"People don't say who they are, they do who they are." Powerful words And yes, the "benefit of the doubt" needs to be checked when it comes to certain things :-)
I totally agree with you. Why should we burden others with trust? An expectation that they have to meet for us to feel safe? No trust is not necessary in relationships. It is up to us to trust ourselves, our own instincts to keep ourselves safe. Trust in others not required. Trust in ourselves absolutely necessary.
Wow, I've seen dozens of trust videos to find some kind of comfort or answer in this new relationship I've recently gotten into with my girlfriend, and this one hit the nail on the head. Best one I've seen with the most valuable advice. But my gut and body has been telling me exactly what she's saying, and she's sooooo right!!! Thank you, a million times!!!
you're an amazing person-thank you for being in our lives! I really needed you in my life and really needed to hear this, thank you so much for being a light in my life.
I must say Sheila i so needed you some years ago... However i now know i can look you up and find that very issue i'm dealing with and boom there you are... Thank you so much.. I watched several of your videos and you have helped me tremendously.. Keep being that Beacon of blessings with the knowledge that God has given you... I thank you....
This video is great! Such a necessary alternative to the videos painting wariness as detrimental. I reserve trust for those that deserve it; I have a wealth, but I keep it for those who show themselves worthy, and I do Not give it out lightly. I've come to this position after 22 years of life; it's become readily apparent to me that many people can't handle the responsibility of trust, or are opportunistic, or just plain stupid or dangerous. Thanks for the words and perspective. Subscribed. :)
I have trust issues / too too nice, and at first I felt bad for having them until I came across your video. Your video is a blessing for me! I needed to hear this now I know how to deal better with myself and others when it comes to my trust issues thanks so much for all you do and your straight forward from the heart wisdom videos.
Thanks so much for this video. I really needed to hear this today. I don't consider myself to be a person with trust issues, but if there's one thing I've learned in life, it's that the only person you can really ever rely on is yourself. Sad but true. It's confusing when you want to be loyal to nice people that you really care about. God bless you.
Yes! I find your style very charismatic and helpful. I heard it said, one's trust is a gift to be treasured and earned; not given away without warrant. This quote has helped me realize just how precious my personal life stories are and how easliy I gave mine away. Well, I am working on it. Your videos are genuine and attractive, and you seem quite intuitive. Thanks for being real and sharing your gift to remind myself and others what my bounderies are, no matter how I ignored them yesterday, and this is so important in todays selfish world, to honor and respectfully treat and protect myself, because it is more than an attitude, it is necessary, and a responsibility.
Excellent video, and the title alone is enough to be life changing. If you are not trusting someone, don't work to trust them, trust your gut and MOVE ON!
The Spritual Soul talking to you starts as a gut feeling, many times it's like a sick feeling. It'll then move to the Chest Heart area, but the Mind will Always intervene, but if you want Truth Love & Light in your life clear that mind it'll confuse you and invent scenarios that haven't happened. I was drawn to a stranger in the Gym who turned out to be a Shaman, and WOW after seeing him for the 1st time I couldn't NOT tell the Truth, and told my wife of 16 years EVERYTHING, but weirdly she was calm and listened for the 1st time EVER. Since 8 months ago he's become a lived friend and my whole family has changed, from agnostics to true believers in the Universe and great sprit, it's a magical experience, I can truly feel when my Soul wants to speak now, it hits me in my chest and I just know to NOT listen to my inventive mind, but to speak truth. Thankyou for your upload, and I pray your path opens up before you, and the Christ consciousness lights your way. Love & Light Steve White horse.❤☀️🐎
Thank you for that video, really. I have trust issues. When you said about that little voice that you weren't listening, the same happened to me. I was ignoring it, thinking "oh this is not good from me, i'm making a judgement over this person even tho i don't know him/her". Truth is that little voice weren't wrong. It is not judgement, but intuition, or spirits guide. Now I do listen to it. When they tell me "be careful", I double my prudence, and believe me, I have what I call a powerful 3rd eye to see through people (litterally speaking). You were so right about "all that glitter is not gold". My biggest weakness in the past was to letting people entering to my field and trusting them because they were giving me affection and attention to screw me up afterwards. Now, even the entire world could tell me "that person loves you", I wouldn't believe it until the concerned person prooves it right in front of me, and I would definitely know at that moment with my gut instinct. I love what you say : "people don't say who they are, they do who they are". This is so true. Words are just words. Actions, however, say more than pretty lyrics made to put you in illusions in the goal to fuck you up or suck you dry afterwards. Thanks again, really. You are a big help.
