How to Treat a Person with Disabilities, According to People with Disabilities
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- Опубліковано 2 жов 2024
- We talk to people living with disabilities about the proper ways to treat someone with disabilities.
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How to make video about disabled persons: Don't use a sad background music
LITERALLY IT'S JUST SO ANNOYING
In the arms of the angels... I like sad music for sad people. Teach then to work at Mcyds and cook those burgers!
Good comment. Brother
Another one I hate is if you don’t “look disabled” you’re not. I have autism. It affects the way I think and process the world. No one asks me for help when the sensory overload gets too much or comforts me when I get nervous and stim, but instead ask, “What’s wrong with you?”, because to everybody else, I look like everybody else.
What infuriates me on people who have autism, they're never given a chance to show what they can do. I have cerebral palsy but it's extremely mild compared to what a lot of others with the same condition are going through. The thing I'm tired of is entitled parents accusing the disabled of faking just to get a disabled check and these are the same ones who park in handicapped parking spaces and act like it's justified.
@@steveboone1498 I’m so sorry.
@@dontmindme.imjustafraidofe9327 No need to worry.
Thanks for sharing your feelings. Don't let your disability defined you don't be ashamed , nobody better smarter than you nobody better than you . I rather be kind not a bully
@@chrissystewart6268 Thank you so much. Your words are very appreciated.
How to treat people. Treat them like people.
Yeah I don’t ask disabled people about their disability because it’s none of my business. I also don’t help the disabled unless they are showing some difficulty, then I will ask if they need help.
Seems about right, yup.
Same here, that's a sane approach.
I messed myself up bad in an accident. I was in a wheelchair and then moved up to a walker. Most people ignored me but were nice. I was surprised by how many people asked what happened just so they could then tell me their problems.
Friend, your comment reads out as someone who can be careless about others around you & surrounding. When thought for a bit however, your actions are understandable. Leave them be I'll say till noticing a disabled person having difficulty on their own doing a task. To me, that is being helping.
Never completely ignore anyone witnessing have a difficult time doing a task.
@@JCentes00 You just re-stated what he typed dude...
Yes. I really hate it ( not too much tho) when people think I'm so "strong and resilient". I'm not. I'm fighting my own battles everyday. I have minor cerebral palsy. It really isn't that special.
My heart breaks everyday looking at myself sometimes, but I still feel so grateful to be alive and thriving. I'm going to college soon too.
Don’t ever put yourself down in comparison with other people. Yes, the strong and resilient thing can be a stereotype-but chances are that people see it in you when you can’t see it in yourself. Other people will put you down, so never, ever do it to yourself. I have mild CP and I have 3 advanced degrees. I’m twice your age and took me a long time to learn to stand in my power. You will, too.
The thing about people "helping" without asking if someone needs help and without asking how to help is probably comparable to little kids who want to help out in the kitchen but don't know how to. The kid just runs into the kitchen and adds ingredients and mixes stuff together but they don't know how to cook or what needed to be done for the recipe, so they end up ruining the dish. People with disabilities aren't saying that it's wrong to help others, they're just saying that the best way to help is to ask if someone needs help, and ask how to help them, rather than just assume you know exactly how to help them
Amen.
There's pride to maybe they'd prefer to take twice as long and do it on there own,
How bout ya treat them like any other person.
Right! Like "open the door ur self stacy, just cuz u aint got no hands dont mean shit" smh
@@Sommyie - SHUT UP PLEASE! JUST SHUT *TF* UP! *PLEASE!*
@@robbyx5066 what I meant was treat them the way you'd treat anyone else, if they need help.. help them if they don't then don't try to help. I'm disabled and I don't expect help from anyone. However if i need help and someone offers then that's great. But i also don't like it when people try to help when i don't want or need it.
As someone with a disability i find that offensive. You need to baby us, ideally you'd offer a piggyback ride up stairs or maybe a foot rub.
So like shit
Waiting for someone to say this video is 'inspirational'.....
Ugh...
This inspirational
It's informational.
