its not really savage, girl group members are usually not even allowed to date people openly and besides whats the chance of dating someone you've never met
Agree. I know since I'm european our cultures are very different, but I think they go too far over jealousy. As a Spanish girl I'd only date someone like that guy, the one with the grey sweater.
well, it's cultural difference. Doesn't mean it's wrong. Plus, they are being consistent with their standards. If they don't like their partners doing something, they don't do it either. seems fair
Like the brown sweater guy said, hugs and actions of those kind are very different in Korea when compared to America for example. It’s a lot more intimate and meaningful in Korea, whereas in America it’s very casual. Hence, I think that explains the stance on a lot of these people.
As long as the other person is okay with it hugs can be given to strangers, co-workers, friends and family without it being classed as sexual or romantic. A hug can be a tactile way of showing warmth, friendliness, acceptance and/or support. I'm not American but rather than thinking of a hug of a casual thing it's just a human thing. NOT implying Korean culture isn't human or less than human at all. Just different and that's perfectly okay.
alessander Every culture has a different level of skinship, and personal space so even that definition you gave is subjunctive. In some cultures kisses have the same definition as that, looking at it that way it should be abit easier to understand their cultural stance
Of course. That's why I specifically used "can be" instead of more definite language. Isn't it common sense to assume that people understand this without having everything written in stone? I come from a multi-racial family so it's standard for me to be used to differing social and cultural aspects but thank you anyway.
Korea is not the only country where people think hugging is a pretty intimate gesture actually. On this point the french culture is quite the same, hugs between opposite genders are seen as acceptable if it's between very close friends, pretty like best friends (otherwise we'll just assume they're siblings or cousins lol) however we do the bise for any occasion which i know is pretty messed up :p But i'm pretty sure there are a lot more countries than just france and korea that work like that.
RL It explains shit. These people are just being sexist. If they feel like hugs are so important, then don't allow your bf/gf to give them to anyone duh. They are being possessive and, I repeat, unbelievable sexist, because they think people can only have friends of their same sex, which is a fucking lie. I say all excepting the grey sweater guy, he only speaks truth.
He seems cool but too laid back. It’s as if is his partner could cheat one day he wouldn’t even be shocked or upset... just tell her that’s understandable bye lmao 😂
Everyone's criticizing Young Jun because he's mature and knows how to _trust_ his partner in addition to loving them. If you get jealous and possessive easily, that may be a testament of your love and loyalty to your SO, but that is also an indicator of lack of trust. In in extreme cases, possessiveness is a precursor to abuse. If you're easily worried 24/7 over every single thing about your partner, then you're doing it wrong and you're probably better off single until you can sort things out. People in healthy relationships ("healthy" being the key word) should be able to breathe and do what they want, knowing that their partner is faithful and loves them enough to maintain the propriety of the relationship. I agree that there are boundaries to be set, but let's face it-- it is on the couples as individuals to know each other's priorities from the very start. Without trust, a relationship will be like eggshells on the ground.
Laura Deth Exactly! And I mean, there's no harm in being curious about what the other is doing, but to me it's always excessive when they mandate a bunch of dos and don'ts under the threat of rage/breakup. And I absolutely do not understand why it's so inconceivable to people that exes can be on good terms with each other!!! I hate when my friends completely shut a good person out of their life either to prove their love to their new bf/gf or their new bf/gf is just greedy. -.- Kudos to you for keeping things real!
An Awkward Sweet Potato I was thinking this through the whole video ! Restricting your partner in these areas also means you’re implying you aren’t giving them an ounce of trust. I’d personally feel very uncomfortable having a partner who thinks like that about me
Well, and you're also probably insecure if you have such strong feeling about your partner going out and being friends with other people. You must think you aren't good enough or there are other people out there better than you and you just don't have a lot of love for yourself. You just can't rely on other people for your happiness and for ALL of the love you receive. I feel like it has to come from you if you have any hope of having a stress-free and easy going relationship.
I personally havent been in a relationship for more then 2 months. Sadly. But if i were to say how i feel. As long as she doesnt give me a reason to not trust her. She can do whatever she wants(within the boundries of our relationship of course.
I know right?! 🤣🤣 more seriously though, I feel like that’s a good way to get it through back, like a boomerang. Me in particular, I’d for aim the head .
Everyone ideally looking for a partner that's like the grey sweater guy, but even then y'all would start complaining that they ain't getting jealous enough lol
This is insanity. Korean dating is scary. You won't date a girl who you describe as having a great personality because she has male friends?!?!?! What kind of nonsense is that. The guy in the gray shirt only got more attractive as the video went through.
there aren't really enough people in the video for you to assume all Koreans are like this.. plus realistically tonnes of people in the West get jealous or are controlling
lmao for real when i started watching this video i was like "nice, I'm gonna date a korean person" because I'm clingy and kinda jealous myself but as the video went on... nah man I want to be able to do what I want to and my partner should trust me. My ex gf is still one of my best friends and I wouldn't wanna stop talking to her
Personally i keep photos saved from different parts of my life. Even if the person i was in a relationship with romantically or as a friend did me wrong i still keep them because they are a part of my life weither i like it or not. Its memories i keep to look back at to help me improve as a person or to look back at that time in my life.
sweet dreams I mean idk it’s just creepy to keep pictures of a relationship that doesn’t exist anymore. It’s healthier to just remember the lessons Iike most people do instead of physically looking at pictures. But in general, it’s just insensitive to the current partner in the relationship so idk it’s just a dick move.
i would let my partner do whatever since i dont own them. It makes me wonder: if your so worried about your partner cheating on you then why are you with them in the first place? The partner is the problem not the person theyre cheating with.
It's just a fear people have. Even the most faithful partners may cheat, but worrying about it will cause you unnecessary stress and anxiety so it's not worth it. I think people should let their partners do whatever, and if they cheat, find a new partner or work through it or whatever. Deal with it when it happens instead of worrying about the possibilities.
Exactly. It's not my place to police what my partner does. My feelings and actions are my responsibility and theirs belong to them. A relationship without trust is my idea of hell and if I really felt like the other person wasn't compatible with me then I'd either work on it or leave. Why stress yourself out worrying about all the bad things your partner MIGHT do? I chose them because I like them and want to be with them. Not because I wanted to panic attack myself into an early grave.
