Man, i’m going through insane witdrawl right now, and I’m fighting so hard not to relapse. 8 months sober but still getting cravings. it hurts so bad fr.
I fell after 121 days due to masturbation, just a 2 weeks before a relapse I started to feel withdrawal symptoms and I wanted to escape these hard feelings. God help us all with this battles.
@@PhillDrakeEntertainmentjust curious , I thought withdrawal was only in the beginning but clearly it can happen anytime after your sobriety??? What triggers yours?
Same here I haven’t had my lean or Xanax in about same time as u almost a year but it’s like idk 🤷🏽♂️ I like being high in a Functioning addict and sobriety is just Fucn boring so far but good job u can do this it’s all our choice end of the day
Sometimes the activating event is purely internal, just stress or doubts about life in general, or just a build up of pressure as your subconscious (your lizard brain) rebels against going the rest of your life without the drug that has been such a "relief" for so long. That kind of internal pressure comes in waves. The stubbed toe or parking ticket may really just a trigger to release a subconscious pressure wave that would have crested soon anyway.
For me the activating event can just be a thought about going to the bar or getting drugs. It doesn't take much but once that cycle gets triggered, a different part of your brain kicks in, you start wanting whatever you want more and more. The thought of not doing it becomes harder and harder to fathom and this is when you become very helpless and rarely ever don't drink or do drugs once it gets to this point. You can feel it throughout your whole body. The drive and pull to go get your fix. It's so powerful because your brain has become wired to act out the addiction once you're in that state of mind. Its maddening! Ugh.
it comes in waves because these are your waves of resisting staying vigilant. When you think you won is moment when it attacks. Also our free will is a limited resource we spend daily and our life also moves in waves when on average every 3 months we go through major crisis.
Hey it’s fine, but now it’s time to take control back. Search up Dr Joe Dispenza he explains why you are the way you are in such a technical way. He even gives you logical answers to create a new you with new experiences.
Here I thought drinking at 14 was young. I'm not trying to sound judgmental or anything we all became an addict at some point but you must have had some pretty horrible people around you.
@@dreytonstrickland6302oh no my drinking/smoking & others didn’t start till 13. What I meant was prior to that I was a heavy gamer/muncher. I noticed he mentioned it starts as a less destructive habit & it evolves. That’s kind of what happened with me. P.s I’m doing good, my life has been on easy mode compared to others, I know kids who did start hard substance abuse while still a child. That’s pretty sad, it’s usually a lack of attention from one or both parents imo
Thank you so much for your sharing. The video is very insightful and informative. I firmly agree that a self - perpetuating cycle of addiction to any kinds of drugs can devastate people's lives. These days, people who experienced drugs are prone to a lot of negative consequences from the society and even their own families. They isolate themselves because of the shame and guilt of using drugs. Some lucky people getting out of the jail have faced the attitude and hatred from society because the existence of the social stigma leads people to being rude and unfriendly to ex - addicts. The relapse is inevitable and exacerbate their lives again. hopefully, people open their arms to welcome them.
Glad to hear this information is helping you. This is just a glimpse into the level of education tree house recovery provides clients. Give us a call if you need any help.
Relapsed today on a 24 day streak, I'm feeling so bad, I can't fucking overcome this addiction, doin this since I was 14 I'm 16 now, and never reach more then 60 day streak, I'm so fucking sad
Stay strong man. I was clean for almost 6 months and relapsed hard this week. I’m not going to let it drag me back to where I started at day 1 of sobriety. You’re stronger than you know
I'm so sorry... That feeling is the worst. I hope you're doing better. I relapsed two nights ago after staying clean for 6 years. Yesterday was the worst. I was overwhelmed with massive guilt, shame and self-hate. The worst feeling though, and it's the one feeling only addicts know, is the feeling of being scared of yourself. I was and am still scared that I cannot trust myself to take care of myself even after years of staying clean. It's the worst thing to be sick with a disease that really has no cure and really no ending. So now I'm starting all over again. And we all can. Try to learn to be kind to yourself, you're not a shit person. You are sick... But you will overcome. Sending you light. I hope you're feeling better.
