12 Signs You've Met a Sociopath But Just Don't Know It

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  • 12 Signs You've Met a Sociopath But Just Don't Know It. In this video we cover the 12 signs of a sociopath. Sociopathy can be hard to spot especially if the person with those traits is someone close to you.
    Sociopaths are some of the most dangerous people in the world with recent studies reporting they make up to 4% of the American population. That means 1 in every 25 people could be a sociopath.
    What makes this even scarier is how easily they charm and manipulate the people around them, making them appear as innocent as a kitten. But once the sociopath has gotten their claws into you, they’ll show their true colors and put you at risk of severe psychological or physical damage. That’s why it’s important to be aware of the warning signs so you can avoid sociopaths altogether.
    In this video, we will talk about the 12 signs someone is a sociopath but you just don't know about it... yet. The signs of sociopathy are easy to see once you know what you're looking for.
    Make sure to share it with a friend who could gain awareness from this as well.
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  • @PsychologyElement
    @PsychologyElement  2 роки тому +104

    We also have a video on dark triads too --> ua-cam.com/video/W2Uo368uCDg/v-deo.html

    • @randall-thehorrorwriter
      @randall-thehorrorwriter 2 роки тому

      The funniest thing about this list is that we've known this for years and have adapted our behaviors, so these so-called traits or warning signs are absolutely useless for older more experienced Sociopaths. Hell the show Dexter taught a lot of the younger guys & girls how to hide in plain sight, these tips will only help a person when dealing with a Sociopath who is immature in the open world. We watch and learn that's how we survive we do have wild ones but most of us keep ourselves in a bit of control so we can continue feeding off of you creatures for our own enjoyment.

    • @statinskill
      @statinskill 2 роки тому +1

      I took the bus to work today, what can we do to avoid psychopaths and sociopaths on our commute? Because I don't think the bus company is doing anything about it. To get on the bus I just paid for a ticket at a machine. No questions asked. Everybody is twisting with fear from a cold virus, but as long as everybody wears a mask, it seems it is alright to be around people. Even to be around those who secretly disrespect authority.
      We should have vetted commute groups where we know we are all normal people, and then we could sit together on trains or busses, or at least huddle together and be safer that way.
      The times we live in that something like this becomes necessary, but as the news teaches us, great misfortune can strike at any time and that is rather the norm than the exception.
      So let's be as safe as we can be. If people are interested in vetted safe commute groups, we can start that in the San Francisco Bay Area.

    • @leonsunu1209
      @leonsunu1209 2 роки тому

      Ok the video is good and there are a few points that don't make perfectly sense, which i won't get into now, but won't you tell us how to deal with sociopaths in your Life?
      I, for example, have a friend that said to me that she was a sociopath but we are completely fine with each other. The thing i want to point out is, that you can be sociopathic, but you can control yourself for the sake of your friends, family ect. i find it a shame that these people are monitored like this, cruel and truly remorseless, thus they can be really nice humans with a mental disorder.

    • @bookah8787
      @bookah8787 2 роки тому

      @Jk paliza I'm quite aggressive with my job meaning my focus is that , I'm also from a fighting family aggression has always been around us we are 6 brothers in all the middle 2 which is me and my twin brother, does that mean we are all that? I hope not lol controlled aggression has always been the focus

    • @angeladooley7752
      @angeladooley7752 2 роки тому

      😂😂😂

  • @zippyz4170
    @zippyz4170 2 роки тому +3524

    Try not to mix up sociopaths with empaths that get taken advantage of and abused because of their great qualities. Sometimes empaths cut a lot of people out of their lives because our society has become so toxic that no one has loyalty or trustworthiness. It's better to be alone and single then to be around people that manipulate you any chance they get.

    • @ryn-kx5tv
      @ryn-kx5tv 2 роки тому +78

      Sounds like something a Sociopath would say.....🤔
      Lol jk yeah isolating can have many root causes. Even just simple introversion or autism.

    • @ahhthatsjustgrand6502
      @ahhthatsjustgrand6502 2 роки тому +41

      You can be both - you can understand others emotions and still view them as a way to manipulate them

    • @damo9961
      @damo9961 2 роки тому +42

      The term empath is a load of sh1t. We are all empaths except the sociopaths/psychopaths/narcissists.

    • @Rogue_Trooper970
      @Rogue_Trooper970 2 роки тому +109

      @@damo9961 It's not, it's a measured and heavily researched psycholigical trait that is just as valid as any other human emotion/feeling. Like any human trait, it works on a sliding scale. Some people are simply more empathic than others just as some are more confident than others.

    • @mr.j822
      @mr.j822 2 роки тому +11

      This comment!

  • @HARRIS2820
    @HARRIS2820 2 роки тому +2614

    This video describes pretty much basically every single person I've ever met in life

    • @acac4942
      @acac4942 2 роки тому +228

      Thank you - I was asking my self: am I a sociopath? after watching the video

    • @alexandriafitts9262
      @alexandriafitts9262 2 роки тому +19

      Lol.

    • @alexandriafitts9262
      @alexandriafitts9262 2 роки тому +68

      @@acac4942 my son said "mom, you're charismatic" NO I'M NOT. LOL

    • @acac4942
      @acac4942 2 роки тому +15

      @@alexandriafitts9262 Yes, you are :)

    • @rik-keymusic160
      @rik-keymusic160 2 роки тому +92

      Yes, so now im a sociopath because i lack “friends”…

  • @andrewk8175
    @andrewk8175 2 роки тому +405

    My father is a sociopath with NPD. He called everyone “dumb”, said racist and sexist things, he was very smart however. But he also tried to murder my mother and went to prison before for beating up a 16 year old girl. I blame him for majority of my bad traits. Still trying to become a better person so I dont end up like him

    • @labnd7964
      @labnd7964 2 роки тому +17

      Don't blame it on the past and become strong so you don't end up like him

    • @IsabellaGentile
      @IsabellaGentile 2 роки тому +32

      @@labnd7964 the past does influence the present, especially in these situations. So in this case I think blaming the past is an accurate statement; but yes, please do your very best to change these "bad" traits and I wish you the best of luck!

    • @labnd7964
      @labnd7964 2 роки тому +3

      @@IsabellaGentile I know and that is also fine but from my experience I suggest not doing it but not blaming yourself either

    • @kanemary56
      @kanemary56 2 роки тому +9

      Good luck Andrew you can be the change I imagine your family needs as well as you ! Stay strong !! ✌🏻❤️

    • @IsabellaGentile
      @IsabellaGentile 2 роки тому +2

      @@labnd7964 andrew said he blames his father so I don't see the need of saying something irrelevant

  • @javaskull88
    @javaskull88 2 роки тому +38

    The best tip I ever heard came from a forensic psychologist: “I liked him immediately, and that’s never a good sign.”

    • @oldhippie81
      @oldhippie81 2 роки тому +1

      I know one man who everybody loves, they all say i liked him the first time i met him. i use to think it must me i could not stand the man. I found out i was right. The psychopath broke a poor horses leg with a hammer for insurance he was found out as he had done it before.

    • @neraK4188
      @neraK4188 2 роки тому

      Javaskull, That would most likely be correct if one of your parents is a sociopath or psychopath!

    • @iuridomingo377
      @iuridomingo377 Рік тому +1

      David Dobrik
      Sam Bankman Fried😉

  • @martcichocki5571
    @martcichocki5571 2 роки тому +1516

    12: charming & magnetic
    11: don't have many friends
    10: constantly crave or emit dominance
    9: impulsive
    8: job instability
    7: plays as a victim
    6: lacks empathy
    5: complete disregard for right/wrong
    4: irresponsible & unreliable
    3: they're aggressive
    2: lying a lot
    1: seeks revenge
    Traits of: SOCIOPATHY!

    • @wanda4573
      @wanda4573 2 роки тому +19

      All equals to oh my god

    • @davidemm829
      @davidemm829 2 роки тому +5

      Sociopath..co-dependants showing up as intra species predators. Legal issues & substance abuse..just Google their name..I did..their she was , mug shop , reptilian stare..fro felonies..bye bye..

    • @AvecPoesie
      @AvecPoesie 2 роки тому +33

      Every single one describes my sister. She is the embodiment of destruction and capacity to do harm.

    • @DrJohnPollard
      @DrJohnPollard 2 роки тому +11

      Thanks, all I look for anymore. The summary.

    • @tomaszowczarek1433
      @tomaszowczarek1433 2 роки тому +32

      Sounds identical to covert/vulnerable narcissists. I guess there's a lot of overlap in all the cluster B personality types.

  • @bossimprovement9099
    @bossimprovement9099 2 роки тому +587

    I dated a person once who I believe was a sociopath. Capable of being incredibly cruel and not feeling the slightest hint of remorse. The crazy thing is I don't think anybody who knew her would believe me if I told them. The charming manipulation was insane

    • @GotoMaki4Micah
      @GotoMaki4Micah 2 роки тому +34

      i had no idea what was going on, made me think i was crazy, loved to manipulate my emotions, loved to make me mad and make me cry. i honesty knew it wasnt me, after a little while. he was the only person that ever happened with. i saw him smile once during it. got control of my emotions and stopped playing his games. when we broke up, he said that when i stopped fighting back where the times he wanted to leave me the most. i though he was romantic and fun and laid back, but he was really some who liked to hurt somebody. no one around him seemed to have a clue.

