When women are abused, they are hurt twice. Once by the abuser and twice by society for telling them that they shouldn't have wore what they were wearing, that they're lying, that they're ruining a man's life... the list goes on. I think it's the nature of society as opposed to which gender is abused. Not invalidating your point btw, rather adding to it
@@jem231 I agree. Also, women are told to forgive the abuser. Stay with the abuser, that's whay I was told. It is also difficult to get into a DV shelter if you don't have a child. That is unspoken about. People think it's so easy to get into a one. I'm homeless right now. When your "family" is abusive, you are always blamed.
@@Slysnail5339 I'm praying for you, that God will give you strength day by day, your heart is beating right now because you have a purpose in life. So go out into the world and be a Blessing to others!
The difference is: When there's a female virgin everyone thinks she's joking especially if she's hot When there's a male virgin everyone laughs it off or makes fun of them
Yeah and they always talk about it like it's some kind of competition, that's why virgins feel bad because they feel like they lost (at least that's what it feels like for me)
@@katonadani99 Naah man dont feel like that i am 23 years old and i am not ashamed of it i had the chance few times but i still see it as nonsence to waste something i have inly once in a lifetime to someone who does not matter.. Be proud of yourself bcs the first time.is.something special dont waste it on anybody just so you can say U jad sex... Have a good Day/Night and keep on keeping on 👍
@@katonadani99 for me its not the fact that I "lost". Its the fact that everyone makes fun of you when you tell them. Litarally every single person I have met and told, which is basicly everyone I know, has made fun of it.
Yeah it's no big deal really, everyone finds love at different points in their lives. Myself, I'm 25 and never dated anyone. I could've dated in high school but didn't really care enough to do it. It's kinda the same still for me now. I could go out and strike up a conversation with a woman but I really don't care atm. I'm happy with working for 40 hours a week, coming home and talking/playing games with friends and gymming. I'd be perfectly fine being alone for the rest of my life too. I don't want kids and I love living alone/having my own space I don't have to share with anyone. Whatever happens, happens
@@bogdanstojanovic2540 some people are just meant to be alone. I've tried dating , and I realized many who've dated me are just curious about me, none of them wanted a connection,they just wanna expand the social network. Till now, I still don't understand why do people want to have so many friends and such a large network? For what? The only true friends that are gonna stick by you in the end are less than 5. It's quality over quantity. Sigh, no one nowadays seem like they want to bond or have a connection anymore
"I've never dated anyone. In my 28 years of life I've been single." That actually made me feel better. There's probably nothing wrong with me, stuff like that just happens sometimes. That was really helpful to hear, honestly.
Adie love and companionship is overrated and can seriously hurt you. You just have a different view of it from the outside looking in. Find peace within yourself before looking for love.
When I met my boyfriend he was 25 and had never dated or kissed anyone, people just have different timelines, doesn't really say anything bad about him, just like it doesn't say anything bad about anyone else who hasn't dated.
“Cheat on your wife while she is dying from cancer and proceed to marry the other women when your wife kills herself because she doesn’t want to be an interference to your life” - Dr. Seuss
@@genetaylor5368 I think that's his point. I too was a bit confused as to how everyone of them read a letter of which they could relate to (in a, let's be real unusual way). I think though 50% of them wrote letters and then Jubilee found compatibles for their letter
For the men who are still virgin ...Nothing to be ashamed about. I wish I did stay virgin as I initially planned, before giving it to my first love who in exchange gave me 2 STDs. The excuse of boyfriends that I had after him did not deserve my intimacy either...Since then I decided to remain single because of the delusion of love and what I believed it was.
Fellas, if a woman doesn’t like you anymore because you cry, she’s not the one for you. It is lie to think that because you cry that you’re not a man. Crying is literally part of survival and it can help you connect with others and you won’t feel so lonely, which as you know we are social creatures. Again, if I woman dumps you or loses interest because you express feelings she could possibly be under the mainstream impression that men don’t cry
Thank you! I'm so glad to see a man stating this. And I tell you what, the high majority of women will actually think higher of a man who cries when the situation warrants it. That willingness to show humanity displays confidence in a way that is very attractive and relatable to women.
Having been raped by my ex, I can back up the fact that the stereotype is still Strong. When I wrote a book about a Rape survivor I was told that as a guy I had no right to talk about rape because as a guy i would never expirience what a woman expirienced as rape.
If men are raped, it hurts more than women because most men tend to have sexual contact with the outer part of their body but if they are raped (I'm sorry I can't help but use this language now) a dick goes inside of their buttholes which feels like all your skin is being torn apart or atleast that's how it usually is especially if you're a virgin
Men aren't made of stone. It saddens me how we ignore that they can be sexually harassed and abused. Also, we always think they are not supposed to be emotional but always tough. They also have the right to be heard and to have their emotional moments . I hope Jesus help those men and every man out there. God bless Y'all.
rosé love it seems like toxic masculinity is still stuck in your mindset, stop equating men being "normal" to anything opposite of being affectionate/emotional.
@@user-vy9tk8yb9o please let me state that biological difference doesn't mean one sex is emotionally stable and the other is unstable...it's the norm for men to act tough no matter what.
@@ananya9931 no one was claiming that. Please let me state that way more women are emotionally unstable and way more men are emotionally stable. Women are naturally more emotional and men are naturally tougher. That does not mean they don't have feelings though but let's not pretend they are just like girls
yeaaa he is right... i am 26 and never dated anyone or had sex with anyone...and i dont feel bad about it...being with someone who loves you for real is more satisfying and rewarding...we all are gonna lose virginity at some point...everyone takes their own time...
I'm almost 42 and have never been physically intimate with anyone, and probably never will be. I was also abused by a family member when I was 8. These things are more common for men than most people realize.
@Step Bro Help I'm Stuck! Depending on the person, barely staying alive can prove to be insanely difficult. Terrible things happen to people, they happened to you too I assume. For the you that you are now it may be a great burden to bear. It's okay to have these dark thoughts as a consequence. However, with that being said, I really believe that there is more to you than you are right now. That there is a you that can overcome the situation you are in right now, no matter how hopeless. There is hope for change, even if it's just a small step, if it can alleviate the pain just a little bit that's alright. Keep going. You'll get there. You have it within you. Please don't give up on life, for despite all it's ugly and pain, there is also beauty and things worth suffering for.
This video is so important. We try so hard to seem strong, not realizing it’s only making us weaker. So many men spend so much time building up a shield, but it’s only masking the fact that they are slowly breaking down.
i feel like people constantly underestimate the crap men go through cause they literally don't know. The world makes it seem like it's some great shame for men to be open and have feelings and just not be the stereotype
sttonep IKR. Crying over a bad day is not ducking petty either. If you have been a man than im sure you would know it builds up as you keep hiding your emotions than one day it's just too much and you let it all out from when you kept hiding it for even months or years or whatever. Something petty would be your brother wants to play the xbox after you have been on for 8 hours or some sh*t crying over a bad day and especially over a movie is not weak. Infact if you cry over a movie then atleast you have emotion and it's not sad or depressed crying. You don't need to 'man up' for such things. There are petty things though but not those things
As a man, I'm really proud of all the men that broke their silence and shared their secrets In the middle of all shame, guilty and hopelessness, knowing you're not alone helps alot
@@stefanrosu9735 Feminist basically means blaming men for everything, which is proved time and time again by their actions. No one cares about dictionary definitions when they do NOT reflect the actions they partake in.
0:46 i haven’t ever dated anyone either, I feel lonely and singled out because I see people holding hands and making out, and it seems so great, I keep telling myself that one day I’ll find the right guy but sometimes I feel my hope just slip away.
Don't be! Men, please do realize that a man showing emotions actually displays confidence in a way that women want confidence to be shown. In a way that is attractive to women. Most men mistake confidence with dominance or with being cold and heartless, and untouchable. Then they wonder why they still don't appeal to women, who find that kind of person a cold, heartless ass.
My mother almost sold me as a sex slave to fuel her drug habit. I ran away though. Was abused by several girlfriends as well. I think it's far more common than people think
My mom almost did to. She literally had the man infront of me (I was 10) and we're making the deal. I think she was gonna sell me for like $1000 and they mad plans on when. I was at school when my social took me away. That man is out somewhere and ik he has other girls but I'm to scared to tell anyone.
Your wrong. These men and any person (man or woman) will go through stuff but that doesn't make you vulnerable. Strength is pushing through toughness, not sulking in it
@@wisesensei9741 but why? Instead try to be a better person and without trying girls will come to you , it's ironic but never chase girls and be direct do not give hidden signals, stay away from platonic chatting and always stablish that you're there to be a potential partner
I'm 20 and never dated anyone either. I try all the time to get a girlfriend or a girl as a friend but its hard, I have to much anxiety. Shout out my meat though
Not trying to sound like a douche but most of the times girls well anyone can usually pick up when someone else just wants something. Girls aren’t going to feel attracted to you if all you want is a relationship status w/ them. You need to have actual similar interests, friendships or to have an actual bond w/ this person. Don’t force anything if it happens it does
this is completely sad and heartbreaking, imagine all the men out in the world who have been taking advantage of and abused. As a woman, my heart goes out to each and every one of them. Because society is full of feminist who brings men down and wants to say "woman are better." When in reality I love seeing strong, emotional, loving men (its just so beautiful to me). Yea for all the woman out there take care of our men and for men out there take care of our women, please!!
It is important to teach men from a young age that they are valuable, that their feelings are valid, that they are not defined by things as how many people they've dated or their strength. It sucks to see the presure society puts on them as well. People tend to forget that men are victims of this society too, and that's a huge problem. I do have to disagree with you on something. Feminism, and I mean actual feminism, it's not about "women being better than men". In Spanish we have a word for it (hembrismo) but I don't know if there is one in English.
0:37 That's my story. I'm 52 and have never been on a date or shared a genuine romantic moment with another living soul. No one has ever loved me. It haunts me daily and I feel great shame about it.
Like other people have said, you aren't missing out on much, in fact, a whole lot of people want to be in your shoes right now. Live life, save money, and have fun. There's more to life than humans and emotions. Focus on yourself king. -A person with no contact with the outside world
Once the stereotype is gone, men will just be a bunch of cry babies who when told to man up, will just snap back and say “I am confident in who I am”. By the time all men realize that crying is a strength, it will Become a weakness. Crying is only good until the stereotype is dismantled.
This is super awesome! I think men's issues are always downplayed and/or ignored. Its really nice to see this type of content on here! Please keep this going!
the “I’m too scared to be who I am” really hit home, I’m always cautious of what I do because of how I raised, i often accidentally show my true emotions but realize I look very sensitive and weak, then suddenly my mind is scolding me for slipping and I try and go back to being “cold” or give out an insensitive exterior. it’s really tiring. I wish I could just be myself. I have talked about this with my male friends and a lot of them really relate, and I find that very sad.
hey, I can relate and Im really proud that you show your real deepest emotions. Imagine if you wouldn't do it at all and bottle it up the whole freaking time.. Take time to really think about the most important values for u, the purposes, and things that make u happy, things that u want to fight for. Find yourself and never be ashamed to express your real self. Good luck and love
As a woman, I feel sad that most guys feel that. All I can hope is for everyone to speak up to express what they really feel. I think vulnerability sometimes can be a beautiful thing.
