I have tried online dating and I got zero results, no replies, and increasing anxiety/anger that was turning me into someone I didn’t like. So I closed them deleted them and stopped trying to date. I have never been happier with my life.
i get tons of matches, but often zero replies to my messages, indicating women are using it for validation and are all going after the same top 5% of men out there.
Online dating is actually for making money. It's no longer designed to result in successful matches, but keep ppl, mainly men since that's the bulk of the user base, interacting with the sites on a regular basis. It's pretty much trash.
You just need to learn to sort out the scammers, predators, and fake profiles. There are methods to do this effectively. I've had good luck with dating apps. I don't regret using them.
Sooooo dose that mean you are happily married now or in a long-term Blissful monogamous relationship????? Please answer me I want to know because I have never done online dating????
@@BK-pc3ei sooooo.....oki then!!! List five positive things you can give to a woman in your life?? And make that list very short and simple!!!! Exp.... #1 living stability, meaning a stable roof and food on the table,....#2.... dependability, meaning I am where I say I am and I will be coming home when I say I'm coming home and I do not lie and cheat!.... see you bro those are two really important qualities for female!!!!!! If you can't provide either of those and no wonder you're life might suck and you might be single!? So please if you cannot give a short and sweet simple list of five reasons why a woman might want to spend her life with you then you have no reason to complain or talk s*** about anything!! Especially a dating application!!!!!! A dating application can't change who you are and what kind of piece of s*** you are!!!!!! Sorry brro!!! Real talk !!!
Same I have not been on it for like 10 years+ and all of a sudden I wanted to see whats going on and what is new bur before i do open up an account wanted to see what is going on amd it sounded fucked up after a few research
Be good. Be confident. Have class. Have integrity. Be happy without. Live to your fullest, even without needing a partner. It'll come when u least expect it.
@@NazeemCloudDistrictthat’s both scary and comforting Scary because I can’t imagine seeing myself old And comforting at the thought I may have someone at that age
@@illyimmbe the best version of yourself but accept reality. If you mid you mid, stay in your league or else you will get depressed when all of the 10/10 girls reject you.
Nice, I was wondering if I was the only one who caught wind of that ... That's a very classy and stable thing to say ... Saying someone's 'mid' is usually meant to be an insult ... Most of the time it's used against women by insecure dudes who are in the habit of over compensating.
Online dating is indeed bad. In person meeting people is just as bad. Everybody is socially awkward so if you approach somebody, they dont know how to receive you properly which makes the hunters less sure of approaching people in the first place. Society in that area is falling apart.
My success rate in person is literally 100% & the only time I’ve been denied is by a married woman who just said “sorry I’m married” so idk what to tell you 😬
@ethanschlandt4389 Yes and that is great. But mind you it is not the same as a guy women naturally want vs the average man not being able to have the average girl. So if you are 100% successful, it's not your level of game, not to say you don't have it. It's because they are attracted to you and at the point you can say the exact same things another guy says and close the deal while the other guy wont.
It's certainly a new field to learn. I think the most solid people will stand out eventually, So long as they're fine playing a longer more secure game
@@Elfking94 this might be true but how sad it is that society has gotten to the point where the dynamic of a possible good family is only when you are in your late 30s and not in your mid 20s anymore.
If i owned a dating app, selfie verification would be mandatory. I believe it would solve some problems. To clarify, it is to ensure that the person in the picture is the one that owns the profile.
😂 no chance an I taking a selfie daily. Selfies take horrible pictures and are for the most egotistical people who are horrible at relationships. Also a selfie proves nothing for identifying the person.
What is not being explained here is the #1 fact: You are recurring revenue and you will remain so as it's in the best interest of the Corp. They have zero interest on you finding anyone with the exception they "hope" you "believe". It's now a fools game.
Exactly! The amount of daily users & memberships is what drives the profitability ratings up. More sucessful matches would result in a drop of users which means less profit. Since men outnumber women 4:1 on OLD, it is in the companies interests to keep men feeling hopeless in dating so they'll continue using the apps. When you factor in the recent social fear of approaching women, it further creates a hyper-reliance on the apps & just adds to the cycle. It's really jacked up.
@@Raphael4722 oh that is a whole thing to itself. This may come off as a dissertation, but I love helping guys with this topic tbh & there's a lot that plays into it. Firstly, the main mistakes guys make with approach often come from their own self-esteem (either too little or too much), lack of social confidence or going straight for the number way too quickly. Most women need a little warm-up interaction to be able to gauge how she feels in the man's presence & feel out his vibe or intentions. Without that warm-up, her guard will go up, the guy may come off as shallow & lustful (aka "creepy") & rejection chance increases 10-fold. There has to be a balance of feeling it out first vs blindsiding her with your interest. Secondly, a fantastic way to practice building up social skills & confidence in approaching is engaging in brief interactions on a regular basis. Talk to cashiers, waitstaff, the elderly, other guys. When you're out & about, look ppl in the face, smile a little & say "how's your day?" as you walk by. Those tiny things go a long way for everyone, especially given the mass decline of basic social interaction. When you talk to a woman, go into the approach without the goal of getting a number or date. Just focus on the goal of having a pleasant interaction. This can do wonders to override rejection fears & anxiety because the goal of "I'm going to engage with my fellow human" is way less intimidating than "I'm going to ask her out." Women can also sense when we're about to get hit on which sends the guard up so starting with basic interaction helps to put her at ease as well. If the interaction goes well, maybe you respectfully ask for the number, maybe you don't, but the important thing is you met your goal which is still a win. If someone is not receptive, no worries, kindly wish them well & move on. We're not all evil succubi ready to scream assault for daring to breathe in our direction & I hate the fools that made that idea a thing. When you are asking for a number, it can help to say something along the lines of with a "I hope I'm not being too forward, but you seem like an interesting person. I was wondering if I could get your number or give you mine if you're comfortable with that." It's not pushy, very respectful, acknowledges her as a person rather than an object of desire & puts the ball in her court. If she declines, thank her for her time & wish her a good day. Working on good posture is another great simple mind trick for confidence. Practice dropping the shoulders & rolling them back to a comfortable, relaxed position, straighten the back & neck to bring the head over your spine, relax the jaw. Take a few deep breathes. Whenever you notice you are slumping over, simply adjust & breathe. Body language is often a projection of the mind, but it can also work the opposite way so as you make good posture a habit, you will start to feel more confident. As everyone knows, women love confidence lol. Lastly, this one is a little more tricky & subtle, but it helps to observe body language cues so you can better gauge who is more open to being approached. Many guys say "oh women & their silly hints" but they're often totally subconcious, unintentional social cues that even men do. Things like crossing the arms vs facing their body towards you with the arms relaxed, longer than usual eye contact with a slight smile, putting themselves in your line of sight repeatedly or orbiting around you, mirroring/ copying behaviors (say you take a drink, pick something up or scratch your head & you notice the other person does the exact same motion which often means they have their attention on you as well). These are all good social cues that someone is receptive to your presence & may be interested in conversation. It takes practice to start to read these things, but once you pick up on them, you can't unsee it. Google body language cues & delve down the rabbit hole for a bit if you want to learn more. Also look up Mark Manson. He's a fantastic author, confidence, dating & relationship coach that has some amazing insights across the board. I hope this helps!
