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I am truly grateful that these stories are so real, with ZERO sugar coating. Anything else would have been mocking families who have experienced addiction. It destroys our freedoms. Thank you David.
I had tears in my eyes. I m so Happy that Mormon channel has took this step. It helps so many souls. I was addicted to porn as well and I have recovered from it. That feeling is awesome and yes, honesty was extremely important. I was honest with my Father in Heaven, with myself and with the Church Leaders. Thank you so much making these videos.
Playing a video game can cause a distraction but it also is known to cause more anxiety. When the addiction or feeling of wanting to view is there, there is usually feelings being suppressed that a person isn't really paying attention to. If a person isn't paying attention to how they're feeling and what stresses they are undergoing it's easy to fall back into the urge to want to view porn or cope. At that point it's better to go do some form of exercise or even write in a journal and see why they are getting the urge. It will help them to see where they need to pay attention to more so they can catch it before even getting the urge...
This may be one the most prevalent addiction (if not most prevalent) within the church that goes unnoticed by many. Incredibly powerful video and testimony of having the courage to choose the right course, even if that means not knowing exactly how all of the other pieces will fall into place. Thank you for sharing this incredibly personal story and struggle in the hopes of providing hope for others who may find themselves in a similar position.
I agree sexual addictions must be the most prevalent in the church, yet we noticed there's only one video in the series with the recovery sex addict. I think that tells us how difficult it is to recover from a sex addiction
I believe that people think intimacy equals less loneliness. My wife doesn't like to snuggle and I rationalized looking at adult nude women because her feelings for physical affection is different than mine. People want to be close, and one of the hardest things is accepting loneliness and differing points of views. I felt that it was no longer justifiable and was causing stress and my brain to be confused emotionally and I have stopped. The feelings of longing for physical closeness are still there and I have told my wife a hug every once in a while would be nice, but nothing. At the same time I cannot expect her to compromise, because what if she were all touchy feely and I wasn't? That would be OK because I wasnt the one feeling lonely? no. So I am starting to get my head on straight, but it isn't easy.
+eloise Its also difficult because identifying the self talk that leads to behavior justification and decision making is often unclear. For me it was if my wife yelled at me, refused a hug or snuggle, or asked me to do what I felt was excessive cleaning. It made me feel frustrated. And then I would look at adult nude women as if some emotional void would be solved. It gave superficial "oh yay" type feelings followed by guilt and emotional confusion. What helped was accepting my wife's differences in belief and affection needs. Instead of me thinking "I deserve..." I realize she doesn't owe me anything, so deal with it and move on. I am still affectionate and still want to cuddle, but if she doesn't, I don't think of myself as the victim which leads to frustration. It's self talk and attributions that people must be aware of first followed by consciously saying something like "cancel!" if a thought arises you don't approve of. This isn't easy, but is easier than being lazy and just reacting to situations rather than assessing and deciding what you really want and why.
Great comments about you and your journey with your spouse. Im surprised there aren't any comments about your post. It seems possible and probable that your plight is one of the common circumstances that married spouses endure and the least discussed and talked about in a public forum. Notwithstanding it being a silently killer to marriages and probably second to financial hardships.
"I was prepared to lie until I was dead," what a horrible burden to carry everyday, every hour. Because of the Saviour, we do not have to suffer like this. There is a way out.
David's video is my favorite cuz I recently quit an addiction that he helped me get through by making this video. I sobbed so hard after watching this because David related to me in so many ways. I am LDS and I didn't really know too much about other Mormons struggling with addiction. But now I feel like I am saved by the Lord's grace. I know I sound crazy but I turn back to this video every day cuz I am still struggling and also learning new stuff every time I watch it. All 12 steps and all 12 people have helped me gain hope in myself to change just as David. "And that's my testimony"
You do not sound crazy, and you are a very normal person. You are actually very healthy as evidenced by making your truth known. Keep on staying true, it help help you remain pure and real
I don't even know where to begin to express what I'm feeling. Gratitude for this program. Sadness that it didn't come sooner to enlighten our local leaders to the devastation of this addiction so it could help our family. Hopefulness for the help so many families will receive through the utilization of the recovery program. Joy that my children and I can receive closure for the affect this addiction had on our family. Peaceful for being able to forgive despite not having had the gift of restitution. Reinforced that anyone can heal through the Atonement of Christ and the loving kindness of our Heavenly Father. Sorrow for the individuals that haven't felt a desire for change despite losing their families. I prayed for a program like this for decades. I'm feeling so blessed and my heart is happy for this beautiful answer. Thank you , David, for your courage, to know you needed help, act on that courage and stop the deception.
I think this video is spot on. Sounds like many feel it is too strong and may scare others with the same addiction from coming forward. I feel it fits Step 1, "Honesty", perfectly. It IS scary to admit our addictions and sins. The consequences are never light, unless you tiptoe around honesty as he originally did and think you can do it on your own. Oh, how many times I've done that in life, only to carry the burden for years after I had moved on with life. Inevitably, honesty always brings relief and hope, even if the projected consequence feels scary. I think they did great portraying a bishop with his arm around him, and it was very appropriate to show his wife upset, but included the fact that they are still working together and progressing with hope together, even though it wasn't easy after his confession. I also don't feel the opening clip with the mistress in bed was too scandalous; the woman was barely noticeable. In a video portraying sex addiction, I think it was just as appropriate as seeing his eyes filled with light of despair as he looked at porn on the monitor. The Church is doing good to shed our culture of portraying an image of perfect and to open up the doors warmly to all who seek to come in. The release of this series of videos proves that. It's time that we recognize real issues so we can relate to one another, member or not. These videos are not just for members of the Church, but for anyone seeking hope. This video about "Honesty" is honest.
I love that quote, "As an addict, you think, 'If I admit defeat...what's left?'. In recovery, you learn that's the first step." I can't relay why it touches me so deeply, but it's so true to what I've experienced. So true. We're the ones who engaged in our addictions long enough, it's giving up that control and relinquishing our lives that lets us change, because God gets to work in us. :) It's wonderful and totally worth every step to get there.
