Sister Fahima it is great to have therapists like you out there helping our community navigate through the difficulties that span generations.Now aged 45 i realise how important it is to deal with emotions and trauma which in the past was taboo to encourage.So im happy our younger generation will have better tools to start their marital jouneys.Great interview brother kazi.
Brother if you only knew about the truth what she is about she puts good men down i could say so much here part of me will makes me feel bad exposing her but the world needa to know who she is really @kazishafiqur
Time goes fast in the West compared to other Countries outside the West. The workload on marriages is unsustainable. His work, life and activities, her work, life and activities visiting in laws, holidays kids, praying, intimacy, cost of living, technology social media consumption... There is too much to do somethings got to give. There was hardly anything mentioned about the disaster of feminism, materialism and how men are being treated terribly by the system... This will result in tons more unmarried women, more haram and less children being born. Wake Up!
Really enjoyed this dialogue. It is so relevant to today. And what i appreciate the most is the push back from the speaker from men's perspective. Definitely learned a few things from this. More content like this please.
This feels like a very western feministic approach to tackling marital problems.. I don’t see how a Muslim couple would stand to benefit from most of what the sister has said.
Exactly my point... She did give some useful advices and we are grateful for that for awareness purposes, but majority was like her own mind talks didn't seem relevant rather seemed like it was her personal understanding from her personal experiences.
Let’s not forget intimacy, you need to love your wife and give her what she needs physically not just emotionally. You are not just friends. Many women feel dead inside because men find what they need from websites and forget their wives.
I agree but I'll also say the same to the women they need to show their husbands that physical attention in order to divert him from inappropriate websites etc
Good interview but i disagree with what she said about the 6ft plus debate. A lot of women definitely prefer taller men and look down on short men. That doesnt mean there arent short men that get married but shes being disingenuous when she says it a myth
Short man right here. I've been rejected/not even considered purely based on height. As hard as that is to accept and swallow i do, as ultimately its their choice. But i get ticked off when women then complain and get bitter when they aren't considered or rejected for mens choices i.e. weight, preferring a virgin over a previously married etc. What gives women the right to make all their choices and strip men of theirs and then play the victim card, emotive language such as our beautiful sisters are left to the side, who will marry them. Yet with their choices the handsome, caring brothers arent left to the side? The question doesnt come up on who will marry them? More emotive language, it wasnt her fault her marriage failed or became a mother..... she is someones sister or daughter, would you want your sister or daughter rejected because of this? But do we hear the same for men..... i am someones son and brother, at least with a failed marriage the question is justified, why did it fail, she could or could not be to blame. With height, i got dealt that card by Allah. Was that my fault? Some may say someone else a shorter girl can marry me. I say the same for divorcees, someone else can marry you. This notion of all evil is exclusive to men and women are miskeen dont wash. Your choices, your evils are real and exist too.
It's a great blessing to seriously ask for advice in regards to how to have a better marriage. Most men and women get into it cause they think the whole marriage is going to be like the honeymoon period. For some even that's not the case 😔
What amezing episode this is the best episode ever sis fahima nailed it on the head very true everyone needs that one person who trust and not to afraid to judge absolutely that’s my take away also the brother asked all the right questions absolutely we need fahima back part 2, 3 etc
Good 👍 discussion hope it educate people who are so ignorant about coming out and speak about facts . We need more people to come out and speak out to better the society and next generation to grow !!
@@hydragons this is the Fitra of men and Allah has given us provisions to enable us to have more than one wife women are fickle. That’s why we need 4 wives
Conversation like this is what our community needs. The negaitive comments are surely from those who only pick out things that relate to them and fail to see the whole picture... What i understood from this podcast is woman are forced to be independent when they dont really want too,and men are forced to hold everything in then burn out. This all comes from generational trauma... Which no one even thoughgt was a thing when we were growing up. But todays young people have a better foundation if we as parents deal with those traumas first.
Really and truly, if you choose marriage. You have to look at... What is my role as a husband? What is my role as a wife? Can I do my role? If not, I shouldn't marry. You know how you get employed in a job and you have a role... Exact same with marriage.... Can't deliver? Don't marry. Expect too much? Don't marry. It will be your demise and your partner's Denise and your kids demise. You know how you wake up in the morning, you don't feel like going to work, come rain or shine you still go to work... Same thing in marriage, do your role or leave the marriage and just do your nafs.
