Conquer Your Inner Critic: Powerful Insights by Pete Walker
Вставка
- Опубліковано 13 чер 2024
- 🔴 New Course: Narcissistic Cults Decoded
www.richardgrannon.com/narcis...
🔴 Get your free "Stop Emotional Flashbacks" Course now at www.spartanlifecoach.com
▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬
www.RichardGrannon.com
▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬
📖 Purchase "A Cult of One":
www.amazon.com/Cult-One-Depro...
▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬
00:00 - Intro
01:07 - Repetitive PTSD
02:51 - Psychogenesis of childhood abandonment
05:19 - Anxious perfectionist efforting, toxic superego, PTSD
08:09 - Selfidentity Ich vs Super Ego
10:51 - Super egos influence on childhood abuse linked to CPTSD
12:32 - CPTSD The root cause
15:35 - Virtual avatars induce anxiety
18:33 - Defending against narcissists with spammy web pages
21:32 - Bad boundaries internal vs external use
22:19 - Jung's understanding of narcissists and codependents
23:58 - Defending against codependent rage denial
27:20 - Reaction formation, replacing unwanted impulses with happy ones
30:38 - Unncriticised Dostoyevsky
31:44 - Get over toxic inner critic with fortress mental health protection
▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬
Follow Richard Grannon:
🔔 SUBSCRIBE FOR MORE:
ua-cam.com/users/RICHARDGRAN...
✚ TIKTOK:
/ richardgrannon0
✚ INSTA:
/ richard.grannon - Розваги
_"The way we speak to our children becomes their inner voice"_
Absolutely
Yeah I messed that right up.
@@FlamingManofIron😂😂 me too …jus apologize and offer to pay for their therapy 😉😂😂🤷🏻♀️🖖
Omg, “I’m a loser” or any other derogatory put down has been running through my mind my entire life.
you n me both.
Having a hard, hard, hard hard day. And, this helps - if only just a bit. Especially the humor - that has always been a coping mechanism for me. I used to listen to and memorize my parents' adult comedy albums from a VERY young age.
I’m sending you good vibes from Australia. I hope your day got better. I’ve been travelling rough too, so I understand. Blessings 😊
@@1DaTJo🙏✝️❤️
LMAO HArdHArdHArd
Ps.
Not only are you so informative to listen to and learn from, you make me smile with your sense of humour and general uplifting joyfullness ❤❤😂😂
Love all your accents shenanigans! Also you look much better since you've been following Stella's advice. 😊
OMG!! I'm a year out as a survivor (hate that word) of a malignantly narcissistic entanglement which lasted four years. My narc was also schizo affected, so I did become much like a parent. After I ended up with a fractured cheek one, I truly wished up to the emotional betrayals, which prompted my EGO to kick in, and I left.
Your video just hit me hard. I know in my heart that I have cptsd, and I used to shake when I thought of him being nearinproxinity. But I get angry when my Mom tries to talk about things I must do to protect myself, and I have become SUPER disciplined, analytical, and anti-social. I wear a mask at work, that projects warmth. I'm always in fear that something's going to go wrong if I 'let my hair down'. I don't like this soldier I've become. The ex-narc was pure chaos. I'm happy enough now, but how do I become normal! Is that even possible? I am pure Super-ego!
You’re looking so well! Glad to see it! 😊
The music you make at the end is great 😂
Came here to say just this ecstactly
You are so spot on 😂👍🏻
Omg makes so much sense, the only thing that is left is an impossible to please inner critic and all of the needs go second so I am in a constant chase of approval 😢 it is like I only can afford to be myself after I pleased the parent, which is never gonna happen, well great 😂
Wow! That is such an amazing insight. I've never thought about that before but I can see how this dynamic works.
While listening for only, 7 minutes so far, into this lecture, I able to completely understand your thoughts and concerns for those of us suffering PTSD. Thank you Richard!!
