Dear Mufti when I got married me and my husband had nothing, and I really do mean nothing. We lived above a Chinese takeaway in one room. I knew our situation wouldn't remain static though because we were both highly responsible and had a shared vision and goal to better ourselves. We have been married 11 years and within the time managed to buy a house, further our careers and have been blessed with a daughter and son. I can't say it's been easy and at times it still isn't but we as a couple are strong and remain committed to each other and our children. Always remember Allah helps those who help themselves and others. God bless x
This is beautiful Mash’allah. May Allah continue to strengthen you and your family and grant ease during hard times and increase the gratitude during good times! Aameen!
Your husband is the luckiest man in the world to experience loyalty , sincerity and sacrifice from another soul. Sharing and feeling same experiences while solving them together to find peace is what marriage is all about. And what Allah wants...
I am Umer and I am about to get married in 6 months currently I am in my final year of university still haven’t found a job. This thought really haunts of not being able to provide my wife as I would soon be getting married, but at the same time it gives a lots of hope that surely there’s going to be struggle and sacrifices but it’s surely going to be worth it. Seeing people like you just boosts my confidence.
I'm sorry to read that. I'm sure there's someone better out there for you. I used to like someone but sadly I feel due to us being from different ethnicities and culture our parents wouldn't be happy. She got married to someone in her family who had come from her country and changed in a way which i wouldn't say is good.
Unfortunately people don't see iman and character of a person today. What everyone want are looks and money not only in marriage but all worldly matters.. This is unfortunately the world we live in..
I needed to hear this, I'm looking for a spouse, I have very little to offer material wise, I don't even have enough mehr, in sha allah I trust in Allah swt
Yes you shouldn't expect someone in their 20s to be wealthy. Money is not everything, definitely not more than your spouse who you love. But to get married you need to have at least some sort of salary, a ridiculous amount isn't a necessity but the salary should be enough for both spouses for at least necessities. There should also be a place to live and that doesn't include parents/in laws house. Living with them causing problems in a marriage and is unhealthy for the relationship. Even if the man provides a rented home with a 1 room flat with bathroom and kitchen it's fine for the start. Then insha Allah as the couple prosper and Allah blesses them with rizq they can get a better home if they wish according to their means. It is beautiful to both get married having not much and growing together to the top. But we need to be realistic having 0 and getting married can cause problems in the marriage, it's unfair on the spouse as their rights would not be fulfilled, (which is an important aspect of a successful marriage) and the problems it would entail would have negative impact on the spouses mental and emotional wellbeing and could strain their marriage. Which of course isn't good.
This my point. When you get married you get rizq automatically. Don't just look for a guy or girl who has wealth or settled. Life always starts scratch.
I married someone with nothing. We worked very hard. Many sacrifices made. He became wealthy. Then he left me after taking back what was given as a gift. He believed he deserved better.
Remember there is always someone worse off than you. Those who are patient will have a reward without limit. The days that are the heaviest are also the days that are the heaviest on the scale in reward. I can understand your pain as I have went through something similar. I know its easier said that done but all I can say is that if you remain grateful for what you have and remain patient... when the time comes, you will be the one smiling and laughing as you show your book of deeds to everyone around on the day of judgement. You'll be proudly showing that book which Allah has made clean of all sins (by forgiving due to your patience) and multiplied all your rewards based on the best of your deeds. May Allah Bless you as well us all. Ameen
sister, this is not your fault. if he believed he deserved better, then Allah sent him away from you because Allah knows you deserve better than /that/. you did your best and none of it went unseen by the Almighty. know that He always has something better in store for you, and if it doesn't happen in this dunya, then for sure the rewards will come in aakhira ♡
So true. Those who are having deep Faith in Islam and having fearness in ALLAH SWT n those who wanted to follow the Sunnah never demanding anything from their spouses. Only thing is we have to search for good n faithful one. It's the duty of caring parents. MAY ALLAH SWT guide every parent. Aameen Aameen ya Rabbil Alameen.
I really wish I had gotten married before building my wealth. Once you make good money, you have to also look out for the women who only want to marry you for the money or lifestyle
Trust me there are woman who genuinely love their man more than money. If I had to choose between luxury, best food, but no time with husband. Or a small home, little food and time with my husband I would choose the latter. I love my husband way too much to choose money over him. You could offer me the highest amount of money I would never choose it over my husband. I Would never do it. I would suggest to you to just state to your potential that you can give her the basics such as a small home, and necessities if she truly is interested in you she will be fine with it if not then you know to look elsewhere.
@@fatimab5145 I pray for you sister that if you wish to get married, Allah blesses you with a man who loves you, respects, cares and values you and understands his responsibilities and what it means to be a husband. Ameen.
That's true married with out wealth, it's good for everyone because Allaah gives you more riziq. Some people don't do that. a few people do that masha'allaah mufti and this women❤👏.
