetting to stop and breathe , oh yes so simple but something I forget.. I get zoned into stuff and forget to eat and breathe
lol. My ENFJ wife lives to eat but I’m definitely an eat to live type.
INFJ here trying to develop my Se (8th function). Fuck the-rarest-type I just need to be able to survive. I like ISFP, maybe I can become one.
For an INFJ, it’s your fourth function but it’s your inferior in your main four stack ..just remember not to primarily focus on developing your inferior...work on your auxiliary function and even a bit of your tertiary function because that will help you balance out the lower functions. Your inferior is there to knock you back into balance so developing it will only knock you off even more. Best to just be aware, tune into it at times and develop your aux, things will soon look up. Good luck friend! -ENFP💛
@@jjjazzy5026 Thank you ❤️
@@jjjazzy5026
Been isolated from reality for the 5th day to thinking about my mental health.
I think I just got 1 step out of Ni-Ti loop and Se grip. I didn't even know that I have been in it for that long until a friend said that I looked like a sensor.
Now thinking back everything was so mind-blowing. I suffered in depression for years and unconsciously over-used my Se (like a defense mechanism) and I even thought that it was the right thing to do. It actually just killed me slowly and softly.
But I think it's going to be better now cuz at least I know what I am going through.
My blindspot: the actual physical world
*cries in infp*
😂😊
I've been using my own experiences to see how MBTI lines up with regards to others' perspectives and observations and I've found something interesting for myself!
N types (I'm ENFP btw) tend to always find meaning in things and an experienced N type (meaning an Nx dom) is more likely to jump ahead on the gun as iNstinctive (another way I try to study MBTI is using similar words in place of the typical naming conventions, it's pretty nifty) actions provided it lines up with their own beliefs (Fx) and understanding (Tx).
S TYPES, however!! They rely more on sensory information obviously and since this is the case, by however way it works specifically for the person, Sx doms or secondaries tend to have REALLY GOOD memory, more often than not than Nx doms and secondaries due to their reliance more on their established and learnt knowledge rather than observed and absorbed information.
With that outta the way, to really train your Sx function might also really need you to be able to supplement or consciously train your sensory, observational and memory retaining cognitive capabilities, otherwise no matter how hard you try training it little by little every day like I've tried, it doesn't get that much better. Sucks for me with ADHD and not a single dose of any stimulant meds, just been sticking with coffee till I can get my hands on some meds.
tl;dr, across my own observations in the 3 rollercoaster years of my studying MBTI, training S function requires the prerequisite of a good memory or similar method. (If you've never had a capacity for decent memory take note that any mental and psychological damage you take will very well deal damage to any LEARNED skill you have... take care med users)
Are people with poor Se doomed to have poor hand eye coordination, motor skills and spatial awareness? If yes Any particular advice?
Proceed with caution, just in general. Look both ways one extra time than the average person. Look around and scan your surroundings often. Don’t travel alone if you’re a woman or minority, try to have a trusted person to be a second pair of eyes.
If Se is your seventh function than you must INTP or INFP, same as me, i'm an INFP and I like sports but I really struggle with loosing things I just had like Gloves, bills and especially headphones
Yup. I’m INFP.
lol yeah. I used to lose stuff ALL THE TIME. I lost my wallets and keys many times in the past. Not fun.
@@GeekPsychology I have the same problem even worse when I was at work I used to lose bills and had to change it
Yeah. The tangible world isn’t really on the radar.
Still my favorite INFP, together with my best friend of course! Join our swedish NF-club bro, haha!!
When I was younger as an INFP, people used to ask me what flavor something was that I had just eaten, and I was like "I don't know, I didn't really notice," and they would laugh or give me this weird look. I really do enjoy the flavors of many foods, but I would space and not focus on what I was doing. Mindfulness has helped me, and I am still working on slowing down and taking in what's around me so I don't spill or bump into things.
"the apple meditation" reminded me of the "raisin meditation" that is used in mbsr/mbct courses, as an infp9 meditation and practicing mindfulness, which is practically a sensing exercise has totally changed my life in so many ways for the better.
What is "raisin meditation"?
Wait I thought apples just taste red!!! You just taught this INFP a jedi mind trick lol. Thanks for the amazing content like always.
Just subscribed to your channel, your videos are so interesting and handy 😊Keep going!!!