Mine would be that when I was a boy I was always 'like a girl' as they said - polite, calm, getting good marks. I really liked maths and was good at it and didn't like sports, wasn't good at sports at all, and wasn't good at social skills neither, thus other boys bullied me and as girls laughed it only encouraged them to go further and further I thought I'll never have a girlfriend, I felt worthless and wanted to commit suicide. But now, the dream came through - I do have a loving girlfriend and I love her so much, sometimes I can't believe that, all those years are just as clear as it was yesterday, but it's a past now. If there's anyone feeling like I felt at the moment, it will pass, you are the most wonderful person on the planet, everything eventually passes.
To the first guy: I respect the fact that you are honest and you're not ashamed because there is literally nothing to be ashamed about. You'll find your soul mate:)
you live in a fantasy world where all women are the same and want the same things in life - what women want and what they believe in are just as diverse and different as men @@khalidsamu
Gender roles are essential to the survival of almost every single species on Earth. This push for a genderless society is a push for the end of human kind. Enjoy!
Nintruendo it may have been at one point but in this day in age, the chances of survival are much more in our odds. We can move onto bigger ideas like not restricting ourselves with outdated tradition
@@closebutnope4978 What grade are you in? It's pretty clear you don't have enough hindsight to understand the value of tradition. Nor do you understand the clear and present dangers to our existence. Strength is essential our survival so are gender roles. You kids are gonna get rolled so hard and you're going to take my kids and our entire species down with you. It's inevitable with the kind of thinking you kids are promoting.
@@nintruendo6411 its important to keep some sort of gender roles but men shouldn't be expected to be emotionless, that's fucked up. men struggle a lot too just as much as women do but society shuts them down and tells them to "man up". Being extremely masculine and hiding your true feelings does more harm than expressing how you actually feel. you are the uneducated one here sir.
You should have women read men’s secrets as well. I feel like that would be really interesting. Edit: Thank you for all the likes! I just want to say, not all women are men-hating-only-I-have-problems kinda people. Lots of women are very compassionate, and some like me are all for men’s rights. These replies have lots of ‘nice guy’ types. Not everyone is a SJW tumblr snowflake. Thank you.
@@caelanrileyfriesen3659 Just because we have struggles doesn't mean we aren't privileged. I absolutely see where you're coming from but there are a lot of negative experiences that women deal with that we generally don't have to worry about at all
._. You are politically and religiously privileged. There are still countries in the world where baby girls are being murdered or where women are forced to have their vaginas stitched close so not men and women are not "equally" privileged. The fact that a lot of men struggle in life doesn't negate the fact that we live in a world that was built to accommodate men's desires.
A guy should always have another male friend he trusts deeply to talk about his feelings and such since guys can relate to another guy better than females
@antwinettec all my male "friends" ditched me, motherfuckers been studying with them since kindergarten. Men are as bad as women in some cases and this is one of the cases where they're the worst
@@maximusdossantos5947 @cartohead Or people who are against gays as it was mentioned in the video. Or people who believe that men should not be emotional or show their vulnerable side. Or it could be radical feminists. It could be a spectrum of people.
This is very deep. I am very happy to see how men are sharing their vulnerability with each other. I can imagine how hard it was for them to go through all this experience and to be able to share it. Any person needs to feel safe to ask for help, no matter the gender or anything else. Being strong means sometimes and with special someone to be vulnerable. They will accept you no matter what you have been through. Know that you are loved, cared about and understood.
You should never be ashamed that you are a virgin, man or woman! Take time to figure out who you want to do it with and when you want to do it so you can live life having 1 less regret. So many people rush losing their virginity because it's cool or whatever, then end up regretting doing it with that person or at that time. Love yourself enough by taking the time to understand what you really want!! ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
I wanted to do it with someone special and that special person has never come around - by special I simply mean someone who could return my feelings. At this point I'm considering just doing it with a one-night stand.
"stop the societal expectations for men" wtf do you think that means? just remove all true sterotypes that are made to keep men like this from existing??
To be fair they're the ones who created these stereotypes and expectations and now they're the ones suffering.... as a woman I rlly feel like were just the supporting cast in this horribly directed movie lol its hilariously sad
@@foreverconfusedandkindacuteatriarchy is set by men but doesn’t exactly apply correctly nor advantageously for al men. Some women may profit off their position in patriarchal societies. Not all men profit off such systems
Damn I’m seeing some comments in here that are truly sad,telling people to “get over” their abuse, and men shouldn’t “show emotion”, Goes to show how toxic some people are.
I think you should word it differently. It takes courage (a manly feature which women also is able to have) to show and talk about feelings. Its part of the human condition and quite essential for a normal life to communicate your inner thoughts. I wouldnt say its the most manly thing for a guy to do, since manliness is somewhat subjective to the individual. Just take a look at women, what do they find manly and you will have widely different views of what a man is and how he should act, depending on where in the world you are.
As a woman, I completely understand the first guy, I have been single for all of my life(for 24 years), it's not that I haven't tried to find someone, it's just that it isn't working out for me. Now I am texting with a guy that I like and I hope that I will be able to build a relationship with him.
I wish the best for you, Mia. I actually relate to the second (I believe so, because there was already one guy before him) secret. I've never dated anyone, I actually tried to get into it, but I feel like it was somewhat forced and rushed at some point. I also don't wanna date just to date, I want to get emotionally attached to that someone first. Tbh, I don't know how can people just randomly date someone without feelings for them I believe getting to know each other first and growing together is a whole new level before dating someone just because you want to, and not about feelings
@@rwhoosh1122 Family minimized my issues too talking to family did not help. I told them of my depression countless times I actually tried to take my life fairly young in my life at about 14 years old and they still didn't take me seriously. Family can be useless and make me feel worse about my problems. That's what happens when you don't have supportive families.
It's hard man just find those who you trust you know sometimes a stranger on the internet can be good but just dont bottle it up I had someone I knew commit suicide recently and I don't want anyone to end up in that situation if in know them or not i mean it's just harder for us guys to talk about emotions anyway naturally but even if you dont realise it you have people who you can talk to just have to find the right ones
@C, boy it’s better to talk about your feelings than hurt your self to be a ‘stronger man’. All your doing is becoming closer to what society wants you to be, instead of becoming closer to what you want to be.
@@thedarthknight5161 lol no, todays society every man tries to be a sensitive liberal, i have my own thoughts, im open minded, and im strong asf. Bad things that happen to you are not bad unless you humor them and make them real, look at bad situations as things to grow from, no one wants to hear you bitching about bad things like your the only one.
i think its a huge disrespect towards the gay and straight men to put in transgenders, they cannot ride the same boat about feel not masculine enough, trnas people have the trans card to show why they dont have sex or why their voice is higher or why they act feminine. REAL men dont have that card
sarah siajibckx no, you see we have testosterone too. It’s just supplemented. I absolutely hate anyone knowing my birth sex since .... it’s the definition of invalidating my masculinity. I have gender dysphoria which makes me even more insecure in my masculinity. My feet are too small, I’m too short, my voice is still not deep enough ect. My family puts more pressure on me to look the part, to seem manly enough that they will respect my pronouns. It’s not easy, and we have similar struggles. (Id also recommend saying trans men as you didn’t say “the gays” about gay men)
I hate when people dismiss men being beaten by saying they should fight back. your supporting one person's physical abuse against another. the man in the red jacket said it best; he could've hit back but knew he would never put a hand on her. all of these men are incredibly strong and I hope they're in better places.
@@greenlitlleman -- He didn't say good sex. He said it doesn't feel the same. A good grudge fuck is good sex. But all other forms of sex (even if good) are all about being physically or mentally stimulating. Only intimate sex is about the emotional. And, as such, emotional sex doesn't feel the same as physically or mentally stimulating sex. Since no emotions are involved, it can usually also be duplicated in multiple ways.
Matt TheDestroyer 2 either that, or more men than most people realize actually go through these situations, making it more likely for them to relate to other traumas. Insecurity in men is much more common than many believe.
Tara Hobbs ehhhh maybe not, did you notice that some of the men sitting in the chairs didn’t get to describe a secret? maybe Jubilee has hand picked their secretes they wanted to release along with the men’s opinions and relation to it?
I've never dated anyone. Sometimes it's all I want, just so I can feel less lonely about it. When my best friends ask me, I tell them I just don't want to because I can't admit to them out loud that no one wants me. All my life I've known I wasn't worth anything, and being rejected for this long only affirms that.
I get how you feel I think you should share this with someone that you truly trust and it will help you feel better. Also trust me everyone's life is worth something it's just that you haven't seen your own value yet but you will eventually. I saw mine quite late as well
As women, we always talk about our struggles and I don’t think that really take a look at the struggles of the men. So this video really puts things in perspective.
@@algonzalez6853 what do you mean? This is the dialog many feminists wish have. What these men went through is what people mean when they talk about toxic masculinity.
He's 28 years old, still a Virgin and Demisexual.. He was in a long distance relationship for 3 years but it didn't end up well and every day he thinks about dying. 'So lost to live, too afraid to die' That 'He' is me. I know this is too much to say here but I hope this stays here if I ever stopped talking myself out of suicide.
Don't do it . It's not worth it . There is someone for you who God will send at the right time and that person will bring you all happiness you deserve 💗💗
There is nothing wrong with who you are. Life challenged you, but you are still here sharing your story. You are so much stronger and beautifull than you think and there is always someone out there waiting with love. I wish you the best, keep going ❤️
I hope you are feeling better, suicide is never the answer to lifes problems when you are feeling down talk to a close friend or someone in your family who you trust. Change you life and work toward a goal. Depression is a right sob I get it from time to time due to my ASD but I know it will pass. Try meditation and yoga and other things that will help you. Best of luck.
I will just post my other comment here and then add a note to you personally. " Because for men in our species popularity with the opposite sex is determined by the number and/or quality of his partners. And the popularity of a woman is determined by her appearance. This is related to the fact that even an ugly guy can get laid a lot and even a hot guy can stay a virgin. And your popularity equals to your social status. We are very competitive animals and the different treatment is just part of how different our sexual strategies biologically. There is no conspiracy against men, lol. This is also the reason why most virgin guys, even those who are "ashamed" about their status, would rather stay virgins than hire a hooker and experience sex. They don't really give a fuck about sex, they care about their subjective social status in their own head and they wouldn't feel that they "won" by buying sex. " I at some became fed up with all this nonsense, about how our emotions work in a primitive way. So I just lost my virginity with a hooker, then slept with other two. After that it became much easier to find a girl to date. I learned that sex isn't such a big deal. But you can't stop putting it on the pedestal until you actually experience it by yourself. It is overrated and not worth suffering over not getting it. If you aren't skilled in sex it is also very possible that it wouldn't feel even as good as masturbation. There are a lot of things in life that are more meaningful and enjoyable, just do them.
