@@dracozain1023 whos fault is that? im a bit tired of us going meh and letting women get a pass cause" its good for the children" thats real convenient excuse.
I was thinking the same thing. I watched the entire video and the Dadvocate makes some good honest points and I can't even argue against them with when I disagree because she uses calm logical rationale.
Yea Roma makes it seem like she said this. She defended Dads. This is really disgusting and very misleading. Almost like Roma didn’t watch the video and couldn’t wait to trash someone.
WTAF!!???? She (Roma)was commenting on the post in the background, numbnutts'!!!! Not commenting on the dadvocate - I didn't realise there were fcuking *"pick mes'"* within the viewers of mens rights activists... how have we got here, ffs!!!!????
Dionte Fizer posted that to the dadvocate and Roma responded - what's wrong with her doing so?? Surely more than one person shutting that mysandric bint down is better than just the one person???? 😲😬🤫😱🤦♂️🤷♂️
Yeah, I am one of those dads. My sons mother basically abandoned him on me. a couple months ago and took off on us. I am having a hard time getting assistance. Even childcare. Fortunately, my employer has let me bring him to work with me, but I can't keep doing that. And you're right I keep getting asked why I didn't leave him with his mother or how come you don't take her to court and make her take custody of him. Why? because she is a horrible parent. And our child is safer with me.
I understand how you feel bro my son is 7 and his mom ran out on him when he was 3 he's about to be 8 now I was losing everything in front of me to my house and my job because of my mental health at the time my son didn't understand why he didn't see his mom anymore and I couldn't get any help or assistance if it wasn't for my family idk how I would've made it keep your head up and a smile on his face and you guys will get through it together stay strong
Good luck I know its hard. I had 3 teenage daughters come to live with me after their mom became an addict. She is doing much better now but I stepped up without questions and took care of my girls. I could have handled it on my own but my GF stepped in without hesitation and helped. That's how I knew I had a good lady her kids are all grown and she stepped in to help without question. I could and still handle things but I am so thankful for her help when she did not have too.
Right there with you. Im a single father of 2, and their mom left us more than 2 years ago. I know you hear "Stay strong" all the time, like we aren't already having to, and told "it gets better" . All we can do is roll the dice and see if they are correct.
Single Dad here from the USA who has a court order stating I can't leave Canada with the kids unless she signs, she will never sign, but I wouldn't leave, she would tho.
Dude my mom got child support while we lived with our dad, half his check supported her drug habits, literally 50% of his check. And when he asked for help from the goverment cause he was the one taking care of us, they basically told him to be a better dad. Even tho the goverment was takeing half his check to support a meth addict with a good check every week, foodstamps, healthcare, wic and everything they gave her. Dads need help too
@@hayley4415Wrong but typical. My dad raised my sister still shelled out half his paycheck for my child support while getting no assistance. My sister had to start working as a teen to keep the lights on. Dad was more focused on keeping food on the table.
I've had primary custody of my son for 6 years. He is 8. The amount of sideways statements I get is insane. "Sir is that crying kid yours?" Well we have the same name so I hope so. "Just send him to his mom's if you're stressed" His mom can't even be bothered to help by getting him socks and underwear or even show up for her visits. Her friends say she's such a great mom. Meanwhile I'm a dead beat ..... THATS BEEN RAISING THIS KID ALONE FOR 3/4 OF HIS LIFE!!!
Its funny my ex was an addict and the amount of people who still think shes a good mom is laughable. Oh yeah she was great when the house was filthy, there was no food etc.
Just keep pushing and ignore the dead beat mom and her friends. I promise, they will never be relevant or their opinions valued by anyone ♡ I married a single dad, our son was 4 when we met. He's an amazing dad and always has been. "Mom" would show up at the big events (graduations etc...) and take pics with him that she posted to her friends, stating how proud she was. 🙄 The kids see it once they're older. You never have to say a negative word, just keep being Dad, I promise it works out! My gosh it's worth it too ♡♡♡
Sounds like my coworker, he had both his daughters from 2 and 5 till 15 and 18, mom was in jail continuously, and he still had to pay her child support.
It's all good my husband didn't have custody (ex wife had a better lawyer) she only got custody out of spite to gain child support that his kids never saw a dime of. Yet she painted him as a bad dad. I can't imagine how annoying/ infuriating it is to have people say your a dead beat when you clearly are raising your child. Hold your head high you know your not and doing a great job. You're child will Also see this as he gets older. You are doing a great job as a dad
In NC when a woman wins custody a man's wages are automatically garnished for child support. When a man wins he has to file separate charges for child support
I raised my two boys for the past 18 years because at 3 & 5 one was diagnosed with a chronic illness and my ex decided she "didn't sign up for this" and was "done, Done, DONE". She moved 2500 miles away to make sure she was done. Son's doing great now.
F--- your ex-wife. My two nephews have chronic illnesses. Type 1 diabetes for the older one, and a non-descript autoimmune disease for the younger one. My brother and his wife have done nothing but make sure they get the care they need to thrive. They are also doing well and I love them very much.
Spot on. I raised 2 kids as a single dad and had no sympathy, no help and little or no child support or financial help from the mom, who made a lot more money and had a lot more fun then me! Society in general seemed to not know how to react to me being a single dad.
Same, basically. My child support payments just go for extras and she thinks she should get more even though she makes more than me. If I had that child support money I could buy a house and build a proper life for my children but no, it’s a tribute payment to an evil harpy that the kids always tell me how much they despise. I’m just lucky my child support obligation isn’t as bad as most people I run across so I guess I’m fortunate. In my case I even did things “right” in getting married before having kids but that doesn’t matter when she up and decided she wasn’t “happy”. Oh well, she’s on the cats and box wine highway now.
