Life Postpartum Has Been Harder than Expected | Slowing Down, Hormone Changes & Feeling Angry
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Really what I'm asking here is does having babies just make you a crazy mama all the time with your emotions? :P
😂facts !!!! I love that you continue to share your raw self tho. ❤don’t ever change that. Thank you for sharing . We are just around 30 months PP BF and my hormones are still all out of whack 😅.
Expecting baby #5
You'll be fine!
I've never considered myself very emotional. 🤔
Have you heard of L-Theanine supplements? They are amazing for stress, anxiety and Rage. 🩷
I would love to try your Cookie Recipe from this video!! Where could I find it? ♥️🤍♥️
For me yes absolutely, what's started to help me is when I start to get mad I just remind myself "anger is a choice" then I do my best to keep reminding myself that and calm down. I have a fiancé, a 1 year old, and a preemie whose adjusted age is just now 10 days old and she's nearly been alive for 2 months. We had a lot of craziness when she was first born because I was NOT ready to have her so early and the circumstances were not the best and her coming early could have been prevented if people would have listened to me when I said was in preterm labor 5 hours before they finally decided to take me to the hospital. It was not my fiancés fault because he was staying home with our oldest while I went in to get the medication to stop the labor. Then his dad kept saying it was braxton hicks and he knows because "he's done this a few times". So naturally I was so angry when we get to the hospital 5 hours later and I'm dilated to a 5 and by the time they went back to get my fiancé I was dilated to a 7. I nearly had the baby without him if the hospital hadn't been giving me meds to try to slow my labor I would have. Also the thing that made me so mad is that if they wouldn't have finally listened I would have had my daughter at home, she wasn't breathing and her heart kept slowing down she very likely would not have survived the birth. They finally listened when I yelled through the phone at the end and told them that they need to get over here because I need to go to hospital so they can stop the labor because I've had a child before and I've had braxton hicks and like I've told them several times I was gonna have the baby. If we would have gotten there earlier when it started they probably could have stopped the labor and I wouldn't have had to go through so much and she would have been healthy. Its stressful but like I said anger is a choice if I focus on that all the time then I will drive myself crazy.
i was telling my friend about not having time to do anything around the house. She said "don't let a problem to be solved become more important than someone to be loved" and that really made me feel soooooo much better!
🥹 love that
Oooh, I felt that deep
I love that perspective 🥹
Love that saying!!
just recently became a mom and oh lord.. no one prepares you for what post partum is like. The lack of sleep, the mourning of your old life, the changing body, the angriness, the wanting to keep everything organized and tidy but not always being able to. It’s a lot. I appreciate you sharing and opening up with us. Makes me feel a little less alone. Thank you! & you got this too!
Ugh, Nicole, this video is one of your best. Completely authentic and relatable. Tbh I personally had to stop following a lot of mama content on social media and YT because I felt like so much of it sets unrealistic expectations of motherhood. But this post gets it right. Motherhood and the postpartum phase are so hard and full of very valid emotions. Thanks for sharing this one and not editing out the tough parts. It hits home for a lot of mamas incl me. 😢
Thank you for this very honest comment and feedback 🥹🤎
People just taking motherhood and parenting for granted without understanding that it is harder than most 9-5 jobs
This comment should be pinned. The biggest truth… yet everyone looks down on us.
This is the most relatable postpartum video I’ve ever watched. Thank you for making me feel less alone 💕 you’re the best!
Thank you for being so real. I am 5 month postpartum and rage is crazy. I also have a toddler so it can be so overwhelming trying to do everything at once. I’m at the point where I’m learning to slow down for me and my mental health I’m meal prepping and separating house chores. And just enjoying my kids they are growing up too fast. Wishing you the best!
I’ve never related to a video as much as this one. I’m a new mom with a 3 month old .. I needed this video so badly. It’s crazy that sometimes ppl don’t know how much they really are helping other ppl.. thank you for always being real and raw in your videos. Been watching you for a very long time. ❤
As a mom I felt this 110%!! The EMOTIONS! During pregnancy I realized how crazy hormones make you because I was constantly annoyed by my husband and one night we were sleeping and I woke up and just looked at him and felt instant anger and I thought “this is definitely hormonal because he’s not even doing anything! He’s just sleeping and breathing and I’m annoyed my him” 😂🤦🏻♀️ he was such a good sport 😂
I just wanted to say that I needed the solidarity so bad. Thank you for your openness and honesty for this stage in parenthood. I'm four months postpartum today, and I've been feeling the rage and overwhelm (it doesn't help that I have a temperamental velcro baby with low sleep needs, I feel like I'm on hard mode here). I also am having a hard time learning to let go and slow down. I know it will get better
This is so lovely thank you for your transparency and posting what it’s really like! I’m so impressed that you’re working, setting up cameras and doing so much so fresh into your postpartum journey! You’re doing an amazing job Mama!