If you have to analyze a dating app this in depth to be able to have a chance at meeting someone on a dating app … you’re probably better off trying to meet someone in grocery store.
your only as loyal as your options. use that as a north star or guiding light of sorts. it helps define who ACTUALLY has your back. realizing how many women are out here cheating and fucking around and divorcing and fucking off with kids should prove my above saying to be true. it goes further than women. EVERYBODY is only as loyal as their options. including buisness. it really helps there. if you can define all of someones options and have the threat of your options over them...then you win. again its not immoral to think and act this way. women do it to us every day of the week. they know the power they have...they know the options they have...well now you know yours. women respond to the subtle threat of options you have and meanwhile they will always keep theirs in the dark but excercise them nonetheless until threatened. as soon as they learn they condition in the relationship is not guarenteed by continuous threat they will stay with you 100 percent and NEVER cheat.
The Netflix analogy is spot on. The only thing is that I only watch Netflix when it’s something viral that I’ve heard from others or on social media; otherwise, I don’t like to spend time searching for shows but that’s my experience.
One could say online dating apps period only worked in the early days before they become ubiquitous, the algorithms, got optimized, the male model Chads on on them, etc. Everything in dating has just gotten progressively harder over the last 30 (and really 60) years. Is what it is.
Yeah I think so too. I feel like online dating (and social media) started out with good intentions and worked well before it became all about making money for them.
@@andrewjordan4811 yep I would say 85-90% of the female profiles have “no hook ups, “ no DTF”, no FWB, no polyamorous relationships on. Meaning that’s what most guys are on the apps looking for.
It isn’t just the algorithm and that they’re money pits though. I’m a woman and I know I’m not a 10. I know many men won’t swipe right for me and that I’ll be rejected and that’s despite many people telling me I’m attractive, in my regular life. Rejection is painful. However, from what I’ve gotten from comments from men, outside of dating apps, they become angry, because they don’t receive replies. Some of that is the fakery of the algorithm. They want you to never meet anyone and pay until eternity. But, the other question, for men and women is - are you attractive? Second is - do you think a dating app is like shopping on Amazon? The idea that you wanted that person and didn’t get them, objectifies them. If they’re not attracted to you - they aren’t yours. You bought a subscription to a possibility. You didn’t buy a person. A person, with the option of not being attracted to you.
On my first day of installing tinder, I had 7 matches, and 4 of them agreed to meet me...Pictures are important and the first line is very important. I pretended that we are already in a relationship with them...A joke here and there and ask for a phone/date early. Be bold, very bold. Never kiss their ass. Never say directly that they are beautiful especially if they are beautiful.
This is truly extraordinary. I read a book with a similar theme, and it was truly phenomenal. "The Art of Meaningful Relationships in the 21st Century" by Leo Flint
As a girl, It’s really hard to find a serious and genuine person in online dating. Most of them will message u at first then will disappear the next day 😅
that's because you're swiping out of your league. if you're a woman complaining about dating it's absolutely your fault. you live dating life on easy mode.
What if you get out of the UA-cam comments, go take real action in the world and try it and try other things. Rather than sat in your house procrastinating.
@@fortchyx422January to April 30th I was going to social meetings 2 or 3 times a week. Churches, bars and random Meetups. Literally nobody wants a serious relationship nowadays anyways. 😂
Imagine auto swiping right!? Some are needy enough to do it including a friend of mine. If you're not super selective you're reducing your value YOURSELF. Focus on developing your skills and career. The rest will come. You need lazer focus.
I had Tinder for a few hours. Just for curiosity. The amount of sxual harassment and hatred was mindblowing. Just because I am attrractive but didn't response like a hooker that has no sense of self. Dating apps are like Uber Eats - if people don't get what they want instantly they get very very rude. I had death threaths for saying I am not willing to visit a stranger in their appartment...
😂😂😂 You have to actually prove that you're an interesting person who has depth and a lot more to offer than just looks. If this happened to you after just a few hours, it probably means you sent the wrong message
About the right auto-swipes, I don’t know if the algorithm works like you say it works. I am an average to below average looking guy, and I always swipe left on women who are 7/10 or higher (because why bother?), and yet all I have been shown for the longest time is hyper attractive women which is no good. I want to find the normal looking women and I know that they are there somewhere, but they are hidden from me for some reason.
I am for the 5 to 7 range and it works for me. I will be honest the man to woman ratio is so bad in Menver, CO that women can get most of the standards met especially when it comes to height.
Everything is very simple. Girls don't want to date because their photos are edited with a bunch of filters. They are afraid to show their real face and figure.