I mean I suppose you weren't a single dad. Just a dad who babysat 24 hours a day, so mom could have fun and zero responsibility ever. But you know, you're just helping her, right? (You're a better dad than she is mother)
Same here. Single dad with custody. I don’t take a penny from my ex even though she makes more money than I do. Damn right you get little to no sympathy. When my son was in grade school, I’d pick him up, waiting outside the fence with the other parents. I’ve had parents (mothers) ask me, “So how come he lives with you and not his Mom.” Like there’s something wrong with that. My reply was always the same, “Just because I have a penis I can’t have my child live with me?” And I never got an answer. lol Just awkward giggles. Edit: Just wanted to add my ex isn’t a pos. She’s a good Mom. And our son sees her on the weekends.
I too am a single father, I was 22 when my son was born, I got him one week after he left the hospital after he was born, I filed for child support eight years later only because I hit a hard spot. The mom does not pay child support and has never went to jail for not paying and if the roles were reversed and I didn't pay I would be in jail guaranteed. My son is now 16.
@@DizzyDez613I have went through the same ordeal to a T. I could feel resentment from teachers and other woman because I was raising my kid and it seemed like it baffled them.
No no there's quite enough who have no family to rely on (or refuse those terrible people), a deceased it completely inaccessible father of their children and cannot or are not dating. I have personally known 2 of such women and it's hard, but I could not help them any more than being moral support that came in years later
I did every year for her A.T. (annual training) for the U.S. Army. I got up and fed her, helped her dress and took her to school. Then i went to work, came home, picked her up, helped with the homework, fed and bathed her, held her while she cried because mom wasn't home and she slept with me. Nothing happened to her, she was safe, fed, supported, encouraged and loved.
I wish everyone would wake tf up. Instead of he said she said and everyone trying to make themselves look better than someone else, we all need to realize we are all the same. We all bleed red, no one is better than anyone else. Just a bunch of shitty people that feel good putting down other people. It's not suppose to be like this, we are suppose to help and support each other. What has happened to this world? Much respect to you Chloe for speaking out. Wish you the best always
I've been a single father since 1988. Roma, you're 100% correct. When you're a single father, women back pedal at record breaking speed, saying "I won't raise someone else's kids"
In other words, give them _complete_ equality, and they'll beg for patriarchy. Sorry ladies, it didn't work that way in Eden, and guess what? Still ain't gonna work like that. Pandora's box is open, gaping even, and it can't be undone.
Oh I agree. My husband has way more patience and he’s a routine person, I’m not. Not that I ever want this to happen but he would knock being a single parent out of the park if it were to happen. It happened before for like a year. I got addicted to the pain pills I was being prescribed from a brain surgery he took me for full custody of our oldest ( youngest wasn’t born at the time). I got supervised visits. I’ll give him credit he killed it being a single parent. Didn’t drop them off with anyone so he could go out or get a break every weekend. He didn’t even ask for child support from me. I’ll be honest I didn’t even show up half the time when it was my visits. This was 2015/2016. I’m coming up on 8 years sober we got back together shortly after I completed rehab. Had another daughter and got married 2 years ago ( been together coming on 15years). Men can do just as good of a job if not better then the mother when they are given the chance and not just a mother keeping the child for child support, free money from assist or even to get petty.
Good for you! You're inspiring. I've been sober 10 years in March. Still no family. Fiance cheated on me and had another man's kid but I knew she was no good. Just didn't have the stones to end it.
My 6 year old daughter and 9 year old son haven't seen their mother in 4 years. She started using drugs and lost her mind. I told them she is sick and someday when she's better she'll come visit. The only time I've gotten anything is when the courts put her bail on child support.
The worst was when some do good help abused women organization tried to take my son. And put him in a "safe place " that I can't know about. When reminded that cps and the police gave him to ME. While she went to the insane asylum. They shut up and went away
I ran away to my father when I was 15 to escape a life of abuse and their constant use of meth beating on us, graping us, starving us. My father had no idea what to do but he paid for everything I needed, I had a bed for the first time and I didn't have to worry about being woken up with a beating. In my experience, my crack head mother gate-kept me from my father saying he should do more and he doesn't cos he doesn't love me, when every cent she got from him went to meth and alcohol and the courts ruled in her favour for custody. I survived that upbringing, but my little sister didn't. I have no sympathy for women like this and rather, I hold contempt and a strong will to hold back my fists as a man
My life would be ten times harder if I couldn't pull out the "right I'm calling dad". As a mum with chronic illness I'm not always in the best shape so when I'm not my husband always picks up the slack fantastically! I even said when I was diagnosed "if we think its hard now its only gonna get worse so if you want out now is your chance" and he still married me! So yes, he definitely could cope without me for 30 days, at the very least. ❤
As a man that grew up with an entitled single mom with borderline personality disorder, thank you Roma. People like you give me hope for this world. Thank you
Got custody of my daughter when she was 8yo. Her mom was required to pay me $200 month. I got $150 per month for 9 months straight. Then I got $100 for 6 months, nothing thereafter. Child support is geared specifically toward mothers here in Wyoming. The paperwork itself is only for mothers. No paperwork for fathers seeking child support. My daughter is 23 now
I am a single father of my 9 year old. The “incubator” as I call the mom.. hasn’t seen my daughter since she was a month old. Makes 0 attempt to contact me or anything. She lived a block and a half away from me.. still made absolutely no attempt to contact me. She has 2 other kids with 2 other fathers and has custody of NONE of them. It is extremely hard, but I am lucky and blessed I have help from my family raising her.