Whoever thumbed this up TY I didn't see these replies, let's me know I'm not alone, since my comment I'm on 27, but I really got a bad neck injury, this sucks as I can barely move my head trying to detox
What do you do when you fully understand the cycle and yet consciously choose it on the hard days? What do you do when you're addicted to chaos and oblivion itself? Most days I'm rational enough to understand why I shouldn't plunge into this cycle, but I have days where I legitimately am so low that I consciously dive into it in a self destructive chaotic way.
That's a really deep question. Without knowing more about your situation, my honest answer would be to try and understand why part of you loves chaos and oblivion, or why part of you thinks you deserve it. It seems like it could be a coping mechanism and/or an escape for you. If that's true then the question becomes the same question at the heart of any addiction. What is it about those feelings that you find appealing, and why? And what else could you do to either remove your need for those feelings, make you believe you deserve better, or possibly even get those feelings from something other than substances? If you want some guidance let us know my friend. You're not alone. (855) 274-1040
Being chaotic also allows you to "feel" something strongly. Sobriety runs the risk of feeling nothing anymore... Being numb. Turning fully to God worked for me. I found it impossible to do alone
@dcg31free dude you nailed it. Being self destructive makes you feel alive. I've spent a lot of time pondering this, and I think I have a decent working theory. It seems like on a spiritual level, we crave adventure. We crave the unknown. Maybe that's even what human life is about, and why so many bad things happen despite the all encompassing loving energy of God. It's like we WANT a surprise. We want the possibility of trauma and destruction. When was the last time you watched a movie where everything was fine, and there were no problems? Those movies don't even get made. That is a hint about what we crave as humans and for our own lives... we like drama. We like a problem to solve. I believe the addictive cycle dopaminergically hijacks this natural inclination. Substance abuse is subtly, subconsciously even (in some cases) woven into this process. Then, it all gets reinforced as one amalgamated dopamergic impulse cycle
My next step from this video: Write down my activating events that i can remember or would happen Learn healthy coping mechanism that suited for me I will try my best and be patience, light up the hope within you guys!
Hey Aman, that doesn't mean you have to give up. You reached out, that is huge, and a clear sign you have it in you to pick back up your recovery. You can not let this relapse take you down into negative thinking, but nows the time to get back on the forward momentum. Try to stay focused on doing some acts of healthy living today, and make sure you call and talk to someone that will support you. And if you need to talk to us, we are in recovery and have been through it all, call our admissions line anytime at 855 274 1040. Let us know how you do today Aman.
I was in treatment and relapsed then went to AA and relapsed again glad to find this channel for I can get a better understanding of this illness while going back to AA thanks
I was recovered from bulimia for a year, and I’ve thrown up (after my 3 meals) for two days straight.. I’m so scared I’m going to fall back into it, my hair just started growing back. I was bulimic for 8 years, recovered 1 year
Thanks so much for the video, very informative! Just take out the drug part, my addiction is a food and sugar addiction, I relapsed last night, ate a lot of junk food after being healthy for a good while! Time to get back on track, that part about shame and guilt being a trigger event really struck home!
I understand. Food is always in front of you. It’s also a necessity to sustain life. My friend goes to Overeaters Anonymous. She likes the group. I don’t like the word “anonymous” because it says you should feel shame. There is only shame when you don’t care and refuse to be proactive. I wonder if working with hypnosis and a nutritionist would help. I’ll be praying for you.
It lack something. There is a period when you remember bad outcome and stay away from it when you didn't relapse yet and you actually resisted for this period before the next trigger at your weakest. Bad outcome actually sobers you up and put on vigilance mode. Maybe its because you can switch copes between bad and good ones. Like isolating and regenerating in peace, vigilance and scheduling drug, or staying away from copes not being able to fall into these. And its the moment when you think you are winning is one when you loose vigilance and trigger get powerful. Our mind/subcoscious want to avoid pain of struggling pushing us directly into addiction and cope - and it knows us well, all ways to effectively play us.
It's not addiction it's just a form of comfort. Once we get out our comfort zone. We don't know how or what we want, that's why we revert to our comforts.