Damn... What the guy at 4:01 says hits close to home for me. Ive been struggling with the aftermath of an abusive and vindictive ex girlfriend, and he said exactly what I needed to hear.
hey, im the guy from the video who spoke on the secret of abuse within relationships, and im glad that what ive said helped you in the least bit! keep thriving brother!!
readysetnogo I’m sorry to hear that. My first love ended up becoming abusive. And for a year I put up with it because in our early relationship, she was a different girl. She loved me, and treated me very well. But towards the middle of the relationship, she just... changed. Completely. She manipulated me, tormented me, played with my emotions, used my kindness, and abused me mentally and emotionally. She never hit me, but she’d push me around sometimes. I suppose I stayed for as long as I did because I kept dreaming of a day where the old her would return, and everything would be okay again. But she never did return. So, I left her. I couldn’t handle the pain of watching the love of my life get worse every single day. But, she pursued me. Promised me she would fix everything. I gave her another chance. For a while, things did seem to be normal again. But only a couple months later, the relationship was worse than it already was before. Everything she did to me, she would do it worse somehow when it seemed impossible to even beat that. I begged her everyday, even before I broke up with her the first time, for her to love me. I begged and begged. I begged for everything to be normal again. I didn’t want to have to leave her because her and I had so much planned. She taught me how to kiss, how to hold someone, and even how to love. But for some reason she was the one who ended up falling short. But even after many attempts of begging, she would revert back to her ways after a temporary fix. So, I had to leave again. This time for good. And so far it’s been 5 months since I left her. To this day, I still regret leaving. Even though she hurt me, something inside of me still wants her. Still loves her. I dated another girl after her but she ended up leaving me for someone else. I do have a crush now, and she knows I like her, but she has no interest in dating me. So here I am. Alone. Again. While my ex gets to be happy with another man. And a part of me is jealous. A part of me just wants to hold and kiss her like I used to. I miss the old her, not the new her. I just wish she never changed. I could still be loved, and she’d still receive all of mine. I wouldn’t have to worry about dying alone, and I could have a future with her. I don’t know. But yeah, I just thought I’d share my story. Sorry for the long comment.
People really underestimate how hard being a guy can be. Both genders face struggles we just aren't in each others shoes so we can't see the other side
Dual Citizenship Senator There's nothing objective about it though. Male or female, we all face problems. Some more than others. If you take gender out of the equation, you'll find we're all more similar than we think. We just need to try to understand each other.
We always talk and fight for women. However men also need to be talked and fought for. They need to be listened to too. They should know It is okay to be vulnerable, that they can be sensitive and they can speak out. Speak out for all the things they are forced to be and all the qualities that are imposed into them. Men are victims of society too. I WISH WE CAN GIVE THAT IMPORTANCE.
Yes, they are victims of a society that they created. As much as I agree that these are issues we need to talk about, there are still women who are forced to wear niqabs everyday, women who's vaginas have been forcefully shut, women who don't have proper access to medical care for menstruation, wife beating, child marriage, rape, etc... Yes, these things happen to men aswell but that doesn't negate the fact that it happens to women at a higher rate. I'm all for supporting men but we need to focus on ourselves first
I loved how all of them hugged at the end. I keep on telling survivors, that rejoice in the fact that you SURVIVED. You ARE NOT in the past anymore. You survived, you are loved and you will thrive. Nothing spells revenge on your abuser who tried to destroy you like a life well lived.
I made a comment about how there were no memes in the comment section... Welp i guess people all of a sudden people wanted to make memes in the comment section so my past comment was useless, so enjoy reading this one
I feel like my mental problems are not as important as girls, because the media always tell us we should protect girls and they're important. NOT because women are a problem ofc! I just wish we could help each other with these kinds of things. Everyone has problems and we should stand together
As a woman, I aspire to be strong enough to be able to be leaned on by men, especially for my future partner. I want to be strong and independent enough to be relied on so men around me won't have to carry the burden of always protecting me.
I can’t imagine the trauma men have to go through when they’re molested or abused, it’s so heartbreaking knowing that most would prefer to stay silent to appear strong rather than show their vulnerability:(
The hardest thing is no one will believe you. Day think it’s awesome especially if it was a woman who did it. They say you are just playing the victim.
It's not about prefering being silent, it's just that like who tf are we supposed to talk to. Most people don't want to talk to pshychologists, and personally I don't want to bother my family with issus of the past.
@@francogiobbimontesanti3826 I don't agree with that. If a person speaks the truth, forcefully and passionately, some people will eventually believe it.
The only unconditional love a man will get in his entire life is that of his mother. (Sadly, even some mothers don't) Even a monogamous wife wouldn't love her husband truely unconditionally (vice versa too) Unconditional love is self explanitory. Seems many people tend to think about it as love, but unconditional means even loving him if he's a broke hobo, below average looking, and a real douchebag. Never seen that happen ever. Not unless they atleast have one or more of the opposite traits aswell.
I've been in a relationship with another man for two years and my family has no idea. I'm over 30 years old and I'm still afraid of coming out. My partner supports me and is ok with my choice to stay in the closet but I fear I'll lose him if I continue staying hidden.
Aaron Francis just a stranger, but if your family doesn’t say homophobic things, or you think they might support you, go for it and tell them. But if you feel unsafe, or you feel you’re not ready, your partner will see that, and won’t breakup with you.
Aaron Francis, although I am a Christian, I have nothing against you. I do believe that you should come out, if being hidden is making you suffer. You will suffer either way, why not suffer and be free. This way you will know who truly loves and accepts you for who you are. Someone can also love you, but may struggle to accept your sexuality defending on how strongly they are against it, but love is much stronger than held conviction. They will eventually accept you, if they love you. I will pray that you may found peace and contentment on what you decided to do. God Loves You and doesn't want you to suffer. That is why he died and suffer on the cross so everyone on earth don't have to. Get to know him, he is not what people say he is. They know of Him, but does not know him. He knows you through and through, and He loves you very much. If you know and believe in His love, you will only have love and kindness to all His creation. God Bless You!
That helped me. Honestly when the dude admitted that he’s never dated anyone and hasn’t had sex at age 28. That made me feel sooo much better about myself, that that is actually an okay thing. I’m thankful for that honesty :’)
These were intense. I think when we take a second to step back and realize that everybody has been through tough times, we can really start appreciating each other and being there for each other
Savage It’s not that bad. We have testosterone for a reason. The only bad thing is this modern culture of breeding weakness into men while praising a caricature of male behavior for women. This has created a whole generation of people with mental problems and torn families. We need to turn back to the way we used to be.
@@honourandtradition8078 if you think showing emotions or being vulnerable is weak then, you are wrong.Vulnerability is not winning or losing, it's having the courage to show up and be seen when we have no control over the outcome.
Savage Nothing could be further from the truth. A man’s job is to protect his family otherwise he loses his authority as head of the family. Being vulnerable is the opposite of that. The man must be a rock, the foundation of the family and the woman is the one who will help her husban with his flaws and they together will make sure the family will grow strong and united. That is the way of our ancestors, that is western tradition. I spit on anything that aims to pervert that.
@@TheBongoJeff it means that the guy has the potential to be dated by the person who posted the comment, although if they date or not depends on various different variables and factors.
I am depressed (the moment I'm watching the video right now) because of how my parents often compare me to my siblings and how I'm a disappointment in comparison to their achievements But after I watched this I thought I shouldn't be like this because my reason is childish and damn this video helped me to realise that no matter how bad the situation is there will always be someone that had it worse
tbh so relatable. feel just like u with ur parents and siblings. i feel like they are always disappointed in me. but i know deep down they ain’t disappointed in me, parents will always love u no matter what.
But also don't forget it's okay to get upset about these things. People will always have it worse or better than you, it just matters that you can get through your rough patch and have someone to talk to. You're never alone and I'm sure there are many other people who are proud of you.
Ngl this is relatable asf my oldest brother has his life already set and my older brother is literally right around the corner and i just feel so lost. But this helped me and a motivational video i heard awhile before this i wont give up
@@rwhoosh1122 why though? Why can't you feminists accept that we're different. You guys should seriously stop trying to force something that's not natural. Men and women are not exactly alike enough to erase gender roles or stereotypes.
@@Jono1982 Every Problem is important. And Problems related to Women Rights are VERY important, but this doesn't mean that girls only think about their rights. Speaking for myself what i want is equality.
@@dishingoutls8137 gender roles and gender stereotypes are two different things. Gender roles are behaviours learned by a person as being appropriate for their 'group'. Men and women have different qualities in some things, you can see that in many species. But gender stereotypes is something that we as human beings created and that can be (as you probably saw in the video) toxic and alarming. Gender stereotypes have made men scared to show feelings because 'It's not manly enough'. Gender stereotypes have made men scared to dress a certain way or do a job they like because 'it's not manly enough'. That doesn't have to do with feminism not accepting the differences between men and woman. Of course there are differences between men and women, but those are called gender differences, not gender roles or gender stereotypes. Gender stereotypes are just oversimplified images of how a person or group should be and/or act. That's something that changes over time and cultures. Gender differences on the other hand are cognitive, unchangeable and biologic. So yes there are differences between men and women, but it has nothing to do with gender roles or stereotypes.
Due to a surgery I lost all of my site about three years ago, I never really like talking about being depressed about it. I make lots of blind jokes because humor is just a funny way of being serious. It’s honestly very sad. I was once at a very stressful state acting competition and at one point I got very depressed about not being able to see, I couldn’t go anywhere to get away or be by myself because for me to get around I need somebody else there. So I just tried to stay quiet but when someone asked if I was doing okay, I lost it. I just put my head down and started sobbing. The sad part was that everyone just walked away from me to give me space, including my girlfriend at the time. Only one person, not my girlfriend, came to console me and I will forever appreciate her for that. The double standard is what hurts. At one point another girl was crying and all the other girls went to console her and constantly asked how she was doing and tried to make her feel better. It’s not fair, I was supposed to just deal with it on my own while that other girl was coddled and cared for.
Too often people feel like guys need to handle their problems by themselves to be men but having the strength to talk about your obstacles and feelings and to be vulnerable is the most masculine thing you can do
DarkVageta Sometimes I think women aren’t aware of all that men struggle with or feel. Men often are really only allowed to show anger. If men cry, get anxious, depressed, whatever....they are supposed to “man up.” But for most people after sharing their frustrations, feelings, etc, it can be cathartic. I think men have problems venting, because they look at it as complaining, and if there’s not a solution, what’s the point? But sometimes it’s hard to get men to share their real emotions/feelings about things......so women are ignorant to what’s really going on in his head.
matt d me having to cook and clean for my boyfriend and him not having to do the same for me has nothing to do with biology. It may seem nuts, but it still happens. Just as people still expect him to provide the money in the household. Or how he can’t say he suffers from depression, or how Im told I don’t have to go to the gym or how our friends come over and never share the XBox controller with me despite me being a player myself, how I’m ridiculed for wearing dark clothing and he’d ridiculed for wearing light one. It’s “small” things that affect us in big ways. The only thing that counts in the biologically different is in what role we play in the reproductive system. Or brains are no different, our emotions are not different (you can suffer form depression as much as I can, and you should be more than allowed to express it and get treatment), our taste are only different due to culture. Biology is not as extensive as people try to make it out in order to defend gender roles. Biology is quite simple. There are even laws regulating certain parts of women’s bodies with no biological defense. This is why I actually think it would be great for men and women to sit down and talk about the pressures they feel, because we’d all be so surprise to learn how alike we actually are.
I really hope my generation raises our sons better. I hope we teach them that they are valid despite their relationship status, that being vulnerable and weak aren't the same, and that they can let their guard down without having their trust betrayed.
Heres my issue with society. Everyone keeps stereotyping men to be strong, never cry, and since we (as a society) have agreed on it, it makes me feel worse and more down internally cause I'm an emotional guy. When a women cry, they are warned and comforted. When a man crys, people shrug it off or even make fun of him and my question is why are we stereotyping everything. It doesnt matter what gender you are or what you believe in. You can do whatever you want and society shouldnt judge you based off your gender.
@@pamelarojas8878 You think wrong. Women judge men MUCH harsher than men judge other men. The fact is, men don't really give a crap how other men think of them. It's women they are trying to impress and attract... and nothing scares or turns off a woman more than an emotional, emasculated man. You women always love to put the blame on men and pretend like women treat men with nothing but compassion and kindness... but that is NOT reflected by men's experiences. Don't presume to understand how men are like or how we treat each other. You have no clue.