Maternal gatekeeping is absolutely correct. It's becoming very tiring. Well stated. ❤ My son has to struggle immensely to see his child through the courts. Our family is struggling financially to keep up with all these court costs. It's absolute hell on earth. The false allegations never cease. They are ludicrous! It's ridiculous how women can get away with such behavior. I've talked to countless men in these positions. There should be consequences for these women's actions. I pray fervently that these types of women will be exposed so this torment ends. The system needs to change to combat parental alienation.
It's always felt like a snub to have the "WIC" program. Not only saying that single dads don't need help, but that it's expected that women can't be expected to be able to be competent providers.
Your child can still apply for and receive WIC benefits if the father has sole custody. At least in NH anyways. In fact, I had to sign my son up myself because his mother never signed up when she first found out she was pregnant. I literally signed him up 3 days after he was born because she still hadn't done it.
@@azrialmccloud6954 Which is great, but if the mother is able to receive additional financial assistance as well as the child, why exclude the father from that same support when in need? That's the part I find to be inequality.
I'm a single dad, and I have my kids 110% of the time. We live 3000+ miles away from any family, and I have no time for making friends. I get no help, ever. . . . I'd say I'm all in. Fuck folding. Bitches like that are so stuck on themselves. Thank you for standing for us! I wish all women could be like you ❤
I love what your doing girl I have been raising my three girls by myself with no help for over a year now and have been following you on tiktok for about the same amount of time I'm sorry that you have been attacked for standing up for us men just know I see you and support you keep up the good work much love to you and yours
My children’s father was awesome when my children were young. At a time in my life when I could barely take care of myself let alone take care of my children, he stepped up to the plate and took them while I went and got therapy. He even defended me when people would say I abandoned them.
youre a good mom for knowing you had a problem and fixing it. what a great dad for your kids too. thats an awesome story people just cared and didnt understand i wouldnt hate them for it. it comes from a good place its just misguided anger.
I'm a guy that's raised his kids for over 4 years on my own and my ex-wife refuses to pay child support and I get told this all the time but I keep trying my best while paying 600 a month in child support for one kid and my kids are happier and taken care of This needs to be talked about more especially with the deadbeat mothers of the world using child support for drugs parties and never the kids
I wish I had my daughter all the time instead of just 50/50. Not only because i miss out on 50% of her life but also because her mother, who I was still very much in love with, chose to leave to bang trash that I don't approve of my daughter being around. Doing everything myself for years now, times do get tough. But I'd rather struggle than have a roommate or anything like that in my house. My father was and still is a great man and I do my best to do the same.
As another example of society not caring about fathers: some countries have maternal capital. Who cares if a father is a widower, right? I don't know if that's a thing in angloworld, but it's definitely a thing in countries like Russia
I read that the mother is an important figure for the first five years of a child’s life, and the father is the important figure until they become an adult.
Here's the funny thing, that's not really funny. Women get help at every turn, assistance from every angle. And they are still fuqqin it up. Let that marinade.
I raised two daughters nearly alone, I did have some help from a hairdresser, I ash her to cut their hair so I could make it look good fast. I got an hour of her time teaching me. Thank you lady!
My husband and I were both military...I ended up deploying more than he did. my husband had our kids for months at a time. Neither of our family lived close so he worked 10 to 12 hr days and took care of our kids.
I was the solid parent, whilst the ex I lived with cried, whined, and expected me to provide clothing, diapers, pay a school expenses and health insurance.i think he belueved ever spending time with the kids deserved a gold star.
I took 2 years off work to raise my girls. I got no assistance from anyone. I lived off my I used my savings, why do women crap on men, they just want someone to trash
I haven't known even one single mom that can actually "go it alone". They're always getting help from friends and family, burning through child support and asking their baby dad(dies) for more help, always seeking a bailout from some other man. Maybe there are some that exist but I know I haven't ever seen them.
I raise my son, his mom could not stay clean. So I'm still alive and I have 5. 21 through 6. I'm doing fine. I believe in fighting to strive for your kids, sometimes the other doesn't care. Love your show girl. Power to the people JL
I commented on Dadvocate on this story, but thanks Chloe for picking it up. Why can't women see that we men can actually do things, have feelings, & are human too? Add in that when I became a Dad, I was active duty military & my wife left me two days, yes two days after my babies were born. The women on my base rallied around me & so did my family, so I never had to ask for help, they just stepped in before I could ask. When I needed a break, the women on base came over to take over & give me a night off. To them I was just another "Mommy" who was overwhelmed & they rallied around me.
I take care of my kids every weekday while the wife is at work. I'm going to school for a degree so it makes more sense for me to be the stay at home parent right now. I really appreciate you actually showing us guys who take care of our kids some love.
Whilst in basic training I received a phone call from my now ex-wife saying she wants a divorce and that she does not want the kids and I had to take them. I told her 'I can't until I'm out of tech school' which could be a couple months. During that time she kept asking me when is that time going to be up. So when I finally got out of basic training and got to my first permanent base I had them within a couple weeks, because as she said "I Do NOT want them" (her emphasis (and she said that in Front of them too, unfortunately)). I had them for the entire time I was in the military* until I got out (6 years). * except for the few months I was deployed for the Gulf War
Truth. I'm a single dad, full custody, NO child support order on the mom, NO government assistance, and just found out some random guy IN PRISON has been drawing food stamps with my kid's SSN
I'm a GenX latchkey kid who raised myself and my little brother since I was 9 and he was 2. I can take care of kids. I did it AS a kid. It's not hard. Well, not hard for someone who knows it is "their kids" and not "they kids"...
