Im 51,been single for 4 years after a 18 year relationship with the father of my last born.i DO NOT plan on getting involved with anyone ever again.ive had enough of men to last me a lifetime.im single and happy.i put all my energy on myself,my children and grand children.i do things to keep me busy,you dont need a man to keep you occupied.at my age i dont want to deal with a moody difficult man.make yourself happy ladies.we are all responsible for our own happiness🤗
You don't need a man who is a lying cheating manipulative AH at any age. I too prefer to be on my own and to enjoy my freedom and have a peaceful life ❤
Oh Yes , the peace and power of being alone is truly Beautiful , no more Parasites in my life , I believe loneliness is really for oneself, the real self and we jump the gun to fill the void with a Man and those Men are doing exactly the same but they and their egos need Money to fill their Void , easy peasy , get a woman with Money.
You sound like a very smart person, damn, can't believe I'm talking about myself again....LOL that's my rule. I work too hard for my money to take it and give it away to a man.
Devastating for her, but she ignored so many red flags! Firstly don't sell your property until you have been together for years and secondly never ever put the money into his sole name!
@@ann-mariepaliukenas19 ikr? I would never in a million years do what these women did! LOL - men give it to ME, not the other way around. I have never been desperate either - love yourself first. Lonely - understandable. But do NOT lower your standards to simply have a man in your life. And ladies, most desirable men in their 50s are going to date women 10 years younger. If you are in your 50s - the men you usually get are late 60s. If that doesn’t appeal to you, meet men in person during social opportunities. Dating sites are rife with liars. 95% are NOT trustworthy. Sorry - but it is the truth. If you are very attractive ,- slender & accomplished - you will meet the right man in person & have better luck that way.
I’ve worked since the age of 16 and always been good with my finances. I can’t imagine a situation where I would hand over financial control to another person whether we’re married or not. Look how much money was involved in this story- the daughter and son’s investment, the sale of the woman’s home. Why would anyone allow a stranger who you’ve just met to control everything? It’s a very sad case of what not to do.
@@goaldrivendating yes, that was definitely a major red flag. I suppose looking from the outside, I believe it would never happen to me but I can also understand how manipulative some men are and how powerful love is as an emotion.
It is shocking to give all your money and to sell your own home to give even more money. There is another video of a woman who gave the man she never met over $1 million.
This is quite fascinating because the man confessed (truthfully or not) that he was a) still married and b) had been in prison for financial crimes. So this lady very quickly decides to a) marry him and b) give him all of her money. I just don’t understand, why the rush into all of this? 🤦♂️
"Confessing" to being married & being in prison would have been part of the scam. Portraying himself as being transparent and reformed. Flattering her that he was sincere about being with her.
At their age, this is unforgivable. I'm sorry. When I was 28, a guy told me all the right things in order to quickly marry me, bc his student visa had expired. Obviously, he only told me this when he broke up with me. I did fall in love w him, and the red flags such as falling on his knee and talking about marriage on the FIRST date, were there. BUT, I was 28. Now, at 41, HA HA HA, is what I would say if a man started to talk about marriage or love at first sight. At whatever age these ladies are at? What is wrong w them, sorry. Grow up.
Yes! They are very brave. I would say to poor Carole, GURL!!! you've got Harvey Nicks, boom fish and chips, and the Buddha Bar, no need to be lonely. Cheers
I constantly heard victim got cheated & scammed, reader comment they “gave money away”! Vice versa who would “gave money away” without any verbal cheating? So law enforcement should concentrate arrest those scammers for crimes action instead guibbling With “giving away” it directly support criminal actions.
@@sabrinawang6267 Churches are scammers, too. Save your money. Donate your time instead because your hard-earned cash always ends up in the wrong hands.
@@snooganslestat2030 there is no proof he said such words, he still cheat her or those women as many times he can. Who would have money away ? Scammer duped & robbery
She moved him into the family home after three months, and then proceeded to hand that house over to a virtual stranger? She was a willing participant in his manipulation. Wanting a partner, someone to love is one thing, handing over your entire financial security is something entirely different. Too much, far too soon.
I agrée but these conmen are so clever. In fact I’ve been married twice, adored my second husband who sadly died of cancer but have always had separate bank accounts.
They was an excellent programme o the BBC about a woman who had lost her life savings and her home. Despite the presenters proving to her it was all a scam. She would not accept the help she was given. Thos woman is able to say she is lonely and want a relationship. She will be scammed again unfortunately. Women must learn to be comfortable with thembselvesanbd not be so desperate for a man. That is why scammers succeed.
Who in their right mind sells their house and give proceeds to a man she knew a wet day. The height of stupidity. He didn't take it , you gave it to him, there's a difference 😬
@rose Jacob. What do you mean “gave”? Pulling his gun aim her head? So unless robbing anything are “giving” special being cheated, lying, set-up, dupping,scam… are all GIVING? Your law of criminal are too wide. Under you there is NO CRIMINAL everything are giving I hate your boundless of criminal vs justice. NAL everything are giving I hate your boundless of criminal vs justice.
She sold her house and put the money in his name before he gave her the run around about marriage. She's surprised about him lying. You trusted him with your children's future.
A man that asks a woman for money, is either a SCAMMER, LOSER, TOSSER, or all of the above. I find it repugnant that any man should ask a woman for money, no matter what his reason or excuse is, it's unacceptable and disgusting. If a man ever asks a woman for money, she should refuse and then see how long he stays around for. I bet she won't see him for dust, that should give her a good idea of his real intentions!
My children and grandchildren are they only ones I would spend my money on. I get great joy from that. I don’t understand how you could give everything away to strangers.
Same. My nana lost my grandad at the age of only 42. She was left with 5 children aged from 2 to 20 and she dedicated her life to them until they all left home and afterwards had her hands full with grand children and great grand children, her voluntary work and social clubs. She passed away aged 80. She always used to say to me I will always stay on my own coz there was only ever one man for me.
Most of the time we ignore red flags trying to avoid being alone. If you choose to ignore them and stick around you get hurt and feel like crap. If choose to be alone you feel like crap. I'd rather feel like crap with my money in my pocket.
