Here’s Why Dating Online is A Waste of Time For Average Men

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  • @ZFosterZ
    @ZFosterZ 3 роки тому +33

    “Let’s face it, 5’7” youre practically a midget!”
    😂
    Pmsl.
    Brilliant.
    True though.
    I’m 5’8” and my height doesn’t bother me but I understand it’s a deal breaker for many woman.
    Is what it is.
    I’d say, meet a woman in real life.
    You at least see each other, take in mannerism, character and looks.
    Don’t go chasing.
    Live your best life, achieving for you.
    Let her show she wants you.
    I’ve tried online dating.
    Goddamn.
    It’s a travesty.
    95% of woman I did match with and speak to.... it’s like pulling teeth, they have no banter, boring and only speak about themselves.... they aren’t even inquisitive about you at all, even with casual questions.
    Waste of time. Most of them who are on it, do so out of boredom and an ego stroke.
    Just makes no sense.
    And they are dominated with single mums, sometimes even with children born within a year of signing up to the app....! usually too, with multiple kids.... and oddly, they share photos of their kids on their profile... usually even as their profile pic...! Why?
    There’s nothing to be ashamed of no, usually profiles you can say you have kids or not, cool, but to advertise your children online for total strangers to see.... bit alarming in people’s mindset in protecting their children’s security.
    Good they are being open and honest, sure. But damn.
    Clueless.
    Nothing wrong with single parents, but when you realise you’re going to be a meal ticket, stay away.
    Dating apps really were meant as an easy hook up.
    Unless you fall into the 6-6-6 category (6ft, six figure job, 6+ inch one eyed wonder wiener).
    You ain’t getting much.

    • @coupleofbeers31
      @coupleofbeers31 2 роки тому

      Only in the US, Western Europe, and Aus/NZ. Everywhere else it's not that important. In fact in many countries 5'7 is normal and even a little above average for a man.

    • @thuhuongdao6093
      @thuhuongdao6093 2 роки тому +1

      5'7 is perfectly good height for shorter girl but still attractive enough. I feel insecurity a little when i date guys too tall for me. It's never the case dont worry about that.

    • @coupleofbeers31
      @coupleofbeers31 2 роки тому

      Think of it this way. 6'2" is considered quite tall here in the US and 5'7" short. But in terms of percentage and fractions, if you're 5'7 you are 90% as tall as 6'2. Meaning you are technically close to 6'2. People make a huge deal about a few inches. If you're 4 foot you are more than 50% as tall as a 7 footer.

    • @coupleofbeers31
      @coupleofbeers31 2 роки тому

      Another example. I saw Lil Wayne on tmz the other day and people were commenting on how he was "half" the size of the man standing next to him, who was a 6'4 dude. Lil Wayne is 5'4. 5'4 is 84% of 6'4. So he's got most of 6'4 covered and then some! So people are making a huge deal about a mere foot. If it weren't for Lil Wayne's 5'4 that other dude would only be a foot tall, is another way of looking at it.

    • @robertgarraway-144k
      @robertgarraway-144k 2 роки тому +1

      Bro 6 feet is short also 😭

  • @sauljapuntich
    @sauljapuntich 3 роки тому +48

    Buddy I'm almost 6' 3" and I can't find anyone. The standards are unreal

    • @donramon2501
      @donramon2501 3 роки тому +2

      Them some ugly woman who thinks they 8s and they want the highs of men . Also the woman who looks good in dating apps they give a time a day to a regular looking fella

    • @7Soldier_of_God7
      @7Soldier_of_God7 3 роки тому +9

      Focus on your purpose man. Filter out ALL the bad women and you will find a good one... and yes dating is trash today.

    • @messigoat5565
      @messigoat5565 2 роки тому

      Same. I think problem with me is my face. 😕. I am trying hard to get success.

    • @jcransome5616
      @jcransome5616 2 роки тому +1

      Duuuude. I see women with minimum wage dad bods because they happen to be tall. Just be a doofus

    • @robertgarraway-144k
      @robertgarraway-144k 2 роки тому +1

      You need to gym max and looks max

  • @pasfabio27
    @pasfabio27 3 роки тому +28

    In my experience the pickiest girls i met are all over 40-45. They have insane requirements lists and the slightest thing they dump you.