All so very true! You also don't treat people the way you'd like to be treated (giving blind trust). You treat people you don't know well like people you don't know well, in the context of trust giving of course. I think so many people get confused by that outdated 'golden rule.'
Good Point: I have paid the price of giving a not so good person the benefit of the doubt. It costs. The price of the benefit of doubt is paid in stress, anxiety , loss of sleep. .
The predators are mostly cluster B people like NPD (narcissistic personality disorder) and Borderline NPD. There is a lot of info on UA-cam about how to recognise their behaviours and these predators. This is a very good info provided here. Many thanks
Hi Shelia would you please do a video on how to handle people who call you with dramma. Or could you do a video on how to prevent people from worming their way into your life. I am interested in how to handle people like this.
It make totally sense... I thought I had a gift cause every feeling I had was almost right... And Sometimes I Thought I just had Trust Issues. But that feeling in your Body (I call it a bad Vibe) Is almost always right. I was blaming myself for some relationships but It make sense that their was something wrong with them and not myself Cause when I digged deeper I always found the answer for my feelings... Welcome to 2016
i love your work and honesty...what about people that say feelings aren't facts?...i think feelings count.... how would you respond with the statement feelings aren't facts?
I love you. I knew I could trust you because of my gut. LOL You btw are a very striking woman, truly beautiful inside and out. I appreciate beauty weather it is a flower, a person, or a sunset.(not flirting, married, female, straight).
Preditor is my x husband! Where we're u like 7 years ago!!! Yes protecting and fight for my Girls!!💕 I know now I made the wrong choice. They should be called weasels instead of preditors.
trust you?!?! i dont even KNOW you. i spent 7min watching another vid of yours but other than that, i have no idea what kind of person you are. thanks for posting this. great books about this- In Sheep's Clothing: Understanding and Dealing with Manipulative People by George K. Simon Jr.- George Simon has some really good vids on here about trust/manipulation/character damaged people etc. thanks again. one small problem that is going to lead lots of good non-manipulative people- like doesnt attract like- opposites attract- thats why if you are a normal person- "nice" which is slightly neurotic, you will attract character damaged people because they arent attracted to other character damaged people because you cant manipulate character damaged people easily if at all, neurotic people are the ones who are easily manipulated, so therefore you will inevitably attract character damaged people like a magnet fits with another magnet- not the magnet that is like it, but the magnet that is the reverse image of itself.
nice (adj.) Look up nice at Dictionary.com late 13c., "foolish, stupid, senseless," from Old French nice (12c.) "careless, clumsy; weak; poor, needy; simple, stupid, silly, foolish," from Latin nescius "ignorant, unaware," literally "not-knowing," from ne- "not" (see un- (1)) + stem of scire "to know" (see science). "The sense development has been extraordinary, even for an adj." [Weekley] -- from "timid" (pre-1300); to "fussy, fastidious" (late 14c.); to "dainty, delicate" (c. 1400); to "precise, careful" (1500s, preserved in such terms as a nice distinction and nice and early); to "agreeable, delightful" (1769); to "kind, thoughtful" (1830).
"People don't say who they are, they do who they are." Powerful words
And yes, the "benefit of the doubt" needs to be checked when it comes to certain things :-)
Thank God for this vid. I just saved $89.99 in therapy payments. I had 2 ”ahh ha” moments watching this. I'm a new fan.
I totally agree with you. Why should we burden others with trust? An expectation that they have to meet for us to feel safe? No trust is not necessary in relationships. It is up to us to trust ourselves, our own instincts to keep ourselves safe. Trust in others not required. Trust in ourselves absolutely necessary.
You are awesome ! This video confirms that I am not a Looney but a cautious critically thinking person...
....this woman understands our society in 2016.
THANK YOU! I've watched 2 of your videos so far and I can't say enough how much they helped!!! :)
Wow, I've seen dozens of trust videos to find some kind of comfort or answer in this new relationship I've recently gotten into with my girlfriend, and this one hit the nail on the head. Best one I've seen with the most valuable advice. But my gut and body has been telling me exactly what she's saying, and she's sooooo right!!! Thank you, a million times!!!
+bls001 Thank you kindly..please continue to follow your instincts.You can't go wrong!
you're an amazing person-thank you for being in our lives! I really needed you in my life and really needed to hear this, thank you so much for being a light in my life.
I must say Sheila i so needed you some years ago... However i now know i can look you up and find that very issue i'm dealing with and boom there you are... Thank you so much.. I watched several of your videos and you have helped me tremendously.. Keep being that Beacon of blessings with the knowledge that God has given you... I thank you....