My disabilities are not visible but i still feel the weight of it on me everyday. I look like a normal person you couldn't even tell i'm disabled but when talking to me you can tell. I have brain damage,epilepsy,heart problems plus a lot more and i always tell myself every day just keep moving forward. I liked this video as it gives a voice to the people that are disabled it shows we are people too but my problems with this video it is it should be longer dive deeper into showing more about the day to day life of a disabled person/s and it should show someone who doesnt show a disability but has a disability. Thanks for the video.
Re: Invisible Disabilities. Many persons with disabilities are fighting a battle on several fronts:
1. Suicidal thoughts (ideation).
2. Social ostracism.
3. Social avoidance. Although this only appears voluntary.
4. Poverty.
5. Workplace and job discrimination and harassment.
5. Drug and alcohol addiction.
6. Sexual and financial exploitation.
7.Subordinating one's self and pretending not to have a disability.
8.Victims of crime. Many crimes go unreported.
9.Adopting self annihilating and self-deprecating language.
10.Being treated as though we're invisible.
11.Housing issues and housing discrimination.
All of these things compound problems and create crises.
So the next time you think that people with the invisible disabilities are not included please think of this.
How did you know all of these?😢
1,3,5,5.the battles am fighting 😢😢
I'm a wheelchair user and these things happen ALL THE TIME.
I'll just be pushing my daughter in her pram and people will come up to me and say, 'that's clever' and 'you're so brave' or try to grab the push chair to 'help me'.
I know they mean well, but please stop.
Just treat me the same as others. If you want to be an asshole go for it. its annoying when people go out of their way to be overly nice, its almost patronizing to me. The bigotry of low expectations
Talking about disabilities openly, but respectfully, is the best way to destroy taboos and mental barriers
So because people don't seem to understand the "ask before you help" thing: I use a manual wheelchair. people will often grab and move me because they think I need help. If they do this while I have my hands on the wheels, it can cause me injury, like a broken finger or rip off my fingernail. You wouldn't walk up to a random person, pick them up and move them, would you?
People also like to hold doors for me - by standing in the space I need to safely navigate through the door. They get offended if I tell them they are in the way. They get upset if I roll over their feet. I can manage most doors on my own, but if you really want to help, hold the door in a way that you're out of the doorway. Most are so narrow that I can barely get through without hitting my hands.
I've had literally a line up of ableds wanting to help me unload and assemble my chair when I drive. I'm sure it looks awkward, but unless you have experience assembling a rigid frame manual chair, it's going to take me more energy to explain it and check that you've done it right than to just do it myself. Also, it is important to me to have independence. I hate getting asked every 30 seconds "do you need help?" Like, you just heard me tell the last two people no, let me do my thing.
Oh, asking about a person's disability is kinda sketchy. I get asked all the time what happened. Consider that a person may have experienced a traumatic event which led to their disability and may not want to talk about it. Not to mention, it's private medical information. I don't ask you if your genitals work, don't ask me.
"I get asked all the time what happened "
Was it a BDSM thing? It was a BDSM thing wasn't it
Wtf - You roll over their feet?
You know...the last time I checked, theres nothing wrong with someone trying to help, or lend a hand.
It's YOUR choice to be 'offended' by it.
Equally so, you're expecting people to understand exactly how you see things or perceive things, when it's impossible to do so.
Trust me, the day people STOP trying to be nice...is the day you'll be complaining that 'everyone is a dick and treats me like I don't exist because i'm disabled'.
I do always think it’s a bit cringy when people just walk up to disabled people and ask what happened.
It’s kinda like when I go places where I’m the only black person in the room and someone inevitably walks over and tells me that they voted for Obama (happens every time)
Useful but bitter at the same time
Haha, I like this guy.
To non disability people - just act normal, no need to do anything special. We may move different or look different, but at the end our needs is just like your needs :)
yeah that's true
I treat everyone the same but I do offer help if I think it may be needed. My son offered his arm to a very frail older woman on the bus once and she told him to F--- Off. That was about 15 years ago and we still laugh at that one.
