Getting older, How Aging Feels To Us, and Parenting Our Parents | Fridays w/ Tab & Chance
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- Опубліковано 11 лип 2024
- Today we are talking about Aging. How getting older has changed the way we see things, how aging can look different based on where you are from, and when you get to the place in life where its time to take care of your parents. Lets get into it!
Tabitha Brown is the world's favorite mom and auntie! She is an Emmy award winning show host, actress, a 3-time New York Times Best Selling author and a 4 time NAACP Image Award winner. Follow Tabitha Brown: / iamtabithabrown
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When I was young, I used to ask my mom why she has hair growing from her chin and why she has dimples in her skin. She would always say in the kindest way "just keep livin" you'll understand. Now at 50 I understand everything!
My grandma been saying that ALL MY LIFE 😂
My mother would say the same thing
Lol thats a old saying
Rgt, UGHHHH 😩😫, BUT "WE MADE IT"!! 🙌🏽
I’m 68 and I worked 2 jobs while taking care of my momma and grandma. My Sons are 44 and 46 and always are saying Ma I don’t know how you did it. I did it out of love and it was the right thing to do. Plus I had their college tuitions to pay and make sure they were straight as their Mom like my Mom did for me. Now that I’m retired they make sure I’m straight! God Bless them. ❤
I must say that I am aging gracefully at 76 years old. I try to stay active working in my little garden, going for walks in the park with my husband 5 days a week for 45 min., and riding my bike. I can't do everything that I use to do in my younger years, but I try to keep active. Also, my 12 grandchildren keep me young minded , reading 📚 and playing puzzle games. Do my body ache sometimes, yes it does. People sometimes think that my oldest daughter (58 years old) is my sister, lol 😂, but I am very grateful unto God for keeping me and my husband through many trials and tribulations. 🙏❤️🙏
I Love your testimony ❤️ Very similar to mines except I don't have as many grandchildren but still such a blessing. Keep doing what you're doing!😊
My daddy STILL be creasing them pants. Levi’s only. No other jeans. And baby that Niagara starch and a heavy iron 😂
@19:56 Once a man. Twice a child. I'm 42 and my mama is 68 and the roles are switching fast. She suffered her 2nd stroke in 2yrs, and she now has aphasia. She has definitely gotten STUBBORN as all get out too, but that's my mama. I'm blessed to be here to care for her.
❤❤🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿
I’m praying for you. I just commented the same thing! I’m 45 taking care of my mom with dementia
Life is a cycle. 🔁 Blessed to be on the second go and praying for your mama, and everyone along for the journey.
@@KayVee18 Sorry to hear about your mom. I pray you have plenty of help. My three sisters and I did it for, fifteen yrs. It takes its toll. We know if they could help themselves they would. They mean well, just have that chemical imbalance.
Chance sound good! Sorry Tab😂😂
Pretty good ❤
soooooooo sorry to Tab, but- ... Chance ate 😂
Lolol she knows. I don’t think Tab minds us calling a spade a spade. As long as no one jumps in her husband’s DMs. Lol remember she called those people out!
Yes, Tab you act older but you look young. You are very beautiful and Chance is very handsome, yall are a beautiful couple❤❤
Love your name!
@@Denise-ob8dk Thank you❤️
Chance singing ain't he🥰😂
Aww Chance can SANG LOL ! 😂 I love yall !
Times were different, clothes were different. My parents dressed sophisticated and classy, even though they were younger.
I love how Chance is still a "mama's boy" bt still can be a grown man @ the same time 💙💙 I hope my son will always be 1... my mama ain't old 😂😂😂😂
Aging varies widely depending on the life stressors one endures as well as how one handles those stresses. Our mental health also plays a role in how we age.
Im 42 and im on alert now because i realized that i am getting older and my parents are too! I’ve been having conversations about their affairs. Also been talking to my siblings about stuff too
All of what you said same here. It feels like such an odd stage of life. Having these important conversations with aging parents are so difficult and sad to have.
I've been there. It's important to have those conversations now. I lost my brother before loosing my parents. Fortunately my parents both had pre paid funerals and wills. It was still hard to go thru but having your affairs in order allows you to grieve without having to make rash decisions.
Chance I can relate, one day I felt good, I jump up out of bed. I got soo dizzy. I realized, you may feel young, but 67, says you better slow down. And let your body and blood flow settle down, before you move soo quick
Nah Chance, Tab got you backtracking HARD when she mentioned what’s gone happen at night!!!! 😂😂😂 don’t mess yourself up showing out for us.
Right!!! We ain't nobody!!!!😂
It’s lonely at the top 🤣
Ikr 😂😂😂
😂 right!
