The guy was upfront finally telling her he wasn’t interested. She just fell in love with idea of him. Praying God gives her peace and direction to seek Him for her mate. 🙏🏾
How sad listening to this..some of us women are so out of touch. We need to start self esteem camps for all of the pre teen girls of the world so they will know their worth early on..If he don’t want you, girl just move on..Tony is so compassionate with his responses.
Very well said. This is one of the things they don't teach us in school. women need to know their worth and then they won't settle for any man that 'appears' to be interested in them.
If you force something that isn’t meant to be on the front end, you only ask for trouble on the back end. I learned from a middle school crush, that people are not obligated to like you, because you like them. That doesn’t make them bad people (depending on how they break it to you), or diminish your value. They simply are not for you, and you for them. He broke this down perfectly.
Someone sounds desperate and needs to back away from the feelings. If a man wants to connect with you or see you or be with you he will. This is something as women we must learn and accept. It's hard being in the storm with feelings. Go by what you know to be true and not how you feel and know you deserve better and move on. Women we must quit manifesting things in our minds that are not there. He never made a move on her and she was all in when he gave her nothing in return all because of what was in HER head.
T Anderson very powerful statement quit manifesting things that are not there that is the fantasy that we learn in elementary school of the white picket fence the children and her husband and life ever after.
EXACTLY!!! I cannot love someone I never had a relationship with!! The men I did have feelings for or fell in love with didn't appreciate me or abused me. Now that I'm single everyone from my past wants to reconnect and I don't want anyone from my past. What I have learned is that Men pursue Women HOWEVER us Women need to discern their intentions. Once I see a red flag or they do not meet my list of standards I cut them off
Angelique P I cut someone off because I seen a few red flags but I also sensed that something was off.My biggest fear is ppl changing to be with me but not doing it for them....I need a man season in the Lord .
“If God said this is your man, you won’t have to chase him!” AMEN. God’s word will always be fulfilled. Women have to realize that we don’t have to chase the man God sent for us
Tony Gaskins is an faithful + loyal + respectful and honest young man ...this email reading Hands down was on point ...this man doesn't want you sweetheart ... I'm so sorry
I love it! I love it! I love it!! Thank you Tony! You and RC Blakes I love that you men keep it real!! Truth is truth and sometimes it hurts or it's hard to swallow but.... It's still the truth. THANK YOU! "If I had the money I'd put it on a Billboard...." Priceless. I pray God blesses you with the money! Women listen up...turn up your ears and turn off the tv or your IPhone.
Tony is so right about a man will pursue you if he likes you. A woman Can never convince a man to like a woman. You need to be thankful that he did not take advantage of your weakness and just used you sexually or financially . You need to love yourself first and work on your self esteem. It is obvious he does not want you, he was being polite to let you know his feelings . Don’t become a fatal attraction, he will be disgusted by you if you keep insisting. Let go, you will not win if you convince him to be with you and you will suffer immensely . There are many other men that want you, pick a man that wants you and you will be a happy woman!
This was goooood advice!!! I have a dear friend that I've said these exact same things to and she refuses to listen. I'm going to share this with her and we'll see if it will finally sink in.
jtuck49 your friend is in the sunken place that's like a comment above said manifesting things that are not there. The most dangerous thing is just staying too long in that delusion and now you're thinking pattern is off and it's not easy to snap out show this comment to her.
I wish I had this video earlier when I was pining after someone who was said he wasn't ready for a relationship haha Thanks Tony, another insightful video.
TG nailed it on this man NOT being interested in her! He left out that this woman isn’t ready for a relationship! She is desperate chasing after a man that doesn’t want her! She needs to work on her relationship with herself and God! HE WHO FINDS A WIFE FINDS A GOOD THING AND SHALL RECEIVE FAVOR FROM THE LORD! He who finds NOT SHE who finds! The man God has for you WILL PURSUE YOU! You are Gods gift to man! A Godly woman knows this! She is confident and secure with herself and her relationship with God! She knows God has a man for her and he will find her in Gods perfect time and in the presence of God! This man also left the church! Did he just leave the church or God to? This woman has wasted alot of time chasing after what God hasn’t sent to her! I would call this lusting NOT love~ you can’t be in love with someone you don’t know! Shop for material things NOT A HUSBAND! Ladies remember you are Gods gift to man! He who finds a wife finds a good thing and shall receive favor from the Lord! Not she who finds a husband finds a good thing and shall receive favor from the Lord!
This is true. I have let many good ones pass and so I need to discern if one is godly sent. I am praying that if the person was for me that God, in his perfect wisdom, bring them around again so I will continue to trust, serve, and live my life as a kindom woman till he sends it around again. If someone is for you to help with your purpose so that you both may glorify God, he will send it again. Again, until that time I am enjoying Jesus in my singleness. He shall find me!
Huh! I couldn't get pass the fact that this man stated HE IS NOT ATTRACTED TO HER, yet she still wanted to confirm whether or not she should let it go?.. And in no way am I judging her because I too had experience something similar with a church brother as well, but the fact that he had never initiate anything, was enough for me to understand it was not mutual.