Thank you for this. Must say there is absolutely nothing worse than being told you "don't look disabled" when asking for assistance for a disability. Nothing has hurt more or invalidated my lived experiences as a disabled woman more than that. To ask for a disabled entrance and be told "you don't look disabled" is sickening and just beyond words... I pray that no one else has to go through what I did. Non-disabled people: It is NOT a compliment to tell us we do not look disabled. It is deeply upsetting and invalidating and ignores our experiences of disability.
And if you do “look disabled” they treat you like an infant and also dehumanize you…
It sucks. I'm disabled. I have had epilepsy for about 20 years. People always say, "You don't look disabled, you're weak and sore all the time cause of stress." Or talk to me like a child and say, "You don't understand anything. Someone intelligent would think and do this... "Or "If you would just use your brain..." But if I talk and say something it's "You don't make sense." Or They never acted or said anything to put me down. Or They deny acting rude and disrespectful 😢
@@lisagarcia2602 Jesus. I’m sorry people treat you that way. I hope you remember how people treat you is not a sign of your intelligence, it’s a sign of theirs.
@@lisagarcia2602 Of course that probably doesn’t help much, but I dunno. I just hope you’re doing good
And for the love of everything also don't suggest a cure for our disabilities. You're not my medical team. Sit down.
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Just don't treat them like shit,oopss wrong choice of words.!!
Munden just don’t hug them too hard
first step, do not kick them in the belly.
You're an idiot
as someone with muscular dystrophy (not the wheelchair kind) I see that I will one day end up in a place where I am unable to move at all. I see all disabled people as a great group, able to push through all scenarios that prove to be very disheartening. I hope that all of these people live good lives and have the greatest life imaginable.
Hey man I have spasticity so I will probably end up in a wheelchair and a muscles disorder it makes my muscles weak and I might go blind because of my optic nerve atrophy and cornea dystrophy
Great attitude bro; as one of the biggest challenges I see not talked about is the affect it takes on our mental health and attitude. so it inspires me to see others living their best lives.
There is still a vast number of inequity for the disabled under our very inept SSDI program. It hasn't been adequately updated since it was launched by Pres. Eisenhower. To this day they still send people with disabilities to "vocational rehabilitation". The very same program with a historically low success rate of below 1%.
"By June 1958, more than 800,000 persons had been referred to state vocational rehabilitation agencies and about 95,000 were selected for additional consideration. Yet, only about 550 beneficiaries (0.2 percent of the beneficiary population) were successfully rehabilitated (Social Security Administration 1959)."
-This statement was from the SSA's very own database. Yet no changes to this reality have been made since 1959. Aside from one. Which was the elimination of the age requirement to receive disability. A regulation that is vastly and irresponsibly ignored by Administrative Judges overseeing disability cases. To this day they seem to have ignored this change and still use the "you're under 50" as a reason for the denial of benefits.
My husband is not physically disabled, he has Asberger syndrome. I didn’t recognize it at first because I fell in love with him. Over the course of 14 years, there have been difficult times to try to learn how he communicates and how I need to adapt. I don’t interrupt him when he is trying to convey his thoughts, but I do question him to make sure I understand correctly. I’m not going to lie, sometimes I get frustrated but I tell him why. Him and I know each other very well to know when we both need help. I’m not physically or mentally impaired, but I still require help at times. He knows that, it is all about knowing the persons needs and wants and when to communicate to better the relationship.
Don't open the door for them. They got it. And if they dont hit em with a joke then get the door.
I've literally been thanked for not helping while noticing.
You got a bad roll in life. Sucks but shit happens. Just keep breathing.
So I'm a bouncer in Bristol and I was bouncing and there was this dude with a disability such as that girl on the wheelchair. He was there kicking back with his mates and a girl came up to me and asked me if he was ok, I looked at him, such as he was(drinking his pint with his crew) and I told her "he is more 'ok' than you or me, because he has the balls to go where he wants to go, whether people will find him different or not"
That didn’t happen you lying ass. I bet everyone who heard you stood up and clapped too, even Wheelz
@@loganburnette7984
And then he sold the movie rights to Hollywood for $4 million. Rumors has it that Channing Tatum will be starring as The Bouncer with Jesse Eisenberg as the Disabled person.