    • @lesalmiller9515
      @lesalmiller9515 2 роки тому +2

      Yes

    • @mariahconklin4150
      @mariahconklin4150 2 роки тому +5

      I think people honestly just start going numb after a while. My ex told me that after 3 days he had moved on and everything was going great so I told him the same and at that time I was trying to move on but in reality I have not moved on I’m still in deep pain. I really did truly love him when he was at his best and at his worst but then I couldn’t stand him at times and felt that he was annoying. But yes when I told him I had moved on he said, “oh really? That’s great.” A script never stopped him and his mom used to be an actress so 🤷‍♀️ he also mirrored the crap out of me and I started to do the same. It’s all just trauma based but he’s so far gone at this point I was only making things worse for him so now he’s at the point where he’s no longer attending church because he’s afraid that I’ll go and act like the “crazy ex girlfriend.” Or who knows maybe he’s just sick. But anyways this isn’t Orange is the New Black I can contain myself and get over him and not stalk him. Geez. Lol but it was a trauma bond for sure.

    • @mariahconklin4150
      @mariahconklin4150 2 роки тому +4

      @@GotoMaki4Micah hi Jerrica I went through much of the same thing and now I think he has stopped going to church. Idk if he’s playing some weird bizarre game but I think I may write a poem about him at this point. In fact my best poem came from dating this man. Lol! Feel like the main character from Tick Tick Boom at this point. He must have seen fighting growing up because this is exactly how my ex was he seemed to love to fight with me and yet when I was loving he ignored me. He always needed me to have a problem to solve to. When with him everything was so great and he was so loving then I’d get home and feel as though something was off I could feel it in my gut. When I confronted him he’d ask me what was wrong and what he needed to fix (codependency) and ask me question after question after question until I just snapped and asked him questions then he’d turn it back on me like usual. It was a game of cat and mouse it felt like. Felt like I was losing my mind

    • @mariahconklin4150
      @mariahconklin4150 2 роки тому +10

      @@GotoMaki4Micah yep he was romantic and fun with me to that’s what made it so hard to leave him. He even tried to fight a squirrel at one point. 🤦🏽‍♀️ I also felt at times that I was dating a really intelligent 36 year old with the emotional capacity of a 5 year old. It was so bizarre.

  • @josephwintrich7294
    @josephwintrich7294 2 роки тому +13

    "Our GREATEST enemies come to us with a great big smile and arms wide open while bearing gifts."

    • @KA-ub4rc
      @KA-ub4rc 2 місяці тому

      Oh yes I know someone like that

    • @alllifematters
      @alllifematters Місяць тому

      Gifts is a big one 👍narcissists and sociopath give you stuff

  • @existentialmonster4059
    @existentialmonster4059 2 роки тому +13

    This could also be someone with PTSD. It really scares me how many people and videos there are calling people narcissists and sociopaths willy-nilly without zooming out and taking into consideration the shit the person might have gone through to put them in that position.

  • @alienlizardqueen8748
    @alienlizardqueen8748 2 роки тому +425

    Every sociopath I’ve known has TONS of superficial friendships. It’s like they’re preparing for the apocalypse by collecting people to eat.

  • @theartzscientist8012
    @theartzscientist8012 2 роки тому +1270

    WRONG!!!!!! Those that don’t have many friends chose wisely. This doesn’t make them a sociopath. This makes them WISE...❤️

    • @Spark_Iskra_z_Polski
      @Spark_Iskra_z_Polski 2 роки тому +61

      Exactly! I could have a multitude of friends. I know because I had. I could even make a new church or sect. Our house was filled with people. But one day I came to the conclusion that these are one-sided, energy and time draining friendships. I gave up on all of them by saying this openly. I believe that if sb is your friend he will not go so easily. They got offended and went away. Good for me, our family and life in general. I have never regretted this decision. I am active online and meet two neeighbours I do like over a cup of coffee a few times a year and this is enough. I am fed up with ppl's gossip, triangulations, envy, frustrations that might be avoided if only they had a moral spine and a bit of dignity. Perhaps this is my fate that I cannot come across the people I would feel closer to. I decided to take life as it is and appreciate what I have but avoid unnecessary stress.

    • @theartzscientist8012
      @theartzscientist8012 2 роки тому +28

      @@Spark_Iskra_z_Polski stop caring what people think. It gives them your power. God is the only one that matters.

    • @Cherloe
      @Cherloe 2 роки тому +6

      I guess maybe they don’t have “real” friends. The female sociopaths I know appear to be Queen Bees with thousands of social media friends and acquaintances thinking they are absolutely amazing. Or they have fear of them and won’t talk negatively about them to avoid retaliation.

    • @danicegewiss862
      @danicegewiss862 2 роки тому +39

      She listed numerous traits of sociopaths. You're picking one and arguing about it. Smh. Combine this trait with a few others before arguing.

    • @dwayneneal3342
      @dwayneneal3342 2 роки тому +2

      No you're a sociopath!!!

  • @Kaizen_
    @Kaizen_ 2 роки тому +6

    sociopath here. just tryna fit in and make friends but my emotional disconnect and strugges with showing empathy and compassion makes it hard for genuine emotional connection. not all of us wanna kill u or use u. stop slandering us off the bat pls. cheers and have a nice day

  • @LostCommunication1
    @LostCommunication1 2 роки тому +8

    I'm an Introverted empathetic person and I find most of the people I meet to be complicated..who often try to take me out of my comfort zone to help patch up theirs.

    • @klara7655
      @klara7655 Рік тому +1

      true. currently I already keep boundaries and they are surprised, they prefer to judge. And most dont realize that introverts observe better because they are not busy impressing people

  • @solarchos8821
    @solarchos8821 2 роки тому +72

    Even worse, sociopaths LOVE getting to positions of authority. Or at least attaining authority over other people, either through holding organizational positions or being the "center" of social groups or movements.
    I've dealt with genuine sociopaths in the past. They are DANGEROUS.

  • @radmom05
    @radmom05 2 роки тому +389

    I don't have many friends by choice. People make me tired. But I don't think I'm sociopathic

    • @sigmasiren777
      @sigmasiren777 2 роки тому +49

      You sound like me. Ppl drain the hell out of me so I keep them at an arms length. I’m an empath though so that’s most likely why. We are too sensitive to other people’s energy.

    • @freetherapy-84
      @freetherapy-84 2 роки тому +25

      @The Sociopath sounds like your just realized what most decent people realize eventually. People are horrible, animals are better, it's really no contest.

    • @eduardochavacano
      @eduardochavacano 2 роки тому

      if gay men hit on you at least once a month, then you are not a sociopath, even if you have no friends.

    • @lauraantic1384
      @lauraantic1384 2 роки тому

      You are happy if you have one friend who you can trust i lost that too couse it was a Juda all the time almost cost me a life

    • @maximinoblas1171
      @maximinoblas1171 2 роки тому +1

      Me neither

  • @cliveedwards2958
    @cliveedwards2958 2 роки тому +16

    One factor I notice that could be a good indicator of a sociopath is that when they do a 'good deed' it is always combined with a huge amount of "did you see me help that person..or.. I quietly secretly donated money to a good cause"...making sure we all know about their generous gesture. They would find it hard to help an animal in distress or a wild bird in trouble because the creature cannot 'thank them' in the way they want

    • @peacejoy3629
      @peacejoy3629 Рік тому

      What about someone gifting a birthday gift and later on saying " you know when you give to others and u see their reaction! is more of you do it for yourself to feel good not for them it's kinda selfish I know "
      Do u think it's a sociopathic thing?

    • @whoswhoo
      @whoswhoo Рік тому

      Yes one person I knew who took advantage of me for things favours helping him out gave me some things I think he stole that I didn't even want and never stop mentioning it for years afterwards like look how generous I was. He's fallen on hard times now but he's still involved in manipulating people .

    • @fivemargaritasonly
      @fivemargaritasonly 2 місяці тому

      That's a little silly. Just because they have low empathy, doesn't mean they're socially unaware. I've found more "empaths" showboat. A dark triad (not narcissist) will just simply not do it, or you will find out through "obscure means" = Bring someone along who's a big mouth, that way they're not the one to disclose the good deed and have someone vouch for them. That's how I'd do it, if I was a sociopath. That's how you build social Capital.

  • @BimmerWon
    @BimmerWon 2 роки тому +8

    Whenever someone who’s a sociopath tries to meet me with aggression I meet them with equal or greater aggression. Sometimes I’m just passive aggressive to egg them on more until they lose their shit and make a fool out of themselves or try to attack me in which case I kick their ass and justify it as self defense.

  • @skiprockjr.6881
    @skiprockjr.6881 2 роки тому +659

    A person saying "I'm from New Jersey" is another sign of someone being a sociopath.