I am 27 , My son is 4 Me and my wife own our own house . My wife is mentally ILL … It happened after the pregnancy. Iv raised and took care of my son since birth . I had to quit my job . My wife is in no condition to take care of my son or watch him for more then an hr or two . I do everything around the house because of her problems (including ocd germaphobiea ) she can’t do anything . I have to help her shower , get dressed . Help her do everything all day , as well as raise a young man ….. I can’t bring myself to take her out of his life . I just suffer in silence so she can have her son and my son can have the closest thing to a mom in his life . No one realy cares to be honest. My moms an angle and Iv allways ben vary close to her , she is the only one I realy can talk to about this problem Iv ben living with for lil over 4 years now .
My son would be ecstatic that means he gets to go camping and shooting a bows and all kinds of cool things that I can't do physically anymore there are great fathers out there. And yes I'm still married to my husband we have one child 💞
Hold my beer........ being a single father for 3 years, no help just me my son and a lot of sleepless nights when he was a baby. Its not hard, its not complicated... you just have to go without a lot of things until they are older. The people who freak out like that shouldn't have any kids.
Those are the types that will be mad when they come home and the house is clean and kids are fed and not running around crazy because they listen to DAD
Thank you so much, I've had my 3 and now 2 children for 9 years on my own. The mum was the deadbeat and now has to have supervision to see them! Oh, child support, I wish!
Thank you for sticking up for us. That’s actually the number one thing I look for in a woman. Is she gonna stick up for me or join her friends in talking shit about stuff they know nothing about.
She is spot on. Ive been raising 2 of my chuldren with NO help from their mother for 5 yrs. She wont even call or get them anything for Christmas or birthdays. My middle child asked mom to help her buy $5 worth of supplies for a school project a 5 years ago Mom asked "why should i have to do that!" She called them rotten little demons and blamed our relationship problems on the kids. Couldn't be mom and dads chiices it was the childrens fault for coming into our lives
As single father myself, it is the most difficult thing I’ve ever been through. And I have been through a lot over the years. But I love my daughter and would accept all of the pain I’ve experienced to continue to be a father
My parents split up when I was really young. My mom has been a bad parent all my life and I lived with my dad a majority of my childhood and teenage years and he had, and still has a lot going on with finances and mental health and no matter how much he was struggling, he always made sure me and my younger sister were well taking care of and still does. There is a lot of good fathers out there that would do anything for their children even if they are struggling ❤
I've been raising my little beautiful little lady alone since she was a baby. No governmental assistance or family. But I've been doing it for 9 years and counting. I have one of the most well rounded loving smart little girl any parent would be proud of so proud of her ☺️
now lets challenge all the single moms with multiple baby daddies to live 30 days without child support
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Ooooh that's fantastic! 😅 they wouldn't last AT ALL!
And government assistance
Eh, the baby will just suffer then at the end of the day, I've seen that movie before
@@dracozain1023 whos fault is that?
im a bit tired of us going meh and letting women get a pass cause" its good for the children"
thats real convenient excuse.
Winning comment award goes to.. 😂 yeah fr tho. Some of these women have children just to have the government assistance it’s wack.
For clarity, the woman in thr background is the dadvocate. Shes on our side fellas
I was thinking the same thing. I watched the entire video and the Dadvocate makes some good honest points and I can't even argue against them with when I disagree because she uses calm logical rationale.
Yea Roma makes it seem like she said this. She defended Dads. This is really disgusting and very misleading. Almost like Roma didn’t watch the video and couldn’t wait to trash someone.
WTAF!!???? She (Roma)was commenting on the post in the background, numbnutts'!!!!
Not commenting on the dadvocate - I didn't realise there were fcuking *"pick mes'"* within the viewers of mens rights activists... how have we got here, ffs!!!!????
Dionte Fizer posted that to the dadvocate and Roma responded - what's wrong with her doing so?? Surely more than one person shutting that mysandric bint down is better than just the one person???? 😲😬🤫😱🤦♂️🤷♂️
It looks like the dadvocate was reacting to the same comment too.
I'm a single dad and have been for almost 2 years without asking for help. Women who say that shit are ignorant.
Same my dude and the more I do it without help from her, the more rewarding fatherhood becomes.
Yeah, I am one of those dads. My sons mother basically abandoned him on me. a couple months ago and took off on us. I am having a hard time getting assistance. Even childcare. Fortunately, my employer has let me bring him to work with me, but I can't keep doing that. And you're right I keep getting asked why I didn't leave him with his mother or how come you don't take her to court and make her take custody of him. Why? because she is a horrible parent. And our child is safer with me.
I understand how you feel bro my son is 7 and his mom ran out on him when he was 3 he's about to be 8 now I was losing everything in front of me to my house and my job because of my mental health at the time my son didn't understand why he didn't see his mom anymore and I couldn't get any help or assistance if it wasn't for my family idk how I would've made it keep your head up and a smile on his face and you guys will get through it together stay strong
Good luck I know its hard. I had 3 teenage daughters come to live with me after their mom became an addict. She is doing much better now but I stepped up without questions and took care of my girls. I could have handled it on my own but my GF stepped in without hesitation and helped. That's how I knew I had a good lady her kids are all grown and she stepped in to help without question. I could and still handle things but I am so thankful for her help when she did not have too.
Right there with you. Im a single father of 2, and their mom left us more than 2 years ago. I know you hear "Stay strong" all the time, like we aren't already having to, and told "it gets better" . All we can do is roll the dice and see if they are correct.
Single Dad here from the USA who has a court order stating I can't leave Canada with the kids unless she signs, she will never sign, but I wouldn't leave, she would tho.
Thanks.