I think a lot of people worry because they probably were in some situations where their partners might have lied to them before or eventually did something wrong so I suppose some are worried that this situation would happen again.
i think rather than not trusting their partner, they dont trust the strangers/people that their partner might meet, lets say the clubbing qn, theres alot of cases of girls getting r*ped/etc by strangers. And also for the drinking qn, there are people out there who would purposely get u drunk to get in bed with you
The guy in the grey sweater is definitely the more sensible of the bunch. Of course, the entire dating experience in Korea is a culture by itself with quirks that would be seen as excessive and even extreme in the west. Even with that in mind, I think the guy in grey made really valid points. Talking things out before blowing it out of proportion should be universal. In terms of skinship, though, like I mentioned in terms of culture, the concept itself viewed as a vital form of intimacy in Korea among couples and because it's regarded that way, it's understandable that it strike an unpleasant nerve for them to have their significant other hug someone of the opposite gender. It comes down to culture, ultimately.
Honestly if your dating someone who always makes you jealous, then what's the point? That shit is mentally tiring and annoying, and it's not what I want to think about all the time when I'm with that person.
Why is it so hard for people to trust someone with alcohol involved? If they cheat on u, it's not the alcohols fault, that's them. I have never had this issue at all when I was dating. Since there is no point to date if you don't trust your partner.
@@claramendonca7380 True, but when both of them are drunk to the point of memory loss... you can see how these things can happen. That being said, alcohol is bad, period. If you drink, do so moderately.
for some people, alcohol makes them extremely incapable of reacting the way they would if they were sober. I’ve literally turned into a diff person bcs of it. getting drunk w/o your partner present can be dangerous so i completely understand why it’d make their partner uncomfortable
I don't understand why people hate the guy in the brown sweater so much!! Be honest with yourself, it really wouldn't bother you if your bf/gf fantasized over someone who's not you?? Or went out to drink with someone alone, or kept pictures of their ex and stayed in contact with them?? When you commit to someone, you're supposed to love only them. So it's completely okay to get jealous or protective to a certain degree. He's not old fashioned or strict, he's just someone who truly cares about his relationship. I'd pick him in a heartbeat, because that's a real mean right there.
Young Jun was such a nice, chill guy. He seemed like someone you could really be comfortable with in a relationship. Chris also had pretty reasonable answers. I think it's good to be able to just relax and trust your partner.
The grey sweater guy is the only sane one, it would seem. I understand cultural difference, with drinking, clubbing and (even!) hugging, but man are these people insecure and emotionally unhealthy, it's pure wonder how there are any relationships at all, if majority of people thinks and acts this way o___O
I don't think I could ever be with a korean person. The dating culture is too different, it's mostly cultural but i don't like clinginess and jealousy haha
It's very hard. I have lived in Korea for 4 years and I find dating very difficult. I've had guys threaten to break up with me because I didn't message back within 30 minutes. I can't be glued to my phone all the time.
I really hope they realize how toxic their thoughts about relationships are and they change their minds (except the grey sweater guy, he was open-minded and 0 toxic)
I like how the guy with the gray sweater thinks. Instead of being jealous if his girlfriend goes out drinking with a guy he worries about her safety instead😭😭❤❤
I know! He's so sweet! Btw, I'm also a Jimin fan. Do you think he'd be as open? I have a feeling with his insecurities, he'd prob. be a bit jealous. Hopefully, he's not crazy with it though. 😂
I can somewhat relate to the guy in the gray sweater. When it comes to relationships i’m very laidback, I don’t really care what my bf does as long as he keeps it in his pants. That doesn’t mean I don’t ever get jealous, being jealous is totally normal. It’s more about the way you handle it- Also I keep in touch with my exes nothing wrong with that.
‘ only if she hugs someone from another culture’ dude, i either hug anyone or no one. I’m not going to discriminate. the guy in the gray sweater is the most sensible.
Mari I think what he meant was that it’s diffrent if someone from another culture hugs you because for example in america hugging is a casual way of greeting someone but in korea its not. So it would be more understandable if the person would be from another culture.
i hate jealousy. i think it's an unnecessary feeling to have. it blatantly means you don't trust your partner. what's the point in being in a relationship if you're constantly scared and questioning your partner? that's a toxic relationship right there.
Here's the thing: everyone feels jealousy if they like someone else BUT the way they handle it is key. If they think trying to control their partner instead of cooling down and being rational about it then they definitely do not deserve a partner since it shows that they do not trust them
1. Don't care 2. Don't care as long as you're happy 3. Don't care if you're close or you know them well enough. Strangers I'd be worried for your safety 4. Don't care, have fun 5. I'd ask you about it because I'm curious, but otherwise I don't care. They're your past. I'm your present and future (+1Up) 6. Don't care 7. Don't care
@@alkan68 You clearly don't know what a mature relationship looks like, amateur. Loving someone includes me trusting and respecting them. It's natural for people to feel possessive or jealous, but not to the point of restricting the other person's happiness. Live some, grow up and then come back to me.
Andrea AP i’m waiting lol no nobody really wants to meet me, i think anyways i’m not a jealous bicch (shameless self promotion 🤧✊🏻) okay i’ll now leave lmao
Young Jun, dude in the sweater, I RESPECT YOU!!! I'm pretty much the exact same way myself, so I was startled at first to see them say they'd get jealous at hugging. Granted, it's somewhat a cultural thing, but it still seems very extreme to me.
My partner and I have been together for four years and crazy in love. My partner is way more relaxed than that guy. Has always been. As have I. We exist, babe.
the guy in the leather jacket... ugh. in every video he shows up in, he never fails to annoy me. it just got to the point where i started skipping the parts where he talks. it’s the ego, dude. it’s cool and all to be confident, but that’s just bordering arrogance now. his head gassed up with too much pride. meet me on Earth dude.
Well a lot of Korean men have huge egos, due in part because mothers raise the boys like little princes and Korean is still very male oriented. Koreans are also very high achievers with super high standards so people here in general have big egos, both male and females.