    • @te9591
      @te9591 2 роки тому +11

      Bruce springstein.

    • @blackdavinci4337
      @blackdavinci4337 2 роки тому +40

      Bro I live in New Jersey not from here but yes you’re correct the Garden state is full of snakes

    • @skiprockjr.6881
      @skiprockjr.6881 2 роки тому +22

      @@blackdavinci4337 A den of vipers.

    • @stephenshealy6514
      @stephenshealy6514 2 роки тому +4

      Funny

    • @garthspader226
      @garthspader226 2 роки тому +20

      What the hell does New Jersey have to do with Sociopaths?

  • @alordreacts
    @alordreacts 2 роки тому +170

    The social life part and few friends…is an absolute lie..bs..some people who’ve been done wrong and betrayed by narcs, tend to be “happier”, being alone, and limiting how many different energies, they will allow in their lives moving forward..it cuts out a lot of bs..if you can’t be alone with yourself, and you need lots of friends..that’s a problem.

    • @Kelly-oe8kr
      @Kelly-oe8kr 2 роки тому +18

      So true! So much pain and drama can be avoided in life if people just learned to be ok with being by themselves for 5 consecutive minutes instead of bouncing from one relationship to the next.

    • @alordreacts
      @alordreacts 2 роки тому +9

      @@Kelly-oe8kr agree 100%, it’s amazing how many content creators come out as “knowing it all”, and fail to see that there are people who opt to be alone and are very happy, because they’ve tried it everyone else’s way.

    • @SunshineSuperstar
      @SunshineSuperstar 2 роки тому +3

      YES!

    • @GotoMaki4Micah
      @GotoMaki4Micah 2 роки тому +6

      not everyone is an attention whore. not everyone is uncomfortable being by themselves. humans as social creature think being alone is not normal. thing is, you have to be happy on your own, first and foremost, if not, you'll invite a soap opera of problems. those insecure people who cant be alone are one of the types that narcs prey on.

    • @alordreacts
      @alordreacts 2 роки тому +5

      @@GotoMaki4Micah totally agree! People put such a stigma on those of us who are very much ok being alone..we can go to parties or other forms of gatherings, have the fun, and yet we don’t miss it, and need to find the next party! Not to mention..maybe we’ve tried to welcome in too many different energies…we learned how toxic it is…now we’re happy and all set! I enjoy the peace that comes with learning thyself.

  • @jamesforman2167
    @jamesforman2167 2 роки тому +7

    A great way to identify a sociopath is to refuse a gift or gesture. The non-sociopath will usually be graceful about it, but the sociopath will react like they have lost control. Another great way is to pay attention to the way they answer questions. The truth speaks in sentences, where lies speak in paragraphs. I just ended a marriage with a sociopath, and I learned the hard way that the only things they understand are bigger, louder, stronger, and meaner. She lost all power over me the day I said "BECAUSE I SAY SO, and...YOU...Don't have a problem with that!" As I said "YOU" my eyes went from her face down to her feet, a subtle body language way of saying "on your knees, peasant!" The passive "wait-n-see" approach will get you hurt; Assess quickly and make a stand.

  • @shaekeeney319
    @shaekeeney319 2 роки тому +31

    As a diagnosed sociopath, I found this video both accurate and entertaining. Two thumbs up!

  • @Dan-ud8hz
    @Dan-ud8hz 2 роки тому +234

    "After listening for almost twenty-five years to the stories my patients tell me about sociopaths who have invaded and injured their lives, when I am asked, “How can I tell whom not to trust?” the answer I give usually surprises people. The natural expectation is that I will describe some sinister-sounding detail of behavior or snippet of body language or threatening use of language that is the subtle giveaway. Instead, I take people aback by assuring them that the tip-off is none of these things, for none of these things is reliably present. Rather, the best clue is, of all things, the pity play. The most reliable sign, the most universal behavior of unscrupulous people is not directed, as one might imagine, at our fearfulness. It is, perversely, an appeal to our sympathy."
    ― Martha Stout, The Sociopath Next Door

    • @spindrifter7519
      @spindrifter7519 2 роки тому +8

      Spot on

    • @steviecrow914
      @steviecrow914 2 роки тому +5

      Yes!!

    • @TheFeliciakelley
      @TheFeliciakelley 2 роки тому +4

      So true

    • @danacarpendersketoloworno2043
      @danacarpendersketoloworno2043 2 роки тому +19

      Yup. The pity play, aggressiveness, lying, and fixation on revenge sound a lot like a former president I could name.
      (I read Stout's book shortly before my husband and I went on a cruise. We entertained ourselves by looking at the throng on deck, trying to pick out the 1 out of every 25.)

    • @alexandriafitts9262
      @alexandriafitts9262 2 роки тому +5

      Whoa....that's interesting

  • @sherri5470
    @sherri5470 2 роки тому +46

    I was married to a sociopath!! Revenge omg he caused me to lose everything !!! They are pure evil when you try to end relationship!!!

    • @mariahconklin4150
      @mariahconklin4150 2 роки тому

      What happened when you ended it?

    • @mariahconklin4150
      @mariahconklin4150 2 роки тому

      I actually lost everything to and started hanging out with my ex boyfriend who’s a nerotipical

    • @mikesmith6461
      @mikesmith6461 2 роки тому +7

      MOST DANGEROUS PERSON THEY HAVE NOTHING TO LOSE EVERYTHING TO GAIN.

  • @danathomas3479
    @danathomas3479 2 роки тому +5

    The bottom line is, when a person (any person) uses other people’s lives, weaknesses and vulnerability in any way. I would say, stay away. The world is changing and in my opinion it’s truly safer to be alone then to stand around being the target.

  • @freshdelicecookingtutorial6585
    @freshdelicecookingtutorial6585 2 роки тому

    Thank you so much you open my eyes around my inner circle .

  • @jessicaberry87
    @jessicaberry87 2 роки тому +107

    Seeking revenge is the sign that really stands out to me. These people also exploit others. Those were the key traits that stood out to me when I encountered sociopaths in real life.

    • @itman190
      @itman190 2 роки тому +1

      If someone’s seeking revenge then someone screwed them over so why do u care that they want revenge?

    • @davidlima9461
      @davidlima9461 2 роки тому +11

      Don't want to sound edgy but i seek revenge (not a good thing to do) and i'm not a sociopath

    • @jessicaberry87
      @jessicaberry87 2 роки тому +2

      @@davidlima9461 Every time or do you let some things go?

    • @mariahconklin4150
      @mariahconklin4150 2 роки тому +1

      I exploit others but I don’t seek revenge I’ll think about seeking revenge but then I’ll feel bad about it. I wonder if the exploiting others is because I really truly feel as though I’ve gotten hurt by this person which is also a sign of PTSD. 🤷‍♀️ Yet I was told by my ex that it was all in my head but everything he did I felt like I was going crazy.

    • @mariahconklin4150
      @mariahconklin4150 2 роки тому +1

      @@davidlima9461 I know that’s normal when one gets hurt at least I think it isZ

  • @Endio_Star
    @Endio_Star 2 роки тому +100

    I divorced a narcissist with sociopathic tendencies. The amount of control they have is up to you. If you are in a relationship with someone who is a sociopath or a narcissist, walk away now and above all else keep yourself and your family safe.

    • @GotoMaki4Micah
      @GotoMaki4Micah 2 роки тому

      if you've been in a relationship with one you'd know that its not easy to leave. they take your money, your self esteem, separate your from friends and family, make you think you're crazy etc lol police records and social workers say it takes up to 7 attempts to leave an abusive relationship. you sound dangerously like one with your 'ignorance, lack of empathy and victim blaming.

    • @Endio_Star
      @Endio_Star 2 роки тому

      @@GotoMaki4Micah you sound like a keyboard warrior who judges people without knowing their situation. Now I won't go judging you so you should stop judging other people. Grow up

    • @ShayLove84Fam1st
      @ShayLove84Fam1st 2 роки тому +1

      @Solangeag1 facts

  • @goosefukulardeath7300
    @goosefukulardeath7300 2 роки тому +2

    Sociopaths are everywhere . Even non-sociopaths have sociopathic tendencies . Here’s how you stand up to a sociopath
    A) if what they say doesn’t add up then address it
    B) if they push back , then ask “hey what’s wrong ?”
    C) if they blame you , then address the state of the relationship from its infancy to its current term
    D) if they deflect, then acknowledge their deflection
    Patience and truth cuts the fat . Don’t take it personally . They are people too

  • @sandippaul468
    @sandippaul468 2 роки тому +3

    My friends circle had a sociopath in the group and they eventually got rid of him. Now I have no friends.

  • @farouqmj1147
    @farouqmj1147 2 роки тому +284

    Not to confuse sociopaths with introvert empaths, boths have few or no friends

    • @starzintheskyz4477
      @starzintheskyz4477 2 роки тому +6

      Exactly

    • @eduardochavacano
      @eduardochavacano 2 роки тому +3

      emphaths have friends, beautiful people only.