Dude my mom got child support while we lived with our dad, half his check supported her drug habits, literally 50% of his check. And when he asked for help from the goverment cause he was the one taking care of us, they basically told him to be a better dad. Even tho the goverment was takeing half his check to support a meth addict with a good check every week, foodstamps, healthcare, wic and everything they gave her. Dads need help too
Shiiiiiiid! I got 3 kids and pay child support for one who lives with me since he was 5 he bout to be 13 👀. Shit is crazy man
Your dad sounds like a wonderful man and that's rotten what they did and do to guys, it's disgusting and wrong
Can you changed liced to lived please 😂 my eyebrows were about to leave my face
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@@hayley4415Wrong but typical. My dad raised my sister still shelled out half his paycheck for my child support while getting no assistance. My sister had to start working as a teen to keep the lights on. Dad was more focused on keeping food on the table.
I've had primary custody of my son for 6 years. He is 8. The amount of sideways statements I get is insane. "Sir is that crying kid yours?" Well we have the same name so I hope so. "Just send him to his mom's if you're stressed" His mom can't even be bothered to help by getting him socks and underwear or even show up for her visits. Her friends say she's such a great mom. Meanwhile I'm a dead beat ..... THATS BEEN RAISING THIS KID ALONE FOR 3/4 OF HIS LIFE!!!
You're a good man. It's not said enough. We men have to stick together more.
Its funny my ex was an addict and the amount of people who still think shes a good mom is laughable. Oh yeah she was great when the house was filthy, there was no food etc.
Just keep pushing and ignore the dead beat mom and her friends. I promise, they will never be relevant or their opinions valued by anyone ♡ I married a single dad, our son was 4 when we met. He's an amazing dad and always has been. "Mom" would show up at the big events (graduations etc...) and take pics with him that she posted to her friends, stating how proud she was. 🙄 The kids see it once they're older. You never have to say a negative word, just keep being Dad, I promise it works out! My gosh it's worth it too ♡♡♡
Sounds like my coworker, he had both his daughters from 2 and 5 till 15 and 18, mom was in jail continuously, and he still had to pay her child support.
It's all good my husband didn't have custody (ex wife had a better lawyer) she only got custody out of spite to gain child support that his kids never saw a dime of. Yet she painted him as a bad dad.
I can't imagine how annoying/ infuriating it is to have people say your a dead beat when you clearly are raising your child. Hold your head high you know your not and doing a great job. You're child will Also see this as he gets older. You are doing a great job as a dad
In NC when a woman wins custody a man's wages are automatically garnished for child support. When a man wins he has to file separate charges for child support
Seriously? That's BS, it should go both ways.
I raised my two boys for the past 18 years because at 3 & 5 one was diagnosed with a chronic illness and my ex decided she "didn't sign up for this" and was "done, Done, DONE". She moved 2500 miles away to make sure she was done.
Son's doing great now.
Lucky you, mine has tried to kill me 3 times, stalks and gaslights me nonstop.
F--- your ex-wife. My two nephews have chronic illnesses. Type 1 diabetes for the older one, and a non-descript autoimmune disease for the younger one. My brother and his wife have done nothing but make sure they get the care they need to thrive. They are also doing well and I love them very much.
@@HatOnAHatI'm with you. Good Uncle talk
@@SD-jf7nbboy bye. A man is here is seems to be fighting off an ex that needs to be locked away (by man I mean you, after you matured to manhood)
Spot on. I raised 2 kids as a single dad and had no sympathy, no help and little or no child support or financial help from the mom, who made a lot more money and had a lot more fun then me! Society in general seemed to not know how to react to me being a single dad.
Same, basically. My child support payments just go for extras and she thinks she should get more even though she makes more than me. If I had that child support money I could buy a house and build a proper life for my children but no, it’s a tribute payment to an evil harpy that the kids always tell me how much they despise. I’m just lucky my child support obligation isn’t as bad as most people I run across so I guess I’m fortunate. In my case I even did things “right” in getting married before having kids but that doesn’t matter when she up and decided she wasn’t “happy”. Oh well, she’s on the cats and box wine highway now.
I mean I suppose you weren't a single dad. Just a dad who babysat 24 hours a day, so mom could have fun and zero responsibility ever. But you know, you're just helping her, right? (You're a better dad than she is mother)
Same here. Single dad with custody. I don’t take a penny from my ex even though she makes more money than I do.
Damn right you get little to no sympathy. When my son was in grade school, I’d pick him up, waiting outside the fence with the other parents. I’ve had parents (mothers) ask me, “So how come he lives with you and not his Mom.” Like there’s something wrong with that. My reply was always the same, “Just because I have a penis I can’t have my child live with me?” And I never got an answer. lol Just awkward giggles.
Edit: Just wanted to add my ex isn’t a pos. She’s a good Mom. And our son sees her on the weekends.
I too am a single father, I was 22 when my son was born, I got him one week after he left the hospital after he was born, I filed for child support eight years later only because I hit a hard spot. The mom does not pay child support and has never went to jail for not paying and if the roles were reversed and I didn't pay I would be in jail guaranteed. My son is now 16.
@@DizzyDez613I have went through the same ordeal to a T. I could feel resentment from teachers and other woman because I was raising my kid and it seemed like it baffled them.
Show me one woman that has look after her kids for 30 days without any help.
That's right, there's none
No no there's quite enough who have no family to rely on (or refuse those terrible people), a deceased it completely inaccessible father of their children and cannot or are not dating. I have personally known 2 of such women and it's hard, but I could not help them any more than being moral support that came in years later
Lol. Even with social support and daddy's check, they still find ways to complain and be the victim.
My mom did and she abused me. I think all mothers should be shunned and mocked
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The kids gotta raise themselves in that case. Oldest gets the shaft
As a single dad I feel this. 30 days? Try years and still at least 8 more to go.