I have a really similar story! I'm a bouncer in Manchester and I was bouncing and there was this dude, such as he was, with a disability such as that girl on the wheelchair. He was there kicking back with his mates and I was bouncing and a girl came up to me while I was bouncing, such as I was, and asked me if he was ok, I looked at him, bouncing, such as he was(drinking his pint with his crew) and I was bouncing and I told her "he is more 'ok' such as he is than you or me, because he has the balls to go where he wants to go, whether people will find him different or not" and everyone clapped
I actually have a similar story as I was bouncing in the Arctic regions of Somalia. An hermaphrodite on a wheelchair was outside the bar smoking a cig with his mates who were all hermaphrodites (we need to do "full inspections" for weapons so I knew) and this transgender (did full inspections on her->him) came up to me asking if the hermaphrodite needed assistance. I didn't even answer. I knocked out the transgender and called the cops. No one will be discriminated against in my establishment. No one.
@@Razsteroid 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
I use a walker and get frustrated when people don't ask me if I need help but just assume that I need help! PEOPLE JUST BECAUSE I WALK WITH A WALKER PLEASE DON'T ASSUME THAT I NEED HELP! IF I NEED HELP I WILL LET YOU KNOW! People living with a physical disability can be and are extremely independent! To us it is considered being rude if you come up to us and help us without asking
As a person with a disability this is completely true and I appreciate that people are getting the word out
People with Disabilities are humans just like we please don't be mean, don't bully an Disabled person don't act like you better / smarter than them. People with disabilities are smart , they're intelligent , & they don't deserve to be mistreated. Some people with disabilities have trouble understanding I've been around them & I know its hard some people with disabilities have hard times making friends, communicate with one another. I encourage people with disabilities find their passions turn it into careers I don't want to see them get bullied because of their disabilities . be a friend never a bully
YES SOMEONE HAS FINALLY SAID IT , we're disabled yes but we're human first personally I don't care if people ask about my Cerebral Palsy or I get asked how did you become a firefighter or a welder!?! I worked my ass off I absolutely hate it when fellow Firefighters and welders automatically assume I can't do stuff like bro I've been trained to do this get out of my way your slowing me down by trying to help me every single step of the way not only that it's super freaking annoying like if I need help I will ask
Seriously they baby you like an infant
How to treat people with disabilities according to these disabled divas:
Asking about it - bad
ignoring the disabilities and focusing on the person - also bad
The gay dude was totally a diva.
People just need not be jerks to other people, whatever their walk of life. This goes for people with disabilities too.
I kid you not, I once had a girl with no arms mouth off at me for opening a door for her... It was one of those damned if I do, damned if I don't situations. She acted like i'd just thrown a nasty slur her way.
Awful.
How was she going to open it? Did it have a knob or handle that needed twisting?
Like with her mouth or feet or something?
@@herschellewis6475 yeah like a shiny, round door knob. As I aproached she was just staring at the door like it was an immovable object and then went off about how I was suggesting she couldn't do it on her own by helping her. By all accounts, i'd say she couldn't at that point in time without maybe removing her shoes and doing some gymnastics. I also needed to get through the door! Lol
You'll get used to it. Now, travel to Spain and open doors for women.
How to treat people generally is with respect end of the story
The problem with this is that people have that “you have to earn respect” mentality, and it’s annoying as hell..
@@ahmedhashmi3584Its only annoying when you wayyy too spoiled and entitled to understand why that mentality exists. The problem is people like you have the mindset everything is owed to you without earning it. I think all homeless people should get free houses, or those with money problems should get free food. However nothing is free, you are not entitled to free labor to give you stuff because YOU want it, you earn it and pay for it. Respect is no different to that.
Hopefully the same way you should treat anyone else, with respect.
i cant walk outside anymore without triggering someone. im just gonna stay indoors and not talk to people.