    • @smokinamby
      @smokinamby 2 роки тому +8

      You forgot to add antisocial too.

    • @MrKillswitch88
      @MrKillswitch88 2 роки тому +4

      Yea there is a very real extrovert bias here even though a lot of what is describe makes the list for a lot out there with high extroversion especially those quick to depose of acquaintances as they rarely have more than a couple of friends if any at all as they prefer wide social circles without much if any real connection.

    • @katherineklevenow1808
      @katherineklevenow1808 2 роки тому +10

      Some people don't want to have friends. It's a sign of vast intelligence not to have friends. Maybe they don't want you to meet their friends because they have none

  • @FoxEyes
    @FoxEyes 2 роки тому +102

    This describes every person on social media. Im sure today the numbers of socialpath have jumped significantly.

    • @iWalkChris
      @iWalkChris 2 роки тому +5

      H'mmmm, 'Sociopath-media' then perhaps? Just a thought. LoL!

    • @dwayneneal3342
      @dwayneneal3342 2 роки тому +10

      Narcissists are sky high

    • @juliawashburn675
      @juliawashburn675 2 роки тому +12

      It's a combination of raising kids that are told they are special and lack of discipline. They grow up thinking they are so wonderful and special and have no consequenses for thier actions... very sad and dangerous... :(

    • @basilplushie2534
      @basilplushie2534 Рік тому

      Many people show their true feelings on social media
      Unlike irl

    • @iuridomingo377
      @iuridomingo377 Рік тому

      David Dobrik
      Sam Bankman Fried😉

  • @bradleypoe6846
    @bradleypoe6846 2 роки тому +12

    Here's something you need to know about these lists. As imperfect human beings we _will_ mess up and make mistakes. Everybody here watching this video has briefly met 2-3 items on this list. It's called "real life happening to you, and it isn't always great." But that doesn't make you a sociopath or someone taught how to be antisocial.
    The key to getting lists like this is to ask the question, "Is this who they are?" No, really, is this ALL they are? It's one thing to briefly have a problem or two on this list. It's another when most to all of these items fit your personality to a tee and it's the worst when this has been going on for _years_ dating back to your childhood. That's the thing _nobody_ tells you about psychology or social work: yes, it runs off of lists like these, but they are reference points for using _calculus_ to get to the "how likely and abnormal are these things?" questions. It's more complicated than just a simple checklist.
    And some of that is that there's other reference points to consider: is the person in question an actual, confirmed abuse survivor? Do they suffer from an addiction? Were they raised in a military culture family? Were they raised in multiple generations of poverty, or in a run-down and violent part of a city or region? And yes, the word "sociopath" matters in context. It's possible to _learn and acquire_ antisocial traits as a means to survive hostile-to-malefic circumstances. The good news on that is that circumstances can change, and "learned the wrong lessons" is a condition that can be corrected. People can usually un-learn how to be violent, manipulative, deceitful and ruthless, but it takes putting them in a place where being these things is no longer necessary.
    TL:DR? Be careful with lists like these. This is basic to trivial knowledge at best. This is less "I can diagnose people now" and more "Ok, this person meets ALL of these criterion and there's no real reason why they should, I need to run, NOW." This is about being careful around people who are _constantly to always_ violent, ruthless, deceitful and manipulative when it doesn't make sense for them to do that, really.

    • @nv_chino
      @nv_chino 11 місяців тому

      Nobody does this everyday. They do.

  • @NimbusTheScout
    @NimbusTheScout 2 роки тому +44

    People with ASPD (Anti-Social Personality Disorder, aka sociopath) can learn to live half normal with proper therapy. Some sociopaths can even fall in love (to their extent). Having a limited range of human emotions and/or being unable to connect to other human beings doesn't always correlate with being a ruthless monster. Take people with BPD, for example. Their c-ptsd makes it near impossible to establish meaningful connections unless they are treated: are they considered monsters at heart? No, they're just highly and repeatedly traumatized. You also need to keep in mind that ASPD is environmental as well as genetic. And since development of personality disorders depends heavily on how the victim perceives their trauma, the same trauma that can create poor and lonely Borderlines may also create the "dangerous" sociopath.
    The people who truly deserve the dramatically villainizing portrayal in your video are sadistic sociopaths or vulnerable narcissists who make the conscious decision to manipulate others - not all sociopaths.

    • @venetapopova5140
      @venetapopova5140 2 роки тому +5

      Honestly, the signs in this video are so generic that they can be applied to half of the Mental Health disabilities and disorders. And also thank you for saying that having a mental heath issue that you never chose to have, doesn't make you a monster, cus it really doesn't, all it makes you is a person needing therapy, like nearly every human being that breaths air.

    • @johnlovesbridge
      @johnlovesbridge 2 роки тому +2

      Sociopathy by definition involves villainy whether you like it or not. Sorry to break your bubble.

    • @NimbusTheScout
      @NimbusTheScout 2 роки тому +2

      @@johnlovesbridge villainy that is not congenital. That was my point. Evil creates evil.

    • @monajandali3489
      @monajandali3489 2 роки тому

      @@johnlovesbridge i see evil as someone who does evil things, if a sociopath chooses not to do the wrong thing then they're not evil.

    • @user-ij6py2zi9b
      @user-ij6py2zi9b Рік тому

      @@johnlovesbridge The dictionary definitions aren't always correct. Example, the definitions of Intro and Extraversion.

  • @crystalcole888
    @crystalcole888 2 роки тому +318

    Just a quick heads up. Scapegoats and codependent people also check a lot of boxes on this list. They grew up having to please sociopaths so they're very Charming. They don't always trust people so they don't have a lot of friends. Codependent people are more likely to be taken advantage of by others so they may talk about being a victim a lot. There's more but I think you get the idea.
    I check a lot of boxes on this list, but it's a response to being surrounded by abusive people. Not because I'm an abusive person. I don't let most people near my friends and family anymore for example. I've met too many vile, unhealthy people to let them too deeply into my life. Just remember, that it's not always as simple as a checklist to identify dangerous people.

    • @savannahzmomma
      @savannahzmomma 2 роки тому +33

      Agree. Complaining about difficulties/abuse/bad luck can just be someone's way of trying to explain why they are "less than" or "not measuring up" if they lack confidence. I think the danger sign is when they use the story to use you rather than to be validated or comforted.

    • @jessicaberry87
      @jessicaberry87 2 роки тому +8

      Very true!

    • @777hathor
      @777hathor 2 роки тому +15

      Codependents and Sociopaths are two sides of the same coin, they came from the same abuse but react to it differently. One just copies what was done to them,the other tries to be the opposite.

    • @kanemary56
      @kanemary56 2 роки тому +3

      Agreed

    • @marcusearnshaw1816
      @marcusearnshaw1816 2 роки тому +3

      Thank you

  • @ileanahope466
    @ileanahope466 2 роки тому +92

    Emphaths and introverts have few friends because they focus on a few for good quality vs quantity. I dont think having few friends is a sign of psychopathic traits.

    • @madelynnazario8361
      @madelynnazario8361 2 роки тому +18

      You are right. As an empath, I would rather be alone than be in bad company. I value true friendships. I value peace in my life.

    • @goldilocks3593
      @goldilocks3593 2 роки тому +7

      I agree. The better way of putting this would be that narcissists (or sociopaths) have a lot of surface level acquaintances, but few if any true friends.

    • @ileanahope466
      @ileanahope466 2 роки тому

      @@sarahbartlett1196 I guess you are a psychopath or narcissistic personality putting me down because you feel inferior and putting other people down gives you pleasure! Or you are a sadistic person. I wish you love!

  • @Intuitive1
    @Intuitive1 2 роки тому +3

    Go by your intuition and gut feeling. If something seems or feels off, it is.

  • @kevinhanley6462
    @kevinhanley6462 2 роки тому

    Very well explained.

  • @cherylduckworth8185
    @cherylduckworth8185 2 роки тому +55

    They're really good at lying by omission. I knew someone that could sit right across the room from you, look right at you, and be cheating on his phone like he wasn't doing anything at all. And how dare you think otherwise. Just one tiny example of the mystery show

    • @floofypastel686
      @floofypastel686 2 роки тому +1

      Same

    • @kennethlapointesongwriter3330
      @kennethlapointesongwriter3330 2 роки тому

      Wow. Either a sociopath or psychopath. I would have no problem either confronting the person and actually getting a true answer to my question from them, or dumping them point-blank. But then I'm a sigma empath.

    • @quartani
      @quartani 2 роки тому +1

      My ex for the past year and a half.
      All box’s checked

  • @Lars1996
    @Lars1996 2 роки тому +144

    The easiest trait to spot is the happy and perverse glow on their faces when you tell them something negative or sad has happened. Their faces light up like a child with a new toy. It’s like they feed on that energy.

    • @raulmirut6519
      @raulmirut6519 2 роки тому +4

      Jeez

    • @fatliward9815
      @fatliward9815 2 роки тому +17

      As medically diagnosed sociopath, I simply do not care about it. It is fun to hear about but why would i show that on my face? Half of the time i don't care and just say "Really that's crazy, i hope you're doing well." then i try to touch them on the hand or on the shoulder to show sincerity.

