A trick I learned on the job is the benefits of a "smoke break" even if you don't smoke. Literally removing yourself from a situation and getting a moment to pause and process can be valuable in what Jocko is talking about
6:19 - 6:37 is very heavy and true. It’s hard, if not criminal to yourself to trust your hope of a better day in someone else. Because what happens if that imperfect person inevitably lets you down? Your hope goes with them. Your trust should rest in what you have control over. And you must maintain and continue to work towards the life you hope is possible. That, in itself, is the life journey worth living and inspires others to do the same. I’ve listened to Jocko for some time now. Him sharing those lines has had the biggest impact on my thought process. Thank you Echo and Jocko for being consistently encouraging. (Side note: This video is 7:54 long. Same number as the boat I served on. USS Topeka SSN 754! “Defender of the Heartland”) Have a blessed day everyone and thanks for letting me share my thoughts with you.
"Don't get caught up in things that don't matter." says Jocko, waving a knife around. "Avoid becoming resentful when you don't get exactly what you want." says Jocko, waving around a decommissioned revolver. "Use it as a chance to grow." "Try to discipline yourself." says the retired Navy SEAL, brandishing a musket at nobody in particular. "Forget about the mistake you made in the past!" screams Jocko. His arms are flailing around like wacky inflatable tubepeople. Both arms have RPG's strapped to them. Echo Charles is in the corner, sobbing.
Very interesting thoughts from Keith Douglas. I completely agree w the detachment of emotions to accomplish certain tasks. Thanks Jocko for this!!! Also I mentioned this before in a comment. Thanks for NOT CUSSING. I listen to many of your podcasts in the morning w my daughter(11) who understands these concepts of life to live by. It helps. Those voices in the ears of kids from people who aren’t their parents and from someone such as yourself make a huge impact. It enforces the lessons that are taught at home and I GREATLY appreciate all you do. -and my 6 yr old daughter absolutely loves “Way of the Warrior Kid.” Both books
Yes. I wholeheartedly agree. Detachment from everything...and everyone is the basis for lifestyle design... With a blank slate you can then add back in the things that truly matter...and only focus on those things...creates a happy and fulfilling life...focus only on those things that matter to you.
I just discovered this man, I know I am late to the show. LOL. But I am very glad I did, cross this gentleman. He is a wise man and I’ve already learned so much, I cannot wait to get his book in the mail that I ordered. So I feel like everything happens for a reason and at the right time, and the time is now.
This lesson is most valiable in my industry! See all that French chefs blowing the f..k up just because the dude took step left not right its unbelievable. I also see the more experience people have ,as Jacko said,the less the sweat over things that dont matter.
I’ve learned that I’ve become more successful when I don’t focus on fighting, but I let the other person think we’re fighting. That’s the truest jui jitsu.
That soldier really articulates what I've been getting my head around. Simultaneously seeing the value and greatness of the individual and Humanity while not being to hot on the day to day of it.
If you all are more interested in this way of thinking, look into the philosophy called Stoicism. A lot of what Jocko talks about reflects a lot of this way of thinking. There are audiobooks on UA-cam that are books by Stoics such as Marcus Aurelius, Seneca, Epictetus, etc.
I think I might just do that you say it's called stoicism I would love to see some audio books on that thank you going to add that to my other forms of Education
An excellent point! I recently started reading an English translation of Marcus Aurelius meditations and it truly made me consider things in a different manner in regards to goals, distractions and achievement, not reacting emotionally etc. Granted it was a translation so unsure of how accurate it is but it made a lot of sense.
Because if Jocko is holding a switch blade, you WILL pay attention (as evidenced) and it "matters". Mission........accomplished.......enough said.....carry on.....
Lets be clear, a lot of the motivational speeches can not apply to people with depression or mental illness. I have dealt with people with serious depression and anxiety, it is not as easy for people suffering to to just run and push through the pain. For normal people like myself it works great and i love it. Just remember if you know anyone with mental health problems that you need to be patient with them and help them by understanding their point of view and try and talk them through their issues. If you realize you can not help a person try and help them seek professional help, there is only so much you can do in some areas or circumstances. Solutions: Depression = Talking through problems Anxiety = Small/slow moving life affirming actions to start off If you are watching these videos it means you want to change and help yourself and that means you have strength. Have the strength to help others once you can help yourself because not everyone is as strong or motivated. Save yourself and you'll save this world.