This video stopped me from relapsing. I relapsed 2 other times. 1st was when I was followed around by security at Walmart. 2nd was when accused of trying to break in a car. I'm not a criminal and don't break the law. I need to improve my self appearance. Alot of people think all addicts steal. I was addicted and abused benedryl, not expensive. A bottle cost $4 land lasts me for a week.
My activating events are always positive. Had a good day at work? Gotta celebrate with a beer. Had a good week? Time to hit the bar with the boys. Enjoying a beautiful summer day? A buzz would make it even better. But then I always find myself days later coming down off coke or meth wondering why I keep doing this to myself.
Most people think that relapses are caused by stress, but moments of celebration can also be significant triggers, especially with alcohol. Once someone takes that drink, it can lead to further substance use. If you need help, we are here. Call anytime.
Thanks mate for this, I appreciate you sending these out for people who need it, including myself Do you take questions from the comments ? There’s one or two things I’d want your perspective of
He covered some important things, but relapse can be much more complicated than that and it is multi-faceted. Even recovery supportive environments, such as rehab, AA, and NA can be negative and activate a relapse. Sometimes people relapse, probably more so these days, because they can't deal with the withdrawal symptoms and aren't getting the right medical and social support. The video is only about 3 minutes long, so he could only give an overview.
Please nobody take this comment offensively. But what is the disease of addiction? Not gonna add anything to that just curious of what y’all have to say
Well I never really liked calling it a disease and I've struggled with addictions my whole life. But the reason why it's called a disease is because it changes how you brain functions. Neuroscience has shown this to be absolutely factual. Brain scans can show how a brain functions differently for an addict or alcoholic than someone who's not. Parts of your brain that control reason and control get much dimmer and other parts of the brain that control impulses get much brighter and when that part of the brain takes over, it becomes very, very difficult for a person with an addiction to not indulge in their drink or drug of their choice. That's the most difficult part to try to explain to a non-addict that can't understand why you just don't stop. Your brain anatomically changes due to drug and alcohol use and and causes a disorder that has distinct symptoms which is the text book definition of a disease.
I thought that a person who has a substance problem when they have legal problems or any strong situation I thought they would feel happy and not even care about it and they were just brush it off because they were used substance forget about it and act like nothing happened ??? Or I thought they would just laugh it off and use their drugs
Man, i’m going through insane witdrawl right now, and I’m fighting so hard not to relapse. 8 months sober but still getting cravings. it hurts so bad fr.
One day at a time, one moment at a time. Wishing you sobriety and peace
I feel you !
I fell after 121 days due to masturbation, just a 2 weeks before a relapse I started to feel withdrawal symptoms and I wanted to escape these hard feelings.
God help us all with this battles.
@@PhillDrakeEntertainmentjust curious , I thought withdrawal was only in the beginning but clearly it can happen anytime after your sobriety??? What triggers yours?
Same here I haven’t had my lean or Xanax in about same time as u almost a year but it’s like idk 🤷🏽♂️ I like being high in a Functioning addict and sobriety is just Fucn boring so far but good job u can do this it’s all our choice end of the day
Sometimes the activating event is purely internal, just stress or doubts about life in general, or just a build up of pressure as your subconscious (your lizard brain) rebels against going the rest of your life without the drug that has been such a "relief" for so long. That kind of internal pressure comes in waves. The stubbed toe or parking ticket may really just a trigger to release a subconscious pressure wave that would have crested soon anyway.
Wow very insightful , thank you !
For me the activating event can just be a thought about going to the bar or getting drugs. It doesn't take much but once that cycle gets triggered, a different part of your brain kicks in, you start wanting whatever you want more and more. The thought of not doing it becomes harder and harder to fathom and this is when you become very helpless and rarely ever don't drink or do drugs once it gets to this point. You can feel it throughout your whole body. The drive and pull to go get your fix. It's so powerful because your brain has become wired to act out the addiction once you're in that state of mind. Its maddening! Ugh.
it comes in waves because these are your waves of resisting staying vigilant. When you think you won is moment when it attacks. Also our free will is a limited resource we spend daily and our life also moves in waves when on average every 3 months we go through major crisis.