Bec everybody is brainwashed into being a utter Pussy this generation is a sack of horse shit
@@JakezZzu no he should keep doing it. This generation are fucking pussies and he is toughing them up
Ikr and then it pisses me off because I say shit that "offends" people and then no one likes me but like legit I'm not even being offensive
Wow, imagine being so dense, that when someone asks for the same level of human decency that you apply to everyone else in your life, you invalidate their feelings. Cool cool.
Good self-reflection, bro.
I have an "invisible" disability so I dont get the offers of help but I do get hated on when people see im acting "abnormal" and dont understand it stems from being autistic and in constant pain.
I have autism spectrum disorders and it makes me feel misanthropic that people without disabilities treat us differently. I've experienced it myself many times over the years and it's not fun.
I don’t look at a disabled person and think oh look there disabled I think of them as another human being that has feelings and talents
You are inspirational
Treat everyone with respect..people with disabilities know what they can and can't do..don't assume to know for them..if someone wants/needs your help you will be politely asked for it.
I think I’m just going to stay away from disabled people now tbh
*How to ruin a once amazing channel, according to vice*
You treat them like any other person
Aight I agree but don't say shit like ''I don't think it's a bad thing'' (refering to being disabled) while simultaneously having to spend way more money and time to do basic human functions or not even being able to do them because of your disability . Imma respect you and treat you the same way but don't say shit like that
they say don't call it a bad thing because it's a part of their identity. If you call it a bad thing then it's like calling them a bad thing.
@@JoshuaBegin No actually . Having cancer or being a murderer or even a fucking ISIS member can be part of your identity . Also being extremely loud can be part of one's identity. Just because it's part of your identity doesn't mean it is a positive thing and if someone mentions that it is something bad then they don't mean you as a whole are a negative person. Also don't refer to them as if they are objects
@Alex Sterg
read the last sentence if you want a tl;dr
Imagine growing up in a world where everyone has the genes of an Olympic athlete. Except you. So whenever you do activities you're noticeably slower and have less stamina than people around you. And you have a mark on your forehead that somehow signals to everyone around you that you're weaker.
And now imagine that whenever you walk around people are constantly staring at your forehead, talking to you with pity in their voice. Constantly telling you "oh my god that sucks, I feel so bad for you/how do you live like that?". Yes, it is "worse" than the norm. What the fuck are you or anyone else going to do about it? It's who you are and there's literally nothing you can do about it.
Would you not rather people treat you normally? How do you do that? By changing the narrative around what it means to be weaker. This is what these people mean, as long as their disability is viewed as "a bad thing" people are going to treat them accordingly. As long as we view it as a bad thing the pity talk and the stares are not going to stop.
For example, there are clear disadvantages to being gay (harder to find a partner, fearing for your life, harder to connect with your average man or woman) but it's very easy for the younger population to not care at all when interacting with someone who is gay. And you know what happens? That gay person's life becomes easier as a result.
If we view disability as just another aspect of people's life (like hair color), then their lives will become easier. As long as we view them as "lesser than" - which is the primary outcome when calling it a bad thing - then their lives will be harder. You can't say you support these people and want them to live better lives but insist on calling an integral part of who they are a bad thing.
I'm disabled and I agree with you entirely
@@Ooatbsa How exactly can you decide for someone else what they view as a positive or a negative thing about themselves?
I think by identity they're talking about who they are in regards to their disability. Not whether they're part of a group or have some sort of label.
I don't even have to watch this video. How do you treat them? Like you would someone without a disability - like a human being! Treat them with respect and don't talk down to them. Don't assume they can't accomplish something simply because they may have to do it a different way.
I’m in wheelchair and I don’t give a rats ass if someone asks me about my disability. We aren’t in control of our body’s at time.
Funny thing I find is why do so many people that get interviewed come up with such BS answers about what not to be ask about, and take such offense if some helps them if they haven’t asked for it.
If someone offers me a helping hand I say thanks if I want the help and no thanks if I don’t, easy.