The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said: "Whoever constantly seeks forgiveness (from Allāh) (saying "astaghfirullāh | أستغفر اللّٰه"), Allāh will appoint for him a way out of every distress and a relief from every anxiety, and will provide sustenance for him from from sources he does not expect." [Abū Dawūd] Make it a constant habit to say Astaghfirullāh | أستغفر اللّٰه (I seek forgiveness from Allāh) with a sincere heart and you'll see the blessings and positive effects of that habit in your daily life. We have witnessed people being relieved from the darkest and most difficult of situations through this habit, others who were blessed with unimaginable wealth and blessings through this habit, and others whose hearts found contentment and true happiness through this habit. May Allāh 'Azza Wa Jall make us of those who continuously seek His forgiveness and accept from us - āmeen God bless you 🇲🇺
A reasonable woman will not expect you to own a home but the least is that you can rent one even if it's a one room flat for the start and you can save up an get your own home one day. But you need to have a place to live to get married theres nothing wrong with having a rented place.
ALLAH PURSUED ME OVER THE YEAR UNTIL I SURRENDER AND THEN THE ANONINTING CAME I LIVED BAD TIME YEARS GO BUT NOW IM LIVING WITH THE LIGHT AND LOVE OF ALLAH ALMIGHTY IN MY HEART WE MUST LET ALLAH GLORY HAVE HIS WAY IN OUR LIVES PRAYER FOR THOSE WHO STILL REMAIN IN DARKNESS ALLAH BLESS ❤ MAY ALLAH GUIDE AND PROCTECT U ALL
I come from a Culture in which no matter how good your Akhlaq is, no Matter how good the Deen is, wealth is the only parameter to judge a male. Just bcz I earn less no father is ready to give daughter, neither daughters get interested, even though I am educationally qualified, belong to a Good Decent Family. EVERY ONE AROUND ME WANTS JEFF BEZOS. PS : I have Done My Hajj, never been in any Haram Relationships, even then going through this test and trial
Dear beloved Mufti everything you say is true, but when it comes to reality, the people now a days asks for all of those things and even much more. May grant me and all singles a Muslim spouse who would perceive and be patience in hard times
My parents were like this! My father met my mother one summer after her divorce from my brother's father. He saw my mother walking for three days in a row before he got the nerve to get my aunt to make an introduction. He got her number and they were together ever since. Married for 8 years before she passed from lupus in '97. But the were each coming from a divorce and had basically nothing and had to rebuild. They got married. Had my sister and I practically back to back. And then made a huge move to Arizona. Before long the house and cars came and we never wanted for anything. I remember the pool,lemon trees, and playground set up in our back yard. My parents truly loved one another deeply.
Yes, this is the reason why the seekers are not getting suitable match. The girls want handsome salary, it doesn't matter what else u have. So the chances of separation also increases as ppl see just one aspect which in most cases brings bad character and addictions. Maney is really important just like other things, no dbt abt it. Matching is important. But individual is more important, how good a human he/ she is. Talent, skill, intelligence, Deen, look, family, humbleness, modesty, strength, age, health, love, respect, responsible attitude, all are important. But not one.
Let’s not forget the Arabic 6ft handsome henry cavil looking version too. The money is the most important factor but the looks too with these superficial women.
Not all the fathers, my y father and i did not want money etc,only akhlaaq and deen,turned out he was worthless,did not want to work,or study or anything, and he had a huge ego.
@@fatimab5145 aww sorry to hear that sister. Did you end up marrying that man? That's what I mean I don't believe that wealth is everything but we must have enough for the necessities to get married and then we can work our way up.
@@iramahmed2155 i still think money is not everything or the most important thing,akhlaaq and deen are far more important and of course as a men you have to be responsible for your family
@@fatimab5145 sister I'm so sorry about that. It's sad how such men have such huge egos not realising that they have a woman who is willing to live with them even if they provide the basics yet when they can't even do that they have the ego when in fact the woman should be as she is tolerating it all. They should be thankful that the found such a woman as nowadays many women run after wealth rather than the man and his character.
What is even more important than wealth itself is being with someone you see building a future with, even if you're building that future from scratch Wealth is temporary, a person's character is not
Woman want a man with car, house. But brings nothing to the table apart from tea, milk and Salt 😂 Too many woman out there thinking they deserve something without even realizing no men would ever want you. Your prettiness last no longer than a canned pickle. Any successful men (you desire or think you deserve) would know to look for quality in woman other than her looks
Assalamualaikum Alhamdhulillah at marriage time we are together with hope in Allah that he will provide rizq Alhamdhulillah now our life far better than before 2 years. Our life is progressing fastly which we ever imagined. Always I'm thankful to Allah for these blessings
It's easier said than done.. even if the girl is satisfied with what you own, you then get to the parents who expect you to have so much. I don't own a house nor a car, and given my situation I can't afford getting one may Allah make it easy for us. And I often wonder if that girl I love would straight forward deny me if I suggested for us to marry - I don't even dare asking, I just bite the dust and patiently wait. Hopeful though, Allah is the greatest.