I believe marriage is not just a role or a job but more about responsibilities that both partners should fulfill to the best of their abilities. Each person has their own set of responsibilities, and these should be fulfilled with sincerity and for the sake of Allah. Overthinking about life after marriage can be counterproductive since many lessons come from the experience itself. As long as both partners feel ready to take on responsibilities and strive to fulfill them, it’s a good foundation for a successful marriage.
Of course. There is not question about it. If that did actually happen in reality there will be lesser and unnecessary problems. Problems will never go away but the problems that are petty and causing many avoidable divorces.
Very excellent educational and informative I like this sister she is to the point and many will appreciate and many may not but stop using foul language as some using rude words get your self some education who is calling names Thank You 🙏 Thank You brother gor sharing your podcast 👏👏👏👏👏
Nobodies marriage is perfect, you also cannot perfect it. Its upon every individual , their amount of Islamic knowledge they have, islamic awareness and consciousness, their perspective, their upbringing, their morals and values , their priorities, their patience and tolerance level, their will and ability to work together and sometime singular effort in order to make the marriage last, work and succeed.. and it all falls under 'life is a test' . Whether you stay single or get married either way you will have difficulties and no one can run away from it, Whether you can conceive or not conceive, you are able or disabled, we all are going to have struggles its practically normal , part and parcel of life. Islamically it really depends upon your faith level, how strong you are connected to Allah ? the stronger it is then you can even stand alone and can tackle the world without anyones help, the weaker level faith are more dependent upon people and pleasing people etc and thats where they fall short and fall into depression, issues , broken marriages etc etc, Work on building your islamic knowledge, your faith and connection with Allah if you want to be content and have a successful life. Insha'Allah Someone with islamic knowledge will value his wife and her husband in laws etc no matter how they are or how they get treated, people with strong faith and Islamic knowledge will know how to handle with respect, patience and strength and will receive Allahs support , guidance and respect, no matter what people say or throw at her/him. Alhamdullilah. ❤
Height has also been an issue. Unless he can accommodate other ways. For example well off, house , cars and etc. Im sorry but the sis had got it wrong there. Sometimes ppl get the whole marriage thing in the wrong way around when they meet someone. You rather take 6 to 12month getting to know someone by asking the correct questions you think youll need to have a successful marriage. Dropping in a few planned arguments to test them out is also necessary. Nobdoy needs to go and see someone on how to live a life. Speak to allah in the middle of the night and thats biggest guidances you can ever have. Not human 😊
The bible unfortunately has been corrupted and no longer the word of God. Its the sayings of a bunch of men with self centred interests. Hence why its full of contradictions. Pick up the Quran and learn about Jesus and the final testament sent to mankind Peace ✌️
What is she on about women get married when she can make decisions for herself? Islamically women should get married after they have matured , advised earlier due to having children and building that bond with their partner and new family etc it takes time... being an Alimah she isn't giving any islamic references and answers from Islamic Shari'ah , so disappointed in her answers honestly, and what's with the accent princess Diana lol I do appreciate and respect alot of good advices she has given although she seems like a feminist maybe due to her own personal experiences it seems, but she has tried to be fair in answering equally. Thank you but please do give answers related to shariah if you are an Alimah/Muslim 'psychologist'. Being a psychologist doesn't make you white . Goodness woman .
I have seen the TikTok videos and I think we have to relax here because there is a difference between someone propagating and instigating vs someone who’s just sharing the diary of their life? Allah knows best.
@@sidebysidepod With the high rise of divorce & feminism, propagated by these type of women, do you think we have time to relax? in her videos her lives, and those diaries shes glorifying being single alone women, and in the comment section many women are liking it, and showing support to it. how is this fine and yet you broadcast her so more people can see her crap
I see you deleted it comment the world needs to not take advise from someone who is committing in haram relationship this women is a absolute joke I know all about her u need to interview Mr shahan network and get the truth sorry for bringing his name but what she did to him was out of order.
She's is a absolute fake wallah she does zina with men , wallah I'm so disgusted watching her give advise about us men . She thinks she's some angel , if only her parents knew who she really is I have solid proof on her action 👎
I believe you i saw her with a boy that i know from tik tok she's a hypocrite. No wonder she's not married ,they guy is actually really decent wish I could mentioning his name as his known on tik tok . Maybe not with this on comment exposing her sins. I also feel like exposing the truth .