Smash 456 for many of those men, suicide is caused by feelings of rejection and ridicule based upon their relationship. As a man I can say that a break up, especially out of the blue or for very obscure reasons, really hurts a guy. And almost all guys want to do is just find someone who will be there for them, and who they can be happy with. All anyone really wants to do is be happy. Thankfully I have found it in my boyfriend and am now content with life (mostly) but I can assure you that men cannot control the male suicide rates just on a whim.
Plot twist: Title says that a lot of men deal with the same problem and everyone can actually relate even a little bit. It's not about WHO read WHO'S trauma.
@@triplea7536 That the sercrets may be even their own but the thing is a lot of other men in real life can relate to them - That's why it's called ,,OTHER MEN PROBLEMS" even if they read their own paper
When men are abused they are hurt twice. Once by the abuser, and second when society blames and reviles them for their supposed weakness.
Apparently, “Being Human” and “Human Being” are absolutely not the same. Not exactly sure why ...
Best UA-cam comment I have seen
When women are abused, they are hurt twice. Once by the abuser and twice by society for telling them that they shouldn't have wore what they were wearing, that they're lying, that they're ruining a man's life... the list goes on. I think it's the nature of society as opposed to which gender is abused. Not invalidating your point btw, rather adding to it
@@jem231 I agree. Also, women are told to forgive the abuser. Stay with the abuser, that's whay I was told. It is also difficult to get into a DV shelter if you don't have a child. That is unspoken about. People think it's so easy to get into a one. I'm homeless right now. When your "family" is abusive, you are always blamed.
Alrighty then
"the stigma that males can't be molested and abused it's fiction" Exactly.
My dad molested my brother. But he died from a heartattack while sleeping❤️
@@Slysnail5339 I'm sorry man... 😢 Hope things are better now in your family.
@@Slysnail5339 I'm praying for you, that God will give you strength day by day, your heart is beating right now because you have a purpose in life. So go out into the world and be a Blessing to others!
rainhat Feminism has nothing to do with this issue sooo
In pulp FICTION Marcus gets raped
Man is least himself when he talks in his own person. Give him a mask, and he will tell you the truth. - Oscar Wilde
Damn that really cut deep. Thanks for sharing this. I'll remember this one.
@hamzah anton no
@hamzah anton cause no one will know who they are, they will be anonymous and their image wont be altered
Sold your brain hamzah ?
Brian Waweru wow
The difference is:
When there's a female virgin everyone thinks she's joking especially if she's hot
When there's a male virgin everyone laughs it off or makes fun of them
Yeah and they always talk about it like it's some kind of competition, that's why virgins feel bad because they feel like they lost (at least that's what it feels like for me)
@@katonadani99 Naah man dont feel like that i am 23 years old and i am not ashamed of it i had the chance few times but i still see it as nonsence to waste something i have inly once in a lifetime to someone who does not matter..
Be proud of yourself bcs the first time.is.something special dont waste it on anybody just so you can say U jad sex...
Have a good Day/Night and keep on keeping on 👍
@@katonadani99 for me its not the fact that I "lost". Its the fact that everyone makes fun of you when you tell them. Litarally every single person I have met and told, which is basicly everyone I know, has made fun of it.
I am actually an Aromantic Asexual 19 year old male who has never dated anyone and wants to stay a Virgin my whole life.
@@theluckyone831 Thanks man, that made me happy
The way he said “ I’ve never dated anyone” made it sound so reassuring and he seems so nice
Yeah it's no big deal really, everyone finds love at different points in their lives. Myself, I'm 25 and never dated anyone. I could've dated in high school but didn't really care enough to do it. It's kinda the same still for me now. I could go out and strike up a conversation with a woman but I really don't care atm. I'm happy with working for 40 hours a week, coming home and talking/playing games with friends and gymming. I'd be perfectly fine being alone for the rest of my life too. I don't want kids and I love living alone/having my own space I don't have to share with anyone. Whatever happens, happens
Michael Bradley I mean at the age of early 30s is the best age to be married at so u still have many years
Michael Bradley Well yeah you chose to live alone I can respect that, but the guy doesnt have a gf not cus he didnt try but because he cant
@@bogdanstojanovic2540 some people are just meant to be alone. I've tried dating , and I realized many who've dated me are just curious about me, none of them wanted a connection,they just wanna expand the social network. Till now, I still don't understand why do people want to have so many friends and such a large network?
For what? The only true friends that are gonna stick by you in the end are less than 5. It's quality over quantity.
Sigh, no one nowadays seem like they want to bond or have a connection anymore
@@michaelbradley2550 You chose to not date, the guy chose to date but failed. There's a difference.
i think a "men read womens deepest secrets" or "women read mens deepest secrets." i would love to see different perspectives on these issues.
aesthetaeguk yes!!!
Guys:I feel so bad for her
Girl:why are they acting like little girls
!!
aesthetaeguk not. abad idea
@Roxus if you are telling the truth then"god bless you"
"I've never dated anyone. In my 28 years of life I've been single."
That actually made me feel better. There's probably nothing wrong with me, stuff like that just happens sometimes.
That was really helpful to hear, honestly.
Adie love and companionship is overrated and can seriously hurt you. You just have a different view of it from the outside looking in. Find peace within yourself before looking for love.
Adie you can't give someone else love from within if you don't fill your self up with self love first. Be gentle with your self
Same I'm almost 21 and I'm a virgin and never had a bf before it feels weird but I see Its not so weird
Kiki Gam it's actually very common nothing wrong with it at all
When I met my boyfriend he was 25 and had never dated or kissed anyone, people just have different timelines, doesn't really say anything bad about him, just like it doesn't say anything bad about anyone else who hasn't dated.
“Only women, children, and dogs are loved unconditionally. A man is only loved under the condition that he provide something." - Chris Rock
Can we get an F for cats.
Too true
Oooh, that hits. That's a truth I've never been able to put into words before
F
only *pretty* women, children and dogs are loved unconditionally ...
"Be who you are, say what you feel. Because those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind."
-- Dr. Seuss
Coming from the guy who had like 6 wives(sarcasm)
Idk it this quote is famous or smthn. But I'm going to try living by it! Thank you Mr!
“Cheat on your wife while she is dying from cancer and proceed to marry the other women when your wife kills herself because she doesn’t want to be an interference to your life” - Dr. Seuss
@@nicktran7490 You probably don't even like green eggs and ham.
it's really a powerful quote, thanks for sharing
Mad respect to these men for talking about their own past.
Jubilee is just becoming free therapy by this point
I'm not mad at it
@@na-qh2bf me too
and it is good
Facts. I need therapy and don't have health insurance. Wonder if I can sign up
Preach sista
The guy that randomised the letters had one job.
I really dont think any of them were randomised
@@genetaylor5368 I think that's his point. I too was a bit confused as to how everyone of them read a letter of which they could relate to (in a, let's be real unusual way). I think though 50% of them wrote letters and then Jubilee found compatibles for their letter
Letters to people who could relate to it
Thank you
For the men who are still virgin ...Nothing to be ashamed about. I wish I did stay virgin as I initially planned, before giving it to my first love who in exchange gave me 2 STDs. The excuse of boyfriends that I had after him did not deserve my intimacy either...Since then I decided to remain single because of the delusion of love and what I believed it was.
I felt sorry for the guy who has been molested. The memories must have haunt him...he's still a child at that time. You're so strong man!
I wonder how his aunt looked
Naraira98 L
@@rio-fu2ro why
Marauder it was like every boys dream
DopeShits LoL to be honest Yes!
Why do i feel like they’re reading their own secrets
"I myself can relate"
Me too
It's more easier to tell someone's story than telling a story about yourself
Why do i feel like they are reading my secrets*
@@elongated2761 well said...
It is sad how women are encouraged to talk about their feelings while many men keep it on the inside
women are encouraged to abuse men...
@@jcliff8415What do you mean?
Men are discouraged from talking about their feelings... by other men.
How is it better?
NFXDESTRA He resolves them in healthy ways rather than internalizing them and lashing out in other ways.
Fellas, if a woman doesn’t like you anymore because you cry, she’s not the one for you. It is lie to think that because you cry that you’re not a man. Crying is literally part of survival and it can help you connect with others and you won’t feel so lonely, which as you know we are social creatures. Again, if I woman dumps you or loses interest because you express feelings she could possibly be under the mainstream impression that men don’t cry
Thank you! I'm so glad to see a man stating this. And I tell you what, the high majority of women will actually think higher of a man who cries when the situation warrants it. That willingness to show humanity displays confidence in a way that is very attractive and relatable to women.
“people cry not because they're weak, but because they've been strong for too long"
@@sylvanathornton2119 not true
Then there is no woman at all
Not just women, society as a whole. I think for a lot of men, they can’t cry.
Having been raped by my ex, I can back up the fact that the stereotype is still Strong. When I wrote a book about a Rape survivor I was told that as a guy I had no right to talk about rape because as a guy i would never expirience what a woman expirienced as rape.
Judo Jason Temple I'm very sorry that you had to deal with this
If men are raped, it hurts more than women because most men tend to have sexual contact with the outer part of their body but if they are raped (I'm sorry I can't help but use this language now) a dick goes inside of their buttholes which feels like all your skin is being torn apart or atleast that's how it usually is especially if you're a virgin
@@saums because women are not raped through their butthole? Stop comparing sufferings. Rape is equally traumatizing.
@@saums It's equally as tramautizing, It's equally Emotionally, Spiritually effecting. It also hurts alot
I'm a girl, and I support that all the way God bless
Does anyone else feel like they need a 1 hour version of this
Me!!
Me too
This is something I really want
Christopher A Tajudeen I could use 2
Yep
Men aren't made of stone. It saddens me how we ignore that they can be sexually harassed and abused. Also, we always think they are not supposed to be emotional but always tough. They also have the right to be heard and to have their emotional moments . I hope Jesus help those men and every man out there. God bless Y'all.
rosé love it seems like toxic masculinity is still stuck in your mindset, stop equating men being "normal" to anything opposite of being affectionate/emotional.
@rosé love men and women are biologically different. Women are way more emotional on average. Now back off
@@user-vy9tk8yb9o please let me state that biological difference doesn't mean one sex is emotionally stable and the other is unstable...it's the norm for men to act tough no matter what.
@@ananya9931 no one was claiming that. Please let me state that way more women are emotionally unstable and way more men are emotionally stable. Women are naturally more emotional and men are naturally tougher. That does not mean they don't have feelings though but let's not pretend they are just like girls
@rosé love sucks that you want nothing to do with me, Im just trying to live like everyone else.
The rape one hurt “no one believed me cause they said it only happened to girls” no one deserved this im sorry for them
The manliest part about this video is them all coming together and hugging and appreciating one another for their time and sharing their stories.
Yeah
fr
I feel like even mentioning the word 'manliest' is inappropriate here...
@@blop-a-blop9419 so true
SIMP
Men... Being real men. In a circle filled with real men. I WISH men were this honest when I was growing up.
You can be part of the solution by getting rid of that "real' men
@@umbra014 You can be part of the solution by not forcing real men to choose what you say, based on your ignorance.
@@rmountains3519
What is that even supposed to mean? My point was that you shouldn't say "real" men cause all men are real men.
@@umbra014 All men aren't real men. A lot of men are boys in adult bodies. You can go away now.
Bayonetta wrong real men are masculine strong alphas who don’t let any man or woman physically nor mentally beat them
That second guy talking about having sex with someone who you care about is right. He deserves someone who loves him. He seems like a really nice guy
yeaaa he is right... i am 26 and never dated anyone or had sex with anyone...and i dont feel bad about it...being with someone who loves you for real is more satisfying and rewarding...we all are gonna lose virginity at some point...everyone takes their own time...