This is already so cute and fun! I’m only 2 minutes in😂❤
I can definitely relate. My mom is 80, still independent, care for her bedridden husband has traveled to visit me in Saudi Arabia twice, once alone.
She fell sick upon her arrival the first time, only to find out she was having withdrawals from zanax she'd been taking since my older brother died, 20 years ago 😮. Yes, 20!!!
That's when I saw for the first time in my life, her vulnerability.
My mom was frail and weak, to me and of course instinct kicked in, to take care of her.
When I was a teen I thought 25 and 30 was OLD. Lol. I was good when I hit 25 but the night before my 30th birthday I broke down and cried because I just thought 30 was so so old , then the next day everything was actually alright and I had to tell myself girl you was tripping 😂😂😂
That’s so funny 😂 and your profile pic is killing me
My mother is 89 and has cancer leukemia and just been diagnosed with breast cancer. She will not let me help her, she is so independent. 😔😊 She does know I'm here whenever she needs me.❤
😂😂😂😂 Chance said its lonely at the top
You can tell Chance don't play when it comes to his Mama 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
This topic is on point. My cousin and I have had this same conversation about getting older. How we use to think 40, 50, and 60 was really old when we were younger. Now that we're in those age brackets, it's not like what we use to think. Your body will DEFINITELY let you know your age. I'm in the parenting a parent phase right now.
Great discussion! I really don't feel my age until I attempt certain activities and then I realize, "girl you are not 25 anymore!" 🤣😂
You all are the best with the opening.😂😂😂
I'm from the dirty south and I lived on the west coast for 15 yrs and now I'm back home. So yes I see a big difference in how we age in the south compared to the west. People are more active, conscious of what they eat and care about their bodies and physique. Especially the 50 and older, they have beach bodies which is amazing to see!!! Now that I'm 50, I look very different from my mother and grandmother, meaning how I dress, my personality, my eating habits, my daily activities and how I interact with my children and grandchildren. I think it's all in the soul or spirit because I have always been the same adventurous youthful spirit. I am very active and have always cared about my body and what I eat which has kept me looking younger than my true age. I went Vegan 4 yrs ago due to my health and wish I would have done it much sooner. My grandmother lived to be 90 yrs old and my mother lived to be only 55 yrs old and my goal is to live past 100 yrs old. I have tried to introduce my new Vegan eating habits to my family in the south and it's been a challenge. LOL they refuse to give up eating MEATS and processed foods!!! My Dad will not stop even after removing 1 of his lungs due to cancer. So all I can do is be there to support him through his health journey. One of my sons and my Hubby is on board with me and a few of my grandchildren so this is breaking family curses and change will come... Peace Love and Light.
You two are amazing. You talked on aging from several perspectives which enlightens the old and young. I’m on the seasoned side of life thank God and now understand my parents. My kids will get there also. Thanks so much!!!❤
We were just talking about this among friends. For example, 60 looks different now than years ago. 60 seemed “old” and presented as old, slower less active. 60 year olds today seems so much younger, active and vibrant. Tab has a point in thinking maybe because we are older we think about it differently.
❤️Love the topic . Ok Chance sang Nie !🎶 😂
CHANCE SOUNDS GREAT
I’m in that Mother Nature switch now the last two years my mother just turned 69 and having very early signs of Alzheimer’s and my daddy is turning 70 and his diabetes is trying to take a toll so I’m like I gotta get it ready to take care of them so I love this topic y’all are so correct
This started off as “is this going to cause an argument?”😂
Chance, you may have missed your calling. Dat boi GOOD!!! 👏🏾 👏🏾 👏🏾 👏🏾 👏🏾
This episode's topic was everything. Everything you shared is so true!!
I agree 1000%, what's that saying Once an Adult, twice a Child.
Chance is hilarious! "It's lonely at the top."
I haven’t watched Fridays in probably two years and a couple of things I’ve noticed. Chance is a lot more relaxed and he also has a nice voice. Of course Tabitha is always fabulous!
Tab looks older and acts older than her age. It's funny that she mentioned how she dressed back in the days like an older person. I only remember we're the same age when she references certain songs and movies. Her style reminds me of my grandmother back in the days.
