Seems like it is best to pause and prevent attachment in the first place. I have found that being attached to a person, thing, or ambition is a hard thing to break once my mind becomes entangled with it.
I think he is saying that it is fine to enjoy the time with something (or some person) but to be indifferent as to whether the object of your desire lasts or not - if the car is stolen or the girl leaves. If you are too attached to the person or thing, then you already suffer because you fear losing them. You have turned something nice into something to fear losing.
If you take the Lacanian view that desire is at the root of all life, then it is impossible to live without desire. My spiritual experiences have led me to the position that desire can be both pure and impure, so desire driven from a place of egoic wanting and attachment is bound to generate more suffering, whereas pure desire (which may generate basic needs like he says in the video for food etc or a desire to spread goodness) is unselfish and not driven by the egoic urge to control or possess. That's the only way I've been able to reconcile this question. :)
Attachment within the Buddhist teachings is caused by the perception that we have in something or someone of owning them, grasping on to them and having the illusion that we need them to be happy, and full, that perception creates suffering and it takes us to live an empty life it doesn’t matter how expensive the item is, nor the species of the life you are attached to, we can get attached to anything, that’s why we must create a good relationship with things and living beings, one in which we are not going to get attached to them if they are gone, because everything is always changing and we don’t really own nothing nor anyone It doesn’t mean that you cannot enjoy anything or spend time with anyone, it just means that the time that we spend with the ones we love will end someday, they were just with us and those good times that we were together is what made it special, but no matter how much we want it they were never ours, nothing really is, so enjoying life knowing that it’ll end someday is what truly matters
I have battled with attachment,( or at least I think I did)towards someone I wanted a child with, I even turned him in to my child because I wanted so much having a child with him, I dont need to have a child with him , I just want it, he dont want a child with me , he rather have a car, the situation is really ridiculous, and we end up in it everytime we meet , so I do my best to not meet him and not do what he dont want , is that attachment? I tried the laughing monks method, to look at my own " desire " and how its really exhausting me feeling this way. So I laugh, because from the outside prespective , when I look at it from outside myself wich I can its so silly, we have already done everything to get over , under or past this, I know when I am fifthy it will probably go away by itself but until then ,😍 I am battling it , I am fifthy now it hasent gone away? What to do?😊
Simple teaching that gets to the heart of the matter.🙏
Thank you! Exactly what I needed to hear right now 💕🙏💙
Thank u a lot for opening a huge door of realization in my mind ❤
Suffering seems to be the quickest path ,,,.
Grrrrr
Seems like it is best to pause and prevent attachment in the first place. I have found that being attached to a person, thing, or ambition is a hard thing to break once my mind becomes entangled with it.
Thank you so much for posting this. It helped me greatly.
Thank you
I need to hear this 😊
how do you give up attachment without giving up desire? And if you give up desire, what is the point of anything?
just existing… if you’re entire point of living is desiring things you don’t have life seems much more meaningless
It sounds like you are driven by desire which is not the path to fulfilling life
I think he is saying that it is fine to enjoy the time with something (or some person) but to be indifferent as to whether the object of your desire lasts or not - if the car is stolen or the girl leaves. If you are too attached to the person or thing, then you already suffer because you fear losing them. You have turned something nice into something to fear losing.
If you take the Lacanian view that desire is at the root of all life, then it is impossible to live without desire. My spiritual experiences have led me to the position that desire can be both pure and impure, so desire driven from a place of egoic wanting and attachment is bound to generate more suffering, whereas pure desire (which may generate basic needs like he says in the video for food etc or a desire to spread goodness) is unselfish and not driven by the egoic urge to control or possess. That's the only way I've been able to reconcile this question. :)
Acceptance guys... just accept.
That was deep, I love that.
thank you.
Thank you!!!!
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I wish that were always true. Unfortunately too many cases where it isn't.
Attachment within the Buddhist teachings is caused by the perception that we have in something or someone of owning them, grasping on to them and having the illusion that we need them to be happy, and full, that perception creates suffering and it takes us to live an empty life
it doesn’t matter how expensive the item is, nor the species of the life you are attached to, we can get attached to anything, that’s why we must create a good relationship with things and living beings, one in which we are not going to get attached to them if they are gone, because everything is always changing and we don’t really own nothing nor anyone
It doesn’t mean that you cannot enjoy anything or spend time with anyone, it just means that the time that we spend with the ones we love will end someday, they were just with us and those good times that we were together is what made it special, but no matter how much we want it they were never ours, nothing really is, so enjoying life knowing that it’ll end someday is what truly matters
Very well said!
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Ok I get it. How do I get over it
good question
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Maybe Letting go off expectations? Not trying to control circumstances hardly.
I have battled with attachment,( or at least I think I did)towards someone I wanted a child with, I even turned him in to my child because I wanted so much having a child with him, I dont need to have a child with him , I just want it, he dont want a child with me , he rather have a car, the situation is really ridiculous, and we end up in it everytime we meet , so I do my best to not meet him and not do what he dont want , is that attachment? I tried the laughing monks method, to look at my own " desire " and how its really exhausting me feeling this way. So I laugh, because from the outside prespective , when I look at it from outside myself wich I can its so silly, we have already done everything to get over , under or past this, I know when I am fifthy it will probably go away by itself but until then ,😍 I am battling it , I am fifthy now it hasent gone away? What to do?😊
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