I am a recent revert and my family is not supportive. I want to marry but my parents say that i am too young (im about to be 22) and they like him for me but they dont like our financial situation. Please make dua for me. I dont want to fall into temptation
reading these comments make me so sad, how we all are going through some sort of financial struggle.. may Allah make it all easy for us. I do believe work hard in this day of age you need to but don’t obsess over money and what comes, the most you have alhamdulilah and the little you have alhamdulilah, as time goes you get what is meant for you, losing hope is never the answer, make dua yes rely on allah on yes but work hard and it’ll come. everyone reading this keep me in your duas that allah increases my Rizq. And I am free financial struggle and can live comfortably. Inshallah. Ameen. and as for you I pray you are blessed with lots of baraqah goodness and blessings and most importantly blessings in your wealth
بہترین لوگ بہترین نیت رکھتے ہیں جسکی وجہ سے اللّٰہ تعالٰی انکے سارے کام سنوار دیتے ہیں اور جسکے کام رب سنوارتا ہے اسکے کام کوئی بندہ نہیں بگاڑ سکتا............ __________________
I'll be honest I'd want from a girl someone who works and is bring in income along with myself. Living in western countries like the UK it isn't easy getting a property on your own. I do aim however to have a house as a investment and nice car for myself before marriage as I feel after marriage I might not have the money for it. Main thing though is a good stable job which again ain't easy during this hard time with covid
We shouldn’t worry about the worldly life to much plus I believe being blessed with a righteous spouse is such a treasure but the challenge is are we the best to our own selves first. We plan but Allah is the best of planer. May Allah bless all our brothers and sisters in Islam with beautiful,kind,loving, respectful spouses Ameen
Bismillah We should accept anyone who was destinied to be our spouse that has been written in Lauh Mahfudz... The important thing is deen and akhlak (1), responsible to us (0), we like him/her a lot (love for the sake of Allah)(0)
I met a woman who was religious but materialistic. I knew I won’t be able to satisfy her wishes because I know my capabilities. Had to end it to set her free to search for a rich guy. Will I be rewarded?
Yes that's true married with Northington is better than sitting without marry n god will always bring good things because u waited Allah may Allah always bless us for what we have from him
Probably the best hadith you’ll ever hear 🤯 Aws bin Aws narrated: Allah's Messenger said to me: "Whoever performs Ghusl on Friday, and bathes completely, and goes early, arriving early, gets close and listens and is silent, there will be for him in every step he take the reward of a year of fasting and standing (in prayer). At-Tirmidhi (496) Sahih hadith
Salaams excellent topic be down to earth with wealth in your heart not wallet and enjoy with spouse today if no bank balance, car and fancy cell phone woman don't fancy you to marry a poor person you live a better life
I worked since age 16 had no savning as it would go to my mother and bought my husband from pakistan To the uk (mums decision).. .. all he ever said if u dont have a bed then sleep on the floor ur mum gave u nothing ...and till this day he gave me nothing and taking as much as he can... living of benifits with 2 kids he only thinks hes entitled to everything ... every eid i get no suit or kids but money is sent to brothers and sisters in pakistan ... the resion is always you were given to me empty beggers cnt b choosers ...worst of all hes a couzin.... i belive never start from zero other wise ul be begged for food even
You r right ..but I was rejected from anyone.. because I have no wealthy status.everyone want money and wealthy status ,no matter they haven't good manners and din😢
Mufti Menk is somewhat on the right track here. Houses truth be told are not meant to be owned as they become giant liabilities under the pretense of it being an inflationary hedge. The deeper problem is that 90% of the planet are barrelled into higher education and onwards to jobs placing them in earned income and the highest taxable position meaning whatever they get net, net gets dissolved in liabilities like houses, cars leaving them in a completely marginalised position and this is what brings the pressure on families. Always remember, your life is on lease, structure everything you know around that. All the best.
Key words here are make sure he has iman and ihlaaq. Ensure he does it’s hard to tell when you are young parents should be very active and careful. Don’t marry a lost hope loser because he convinces you he will be able to build a life. Money is import and should be looked at. When u are young you hear what you want to hear. Suitable men and women MUST have fear of Allah and awareness of Allah and this must be tried and tested by the girls family. Also check has he been active or passive is he actually trying or using you to build a better life. With women working more and more a lot of men are using women for their money too
Hmm its ❤broken & 😢 sad &anxiety your a good brother but not good for my daughter😢. but god knows turn me away today but mabe tom i might find my resting❤
A girl from Dubai fell for my younger son. When he put b4 her his (fairly decent) income she took a U-turn! Cuz she's into fashion shows & modelling & shops without checking the price tags. Alhamdulillah good riddance!!
My name Is Solomon I am not married I currently have a daughter and I’ve have been ready to get married with my spouse Micah for 3yrs now we never had the money to get married and I always wanted to do it the right way, I was actually thinking of just proposing without a ring until I get the money so that I wouldn’t sin under gods name any longer and rightfully respect him and my wife.i cherish my family but I want to do things the right way the way our ancestors did marriage not based off social media standards.also I live in the united states Any tips or thoughts would be very helpful
I was just thinking about this as I've heard that people are married to others of they're financial status, and my thought was what I some one loves some one whom has Money, and or financial status and are they forbidden to Marry ? Now I ran across this at that exact time. Let's See what you say on this subject.
These days Height 6 foot tall minimum Bank balance 6 figures At least 2 degrees in qualification min Not a house but a huge house with 2 cars not normal but luxury cars Then also have status. asthgfirullah most people i ask when they're looking for a husband it's like they're making them from a factory production.