    • @juggalogamer8541
      @juggalogamer8541 3 роки тому +9

      Exactly what's funniest people think it's all all young girls acting like no it's women in their f****** 30s and 40s

    • @littlekingtrashmouth9219
      @littlekingtrashmouth9219 3 роки тому +7

      They should’ve been more choosy earlier on. Now they’re just listing their mistakes and holding other men accountable for their past poor decisions

    • @gailainsley6939
      @gailainsley6939 Рік тому

      Exactly. 😂 he doesn’t know what his talking about. Young women in my group are less likely to be picky. They don’t know value of money, house, car etc. they just going off emotions.

    • @gailainsley6939
      @gailainsley6939 Рік тому

      @@juggalogamer8541 Bingo!

  • @jakebritton9709
    @jakebritton9709 2 роки тому +14

    I'm 28 and havent had an actual date since I was 18/19. It's this point in time where I realize that dating, hooking up none of it holds no point to me. Why would I waste my time and effort looking for something or someone that wouldn't see me as being of value when I can direct that energy to other efforts instead.

    • @SuperLaney81
      @SuperLaney81 2 роки тому +3

      You have FREED yourself at such young age. You've beaten the game

  • @arjacques486
    @arjacques486 3 роки тому +13

    1. Pay for a subscription so you can see who you’re attracting. 2. If you think those people are below you, you might want to reassess yourself and recalibrate your mind. We’re all swimming in a culture that tells us that we’re judged for our partner’s appearance, and that’s fucked up. Focus on having genuine human interactions, stop thinking of dates like job interviews or carnival rides.

  • @russelllavalle5452
    @russelllavalle5452 3 роки тому +16

    You make very good points. With online dating, always remember the 80/20 rule. 80% of the women looking for a partner online are ONLY interested in the top 20% of men regarding looks, income and status. That is all there is to it. The other 80% of men better try their luck somewhere else or invest in a girlfriend robot lol!

    • @hankson5002
      @hankson5002 3 роки тому +3

      Very outdated - it´s 95/5 right now.

    • @russelllavalle5452
      @russelllavalle5452 3 роки тому +1

      @@hankson5002 I think it's a little bit of a sliding scale depending on how hot the girl is. 95/5 is probably true for the hottest girls on any given dating app.

    • @okwui04
      @okwui04 2 роки тому

      @@hankson5002 😆

    • @vileproductions8511
      @vileproductions8511 2 роки тому +1

      @@hankson5002 it’s way more like 95-5 rule now .. tinder insights back this up as well .. women use dating apps to date man they can’t access in their normal social circles .. average men or even top 20 percent men are a dime a dozen to them

    • @Og74223
      @Og74223 2 роки тому

      They only swipe 4 % now ….

  • @tezwoacz
    @tezwoacz 3 роки тому +23

    People who are not rich athletes with great career have more important things to do than looking for needle in a heystack.

  • @smashthings4fun
    @smashthings4fun Рік тому +2

    online dating used to work for me as an average man till 2020 came around….

  • @redsquirrel1086
    @redsquirrel1086 3 роки тому +8

    I'm an average looking guy but gave up on online dating pretty quickly because of my height. I'm 5'7" and it was a handicap. One girl I was really attracted to told me up front that she wasn't attracted to me because of it. That hurt like hell but at least she was honest.

    • @jcransome5616
      @jcransome5616 2 роки тому +1

      Dating apps are the truth. Don’t listen to your friends

    • @redsquirrel1086
      @redsquirrel1086 2 роки тому

      @Alex
      That was nice of her!

    • @vlajster
      @vlajster 2 роки тому

      Bro,i am 5ft10 and i banged a 6ft2 girl easy! I just used the right words and wham! Plus i was like 4-5 year younger than her,that was in my early twenties.

    • @BigDome1
      @BigDome1 2 роки тому

      It's a status thing at that point really. They want their friends to see them with a tall, hot guy. It's not even really about what they find attractive, because they are so easily influenced socially it becomes more about what others think. If you meet a girl who isn't obsessed with that stuff then your height won't be a problem, you're only a tiny bit below average.

    • @manji83
      @manji83 Рік тому

      Great. Now I have no problem telling the black ones with bald headed crap, they look like masculine lesbians. I let one down, with a man haircut, easy yesterday.

  • @rodbelding9523
    @rodbelding9523 2 роки тому +2

    I'm 29 and single, and the way modern dating is I genuinely fear it'll be that way forever. Dating apps and social media have made dating impossible. Women have unlimited men at their disposal, so if you're just an average guy you are doomed.