There's no evidence that being selective gets you better results than being non-selective (as far as you do not swipe literally right every time and hence act like an actual bot)
What it boils down to is whether or not "oversaturation" on the app has occurred or not, and fake accs. If the app is oversaturated, you're almost SOL. I'll explain: the "saturation" is when there are too many users that aren't that serious about it. And the other thing is fake accounts, if you're swiping on a bunch of people who aren't even real then ofc you're not getting a date. This is why apps that require verification tend to get you more conversations.
I'm a man in his late 20s that's attracted to Filipinas and I always get hell for it. They're trolling me saying "just get a girl here, they're just gold diggers!" Bro there's gold diggers everywhere and I personally love Filipinas, they've always been good to me Even if we didn't work out, and I would like to have their genes in my bloodline. People can say what they want cause I know what I want and I wouldn't pick anyone that I didn't trust.
@@boomerkobold3943 sad part is that it's coming from the "anti racist" people. The same people that'll claim they're against racism during elections are the same ones being a racist POS.
EXACTLY. this is what women dont understand in the west. its not us its them. western women have zero godhood. i read your message with that badass music in the background and honestly its super fitting. what you just said more white dudes in the west need to hear. they simply arent appreciated in the west. philipinas ARE THE BEST! its not even close.
That goodness they don’t do in in Europe this dating apps, still to the old fashion ways, meet through friends social events, bars restaurants, museums etc. Being told when I was in the USA by a girl there she love dating using apps, she said I never have to buy food the guy take her out to dinner, buying flowers, going away for weekends breaks etc, she said she no intentions of having serious relationship with theses men she met, I ask her how she break off with the men, she said and I quote, just tell the guy he not compatible and she not ready for serious relationship, and move to next one. That really sad and shallow
Iv spend 7 years with two diff women I met through online dating. Easily the worst relationships Iv ever had. Even if she looks good, online girls are just busted. Mentally or emotionally or both. Respect isn’t given. Because odds are she settled. And if shit hits the fan, shel go right back to swiping. Easy come easy go. Meet them in person, falling for a pic is retarded. Just push through it and walk up to a stranger. I know it sux, no one said it’s easy. But it’s how our parents met. If they had online, we wouldn’t be here.
Don’t pay! I never have. In a decade I’ve had 6 women from POF and one was a long term relationship. Also two cold approaches, one was a 6 month relationship. Some of these were on off/recurring things. So 6 out of 8 were from a dating app.
This is true tinder actually sucks !! They want you to pay for everything (I m sure soon will ask you to pay even for log in session 🙃) tinder is in its last days is going the same road that badoo at beginning both were good but their end start when wanted us to pay for everything .. 👎🏻
Good points Todd. I actually dont mind if the app doesn't show me any attractive girls. I'm only on it for a short term fling, and having fun with an average girl or worse is actually preferable. They're better in the sack.
This is perfection. I had the pleasure of reading something similar, and it was an absolute perfection. "The Art of Meaningful Relationships in the 21st Century" by Leo Flint
Be good. Be confident. Have integrity. Go out, dance, socialize. 'f' dating apps. Live to your fullest and be happy. It'll come when u least expect it.
I had installed tinder and specified the age i want for men it was bringing me older men and most of them are just there for fun nothing serious just because am attractive doesn't mean am a h** .it's so annoying
This is absolutely true, I have tried a bunch of several dating apps and paid on them but the women seem not real to me, they just fight to keep you chatting for a long er time on the dating sites like you came to stay there other than , meeting in life (face to face), I hate it, It seems to me like most of them are AI operated and these women on the site have no actual feelings, Oooh 😮 dating apps suck
Personally ive tried so hard to get girls/matches on dating app and realized its hopeless endeavor. Ive had dating coaches help me with it and for some, done stuff todd said and it just doesn't work . Note I'm average looking
Because online dating is not meant to be successful anymore. It's designed to keep men feeling hopeless so they'll continue using the sites which keeps the company profitability ratings up. They're literally preying on men. Even further, by keeping men feeling insecure about their chances, it adds to the fear of interacting with women in real life which then creates a hyper-reliance on the apps.
@@justacoginthefkerythen why stay stuck on the apps then? The apps don’t have that kind of power unless it’s given to them. How bout get off the phone, go out and actually make real effort face to face? Apps are passive anyways. Masculine energy isn’t about passivity
Fake & old profiles overwhelm Hinge where I am .. I automatically ask the attractive women why they’re on the app in the first place & then ask to prove they’re real by answering a random question or repeat a made up word .. so far, no responses .. shocker
It works best to send messages and ask to dialogue off the app by asking for a personal number. And ask to meet in person within a few messages. otherwise you'll be wasting your time. Remember you're most likely not the only one she is chatting with.. So it's best to act or move on.
I can't stand living in this online world anymore. I just want to find someone to love not be taken advantage of because of my loneliness which is what dating apps do. Its inhuman and cruel. What have we done to ourselves
Poignant words for both those seeking lasting relationships as well as those seeking more "immediate results". Please continue to speak truth to horniness!
The proof is when they are selling 6 month memberships, then nickel and dime you on superswipes,stars, enhanced profiles temporarily or what ever gimmicks that bilk more money out of you. CHADS only benefit on apps.
Oh no, I swiped right on everyone hoping to weed out the nonsense, but now I’ve messed up the algorithm. I thought the men showing up were a bit obscure. I find it all so shallow and repetitive. I’m burnt out after just one day. It’s also surreal to go outside and not interact with any men outside of business, only to be hounded on the app like I’m a supermodel. I’m absolutely not! I spend time telling decent guys I’m not ignoring them, I’m just overwhelmed. It’s bad for our minds and pair bonding but realistically what are people to do who work and can’t spend exorbitant amounts of money to portray they’re the most interesting man/woman in the world?
I got 3500 likes in 2 weeks and I just sit there paralyzed not knowing who to pick through this shitload of contenders. Ps this guys advice is incomprehensible.