Im in the same boat bro.
Its tough work for any solo parent
I've had my son for 12 years without ANY HELP from his mother. She abandoned him so she could live with her new boyfriend.
I did every year for her A.T. (annual training) for the U.S. Army.
I got up and fed her, helped her dress and took her to school. Then i went to work, came home, picked her up, helped with the homework, fed and bathed her, held her while she cried because mom wasn't home and she slept with me.
Nothing happened to her, she was safe, fed, supported, encouraged and loved.
I wish everyone would wake tf up. Instead of he said she said and everyone trying to make themselves look better than someone else, we all need to realize we are all the same. We all bleed red, no one is better than anyone else. Just a bunch of shitty people that feel good putting down other people. It's not suppose to be like this, we are suppose to help and support each other. What has happened to this world? Much respect to you Chloe for speaking out. Wish you the best always
Society is what happened. People were happier in the wilderness 💯
I've been a single father since 1988. Roma, you're 100% correct. When you're a single father, women back pedal at record breaking speed, saying "I won't raise someone else's kids"
Take away child support and government assistance and watch how fast ladies will fold.
In other words, give them _complete_ equality, and they'll beg for patriarchy. Sorry ladies, it didn't work that way in Eden, and guess what? Still ain't gonna work like that.
Pandora's box is open, gaping even, and it can't be undone.
Oh I agree. My husband has way more patience and he’s a routine person, I’m not. Not that I ever want this to happen but he would knock being a single parent out of the park if it were to happen. It happened before for like a year. I got addicted to the pain pills I was being prescribed from a brain surgery he took me for full custody of our oldest ( youngest wasn’t born at the time). I got supervised visits. I’ll give him credit he killed it being a single parent. Didn’t drop them off with anyone so he could go out or get a break every weekend. He didn’t even ask for child support from me. I’ll be honest I didn’t even show up half the time when it was my visits. This was 2015/2016. I’m coming up on 8 years sober we got back together shortly after I completed rehab. Had another daughter and got married 2 years ago ( been together coming on 15years). Men can do just as good of a job if not better then the mother when they are given the chance and not just a mother keeping the child for child support, free money from assist or even to get petty.
Good for you! You're inspiring. I've been sober 10 years in March. Still no family. Fiance cheated on me and had another man's kid but I knew she was no good. Just didn't have the stones to end it.
My 6 year old daughter and 9 year old son haven't seen their mother in 4 years. She started using drugs and lost her mind. I told them she is sick and someday when she's better she'll come visit. The only time I've gotten anything is when the courts put her bail on child support.
The worst was when some do good help abused women organization tried to take my son. And put him in a "safe place " that I can't know about. When reminded that cps and the police gave him to ME. While she went to the insane asylum. They shut up and went away
Young lady I've raised my kid by myself for 13 years. His mother hasn't even called and I've never had child support or social assistance...
I ran away to my father when I was 15 to escape a life of abuse and their constant use of meth beating on us, graping us, starving us. My father had no idea what to do but he paid for everything I needed, I had a bed for the first time and I didn't have to worry about being woken up with a beating. In my experience, my crack head mother gate-kept me from my father saying he should do more and he doesn't cos he doesn't love me, when every cent she got from him went to meth and alcohol and the courts ruled in her favour for custody. I survived that upbringing, but my little sister didn't. I have no sympathy for women like this and rather, I hold contempt and a strong will to hold back my fists as a man
I know a lot of single dads that are killing it. I have a lot of respect for those men
Same here. I know for a fact I'm not capable of having child due to me being mentally incapable and I give credit to guys who are good dads.
My life would be ten times harder if I couldn't pull out the "right I'm calling dad". As a mum with chronic illness I'm not always in the best shape so when I'm not my husband always picks up the slack fantastically! I even said when I was diagnosed "if we think its hard now its only gonna get worse so if you want out now is your chance" and he still married me! So yes, he definitely could cope without me for 30 days, at the very least. ❤
As a man that grew up with an entitled single mom with borderline personality disorder, thank you Roma. People like you give me hope for this world. Thank you
As a person that grew up without a mother figure, I give everything up for my dad
I hope my children say the same. 😊
And forget 30 days lol, I've been going strong for like 13 years
@@ronaldpettifurd5957 send you a hug man, stay strong and keep your head up and keep on going
@oliverZ433 thanks man!
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I have my son ALL the time sence he was born....14 almost 15 yrs now and we are doing Absolutely Great
Single father since day 1! 6 years straight and still trucking! A/B honor roll and an amazing little man that I've raised w no help. Ty very much!
Got custody of my daughter when she was 8yo. Her mom was required to pay me $200 month. I got $150 per month for 9 months straight. Then I got $100 for 6 months, nothing thereafter. Child support is geared specifically toward mothers here in Wyoming. The paperwork itself is only for mothers. No paperwork for fathers seeking child support. My daughter is 23 now
At least your daughter knows what a good man and a good father looks like. Good on you for being a loving parent.
I am a single father of my 9 year old. The “incubator” as I call the mom.. hasn’t seen my daughter since she was a month old. Makes 0 attempt to contact me or anything. She lived a block and a half away from me.. still made absolutely no attempt to contact me. She has 2 other kids with 2 other fathers and has custody of NONE of them. It is extremely hard, but I am lucky and blessed I have help from my family raising her.
You're an awesome dad. Much respect to you, good sir.