You have such a great head on your shoulders and explained it in a way I always wish I could have explained it to other people especially in regards to myself going through anxiety and OCD and depression constantly from a head injury obtained as a child that caused petit mal seizure disorder and other Spectrum disorders I I'm all about educating myself and doing the best for myself that I possibly can do as well as helping as many others as I can there's so many times I feel myself backsliding but these days I use those backsliding moments as ways to better myself and increase the attention of a Learning lesson no matter what I still feel the anxiety I still feel the need to overthink and have internal thinking in my head with depression it creeps up always but I do all kinds of things to help myself like going to the boxing / Muay Thai Jim just now and in a couple hours going to go to the regular gym and lift some weights and then soon start a jiu jitsu class that's close by me as well as educating myself on all different forms like NLP law of attraction positive forms of Seduction Concepts like Robert Green and Ross Jeffries appeal to me a lot from my own internal self-healing but also my need and desire to learn how to take what I have learned to teach myself and give the same to others that's probably the greatest thing I can think of doing to overcome what I have and someone like you just gives me that I opener inside answer that lets me know that it's always possible as well as motivational people like Jocko and others like Jordan Peterson these are people that I like to follow along with all my martial arts channels that I like to watch and practice at my gyms thank you so much for being a good UA-cam commenter and having fantastic timing for someone like me
Don't get caught up in things that don't matter... basically and practically everything at some point or another in your life... "in the end it doesn't even matter..." - Chester Bennington RIP
Hey Jocko, big fan of ur podcast here. This video is probably the most memorable for me thus far. The message here has helped me plow through stuff I'd otherwise obsess over; obsessing over stuff that doesn't matter. I never realized how much I've been doing that since childhood well into adulthood
I agree with former requests, we most certainly need Mr. Goggins and you in the same room with a mic. His book comes out tomorrow so it would make for interesting conversation!
Separate things that matter from things that don't matter LOGICALLY not emotionally.... I think this is one of my faults ....emotional destructions Thank you Jocko Lesson learned
Got a new job as a physiotherapist in a ward where us two physios are kind of the leaders. I'm not used to it. We're both very agreeable and very young so there's a lot of assertiveness to practice. Extreme Ownership and your videos have been an invaluable resource, Jocko, thank you so much.
Thanks for the insight (and crazy tangent). As an younger Engineer finally getting my first small taste of Leadership, this is already very difficult for me. There are a lot of small details that do need to be sweat over, but finding out Quickly which ones need more attention than others is a challenge. It's something I will need to develop.
One of my favorites! Great motivator! Great speaker! Thank you for your work! (i have a photo with both "The Dichotomy of leadership" and "Extreme ownership" that i want to uload but i cannot see how...
Excellent video. I've learned to distinguish between what matters and doesn't matter for quite sometime now. Some people dont understand, some people I try to help to a point of embracing this ideology and some, look at me like I am crazy or not "normal". Can't win them all. I know it's allowed me to take better control of my life in all aspects. No regrets.
I can’t remember who said it but some guy suggested the same thing about professional sports. Professional sports don’t. Matter.. but they’re just another distraction for people to put time & energy into. If you catch a game here and there to unwind that’s fine! It’s those people who religiously follow sports. A) it’s a game and B) you aren’t even the one playing.. focus on your life and your responsibilities
All the hashtags link together, all the hashtags I've been posting like mad over the past 4 days. I then took all those hashtags and spread them through major UA-cam videos. GANGNAM Style, a bunch of Joe Rogan, Jocko Willink videos etc. I then posted a topic about "Philadelphia Activism" on Reddit in r/Politics. Then I messaged different MSM news outlets and the Phillies DeFranco show. Then I donated $10 to the Wounded Warrior Project on Facebook, created a fundraiser and checked in from Puerto Rico and Philadelphia repeatedly. Somebody somewhere knows something about this
Holy shit, him holding the knife is a metaphor. Looking at the knife, laughing at the image of him swinging it around to really drive home a point (pun intended), is distracting you from listening to what he's saying "what actually matters". If you didn't watch the whole thing and learn to ignore the life then you're not practicing what he's talking about.
