A song about not feeling ready to come out 🏳️🌈
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"I know I am loved to my core / Even if not by the ones I hoped for" is such a tremendously powerful line and is hitting me right in the solar plexus. To get just a little personal about it, I had a very bad (bordering on traumatic) experience my first time in therapy this year, and that lyric, hearing it, did so much more for me than my therapist was capable of. Thank you, Malinda. You made me feel seen with this one. 💓
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All the lyrics of this song are absolutely stunning
It reminds me the powerful and sensitive lyrics of the golden age, 60 and 70st
My heart breaks for you. As an advocate and ally who is also a therapist, I want to say I am so so sorry to hear of poor your experience in therapy. This song moved me to tears. Please know, you are seen and very loved.
You are enough, you are loved xxx
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I remember when my son came out to me I just gave him a hug and let him know that it changed nothing .That he is my son and I will always love him.
Guido I am proud of you for being an accepting parent. Many kids do not have that.
genuinely one of the best reactions any of us can hope for: no drama, no cheesy talks on how "love is love" (appreciated, really, but unnecessary most of the times tbh) and, of course, no rejection. thanks for sharing ❤️
I was so happy to read this! Atleast your child can feel safe and welcome and accepted not having to worry like a lot still do today.... wish everyone was like this❤
I'm still not ready to come out to my parents, they're answer would most likely be "You're too young for that"
@@thecollector2887 i totally understand your feeling/thoughts about that! It's scary for everyone and a big thing to tell your parents about! U never know how they will react/what they will answer and if they will be ok with it. I mean they probably will be(i hope so atleast) but still it's scary! Hope u will ever feel confident and save enough to tell them! ❤
I'm straight but I love this song. No one should be scared to be who they are.
That song, it's also reached deep inside me. My brother died in late April. I'm still grieving and it seems like everyone else has gotten over his death except for one of my sisters. I can't let go of him. I loved him so much. I'M NOT THERE YET and I don't know if I will ever be.
I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. Love in all it's seasons always changes us. ((hugs))
My condolences. 💔 Everybody grieves in their own way and time and that's okay! I hope, you have people around you, you can talk to. A friend of mine lost her brother on christmas 2 years ago. She went to a support group for people who lost siblings for a while and talking through her feelings with people who know the pain helped her. I regularly talk to my mom, we lost her mom a year ago and it seems we are the only people who still grieve. Know, you are not alone and you are strong!
Sending my condolences. The grief is yours, just as your brother was yours and your other siblings are yours. There are no rules. It's good to know there is still such love in the world. May you heal and grow.
You be you. Take your time to process this. My dad died in 2002 and I don't think I've processed it even to this day. Just take your time and let the grieving process kick in when it wants to. It will come.
This song is so beautiful.
I'm walking my daughter down the aisle in July when she marries her girlfriend and I'm going to be so very proud, to all those struggling I know it is one of the hardest decisions ever ... be strong and good luck
Love and support are fundamental. She’s a lucky gal. Hope she made you proud.
As a 73 year old straight man, I love all of my brothers and sisters and pray we all be strong together. Bless you for this song!
My parents hate me. Not for being pansexual, but still for who I am as a person. To the point I had to stop talking to them and have to protect my children from them. Your comment made me cry. Thank you for being a kind person
@@janavanbellingen8531 I parent ppl for no reason. I’m your parent now
@@janavanbellingen8531 make sure too eat and hydrate- and do the one thing I cannot. Sleep.
@@janavanbellingen8531 Also hugs
@@spectrumriptechnobladeo7759 You are wonderful and I hope you know that
I am 26 and live in a conservative country. No one in my family knows I'm gay. I know that they'll never accept me. I've always known deep inside. That's why I made it my dream to move to Canada since I was 16. I am finally moving there this December 💗
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CONGRATULATIONS!!!
You shouldn't have to run in order to be accepted. But I just wanted to tell you I accept you for who you are. From Alabama sending you lots of hugs n love -sandra
Thank you so much!! I really appreciate it
@@Bhawna03 you're welcome honey if u need someone to talk to u can get a hold of me on here
My grandma passed away before I told her that I am bisexual, and this song makes me feel more at peace with that fact. As much as I regret not having told her, I wasn't ready yet
My condolences on the loss of Your Grandmother. My Mamma passed away, this Spring. People communicate a lot when they die. First, they communicate that they are entirely complete with their lives. There’s nothing they need to do or experience or become. The second thing follows from the first. She loves You completely, absolutely, and without judgement. Anything left incomplete in Your relationship is Yours to complete. You can have an ongoing relationship with the persistent value of Your Grandmother, one that will last until Your Life is complete. ❤
Your comment made me feel better. My mom is dying soon and I've told her I'm asexual, but not yet that I'm also aromantic and agender. I know she would accept me, but I'm just not ready to tell her yet. You made me realise it's okay not to push myself to do anything I'm not ready for, and I'm sure my mom will understand
I had the same thing happen to me. I never got the chance to tell my grandma I’m trans, and I can definitely sympathize.
