TheInternetBully94 to be honest he didnt, everyone on youtube who came out as gay lesbian bisexual etc. did it because its something they cannot hide. its a part of their personal identity and every youtuber who did come out did get loads of hate, unsuscribers. but they normally wont get hate if they didnt say anything so the attention thing is completely opposite of what you think conner wants. hes just trying to not hide a big part of his life and i dont understand why you cannot just respect that. if you have anything to say about someone else that is not you then keep it in your mind and leave this channel, dont comment rude things that are not true
TheInternetBully94 no, you need to snap out of it. your in denial,face the facts. who is their right mind does it for attention? you do realize how much hate he is getting for this?
Extremely proud of Connor, the fact we live in a world where "Coming out" seems like a struggle and hardship is wrong. Be proud of who you are! You've came a long way, and I'm proud of you, and I'm pretty sure I can speak for a lot of us here when I say we will stand by you no matter what.
i love the idea of so much people supporting him , there's more people supporting him than hating him. connor is so brave to let everyone know something so personal to him. i love him
When I was 24 I was diagnosed with Hodgkins lymphoma (cancer of the lymph nodes). I was so happy that I was going to die because the daily battle I had with myself--in my own mind--would finally be over. I had major depression for years because the terror of confronting my sexuality seemed to be an insoluble daily crisis. The wall I had built around me was higher and stronger than the ramparts of a medieval castle. And now cancer would sweep it all away and I would die without anyone knowing my horrible terrible secret. But I've always been a fighter with tremendous emotional reserves. I went through the surgeries, the radiation, the chemotherapy and six months later I had achieved remission. There was no detectable trace of lymphoma in my body. Great news but I was back to my constant fear and confusion about myself and my sexual orientation. A little later that year (1980) I went to see the movie "Fame" by director Alan Parker. There is a gay character prominently featured...a young, small, and not particularly attractive Freshman at Performing Arts High School. His hair was an orange shade of red and very very curly. An acting class assignment was to share something personal about himself that no one else knew. He took the stage and announced to the class "I'm gay." "My parents put me in therapy but I didn't go. "I JUST KNEW IT'S SOMETHING THAT I CAN'T CHANGE. "I FIGURE IF THAT'S THE WORST THING THAT HAS HAPPENED TO ME, I CAN LIVE WITH THAT. "SO I'M GAY." Oh my God, I began to cry in the theater, sobbing uncontrollably, making a scene and unable to stop. I went into the men's room and, after 20 minutes, I returned to my seat. Afterward I went home and got ready for bed. I was exhausted, but as I lay in my bed I began to think about my battle with cancer. Could anything really be worse than that which I had faced and vanquished without any hope for my future? I fell asleep. I woke up the next morning, went into the bathroom and looked in the mirror. Something was different. Silence. The continuous audio track of my self-bashing wasn't playing. It never played again. I looked at myself again in the mirror. "I'm gay and that most certainly isn't the worst thing that's happened or will ever happen to me. I'm gay and I'm glad to be gay. And I'm happy, really happy." I took my morning whiz and then began experiencing the tranquility and sublime joy of self-acceptance.
Coming out isn't easy, especially for someone with millions of followers. So proud of you for being brave and sharing the love for yourself with us all.
Arelle i asking you because you maybe know it: LGBTQ UA-camrs before they come out in public, they came out to other UA-camr friends? (Sorry if you don't understand me my English isn't the best)
Honestly this is so amazing that you have found the courage to share this with everyone around you. I respect you so much for this. And know I'll always support you, my friend(: Much love, Dylan
i remember watching this video when it first came out. i was 13, and knew nothing about the lgbtq+ community other than what i had seen on youtube. it wasnt until the video that it clicked for me. i didnt realize how much of this era i repressed until rewatching this video almost ten years later. hearing you mention how you forced yourself to say it in the mirror made me remember that you encouraged me to do the same. like you, it took a long time for me to do so. when i did i sobbed and felt the same emotions you did. i’m 22 now and feel so blessed that i had influences like you growing up to open my eyes. none of my friends or family supported me, but i never felt alone because i could always come back to your videos and feel at ease. i find myself still coming back to your videos whenever i’m stressed. all that to say, thank you, connor. out of all of the creators ive followed, you are by far my biggest inspiration. your videos and books got me through the roughest times in my life and still do. hi, i’m ema, and i’m a lesbian:)
I'm sick of people that are saying "you should think about this", like really? It's not your choice -- you're born gay. Just like your born short. Just like your born a little chubby. We're all different. Every human on earth is unique in some way. Why hate on people if they're unique? Does it affect you? Having a different sexual orientation should not affect anything except who you find attractive. I'm really pissed right now, because now that I think about it, the United States is really screwed up. For over 200 years, we've hated on different people just because of who they are. Yeah, sure, other countries do this too, but in no way AT ALL, should there be any laws regulating who you can marry. I'm only twelve years old, but at least I say my opinions. Everybody should. Speak up.
Omfg GETTING THINGS STRAIGHT HAS COME DOWN TO U! THANK U SIR FOR AGGREEING WITH ME! Stupid ppl think he can "change his mind" about being gay and "re-think it". Thr fucking wrong, it is part of u, part of ur mind and genetics. If that's how u r, then be it. So if u ppl r saying that he's going against what God Intended him to b, they're OBVIOUSLY wrong in the fking heads cuz God intends everyone to b exactly the way they r. Connor can't stop himself from being who he is. So plz, be respectful ppl, and shut up.
You are right +itsmilo I believe that you don't decide! because a lot of people who are gay get bullied if they are open about it. I doubt anyone would choose this. I think you are born to like a certain gender.
I unintentionally watched your "Coming Out" video exactly 5 years to the date that you published it, and this just happens to be the 23rd anniversary of my coming out. Congratulations on your 5/yr Anniversary of Coming Out!!
does anyone else just get so excited to coming out videos? it makes me so happy to see all my favorite youtubers telling the world a big secret that was hard to tell and just get that relief and support and idk it just excites me lol
Omg connor we all love you and support you. when you started to tear up i started balling. love you and thank you for sharing that piece of information with all your fans 😚😚
I know this was ages ago, but this video is what finally helped me accept myself for who I am, I still use it to help remember the date I came out (two weeks later). Thank you Connor
So, fucking, PROUD of you Connor! You have such courage and I really think this is gonna help a shitload of people. 4 FOR YOU GLEN COCO YOU GO GLEN COCO
cheekybaby that is so rude and disrespectful just cause she supports gays does not mean she is a bad person so just keep your comments to yourself cause as a gay person I am very protective
I just saw this, which is ironic considering I just came out as pansexual to my parents yesterday. Mine...didn't go as well as yours seems to have, but congratulations on figuring yourself out, Connor! You are incredibly right when you say it's the hardest thing you could ever have to do. Of course I support you through this.
You go girl, I hope you're parents and friends will be okay with it after a while.. Everyone is afraid of change, but what you have done is one of the bravest things anyone can do, and for some people it may be scary to hear that someone you know is not exactly who you thought they were.. But you're still the same person, and I admire you for being able to tell.. Love from a cyber friend
Signe Brekke Thank you! My friends already all knew and were very supportive. My mother was the only problem. But, again, thank you, I really appreciate it
elijah huggins The best way I can describe it is that I don't see gender when I date people. I will date someone who is male, female, both, neither, non-binary. I just--do no see gender when I date people. It's different from bisexual because bisexual people will date two (or more, usually two) specific genders, whereas I just don't see gender at all when I like people. I just do.
DionYorkie Truth! No one needs to hide who they really are, it shouldn't have to happen. The public is becoming more and more accepting of us but there are still those people out there who wont get it. ConnorFranta Forget the haters! At the end of the day they don't amount to crap ...All that really matters is what you think of yourself at the end of the day. You be you Connor :) I still hope to one day become one of your friends! #LoveIsLove #BeYouStayYou #WeLoveYouConnor
I'm pleased you're happy with who you are now. Hopefully, this helps people who are still struggling. It was lovely hanging out with you at Digifest in London this year. Good to see you find some peace of mind. Its draining having to second-guess and censor youself. x
Before Connor came out, there were many supporters. After Connor came out, suddenly there were many haters. Is there really a difference between homosexual and heterosexual? We're all equal, and Connor DOES NOT deserve the hate that he's getting right now. Connor.. i'm so proud of you.. stay strong!