There this guy i met who is very religious and prays and knows alot about islam and i see him as a perfect future husband and i think he would be a pefect father figure he respect me very much he is always respectful and sweet and he has an amazing character and i do wanna meet him he live in a different country he can’t visit my country which is an issue and my parents are kinda very strict with me i wanna to get engaged to him and marry him but idk how to tell my parents i know they would never let me move abroad and get engaged to him and the fact that he is not well off either would be big no to them i truly do not care about the material stuff i really want a religious man so badly in my city there barely in religious man and i want a man to push me to my deen and i want to practice with him our deen i see him as a perfect husband and i truly want him so what should i do? I do want us to work on the money thing together i dont mind but i know my parents would be extremely against it
Well that answered my question Alhamdulillah, a lot of people who are Marrying now are only Marrying for money and or wealth and there's no love. There are those whom society Call POWER Couples and there's no love to be found, and they're just good at obtaining wealth. I imagine this is why some people say Money doesn't buy you happiness. Money doesn't buy true love, friend ship or Loyalty and It is a thing that you can be happy with out wealth or riches and some People even Part ways, and when they be come Rich and or Wealthy and they Plan to do this. I understand where some relationships may not work especially if someone is an opportunist or constantly thinking that you owe them some times. It's best to be content with as Allah states in the Qur'an Qunut Dua in Witr Prayer Allah bless me in what you have given me. Ameen
I want to marry a girl and she has good character and follows Deen. But the girls comes from a poor family background and her brother's went to jail and have some not so good name in the society. But the girls is very innocent and I want to marry her. My family is not agreeing to marry with her because of her family background. What should I do ? Please guide me
Ustad, I've watch many vidoes about marriage by several ustads, but all of them are advice toward young people. What about older single people like in their 40s (and financially not stable yet due to many reasons) ?
99 percent of Pakistani American woman and maybe other Muslims cultures also are looking man with those materialistic qualities and even if someone is very nice he will be rejected if her terms and conditions are not met or he is not well established meaning education house car rich family high income. And the frustration is that every family says they are looking for a good man 🤨
May Allah blesses your days with smiles Insha'allah it will pass, trust Allah may Allah forgive me and you Have hope and don't undermine what you feel - often when we admit that there is a problem it is half the solution I hope for you the best
Many poor people even dont have any manner and conduct, they will ruin you , better you go for who is wealthy and take responsibility, rather than someone who after marriage always keep an eye on the girls things
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This is the miracle of Allah swt, when married with nothing he will give rizq and barakat to the home so you can find what to drink, eat or wear🤍
Sometimes or they go out and beg unfortunately. Unless family members help out
Dear Mufti when I got married me and my husband had nothing, and I really do mean nothing. We lived above a Chinese takeaway in one room. I knew our situation wouldn't remain static though because we were both highly responsible and had a shared vision and goal to better ourselves. We have been married 11 years and within the time managed to buy a house, further our careers and have been blessed with a daughter and son. I can't say it's been easy and at times it still isn't but we as a couple are strong and remain committed to each other and our children. Always remember Allah helps those who help themselves and others. God bless x
This is beautiful Mash’allah. May Allah continue to strengthen you and your family and grant ease during hard times and increase the gratitude during good times! Aameen!
@@tfrancis92md Thank you brother 😊
Your husband is the luckiest man in the world to experience loyalty , sincerity and sacrifice from another soul. Sharing and feeling same experiences while solving them together to find peace is what marriage is all about. And what Allah wants...
@@unknownpage9239 thank you so much. May Allah bless you immensely
I am Umer and I am about to get married in 6 months currently I am in my final year of university still haven’t found a job. This thought really haunts of not being able to provide my wife as I would soon be getting married, but at the same time it gives a lots of hope that surely there’s going to be struggle and sacrifices but it’s surely going to be worth it. Seeing people like you just boosts my confidence.
There should be a balance between spirituality and materialism. Money is an important part of life but money is not life.
Well said
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@@azribob194 ko dah kawen belum bosku? aku rasa aku nak jadi gay la. payah benar nak jumpa pasangan perempuan zaman skg.
My proposal was denied due to these reasons. It's sad times we live in, where ppl who know better, should remember this duniya is temporary.
Stay sabr brother
@@yabadoebadoedo insha'Allah akhi
I'm sorry to read that. I'm sure there's someone better out there for you. I used to like someone but sadly I feel due to us being from different ethnicities and culture our parents wouldn't be happy. She got married to someone in her family who had come from her country and changed in a way which i wouldn't say is good.
@@AlberTesla1024 Any tips to stay single without falling into zina?
Surgical castration (bilateral orchiectomy)@@taimoorzulqarnain1508
Unfortunately people don't see iman and character of a person today. What everyone want are looks and money not only in marriage but all worldly matters.. This is unfortunately the world we live in..