@@theastralcircus I am non-binary, but I was still pretty deeply closeted at the time of my grandma's passing
So sorry to lose your grandma, and it's okay. I bed she k ew it already... grandma's have special sensors. I know as I am a grandmother. It is not sad you didn't told her. As you weren't ready to. She would understand, that's what grandma's do... being there for there grandchildren... you can still tell her... she is still with you. I am sure if that. She will always be in your heart... and in times of need she will put her hand on your shoulder... if you look out for it... you will see or feel it... you never alone anymore she is watching over you... 😘
The sad reality of this world is that there are places where coming out is literally not an option if you want to stay safe … or even alive. But there is *this* place, the internet, where most people can go and be their most authentic selves - and be loved for it.
Thank you for this wonderful song, Malinda!
So true. I guess if I should go to Saudi Arabia, I am in prison right away. I am so happy I was born in Belgium where no-one cares what you are. Beside, why we should irl, label ourself. I never heard a straight person say, hey I am Malika and I am a lesbian, or hey I am Tom and I am homo. I go somewhere and I say hey I am Malika. And I present them my wife. Like straights are doing. I only see human beings. Not what sexe they are or what sexe they like. Who they live with, I don't care. It is not important to me. And surely in countries where it is dangerous. I can only think of 1 word of advice... leave the country... run... even it means you have start over again...
The world is a gard place to live. Not even for people from the lbgt community. Also when you are a refugee, have another skincolor, another religion... if you are not the straight white catholic man or woman you get it harder... I find it so sad... we only have a small time on this planet. Why making it difficult for people to live the way they want... it is so sad...
Internet is toxic too😐
È vero ci sono alcuni posti nel mondo , ma anche alcune zone di uno stesso paese , da cui per poter essere se stessi e vivere bisogna andar via , è triste a dirsi ma oggettivamente in realtà è esattamente così
Wwhile yes its good that we have our safe communities online (trans guy omnisexual and ambiamorous) where we can hangout and be authentically us it doesnt change the fact of another way of wording that is that we live in such a crappy world we have to hide behind screens to be us
as a lesbian who was forced to come out by a loved one this feels like disinfecting a fresh wound. it hurts so bad but it also feels like i’m gonna be ok. thank you
Your so strong you got this girl
That person might not have waited for you but the world and the others you'll meet will be kind and wait im sure ❤ Im sorry that happened to you and im happy for you that you've found a song that helps you
@@Acorn905 wait it’s been a year but i actually really needed to hear that thank you 🫶
Thank you Malinda. This is exactly the message we need out there in the world right now. You are an awesome person and a talent without measure. You had me crying because I know of some people who have been through this and it isn't easy. Your song summed up what so many people feel when they are going through this. So I, for the many that will or won't get to see this, say thanks.
As a closeted bisexual, this song makes me feel understood and safe. Even though not everyone will accept me for who I am, I know there are people who will love and support me the way I am. I'm just glad I'm not lying to myself anymore. Thank u for creating this song, Malinda 💖💜💙🏳️🌈🏳️🌈
I agree
Well you can’t be closeted anymore now that you posted this
@@berettaroadchronicles9637 being bisexual means being attracted to one's own gender and some other gender/genders. Also, I'm not straight as I've already specified above. Hope this helps!
I relate to what you said, and honor your courage in communicating it here.
@@lisa_wistfulone7957 thank u
Again and again.
I was at the same age. At the age 13, my world yas changed when I confessed this to myself first. The same butterflies, in my stomach. For another woman. Years passed, and I am living my life with this pride, in comfort.
Thanks, Malinda.
I got a little teary eyed listening to this and I'm not sure why. It is a beautiful song and the message behind it is even more beautiful. You inspire so many people to just be who they are. The world needs angels like you.🥺❤️❤️
This honestly made me cry, but in a good way. It reminded me just how lucky I am as a trans woman to be accepted by so many people in my life. This song is gorgeous and so impactful, thank you 💖💙🤍
And you are goregeous as well 💖💙🤍
@@s.pavlik Awww, thank you 🥰
@@paullacamera8873 I'm doing pretty good, hope you're having a good day kind stranger.
I'm happy to hear you've got all that support; it's *so* important and it always makes me happy to hear my siblings in queerness can count on it. Trans rights are human rights, sister 💙💖🤍💖💙
@@paullacamera8873 she doesn't owe you attention.