When MAJORITY of these dudes on these apps are 5 and less !!! The males are mad because women in US are raising their standards on these "ordinary, common, average, fair" looking guys!!! Studies show it's the men on these apps who are getting ghosted the most because they are ugly monsters 👹👺🧟♂️🧟. Hardly have any type of personality, most are broke , too many got ED! Like these dudes in this country are becoming more useless !
"But this *dismal outcome* has *long been* in *the making* on *many fronts.* Over numerous decades a grand experiment engaging in social engineering with America’s youth has been steadily working to homogenize a lowest common denominator product of sub par mediocrity, creating generations of young Americans who can neither read nor write, nor think for themselves in any critical manner. According to a study last year by the US Department of Education, 19% of US high school graduates cannot read, 21% of adults read below 5th grade level and that these alarming rates have not changed in the last ten years." - *ARTICLE* - *"The Dumbing Down of America - By Design".*
Tried em a few times. Every match got I swear I was talking a chat bot that just got installed and doesn’t know how to human yet lol either that or likes from women I wasn’t even remotely attracted to.
Different Perspective: As a trans-girl, I prefer dating app/s. Why? Because men are kind of crazy and the dating app provides a “buffer” before actually meeting him in person. No “shade”, I’m just saying. 😂♥️ 👸🏻🏳️⚧️
I have tried online dating and I got zero results, no replies, and increasing anxiety/anger that was turning me into someone I didn’t like. So I closed them deleted them and stopped trying to date. I have never been happier with my life.
Same here!! They are robbing bastards!
Is it like that in real life too or was your dating profile just trash?
@@SweetEssie men just dont get alot of matches on dating sites
@PSPDefender Most of you don't have good profiles. You don't fill in the part explaining about yourself and you don't take good pictures.
@@CeoABcompany Do you think women are photographers? We do what gives us matches
Online dating is inhuman and a completely different game from establishing connections the human way
Yet women wanted us to get to this point. The point where we live in the unnatural HR world.
@@boomerkobold3943dumb comment..
Totally agree, Bnagstars is the only one worth every penny tho, if you only want to hook up
Online dating is not for dating. It is for attention.
Perhaps, but guys who actually use it to meet women can do that if they do the right things.
I saw a video where a girl said her experience with dating apps and social media apps were the same thing
i get tons of matches, but often zero replies to my messages, indicating women are using it for validation and are all going after the same top 5% of men out there.
Online dating is actually for making money. It's no longer designed to result in successful matches, but keep ppl, mainly men since that's the bulk of the user base, interacting with the sites on a regular basis. It's pretty much trash.
It's also for girls to boost their insta followers and perhaps get OF subscribers.
I've tried online dating it is totally make me upset rather than happy. Many scammers, predators and
Fake profiles. 😢😢😢😢😢😢
You just need to learn to sort out the scammers, predators, and fake profiles. There are methods to do this effectively. I've had good luck with dating apps. I don't regret using them.
@@brunoquintana7242 Bruno can you tell me how to have the good luck on dating apps?
U can always use them to troll if you are bored.
@@Diarrheagod hahaha
Personally, what I found is, there’s very little scammers on dating apps Just check to see if their verified
Sweet dreams are made of these....
That's all I got. I left the hellhole of dating apps years ago.
Dating apps, do work I just think females expectations of guys has got out of control
Sooooo dose that mean you are happily married now or in a long-term Blissful monogamous relationship????? Please answer me I want to know because I have never done online dating????
@@BK-pc3ei sooooo.....oki then!!! List five positive things you can give to a woman in your life?? And make that list very short and simple!!!! Exp.... #1 living stability, meaning a stable roof and food on the table,....#2.... dependability, meaning I am where I say I am and I will be coming home when I say I'm coming home and I do not lie and cheat!.... see you bro those are two really important qualities for female!!!!!! If you can't provide either of those and no wonder you're life might suck and you might be single!? So please if you cannot give a short and sweet simple list of five reasons why a woman might want to spend her life with you then you have no reason to complain or talk s*** about anything!! Especially a dating application!!!!!! A dating application can't change who you are and what kind of piece of s*** you are!!!!!! Sorry brro!!! Real talk !!!
Same I have not been on it for like 10 years+ and all of a sudden I wanted to see whats going on and what is new bur before i do open up an account wanted to see what is going on amd it sounded fucked up after a few research
@@BK-pc3ei facts
Cold approach is paying off more than online dating.
I do both.
Stop the cap
Stop giving woman free attention.you putting l the effort
It depends I have seen guys succeed but usually it's a failure. Also mainly tall men succeed with a straight forward approach.
Be good. Be confident. Have class. Have integrity. Be happy without. Live to your fullest, even without needing a partner. It'll come when u least expect it.
As a mediocre guy I have absolutely no problem dating mediocre girls. Personality matters too. Looks will fade, moody, dumb and shallow won't.
Quite inteligent quote...
Even if you are why would you say you’re mid? Bro you’re a kingdom financier! Get that straight. Walk in it and believe it!
@@NazeemCloudDistrictthat’s both scary and comforting
Scary because I can’t imagine seeing myself old
And comforting at the thought I may have someone at that age
@@illyimmbe the best version of yourself but accept reality. If you mid you mid, stay in your league or else you will get depressed when all of the 10/10 girls reject you.
Nice, I was wondering if I was the only one who caught wind of that ... That's a very classy and stable thing to say ... Saying someone's 'mid' is usually meant to be an insult ... Most of the time it's used against women by insecure dudes who are in the habit of over compensating.
Tinder is a scam, and just because a few people have found their partners on that app doesn't make it less of a scam.
Hinge as well. "The app designed to be deleted." More like the app designed to ruin good relationships, and keep good men desperate.
all of them
I gave up online dating as it just wasn't working and I felt very depressed. Best decision I ever made, I would rather be single and happy now.
Online dating is indeed bad. In person meeting people is just as bad. Everybody is socially awkward so if you approach somebody, they dont know how to receive you properly which makes the hunters less sure of approaching people in the first place. Society in that area is falling apart.