Don't meet idiots on line . Don't ever marry them and give them money, and most of all don't move in with them . If you do meet someone never give up your home in case it goes wrong. 😁😁😁😁😁
So sorry that this happened, it is hard to tell your story when somebody has scammed you. I respect this woman for speaking out.....and wish her happiness and courage going forward.
This lady was not only desperate and naive, but she basically put him first over her own children, by accepting that her daughter move out because of him. I don't feel sorry for her, just for her family
and don't forget selling her house and allowing this scammer to invest their money. She was desperate she said so herself her ex emotional abusive ex husband said: You will never find someone better then me. This was a huge trigger for her so she thought he was her prince charming.
Totally agree with you.... I wouldn't have picked a man over my child..... definitely wouldn't have had all of my money from the sale of my hous put into his bank account.... would be interested to know what he actually spent all of that money on 🤔... another red flag for me would have been immediately moving into her house.
I've chosen to be single since the age of 32. I'm now 68. I chose to be single because every relationship I had been in made a fool of me. These years of being single have been the best in my life. I've raised a daughter who has gone on to give me 4 grandchildren who love me very much. I have gotten a master's degree that gave me good earning power. I have met all kinds of interesting people. I help lonely people on a daily basis. I have gotten to know and love God. I couldn't ask for more. As a single person, I have peace. I have wonderful friends and family and none of the strife and stress I had when I was in relationships with men. Being single was difficult and lonely and terribly sexless at first, but I got used to it and now enjoy my peaceful single life very much. It was one of the best decisions I ever made.
If you find a man VERY charming, (especially quickly), watch out. He's most likely using your feelings to get past your brain, so he can get into your wallet or your pants! Back off fast and watch his "interest' dry up or gets angry or accuses you of 'not trusting him'! Darned right, trust is earned on a daily basis, and easily broken like all 'piecrust promises' - easily made and easily broken!!
If he asks for money or favors, he doesn't care about you. NEVER help a man. Let him ask his family or friends - not you. Lies about preposterous situations. NEVER help a man. And online dating isn't dating. NEVER help a man. RUN.
Agree with don’t date a man or woman who asks for money. But would somewhat disagree that online dating is not dating. Many people I know, and myself, wrote the person we married for some time on dating sites before we met.,but you should obviously meet eventually, and remember that you only get to really know a person when face to face. Online dating made romance scams easier, but romance scams were around for centuries before the Internet.
When she was all right with the fact that he been to prison for fraud he knew he had her hook line and sinker. She bought all of his red flags straight out The gate 🫣
I’m almost 60 if anything were to happen to my husband I don’t think I’d ever want another man. I’ve had the best so how would I ever be able to trust that I’d ever get that again. With all the scams going around probably not!
I will never give away my precious money I was duped and promised I will soon be paid back because he said he is much richer then me! Ha I pray this scumbag get vegetables quick! for his big liar cheater thief killer….
These are my life time sweats hard working money how can you say I gave away not even a penny. I hate scammers so much I wish them all get serious punished. We never gave money we were duped & cheated, at the end I was panic attacking + committed suicide for how can I be such fool & stupid being cheated forced lying … if I can not get my $$$ back he+they will be punished severe very soon.
Or…maybe don’t marry a guy after 3 months. And maybe don’t give him your money after he’s made you aware that he served time for fraud. I know it sounds tempting but definitely don’t do those things.
One must know one’s limitations. If you are older and not good looking, ain’t no good looking young man wants you unless you’re an ATM machine. If it’s an older man you’re either a nurse or a purse. Nothings wrong with being single when you’re older. It’s quite freeing.
@@dinacap2660 I lived in Florida for 20 years. I saw it over and over. Women and men both taken advantage of for the love they wanted so badly. People will do anything for love. Loving one’s self makes one see more clearly when a con person is nipping at your heels.
What on earth in this day and age women want to get married asap?? We can live happily without any obligations and marriage is the last thing I would personally consider. This lady is way beyond her teenage years, what was she thinking, marrying a person in two weeks of knowing him. Shocking.
@@rt66vintage16 He can solve his own problems. These men know exactly what they are doing. They profile these women they smell the desperation from a mile away.
Rule #1…very early in the relationship you do a background check. If there are any red flags you drop him and move on and consider yourself lucky to have dodged a bullet.
It's okay to give someone your love and all that good stuff, but never ever give them your money to hold or invest! Never ever sell your house. Him moving in with her, was the first sign, she was going to be parted from her money. Lets hope she is doing okay.
and don't get me started on the people who keep calling it "dating" and a "relationship". It's not. It's merely an exchange of words and most of the time it's scripted. There are women who gave over a million dollars to Nigerian scammers they've never seen in person.
Hiring a private investigator would have cost her less..I've read some women who won't date anyone unless they get a background check and a health check too...
She says she is lonely. Those women are mostly bad friends. When they meet a man, they forget friends and even their whole familiy. This is desperation! You should never ever date because of lonelyness! You first must be able to be alone! She should built herself a social network and have hobbies to fill that huge void she tried to fill with a fraudster! Woman, you are a mother, you have to learn to be responsible!
I have completely and totally been done with dating and men for 5 years. It seems in my area all the good ones are taken or too young lol. I'm happy with myself and keep busy working and spending time with friends..Learn to love yourself first and choose YOU ❤️💯
A lot of people get scammed in person on a daily basis it's unbelievable. Watch out for men wanting to move in with you or ask you to sell your house to buy a new house together.
Being lonely is thousand times better than being on the roller-coaster with a man. Charming men are always a disaster, waiting to happen because they are narcissistic and selfish.
All these comments pointing out the bleeding obvious don't change the fact that love scams are reaching epidemic proportions. Some people need protecting from themselves sadly.
Everyone, regardless of age has a need to be loved and to give love. But when that love costs you $$ it's time to step back and distance yourself from the situation. Take a breather. Pause for the cause. In other words, STOP. if dude is in it for love he will understand and work with you . If he throws a fit ? Well then, better heartbroken then heartbroken and broke!
Yes because what a lot of women refuse to understand is that a real man will never ask you for money it is that simple. If he starts asking for money he is broke, a loser or a scammer. Real men are ashamed to even ask for cent let alone a pound, euro or dollar.
False. I could give a fig less about giving or receiving romantic love. I love my friends and family. Please stop speaking on others' behalf wholesale.