Not really. I'm really happy to say that Connor got a surprising amount of support after this! I was so glad to see everyone being so sweet and understanding :')
***** You don't get the point. Most of Connor's video receive not more than 1000 dislikes. But why does this video have 4000 dislike? Why is it just this? Why isn't there any video that have as much dislikes as this? And yes, stop having that stereotypical thinking, not all haters are Christians from Texas or from the Middle East, that's just plain rude.
I first watched this video when I was 13 and just figuring out I was quuer. I haven't come back to it since but just had the thought to come to it just to realize its been exactly a decade. Here's to a decade of being out and proud for Conner Franta. Thank you.
I'm so incredibly happy and proud of you. But I have to say the most heart wrenching thing, is that you waited almost 22 years to really accept the fact. No one should have to wait that long to be able to accept themselves and be happy with themselves, and I'm sorry it took so long. Thank you Connor, for making this video because you're probably helping someone who's going through the same thing, and it means the world to them. All we can do is hope that one day we won't need to 'come out' and that it won't be that big of a deal to so many.. That it'll just be normal.
I remember being on the bus in 9th grade watching this video in 2014. This video is the reason why I had the courage to come out. My life has never been in the same… in the best way. Thank you, Connor, for posting this video and being so vulnerable.
This is hugely brave of you. Connor, I have just one thing to say to you. YOU GO GLEN COCO Somebody in the public eye, like you, proving that this is more than okay will inspire and lead the way for so many LGBTQ kids who look up to you.
There is nothing wrong with being gay. It's just a way of life, no one can help it. Being gay might not be the norm, but if it makes you feel good, if you love the person your with, no matter what gender, skin color, race etc then what others think doesn't matter. Enjoy life how you want to, don't let others get you down. I can't understand why some people think so differently about gay people. THEY'RE NOT DIFFERENT, they are still the same person. I love you Connor, and being gay doesn't make you any different. You'll ALWAYS be the person that we all love
Today I came out to my family. Thanks to you, I now own my own life. It is a great gift to humanity, that you have given. I accept myself now, not fully but I think it will sort itself out over time. You opened my eyes to the possibility that the world might accept me. So I came out to my brother, and he gave me a pad on the shoulder and wished me luck, all you had said in this vid was true. Now I - a crazy 18 year old dude, can go and live my life the way I truly want to live it. Had it not been for you, this would have happened to me somewhere at the age of 24. Yeah, I guess people don´t want to read all my bull**** in its full length, and I think you people and Connor gets the message I am trying to express. THANK YOU!!!
Hey man, I'm glad you made this video, no one should ever feel insecure about themselves because of their sexuality. Its pitiful how a lot of our society shames people who are gay, its not right. People can be so cruel, I support you 100% man.
When I was in the closet I used to watch this video (among other coming out vids) over and over and over. Hoping one day I'd have the courage to come out to my family and friends and feel like myself, it's been a process but I did it! Thank you. For so much. I don't watch your content anymore but it had such a massive impact on me in high school when I was on the verge of ending it all. If literally anyone sees this who is in the closet: it gets better, I love you.
Omg once I saw your pic I was like omg were did I see him comment it came to me I saw you comment on Toby Randall channel you said sing at my funeral plz
i'm a muslim and I fully support gays. Like eminem said : I don't care if you're black, white, straight, bisexual, gay, lesbian, short, tall, fat, skinny, rich or poor. If you're nice to me, I'll be nice to you. Simple as that.
I’m happy that you accept yourself bc that’s the hardest thing about being LGBTQ+ ❤️ self love goes a long way and eventually when you do come out to your loved ones, even if they don’t accept you, you accept yourself and the LGBTQ+ community accepts you 😊
Connor I will always support you no matter what. You're going to always be one of my favorite youtubers and saying this to millions of people takes lots of guts.
Hey man. I've never watched your videos. But you came across my feed today and I just couldn't leave without saying something. Your story is similar to mine. Even the part about being from the Midwest (MN). The only difference is I'm lesbian. But you had me crying a bit because everything you said was literally everything I felt when I finally told those words to myself after twenty three years of trying to hide or be something I wasn't. I stood in a mirror too. Every morning the words just wouldn't come out. Don't listen to the hate. They aren't worth your time. They aren't a representation of everyone out there. You've earned a new subscriber today. Be you.
I just found out you're Minnesotan! Awesome sauce dude. If you're ever back in town you should do a meet up. Idk if you're reading your comments, but seriously, it's an idea.
a bunch of people in the comments are saying they "knew" he was gay, you don't know someones sexuality until they literally tell you, assuming people's sexuality based on stereotypes or people you ship them with isn't definitely knowing something. you can speculate about what it could be, and of course respectfully ship people but please keep in mind that you can never be 100% certain until they tell you, and even after someone comes out/ reiterates they're straight people can always change and be attracted to people they weren't or didn't expect to. sexuality is a very complicated thing.
the emotions and feelings you had prior to coming out was so well articulated. Your coming out video continues to inspire those that have same struggles.
4 years ago I watched this video for the 1000th time. I was deep in the closet and when the video ended I found the courage to tell me parents one of my sisters and my best friends that started my coming out journey properly. I’ve now been fully out of the closet for 2 1/2 years i have great people around. Thank you Conner. Thank you for everything
been on a bit of a journey down memory lane lately…this was the video that helped me come out to someone for the first time. i was 14 (A BABY!!!) and I’ve grown so much since then (I’m 22 now, and i don’t even identify as what I initially came out as anymore) but i wanted to say thank you to connor for posting this, all these years later. it genuinely made a huge impact on me and kickstarted my journey with sexuality and gender identity / the process of accepting and discovering myself on a deeper level. thank you thank you thank youuuuu
I came out to my parents right after I watched this video. They accepted me. I want to thank you so much Conor for all you've done. Your my inspiration to be who I am. Because your right, it's not right to be able to be who you are. Thank you so much, Tyler
Everyone's like: I knew it and blah... Am I the only one who didn't expect that at all!?! A really big shock for me. But of course- I hope you're going to be happier now :)
I had NO idea either, my friend today just randomly said "You know Connor is gay right" and I'm like, whhhaaattttt?!?! I feel proud of him, but I had no clue
thank you connor. 6 months atfer this video was released , i came out to my parents and family. thank you for giving me the courage and the confidence that i needed. and thank god it went very well. sorry im only thanking you 6 years later. xoxo
notleda It went shity as fuck, little did I know that my parents are homophobic af, and they stole my phone and saw my messages to my best friend and then after that they turned my life into a living hell that I probably shouldn't go into much detail about but long story short it involves me locking myself in my room for an entire 3 days and now I have post traumatic stress because of that whole ordeal. :(
+Ethan Mac You cant say that about people. As you can see it was really hard for him and it doesn't matter what his sexuality is he is a human and so are you and everyone else and i bet that if someone said that to you, you would not like it so dont make others feel bad. And if you dont have anything nice to say dont say it at all.
I’m on an OG old school UA-cam rabbit hole and it’s acc insane how impactful videos like this were, I was 13 when I first saw this vid and new then I wasn’t straight, came out at 16 to friends etc and now here at 21 so proud of myself and how normalised it is in society, at least where I’m live in London
I am so so so proud of you. But... things will change. Now that you're honest with us, I love you even more. And I'm 100% sure I'm not the only one. :)
Honestly Connor, what you did takes so much guts.. I'm beyond proud and happy for you. Instead of hiding who you are from us, you allowed us in. THIS RIGHT HERE is why you have always been one of my goto favorite creators. You have an army of viewers behind you and we will support you. You've done so much good for this community and parts of the world, for god sake you created awareness to help raise money for people who don't even have water. Your kindness and generosity shines through the lens and all I can say is thank you. Thank you for being you and making videos to inspire creators and viewers. I appreciate everything you've done.