They need a video about this woman's experience and journey through betrayal trauma. As a wife of a sex/porn addict we suffer a pain most people do not understand or acknowledge.
I myself am a mormon and I saw this with tears in my eyes. The reaction of the wife when David admitted this just made me really sad. I thank God that he recovered from this horrible addiction, and I hope we can follow his example.
That was fantastic and totally real. As a therapist that has been working with Sex addicts this video totally nails it!!! Well done! And thank you to the man who was willing to shatter the darkness and bring light and truth to this issue!
The first 12-step meeting that I ever attended, I was so scared. I was embarrassed. I didn't want folks to recognize me. I had my hat covering my face. I felt so trapped, so ashamed. I felt condemned. Now 14 years later, although I have continuously struggled with sexual addiction, I know that if I work the program, the program will work. When I don't work the program, my spiritual garden will get festered with weeds. Attending the meetings, regular meetings with Bishop, GETTING A SPONSOR or somebody to be accountable to DAILY, and working the steps DAILY, are great helps. We are taught in the scriptures that all we have to do is "look and live". It's so easy, that it is hard.
I've allowed pornography and masturbation to be a part of my life for the past 15 years, and I'm done.. I've had enough. I completely surrender to the full processes of addiction recovery.
Hi Will, thanks for your comment. For help to quit viewing pornography, visit www.churchofjesuschrist.org/addressing-pornography/?lang=eng You'll find information and resources, as well as suggestions about how to reach out and get help from others. Remember you are worthy of love and belonging, no matter what you do or where you have been. We're never beyond the help of Jesus Christ and His Atonement. Take care!
David, thank you for sharing this inspirational story. It takes an incredibly brave person to share a story this personal with millions of viewers. I hope that you know what a blessing you have been to those of us who watch this video.
Oh please, could you make some videos and helps for children/young teens who are going through this addiction?! How do you treat it differently? Because addiction is absolutely real for them too. But it's quite different how they see life than when you're an adult. I'm so inspired by this series of video helps, I think a "younger" version would be immensely helpful!!
They do have one about a woman who went through pornography addiction. Its on the mormon Channel playlist his grace. Under the title Pornography Addiction. It is a good video and beautiful. Informing both those who are suffering and those who wrongfully judge.
I think that this is the scariest step in the addiction recovery process. It's terrifying to admit that you've lost all control. That's not to say that the other 11 steps are easy, but it's definitely a major obstacle to overcome.
The only thing to help with overcoming it is being honest and being open with a support that is non judgmental. The more you hide it... the harder it is to overcome.
Double lives are draining and they destroy the quality of life. Secret addictions can cause us to push away people close to us, waste our time and keep us from pursuing loftier goals. We can become guarded, angry and withdrawn. A double life is a selfish existence, leaving us feeling alone.
Wow. David, your courage in telling your story publicly is amazing and I could never do something like that. Thank you. The Lord can truely mend our lives after addiction and sin destroys them.
Everything seems to be an addiction nowadays: food, sex, internet-use, video games, etc. We need to change our addictions. How about prayer, fasting, exercise, actual loving intimacy (what a concept!), and legit hobbies?
I'm not sure if you're meaning this, but your comment is really coming off as judgemental. There is a reason why the church is putting these out, and it's because there's a genuine need for people to recover. God gives us weakness so that we will rely on Him. That is the part of His plan for us. Each of us have a different path to walk, and addictions may be on some people's path in their lives. Many people do pray, fast, exercise, etc and there are lots of videos about that also. But saying on here that people can just change their addictions like it were nothing is extremely demoralizing. And can turn people away from recovery because they will feel ashamed and continue to try to hide their addictions. Christ came to call the sinners to repentance, and all are welcome. If you are an addict, then your life can change, and it doesn't matter what other people say. What matters is your relationship with God, and the path you follow to return to Him, one step at a time.
Addictions are a form of coping... it can be a lack of a support system, their needs aren't being met, lack of coping skills, lack of bonds in a family... there are many reasons. Some people are trying to cope with things that happened to them that aren't normal... there's much more to it than just changing habits. That can help but seeing a professional therapist to help a person better understand and to help a person see what they can do to overcome this or the past is helpful. But changing from a porn addiction is much harder than it sounds... it takes a non judgmental support system and a lot of work to over come.
Addictions are based off of the bodies wants/needs of the natural man. Prayer, fasting etc are impossible to become addictions. But rather habits that take self discipline and conversion.
pron , sex always takes .never gives back anything lasting . iam 52yrs i fight this day by day . alone ,hateing myself . my life has been most time a lie to everyone . and some kinda deal to GOD i will keep praying maybe he will talk back , some day iam sorry for what iam i will try to stop this being a great sinner that iam
Joe, we are all sinners. We all just sin in a different way. I know that God loves you. I know that he cares for you and wants to help you with all the struggles and pain that you are dealing with every single day. I have no idea what you are going through but I know our Savior does. You got this man. Small and simple changes every day. That's all he asks for. Yeah we will slip up and mess up, but just like a child learning how to walk, we can't beat ourselves up for falling. We need to keep getting up, and keep pushing forward. He will carry us.
Joe, please seek out help. Not on youtube but with a professional. Fighting it alone isn't easy. Having a non judgmental support is very helpful. Hiding it only makes it easier to stay in the addiction.
thanks you for saying so . .that means great day to me . i have iam doing alot better now, but like all addictions there is a fight each day . bless you for thinking of me
Such a powerful and sincere testimony! I felt God's love for me, and the whisperings of the Spirit encouraging me onward. I was especially touched by the fact that his wife did not utterly abandon him and that the Savior not only strengthened him, but his entire family. God really does care about the salvation of families. Thank you for sharing.
Pornography/sex addiction is the drug of choice for many LDS people. It is readily available, free in many cases, and you think you can hide it easily.
Thanks David. Addictions hurt anyone involved. In the long run, it is worth it to break away from horrible actions that cause harm. Keep Strong in the Lord!