I really want to dominate Se because if I took my Ni quick mind to plan and connect nodes and I could improvise the same way I think quickly in the present, I would felt indestructible. Instead of this my inferior Se makes me the awkward idiot bumping into a lamppost on the street and forgets the keys somewhere stupid
It's so funny, but based on what you're saying, i am better at this function than si. Hmmm... wonder why that is... i love watching the sun rise, and spending time outside enjoying nature
Are you actually engaged in the sensory world or bouncing around in idea space?
@@GeekPsychology would you please be a bit more detailed in your question. What do you mean by idea space?
I wish it was 7th for me. Meanwhile, the ENFP...
Si: Mmm... this is nice. This is like that time when I used to eat apples. Why did I stop eating apples? (Because we have a terrible fructose intolerance)
Fi: but yes, we should eat apples or some sort of fruit more. They are obviously good for you and will keep the doctor away.
Ne: oh yes, that’s probably why we’ve been to the doctor so much lately. I wonder what else apples can keep away. I’ve been getting some wasps outside my window. Can they deter wasps too? Who would have to eat the apple to keep the wasp away? Is it my house? Is it enough to just keep apples in the house? I wonder if there’s been research on this natural pesticide. I can’t believe no one has thought of this.
*spends hours googling random shit*
46 hours later
Si: oh, I think I feel stressed. What year is it? What happened to that apple? Oh, it was supposed to help me stay present. It didn’t work. Just like all those other things I’ve tried before.
*rinse and repeat for an authentic ENFP experience*
Why doesn't this have more likes!!
Don't everybody smell their food and eat it while understanding it's unique texture? Like what?
You are speaking of mindfulness, there is a practice called 5,4,3,2,1 to do this intentionally.
ENFP: what does the Apple represent?
Coming to the topic, Se is the most problem causing function for me. It makes me depress that y iam born like this.
This external sensing mindfulness exercise is great!
Considering that I conveniently was eating an apple while watching this video =P
Play this video at 0.75X speed and you have got yourself a mindfulness guided excersise.
Se is your trickster. That mine too and reaaly struggle with it. Thx for making this video
Infp here and I learned about this because of my anxiety. And back then I didn't know that I had improved my perception. In a way my anxiety was a blessing because I had to learn new things like the one explained in this video. Thanks
"Go out to a park and stare at one area for five minutes"
Omg I'm so excited to soon be cured!!
It’s training! Improving sensory acuity is such a great skill to have. The amount of times I’ve been able to help clients because I notice a facial expression or eye-accessing cues (signs of trance and internal focus) has greatly improved since improving my Se.
Another technique is to get stoned.....
As an INTP how can I make for a lack of Se?
I'm a field hockey player and I'm really bad at analising the field. I want to get better but I really don't know how. I try watching matched but I get bored so easily, and I start thinking about complitelly unrelated stuff.
As a kid when I played my mind was always somewhere else. It was so frustrating for my dad that saw me in the field with my mind somewhere else.
I got better with time, but I still struggle with it. For an INTP seeing paterns is usually very easy, but finding patterns of fest visual stimuli is really hard to me. Any idea on how would I get better?
Wow that question made me swallow hard. I dont really understand hockey, but........
I'm an ISTP, patterns in physical world is my thing, but before I said something, I would recommend you analyze the importance of SOCIAL pressure on your ability. This could be repressing the Se to came out. Think of Se as a wild animal. If you repress it too much, it dies. A Tiger when hunting, is about methods and analysis of the field (that is a pretty nice way for you to start study, if brings you joy), but a tiger also know the right time to stop thinking and act upon that analyzes. If it's repressed, I'm pretty sure that tiger will starve to death.
From my perspective Se works a LOT better when we stop care for what's right or wrong (controlling Ti) and just let the possibilities (Ne)... play out. But that's an ISTP talking, I'm blind Ne, and you have it too much. That may be the problem. Like everything, too much can be... too much. And as Ti is always cutting things out, Ti too uncontrolled can be an Se killer too = your brain flying away.