  • @jodyjohnson265
    @jodyjohnson265 3 роки тому +4

    These woman don't know what there missing out on us good men but I found the one in the real world.

    • @Koghent
      @Koghent  3 роки тому +6

      I’m happy for you. Here’s to a long, and happy relationship!

  • @jew1772
    @jew1772 3 роки тому +10

    Based and red pilled.

    • @Koghent
      @Koghent  3 роки тому +2

      Like always >:)

  • @thegoddessinnercircle
    @thegoddessinnercircle Рік тому

    Confidence, leadership, and masculine will make up for not having a lot of money any day.

  • @simonshura9144
    @simonshura9144 2 місяці тому

    It's a blessing 😂 blackpill til i die.

  • @geoffjoffy
    @geoffjoffy 3 роки тому +3

    No views, no messages, no replies

  • @bcluckey
    @bcluckey 3 роки тому +3

    I admire your candor and humor. Well said, my friend

  • @stevem5787
    @stevem5787 2 роки тому +2

    Bad boy is nothing more than a male version of an indecisive/fickle female. Birds of a feather flock together. Keep in mind, every bad boy started off as a good guy that got burned. This is a very distant second choice to man that is successful who gets lots of attention. Funny how HEIGHT is not even an issue with extremely hot women if you're an entertainer?

  • @jcransome5616
    @jcransome5616 2 роки тому

    Online dating is the real uncomfortable truth of where you stand. At least you know now

  • @stevem5787
    @stevem5787 2 роки тому

    He hit on something very important. Females that have definite plans to have children are on a timeline. They know that they can pick themself out of contention. They are nicer and more accomodating before 25. Once they have had kids, divorced, and single, they THEN become unrealistically super picky. He makes a lot of sense

  • @RyuEnGamer
    @RyuEnGamer 2 роки тому

    A lot of people think that you have to be a “Chad” to get results on OLD. That couldn’t be further from the truth. The good looking men with their shit together will have THE WORST luck on these apps.
    1. Girls on the apps are looking for someone VERY specific. Generally a man with low self esteem than theirs so she can control.
    2.Girls on these apps have zero interest in building anything romantic with you. They’re ultimately looking for a reason for you to screw up with them. Just because of the 100+ guys in their queue so
    3. Girls on these apps are really just 2-3’s IRL, mainly because of their shit attitudes that no self respecting man would deal with in the real world.
    The meanest and nastiest women to you will be the 3-6’s even someone of the 7’s.

    • @jcransome5616
      @jcransome5616 2 роки тому

      Lol. Are you a red pilled boomer subscriber. Cope is COOPER level here

  • @starscream9595
    @starscream9595 3 роки тому

    I agree with the video as online dating is a waste of time. I would add due to the way the platform of online is designed to keep women's options flush with too many choices, and they don't limit the number of men she sees, or the amount of messages she can have without reply. The platform encourages women's laziness while on the male side is where these online dating platforms bank their money. You got to spend a good amount of money just to have women see your profile. It's a terrible business model to keep you as a man wasting money on online dating boosters.

  • @blacklyfe5543
    @blacklyfe5543 3 роки тому +15

    Tbh just be yourself stop chasing after girls and let girls chase after you

    • @russelllavalle5452
      @russelllavalle5452 3 роки тому +10

      That works if you are willing to be chased by 250LBS monstrocities lol!

    • @balikbayan832
      @balikbayan832 2 роки тому

      Yap. Only if you are in upper class, celebrity, athlete ,rich guy, etc..

  • @BigDome1
    @BigDome1 2 роки тому +1

    I think some of this is kind of true, except that even average looking women in their 30s can sleep with hot guys and they end up having pretty high standards as a result. The idea that suddenly it gets way easier when you're older, and all these women come back around is partially true but also kind of a cope. I'd argue that women kind of always have the upper hand in dating, and the only way that changes is if your social status significantly changes. Otherwise you will probably deal with the same bullshit when you're 40, assuming you haven't settled down yet. Thankfully there are good women out there, it's just a bit like finding a needle in a haystack.