You saw the video, right? Almost everyone had the exact same thoughts and feelings. The men and women in this video agree on almost everything. The leather jacket guy was a bit over the top, but I think the others were also a bit reserved as compared to how they would act if those situations were to actually happen.
In every relationship TRUST, HONESTY and GOOD COMMUNICATION are a must add RESPECT to the mix and you got one solid Relationship. The guy in the grey sweater seems to be open at "Let's talk and clear out any confusion in our relationship" that's good. =)
The last guy in grey. The one who doesn't get jealous. Not conventionally physically attractive but he's one of those that they get more attractive the more you get to know them. I like him! I like how he thinks!
Young Jun, if you're reading this: I love your values and your character. You really seem like an amazing and attractive person. I wish I could meet someone that had your self-confidence and open mentality.
I personally like when my partner is a little jealous and possessive, but I also like him to be mature and know how to address a problem. Like, just talk about the things that make you uncomfortable rather than be all mad and making assumptions. So I really appreciate the grey sweater guy. Even though I would like my partner to be more possessive than him, I really love how he was like "I would ask her first before I get mad", rather than all the other people who seemed to jump to conclusions right away.
Young Jun had the most mature answers out of the bunch. Some y'all complaining that he's to laid back in the relationship but fail to realize that he's communicating with his girlfriend without jumping to conclusions on his own. He has a lot of trust in her and he expects to communicate with her like an actual adult instead of getting jealous over petty shit. If you're in a relationship and try to test your partner's love for you by intentionally making them jealous, you don't deserved to be in a relationship. Jealousy shouldn't be an indicator of your love for someone.
I love Korean culture. So honest. Many people in the world suppress their own jealousy or shame each other for it, but it's a naturally occurring human emotion, and we shouldn't hurt each other when we experience it. If you really love someone, you try to help them feel secure. Of course adults should have healthy limits and all, but we should care for our partner when they're jealous just like when they have any other worry and reassure them.
I always think it’s cute and I feel very special if a guy is clingy, possessive, or gets jealous... It’s just a giant wave of “I love you and I want to be with you”. It shows that he loves and cares for you. I don’t care if it’s over the top but if he has very bad anger problems I would have to dial it down or not be with them. Yong Jae is a great example of what I am talking about. He would get upset but not in my mind over the top too much. My ideal type is someone thinking like Yong Jae or the guy in the leather jacket (couldn’t find his name).
Typically if someone gets clingy, possessive, or jealous, it's more about their own insecurities than how they feel about you. On the other hand, I think it's very touching if someone is able to put their own ego and insecurities aside in order to consider the other person's situation and feelings. But, that's just me.
oh boi i relate to the grey shirt guy most of the time. in fact, i think i'd let my partner keep their photos with their partners but not like, solo photos. i don't really want my partner to forget his past. if i am sure that he's over her, then it's fine to keep photos. it was his memories that i'm not apart of but it was the memories that shaped my partner into who he is. but that is just me. tho, i usually straight forwardly say to my partner that i don't find monthsaries, anniversaries, birthdays, to be important so i may accidentally forget about it if life decides to rush me over with whales of works. but if there's anything, i'm insecure af and need constant reminder that my partner loves me. and i swear to god i can dote on my partner a lot. like, constant cuddling, frequent hugs, pecks and kisses.
"I don't let her." -- What? Why does she need to get your permission? I can understand, "We decided that we wouldn't do that" but no to getting "permission" from your boyfriend. I'm not 8 years-old.
i like the guy in a gray sweater, realistic, open-minded, hugging other guys doesn't mean she likes me less , aint no time for petty jealousy, liking idols is just simply admiration hahahaha, basically in a relationship trust is the foundation.... . way to go
The guy in the guy sweater is me hahaha it's about trust people!! unfortunately for me though i dated a guy who was very insecure on the inside and thought i was cheating on him cause it looked like i didn't care to him so he cheated on me and became very controlling 😩. that guy deserves someone who is trusting and honest about everything none of those bullshit games where you have to be a bloody mind reader to understand that what your partner is saying/doing has another meaning, honestly that shit is annoying haha
Kudos to the guy in the grey sweater. Willing to have a conversation about something that bothers him but is understanding and trusting. 10/10 healthy relationship approach
I love grey jumper guy! Trust seems to be missing from all of the other people! I’m moving to Korea in September and if it is like this when I date it will take a lot of adapting as I don’t like people telling me what to do or telling me not to see friends!
In Brazil you hug when meeting someone and when you are saying bye, you even kiss if you are close friends, i think this would be very weird for them considering they are koreans and i understand that but i just can't understand why they don't like to date someone who has a lot of friendships with the opposite sex , is cheating that common in korea so they are constantly afraid cause damn . My group of friends is 6 guys and 3 girls, is much more fun to hang out with everyone than just girls or just boys in my opnion.
In my interracial relationship with my spouse who is Korean, I realized that we get jealous when we don't know the friends that we're hanging out with. Once we both meet each other's friends, then the jealousy goes away because we have the experience of seeing how close they are with each other. It became someone that I knew or vice versa so there was never jealousy involved.
Jealousy and possessiveness is such a dealbreaker for me. Having been in a relationship with someone like that, it starts out as just jealousy. But then, it gets extreme. It starts with just don’t drink or go one on one with a guy, but then he thought this one guy was a threat and he wouldn’t let me go to bible study because he was there even though it was a group setting. At first, he was holding me accountable for things I could control, but then he started blaming me for things I couldn’t control. A little jealousy is fine but if you’re not careful, it can worse and worse.
It's funny, jealousy seems like it's more socially acceptable in Korea. In the west, jealousy has been made into a taboo emotion, even though it's an extremely common and often natural feeling. In the west, being jealous is seen as abusive or controlling, even if it's justified by the other person's unreasonable behaviour, or just mild. It was nice to hear people talking so candidly because in the west there is so much of a fake 'I don't care' attitude when the person obviously does care.