She just afraid to let go of the future she thought she would have with him and feel that pain. Many of us women have these stories especially with church men. They like to point to women and just say they are desperate but if you really observe the behavior of these men,they move through these church women like they are the most eligible bachelor and are wolves in sheep clothing
I have had this happen to me recently. Im loving this dude and have for a great 4 years. He has found so much more to occupy his time. I am of thee mindset of this: a man knows where and with whom he wants to be. Im waiting for the man God has for me. Im trying to move on. It's difficult but possible.
Tori Child Of The Most High just recently after getting a job that I have to travel to very early I started lifting listening to The Steve Harvey Show and soon as Tony started talking I realize that Steve makes absolute food out of the people who have written heartfelt letters.
Thank you Tony I will listen to this 3 times!& yes we appreciate your calling it definitely helps a lot! I’m going to listen to all the talks with Tony from beginning to end
As SOON as she said she was confused, my spirit said "GOD is not the "AUTHOR" of confusion. Run sis. Lick your wounds and run. If he didn't pursue you, he was only interested in a friendship. And that's ok. If he's not attracted to you that doesn't mean that you are attractive. It means you're just not attractive to all men. We are not for ALL men. We have to understand that because we get hurt when someone isn't attracted to us personally as if something is wrong with us. NOPE. We are just supposed to be for EVERY man.
This was such a blessing to me. It has made things very clear for me. I thought God was telling me a guy was my husband but I was having to chase after him and he didn't seem interested at all. He never pursued me and it was very very confusing. Thanks for making this clear for me. God bless
I had so many typos, I was completely driven by passion and not really paying attention because it’s UA-cam. Ladies! You are the prize! Devote yourself to God, obey when it doesn’t make sense (you want me to wait until marriage when there’s so many hot girls giving it up for free Jesus? What? Lol). You are worth more than rubies and pearls! Go to God and ask him to give you wisdom and make you a woman of honor and a bright shining light of Gods face on this earth! What he’s done in my life is crazy - I’m working with African royalty for The UN (I’m a white girl lol) singing at The Eiffle Tower on TV for Paris Fashion Week, modeling, working with political leaders all over the world - and I swear to you at one time I let men cheat on me, abuse me, physically hurt me, i lives in poverty barely able to feed myself - and when I found Jesus he kept saying to me, “Do you know how much you are worth to me? Do you have any idea how worthy you are of love? My love for you is everlasting and unconditional.” And then, he proved it over and over. Screw guys that treat you like this - go to Jesus and He will make every man that dishonored you desperate to be with you (lol I’m serious, I love you more than anything Jesus thank youuu). Okay that’s all I have to say 💕❤️✨ Thanks Tony!!
I am a Modern girl but also old fashion, I believe that a man should make the first move,I would never tell a man how I feel about him first before he tells me his feelings and Intention Towards me first. My love and I have been together for 3 years He called me his soulmate The love of his life ....he still brings me followers just because.
I love how you said we don’t know what we want but we’ll know it when we see it.Thats so trueee because every person is built different...It’s like looking for a car , you know you want a truck or a car but not exactly....
She showed her cards to soon.. A woman should never tell a man she likes him 1st..Let the man tell you 1st... Remember the sperm always chases the egg... 👍🏾.
Thank you for the truth. Tony but the most painful part to listen to and to know after my epiphany I had 7 months ago, "women have become nothing more than pray to a man". I know throughout the centuries women have been taken advantage of, but when you have that real reality check in your soul that you're nothing more than meet and prey, it's very painful as a single woman to come to grips with. To think that God made man first and most women are subject to a man's influence and has placed this type of power in his hand is awfully frightening to me. At this point, I pray for protection and discernment for women and men that they won't be taken advantage of by predators. Just recently I was told by a woman that there are good men out here but the women are destroying them also. I think the solution is when we as women and men get back to putting God first and trusting in a loving God and not in man which is considered in the Bible the "arm of the flesh", we won't trust so easily and we will learn to love ourselves.
V free I’ve since learned tho that as women we have our own sort of amazing power. We are designed to be the influencers on men for good. For enhancement. For their improvement. To help them blaze a trail down here on Earth. And in their own way tho, they are made to do the same for us in their own God given way, which might look different, because they are masculine, but it’s still the same as caring for and supporting one another at the bottom line. I’m still trying to understand men tho. I used to think they had all the power, but they only really have as much as any woman gives them. Many women today are simply not aware of their own power tho imo. And they don’t realize how they are giving it away to the wrong men or just not knowing it’s even there or how to use it properly. If men are “little gods” then we are “little goddesses” also. Meaning really just that we ALL are made in God’s image and we all have the Divine in us. The divine is not just for men. They have the masculine part of God and we have the feminine part of God. And even any non believer will tell you that both genders have both masculine and feminine energy in them. I found myself looking into feminine energy a lot or “the essence of a woman” bcuz I had a narc mother and I saw how I didn’t really know what it meant to be a real woman at all. And I had plenty of nights where I was raising my fist at God, angry that I was chosen to be a woman and felt like it was such a raw deal for me. For all women. (Also had abusive step father too). And that’s when God was really gracious to me and showed me many of these things I’m writing now. Men also are designed to lead, but if you just take biology, you have a neck and a head. The neck has to be just a certain way to hold up the head. If not, the head will just flop around and be useless. Or it will be rigid and inflexible. I think we women need to realize that we actually have an important job to do with keeping the order of things and keeping a head functioning properly. A neck needs muscular strength and health and flexibility. Then the head will work right. Not that we go in and “build” men or caretake some loser. Cuz even with a great neck, you still can have some goofy head that will never work right. But if you get a great neck with a great head, you’ve got something that works. I don’t think that phrase-“the neck that turns the head” is really that far off. Not that we just control the planet really, but our place is important and we can be a really great influence if we simply realize that we too have a certain kind of power unique to us as women only and if we get familiar with it and learn how to wield it properly. And of course, use it for good and not for harm. Same with the masculine tho. They ought not be using their God given power for harm, but for good. I used to think that we were powerless compared to men, and that we had a really raw deal down here, but really we are not, and we don’t have to have a raw deal just cuz we are born female. Well, hopefully that made some sense. It really helped me tho when I could see that I was not just some sort of pawn in a man’s world.
