The Life of Irene Ang: 50 years of Pain to Peace with My Mother
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- Опубліковано 2 лип 2024
- For over 20 years, Irene Ang has been a household name among Singaporeans as an actress, host, comedian, and entrepreneur. But even as a veteran, she still struggles with expressing her emotions due to her past childhood trauma. We take an exclusive look into her life to uncover the lingering pains from her past.
This video is published in conjunction with Drug Victims Remembrance Day.
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0:00 Surprising Irene with a dish she hasn’t eaten for the past 40 years
1:13 Why Irene doesn’t remember ANY happy memories from her childhood
2:37 Irene’s impression of her mum while growing up
4:33 Does Irene’s mum have any regrets?
7:51 The impact on Irene of having grown up with a drug-addicted mum
9:14 Have Irene forgiven her mum?
10:30 How Irene's mum overcome her drug addiction
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Hi everyone, this is the director, Pei Fang. Thank you all for sharing your personal experiences with your parents and for your kind words about Irene and her mum. When I was working on the story, I was struck by how Irene and her mom have different perspectives on forgiveness. Revisiting their past reopened old wounds, and it was truly raw and painful for everyone involved. Discussing family traumas and generational pains is incredibly challenging, especially in a society that places such a high value on filial piety. It’s not easy to put yourself out there for public scrutiny, so I hope we can approach them with empathy and understanding. Let's keep the conversation open and respectful in the comments :)
- Pei Fang
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Seek God and you will find him and when you believe in the Lord Jesus Christ and put your faith in him you will be saved and he will give you his Holy Spirit who is our comforter and helper and God will give us a peace that surpasses all understandin
@@zelda4678Seek God and you will find him and when you believe in the Lord Jesus Christ and put your faith in him you will be saved and he will give you his Holy Spirit who is our comforter and helper and God will give us a peace that surpasses all understandin
My opinion is that some of the older generation are not equipped with the tools to deal with their emotions/ actions/ egos.
True. They are less educated and always watch those dramas which always cry a lot. So they succumb to drugs and alcohol.
its sad la, their parents were just sharp tongued and materialistic OR abandoned their families (speaking of both my maternal and paternal grandparents, they were largely useless human beings)
So so true. I can attest to that.
Isn't that true for some people in every generation?
The new generation is already talking about mental health at an early age which is even worse
Back then, the older generation was not really informed, not educated about drugs, drug addiction, mental health, and the effects of stress & anxiety. Additionally, even the government didn't have much awareness programs about drug abuse & the consequences it brings.
The boomer generation just choose not to talk about their hardship, or else they will be stigmatized for being weak or emotional. Even going to see a "shrink"; as how the older generation describes a psychologist, will label the person as "crazy" or "mentally unwell".
This broke me. I totally understand when she said, "I don't want to be out of control, ever." Living your childhood through trauma, abuse and abandonment can produce one of two things: either you grow up super vigilant, independent and somewhat hardened emotionally yet determined to not fail, because you fear the loss of control you felt as a child, or you let your circumstances swallow you up and give in. Being someone who knows and identifies with what she went through, I totally understand her stance, no one asked for forgiveness and it took years well into my adulthood to come to terms with what happened to me, but I choose to forgive, and some days it's harder to do that, but I know now forgiveness is for me, not for them. I took care of myself and accomplished milestones myself, and when you're so used to doing that, your adult relationships with people often suffers. And I'm thankful that I broke the generational curse and chose peace. It's still a battle sometimes to keep your mind in check and not fall into despair, but I have the tools, and I'm thankful to have God and faith and good people around me to cheer me on. I wish Madam Irene all the best in life.
@libiskit Seek God and you will find him and when you believe in the Lord Jesus Christ and put your faith in him you will be saved and he will give you his Holy Spirit who is our comforter and helper and God will give us a peace that surpasses all understanding and give you the ability to forgive and lead a life that pleases God and h
God does want the best for you and to give you hope, he loves you
Irene, I am so proud of you. You went through so much. You are still strong. Yet you grew up to be a person of good value. You are so awesome and can be an inspiration to many who are going through the same difficulties and traumas.
A great inspiration to many people. In life we need experience ups n downs.. there are many many broken families and just stay strong and believe in yourself
I hope the Mum can watch this and sincerely apologise to Irene for what she put her through. It seems like that's what Irene wants, a clear and unequivocal apology and acknowledgement of what happened, not just doing things to make up for it.