Why should I yield to sin, because of my flesh? Why should I give place in my heart for the evil one to afflict my soul? The wages of sin is death. Wickedness never was happiness. Trust in the Lord with all thine heart. One day at a time.
Sir, Thank you for your courage and humility in making this video. You've helped bring courage to tons of people that change is possible. You're an inspiration.
I LOVE this! Thank you @Mormon Channel for making and sharing these videos. I know we can all benefit from the steps taught in this program whether it's with strong addictions or small tendencies. We all must learn to turn our life over to the Lord to become more like him!
Today I am 200 days clean from porn/masterbation/sexual sin. We can overcome one day at a time, every day. Go to meetings, work the 12-steps, get a sponsor
I understand what you were going through David, my heart goes out to you, I understand your testomony and how powerful a testimony can be ;) iv had to quit a lot of bad habits lately but I'm still struggling with acting out here n there. I'm a single man 36 and I'm trying to stay clean but I always fail at some point. I know that God loves me and wants me to expierence the fullness of the gospel... I just want to say thank you for this video and I'm glad you overcame this addiction ;) x
I realize that this is an old post, but for the potential benefit of anyone that may look through these comments in the future, I'll add that the Spirit testifies of truth. Truth can be found in many places - not just in your scriptures (although the scriptures are an awesome, primary source of truth). And yes, some truths can be found in pop music lyrics. Of course, lots of garbage can be found in pop music lyrics. But the Spirit is, indeed, able to testify to truths in a Coldplay song. And, often, music can soften the heart and/or jumpstart feelings that may pave the way for the Spirit to testify. One of the greatest spiritual manifestations I've every experienced came as I was listening to a piece of music, as the music caused me to ponder the nature of man and our purposes here on this earth. So chose your music carefully so that you are inviting the Spirit rather than chasing it away, and let the Spirit speak to you.
It isn't clear what initially in David's mind justified his infidelity. Why did it happen? Not that his wife forced him, was she emotionally & or physically unavailable even for snuggling? Some people need more physical affection than others and the first step is to accept and respect those differences. I previously justified looking at porn because my wife wasn't affectionate at all anymore, not even a hug. I think about it all the time that it just wastes my time and ages me doing this behavior and one thing that has helped is the Gospel app. I find that desire for intimacy can be changed in learning about the Lord and accepting my wife's differences. Unlike David I never progressed to infidelity, unless looking at adult nude women is. I didn't feel it was justifiable and I wanted it to stop. I wonder how many people out there that because of loneliness in their own self talk make decisions that lead to porn? It makes me happy that I am getting this sorted out.
Yes , I understand this, being extremely hard on oneself and aspiring to eliminate all sexual thought, as a way of "clensing " oneself...is ALSO an extreme position. I suppose we have to recover to a point where we can honestly express our needs to others, as well as reigning in dishonest, destructive behaviour. Good to write on this !
The reference to Coldplay's 'Fix you' and the background by Coldplay were perfect for this powerful video. I'm a 70's classic rock guy but love Coldplay and now I know why.
My ex boyfriend is a sex addict. I pray he will ask for help and tell the truth as well. He doesn’t know all the things I have figured out. I didn’t want to put him. I told him I loved him and I let him go. I am healing from the trauma. I have surrendered everything to God.
I have also struggled with porn and I've also struggled with, replays of it in my head, and I've struggled with horrible thoughts of it. And I know this is the first step. Admit that it is hard, you can't do it alone. That's why god wants us to be honest. That's why families are made. So we can tell the truth, so we can get the strength we need from their support and love. I know that god sends us his angels, and we can all be rescued. I'm in this journey. Who else is with me? 😃🤚🤚❤
This is so powerful and so beautiful that you can share such a personal and painful yet healing story! Bless you and your family! Thank you so much for these videos!!
From my limited experience in life, I have learned (and all people know this) that satan will do EVERYTHING in his power to destroy US and ANYTHING that is good and pure, while, on the other hand, our Heavenly Father will do EVERYTHING that He can to lift us and save us. THAT, after all, IS His work and His glory.
Sooo Happy to see you overcame sex addiction! There is always hope in Jesus Christ! Our heaven Father is Awsome! Jesus can heal anyone and everyone, anything and everything! All Praise to Jesus the Only True Living God! Praise you Jesus forevermore! Amen
People need to be cautious of the word "Addiction" and "Addict". Far too often I feel there are many who label themselves having an "Addiction" or being an "Addict" and its at these times people become what they claim themselves to be. We need to realize that often our lusts and cravings are often times a bad habit that is escalating to something worse and is not an addiction. The power of the label is dangerous and should be used wisely. Even psychologists will tell you that the power of the label is dangerous as well. Instead of saying you are addicted or an addict, say that you have a bad habit. Because more often than not, you are not addicted.
Thank you I been struggling with sex and porn for a long time and from this video I'm going to make it and give myself another chance please pray for me guys I need every power of the Lord right now that's the only person that's going to do it for me ever since I got addicted it never been like normal I've been in a relationships with the addiction that should have never happened and I'm done I need help and I need to get sober up and I'm going to try again all because this video inspired me that there is somebody out there and his name is God and he will guide you through any struggles in life you just have to follow him in his will if anybody know any contacts that could help please let me know my name is Noah and please pray that everything gets better for me thank you
Hi Noah, we're so sorry to hear you're having a hard time, but we're glad you're here! We know the Savior can help you have the courage you need to overcome this and get the help you need. When we struggle with pornography use, we often have feelings of being stuck, guilty, or alone, but those feelings come from Satan, not our Heavenly Father. He loves you, and He wants to help you! It may seem difficult to share our feelings and struggles with someone else, but we know finding someone to support you will help you a lot. Your parents and other trusted adults love you and care about you. Learn more about how you can find help and support, here: www.churchofjesuschrist.org/addressing-pornography/how-can-i-find-the-support-i-need?lang=eng
This is very good video. I'm still struggling. But sex addiction is worse than pornography addiction. I wish one of these videos was about pornography addiction. This truly is the scourge of our day!! I hope we will seek to combat this problem.
porn addiction will surely turn into sex addiction if we don't stop. it always grows progressively worse if we don't fix it. trust me. i used to be a "porn addict". not anymore. anyways, i am always looking for people to add to my support circle, people to reach out to, and who can reach out to me. please shoot me an email. would love to chat. dc699@nau.edu
This video perfectly describes this addiction. I have lived what this man is living and its like looking in the mirror. Like I am listening to myself. I never have gone past pornography but the feelings are the same. The ARP program the LDS has in place is nothing short of a God send. I am so grateful for it.
it's good to stop ASAP, because it does get worse beyond pornography. It's terrible. But thank God for repentance, and for forgiveness. There is a way back.