The everyone should read pride and prejudice
My success rate in person is literally 100% & the only time I’ve been denied is by a married woman who just said “sorry I’m married” so idk what to tell you 😬
@ethanschlandt4389 Yes and that is great. But mind you it is not the same as a guy women naturally want vs the average man not being able to have the average girl. So if you are 100% successful, it's not your level of game, not to say you don't have it. It's because they are attracted to you and at the point you can say the exact same things another guy says and close the deal while the other guy wont.
It's certainly a new field to learn. I think the most solid people will stand out eventually,
So long as they're fine playing a longer more secure game
@@Elfking94 this might be true but how sad it is that society has gotten to the point where the dynamic of a possible good family is only when you are in your late 30s and not in your mid 20s anymore.
If i owned a dating app, selfie verification would be mandatory. I believe it would solve some problems. To clarify, it is to ensure that the person in the picture is the one that owns the profile.
Hey am looking for serious relationship
@@AkampuliraEuniceme too I live in UK and u
It's not the apps themselves. The average person nowadays really does suck.
😂 no chance an I taking a selfie daily. Selfies take horrible pictures and are for the most egotistical people who are horrible at relationships. Also a selfie proves nothing for identifying the person.
What is not being explained here is the #1 fact: You are recurring revenue and you will remain so as it's in the best interest of the Corp. They have zero interest on you finding anyone with the exception they "hope" you "believe". It's now a fools game.
Based on your profile pic. I wouldn’t imagine you saying anything different
Exactly! The amount of daily users & memberships is what drives the profitability ratings up. More sucessful matches would result in a drop of users which means less profit. Since men outnumber women 4:1 on OLD, it is in the companies interests to keep men feeling hopeless in dating so they'll continue using the apps. When you factor in the recent social fear of approaching women, it further creates a hyper-reliance on the apps & just adds to the cycle.
It's really jacked up.
@@KILLAONEAL thank you for the compliment. I appreciate you random stranger 🤗
@@justacoginthefkery What is your opinion on approaching women in public?
@@Raphael4722 oh that is a whole thing to itself. This may come off as a dissertation, but I love helping guys with this topic tbh & there's a lot that plays into it.
Firstly, the main mistakes guys make with approach often come from their own self-esteem (either too little or too much), lack of social confidence or going straight for the number way too quickly. Most women need a little warm-up interaction to be able to gauge how she feels in the man's presence & feel out his vibe or intentions. Without that warm-up, her guard will go up, the guy may come off as shallow & lustful (aka "creepy") & rejection chance increases 10-fold. There has to be a balance of feeling it out first vs blindsiding her with your interest.
Secondly, a fantastic way to practice building up social skills & confidence in approaching is engaging in brief interactions on a regular basis. Talk to cashiers, waitstaff, the elderly, other guys. When you're out & about, look ppl in the face, smile a little & say "how's your day?" as you walk by. Those tiny things go a long way for everyone, especially given the mass decline of basic social interaction. When you talk to a woman, go into the approach without the goal of getting a number or date. Just focus on the goal of having a pleasant interaction. This can do wonders to override rejection fears & anxiety because the goal of "I'm going to engage with my fellow human" is way less intimidating than "I'm going to ask her out." Women can also sense when we're about to get hit on which sends the guard up so starting with basic interaction helps to put her at ease as well. If the interaction goes well, maybe you respectfully ask for the number, maybe you don't, but the important thing is you met your goal which is still a win. If someone is not receptive, no worries, kindly wish them well & move on. We're not all evil succubi ready to scream assault for daring to breathe in our direction & I hate the fools that made that idea a thing.
When you are asking for a number, it can help to say something along the lines of with a "I hope I'm not being too forward, but you seem like an interesting person. I was wondering if I could get your number or give you mine if you're comfortable with that." It's not pushy, very respectful, acknowledges her as a person rather than an object of desire & puts the ball in her court. If she declines, thank her for her time & wish her a good day.
Working on good posture is another great simple mind trick for confidence. Practice dropping the shoulders & rolling them back to a comfortable, relaxed position, straighten the back & neck to bring the head over your spine, relax the jaw. Take a few deep breathes. Whenever you notice you are slumping over, simply adjust & breathe. Body language is often a projection of the mind, but it can also work the opposite way so as you make good posture a habit, you will start to feel more confident. As everyone knows, women love confidence lol.
Lastly, this one is a little more tricky & subtle, but it helps to observe body language cues so you can better gauge who is more open to being approached. Many guys say "oh women & their silly hints" but they're often totally subconcious, unintentional social cues that even men do. Things like crossing the arms vs facing their body towards you with the arms relaxed, longer than usual eye contact with a slight smile, putting themselves in your line of sight repeatedly or orbiting around you, mirroring/ copying behaviors (say you take a drink, pick something up or scratch your head & you notice the other person does the exact same motion which often means they have their attention on you as well). These are all good social cues that someone is receptive to your presence & may be interested in conversation. It takes practice to start to read these things, but once you pick up on them, you can't unsee it. Google body language cues & delve down the rabbit hole for a bit if you want to learn more.
Also look up Mark Manson. He's a fantastic author, confidence, dating & relationship coach that has some amazing insights across the board.
I hope this helps!
If you have to analyze a dating app this in depth to be able to have a chance at meeting someone on a dating app … you’re probably better off trying to meet someone in grocery store.