@libiskit Seek God and you will find him and when you believe in the Lord Jesus Christ and put your faith in him you will be saved and he will give you his Holy Spirit who is our comforter and helper and God will give us a peace that surpasses all understanding and give you the ability to forgive and lead a life that pleases God and h
God does want the best for you and to give you hope, he loves you
It is not easy being a celebrity and come out to pour out past history. Both ladies are very courageous and it takes guts. 🙏.
@libiskit Seek God and you will find him and when you believe in the Lord Jesus Christ and put your faith in him you will be saved and he will give you his Holy Spirit who is our comforter and helper and God will give us a peace that surpasses all understanding and give you the ability to forgive and lead a life that pleases God and h
God does want the best for you and to give you hope, he loves you
Mom puts her pride down to go public about what she has done. She has gone through alot herself. No family is perfect. Hope Irene and her mom can live happily ever after.
This is true. Letting her story be shared is a form on acknowledging what what she did/ how she hurt her children.
I admire both of them for sharing their story, warts and all. This is why our country is so tough on drugs. Thank you for this video, even if it's short. Also, Irene's mother looks more like her sister. They're both beautiful and youthful. ❤
and thats why im pretty resolute with all the fools who say that drugs should be legalised and it our duty to be responsible.
@@libiskit I'm waiting for the day tobacco and alcohol will be outlawed too. How many lives were harmed and/or lost due to their abuse, and health effects to people around them. And it is still legal currently. And these two are a lot more harmful and addictive than some narcotics that some wish to be legalised.
@@teeteetuu94 when you say harmed or lives lost, what are you referring to? Lung and liver cancer? fatalities caused due to drink driving? I'm not supporting alcohol and tobacco but my point is we need to see case precedents and data in order to prove a point.
The other thing is alcohol and smoking was prevalent in Singapore before our independence, so if we had outlawed it, people would have turned to the black market. Isn't it them more meaningful to put taxes on it as then earn it as government revenue? Same for tobacco, once again I'm not advocating but I'm highlighting the practicalities of why some vices are legalised and others shouldn't. the pro drug camp needs to think holistically when you keep supporting the case for drugs. That's my point
@@teeteetuu94 Scientific research has shown that alcohol, tobacco, and nicotine are much more harmful than cannabis.
The Singaporean government and society is only strict towards the poor and the working class. I remember reading about a case/incident that supposedly took place in the early 2000s, a bunch of rich corporate assholes (Singaporeans), along with a foreigner (British or American), were using cocaine somewhere (in a fancy place). They were arrested and investigated, but did not get criminal records or even face any charges. They also got to keep their jobs, instead of getting fired.
I can relate to Irene story of her family problems and struggles.
Not an easy thing to say and I appreciate her bravery and seeing her getting back together with her mother, is such a blessing
You set yourself free, Irene. You're absolutely right that forgiveness did more for you than for her. I grew up in a home with violence too and my parents have never once acknowledged my suffering either - I have come to accept that they never will and it's ok because it's on them, not me. Every family member of generational trauma is a victim, our parents are products of their time and their trauma. What can we do other than to set ourselves free? Thank you for sharing your story with such brave honesty ❤
I am still unable to forgive my parents till today. There has been no apologies and no remorse. I still live with them, see them every morning and every night. I will cry myself to sleep and celebrate once I get my own house.
i understand you. Jiayou and move out. even if u need to rent. it will not heal you immediately but it will give u space to heal
Jia you and I hope you will feel relief one day
Stay strong, sometimes....even the people closest to us are the ones giving out the most toxicity.
There is only so much one child can take. Take care of yourself, as loving yourself first is the most important.
@@libiskit thanks. Let’s Jiayou tgt
@@meganlimliping118 thanks
I started crying after only watching half of it. Irene , you are one darn strong woman! Mama Tan regrets it. Big hugs and lots of love! If I ever see you in the streets, I’ll give you a hug! You love because He first loved us!
ngl one reason why a lot of the older generation don’t feel bad about why they have done to their children is bc they have the mentality that since their child grew up fine into a working adult, it’s all good!
Although my dad supported me financially and even overseas to study, the only childhood that I remember of him, is the physical abuse he rained upon me when I was a child. Never beat your kids, they will remember it forever. Even if they forgive you, they will never forget. It is a scar that they carry with them through life.
Irene is an amazing woman of strength and courage and compassion, she remind me of the many Singaporean families of her age where many grew up with similar background where parents are into drugs and gambling. the past is past, the present is what we should be focusing NOW, the future is yet to come and nobody know what will happen. Irene you are an amazing woman salute to you for letting the past go and forgiving your mom and by forgiving your mom you are actually forgiving yourself, so proud of your courage and love for her.