I didn't know I was aromantic and asexual until I was 20. I spent most of my teenage years knowing I was queer, but not knowing what identity belonged to me and worried because I had to have one. But this song reminds me it was okay not to have one yet. I had never even heard of my identity until I was 19, so how could I possibly have come out as me? I'm still on a journey of coming out and there will probably be many people in my family I'll never feel safe coming out to, but that's okay, I don't have to if I'm not ready
I just want to let you know, you're not alone
know how it feels, 19 ace heteroromantic and i've always been confused/ told myself i'd grow out of it but recently began to accept that is not the case
As we grow, we find more labels that fit. It's ok to not have found one. Some people don't have labels an. It's fine. Some people *want* labels tho, and they'll find them. :)
Zelf ben ik hetero, maar voor iedereen moet het normaal zijn, Lesbisch, homo, Gender! De wereld hoort jullie allen te accepteren zoals jullie zijn 🌹Als je er klaar voor bent en het klimaat is goed kom voor je sekse uit, je word door de meerderheid geaccepteerd 💎💎🦾🦾
24 and I only found out I'm ace a couple of weeks ago. I didn't know this identity existed either but I did feel different for the longest time, specially when I started a relationship. It was so refreshing knowing that I'm not alone in what I feel/think and that there's a name for it. It was draining not knowing what was going on with me, so now I'm taking my time to accept and understand it and let it sink in, and I'm definitely "not there yet" to tell some people about it, starting with my family. But I'm also learning that it's ok to not be there yet.
I wish you all the best on your own journeys.
In my humble opinion you created an important and beautiful piece of art. Thank you. Working as a primary school teacher these days, I met some amazing human beings struggling with the situation you describe in the song. And I`m sure this song will mean the world to some of those that stumble on it. And it is sure going to help a few others trying to understand.
Gods I wished I had heard this when I was younger I finally came out bi when I was near 30 I'm 37 and my parents finally accepted me for me and who I loved and will love.
I've been slowly realizing I'm lgbtq+ over the past few years, but i haven't felt ready to fully come out to my family. Your music has helped me cope with so much, and i just wanted to say thank you for everything you do. this song is beautiful and it makes me feel so safe... thank you, Malinda🎵🌈❤💜💙✨
As a queer person with a conservative Christian family, it’s hard being out. But you and this song gives me hope for the future, when I can finally move out of my parents house and be the person I want to be. Thank you for this, and I’m so proud of you! 🏳️🌈🏳️🌈
I was in your same boat about 15 years ago. I felt like I made a mistake coming out because of the reactions I got from different family members. But you’ll get through it just like I did and build a happy life for yourself! Whoever chooses to be a supportive part of your journey can come along. It gets better, friend! 💜🏳️🌈
Be strong... and I understand how you feel. I am a moslima. It isn't accepted at all. But stay strong and be happy. Try to make your own live kyah. As I don't understand what you mean by queer, I don't even care... what's in a name... I care for people not for labels. I dont care what my friends and family are. It's their actions that are important to me...
@@smol_boi88 I am happy for you you got true it. 👍
Big hugs and stay happy...
@@elgjeff no, you don't have to, you choose to parrot your indoctrinated gaslighting and misinformation.
@@charleswilson9480 god does not have a son. He is almighty. Jesus is a prophet like Adam and Moses and all the ones before... that is what I believe. And God made the humans. Without failures. So when a woman is attracted to another woman there is nothing wrong with that. The thing wich is forbidden is sodomie. And that is having sex in the backdoor. So whether you are a woman with a man or 2 man you can't have sex in the backdoor. Both nowhere in the whole Bible, nor in the qur'an is said that you can't love a woman as a woman. Nowhere... it is just made by straight men that are afraid that the woman they love will turn her back on them... so nope. Women can love women. Men can love men. It is a natural thing. That you even found in animals. I for sure would never in my live want to love a man anymore. Blah... noway. I live my wife and we are happy together. We don't do nothing wrong. And it's our responsibility. You can't say it is wrong. How would you feel to be forced to have to love a man???? I don't think you would be able to sleep at night. The same with me. I want the softness if my wife. The tender caring of my wife. And I don't want a man anymore. Been there done that. It was making me miserable. Now I am happy and content. Just look at your own path. Don't try to change the path of others. Didn't Jesus you worship so much said, who is without sin trow the first stone??? Wich mean that only God can decide what is right or wrong... not you. Or do you pretend to be God??? Just wondering.
This gave me chills...
it's so good.
Especially the line "I know that i am loved to my core, even if not by the ones I hoped for."
It resonates with me a LOT.
Just... this is a great song
@@Casper_Esmann well hello there bot.
Same
This is beautiful! As a gay man myself, I really appreciate you writing this masterpiece!
I hate to be immature like this but… 69 likes
UGH my annoying classmates have infected my brainnnnn!!!!
I genuinely apologize
This is absolutely marvelous! ❤This can definitely resonate with an extremely large group of people as they tend to hide their true self out of fear.😔 "It's ok, I'm not there yet" Take your time and the world will gladly wait until your ready to come out, or what ever you need to build confidence in. 🥰We care about you all being comfortable so we can wait as long as needed, and we will love you just the same.❤ (that was for those who need a safe space online🥰) Thank you for making this for all of us to hear and enjoy for many decades to come ❤ and thank you for showing us a part of yourself 🥰
This song touched on something so personal for me. It took me more than a decade to start coming out to people and even now it’s something I keep close to my chest. I never felt ready and a lot of the time I still don’t. This is an incredible song and exactly what I needed to hear today.
My 15 to 17 year old self would have really needed this song. I'm glad I made it out the other end, but it was a rough ride.