What about a past relationship? It doesn't affect the end goal, but it definitely affects the NOW goal, which I guess in turn could affect the outcome slightly.
Perfect way to plug his book - just leave it there laying on the broadcast desk with the spine facing the camera. I’m going to read “The Dichotomy of Leadership” now because I’m intrigued with his character.
I wish my old 1st sgt understood that... he yelled at Marines about blousing their boots as they were running out of the COP on QRF, for a Marine who was a double amputee.....
I suppose there is a method to a madness. Those who get picky about stupid sht at work are usually conformist a$$ kissers without a life, single minded about creating and thus controlling conflict as a means of leverage and negotiation. As a pick up artist once said, yes, you might be bad at haggling over a car price with a dealership, but your degree of empathy for others and appreciation of quality of life and respect for others are great benefits too for mental health and being good family with people that are important - even if it goes in the way of needing to be a cold cocking negotiator at time squeezing the most dollars than the other. There is a price and a risk to pay in either behavior, the latter behavior can still be reasonably good at negotiating but not to the point of causing acrimony over pennies and to be so compulsive as to alienate people who care for you equally with people who do not. Good team work and leadership would find extreme value on those good team members who are needed in dire situation and who would not use that situation to short sightedly haggle with other team members to the death, literally. The coward without a life is a judas to be watched and known by all.
Thank you for helping me. I was so low and broken. My wife cheated on me. Then I caught her then she done it a grin and I caught her on vido when she thought I was in my room. Everything she ses or bring up is a fight or I'm always wrong. She never listens not even to her owne stuff she ses. I wish you had more on brake ups. Roger Willey showed me ur vido. And it helped a lot. Even affter she has done everything to brake our unity's marriage. I wish I could talk to you one on one.
I liked how he was just waving a knife around while he was talking. I know it’s just a little thing he does that doesn’t technically _matter_ to what he’s saying. It just made me laugh how intense that would look to a stranger.
Why wife my work try to get me caught up in dumb shit everyday. I ignore 90 percent of it and focus on the real....the stuff that keeps us moving forward and not the white noise.
using youtube and seeing what gets recommended when it comes to winning others, its overwhelming and unrealistic how much couple relationships are forced, and to me a grown adult not a middle schooler, that doesnt matter because it can be fake, so i wait for one NOT like that.
Graduated basic training a few days ago. Jocko inspired me to join the military, thank you.
Congrats man, and thank you✊
congratulations
Thank you
Stay safe sir. Devote yourself in fighting the good fight 💂
Congrats boot
A trick I learned on the job is the benefits of a "smoke break" even if you don't smoke. Literally removing yourself from a situation and getting a moment to pause and process can be valuable in what Jocko is talking about
gocubs1815 so true no matter what the day is like.
Yup. I have been doin it for decades. Like moving out and approuch fro. Another angle.
pommodoro method
I was the only non smoker on my team offshore so yea i know what you mean, its true.
Stop looking at the comments it doesn’t matter
A L B I N Ø so true
You matter, and so does your comment
Very powerful comment
Haha! Perfect!
@@jacobg2296 so true😂😂
Next episode - he's waving around a loaded pistol
🤣🤣🤣🤣
😂😂😂😂
Or a battle axe
Haha
... or fidgeting with the bolt of a loaded M16
"The better you get, the less things matter."
Amen
Jocko playing with that knife is just so interestingly fascinating
Don't get cought up in thing's that don't matter!!😀😁🤗
😂🤣 Knives are no longer tools. If handled incorrectly by fools.
@Hoe Jogan OK, Joe Hogan'!
Interestingly fascinating? Are you stupid or are you dumb? 😂
Nothing more intimidating than a killer who doesnt need weapons in hand with an actual weapon in hand.