@@whateverchannel22 I totally agree with you. The love I have for my freinds has been more fulfilling and enduring than some of my romantic relationships. Not to mention I'd pick the love of my pup over most humans any day. Im sorry if what I said read otherwise because love is love. It comes in many different forms and isxa blessing
She’ll most likely be a victim again given the statement she made at the end of “being lonely”. Being single is being alone and that peace should be appreciated until someone who is fit to ADD to your peace cones along.
What I’m curious to know is, why aren’t they able to get their money back? Couldn’t they investigate where the funds went and follow the paper trail to get some of it back? If he had any properties, sell them to give these people their money back? There should be a rule that if they scam you, you have a right to go after their assets. Freeze their accounts, if they had any.
@ ds8290, they said Gary had accumulated a lot of money from scamming women, so where did the money go, they should have got it back. The British Police have been going down hill for years. The Police woman tried to take the credit for finding Gary, but it was the phone call from the woman who gave all the information they needed, and this after they had already let him out on bail 🤦♀️🤦♀️
What a bizarre way to make a living. These poor women were not even wealthy. I think he got a kick out of humiliating his victims, as much as taking their money. Vile, vile man.
You have small time scammers and you have the big time scammers. There are stories galore how women have been swindled out of millions. This man was to un attractive to pull that one of because to swindle women out of millions via an offline romance scam you have to be able to look and dress the part to a certain extend.
I married at 22. Put our money together rt away. He was a manager at BK back then. Now he's a college graduate working on servers for 100k a year. Basically I got lucky. And it's sad that you literally have to be lucky just to find a decent guy.
One of the most unattractive and immediate turn off in a man is when he asks for money from a woman….it’s one thing if you have been married , and he has been providing for you for years and maybe lost his job and temporarily needs help, then yes ofcourse help him since now he is family and demonstrated his commitment to you….BUT to give a man money in the beginning of a relationship and even worse not having met them in person yet!!..well that’s just insanity
It seems the people the scammers pick on is the photos of people who are not very attractive or overweight because they know their dying for love and attention
People are this desperate to find someone. Some people don't want to be alone. Get a hobby, join a gym, find an art class, get a dog! You could meet someone genuine without searching them out. Why the rush to get married asap. What's wrong with just seeing someone to get to know them.
Since childhood I have been thinking (and even asking my parents) - in the fairytales, all the struggle happens before the wedding, then there is the wedding and the narratios has it “and they have lived happily ever after”. So my courious question has always been “how did they do it, that happily ever after”. Because from the fairytales it looks like that just naturally happens without any effort needed. 😮
@@libusebuckova7603 the fairy tales were feel good stories about heros and damsels in distress. They weren't supposed to expose us to the everyday hassles that we have to encounter after the wedding
Even if someone you seem to be connecting with sounds legitimate, always do a background check. I think it's wise to hire a PI if things get serious because you never know who you're dealing with. Actually, whenever there's talk about financial situations (inordinate or not), if things are moving too fast like there was with this one, it's a sign things are looking bad so time to bail out. In this case, this man never went into depth about speaking about himself, and all the lovely-dovey stuff coming from him was too overpowering for it to be real. Too bad she ignored that. What's wrong with winging it alone anyway? You might be better off.
Why would you marry someone you met online after only two months? You haven’t had enough time to investigate or really get to know them. You can’t be that desperate.😕
Well I have seen a story where woman with 2 kids moved a man into her house straight after he got of the train on their first date. He left her with a mount of debt and moved on to the next woman to scam. He also pretended to be rich and waiting on a big pay out 🤣 and the other women were smart not to move him in because the reporter tracked him down living in a homeless shelter 🤣
@ymarrero23 Finding a husband isn't about grabbing the first man who stumbles into your path. It's about finding the right man to be your husband. Even love won't sustain a marriage. (Dedication, patience, hope, good-will, resilience)
I was always told to put other people first but not any longer. Too many scammers and rip off con artists out there looking for people who put others needs/wants first.
Am now 60 years!! Am glad that I am not interested in a man woman relationship anymore, my husband died 5 years ago, we had a wonderful marriage!!! Iam now used to being alone...I am enjoying single life so much , I don't wanna jeopardize my happiness in pursuit of a partner no never!!! Thank you God for the peace and joy that am enjoying in my old age🎉
@@SamStone1964 How did you manage to miss his repeated claims that he was divorced and the problem with his papers was purely bureaucratic?! Or the fact that she even called the registry office, who confirmed this to her?!
20 years in prison..what crime did he commit. ? Sorry..but she gave her money willingly...to a dishonest, manipulative slime ball. Pathetic 😣 You reap what you sow..!!
A big red flag is when the daughter had to move out because he was being difficult with her. The mum should have woken up then. I had a sister who didn’t recognise the signs . Her partner started being nasty early on to me for no reason. My sister blamed me and said I must have done something to upset him. He turned out to be an abuser . She ended having to divorce him. She was so blinded by love when she met him.
Alot of mistakes were made. Thanks for sharing your story. Good luck with your life. All we can do is learn from them. In the future you will be wiser.
The bottom line is to have an attitude of gratitude and not for what you may have but what do you have. If you got this going life will carry you over the bumps of being lonely or disappointed or even being fired or having missed the bus because if you are truly grateful for your life gifts you will always be fine.
When you let a man move into your home you are in trouble. If this man has more money than you, why would he need to move in with you. Then the children who would not have known any better gave what little they had to this con. I can't see how you would expect better. When we reach a certain age, we better be prepared to be jilted, and robbed blind. I have turned down many a man many times.
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My late Mum always told me 'never give a man your money'. Thanks Ma. Your advice has served me well.😘
Good mom 👌
So true!
Same here. Common sense isn’t common,
Why would anyone need a mom to tell that. The woman in the video was quite not smart to give her money to a man she was not even married to
@@bambinaforever1402
Because she was that desperate for love.
Im 51,been single for 4 years after a 18 year relationship with the father of my last born.i DO NOT plan on getting involved with anyone ever again.ive had enough of men to last me a lifetime.im single and happy.i put all my energy on myself,my children and grand children.i do things to keep me busy,you dont need a man to keep you occupied.at my age i dont want to deal with a moody difficult man.make yourself happy ladies.we are all responsible for our own happiness🤗
You don't need a man who is a lying cheating manipulative AH at any age. I too prefer to be on my own and to enjoy my freedom and have a peaceful life ❤
Amen, ladies, Amen.