If there's one thing I can give as a experience not to be repeated is to only entrust people who can keep their mouth shut while you're still not completely ready yet. The way you can know this is by observing if either they gossip a lot or they share other people's secrets. If they do so, then that's a red flag and you shouldn't entrust that person. I've been outed twice by two friends, one real (by accident) another fake one (Mid-School once and High-School).
And you're not obligated to tell anyone, or they shouldn't make you feel like you need to tell them.
You know what? It's so ok, so good and so real to be whoever you want to be. If you are gay, trans, bi, or any other sex or gender does it really mean anything and who defines you as a person. I am a straight single dad raising a 10 year old special needs son. Alex looks at people and does not have the capacity to judge others. He accepts people. That's it! Please people just love and accept. Alex and Richard from Tasmania Australia 🇦🇺
Thankyou for making me smile ..... Your son is so lucky to have a father like you ♥️♥️
As someone who is trans and only out to select people, this song has me sobbing. I don't feel safe/well enough to come out openly in my area, and even though I accept myself and I have friends and family who accept me, some of the most important people in my life do not know, and it kind of drags on me. I've never commented on one of your songs before, but this one hit so hard that I felt that I had too. Makes it hard to spell right when you have tears in your eyes, but thank you nonetheless.
I give you a big hug... you will get there one day. Just know now that friends and family are there for you. In perhaps one day... and is it important that they know it? Ofcourse if you are in your changing fase they will know at 1 point. But if you are already in the body you need to be, is it important that they know. You are a woman or a man now. You are the person you suppose to be. So why telling people you were born in the wrong body. Here in Belgium, you can change even the gender on your passport. So... the moment you are transformed you are in the right body and you can live your live as a straight or gay person...
And like I said, if you aren't in the right body now, they will see you changing and find out eventually. And if a person that is very important for you can't accept it, it isn't the right person... you will get there. And be strong... one day you will be ready. Big hugs and I love you for the way you are my dear... stay strong... big hugs...
Im a semi-closeted trans as well, I also have time where I don’t feel safe to come out to some important people, though I hope to in about an hour. Let you know how that goes. Anyways, love you and I’m proud of both of us for getting this far ❤️❤️❤️❤️🫶🏻🫶🏻🫶🏻🫶🏻
Edit: I chickened out and didn’t say anything about it, but thanks for the support Malika
@@ollie.1564 go for it girl... I hope it went allright... big hugs
Also know that you never need to. If you want to go ahead, if it makes you proud say it loud. But if you don't feel safe/ready yet don't feel pressured to from anyone we are here to support you ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜🤎🖤🤍
Sending love from one trans person to another ❤️🏳️⚧️
I’m sitting here feeding my 8 week old this song makes me hope that I raise him knowing that whomever he turns out to be is okay and it’s okay to take his time getting there.
After 5 years of waiting, I went to my first pride this year. I was so excited but when I got there I cried. I was so overwhelmed and everyone was so loud and proud and I just couldn't be. I wanted to celebrate who I am but I need time. This is the song I needed (and still need) to hear. Thank you a million times for showing me I'm not alone, and it's ok, and it takes time. I'll get there when I'm good and ready, but in the meantime I'll work on being me quietly
As a proud Dad of a gay son, it makes me happy to hear this song. Many people have a hard time coming out and they need to know that they should do it when they’re comfortable. I think it’s nice to have a song that voices that sentiment.
Malinda is just this beacon of light and hope and goodness and I love her so much ❤️
Thank you. I don't know that I'll ever be able to be out of the closet with my families (even discussing asexuality has been met with denial), and this song is reassuring in that I don't have to be out to be valid.
Oh, honey, look - A NEW PRIDE JAM DROPPED for all of us who can't come out... yet. Yet is good. Happy Coming Out Day!
I've been out for a little over a year now but this still hits so deep for me... I think "the world can wait for me" is something that a lot of people should hear. Whether you choose to come out as soon as you know, or you take a long time to feel comfortable with it, or you never have a chance to tell some people, you are still completely valid ❤
This honestly made me tear up
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I came out in 2020 and even though it’s scary I’ve found it so worth it. Nobody ever has to come out until they are safe, or until they’re ready ❤
I’m so proud of you! 🫶🏻
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You know, I came back to this song because it hits a chord with me in the search for who I am.
Being stuck in the middle of my own conflict is so hard. My niece has been so kind in helping me figure out what is in my head, along with a therapist, and my 70 something Mom who totally understands me.
This song is so spring and thought provoking... Simply put, thank you.
Every time I find this, I’m in tears
I love this song, and how it represents and includes so many people. I’m straight, but I’ll always love the meaning behind this song. Malinda, you have such a beautiful voice, and I’ll forever love your music. ❤
I started my coming out journey at 18 (I’m now 22) and wish that I wasn’t afraid to show this part of myself. I been able to come out to my immediate family and close friends (all supportive) but I put on a sort of mask at work and around strangers out of fear. This song really struck a chord in me as I am somewhat out and would like to be fully out one day. Thank you so much Malinda for creating this from a fellow bi girl 💖💜💙🏳️🌈
Big hugs to you my dear... I know it is hard sometimes. But people that are hurting you aren't worthy of your attention. Keep people who are supportive close to you and the rest... let them be... big hugs...