Being jealous and voicing my jealousy is perfectly healthy and natural. Dictating to my partner what they can and can't do as a result of my jealousy, fear and insecurities isn't something I'm interested in.
this is eye opening to me. I've been in a relationship longer than anyone I know my age and now I think I understand why. years ago my SO was out drinking without me. they kissed someone else, and told me, and we talked it out, and many years later here we are. if I'd gone nuts like these people it would have ended that night. and many many other nights, when much more serious tensions were threatening us. love is not everything: you need teamwork, compromise, sacrifice, and above all forgiveness. trust is implicit in all of that of course. if you're with someone who truly doesn't honour the relationship, you'll find out. but if you think policing it will help you, it's over before you'll ever find out.
The gray sweater guy is really mature. I liked him. Lol I don't think it's because he's acting cool. I believe he thinks before getting jealous. I'm not a jealous person but if you give me reason of course I will.
What's wrong with having pictures of your ex on your phone? As long as it isn't from after you broke up that you deliberately downloaded them, or if you have it as a screensaver, otherwise it's fine. Just because you broke up doesn't mean you were never together..
*HUGE* props to the guy in the grey sweater 👏👏👏 at the end of the day a solid relationship needs trust. It's obvious that he's willing to put his trust into the relationship and not jump to conclusions, but rather talk about it first. PATS ON BACKS FOR HIM!
WHOS BRINGING THEIR BF/GF TO THE CLUB?? Lmao i go there to dance with my girls, get lit and go home, lmao not for you to hover around me like a helicopter of worry oh my. As long as we both know that we arent doing anything that disrespects our relationship i dont see why not lolol
I'm the same way. If I want to my with my bf/gf, I'd rather to a more relaxing, intimate setting. The club is more of place I'd rather go with friends. I'd feel very uncomfortable and weird with my SO, lol.
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" I don't get jealous of girl idol groups. He can't have them"!!!!!!! SAVAGE!!! 2:06
its not really savage, girl group members are usually not even allowed to date people openly and besides whats the chance of dating someone you've never met
*”people are free to fantasize about whatever they want”* so much respect to Youngjun!!
You'd be okay with your partner fantasising over one of your friends?
Huwelf these people don't seem to understand the word "fantasize." 😂😂😅
@@EndangeredSpecie98 if you don't know why would it bother you? You can only not be ok if you find out realistically. Just saying
...How did you get the name of Youngjun here??!!...I am so curious!!
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shout out to the gray sweater guy. ain't nobody got time for jealously or being clingy lol.
Don't date a korean then lmao
probably doesnt have to worry as much since he's not dating western girls since they tend to cheat a lot
Becca somehow I found it as a turn off idk, like it's nice if a guy gets a little jealous imo
Catnapper that's a vast overgeneralization.
IKR
the guy in the grey sweater seems very reasonable. reminds me of myself lol
datt guy i would fall in love with a guy like that
East Korea relax..
a lil TOO relaxed
East Korea i dont even watch anime hahahahaha
i wish i could be that reasonable
literally in love w the grey sweater guy, everyone else really doing too much
he's a lil TOO relaxed
Xeng Thao still i think ALOT of people would prefer being with him than the other people in this vid
Agree. I know since I'm european our cultures are very different, but I think they go too far over jealousy. As a Spanish girl I'd only date someone like that guy, the one with the grey sweater.
that's his business not yours fam. he has enough confidence in himself to not get worked up over this shit
well, it's cultural difference. Doesn't mean it's wrong. Plus, they are being consistent with their standards. If they don't like their partners doing something, they don't do it either. seems fair
Like the brown sweater guy said, hugs and actions of those kind are very different in Korea when compared to America for example. It’s a lot more intimate and meaningful in Korea, whereas in America it’s very casual. Hence, I think that explains the stance on a lot of these people.
As long as the other person is okay with it hugs can be given to strangers, co-workers, friends and family without it being classed as sexual or romantic. A hug can be a tactile way of showing warmth, friendliness, acceptance and/or support. I'm not American but rather than thinking of a hug of a casual thing it's just a human thing. NOT implying Korean culture isn't human or less than human at all. Just different and that's perfectly okay.
alessander Every culture has a different level of skinship, and personal space so even that definition you gave is subjunctive. In some cultures kisses have the same definition as that, looking at it that way it should be abit easier to understand their cultural stance
Of course. That's why I specifically used "can be" instead of more definite language. Isn't it common sense to assume that people understand this without having everything written in stone? I come from a multi-racial family so it's standard for me to be used to differing social and cultural aspects but thank you anyway.
Korea is not the only country where people think hugging is a pretty intimate gesture actually. On this point the french culture is quite the same, hugs between opposite genders are seen as acceptable if it's between very close friends, pretty like best friends (otherwise we'll just assume they're siblings or cousins lol) however we do the bise for any occasion which i know is pretty messed up :p
But i'm pretty sure there are a lot more countries than just france and korea that work like that.
RL It explains shit. These people are just being sexist. If they feel like hugs are so important, then don't allow your bf/gf to give them to anyone duh. They are being possessive and, I repeat, unbelievable sexist, because they think people can only have friends of their same sex, which is a fucking lie.
I say all excepting the grey sweater guy, he only speaks truth.
The guy in the gray seems like a genuine sweet heart we need more men like him in this world
You like him only because he remind you your own culture
Yesssss
Grey sweater guy, omg, why aren't there more people like you!?
There sure are. But you probably have to look into another culture for that.
Because there are cheaters in this world
@@leannalamb7006 this. peoples hearts are damaged thats why we are jealous
...i’m here ^^
but like only in personality I DON’T LOOK AS GOOD lmao
He seems cool but too laid back. It’s as if is his partner could cheat one day he wouldn’t even be shocked or upset... just tell her that’s understandable bye lmao 😂
Everyone's criticizing Young Jun because he's mature and knows how to _trust_ his partner in addition to loving them. If you get jealous and possessive easily, that may be a testament of your love and loyalty to your SO, but that is also an indicator of lack of trust. In in extreme cases, possessiveness is a precursor to abuse. If you're easily worried 24/7 over every single thing about your partner, then you're doing it wrong and you're probably better off single until you can sort things out. People in healthy relationships ("healthy" being the key word) should be able to breathe and do what they want, knowing that their partner is faithful and loves them enough to maintain the propriety of the relationship. I agree that there are boundaries to be set, but let's face it-- it is on the couples as individuals to know each other's priorities from the very start. Without trust, a relationship will be like eggshells on the ground.
