This helped me get over a hurdle to process a scary memory. I can let go, because it was not real. It was not sincere communication; I was misleaded and can go find my way back now. Thank you 🌹
Sam this discontinuous experience is a real relavation for me. I can go through hours of the day and i feel like i cant recall what happened throughout the day even though i know what i did. Its a real disconnection from what has happened. Its an awful life to lead. Meaningless and without any real purpose. Having no core self is truly a punishment from the gods
I feel for you. I relate. At times the awareness of having no object constancy “within” myself nor “without” is so excruciating as to have no words to describe. The fact that there is Sam here as well as folk like you who understand is probably the reason which keeps me from taking steps to physically self annihilate. Thank you for writing.
This makes me think of ZELIG, a great mockumentary by Woody Allen. I was in a relationship with a "Zelig" for almost 10 years and it was very confusing. Thank you Professor Vaknin. Now I understand better that "person" and myself.
So glad you went over Baudrillard and Debord. Their work really messed me up necessarily. It was inevitable, but they viciously hastened it. The main splinter in my mind was the perverse compulsory optimism here in the west. Perverse because of its denial of reality, not least, my own. And this is intentional. The hermeneutics of suspicion is a natural outgrowth for those who have a hermeneutic framing of reality. They made that splinter intolerable. How can schizoid traits not follow?
About shifting. my psychologist says that I have anxiety disorder. But I am sure that under the pressure of anxiety I will be an evil... As you said: When you are weak you are an evil
mini is triggering me now , because i was in a really bad place where i was mortified so started watching your videos , i have to forward mini break ....great explanation about self states
Wow Dr Sam , this video is a mind opener. I am very interested about the perception of time of the NPDs and BPDs vs the Bipolar. But I can’t see the link you talked about in the description. I will have to come back to this video again and again . Thank you.
Dysregulation can also accompany triggering of ptsd and the limbic states that occur in adults doing childhood trauma work, any possibility that this connects to the switching and dysregulation you attribute to the cluster b personalities? I know for adult survivors of childhood abuse that revisiting those experiences can impact identity as well, with or without a formal dx of ptsd.
The pwBPD I know has one social media profile for each personality she has, she changes from one to other when she switches on. Certanly one is like a psychopath and histrionic other is quiet other is childish. The way you test the true about Vaknin says is knowing a BPD for a Long time.
It seems a large part of my identity solidified between the ages of 6-8 for me, with other parts in constant flux, does that mean I almost surely have NPD?
Dr. Vaknin, have you seen anything related to a correlation between intermittent fasting (as an inhibition strategy) and the covert borderline? (Not that there’s a “the”, but you know what I mean).
This is interesting. I often go long periods without food and feel much more stable emotionally due to this. By long periods l mean usually a peach day l eat once and not much. Very interesting. Tell me what you’ve observed ?
I'm a bit confused when you say people with cluster B personality disorders have different in Altered States and remember but they don't have continuity of memory so they don't feel responsible because they don't associate themselves with what they did a week ago. Yet you say they do remember and what they do in their self States where person with multiple personalities has complete amnesia between these States. The biggest problem with having multiple personality disorder and you don't know that you have it people tell you remember this and you don't remember or they say you did this and you're completely sure you did not do this. When I first found out I had this multiple personality thing I remember back the first grade when you're learning to write and my teacher brought me out to the hallway where up on the board she had put children's writing and she wanted me to look at mine and she had two of them up there and she said what do you see and I looked at both of them and I didn't understand what she meant what I'm like what and she pointed to one of them and she said, see, you can write good if you want to. And I looked at both of them and I realized there was a big difference. One was like an adult had written it while the other one was very childlike and I was confused completely wondering how did I do that because I wanted to write like that. But once you learn you have did you can never truthfully say if someone says you did this or you said this you can never truthfully and honestly say no way. And in this way my children learn to manipulate my different personalities and me because if they said I said something I couldn't be sure if I did or if I didn't so subsequently anything anybody tells me I did or said something I'm not sure anymore so I just take responsibility for everything.
This helped me get over a hurdle to process a scary memory. I can let go, because it was not real. It was not sincere communication; I was misleaded and can go find my way back now. Thank you 🌹
I can't tell you how many times I've heard that sentence. "What do you want me to do?" My borderline and I have an appointment in court next month.
My secondary psychopath is very protective over me. I’m starting to become aware of her. She ruins my life, she’s so protective and needs no one.