Very true
I needed to hear this, I'm looking for a spouse, I have very little to offer material wise, I don't even have enough mehr, in sha allah I trust in Allah swt
Yes bro❤
Yes you shouldn't expect someone in their 20s to be wealthy. Money is not everything, definitely not more than your spouse who you love. But to get married you need to have at least some sort of salary, a ridiculous amount isn't a necessity but the salary should be enough for both spouses for at least necessities. There should also be a place to live and that doesn't include parents/in laws house. Living with them causing problems in a marriage and is unhealthy for the relationship. Even if the man provides a rented home with a 1 room flat with bathroom and kitchen it's fine for the start. Then insha Allah as the couple prosper and Allah blesses them with rizq they can get a better home if they wish according to their means. It is beautiful to both get married having not much and growing together to the top. But we need to be realistic having 0 and getting married can cause problems in the marriage, it's unfair on the spouse as their rights would not be fulfilled, (which is an important aspect of a successful marriage) and the problems it would entail would have negative impact on the spouses mental and emotional wellbeing and could strain their marriage. Which of course isn't good.
This my point. When you get married you get rizq automatically. Don't just look for a guy or girl who has wealth or settled. Life always starts scratch.
I married someone with nothing.
We worked very hard.
Many sacrifices made.
He became wealthy.
Then he left me after taking back what was given as a gift.
He believed he deserved better.
Dear sister ,just say : hasbia Allah wani3ma al wakiel,and just wait and see,what goes around comes around.
Sister you were made for Jannah ❤️ Allah knows how much you supported that men and the sacrifices you made, it won't go waste in Allah's court.
Remember there is always someone worse off than you. Those who are patient will have a reward without limit. The days that are the heaviest are also the days that are the heaviest on the scale in reward. I can understand your pain as I have went through something similar. I know its easier said that done but all I can say is that if you remain grateful for what you have and remain patient... when the time comes, you will be the one smiling and laughing as you show your book of deeds to everyone around on the day of judgement. You'll be proudly showing that book which Allah has made clean of all sins (by forgiving due to your patience) and multiplied all your rewards based on the best of your deeds. May Allah Bless you as well us all. Ameen
You are still valuable never forget that ♥️
sister, this is not your fault. if he believed he deserved better, then Allah sent him away from you because Allah knows you deserve better than /that/. you did your best and none of it went unseen by the Almighty. know that He always has something better in store for you, and if it doesn't happen in this dunya, then for sure the rewards will come in aakhira ♡
So true. Those who are having deep Faith in Islam and having fearness in ALLAH SWT n those who wanted to follow the Sunnah never demanding anything from their spouses. Only thing is we have to search for good n faithful one. It's the duty of caring parents. MAY ALLAH SWT guide every parent. Aameen Aameen ya Rabbil Alameen.
I really wish I had gotten married before building my wealth. Once you make good money, you have to also look out for the women who only want to marry you for the money or lifestyle
Just don't tell them or show them how much money you have,in that case you don't know if she likes you or your money.
Trust me there are woman who genuinely love their man more than money. If I had to choose between luxury, best food, but no time with husband. Or a small home, little food and time with my husband I would choose the latter. I love my husband way too much to choose money over him. You could offer me the highest amount of money I would never choose it over my husband. I Would never do it. I would suggest to you to just state to your potential that you can give her the basics such as a small home, and necessities if she truly is interested in you she will be fine with it if not then you know to look elsewhere.
I pray Allah blesses you with a wonderful spouse who loves you for you and nothing else.
@@iramahmed2155 Allahouma Amien
@@fatimab5145 I pray for you sister that if you wish to get married, Allah blesses you with a man who loves you, respects, cares and values you and understands his responsibilities and what it means to be a husband. Ameen.
That's true married with out wealth, it's good for everyone because Allaah gives you more riziq. Some people don't do that. a few people do that masha'allaah mufti and this women❤👏.
The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said:
"Whoever constantly seeks forgiveness (from Allāh) (saying "astaghfirullāh | أستغفر اللّٰه"), Allāh will appoint for him a way out of every distress and a relief from every anxiety, and will provide sustenance for him from from sources he does not expect." [Abū Dawūd]
Make it a constant habit to say Astaghfirullāh | أستغفر اللّٰه (I seek forgiveness from Allāh) with a sincere heart and you'll see the blessings and positive effects of that habit in your daily life. We have witnessed people being relieved from the darkest and most difficult of situations through this habit, others who were blessed with unimaginable wealth and blessings through this habit, and others whose hearts found contentment and true happiness through this habit.
May Allāh 'Azza Wa Jall make us of those who continuously seek His forgiveness and accept from us - āmeen
God bless you 🇲🇺
Ya idk how u can expect some 1 to own a house in their 20s these days when houses are going for 500k to 1million plus, it's crazy
A reasonable woman will not expect you to own a home but the least is that you can rent one even if it's a one room flat for the start and you can save up an get your own home one day. But you need to have a place to live to get married theres nothing wrong with having a rented place.
ALLAH PURSUED ME OVER THE YEAR UNTIL I SURRENDER AND THEN THE ANONINTING CAME I LIVED BAD TIME YEARS GO BUT NOW IM LIVING WITH THE LIGHT AND LOVE OF ALLAH ALMIGHTY IN MY HEART WE MUST LET ALLAH GLORY HAVE HIS WAY IN OUR LIVES PRAYER FOR THOSE WHO STILL REMAIN IN DARKNESS ALLAH BLESS ❤ MAY ALLAH GUIDE AND PROCTECT U ALL
Aaameen Yaa Rabbil n happy for u to be a change person may Allah keep u
I come from a Culture in which no matter how good your Akhlaq is, no Matter how good the Deen is, wealth is the only parameter to judge a male. Just bcz I earn less no father is ready to give daughter, neither daughters get interested, even though I am educationally qualified, belong to a Good Decent Family. EVERY ONE AROUND ME WANTS JEFF BEZOS.