I understand how Irene felt! Been there done that due to abject poverty! I was miserable and hated my life then. The best years was with my late husband. He changed my life and I am forever grateful
Dear Irene, Takes alot of courage to share your story with the world. Every story is worth listening to and learning from. Life will forever be a lesson we can only learn once. Wishing you great health and harmony in all relations around your life!
In the past, people don’t dare to divorce but that causes a lot of harm to the kids. It scars you until now. Since young, I tell myself I don’t want to grow up like my parents.
If cannot handle don't marry and don't breed. Nobody is forcing people to marry and breed.
SAY NO TO DRUGS
True, forgive is the way to move on.
Irene, u are a strong woman n a survivor.
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Thank you Irene Ang and Ms Tan for sharing their story. It was so emotional and inspiring to see and be aware of how drugs can really affect your loved ones. And to the team, really good job with the narrative, the visuals, the shots and the editing. The change of style of nostalgia to harsh change in visuals had a huge impact. Loved every second of this video! Keep up with the awesome work and content!
Support irene.. love her real character and hope to see more of her vlogs
Wow Irene. I never expected this. Thanks for sharing this story. Your bravery is much respected. Forgive your mom just dont forgive drugs. ❤
Thank you Irene and Mdm Tan for sharing such a lovely video! Can't imagine what Irene must have gone through in her childhood, hope they can move forward as a family now
I'm in awe of the amazing journey that Irene has gone through, and applaud how far she has come with her grit and hard work. I also admire the bravery of both mother and daughter to come forth and publicly share their difficult and painful past.
Thank you Irene.
She's my favorite character from PCK ...she brings joy and laughter for me and my friends during our teen life....sometimes the funniest person is the saddest person 😢😢forgive and forget is the hardest thing to do ....
Thank U so much Irene n mum for sharing tis part of ur life with us all, it will helps many who survived dysfuntional family n yet not totally healed, wish u & mum more peace n joy going forward, God Bless!❤❤
Sounds very much like my relationship with my mom... forgive is easy but forget is difficult, try...
I feel yr pain... Thank God we r adults now...but we r still screwed by the past.
And sometimes, the children have to pay for the mistakes of the past made by their own parents.
It should not be an inherited generational trauma.
I’ve met Irene Ang in person at an event years ago. Did not know her background story. This makes me respect her more! Salute to a strong woman who will not give up
Irene Ang bought so much laughs and joy as a kid watching PCK, having known she gone through all this is just heart-breaking yet inspirational
Thank you for sharing your story with us ❤ Irene, you’re such a strong person! Irene & mama Tan加油！All the best to both of you 🎉
Can someone please send this to my grandmother.
I can relate to the drug addicted mother & all her regrets bc I was also a drug addict with kids & there's so much regret 😢. Now I'm sober & I made ammends with my daughters thank God. AMEN ❤️ 🙏 😊
Thank you, Ms Irene Ang and her mother for sharing their story. You both are strong women.❤❤❤
Thank you for sharing Irene, I have always know you as the Caring, kind, strong, independent person full of love in your heart. The past shaped you although it was painful, god bless you Irene.
totally agree with you when you say you choose to forgive so you can live your own full life. the best win out of an already lost scenario
Thank you Irene and mum for sharing. Takes a Seedly lot of courage and maturity to come forward with your stories. I’m sure the community is extremely grateful.
Thank you Irene for sharing your story. Intergenerational trauma should be talked about more often because we are unknowing victims to our parents' words and actions. The worst kind would weaponise filial piety against you and emotionally blackmail you. "I raised you until so big and this is how you treat me? You need to take care of us also"
Irene, it's so heartwarming to know that you have chosen forgiveness. I hope your brother and you will put the past behind you and move forward in life by choosing to love your mum and dad. You are such a strong woman and I believe you will remain so by choosing to forgive and honor your folks. Stay strong Irene!
Thank you to Irene Ang for her courage to let public know her life story. I'm not sure how many children went through similarly traumatic past but yr story should help more appreciate their lives. For those who underwent similar traumas, we should feel proud & thank God for living well today & accomplishing so much despite of yr lacking parents. For children who hv lived as adults, not many of adult life can be too difficult as long we keep trying & stick to being truthful.
Hugs to everyone who is struggling with conflicts 😢
I once lived in a situation witnessing the horrible effects of addiction (drugs and gambling) on my brother. It shattered our once happy loving family. My parents were at a loss on what to do and how to cope. I remember having to come home from uni or work and witnessing the arguments, the scolding, the physical violence of my brother. I cried myself to sleep. It deeply traumatized me, to this day. I vowed that I personally will not get myself into any form of addiction. It’s easy to avoid and refrain from such activities than others think. First thing to do is convict your self to a life free from addiction, the the self consciousness will guide you through. Forgiveness lightens the pain. Strength to everyone having a rough time.