    • @raulmirut6519
      @raulmirut6519 2 роки тому +2

      @@fatliward9815 evil lady

    • @Lion_zombie
      @Lion_zombie 2 роки тому +4

      I smiled as I read this

    • @whooptapus8298
      @whooptapus8298 2 роки тому +4

      @@raulmirut6519 nope being a sociopath doesn't mean you're inherently evil people living with aspd show alot of similarities with people with autism and they try very hard to fit into our society and plenty are in counseling to help them cope

  • @wendyboyd7042
    @wendyboyd7042 2 роки тому

    You nailed it in every way,my friend is all of what you described,it's best to let her go and find friends that deserve them.

  • @sharondunstall709
    @sharondunstall709 2 роки тому +2

    Thank you for this information, it confirmed what I had suspected about my former spouse. He hit all 12 points!!!

  • @beautifulspirit2973
    @beautifulspirit2973 2 роки тому +77

    Met a guy recently and he was...
    Extremely charming ✅
    Charismatic ✅
    Didn’t talk about his friends ✅
    Domineering/ bullying/ disappears ✅
    Impulsive ✅
    Extremely successful businessman ✅
    Had periods of unemployment ✅
    Played victim when he was challenged ✅
    Never took any responsibility ✅
    Lack of empathy ✅
    Patronised vulnerability ✅
    Kept talking about sex ✅
    Unreliable ✅
    Showed scary aggression on the phon✅
    Caught him lying more than once✅
    OMG I hope I don’t get the last one because I have a bad feeling about him...
    He knows where I live 😣
    Scarily accurate description, sadly

    • @mr.2cents.846
      @mr.2cents.846 2 роки тому +8

      Ask Jesus for protection. Or better: give your life to Jesus. Than you are saved and go to heaven. And are under God's protection.
      Jesus said you'll recognize a tree by it's fruit. He meant humans. A good tree won't produce bad fruit. And a bad tree cannot produce good fruit.

    • @theotherside4596
      @theotherside4596 2 роки тому

      Every guy has their ups and downs sometimes its the people that are drawn to you take advantage of your kindness and mistake it for weakness

    • @johnpaul8938
      @johnpaul8938 2 роки тому +3

      Don’t believe in all of this content. You know what’s right and what’s not.

    • @LetiferTV
      @LetiferTV 2 роки тому

      guess she is dead now.

    • @venetapopova5140
      @venetapopova5140 2 роки тому +1

      All im gonna say is that this video is so painfully generic and these are signs of so many different mental health disabilities and disorders that you and me even might not have a clue about. So all in all he could be, could be something else, he might be just a shitty person, or is just going through a rough patch in his life. If you're really concerned I'd suggest you do a research and look at some articles and other more informative videos. Best of luck in whatever is going on x

  • @steverinaldi890
    @steverinaldi890 2 роки тому +62

    My short term ex wife is a full blown sociopath. She pushed to marry and lied literally about everything. Even things that didn’t matter. She roofied me one night to sleep with someone other than me-her husband. I finally kicked her out and realized she was screwing her married lawyer to pay her attorney debt.

    • @tranquility9325
      @tranquility9325 2 роки тому +9

      That sounds about right. I'm glad you realized it isn't you.

    • @dwayneneal3342
      @dwayneneal3342 2 роки тому +10

      My x lied about anything and everything too. I'd ask her why even lie about something so small.

    • @josephmassaro
      @josephmassaro 2 роки тому +5

      @@dwayneneal3342 I had a friend who did this. When I asked why, he said, "I like the practice."

    • @tranquility9325
      @tranquility9325 2 роки тому +5

      @@dwayneneal3342 they lie as easily as they breathe. Then they lie again to say they are not lying 🤥

    • @mariahconklin4150
      @mariahconklin4150 2 роки тому

      Omg and so you wrote a song about her right? Or a book? Lol I hope you did!

  • @SteelRhinoXpress
    @SteelRhinoXpress 2 роки тому +57

    This video listed 10 sociopath features, but lets be honest. there is probably something on this list that we can all say we do. Now, does that make us a sociopath? No.

    • @itsHappening-ry2ef
      @itsHappening-ry2ef 2 роки тому

      Facts

    • @GailColeman
      @GailColeman 2 роки тому

      In scrolling thru the comments, it is true that probably every person matches something on this list. The difference is that to DIAGNOSE a person by the manual, it'll say they must meet "x" number of signs out of these 12. It differs depending on the disorder and a lot of disorders are on a spectrum from mild to severe. So no one is saying if you don't have many friends you are a sociopath. But let's say you fit 11 of 12 signs to a T? Yeah, I maybe don't want to have a secluded weekend with you at your deep woods hunting lodge. Just sayin'...

    • @dean8435
      @dean8435 2 роки тому

      Yes I was thinking the same thing. We've all made mistakes, we all sin. To what decree and in which way can be extremely different. However, the difference I've personally noticed is with the ability of feeling remorseful. I believe healthy minded individuals are able to self reflect and feel ashamed for their actions and create change for the better, and I believe sociopaths or people with npd can not deal with these emotions and Blane shift or simply bury them and carry on with their life, which in turn becomes their false self upheld.

    • @goofball2228
      @goofball2228 Рік тому +2

      I’m impulsive, I have a short temper, and I lie to make myself seem more interesting sometimes because I have low self esteem. I’m not a sociopath tho, I’m just a 14 year old…

  • @Mystic_Potato583
    @Mystic_Potato583 2 роки тому +5

    Unbelievable.. It all makes sense now. Not too long ago, I had a best friend. We'd always have such fun with each other, but I ended up feeling like it was one sided, even though I convinced myself that he was right. We're the greatest of friends! When in fact, I did everything for him. I listened when he talked poorly about others. When I had something to say, that I was annoyed about, he'd "Missunederstand it" and tell me how I hurt his feelings. I couldn't bear the thought of that, so I kept shutting my own feelings in, convincing myself that everything was fine. It was not.
    If anyone else sees this video, and you feel like something isn't right about someone you hang out with, listen to yourself. Don't listen to them about what you should think about them. They're most likely manipulating you, like I was manipulated. All of these points, show up in my experiences. When I asked him for help sometimes, he said this: "I'm not just someone you can come to when you need someone to talk to." And worst of all, after I decided to say goodbye, he played the victim, and lied to all of our mutual friends, painting me as some kind of asshole. Some expressed that "I never thought you'd say something like that. You, who are one of the kindest people I know." He even tried to apologize to a friend I'd dropped contact with a long time ago. I got in touch with him recently to make amends, only to hear that "I'm sorry. I really thought you were a terrible person from all the things he said about you."
    If a friend like this, still believes in you after hearing such lies about you, keep them close. Tell them that you apprechiate them. Because god dammit... We all need people that believe in us in our lives. Not people that keep us around for their own gain and fun, only to abandon us in our hour of need. He certainly took his revenge, and it still stings like the venom of a horrible Viper. Being told how disappointing I was, and that he's sorry people ever had to deal with me. But only now, do I understand that he most likely was, a bad case, of a sociapath. At the very least, he hasn't had a history of hurting physically, so I don't think I need to worry about being murdered out of revenge. But I can't stress this enough. If you feel like something is wrong around you. Listen to that voice, and reflect. Take yourself seriously. Because no matter what these people want us to think: We, should always be our first conern. Without you listening to yourself, you might go astray, endangering your health, or your friends trust.
    Thank you for the video, Psychology Element. I finally feel, like I understand what I was dealing with. And knowing, is half the battle.

    • @KevinTambling
      @KevinTambling 2 роки тому

      Scorched earth. When discovered and rejected they attempt to destroy everything they know about you.

    • @peacejoy3629
      @peacejoy3629 Рік тому

      Thank you..

  • @dabprod
    @dabprod 2 роки тому +38

    I was married to one many years ago. Wish I had this information back then, would have saved me many years of grief. You're video describes her exactly.

  • @NikkiGloom
    @NikkiGloom 2 роки тому +19

    i met one and played him so good he was afraid of me in the end. once you know their game, be careful, and be just as charming and unpredictable. I am an empath and used my instinct to get free too.

    • @kennethlapointesongwriter3330
      @kennethlapointesongwriter3330 2 роки тому

      Haha, me too. After too long of being the crap end of the stick re a sociopath, I ended up doing the littlest stupidest things imaginable that I knew that SHE didn't like, and yet she couldn't do anything about it. She just got angrier and angrier, and still couldn't stop me (which is what she does to others all the time and doesn't care), so she finally left the area. Like a stank wind replaced by fresh air.

    • @guntertorfs6486
      @guntertorfs6486 2 роки тому +2

      Got into a relationship with one. She was very intelligent and could play people like a fiddle. Once i figured out what she was , i studied everything i could find about them and a kind of duel of wits ensued. By now she was quite addicted to me because she loved the challenge. I had a narcissistic father ( figured that out after my relationship with her ) and it made me into what is described by some ( HG Tudor ) as a superempath. When she grew worse and worse i realized i had to bow out of this dangerous 'game'. She accused me of all kinds of things and filed complaints. Luckily none of her lies stuck. Afterwards i had to look at myself and figure out why i was compelled ( and even thrilled ) to play this dangerous game with this kind of 'nemesis' , although i never lost control. Still working on myself, but in a good place.