Laura Deth Exactly! And I mean, there's no harm in being curious about what the other is doing, but to me it's always excessive when they mandate a bunch of dos and don'ts under the threat of rage/breakup. And I absolutely do not understand why it's so inconceivable to people that exes can be on good terms with each other!!! I hate when my friends completely shut a good person out of their life either to prove their love to their new bf/gf or their new bf/gf is just greedy. -.- Kudos to you for keeping things real!
An Awkward Sweet Potato I was thinking this through the whole video ! Restricting your partner in these areas also means you’re implying you aren’t giving them an ounce of trust. I’d personally feel very uncomfortable having a partner who thinks like that about me
PREACH!!
Well, and you're also probably insecure if you have such strong feeling about your partner going out and being friends with other people. You must think you aren't good enough or there are other people out there better than you and you just don't have a lot of love for yourself. You just can't rely on other people for your happiness and for ALL of the love you receive. I feel like it has to come from you if you have any hope of having a stress-free and easy going relationship.
I personally havent been in a relationship for more then 2 months. Sadly. But if i were to say how i feel. As long as she doesnt give me a reason to not trust her. She can do whatever she wants(within the boundries of our relationship of course.
I like how the grey sweater guy wouldnt be mad at first but ask her why ... I mean she could have not seen that picture so..
Right! Im the kind of grl that would forget abour things like that..(even tho i still never experienced dating lmao)
everyone was all like hell no and then grey sweater guy over here restoring my faith in people
find yourself a man like young jun hes so calm it amazes me
*first*
_Ill throw the phone_
LMAO THAT HAD ME WEAK I CANT
that was a little scary and abusive lol
Ametaf Johora ik but still lmao
I know right?! 🤣🤣 more seriously though, I feel like that’s a good way to get it through back, like a boomerang. Me in particular, I’d for aim the head .
Gloria wow ill try to do this next time if i find a pic of his ex on his phone
He seemed really insecure tbh
everyone else : if i see the opposite sex releasing carbon dioxide in there air bubble imma be flippin tables
guy in gray sweater: lol it kool
😂😂
That brown sweater guy would probably lock his girl in a basement if she'd threatento leave him
HAHAHA
RIGHT?!
Prima I actually laughed-
Oh my god lol
Prima omg !
Everyone ideally looking for a partner that's like the grey sweater guy, but even then y'all would start complaining that they ain't getting jealous enough lol
Miriam Mimi lol true
Nope. I prefer people who are extremely emotionally secure. Less drama, more good times.
It's fine being a little jealous once in a while but overly possessive no thanks.
alessander I'm just going to tattoo what you said in my forehead, I swear.
Yeah but he seems wayyy too chill about everything
This is insanity. Korean dating is scary. You won't date a girl who you describe as having a great personality because she has male friends?!?!?! What kind of nonsense is that.
The guy in the gray shirt only got more attractive as the video went through.
there aren't really enough people in the video for you to assume all Koreans are like this.. plus realistically tonnes of people in the West get jealous or are controlling
the thing is that in the west being controlling is not acceptable while in Korea they think it is
lmao for real when i started watching this video i was like "nice, I'm gonna date a korean person" because I'm clingy and kinda jealous myself but as the video went on... nah man I want to be able to do what I want to and my partner should trust me. My ex gf is still one of my best friends and I wouldn't wanna stop talking to her
LOL! Aint that the truth. I'd date the guy in the gray sweater. Fuck the rest.
tbh, its a pretty fair representation of how the average Korean thinks, I have spoken to a few of them and these answers echoes what I have been told
Personally i keep photos saved from different parts of my life. Even if the person i was in a relationship with romantically or as a friend did me wrong i still keep them because they are a part of my life weither i like it or not. Its memories i keep to look back at to help me improve as a person or to look back at that time in my life.
sweet dreams Exactly!!
sweet dreams mmmkkk psycho
Same. I'd probably have the pictures in a photo book instead of my phone, but I'd still keep them as memories.
+영Tsyana Young 사야나 Then don't look at ur bf phone, look at your own, save the photos you want there........
sweet dreams I mean idk it’s just creepy to keep pictures of a relationship that doesn’t exist anymore. It’s healthier to just remember the lessons Iike most people do instead of physically looking at pictures.
But in general, it’s just insensitive to the current partner in the relationship so idk it’s just a dick move.
I hope I find someone like Young Jun, the world needs more people like him. He’s the only one here who is mature enough to be in a relationship.
Wow who has time for this possessive behavior? Sounds like a nightmare
4:08 "It shouldn't be on her phone, it should be buried somewhere in the mountains." LMAO WHY AM I LAUGHING SO HARD
i would let my partner do whatever since i dont own them. It makes me wonder: if your so worried about your partner cheating on you then why are you with them in the first place? The partner is the problem not the person theyre cheating with.
It's just a fear people have. Even the most faithful partners may cheat, but worrying about it will cause you unnecessary stress and anxiety so it's not worth it. I think people should let their partners do whatever, and if they cheat, find a new partner or work through it or whatever. Deal with it when it happens instead of worrying about the possibilities.
Exactly. It's not my place to police what my partner does. My feelings and actions are my responsibility and theirs belong to them. A relationship without trust is my idea of hell and if I really felt like the other person wasn't compatible with me then I'd either work on it or leave. Why stress yourself out worrying about all the bad things your partner MIGHT do? I chose them because I like them and want to be with them. Not because I wanted to panic attack myself into an early grave.
I think a lot of people worry because they probably were in some situations where their partners might have lied to them before or eventually did something wrong so I suppose some are worried that this situation would happen again.