You have took the words of my mouth and said them for me . I just ❤️Connor and if Connor u are reading this I'm only 12 but I'm still going to love you and support u till the end even if ppl say it's not true forget the haters and just only this about the ppl who love u ❤️❤️😍😘
Im 13 and im also bi male, i was probably bi since i was 6, its only been a problem when i was 11, thats when I knew about sexualities, I also live in constant anxiety and depression, I already have a boyfriend but it doesnt really feel like it cause i have yet to come out, I have come out to my friends tho... this is a long paragraph thing... bye 😊
Alysia Chatman I am in similar position. I’m pan and nonbinary, and I have a couple friends who know and are amazing, and my mom knows. However I can’t come out to my dad or stepmom about it, because my dad doesn’t understand and my stepmom is homophobic and transphobic, and even the idea of what they might think is terrifying. I don’t know how you’re doing, or who you may be able to tell, but if you have even one person who you think will be okay with it please tell them. You will be amazed at the difference it makes. Find a friend or someone you will be safe to confide in that can keep a secret. Try to forget about your age, or your anxieties, or the things that might go wrong, and just focus on saying it. I hope it’s getting better for you. Good luck with your mental health and with coming out in the future
Being gay is not something you can choose, it is a feeling that is felt deep inside and because some people not able to understand or tolerate it makes LGBT people terrified to come out of the closet. I'm one of them. Living in a country where being gay is punishable by death has lead me living a double life. I cried every night before I go to sleep thinking that this is how my life is going to be forever...but I'm used to it I guess. I'm so happy that so many people are supporting you Connor! Even though I won't be able to be myself which is devastating but that's okay, seeing other people get to be themselves is enough to put a smile on my face. When the time comes where I have to marry a woman, I will teach my children to love and not hate.
cjay2 Almost everyone has said that to me. I'm really sorry but I just love my country so much, it's where I grew up. I really hope that one day my country would change it's mind, I don't mind waiting :') I apologize if I offended you in any way
Broysh Bro Maybe you love your country, but that is not a reason to keep yourself in danger. when the time comes and the law is more tolerant, then you can still go back. you have to keep yourself in the foreground, not in the background.... I wish you all the best.
To anyone who gave my comment thumbs up, I need to add something on the matter. Please, please, please don't let my discouragement stop you from living the life you deserve especially the ones who are in my situation. Be yourself and live a happy life!
Looking back at this, Connor was the one who truly helped me come out to myself and many others. He basically saved my life, I was in such a bad state of mind then and just watching his videos helped me escape my depression almost for good! Connor, if you see this by any chance, I just want to thank you so much from the bottom of my heart, for just being you and sharing your story and life to millions! Love you Connor! I just wish I could truly thank you in person one day!
Just came across this video. This is exactly how I felt and how I feel. This made me cry. I am so greatful this people like you exist, honest people, inspiring people. Thank you. Thank you very much. That's all I need to say. Thank you!
What actually made me cry in this video was the end. It just got to me when he tried to act happy so the video wouldn't end sadly. I just broke down crying. I support you 100%, Connor.
I wish I could be open about my sexuality but both by mother and father are extremely homophobic. I've been sneaky a few times and asked them "If I was lesbian or bisexual what would you do." They both said that they would disown me and not talk to me. I'm only 15 so how am I supposed to live another 3 years with them if I did tell them. Even my stepmother, who I am VERY close to, would do the same thing. So basically my whole family would disown me if I ever told them about my sexuality. :( . You are very lucky that you have such supportive and loving parents and friends Connor
Man that sucks! Do you have someone cooler you could talk to? Someone you can trust, and trust to keep it from your parents until you're ready? That would be a huge load off, I'm telling you... Good luck :)
I've told some of my friends (They're girls) and it took them a while but they finally accepted me once I convinced them that I wasn't going to hit on them. I've also told other bi lesbian and gay people at my school and they're kinda helping me through it but it's hard to know that once I move out of my parents house i'm never going to see them or talk to them again
One Direction Is Life Ah, well that will certainly help. Now of course, it could be that ultimately your parents don't know how they will act until faced with your declaration; they could surprise you... or not. In any case, just to be safe, I'd definitely wait until you are either Sure of positive results, or are already living on your own, and don't need their support anymore should they decide to retract it. That would seriously suck though.
Do you have anyone else in your family that you trust that is more open-minded? Maybe start there or find an ally in another trusted adult or friend. You don't have to be alone, and I think that your parents or step mother may feel differently once they know the truth. Just keep on keeping on and hang in there. Believe me, life is so much better on this side of the closet. I was where you were one time. My mom and dad surprised me by accepting me for who I was despite what I thought they were going to do.
I'm glad to see your message of support here Sam! I've been subbed to you since you started and always wondered if you supported us gays and it's good to see you do. I am proud of you!
I'm honestly so shocked but really happy that you're finally happy with yourself Connor. I'm so glad that everyone was okay with it. Coming out it never an easy thing but I'm glad that you did. All those fangirl's hearts broken XP It certainly won't change what we think of you and we still love you
Yes, I really agree on everything. I'm super happy for you and I'm also happy because it made me feel like you consider us important enough to tell us. I'm honestly proud. We'll still love you. Every single aspect of you 💕
As majority of the people here, I am so unbelievably proud of you Connor. You've made an amazing decision in letting this out. I have the utmost respect for you. I am seriously overjoyed that you've accepted and love the person you are. Homosexual or not, I will always support you. You're a phenomenal person with a beautiful soul and words cannot express how thrilled I am for you. I love you Connor, you're truly an inspiration. Thank you for showing us a bit more of the Connor Franta we've come to, and always will, love and support.
Amen. Seriously, this is my favorite comment on this video because seriously, he's amazing in every way, it doesn't matter what gender he likes or doesn't like. It doesn't matter to us, because it's just how he is. He has an incredible personality, he's an amazing person to his fans, and we all love him for it. I know I completely and utterly support him, and I also know that his fans will be there for him, no matter what.
This video genuinely helped me so much to admit to myself that I’m bisexual and not straight. I questioned it for over a year and it kept me up at night and the thought of saying out loud terrified me. Hearing this one among other coming out videos gave me the confidence to admit it to myself and it literally felt like a massive weight was taken off of my shoulders
Connor, No matter what, this is just who you are, and everyone who has supported you up to now will and should support you from now on! You are an awesome human being and like you said, everyone is equal! I am 22 as well, and most of my friends and family know, except my mom, I am still scared of how to tell her.... I just don't know how... but more videos from amazing people like you showing confidence gives me the confidence to tell her one day.
Connor you have so many people who love you - MILLIONS in fact! I can't imagine how you feel but just know that you have most probably helped a lot of young adults out by just even posting this video. I'm sure a lot of people are going through the same thing! Also, guys make sure you reply to the NICE, SUPPORTIVE comments and THUMBS them up. Don't reply to the disgusting, ignorant comments.. they are not worth your time or effort! Replying to the positive messages will push them up to the top and Conner will see :) xx
Don't get me wrong, I am extremely proud of him for sharing this, but I hope that someday we'll be in a place where people don't have to "come out" to others because their sexuality is THEIR business and no one else's. And I am a Christian btw. Not all of us are judgemental pricks and think being gay/bi/trans/whatever is a sin and you will all go to Hell. I think God is LOVE and he created every single one of us and he loves every single one of us. We are who we are and we love who we love.
Im a christian too and i believe she same thing you do and i've been trying to explain this to people but I could never word it correctly. You worded it perfectly. A lot of people need to read this comment.
This is for the Christians, who clearly don't understand what it means to be a Christian. If you say you're a Christian, then you accept the whole Bible and you don't pick and choose what is right and wrong. The Bible clearly states that God hates sin and will not be in the presence of it. If you're truly a Christian, you will accept what God considers to be sin. And you will not be of the world while you're in it. We can't be in the middle, we have to choose eigther God or the world, not a little bit of both. Everything is choice, we either choose the voices in our head or we choose God. Its not a simple choice. Being a Christian means that we deny our own self, because it's not about us but the one who formed us in our mothers womb. Gods intention is that we reflect him, that's the purpose of creating us. So when we Christians claim that God is OK with sin such as homosexuality, adultery, lust, greed and so on we are not reflecting him. We can't claim what we say we are, we are servants who are trying to please two masters.
hey im also christian and guess what.. no christain i know thinks like that. if god any one who dose needs to realize that god made you to love who you love so
Mikaela Otavalo you are rude you may not like that he is gay bit u don't need to share that and PS it is NOT A CHOICE SO YEA YOU CAN JUST GO AND TAKE YOUR HATE SOMEWHERE ELSE GOD LOVES ALL AND U KKOW WHAT HE ACCEPTS US SO YEA YOU ARE PROBABLLY THE RUDEST PERSON ON EARTH NO ONE DESERVES THIS DO U EVEN KNOW HOW MUCH COURAGE IT TOOK HIM TO DO THIS YOU JERK
I don't judge gay people but I truly don't get it when Christians say they think being gay is perfectly fine. Like what makes you a Christian if you just follow what the world says? It makes no sense to me.
i just wrote an essay on a decade of pride in my life and how thats looked and changed through the years and it started with watching this video and crying and rewatching and learning more about myself and then watching every available coming out video on youtube at the time. i came out shortly after in 2015. and yesterday i took my first dose of blockers to start my transition. idk if you’ll see this, but thank you so much for everything. i am so glad you exist and so grateful you chose to do so bravely and boldly and beautifully. happy pride 🏳️⚧️🏳️🌈
Massive respect and support for you Mr Franta
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Yoooo Joe! Tell him I love him okay? And ily too❤
RT THAT. FOREVER LOVE YA CONNOR. NO MATTER WHAT
Proud doesn't even begin to describe how I feel about this video Connor. You have my full support and respect.