V free you are so right. After being used and abused, I finally stopped dating. Especially in this day and age of swiping on tinder or other online dating apps, women are just prey. I refuse to participate. And it's sad because I know I can't get the love I need from a man. I'm just learning to live without that need to be met. I have love from my beautiful daughter. It's not the same as romantic love, but more pure and fulfilling
This was amazing I needed this refresher. I have been out the dating seen for years doing me so now that im open to dating I needed to hear this. Tony is like a big brother I never had.
Yes you need to let go because what your doing looks to him like your needy and desperate and he might turn around and take advantage so please be wise their will come a better man for yourself if you get over this one it's infatuation not love God bless you love from Wendy Drummond from Adelaide South Australia
Great video! I think I know my answer as to if he likes me or not... even though he doesn't speak very good English yet. I will just sit back and see if he will try to initiate any conversation with me or even say hi to me first. And I will be watching this video everytime I need to remind myself of the truth.
A 3 or 4 yr old acting promiscuous, is NOT normal. She learning from her mom or older sister. Let's make that clear. Children that young do not know about attraction unless they were exposed to that behavior by those surrounding them
You need to meet some more men so that you can see how it feels to be wanted. I'm not saying go out and be a thot tho. And Tony I really love the part when you said a man knows from the moment he has words with a woman if that's his wife or not. That part spoke to me because I feel like I met my future husband, and I knew from our first conversation. Especially since he could have let me pass him by.
Wow! I just heard you today for the first time and you are so real! You speak Truth. Although I listen to a lot of very insightful gentlemen on podcasts, pastors and other professionals, and they all are honest and insightful too, but your words really resonate! Thank you for taking the time.
No I can tell you IN the midst I knew exactly what I needed to do. I just didn't want to, so in the end it cost me. God still loved me. God had His hand out for me ready to forgive me as I cried my tears begging for forgiveness trying to do it my way. By I knew all along.
I have been in a similar situation. Only difference being that we became friends, we had excellent conversation (the few we had on the phone), he bought me things from time to time, etc.. After a few years of exhaustion with this weird situation I finally said something, he said he wasn’t interested, he was in a relationship and he tried dating me before (although he never told me that was what he was doing) and there was nothing special about me. My logical brain said leave him alone, he said what he said, and this is not how the man God is placing me before will see me. It was hard to let go but he had to be loosed from my attachments because I can’t keep holding on to who does not want to be held on to. I guess I have always had the thought in my head that I am exceptional therefore I am the exception to the rules, fact is I am the rule. The rule says if he says he’s not interested, no matter what he does to make you think otherwise, you believe what he tells you and move on. I have had to accept that and be done with it.
I used to think I would find a woman as me, a Male. I did...but I learned from ya that I will chose the one. "I" have to live with my regrets...of the many years I wasted with this one woman, because she approached me, one night and blessed me with a sexual favour. We spent 20+ years on & off. Again 20+ years with a woman that chose me. I must admit the feeling doesn't sit well with me now as I listen and regroup. Have a woman now, I am choosing to continue relations with even if things don't go as planned or perfectly.
Omg seeing somebody for a religious person is a big deal since we never see any1 we've been w/ anywhere we hang or events except on the street like an animal I was at a church n I walked into another church inside of it n it was a tiny blck church n as hours passed this gorgeous man walked in with I think was his wife n child n all these ppl showed up I swear I think it was 1 day it felt like days I never returned but I seen the guy again alone I think n I was already converted to Islam I was smiling all In his face he was gorgeous
Ha 🤣 Steve Harvey, he sometimes make jokes out of questions. When he finishes “answering” the question, I’m like didn’t 🤔answer the question. But in his defense he is a comedian
Well, for starters, this "set-up" wasn't a gift from God. Marriage and companionship originated with God thus Marriage is considered to be a "gift" from him to us. To quote part of James 1:17 "Every good *gift* and every perfect present is from above...." When I reflect on that then compare it with this young ladys experience it just don't add up. Think about it, why would our *loving* heavenly father have this man consistently reject this young ladys advances-especially in the manner that he did it? If it was a gift-wouldn't the transaction be much smoother🤷 From personal experience, I mistakenly pursued (in hindsight) a man for almost seven years (prayerfully) because I thought that he was God sent for *me* But I was dead wrong. Now he's married-but to someone else.... When you draw close to God (by reading the Bible and applying what you learn) and really get to know his (God's) attributes/personality-you learn how he operates versus how Satan operates. It's a total contrast! When you experience too much turbulence/trauma-that ain't a God-sent union point blank period James 1:13..... Now, I'm not saying that relationships aren't going to have its ups and downs-look at Adam and Eve🤷 but if you're receiving many a' red flag like this young lady:That man ain't God-sent.