Korean relationship issues 101
i think rather than not trusting their partner, they dont trust the strangers/people that their partner might meet, lets say the clubbing qn, theres alot of cases of girls getting r*ped/etc by strangers. And also for the drinking qn, there are people out there who would purposely get u drunk to get in bed with you
The guy in the grey sweater is definitely the more sensible of the bunch. Of course, the entire dating experience in Korea is a culture by itself with quirks that would be seen as excessive and even extreme in the west. Even with that in mind, I think the guy in grey made really valid points. Talking things out before blowing it out of proportion should be universal.
In terms of skinship, though, like I mentioned in terms of culture, the concept itself viewed as a vital form of intimacy in Korea among couples and because it's regarded that way, it's understandable that it strike an unpleasant nerve for them to have their significant other hug someone of the opposite gender. It comes down to culture, ultimately.
Honestly if your dating someone who always makes you jealous, then what's the point? That shit is mentally tiring and annoying, and it's not what I want to think about all the time when I'm with that person.
Why is it so hard for people to trust someone with alcohol involved? If they cheat on u, it's not the alcohols fault, that's them. I have never had this issue at all when I was dating. Since there is no point to date if you don't trust your partner.
If a person is drunk, then another person may take advantage of them and harm them. Alcohol overall is bad and you shouldn’t drink it.
@@briannalawson3478 but if someone decided to take advantage of a drunk person, that's SEXUAL ABUSE and definitely NOT the partner's fault.
@@claramendonca7380 True, but when both of them are drunk to the point of memory loss... you can see how these things can happen.
That being said, alcohol is bad, period. If you drink, do so moderately.
for some people, alcohol makes them extremely incapable of reacting the way they would if they were sober. I’ve literally turned into a diff person bcs of it. getting drunk w/o your partner present can be dangerous so i completely understand why it’d make their partner uncomfortable
I don't understand why people hate the guy in the brown sweater so much!! Be honest with yourself, it really wouldn't bother you if your bf/gf fantasized over someone who's not you?? Or went out to drink with someone alone, or kept pictures of their ex and stayed in contact with them?? When you commit to someone, you're supposed to love only them. So it's completely okay to get jealous or protective to a certain degree. He's not old fashioned or strict, he's just someone who truly cares about his relationship. I'd pick him in a heartbeat, because that's a real mean right there.
can I marry the grey shirt guy please
He has a girlfriend
Ana same
akansha mehrotra she must be really lucky 😂💕 but how do you know?
who's mary?
@@akanshamehrotra4594 shes very lucky😌
The guy in the grey sweater is AMAZING. You go boy, I hope you find the greatest partner ever 👌👌👏👏👏
Young Jun was such a nice, chill guy. He seemed like someone you could really be comfortable with in a relationship. Chris also had pretty reasonable answers. I think it's good to be able to just relax and trust your partner.
The grey sweater guy is the only sane one, it would seem.
I understand cultural difference, with drinking, clubbing and (even!) hugging, but man are these people insecure and emotionally unhealthy, it's pure wonder how there are any relationships at all, if majority of people thinks and acts this way o___O
I don't think I could ever be with a korean person. The dating culture is too different, it's mostly cultural but i don't like clinginess and jealousy haha
It's very hard. I have lived in Korea for 4 years and I find dating very difficult. I've had guys threaten to break up with me because I didn't message back within 30 minutes. I can't be glued to my phone all the time.
I would cringe so hard, ugh.
@@Sit-mf2il This. I am not one to be on my phone much. Also if I am working, what makes them think I have the time to message back so much.
I sadly agree with you!
I really hope they realize how toxic their thoughts about relationships are and they change their minds (except the grey sweater guy, he was open-minded and 0 toxic)
I like how the guy with the gray sweater thinks. Instead of being jealous if his girlfriend goes out drinking with a guy he worries about her safety instead😭😭❤❤
I know! He's so sweet!
Btw, I'm also a Jimin fan. Do you think he'd be as open? I have a feeling with his insecurities, he'd prob. be a bit jealous. Hopefully, he's not crazy with it though. 😂
Sam Hayet yeah I think he'd be both to be honest 😂
wow. and i thought i was jealous lol
i mean... if you want to control someone's life that much just get a dog
The guy with the gray sweater is so chill hahahaha
Paul Idson and that’s why he needs a partner that thinks the same way as him.
I can somewhat relate to the guy in the gray sweater. When it comes to relationships i’m very laidback, I don’t really care what my bf does as long as he keeps it in his pants.
That doesn’t mean I don’t ever get jealous, being jealous is totally normal. It’s more about the way you handle it-
Also I keep in touch with my exes nothing wrong with that.
‘ only if she hugs someone from another culture’
dude, i either hug anyone or no one. I’m not going to discriminate.
the guy in the gray sweater is the most sensible.
Mari I think what he meant was that it’s diffrent if someone from another culture hugs you because for example in america hugging is a casual way of greeting someone but in korea its not. So it would be more understandable if the person would be from another culture.
lmaoooooooooo
i hate jealousy. i think it's an unnecessary feeling to have. it blatantly means you don't trust your partner. what's the point in being in a relationship if you're constantly scared and questioning your partner? that's a toxic relationship right there.
Here's the thing: everyone feels jealousy if they like someone else BUT the way they handle it is key. If they think trying to control their partner instead of cooling down and being rational about it then they definitely do not deserve a partner since it shows that they do not trust them
I agree with you, jealousy is pointless.
the guy with the gray top is such a sweetheart
The guy in the grey sweater is so pure ahhhh😍😍😭 he seems so intelligent and his views are great❤️
1. Don't care
2. Don't care as long as you're happy
3. Don't care if you're close or you know them well enough. Strangers I'd be worried for your safety
4. Don't care, have fun
5. I'd ask you about it because I'm curious, but otherwise I don't care. They're your past. I'm your present and future (+1Up)
6. Don't care
7. Don't care
I can relate to you on a spiritual level, but -2 TELL ME SO WE CAN GO TO THE CONCERT AND FANGIRL/BOYING TOGETHER =D
Haha, aww yeah!
You are not even loving your partner. You dont understand how the human heart works,monster.
that’s healthier than being jealous of everything your partner does.
@@alkan68 You clearly don't know what a mature relationship looks like, amateur. Loving someone includes me trusting and respecting them. It's natural for people to feel possessive or jealous, but not to the point of restricting the other person's happiness. Live some, grow up and then come back to me.