Oh Yes , the peace and power of being alone is truly Beautiful , no more Parasites in my life , I believe loneliness is really for oneself, the real self and we jump the gun to fill the void with a Man and those Men are doing exactly the same but they and their egos need Money to fill their Void , easy peasy , get a woman with Money.
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Amen!!!
I have one rule. We start dating. If you ask me for money I'm blocking you. No way I'm giving away my hard earned money
But u would ask him money for nails,hair,shopping yea?
You sound like a very smart person, damn, can't believe I'm talking about myself again....LOL that's my rule. I work too hard for my money to take it and give it away to a man.
@@hulklikesnutella7236 While dating? Most women wouldn't. The only exception might be very young women with older men.
Why are you "blocking" him?!
Good Lord, doesn't anybody date in person anymore?!
Where tf is people's self worth?!?!
@@hulklikesnutella7236 not every woman would
Getting married after 3 months is crazy, even if that person isn't a scammer.
Mine wasn’t an online romance, but I married after 4 months and am happily married for 14 years now. It doesn’t always end in craziness! 😅
Absolutely right!!!
@@African.Diaspora.InLondonUK you brain washed him
Married after 4 months and was very happily married for 36 years until he passed.
A friend of mine married her husband after about 3 weeks and had a happy successful marriage for over 40 yrs right up until he died .
“He was nice, he was charming, he defrauded a bank, been in jail, married 4 times, yeah I like this one!😂
I'm swooning here, he sounds an absolute dream 😂❤
Yer a true CAD
@@HaramXLyeah, an LSD induced dream! 😂😂😂
😂😂😂😂
Are you kidding?😮
Marrying him or a proposal after 2 months was another red flag.
Devastating for her, but she ignored so many red flags! Firstly don't sell your property until you have been together for years and secondly never ever put the money into his sole name!
Be buggered if I ever opened a joint bank account! Stupid and unnecessary these days.
Don’t give him money.Let him give it to you!
@@ann-mariepaliukenas19 ikr? I would never in a million years do what these women did! LOL - men give it to ME, not the other way around. I have never been desperate either - love yourself first. Lonely - understandable. But do NOT lower your standards to simply have a man in your life. And ladies, most desirable men in their 50s are going to date women 10 years younger. If you are in your 50s - the men you usually get are late 60s. If that doesn’t appeal to you, meet men in person during social opportunities. Dating sites are rife with liars. 95% are NOT trustworthy. Sorry - but it is the truth. If you are very attractive ,- slender & accomplished - you will meet the right man in person & have better luck that way.
@@ann-mariepaliukenas19 Right on!!! She's a damn fool!!!
You are soo right, fools abound
I’ve worked since the age of 16 and always been good with my finances. I can’t imagine a situation where I would hand over financial control to another person whether we’re married or not. Look how much money was involved in this story- the daughter and son’s investment, the sale of the woman’s home. Why would anyone allow a stranger who you’ve just met to control everything? It’s a very sad case of what not to do.
A convicted white collar criminal for fraud should have been a red flag. So many women just handover their finance to strange men.
@@goaldrivendating yes, that was definitely a major red flag. I suppose looking from the outside, I believe it would never happen to me but I can also understand how manipulative some men are and how powerful love is as an emotion.
They don't love themselves before a stranger. Very odd and very desperate
It is shocking to give all your money and to sell your own home to give even more money. There is another video of a woman who gave the man she never met over $1 million.
Well, actually, children were also to blame - why did they agree to let the man handle the money mom gave to them? They were all of legal age
This is quite fascinating because the man confessed (truthfully or not) that he was a) still married and b) had been in prison for financial crimes. So this lady very quickly decides to a) marry him and b) give him all of her money. I just don’t understand, why the rush into all of this? 🤦♂️
Desperation.
Exactly and 3 marriages is a red flag straight off
Exactly!! Trusting him with so much money although he confessed that his crime was about money 🤦♀
"Confessing" to being married & being in prison would have been part of the scam. Portraying himself as being transparent and reformed. Flattering her that he was sincere about being with her.
PS he only admitted to one marriage. And bring in prison just one time. Very manipulative move.
These folks are brave to talk about what they went through. We are listening to useful cautionary tales.
You mean what suckers they were
These women need a reality check,they go in blind with out thinking
At their age, this is unforgivable. I'm sorry. When I was 28, a guy told me all the right things in order to quickly marry me, bc his student visa had expired. Obviously, he only told me this when he broke up with me. I did fall in love w him, and the red flags such as falling on his knee and talking about marriage on the FIRST date, were there. BUT, I was 28. Now, at 41, HA HA HA, is what I would say if a man started to talk about marriage or love at first sight. At whatever age these ladies are at? What is wrong w them, sorry. Grow up.
What? Does that mean that YOU would have ever fallen for this scam? Come on!
Yes! They are very brave. I would say to poor Carole, GURL!!! you've got Harvey Nicks, boom fish and chips, and the Buddha Bar, no need to be lonely. Cheers
He didn’t take her kids money, she gave it all away 🙄
I constantly heard victim got cheated & scammed, reader comment they “gave money away”! Vice versa who would “gave money away” without any verbal cheating? So law enforcement should concentrate arrest those scammers for crimes action instead guibbling With “giving away” it directly support criminal actions.
Who would give money away except to church or charity organization! I hate those outsider pretentious as lawful quote victim “giving $$ away “
@@sabrinawang6267 Churches are scammers, too. Save your money. Donate your time instead because your hard-earned cash always ends up in the wrong hands.
@@sabrinawang6267 No she GAVE it away. He told her he had been in jail for fraud!
She chose to give money to a convicted fraudster ffs.
@@snooganslestat2030 there is no proof he said such words, he still cheat her or those women as many times he can. Who would have money away ? Scammer duped & robbery
Been in prison, still married but getting divorced, owes loan to bank, business going under, defaulted......run....too many red flags...
WHAT A CATCH!!!