I am here with same story I cnt stop I constantly lie and it is eating me up from inside. I am Good father and provider. But I am a terriable lair and cheater. My family doesnt deserve this I need to stop. I love my wife with all my heart. Lord heal me amen.
Despite the hopelessness you feel, recovery from addiction is possible through Jesus Christ and His Atonement. We invite you and anyone else interested to join the Addiction Recovery Program, a process of studying and applying the principles of the gospel of Jesus Christ to find the power to recover from addiction. Learn more and find a meeting here: addictionrecovery.churchofjesuschrist.org/what-is-an-addiction-recovery-support-group?lang=eng
Waooo... When tears rolled down with the deep truth what you had in "you'll be changed soon" I am also changing my self. Thank you for sharing your videos Big thanks and love from ❤️🇵🇰
Thank u sir for your testimony. I'm in the same condition and i pray God help me too. I gave my life to Christ in 2012 but in 2020, I felt in d sin of furnication and since then, I have not been myself
You are all hero's in my mind, may Heavenly Father continue to bless you is my prayer. I think Alma the younger is a mentor for us all, though he was a sinner indeed he mended his way. You can be a great advocate for the church in these the last days we need your help with the youth of the church as well as us adults. I also would question anyone who would say they will never fall.
+Nathan Hudson It's FIX YOU by Coldplay, after talking to my bishop that day, I wouldn't forget that song as it played in the car the moment I got in . Same exact song hit me, as it goes. "When you try your best and don't succeed"... ... "Lights will guide you home, and ignite your bones, I will try to fix you" That song brightened my day and somehow lifted me up. Pay attention to the lyrics. I can relate to what David said when he heard that song.
+Nathan Hudson The Coldplay song referenced in the interview is "Fix You" but the song playing in the background of the video is "Oh My Soul" by A. Taylor. soundcloud.com/a-taylor/oh-my-soul
I know this man, and he truly has changed. He is an example of the power of repentance and the change that Christ can have in one's life.
Can i get this man number pls pls i need help
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@@RakeshKumar-jv6jkwhere are you from ? I’m struggling too
@@MightyChange22 … we can do things through Christ
I am truly grateful that these stories are so real, with ZERO sugar coating. Anything else would have been mocking families who have experienced addiction. It destroys our freedoms. Thank you David.
This is seriously the most raw and real video series the church has ever done. Well done and so inspiring for ANYONE!!! We need more videos like this!
I had tears in my eyes. I m so Happy that Mormon channel has took this step. It helps so many souls. I was addicted to porn as well and I have recovered from it. That feeling is awesome and yes, honesty was extremely important. I was honest with my Father in Heaven, with myself and with the Church Leaders. Thank you so much making these videos.
+Simon Race so did i thanks so much
how did you recover?
evry time your home alone or anything just play on a video game watch a movie or when you start just stop.
Playing a video game can cause a distraction but it also is known to cause more anxiety. When the addiction or feeling of wanting to view is there, there is usually feelings being suppressed that a person isn't really paying attention to. If a person isn't paying attention to how they're feeling and what stresses they are undergoing it's easy to fall back into the urge to want to view porn or cope. At that point it's better to go do some form of exercise or even write in a journal and see why they are getting the urge. It will help them to see where they need to pay attention to more so they can catch it before even getting the urge...
Please can you help me
This may be one the most prevalent addiction (if not most prevalent) within the church that goes unnoticed by many. Incredibly powerful video and testimony of having the courage to choose the right course, even if that means not knowing exactly how all of the other pieces will fall into place.
Thank you for sharing this incredibly personal story and struggle in the hopes of providing hope for others who may find themselves in a similar position.
I agree sexual addictions must be the most prevalent in the church, yet we noticed there's only one video in the series with the recovery sex addict. I think that tells us how difficult it is to recover from a sex addiction
I believe that people think intimacy equals less loneliness. My wife doesn't like to snuggle and I rationalized looking at adult nude women because her feelings for physical affection is different than mine. People want to be close, and one of the hardest things is accepting loneliness and differing points of views. I felt that it was no longer justifiable and was causing stress and my brain to be confused emotionally and I have stopped. The feelings of longing for physical closeness are still there and I have told my wife a hug every once in a while would be nice, but nothing. At the same time I cannot expect her to compromise, because what if she were all touchy feely and I wasn't? That would be OK because I wasnt the one feeling lonely? no. So I am starting to get my head on straight, but it isn't easy.
+eloise Its also difficult because identifying the self talk that leads to behavior justification and decision making is often unclear. For me it was if my wife yelled at me, refused a hug or snuggle, or asked me to do what I felt was excessive cleaning. It made me feel frustrated. And then I would look at adult nude women as if some emotional void would be solved. It gave superficial "oh yay" type feelings followed by guilt and emotional confusion. What helped was accepting my wife's differences in belief and affection needs. Instead of me thinking "I deserve..." I realize she doesn't owe me anything, so deal with it and move on. I am still affectionate and still want to cuddle, but if she doesn't, I don't think of myself as the victim which leads to frustration. It's self talk and attributions that people must be aware of first followed by consciously saying something like "cancel!" if a thought arises you don't approve of. This isn't easy, but is easier than being lazy and just reacting to situations rather than assessing and deciding what you really want and why.