🙌 PREACH 🙌
He's such a role model honestly
Preach it !
SAME HERE!💘
Yes josh
Anyone re-watching this in 2019? Im so proud of how far Connor has come
yea
It's me watching this video 2019😁😁😁
priscilla reyes yasss
priscilla reyes omg I’m literally rewatching this now
He looks so fucking different
You're loved, bro.
he needs to snap out of it is what he needs.
*****
he does... He only did this video for attention.
TheInternetBully94 no wonder you call yourself Internet bully
TheInternetBully94 to be honest he didnt, everyone on youtube who came out as gay lesbian bisexual etc. did it because its something they cannot hide. its a part of their personal identity and every youtuber who did come out did get loads of hate, unsuscribers. but they normally wont get hate if they didnt say anything so the attention thing is completely opposite of what you think conner wants. hes just trying to not hide a big part of his life and i dont understand why you cannot just respect that. if you have anything to say about someone else that is not you then keep it in your mind and leave this channel, dont comment rude things that are not true
TheInternetBully94 no, you need to snap out of it. your in denial,face the facts.
who is their right mind does it for attention? you do realize how much hate he is getting for this?
congrats connor!! proud of you & happy for youuu
Love you! *****
Omg laur love yaa
Omggg I love youuu so so muchhh *****
Love you laur and i think is great that he said it and i love him anyway
Omg I love you !!!
Love you buddy! Hope you nothing but the best!
Sawyer you're the best.
♥
ur the best sawyer!! never seen this good of a support for a friend!
You'd be sooo adorable aww xx
You're a great friend sawyer :)
Extremely proud of Connor, the fact we live in a world where "Coming out" seems like a struggle and hardship is wrong. Be proud of who you are! You've came a long way, and I'm proud of you, and I'm pretty sure I can speak for a lot of us here when I say we will stand by you no matter what.
Found yaaa!
I couldn't agree with you more!
Me too
Thank you so much
i love the idea of so much people supporting him , there's more people supporting him than hating him. connor is so brave to let everyone know something so personal to him. i love him
When I was 24 I was diagnosed with Hodgkins lymphoma (cancer of the lymph nodes). I was so happy that I was going to die because the daily battle I had with myself--in my own mind--would finally be over. I had major depression for years because the terror of confronting my sexuality seemed to be an insoluble daily crisis. The wall I had built around me was higher and stronger than the ramparts of a medieval castle. And now cancer would sweep it all away and I would die without anyone knowing my horrible terrible secret.
But I've always been a fighter with tremendous emotional reserves. I went through the surgeries, the radiation, the chemotherapy and six months later I had achieved remission. There was no detectable trace of lymphoma in my body. Great news but I was back to my constant fear and confusion about myself and my sexual orientation. A little later that year (1980) I went to see the movie "Fame" by director Alan Parker. There is a gay character prominently featured...a young, small, and not particularly attractive Freshman at Performing Arts High School. His hair was an orange shade of red and very very curly. An acting class assignment was to share something personal about himself that no one else knew. He took the stage and announced to the class "I'm gay." "My parents put me in therapy but I didn't go. "I JUST KNEW IT'S SOMETHING THAT I CAN'T CHANGE. "I FIGURE IF THAT'S THE WORST THING THAT HAS HAPPENED TO ME, I CAN LIVE WITH THAT. "SO I'M GAY." Oh my God, I began to cry in the theater, sobbing uncontrollably, making a scene and unable to stop. I went into the men's room and, after 20 minutes, I returned to my seat. Afterward I went home and got ready for bed. I was exhausted, but as I lay in my bed I began to think about my battle with cancer. Could anything really be worse than that which I had faced and vanquished without any hope for my future? I fell asleep.
I woke up the next morning, went into the bathroom and looked in the mirror. Something was different. Silence. The continuous audio track of my self-bashing wasn't playing. It never played again. I looked at myself again in the mirror. "I'm gay and that most certainly isn't the worst thing that's happened or will ever happen to me. I'm gay and I'm glad to be gay. And I'm happy, really happy." I took my morning whiz and then began experiencing the tranquility and sublime joy of self-acceptance.
That’s a beautiful journey. I’m so happy it ended the way it did!!
That...was amazing.
Wow
I’m proud of you ❤️
...I know I’m a year late ;-;
But honestly, this was blissfully serene to listen to - your writing is absolutely beautiful
im so proud of him(:
Caspar
He's amazing :) He did such a good job!!
Glad to see other UA-camrs are supportive :)
I'm so proud of Connor
Glad to see other youtubers supporting him
（＾_＾）
Coming out isn't easy, especially for someone with millions of followers. So proud of you for being brave and sharing the love for yourself with us all.
Arielle!
Preach Arielle Scarcella we love u and of course it doesn't change a thing
Arelle i asking you because you maybe know it: LGBTQ UA-camrs before they come out in public, they came out to other UA-camr friends? (Sorry if you don't understand me my English isn't the best)
heyy arielle
This
Honestly this is so amazing that you have found the courage to share this with everyone around you. I respect you so much for this. And know I'll always support you, my friend(: Much love, Dylan
love you Connor Franta
true dylan
Already knew it
aw dylan😭
Im so proud of him
Someone told me that my cloths were gay. I said, “I know. They came out of the closet this morning.”
Thank you
That's genius
PFTTTTT
YaaaaaaaaaaaS!!!!!!!
🤣🤣🤣
TODAY IS THE ONE YEAR ANNIVERSARY AW BABY
+yaynova Party in da hoooooouuuuuuuse!!!
Lisell Oja YEAAAAAHHH
Awwwhhhh yeah lol
+yaynova OMG YAYYYYY
1 YEAR ANNIVERSARY WOO
I am so so proud of you connor
Mikey!! Hi!!
☺💟
This is actually adorable how everyone is so proud of him.... I'm glad to be apart of the franta fam
Jordan Riddell its hard not to be . I mean look at him. Hes cat crazy coffee loving conor franta 💟
AYE MIKEYY
i love you connor no matter what ill support you
hi amanda💜
heyyy
ilysm omg
AMANDA
Me too I will support you love you💓
i remember watching this video when it first came out. i was 13, and knew nothing about the lgbtq+ community other than what i had seen on youtube. it wasnt until the video that it clicked for me. i didnt realize how much of this era i repressed until rewatching this video almost ten years later. hearing you mention how you forced yourself to say it in the mirror made me remember that you encouraged me to do the same. like you, it took a long time for me to do so. when i did i sobbed and felt the same emotions you did. i’m 22 now and feel so blessed that i had influences like you growing up to open my eyes. none of my friends or family supported me, but i never felt alone because i could always come back to your videos and feel at ease. i find myself still coming back to your videos whenever i’m stressed.
all that to say, thank you, connor. out of all of the creators ive followed, you are by far my biggest inspiration. your videos and books got me through the roughest times in my life and still do.
hi, i’m ema, and i’m a lesbian:)
so proud of you connor, we support you all the way.
Thats really mean
Same.
Omg dead ^^
we all do :)
je moeder lmaooo I was gonna write that
What a great video - so happy you can now be YOU :)
Justine xoxoxo
Ijustine . I love ha. Girl .
Love you so much! 💜
Love you iJ! So happy for Connor too!
A wild iJustine appears!
But agreed - I've never been so proud of Connor. :')
I'm sick of people that are saying "you should think about this", like really? It's not your choice -- you're born gay. Just like your born short. Just like your born a little chubby. We're all different. Every human on earth is unique in some way. Why hate on people if they're unique? Does it affect you? Having a different sexual orientation should not affect anything except who you find attractive. I'm really pissed right now, because now that I think about it, the United States is really screwed up. For over 200 years, we've hated on different people just because of who they are. Yeah, sure, other countries do this too, but in no way AT ALL, should there be any laws regulating who you can marry. I'm only twelve years old, but at least I say my opinions. Everybody should. Speak up.