Doesn’t matter if you’re a sub 5 you can swipe right 1000/1000 profiles you’re going to get next to no responses
I'm almost 100% confident that Todd has gotten what you call "sub 5s" dates
I get responses all the time
Good thing I'm a 5 lol
Online dating is the Frankenstein for top 10% men and 70% women. It really shows you what gender is truly shallow in terms of dating
your only as loyal as your options. use that as a north star or guiding light of sorts. it helps define who ACTUALLY has your back. realizing how many women are out here cheating and fucking around and divorcing and fucking off with kids should prove my above saying to be true. it goes further than women. EVERYBODY is only as loyal as their options. including buisness. it really helps there. if you can define all of someones options and have the threat of your options over them...then you win. again its not immoral to think and act this way. women do it to us every day of the week. they know the power they have...they know the options they have...well now you know yours. women respond to the subtle threat of options you have and meanwhile they will always keep theirs in the dark but excercise them nonetheless until threatened. as soon as they learn they condition in the relationship is not guarenteed by continuous threat they will stay with you 100 percent and NEVER cheat.
The Netflix analogy is spot on. The only thing is that I only watch Netflix when it’s something viral that I’ve heard from others or on social media; otherwise, I don’t like to spend time searching for shows but that’s my experience.
😮 bruh hahahah Netflix huh
Love the music in the background. Perfect "secret they don't want you to know " vibe 🔥
Country western action flick music.
One could say online dating apps period only worked in the early days before they become ubiquitous, the algorithms, got optimized, the male model Chads on on them, etc. Everything in dating has just gotten progressively harder over the last 30 (and really 60) years. Is what it is.
Yeah I think so too. I feel like online dating (and social media) started out with good intentions and worked well before it became all about making money for them.
Dating apps worked well until word got around that you could find quick easy sex on it. That’s when the male:female ratio got way out of hand
"Male model Chad". You sound like a lame. It's no wonder you can't get a woman
@@andrewjordan4811 yep I would say 85-90% of the female profiles have “no hook ups, “ no DTF”, no FWB, no polyamorous relationships on. Meaning that’s what most guys are on the apps looking for.
@@brianwaller7383 yet those women are sharing the same top 5% chads around town. lol
It isn’t just the algorithm and that they’re money pits though.
I’m a woman and I know I’m not a 10. I know many men won’t swipe right for me and that I’ll be rejected and that’s despite many people telling me I’m attractive, in my regular life. Rejection is painful. However, from what I’ve gotten from comments from men, outside of dating apps, they become angry, because they don’t receive replies. Some of that is the fakery of the algorithm. They want you to never meet anyone and pay until eternity. But, the other question, for men and women is - are you attractive? Second is - do you think a dating app is like shopping on Amazon? The idea that you wanted that person and didn’t get them, objectifies them. If they’re not attracted to you - they aren’t yours. You bought a subscription to a possibility. You didn’t buy a person. A person, with the option of not being attracted to you.
On my first day of installing tinder, I had 7 matches, and 4 of them agreed to meet me...Pictures are important and the first line is very important. I pretended that we are already in a relationship with them...A joke here and there and ask for a phone/date early. Be bold, very bold. Never kiss their ass. Never say directly that they are beautiful especially if they are beautiful.
Congrats on the quick success. I agree closing fast is a good idea. I wasted so much time in long convos on dating apps when I was getting started
How do you deal with less intelligent girls who probably won't understand sarcasm or you just being fun and playing with your words?
@@dklindo7554 Don’t deal with less intelligent girls lol
@@AV-kr6gc most hot girls are less intelligent and self centered. Especially in the Caribbean
How muscular are you and what are you doing in the photos you post?
This is truly extraordinary. I read a book with a similar theme, and it was truly phenomenal. "The Art of Meaningful Relationships in the 21st Century" by Leo Flint
As a girl, It’s really hard to find a serious and genuine person in online dating. Most of them will message u at first then will disappear the next day 😅
Majority time it's a woman doing that😅
Hey how are you?
As a girl?
that's because you're swiping out of your league. if you're a woman complaining about dating it's absolutely your fault. you live dating life on easy mode.
@@nickcorona3966 exactly 💯
This guy is a legand.
**Legend
helo l am arlyn labajo from philippines
Leg and what?
@@ArlynLabajo-fq1hf Hello dear
What if you make an account. Swipe left on everyone. Increase your score. Then start swiping after a bit.
What if you get out of the UA-cam comments, go take real action in the world and try it and try other things. Rather than sat in your house procrastinating.
@@fortchyx422 nigga it was a theoretical question. If you don’t have an answer don’t respond.
Swiping left on everyone decreases your score drastically as well. You need to find the right balance between being too selective and too desperate.
@@fortchyx422what if you weren’t a condescending asshat in the comment section?
@@fortchyx422January to April 30th I was going to social meetings 2 or 3 times a week. Churches, bars and random Meetups. Literally nobody wants a serious relationship nowadays anyways. 😂
You are telling dudes they should be with Barbie doesn’t work too well either
Hello how are you doing I just got home from work today and tomorrow I have to go to the love of god wilb you doing today
Majority think like Barbie even if they're a 3/10 in looks. The game is all messed up.
Imagine auto swiping right!? Some are needy enough to do it including a friend of mine. If you're not super selective you're reducing your value YOURSELF. Focus on developing your skills and career. The rest will come. You need lazer focus.
For privacy reasons, I couldn’t imagine sharing pictures with my family and friends, online or otherwise, without their explicit permission.
I had Tinder for a few hours. Just for curiosity.
The amount of sxual harassment and hatred was mindblowing.
Just because I am attrractive but didn't response like a hooker that has no sense of self.
Dating apps are like Uber Eats - if people don't get what they want instantly they get very very rude.
I had death threaths for saying I am not willing to visit a stranger in their appartment...
Hello 👋🏾
Would you consider yourself interesting to talk to?
@@SeFu2006 im not sure if you’re talking to me but if you are then yes
chances are you're not as attractive as you think
😂😂😂 You have to actually prove that you're an interesting person who has depth and a lot more to offer than just looks. If this happened to you after just a few hours, it probably means you sent the wrong message
About the right auto-swipes, I don’t know if the algorithm works like you say it works. I am an average to below average looking guy, and I always swipe left on women who are 7/10 or higher (because why bother?), and yet all I have been shown for the longest time is hyper attractive women which is no good. I want to find the normal looking women and I know that they are there somewhere, but they are hidden from me for some reason.