Great comments about you and your journey with your spouse. Im surprised there aren't any comments about your post. It seems possible and probable that your plight is one of the common circumstances that married spouses endure and the least discussed and talked about in a public forum. Notwithstanding it being a silently killer to marriages and probably second to financial hardships.
www.lds.org/ensign/2017/01/marriage-technology-and-emotional-infidelity?lang=eng
"I was prepared to lie until I was dead," what a horrible burden to carry everyday, every hour. Because of the Saviour, we do not have to suffer like this. There is a way out.
David's video is my favorite cuz I recently quit an addiction that he helped me get through by making this video. I sobbed so hard after watching this because David related to me in so many ways. I am LDS and I didn't really know too much about other Mormons struggling with addiction. But now I feel like I am saved by the Lord's grace. I know I sound crazy but I turn back to this video every day cuz I am still struggling and also learning new stuff every time I watch it. All 12 steps and all 12 people have helped me gain hope in myself to change just as David. "And that's my testimony"
You do not sound crazy, and you are a very normal person. You are actually very healthy as evidenced by making your truth known. Keep on staying true, it help help you remain pure and real
I don't even know where to begin to express what I'm feeling. Gratitude for this program. Sadness that it didn't come sooner to enlighten our local leaders to the devastation of this addiction so it could help our family. Hopefulness for the help so many families will receive through the utilization of the recovery program. Joy that my children and I can receive closure for the affect this addiction had on our family. Peaceful for being able to forgive despite not having had the gift of restitution. Reinforced that anyone can heal through the Atonement of Christ and the loving kindness of our Heavenly Father. Sorrow for the individuals that haven't felt a desire for change despite losing their families. I prayed for a program like this for decades. I'm feeling so blessed and my heart is happy for this beautiful answer. Thank you , David, for your courage, to know you needed help, act on that courage and stop the deception.
I ran my life into the ground
Because I couldn't stop
The only way out, I found
Was to let walls of lies drop
I think this video is spot on. Sounds like many feel it is too strong and may scare others with the same addiction from coming forward. I feel it fits Step 1, "Honesty", perfectly. It IS scary to admit our addictions and sins. The consequences are never light, unless you tiptoe around honesty as he originally did and think you can do it on your own. Oh, how many times I've done that in life, only to carry the burden for years after I had moved on with life. Inevitably, honesty always brings relief and hope, even if the projected consequence feels scary. I think they did great portraying a bishop with his arm around him, and it was very appropriate to show his wife upset, but included the fact that they are still working together and progressing with hope together, even though it wasn't easy after his confession. I also don't feel the opening clip with the mistress in bed was too scandalous; the woman was barely noticeable. In a video portraying sex addiction, I think it was just as appropriate as seeing his eyes filled with light of despair as he looked at porn on the monitor. The Church is doing good to shed our culture of portraying an image of perfect and to open up the doors warmly to all who seek to come in. The release of this series of videos proves that. It's time that we recognize real issues so we can relate to one another, member or not. These videos are not just for members of the Church, but for anyone seeking hope. This video about "Honesty" is honest.
I love that quote, "As an addict, you think, 'If I admit defeat...what's left?'. In recovery, you learn that's the first step." I can't relay why it touches me so deeply, but it's so true to what I've experienced. So true. We're the ones who engaged in our addictions long enough, it's giving up that control and relinquishing our lives that lets us change, because God gets to work in us. :) It's wonderful and totally worth every step to get there.
They need a video about this woman's experience and journey through betrayal trauma. As a wife of a sex/porn addict we suffer a pain most people do not understand or acknowledge.
😢 I know what you mean… but we can be healed also….
I myself am a mormon and I saw this with tears in my eyes. The reaction of the wife when David admitted this just made me really sad. I thank God that he recovered from this horrible addiction, and I hope we can follow his example.
That was fantastic and totally real. As a therapist that has been working with Sex addicts this video totally nails it!!! Well done! And thank you to the man who was willing to shatter the darkness and bring light and truth to this issue!
Hello emil, how can i contact you
The first 12-step meeting that I ever attended, I was so scared. I was embarrassed. I didn't want folks to recognize me. I had my hat covering my face. I felt so trapped, so ashamed. I felt condemned. Now 14 years later, although I have continuously struggled with sexual addiction, I know that if I work the program, the program will work. When I don't work the program, my spiritual garden will get festered with weeds. Attending the meetings, regular meetings with Bishop, GETTING A SPONSOR or somebody to be accountable to DAILY, and working the steps DAILY, are great helps. We are taught in the scriptures that all we have to do is "look and live". It's so easy, that it is hard.
I've allowed pornography and masturbation to be a part of my life for the past 15 years, and I'm done.. I've had enough. I completely surrender to the full processes of addiction recovery.
Hi Will, thanks for your comment. For help to quit viewing pornography, visit www.churchofjesuschrist.org/addressing-pornography/?lang=eng You'll find information and resources, as well as suggestions about how to reach out and get help from others. Remember you are worthy of love and belonging, no matter what you do or where you have been. We're never beyond the help of Jesus Christ and His Atonement. Take care!
David, thank you for sharing this inspirational story. It takes an incredibly brave person to share a story this personal with millions of viewers. I hope that you know what a blessing you have been to those of us who watch this video.
This is true faith. He took a step forward, even though he didn't know what was going to happen. He trusted in God in a way many of us fail to do.
Oh please, could you make some videos and helps for children/young teens who are going through this addiction?! How do you treat it differently? Because addiction is absolutely real for them too. But it's quite different how they see life than when you're an adult. I'm so inspired by this series of video helps, I think a "younger" version would be immensely helpful!!
I think this version was quite clear and spot on.
+Sarah Hancock Give them credit for addressing it. And time to pursue it further.It's a beginning.
+Sarah Hancock Look into the Sons of Helaman program. This is geared towards young men with pornography and sex addictions and is amazingly inspired.
+Mark McConkie I was just going to post that too, nice job finding that Mark!
They do have one about a woman who went through pornography addiction. Its on the mormon Channel playlist his grace. Under the title Pornography Addiction.
It is a good video and beautiful. Informing both those who are suffering and those who wrongfully judge.
What I see is that Coldplay music (minute 2:30) changes lives. *_*
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Know that you're helping millions of people with your story
I know this guy. Yes he made mistakes and horrible decisions but he is way better now than he was in the time frame of this video.