PS : I have Done My Hajj, never been in any Haram Relationships, even then going through this test and trial
Rely and have trust in Allah swt my son,and make dou3a.
Like their daughtets a product😂they sell them
Dear beloved Mufti everything you say is true, but when it comes to reality, the people now a days asks for all of those things and even much more. May grant me and all singles a Muslim spouse who would perceive and be patience in hard times
Don't worry. There are also people who do not ask for such things. Be patient, have trust in Allah.
My parents were like this! My father met my mother one summer after her divorce from my brother's father. He saw my mother walking for three days in a row before he got the nerve to get my aunt to make an introduction. He got her number and they were together ever since. Married for 8 years before she passed from lupus in '97. But the were each coming from a divorce and had basically nothing and had to rebuild. They got married. Had my sister and I practically back to back. And then made a huge move to Arizona. Before long the house and cars came and we never wanted for anything. I remember the pool,lemon trees, and playground set up in our back yard. My parents truly loved one another deeply.
Thats beutifal Wanda where your parents muslim .
Yes, this is the reason why the seekers are not getting suitable match. The girls want handsome salary, it doesn't matter what else u have. So the chances of separation also increases as ppl see just one aspect which in most cases brings bad character and addictions.
Maney is really important just like other things, no dbt abt it.
Matching is important.
But individual is more important, how good a human he/ she is.
Talent, skill, intelligence, Deen, look, family, humbleness, modesty, strength, age, health, love, respect, responsible attitude, all are important.
But not one.
Let’s not forget the Arabic 6ft handsome henry cavil looking version too. The money is the most important factor but the looks too with these superficial women.
It's really amazing if our Muslim sisters would appreciate we're pleased to do such an act it's the best way to get Rizq through marriage
It doesn’t matter what the women wants, her father won’t accept someone who is young without money!!! 🤦♀️ parents really ruin their kids life!!!!!!
Not all the fathers, my y father and i did not want money etc,only akhlaaq and deen,turned out he was worthless,did not want to work,or study or anything, and he had a huge ego.
@@fatimab5145 aww sorry to hear that sister. Did you end up marrying that man? That's what I mean I don't believe that wealth is everything but we must have enough for the necessities to get married and then we can work our way up.
@@iramahmed2155 yes i married that man unfortunately
@@iramahmed2155 i still think money is not everything or the most important thing,akhlaaq and deen are far more important and of course as a men you have to be responsible for your family
@@fatimab5145 sister I'm so sorry about that. It's sad how such men have such huge egos not realising that they have a woman who is willing to live with them even if they provide the basics yet when they can't even do that they have the ego when in fact the woman should be as she is tolerating it all. They should be thankful that the found such a woman as nowadays many women run after wealth rather than the man and his character.
What is even more important than wealth itself is being with someone you see building a future with, even if you're building that future from scratch Wealth is temporary, a person's character is not
Masha Allah
Well explained...😍🥰
Woman want a man with car, house. But brings nothing to the table apart from tea, milk and Salt 😂
Too many woman out there thinking they deserve something without even realizing no men would ever want you.
Your prettiness last no longer than a canned pickle.
Any successful men (you desire or think you deserve) would know to look for quality in woman other than her looks
Ya Rabbi, grant us a deeper understanding ameen
Assalamualaikum
Alhamdhulillah at marriage time we are together with hope in Allah that he will provide rizq
Alhamdhulillah now our life far better than before 2 years.
Our life is progressing fastly which we ever imagined.
Always I'm thankful to Allah for these blessings
May Allah make it easy for all of us.
Jazakum Allahu Khairan Shaikh. Allah swt says: "aiyakunu fuqara yughnihumullaho min fadlih, wallaho wasiun saleem."
That was so beautifully put.
MASHA ALLAH! Parents look for a much settled person in the Name of Allah as a Safe foundation for them to Grow together.....
It's easier said than done.. even if the girl is satisfied with what you own, you then get to the parents who expect you to have so much.
I don't own a house nor a car, and given my situation I can't afford getting one may Allah make it easy for us. And I often wonder if that girl I love would straight forward deny me if I suggested for us to marry - I don't even dare asking, I just bite the dust and patiently wait. Hopeful though, Allah is the greatest.
I am a recent revert and my family is not supportive. I want to marry but my parents say that i am too young (im about to be 22) and they like him for me but they dont like our financial situation. Please make dua for me. I dont want to fall into temptation
reading these comments make me so sad, how we all are going through some sort of financial struggle.. may Allah make it all easy for us. I do believe work hard in this day of age you need to but don’t obsess over money and what comes, the most you have alhamdulilah and the little you have alhamdulilah, as time goes you get what is meant for you, losing hope is never the answer, make dua yes rely on allah on yes but work hard and it’ll come. everyone reading this keep me in your duas that allah increases my Rizq. And I am free financial struggle and can live comfortably. Inshallah. Ameen.
and as for you I pray you are blessed with lots of baraqah goodness and blessings and most importantly blessings in your wealth
Thank you sir.