    • @kundalini7716
      @kundalini7716 2 роки тому

      Playas only respect 🫡

    • @glitterdragon9197
      @glitterdragon9197 Рік тому

      Same here. He actually openly bragged about being a sociopath when we met and I took it as a joke at first. He’d say shit like “we have so much in common” which would anger me bc I knew it was wishful thinking on his end when in reality he was mistaking my reserved but impulsive nature as sociopathic traits. Over time of seeing each other he tried manipulating me and hurting my self esteem a lot with his little mind games and at that moment I went Jekyll and Hyde on him according to his treatment which really got him off guard. Not to mention i found out he was a Nazi and that right there is when I ghosted him without him ever seeing it coming. It’s spineless to ghost people, but in my defense if I’d stuck around any longer I’m sure I could’ve ended up a plaything bc I know if he’d had the chance to I’m sure he would’ve preyed on any hint of emotion or vulnerability if I’d let my guard down which thankfully I never do since I’m a very paranoid person from having a sociopathic father

    • @emmy_cat_taylor
      @emmy_cat_taylor Рік тому

      Did everybody clap

  • @TilisuAOL
    @TilisuAOL 3 місяці тому

    Omg
    I married one and was engaged to another. After several years of therapy, meditation, shadow work and research, I am unable to trust or love. No respect for boundaries, no empathy, no respect, no empathy or remorse or accountability. I need to continue my healing process, because I now realize that I am a target for these people. As an autistic adult, it doesn’t occur to me that people lie all the time. I thought they were narcissistic or histrionic, but now I recognize the true meaning of sociopathy. It’s terrifying. We are witnessing the destruction of mankind, the so called most evolved species on this planet, and it’s heartbreaking and soul crushing.

  • @aboodlifetv778
    @aboodlifetv778 2 роки тому +4

    Your voice in this video made me a subscriber to your channel, very informative voice.

  • @jessicawidmeier2862
    @jessicawidmeier2862 2 роки тому +33

    Or they play the silent game with you for a month, because they refuse to take any responsibility for leading you on.

  • @Souye69
    @Souye69 2 роки тому

    Thanks for giving me insight on how to disguise better my sociopathy

  • @KeevanNorton
    @KeevanNorton 2 роки тому +1

    My mum pretty much fits all of these symptoms but law breaking. And I have a lot of her traits. People tell me I’m not a sociopath or anything along those lines, that I’ve just picked up her bad traits. But it’s hard to know for sure and I worry about it so often.

  • @dhrubajyoti14
    @dhrubajyoti14 2 роки тому +22

    Unfortunately we are learning all these things after the abuse 🙁

  • @IllegalHelios
    @IllegalHelios 2 роки тому +21

    Number 1 is the only thing sociopaths will stick to. Sociopaths will develop and better themselves once they become aware of themselves, if they dont then they fall into a pit of depression and mental illness.

  • @Nancy-uc2tu
    @Nancy-uc2tu Рік тому +1

    I have a small circle of friends. I choose wisely. That doesn't make me a sociopath. It means I have a discerning attitude.

    • @Lindsey578
      @Lindsey578 Рік тому +1

      me too ive beebn stabbed in the back by too many
      "friends", enemies with seceret identities and eisguieses to hide their true colors, better off with ten open enemies than one enemy disguised as a friend.

  • @caramelbrulee7389
    @caramelbrulee7389 2 роки тому

    Extremely eye opening. Wow…

  • @deedeem8485
    @deedeem8485 2 роки тому +143

    My mother was diagnosed as a narcissist sociopath. Lol I recognize this for sure. It's taken years to unravel what she did to me.

    • @ljo0605
      @ljo0605 2 роки тому +13

      What lead her to being diagnosed? I'm sure a lot of them don't even get an assessment.

    • @babyfood9537
      @babyfood9537 2 роки тому +4

      @@ljo0605 she probably had depression and went to get therapy for that and then got diagnosed

    • @lofivibes3640
      @lofivibes3640 2 роки тому +19

      My mother is a narcissist. It took me awhile to understand what she was doing wasn't right. I have a step brother the same way that is also a drug addict. Narcissistic people really destroy your soul. Wish this was talked about more in society.

    • @apatheticxmindsetx3549
      @apatheticxmindsetx3549 2 роки тому +2

      You mean narcissistic and antisocial personality disorder?

    • @thriftyfreebies
      @thriftyfreebies 2 роки тому +4

      @@apatheticxmindsetx3549 Exactly. Nobody has been diagnosed as a “narcissist sociopath” 🙄

  • @thaihm
    @thaihm 2 роки тому +28

    There’s a lot of emphasis on having friends. I’m not sure about this one.

    • @jessickalush3305
      @jessickalush3305 2 роки тому +5

      Right. I have no friends because people aren't loyal, or abuse kindness. I stay to myself to enjoy the peace and avoid drama.

  • @sophiashekinah9872
    @sophiashekinah9872 2 роки тому +1

    There are a few times when a sociopath will do something that doesn't benefit themselves as long as it hurts someone else.

  • @giuliapareti1797
    @giuliapareti1797 2 роки тому

    This completely describe me and I’m pretty much confused. Thanks.

  • @Fuhreekz
    @Fuhreekz 2 роки тому +20

    I just wanna add that sociopaths can have tons of friends too or put on the pretense that they know a lot of people because they want to appear charming and seek to be likable so that they seem to have good status or reputation, which is important to a narcissist. Really good point about the fact that they're always seeking sympathy from others.... painting themselves as a victim so that others would have their guard down and see them as a good or fair person.
    Also, now I'm weary of people who speak about shitty things they or someone has done with neutrality...

  • @andry6164
    @andry6164 2 роки тому +25

    Basically a normal human being

  • @balkapone9822
    @balkapone9822 Рік тому

    Wow dude! 12 of 12 - NOICE!!!

  • @angonkatwang
    @angonkatwang 2 роки тому +1

    Kinda sound like the guy I had a crush on for a year. He was charming, funny, witty, cute, mysterious, dominating, just my type. He ghosted me and texted me out of the blue. I don't talk to him anymore.

  • @colonelyungblonsk7730
    @colonelyungblonsk7730 2 роки тому +26

    I don't have many friends but I'm not a sociopath

    • @mar1nn998
      @mar1nn998 2 роки тому +3

      Yes I don't really need friends...i like when i am alone but when people talk to me i of course will talk back I don't have any problems

    • @anonmous4468
      @anonmous4468 2 роки тому +2

      Yeah I think for sociopaths/narcissists it’s more that they have many friends and a few in their inner circle they use as supply, their friendships are often short lived and end badly . Someone of this personality does not know how to make lasting bonds and friendships. If you’ve kept friends for over a decade no matter how many you are fine.

  • @EllenCPickle
    @EllenCPickle 2 роки тому +36

    Omg described my ex best friend completely, honestly I thought she was an empath ... Until she moved in with me ....red flags were going off left and right, broke all my boundaries, I was a prisoner in my own home an I was paying for it all, food, rent, clothes and utilities...after four months I had to ask her to go, she says she's an artist, but I was the one starving as she ate almost $1000 food a months, lies , lies lies...she is insane, I just waiting on the revenge part...it's coming... they are devils on earth

    • @VIJAYzk
      @VIJAYzk 2 роки тому +2

      Seems like that 4 months was hell for you.

    • @whereta3097
      @whereta3097 2 роки тому +2

      Hope you're doing better

    • @KevinTambling
      @KevinTambling 2 роки тому +2

      Congratulations. Awareness and correctly diagnosing the situation is the first step to freedom.

    • @EllenCPickle
      @EllenCPickle 2 роки тому +2

      @@whereta3097 I am doing better, she left when called out on everything and less than one week was arrested for scamming a mutual friend. Ive boxed up all her belonging and putting it in a storage unit and paying for two months of it....its in her hands now. Her family is who I feel the worst for....and ive reached out to her children to help in any way...they are all now in therapy, and realize she is very ill and most likely can never change. I learned alot. My home is peaceful now, even my three cats are back to normal, one red flag I missed was my cats starting fighting anytime she was around and using the bathroom under her bed...I learned so much from this! you never know who someone is until you live with them. Thank god my threshold to dysfunctional and abusive behavior is spot on now! Thank you

    • @EllenCPickle
      @EllenCPickle 2 роки тому +1

      @@VIJAYzk it was but I learned alot. I had know this person for 30 years, she faked the empath role so well until I actually lived with her...no more! Someone else had her arrested for the same thing! sad but not my problem anymore!

  • @alesivan4489
    @alesivan4489 2 роки тому +2

    I'm scared of my half sister. She even told me she is a sociopath.