@@HatOnAHat thank you. It’s a great feeling hearing that. That made my day 🩵
Maternal gatekeeping is absolutely correct. It's becoming very tiring. Well stated. ❤ My son has to struggle immensely to see his child through the courts. Our family is struggling financially to keep up with all these court costs. It's absolute hell on earth. The false allegations never cease. They are ludicrous! It's ridiculous how women can get away with such behavior. I've talked to countless men in these positions. There should be consequences for these women's actions. I pray fervently that these types of women will be exposed so this torment ends. The system needs to change to combat parental alienation.
19 years single father for the Win!
It's always felt like a snub to have the "WIC" program. Not only saying that single dads don't need help, but that it's expected that women can't be expected to be able to be competent providers.
Your child can still apply for and receive WIC benefits if the father has sole custody. At least in NH anyways. In fact, I had to sign my son up myself because his mother never signed up when she first found out she was pregnant. I literally signed him up 3 days after he was born because she still hadn't done it.
Sidebar: would the male alternative to WIC actually be DIC??? That'd be horrible lmao
@@yodelusional Hahahaha! I was thinking more like PIC, just go neutral with 'parents', but yeah. :D
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@@azrialmccloud6954 Which is great, but if the mother is able to receive additional financial assistance as well as the child, why exclude the father from that same support when in need? That's the part I find to be inequality.
I'm a single dad, and I have my kids 110% of the time. We live 3000+ miles away from any family, and I have no time for making friends. I get no help, ever. . . . I'd say I'm all in. Fuck folding.
Bitches like that are so stuck on themselves. Thank you for standing for us! I wish all women could be like you ❤
Already raised 2 of 7 of my kids by myself, currently raising 2 of 20 grandchildren by myself, so done. ❤❤❤❤❤
If my wife left for 30 days or forever my house will run like a well-oiled machine thank you.
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Appealing to empathy that is demonstrably non-existent in women or society is not achieving anything.
By the way, children raised in a single father home do much better then a single mother home
I love what your doing girl I have been raising my three girls by myself with no help for over a year now and have been following you on tiktok for about the same amount of time I'm sorry that you have been attacked for standing up for us men just know I see you and support you keep up the good work much love to you and yours
I was a single dad once and now (finaly) im not because my woman is the best mother EVER!. I just gave up on relationships and then she was there.
I don't believe it but I admire the honesty of your saying that you're sometimes the better parent. That takes some real balls.
My children’s father was awesome when my children were young. At a time in my life when I could barely take care of myself let alone take care of my children, he stepped up to the plate and took them while I went and got therapy. He even defended me when people would say I abandoned them.
youre a good mom for knowing you had a problem and fixing it.
what a great dad for your kids too.
thats an awesome story
people just cared and didnt understand i wouldnt hate them for it.
it comes from a good place its just misguided anger.
I'm a guy that's raised his kids for over 4 years on my own and my ex-wife refuses to pay child support and I get told this all the time but I keep trying my best while paying 600 a month in child support for one kid and my kids are happier and taken care of
This needs to be talked about more especially with the deadbeat mothers of the world using child support for drugs parties and never the kids
As if there aren't already thousands of single dads already who absolutely excel at being a dad
I wish I had my daughter all the time instead of just 50/50. Not only because i miss out on 50% of her life but also because her mother, who I was still very much in love with, chose to leave to bang trash that I don't approve of my daughter being around. Doing everything myself for years now, times do get tough. But I'd rather struggle than have a roommate or anything like that in my house. My father was and still is a great man and I do my best to do the same.
As another example of society not caring about fathers: some countries have maternal capital. Who cares if a father is a widower, right? I don't know if that's a thing in angloworld, but it's definitely a thing in countries like Russia
I've done both and I would pick raising children anyday
I've taken my Kid's-And my Grandkid's..!! 💯
I read that the mother is an important figure for the first five years of a child’s life, and the father is the important figure until they become an adult.
Raising kids are easy and fun. Working in the hot sun 10 hours a day is not.
Here's the funny thing, that's not really funny.
Women get help at every turn, assistance from every angle.
And they are still fuqqin it up.
Let that marinade.
I raised two daughters nearly alone, I did have some help from a hairdresser, I ash her to cut their hair so I could make it look good fast. I got an hour of her time teaching me. Thank you lady!
I raised my 2 for 18 years. With no complaints from me. I wouldn't change a thing. Loved every minute of it.
30 days. Hahahaha had mine for 20 years +
Single dad of three and I rock that shit
Thank you for standing up for people like me.
My husband and I were both military...I ended up deploying more than he did. my husband had our kids for months at a time. Neither of our family lived close so he worked 10 to 12 hr days and took care of our kids.
I was the solid parent, whilst the ex I lived with cried, whined, and expected me to provide clothing, diapers, pay a school expenses and health insurance.i think he belueved ever spending time with the kids deserved a gold star.
That's fucking hilarious, I'm taking care of all three of my children and my wife as she's dealing with chronic health issue.
Thank you for this roma I've been raising my 2 sons alone for the last 11 years and I really needed to hear this you are the best
I took 2 years off work to raise my girls. I got no assistance from anyone. I lived off my I used my savings, why do women crap on men, they just want someone to trash
lololol, I'm the work from home Dad... She's 16. Just 30 days? That's like a vaca.
I was a single Father for 10 years NO help from the system 😮 shock horror
You’re such a consistent activist. I’ve grown to like you a lot for what you do. Thank ya!
I haven't known even one single mom that can actually "go it alone".
They're always getting help from friends and family, burning through child support and asking their baby dad(dies) for more help, always seeking a bailout from some other man.
Maybe there are some that exist but I know I haven't ever seen them.
I raised my kids for 16 years protecting them from a mother who would try to beat them
I raise my son, his mom could not stay clean. So I'm still alive and I have 5. 21 through 6. I'm doing fine. I believe in fighting to strive for your kids, sometimes the other doesn't care. Love your show girl. Power to the people JL
I commented on Dadvocate on this story, but thanks Chloe for picking it up. Why can't women see that we men can actually do things, have feelings, & are human too?