May Allah protect us all.
Aameen.
بہترین لوگ بہترین نیت رکھتے ہیں
جسکی وجہ سے اللّٰہ تعالٰی انکے سارے کام سنوار دیتے ہیں
اور جسکے کام رب سنوارتا ہے
اسکے کام کوئی بندہ نہیں بگاڑ سکتا............
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These type of videos are very important
Alhamdulillah my elder son married a girl whose fmly is well off but she was welcomed into our home without a penny or a pin!
I need your help I'm in the same situation.
Please can you guide me.
I'll be honest I'd want from a girl someone who works and is bring in income along with myself. Living in western countries like the UK it isn't easy getting a property on your own. I do aim however to have a house as a investment and nice car for myself before marriage as I feel after marriage I might not have the money for it. Main thing though is a good stable job which again ain't easy during this hard time with covid
We shouldn’t worry about the worldly life to much plus I believe being blessed with a righteous spouse is such a treasure but the challenge is are we the best to our own selves first. We plan but Allah is the best of planer. May Allah bless all our brothers and sisters in Islam with beautiful,kind,loving, respectful spouses Ameen
Subhanallaah 👍☺️, want amessage mufti SB
True love is the greatest wealth
excellent points in these times, ma sha Allah
Bismillah
We should accept anyone who was destinied to be our spouse that has been written in Lauh Mahfudz... The important thing is deen and akhlak (1), responsible to us (0), we like him/her a lot (love for the sake of Allah)(0)
I met a woman who was religious but materialistic. I knew I won’t be able to satisfy her wishes because I know my capabilities. Had to end it to set her free to search for a rich guy. Will I be rewarded?
Here in our country parents give preference to those who work for minimum wages than those who are way more educated.
Unfortunately majority of Muslim don’t think like that
Yes that's true married with Northington is better than sitting without marry n god will always bring good things because u waited Allah may Allah always bless us for what we have from him
Point noted massive mashallah yarabi Allah Karim
Subhanallah
With out money its very difficult sheikh...deen and character alone will not help
Masallah jajakallah khairen jaja ♥️
Probably the best hadith you’ll ever hear 🤯
Aws bin Aws narrated:
Allah's Messenger said to me:
"Whoever performs Ghusl on Friday, and
bathes completely, and goes early,
arriving early, gets close and listens and
is silent, there will be for him in every
step he take the reward of a year of
fasting and standing (in prayer).
At-Tirmidhi (496)
Sahih hadith
Salaams excellent topic be down to earth with wealth in your heart not wallet and enjoy with spouse today if no bank balance, car and fancy cell phone woman don't fancy you to marry a poor person you live a better life
Maashaa Allah sheikh thanks so much
I worked since age 16 had no savning as it would go to my mother and bought my husband from pakistan To the uk (mums decision).. .. all he ever said if u dont have a bed then sleep on the floor ur mum gave u nothing ...and till this day he gave me nothing and taking as much as he can... living of benifits with 2 kids he only thinks hes entitled to everything ... every eid i get no suit or kids but money is sent to brothers and sisters in pakistan ... the resion is always you were given to me empty beggers cnt b choosers ...worst of all hes a couzin.... i belive never start from zero other wise ul be begged for food even
You r right ..but I was rejected from anyone.. because I have no wealthy status.everyone want money and wealthy status ,no matter they haven't good manners and din😢
Great advice 💪🏻
Mufti Menk is somewhat on the right track here. Houses truth be told are not meant to be owned as they become giant liabilities under the pretense of it being an inflationary hedge.
The deeper problem is that 90% of the planet are barrelled into higher education and onwards to jobs placing them in earned income and the highest taxable position meaning whatever they get net, net gets dissolved in liabilities like houses, cars leaving them in a completely marginalised position and this is what brings the pressure on families.
Always remember, your life is on lease, structure everything you know around that.
All the best.
Allah is the greatest...!!!
Key words here are make sure he has iman and ihlaaq. Ensure he does it’s hard to tell when you are young parents should be very active and careful. Don’t marry a lost hope loser because he convinces you he will be able to build a life. Money is import and should be looked at. When u are young you hear what you want to hear. Suitable men and women MUST have fear of Allah and awareness of Allah and this must be tried and tested by the girls family. Also check has he been active or passive is he actually trying or using you to build a better life. With women working more and more a lot of men are using women for their money too
Hmm its ❤broken & 😢 sad &anxiety your a good brother but not good for my daughter😢. but god knows turn me away today but mabe tom i might find my resting❤
A girl from Dubai fell for my younger son. When he put b4 her his (fairly decent) income she took a U-turn! Cuz she's into fashion shows & modelling & shops without checking the price tags.
Alhamdulillah good riddance!!
MasyaAllah TabarakAllah Alhamdulillah AllahuAkhbar
House , car , job .. certain people still need more.. dheen and akhlaq , they consider it the last and least. Sir Mufti , can i talk to you..?