This is so simple to understand great explanation... I wish non addicts really understood us
Keep going..well get there
Hi Micah, just come by and say hi, hope you doing well with your rehabilitation!
@@thanhhiennguyen5894 thank you
You are only an addict because you believe yourself to be. Say no to escapism and face reality head on.
@@meorme6603 any tips honestly I am a month sober and battling it hard.
This video described my life from 8 years old to 24. Can’t believe it’s been 16 years... wish something burst my bubble
8 is so young! I hope youre doing good now
Hey it’s fine, but now it’s time to take control back.
Search up Dr Joe Dispenza he explains why you are the way you are in such a technical way. He even gives you logical answers to create a new you with new experiences.
Here I thought drinking at 14 was young. I'm not trying to sound judgmental or anything we all became an addict at some point but you must have had some pretty horrible people around you.
@@dreytonstrickland6302oh no my drinking/smoking & others didn’t start till 13. What I meant was prior to that I was a heavy gamer/muncher. I noticed he mentioned it starts as a less destructive habit & it evolves. That’s kind of what happened with me.
P.s I’m doing good, my life has been on easy mode compared to others, I know kids who did start hard substance abuse while still a child. That’s pretty sad, it’s usually a lack of attention from one or both parents imo
I'm trying so hard not to relapse rn, thanks for the video
We can help with that. (855) 274-1040
My activating event is my paycheck 😂☠️
😂😂😂
This is the same for sex addicts. It's awful. 😔
Thank you so much for your sharing. The video is very insightful and informative. I firmly agree that a self - perpetuating cycle of addiction to any kinds of drugs can devastate people's lives. These days, people who experienced drugs are prone to a lot of negative consequences from the society and even their own families. They isolate themselves because of the shame and guilt of using drugs. Some lucky people getting out of the jail have faced the attitude and hatred from society because the existence of the social stigma leads people to being rude and unfriendly to ex - addicts. The relapse is inevitable and exacerbate their lives again. hopefully, people open their arms to welcome them.
For some reason, this has never been explained to me so concisely. even in treatment. thank you, you may have just saved my life.
Glad to hear this information is helping you. This is just a glimpse into the level of education tree house recovery provides clients. Give us a call if you need any help.
Relapsed today on a 24 day streak, I'm feeling so bad, I can't fucking overcome this addiction, doin this since I was 14 I'm 16 now, and never reach more then 60 day streak, I'm so fucking sad
Stop now man. Trust me I'm 39 and trying to get off methadone after 15yrs. Its literally impossible almost but I fight. At 30mg and sick everyday
Stay strong man. I was clean for almost 6 months and relapsed hard this week. I’m not going to let it drag me back to where I started at day 1 of sobriety. You’re stronger than you know
@@precursor3335 ty for the words💪❤️
I'm so sorry... That feeling is the worst. I hope you're doing better. I relapsed two nights ago after staying clean for 6 years. Yesterday was the worst. I was overwhelmed with massive guilt, shame and self-hate.
The worst feeling though, and it's the one feeling only addicts know, is the feeling of being scared of yourself. I was and am still scared that I cannot trust myself to take care of myself even after years of staying clean. It's the worst thing to be sick with a disease that really has no cure and really no ending. So now I'm starting all over again. And we all can. Try to learn to be kind to yourself, you're not a shit person. You are sick... But you will overcome. Sending you light. I hope you're feeling better.
Whoever thumbed this up TY I didn't see these replies, let's me know I'm not alone, since my comment I'm on 27, but I really got a bad neck injury, this sucks as I can barely move my head trying to detox
What do you do when you fully understand the cycle and yet consciously choose it on the hard days? What do you do when you're addicted to chaos and oblivion itself? Most days I'm rational enough to understand why I shouldn't plunge into this cycle, but I have days where I legitimately am so low that I consciously dive into it in a self destructive chaotic way.