Don’t feel bad, I keep getting all these low down dirty busted looking guys on bumble 😂😂 I’m like wow bumble is trash..is this all there is?
I am for the 5 to 7 range and it works for me. I will be honest the man to woman ratio is so bad in Menver, CO that women can get most of the standards met especially when it comes to height.
I tried six dating apps and all the woman want to is chat forever. Never want to meet and I have been catfished on each of them.
😂 They're just using you for entertainment bro. I had the same happen to me. Dating apps are useless.
Everything is very simple. Girls don't want to date because their photos are edited with a bunch of filters. They are afraid to show their real face and figure.
There's no evidence that being selective gets you better results than being non-selective (as far as you do not swipe literally right every time and hence act like an actual bot)
Interesting
It got me better matches. But I wasn't in the city where I switched my location too. Sometimes changing cities gives much better results.
What it boils down to is whether or not "oversaturation" on the app has occurred or not, and fake accs. If the app is oversaturated, you're almost SOL. I'll explain: the "saturation" is when there are too many users that aren't that serious about it. And the other thing is fake accounts, if you're swiping on a bunch of people who aren't even real then ofc you're not getting a date. This is why apps that require verification tend to get you more conversations.
😮 yeah gurl
I'm a man in his late 20s that's attracted to Filipinas and I always get hell for it. They're trolling me saying "just get a girl here, they're just gold diggers!" Bro there's gold diggers everywhere and I personally love Filipinas, they've always been good to me Even if we didn't work out, and I would like to have their genes in my bloodline. People can say what they want cause I know what I want and I wouldn't pick anyone that I didn't trust.
That seems kind of like actual racism. Not fake Twitter/Tumblr racism for people to say that.
@@boomerkobold3943 sad part is that it's coming from the "anti racist" people. The same people that'll claim they're against racism during elections are the same ones being a racist POS.
Go for what you want do accept clouded opinions
EXACTLY. this is what women dont understand in the west. its not us its them. western women have zero godhood. i read your message with that badass music in the background and honestly its super fitting. what you just said more white dudes in the west need to hear. they simply arent appreciated in the west. philipinas ARE THE BEST! its not even close.
That goodness they don’t do in in Europe this dating apps, still to the old fashion ways, meet through friends social events, bars restaurants, museums etc. Being told when I was in the USA by a girl there she love dating using apps, she said I never have to buy food the guy take her out to dinner, buying flowers, going away for weekends breaks etc, she said she no intentions of having serious relationship with theses men she met, I ask her how she break off with the men, she said and I quote, just tell the guy he not compatible and she not ready for serious relationship, and move to next one. That really sad and shallow
Iv spend 7 years with two diff women I met through online dating. Easily the worst relationships Iv ever had. Even if she looks good, online girls are just busted. Mentally or emotionally or both. Respect isn’t given. Because odds are she settled. And if shit hits the fan, shel go right back to swiping. Easy come easy go. Meet them in person, falling for a pic is retarded. Just push through it and walk up to a stranger. I know it sux, no one said it’s easy. But it’s how our parents met. If they had online, we wouldn’t be here.
So sorry for,Hope you see the right person
I’m not paying for dating app most has a free trial though
Yes me too I really upset of dating online scammers I send messages but can't work cause I need to pay first before sending my message
Don’t pay! I never have. In a decade I’ve had 6 women from POF and one was a long term relationship. Also two cold approaches, one was a 6 month relationship. Some of these were on off/recurring things. So 6 out of 8 were from a dating app.
Thank you for this information 😍
I left dating apps for the correct reasons he is actually mentioning
The algo is constantly broken, they don't hire world class programmers. Nothing makes sense when you use it, paid or not.
Most online app are money making. I left everything about on line dating
Is Todd any different? Isn't his income based on how many single guys ask him for coaching?
This is true tinder actually sucks !! They want you to pay for everything (I m sure soon will ask you to pay even for log in session 🙃) tinder is in its last days is going the same road that badoo at beginning both were good but their end start when wanted us to pay for everything .. 👎🏻
Good points Todd. I actually dont mind if the app doesn't show me any attractive girls. I'm only on it for a short term fling, and having fun with an average girl or worse is actually preferable. They're better in the sack.
The only people getting something of of this dating apps company, with false promises etc
And if you’re looking for a genuine connection you must have a lot of time and effort by using dating apps 👐.
Absolutely true
Hello
This is perfection. I had the pleasure of reading something similar, and it was an absolute perfection. "The Art of Meaningful Relationships in the 21st Century" by Leo Flint
This guy look like he could be Micheal Douglas son
Subscribed! Cant wait to crack some codes of my own.
Be good. Be confident. Have integrity. Go out, dance, socialize. 'f' dating apps. Live to your fullest and be happy. It'll come when u least expect it.
I had installed tinder and specified the age i want for men it was bringing me older men and most of them are just there for fun nothing serious just because am attractive doesn't mean am a h** .it's so annoying
This is absolutely true, I have tried a bunch of several dating apps and paid on them but the women seem not real to me, they just fight to keep you chatting for a long er time on the dating sites like you came to stay there other than , meeting in life (face to face), I hate it, It seems to me like most of them are AI operated and these women on the site have no actual feelings, Oooh 😮 dating apps suck
The algorithm wants to see you active and swiping normal. The more active = more visibility on the deck.
Personally ive tried so hard to get girls/matches on dating app and realized its hopeless endeavor. Ive had dating coaches help me with it and for some, done stuff todd said and it just doesn't work .
Note I'm average looking
8/10 mininum requirement for some success with women, its not your fault, its how it is
Don’t be a average looking then bro. I was average looking so I got to 10% bodyfat and upped my style. Looks maxing is Night and day difference
Because online dating is not meant to be successful anymore. It's designed to keep men feeling hopeless so they'll continue using the sites which keeps the company profitability ratings up. They're literally preying on men. Even further, by keeping men feeling insecure about their chances, it adds to the fear of interacting with women in real life which then creates a hyper-reliance on the apps.