@@kunalthe100 I am the same as you, 3 months until i turn 26 and i will wait until marriage
A real man cries at his wedding
the longer you stay single the longer they will f*ck your future wife....
@@Nathe333 i will marry a woman who has this same idea as me, so i am not interested in girls who don't keep themselves.
I'm almost 42 and have never been physically intimate with anyone, and probably never will be. I was also abused by a family member when I was 8. These things are more common for men than most people realize.
@Monkey Nibba At 18 that's not unusual. You likely don't have anything to worry about.
@@ClellBiggs I'm 22 and never even held a girls hand. Should I just give up and embrace the solitary life?
@@oblivion9520 Nah, that's still not unusual. You'll probably be fine.
@Step Bro Help I'm Stuck! Depending on the person, barely staying alive can prove to be insanely difficult. Terrible things happen to people, they happened to you too I assume. For the you that you are now it may be a great burden to bear. It's okay to have these dark thoughts as a consequence. However, with that being said, I really believe that there is more to you than you are right now. That there is a you that can overcome the situation you are in right now, no matter how hopeless. There is hope for change, even if it's just a small step, if it can alleviate the pain just a little bit that's alright. Keep going. You'll get there. You have it within you. Please don't give up on life, for despite all it's ugly and pain, there is also beauty and things worth suffering for.
I don't want to be too personal but maybe you should seek therapy?
the first guy is a peoples champ, i love you brother
“Peoples”
@@ImNotWealthy peoples is a word dumbass
This video is so important.
We try so hard to seem strong, not realizing it’s only making us weaker. So many men spend so much time building up a shield, but it’s only masking the fact that they are slowly breaking down.
That just means they’re building an ineffective shield and they let things get to them
i feel like people constantly underestimate the crap men go through cause they literally don't know. The world makes it seem like it's some great shame for men to be open and have feelings and just not be the stereotype
Seems like that's what society wants us to do
Pourya Bigonah on you’re everywhere
I see your comments literally everywhere.. God....
It’s sad how “crying” as a man makes you “weak”. There is nothing wrong with it. It’s natural. It’s what makes us human. Why hide it?
It is, but it is seen as a weakness, men can still cry, but do it sparingly and don't tell anyone about it.
Haru Yanto facts, don’t let nobody see u crying
Jonabob Yeah but you cry when someone dies or something like that not because someone calls you ugly
@Richard Casterly If a movie is very strong and I can really relate to it, why can't I cry?
sttonep IKR. Crying over a bad day is not ducking petty either. If you have been a man than im sure you would know it builds up as you keep hiding your emotions than one day it's just too much and you let it all out from when you kept hiding it for even months or years or whatever. Something petty would be your brother wants to play the xbox after you have been on for 8 hours or some sh*t crying over a bad day and especially over a movie is not weak. Infact if you cry over a movie then atleast you have emotion and it's not sad or depressed crying.
You don't need to 'man up' for such things. There are petty things though but not those things
Remember kings, we are here for each other. Stading together we stand stronger. Love you boys.
Love you too
No homo tho.
You forgot to say no Homo dude 😂😂 love you too
*NO HOMO*
live long and stay strong king
Much love homie
As a man, I'm really proud of all the men that broke their silence and shared their secrets
In the middle of all shame, guilty and hopelessness, knowing you're not alone helps alot
As a woman and feminist i'm so proud and relieved to see this kind of video being done we been waiting for this
as a woman. im proud too. proud of this channel and this comment section.
Risingofthephoenixx x
Piss off feminist.
A B do you know what feminist means or are you a butthurt 12-year old that has watched too many ”feminist gets destroyed” videos?
@@stefanrosu9735 Feminist basically means blaming men for everything, which is proved time and time again by their actions. No one cares about dictionary definitions when they do NOT reflect the actions they partake in.
0:46 i haven’t ever dated anyone either, I feel lonely and singled out because I see people holding hands and making out, and it seems so great, I keep telling myself that one day I’ll find the right guy but sometimes I feel my hope just slip away.
You should keep fighting, it's gonna be worth it in the end, Idk why you'd be single if you really tried though, it's not fair
I've been there and it's really hard. I think what helped me get passed it was understanding that vulnerability is the path to happiness.
Same.
I feel you!
same :( im sorry
*PLOT TWIST:* they are reading their own secrets
Stressed Judge Bøy ||-//
Well they are reading one's close to their own experiences
||-//
Plot twist, I'm gonna hit you with my back hand instead of my forehand.
yeah its seems that way
" inside I'm really sensitive, I'm scared to be who I am " that hits home 😞
Don't be! Men, please do realize that a man showing emotions actually displays confidence in a way that women want confidence to be shown. In a way that is attractive to women.
Most men mistake confidence with dominance or with being cold and heartless, and untouchable. Then they wonder why they still don't appeal to women, who find that kind of person a cold, heartless ass.
@@sylvanathornton2119 if we show our emotions then we would probably get bullied and made fun of
@@sylvanathornton2119 which women are you talking about?
Most women bail immediately when a guy cries.
@@sylvanathornton2119 That's a lie.
that me too
My mother almost sold me as a sex slave to fuel her drug habit. I ran away though. Was abused by several girlfriends as well. I think it's far more common than people think
I'm sorry that happened to you. I believe you. I hope you're doing ok (and if you aren't ok that's ok too). Help is out there.
- from a girl
One of my closest friends was almost sold for drugs. He means the world to me, and I care about him, and I am sorry for you have gone through.
yeah but who cares were men wage gap blah blah
where u from?
My mom almost did to. She literally had the man infront of me (I was 10) and we're making the deal. I think she was gonna sell me for like $1000 and they mad plans on when. I was at school when my social took me away. That man is out somewhere and ik he has other girls but I'm to scared to tell anyone.
Vulnerability is strength. Hats off to these amazing men.
Saitama: haha
Vulnerability = Strength
You libtards are really tards
@@dorime669 yea i agree these guys are sissies getting made fun of all the time and be treated horribly what a bunch of babies
It really isn't though... In fact, it's pretty much the opposite.
Your wrong. These men and any person (man or woman) will go through stuff but that doesn't make you vulnerable. Strength is pushing through toughness, not sulking in it
"We Are All In The Gutter, But Some Of Us Look At The Stars" - Oscar Wilde
i love this line.
in awe.
@@rizzamaeong yea I found it in a TV show lol
hi kyle lowry
@@aidan8870 hi
bro i can relate to this so much. people are sometimes just to negative, even when im down, i try to better my condition atleast.
Not dating anyone is much better than getting hurt by everyone.
damn. nice one.
Yea maybe your right but it still hurts being a lonely virgin
Watch home alone 2 when kevin tells the rollerblade story to the pigeon lady hun.
Sexist misandrist. Men suffer too. I hope u keep suffering even more!
@@wisesensei9741 but why? Instead try to be a better person and without trying girls will come to you , it's ironic but never chase girls and be direct do not give hidden signals, stay away from platonic chatting and always stablish that you're there to be a potential partner
I'm 20 and never dated anyone either. I try all the time to get a girlfriend or a girl as a friend but its hard, I have to much anxiety. Shout out my meat though
I'm 19 and i have never dated lmao , no big deal 💔
22 here on the same boat, it does not matter focus on your dreams man
Aye man we all rocking in the same boat, you’ll find the *one*, one day trust me
21 ..same🙂
Not trying to sound like a douche but most of the times girls well anyone can usually pick up when someone else just wants something. Girls aren’t going to feel attracted to you if all you want is a relationship status w/ them. You need to have actual similar interests, friendships or to have an actual bond w/ this person. Don’t force anything if it happens it does
this is completely sad and heartbreaking, imagine all the men out in the world who have been taking advantage of and abused. As a woman, my heart goes out to each and every one of them. Because society is full of feminist who brings men down and wants to say "woman are better." When in reality I love seeing strong, emotional, loving men (its just so beautiful to me). Yea for all the woman out there take care of our men and for men out there take care of our women, please!!
Endiya Dacosta you are amazing!
Thanks for the kind words.
And its also super important to know that men with emotions aren't always feminine.
You’re so open minded, you’ve earned my respect
Thank you...
It is important to teach men from a young age that they are valuable, that their feelings are valid, that they are not defined by things as how many people they've dated or their strength. It sucks to see the presure society puts on them as well. People tend to forget that men are victims of this society too, and that's a huge problem.
I do have to disagree with you on something. Feminism, and I mean actual feminism, it's not about "women being better than men". In Spanish we have a word for it (hembrismo) but I don't know if there is one in English.
0:37 That's my story. I'm 52 and have never been on a date or shared a genuine romantic moment with another living soul. No one has ever loved me. It haunts me daily and I feel great shame about it.
Here is a big hug bro🤗
There is nothing to be ashamed about.
There is a dating app for ppl in your age, try to google it, i forgot the name
I’m sorry to hear about that. But it’s ok, you can still be awesome single. Stay strong man, I hope things get better for you
Like other people have said, you aren't missing out on much, in fact, a whole lot of people want to be in your shoes right now. Live life, save money, and have fun. There's more to life than humans and emotions. Focus on yourself king.
-A person with no contact with the outside world
thank you for giving men the platform to able to voice their biggest insecurities and such, without judgement.
Men needs care, attention, love, and empethy. It's important to look after our men too.
true that. disciplining them and helping them to find responsibilities to adhere to and challenges to train there characters to would also be great.
Peter Sayatshkin disciplining them fairly and in the same way you do a woman
Jesus Christ you still drunk
One of the hardest things I could ever say is that I was sexually abused by my own wife... as a man I don't like talking about it
Anthony Brown Im so sorry to hear that... Do you want to talk about it?
Anthony Brown what did she do
predator Hunter 316 Didn’t you read the last part? He doesn’t like talking about it?
You don't want to talk about it brother but please know that you are loved
@Anonymous sorry. All I'm saying is that your not alone
When a man cries, it shows that he's confident in his manhood enough to go against the common stereotypes.
That's just fax right here.
Once the stereotype is gone, men will just be a bunch of cry babies who when told to man up, will just snap back and say “I am confident in who I am”. By the time all men realize that crying is a strength, it will
Become a weakness. Crying is only good until the stereotype is dismantled.
@@amiablelampamiablelamp2245 How did you miss their point entirely bruh?
@@buddy9684 wdym
Eh, it depends what he's crying about.
@@amiablelampamiablelamp2245 there’s something wrong with you
This is super awesome! I think men's issues are always downplayed and/or ignored. Its really nice to see this type of content on here! Please keep this going!
dog days fr, jubilee is so important for today
At 10 my dad taught me how to be invisible. He's so good. Still havent seen him. Im 32
That's touching thanks for sharing this story with is!
Lmao 😂 😂 😂 HAHAHAHAHAHHA! Dude.
Keith, I'm cryingg
@@6ig6ird71 Yo even if it is possibly a joke for him. It's not a joke for others. How about you think before you go laughing at that situation.