DEAR TEACHER, I LOVE BEING YOUR STUDENT, AND THE EYE CANDY IS NOT BAD. THANK YOU........ CAN YOU TAKE US ON YOUR HEALTH JOURNEY TEACHER? WHAT DO YOU DO TO KEEP YOUR STRESS LEVEL DOWN, TEACHER? ❤
What is eye candy
Love the Cult of One book review.😉
Richard your ‘heal the superego’ course helped me to address the inner critic (and outer critic). Why did you stop selling the amazing courses you developed prior to 2022? They were so so so so good.
thank you for your videos - this one was really helpful - being hard on yourself really does come from environment
HI Richard! Hoping your feeling well. As always, thank you for supporting our journey!
I'm reading the cptsd from surviving to thriving
Hey, that distortion jazz at the end of the video was better than 90% of modern pop. :)
Very useful, thank you
Definitely on track and helpful .
Omg, you are so funny...could listen to the comedy all day... I'm struggling to take you seriously 😅
Richard, I can not over embellish how much I appreciate you. I too am NOT impressed with this script. I could watch your show all day. I will be going out to aquire the " cult of One" tomorrow instead of whatever other pointless crap I was thinking about doing. Thank you sir especially for another really good laugh to finish out the day.
Oh my goodness... I knew this but said in a way that help me understand why I am like I am. Thank you!
My life and now 46 years old having to teach my body different . Almost making me sick .. because I'm not used to it .
Thank you Richard I bought the book Complex PTSD by Pete Walker February 2021 , I study a little but I get mad , I’m getting the confirmation knowing but not helping myself for a lifetime… I want to be vindicated 💕🥰
Read it again, at least the parts you feel relate directly to your own unique concerns. That may do the trick, or at least the needed parts. Love & sincere support, from Me, Brontē 💕
Had to pause on the part of projection. Read a few pages from character study of Joseph Conrads protagonist which already has my mind reeling, and I guess the opposite of projection is ownership is how character Jim fails to be the hero sailor of his 'idealised self' when he jumps ship to save himself, then understands he has to own up to the failure in court while other basline 'egoists' would not hold firm and do anything to save face, maybe lie and say the storm overtook them.
I just saw Renfield… I can’t imagine your content had no influence on the film. Go Grannon! Lol
You are very intelligent and also incredibly attractive. Thank you for your knowledge.
One minute in and I am already laughing 😂
I (the avatar) use a self hypnosis routine to enter deep trance and meditate while you lecture. F-ing cool Richie.😊
Your humor is absolutely beautiful. I love it
Loud and clear in Oregon, USA
Thank YOU this is very helpful and valuable for the healing journey! I will refer to ur book and Pete Walkers! Yes, Unself is a good description! It is a life long journey and adventure!🎉
❤ very, very useful
I liked this video
31:53 mister smith gets it: Having a sense of humor about the inner critic. A sense of humor in general & esp. with & about self. Or test the validity of the inner critic: Is it trying to inspire me to push beyond my limits or is it trying to tear me down & shut me up completely? Is it the part of the inner critic saying "You know you shouldn't do that." or the part that says "Everything you touch turns to $7!{"? What's the inner critic's motivation? Tapping into the inner critic's intent.
These 'lives' are good for interacting in conversation, sharing perspective. There's a lot of healing in facing, defining, & proving wrong the inner critic. The inner critic was once an outer one.
EMDR and parts of self help examine inner critic! Outer Child too. My experience anyways…
Great! EMDR is not effective for peeps like me…too many layers of trauma that go too far back. But Richard’s courses and Pete Walker’s book have helped. So glad I found Richard after 23 years of searching for something that works.
OMG ! THIS WAS AND ALWAYS WWILL BE ! MY PRyer answered 😮
@ Richard Grannon. Would you consider doing a live session on Pete Walker's article "Managing Abandonment Depression in complex PTSD?" Although I read the article, my comprehension isn't what it once was. Thank you for helping survivors.