Add in that when I became a Dad, I was active duty military & my wife left me two days, yes two days after my babies were born. The women on my base rallied around me & so did my family, so I never had to ask for help, they just stepped in before I could ask. When I needed a break, the women on base came over to take over & give me a night off. To them I was just another "Mommy" who was overwhelmed & they rallied around me.
I take care of my kids every weekday while the wife is at work. I'm going to school for a degree so it makes more sense for me to be the stay at home parent right now.
I really appreciate you actually showing us guys who take care of our kids some love.
Thank youu I've said this while struggling 100 times with my daughter
Whilst in basic training I received a phone call from my now ex-wife saying she wants a divorce and that she does not want the kids and I had to take them. I told her 'I can't until I'm out of tech school' which could be a couple months. During that time she kept asking me when is that time going to be up.
So when I finally got out of basic training and got to my first permanent base I had them within a couple weeks, because as she said "I Do NOT want them" (her emphasis (and she said that in Front of them too, unfortunately)).
I had them for the entire time I was in the military* until I got out (6 years).
* except for the few months I was deployed for the Gulf War
Truth. I'm a single dad, full custody, NO child support order on the mom, NO government assistance, and just found out some random guy IN PRISON has been drawing food stamps with my kid's SSN
On had my kids since they were 3 5and 7 the youngest is now 30. Complete with a hard fight to get full custody and child support. 😊👍🇨🇦
Females would never agree to this 30 day challenge. Because they know deep down the kid won’t want to go back to live with her.
As a single father who busts his ass thank you so much Roma for everything you do🙏🙏💯💯
I'm a GenX latchkey kid who raised myself and my little brother since I was 9 and he was 2.
I can take care of kids. I did it AS a kid. It's not hard.
Well, not hard for someone who knows it is "their kids" and not "they kids"...
17 years a single dad. No. Didn't need your help
During today’s sewing circle, we are discussing cleanliness and how to fold a dinner napkin.
Disabled Veteran and Stay at home dad for 4 years now love every minute of it
Facts!!! I fucking love you! Thank you for holding us guys up man. It’s rough as fuck out here.
I am 27 ,
My son is 4
Me and my wife own our own house .
My wife is mentally ILL …
It happened after the pregnancy.
Iv raised and took care of my son since birth . I had to quit my job .
My wife is in no condition to take care of my son or watch him for more then an hr or two .
I do everything around the house because of her problems (including ocd germaphobiea ) she can’t do anything .
I have to help her shower , get dressed . Help her do everything all day , as well as raise a young man …..
I can’t bring myself to take her out of his life . I just suffer in silence so she can have her son and my son can have the closest thing to a mom in his life .
No one realy cares to be honest.
My moms an angle and Iv allways ben vary close to her , she is the only one I realy can talk to about this problem Iv ben living with for lil over 4 years now .
I raised my two sons by myself.
My son would be ecstatic that means he gets to go camping and shooting a bows and all kinds of cool things that I can't do physically anymore there are great fathers out there. And yes I'm still married to my husband we have one child 💞
Hold my beer........ being a single father for 3 years, no help just me my son and a lot of sleepless nights when he was a baby. Its not hard, its not complicated... you just have to go without a lot of things until they are older. The people who freak out like that shouldn't have any kids.
Those are the types that will be mad when they come home and the house is clean and kids are fed and not running around crazy because they listen to DAD
Thank you so much, I've had my 3 and now 2 children for 9 years on my own. The mum was the deadbeat and now has to have supervision to see them! Oh, child support, I wish!
Thank you for sticking up for us. That’s actually the number one thing I look for in a woman. Is she gonna stick up for me or join her friends in talking shit about stuff they know nothing about.
She is spot on. Ive been raising 2 of my chuldren with NO help from their mother for 5 yrs. She wont even call or get them anything for Christmas or birthdays. My middle child asked mom to help her buy $5 worth of supplies for a school project a 5 years ago Mom asked "why should i have to do that!" She called them rotten little demons and blamed our relationship problems on the kids. Couldn't be mom and dads chiices it was the childrens fault for coming into our lives
I was a single father raising two kids. It was a lot of work but was the Best part of my life!!
Thank you for saying this. It's just about respecting each other. Women deserve respect. Men deserve respect.
Thank you again. So you know? And there's the knocks.
Best times of my life was when my son lived with me was also what turned him around and gave him goals
I have 2 kids! I won't "fold" I care of my own!!! I never get tired of it!!!!
As single father myself, it is the most difficult thing I’ve ever been through. And I have been through a lot over the years. But I love my daughter and would accept all of the pain I’ve experienced to continue to be a father
As a single mom,I couldn’t agree more…it’s absolutely disgusting how men are treated these days
My parents split up when I was really young. My mom has been a bad parent all my life and I lived with my dad a majority of my childhood and teenage years and he had, and still has a lot going on with finances and mental health and no matter how much he was struggling, he always made sure me and my younger sister were well taking care of and still does. There is a lot of good fathers out there that would do anything for their children even if they are struggling ❤
Solid post. I'm a single father of two so I feel this
Back in Day Men where given Custody of Childern not Women Wonder why???........
I've been raising my little beautiful little lady alone since she was a baby. No governmental assistance or family. But I've been doing it for 9 years and counting. I have one of the most well rounded loving smart little girl any parent would be proud of so proud of her ☺️
Kat Dennings speaking the truth.
Had mine for years, no problem 😊. All while she's helped with nothing. And Christmas and birthdays stopped almost 6 years ago for her.