Why don't you sell your house and put the money in MY account??????????????????????????????/
She moved him into the family home after three months, and then proceeded to hand that house over to a virtual stranger? She was a willing participant in his manipulation. Wanting a partner, someone to love is one thing, handing over your entire financial security is something entirely different. Too much, far too soon.
Should have seen a solicitor.
the thought of being loved will make people do insane things, he banked on that
I agrée but these conmen are so clever. In fact I’ve been married twice, adored my second husband who sadly died of cancer but have always had separate bank accounts.
Agreed but the first woman was sad and vulnerable, her first husband obviously did a real number on her self esteem
They was an excellent programme o the BBC about a woman who had lost her life savings and her home. Despite the presenters proving to her it was all a scam. She would not accept the help she was given. Thos woman is able to say she is lonely and want a relationship. She will be scammed again unfortunately. Women must learn to be comfortable with thembselvesanbd not be so desperate for a man. That is why scammers succeed.
What is worse, is to feel lonely when your partner is in the same home❗️
Right yes that happened with me when I was with this guy
Yer to wake up every morning and the person next to you has become a stranger
A perfect gentleman does not ask a woman for money.
Who in their right mind sells their house and give proceeds to a man she knew a wet day. The height of stupidity. He didn't take it , you gave it to him, there's a difference 😬
@rose Jacob. What do you mean “gave”?
Pulling his gun aim her head?
So unless robbing anything are “giving” special being cheated, lying, set-up, dupping,scam… are all GIVING? Your law of criminal are too wide. Under you there is NO CRIMINAL everything are giving
I hate your boundless of criminal vs justice.
NAL everything are giving
I hate your boundless of criminal vs justice.
A person who was conned by a scumbag.
Rubbish. He stole the money she had entrusted him with. The guy's a professional conman just like some people are professional burglars.
It was done under a pretense, he falsely misrepresented himself, so it's fraud.
what does 'she knew a wet day' mean?
She sold her house and put the money in his name before he gave her the run around about marriage. She's surprised about him lying. You trusted him with your children's future.
All why knowing he was a convicted white collar criminal.
Same here I've met loads of men on dating sites and none asked me for money, and if they did I would have blocked them.
@@goaldrivendating Insanity!
Such a sad story.the lady was too trusting. I'm glad she told her story.
A man that asks a woman for money, is either a SCAMMER, LOSER, TOSSER, or all of the above. I find it repugnant that any man should ask a woman for money, no matter what his reason or excuse is, it's unacceptable and disgusting. If a man ever asks a woman for money, she should refuse and then see how long he stays around for. I bet she won't see him for dust, that should give her a good idea of his real intentions!
Well said!
Exactly!
Ladies, if a guy asks you for money drop him straightaway. Likewise if you offer a man your money and he accepts it get rid of him.
What about a woman asking a man for money? Is that acceptable? Woman are the biggest scammers lol
As young women stating to work, we were told never to give a man money. If a man asks for money from a woman, he is a loser.
My children and grandchildren are they only ones I would spend my money on. I get great joy from that. I don’t understand how you could give everything away to strangers.
my sentiments exactly!!!!
So true!
My grandmother's and mom had no interest in dating when they lost their partners. They found other things to do.
Same. My nana lost my grandad at the age of only 42. She was left with 5 children aged from 2 to 20 and she dedicated her life to them until they all left home and afterwards had her hands full with grand children and great grand children, her voluntary work and social clubs. She passed away aged 80. She always used to say to me I will always stay on my own coz there was only ever one man for me.
@@1961-v9k sorry for the loss of your grandma.
One of my grandmother stated to me she didn't want to cater to another man.
@@arfriedman4577 I agree with them. There is only my husband for me.
@@viviennepastor3188 I'm glad you found a wonderful partner.
@@1961-v9kwow, I admire your grandma!
So thankful this horrible man was caught!
Most of the time we ignore red flags trying to avoid being alone. If you choose to ignore them and stick around you get hurt and feel like crap. If choose to be alone you feel like crap. I'd rather feel like crap with my money in my pocket.
Loneliness is killing us and those scammers know it!
I’m buying myself a teddy bear that’s all I need after this!
No the scammers are more likely to kill
I do not use the word LONELINESS it as a negative connotation it makes one sound vulnerable....I have replaced it with PEACE...
@@ladywindrush5464 well glad you feel peaceful,being alone can be peaceful.Loneliness is very different
French proverb
Il vaut mieux être seul que d'être mal accompagné.
Better to be alone than to be in bad company.
Don't give them your money your home your bank cards ever.
Don't meet idiots on line . Don't ever marry them and give them money, and most of all don't move in with them . If you do meet someone never give up your home in case it goes wrong. 😁😁😁😁😁
I'm surprised the court couldn't freeze his bank account and make an order for the ladies he'd defrauded to get their money back. It's disgusting.
I was wondering what happened to the money.
Seems there should be monetary compensation.
It's not been proven in court .
Im sure he was spending alot of $ wining and dining his new victims and for sure bought expensive clothes, watches, maybe boats for HIMSELF!
@@normanpearson8753how come?
I think they said it took a year to find him? The money was probably gone by then. I was also wondering about that.
So sorry that this happened, it is hard to tell your story when somebody has scammed you. I respect this woman for speaking out.....and wish her happiness and courage going forward.
I admire this lady for telling her story
I admire the female police officer for her relentless work, & investigation 👍
God bless her! We must be warned the need for love and affections can cloud ones judgment of the truth! 😟🔆👀
I had no idea a scammer would go this far.Unbelievable.
This lady was not only desperate and naive, but she basically put him first over her own children, by accepting that her daughter move out because of him. I don't feel sorry for her, just for her family
and don't forget selling her house and allowing this scammer to invest their money. She was desperate she said so herself her ex emotional abusive ex husband said: You will never find someone better then me. This was a huge trigger for her so she thought he was her prince charming.
@@goaldrivendating So she is now paying for her choices, too bad the kids had to suffer as well..
Totally agree with you.... I wouldn't have picked a man over my child..... definitely wouldn't have had all of my money from the sale of my hous put into his bank account.... would be interested to know what he actually spent all of that money on 🤔... another red flag for me would have been immediately moving into her house.