His 💯 decent shes talking about men lacking if only kaz knows whats shes about she will be finished. Sorry i did this on here but when i saw her face it gave me the icks so fake , people need to know the truth. @RuhelaBegum-e3u
Sister Fahima it is great to have therapists like you out there helping our community navigate through the difficulties that span generations.Now aged 45 i realise how important it is to deal with emotions and trauma which in the past was taboo to encourage.So im happy our younger generation will have better tools to start their marital jouneys.Great interview brother kazi.
She’s more knowledgeable than I anticipated mashallah.
Brother if you only knew about the truth what she is about she puts good men down i could say so much here part of me will makes me feel bad exposing her but the world needa to know who she is really @kazishafiqur
These conversations are so important i'm glad podcasts like yours with these amazing guests exist.
Thank you 🙏
Time goes fast in the West compared to other Countries outside the West. The workload on marriages is unsustainable. His work, life and activities, her work, life and activities visiting in laws, holidays kids, praying, intimacy, cost of living, technology social media consumption... There is too much to do somethings got to give.
There was hardly anything mentioned about the disaster of feminism, materialism and how men are being treated terribly by the system... This will result in tons more unmarried women, more haram and less children being born. Wake Up!
The shaytaan are all over the world destroying Marriages!
Really enjoyed this dialogue. It is so relevant to today. And what i appreciate the most is the push back from the speaker from men's perspective. Definitely learned a few things from this. More content like this please.
This feels like a very western feministic approach to tackling marital problems.. I don’t see how a Muslim couple would stand to benefit from most of what the sister has said.
Which part of what she said did you have problems with? Time stamps would help.
Shayteen aren't western, Shayteen destroying Marriages!
Exactly my point... She did give some useful advices and we are grateful for that for awareness purposes, but majority was like her own mind talks didn't seem relevant rather seemed like it was her personal understanding from her personal experiences.
Everything is western and feminist to you guys
@@MH-bf4uu because that's how she has responded dum dum
Emotions and feelings are fleeting, they change like the weather, your responsibility and duty and conviction is more stable.
Let’s not forget intimacy, you need to love your wife and give her what she needs physically not just emotionally. You are not just friends. Many women feel dead inside because men find what they need from websites and forget their wives.
Ok that’s mad I’m not going to lie? I think these brothers must be possessed by jinns or something to do something like that when they have a wife?
@@sidebysidepod a lot of men are marrying women due to family pressures. They are not attracted in anyway and now it’s easy to find women you like.
Agreed 💯💯💯@@sidebysidepod
I agree but I'll also say the same to the women they need to show their husbands that physical attention in order to divert him from inappropriate websites etc
Good interview but i disagree with what she said about the 6ft plus debate. A lot of women definitely prefer taller men and look down on short men. That doesnt mean there arent short men that get married but shes being disingenuous when she says it a myth
I also disagree. And this is why I brought it up.
Look down on shorter men….literally! 😂
@@shepon23😂
Short man right here. I've been rejected/not even considered purely based on height. As hard as that is to accept and swallow i do, as ultimately its their choice. But i get ticked off when women then complain and get bitter when they aren't considered or rejected for mens choices i.e. weight, preferring a virgin over a previously married etc. What gives women the right to make all their choices and strip men of theirs and then play the victim card, emotive language such as our beautiful sisters are left to the side, who will marry them. Yet with their choices the handsome, caring brothers arent left to the side? The question doesnt come up on who will marry them? More emotive language, it wasnt her fault her marriage failed or became a mother..... she is someones sister or daughter, would you want your sister or daughter rejected because of this? But do we hear the same for men..... i am someones son and brother, at least with a failed marriage the question is justified, why did it fail, she could or could not be to blame. With height, i got dealt that card by Allah. Was that my fault? Some may say someone else a shorter girl can marry me. I say the same for divorcees, someone else can marry you. This notion of all evil is exclusive to men and women are miskeen dont wash. Your choices, your evils are real and exist too.
La hawla wala
It's a great blessing to seriously ask for advice in regards to how to have a better marriage. Most men and women get into it cause they think the whole marriage is going to be like the honeymoon period. For some even that's not the case 😔
Good work,thanks so much for this
What amezing episode this is the best episode ever sis fahima nailed it on the head very true everyone needs that one person who trust and not to afraid to judge absolutely that’s my take away also the brother asked all the right questions absolutely we need fahima back part 2, 3 etc
Thank you we are glad you liked it.