4real
Tell him to contact me I need help :'(
I think that this is the scariest step in the addiction recovery process. It's terrifying to admit that you've lost all control. That's not to say that the other 11 steps are easy, but it's definitely a major obstacle to overcome.
I think one of the hardest part of addiction is to keep trying to hide your habit, living a a double life must be so draining
The only thing to help with overcoming it is being honest and being open with a support that is non judgmental. The more you hide it... the harder it is to overcome.
Double lives are draining and they destroy the quality of life. Secret addictions can cause us to push away people close to us, waste our time and keep us from pursuing loftier goals. We can become guarded, angry and withdrawn. A double life is a selfish existence, leaving us feeling alone.
yes, living a double life is so draining. That's why I gave it up, and AM giving it up each day.
Wow. David, your courage in telling your story publicly is amazing and I could never do something like that. Thank you. The Lord can truely mend our lives after addiction and sin destroys them.
Everything seems to be an addiction nowadays: food, sex, internet-use, video games, etc. We need to change our addictions. How about prayer, fasting, exercise, actual loving intimacy (what a concept!), and legit hobbies?
I'm not sure if you're meaning this, but your comment is really coming off as judgemental. There is a reason why the church is putting these out, and it's because there's a genuine need for people to recover. God gives us weakness so that we will rely on Him. That is the part of His plan for us. Each of us have a different path to walk, and addictions may be on some people's path in their lives.
Many people do pray, fast, exercise, etc and there are lots of videos about that also. But saying on here that people can just change their addictions like it were nothing is extremely demoralizing. And can turn people away from recovery because they will feel ashamed and continue to try to hide their addictions. Christ came to call the sinners to repentance, and all are welcome. If you are an addict, then your life can change, and it doesn't matter what other people say. What matters is your relationship with God, and the path you follow to return to Him, one step at a time.
Addictions are a form of coping... it can be a lack of a support system, their needs aren't being met, lack of coping skills, lack of bonds in a family... there are many reasons. Some people are trying to cope with things that happened to them that aren't normal... there's much more to it than just changing habits. That can help but seeing a professional therapist to help a person better understand and to help a person see what they can do to overcome this or the past is helpful. But changing from a porn addiction is much harder than it sounds... it takes a non judgmental support system and a lot of work to over come.
Harbinger -----Teach me dear Harbinger!
Actually now that I think of it, being addicting to fasting is probably not a wise concept. Like the others though.
Addictions are based off of the bodies wants/needs of the natural man. Prayer, fasting etc are impossible to become addictions. But rather habits that take self discipline and conversion.
Awesome! Change fueled by Coldplay lyrics :). I love that song!
Ikr! My feels song... I feel as though some lyrics from some people are directly inspired from the Lord.
+cubworld That's also my favorite song and I always cry when I hear it, specially when I'm going through hard times.
If anyone is curious about the song in the second half playing in the background it’s “Oh My Soul” By Adam Taylor. ^^
I actually was hoping someone in the comments was gonna tell me. I really wanted to know, thanks.
Powerful message. We all suffer from addictions in some form or another as mortals. These messages are beneficial for us all!
pron , sex always takes .never gives back anything lasting . iam 52yrs i fight this day by day . alone ,hateing myself . my life has been most time a lie to everyone . and some kinda deal to GOD i will keep praying maybe he will talk back , some day iam sorry for what iam i will try to stop this being a great sinner that iam
Joe, we are all sinners. We all just sin in a different way. I know that God loves you. I know that he cares for you and wants to help you with all the struggles and pain that you are dealing with every single day. I have no idea what you are going through but I know our Savior does. You got this man. Small and simple changes every day. That's all he asks for. Yeah we will slip up and mess up, but just like a child learning how to walk, we can't beat ourselves up for falling. We need to keep getting up, and keep pushing forward. He will carry us.
thanks love you for yhat
Joe, please seek out help. Not on youtube but with a professional. Fighting it alone isn't easy. Having a non judgmental support is very helpful. Hiding it only makes it easier to stay in the addiction.
thanks you for saying so . .that means great day to me . i have iam doing alot better now, but like all addictions there is a fight each day . bless you for thinking of me
Joe Hall You can do it buddy. I'm speaking from experience. 3 years without it. I feel so free without it.
Such a powerful and sincere testimony! I felt God's love for me, and the whisperings of the Spirit encouraging me onward. I was especially touched by the fact that his wife did not utterly abandon him and that the Savior not only strengthened him, but his entire family. God really does care about the salvation of families. Thank you for sharing.
You're welcome, we're glad you uplifted and inspired by this video!
Pornography/sex addiction is the drug of choice for many LDS people. It is readily available, free in many cases, and you think you can hide it easily.
Thanks David. Addictions hurt anyone involved. In the long run, it is worth it to break away from horrible actions that cause harm. Keep Strong in the Lord!
the hardest words in our language of today is .
1. I love you.
2. I'm sorry.
3. can you help me.
Why should I yield to sin, because of my flesh? Why should I give place in my heart for the evil one to afflict my soul? The wages of sin is death. Wickedness never was happiness. Trust in the Lord with all thine heart. One day at a time.
Sir, Thank you for your courage and humility in making this video. You've helped bring courage to tons of people that change is possible. You're an inspiration.
This is so beautiful. The church is true, and the Gospel is eternal truth! I'm blessed to be apart of this wonderful church.
I LOVE this! Thank you @Mormon Channel for making and sharing these videos. I know we can all benefit from the steps taught in this program whether it's with strong addictions or small tendencies. We all must learn to turn our life over to the Lord to become more like him!
This is why I love being a Mormon
Ikr
Today I am 200 days clean from porn/masterbation/sexual sin. We can overcome one day at a time, every day. Go to meetings, work the 12-steps, get a sponsor
David, thanks for your honesty. May the Lord continue to bless and keep you.
Tears... my heart is broken hearing this story, but filled with inspiration hearing his recovery.
hang in there brother. we are not alone. one day at a time
This man is so strong. I know it’s because of the power of the atonement that he was strengthened. Bless him and his family.