What annoyed me as that she got her children to invest 60k in his ponzi investment scheme. He stole their money. Craziness
No sympathy for this person, I feel bad for her daughter,,,mothers actions were shameful, no question of it
“ Never a borrower nor a lender be”
Totally agree with you, I would not lend him 50p. 😂😂😂😂
"...for loan oft loses both itself and friend"!
Amen,
@@novaricoswow. very wise.
"...for loan often loses both itself, and friend!"
Plenty of fish? Plenty of fraud
I've chosen to be single since the age of 32. I'm now 68. I chose to be single because every relationship I had been in made a fool of me. These years of being single have been the best in my life. I've raised a daughter who has gone on to give me 4 grandchildren who love me very much. I have gotten a master's degree that gave me good earning power. I have met all kinds of interesting people. I help lonely people on a daily basis. I have gotten to know and love God. I couldn't ask for more. As a single person, I have peace. I have wonderful friends and family and none of the strife and stress I had when I was in relationships with men. Being single was difficult and lonely and terribly sexless at first, but I got used to it and now enjoy my peaceful single life very much. It was one of the best decisions I ever made.
God is just a man made myth like Santa. Atheists are more logical.
With a pleasant relationship with married is much safe
you are awesome and fully adult
Congratulations, enjoy!
Awesome! 🙂
He did not take it ,he was given it.
If you find a man VERY charming, (especially quickly), watch out. He's most likely using your feelings to get past your brain, so he can get into your wallet or your pants! Back off fast and watch his "interest' dry up or gets angry or accuses you of 'not trusting him'! Darned right, trust is earned on a daily basis, and easily broken like all 'piecrust promises' - easily made and easily broken!!
Totally agree, start asking him for money because your skint, he will soon back off. 😂😂😂
Also known as "love bombing"
@@ZetaCancri right on! Wish I had known about this stuff YEARS ago! found out the HARD way, emotionally and financially, but good now!
not all of us have commonsense, emotional intelligence or a high IQ and wishful thinking will overrule the most blatant of red flags waving.
I never heard that saying before : pie crust promises .
Trust nobody ever.
If he asks for money or favors, he doesn't care about you. NEVER help a man. Let him ask his family or friends - not you. Lies about preposterous situations. NEVER help a man. And online dating isn't dating. NEVER help a man. RUN.
--Or a woman. Adults support themselves, they don't beg money from the people they date.
Agree with don’t date a man or woman who asks for money.
But would somewhat disagree that online dating is not dating. Many people I know, and myself, wrote the person we married for some time on dating sites before we met.,but you should obviously meet eventually, and remember that you only get to really know a person when face to face.
Online dating made romance scams easier, but romance scams were around for centuries before the Internet.
So a guy you’ve known for 2 weeks tells you he’s been convicted of fraud.. and then he rips you off?
You can't make it up.
Madness, I tell ya!!
And he tells her he is still married and then doesn't marry her.
Plus he is a very unattractive man both inside and out. I don’t understand the desperation of these ladies to tie themselves to a man like this.
When she was all right with the fact that he been to prison for fraud he knew he had her hook line and sinker. She bought all of his red flags straight out The gate 🫣
I’m almost 60 if anything were to happen to my husband I don’t think I’d ever want another man. I’ve had the best so how would I ever be able to trust that I’d ever get that again. With all the scams going around probably not!
Known someone gonna takes long long time & trial test. So it is hard to find another partner just stay no money involve.
I will never give away my precious money I was duped and promised I will soon be paid back because he said he is much richer then me!
Ha I pray this scumbag get vegetables quick! for his big liar cheater thief killer….
These are my life time sweats hard working money how can you say I gave away not even a penny.
I hate scammers so much I wish them all get serious punished. We never gave money we were duped & cheated, at the end I was panic attacking + committed suicide for how can I be such fool & stupid being cheated forced lying … if I can not get my $$$ back he+they will be punished severe very soon.
100% agree with you--my late husband was wonderful and i'm smart enough to know that i'd never find anyone else like him
She didn’t loose it , she knew exactly where it went , she paid for the dream ,
She paid for a fantasy. 😮
She essentially paid for attention and sex..
Isn't there a nasty name for that.🤔
I would advise women not to get serious with any man now a days. Scammers are everywhere. Take up a hobby instead.
Yeah get a dog 😂😂
Agreed.
Or…maybe don’t marry a guy after 3 months. And maybe don’t give him your money after he’s made you aware that he served time for fraud. I know it sounds tempting but definitely don’t do those things.
Man can be a hobby 😂
One must know one’s limitations. If you are older and not good looking, ain’t no good looking young man wants you unless you’re an ATM machine.
If it’s an older man you’re either a nurse or a purse.
Nothings wrong with being single when you’re older. It’s quite freeing.
Does that also apply to younger women who are not good looking? Do they need to know their limitations? 🤓🤓🤓
"nurse or a purse" i love it--and it's so true
@@dinacap2660
I lived in Florida for 20 years. I saw it over and over. Women and men both taken advantage of for the love they wanted so badly. People will do anything for love. Loving one’s self makes one see more clearly when a con person is nipping at your heels.
@@meganhuggins7494yes for all of us, if it seems too good to be true...
Lucky I got no homes under my belt just a car not worth more them 5k Australian dollars or 2.5 k pounds
What on earth in this day and age women want to get married asap?? We can live happily without any obligations and marriage is the last thing I would personally consider. This lady is way beyond her teenage years, what was she thinking, marrying a person in two weeks of knowing him. Shocking.
once a man ask youfor money block and Delete.
Yes, it's that simple I don't understand why a lot of women refuse to understand this.
That's my philosophy. As a matter of fact start giving me a sob story about money and I block and delete
Who wants to date a broke man? No one should want to fix a man's problems either. Just saying.
@@rt66vintage16 He can solve his own problems. These men know exactly what they are doing. They profile these women they smell the desperation from a mile away.
Yes, same for men, when a woman asks for money, know that nothing good will ever come from that.
Rule #1…very early in the relationship you do a background check. If there are any red flags you drop him and move on and consider yourself lucky to have dodged a bullet.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with being single and independent
Amen….and nothing wrong with dating online. Romance scams existed for centuries before the Internet.
Are u sure it's decades and not centuries lol
Love my independence!
Selling her house to give the money to a scammer online is beyond me. There is only so much stupidity I can watch.