Aw I just wanna give you a big hug. Thank you for letting us in and being very transparent what postpartum can be like.
I’m pregnant with twins for the first time and just found your channel. Thank you for keeping it real. It is what it is. You’re handling it really well as you are so self aware and can name things, talk about them, reflect on them. It matters a lot. It sets a wonderful example even if it’s not all figured out (when is it ever) ❤
I am 10 months pp now and want to thank you for sharing the realities of the pp journey. It’s so relatable and exactly how I was feeling throughout. More of this type of content needs to be shared! Those who haven’t gone through it don’t understand how it is. Love your videos!
Thanks for this… he’s 19 months old now, but I still remember so vividly this is how I felt with my 2nd. It’s such a roller coaster of emotions and like you said, to everyone else it’s business as usual! It gets better, but you are not alone! It’s the best and hardest thing at the same time.
I was a stay at home mom for the first two years with my first and was so blessed to be able to do that. I noticed such a huge difference once my daughter started to go to daycare. It's so beneficial for them to be around other kids so I totally get it.
I am 4 months pp and feel all of this so much. The emotional roller coaster has been the biggest surprise. I have never cried so much in my life.
I’m on the same boat and I know how you feel !! Especially first 3 months were one of the hardest times I’ve ever experienced in my life !! But people have been telling me that things are gonna get better after that so let’s hang in there !! 🥰🙌
Thank you for being so real.. I am able to relate to each word you mentioned here.. I am 15 days postpartum and have a sick toddler at home past 1 week and it’s the most toughest time in our life.. people think I am normal but my body is not able to support me to do any work and help with anything at home.. just hoping everyone can recover soon at my house.. everyone’s so frustrated and angry and irritated and tired taking care of the toddler as he’s sick with ear infection..
Praying for you mama 🤍 stay strong
Thank you for sharing! ❤ I’m 9 months postpartum, and feel the same way as you are. It started around 4 months, and it just got worse since. 😢
My daughter (soon to be 4) started preschool in September and it has been the best for her for the same reasons you mentioned and I do not work but I’ve never been more busy in my life! Taking care of home and having a husband with a dama ding job leaves everything up to me and it’s A LOT! Grateful for those hours to catch up on things while she’s at school.
Yesss!! I am 5 months post partum with baby number 2 and the hormonal rage has been huge this time. So glad you are normalising it and sharing with others ❤
I'm 3 months postpartum with my 2nd baby and I could not relate more! 😭 Thank you so much for your vulnerability. ❤
Newly pregnant, just passed into my second trimester, and really loving this channel. Even though you probably didn’t feel like it when you made it, this was a very positive video! I certainly came away from it feeling positive. Prospective motherhood seems much less frightening when you can see that everyone struggles, and everyone has it in them to make it through. Thank you for sharing. ❤
You're not complaining you're being real and honest. My boy just turned 3 months old a couple of days ago and I feel like my emotions getting more up and down every day... this is actually helpful to know I'm not going crazy but still healing. Thank you for your content! 💕
Oh my. Love your videos! Thanks for sharing 🩵
Congratulations on this video Nikole.
I experienced more anger with my second as well. I think it’s also the fact that you have to get up and keep your first born on their regular schedule plus the baby. It’s just a lot. It doesn’t matter how horrible your night was your other one needs the same care and their regular schedule. That’s how I felt at the beginning anyway.
I also felt the sadness missing my husband and first born when you’re stuck with the other one nursing and all and can’t do all the family time thing that you’re used to.
My son’s almost 2 now and things are much smoother.You’re doing a great job! ❤
I’m 4.5 months PP. Thx for being so real. You got this mama.
You are glowing !
I agree 💯 with your speech at the 5th minute of this video. Kids will also learn for each other which is good for their development. Working from home doesn’t mean NOT working.
Omg. Today I was feeling so low and torn apart between wanting to be with my daughter who is 1.5 y.o. and wanting to do other things in life that I don’t have the time for. This thought also made me feel so guilty because I know that she’s so small for only a short period of time and I just have to be present and accept that even though this is a hard period, it will pass and then I’ll eat myself missing it. These feelings are so confusing. And then I watched this video. And it made me feel so much better, knowing that it’s normal to feel what I feel. So thank you. I’m hoping we’ll find the answers we’re looking for.