The fiery darts of the adversary and the binding chains of addiction are portrayed so well in these videos.
I understand what you were going through David, my heart goes out to you, I understand your testomony and how powerful a testimony can be ;) iv had to quit a lot of bad habits lately but I'm still struggling with acting out here n there. I'm a single man 36 and I'm trying to stay clean but I always fail at some point. I know that God loves me and wants me to expierence the fullness of the gospel... I just want to say thank you for this video and I'm glad you overcame this addiction ;) x
Can we get a video of help and the process of the wife having to go through this process, how she made it through the pain, the forgiving process
I found the song in the backgroud here:
soundcloud.com/a-taylor/oh-my-soul
Thank you great song!
Thank you!! this song is amazing!
+Chandler Walpole How did you find the song? I tried using google now to identify the music but it didn't find a match!
+Chandler Walpole Thanks! I just posted above if anyone knew how to find this song then saw your post!
+Chandler Walpole thankyouthankyouthankyouthankyouthankyouthankyou!!! I thought I would never find it!
This mans a hero to us all.
Coldplay brings the Spirit. 👍🏽
really ?
+Michael Douglas Skewes Yes, the song "Fix you" is referenced in this video
+Geroul Lasala i agree. I want to find the background music to this video. I love it.
s i este es un ejemplo de verdadero arrepentimiento
I realize that this is an old post, but for the potential benefit of anyone that may look through these comments in the future, I'll add that the Spirit testifies of truth. Truth can be found in many places - not just in your scriptures (although the scriptures are an awesome, primary source of truth). And yes, some truths can be found in pop music lyrics. Of course, lots of garbage can be found in pop music lyrics. But the Spirit is, indeed, able to testify to truths in a Coldplay song. And, often, music can soften the heart and/or jumpstart feelings that may pave the way for the Spirit to testify. One of the greatest spiritual manifestations I've every experienced came as I was listening to a piece of music, as the music caused me to ponder the nature of man and our purposes here on this earth. So chose your music carefully so that you are inviting the Spirit rather than chasing it away, and let the Spirit speak to you.
I CAN DO ALL THINGS THROUGH CHRIST WHICH STRENGTHENS ME
PHIL 4:13
A very clear, powerful and well put together video that illustrates and magnifies only one possible side of the story.
The song is Fix you, from British group, Coldplay.
It isn't clear what initially in David's mind justified his infidelity. Why did it happen? Not that his wife forced him, was she emotionally & or physically unavailable even for snuggling? Some people need more physical affection than others and the first step is to accept and respect those differences. I previously justified looking at porn because my wife wasn't affectionate at all anymore, not even a hug. I think about it all the time that it just wastes my time and ages me doing this behavior and one thing that has helped is the Gospel app. I find that desire for intimacy can be changed in learning about the Lord and accepting my wife's differences. Unlike David I never progressed to infidelity, unless looking at adult nude women is. I didn't feel it was justifiable and I wanted it to stop. I wonder how many people out there that because of loneliness in their own self talk make decisions that lead to porn? It makes me happy that I am getting this sorted out.
Yes , I understand this, being extremely hard on oneself and aspiring to eliminate all sexual thought, as a way of "clensing " oneself...is ALSO an extreme position. I suppose we have to recover to a point where we can honestly express our needs to others, as well as reigning in dishonest, destructive behaviour. Good to write on this
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The reference to Coldplay's 'Fix you' and the background by Coldplay were perfect for this powerful video. I'm a 70's classic rock guy but love Coldplay and now I know why.
My ex boyfriend is a sex addict. I pray he will ask for help and tell the truth as well. He doesn’t know all the things I have figured out. I didn’t want to put him. I told him I loved him and I let him go. I am healing from the trauma. I have surrendered everything to God.
I have also struggled with porn and I've also struggled with, replays of it in my head, and I've struggled with horrible thoughts of it. And I know this is the first step. Admit that it is hard, you can't do it alone. That's why god wants us to be honest. That's why families are made. So we can tell the truth, so we can get the strength we need from their support and love. I know that god sends us his angels, and we can all be rescued. I'm in this journey. Who else is with me? 😃🤚🤚❤
He is a brave man. We all suffer from addictions in some form or another as mortals. These messages are beneficial for us all!
Godbless you!
That was a powerful testimony.
If I had to be an actor this would be worthy of it.
Great job sir
"You do not have to be what you have been."
This is so powerful and so beautiful that you can share such a personal and painful yet healing story! Bless you and your family! Thank you so much for these videos!!
Thank you for your honesty, David.
+Chris Rogers That is so kind, thanks for your comment.
From my limited experience in life, I have learned (and all people know this) that satan will do EVERYTHING in his power to destroy US and ANYTHING that is good and pure, while, on the other hand, our Heavenly Father will do EVERYTHING that He can to lift us and save us. THAT, after all, IS His work and His glory.
Thank You Brother for Believing and For showing the Courage. You are Awesome!
Does anyone know the song that starts to play at around the time he tells his wife about his addictions?
im so sorry but the part where the wife found out was heartbreaking.
i almost cried
God can heal innocent victims.
Thank you for your courage David and honesty, truly an inspiring and eye opening message for everyone whether you struggle with addiction or not.
He doesn't want to make us into the people that we can become, He wants to make us the people we always were.
This was Amazing, it seems so small but is truly an addiction that can consume you , thank you for sharing.
Sooo Happy to see you overcame sex addiction! There is always hope in Jesus Christ!
Our heaven Father is Awsome! Jesus can heal anyone and everyone, anything and everything! All Praise to Jesus the Only True Living God! Praise you Jesus forevermore! Amen
This was a POWERFUL video. David was authentic, and I felt the power of his words and testimony. Thank you for sharing this.