That's a really deep question. Without knowing more about your situation, my honest answer would be to try and understand why part of you loves chaos and oblivion, or why part of you thinks you deserve it. It seems like it could be a coping mechanism and/or an escape for you. If that's true then the question becomes the same question at the heart of any addiction. What is it about those feelings that you find appealing, and why? And what else could you do to either remove your need for those feelings, make you believe you deserve better, or possibly even get those feelings from something other than substances? If you want some guidance let us know my friend. You're not alone. (855) 274-1040
Mad aint it. It's like why am I jumping head on into punishing myself!
It's because as addicts we are used to ruining relationships, etc, so we keep on doing it.
Being chaotic also allows you to "feel" something strongly. Sobriety runs the risk of feeling nothing anymore... Being numb. Turning fully to God worked for me. I found it impossible to do alone
@dcg31free dude you nailed it. Being self destructive makes you feel alive. I've spent a lot of time pondering this, and I think I have a decent working theory.
It seems like on a spiritual level, we crave adventure. We crave the unknown. Maybe that's even what human life is about, and why so many bad things happen despite the all encompassing loving energy of God. It's like we WANT a surprise. We want the possibility of trauma and destruction.
When was the last time you watched a movie where everything was fine, and there were no problems? Those movies don't even get made. That is a hint about what we crave as humans and for our own lives... we like drama. We like a problem to solve.
I believe the addictive cycle dopaminergically hijacks this natural inclination. Substance abuse is subtly, subconsciously even (in some cases) woven into this process. Then, it all gets reinforced as one amalgamated dopamergic impulse cycle
Probably the absolute best video I've seen about this topic. Thank you for sharing this
My next step from this video:
Write down my activating events that i can remember or would happen
Learn healthy coping mechanism that suited for me
I will try my best and be patience, light up the hope within you guys!
This is why it is so vital to involve God in your recovery…
Not wrong about shame & guilt. Not wrong. :(
Changed my life
these videos are really nice and simple to understand, really helps me a lot, thanks!
This is a basic explanation… great video! UA-cam dr.labor on addiction…. It’s an hour video and it’s so interesting how addiction works.
Again I relapse today 😭
Hey Aman, that doesn't mean you have to give up. You reached out, that is huge, and a clear sign you have it in you to pick back up your recovery. You can not let this relapse take you down into negative thinking, but nows the time to get back on the forward momentum. Try to stay focused on doing some acts of healthy living today, and make sure you call and talk to someone that will support you. And if you need to talk to us, we are in recovery and have been through it all, call our admissions line anytime at 855 274 1040. Let us know how you do today Aman.
I'm an Alcoholic and I have Relapsed and it's even harder to Quit Drinking Alcohol now than Before!!!
I was in treatment and relapsed then went to AA and relapsed again glad to find this channel for I can get a better understanding of this illness while going back to AA thanks
We’re glad this information is helping you. Stay strong.
I was recovered from bulimia for a year, and I’ve thrown up (after my 3 meals) for two days straight.. I’m so scared I’m going to fall back into it, my hair just started growing back.
I was bulimic for 8 years, recovered 1 year
What helped you stop a year ago?
@@TreeHouseRecovery I just quit cold turkey on my own, no therapy and it worked
@@freezecheeze What inspired the change?
Hope you're doing well these days.
Thank you 🙏🏻 great stuff
Thanks so much for the video, very informative! Just take out the drug part, my addiction is a food and sugar addiction, I relapsed last night, ate a lot of junk food after being healthy for a good while! Time to get back on track, that part about shame and guilt being a trigger event really struck home!
I understand. Food is always in front of you. It’s also a necessity to sustain life.
My friend goes to Overeaters Anonymous. She likes the group.
I don’t like the word “anonymous” because it says you should feel shame. There is only shame when you don’t care and refuse to be proactive.
I wonder if working with hypnosis and a nutritionist would help.
I’ll be praying for you.
Great explanation !!!!
Accurate 💯💯. I can't break this cycle. Even if I do for some weeks or months, it starts again. Damn it! :(
Give us a call anytime. We’re here to help.