Sam this discontinuous experience is a real relavation for me. I can go through hours of the day and i feel like i cant recall what happened throughout the day even though i know what i did. Its a real disconnection from what has happened. Its an awful life to lead. Meaningless and without any real purpose. Having no core self is truly a punishment from the gods
I feel for you. I relate. At times the awareness of having no object constancy “within” myself nor “without” is so excruciating as to have no words to describe. The fact that there is Sam here as well as folk like you who understand is probably the reason which keeps me from taking steps to physically self annihilate. Thank you for writing.
This makes me think of ZELIG, a great mockumentary by Woody Allen. I was in a relationship with a "Zelig" for almost 10 years and it was very confusing. Thank you Professor Vaknin. Now I understand better that "person" and myself.
So glad you went over Baudrillard and Debord. Their work really messed me up necessarily. It was inevitable, but they viciously hastened it. The main splinter in my mind was the perverse compulsory optimism here in the west. Perverse because of its denial of reality, not least, my own. And this is intentional. The hermeneutics of suspicion is a natural outgrowth for those who have a hermeneutic framing of reality. They made that splinter intolerable. How can schizoid traits not follow?
About shifting. my psychologist says that I have anxiety disorder. But I am sure that under the pressure of anxiety I will be an evil... As you said: When you are weak you are an evil
mini is triggering me now , because i was in a really bad place where i was mortified so started watching your videos , i have to forward mini break ....great explanation about self states
Wow Dr Sam , this video is a mind opener. I am very interested about the perception of time of the NPDs and BPDs vs the Bipolar. But I can’t see the link you talked about in the description. I will have to come back to this video again and again . Thank you.
Dysregulation can also accompany triggering of ptsd and the limbic states that occur in adults doing childhood trauma work, any possibility that this connects to the switching and dysregulation you attribute to the cluster b personalities? I know for adult survivors of childhood abuse that revisiting those experiences can impact identity as well, with or without a formal dx of ptsd.
The pwBPD I know has one social media profile for each personality she has, she changes from one to other when she switches on. Certanly one is like a psychopath and histrionic other is quiet other is childish. The way you test the true about Vaknin says is knowing a BPD for a Long time.
It seems a large part of my identity solidified between the ages of 6-8 for me, with other parts in constant flux, does that mean I almost surely have NPD?
Dr. Vaknin, have you seen anything related to a correlation between intermittent fasting (as an inhibition strategy) and the covert borderline? (Not that there’s a “the”, but you know what I mean).
This is interesting. I often go long periods without food and feel much more stable emotionally due to this. By long periods l mean usually a peach day l eat once and not much. Very interesting. Tell me what you’ve observed ?
I wonder how many actors are narcissists? Thoughts?
Nearly all actors, or people living in Hollywood and involved in the biz definitely have narcissistic traits.
Can you post the link to the article about time?
samvak.tripod.com/time.html
@@nothingnessnonarcissism thank you
I'm a bit confused when you say people with cluster B personality disorders have different in Altered States and remember but they don't have continuity of memory so they don't feel responsible because they don't associate themselves with what they did a week ago. Yet you say they do remember and what they do in their self States where person with multiple personalities has complete amnesia between these States. The biggest problem with having multiple personality disorder and you don't know that you have it people tell you remember this and you don't remember or they say you did this and you're completely sure you did not do this. When I first found out I had this multiple personality thing I remember back the first grade when you're learning to write and my teacher brought me out to the hallway where up on the board she had put children's writing and she wanted me to look at mine and she had two of them up there and she said what do you see and I looked at both of them and I didn't understand what she meant what I'm like what and she pointed to one of them and she said, see, you can write good if you want to. And I looked at both of them and I realized there was a big difference. One was like an adult had written it while the other one was very childlike and I was confused completely wondering how did I do that because I wanted to write like that. But once you learn you have did you can never truthfully say if someone says you did this or you said this you can never truthfully and honestly say no way. And in this way my children learn to manipulate my different personalities and me because if they said I said something I couldn't be sure if I did or if I didn't so subsequently anything anybody tells me I did or said something I'm not sure anymore so I just take responsibility for everything.
The dissociation in personality disorders is pointlike and pertains to specific biographical events. In most forms of DID, it is total.
@@nothingnessnonarcissism That is scary. I just saw this just now. Or at least this me just saw it.
I wonder how many covert narcissists were born in 2020 lol
@@ANGEL-eh6pd i meet dozens of pathologically self absorbed women on tinder every week.
I just want to state I know nothing so I wont comment ;)
LMAO.
Love this. Thanks. I got much from your honesty and audacious contradiction of it ! Love this