Where can I meet someone like the grey sweater guy?
Andrea AP i’m waiting lol
no nobody really wants to meet me, i think
anyways i’m not a jealous bicch (shameless self promotion 🤧✊🏻)
okay i’ll now leave lmao
I consider myself to be like him but I'm also not looking for a relationship sooo.....
@@hehenice1964 casate conmigo.
The guy wearing a gray sweater is so openminded just like me. I hope his girlfriend don't ruin the trust he gave to her.
Young Jun, dude in the sweater, I RESPECT YOU!!! I'm pretty much the exact same way myself, so I was startled at first to see them say they'd get jealous at hugging. Granted, it's somewhat a cultural thing, but it still seems very extreme to me.
Omg the gray sweater guy is just like pure GOLD
The guy with the grey sweater is UNBOTHERED.... until he falls in love
영Tsyana Young 사야나 maybe. that's what they say
Suki He is just being logic.
He clearly respects his relationships. It's shocking that people think this is bad. Love is not supposed to be toxic or controlling, wake up.
or maybe he doesn’t believe in polluting the connection of a relationship through implementing toxic behaviors like a possessive idiot
My partner and I have been together for four years and crazy in love. My partner is way more relaxed than that guy. Has always been. As have I. We exist, babe.
Enjoyed the video. All the guests were funny as hell, especially the obviously jealous guys. More videos like this please.
the guy in the leather jacket... ugh. in every video he shows up in, he never fails to annoy me. it just got to the point where i started skipping the parts where he talks. it’s the ego, dude. it’s cool and all to be confident, but that’s just bordering arrogance now. his head gassed up with too much pride. meet me on Earth dude.
Well a lot of Korean men have huge egos, due in part because mothers raise the boys like little princes and Korean is still very male oriented. Koreans are also very high achievers with super high standards so people here in general have big egos, both male and females.
You saw the video, right? Almost everyone had the exact same thoughts and feelings. The men and women in this video agree on almost everything. The leather jacket guy was a bit over the top, but I think the others were also a bit reserved as compared to how they would act if those situations were to actually happen.
In every relationship TRUST, HONESTY and GOOD COMMUNICATION are a must add RESPECT to the mix and you got one solid Relationship. The guy in the grey sweater seems to be open at "Let's talk and clear out any confusion in our relationship" that's good. =)
The last guy in grey. The one who doesn't get jealous. Not conventionally physically attractive but he's one of those that they get more attractive the more you get to know them. I like him! I like how he thinks!
I really loved that guy with grey sweater. He's so mature and understandable. His gf is lucky! 😍💓
Young Jun, if you're reading this: I love your values and your character. You really seem like an amazing and attractive person. I wish I could meet someone that had your self-confidence and open mentality.
zaprude thx lol
Are you happy with how you are portrayed in the video? It seems most people in the comment section ended up being impressed by you! ㅋㅋㅋㅋ
One mature and understandable guy in this video.
grey jumper guy seems like a great partner. super trusting and considerate.
"Buried somewhere in the mountain"....alriiighty then. Might be a good idea to check where this guy goes late at night with a shovel...4:08.
I personally like when my partner is a little jealous and possessive, but I also like him to be mature and know how to address a problem. Like, just talk about the things that make you uncomfortable rather than be all mad and making assumptions. So I really appreciate the grey sweater guy. Even though I would like my partner to be more possessive than him, I really love how he was like "I would ask her first before I get mad", rather than all the other people who seemed to jump to conclusions right away.
Young Jun is so relaxed lmaoo we can see that he trust his gf!!
Young Jun had the most mature answers out of the bunch. Some y'all complaining that he's to laid back in the relationship but fail to realize that he's communicating with his girlfriend without jumping to conclusions on his own. He has a lot of trust in her and he expects to communicate with her like an actual adult instead of getting jealous over petty shit. If you're in a relationship and try to test your partner's love for you by intentionally making them jealous, you don't deserved to be in a relationship. Jealousy shouldn't be an indicator of your love for someone.
That grey sweater guy is a saint lol😂😂
I love Korean culture. So honest. Many people in the world suppress their own jealousy or shame each other for it, but it's a naturally occurring human emotion, and we shouldn't hurt each other when we experience it. If you really love someone, you try to help them feel secure. Of course adults should have healthy limits and all, but we should care for our partner when they're jealous just like when they have any other worry and reassure them.
Guy in the gray/grey (whatever) sweater is honestly a boy version of me.
I always think it’s cute and I feel very special if a guy is clingy, possessive, or gets jealous... It’s just a giant wave of “I love you and I want to be with you”. It shows that he loves and cares for you. I don’t care if it’s over the top but if he has very bad anger problems I would have to dial it down or not be with them. Yong Jae is a great example of what I am talking about. He would get upset but not in my mind over the top too much. My ideal type is someone thinking like Yong Jae or the guy in the leather jacket (couldn’t find his name).
Typically if someone gets clingy, possessive, or jealous, it's more about their own insecurities than how they feel about you.
On the other hand, I think it's very touching if someone is able to put their own ego and insecurities aside in order to consider the other person's situation and feelings. But, that's just me.
Most ppl in the comment so serious about this lol, and I'm just here enjoying the video and laughing about the ex photos reactions.
I think I’m in love with grey sweater istg 🥺
Grey Shirt is on point.
The guy in the grey jumper seems like a sweetheart! Calm and quite rational, lovely personality.
oh boi i relate to the grey shirt guy most of the time.
in fact, i think i'd let my partner keep their photos with their partners but not like, solo photos. i don't really want my partner to forget his past. if i am sure that he's over her, then it's fine to keep photos. it was his memories that i'm not apart of but it was the memories that shaped my partner into who he is. but that is just me.
tho, i usually straight forwardly say to my partner that i don't find monthsaries, anniversaries, birthdays, to be important so i may accidentally forget about it if life decides to rush me over with whales of works.
but if there's anything, i'm insecure af and need constant reminder that my partner loves me. and i swear to god i can dote on my partner a lot. like, constant cuddling, frequent hugs, pecks and kisses.
markinmyheart tea sis
I love the mindset of the guy in grey sweater. I would definitely date him! ❤
oh my i love the gray sweater dude
Big round of applause for young jun. he seems really mature and knows how to trust!