Be true to thyself & never be ashamed for who you are!!! At the end of the day the only thing that matters is Love!!!💐💕💝🙏🏽
I'm aro, and I don't think I'll ever be able to come out to my extended family, at least not in words. I was so incredibly lucky that I have great friends who I can be authentic around, even if it took me nearly 28 years to do so, but I'll always know that for some people I'll always pretend to be straight. And that's ok.
Thank you for this beautiful song.
Thank you so much for putting this message out... I waited 46 years to say who I am & your music was a great inspiration!
I came out as nonbinary trans a few years ago to my friends and most of my family but haven't been able to transition much more than getting a haircut. Some day I would love to find a way to express my true self better but I am not there yet. In a lot of ways, transitioning is like coming out; it's helpful for a lot of people, not necessary to be your true you (especially if you're not safe to do so), and will always wait for you to be ready to do so.
I love all my LGBTQIA+ community members no matter who you are! 🏳️🌈
the amount of love in this song hits me right in the feels. there are millions of people who love you, you just haven't met them yet.
I am here to offer virtual mom hugs to anyone who needs them. Further, I offer personal empathy to anyone who’s “not there yet.”
Malinda, I’ve been enjoying your songs for several years, but this is one that that I love so much it causes my heart to leak from my eyes.
My mom was gay, and when my older daughter told me she’s ace, and a couple years later when my younger teen came out as trans/nonbinary, there was no doubt about whether I would accept both my kids, celebrate their self-awareness, and love them as much as always. Inspired by them & wanting to support them both, I started learning (even more) about queer identities and expression and experience. And finally, at the age of 53, I came to realize and understand that I myself am bisexual/omnisexual. I’ve told the members of my family I’m closest to, and a couple close friends - and I’m not worried about others knowing, if it happens to come up. But I haven’t quite figured out exactly what being “fully out” would look like to me. And that’s ok.
This song feels like a warm hug 💕 I grew up in a very conservative family and church, so discovering that I’m bi took a long time to accept. Thank you so much for this beautiful song, I feel understood 💗💙💜
hi from a fellow bi person who also grew up in a very conservative church! what you said really resonates with me, thank you 💗💜💙
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As a closeted trans girl, the message of this song hits close to home.
I can't be myself and it sucks because I so badly want to show who I am on the inside on the outside of me but I can't. I get scared that I might accidentally out myself all the time, and although I may be out at school I can't help but feel like no one actually sees me as a girl.
All my queer friends are out to their parents and they get to be themselves and it hurts so much sometimes.
So having a song about not being ready to come out and the sadness that brings you is always something I've wanted. Something I wish I could have had for the last few years of my life, and now it exists and it makes my life feel that much more whole again
Looking forward to the new album!
You're not alone. You probably cross paths with other people who have to hide their true selves every day and never know it.
Leaving the closet is a revolutionary way of expressing the love that you feel for yourself. You're going to shine so bright when it happens. I know that you'll get there when you can. 🏳️⚧️
One of my close friends is trans and watching their struggle with family and themselves is heart breaking. I wish you love and happiness. Stay strong.
I can't really articulate all the things this song made me feel, but it's nice to know I'm not alone when it comes to the pressures of coming out. Thank you, Malinda
I had tears in my eyes. Thank you for this song, Malinda.
Malinda, this song trully sent me in a flood of emotions the first time I heard it. I keep listening to it, even as I'm currently sitting here drawing in my sketchbook between two work shifts, because for the first time I'm questionning where I stand in term of love.
In February I had a hard mental breackdown where, for the first time, I admitted to my loved ones I needed help. Therapy and medicamentation helped tremendously, and then tons of positive things (a new job with very open minded people in a field I love, my first own appartment after moving from places to place all my childhood without a say in the matter, slowly getting rid of my anxiety-induced depression...) came to me. I'm now in a better place that I ever was in years, able to love myself, and now looking to expand that love to someone else... Except I'm not sure what path to take on this matter.
See, all my life I had been crushing on boys who would do so little as give me a compliment, and I was all over them. Now I know, most of the time, especially in my younger years, I was in fact looking for validation from boys, because for me there was no better form of validation from them than "true love" (yes, that's how romantic I was (still kinda am) as a person lol). Before you ask, my father is a loving and caring person, and I do believe this problem steems in fact from my paternal grandfather, but that's a story for another time.
Anyway, I had few real relationships in my life, all with boys, and none of them lasted longer than a year. One ex broke up with me (and I feel like I dodged a bullet there, looking back), another we broke it off together amically because it simply wasn't working. Since then I stayed single, taking care of myself first, however there is one vivid instance in my middle school years I can't ever forget, the one moment that seeded a spark of doubt in myself; when I found myself crushing for a female friend.