Good 👍 discussion hope it educate people who are so ignorant about coming out and speak about facts . We need more people to come out and speak out to better the society and next generation to grow !!
Great podcast 👏👏
I think the secret to having successful marriage is to have four wives that way they will be grateful for your time
Congrats. You are about to get cooked medium-well mate.
@@hydragons this is the Fitra of men and Allah has given us provisions to enable us to have more than one wife women are fickle. That’s why we need 4 wives
@@hydragons the sunnah is to have multiple wives
@@RSADYNAMICS 😂😂😂 Nice one geezer
Behave!!!
Conversation like this is what our community needs. The negaitive comments are surely from those who only pick out things that relate to them and fail to see the whole picture...
What i understood from this podcast is woman are forced to be independent when they dont really want too,and men are forced to hold everything in then burn out. This all comes from generational trauma... Which no one even thoughgt was a thing when we were growing up. But todays young people have a better foundation if we as parents deal with those traumas first.
Yep women forced to be independent and men forced to shoulder all the burdens of life and have no assistance
Really and truly, if you choose marriage. You have to look at... What is my role as a husband? What is my role as a wife? Can I do my role? If not, I shouldn't marry. You know how you get employed in a job and you have a role... Exact same with marriage.... Can't deliver? Don't marry. Expect too much? Don't marry. It will be your demise and your partner's Denise and your kids demise.
You know how you wake up in the morning, you don't feel like going to work, come rain or shine you still go to work... Same thing in marriage, do your role or leave the marriage and just do your nafs.
I believe marriage is not just a role or a job but more about responsibilities that both partners should fulfill to the best of their abilities. Each person has their own set of responsibilities, and these should be fulfilled with sincerity and for the sake of Allah. Overthinking about life after marriage can be counterproductive since many lessons come from the experience itself. As long as both partners feel ready to take on responsibilities and strive to fulfill them, it’s a good foundation for a successful marriage.
@@sidebysidepod so you agree, sometimes you have to forget how you feel and what you want and fulfil your role as a husband/wife.
Of course. There is not question about it. If that did actually happen in reality there will be lesser and unnecessary problems. Problems will never go away but the problems that are petty and causing many avoidable divorces.
Very excellent educational and informative I like this sister she is to the point and many will appreciate and many may not but stop using foul language as some using rude words get your self some education who is calling names Thank You 🙏 Thank You brother gor sharing your podcast 👏👏👏👏👏
Thank you for your kind support.
Parent's should educate their children about marriage as soon as they can understand social dynamics.
This video inspired me to get divorced … even though I am not married yet
I don’t find it funny.
@@sidebysidepod brother humour is important in marriage .
Nobodies marriage is perfect, you also cannot perfect it. Its upon every individual , their amount of Islamic knowledge they have, islamic awareness and consciousness, their perspective, their upbringing, their morals and values , their priorities, their patience and tolerance level, their will and ability to work together and sometime singular effort in order to make the marriage last, work and succeed.. and it all falls under 'life is a test' .
Whether you stay single or get married either way you will have difficulties and no one can run away from it, Whether you can conceive or not conceive, you are able or disabled, we all are going to have struggles its practically normal , part and parcel of life.
Islamically it really depends upon your faith level, how strong you are connected to Allah ? the stronger it is then you can even stand alone and can tackle the world without anyones help, the weaker level faith are more dependent upon people and pleasing people etc and thats where they fall short and fall into depression, issues , broken marriages etc etc,
Work on building your islamic knowledge, your faith and connection with Allah if you want to be content and have a successful life. Insha'Allah
Someone with islamic knowledge will value his wife and her husband in laws etc no matter how they are or how they get treated, people with strong faith and Islamic knowledge will know how to handle with respect, patience and strength and will receive Allahs support , guidance and respect, no matter what people say or throw at her/him. Alhamdullilah. ❤
At the core of a woman is the need to respect and admire a man. The question is what is a man to a woman?
Height has also been an issue. Unless he can accommodate other ways. For example well off, house , cars and etc. Im sorry but the sis had got it wrong there.