Wow and thank you 🤯
My mum and dad are both dead . I have 2 sisters who are both dysfunctional , toxic and hard work. I am not a psychologist, but I suspect that one is a overt and the other a covert narcissist. The dysfunction in my family system ( nephews, their girlfriends and wives ) is breathtaking
No worries, Richard, I’ve been following you for years, and groomed myself into hearing your voice as my inner critic now. 😋😂😂🤷🏻♀️ The imprinting has been successful my dear. 😘🤟Much appreciated for all your time and thoughts.
❤️💪🔥☯️🖖☮️🦋
Na, I find my cptsd a bit humorous in a dark way, and am learning to understand, control, and love all parts of me ☯️😘
You are a very nice person and I am grateful for everything and thank you so much and I am so sorry and I mean when I said the prayers and blessings for you and may God grant you your hearts desires, protect you always from what is harmful and hurtful and bad. Thank you you are very funny and I am not sure what happened last time. But I will always remember this . Blessings to u and always merits and wisdom always for you and them .
I would love to hear how narcissists are created!
I would love to hear you talk about gaslighting sometime.
The term gets thrown around too much.
I hate being accused of being abusive and gaslighting by partners, just for having a different perspective or opinion from them.
It seems like a thing women throw down during arguments now.
I also see people throwing around narcissist too often, often because a person might have some selfish behaviour, as most people do from time to time.
It's used to attack a person's integrity, putting the accuser on a victim pedestal, while being impossible to respond to in any useful way and shuts down the conversation.
Falsely labelling a survivor of abuse as the abuser is a form of control and abuse.
If you are being called a gas lighter for having a different opinion, then that would make them a gaslighter.
Maybe you need to look deep inside yourself to why this upset you so much and that’s not a criticism of you as a person it was just a question to maybe look inside I’ve done a lot of healing the pasted 4 years and had to have a very close look at me but other peoples issues and I’m in a place where I know who I am I know I’m not 100% perfect but I know I’m a good person so if somebody got a opinion of me so be it they are entitled to have that but it’s not important to me anymore because I love who i am and it doesn’t upset me in the slightest it’s more important to know who you are than what other’s opinions are of you because some have issues and do have to down grade other humans to feel some kind of better themselves and I think when we worry what others say or see about us it’s going be k into that victim mode and I’m not victim anymore o had a bad childhood and that’s always be a part of who I am but it’s not what’s important in my life anymore my future self is ❤
@@teresareid5034 I find your comment very hard to read because you don't use any punctuation. It's like one long sentence.
This is what happens with every 'new' psychological term. A few years ago, everyone high in energy had ADHD and every shy person had ASD. It will take a while before those words are used appropriately.
I hope to feeling better with your health.take care
THEY have JUMPED THE SHARK for sure. Honestly, I have invested in MY storyline and THEIR storyline is bloody stupid.
Gonna pop off one of my contrarian bombshells before I head in 😂 so I can see how, unhealthy as it is, the impulse to turn inwards and demand perfection in the face of abandonment COULD be a positive evolutionary adaptation, ill side effects aside.
Becoming more ‘perfect’ should grant us access to replacement sources of validation and even love. Certainly noticed in my life their importance and therefore (?) superego injunctions diminished as I grew, gained social validation, became more worthy, in my mind, of self love. Not great haha, but just sayin. :)
I always have to watch these twice - 1st time for funnies and 2nd actually listening. So thank god they’re not 4 hours anymore 😂
I have lived with an intense inner critic and also (thanks to Richard and Pete Walker) without it. The perfectionism that is driven by the inner critic does not improve performance.
Nice Glasses Rich!...👓
Where have You been al my life ❤🎉🫶🏽.. a woman from 🇬🇱 I am having a blast when listening to You 💚 Green heart as Greenland 🙌🏼😘🙌🏼 Hugs and I hope that You Can come to Copenhagen or Nuuk
I am very fun of You
What psychologist tells you that he'll gas light you? 😅 You're endearingly lovely!