It's hard to disagree with a man with a switch blade.
Hahaha!
His poor wife is not free to consider divorce. This person is on the verge of killing everyone at any given moment.
First Name you moron
Hearing men talk openly like this with vulnerability is refreshing. Loving your channel 😊
No fear, no distraction. The ability to let things that don't matter truly slide.
dont base your life on a movie quote mate
@@stefanchannel11 don’t tell people what to do “mate”
6:19 - 6:37 is very heavy and true. It’s hard, if not criminal to yourself to trust your hope of a better day in someone else. Because what happens if that imperfect person inevitably lets you down? Your hope goes with them. Your trust should rest in what you have control over. And you must maintain and continue to work towards the life you hope is possible. That, in itself, is the life journey worth living and inspires others to do the same.
I’ve listened to Jocko for some time now. Him sharing those lines has had the biggest impact on my thought process.
Thank you Echo and Jocko for being consistently encouraging.
(Side note: This video is 7:54 long. Same number as the boat I served on. USS Topeka SSN 754! “Defender of the Heartland”)
Have a blessed day everyone and thanks for letting me share my thoughts with you.
"Don't get caught up in things that don't matter." says Jocko, waving a knife around.
"Avoid becoming resentful when you don't get exactly what you want." says Jocko, waving around a decommissioned revolver. "Use it as a chance to grow."
"Try to discipline yourself." says the retired Navy SEAL, brandishing a musket at nobody in particular.
"Forget about the mistake you made in the past!" screams Jocko. His arms are flailing around like wacky inflatable tubepeople. Both arms have RPG's strapped to them. Echo Charles is in the corner, sobbing.
Poor echo Charles. He probably wishes he never met Jocko. He is not free to leave.
The end got me lmao
lmao. you're my kind of people. 😊
Very interesting thoughts from Keith Douglas. I completely agree w the detachment of emotions to accomplish certain tasks. Thanks Jocko for this!!!
Also I mentioned this before in a comment. Thanks for NOT CUSSING. I listen to many of your podcasts in the morning w my daughter(11) who understands these concepts of life to live by. It helps. Those voices in the ears of kids from people who aren’t their parents and from someone such as yourself make a huge impact. It enforces the lessons that are taught at home and I GREATLY appreciate all you do. -and my 6 yr old daughter absolutely loves “Way of the Warrior Kid.” Both books
Yes. I wholeheartedly agree. Detachment from everything...and everyone is the basis for lifestyle design... With a blank slate you can then add back in the things that truly matter...and only focus on those things...creates a happy and fulfilling life...focus only on those things that matter to you.
Jocko conducting a symphony with that damn knife!!! Simply beautiful...
I just discovered this man, I know I am late to the show. LOL. But I am very glad I did, cross this gentleman. He is a wise man and I’ve already learned so much, I cannot wait to get his book in the mail that I ordered. So I feel like everything happens for a reason and at the right time, and the time is now.
I love at about 3:15 he light heartedly says "I was doing some reading" then as he catches himself "AS. IS. THE NORM..."
This lesson is most valiable in my industry! See all that French chefs blowing the f..k up just because the dude took step left not right its unbelievable. I also see the more experience people have ,as Jacko said,the less the sweat over things that dont matter.
I’ve learned that I’ve become more successful when I don’t focus on fighting, but I let the other person think we’re fighting. That’s the truest jui jitsu.
That’s a profound perspective. I’m going to try that.
That soldier really articulates what I've been getting my head around.
Simultaneously seeing the value and greatness of the individual and Humanity while not being to hot on the day to day of it.
If you all are more interested in this way of thinking, look into the philosophy called Stoicism. A lot of what Jocko talks about reflects a lot of this way of thinking. There are audiobooks on UA-cam that are books by Stoics such as Marcus Aurelius, Seneca, Epictetus, etc.
Rah
I think I might just do that you say it's called stoicism I would love to see some audio books on that thank you going to add that to my other forms of Education
'Meditations' by Marcus Aurelius
UDT116 That’s my favorite one!