1:19 Tab already playing 🤣😂😂
Thank you for sharing y'all's wisdom with us! 😃💎✍🏾📝
I am SCREAMING on the opening!!! You are hilarious! I LOVE IT
Mrs..the Most High God will restore you to the days of your youth...youre beautiful ❤️
Today, people generally carry age different than folks in 50s, 60s, 70s and 80s....We no longer let society tell us we are old and should dress old...People now eat healthier, get better sleep, take supplements and take better care of themselves. We dress younger as well. We live and let live and we are thriving as we garner more knowledge about health and wellness...I told someone the other day...I will not be doing my 50s like my Granny or ancestors...baby Im gonna thrive, live and be healthy and look good doing it. So its a new mindset around aging and I Love it
SALUTE BROWN FAMILY I REALLY ENJOY YOUR CHANNEL❤ I'M 56 AND I FEEL 46. I ALWAYS WORKOUT..I REALLY ENJOY YOUR FOOD TOPICS🎉 THANK YOU🌹❤ HOPE YOU ALL HAVE A BLESSFUL WEEKEND🙏🏽
😂😂😂loved that beginning, Chance & Tab😅
People have gotten smarter because of people like y’all watching y’all live healthier and live better wellness makes you look younger as you age❤
Chance... Come on, sing that song😊
Sangggg Chance 🎉❤
Chance and Tab u are such beautiful people and i love u both for that. THANK U, LORD, THANK U FATHER FOR THESE TWO BEAUTIFUL PEOPLE.
Chance said that sounded pretty good LOL LOL LOL.
This was good!! And we see your solo Chance, let em know😂😂
Okay Chance w/the Anthony Hamilton vibe! Tab you should’ve threw a lil adlib in there lol!
Love yall!
2:23 Tab missed the perfect opportunity to sing "If you think you're lonely now..." by Jodeci
😂😂😂
Y'all are so right when you say "... I feel the same..." BUT when your body reminds you that you're aging, it's a jolt of reality that can be heart stopping, literally as well as figuratively.
I'm 45, battling MCTD (Mixed Connective Tissue Disease) while trying to see after my dad who is 69 and has been in a nursing home for the last year, and my mom who is 63 battling the "Big C" and early stages of dementia all while STILL working and being out-and-about like she a young twenty-something. I'm an only child and it's stressful as all get out but I can't help it; they need me and I don't mind doing it.
Amen Tab and Chance, I love this conversation. my brother and I took care of my mom when she got sick and went home to be with the Lord!
If you keep living we all will age. It is apart of the human life cycle Know who you are in the Lord and you will be blessed.
Change is no joke! It is a challenge For real! Aging is no joke! One day at a time!
Adulting is hard especially with all the pressure on me, a single lady. Where is the relief….Jesus!
Well, I’m
41 and my mother is 71…
My father passed at 62 liver cancer… was alcoholic when he was younger but changed his life for the better in his 30yrs on but it caught up with him. He passed so sudden I took care of him with my mom enough to know I did my duty. But learning more now I’m
Glad my mother is a person she tooo fast and she take care of herself I don’t worry to slow down a lil just retired 50yrs and aging gracefully etc but I’m trying my best to model to take care of of myself much as I can to age well like my mother is now and my late father did till he did then ❤
Another awesome discussion. Thank you.
This topic hit all the way home with me... THANK YOU
Sing Chance 😂😂😂Good Evening Tab and Chance! Happy Friday’s ❤️💙❤️💙
Friday Blessings Y'all🖤🤍💚
I feel like aging has a lot to do with genes. My parents are 76 yrs old but don’t look their ages. They’re both independent. My dad goes to the gym weekly. They have some health challenges bc the body ages and things wear down but, overall they’re both healthy.
It’s lonely at the top and when the Sundrop LMAO too funny 😂😂😂
I never did understand lying about ur age. Except when I was young wanting to be 21yrs old B4 I was 22yrs. Very Good !!! (Young minded ) Open ❤heart, listening & Observing aing, is scary bcuz U can't STOP IT. but Old can be a frame of mind & a look So right humbling. ITS A REAL thing .Westside LA Cali Roro❤
100% real conversation!
I always think people should just age gracefully and just enjoy it❤❤
The first time I asked my mom how old she was she was 33 and I was like damn she old but now I'm 33 I was tripping 😂😂😂
Bravo! 👏👏 Great discussion Tab and Chance! Thank you!
Yes, Chance, I agree, I leave the house walking as if I'm 20; on the way back, I feel & move like 90! Sometimes, I have to take a seat on a park bench to rest.
All I gotta say is PREACH!!! PREACH IT!💪💪🙏🙏🙏 I LOVED this episode. My Fiance and I are in the beginning process of planning a wedding... And I definetly have NEVER thought about do I want to have a Wedding, or do I want to get married.. I never thought of it that way... My eyes opened wide when I heard that part! That right there... Gold!! Thank you! (Just to get it out there, I do want to get married.)
