What Are The Four Interactions Styles? | Structure: ESTJ, ESTP, ENTJ, ENFJ | CS Joseph
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- Опубліковано 15 вер 2024
- Today we will discuss what are the four interaction styles for the Structure types: ESTJ, ESTP, ENTJ, ENFJ
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~ says is a movement type
~ proceeds to run as records video and defends against mosquitoes
😂😂
I can’t see an ENTJ complaining about being called controlling... unless you aren’t obeying 😉
I love how nothing stops you from continuing what you're saying 😂
As a DIC - ENFJ, I've learned to lean into chaos (like being a substitute teacher) because it gives me something to provide structure to. I can exercise my ability to initiate social change and situational control when there's chaos. Once order is created or restored, I feel very satisfied.
Someone's got to do it, as an INFJ subbing is my nightmare.
I like the DIC analogy. I know a few DICs out there, they fit into the category nicely :)
I’m sorry but I laughed like a child when u said the DICs
Lol, when you start running ^_^ hahaha
My family has all movement in their interaction style and I’m the only one control. I think it has helped me a little bit to be faster at doing things instead of taking my time. However, I’ve noticed how cool and liberating it feels to stay at home alone without my family and just taking my time to do whatever I want (laundry, my make up, clean, dinner, etc.)
Your comments in ENTJ are so precise! My mom is an ESTJ, she's an accountant (good in numbers and concern with profitability) and invest in real estate (we own 2 buidlings which are both apartment complexes).
initiating vs responding = extrovert vs introvert, direct vs informativ = few words on the spot vs many words cryptic, control vs movement = structure and milestones vs chaos and need for progress. Is my summary of interaction styles correct?
pretty damn close.
Movement is process oriented. That isn't chaos. Specially for Chart the Course types.
I think a lot of people have a hard time believing ESTPs are not starter and movement types. I watched the movie The Fast and the Furious and those guys are ESTPs. I never see them structured or in charge unless they are put in a situation to be that way or they are in their ISTJ shadow.
I understand they are direct. My ESTP always tells me that she is direct and to the point.
I’m just now listening to this video. You nailed it. When (as an ENFJ), I feel like my hands are tied and I have no control in a personal situation, over time it does make me lethargic. It’s very weird, because I’m normally a very energetic person.
I will say, however, that I’m a talker. As is my ESTP stepdaughter. But my ESTJ husband is a man of few words. But when he speaks, it’s always with a lot of practical wisdom. It’s amazing how much insight all four of these types have. My father’s an ENTJ. We’re all deep thinkers.
Edit: When I say no control in a personal situation, I mostly mean no say. If I’m not heard, or my thoughts aren’t considered and I need to just sit back and say nothing in a destructive situation, I can go to a really dark and negative place in my mind. Can you tell that’s where I’m at right now...? 😑Prayers the only thing that helps me through it.
I know im a DIC🙊😉 because when i went to a party, i sought out someone whose responding and movement. So in highschool i went to a party. Most of my classmates were clickish so i wanted to hang with someone who was visibly alone. I saw a guy hunched over at a table. I literally pulled up a chair right next to him, smiled big and said "hi Im Emme! And you are?" He lit up like a Xmas tree. We spent the whole party goofing off and sharing stories. I was like that in college too. I met my best friend the same way. She was sitting alone on a bleecher when i asked, "you wanna play volley ball?" I had no idea she would request me to be her roomate and we'd go through a lot of good/bad times together. I don't do well when I'm with people of same interaction styles (well duh haha 😅) I usually end up appearing sheepish... when im actually trying not to overtake them. Im asking myself, "should i respond with sympathy? Information? Or just smile and nod?! Ugh i need to talk to someone else!" 😜😆😇
I wouldn't say my ENTJ is a man of few words. He's definitely a talker. He wants to tell people about everything he is passionate about in such a way that they love it too. Not sure if this is an ENTJ trait.
He is a Choleric-sanguine.
I'm pretty sure anyone, regardless of type, will come across as informative when they are talking about something they are passionate about.