Omfg GETTING THINGS STRAIGHT HAS COME DOWN TO U!
THANK U SIR FOR AGGREEING WITH ME! Stupid ppl think he can "change his mind" about being gay and "re-think it". Thr fucking wrong, it is part of u, part of ur mind and genetics. If that's how u r, then be it. So if u ppl r saying that he's going against what God Intended him to b, they're OBVIOUSLY wrong in the fking heads cuz God intends everyone to b exactly the way they r. Connor can't stop himself from being who he is. So plz, be respectful ppl, and shut up.
Olivia Beard Nobody has anything wrong with them. They weren't born mean. They learned that or chose to do it themselves.
Genetics? Are you kidding
You are right +itsmilo I believe that you don't decide! because a lot of people who are gay get bullied if they are open about it. I doubt anyone would choose this. I think you are born to like a certain gender.
Yeah,but you can decide between following that orientation or(in case of connor)hiding it
I unintentionally watched your "Coming Out" video exactly 5 years to the date that you published it, and this just happens to be the 23rd anniversary of my coming out. Congratulations on your 5/yr Anniversary of Coming Out!!
does anyone else just get so excited to coming out videos? it makes me so happy to see all my favorite youtubers telling the world a big secret that was hard to tell and just get that relief and support and idk it just excites me lol
YES
Yes
yes
yep
+Amani Martin shananay!
Proud of you man, very brave and difficult thing you did making this video
Same I support U CONNER through everything ❤️💘
isn't it upsetting tho that nowdays it's still difficult to tell people about their sexuality? One should be able to live however they want to...
Omg connor we all love you and support you. when you started to tear up i started balling. love you and thank you for sharing that piece of information with all your fans 😚😚
we love him
He's adorable❤️
11k dislikes I'm so ashamed to even live on the same planet as these haters.
I know right 👊🏻🔪
Just go to moon if u don't wanna live in this society
It's all those 10 year olds on their moms phone
+Amy Kerr exactly 👌🏻👌🏻
Ikr! How DARE they 😡😔😠😣😤👣🙅👊💉🔪💊💣🔫✂️💢💢💢💢💢💢 if emojis could kill...
I know this was ages ago, but this video is what finally helped me accept myself for who I am, I still use it to help remember the date I came out (two weeks later). Thank you Connor
Im proud of you 💖
Proud of you Connor. I really am. Thank you for being you ❤️💛💚💙💜
MATT
Hi matt! ❤️
MATT 💗
Hi matt
your the best , no wounder i lush you
So, fucking, PROUD of you Connor! You have such courage and I really think this is gonna help a shitload of people. 4 FOR YOU GLEN COCO YOU GO GLEN COCO
YESS TWAIMZ
yas twaimz
OMMG I LOVEE YOU
YAS I AGREE TWAIMZ! YOU GO GLEN COCO
The definition of love doesn't have labels. I love you for all of you. So honored to be apart of your life sometimes.
david :*
That is true and yet hard for some people to understand
Also I love you too David and ALL your videos
I love you David!!!
Sometimes?
Rewatching after seeing the 5 yr anniversary video. Proud of how far you come Connor. And glad your hair got better
So happy for you Connor. Much love.
Hey Cassey and YE CONNOR we all support and love you so don't feel bad about it U r a beautiful amazing person
OMG blogilates commented on a connor franta video! mutual friends :D i love you blogilates
cheekybaby that is so rude and disrespectful just cause she supports gays does not mean she is a bad person so just keep your comments to yourself cause as a gay person I am very protective
I just saw this, which is ironic considering I just came out as pansexual to my parents yesterday. Mine...didn't go as well as yours seems to have, but congratulations on figuring yourself out, Connor! You are incredibly right when you say it's the hardest thing you could ever have to do. Of course I support you through this.
You go girl, I hope you're parents and friends will be okay with it after a while.. Everyone is afraid of change, but what you have done is one of the bravest things anyone can do, and for some people it may be scary to hear that someone you know is not exactly who you thought they were.. But you're still the same person, and I admire you for being able to tell.. Love from a cyber friend
Signe Brekke Thank you! My friends already all knew and were very supportive. My mother was the only problem. But, again, thank you, I really appreciate it
What is pansexual? I have never gotten a full answer
elijah huggins The best way I can describe it is that I don't see gender when I date people. I will date someone who is male, female, both, neither, non-binary. I just--do no see gender when I date people. It's different from bisexual because bisexual people will date two (or more, usually two) specific genders, whereas I just don't see gender at all when I like people. I just do.
I get confused with anything out of heterosexual,homosexual and bisexual. It's a problem I need to work on.
I am thankful for this video because it's another couple million views towards equality for all
DionYorkie Truth! No one needs to hide who they really are, it shouldn't have to happen. The public is becoming more and more accepting of us but there are still those people out there who wont get it. ConnorFranta Forget the haters! At the end of the day they don't amount to crap ...All that really matters is what you think of yourself at the end of the day. You be you Connor :) I still hope to one day become one of your friends! #LoveIsLove #BeYouStayYou #WeLoveYouConnor
Jamez Michael #weloveyouconnor
Jamez Michael AMEN
Omg!! I love you
YES DION....I totally agree
The 13k people who disliked this are either homophobic, girls who wanted Connor to be their bae, or by accidentally pushed the dislike button.
FACTS *sips tea*
@@Blasianjazzy11 *sips chlorine*
Fatima Anees ?
@@Blasianjazzy11 its a tøp song the one who wrote this comment will get it sorry for confusing you.
Fatima Anees oh okay
YES CONNOR BE FREE
THIS IS WHY WE LOVE YOU.
YESSSSSSS
OMG TREY
TRE ILY
So why haven't I seen a collab?
I'm pleased you're happy with who you are now. Hopefully, this helps people who are still struggling. It was lovely hanging out with you at Digifest in London this year. Good to see you find some peace of mind. Its draining having to second-guess and censor youself. x
Im so proud of him
I'm happy for him! It's such a big thing to admit to people, and I could only imagine how hard it was!! Love you xx
The constant self-censoring is the biggest bitch of it. It is so stressful and emotionally draining.
Before Connor came out, there were many supporters.
After Connor came out, suddenly there were many haters.
Is there really a difference between homosexual and heterosexual? We're all equal, and Connor DOES NOT deserve the hate that he's getting right now.
Connor.. i'm so proud of you.. stay strong!
Not really. I'm really happy to say that Connor got a surprising amount of support after this! I was so glad to see everyone being so sweet and understanding :')
Faiqa Ahmad I don't mean to be disrespectful but, are you blind? Unfortunately I had never seen so much negative comments on a "coming out" video.
Faiqa Ahmad
4k dislikes. Other videos have less than 1000. What does it show?
*****
You don't get the point. Most of Connor's video receive not more than 1000 dislikes. But why does this video have 4000 dislike? Why is it just this? Why isn't there any video that have as much dislikes as this?
And yes, stop having that stereotypical thinking, not all haters are Christians from Texas or from the Middle East, that's just plain rude.
*****
Why do they have to be from Texas ;_; I live in Texas and I'm not hating I love and support Connor
I first watched this video when I was 13 and just figuring out I was quuer. I haven't come back to it since but just had the thought to come to it just to realize its been exactly a decade.
Here's to a decade of being out and proud for Conner Franta. Thank you.
I'm so incredibly happy and proud of you. But I have to say the most heart wrenching thing, is that you waited almost 22 years to really accept the fact. No one should have to wait that long to be able to accept themselves and be happy with themselves, and I'm sorry it took so long. Thank you Connor, for making this video because you're probably helping someone who's going through the same thing, and it means the world to them. All we can do is hope that one day we won't need to 'come out' and that it won't be that big of a deal to so many.. That it'll just be normal.
You have my support, and support from thousands of people around the world. We love you(:
This is such a beauitful moment for he's frandom .
Please tell me im not the only one who cried during this video
you're not alone
You aren't :-)
Why you've cried?
I SOBBED SO HARD!!!!!!!!!!
Trust me I cried the whole time after he said we was gay but will always accept him for who he is
Connor you are who you are man! We all support you, always :)
Amazing that you share this, it's a good thing :)
Always.
We all love you Connor no matter what )sex type) you like we're here for you 😘😘
I remember being on the bus in 9th grade watching this video in 2014. This video is the reason why I had the courage to come out. My life has never been in the same… in the best way. Thank you, Connor, for posting this video and being so vulnerable.