Put that soda and cheesesteak hoagie down ma! lol 😂
Chance and Tab gonna get in trouble for that one😂😂😂. But I said the same thing when they said it. Cause i said that to my mom every time we talk😂😂😂
@@desiredsolutionz3536 😂😂😂 so true how we can switch roles with parents later in life 🤣🙏🏾
Chance I can relate to those new aches and pains out of nowhere 😂
I know Exactly what you're talking about. Cause I experience the same thing by being the oldest or the first grmy daughter. I stay with my grandparents.
Even though you tab, you're the baby, but you know, you had a lot of responsibility. And like you said, you had your children, young.You know, and when you grow up around old folks, you be, you act more older.It's like a chameleon you take on your environment.Your surroundings good topic very good. Westside, LA Cali Roro🎉
Salute Team Brown 🤎🤎🤎🤎🤎🤎🤎🤎🤎🤎🤎
Great job guys
Mr. Chance can SANG😂😂😂
Ole' cats been creasin' and starchin' their jeans for so long the crease line is white.. The good ol' days!!lol
Wow, you guys are intelligent, and this was a great conversation. Thanks for sharing, ya'll 👍🏿✨️
Chance been wanting to make that a solo anyway. 😂😂
He killed it too! I noticed a while back but he definitely did good with that solo 😂
So goooood to see you family ❤❤❤
Wait a minute, when is Chance going to drop his music? We ready😊
Great discussion. Raising Parents is both rewarding and challenging but God gives us grace. There is a dedlicate balance in allowing them to maintain some independence however safety comes first so the child has to act as the parent in LOVE not control. I thank God he allowed us to keep both parents in their home during theri short term illness before God called them home. Dad was 88 Mom was 86.
Hey Tab and Chance! I enjoyed y’all conversation.
Aging definitely looks differently based on where you live. I lived in Chicago and would be out until 3/4am with ppl in their 60s and it was normal. In the South I can barely get my 30/40 yr old friends to come out.
Thank you’ll soooooo much❤❤
Haven’t watched you guys in so long. I miss you guys! So cute, funny and loving 🥰
Yes, and yes!!!!❤
Okay, great job Chance!! I sang with you. Y’all are too funny.
Born in Baldwin Hills ( The Jungle) moved to the South 2 yrs ago, married a southern man. There is a difference. I go home often. I feel like I've aged 10 yrs. Also, experiencing culture shock. Living in LA, you take fit or granted the rich experiences. I love it here but it is an adjustment. Trying get him to move to the Westcoast 😂❤ 🙏
Everything yall said was true !!
Exactly chance most boys that grow up with their mom's are very protective.On instinct period it could be 5 brothers and one moment and no daddy around.Watch out. U on point that a male Trait Westslde LA Cali Roro p.s. tell Tee Zane I said hey! 😊 happy Summer
When I was young even at 18 I thought 25 was old-like you suppose to be married, had all yo kids, settled down, Saved and 30 you just ancient about to retire lol now that I’ll 46, 70 is ‘still young’ to me. I also I still feel 25 can’t no one tell me any different😂😂🤣
😂🤣😂🤣...I thoroughly enjoyed this episode!
Come on Chance!
This was such a funny and good episode and very true. I fuss at my mom and grandma about stuff because i want them to be around, but I do need to give them grace. Hey Chance, youre momma gonna get youuuuu😂😂😂. But Tab when you said about how you feel young but other things going on.. OMG.. YESSS. My body just told me on Wednesday, no more red meat. I said..WHATTTT😢. I'M JAMAICAN 😂😂. I must have my tings.. but my body said.. Nah chick.. So yes aging is a whole thing and im now embracing it. ❤❤. Thanks for this yall!! I love y'all so much.
MY DAD DIED YOUNG AT 47 AND I WAS YOUNG. I DIDN'T HAVE AN OPPORTUNITY TO CARE FOR HIM BUT MY MOM AND STEP DAD I WAS ABLE TO QUIT MY JOB TO HELP CARE FOR THEM UNTIL THEY PASSED AWAY. I TOOK MY MOM TO SO MANY DOCTOR APPOINTMENTS AND I AM THANKFUL I WAS THERE TO DO IT. I AM APPROACHING 47 NOW AND I THINK OF MY DAD SO MUCH THE CLOSER I GET TO MY BIRTHDAY. LIFE DEFINITELY LOOKS DIFFERENT FOR ME WITHOUT MY PARENTS HERE AND THE REALIZATION THAT NOW I AM THE GRANDMOTHER NOW.
I heard those notes Mr chance! lol I heard choyce hit a note one time too. Let me find of the family can sing ❤
Mannnn, I LOVE Y’all😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