Low Intelligence.😮
Loneliness is something that many cannot handle.
It's okay to give someone your love and all that good stuff, but never ever give them your money to hold or invest! Never ever sell your house. Him moving in with her, was the first sign, she was going to be parted from her money. Lets hope she is doing okay.
At 47 I have made the decision sanity and safety over sex
You are very wise
@@starcatcher3691 and horny
I learned the hard way.
I'm 48, but I already made that decision long time ago.
why do people think that TEXTING someone is the same as TALKING to someone?
and don't get me started on the people who keep calling it "dating" and a "relationship". It's not. It's merely an exchange of words and most of the time it's scripted. There are women who gave over a million dollars to Nigerian scammers they've never seen in person.
The first red flag I saw was that Gary said he had been married 3 times....and was still married.
How was he imprisoned for defaulting on a loan? That isn't a crime. There's more to that story.
Hiring a private investigator would have cost her less..I've read some women who won't date anyone unless they get a background check and a health check too...
@Donnell Okafor yes to see what runs thru the family n whether there are any psychiatric issues
More like STD’s, HIV. Checking for those disease conditions😃
She says she is lonely. Those women are mostly bad friends. When they meet a man, they forget friends and even their whole familiy. This is desperation! You should never ever date because of lonelyness! You first must be able to be alone! She should built herself a social network and have hobbies to fill that huge void she tried to fill with a fraudster! Woman, you are a mother, you have to learn to be responsible!
Very true!
Lay off. Everyone makes mistakes. It could happen to anyone.
there is so much a woman can do, join a volunteer group, social group and make friends in real life.
He included her children at first. Gave a solid impression
as a caring person to her daughter. Then flipped.
A lot of women shun their mates when men come on the scene .
After 3 failed relationships, I no longer trust anyone. If they ask me for a McDonald’s hamburger I’m kicking them to the curb.
1st massive red flag..prison for stealing money aka fraud..!!!!!!!!!!
1st massive red flag - he tells you he's still married.
I have completely and totally been done with dating and men for 5 years. It seems in my area all the good ones are taken or too young lol. I'm happy with myself and keep busy working and spending time with friends..Learn to love yourself first and choose YOU ❤️💯
Well said!
there are good men out there♥️
@@Swiss_Girl
Yes, they are married or gay. Once you’re older finding a good man is like finding a unicorn,
you are talking as a sane sensible women with a life....
@@Swiss_Girl agree 👍
scammers come in any age and nationality, i really feel for these women they haven‘t done anything to deserve any of that
Wow, real, in person scamming ! How horrid ! Probably even more hurtful than on line.
A lot of people get scammed in person on a daily basis it's unbelievable. Watch out for men wanting to move in with you or ask you to sell your house to buy a new house together.
Walking the dogs is not an interest, it's a necessity lol
Being lonely is thousand times better than being on the roller-coaster with a man. Charming men are always a disaster, waiting to happen because they are narcissistic and selfish.
Don't ever think you know these people ,takes a lifetime to know yourself
Desperation is a very dangerous thing
All these comments pointing out the bleeding obvious don't change the fact that love scams are reaching epidemic proportions. Some people need protecting from themselves sadly.
It seems almost a sickness. It's like how we can't understand women who allow themselves to be abused and beaten and who stay with their abuser
This is why I,m staying single
Smart move. 😎
Everyone, regardless of age has a need to be loved and to give love. But when that love costs you $$ it's time to step back and distance yourself from the situation. Take a breather. Pause for the cause. In other words, STOP. if dude is in it for love he will understand and work with you . If he throws a fit ? Well then, better heartbroken then heartbroken and broke!
Yes because what a lot of women refuse to understand is that a real man will never ask you for money it is that simple. If he starts asking for money he is broke, a loser or a scammer. Real men are ashamed to even ask for cent let alone a pound, euro or dollar.
False. I could give a fig less about giving or receiving romantic love. I love my friends and family. Please stop speaking on others' behalf wholesale.
Best Advice ever! 😊😊😊
@@whateverchannel22 I totally agree with you. The love I have for my freinds has been more fulfilling and enduring than some of my romantic relationships. Not to mention I'd pick the love of my pup over most humans any day. Im sorry if what I said read otherwise because love is love. It comes in many different forms and isxa blessing
Some women can’t live alone . And they need a man . I understand that . But unfortunately we must learn to live alone . There’s no man left anymore.
Ive been alone 19 years and im happy
Some people think im weird, but i dont care
She’ll most likely be a victim again given the statement she made at the end of “being lonely”. Being single is being alone and that peace should be appreciated until someone who is fit to ADD to your peace cones along.
She is online now. 😮
The minute a man brings up money RUN
What a nice lady, I hope she finds love.
What surprised me was her willingness to sell her house and put the money in a joint bank account BEFORE they were even married!
Lonely, desperate and too trusting
I would never sell my house and why did she. Not get the money back
Red Flags everywhere - especially "Sell your house and give your children's 60K to me to invest". Yeah, but nah.
What I’m curious to know is, why aren’t they able to get their money back? Couldn’t they investigate where the funds went and follow the paper trail to get some of it back? If he had any properties, sell them to give these people their money back? There should be a rule that if they scam you, you have a right to go after their assets. Freeze their accounts, if they had any.
@ ds8290, they said Gary had accumulated a lot of money from scamming women, so where did the money go, they should have got it back. The British Police have been going down hill for years. The Police woman tried to take the credit for finding Gary, but it was the phone call from the woman who gave all the information they needed, and this after they had already let him out on bail 🤦♀️🤦♀️
What a bizarre way to make a living. These poor women were not even wealthy. I think he got a kick out of humiliating his victims, as much as taking their money. Vile, vile man.
You have small time scammers and you have the big time scammers. There are stories galore how women have been swindled out of millions. This man was to un attractive to pull that one of because to swindle women out of millions via an offline romance scam you have to be able to look and dress the part to a certain extend.
When you value and love yourself you never feel lonely. Even if you live alone and never date again.
I married at 22. Put our money together rt away. He was a manager at BK back then. Now he's a college graduate working on servers for 100k a year. Basically I got lucky. And it's sad that you literally have to be lucky just to find a decent guy.
It is neither simple for majority of guys to find a wife nowadays.