The last guy with the gray sweater is sooo cute 😝😝😝
Youngjun looks super cozy and huggable(?) With that grey sweater
"I don't let her." -- What? Why does she need to get your permission? I can understand, "We decided that we wouldn't do that" but no to getting "permission" from your boyfriend. I'm not 8 years-old.
i like the guy in a gray sweater, realistic, open-minded, hugging other guys doesn't mean she likes me less , aint no time for petty jealousy, liking idols is just simply admiration hahahaha, basically in a relationship trust is the foundation.... . way to go
I’ll take the one with the grey sweater pls thank you lol
That guy in the grey sweater is AMAZING. All of his answers were so sweet and not even a bit controlling! Damn dude keep going!
“Im the type of person that lets my girlfriend do whatever she wants and not get upset about it” i mean ISNT THAT WHAT ALL BOYFRIENDS SHOULD DO
gray sweater is so laid back and calm
doesnt jump to conclusions on his own before asking
love it
The guy in the guy sweater is me hahaha it's about trust people!! unfortunately for me though i dated a guy who was very insecure on the inside and thought i was cheating on him cause it looked like i didn't care to him so he cheated on me and became very controlling 😩. that guy deserves someone who is trusting and honest about everything none of those bullshit games where you have to be a bloody mind reader to understand that what your partner is saying/doing has another meaning, honestly that shit is annoying haha
Kudos to the guy in the grey sweater. Willing to have a conversation about something that bothers him but is understanding and trusting. 10/10 healthy relationship approach
First.... ill throw the phone😂😂😂
I love grey jumper guy! Trust seems to be missing from all of the other people!
I’m moving to Korea in September and if it is like this when I date it will take a lot of adapting as I don’t like people telling me what to do or telling me not to see friends!
In Brazil you hug when meeting someone and when you are saying bye, you even kiss if you are close friends, i think this would be very weird for them considering they are koreans and i understand that but i just can't understand why they don't like to date someone who has a lot of friendships with the opposite sex , is cheating that common in korea so they are constantly afraid cause damn . My group of friends is 6 guys and 3 girls, is much more fun to hang out with everyone than just girls or just boys in my opnion.
Anastaciacl18 that’s latina culture in general about greeting someone with hugging and kissing on the cheek if close.
yes
The dude in the grey is a very open minded person and I really like how he views certain issues its refreshing
If I had to date any of them it would be done in a week tbqh besides the guy in the gray sweater he is reasonable
In my interracial relationship with my spouse who is Korean, I realized that we get jealous when we don't know the friends that we're hanging out with. Once we both meet each other's friends, then the jealousy goes away because we have the experience of seeing how close they are with each other. It became someone that I knew or vice versa so there was never jealousy involved.
Their skin is glowing wtf
Jealousy and possessiveness is such a dealbreaker for me. Having been in a relationship with someone like that, it starts out as just jealousy. But then, it gets extreme. It starts with just don’t drink or go one on one with a guy, but then he thought this one guy was a threat and he wouldn’t let me go to bible study because he was there even though it was a group setting. At first, he was holding me accountable for things I could control, but then he started blaming me for things I couldn’t control. A little jealousy is fine but if you’re not careful, it can worse and worse.
I only get jealous if its my twinsister but otherwise no. Jealousy is not necessary in relationship, yall need to know how to trust your partner.
Young Juns answers were amazing. It’s always interesting hearing the cultural differences
It's funny, jealousy seems like it's more socially acceptable in Korea. In the west, jealousy has been made into a taboo emotion, even though it's an extremely common and often natural feeling. In the west, being jealous is seen as abusive or controlling, even if it's justified by the other person's unreasonable behaviour, or just mild. It was nice to hear people talking so candidly because in the west there is so much of a fake 'I don't care' attitude when the person obviously does care.
Being jealous and voicing my jealousy is perfectly healthy and natural. Dictating to my partner what they can and can't do as a result of my jealousy, fear and insecurities isn't something I'm interested in.
1:58 this dude is like the sweetest I swear😂
I feel like everyone their except for the guy in gray is very insecure (gray guy is cool btw )
this is eye opening to me. I've been in a relationship longer than anyone I know my age and now I think I understand why. years ago my SO was out drinking without me. they kissed someone else, and told me, and we talked it out, and many years later here we are. if I'd gone nuts like these people it would have ended that night. and many many other nights, when much more serious tensions were threatening us. love is not everything: you need teamwork, compromise, sacrifice, and above all forgiveness. trust is implicit in all of that of course. if you're with someone who truly doesn't honour the relationship, you'll find out. but if you think policing it will help you, it's over before you'll ever find out.
The gray sweater guy is really mature. I liked him. Lol
I don't think it's because he's acting cool. I believe he thinks before getting jealous. I'm not a jealous person but if you give me reason of course I will.
What's wrong with having pictures of your ex on your phone? As long as it isn't from after you broke up that you deliberately downloaded them, or if you have it as a screensaver, otherwise it's fine. Just because you broke up doesn't mean you were never together..
*HUGE* props to the guy in the grey sweater 👏👏👏 at the end of the day a solid relationship needs trust. It's obvious that he's willing to put his trust into the relationship and not jump to conclusions, but rather talk about it first. PATS ON BACKS FOR HIM!
*Young Jun* is an open minded and mature intellectual.. be like *Young Jun* ♥️
WHOS BRINGING THEIR BF/GF TO THE CLUB?? Lmao i go there to dance with my girls, get lit and go home, lmao not for you to hover around me like a helicopter of worry oh my. As long as we both know that we arent doing anything that disrespects our relationship i dont see why not lolol
I'm the same way. If I want to my with my bf/gf, I'd rather to a more relaxing, intimate setting. The club is more of place I'd rather go with friends. I'd feel very uncomfortable and weird with my SO, lol.
The guy in gray is prime example of how clear and glowing your skin will be if you stay unproblematic