In general, I'm good in analyse "phisical" stuff becouse I develop METHODS to do it. Think of Se analytical like a machine working, and try to apply this in the small things you do in life. Like the apple, but with procedures. If you're going to... wash the dishes, for exemple, separate the different process: cups, pans, glasses, etc. Then, analyse what kind of movement works better for each kind of process. What kind of groups works better together (if you put a spoon with another soaked spoon, it will "glued" and thereof will be hard to wash it out; so you put a spoon, and a fork, a spoon, and a fork... this can make it easy for the wather to get in and clean it faster). Study what works better, in this kind of day by day work. It's a mental process, really, but applied to the moment, and how you can do it quickly and effective. You have this kind of function too, Si working with Ti can be pretty like that.
But you will probably have to control your Ne. Too much possibilities will kill the mood for Se real fast. If you have too much options, then... what could play out? (Your brain flying away again). Se with Ti it's kind the opposite. I tend to focus so hard in what I want do see, that I miss out all the other stuff, but my analises it's almost always accurate. "Focus": easy to say, hard to do, I know. But try by steps. Do it with the boring stuff, like I said, train your brain to be in the moment when you're doing something. Then it's going to be more easy to apply in hockey. You can start, in that world, paying attention to one aspect of the game, controlling your brain to narrow it. Then you will be able to fully understand what is happening and see the patterns otherwise you won't. And for watching the matches, do it in the real world too, not in a TV. TV is boring, and theoretical (witch you brain feels comfortable to... be MORE theoretical). It's easy to lose focus. In a real game, that won't be so easy. Being TOO present, forced by the moment to be present, will help your brain to stay focus.
If you can get through all this texts and my bad english... Hope that helps! :)
@@amandatavares4741 thanks for this.
this is basically what meditation is
Mindfulness right?!
Sounds like weed, which really helps
As an INFP this is a tough one. I tend to live too far in the future and in my head. Thanks for the reminder to stop and smell the roses.lol. I have been wanting to buy a book on mindfulness, but really should just eat my apples better. Ever tried Pink Lady apples? That's some good stuff. Also, never eat apples in the dark. I have been waiting a long time for the right moment to share that wisdom.Lol
lol.
Apples: The cure to all INFP problems.
I dunno Pink Lady apples... nor can I think of the exact reason why not to eat apples in the dark. Though I can think of a dozen bizarre reasons. Maybe it's the finger biting...
Geek Psychology Lol. I work outside on a midnight shift so I’m always in the dark. On three occasions I have bitten into a perfectly good looking apple and the center was rotten. Now I use my flashlight. It takes about a day to get over the experience.
This video is very quiet
This is so kinky omg
Do you think that mindfulness techniques are a good way to improve SE in an INTJ? Do you have others tips?
I think the method above will only works for Ne users (ENxPs and INxPs), but it doesn't hurt to try, have you tried it?
that zoro figure in the background ,a fellow one piece fan I see.
Definitely
Thanks. Whats come to mind for me is reaching into the fridge and touching something cold. Thats bound to wake me up. Thanks for the idea on personifying challenging ekements of the mind. I have a writer mind and i write lengthy things all the time and my boo and my bestie quite dislike it. Very much. Tbf i can get quite verbose and philosophical or my talk can be anxiety-inducing. Im trying to picture that part of me and personify it so i can apply boundaries to it and re-direct it when it shows up. Im an infj
I believe that technique is called mindfulness. And when eating, it helps the digestion.
Hungry for apples? Isn't that just a rip off of got milk?
Tactile Mindfulness 🫴🍎& Conscious Mindfulness 💆
"Hungry for apples" - I see what you did there, Jerry.
Thanks Matt! I enjoyed your insights and all the comments on this video.
I don't think this is hard to do, even being an Infp.
That's Mindfulness
Hungry for apples?!?!
You're so infp ❤
allergic to apples....
How about sex? Talking about sensations only...
It must be with the right person though or it does not work.
Of course. But I’m not gonna demo that or explain it much on a video. lol
@@GeekPsychology Okay I won"t ask you why not 🙃
It sure beats eating an apple though lol
😄🤗❤️💪👍🔥🔥
Sound on this video was SO low??? Usually have my TV at 12 on volume, had to put it up to 55
Yeah sorry. I used to
have issues with maintaining simple procedures (INFP struggles :/ ) all seems to be better now.
Hopefully the information is helpful.
@@GeekPsychology nw❤✌🏻 (infj here), loved the video!!!! Kinda mind blowing,