You deserve all the respect Irene. Indeed you & family have defied the evil powers and you are Victorious
😮🙏 We all have our past memories of our childhood , schooling era & working lives' experiences that were pleasant & challenging! Thank You So Much Irene Ang & dear Mother for sharing their past memories to educate others that , we all have our own struggles to be where we are today & to pay it forward by being a Better Person & be Responsible Citizens to our Respective Countries & to make our communities more Safer , Healthier , Easier to Manage & Happier Life for all of us! Learning from our past mistakes of being slaves to addictive & demonic alcohol & drugs that only making small problems Bigger , we should encourage Healthier Lifestyles & to take baby steps to face & to solve our problems one by one in our capacities. Say Sincere Sorry for our past wrong actions & be Thankful & be Grateful for the Valuable Life Experiences , Insights & Hindsights & Foresights gained & to Forgive Them & to Our Selves as we didn't have these much Life Experiences & Insights back then! 🙏 It is Precious & Magical Opportunity to be abled to share our Human lives in this juncture of Space-Time before our Unions face their eventual respective Dissolutions in due Time & Space! ... We must cultivate & accumulate more Good Merits & Wisdom now so as to be Ascended to Higher Realms in our next lives! 😊🙏🌷🌿🕯🌍✌💜🕊🇸🇬🇲🇾🇨🇦
Thank you very much, OGS🙏🏽🙇🏻♀️
Commendable to Ms. Irene Ang 🙌🙌
Thank you for showing the way forward. I wish that both stay happy and take care of each other.
Thanks Irene for being an inspiration to many 🌻
Thanks for sharing story. Felt happy for both of you. Wish you and your mum all the best.
It’s unimaginable what Irene had gone through! Luv her to bits ❤
I am happy for you, the reconciliation is so good. I don't think my mom and I could be like this ever.
Thank you for picturing this! My mom passed 6 years ago from drugs and cancer. I always wonder what if she managed to change and still alive today.. this might be how it would be.. thank you Mama Tan for changing, you saved Irene’s life.. by the way, coincidentally my name is Irene as well😅
Thk you for making this interview. It is an excellent to share personal experiences on the impact of drugs and trauma. It is extremely brave of Irene who is a public figure to open up her past and experience. It is a long recovery process and it very brave of her choose to forgive.
Thank you for making this video
This story didn't feel as much about drugs as it did about the trauma Irene went through. There were no drugs in my household, but I relate to her story very much. I was the mother to everyone in my household, from my earliest memories. The peacemaker, the caretaker. One thing therapy has taught me is, don't hold out for an apology from the parents. We really only have control over our own actions and words, others will have their own paths to walk.
Kudos to Irene that she herself was not influenced to take drugs...
What she needs now is an apology from her parents...
I hope she would find the peace she yearned for...
Such strength to reveal yourself to everyone in sg about your personal life.
These videos really help broaden what life is all about so thanks a lot!
I have newfound admiration for Irene ❤
Thanks for sharing Irene. Hope all is well now
Mom, you need to make an apology to your children. Everybody needs to when they did something wrong. It doesn't matter if you tried your best or not. You did wrong, then you are supposed to apologize.
well said
You are right Irene, forgiveness sets u free and thrive in everything u do.
Most times, tough situations build tough people. Not being able to shed a tear says a lot about how much Irene has gone through. The rainbow after the rain is that despite her mum not taking care of her while she was young, at least her mum is sober for many years and counting. The hurt cannot be forgotten but love can renew relationships.
Thank you for your forgiveness Irene 🙏🏻 God bless 🙏🏻🙏🏻
Tough watch. So much admiration for you Irene. Hugs
Auntie ah, I miss your legendary fabulous chicken wings at fry bistro. Good to see you still looking cute and pretty as last time. Take care and best of health. Healing together as a family is always better late than never. All the best to your family and Irene.
Tq for sharing your story, painful as it was Yr mom and you were brave as this real life advice and recount will save so many ppl who are looking for a solution in drugs. Tq for educating us to choose better. Much love to you and yr mom ❤
Strong woman!!!!!!
Irene, you look so young still, your mother also very young.
:( my parents are not that great but theyre not bad or evil.
My dad too didnt treat my mother that well.. often (when i was young) he would say he will take another wife or he would say he will send my mother back to her parents house. These words must have hurt her so much.