I have a hard time feeling worthy of feeling attractive to women, in the workplace and even in friendships and people of higher social class and status which is always pushed into your face where I reside in London. It almost feels like I cannot be an authentic human being and have real safe connections.with people. Even though my parents didnt abuse me, that was a childminder outside my family who has now passed away, I must be subconsciously affected by this mire than I realise and I do have a real toxic inner critic and probably because I havent been successful in the 2 relationships I have had and also the 2 years of involuntary celibacy I am experiencing after my last relationship, these.losses.seem to compound the feelings of unworthiness in my core.
You are NOT unworthy!! They are absolutely liars! Fight for your soul!
Signal is good.
I love Walter. Jesse too, but while no one sees any good in Mr White, I have a spot for him. Does this make me a psychopath or co dependent 😅Clearly not as healed as I’d like to think 🥴
Love your kooky ha ha
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣💀☯️🖖..
I MUST be healing…how the hell did I get side tracked yesterday and not finish this video?!?! 🤷🏻♀️🤣🤣💀
You kill me as always 🤟☯️🔥
…yes I absolutely agree in every way…this simulation is TOTAL shit now…totally needs new writers 😂😂😂🎯🔥
Thank you for all your wonderful insights, wisdom, advice, and humorous sarcasm ..💪🔥🥷
Totally Makes my day …yes I know..I have no life..don’t judge ..neither do you 😝😉😂😂😋
Signal lost…man at sea, drowning out.
3:51 CPTSD is tough….so now we’re living hahaha
Catch this later. More readings with friar tuck pls
🙏🏻
signal is clear
Kind of a Peaky Blinders look there. 🙌
Richard, you have a ferret on your head
Question: Could Susan Forward also be helpful if the trauma is rooted in childhood? Which book/s? THX!!!!!!
Single went dead at the end
When you read from Pete Walker's 2nd book, Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving, do you mind stating from which page you are starting, so that those of us who own/have read the book may follow along w/ you, using the book? It's likely too late to ask this, as this is of course pre-recorded when I watch it, but if there are any new Fortress videos/shorts w/ this info, this info would be so much appreciated! TYVM! :)
It’s not from his book it’s an article on his website 👍
Could this happen to a child (his 19 now ) that has been faced with a parent having cancer since he was 8yrs old and his father died 3 years ago?
you forgot to say Amen! 😀
@@teresareid5034 Could what happen? I don't understand your question.
0:59 tell me more about absurdity hahaha.
I sublimated so many things while I was with him. He wanted to go to swingers parties, and even signed us up in a group without asking me first, but I never did. He would always ask me if I was an exhibitionist, which I was not. He wanted to flaunt me doing sexual things to him in-front of people, I just didn’t understand why.
FYI. Ich is pronounced more like ish. Not ick. 😘
Do you think the ‘simulation’ is like the result of extracting a quality from an object, and then attempting to sell the object as the same quality? For example, word of mouth dictates pizza from New York City is pretty good because its quality is specialized - so the simulation is to remove the quality from specialization but confuse the consumer, call it ‘New York City Pizza’ ™, but sell it like pizza from New York City. Like we’re getting quantity ‘x’, but quantity ‘x’ implies quality ‘y’, and marketing tricks ignorant people into thinking ‘New York City Pizza’ is pizza from New York City.
😂😂😂😂level of Monty Python ❤
Can you explain the difference between narcissism and narcissistic injury? How does the latter show up in relationships?
The narcissist experiences narcissistic injury when one of their sources of ‘supply’ offends them- particularly when that person does not uphold and reinforce their grandiosity. Narcissistic injury often leads to narcissistic rage, where the narcissistic will seek to annihilate the person who ‘injures’ them. With a grandiose narcissist, the rage will be expressed overtly (verbal/physical abuse). With the covert narcissist, the rage will be expressed in other ways- for example they might conduct a slander campaign against you with your friends or colleagues.
Clear signal in Germany 👍
Life sucks, then it blows......
Richard! I wanted to make sure you see this. I have some thoughts, sorta advice, on your decision.
It sounds a bit like a false dichotomy. You don’t NEED a PhD to speak on this subject!!!