This video is great! Such a necessary alternative to the videos painting wariness as detrimental.
I reserve trust for those that deserve it; I have a wealth, but I keep it for those who show themselves worthy, and I do Not give it out lightly. I've come to this position after 22 years of life; it's become readily apparent to me that many people can't handle the responsibility of trust, or are opportunistic, or just plain stupid or dangerous.
Thanks for the words and perspective. Subscribed. :)
I have trust issues / too too nice, and at first I felt bad for having them until I came across your video. Your video is a blessing for me! I needed to hear this now I know how to deal better with myself and others when it comes to my trust issues thanks so much for all you do and your straight forward from the heart wisdom videos.
Thanks so much for this video. I really needed to hear this today. I don't consider myself to be a person with trust issues, but if there's one thing I've learned in life, it's that the only person you can really ever rely on is yourself. Sad but true. It's confusing when you want to be loyal to nice people that you really care about. God bless you.
Amen! I knew most of this, but God has lead me here to let me know that I am right!
Yes! I find your style very charismatic and helpful. I heard it said, one's trust is a gift to be treasured and earned; not given away without warrant. This quote has helped me realize just how precious my personal life stories are and how easliy I gave mine away. Well, I am working on it. Your videos are genuine and attractive, and you seem quite intuitive. Thanks for being real and sharing your gift to remind myself and others what my bounderies are, no matter how I ignored them yesterday, and this is so important in todays selfish world, to honor and respectfully treat and protect myself, because it is more than an attitude, it is necessary, and a responsibility.
Thank you as a person and a clinician. People talk on youtube but don't mention p.a. which should not have been deleted in the dsm 5.
Excellent video, and the title alone is enough to be life changing. If you are not trusting someone, don't work to trust them, trust your gut and MOVE ON!
The Spritual Soul talking to you starts as a gut feeling, many times it's like a sick feeling.
It'll then move to the Chest Heart area, but the Mind will Always intervene, but if you want Truth Love & Light in your life clear that mind it'll confuse you and invent scenarios that haven't happened.
I was drawn to a stranger in the Gym who turned out to be a Shaman, and WOW after seeing him for the 1st time I couldn't NOT tell the Truth, and told my wife of 16 years EVERYTHING, but weirdly she was calm and listened for the 1st time EVER.
Since 8 months ago he's become a lived friend and my whole family has changed, from agnostics to true believers in the Universe and great sprit, it's a magical experience, I can truly feel when my Soul wants to speak now, it hits me in my chest and I just know to NOT listen to my inventive mind, but to speak truth.
Thankyou for your upload, and I pray your path opens up before you, and the Christ consciousness lights your way.
Love & Light Steve White horse.❤☀️🐎
Love your words-- People DO WHO THEY ARE!! Thanks !!
Yes you are a light in my life this Saturday morning
Thank you for that video, really.
I have trust issues.
When you said about that little voice that you weren't listening, the same happened to me. I was ignoring it, thinking "oh this is not good from me, i'm making a judgement over this person even tho i don't know him/her". Truth is that little voice weren't wrong. It is not judgement, but intuition, or spirits guide.
Now I do listen to it. When they tell me "be careful", I double my prudence, and believe me, I have what I call a powerful 3rd eye to see through people (litterally speaking).
You were so right about "all that glitter is not gold".
My biggest weakness in the past was to letting people entering to my field and trusting them because they were giving me affection and attention to screw me up afterwards.
Now, even the entire world could tell me "that person loves you", I wouldn't believe it until the concerned person prooves it right in front of me, and I would definitely know at that moment with my gut instinct.
I love what you say : "people don't say who they are, they do who they are". This is so true. Words are just words. Actions, however, say more than pretty lyrics made to put you in illusions in the goal to fuck you up or suck you dry afterwards.
Thanks again, really. You are a big help.
All so very true! You also don't treat people the way you'd like to be treated (giving blind trust). You treat people you don't know well like people you don't know well, in the context of trust giving of course. I think so many people get confused by that outdated 'golden rule.'
Wow , you are so right!!!! Didn't believe it few times and regretted later
You are so right. We stay because we want to make sure.
A good video!..... ACTIONS SPEAKS... WORDS ARE POINTLESS
On point!!! Really enjoy your inner wisdom
thank you soo much
God bless you
I have trust issues that was driving me crazy
+King Hanad Trust yourself! and stay encouraged...
Totally needed to hear something like this again, thanks!