I'm an ENFJ and I talk a lot haha, but at the same time, I'm shy ;-;
Your channel is GOLD. You are amazing!
Much appreciated, too bad I am hated just as much.
I second that.
Couldn't be any more educational than that! ❤️
'controlled chaos' Yeah I'm gonna quote that one.
The part running was also great!!
I love your commitment to making these videos. Even if that means you have to run to make them lol!! It's adorable!
CS Joseph, thank you for this video. Appreciated.
Season 2 is AMAZING!!!
Running during ESTP, so appropriate
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FUCK YEAH THIS IS WHY WE LOVE YOU NARROWING SHIT DOWN LETS GOOOOO HOOOH HOOOHOOOH!!!!!!!
Think you just nailed my enfj shirt to the fence. Great platform.
I dont know alot about the other types in this video but the estp I'm involved with is easily brought to reason with encouraged responding. He has had a chance to really calm down a bit as he is in his seventies. The adrenaline junkie aspect of his personality is still there but the trick to winding down the chasing of windmills or the justifiable anger outbursts or impatience is to engage his mind with appropriate questions. He calms right down because a mature older estp (if they survive all the inadvisable risks they take and make it past middle age) has an interesting mind. Their experience balances the intellectual or the idealist. They are well worth the time it takes to calm them down to a more rational calm state. They are also hugely fun at helping you figure out how to create a minds eye construction of something. My estp and I are working on moral issues, spiritual issues, health issues, a cast net we found and rescued together, some bushcrafting projects and he has agreed to help me implement some technical engineering of a few inventions that my mind has conceived while loosening up enough alow my nt to reenergize by his motivational presence. I believe Estps can be either a really destructive force or highly beneficial motivators but it really depends on how they are socialized and educated and nurtured. You really cant let these guys get bored. that can be really dangerous. you also have to make sure their social needs are constantly met. If you do this for them you will have the most loyal supporter you can possibly have. They say intjs which is my type dont deal well with the estp but it can work very well if you are secure in yourself and you figure out what your estp needs. If they get on one of their little crusades and try to make somthing happen you cannot deal with let them figure it out by asking them ok how would this work what would we have to do and get to make this happen. And so on and so forth. Let them talk it out till they realize it isnt worth it or they convince you it is worth it. If you say we they see you as an extension of themselves and treat you with more respect then anyone has ever shown me. I ever have to worry about that fear we intjs have about backstabbing with this one. My estp is the most loyal protective person I have ever met. I am for the first time in my life at ease until I have to stop him from chopping down a tree in ninety degree weather lol. But even that is not too bad because I just fuss and ask him the right questions until he agrees to come in rest and cool off. One thing the estp and intj really get is an appreciation for loyalty we may disagree about some things but we are dedicated to each other and we both know how life was without the fierce loyalty we have for the other. I will not let anything or anyone hurt him and he will not let anything or anyone hurt me.
You’re so informative with how you update us with all the weather conditions around you during the filming 😅
I just find it FASCINATING that one of the In Charge types has Ti as one of its top two functions, the same function which is seen as unnecessary complication by Te dominants. What a mystery!!!
Rami Fakhry ESTP here and this resonates extremely well because I like Te a lot, and used to think I don’t Ti much. Well I had an erroneous representation of Ti use by ESTPs:
It's worth noting that, unlike the NTP types, ESTPs do not tend to apply Ti toward formal logic or hypothetical argumentation. While they do enjoy a good competition, they may grow irritated and impatient quickly with what they see as irrelevant hypothetical discussion and continual argumentative posturing. (In this way they are easily distinguishable from ENTPs, who will play devil's advocate and dance conversational circles around both friends and foes purely as a means of exploration and entertainment.) When ESTPs do engage in arguments, it's generally a function of removing whatever obstacle (most often another party in disagreement) is preventing them from getting back into the action where they feel most at home. In most cases they'd much rather get back to doing something that makes a tangible and objectively obvious difference to something in the outwardly observable world.