    • @gailainsley6939
      @gailainsley6939 Рік тому

      Yes. It’s a big time cope. It’s like some revenge fantasy thing that I’ve noticed a lot of guys hold onto the hopes for and I’m glad many are realising it. 😂 Women on average aren’t married until 28-35+ in the west. That is the bitter truth. As a woman in her 20s. I can tell you for a fact that we do not meet great men when we are at this age. Those often come after life experiences and once we know how to weed them out. It’s a lie that there are all of these great guys that we are just turning down. Even rich mens wives are older women. Mostly women in their 30s. That tells you all you need to know because whilst women like Meghan Markle are marrying into royalty at almost 40. Men like Leonardo DiCaprio are not marrying any of the under 25 year olds that he has been with. This is the bitter truth. When we are young, we attract the manipulators, men with Peter Pan syndrome and mummy boys who do not have resources. Not these great men like these dudes with microphones like to assume. 😂

    • @BigDome1
      @BigDome1 Рік тому

      @@gailainsley6939 to be fair, the selection process is your responsibility. If you go on an app you will have 1000 men messaging you, you have to use your intuition and sense to figure out which ones are weird or bad or whatever. Obviously the temptation is to choose the best looking ones, that's understandable, but a poor selection method. A lot of people are just bad at assessing vibes. But at the same time I know some women who are very streetwise in that way and won't hang out with weirdos full stop. But many other women think someone being "charming" means they're a good person, when most of the time those charming guys seem completely creepy to anyone with real social intelligence.

  • @AmandaMG6
    @AmandaMG6 3 роки тому

    I’m super picky but it’s about character instead of looks or money - bc honestly it’s great character that’s rarest

  • @nathanielbables8652
    @nathanielbables8652 2 роки тому

    What if you are 6.1, skinny, black, and have an average income. Where do you stand with that?

  • @kevinmurphy3470
    @kevinmurphy3470 3 роки тому +3

    Straight up facts!

  • @weavorjjohanna5619
    @weavorjjohanna5619 3 роки тому

    online dating is a lose/lose situation,... why ?
    - for those who has been throuh online dating, you often time will be disapointed if you meet your date in real life
    - but if you din't use nice picture, jawline of the god or filter that make you thinner, you won't get any swipe
    in morden day everyone standard is so high they made Mount Everest look like a 5'7 dude in girls eye, so if you are an average guy... seek somewhere else like an event or convention, or library
    honestly, guys standard it a bit lower than girl... i am talking about : "if Sally have a short hair, my heart belong to her"

  • @jlprescott7243
    @jlprescott7243 2 роки тому +1

    It’s not the standard, it’s the quality of women on these sites are pretty poor. Cheers!

  • @paddybrady5874
    @paddybrady5874 3 роки тому +1

    The real world is worse the amount of cockblockers that are out there if you are in with a good looking women is crazy the storys I could tell you. They don't bother me with the ugly ones tho which is nice of them,

  • @ltlwatcher
    @ltlwatcher 2 роки тому

    Not even land whales give me the time if day.

  • @blacklyfe5543
    @blacklyfe5543 3 роки тому +7

    5'7 isn't short it's average

    • @willjones1826
      @willjones1826 3 роки тому +4

      5’7 is a bit short bro, average height for a guy in North America is 5’9- 10

    • @Sams911
      @Sams911 3 роки тому +2

      5'11 is actually the male average

    • @dapenguin1495
      @dapenguin1495 2 роки тому +1

      Yeah it’s short that’s coming from someone who is 5’7

    • @coupleofbeers31
      @coupleofbeers31 2 роки тому

      It's actually the world average but not the US average. Yep, in most other countries men are shorter than in the US. Tallest men are in Northern Europe. Funny enough I am a 5'10 Hispanic male and get hit on by white girls taller than me. It's the short girls that have an issue with my height. It's so weird to see these 5 foot Mexican or Asian girls with dark skin dating these 6 foot 8 white dudes. I see it all the time here in Arizona.

    • @tangerinesarebetterthanora7060
      @tangerinesarebetterthanora7060 2 роки тому

      5'9" but your in the average range. Anybody that says 5'7" is short doesn't really know what their saying.

  • @tspice11
    @tspice11 2 роки тому

    I don’t know what cities y’all live in but it ain’t that bad. I’m a 43 year old man recently divorced. I’m Black and White, 5’6”, stocky build, bald cut, beard. I was very successful on Bumble and Tinder. You have to have swag and good photos. Your description doesn’t even matter. Once you hang out with them get to the point. I’d say it’s sex first and then see where it goes. I wasn’t looking for marriage I just left my wife. Many women are doing the same. I met many women into 3 somes. Some of y’all sound bitter, just have fun.