This is hugely brave of you. Connor, I have just one thing to say to you.
YOU GO GLEN COCO
Somebody in the public eye, like you, proving that this is more than okay will inspire and lead the way for so many LGBTQ kids who look up to you.
DITTO! Your amazing and awesome for making this video Connor! Thanks!
Amazing
There is nothing wrong with being gay. It's just a way of life, no one can help it. Being gay might not be the norm, but if it makes you feel good, if you love the person your with, no matter what gender, skin color, race etc then what others think doesn't matter. Enjoy life how you want to, don't let others get you down. I can't understand why some people think so differently about gay people. THEY'RE NOT DIFFERENT, they are still the same person.
I love you Connor, and being gay doesn't make you any different. You'll ALWAYS be the person that we all love
I wish the internet was you.
I love how kind u r and connor ur right "we are all people" BEST UA-camR EVER
I totally agree
is pedophilia and beastiality just "a way of life" that should be enjoyed as well?
Totally not surprised he was homosexual.
Congratz Conor! We love you
i love you wolfie
he's honestly the best
I LOVE THE JANOSKIANS! I subbed to you wolfie
Today I came out to my family. Thanks to you, I now own my own life. It is a great gift to humanity, that you have given.
I accept myself now, not fully but I think it will sort itself out over time. You opened my eyes to the possibility that the world might accept me. So I came out to my brother, and he gave me a pad on the shoulder and wished me luck, all you had said in this vid was true.
Now I - a crazy 18 year old dude, can go and live my life the way I truly want to live it. Had it not been for you, this would have happened to me somewhere at the age of 24. Yeah, I guess people don´t want to read all my bull**** in its full length, and I think you people and Connor gets the message I am trying to express. THANK YOU!!!
Share it. Post it. Thanks to the internet you can gain a lot more attention through video.
WOOOO ONE MORE FOR OUR TEAM
no but on a serious note, 15 year old me needed this video--you're going to help a lot of people with this right here
cookies.
THIS IS THE BEST COMMENT I'VE SEEN EVER. I HAVE BEEN THINKING THIS FOR THE LAST FEW HOURS.
Nigga your team ain't shit!!
i love this so much
no one cares Felicia.
Hey man,
I'm glad you made this video, no one should ever feel insecure about themselves because of their sexuality. Its pitiful how a lot of our society shames people who are gay, its not right. People can be so cruel, I support you 100% man.
You said it best👏
lance):
well said.👏
Oh shut up! U were put on blast for homophobia dumbass
Giovanni Sanchez i think you're thinking about nash...
Wow. I hope this video helps others accept themselves and love themselves for who they are. You're an inspiration, Connor.
Yes
preach bb
Yes
Certainly is
When I was in the closet I used to watch this video (among other coming out vids) over and over and over. Hoping one day I'd have the courage to come out to my family and friends and feel like myself, it's been a process but I did it! Thank you. For so much. I don't watch your content anymore but it had such a massive impact on me in high school when I was on the verge of ending it all. If literally anyone sees this who is in the closet: it gets better, I love you.
Its amazing to see you accept who you are and be the best you, that you can be. Thanks for being an awesome role model and inspiration to so many.
Oh my god, thank you Matthias for commenting on this, thank you.
I love you Matthias!!
HEY MATTHIAS YOU'RE AWESOME!
Your AWESOME!!!!
I love your videos!
Connor you're such an inspiration to so many people, keep on being you! WE LOVE YOU
ily
ahhhhh carmie
Omg once I saw your pic I was like omg were did I see him comment it came to me I saw you comment on Toby Randall channel you said sing at my funeral plz
i'm a muslim and I fully support gays. Like eminem said : I don't care if you're black, white, straight, bisexual, gay, lesbian, short, tall, fat, skinny, rich or poor. If you're nice to me, I'll be nice to you. Simple as that.
Being gay isn't a choice.
The gay gene exists soo...
Just saying.
I never said that being gay is a choice?
Omar Dajani wtf that's not even close to what she meant
Omar Dajani what ( Ö . Ö )
i think you and i would make great friends ^^
Rewatching while STILL in the closet 😢 but more accepting of myself than I’ve ever been. Thank you for everything over the YEARs ❤
I’m happy that you accept yourself bc that’s the hardest thing about being LGBTQ+ ❤️ self love goes a long way and eventually when you do come out to your loved ones, even if they don’t accept you, you accept yourself and the LGBTQ+ community accepts you 😊
Who is watching this in 2015 and still touched
Me
Me. I watched this video again right before i came out to my parents and it gave me the confidence boost to do so. Connor really inspires me
Me :)
Me, this video is so inspiring to except who you are 💗
Me
Connor I will always support you no matter what. You're going to always be one of my favorite youtubers and saying this to millions of people takes lots of guts.
We love you lots.
I agree
I totally agree. Also, I love your videos
yes
Why is coming out such a thing nowadays? shouldn't we be accepting everyone no matter what their sexuality? brave of you Connor!
I love your videos luke x
come back :(
lukesbeans LUKE
Kirsty Bradshaw He probably wont.
he deactivated everything.
he couldnt take the hate
Look at the comments below and you know why...
Thank you so much for this video cause I really needed it. I know this video is old but I recently just came out and this story helped
Hey man. I've never watched your videos. But you came across my feed today and I just couldn't leave without saying something.
Your story is similar to mine. Even the part about being from the Midwest (MN). The only difference is I'm lesbian. But you had me crying a bit because everything you said was literally everything I felt when I finally told those words to myself after twenty three years of trying to hide or be something I wasn't. I stood in a mirror too. Every morning the words just wouldn't come out.
Don't listen to the hate. They aren't worth your time. They aren't a representation of everyone out there. You've earned a new subscriber today.
Be you.
I just found out you're Minnesotan! Awesome sauce dude. If you're ever back in town you should do a meet up. Idk if you're reading your comments, but seriously, it's an idea.
Seeing him cry, just. I love you connorz
I know my little baby crying :(
+Abbey Grace It broke my heart
aw ikr
and to think he could still smile at the end after having a serious, emotional talk..
Adventure Time with Dan And Phil I know jeez I love him
a bunch of people in the comments are saying they "knew" he was gay, you don't know someones sexuality until they literally tell you, assuming people's sexuality based on stereotypes or people you ship them with isn't definitely knowing something. you can speculate about what it could be, and of course respectfully ship people but please keep in mind that you can never be 100% certain until they tell you, and even after someone comes out/ reiterates they're straight people can always change and be attracted to people they weren't or didn't expect to. sexuality is a very complicated thing.
^^^^^^
Good point. I can't say I was surprised though.
So true ^_^
I thought he was joking at the beggining of the video
THIS
the emotions and feelings you had prior to coming out was so well articulated. Your coming out video continues to inspire those that have same struggles.
Proud of you Connor, can't imagine how scary it must have been for you to make this video 🐻 internet hugs 🐻
Hey babes ❤
I agree with rapha👍
I totaly agree it must have been terrifying for you and I'm proud
I second what Rapha said
Yass Rapha!
I am unbelievably proud of you, Connor. Sincerely. Your bravery is inspiring, and will continue to inspire. Congratulations.
omfg yas omfg i love you i ship you with connor so become gay please
But still it would be cute lmao *****
when you see Connor's video "IM NOT GAY" in the suggested column...
Prismatic Gamer LOL
Prismatic Gamer That was made years ago, when he was in denial. If you've read his book you would know that.
but i don't have the book...
Christina Potvijn haha I'm watching this after the chapter where he talks about how he made a video saying that he wasn't gay
Lol priceless
4 years ago I watched this video for the 1000th time. I was deep in the closet and when the video ended I found the courage to tell me parents one of my sisters and my best friends that started my coming out journey properly. I’ve now been fully out of the closet for 2 1/2 years i have great people around. Thank you Conner. Thank you for everything
A lot of girls are like "oh my god I can't date him now, whyyyyy" and I'm just like "GUURRRL, like you had a chance with him anyways"
Yes omg
the sad truth but I already knew the chance 0%
way to pop the bubble. still love him though xxx
wtf
***** saaammme!
First video of Connor's I watched....been here ever since
Carl Mack same 💗
Same #NoteToSelf
same
Carl Mack same😄
Carl Mack same
Who else come back to rewatch this video? 😁
Me
Me
Me
Me
Me
been on a bit of a journey down memory lane lately…this was the video that helped me come out to someone for the first time. i was 14 (A BABY!!!) and I’ve grown so much since then (I’m 22 now, and i don’t even identify as what I initially came out as anymore) but i wanted to say thank you to connor for posting this, all these years later. it genuinely made a huge impact on me and kickstarted my journey with sexuality and gender identity / the process of accepting and discovering myself on a deeper level. thank you thank you thank youuuuu
This was beautiful. Thank you for showing your audience that it IS okay to be yourself, even if it takes a while to build up the courage
I LOVE YOUUUUUU
Love you guys!