  • @Bensboyforreal
    @Bensboyforreal Рік тому

    I have met a sociopath. He was my best friend for about 2 years. I ignored all the signs but now i regret. He has ruined so many things in my life

  • @dennisryan6370
    @dennisryan6370 2 роки тому +27

    Rule of Thumb:
    Recognizing a full blown SOCIOPATH boils down to the SIMPLE fact that the APPLE don't roll too far from the TREE.

  • @curtistinemiller4646
    @curtistinemiller4646 2 роки тому +10

    There are so many ways to be despicable it quite make"s one's head spin,But the way to be really despicable is to be contemptuous of other people's pain.....James Baldwin.....

  • @1701Q
    @1701Q 2 роки тому

    Thanks for telling my how i can be even more inconspicuous.

  • @kittyroars8758
    @kittyroars8758 2 роки тому

    I don't think everyone who doesn't have friends is a sociopath. But, every sociopath is friendless.

  • @joltjolt5060
    @joltjolt5060 2 роки тому +11

    I'm not a sociopath, but I've known too many of them, so I keep to myself. So, no.

  • @debradowner8761
    @debradowner8761 2 роки тому +17

    Sociopath isn't a diagnosis, and everyone with antisocial personality disorder aren't evil or purely manipulative. This is a pretty ignorant video.

    • @djingiskhan4581
      @djingiskhan4581 2 роки тому +1

      This is pretty much. Jumbled mess art this point so sorry for that got a bit emotional and could never decide when to end the comment. Just keep writing without it hanging together at all. But I hope you can take some time to read my comment anyway. Have a good one!
      As a person with multiple personality disorders one of which fills me with all the chaos and longing for suffering in the world agrees. I have two everyday sides to me triggers on and of from different events during the day one of which is the kindest person alive and the other stone-cold and objective, only caring for pushing myself up. This is very true, I have been fighting with myself almost my whole life. I am a very nice guy I often get told by my friends and family. One good tip if you have problems with your personality is to meditate, meditate on your moral codes rules for which you will never break. If you flip to your bad side or want to give in to your urges (sounds a pretty giant bit too dramatic but English is not my first language) then talk to someone you trust, always have someone you know that you can trust close by. If you have problems with lies, then NEVER EVER let yourself get away with lying. If you lie you tell those you've lied to, it is incredibly painful and it is never fun to be a compulsive liar. But, the people you should hold close will not betray you for something like that. Be honest meditate on morals you find good and follow them, you will quickly learn to treat your love with the most affection any woman or man has ever gotten after you have broken a couple of people or they have you. One thing I've learned in my incredible two years of relationships (almost 20 years old now) is that you will be drawn to someone like yourself more often than not. When you have my kind of problems that is not good. Because I've been stuck in three relationships with psychopaths one who I after the fact found out had been hospitalized in an insane asylum and come out just before meeting me. I at least worked on my problems and was always truthful. The same cannot be said for them, one cheated on me, my first gf, I was too weak to leave her. The second falsely accused me of involuntarily (on her part) fornicating with her (can not say the word lest my comment gets taken down in one second) after I had the balls to leave her. The third was psychopathic (don't know what "the lier diagnosis" is called in English) who lied me into a serious psychosis about the most horrible things, leading to a failed suicide attempt on my part.
      If there is anything to take away from this or anything special I want to tell you all. It would be that it does not matter what label you put on people based on where they are in life now because frankly, it is stupid no kind of derogatory label has ever helped motivate someone to better themselves. It only gives away the message "you are hopeless because this is who you are, you can never change it so just live with it.". I have tried to help three people broken in a similar way that I once was. But some don't want that, because it is so much easier to just lay back and let your impulses take over. There are good and bad people, good people whatever they might suffer from will always try to improve themselves and be honest with you. Bad people will not try to improve themselves but only try to look like they are while in reality, they are just pushing everyone else down to look like they are higher up themselves.

  • @bluesunday2564
    @bluesunday2564 Рік тому +2

    The real socio/psychopath which has no emotions and morality doesn't have problems with work. They are wealthy businessmen and corporate directors.

    • @Lindsey578
      @Lindsey578 Рік тому

      i look at it like this there is a term white collar crime or criminal, your speaking about what i would call a white collar socio/psychopath, much more dangerous to me then a broke one minus they might be less likely to be a serial killer but more likely to to have someone else do their dirty work and stay out of jail so they can keep f ing people over, change laws so their corporation can employ slaves to work for them legally in private prisons that sort of thing....the other one is only a problem if you hop in a car with a stranger at night

  • @glenselenselvs
    @glenselenselvs Рік тому +1

    At this very moment countless of them (sociopaths) are on FaceBook looking for Likes and waiting for somebody else's approval.
    Poor misserable creatures .

  • @raptorrogue4227
    @raptorrogue4227 2 роки тому +24

    Have you ever wondered if a sociopath watches such videos and although they don't realise they are sociopathic they feel they should mask similar traits in themselves?

    • @fatliward9815
      @fatliward9815 2 роки тому +6

      Oh yes we do watch these videos, i know i do so i know what type of knowledge people have on us so i can do the opposite :)

    • @Sky97260
      @Sky97260 2 роки тому +2

      @@fatliward9815 wow you're so quirky and different

    • @nv_chino
      @nv_chino 11 місяців тому

      They know they’re sociopaths

  • @dragonfox2.058
    @dragonfox2.058 2 роки тому +8

    I have a hard time telling the difference between narcissists and sociopaths tbh

  • @TophinatorStreams
    @TophinatorStreams Рік тому +1

    If you suspect someone you know may be a sociopath, there’s a body language test they usually can’t pass if they don’t know what you’re doing. Pretend to yawn when they’re casually looking in your direction, then watch them. Typically, socio-normative brains see a person yawning and will often have to yawn in a subconscious response. If they don’t, you may be indeed dealing with a sociopath.

  • @wesleyamuro
    @wesleyamuro 2 роки тому +1

    Thank you for sharing.
    However I like to make a few clarifications and corrections to prevent unnecessary misunderstanding.
    What are they, you may wonder?
    Not everyone who keeps to themselves, especially introverts, are socialites.
    For friends and even family they may not feel comfortable with, they may have bad experiences like being cheated, quarreling over differences and even being abused by fellow family member.
    Thirdly, due to bad experiences, they have no one to turn to and trust but if they keep bottling in their minds, it will be a matter of time before they go crazy mentally and psychologically.
    So they feel the need to let others know how they feel.
    It is just the way they shared and wrong timing that gives people the wrong impression they played victim.
    Like a child abused and bullied or woman being molested and raped.

  • @LEilrahc
    @LEilrahc 2 роки тому +11

    People call me a sociopath for cutting them out of my life because they were too toxic. Funny how people would put a tittle on you and see your mistakes but when you do something good it goes under the radar.

    • @aboveheights1931
      @aboveheights1931 2 роки тому

      They don't care about you...just do what u want...and care for the one who cares about u

  • @johnroberts3723
    @johnroberts3723 2 роки тому +7

    Every person you know will have at least one of these traits.

    • @johnroberts3723
      @johnroberts3723 2 роки тому +1

      @@sarahbartlett1196 I never said that it was the point
      Just an observation.

  • @shankiawilliams997
    @shankiawilliams997 2 роки тому

    Wow! I now know what's going on at my job. There is someone I know there with every single one of these traits.

  • @twobrokeguyz1214
    @twobrokeguyz1214 2 роки тому

    I don't have any friends, you know why? I'm tired of running into sociopaths. The less 'friends' you have, the less problems you have.

  • @samfisher9070
    @samfisher9070 2 роки тому +47

    Sociopathy is grotesquely and wrongfully catagorized in western society. Sociopaths are not born; they are made, often as a result of abuse and trauma before the age of 10 or so. Sociopathy is a determinable defensive mechanism to safeguard the person from being further emotionally traumatized. Sociopaths marry, raise children, hold security clearances, etc. Also, Sociopathy often has a unique way of extremely focusing the individual to be successfully creative, even to a genius level of cognitive development. Self awareness is key for the Sociopath to acknowledge and adjust and learn successful coping skills in order to facilitate friendships and relationships.

    • @5MARYANNA5
      @5MARYANNA5 2 роки тому +2

      Are you one? It looks as if you researched a lot in it to understand your possible sociopathy better

    • @bloodrose7587
      @bloodrose7587 2 роки тому +2

      They can be made or born...

    • @samfisher9070
      @samfisher9070 2 роки тому +4

      @@bloodrose7587 Incorrect. Psychopaths are, in fact, born and/or can become one due to physical torture-tyoe trauma, but sociopathy is strictly due to the experience of extreme trauma witnessed and or experienced, repeatedly, prior to the age of about 12 years old and then the brain making changes to emotional response to protect the child from further trauma response due to abuse, etc.

    • @reygenne1
      @reygenne1 2 роки тому

      @@samfisher9070 thank you for the education zoon toon pfp guy

    • @candymeow1
      @candymeow1 2 роки тому +2

      This. This comment right here

  • @veredcohen9079
    @veredcohen9079 2 роки тому +7

    They want to revenge but they can’t see what they did to you... that’s a sociopath💯💯

  • @user-ii3cp7ot3s
    @user-ii3cp7ot3s 2 роки тому +1

    the main issue with me is my predatory like state. i struggle with this daily.