I had a dream ready to go 10 yrs ago, but I thought how can I speak with any authority to businesses, without a business degree? Lol so I got that, and then I thought what is a Bach? I need an mba min. But I caught myself. Perhaps bc I saw how detrimental losing that time was. What matters is not how you’re viewed, but the work you do.
I’ve been looking for sources for my project, and you’re still the best I can find. Doctors are caged in their learning (and hubris). Whereas you approach problems from lived experience, and with an open mind! You’re a genius at this. Your suffering is a competitive edge not a weakness. Your empathy and tough love is due to your own suffering. YOU are perfectly suited to the work you do. There is no reason why you can’t continue to do this until the day UA-cam closes the door (not happening anytime soon!). Which is why I would think this is just your critics getting to you. Superego injunctions telling you you’re not worthy. You are the most worthy!
But if you want to have a good easy life, you can and should. For me the choice, while hard, is clear, because I couldn’t live with myself if I don’t. But once I’ve done it for 10 yrs…who knows. I know that you deserve to be well and safe and happy, and have earned it. You don’t need excuses.
Well thx this made me cry at work, bc I’m always scared of the life that will go along with that. Kind of scary to hear you deal with it and that it bothers you. And you're strong and those are pathetic pipsqueaks! And I’m being tempted with everything I could ever want, except what I’ve always wanted. It was easier when I didn’t know that I want all these other things too - safety, family, fun, enjoying life. I can see the future, and if I choose my dream, I probably have to /should let the rest go. So I feel you. But I’ve decided that I can try to balance things, and that would be my advice to you. I see no reason why you can't do what you enjoy, makes you feel good, and give too, to a degree you are comfortable with, if you so choose to continue.
My other piece of advice is deal with the immediate problem first. Deal with it, and then see how you feel. Perhaps you're just running from dealing with it? Besides, it is not right to prioritize the well-being of people that are hurting you and your family and friends over your own well being and possibly the entire world - if they drive you to quit. If that is the case, sounds like you need to recommit to your values :) That would not even be a question for me. You can handle it :) And should!
But if you're really that kind and hesitate, you should post a UA-cam video warning them, and if they ever do even one attack, release their names and what they said. No photos, no address. Your followers will take care of the rest :) I would do it regardless, bc this is unjust.
Well regardless of what you choose to do with your life; pls do seminar at some point! If you’re leaving, the time to get your permission for something I’m planning be now, and I’d want to pick your brain on the logistical side, if this is really a problem, as I imagined it would be sigh.
Oh shit man down lol
Read Thinking fast and slow..
What about adult child narcissist, how to keep boundaries and not feel guilty and anxiety
I would look at what turned them into a narcissist.
could this happen when a child has been faced with his father having cancer since he was 8yrs old (now 19yr) then his father died 3 yrs ago
👍
👍👍👍👍.
What is the thump thump thump?
CPTSD Phone Home
I would also like to know your thoughts on Dr Ramani. I don’t get good vibes from her, but maybe that’s just a me issue!
Dr Ramani is similar to many people posting about narcissism on UA-cam. She is focussed on teaching people how to ‘deal with’ the narcissist whereas Richard’s focus is on how to heal.
@@johannagrace7768 This is not true. For instance, she has a series of videos called "Core Work for Healing from Narcissism", which I found very insightful. Also, her description of DARVO (the typical response from a narcissist) and how to deal with that has helped me a lot.
Hahaha!!!!
..available from Jeff Basos
Slave mansion 😂😂😂
Jeff bezoz slave mansion 😂❤
😂
😂😂
Lunch, R?
Ur hair looks mental today mate 😂😅
Ooooh noooo!! You caved and gave into “breaking bad”!?!!! Omg ..your doomed now Richard…they sucked you in damit!! 😋😂😂
Ok…so I stand alone as the last person to watch it now 😂😂🤷🏻♀️🤟
FYI 6
2bby y
😂😂😂😂😂 🎉
Right there with you, NOT impressed at all. 🙄
It's so dreary, I know it must be done, nonetheless ew. Y'all are cute, tho, spoonful of sugar helps the medicine go down.
🦋🐈
Loud and clear in Michigan