I'm sorry, but @ 3:42 when he stated that "he was NOT INTERESTED IN HER IN THAT WAY", what else was there to say or do? SHEEESH!!!!! Now don't get me wrong, it's a little different when they leave you guessing, BUT WHEN THEY TELL YOU??????????? Sad. Move on. Good show Dude!
I just started seeing guys at wrk bcuz of my career change its very hard meeting a good person I been with like 2 men who wouldn't rob me but 1 of them wanted to beg n they both played mind games there is confusion bcuz I seen men treat me like they treat their mama n it wasn't nice n it caused plenty confusion
I hope she has moved on..it sounds like she has some unresolved emotional issues. It sounds as if she is romanticising and fantasizing about someone that she will never have this can be dangerous for Christian women
She's living in her own fantasy world 🌍 We as women sometimes make the mistake of looking for a husband. If we try to direct our own lives against God's will😒 it will never work for the better 🙏🙏🙏💙💙💙
If a guy comes back, and keeps taking, don’t they take and take, until the girl gets warned out? So what happens, if a girl keeps letting the guy take from her, and never gets tired?
Tony Gaskins, you are such an incredible voice for God and what Godly relationships should look like. I would like to request that you please look into domestic violence and how it effects women (1 out of 3 women worldwide are victims). Can you imagine how hard it is to have an abusive drug addict Father who gets so messed up he threatens to kill you - and how that effects a woman’s self esteem and her relationships? From a business perspective ;) - you would reach an untapped audience, because it is a hidden yet very prevalent part of culture. Women want to talk and learn about it and can’t, they deal with it alone. You will gain a very large and loyal audience. Much love Tony 🙏
Listen to Tony ladies and gentlemen. He speaks common sense, which is rare these days. Do not waste your time on deadly bums! Never bring a prison thug to your home, or you are bringing the executioner of you, your children, family and friends. Never get dick or pussy, rectum, or mouth and tongue whipped. My parents educated me about life, and how to deal with all situations. I did the same for our daughter.
Wow he ever doesn't like you or he likes Men!!! I experienced the ex trying to come back and he said " He Not Ready".Thanks BE TO GOD FOR THE HOLY SPIRIT,DREAMS,AND VISION.GOD ALWAYS WARNS US.THANK YOU TO THE MAN OF GOD TONY GAVIN.
I feel something for this guy he is only 27 lm 53 he loves God so do l he is a gospel singer so am l ! I felt something even though l hadnt met him yet only saw him perform on utube!
Never make a man tell you twice he doesn't want you.
Facts!
ms dee
He just not attracted or wants you. Point blank move on.
Never make him tell you once (verbally). Men don’t accidentally NOT tell you how they feel or accidentally NOT ask you to marry him 🤷🏽♀️
Right even by their actions. They might not say it but show it.
I've had to learn this the hard way.
The guy was upfront finally telling her he wasn’t interested. She just fell in love with idea of him. Praying God gives her peace and direction to seek Him for her mate. 🙏🏾
Needed to see this... been going through this.
Agree..
Seeking God is the ONLY way to go!!!👍
I respect him for being honest; some guys will recognize vulnerability and take advantage of it.
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How sad listening to this..some of us women are so out of touch. We need to start self esteem camps for all of the pre teen girls of the world so they will know their worth early on..If he don’t want you, girl just move on..Tony is so compassionate with his responses.
Kimberly Tieuel
Yes he is.
Very well said. This is one of the things they don't teach us in school. women need to know their worth and then they won't settle for any man that 'appears' to be interested in them.
Amen
If you force something that isn’t meant to be on the front end, you only ask for trouble on the back end. I learned from a middle school crush, that people are not obligated to like you, because you like them. That doesn’t make them bad people (depending on how they break it to you), or diminish your value. They simply are not for you, and you for them. He broke this down perfectly.
Duane M exactly.
He Totally doesn't want you sweetie....we as women gotta see the signs when we are acting desperate.....
Someone sounds desperate and needs to back away from the feelings. If a man wants to connect with you or see you or be with you he will. This is something as women we must learn and accept. It's hard being in the storm with feelings. Go by what you know to be true and not how you feel and know you deserve better and move on. Women we must quit manifesting things in our minds that are not there. He never made a move on her and she was all in when he gave her nothing in return all because of what was in HER head.
T Anderson very powerful statement quit manifesting things that are not there that is the fantasy that we learn in elementary school of the white picket fence the children and her husband and life ever after.
Amen.
You brag on your own marriage too much. It feels like you're mocking.
It's a medical condition called LIMERENCE. Childhood trauma makes you that way. I think we can be more gentle with each other.
EXACTLY!!! I cannot love someone I never had a relationship with!! The men I did have feelings for or fell in love with didn't appreciate me or abused me. Now that I'm single everyone from my past wants to reconnect and I don't want anyone from my past. What I have learned is that Men pursue Women HOWEVER us Women need to discern their intentions. Once I see a red flag or they do not meet my list of standards I cut them off
Angelique P I cut someone off because I seen a few red flags but I also sensed that something was off.My biggest fear is ppl changing to be with me but not doing it for them....I need a man season in the Lord .