💜💜
Love it
I hope joey comes out next
I came out to my parents right after I watched this video. They accepted me. I want to thank you so much Conor for all you've done. Your my inspiration to be who I am. Because your right, it's not right to be able to be who you are.
Thank you so much,
Tyler
Congrats! Proud of you!
Lol.
👏👏👏good for you
Congrats!!
That's cool! I'm really happy for you. You are who you are. Pretending sucks. Reality rocks!
Everyone's like: I knew it and blah... Am I the only one who didn't expect that at all!?! A really big shock for me. But of course- I hope you're going to be happier now :)
Me too I had no idea! He's happy and that's amazing❤️
I had NO idea either, my friend today just randomly said "You know Connor is gay right" and I'm like, whhhaaattttt?!?! I feel proud of him, but I had no clue
To be honest, I don't think that all them people knew he was gay. Its like ' Connor never said he was gay so how the fuck would they know'?/
I cried cause I was SERIOUSLY not expecting that
omg I wasnt expecting it either❤️
thank you connor. 6 months atfer this video was released , i came out to my parents and family. thank you for giving me the courage and the confidence that i needed. and thank god it went very well. sorry im only thanking you 6 years later. xoxo
Im planning on coming out later tonight and this is exactly what I needed. Thank you for helping me exept who I am connor.💕💕
Crybaby's Pity Party
I hope it goes well :)
Did you do it?
did you do it?how did it go?
I know it's been 3 months but congrats! Hope you had a nice coming out!
notleda It went shity as fuck, little did I know that my parents are homophobic af, and they stole my phone and saw my messages to my best friend and then after that they turned my life into a living hell that I probably shouldn't go into much detail about but long story short it involves me locking myself in my room for an entire 3 days and now I have post traumatic stress because of that whole ordeal. :(
Connor you are a beautiful human and should be so so proud of what you have created and become.
I am so proud of him he inspires me so much :)
+Ethan Mac #shutup
+Ethan Mac #Leave
+Ethan Mac are you an idiot?!?!?
+Ethan Mac You cant say that about people. As you can see it was really hard for him and it doesn't matter what his sexuality is he is a human and so are you and everyone else and i bet that if someone said that to you, you would not like it so dont make others feel bad. And if you dont have anything nice to say dont say it at all.
So proud of you Connor :) much love and support! x
Aw Jana :)
Hi jana
Hey Jana🌸🌸
I’m on an OG old school UA-cam rabbit hole and it’s acc insane how impactful videos like this were, I was 13 when I first saw this vid and new then I wasn’t straight, came out at 16 to friends etc and now here at 21 so proud of myself and how normalised it is in society, at least where I’m live in London
Do you have a partner now? 🔍
I am so so so proud of you. But... things will change. Now that you're honest with us, I love you even more. And I'm 100% sure I'm not the only one. :)
Juppp, Sooo Proud + zoveel respect :)
RUTGER😊 i totally agree with you PROUD OF YOU CONNOR much love from holland xxxxxx
hii rutger!
Jep klopt :)
Same here. So proud of you and still love you
* Gives you a hug *
*hugs back* Thank You Treasure
Aquila Arctic Welcome TwT
TwT?
Aquila Arctic it's a somewhat sheepish/happy crying face :3
;3 I'm oblivious
Honestly Connor, what you did takes so much guts.. I'm beyond proud and happy for you. Instead of hiding who you are from us, you allowed us in. THIS RIGHT HERE is why you have always been one of my goto favorite creators. You have an army of viewers behind you and we will support you. You've done so much good for this community and parts of the world, for god sake you created awareness to help raise money for people who don't even have water. Your kindness and generosity shines through the lens and all I can say is thank you. Thank you for being you and making videos to inspire creators and viewers. I appreciate everything you've done.
Brandon Molina agreed times 100
Brandon Molina Couldn't of said it any better
That was so amazing and there are no words to say that any better than you just did!!!
You have took the words of my mouth and said them for me . I just ❤️Connor and if Connor u are reading this I'm only 12 but I'm still going to love you and support u till the end even if ppl say it's not true forget the haters and just only this about the ppl who love u ❤️❤️😍😘
Couldnt have said it better myself! ❤️
I'm 12 and I'm bi. I still can't tell anyone but my anxiety and depression is scaring me of all this
Alysia Chatman me too. We are in the same exact position
I’m 11 I’m gay
it's gonna be okay. maybe even better than okay
Im 13 and im also bi male, i was probably bi since i was 6, its only been a problem when i was 11, thats when I knew about sexualities, I also live in constant anxiety and depression, I already have a boyfriend but it doesnt really feel like it cause i have yet to come out, I have come out to my friends tho... this is a long paragraph thing... bye 😊
Alysia Chatman I am in similar position. I’m pan and nonbinary, and I have a couple friends who know and are amazing, and my mom knows. However I can’t come out to my dad or stepmom about it, because my dad doesn’t understand and my stepmom is homophobic and transphobic, and even the idea of what they might think is terrifying.
I don’t know how you’re doing, or who you may be able to tell, but if you have even one person who you think will be okay with it please tell them. You will be amazed at the difference it makes. Find a friend or someone you will be safe to confide in that can keep a secret. Try to forget about your age, or your anxieties, or the things that might go wrong, and just focus on saying it.
I hope it’s getting better for you. Good luck with your mental health and with coming out in the future
Welcome to the club! Yes, we have jackets and yes, they are Chanel.
No wonder he doesn't have a girlfriend
Haha funny as always Sebastian!!!!!
I love u sebastion !!♥
Anh Tuấn Yeah, he's too good for girls #justkiddin
Himitsu Rida true :))
HAPPY ONE YEAR ANNIVERSARY OF COMING OUT 💝
Love you flo❤️
+Fetchinq Flo omg just entered your giveaway and now I see you here! hey!
I LOVE YOU FLO OMG
Being gay is not something you can choose, it is a feeling that is felt deep inside and because some people not able to understand or tolerate it makes LGBT people terrified to come out of the closet. I'm one of them. Living in a country where being gay is punishable by death has lead me living a double life. I cried every night before I go to sleep thinking that this is how my life is going to be forever...but I'm used to it I guess. I'm so happy that so many people are supporting you Connor! Even though I won't be able to be myself which is devastating but that's okay, seeing other people get to be themselves is enough to put a smile on my face. When the time comes where I have to marry a woman, I will teach my children to love and not hate.
Get out of your fucking country and go somewhere civilized. And don't get married to a woman. Have some guts and self-respect.
cjay2
Almost everyone has said that to me. I'm really sorry but I just love my country so much, it's where I grew up. I really hope that one day my country would change it's mind, I don't mind waiting :') I apologize if I offended you in any way
Broysh Bro Maybe you love your country, but that is not a reason to keep yourself in danger. when the time comes and the law is more tolerant, then you can still go back. you have to keep yourself in the foreground, not in the background....
I wish you all the best.
Noah Poeta I completely understand what you said and thank you so much
To anyone who gave my comment thumbs up, I need to add something on the matter. Please, please, please don't let my discouragement stop you from living the life you deserve especially the ones who are in my situation. Be yourself and live a happy life!
Looking back at this, Connor was the one who truly helped me come out to myself and many others. He basically saved my life, I was in such a bad state of mind then and just watching his videos helped me escape my depression almost for good! Connor, if you see this by any chance, I just want to thank you so much from the bottom of my heart, for just being you and sharing your story and life to millions! Love you Connor! I just wish I could truly thank you in person one day!
Just came across this video.
This is exactly how I felt and how I feel. This made me cry.
I am so greatful this people like you exist, honest people, inspiring people. Thank you. Thank you very much. That's all I need to say. Thank you!
*that
^ I think she/he is saying that's how they felt to come out. Like nervous and stuff.
this video shot me multiple times, and it actually spoke to me, and I teared up the same. time he did
What actually made me cry in this video was the end. It just got to me when he tried to act happy so the video wouldn't end sadly. I just broke down crying. I support you 100%, Connor.