@thomas bicket what are you talking about?
the “I’m too scared to be who I am” really hit home, I’m always cautious of what I do because of how I raised, i often accidentally show my true emotions but realize I look very sensitive and weak, then suddenly my mind is scolding me for slipping and I try and go back to being “cold” or give out an insensitive exterior. it’s really tiring. I wish I could just be myself. I have talked about this with my male friends and a lot of them really relate, and I find that very sad.
hey, I can relate and Im really proud that you show your real deepest emotions. Imagine if you wouldn't do it at all and bottle it up the whole freaking time.. Take time to really think about the most important values for u, the purposes, and things that make u happy, things that u want to fight for. Find yourself and never be ashamed to express your real self. Good luck and love
As a woman, I feel sad that most guys feel that. All I can hope is for everyone to speak up to express what they really feel. I think vulnerability sometimes can be a beautiful thing.
yup that's me thanks man! (or woman) I really appreciate you taking the time to write this :)
Leonor M ..thank you❤️i hope as well these very toxic gender stereotypes will leave in the near future..
CesarChicken I understand where you’re coming from :/ I feel like if I tell someone how I feel they will not understand and silently judge..
Mine would be that when I was a boy I was always 'like a girl' as they said - polite, calm, getting good marks. I really liked maths and was good at it and didn't like sports, wasn't good at sports at all, and wasn't good at social skills neither, thus other boys bullied me and as girls laughed it only encouraged them to go further and further I thought I'll never have a girlfriend, I felt worthless and wanted to commit suicide. But now, the dream came through - I do have a loving girlfriend and I love her so much, sometimes I can't believe that, all those years are just as clear as it was yesterday, but it's a past now. If there's anyone feeling like I felt at the moment, it will pass, you are the most wonderful person on the planet, everything eventually passes.
Thank you😊,
My girlfriend broke up with my today and i was looking for some positivity.
Ps
its great to read all the stories
Stay strong bros and sis
@@sstff6771 you too brother, stay strong especially now, wish you the best
@S K
Thanks bro, that means a lot
I happy that there are people like you, stay how you are. You are a wonderful human being
I’m glad you found someone!
@@sstff6771 sorry to hear that man. Try to stay strong, things can get better
To the first guy: I respect the fact that you are honest and you're not ashamed because there is literally nothing to be ashamed about. You'll find your soul mate:)
Fuckn patriarchy, I am sorry but your grammar LmAo
Fuckn patriarchy, are u mentally sane ? There is nothing wrong with having no sexual desire
you live in a fantasy world where all women are the same and want the same things in life - what women want and what they believe in are just as diverse and different as men @@khalidsamu
This is why men’s rights isn’t something to just be scoffed at. Gender roles hurt everyone.
Gender roles are essential to the survival of almost every single species on Earth. This push for a genderless society is a push for the end of human kind. Enjoy!
Nintruendo it may have been at one point but in this day in age, the chances of survival are much more in our odds. We can move onto bigger ideas like not restricting ourselves with outdated tradition
@@closebutnope4978 What grade are you in? It's pretty clear you don't have enough hindsight to understand the value of tradition. Nor do you understand the clear and present dangers to our existence. Strength is essential our survival so are gender roles. You kids are gonna get rolled so hard and you're going to take my kids and our entire species down with you. It's inevitable with the kind of thinking you kids are promoting.
@@nintruendo6411 its important to keep some sort of gender roles but men shouldn't be expected to be emotionless, that's fucked up. men struggle a lot too just as much as women do but society shuts them down and tells them to "man up". Being extremely masculine and hiding your true feelings does more harm than expressing how you actually feel. you are the uneducated one here sir.
Nintruendo I have a college degree. I think some traditions are great and work, some clearly don’t. Mainly religious based ones.
You should have women read men’s secrets as well. I feel like that would be really interesting.
Edit: Thank you for all the likes! I just want to say, not all women are men-hating-only-I-have-problems kinda people. Lots of women are very compassionate, and some like me are all for men’s rights. These replies have lots of ‘nice guy’ types. Not everyone is a SJW tumblr snowflake. Thank you.
You're right, I'd be interested to see that.
YES and the Opposite as well, I feel like it will put into perspective that men and women share very similar struggles in life
I wanna see those radical feminist read these. I think it would be an eye opener that men aren't privileged and that we have our own struggles too.
@@caelanrileyfriesen3659 Just because we have struggles doesn't mean we aren't privileged. I absolutely see where you're coming from but there are a lot of negative experiences that women deal with that we generally don't have to worry about at all
._. You are politically and religiously privileged. There are still countries in the world where baby girls are being murdered or where women are forced to have their vaginas stitched close so not men and women are not "equally" privileged. The fact that a lot of men struggle in life doesn't negate the fact that we live in a world that was built to accommodate men's desires.
I died and never dated anyone. It's not a big deal.
But you DID have the high ground.... so....
Ahhhhhh, General Kenobi!
Yea but you still had the duchess of mandalore who wanted you so its was just your monk ways that were stopping you general kenobi.
Biologically it is a big deal.
Sex/dating/being in a relationship/Marriage isnt that important.
A guy should always have another male friend he trusts deeply to talk about his feelings and such since guys can relate to another guy better than females
Yeah, but usually males do not care about other males feelings because they can barely hold their own and cope with them. It's sad but true.
@antwinettec all my male "friends" ditched me, motherfuckers been studying with them since kindergarten. Men are as bad as women in some cases and this is one of the cases where they're the worst
@av rmx a better judge... " I've been with them since kindergarten I'm 19 years old....
CVG GAMING i’m gay, i get along better with females because i can relate to them better. not every guy is the same
av rmx wow you have no education
What’s sad is that this has over 2k dislikes
ThatLiamo it’s the SJW’s
Cuz in the diluted eyes of feminist men don't have struggles
Because men revealing things that happened to them and emotions isn't liked by society
@@maximusdossantos5947 @cartohead
Or people who are against gays as it was mentioned in the video. Or people who believe that men should not be emotional or show their vulnerable side. Or it could be radical feminists. It could be a spectrum of people.
@@cajunsphinxgaming1759 If men have struggles, it's because of the....surprise, surprise. You know it: the Patriarchy!
This is very deep. I am very happy to see how men are sharing their vulnerability with each other. I can imagine how hard it was for them to go through all this experience and to be able to share it. Any person needs to feel safe to ask for help, no matter the gender or anything else. Being strong means sometimes and with special someone to be vulnerable. They will accept you no matter what you have been through. Know that you are loved, cared about and understood.
Hearing all these I realize I’m extremely fortunate to have an amazing family
That's when it's important to take note and make sure you create a culture with any family and friends you may have where those lessons are passed on
yeah
I envy you
“The shame belongs to the abuser...”
I like that line.
It’s true but hard see when you’re on this side of the abuse/shame.
I need to steal those balls of light, seems like an efficient way of making my guy friends open up.
LMAO FRR
Pourya Bigonah Damn you're always early af
Yup he is. Or she, which ever it is.
if only
the new justin y
You should never be ashamed that you are a virgin, man or woman! Take time to figure out who you want to do it with and when you want to do it so you can live life having 1 less regret. So many people rush losing their virginity because it's cool or whatever, then end up regretting doing it with that person or at that time. Love yourself enough by taking the time to understand what you really want!! ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
NERD
After a while it's just about not feeling alone
It isnt about being cool. We all want to feel it because it is in our DNA. We need that affection and being deprived from it can really hurt
I wanted to do it with someone special and that special person has never come around - by special I simply mean someone who could return my feelings. At this point I'm considering just doing it with a one-night stand.
The problem is not being virgin but being unable to have relationships that leads to sex
As a woman watching this, I am broken for what our men have been through and expected to be. Stop the societal expectations for men!
no you are not. but keep virtue signaling roastie
"stop the societal expectations for men" wtf do you think that means? just remove all true sterotypes that are made to keep men like this from existing??
To be fair they're the ones who created these stereotypes and expectations and now they're the ones suffering.... as a woman I rlly feel like were just the supporting cast in this horribly directed movie lol its hilariously sad
@@foreverconfusedandkindacute yes they are the problem not women
but blaming them it's just gonna makes things recycling
@@foreverconfusedandkindacuteatriarchy is set by men but doesn’t exactly apply correctly nor advantageously for al men. Some women may profit off their position in patriarchal societies. Not all men profit off such systems
Damn I’m seeing some comments in here that are truly sad,telling people to “get over” their abuse, and men shouldn’t “show emotion”, Goes to show how toxic some people are.
No one is saying that.
@@SabatSch95 I've seen like 20 people saying toxic things like that, what comment section are you looking at?
@@inactivemaxvu1597 The real one, not the one you made up in your head.
MG1995 Bahah exactly.
MG1995 just saying you commented way after this comment was posted
Jubilee never fails to amaze me with their content ❤️ so powerful!
The most "manly" thing a guy can do is express their feelings
No xDD
I think you should word it differently. It takes courage (a manly feature which women also is able to have) to show and talk about feelings. Its part of the human condition and quite essential for a normal life to communicate your inner thoughts.
I wouldnt say its the most manly thing for a guy to do, since manliness is somewhat subjective to the individual. Just take a look at women, what do they find manly and you will have widely different views of what a man is and how he should act, depending on where in the world you are.
An opinion if I've ever seen one. Speak for yourself, bud.
how is it a manly thing if women are so good at it? nothing wrong with expressing your feelings, but it's not "manly".
That is completely not true
As a woman, I completely understand the first guy, I have been single for all of my life(for 24 years), it's not that I haven't tried to find someone, it's just that it isn't working out for me. Now I am texting with a guy that I like and I hope that I will be able to build a relationship with him.
I wish the best for you, Mia. I actually relate to the second (I believe so, because there was already one guy before him) secret. I've never dated anyone, I actually tried to get into it, but I feel like it was somewhat forced and rushed at some point. I also don't wanna date just to date, I want to get emotionally attached to that someone first. Tbh, I don't know how can people just randomly date someone without feelings for them
I believe getting to know each other first and growing together is a whole new level before dating someone just because you want to, and not about feelings
I hope he texted back )))
Did it work? :)
Atleast you are women and men are seeking out for you
As an lonely virgin nothing will happen to ne
@@RaZoR7i7 some women don't get "seeked" at all
I wish as a man it was easier to talk about these things but in our society any sign of emotional distress is automatically seen as us being weak
Marrow Talk to a trusted person like a family
BEGONETHOT Tbh family never understand the way you want them or even need them to...
@@rwhoosh1122 Family minimized my issues too talking to family did not help. I told them of my depression countless times I actually tried to take my life fairly young in my life at about 14 years old and they still didn't take me seriously. Family can be useless and make me feel worse about my problems. That's what happens when you don't have supportive families.
It's hard man just find those who you trust you know sometimes a stranger on the internet can be good but just dont bottle it up I had someone I knew commit suicide recently and I don't want anyone to end up in that situation if in know them or not i mean it's just harder for us guys to talk about emotions anyway naturally but even if you dont realise it you have people who you can talk to just have to find the right ones
Johnsrocknvinyl77 I hope someone will understand you
It's manly if a guy is strong enough to express their feelings.
Ah but when a woman goes thru a crisis and seems „weak“ the man leaves her yall gonna hear what a monster he is.
A stronger guy internalizes everything and grows from it without having to share it with the whole world....
@C, boy it’s better to talk about your feelings than hurt your self to be a ‘stronger man’.
All your doing is becoming closer to what society wants you to be, instead of becoming closer to what you want to be.
@@thedarthknight5161 lol no, todays society every man tries to be a sensitive liberal, i have my own thoughts, im open minded, and im strong asf. Bad things that happen to you are not bad unless you humor them and make them real, look at bad situations as things to grow from, no one wants to hear you bitching about bad things like your the only one.