For anyone who is knew to the philosophy, I recommend reading or listening to that one first.
An excellent point! I recently started reading an English translation of Marcus Aurelius meditations and it truly made me consider things in a different manner in regards to goals, distractions and achievement, not reacting emotionally etc. Granted it was a translation so unsure of how accurate it is but it made a lot of sense.
The real question is why does Jocko have a switch blade and he’s just swinging it around so carelessly lol
Don't get caught up in things that don't matter
its a man's fidget toy
So silly
Because if Jocko is holding a switch blade, you WILL pay attention (as evidenced) and it "matters". Mission........accomplished.......enough said.....carry on.....
"And since when do you carry a switchblade?!"
This isn't important just a detail. The black and white lighting is a cool look it adds to your message
Broman03 agreed. visual stimulation doesn’t matter right now - only the message.
colors don't matter
Lets be clear, a lot of the motivational speeches can not apply to people with depression or mental illness. I have dealt with people with serious depression and anxiety, it is not as easy for people suffering to to just run and push through the pain. For normal people like myself it works great and i love it. Just remember if you know anyone with mental health problems that you need to be patient with them and help them by understanding their point of view and try and talk them through their issues. If you realize you can not help a person try and help them seek professional help, there is only so much you can do in some areas or circumstances.
Solutions:
Depression = Talking through problems
Anxiety = Small/slow moving life affirming actions to start off
If you are watching these videos it means you want to change and help yourself and that means you have strength. Have the strength to help others once you can help yourself because not everyone is as strong or motivated.
Save yourself and you'll save this world.
You have such a great head on your shoulders and explained it in a way I always wish I could have explained it to other people especially in regards to myself going through anxiety and OCD and depression constantly from a head injury obtained as a child that caused petit mal seizure disorder and other Spectrum disorders I I'm all about educating myself and doing the best for myself that I possibly can do as well as helping as many others as I can there's so many times I feel myself backsliding but these days I use those backsliding moments as ways to better myself and increase the attention of a Learning lesson no matter what I still feel the anxiety I still feel the need to overthink and have internal thinking in my head with depression it creeps up always but I do all kinds of things to help myself like going to the boxing / Muay Thai Jim just now and in a couple hours going to go to the regular gym and lift some weights and then soon start a jiu jitsu class that's close by me as well as educating myself on all different forms like NLP law of attraction positive forms of Seduction Concepts like Robert Green and Ross Jeffries appeal to me a lot from my own internal self-healing but also my need and desire to learn how to take what I have learned to teach myself and give the same to others that's probably the greatest thing I can think of doing to overcome what I have and someone like you just gives me that I opener inside answer that lets me know that it's always possible as well as motivational people like Jocko and others like Jordan Peterson these are people that I like to follow along with all my martial arts channels that I like to watch and practice at my gyms thank you so much for being a good UA-cam commenter and having fantastic timing for someone like me
B Same thoughts, B.🙌🏽
This actually comes at a perfect time for me.
I get the sense that Jocko's mind never left the front line. He doesn't ever look relaxed or content
It's because the things he's learnt in the field are so important in life too.
Don't get caught up in things that don't matter... basically and practically everything at some point or another in your life...
"in the end it doesn't even matter..." - Chester Bennington RIP
Hey Jocko, big fan of ur podcast here. This video is probably the most memorable for me thus far. The message here has helped me plow through stuff I'd otherwise obsess over; obsessing over stuff that doesn't matter. I never realized how much I've been doing that since childhood well into adulthood
I agree with former requests, we most certainly need Mr. Goggins and you in the same room with a mic. His book comes out tomorrow so it would make for interesting conversation!
i doubt you'll ever see him on here.The guy cares much more about his own personal experience than being part of a team.
give this guy some limes to slice
Vitamin C! Need all that we can get.......
Separate things that matter from things that don't matter LOGICALLY not emotionally....
I think this is one of my faults ....emotional destructions
Thank you Jocko
Lesson learned
Got a new job as a physiotherapist in a ward where us two physios are kind of the leaders. I'm not used to it. We're both very agreeable and very young so there's a lot of assertiveness to practice. Extreme Ownership and your videos have been an invaluable resource, Jocko, thank you so much.