Would you be able to make a pro-tips video for the four interaction styles? ie: how to make structure? how to finish? etc... I've been looking for videos like this but you tube just isn't cutting it.
sure ill do that
"Organized chaos" - thats the term i use to describe my room :D
Direct has few words
Extroverts initiate convos, introverts respond
Control (own pace, takes time) vs movement
Crafting a situation where a structure type can't initiate :
Type them, do a surprise party, initiate talking to them, do things before they talk
Worked with my ESTJ fellow human, he just watched a bit lost
Control and initiating comes like such a tie for DICs you basically control one by controling the other
What a nice place 😊 interesting video ❤️
Sometimes I think mosquitos have preferences between the types. I allways see that entps tend to get bit more.🤣
Love this! Also, I can think of a way where it's possible to force initiating individuals into a situation where they can't initiate: how about being only surrounded by people who don't speak the same language. As an ENFJ who grew up being "foreign" I can say that it's very alienating and stressful when people will only converse with you if you learn their language first, but then make fun of you like you're a huge idiot because you pronounce things funny or make grammatical errors 😬😂
LOL!!!! “They’re not very voluminous with their words!” Says the cryptic. It’s like you didn’t want them to hear you say that they have a weak vocabulary. 😂🤣😂🤣😂
- INFP
When I rehearse conversations in my mind it goes smooth.. Then I open mouth and suddenly I don't find any words😑
Most of the time I have to remind myself to not say things which contradict my earlier statement,so that I don't sound hypocrite.. because my mind tend to see opinions from different perspectives all the time. Overthinking sucks😓
-INFP here
Can an initiating type with a history of low-self esteem (or cultural conditioning, or even PTSD from childhood abuse) end up behaving like a responder? For eg., they have the strong urge to initiate but get held back by anxiety or negative thoughts, making them come across as responders. I ask because I know women like this, particularly those who have been raised in very rigid, traditional households. I personally don't initiate unless the circumstances push me to it and there is no other way, then yeah, I get extremely initiative and will start acting like ENTJ (too lazy and too lost in my own head otherwise).
Another question, which types are most likely to have OCD?
Hi Mr Joseph,
Great video. I really enjoy your work! Thanks for the sharing!
I don’t know if you still read the comments on your earlier videos, but I take a chance and ask you:
Which book from Linda Berens on Interaction styles would you recommend.
Regards,
Understanding series
ENFJ is triple direct too, cause ISTP subconcious and ESTJ super ego are direct too.
Irving Malcolm Cáceres you are correct, although I usually do not count the super ego in terms of saying triple direct
C.S. Joseph Oh, ok
Irving Malcolm Cáceres the reason for this is because how rare it is for someone to be in their superego, it’s like the button that is marked, use for emergencies only. That being said, your point is still correct :)
What if you never talk to people as you are afraid of them, but if you weren't afraid of them, you would talk to any of them & Initiate a huge monologue.
Thnx CSJ...
Well... interesting... I am really ‘special’ ENFJ, as I am direct but really informative even more and I can talk a lot as I want to explain it all.. so people will get it.. there you go.. we really are not all ‘the same ‘..😜😀and yes- I am definitely ENFJ😜🥴😃😅
What he means is that you have little love for bullshit.
Anil Palan ✅🤣
ENFJ are very tolerant. But they still are in charge. Make no mistake.
This has through me also as an ENFJ I am never short of words I talk a lot, and for the exact same reason as you I like to inform so no gray areas on what I am getting at haha, I then assumed it is because the part of the world I am from people are known for talking a lot haha :D but as someone in the comments to this posts says little love for BS haha which is true
Brilliant! ^_^
The "dics" 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 thank you soooo much !!!! It's so much easier to save 🤣🤣🤣🤣 I'm a dick 0/ !!!
d.i.c i love saying that ... think i just swallowed ... a fly XD i lost it at that point XD that was hilarious i just love puns :3
At first I thought I can’t be control Bec i can be very quick reactive deciding and delegating and problem solving (estp I believe). And I don’t view myself as NEEDING to take my time, Bec when it’s needed I’m alllll BOOM BOOM BOOM done. Lol. I think of it more as very insistent and going to move at the personally preferred time flow lol. Or personally designated/decided to move at flow. Bec in a crisis or panic and everyone is BLAHHH AHHH I def move immediately into action problem solving delegating etc while everyone else is still spinning and confused. But I realize now that that is just immeidately ordering the chaos 😂 rather than “thriving “ in chaos it’s more a… able to bend chaos back into order efficiently af , which is often BEFOFE the chaotic/movement types have finished yapping and reporting random useless facts that are slowing down getting shit done. 🤣😂 hmm. Anywhoooooo.