C, I absolutely agree with that last part which is why I’m such a mess
i love how they included loads of different men ( trans, gay, all races) just wOw
edit: thank you sm for the likes
I feel like its not that relevant for most men though. It speaks more to the minority.
who cares about that
i think its a huge disrespect towards the gay and straight men to put in transgenders, they cannot ride the same boat about feel not masculine enough, trnas people have the trans card to show why they dont have sex or why their voice is higher or why they act feminine. REAL men dont have that card
sokolowitch where is the trans one?
sarah siajibckx no, you see we have testosterone too. It’s just supplemented. I absolutely hate anyone knowing my birth sex since .... it’s the definition of invalidating my masculinity. I have gender dysphoria which makes me even more insecure in my masculinity. My feet are too small, I’m too short, my voice is still not deep enough ect. My family puts more pressure on me to look the part, to seem manly enough that they will respect my pronouns. It’s not easy, and we have similar struggles. (Id also recommend saying trans men as you didn’t say “the gays” about gay men)
I hate when people dismiss men being beaten by saying they should fight back. your supporting one person's physical abuse against another. the man in the red jacket said it best; he could've hit back but knew he would never put a hand on her.
all of these men are incredibly strong and I hope they're in better places.
Sex don’t really feel the same unless you have and emotional connection, coming from a man
It depends on what type of sex. Loving sex with an emotional connection is just one type of good sex.
@@greenlitlleman -- He didn't say good sex. He said it doesn't feel the same. A good grudge fuck is good sex. But all other forms of sex (even if good) are all about being physically or mentally stimulating. Only intimate sex is about the emotional. And, as such, emotional sex doesn't feel the same as physically or mentally stimulating sex. Since no emotions are involved, it can usually also be duplicated in multiple ways.
Fr. It's just fulfilling and beautiful. Coming from a man too.
Secret: im a virgin
First guy: yo same
2nd Secret: im gay
2nd guy: yo same
3rd secret: im not strong enough
3d guy: when i was 19
Diya RI legendary comment
I think they gave em secrets that close to their situations
4th guy: I was raped as well
@Legendary super Saiyan Broly definitely didn't get a nevermind
Their own stuff
We stan men expressing their emotions!! 🥰
your name kinda pisses me off
dont have one ...You’ll be alright 🤣
@@donthaveone2182 Sounds like a personal problem you should really open up to someone about.
@@donthaveone2182 congratulations, mate.
'Stan'
But why tho?
The room is filled with KINGS 🗣🤴🏻
fax
Lately the word "king" seems to be popping up. But when someone tells that to me it feels like a participation award and it makes me feel worse
@@ЛувсаннямБ yes, its just weird and cringey
They must of picked out which guy would read which one, they all related.
Matt TheDestroyer 2 either that, or more men than most people realize actually go through these situations, making it more likely for them to relate to other traumas. Insecurity in men is much more common than many believe.
I think that way is better since they can give advice to each other or show them theyre not alone
Tara Hobbs ehhhh maybe not, did you notice that some of the men sitting in the chairs didn’t get to describe a secret? maybe Jubilee has hand picked their secretes they wanted to release along with the men’s opinions and relation to it?
or they picked themselfes
@@MrsSankta yeah that too
I've never dated anyone. Sometimes it's all I want, just so I can feel less lonely about it. When my best friends ask me, I tell them I just don't want to because I can't admit to them out loud that no one wants me. All my life I've known I wasn't worth anything, and being rejected for this long only affirms that.
Loving yourself first will send the message that you're ready to love someone else.
I get how you feel I think you should share this with someone that you truly trust and it will help you feel better. Also trust me everyone's life is worth something it's just that you haven't seen your own value yet but you will eventually. I saw mine quite late as well
@@Pumpkin0_0 beautiful words but i keep myself for everthing.
@@jarjeguzman5676
What do you mean by keeping yourself "for everything"?
@@Pumpkin0_0 *hating😅
As women, we always talk about our struggles and I don’t think that really take a look at the struggles of the men. So this video really puts things in perspective.
Wamen*
nope not me...I actually talk to men. I also know the amount of men raped from that gay uncle or neighbor is a very high percentage
@@bellacortez same
@Lambda Nossaku not her cause what she's saying goes against feminists talking points
@@algonzalez6853 what do you mean? This is the dialog many feminists wish have. What these men went through is what people mean when they talk about toxic masculinity.
He's 28 years old, still a Virgin and Demisexual.. He was in a long distance relationship for 3 years but it didn't end up well and every day he thinks about dying.
'So lost to live, too afraid to die'
That 'He' is me. I know this is too much to say here but I hope this stays here if I ever stopped talking myself out of suicide.
Don't do it . It's not worth it . There is someone for you who God will send at the right time and that person will bring you all happiness you deserve 💗💗
There is nothing wrong with who you are. Life challenged you, but you are still here sharing your story. You are so much stronger and beautifull than you think and there is always someone out there waiting with love. I wish you the best, keep going ❤️
If you ever wanna give up,
Give God a chance
Pray and he will help
I hope you are feeling better, suicide is never the answer to lifes problems when you are feeling down talk to a close friend or someone in your family who you trust. Change you life and work toward a goal. Depression is a right sob I get it from time to time due to my ASD but I know it will pass. Try meditation and yoga and other things that will help you. Best of luck.
I will just post my other comment here and then add a note to you personally.
" Because for men in our species popularity with the opposite sex is determined by the number and/or quality of his partners. And the popularity of a woman is determined by her appearance. This is related to the fact that even an ugly guy can get laid a lot and even a hot guy can stay a virgin. And your popularity equals to your social status.
We are very competitive animals and the different treatment is just part of how different our sexual strategies biologically. There is no conspiracy against men, lol. This is also the reason why most virgin guys, even those who are "ashamed" about their status, would rather stay virgins than hire a hooker and experience sex. They don't really give a fuck about sex, they care about their subjective social status in their own head and they wouldn't feel that they "won" by buying sex. "
I at some became fed up with all this nonsense, about how our emotions work in a primitive way. So I just lost my virginity with a hooker, then slept with other two. After that it became much easier to find a girl to date. I learned that sex isn't such a big deal. But you can't stop putting it on the pedestal until you actually experience it by yourself. It is overrated and not worth suffering over not getting it. If you aren't skilled in sex it is also very possible that it wouldn't feel even as good as masturbation. There are a lot of things in life that are more meaningful and enjoyable, just do them.
Damn... What the guy at 4:01 says hits close to home for me. Ive been struggling with the aftermath of an abusive and vindictive ex girlfriend, and he said exactly what I needed to hear.
readysetnogo i hope you find the love that will keep you happy all the time.And i hope you find happiness in this world.❤️❤️
hey, im the guy from the video who spoke on the secret of abuse within relationships, and im glad that what ive said helped you in the least bit! keep thriving brother!!
Don't looks like a guy to me
Weakling
readysetnogo I’m sorry to hear that. My first love ended up becoming abusive. And for a year I put up with it because in our early relationship, she was a different girl. She loved me, and treated me very well. But towards the middle of the relationship, she just... changed. Completely. She manipulated me, tormented me, played with my emotions, used my kindness, and abused me mentally and emotionally. She never hit me, but she’d push me around sometimes. I suppose I stayed for as long as I did because I kept dreaming of a day where the old her would return, and everything would be okay again. But she never did return. So, I left her. I couldn’t handle the pain of watching the love of my life get worse every single day. But, she pursued me. Promised me she would fix everything. I gave her another chance. For a while, things did seem to be normal again. But only a couple months later, the relationship was worse than it already was before. Everything she did to me, she would do it worse somehow when it seemed impossible to even beat that. I begged her everyday, even before I broke up with her the first time, for her to love me. I begged and begged. I begged for everything to be normal again. I didn’t want to have to leave her because her and I had so much planned. She taught me how to kiss, how to hold someone, and even how to love. But for some reason she was the one who ended up falling short. But even after many attempts of begging, she would revert back to her ways after a temporary fix. So, I had to leave again. This time for good. And so far it’s been 5 months since I left her. To this day, I still regret leaving. Even though she hurt me, something inside of me still wants her. Still loves her. I dated another girl after her but she ended up leaving me for someone else. I do have a crush now, and she knows I like her, but she has no interest in dating me. So here I am. Alone. Again. While my ex gets to be happy with another man. And a part of me is jealous. A part of me just wants to hold and kiss her like I used to. I miss the old her, not the new her. I just wish she never changed. I could still be loved, and she’d still receive all of mine. I wouldn’t have to worry about dying alone, and I could have a future with her. I don’t know. But yeah, I just thought I’d share my story. Sorry for the long comment.
People really underestimate how hard being a guy can be. Both genders face struggles we just aren't in each others shoes so we can't see the other side
That's it in a nutshell.
It's objectively easier to be a woman. It's 100x harder to be male.
Dual Citizenship Senator
There's nothing objective about it though. Male or female, we all face problems. Some more than others. If you take gender out of the equation, you'll find we're all more similar than we think. We just need to try to understand each other.
choosei male and female brains are completely different. So were more different than related
Both genders? Women are playing life on easy mode, while men are in nightmare difficulty, veteran if youre handsome.
We always talk and fight for women. However men also need to be talked and fought for. They need to be listened to too. They should know It is okay to be vulnerable, that they can be sensitive and they can speak out. Speak out for all the things they are forced to be and all the qualities that are imposed into them. Men are victims of society too. I WISH WE CAN GIVE THAT IMPORTANCE.
FAX
YES EXACTLY
@@jhamircounsel711 ♥️
@@karolina12339 ♥️
Yes, they are victims of a society that they created. As much as I agree that these are issues we need to talk about, there are still women who are forced to wear niqabs everyday, women who's vaginas have been forcefully shut, women who don't have proper access to medical care for menstruation, wife beating, child marriage, rape, etc... Yes, these things happen to men aswell but that doesn't negate the fact that it happens to women at a higher rate.
I'm all for supporting men but we need to focus on ourselves first
I loved how all of them hugged at the end. I keep on telling survivors, that rejoice in the fact that you SURVIVED. You ARE NOT in the past anymore. You survived, you are loved and you will thrive. Nothing spells revenge on your abuser who tried to destroy you like a life well lived.
I made a comment about how there were no memes in the comment section...
Welp i guess people all of a sudden people wanted to make memes in the comment section
so my past comment was useless, so enjoy reading this one
No one:
Archuwu: “An actual comment section with no memes. Wow.
RK 740 😂😂
there you go, but instead you became the meme.
no such thing as a gay man lmao am i right or am i right
Archuwu your the meme now brotha
I am so touched... seeing these men share such emotions , experiences and sentiments
I feel like my mental problems are not as important as girls, because the media always tell us we should protect girls and they're important. NOT because women are a problem ofc! I just wish we could help each other with these kinds of things. Everyone has problems and we should stand together
Of course it’s terrible! With friends it’s not a matter of gender on whether I care about their mental health that’s what being a friend is all about.
Women just get the spotlight and I feel lost
As a woman, I aspire to be strong enough to be able to be leaned on by men, especially for my future partner. I want to be strong and independent enough to be relied on so men around me won't have to carry the burden of always protecting me.
I’m a woman and men don’t have mental problems. they have to be strong and cannot be sensitive
@@michaelhuerter1921 man up. Why should a man act like he needs attention? It is very bad
I can’t imagine the trauma men have to go through when they’re molested or abused, it’s so heartbreaking knowing that most would prefer to stay silent to appear strong rather than show their vulnerability:(
The hardest thing is no one will believe you. Day think it’s awesome especially if it was a woman who did it. They say you are just playing the victim.
I am Communism that’s messed up😔😔
It's not about prefering being silent, it's just that like who tf are we supposed to talk to. Most people don't want to talk to pshychologists, and personally I don't want to bother my family with issus of the past.