That is from extreme ownership "Don't micromanage"/"decentralized leadership"
I love how he casually waves a switch blade around in a way that makes it obvious he knows how to use it.
Jocko is JACKED!!!
Jackedo
Shaking in terror while jocko holds the knife and gets more open with his arms lmao
I like that he is giving this lecture while casually holding and using a switchblade to emphasize his points.
Thanks for the insight (and crazy tangent). As an younger Engineer finally getting my first small taste of Leadership, this is already very difficult for me. There are a lot of small details that do need to be sweat over, but finding out Quickly which ones need more attention than others is a challenge. It's something I will need to develop.
The sleeve grab is one of the things that tripped me up so bad as a young leader. As a more mature leader I’m able to discern it now.
Keith Douglas lives on thru Jocko. RIP
One of my favorites! Great motivator! Great speaker! Thank you for your work! (i have a photo with both "The Dichotomy of leadership" and "Extreme ownership" that i want to uload but i cannot see how...
Excellent video. I've learned to distinguish between what matters and doesn't matter for quite sometime now. Some people dont understand, some people I try to help to a point of embracing this ideology and some, look at me like I am crazy or not "normal". Can't win them all. I know it's allowed me to take better control of my life in all aspects. No regrets.
Great stuff! Thanks Jocko and Echo, used this in class after reading some of The Obstacle is the Way.
Definitely good points. Focus and win by staying at 30,000 ft view versus stuck in the weeds
There’s only time to win one objective at a time in the moment.
I am guilty....thank you for reminding us.
"...The thing that distracts you from what actually matters..." ~ like me wondering what brand of cool blade that is Jocko is waving around. Perfect.
We need The Rock cut into this yelling “IT DOSENT MATTER” lol
This IS GOOD.
You can tell echo gets a little nervous when Jocko gets fired up holding the knife
Echo's bicep gets a little nervous
I can’t remember who said it but some guy suggested the same thing about professional sports. Professional sports don’t. Matter.. but they’re just another distraction for people to put time & energy into.
If you catch a game here and there to unwind that’s fine! It’s those people who religiously follow sports. A) it’s a game and B) you aren’t even the one playing.. focus on your life and your responsibilities
Not worrying about the things that don't matter, doesn't mean you do not maintain awareness of when they might begin to matter.
Positive vibes to you fellas! SO needed to hear this today.
Be a minimalist on things that matter. Similiar to the write 25 pick 5 most important from the list and focus on those.
Jocko you’re a true Champion
My hunger will not matter after my mom finishes cooking my grilled cheese
Out of the loop. What's this in reference to? Thanks in advance.
Lmaooooo
lmao
Southern Supercar thumbs down! make your own Fucking grill cheese pussy!
Your mom? Come on man...
Thanks Jocko you’re an amazing gentleman
The knife doesn't matter, just the conversation
"control your emotions"
👌
I'm feeling the message. Didn't think the war scenarios read from the book tied in well but still a great tip to remember
All the hashtags link together, all the hashtags I've been posting like mad over the past 4 days. I then took all those hashtags and spread them through major UA-cam videos. GANGNAM Style, a bunch of Joe Rogan, Jocko Willink videos etc. I then posted a topic about "Philadelphia Activism" on Reddit in r/Politics. Then I messaged different MSM news outlets and the Phillies DeFranco show. Then I donated $10 to the Wounded Warrior Project on Facebook, created a fundraiser and checked in from Puerto Rico and Philadelphia repeatedly. Somebody somewhere knows something about this
Holy shit, him holding the knife is a metaphor. Looking at the knife, laughing at the image of him swinging it around to really drive home a point (pun intended), is distracting you from listening to what he's saying "what actually matters". If you didn't watch the whole thing and learn to ignore the life then you're not practicing what he's talking about.
Alright kids, gather round for story time with Jocko! Who else wants to hear this guy read audiobooks?