I appreciate you giving the game Tony. You are healing hearts all over the world. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾🙏🏾
“If God said this is your man, you won’t have to chase him!” AMEN. God’s word will always be fulfilled. Women have to realize that we don’t have to chase the man God sent for us
Lol, I love Tony! He had to say it loud and slowly "if he said he's not interested in you...BELIEVE HIM". We got it now brother!
Tony Gaskins is an faithful + loyal + respectful and honest young man ...this email reading Hands down was on point ...this man doesn't want you sweetheart ... I'm so sorry
4 minutes in ... Girl he does not want you , move on and level up. Anyway continues listening
What's level up?
He doesn’t seem interested in you and it’s best for you to move on. I had to learn the hard way and I’m thankful that I did! 🤗
I love it! I love it! I love it!! Thank you Tony! You and RC Blakes I love that you men keep it real!! Truth is truth and sometimes it hurts or it's hard to swallow but.... It's still the truth. THANK YOU! "If I had the money I'd put it on a Billboard...." Priceless. I pray God blesses you with the money! Women listen up...turn up your ears and turn off the tv or your IPhone.
Tony is so right about a man will pursue you if he likes you. A woman Can never convince a man to like a woman. You need to be thankful that he did not take advantage of your weakness and just used you sexually or financially . You need to love yourself first and work on your self esteem. It is obvious he does not want you, he was being polite to let you know his feelings . Don’t become a fatal attraction, he will be disgusted by you if you keep insisting. Let go, you will not win if you convince him to be with you and you will suffer immensely . There are many other men that want you, pick a man that wants you and you will be a happy woman!
This was goooood advice!!! I have a dear friend that I've said these exact same things to and she refuses to listen. I'm going to share this with her and we'll see if it will finally sink in.
jtuck49 your friend is in the sunken place that's like a comment above said manifesting things that are not there. The most dangerous thing is just staying too long in that delusion and now you're thinking pattern is off and it's not easy to snap out show this comment to her.
Great advice Tony! She can do MUCH better! Hunnie you are a queen & he's not your king... level up!
Why is he the bad guy because he doesn't want her. She may be fat or not attractive.
I wish I had this video earlier when I was pining after someone who was said he wasn't ready for a relationship haha Thanks Tony, another insightful video.
Thank you so much
TG nailed it on this man NOT being interested in her! He left out that this woman isn’t ready for a relationship! She is desperate chasing after a man that doesn’t want her! She needs to work on her relationship with herself and God! HE WHO FINDS A WIFE FINDS A GOOD THING AND SHALL RECEIVE FAVOR FROM THE LORD! He who finds NOT SHE who finds! The man God has for you WILL PURSUE YOU! You are Gods gift to man! A Godly woman knows this! She is confident and secure with herself and her relationship with God! She knows God has a man for her and he will find her in Gods perfect time and in the presence of God! This man also left the church! Did he just leave the church or God to? This woman has wasted alot of time chasing after what God hasn’t sent to her! I would call this lusting NOT love~ you can’t be in love with someone you don’t know! Shop for material things NOT A HUSBAND! Ladies remember you are Gods gift to man! He who finds a wife finds a good thing and shall receive favor from the Lord! Not she who finds a husband finds a good thing and shall receive favor from the Lord!
June howard Amen!!
This preached sis
You can be in love with someone you don't know. God's time is not perfect.
This is true. I have let many good ones pass and so I need to discern if one is godly sent. I am praying that if the person was for me that God, in his perfect wisdom, bring them around again so I will continue to trust, serve, and live my life as a kindom woman till he sends it around again. If someone is for you to help with your purpose so that you both may glorify God, he will send it again. Again, until that time I am enjoying Jesus in my singleness. He shall find me!
June howard 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 AMEN TO THIS!!!!!
Huh! I couldn't get pass the fact that this man stated HE IS NOT ATTRACTED TO HER, yet she still wanted to confirm whether or not she should let it go?.. And in no way am I judging her because I too had experience something similar with a church brother as well, but the fact that he had never initiate anything, was enough for me to understand it was not mutual.
She just afraid to let go of the future she thought she would have with him and feel that pain. Many of us women have these stories especially with church men. They like to point to women and just say they are desperate but if you really observe the behavior of these men,they move through these church women like they are the most eligible bachelor and are wolves in sheep clothing
I have had this happen to me recently. Im loving this dude and have for a great 4 years. He has found so much more to occupy his time. I am of thee mindset of this: a man knows where and with whom he wants to be. Im waiting for the man God has for me. Im trying to move on. It's difficult but possible.
Ask God to remove him from your heart!
Thank you so much Mr. Tony Gaskins for your Godly wisdom. You are highly appreciated, God bless you and your family.
He is telling you he's not interested......Don't wait on him changing his mind.....TG I no longer listen to that radio show either.....😏
Tori Child Of The Most High just recently after getting a job that I have to travel to very early I started lifting listening to The Steve Harvey Show and soon as Tony started talking I realize that Steve makes absolute food out of the people who have written heartfelt letters.
I appreciate how you answered this question respectfully.
Thank you Tony I will listen to this 3 times!& yes we appreciate your calling it definitely helps a lot! I’m going to listen to all the talks with Tony from beginning to end
He was honest and said that he didn't want her. Therefore, there is nothing for her to do but move on. 🤷🏽♀️
Amen. I am critical listening to these videos and I am very sure you are a man of God. Thank you, brother for being a vessel of God. Wise words!