@@francogiobbimontesanti3826 I don't agree with that. If a person speaks the truth, forcefully and passionately, some people will eventually believe it.
Sbeast wasn’t my case.
secret: I died 2 weeks ago
guy: This hits close to home because I myself died 2 weeks ago
Lmfao
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you made me lol :D
As the mother of a young son, this broke my heart. Thank you for sharing ❤
I'm a girl but I can feel it those who wrote had very hard time and those read they had to. You people are really strong. Respect!
"Don't hold yourself back from eventually finding someone that loves you unconditionally" 04:55
Amelia Müller bwahaha
The only unconditional love a man will get in his entire life is that of his mother.
(Sadly, even some mothers don't)
Even a monogamous wife wouldn't love her husband truely unconditionally (vice versa too)
Unconditional love is self explanitory.
Seems many people tend to think about it as love, but unconditional means even loving him if he's a broke hobo, below average looking, and a real douchebag.
Never seen that happen ever.
Not unless they atleast have one or more of the opposite traits aswell.
NaCl Ωmega parents of disabled children or ones with congenital defects are the most challenged by nature and circumstance for unconditional love
@@marcozolo3536 true.
I've been in a relationship with another man for two years and my family has no idea. I'm over 30 years old and I'm still afraid of coming out. My partner supports me and is ok with my choice to stay in the closet but I fear I'll lose him if I continue staying hidden.
Aaron Francis just a stranger, but if your family doesn’t say homophobic things, or you think they might support you, go for it and tell them. But if you feel unsafe, or you feel you’re not ready, your partner will see that, and won’t breakup with you.
Aaron Francis, although I am a Christian, I have nothing against you. I do believe that you should come out, if being hidden is making you suffer. You will suffer either way, why not suffer and be free. This way you will know who truly loves and accepts you for who you are. Someone can also love you, but may struggle to accept your sexuality defending on how strongly they are against it, but love is much stronger than held conviction. They will eventually accept you, if they love you. I will pray that you may found peace and contentment on what you decided to do. God Loves You and doesn't want you to suffer. That is why he died and suffer on the cross so everyone on earth don't have to. Get to know him, he is not what people say he is. They know of Him, but does not know him. He knows you through and through, and He loves you very much. If you know and believe in His love, you will only have love and kindness to all His creation. God Bless You!
That helped me. Honestly when the dude admitted that he’s never dated anyone and hasn’t had sex at age 28. That made me feel sooo much better about myself, that that is actually an okay thing. I’m thankful for that honesty :’)
It is absolutely ok, and don't let anyone tell you otherwise. Quit letting society determine your value!
These were intense. I think when we take a second to step back and realize that everybody has been through tough times, we can really start appreciating each other and being there for each other
I am sobbing at these confessions.. I really feel for men, the pressure to always be strong and never show emotions is so bad
Savage It’s not that bad.
We have testosterone for a reason.
The only bad thing is this modern culture of breeding weakness into men while praising a caricature of male behavior for women.
This has created a whole generation of people with mental problems and torn families.
We need to turn back to the way we used to be.
@@honourandtradition8078 if you think showing emotions or being vulnerable is weak then, you are wrong.Vulnerability is not winning or losing, it's having the courage to show up and be seen when we have no control over the outcome.
You used the comma wrong.
Savage Nothing could be further from the truth.
A man’s job is to protect his family otherwise he loses his authority as head of the family.
Being vulnerable is the opposite of that. The man must be a rock, the foundation of the family and the woman is the one who will help her husban with his flaws and they together will make sure the family will grow strong and united.
That is the way of our ancestors, that is western tradition.
I spit on anything that aims to pervert that.
@@matthewmgburns English is my 3rd language, mistakes are normal.
I'd rather have sex with someone who is worth it.
What matters the most: having sex or having it with someone I care about.
This guy has my heart! ❤️
You still wouldnt date him
@@TheBongoJeff it aint about dating him or not, its about acknowledging the worth. you missed out a lot bud
@@merasoul6520 please elaborate on the acknowledgment of his worth.
@@TheBongoJeff it means that the guy has the potential to be dated by the person who posted the comment, although if they date or not depends on various different variables and factors.
@@TheBongoJeff that has absolutely no relevance. Noone is entitled to a relationship or to be dated, that's not how it works
I am depressed (the moment I'm watching the video right now) because of how my parents often compare me to my siblings and how I'm a disappointment in comparison to their achievements
But after I watched this I thought I shouldn't be like this because my reason is childish and damn this video helped me to realise that no matter how bad the situation is there will always be someone that had it worse
tbh so relatable.
feel just like u with ur parents and siblings.
i feel like they are always disappointed in me.
but i know deep down they ain’t disappointed in me, parents will always love u no matter what.
@@leahislove depends whose parents
@@leahislove there are honestly a lot of really shitty parents out there its a myth that all parents love their children equally or love them at all.
But also don't forget it's okay to get upset about these things. People will always have it worse or better than you, it just matters that you can get through your rough patch and have someone to talk to. You're never alone and I'm sure there are many other people who are proud of you.
Ngl this is relatable asf my oldest brother has his life already set and my older brother is literally right around the corner and i just feel so lost. But this helped me and a motivational video i heard awhile before this i wont give up
"In my opinion I'm way stronger, and I loved her more to know I'd never put my hands on her in that way" that's beautiful ❤️
That was me, and i thank you for your compassion Gemmi! ❤
Men have feelings too, our society sometimes forgets about it.
Lil Francy I wish we could remove gender stereotypes
@@rwhoosh1122 why though? Why can't you feminists accept that we're different. You guys should seriously stop trying to force something that's not natural. Men and women are not exactly alike enough to erase gender roles or stereotypes.
Isn't the wage gap more important?
@@Jono1982 Every Problem is important. And Problems related to Women Rights are VERY important, but this doesn't mean that girls only think about their rights. Speaking for myself what i want is equality.
@@dishingoutls8137 gender roles and gender stereotypes are two different things. Gender roles are behaviours learned by a person as being appropriate for their 'group'. Men and women have different qualities in some things, you can see that in many species. But gender stereotypes is something that we as human beings created and that can be (as you probably saw in the video) toxic and alarming. Gender stereotypes have made men scared to show feelings because 'It's not manly enough'. Gender stereotypes have made men scared to dress a certain way or do a job they like because 'it's not manly enough'. That doesn't have to do with feminism not accepting the differences between men and woman. Of course there are differences between men and women, but those are called gender differences, not gender roles or gender stereotypes. Gender stereotypes are just oversimplified images of how a person or group should be and/or act. That's something that changes over time and cultures. Gender differences on the other hand are cognitive, unchangeable and biologic. So yes there are differences between men and women, but it has nothing to do with gender roles or stereotypes.
Due to a surgery I lost all of my site about three years ago, I never really like talking about being depressed about it. I make lots of blind jokes because humor is just a funny way of being serious. It’s honestly very sad. I was once at a very stressful state acting competition and at one point I got very depressed about not being able to see, I couldn’t go anywhere to get away or be by myself because for me to get around I need somebody else there. So I just tried to stay quiet but when someone asked if I was doing okay, I lost it. I just put my head down and started sobbing. The sad part was that everyone just walked away from me to give me space, including my girlfriend at the time. Only one person, not my girlfriend, came to console me and I will forever appreciate her for that. The double standard is what hurts. At one point another girl was crying and all the other girls went to console her and constantly asked how she was doing and tried to make her feel better. It’s not fair, I was supposed to just deal with it on my own while that other girl was coddled and cared for.
Flying Blind I hope you’re doing better!
Too often people feel like guys need to handle their problems by themselves to be men but having the strength to talk about your obstacles and feelings and to be vulnerable is the most masculine thing you can do
How do you comment on UA-cam if you're blind?
Genuinely curious
Joe TheHoe Probably the microphone
for a middle ground video you should have men and women come together to talk about stereotypical "expectations" for both genders.
This!
It's not all about expectations though. Men and women are biologically different but emotions are universal
maddi day it should be feminists verses men’s rights activists
DarkVageta Sometimes I think women aren’t aware of all that men struggle with or feel. Men often are really only allowed to show anger. If men cry, get anxious, depressed, whatever....they are supposed to “man up.” But for most people after sharing their frustrations, feelings, etc, it can be cathartic. I think men have problems venting, because they look at it as complaining, and if there’s not a solution, what’s the point? But sometimes it’s hard to get men to share their real emotions/feelings about things......so women are ignorant to what’s really going on in his head.
matt d me having to cook and clean for my boyfriend and him not having to do the same for me has nothing to do with biology. It may seem nuts, but it still happens. Just as people still expect him to provide the money in the household. Or how he can’t say he suffers from depression, or how Im told I don’t have to go to the gym or how our friends come over and never share the XBox controller with me despite me being a player myself, how I’m ridiculed for wearing dark clothing and he’d ridiculed for wearing light one. It’s “small” things that affect us in big ways. The only thing that counts in the biologically different is in what role we play in the reproductive system. Or brains are no different, our emotions are not different (you can suffer form depression as much as I can, and you should be more than allowed to express it and get treatment), our taste are only different due to culture. Biology is not as extensive as people try to make it out in order to defend gender roles. Biology is quite simple. There are even laws regulating certain parts of women’s bodies with no biological defense.
This is why I actually think it would be great for men and women to sit down and talk about the pressures they feel, because we’d all be so surprise to learn how alike we actually are.
I really hope my generation raises our sons better. I hope we teach them that they are valid despite their relationship status, that being vulnerable and weak aren't the same, and that they can let their guard down without having their trust betrayed.
Heres my issue with society. Everyone keeps stereotyping men to be strong, never cry, and since we (as a society) have agreed on it, it makes me feel worse and more down internally cause I'm an emotional guy. When a women cry, they are warned and comforted. When a man crys, people shrug it off or even make fun of him and my question is why are we stereotyping everything. It doesnt matter what gender you are or what you believe in. You can do whatever you want and society shouldnt judge you based off your gender.
You're right. Unfortunately there is always someone judging the others.
We have to change this toxic mindset.
I think its not people who judge men but theirselves. Its men against its own sex/gender. Kind of sad :/
@@pamelarojas8878 You think wrong. Women judge men MUCH harsher than men judge other men. The fact is, men don't really give a crap how other men think of them. It's women they are trying to impress and attract... and nothing scares or turns off a woman more than an emotional, emasculated man. You women always love to put the blame on men and pretend like women treat men with nothing but compassion and kindness... but that is NOT reflected by men's experiences. Don't presume to understand how men are like or how we treat each other. You have no clue.
Because men are stronger- physically and emotionally.
Smash 456 for many of those men, suicide is caused by feelings of rejection and ridicule based upon their relationship. As a man I can say that a break up, especially out of the blue or for very obscure reasons, really hurts a guy. And almost all guys want to do is just find someone who will be there for them, and who they can be happy with. All anyone really wants to do is be happy. Thankfully I have found it in my boyfriend and am now content with life (mostly) but I can assure you that men cannot control the male suicide rates just on a whim.
Plot-twist: they are reading their own secrets
I have a feeling that they are🤔
Plot-twist: You didn't understand the title.
Plot twist: Title says that a lot of men deal with the same problem and everyone can actually relate even a little bit. It's not about WHO read WHO'S trauma.
You still dont understand the statement hidden in the Title.
@@triplea7536 That the sercrets may be even their own but the thing is a lot of other men in real life can relate to them - That's why it's called ,,OTHER MEN PROBLEMS" even if they read their own paper