Also number of words versus quality/efficiency or reason for speaking I think are diff things. I can talk a lot sometimes but I am always in trouble for the directness. And informative peoole i immeidately have physical energy and am resisting the urge to scream HURRY TF UP WHAT IS UR POINT GET TO IT. lol 😂 so again makes me feel like informative people are always being incredibly slow , vague and creating work lol when communicating. Which to me (from my perspective ) slows down commjnication. But now that I’m clear on how all the words and labels are being used In this context here I got it. I’m def control type af 😂
LOL - its true, i have no rationale to save my life....
Can someone explain „initiating“ and „responding“ better? I‘m extremely shy amd worry what others think of me about what I say so I tend to back off talking to ppl (except when I‘m drunk), but in the past I often started conversations with ppl who were shyer than me.
First you say that the in charge types are very structured oriented, then you say that they will break every rule in an organization, i'm confused :$
Please help me understand.
ANd donald Trump is not a man of few words as we see him, then how can we identify an in charge type?
+C.S. Joseph I appreciate this soooooooooooooo much...!!! (Wow so many flies to bug...)
Literal flies or...? :)
Great vid
Could you expand on the infj having shit rational?
they have this problem where they can believe just about anything and struggle to show their work on their math homework
i used to be a responder, now i feel i can switch between initiator and responder. due to a combination of comfort zones and positions in social anad work heirarchy.
initiating vs responding is just which one you prefer, nothing to do with which one you're better at.
@@CSJoseph wow I don’t know why but this comment finally made me understand the interaction styles. Thanks C.S. Keep informing these muthafuckas
What cognitive function is C.S. Joseph talking about when he says INFJs and ISFJs have no rationale?
I have always thought my boss was a DIC…
lol
I'm sorry but how the hell do you just stay in character at 10:51, that was hilarious.
I'm ENTJ but I don't like to initiate convo with people, I much prefer just straight up controlling them with no communication but that isn't possible...
Can a fast talker (not a manipulative though, it's other way around honestly), who talks a lot be a ISTP ? But also I'm direct, I mean what I say ALL the time ?
ISTP triple direct and starter type so it is possible
🤣 when you run. Maybe you should make a vid of you jogging and lecturing. It will entertain me a lot 🏃♂️🙊🤣
I printed your type grid, you talk about (direct initiating and control) however on the type grid it says (direct initiating an outcome). Is outcome synonymous with control?
Yes
I just figured out that my hubby and my favorite fictional char. are probably the same type (ESTP):-D Seems like I definitely have some kinda pattern thing goin on:-D
Which cognitive functions have those 4 in common?
they are from different quadras so no function in common
what type do you think would have a gambling problem?
ISXPs
Does the same issue of not liking decisions being made for them apply to the background types as well? I'm pretty sure my dad is an ISFJ and he does NOT like having decisions made without his input.
No, that is kind of a Te thing, but also an SP/NJ thing
@@CSJoseph Thank you.
What happens if a woman is an INFJ and her first born is also and INFJ and the second born is an ESTP?
They are going to butt heads a lot.
Im direct, responding, control... apparently that's not a thing. I dont boss people around, but I'm a person of few words and if I want something from someone I'll ask nicely. I dont beat around the bush. I dont say 1000 words to convey a single message. I ask nicely. Or propose the idea. That's direct right? I consider myself an ISFP
control is focused on the outcome, movement is focused on the process if that helps.
Responding, direct, & informative confirming exception to the standard(s).