I’ve been watching your videos for a long time now and I still absolutely love your content. Thanks for your honesty and you are doing a brilliant job. Keep going mama you can do this x
Thank you for being part of this community
So happy to see Oakley he is so calm 💓 and growing nicely.
I relate to this video soooo much, thanks for posting it
Thanks for this realistic view into post partum life! I love that you didn't force a "perfect" video and stayed true to how you were genuinely feeling. Btw, youre doing great!!!
I feel ya with the emotions. Motherhood is so HARD! You've got this mama. Also, I took your advice and ordered Teeccino! As an avid coffee drinker for 20 years, I was shocked with how delicious the herbal coffee was! And bonus, no jitters!
Not me crying with you! I’m 32wk pregnant and I already feel mom guilt since I can’t play with my 2.5 year old son like we used to, I hope my emotions don’t get worse after postpartum.
Thank you for being so real in this! PP is no joke. I lost my mom unexpectedly almost 4 months PP with my second this past year and people really do forget or don’t realize there is a 4th trimester. You’re doing amazing mama you’re doing your best and that’s all you can do.
Love following along on your motherhood adventure and watching all of your videos ❤
Where are your earrings from?
THANK YOU SO MUCH for being so authentic and sharing about real post partum, motherhood, hormones and all. I can relate so much, and you truly make me feel more normal and less alone. So, thank you ❤
You are so welcome!
I understand you mama❤ I have the same feeling like you right now. Your kids are the same age as mine. Sending lots of prayers, love and hugs for you ❤❤❤❤❤
What a sweet adorable boy! He has such a curiosity and intelligence in his eyes and a handsome face, too! And what a cute name 😊 you’re doing a great job mama and thank you for your honesty about this phase 🎉❤
Thank you for sharing & for your vulnerability (really I see it as strength though). I am out of this phase but remembering it so vividly with my second little one. It’s so important we show each other real life as women, thank you thank you!!!
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Totally relate! I’m six months postpartum with an almost 3 year old as well. Def experiencing postpartum rage this time around-just stressful to balance it all!
Always love your videos! Thanks for being so open about the ups and downs of motherhood! It’s a journey!
I've also been experiencing the postpartum anger. I'm home with my 4 and 2 year old, plus my 7 week old and there are moments where I just lose myself. My midwife recommended ashwaganda to help with mood regulation. I've ordered it so I'm hoping it helps. Postpartum is hard, but also such a beautiful and precious time.
When you were crying in bed and Oakley was looking at you I cried right along with you 😢 thank you for being so real with us and showing the struggles and blessings that come with postpartum. You are always so inspiring to me. ❤️
I had my second child a daughter in December and I have a 2 year old son . A few weeks ago my son got sick and we had to keep him home and now waiting for a new daycare he has been home for over a month. I definitely love this time with both kids but I definitely feel the weight of the world in this moment. I keep reminding myself they are only this age for so long and it really helps me keep my sanity. We got this mama !!! You are doing amazing
4 month postpartum here aswell 🙋🏼♀️ This video was soo spot on! Lots of love from New Zealand❤
I remember the postpartum rage, it was gnarly. Never felt rage towards my baby or husband but mainly towards everyone else, I felt overwhelmed by certain family members who wanted to help but sadly couldn’t help me in the way I needed that I couldn’t handle their presence. The rage surprisingly took a while to go away.
It was with my first and only so I guess everyone just has a different postpartum experience
You are super adorable! You’re associating all this with baby but I guess this goes out to all women who are juggling with lots of cuteness and work at the same time!! You are giving company to sooooo many unsaid emotions…. You rock ❤️❤️
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Oooof, I had all the same feelings pp 😢. Mommy rage is real especially at that 4 month mark. The transition from 1-2 vs 0-1 was waaay harder. My kids are 3 and 1 and all I can say is it gets easier and you' re doing great and you look amazing after having a second baby! 😍
Really had to see this video xxx thank you
I think the emotions you are experiencing is completely normal. along with the body going through tremendous hormonal stress in recovery becoming a mothers 1,2,3 times etc is a huge shift in our everyday lives.