***** Reverse Psychology eh?
***** Fuck you!
me cried too...
Ikr my heat just melted
Ikr 😢😭. My mom was like what are u doing and when I showed her the vid she almost cry too. I love and support u connor
I wish I could be open about my sexuality but both by mother and father are extremely homophobic. I've been sneaky a few times and asked them "If I was lesbian or bisexual what would you do." They both said that they would disown me and not talk to me. I'm only 15 so how am I supposed to live another 3 years with them if I did tell them. Even my stepmother, who I am VERY close to, would do the same thing. So basically my whole family would disown me if I ever told them about my sexuality. :( . You are very lucky that you have such supportive and loving parents and friends Connor
Man that sucks! Do you have someone cooler you could talk to? Someone you can trust, and trust to keep it from your parents until you're ready? That would be a huge load off, I'm telling you...
Good luck :)
I've told some of my friends (They're girls) and it took them a while but they finally accepted me once I convinced them that I wasn't going to hit on them. I've also told other bi lesbian and gay people at my school and they're kinda helping me through it but it's hard to know that once I move out of my parents house i'm never going to see them or talk to them again
One Direction Is Life
Ah, well that will certainly help.
Now of course, it could be that ultimately your parents don't know how they will act until faced with your declaration; they could surprise you... or not. In any case, just to be safe, I'd definitely wait until you are either Sure of positive results, or are already living on your own, and don't need their support anymore should they decide to retract it. That would seriously suck though.
do you have tumblr?
Do you have anyone else in your family that you trust that is more open-minded? Maybe start there or find an ally in another trusted adult or friend. You don't have to be alone, and I think that your parents or step mother may feel differently once they know the truth. Just keep on keeping on and hang in there. Believe me, life is so much better on this side of the closet. I was where you were one time. My mom and dad surprised me by accepting me for who I was despite what I thought they were going to do.
almost 10 years ago. iconic
"Homosexuality is found in 450+ species. Homophobia is found in only 1. Now which seems unnatural"
We all support you Connor. Keep on being you. xxx
Stitch The Potterhead wow that's a really good point🙌🙌👏
There is this Dude The popular vote was won my Hillary Clinton, not Donald Trump. It was the elector college which one.
There is this Dude how the actual fuck did u turn this into a politics thing?
There is this Dude that’s my point...
There is this Dude well if the win was by popular vote we would have Hilary as president
The awkward moment when there is a Connor Franta video in the suggestions titled, "I'm not gay."
OMG 😂
*OMFG YOU ARE A GENIUS AND I AM DYING OF LAUGHTER* 😂
Cx I knoeee
Lol
OMFG I was just wondering that bc I just clicked this video from boredom and then a video over there says "I'm not gay" Like....Joking or...
SO DAMN PROUD OF YOU
So glad Connor has friends like you to support him on this journey Sam x
Good little Sam
I'm glad to see your message of support here Sam! I've been subbed to you since you started and always wondered if you supported us gays and it's good to see you do. I am proud of you!
Rewatching this after 6 six years of being out makes me feel so happy, watched this literally a 100 times at the time
I'm honestly so shocked but really happy that you're finally happy with yourself Connor. I'm so glad that everyone was okay with it. Coming out it never an easy thing but I'm glad that you did. All those fangirl's hearts broken XP It certainly won't change what we think of you and we still love you
Yes, I really agree on everything. I'm super happy for you and I'm also happy because it made me feel like you consider us important enough to tell us.
I'm honestly proud. We'll still love you. Every single aspect of you 💕
Definitely, we love you for you, no matter what
I'm so proud, Connor. You are an amazing, amazing, amazing person. I have always looked up to you - and now I look up to you even more.
Preach.
100 % true!
Same ! Big thumps up for Connor :) (y)
As majority of the people here, I am so unbelievably proud of you Connor. You've made an amazing decision in letting this out. I have the utmost respect for you. I am seriously overjoyed that you've accepted and love the person you are. Homosexual or not, I will always support you. You're a phenomenal person with a beautiful soul and words cannot express how thrilled I am for you. I love you Connor, you're truly an inspiration. Thank you for showing us a bit more of the Connor Franta we've come to, and always will, love and support.
Amen. Seriously, this is my favorite comment on this video because seriously, he's amazing in every way, it doesn't matter what gender he likes or doesn't like. It doesn't matter to us, because it's just how he is. He has an incredible personality, he's an amazing person to his fans, and we all love him for it. I know I completely and utterly support him, and I also know that his fans will be there for him, no matter what.
Well said
Well said.
Very well said.
Well said
This video genuinely helped me so much to admit to myself that I’m bisexual and not straight. I questioned it for over a year and it kept me up at night and the thought of saying out loud terrified me. Hearing this one among other coming out videos gave me the confidence to admit it to myself and it literally felt like a massive weight was taken off of my shoulders
Connor, No matter what, this is just who you are, and everyone who has supported you up to now will and should support you from now on! You are an awesome human being and like you said, everyone is equal! I am 22 as well, and most of my friends and family know, except my mom, I am still scared of how to tell her.... I just don't know how... but more videos from amazing people like you showing confidence gives me the confidence to tell her one day.
Well said :) and I wish you the best of luck when you tell her ❤️
Haha this is funny.
Connor you have so many people who love you - MILLIONS in fact! I can't imagine how you feel but just know that you have most probably helped a lot of young adults out by just even posting this video. I'm sure a lot of people are going through the same thing! Also, guys make sure you reply to the NICE, SUPPORTIVE comments and THUMBS them up. Don't reply to the disgusting, ignorant comments.. they are not worth your time or effort! Replying to the positive messages will push them up to the top and Conner will see :) xx
You are right if people don't love him for what he is than they aren't loyal and that what fans are supposed to be
Preach 🙌
well said!
Don't get me wrong, I am extremely proud of him for sharing this, but I hope that someday we'll be in a place where people don't have to "come out" to others because their sexuality is THEIR business and no one else's.
And I am a Christian btw. Not all of us are judgemental pricks and think being gay/bi/trans/whatever is a sin and you will all go to Hell. I think God is LOVE and he created every single one of us and he loves every single one of us. We are who we are and we love who we love.
Im a christian too and i believe she same thing you do and i've been trying to explain this to people but I could never word it correctly. You worded it perfectly. A lot of people need to read this comment.
This is for the Christians, who clearly don't understand what it means to be a Christian. If you say you're a Christian, then you accept the whole Bible and you don't pick and choose what is right and wrong. The Bible clearly states that God hates sin and will not be in the presence of it. If you're truly a Christian, you will accept what God considers to be sin. And you will not be of the world while you're in it. We can't be in the middle, we have to choose eigther God or the world, not a little bit of both. Everything is choice, we either choose the voices in our head or we choose God. Its not a simple choice. Being a Christian means that we deny our own self, because it's not about us but the one who formed us in our mothers womb. Gods intention is that we reflect him, that's the purpose of creating us. So when we Christians claim that God is OK with sin such as homosexuality, adultery, lust, greed and so on we are not reflecting him. We can't claim what we say we are, we are servants who are trying to please two masters.
hey im also christian and guess what.. no christain i know thinks like that. if god any one who dose needs to realize that god made you to love who you love
so
Mikaela Otavalo you are rude you may not like that he is gay bit u don't need to share that and PS it is NOT A CHOICE SO YEA YOU CAN JUST GO AND TAKE YOUR HATE SOMEWHERE ELSE GOD LOVES ALL AND U KKOW WHAT HE ACCEPTS US SO YEA YOU ARE PROBABLLY THE RUDEST PERSON ON EARTH NO ONE DESERVES THIS DO U EVEN KNOW HOW MUCH COURAGE IT TOOK HIM TO DO THIS YOU JERK
I don't judge gay people but I truly don't get it when Christians say they think being gay is perfectly fine. Like what makes you a Christian if you just follow what the world says? It makes no sense to me.
i just wrote an essay on a decade of pride in my life and how thats looked and changed through the years and it started with watching this video and crying and rewatching and learning more about myself and then watching every available coming out video on youtube at the time. i came out shortly after in 2015. and yesterday i took my first dose of blockers to start my transition. idk if you’ll see this, but thank you so much for everything. i am so glad you exist and so grateful you chose to do so bravely and boldly and beautifully. happy pride 🏳️⚧️🏳️🌈