It was entirely different from all the other times. I didn't feel like I was looking for something out of a relationship with her. I just wanted to be near her, hold her hand, make laugh, all those small things you want to do for the other just because it's them. But it was so confusing I squished those feelings away and told myself it was just hormones, that I was just twisting my own feelings about her character as a whole, confusing friendship with something else... As much as I was accepting of all my LGBTQ+ friends, I couldn't accept that I could be part of this group too, and that probably added to my anxiety in the long run.
But listening to your song Malinda, it finally opened my eyes on what I refused to see about myself. It feels liberating, yet I can't stop tearing up because now I'm back to questionning so much about who I am. I feel like there's a conflict between my romantic attraction and my sexuality, that they don't align the same, and it adds to the confusion even more.
However, like your song says, it's okay if I'm not there yet. The world won't stop turning even if I can't ever put a label on my feelings (if I ever want to!), and however time it will take until I get there I will simply take things as they come. I don't know what I am, but I also now know, and accept, what I'm not.
I feel so inspired by the lyrics I want to make a sort-of coming out drawing. My close family is open minded so I'm not afraid to reveal myself in the open, they might be very confused though 'cause I never gave anything away lol. Anyway, all those words just to say thank you Malinda for this song and the message it inspires. My journey of self-discovery is still ongoing, but I'm not afraid to walk it.
And one more subscriber to you as well! :D
The message honestly hit me way harder than I thought any of these would. 💜💜
The message is beautiful and it's obvious that it flows from your heart. Thank you for sharing both your song and your lovely voice.
Such a beautiful song with a lovely message.
I’m bi, too. I don’t yell my sexuality from the rooftops, but I’m not ashamed of hiding it either. And I’m glad you’re at a place where you’re comfortable sharing that about yourself with others.
as a bi woman who is only out to half of my family and not out publicly, this was exactly what i needed right now... typing this through tears because it was so validating. thank you
Big hugs from a bi woman... 🤗
BE GAY >> BUT DO NOT ASK FOR THE DNA OF A MAN TO CREATE CHILDREN
@@christendomdefenderbeready3251 Why not? It doesn’t hurt them and it’s voluntary.
@@humanperson7114 type in any search engine " reasons why gays should not have children " and work it out .
I’m proud of you swingloveEKL
Thank you Malinda, this song is so beautiful and touching.I started coming out in my late twenties but was never comfortable being completely out.when I turned 50 I finally came out fully as a bi trans woman and started my transition, for years I was terrified to be outted because I was a marine but when I finally started my transition the people at the VA have been very supportive and my family all loves at accepts me, your song touched me and I hope it helps so many more know that they are not alone. Thanks Anna
I'm 53 yrs old and still living in the closet...still worried about being judged or the fear of being harassed. I've longed to be in a loving and trustworthy relationship, but have fallen short. 🧡🏳️🌈
There's still time. there's still hope. There will be someone out there for you when you'll feel ready. So, muster your courage, and start living!
Hey, the world has become a lot more accepting, especially the younger generation, maybe during pride month you see if there are any pride events near by (depending on what country You live in, Ik in some being lgbtq + is considered really bad……) but if you go to a pride event and maybe you can make some friends or be able to ask someone out to try and get to know them, but go at your own speed
You haven't fallen short and dont let anyone tell you different!! You deserve to live in happiness. Always remember that the ones who truly love you wont care and the ones that care were never for you. As much as it might hurt, it's ok to let go. Not everyone is meant to stay in our life. Much love to you from Wisconsin. Chin up, you will find your happiness. I'm speaking that over you.
@@MidWestLife2022 love from Wisconsin x2!!! ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜
You do you
I had a gay brother who due to his religious convictions could never come out. He has passed now, a I always loved him. I miss him and think of him often.
This song brought tears into my eyes..
Thank you for this song!
This is such a beautiful and well performed song.
I really felt this. Thank you so much Malinda for making this and you always gave me a positive mode with your theatrical inspiration of songs. I am out as trans to friends and family but I have the right to share that piece of information. It should not be forced by others. If other people have a problem with me being trans than they can happily walk away and not interact with me.
I'm out and have been and this song is still one of the most beautiful things I've ever listened to. Tears In my eyes
My spouse came out 6 weeks ago as being MTF. We've told family and friends and they have all been amazingly supportive. I'm beyond happy to see the unconditional love we have from everyone. My heart breaks that so many don't have that support.
completeley supportive (heck, im trans myself), but what does MTF stand for?
Get woke... Go Broke
@@timonvandoorn5891 it means male to female transgender :)
@@DaWeirdoKoala #metoo
@@TuffEnuffIII That doesn’t even make sense
It feels like the words are coming directly from her soul.
And I feel them in mine.
okay this song is so beautiful....i feel so lucky to be able to share my identity with others safely in a positive enviorment. to everyone struggling with knowing who you are, i promise itll get better.
I’m a straight guy, myself, but let me just say that to say this song is beautiful and inspiring would be the understatement of the century.
Mate, I completely agree
You’re the most amazing and inspiring artist I’ve ever seen and heard. You’re sweet, amazing, funny, loving, caring, and you share all of those amazing traits through your talent and hard work. Thank you for being you and for being so loving and sharing your talent with UA-cam since your google translate frozen cover. You’re amazing, thank you for being you.