I am the only daughter and my mother treated me badly since i was a kid and my brothers better much much better. I cldnt figure out why male children get better treatment. As i grew older and hear about childhood trauma… i realised my parents are both victims. My father grew up in a single parent household with 9 siblings. Thus my father motto is as long as we dont trouble him with our troubles. Everyone is struggling. My mother being eldest daughter had to help out around the house and her 7 younger siblings. So she saw me and wanted me go through what she went through - hardship. Both gave up their childhood, their school life and entered the workforce at an early age and both of them want us to go through it like them. It was strange to me but i have accepted it.
Usually parents want their kids to live better lives.
Now i take care of my parents 😊 my brothers married and left the house.
Abt the same but my mum took care of me n my bro. She passed on at age of 69 . A father who only knw hw to gamble , nw in his 80s yet i gt to tk care of him. If nt becos of his irreponsible behaviour my mum wont have to wk so hard... n died due to stroke. Her last 2 yrs she even have to go through dialysis becos of this idiot.God is never fair.
I also have to take care of my father who is a good for nothing. I just don’t understand why useless and good for nothing people live such long lives.
@@robomomsg12 we have the same fate. Yah agree yet the good people died earlier.
God loves you!
i adore irene ang more.
I hope my uncle watches this, and see how much his action has hurt his family and those around him
Daughter has a big heart, pls love your mother forever no matter what
i think that’s why during hari raya it’s super important when we get down on our knees to sincerely forgive each other. but whether u want to forgive them is still ur choice.
Forgiving them is like forgiving yourself- less anger & inner peace! I have a set of irresponsible Parents- gambling, daily beatings etc i undertook the role of a Adult at 12/13 years old.
Wow.
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My mum and father the same. Until the day they die, both also dun wanna recognize and apologize for the wrong they had done.
你受苦了, 你媽也是苦。我也🈶️跟你差不多的經驗。所以我白. 凡事一體兩面, 🈶️壞也有好的一面。原生家庭的種種就是我們今生要過的最大, 最難, 最苦的關卡. 我為你驕傲你的獨立, 堅毅. 我們的工課就是學會原諒, 從心里原諒, 接受. 也是給予媽媽改過機會. 辛苦了。
Really not easy for Irene.
Starting video i thought my phone issue with the quality😂
Irene, pls run open auditions for your company!
Irene 你很棒哦！ 祝你幸福快乐美美满满的人生👍👍👍👌👌👌🥰
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Whether to forgive your mum is a personal choice but choosing to move on from the past / forward is the right choose. In the video, you mentioned that your mum is always unwell and could be due to the drugs that she took in the past. Do spend more time with her and do more things together with her (to create memories for both) as she is well and around.
Jiayou :)
i know Irene's brother , he is such an awesome man
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some parents just don't realize the hurts they caused to their children. it caused so much trauma that the only way was to walk away from their lives practically disowning from the family is the only way out. lots of these children grows up but will be unable to have proper relationship with others including their other halfs
*Forgiving is a really tough thing to do. It takes years to built the rapport and foundation to someone you love the most. Me as a Muslim always believe in the teachings of Islam , forgiveness is a virtue that one can have to forgive someone for their past. Even though when one is in the wrong, we are all forgiven*
Irene u got to stop blaming your mother. Everyone go through a different path in life and look at what this suffering led you to become today 🙏
Traumatic childhood.
Drugs can really affect someone emotionally. Even prescribed drugs have depressing effects. What about unprescribed drugs??
The womenising husband of her mum must be the biggest disappointment for her. She had a bad friend whose malicious offer she couldn't refuse. The good news is the mum has recovered now and having a better life. Yes, it must have been tough and regrettable for Irene. May she and mum take care of each other regardless.
I am not really into smoking cigarettes which is likely to contains banned substances inside. What I can't help is eating supper at night and drinking lots of cold soya milk and going to sleep. This makes my belly fat and I have put on weight which makes walking a bit difficult. I will still choose healthier supper food like canned tuna, cookies and cheese and cold soft drinks. Sometimes late at night, I couldn't help smoking cigarettes which is just a few puffs. Late at night before sleep I will just eat supper and drink cold drinks and go to sleep. This makes my belly big and sometimes walking is difficult. But I still insists that I must not smoke too much cigarettes which will make me feel hungry again. Sometimes I will call my mom and Ka jiao my mom which makes me feel happy. Perhaps you can make a few greeting cards for your mom and cook a few dishes for her?
祝福❤🌹💪
When Irene mentioned that she plucked her hair till there's a
hole,she reminded me of the time I did the same in primary school😮
Common during 60s.
Yes.. I agree.. at 3.48.. suddenly feels wants to be a parent again.. then check in and want to be close. Shock when no correspondence, insulting say ungrateful