Real talk Tony!! Great message! Thank God for uses you to inform us woman of the TRUTH 🙏🏽
As SOON as she said she was confused, my spirit said "GOD is not the "AUTHOR" of confusion. Run sis. Lick your wounds and run. If he didn't pursue you, he was only interested in a friendship. And that's ok. If he's not attracted to you that doesn't mean that you are attractive. It means you're just not attractive to all men. We are not for ALL men. We have to understand that because we get hurt when someone isn't attracted to us personally as if something is wrong with us. NOPE. We are just supposed to be for EVERY man.
I needed ti hear this message 🙌🏼🙌🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
This was such a blessing to me. It has made things very clear for me. I thought God was telling me a guy was my husband but I was having to chase after him and he didn't seem interested at all. He never pursued me and it was very very confusing. Thanks for making this clear for me. God bless
I had so many typos, I was completely driven by passion and not really paying attention because it’s UA-cam. Ladies! You are the prize! Devote yourself to God, obey when it doesn’t make sense (you want me to wait until marriage when there’s so many hot girls giving it up for free Jesus? What? Lol). You are worth more than rubies and pearls! Go to God and ask him to give you wisdom and make you a woman of honor and a bright shining light of Gods face on this earth! What he’s done in my life is crazy - I’m working with African royalty for The UN (I’m a white girl lol) singing at The Eiffle Tower on TV for Paris Fashion Week, modeling, working with political leaders all over the world - and I swear to you at one time I let men cheat on me, abuse me, physically hurt me, i lives in poverty barely able to feed myself - and when I found Jesus he kept saying to me, “Do you know how much you are worth to me? Do you have any idea how worthy you are of love? My love for you is everlasting and unconditional.” And then, he proved it over and over. Screw guys that treat you like this - go to Jesus and He will make every man that dishonored you desperate to be with you (lol I’m serious, I love you more than anything Jesus thank youuu). Okay that’s all I have to say 💕❤️✨ Thanks Tony!!
Please I like to work for the UN .I live in New York.Can I get in touch with you?
Thank you Tony for obeying God......I pray we as ladies listen to you and hear God thu you....much love from Barbados.
I am a Modern girl but also old fashion, I believe that a man should make the first move,I would never tell a man how I feel about him first before he tells me his feelings and Intention Towards me first. My love and I have been together for 3 years He called me his soulmate The love of his life ....he still brings me followers just because.
I love how you said we don’t know what we want but we’ll know it when we see it.Thats so trueee because every person is built different...It’s like looking for a car , you know you want a truck or a car but not exactly....
Teisha MISUNDERSTOOD Lol. Exactly!
I could listen to him all day
Pearls of wisdom ! and the truth is so liberating !
It helps you to close the door and move on ! Wow, thank you Tony !
She showed her cards to soon.. A woman should never tell a man she likes him 1st..Let the man tell you 1st... Remember the sperm always chases the egg... 👍🏾.
Thank you for the truth. Tony but the most painful part to listen to and to know after my epiphany I had 7 months ago, "women have become nothing more than pray to a man". I know throughout the centuries women have been taken advantage of, but when you have that real reality check in your soul that you're nothing more than meet and prey, it's very painful as a single woman to come to grips with. To think that God made man first and most women are subject to a man's influence and has placed this type of power in his hand is awfully frightening to me. At this point, I pray for protection and discernment for women and men that they won't be taken advantage of by predators. Just recently I was told by a woman that there are good men out here but the women are destroying them also. I think the solution is when we as women and men get back to putting God first and trusting in a loving God and not in man which is considered in the Bible the "arm of the flesh", we won't trust so easily and we will learn to love ourselves.
V free I’ve since learned tho that as women we have our own sort of amazing power. We are designed to be the influencers on men for good. For enhancement. For their improvement. To help them blaze a trail down here on Earth. And in their own way tho, they are made to do the same for us in their own God given way, which might look different, because they are masculine, but it’s still the same as caring for and supporting one another at the bottom line. I’m still trying to understand men tho. I used to think they had all the power, but they only really have as much as any woman gives them. Many women today are simply not aware of their own power tho imo. And they don’t realize how they are giving it away to the wrong men or just not knowing it’s even there or how to use it properly. If men are “little gods” then we are “little goddesses” also. Meaning really just that we ALL are made in God’s image and we all have the Divine in us. The divine is not just for men. They have the masculine part of God and we have the feminine part of God. And even any non believer will tell you that both genders have both masculine and feminine energy in them. I found myself looking into feminine energy a lot or “the essence of a woman” bcuz I had a narc mother and I saw how I didn’t really know what it meant to be a real woman at all. And I had plenty of nights where I was raising my fist at God, angry that I was chosen to be a woman and felt like it was such a raw deal for me. For all women. (Also had abusive step father too). And that’s when God was really gracious to me and showed me many of these things I’m writing now.