This gave me chills. i'm a young teen and found out early last year that I like girls. my school is really accepting, but i guess someone told everyone. a couple of my classmates would not leave me alone about it, so I tried to push the feelings down, thinking that if I was straight, things might go back to normal. this is my sign to stop. thank you Malinda 🏳🌈♥
Already pre-saved! This sounds amazing and I can't wait for what will no doubt be a phenomenal album!
I don't personally relate to this song, but to those who do: We'll be here when you're ready!🏳️🌈
This song just touches me. Thank you.
I am straight, however, "It's okay that I'm not there yet / the world can wait for me" is just amazing. We all have our moments where we need to shelter before we can move forward.
Sending love to all the others whom this song helps more than me. ❤
As someone who's spent the last few years trying to figure out my sexuality and is not ready to come out of the closet, this song made me really happy.
I don't think there'll be too big of a problem if I come out, but I do know that there will be changes, and I don't think that I'm ready to face those changes... yet. Until then, I'll keep listening to this song 💖
Hey, I'm an old white straight guy who grew up with conservative views from his parents. It took a long time to shed those views and get to where I can say this: You're you. You be you. Who you are is wonderful, and there are people who will see that and people who won't. Keep being you. Being not ready is okay too.
(By the way, you do you, but we really, really miss you on Twisted Translations. 😁)
This song makes me cry and/or tear up every time I listen to it and I just want to say how grateful I am to you for making it because it has seriously touched my heart and soul and it makes me feel so seen and understood. I relate to it so much and all the fears and insecurities and hopes are all so much like the ones I have and I just want to say thank you so much
Damn.. I have to leave for work in 20 minutes but now I'm sobbing😭😍🙃
I've been trying since August to feel "ready" for national coming out day, because this summer I realized I am nonbinary (transmasc/genderflux) and I have terrible anxiety so idk if I'll ever really "feel ready" but this song really hits the spot. Thank you so so much for all your amazing music and for this bit of visibility for those of us still hiding ourselves for any reason.
Don't know what the words transmask or gender Flux means, bit I give you a big hug. Take your time... it's your right you know... in the meanwhile feel safe and free on the internet
land of those who fought fight so you can be you. head up
be you head up.....perfect as are. lots fought and fightso you can be you
be you. head up.
You know, if you research back to non religious beginnings of humanity.... Study Lemuria, the original human species, then Atlantis the confilict began there between male and female perspectives.
Then throw out the we came from the ape theory, you begin to see that its all an evolution of a species. In the beginning we were genderless. This acceptance and research requires as much trust and stepping out of the box of what is considered right and true as being trans.. male, female or anything....if you understand me. The polarity of the sexes was just a part of the experience of this creation called human to experience itself.
According to my life experience and research everything physically even the stars in the skies are made from the same elements,oxygen etc etc.water..... as the human body. so we are all part of one creation module in different forms thats all. But essentially we all are one energy in different expressions.... It doesn't matter really. just be happy. Drop labels, it causes separation and conflict. check out Nobel prize winning scientist Nassim Haramein from 2020 a self taught physicist and cosmologist. This man is also stepping right out of the box of accepted thinking and gets lots of stick for it, but he is revolutionizing science and the wat the world looks at itself. Look at his film The Connected Universe. Fun Easy guy to follow.
Fly, Malinda. Fly high and bless us all with your music. Thank you.
I’m a straight girl but this song touched me as someone who stresses every day about feeling behind in life. Thanks a lot for sharing this vulnerable part of your life with us. All the love for people who struggle to find where they belong in this world. ❤
I'm queer myself but I 100% agree with you--I found this song also comforted my feeling of being behind in life ❤️
I just need to occasionally listen to this song to give myself a comfort
Perfect timing! It's National Coming Out Day... I love this! 🏳🌈🏳⚧
DISGUSTING
I'm not crying, you're crying. Thank you for writing this song. Thank you so much this is the song my teenager self would have loved and needed to hear. Thank you so much 🏳️🌈
No your right, I am crying. Send for help
This song makes me cry in the best way. Thank you so much, Malinda. Your music is beautiful and a blessing on this world. 💜💜💜 Thank you, thank you, thank you!
This is absolutely stupendous. There is a lot of emphasis put on coming out nowadays, but its not always the right choice for some people. I'm hoping this song goes as viral as possible so tons of people can hear it.
OMG. I have tears in my eyes. As an ally, I'm so happy this song exists for anyone who needs it. Thank you. :)
You're so beautiful and talented and talented. OMG.
Thanks for the song!
In many contexts I'm not out yet, and maybe I'll never be!
It's sad that society and tradition make us grow up suppressing our feelings to fit their standards, causing it to take a tremendous amount of courage and self exploration to accept who we are and were from the beginning. But this song is beautiful and it made me understand a bit more what some people go through, thank you!