My name Is Solomon I am not married I currently have a daughter and I’ve have been ready to get married with my spouse Micah for 3yrs now we never had the money to get married and I always wanted to do it the right way, I was actually thinking of just proposing without a ring until I get the money so that I wouldn’t sin under gods name any longer and rightfully respect him and my wife.i cherish my family but I want to do things the right way the way our ancestors did marriage not based off social media standards.also I live in the united states
Any tips or thoughts would be very helpful
Just marry her if she does agree on your proposal. My friend got married with no ring and no money. They are still very happy now.
Exactly well said
please make dua for me (Asma) i am a mother of 4 children, i need ur dua for me and my children and my husband
my parents and my 2 brothers🤲🏻
I was just thinking about this as I've heard that people are married to others of they're financial status, and my thought was what I some one loves some one whom has Money, and or financial status and are they forbidden to Marry ? Now I ran across this at that exact time. Let's See what you say on this subject.
These days
Height 6 foot tall minimum
Bank balance 6 figures
At least 2 degrees in qualification min
Not a house but a huge house with 2 cars not normal but luxury cars
Then also have status.
asthgfirullah most people i ask when they're looking for a husband it's like they're making them from a factory production.
There this guy i met who is very religious and prays and knows alot about islam and i see him as a perfect future husband and i think he would be a pefect father figure he respect me very much he is always respectful and sweet and he has an amazing character and i do wanna meet him he live in a different country he can’t visit my country which is an issue and my parents are kinda very strict with me i wanna to get engaged to him and marry him but idk how to tell my parents i know they would never let me move abroad and get engaged to him and the fact that he is not well off either would be big no to them i truly do not care about the material stuff i really want a religious man so badly in my city there barely in religious man and i want a man to push me to my deen and i want to practice with him our deen i see him as a perfect husband and i truly want him so what should i do? I do want us to work on the money thing together i dont mind but i know my parents would be extremely against it
Allah The Greatest aameen
With all of a good intentions they have taught their children from a young age to be materialistic without even knowing it.
the vast majority of the older generation is like this. I've accepted marriage wont happen for me, I'm too poor.
100 % brother and sister
Well that answered my question Alhamdulillah, a lot of people who are Marrying now are only Marrying for money and or wealth and there's no love. There are those whom society Call POWER Couples and there's no love to be found, and they're just good at obtaining wealth. I imagine this is why some people say Money doesn't buy you happiness. Money doesn't buy true love, friend ship or Loyalty and It is a thing that you can be happy with out wealth or riches and some People even Part ways, and when they be come Rich and or Wealthy and they Plan to do this. I understand where some relationships may not work especially if someone is an opportunist or constantly thinking that you owe them some times. It's best to be content with as Allah states in the Qur'an Qunut Dua in Witr Prayer Allah bless me in what you have given me. Ameen
I really want to married, but people in here be like.
"You don't have this, you don't have that"
After marrying my partner why am I not being able to earn money?
I want to marry a girl and she has good character and follows Deen.
But the girls comes from a poor family background and her brother's went to jail and have some not so good name in the society.
But the girls is very innocent and I want to marry her.
My family is not agreeing to marry with her because of her family background.
What should I do ?
Please guide me
Assalam alaikum I have a question
Can u marry a guy who is not ready to spent in your wedding day
Sometimes even good looking matters
I'm muslim.20 age want to marry with nothing, city rawelpindi Pakistan, student of law , what should I do ?
Stupid why you want to get married you can't even have enough money to support your lifestyle why you want to ruin other person life
First time ever i see this man talks in favor of men.
Ustad, I've watch many vidoes about marriage by several ustads, but all of them are advice toward young people. What about older single people like in their 40s (and financially not stable yet due to many reasons) ?
Stay away from marriage
MashaAllah
Where is the full video
99 percent of Pakistani American woman and maybe other Muslims cultures also are looking man with those materialistic qualities and even if someone is very nice he will be rejected if her terms and conditions are not met or he is not well established meaning
education house car rich family high income. And the frustration is that every family says they are looking for a good man 🤨
Those men are also materialistic and demand dowry from the woman showing they are not men at all.
true the old before start in zero
Assalam alaikum warahmotuullahi wabarakatuh. Please sir I want to marry someone but, am thinking about his education level.
Can I marry someone that is education bellow mine?
Ya Allah Forgive Us
Who is she
Naima B Robert.
Check out her UA-cam channel she has a podcast with Mufti menk
@@muskansiddikee2171 thanks
Marshallah
السلام علیکم
Allah Hu Akbar
quran requirement kursi at least
❤️❤️❤️
100 %
Each time i do a depression test on google the results are: severe depression
Why ?
And i struggle so hard to seek help it’s really difficult for me
May Allah blesses your days with smiles
Insha'allah it will pass, trust Allah may Allah forgive me and you
Have hope and don't undermine what you feel - often when we admit that there is a problem it is half the solution
I hope for you the best
Many poor people even dont have any manner and conduct, they will ruin you , better you go for who is wealthy and take responsibility, rather than someone who after marriage always keep an eye on the girls things
Thats not true i disagree
Perfect!!! 🎉🎉🎉🔥🔥🔥 most of the woman who hear this !!! There hypocrossy harts Burnsss 🔥🔥🔥
Subhanallah