Thank you, Sheila! I needed to hear this. Stay on mission.❤️
thanks for a great message. Love all your videos! I watch on my tv with roku so don't always hit 'like', but your work is so helpful
Yes, listen to your gut! It could save your life!!
Subtle change from on to with changes everything!
Great insight.
Good Point: I have paid the price of giving a not so good person the benefit of the doubt.
It costs. The price of the benefit of doubt is paid in stress, anxiety , loss of sleep.
.
Love this wonderful ladies vids rarely do I find this any where.
Thank you so much
well said, this has being a big help to me.
Need to hear this. good video
Thanks Kyle...
thank you, trust is key and peace of mind, God bless
This is soo true! It even says that cursed be a man who trusts in men.
Can you do a video on listening to your intuition & perhaps some steps that we can take to be more in tune with our intuition?
The predators are mostly cluster B people like NPD (narcissistic personality disorder) and Borderline NPD. There is a lot of info on UA-cam about how to recognise their behaviours and these predators. This is a very good info provided here. Many thanks
Thanks for the great advice!
Well said well written and truth..
Hi Shelia thank you for responding to my request
I really like this and much needed. Thank you!
+Beauty By Kioko Thanks for your support!
Hi Shelia would you please do a video on how to handle people who call you with dramma. Or could you do a video on how to prevent people from worming their way into your life. I am interested in how to handle people like this.
It make totally sense... I thought I had a gift cause every feeling I had was almost right... And Sometimes I Thought I just had Trust Issues. But that feeling in your Body (I call it a bad Vibe) Is almost always right. I was blaming myself for some relationships but It make sense that their was something wrong with them and not myself Cause when I digged deeper I always found the answer for my feelings... Welcome to 2016
I just found you vids today thank you it is nice to get advice. Esp from a woman of color wish i could me you thank you its like a big sis vib
Once you trust yourself you will be ok with trusting anything else.
Thank you so much this Video does really help me.
I get so sick of people saying that you love me you would trust me lol
i love your work and honesty...what about people that say feelings aren't facts?...i think feelings count.... how would you respond with the statement feelings aren't facts?
you are a light in my life sheila.
I like your videos. Keep up the good work
This is soooo good. ❤️❤❤️
I get it, like find a balance!
You trusted the person. So much But the person still cheating so what the trust stand for...
God Bless You
+Jeanica2Natural Thank you and you as well...
Thank you
Thank you!
So true
Man always had this problem I got bitten snakes but I'm over it now but my trust guard is really build up ..
where can we get personal advice?
so true!
She is a beauty and intelligent.
You're so kind. Thank you for supporting the channel!
I love you. I knew I could trust you because of my gut. LOL You btw are a very striking woman, truly beautiful inside and out. I appreciate beauty weather it is a flower, a person, or a sunset.(not flirting, married, female, straight).
Still small voice... oh so important! Any time I don't listen to it ? I am very sorry!
Amen 💪🙏💕😘
Preditor is my x husband! Where we're u like 7 years ago!!! Yes protecting and fight for my Girls!!💕 I know now I made the wrong choice. They should be called weasels instead of preditors.
there is always 2 voices
preach!!!!!!!!
trust you?!?! i dont even KNOW you. i spent 7min watching another vid of yours but other than that, i have no idea what kind of person you are. thanks for posting this. great books about this- In Sheep's Clothing: Understanding and Dealing with Manipulative People by George K. Simon Jr.- George Simon has some really good vids on here about trust/manipulation/character damaged people etc. thanks again. one small problem that is going to lead lots of good non-manipulative people- like doesnt attract like- opposites attract- thats why if you are a normal person- "nice" which is slightly neurotic, you will attract character damaged people because they arent attracted to other character damaged people because you cant manipulate character damaged people easily if at all, neurotic people are the ones who are easily manipulated, so therefore you will inevitably attract character damaged people like a magnet fits with another magnet- not the magnet that is like it, but the magnet that is the reverse image of itself.
nice (adj.) Look up nice at Dictionary.com
late 13c., "foolish, stupid, senseless," from Old French nice (12c.) "careless, clumsy; weak; poor, needy; simple, stupid, silly, foolish," from Latin nescius "ignorant, unaware," literally "not-knowing," from ne- "not" (see un- (1)) + stem of scire "to know" (see science). "The sense development has been extraordinary, even for an adj." [Weekley] -- from "timid" (pre-1300); to "fussy, fastidious" (late 14c.); to "dainty, delicate" (c. 1400); to "precise, careful" (1500s, preserved in such terms as a nice distinction and nice and early); to "agreeable, delightful" (1769); to "kind, thoughtful" (1830).