    • @Koghent
      @Koghent  2 роки тому

      While I don’t necessarily disagree with what you’re saying. I think its important to remember that not everyone is on dating sites looking for the same thing. For some people they’re on there looking for the right person for them in the long term. In that sense it is much harder to find someone on those sites looking to do the same.

    • @tspice11
      @tspice11 2 роки тому

      @@Koghent yeah I am with you on that. You just have to go into it all with no expectations.

  • @byteresistor
    @byteresistor 2 роки тому +1

    The male to female ratio on dating apps is 3:1 or worse. Good luck with that.

    • @okwui04
      @okwui04 2 роки тому

      It's like 7 to 1

  • @TheBetaMalePolice
    @TheBetaMalePolice 3 роки тому +6

    Get your passport

    • @longbeach225
      @longbeach225 3 роки тому

      I did and met a great woman overseas. No insane standards like here in the west.

    • @Lordani66
      @Lordani66 2 роки тому

      @@longbeach225 where exactly if you dont mind me asking?

    • @longbeach225
      @longbeach225 2 роки тому +1

      @@Lordani66 Philippines. I met her when I was sent overseas for 6 months by my company I used to work for.

    • @Lordani66
      @Lordani66 2 роки тому

      @@longbeach225 and you are still with her?

    • @longbeach225
      @longbeach225 2 роки тому

      @@Lordani66 Yes. We got married and had baby girl not long ago.

  • @itsebudesu
    @itsebudesu 3 роки тому

    that ending lol, so good xd

    • @Koghent
      @Koghent  3 роки тому

      I meant it 😭

  • @peterm1826
    @peterm1826 2 роки тому

    I only use online dating for pump and dump😁

  • @offensivesword4628
    @offensivesword4628 2 роки тому

    yo moral of da story, online dating apps are fake and bullshit, why i say that? I have succeeded in real life lol.

    • @Koghent
      @Koghent  2 роки тому

      I’m proud of you king you made it

  • @ferrychomer1551
    @ferrychomer1551 3 роки тому +1

    U got to be a model lol

  • @jackoff-18
    @jackoff-18 3 роки тому +1

    It's too easy for black guys

  • @at68250
    @at68250 2 роки тому

    Yeah I Don't Even Understand Why girls are So Picky With Men I Just Don't get it 🤔🤔 Unrealistic Expectations Lol I Would have Batter like in The Real World Thaink you Very much for This Video:-)

    • @Koghent
      @Koghent  2 роки тому +1

      You are very welcome

  • @Strawhalo
    @Strawhalo 3 роки тому

    Are you a Fba?

  • @joepic85
    @joepic85 2 роки тому

    Lol ya im like 6ft and not fat. I get a lot of fat girl matches. Ha

  • @maxine460
    @maxine460 2 роки тому

    No way are you below average x

  • @ferrychomer1551
    @ferrychomer1551 3 роки тому

    Ur right

  • @blacklyfe5543
    @blacklyfe5543 3 роки тому +1

    You can still have kids at 30 and what you're saying is ridiculous ik people who are 40 and 50 who get pregnant my mother had my baby sister at 38 and a lot of people had the same experience

    • @Koghent
      @Koghent  3 роки тому +6

      I never said it was impossible, I think you missed that.

    • @jimmysettle4712
      @jimmysettle4712 3 роки тому +2

      It’s incredibly irresponsible late 30s or later.

  • @Nyufly
    @Nyufly 3 роки тому

    Stop telling the truth. It's triggering me!!!! 😩😩😩😩😏

    • @Koghent
      @Koghent  3 роки тому +2

      this is how it feels to be mentally awakened my friend

    • @Nyufly
      @Nyufly 3 роки тому +1

      @@Koghent lol that was sarcasm. I've been red pill for like 6 years now.

  • @Linda-ju9wt
    @Linda-ju9wt 3 роки тому

    I am sorry - are you nuts? Women in 30 aren´t hot anymore? :DD Oh boy

    • @tangerinesarebetterthanora7060
      @tangerinesarebetterthanora7060 2 роки тому +1

      If their the party girl types drinking their nights away and snorting coke constantly then it's usually true. If their healthy then it's a different story.