It lack something. There is a period when you remember bad outcome and stay away from it when you didn't relapse yet and you actually resisted for this period before the next trigger at your weakest. Bad outcome actually sobers you up and put on vigilance mode. Maybe its because you can switch copes between bad and good ones. Like isolating and regenerating in peace, vigilance and scheduling drug, or staying away from copes not being able to fall into these. And its the moment when you think you are winning is one when you loose vigilance and trigger get powerful. Our mind/subcoscious want to avoid pain of struggling pushing us directly into addiction and cope - and it knows us well, all ways to effectively play us.
Can you become addicted to Viagra cuz I have a lot of activating events that cause shame and guilt
It's not addiction it's just a form of comfort. Once we get out our comfort zone. We don't know how or what we want, that's why we revert to our comforts.
Fire bruh
This was so helpful❤
This video stopped me from relapsing. I relapsed 2 other times. 1st was when I was followed around by security at Walmart.
2nd was when accused of trying to break in a car.
I'm not a criminal and don't break the law. I need to improve my self appearance. Alot of people think all addicts steal. I was addicted and abused benedryl, not expensive. A bottle cost $4 land lasts me for a week.
My activating events are always positive. Had a good day at work? Gotta celebrate with a beer. Had a good week? Time to hit the bar with the boys. Enjoying a beautiful summer day? A buzz would make it even better. But then I always find myself days later coming down off coke or meth wondering why I keep doing this to myself.
Most people think that relapses are caused by stress, but moments of celebration can also be significant triggers, especially with alcohol. Once someone takes that drink, it can lead to further substance use.
If you need help, we are here. Call anytime.
Thanks mate for this, I appreciate you sending these out for people who need it, including myself
Do you take questions from the comments ? There’s one or two things I’d want your perspective of
You are welcome. We’re happy to answer your questions. You can also give us a call if you need. +1 (855) 817-2639
This is what I’m going through right now.
He covered some important things, but relapse can be much more complicated than that and it is multi-faceted. Even recovery supportive environments, such as rehab, AA, and NA can be negative and activate a relapse. Sometimes people relapse, probably more so these days, because they can't deal with the withdrawal symptoms and aren't getting the right medical and social support. The video is only about 3 minutes long, so he could only give an overview.
It’s not always that easy brother 😎
Yep.
Because whatever ur drug is feels too good. Its so hard to stop whatever it is.
Forgot to mention health issues lol. Anyone here over 50?
Whoops I'm in the cycle again, laughing and crying like a little bitch right now
I just want this to be over, I feel like I will never get out
Don't give up. It's hard but Keep trying. You deserve to be healthy and happy. Seek help.
@@mserrato6250 Thank you for your kind words. I've not given up yet.
That’s me
It was today when I started
Relapaed after 12 years.
Nicole Feel free to reach out 949-755-0201
Shaun
I did 8 months no fap and i relapsed today i think i deserved it
you forgot the biggest quenstent of feeling fucked up angain and feeling the need to uses use shit again an staying in the circle
🤔
i had 35 days :(
oh no!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1
you are Rob ot
Please nobody take this comment offensively. But what is the disease of addiction? Not gonna add anything to that just curious of what y’all have to say
No feed back... SHOCKER
Well I never really liked calling it a disease and I've struggled with addictions my whole life. But the reason why it's called a disease is because it changes how you brain functions. Neuroscience has shown this to be absolutely factual. Brain scans can show how a brain functions differently for an addict or alcoholic than someone who's not. Parts of your brain that control reason and control get much dimmer and other parts of the brain that control impulses get much brighter and when that part of the brain takes over, it becomes very, very difficult for a person with an addiction to not indulge in their drink or drug of their choice. That's the most difficult part to try to explain to a non-addict that can't understand why you just don't stop. Your brain anatomically changes due to drug and alcohol use and and causes a disorder that has distinct symptoms which is the text book definition of a disease.
My husband said he relapses to celebrate or to numb pain. But just wants to get fkn high
If you need help finding care or resources let us know 855) 274-1040
I thought that a person who has a substance problem when they have legal problems or any strong situation I thought they would feel happy and not even care about it and they were just brush it off because they were used substance forget about it and act like nothing happened ??? Or I thought they would just laugh it off and use their drugs
These rehabs are such scam artists. They’re solution to addiction is a another rehab.