@@justacoginthefkerythen why stay stuck on the apps then? The apps don’t have that kind of power unless it’s given to them. How bout get off the phone, go out and actually make real effort face to face? Apps are passive anyways. Masculine energy isn’t about passivity
Get good professional photos
The apps, like all corporations, only care about two things. Making money and not being sued.
I already knew this I was just hoping I could find someone that would love me
Can I give up now I'm done with dating apps
Fake & old profiles overwhelm Hinge where I am .. I automatically ask the attractive women why they’re on the app in the first place & then ask to prove they’re real by answering a random question or repeat a made up word .. so far, no responses .. shocker
It works best to send messages and ask to dialogue off the app by asking for a personal number. And ask to meet in person within a few messages. otherwise you'll be wasting your time. Remember you're most likely not the only one she is chatting with.. So it's best to act or move on.
The app wants to match it with your money.
OH SHIT, that’s why my app is always poppin and my friends isn’t 😂😂😂
I can't stand living in this online world anymore. I just want to find someone to love not be taken advantage of because of my loneliness which is what dating apps do. Its inhuman and cruel. What have we done to ourselves
Hello there
@@Charlotte_45 General Kenobi!
@@harriskendrick7011 how are you doing
@@harriskendrick7011 how are you
I swore that I would never go online again. It would seem like my best strategy would be to keep the promise to myself.
damn whats with sweet dreams by marlyn manson being the background music LOLOL good video tho
I got so hype lol
Eurythmics is the artist 👩🎨… MM just did a cover of the song 🙌🏽
@@ScottRadkeMusic yes but this was definitely mansons version
I had never thought of it that way
Poignant words for both those seeking lasting relationships as well as those seeking more "immediate results". Please continue to speak truth to horniness!
This is why I am apprehensive on using dating apps, its so casual and loose
Thank you for the information Sir.
That was a cool insight
The proof is when they are selling 6 month memberships, then nickel and dime you on superswipes,stars, enhanced profiles temporarily or what ever gimmicks that bilk more money out of you. CHADS only benefit on apps.
I purposely swipe left on chads 😂
Chads are the most boring men on those apps.
I used to be on those apps and I wasn't swiping every girl I see, being actually selective but I never got lucky.
😢 sad to know that you look attractive yourself tho
What's the point of using dating apps. Smh.
I found a long term relationship on dating apps. It lasted 8 years.
Beggars don't have a choice, do they?
Bro, the song in the background is a banger!!
You're quit a banger as well 😊
😂 repeated for about 30 mins
@@Marbee-g7p it's sweet dreams by Marilyn Manson, you're welcome
All these insidious algo changes started when match took over
karma is seriously next level, I had them make portraits of old family photos to preserve the memories forever
Oh no, I swiped right on everyone hoping to weed out the nonsense, but now I’ve messed up the algorithm. I thought the men showing up were a bit obscure. I find it all so shallow and repetitive. I’m burnt out after just one day. It’s also surreal to go outside and not interact with any men outside of business, only to be hounded on the app like I’m a supermodel. I’m absolutely not! I spend time telling decent guys I’m not ignoring them, I’m just overwhelmed. It’s bad for our minds and pair bonding but realistically what are people to do who work and can’t spend exorbitant amounts of money to portray they’re the most interesting man/woman in the world?
So basically, think more algorithmically.
It explains a lot
Song name please
I’m on all popular dating apps, hinge, tinder, bumble, females except so much of guys
Would anyone recommend bumble for dating decent people?
Only swipe right on verfied accounts and even then.... fake bots
Oh $h_t. Of course.
I have tried all these apps but still can't find any soulmate with whom I can share my feelings and love.... I have never been into any relationship
The book "The Dating App Confessions" by Tindell has good advice and warnings.
We're doomed We're all doomed We're never make it 😮
It's giving "Black Mirror".
I got 3500 likes in 2 weeks and I just sit there paralyzed not knowing who to pick through this shitload of contenders.
Ps this guys advice is incomprehensible.
I feel like they hire people just to like you so you’ll pay for the subscription and then they ghost you.
"mediocre girls" 😂
Lol right? I thought all girls 10's... Haha
So you got used to having your feelings being protected from reality?
@@mco4972 I wonder how you look like
@@Reshme77¿Does that matter? ¿Is their argument any less valid if they're less attractive?
When MAJORITY of these dudes on these apps are 5 and less !!!
The males are mad because women in US are raising their standards on these "ordinary, common, average, fair" looking guys!!!
Studies show it's the men on these apps who are getting ghosted the most because they are ugly monsters 👹👺🧟♂️🧟. Hardly have any type of personality, most are broke , too many got ED! Like these dudes in this country are becoming more useless !
What do you mean by mediocre?
Average attractiveness. Which is subjective and different for everybody
"But this *dismal outcome* has *long been* in *the making* on *many fronts.* Over numerous decades a grand experiment engaging in social engineering with America’s youth has been steadily working to homogenize a lowest common denominator product of sub par mediocrity, creating generations of young Americans who can neither read nor write, nor think for themselves in any critical manner. According to a study last year by the US Department of Education, 19% of US high school graduates cannot read, 21% of adults read below 5th grade level and that these alarming rates have not changed in the last ten years." - *ARTICLE* - *"The Dumbing Down of America - By Design".*
Thank you
Imagine being scammed by a sub-5 😂😂😂
I thought the purpose of dating apps was to validate women??
No wonder why it just worked in the beginning
Tried em a few times. Every match got I swear I was talking a chat bot that just got installed and doesn’t know how to human yet lol either that or likes from women I wasn’t even remotely attracted to.
Different Perspective:
As a trans-girl, I prefer dating app/s.
Why? Because men are kind of crazy and the dating app provides a “buffer” before actually meeting him in person.
No “shade”, I’m just saying. 😂♥️
👸🏻🏳️⚧️
Exactly!It is all about money. 😩