I'm the same. I'm thinking maybe it could be something like he said in the video, about putting a control type into a situation where they don't want to control around them, for whatever reason. It really does work and we become lazy. I suspect this of myself too. It could just be some big insecurities stopping them from initiating. Could this happen, Chase?
I’m an estp who is pretty direct, but I talk A LOT like people constantly tell me to shut up..so am I like not estp? But I do love initiation and control
Are slow and take your time doing things or are fast and make your decisions fast?
@@ashuranero5721 fast
@@ally1310 Then you are not control. And if you talk alot then you are informative. I guess you are also Initiating then.
1. Are abstract or concrete?
Pragmatiscm vs. Affiliative
1. Pragmatic: Being all about independant, self deterministic and caring less about the agreement of the group
2. Affiliative: Being all about interdependance and being with the group. Considering the agrrement of your group and trying to go with the values of the group
@@ashuranero5721 pragmatic- I’ve retyped myself since then- I think I’m ENTP? Also idk about abstract vs. concrete. A bit of both?
@@ally1310 Systematik vs. Interest
Systematik: You have a method/strategy for your actions and thinks you do either be it scientific or by law
Interest: Being more concerned about other peoples agenda and what everyone gets out of a situation including you
Can you talk a lot and still be an ESTJ or an ENTJ? If ESTJs and ENTJs are not talkers then both my dad and my sister are ESFJs with an ENTJ demon.
I know ESTPs are not major talkers. I think ENFJs are actually major talkers. I know of a few ENFJs on UA-cam who talk a lot in their videos like Megan LaVita.
By the way, Linda Berens believes that she is an INTP in all four sides of her mind. She said on UA-cam that even in her subconscious, unconscious snd superego she is an INTP.
Those can all be very talkative in the right scenarios.
I initiate sometimes and I can do it when I like someone I do it easily and I'm responding also, so what's that supposed to mean? And I'm INFP, can you explain it please ?
Yeah, it is you using your subconscious or your unconscious, please watch season 1 and 2 to find out more.
C.S. Joseph I will
You are really amazing in replying on the comments here quickly, really thank you 🌸🌸
You are quite welcome ^^
not direct, not initiating but control (takes jolly sweet time.) is there such a type?
yes, background types, ISFJ, ISFP, INFP, and INTP
I know this video has nothing to do with INFJs but you are completely wrong about them not having rationale. I also noticed in your video about INFJs, you describe immature and unhealthy behaviors. Might I suggest surrounding yourself with more mature versions of this archetype for a more balanced view on them?
I believe he just said that because they both have Te trickster (second to last function) which in previous videos he said that the trickster is the function you mostly don't even know you have.
He doesn’t describe them that way at all. INFJs literally lack rational because of Te trickster, what they have is logic, with Ti child. Watch his videos without taking things personally and seeing everything as judgement. The INFJs have been so glorified by dumb internet articles and communities with no real knowledge of actual jungian psychology, we’re not rainbow-shitting unicorns, we’re exactly as human and flawed as every other type.
Pol Mak He should do a video on how “Te Trickster” prevents INFJs from having rationale then. If there actually is one, fee free to point it out.
Jess Elki Te literally is rationale. Watch his INFJ video and his Te video
Pol Mak I watched the INFJ one, will watch the “Te video.” Thanks.
This guy LOVES tai lopes....lol
Trisha Lee just because I use him as an example does not mean I love the guy
Just saying....I binge watched your videos and was able to pick up Tai Lopez 6 times at least haha
oops. it was a mistake to mention Tai Lopez twice, now four times, in a comment. Now youtube won't stop throwing his ads at me. Stahpp it Tai!!
my condolences :S
U must have Ti Trickster or Ti Demon to come to that Conclusion haha XD There is absolutly no logical connection between talking about something/someone and loving it. u can also talk often about something u hate.
Don't ENFJ's talk a lot?
Not always
Trump is ESTP right?
No, he is ENTJ.
Cool thx
Trump trump trump... is his BRAND his ISFP subconscious into manifestation is just right there...!! He did indeed acted a little ESTPish during the elections but that was for the race
Wow you have lost weight. (Since this)