Awesome . Jocko thank you sir
Great lessons.
Thank you Jocko and Echo.
These vids changed my life
The knifes a nice touch J
JOCKO FOR PRESIDENT. Please.
Don't major in Minors! Great Video!
What about a past relationship? It doesn't affect the end goal, but it definitely affects the NOW goal, which I guess in turn could affect the outcome slightly.
Love talking with my switch blade too
Amazingly insightful, powerful and profound.
im glad i get to join in with your above the RIM MOMENT..
Stop staring at the dagger, doesn't matter. 💪🏾😁
Perfect way to plug his book - just leave it there laying on the broadcast desk with the spine facing the camera. I’m going to read “The Dichotomy of Leadership” now because I’m intrigued with his character.
People at work get caught up in petty crap. Just shows how pathetic our culture is.
Love how he plays with the knife. Jocko «The Joker» Willink
Or as Jim Rohn used to put it when referring to things that aren't worth worrying about, "Don't take that class!"
Detachment is important.
Jocko, I try to copy your attitude and mental toughness in every day life, thx bro #control your emotions.
Daaaaang. Echo is so jacked in this video!!!
You saved my life.
When you care more, you care less.
As an Officer I have to think everything matters.
I wish my old 1st sgt understood that... he yelled at Marines about blousing their boots as they were running out of the COP on QRF, for a Marine who was a double amputee.....
I suppose there is a method to a madness. Those who get picky about stupid sht at work are usually conformist a$$ kissers without a life, single minded about creating and thus controlling conflict as a means of leverage and negotiation. As a pick up artist once said, yes, you might be bad at haggling over a car price with a dealership, but your degree of empathy for others and appreciation of quality of life and respect for others are great benefits too for mental health and being good family with people that are important - even if it goes in the way of needing to be a cold cocking negotiator at time squeezing the most dollars than the other. There is a price and a risk to pay in either behavior, the latter behavior can still be reasonably good at negotiating but not to the point of causing acrimony over pennies and to be so compulsive as to alienate people who care for you equally with people who do not. Good team work and leadership would find extreme value on those good team members who are needed in dire situation and who would not use that situation to short sightedly haggle with other team members to the death, literally. The coward without a life is a judas to be watched and known by all.
Perfect! Thank you so much!!
Thank you for helping me. I was so low and broken. My wife cheated on me. Then I caught her then she done it a grin and I caught her on vido when she thought I was in my room. Everything she ses or bring up is a fight or I'm always wrong. She never listens not even to her owne stuff she ses. I wish you had more on brake ups. Roger Willey showed me ur vido. And it helped a lot. Even affter she has done everything to brake our unity's marriage. I wish I could talk to you one on one.
Been there man it gets better
Do you have a audio book for the discipline equals freedom book?
I liked how he was just waving a knife around while he was talking. I know it’s just a little thing he does that doesn’t technically _matter_ to what he’s saying. It just made me laugh how intense that would look to a stranger.
Don't get cought up in thing's that don't matter!😉
I can hear the play in that blade, but I do appreciate this rant while pointing around with a switch blade, made me laugh.
We gonna really be taken back when we see Jocko for the first time and he's in colour.
Hes a normal dude. He goes to BJJ tournaments for kids sometimes in San Diego. Laid back normal dude.
5K views and 516 likes with 0 dislikes. Unanimous. Everyone loves you Jocko!!!
a great message, I'm glad I subscribed
Sometimes it's good to step back take a moment and look from a different perspective
My employees thought I was as cool as a cucumber. Perspective. After 35 years as the boss, you get perspective.
You make a good point.
Well Framed. Thank you Jacko.
This is intense sweet Lord Jesus
Why wife my work try to get me caught up in dumb shit everyday. I ignore 90 percent of it and focus on the real....the stuff that keeps us moving forward and not the white noise.
using youtube and seeing what gets recommended when it comes to winning others, its overwhelming and unrealistic how much couple relationships are forced, and to me a grown adult not a middle schooler, that doesnt matter because it can be fake, so i wait for one NOT like that.
This is deep and goes above Jujitsu..