I really do believe that becoming mothers the emotions we experience also surface a lot of beliefs that have expired for us. Like learning how to accept help, not trying to “do it all”. Essentially it’s mind & body cleansing and clearing to build a bigger capacity for our bigger lives. Keep letting yourself feel into these experiences with grace. ❤
Good for you for having Sage in daycare while you work from home and take care of the baby. Just being a mom is a full-time job, not to mention being a content creator and a mom of two kids. I am impressed that you made dinner. Thanks for putting up such an honest video about mom life!
I also gave birth nearly 5 months ago and it's crazy how similar live goes here :D. I feel these ups and downs, problems with sleeping, loosing my hair everywhere, loving my baby so much but missing some freedom. You and your cold coffee are not alone ! Greetings from Germany
I remember the postpartum rage. It was rough! Hang in there ❤
I can relate so much thank you! Im also postpartum about 5,5 weeks with my second and have also a toddler running around. The hardest thing for me is finding a way to give both of my children enough attention, especially with my toddler i dont feel its enough. i can not play so much with her now and she is looking for attention in a way. Besided that i feel so guilty that my newborn is not getting the attention that my first born had. Sometimes when the baby cries I need to finish my task with my toddler, like with potty training and stuff.
This shit is hard. And also the hormones that are shifting continue. I also still want to keep the house clean and do big organizing stuff. Its a lot.
I’m two months postpartum, and I’m feeling the exact same. Too much to do and too little time. Feel the exact same way about my first and my husband. Stay strong.
I’ve been mia and just now catching up on your posts… I can’t believe how big Oakley is now and how much he looks like Sage! Wow!!!! Sooooo cute!
Postpartum was really really hard for me as well..😭 Daycare really helped me with my mental health and my work commitments.
Like I’ve said before, I think you’re a rock star but not because you’re perfect but because you’re perfectly imperfect and share that with your community 😊
I felt this way too and I felt like no one understood me. Thank you for sharing and thank you for being so real. Very thankful for your content❤
Oh yes, I had a very short fuze postpartum. Along with some meltdowns. 😬 But it didn't help that when my daughter was 2 weeks old, my husband dislocated his ankle along with a bunch of fractures and had surgery a couple of days later. That's great that you get meditation in! I really appreciate how honest you are about the emotional part of postpartum. Your tearing up made me tear up. 🥲
Oh my gosh yes the rage postpartum was crazy! I felt so guilty getting angry but I couldn’t help it. Normally I’m a calm person who rarely gets angry but dang those postpartum hormones are something else!
It just feels so intense sometimes .. 🤪
Can very much relate! 7 wks postpartum and can understand everything you’re feeling. ❤
The best newborn bubble time but also a lot as you figure out a new routine
Why are you so cute with your talks!!! It looks like you speak to my every single thoughts running inside of me
Hugs to you, beautiful Mum ❤ About working from home. Even if Mom is not working from home, being with the baby (and with 2 kids the other half of the day) is a full-time job. A very exhausting one (I am a doctor, but now i’m a stay at home mom of 3 kids). After the 3rd kid we (my husband and I) don’t even try to explain to people “what we do all day”. Those, who don’t understand, won’t understand.
i'm not even a mom and i loved this video. just because how real you were in this video. this should also help other moms out there not feeling alone. you're a wonderful mom!
Thank you for the support 🤎
This is so relatable! The mom rage experience is so common and it feels like no one talks about it. Really recommend listening to the mom rage episode with Dr becky on the untamed podcast. She really breaks it down to us having unmet needs when we are taking care of little ones. It helped to put my rage in perspective and helped my partner understand what is happening behind that anger. Love you and your videos! ❤
Oakley is such a cute accessory!
I work from home full time and also have a 2 year old and a 4 month old who are home full time, no help, no day care. What’s even more crazy is that I live part time in the city with my partner and part time an hour out of the city with my dad. I take the little boys back and forth every couple days. Let’s just say I’m not excelling in some areas of my life. I’m just keeping my head above water. We do what we can.