As a closeted gender fluid pansexual, this song is so comforting to me 🥺
I’m literally crying rn 😭😭 it’s so beautiful 💛💙💗
REEEEEEEEE
IM A CLOSETED GENDER-FLUID BISEXUAL, TWINS
@@Fangirlweirdonerd-zg6co😂😂😂 wtf
While this is something I can never directly equate to, as the father of 4 (and having lost the oldest to cancer just last month), I am hit only by the love in this song. I am now the father of 3, grandfather of 1 (yes, he left a part of himself toddling around), but my heart is bursting, never broken.
Thank you, @Malinda
@Eireman I'm so sorry! That must be so hard for you and your family. **Sending all the love**
Sending all the love and strength, as your baby's soul will lead your through happiness🤍
Just over a year ago I stood at my front door with a gun to my head, I only left the trigger unpulled because my best friend was on his way over because he knew I wasn't well and at the last second I knew I couldn't do that to him. I'm better than I was then but I'm not better. "I'm not there yet." Thank you Malinda for touching my heart.
Thank you, Malinda.❤ This truly does mean so much to me and so many others. I have never been comfortable in my sexuality even though I have so much support in my community, but its getting better every day. Thank you for reinstating that its okay to take your time and breathe.
I remember a time when I old myself the same loving wisdom. Thank you for sharing! You are cherished and precious. Remember that 😊
I needed this so bad. I'm a closeted bisexual, and I'm only 13. Only people that know are people at my school. My grandparents are homophobic, so are my siblings. Earlier today one of my classmates tried grooming me and my friends. I had to lunch him, and thankfully one of my male friends backed him off. Being a girl in my family apparently means I can't wear shorts without being "boyish". I'm expected to wear dresses and sweaters and shiny shoes...I just wanna have fun. I want to go outdoors, climb trees and mountains, see the ocean. No matter what i do, i get shamed for it by at least one person. But I cant do it with how homophobic my grandma and some of my family is. The people i care for the most would freak out. A girl i love a lot and a boy i love a lot dont like me back, and I'm okay with that. But...i cant confess to them without being shaded for it or being forced to pick one or the other. A fake friend of mine changes her pronouns monthly, and her name along with it. Found out later she did it for attention. Even though i'm in the closest and have been for around 4 years now, I still fear of being shamed on or bwing bullied for not only my looks, but my sexuality. Once again, thank you so much for making this video. I needed this today.
Hey my dear! Thanks for your brave sharing! I identified, and you are not alone. I actually remember my grandfather telling me 'girls don't climb trees'....and I grew up with homophobia all around me in my family. (And was expected to be very feminine, wear skirts etc.) I'm bi and not fully out, but we are all in this journey together. You sound like an amazing, strong person and you have a beautiful life ahead of you 🏳️🌈
Sometimes it takes someone you love coming out to realize your comments and attitude are based on nonsense and it’s time to let it go. I hope your family members will be able to let their love for you and your well-being be the focus when you’re ready to come out.
Man, this takes me back to 6 years ago, when I was your age & I can relate to almost everything you said. It really sucks and some people may never change, but that's okay. You should always remember that you're right, you're just like you were meant to be. Hang in there. It's gonna be better some day, I promise.
Nailed it. Coming out is a super crazy scary thing and it's okay to not be ready. It took me years before I was ready and even today that I don't treat my sexuality as this big crazy secret anymore, there's still a few people that I'm not out to. Some of which I may never come out to. And that's okay.
I do not have words to express how this hit me. All good things to you, beautiful girl and amazing performer.
Straight German here. Hope all of you can live as free as you like. Everybody deserves the best life because it's the only one we have here.
Descobri Malinda hoje dia 18 de novembro de 2022 e que descoberta maravilhosa! Ela canta como um ser celestial !! Que voz doce e cristalina !
I knew I loved you and your creative self. Today I love you more for all your sharing, it helps me with being a good dad to my children. Thank you for your courage. Thank you for sharing. The world is more beautiful because of you.
Happy Tuesday! Y’all have a great day!🤍
-Chas
This is such a beautiful piece of art❤️ I am so proud of you (and everyone) for feeling comfortable to come out and be who they are🌈 You have always been such an inspiration and you continue to amaze me every day❣️
YES I've been waiting for the full version of this, because it's literally me! Thank you so much for representing this kind of queer experience with such beautiful art. Even if it makes me cry❤️
Not only is this an exceptional melody. But the lyrics are so comforting, it's absolutely amazing. I'm bi and I'm nervous to come out to my brother cuz he always makes homophobic jokes and calls me gay. I don't know if it's a joke or if it's not. And this song makes me feel understood. So thank you.
My mom "forced" me to come out on the spot
I'm aroace and my mom asked me if I was and I knew if I said no she would be mad at me for lying and not trusting her but I wasn't ready to say yes, but I still felt pressured to say yes so I did
I wasn't ready, but I had to come out. I love my family, but my mom invading my privacy (looking through my texts even though I proved I can be trusted) made me feel like I can't trust them
Being forced to come out when you had no time to prepare isn't the best experience, so parents, tell your children that you'll support them but don't pressure them to come out to you if they're not ready
From,
An aroace demigirl, Ku
Thank you, this means the world to people everywhere