  • @caff8602
    @caff8602 2 роки тому

    I ticked every single box on this list, I hate being this person, and apperantly there is no cure.....

  • @anafernandes225
    @anafernandes225 2 роки тому +28

    The charm is important
    No friends, also important
    Control
    Mind games
    Impulsive
    The victim
    Lack of empathy

    • @mariahconklin4150
      @mariahconklin4150 2 роки тому

      My ex has about 600 friends on his Facebook but yet when I asked him how his friends were each time he’d give me four different excuses. Lol!
      My friends are married with kids so they don’t call.
      I got a Christmas card from so and so
      I call my friends but they don’t answer
      And I’m sure their was another one but I don’t remember it

    • @mariahconklin4150
      @mariahconklin4150 2 роки тому

      Damn the superficial charm and then the anger in his eyes like he was gonna devour the assistant pastor. I cannot make this shit up. Even my ex of 6 years was like “this guys weird”

    • @anafernandes225
      @anafernandes225 2 роки тому

      @@PropertyandCasualtyAgent I also said: Charm... control freak... mind games... impulsive...play victim... lack of empathy...

  • @kittyfrisco7681
    @kittyfrisco7681 2 роки тому +7

    Between being a sociopath or a empath that leave me being an empath. I've had hundreds of so called friends in my life time, my sister would tell me that these people are not my friends. That they are only users and takers and nothing more. One Sunday afternoon I had about a dozen people over my house for a football game.
    The downstairs den reek of cigarette smoke and pot smoke, my dad was in the kitchen. And he summon me to talk with him and he told me. Out of all all those boys, I bet you that not one is a friend of yours.
    How many of them have invited you over their houses to drink beer, smoke pot and stink up the whole house.
    I felt so offended but my dad was right.
    Today I will say that I have NO FRIENDS! As my dad also use to tell me: It's better to be alone than in the presence bad company. Now my only companions are cats, love them, they'll never steal from me or bad mouth me behind my back.

    • @eileenheitman4351
      @eileenheitman4351 2 роки тому

      Hi Kitty, the phrase “I’ve had hundreds of friends” is interesting. I’m curious as to your interpretation of the word friends. I’m 72, married, kids, a contracting business.....
      A middle America lifestyle. My friends are 4 guys from high school. 3 of us were Marines, one Army. We Marines served in Vietnam. I’ll spare you the details. We are all still best friends and we all have other friendships but that combined number is just a few. We aren’t reclusive. We are educated and successful. Maybe we’re just socially stunted? How does one have hundreds of friends? Best wishes. Dave Heitman Semper Fidelis

    • @kittyfrisco7681
      @kittyfrisco7681 2 роки тому

      @@eileenheitman4351 Good for you Eileen Heitman that you still have 4 high school friends all former military veterans. Both you and I grew up is way different environments, and yes we have different social contacts including culture. So my interpretation of friends is "trustworthy"! I grew up during the Vietnam War and went as far as registering for the draft on my 17th birthday. Two weeks later congress abolished the draft.
      With that said and done I never realized that my family was dysfunctional. We were a middle class family with no college education. My mother had her own restaurant business and my dad was the general foreman in the paint department. At the college that he worked at, we lived in a very nice home that was the prettiest of the whole neighborhood.
      We were considered wealthy rich by everyone from the neighborhood. So that brought tons of envious jealous people that didn't like us. Besides that they all knew who my family was and they knew my grandparents. Many of my so called friends parents use to pick cotton for my grandfather back during the Great Depression. My grandparents owned a ranch with about a hundred acres of farmland. I'm just giving you a little background about where I'm coming from. My neighborhood was considered poor, and I was considered rich, in which I was not.
      So it was different and at times difficult hanging out with the neighborhood kids. It got worst when I became a teenager, there were gangs and we were territorial.
      I even had to switch high schools because of gangs, and after I graduated from high school.
      I had already joined the NAVY in the delay entry program. Best thing I ever did!
      I still manage to hold on to some friends after I left the service, but I could see right through them.
      I let go and moved away to San Francisco California, a city that the NAVY had taken me to before. I worked for the federal government for 30 years, retired and moved back home to be with family. Times had change, family became greedy, I never married all my life.
      I'm still single and I like being alone with my cats, those are real true friends.
      All I can say is that I'm proud to have served in the Worlds Greatest NAVY!
      With Best Regards!
      Albert.

  • @LightYagami-tz7ci
    @LightYagami-tz7ci 2 роки тому +12

    the way they describe sociopaths as “dangerous” and “horrible people” that will “get their claws in you” really just demonises them, as if they’re not human. sociopaths aren’t always horrible people, sometimes we just don’t feel the same as “normal” people do. but that doesn’t mean we are out to attack you, we’re just trying to live our day to day lives without being demonised AND without hurting people. we don’t enjoy ruining our relationships or friendships, it just happens. videos like this are so damaging to society.

  • @deeray2548
    @deeray2548 2 роки тому +1

    I realized years ago that I might be a sociopath. I have, maybe had many of the 12 signs listed here. The only difference is, it scared the hell out of me thinking I might be one. So, I became a hermit, no longer socializing or going out. Not so much as striking up a conversation standing in a check-out line. The only ones I communicate with are my kids. I have been doing this for 20 years, still afraid of myself and what I might be.

    • @MeganES
      @MeganES Рік тому +1

      You can still be a good person if you are a sociopath. It’s just a stigma.

  • @michaelmartin1745
    @michaelmartin1745 2 роки тому +9

    A sociopath is more based on nurture than on nature .Sad!

  • @Tomurascounterattack678
    @Tomurascounterattack678 2 роки тому +50

    When posting these kinds of videos it ought to be mandatory that people post their resources… like the actual scholarly articles these 12 signs are derived from… posing them in a negative light with no comparison to these behaviors being extremely common in everyday people, is a sign of this video/channel having no significance or relevance in the psychological academia. Out right vilifying people with ‘like’ traits is intellectually dangerous, as this has no regards for individuals intentions. Foolishly suggesting that all people with these traits are out to deceive, and hurt you when ever it’s convenient to them. This is trash.

    • @gigantopithecushominoidea8779
      @gigantopithecushominoidea8779 2 роки тому

      It's people dude, everybody should watch themselves and control their negative everyday urges do act like a goddamn predator... just because you've met a weak harmless don't mean they don't have predatory urges, they just can't do that so it does not mean they are good people, they just can't be a predator whenever whatever... watch the Sopranos, that's what I'm talking about.

    • @burningdust
      @burningdust 2 роки тому +2

      Absolutely. The amount of similar “the more you know” type “educational” content on YT is staggering. No references, no actual professional consultants or writers involved. Maybe personal or Google opinions, maybe wild speculation? I guess whatever gets view$?

    • @Kabaselefh
      @Kabaselefh 2 роки тому +2

      You are obviously a sociopath from your statement 😂

  • @thehomiedq1620
    @thehomiedq1620 2 роки тому +1

    I find it funny how I am one but I have different reasons for using my manipulation gifts. I had an ex who quite literally shattered me so I learned what the bad version of people like me are like. But I won’t claim to be a “good” one either. I’m heartless but I try to feel others. I usually don’t get anywhere with it but sometimes I do. That’s the best feeling.

  • @adammitchell5683
    @adammitchell5683 2 роки тому +2

    Hey I subscribed to your channel today .🤣No doubt about it !You got my number!!This besides being a psychopath is me as well .I am also come to find out a sociopath!🤬Now ...that being said ..how can I help you ??😁🌹

  • @willemvanstaden3292
    @willemvanstaden3292 2 роки тому +7

    I have known, and know, a few sociopaths. They ALWAYS have to be right. They threaten violence if you disagree. They have severe outbursts of ANGER and CURSING - and then suddenly try and be all soft spoken and shy... I have had two employers who were sociopaths. The one was the "better than you/know everything/dominate" type, the other was the loud, angry, outburts followed with soft words type.

    • @princessmandy1757
      @princessmandy1757 Рік тому

      Wow you must have been working at the job I left lol... Father and son combo of that same character.

  • @lenimprota8074
    @lenimprota8074 2 роки тому +15

    How does a sociopath differ from a narcissit? Not a lot of difference, as I see it. Ive know a great many narcissits.

    • @Minneolaos
      @Minneolaos Рік тому +2

      They are pretty similar. Every sociopath has a narcissistic mental structure. Narcissists are full of doubts and create a fake character they portray. Narcissists crave admiration. Sociopaths deceive and take advantage. Sociopaths are mentally strong and do not care what people think, although they can have a sincere fake persona.

  • @skincaremakeup40
    @skincaremakeup40 2 роки тому

    All truth...my best tip:lack of social life and friends or keeping their very few friends well separated

  • @ProdByUnhingedClips
    @ProdByUnhingedClips 2 роки тому +2

    Well, I heard a lot of myself in this especially the empathy 😂