That would be a lot to handle. You’re doing amazing
I felt like this after my 3rd child. I am almost 4 weeks postpartum with my 4th and I feel great. My family has been a huge support this time knowing what I went through last time. Word of caution, if you need help ask for it. I didn’t and it turned into a horrible PPD. Not that it will happen to you but please be careful with yourself and allow your emotions to heal. I am 33 and I went through it at 24 and it was awful and isolating. It took me years to come out of it. Ask. For. Help. 🙏🏻
Recently I've been watching interviews with Dr Erica Komisar and she's been incredibly insightful about paretning and listening to her made me so convincted to embrace motherhood and to be there for my toddler as much as I can. Its also a realisation that I do miss working but I know I'm blessed to be able to stay at home and not have any fomo with my daighter. I totally get about the guilt of bottle feeding, that's why I exclusively breastfeed my almost 2 yo ( I never pumped). According to Erica we get 25 summers with girls and 28 with boys 🙏🏼
Thank you for all that you share. You are such an inspiration! I was so happy to find your channel when I was pregnant with my first and you just had Sage, and still here for my second pregnancy after little Oakley. You’re like a virtual big sis and you are doing such a good job at everything thing you do
You are GORGEOUS! And so relatable. I’ve struggled too with emotional highs and lows postpartum. Thank you for being vulnerable ❤
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Thank you for being so authentic. And I would love the video about your milk coming in. And my baby is 8 months and still feel like that my hormones and emotions are up gmmd down
My son Rhythm has those same teethers! Love em
Thank you for being real about new parenthood! Even on your 2nd
Thank you so much for your videos. These videos of transparency and honesty about motherhood and postpartum are really a blessing. It's so easy to think everyone has it together and only you struggle, but its comforting to know that it's challenging and we are all just trying our best to survive.
You say you're a mess but i think you look great!! Your dkin particularly is beautiful.
Thank you again for being so honest with how you feel. ❤❤🙏🙏
Haha, I talked about your skin before the skincare moment !!
Appreciate you being so real! 35 week first time mama here. Did you encapsulate your placenta? If you did do you find any benefits from doing so?
I just had twins (babies 3&4) last year and the postpartum rage is something new for me. I've gotten really good at apologizing!😂
And I feel like the more kids you have the less anyone from before wants to visit or check in. I guess they just assume it's old hat for you. There's been many nights after a long, draining day rocking one of my twins to sleep where I've cried wishing my mom would come hold me too.
Sending love!
Don’t understand why that person was asking why Sage is in day care…. Each to their own! I was an early childhood educator before I became a teacher - I highly recommended early childhood education/day care… it really is good for their social, emotional and physical development. You are doing great Mumma! X
why did "I can't see Oakley your head is in the way" make me laugh so hard LOL
Five weeks post-partum here, I so greatly appreciate your raw emotion and honesty. Feeling much of the same, but so grateful for every moment with my little one.
Girl I feel you I have a three year old and postpartum was rough in terms of emotions and honestly it took me around a year to start to feel back to normal. No one prepares you or your partner for the hormonal aspect of postpartum.
Thank you for sharing raw emotions as always! ❤ My son is 8 months in a few days and I’m still feeling the way you’re describing some days.
Im hoping baby sticks this cycle. you have inspired me through the years to be better and to care for myself in a whole new and natural way.
That means a lot
Thank you for making me feel sooooo seen! I’m 3 months pp with my second and feeling exactly the same way. So nice to know I’m not alone and it’s normal to feel this way. ♥️♥️
I love the realness of your videos!
I’m almost 4 weeks postpartum and your blog are so encouraging!
You are doing great mumma!❤
It always feels hard sharing moments like this but I also love connecting with you guys on a real and honest level
I LOVE coffee and have it everyday and I think I really need to try this herbal coffee stuff it sounds fantastic and I could have it at night
I am exactly at this stage right now, already have one under 2 years old + just had a second baby (two weeks ago) and it's very overwhelming. Thank you for sharing your experience.
Can i just say, how great and refreshing it is that you are being honest and real about your post partum journey?? I feel like more women need to do this and show the struggles of what it is really like after the baby is here. It is hard and a lot going on all at once in general and then you add another kid and an animal and working and figuring out a new routine for everyone ad finding time for you time and your relationship.....like thats A LOT OF SHIT. Thank you for making these real videos. It is okay for you to feel everything your feeling. And you look great! I love and hate that you look so great being so natural and no makeup haha i wish we all looked so great in the morning.
Best video❤❤❤so honest ❤❤
Youre doing awesome ❤
Wow this is just so so relatable! Even two years pp I’m still like this sometimes. My hormones are still off.
Happy to hear you related to it. I love sharing moments like this and normalizing things we think only us are experiencing
Thank you for being so real and not glamourising postpartum journey. All love and support for you 🤗🤗🤗 . I Can see and understand you as i have been through those days with my second one. It was hard but we got through it and now he just turned 1.
you will be back to normal in no time. ❤❤❤
Thank you for bringing up postpartum rage! I thought i was losing my mind -and maybe i am. I didn't have it with my firstborn. But dang i am having a hard time keeping my cool this second time.