What do you do?
Not lucky at all, just common sense. Many women have lovely husbands.
I play the lottery with way better odds and win fairly often.
@@gorgeous.akosua lets just say I have a great.
You know everyone says we need to protect our seniors but what happens when its seniors preying on other seniors🤔
That's a good one!
One of the most unattractive and immediate turn off in a man is when he asks for money from a woman….it’s one thing if you have been married , and he has been providing for you for years and maybe lost his job and temporarily needs help, then yes ofcourse help him since now he is family and demonstrated his commitment to you….BUT to give a man money in the beginning of a relationship and even worse not having met them in person yet!!..well that’s just insanity
They know something is not right and too good to be true from the very start but are so lonely and desperate that they choose to ignore it.
It seems the people the scammers pick on is the photos of people who are not very attractive or overweight because they know their dying for love and attention
People are this desperate to find someone. Some people don't want to be alone. Get a hobby, join a gym, find an art class, get a dog! You could meet someone genuine without searching them out. Why the rush to get married asap. What's wrong with just seeing someone to get to know them.
I would never give up my freedom for a dick. Ever.
@@blondecat666 me too
It’s called desperation, really pathetic
I'd say, get a brain and responsibility for your life first before indulging into an affair with someone🙌
This is proof that women will rather prefer to have a wedding than a marriage. The wedding was more important than the marriage to her.
Rubbish...Thankgod I never married you are assuming
Since childhood I have been thinking (and even asking my parents) - in the fairytales, all the struggle happens before the wedding, then there is the wedding and the narratios has it “and they have lived happily ever after”. So my courious question has always been “how did they do it, that happily ever after”. Because from the fairytales it looks like that just naturally happens without any effort needed. 😮
@@libusebuckova7603 the fairy tales were feel good stories about heros and damsels in distress. They weren't supposed to expose us to the everyday hassles that we have to encounter after the wedding
That’s oversimplifying. Social engineering is a big issue.
Thats why it’s really important to love yourself and be happy by your own. She was desperately looking for partner as she was lonely. Sad.
Even if someone you seem to be connecting with sounds legitimate, always do a background check. I think it's wise to hire a PI if things get serious because you never know who you're dealing with. Actually, whenever there's talk about financial situations (inordinate or not), if things are moving too fast like there was with this one, it's a sign things are looking bad so time to bail out. In this case, this man never went into depth about speaking about himself, and all the lovely-dovey stuff coming from him was too overpowering for it to be real. Too bad she ignored that. What's wrong with winging it alone anyway? You might be better off.
Why would you marry someone you met online after only two months? You haven’t had enough time to investigate or really get to know them.
You can’t be that desperate.😕
Self righteous. We all make bad decisions, including you
Well I have seen a story where woman with 2 kids moved a man into her house straight after he got of the train on their first date. He left her with a mount of debt and moved on to the next woman to scam. He also pretended to be rich and waiting on a big pay out 🤣 and the other women were smart not to move him in because the reporter tracked him down living in a homeless shelter 🤣
@ymarrero23 It's desperation.
@ymarrero23 Finding a husband isn't about grabbing the first man who stumbles into your path.
It's about finding the right man to be your husband.
Even love won't sustain a marriage.
(Dedication, patience, hope, good-will, resilience)
@ymarrero23 No she grabbed this guy from online after 90 days!
I never give money to a man. They give me money
She has amazing children, and that’s something to celebrate❤
These women are desperate for attention and love. They want to and need to believe the lies……
Who are willing to take lie? Just she had bad luck got Voodoo met this evil.
I was always told to put other people first but not any longer. Too many scammers and rip off con artists out there looking for people who put others needs/wants first.
Am now 60 years!! Am glad that I am not interested in a man woman relationship anymore, my husband died 5 years ago, we had a wonderful marriage!!! Iam now used to being alone...I am enjoying single life so much , I don't wanna jeopardize my happiness in pursuit of a partner no never!!! Thank you God for the peace and joy that am enjoying in my old age🎉
A fool and her money.
My heart absolutely breaks for this lady ..... he should have been given 20 year's in prison... what a disgusting man .
These women willingly handed over their money and wanted to marry a married man.
@@SamStone1964 How did you manage to miss his repeated claims that he was divorced and the problem with his papers was purely bureaucratic?! Or the fact that she even called the registry office, who confirmed this to her?!
20 years in prison..what crime did he commit. ?
Sorry..but she gave her money willingly...to a dishonest, manipulative slime ball.
Pathetic 😣
You reap what you sow..!!
A big red flag is when the daughter had to move out because he was being difficult with her. The mum should have woken up then. I had a sister who didn’t recognise the signs . Her partner started being nasty early on to me for no reason. My sister blamed me and said I must have done something to upset him. He turned out to be an abuser . She ended having to divorce him. She was so blinded by love when she met him.
That Nigerian accent though should always warn you when the smarminess two hearts beat as one bs starts.
🤣🤣🤣🤣
That doesn't apply to this story at all.
Wake up !This one is not a Nigerian .Unlike most lol
@@kazleslie6334 I guess she didn’t see the man on this story. 😂
We’re all experts in African dialects now. Alaye!
She still spoke of him fondly during their times together… how he opened the door for her etc. she likes being treated this way….
Men know that a lot of women are desperate for companionship. They'll take advantage of you if they sense this desperation
Grace Victoria @ Is vice versa the same or not!? Man cheat for money, not many man can be cheated by women?
Alot of mistakes were made. Thanks for sharing your story. Good luck with your life. All we can do is learn from them. In the future you will be wiser.
The 'Two hearts beating as one must be the usual line '...
Geez
The bottom line is to have an attitude of gratitude and not for what you may have but what do you have. If you got this going life will carry you over the bumps of being lonely or disappointed or even being fired or having missed the bus because if you are truly grateful for your life gifts you will always be fine.
When you let a man move into your home you are in trouble. If this man has more money than you, why would he need to move in with you. Then the children who would not have known any better gave what little they had to this con. I can't see how you would expect better.
When we reach a certain age, we better be prepared to be jilted, and robbed blind. I have turned down many a man many times.
These women really need to get a hobby. I have been on my own for 25 years and have always been so busy, No time for dating. Glad he was caught