Men also are designed to lead, but if you just take biology, you have a neck and a head. The neck has to be just a certain way to hold up the head. If not, the head will just flop around and be useless. Or it will be rigid and inflexible. I think we women need to realize that we actually have an important job to do with keeping the order of things and keeping a head functioning properly. A neck needs muscular strength and health and flexibility. Then the head will work right. Not that we go in and “build” men or caretake some loser. Cuz even with a great neck, you still can have some goofy head that will never work right. But if you get a great neck with a great head, you’ve got something that works. I don’t think that phrase-“the neck that turns the head” is really that far off. Not that we just control the planet really, but our place is important and we can be a really great influence if we simply realize that we too have a certain kind of power unique to us as women only and if we get familiar with it and learn how to wield it properly. And of course, use it for good and not for harm. Same with the masculine tho. They ought not be using their God given power for harm, but for good. I used to think that we were powerless compared to men, and that we had a really raw deal down here, but really we are not, and we don’t have to have a raw deal just cuz we are born female. Well, hopefully that made some sense. It really helped me tho when I could see that I was not just some sort of pawn in a man’s world.
V free you are so right. After being used and abused, I finally stopped dating. Especially in this day and age of swiping on tinder or other online dating apps, women are just prey. I refuse to participate. And it's sad because I know I can't get the love I need from a man. I'm just learning to live without that need to be met. I have love from my beautiful daughter. It's not the same as romantic love, but more pure and fulfilling
V Free, in the context of what you said, you mean, "prey".
I’m glad God gave you this gift. Thank you. God bless you and your family!
when i have the 3 million dollars for that super bowl ad I will defininitely donate, it is an important psa for sure!
Tony the only one of these coaches that's married
This was amazing I needed this refresher. I have been out the dating seen for years doing me so now that im open to dating I needed to hear this. Tony is like a big brother I never had.
Oh my! Honey he is not interested in any level.. save yourself honey! Please!
Listening has become a lost skill.
"Facebook needs to know"....lol
THIS IS SOME GOOD TEACHING!!!!!
Yes you need to let go because what your doing looks to him like your needy and desperate and he might turn around and take advantage so please be wise their will come a better man for yourself if you get over this one it's infatuation not love God bless you love from Wendy Drummond from Adelaide South Australia
I don’t think I ever experienced chasing a dude I never been with
Great video! I think I know my answer as to if he likes me or not... even though he doesn't speak very good English yet. I will just sit back and see if he will try to initiate any conversation with me or even say hi to me first. And I will be watching this video everytime I need to remind myself of the truth.
I don't believe that men hate to hurt women's feelings. They are so selfish and hurt feelings without any consideration.all the time
This is a great advice channel! Subscribed!
I really appreciate this knowledge. Thank you Brother Tony!!! Needed to hear this.
Preach & let the church say AMEN!!! Very good message!!! God bless you brother Tony.
A 3 or 4 yr old acting promiscuous, is NOT normal. She learning from her mom or older sister. Let's make that clear. Children that young do not know about attraction unless they were exposed to that behavior by those surrounding them
This is awesome this is awesome I would like to share this
You need to meet some more men so that you can see how it feels to be wanted. I'm not saying go out and be a thot tho.
And Tony I really love the part when you said a man knows from the moment he has words with a woman if that's his wife or not. That part spoke to me because I feel like I met my future husband, and I knew from our first conversation. Especially since he could have let me pass him by.
Wow! I just heard you today for the first time and you are so real! You speak Truth.
Although I listen to a lot of very insightful gentlemen on podcasts, pastors and other professionals, and they all are honest and insightful too, but your words really resonate!
Thank you for taking the time.
It might be for her own good that hes not interested..No telling want kind of issue he has let it go...
No I can tell you IN the midst I knew exactly what I needed to do. I just didn't want to, so in the end it cost me. God still loved me. God had His hand out for me ready to forgive me as I cried my tears begging for forgiveness trying to do it my way. By I knew all along.
Tellem Tony... I needed to hear this...
I guess 15 men disliked this video
Thank You Tony Gaskins for keeping it real
I don't need a husband I need God.
I have been in a similar situation. Only difference being that we became friends, we had excellent conversation (the few we had on the phone), he bought me things from time to time, etc.. After a few years of exhaustion with this weird situation I finally said something, he said he wasn’t interested, he was in a relationship and he tried dating me before (although he never told me that was what he was doing) and there was nothing special about me.
My logical brain said leave him alone, he said what he said, and this is not how the man God is placing me before will see me. It was hard to let go but he had to be loosed from my attachments because I can’t keep holding on to who does not want to be held on to.
I guess I have always had the thought in my head that I am exceptional therefore I am the exception to the rules, fact is I am the rule. The rule says if he says he’s not interested, no matter what he does to make you think otherwise, you believe what he tells you and move on. I have had to accept that and be done with it.
LOL. I liked the Dave Ramsey reference! "Why didn't you call me to money?" LOL.
I like your authenticity. Great advice.
I needed this !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Thank you and. Be Bless
Thank you for sharing this story. I went through that same situation with a man in the church. I felt like such a fool. I am much wiser now.
I used to think I would find a woman as me, a Male. I did...but I learned from ya that I will chose the one. "I" have to live with my regrets...of the many years I wasted with this one woman, because she approached me, one night and blessed me with a sexual favour. We spent 20+ years on & off. Again 20+ years with a woman that chose me. I must admit the feeling doesn't sit well with me now as I listen and regroup. Have a woman now, I am choosing to continue relations with even if things don't go as planned or perfectly.
Sometimes we can't move by our instant feeling.. because the real feeling is behind it..... trust I understand your pain but God will provide..