Sometimes ppl get the whole marriage thing in the wrong way around when they meet someone. You rather take 6 to 12month getting to know someone by asking the correct questions you think youll need to have a successful marriage. Dropping in a few planned arguments to test them out is also necessary. Nobdoy needs to go and see someone on how to live a life. Speak to allah in the middle of the night and thats biggest guidances you can ever have. Not human 😊
That’s a very interesting perspective I’m not going to lie 😀
@kazishafiqur I watch your UA-cam channel bro. Sometimes it's common sense
A secret to a successful, healthy marriage is finding a spouse that loves God more than they will ever love you and live by the Bible ❤
The bible unfortunately has been corrupted and no longer the word of God. Its the sayings of a bunch of men with self centred interests. Hence why its full of contradictions.
Pick up the Quran and learn about Jesus and the final testament sent to mankind
Peace ✌️
What is she on about women get married when she can make decisions for herself? Islamically women should get married after they have matured , advised earlier due to having children and building that bond with their partner and new family etc it takes time... being an Alimah she isn't giving any islamic references and answers from Islamic Shari'ah , so disappointed in her answers honestly, and what's with the accent princess Diana lol I do appreciate and respect alot of good advices she has given although she seems like a feminist maybe due to her own personal experiences it seems, but she has tried to be fair in answering equally. Thank you but please do give answers related to shariah if you are an Alimah/Muslim 'psychologist'. Being a psychologist doesn't make you white . Goodness woman .
As Salam walaikum bhaisaab. Bala bi?
Ami asi lage zudi bhaisaab. 👊🏽
Really helpful and educational for everyone. Thank you
I hope you will share with everyone!
This is not the women ou want to have on you're show, as she promotes single motherhood lifestyle on her tik tok
I have seen the TikTok videos and I think we have to relax here because there is a difference between someone propagating and instigating vs someone who’s just sharing the diary of their life? Allah knows best.
If someone is propagating something and speaking for something do you think they will have a neutral approach?? @@sidebysidepod
@@sidebysidepod With the high rise of divorce & feminism, propagated by these type of women, do you think we have time to relax?
in her videos her lives, and those diaries shes glorifying being single alone women, and in the comment section many women are liking it, and showing support to it.
how is this fine and yet you broadcast her so more people can see her crap
@@redpanther9380 exactly, on her lives when she is questioned, shes very emotionally triggered clearly theres some past trauma there
@@samuelahmed5951are you obsessed with her or something, sounding like a number 1 fan.
I see you deleted it comment the world needs to not take advise from someone who is committing in haram relationship this women is a absolute joke I know all about her u need to interview Mr shahan network and get the truth sorry for bringing his name but what she did to him was out of order.
"Are men to blame for divorce " very clear the type of audiance your trying to attract through that clickbait .. smh
Well you clicked onto it…
I do blame men
@@sidebysidepod Lol this guy
Brother I think it would be more professional when you don’t curse… I was taken back by what you said at the beginning.
She's is a absolute fake wallah she does zina with men , wallah I'm so disgusted watching her give advise about us men . She thinks she's some angel , if only her parents knew who she really is I have solid proof on her action 👎
I believe you i saw her with a boy that i know from tik tok she's a hypocrite. No wonder she's not married ,they guy is actually really decent wish I could mentioning his name as his known on tik tok . Maybe not with this on comment exposing her sins. I also feel like exposing the truth .
His 💯 decent shes talking about men lacking if only kaz knows whats shes about she will be finished.
Sorry i did this on here but when i saw her face it gave me the icks so fake , people need to know the truth. @RuhelaBegum-e3u
I found the guest very boring, It was dragging...45min wud have been fine but this was too long!! 😂😂😂 I stopped watching after 50min.
Really? Think shes done amazing
@@jenniehaquethis is the first time i couldnt finsh the hosts episode. It was boring. I zoned out so many times, but im glad u liked it
Next time put speed to 1.5x and you will listen very fast.
It wasn’t boring, you weren’t interested, there’s a difference. It was very informative.
@@R4X90 it was boring and thats my opinion! Are we allowed to have opinion or not? Information was repetitive!! Its not my fault I lost interest.
Shoitan betin logeh latyami koreh ni
Na tor logeh foga
Goo khaya mor
Tor bafor mata, halar hala
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@@Yogeezah12345 goo khabah