People need to be cautious of the word "Addiction" and "Addict". Far too often I feel there are many who label themselves having an "Addiction" or being an "Addict" and its at these times people become what they claim themselves to be. We need to realize that often our lusts and cravings are often times a bad habit that is escalating to something worse and is not an addiction. The power of the label is dangerous and should be used wisely. Even psychologists will tell you that the power of the label is dangerous as well. Instead of saying you are addicted or an addict, say that you have a bad habit. Because more often than not, you are not addicted.
just over 6 months clean. one day at a time
Thank you I been struggling with sex and porn for a long time and from this video I'm going to make it and give myself another chance please pray for me guys I need every power of the Lord right now that's the only person that's going to do it for me ever since I got addicted it never been like normal I've been in a relationships with the addiction that should have never happened and I'm done I need help and I need to get sober up and I'm going to try again all because this video inspired me that there is somebody out there and his name is God and he will guide you through any struggles in life you just have to follow him in his will if anybody know any contacts that could help please let me know my name is Noah and please pray that everything gets better for me thank you
Hi Noah, we're so sorry to hear you're having a hard time, but we're glad you're here! We know the Savior can help you have the courage you need to overcome this and get the help you need. When we struggle with pornography use, we often have feelings of being stuck, guilty, or alone, but those feelings come from Satan, not our Heavenly Father. He loves you, and He wants to help you! It may seem difficult to share our feelings and struggles with someone else, but we know finding someone to support you will help you a lot. Your parents and other trusted adults love you and care about you. Learn more about how you can find help and support, here: www.churchofjesuschrist.org/addressing-pornography/how-can-i-find-the-support-i-need?lang=eng
I will keep you in prayer.i have the same problem.i have just recently come into the ladderday saints church.
Great story. I love the honesty. The truth shall make you free!
This is so powerful. I know it will help many people. Are we encouraged to share these one day at a time, now..? Or beginning September 1st?
Joan Smith
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This is just so powerful. beautifully done!
what is the name of the song in this video. It's amazing. Can I get it somewhere?
This is very good video. I'm still struggling. But sex addiction is worse than pornography addiction. I wish one of these videos was about pornography addiction. This truly is the scourge of our day!! I hope we will seek to combat this problem.
porn addiction will surely turn into sex addiction if we don't stop. it always grows progressively worse if we don't fix it. trust me. i used to be a "porn addict". not anymore. anyways, i am always looking for people to add to my support circle, people to reach out to, and who can reach out to me. please shoot me an email. would love to chat. dc699@nau.edu
This video perfectly describes this addiction. I have lived what this man is living and its like looking in the mirror. Like I am listening to myself. I never have gone past pornography but the feelings are the same. The ARP program the LDS has in place is nothing short of a God send. I am so grateful for it.
it's good to stop ASAP, because it does get worse beyond pornography. It's terrible. But thank God for repentance, and for forgiveness. There is a way back.
God bless him and his wife for guiding him through this. Thankyou for sharing your story with us
You are a Brave man, thanks for sharing!
I love the score. Does anyone know who wrote and performs the score?
The song he was listening to was fix you by Coldplay
This is fantastic. BTW, does anybody know the song in this video?
+Christopher Patty Yeah I'd certainly like to know, as well.
Check out "oh my soul" on soundcloud
izzy 0828 THANK YOU! That's exactly what I was looking for!
He's now a light that will guide others home ❤️
I am here with same story I cnt stop I constantly lie and it is eating me up from inside. I am Good father and provider. But I am a terriable lair and cheater. My family doesnt deserve this I need to stop. I love my wife with all my heart. Lord heal me amen.
Despite the hopelessness you feel, recovery from addiction is possible through Jesus Christ and His Atonement. We invite you and anyone else interested to join the Addiction Recovery Program, a process of studying and applying the principles of the gospel of Jesus Christ to find the power to recover from addiction. Learn more and find a meeting here: addictionrecovery.churchofjesuschrist.org/what-is-an-addiction-recovery-support-group?lang=eng
Waooo... When tears rolled down with the deep truth what you had in "you'll be changed soon"
I am also changing my self.
Thank you for sharing your videos
Big thanks and love from ❤️🇵🇰
Thank you for sharing. I keep coming back to this for inspiration to fight onward
Back again. The spirit of this video strengthens me. Thank you for your courage. It has led me to Christ, and He's the reason I still clean.
Isnt this what Christ is? Raw unfiltered honesty..? Thats what makes his plan so damn great.
I love it that a Coldplay song helped him in the repentance process! Chris Martin should be proud! :-D
psalms 2:7
will surely tell of the decree of the LORD: He said to Me, 'You are My Son, Today I have begotten You.
Whats the title of the Song that triggered the inspiration? I saw a comment below that it was by Coldplay..
Thank u sir for your testimony.
I'm in the same condition and i pray God help me too. I gave my life to Christ in 2012 but in 2020, I felt in d sin of furnication and since then, I have not been myself
You are all hero's in my mind, may Heavenly Father continue to bless you is my prayer. I think Alma the younger is a mentor for us all, though he was a sinner indeed he mended his way. You can be a great advocate for the church in these the last days we need your help with the youth of the church as well as us adults. I also would question anyone who would say they will never fall.
Thank you for your Candor, David.
alguien sabe si estos videos estan disponibles en otro lenguaje, ya los busque pero no m aparecen y los subtitulos estan solo en ingles
no lo estan. Los voy a descargar para subtitularlos.
What Cold play song is this?
I don't know about the one playing, but he references Fix You.
It's definitely not fix you
+Nathan Hudson It's FIX YOU by Coldplay, after talking to my bishop that day, I wouldn't forget that song as it played in the car the moment I got in . Same exact song hit me, as it goes.
"When you try your best and don't succeed"...
...
"Lights will guide you home, and ignite your bones, I will try to fix you"
That song brightened my day and somehow lifted me up. Pay attention to the lyrics. I can relate to what David said when he heard that song.
+Nathan Hudson The Coldplay song referenced in the interview is "Fix You" but the song playing in the background of the video is "Oh My Soul" by A. Taylor.
soundcloud.com/a-taylor/oh-my-soul
+zebostoneleigh THAK YOU!!! strangely its this song that keeps bringing me back to this video. It makes the message here so much more powerful
Thank you, David.
Sexual misbehavior can create some very significant consequences.