Omg seeing somebody for a religious person is a big deal since we never see any1 we've been w/ anywhere we hang or events except on the street like an animal I was at a church n I walked into another church inside of it n it was a tiny blck church n as hours passed this gorgeous man walked in with I think was his wife n child n all these ppl showed up I swear I think it was 1 day it felt like days I never returned but I seen the guy again alone I think n I was already converted to Islam I was smiling all In his face he was gorgeous
AND RUN!!! YES DONT LOOK BACK !!!!
I always question this question, how you going to love someone you don’t know
Right she's crazy..
Ha 🤣 Steve Harvey, he sometimes make jokes out of questions. When he finishes “answering” the question, I’m like didn’t 🤔answer the question. But in his defense he is a comedian
Ava Alton I thought that's who he was talking about.
Well, for starters, this "set-up" wasn't a gift from God. Marriage and companionship originated with God thus Marriage is considered to be a "gift" from him to us. To quote part of James 1:17 "Every good *gift* and every perfect present is from above...." When I reflect on that then compare it with this young ladys experience it just don't add up. Think about it, why would our *loving* heavenly father have this man consistently reject this young ladys advances-especially in the manner that he did it? If it was a gift-wouldn't the transaction be much smoother🤷 From personal experience, I mistakenly pursued (in hindsight) a man for almost seven years (prayerfully) because I thought that he was God sent for *me* But I was dead wrong. Now he's married-but to someone else.... When you draw close to God (by reading the Bible and applying what you learn) and really get to know his (God's) attributes/personality-you learn how he operates versus how Satan operates. It's a total contrast! When you experience too much turbulence/trauma-that ain't a God-sent union point blank period James 1:13..... Now, I'm not saying that relationships aren't going to have its ups and downs-look at Adam and Eve🤷 but if you're receiving many a' red flag like this young lady:That man ain't God-sent.
Thank you for accepting the call!!!🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽 I appreciate you❤❤
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Sharing is caring❤..ty for using your gifts..but..you said that..lol
I'm sorry, but @ 3:42 when he stated that "he was NOT INTERESTED IN HER IN THAT WAY", what else was there to say or do? SHEEESH!!!!! Now don't get me wrong, it's a little different when they leave you guessing, BUT WHEN THEY TELL YOU??????????? Sad. Move on. Good show Dude!
El P this reminds me of a thin line between love and hate! 🤦🏽♀️
Let go and consult God and live life
Hi Tony. I’ve been trying to write in to you but I’m unsure of how to go about it. Can you give me the link. Thanks!
I just started seeing guys at wrk bcuz of my career change its very hard meeting a good person I been with like 2 men who wouldn't rob me but 1 of them wanted to beg n they both played mind games there is confusion bcuz I seen men treat me like they treat their mama n it wasn't nice n it caused plenty confusion
I hope she has moved on..it sounds like she has some unresolved emotional issues. It sounds as if she is romanticising and fantasizing about someone that she will never have this can be dangerous for Christian women
Pray for her
I agree with Tony...men know right away if they will marry you or not...before we do
She's living in her own fantasy world 🌍
We as women sometimes make the mistake of looking for a husband.
If we try to direct our own lives against God's will😒 it will never work for the better 🙏🙏🙏💙💙💙
Jessica Smith 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
If a guy comes back, and keeps taking, don’t they take and take, until the girl gets warned out? So what happens, if a girl keeps letting the guy take from her, and never gets tired?
Hawa Fuseini will they go as low as getting the girl prego, then leaving?
Excellent message
Omg you’re sooo helpful. You answer all my questions. Im your new follower
Wow! This is such good advice.
Tony Gaskins, you are such an incredible voice for God and what Godly relationships should look like. I would like to request that you please look into domestic violence and how it effects women (1 out of 3 women worldwide are victims). Can you imagine how hard it is to have an abusive drug addict Father who gets so messed up he threatens to kill you - and how that effects a woman’s self esteem and her relationships? From a business perspective ;) - you would reach an untapped audience, because it is a hidden yet very prevalent part of culture. Women want to talk and learn about it and can’t, they deal with it alone. You will gain a very large and loyal audience. Much love Tony 🙏
Teach Man of GOD. You are operating under the Annointing & your calling.
WATER BILL CAN BE TOO HIGH!!!
why the big fuss over a husband? I don't even have that on my agenda. just chill and put God first.
lesbian?
Listen to Tony ladies and gentlemen. He speaks common sense, which is rare these days. Do not waste your time on deadly bums! Never bring a prison thug to your home, or you are bringing the executioner of you, your children, family and friends. Never get dick or pussy, rectum, or mouth and tongue whipped.
My parents educated me about life, and how to deal with all situations. I did the same for our daughter.
First thing came to my spirit regarding the man she likes is that he is on the down low
Wow he ever doesn't like you or he likes Men!!! I experienced the ex trying to come back and he said " He Not Ready".Thanks BE TO GOD FOR THE HOLY SPIRIT,DREAMS,AND VISION.GOD ALWAYS WARNS US.THANK YOU TO THE MAN OF GOD TONY GAVIN.
priceless
Great message!
I feel something for this guy he is only 27 lm 53 he loves God so do l he is a gospel singer so am l ! I felt something even though l hadnt met him yet only saw him perform on utube!