Amongst my disabled friends we call each other gimps and laugh about it if another person does we laugh to, to many people with disabilities get their shorts in a knot.
Just treat us the way you want to be treated, WITH RESPECT that’s all anyone wants.
You speak truth my guy, I wish people in today's society valued kindness over watching others tremble and get angry. I hope you live your greatest life possible, as someone with muscular dystrophy (beckers) I completely agree with you.
okay im doing this for a class project, but let me just say, Ryan is making my day. The sass
Definitely ask before trying to help someone who has a disability just like you would with anyone (everybody needs help from time to time). It is annoying to say the least when someone would insist on helping me across a street by grabbing my arm and pulling me across the street with them (I can usually see well enough to cross the street safely on my own and know enough to just "shadow" someone else to get across if I can't). Also, ask the person directly, not the people around them. They can generally answer questions concerning themselves better than anyone else can and if for some reason they can't someone else can still speak up and let you know that. People ask the people around me questions about me often, sometimes even when I'm the one to initiate the conversation. I don't fully understand this behavior since my behavor is not erratic and my speaking skills are at least average by any measurement.
Also, if you have general questions about someone's disability or difference, just do your best to put the shoe on the other foot and ask yourself "what would MY reaction be if someone asked ME this in this current situation, would I be comfortable answering it?" and take it from there. Personally, most of the time I am quite happy to answer questions people have. If you are still unsure, it might be better the ask them in a private setting and when you are a little more comfortable with each other. If you do ask a question that they would rather not answer about their disability, unless you have a real need to know and you can explain that need to them, it is best to just accept it at that. I don't speak for anyone else with a disability, this is just my opinion from my own experiences.
I love Ryan's sass lol. And he's easy on the eyes too. Sadly, even supposedly safe spaces like a gay bar can be challenging for disabled people. He might've gone to hook up and then this guy suddenly hugged him and started crying. My autistic self would be panicking if somebody did that and I'd probably react with violence. Sorry not sorry.
As someone with a very visible disability (no left hand, no legs below kneecaps) the most frustrating thing is when people treat you extra "nicely". It's just super weird and it needs to stop, I'm just another guy, like you, so treat me the damn same and stop treating me like a child that recently experienced trauma in a car accident.
Wow these comments are so mean-spirited and disappointing. Vice makes videos like this BECAUSE OF people like the commentators, people who assume they can understand what a disabled person wants/ what it’s like to be disabled. So please, LISTEN TO THEM! Don’t ignore their disability but don’t treat them like it defines them. If you think a disabled person needs help, ASK FIRST. It’s as simple as that. Be respectful, treat them how you would like to be treated.
Nah just ignore them
much simpler
Maybe they get mad at the quality of the video rather than the general content, because compared to what vice used to make this is just kinda lazy and not the best approach to adress and educate a large (and mostly idiotic) crowd as is youtube viewers. my opinion, these videos suck and are clickbait, also throwing this video just after the bartender video is kinda shitty continuity-wise, tho this one was some points above the bartender one.
Anyway just like trump followers, this type of idiots like to be shocking just to spite the largest amount of people who think differently, sometimes grossly exaggerating their views just to get a response out of others.
LowLying thanks for being the shining example of exactly the type of person I never want to be 👌
I love that videos like this exist to have people with disabilities be like other people. Because we are! I'm fortunate enough to pass as normal and I feel for you folks just trying to get a coffee or groceries and being the story of someone else's day when you just need caffeine or a dozen eggs.
as a disabled person, i feel like this is a bit too much too ask.
since your needs are different than someone who is able-bodied, people are going to have to treat you different. That doesn't make them a bad person.
Well some disabled people can do alot of things similiar to abled bodied people and can have similar needs the fact that its alot things hard for them to comorehend with but that dont stopped them for learning yeah they can learn chellenges like anyone besides ecpecting help from individuals too unless thier gladly to help but thier also human should still be treated fairly regardless of thier diffrent needs too or the way they handle things u should treat everyone like thier human if u try to understand thier needs or help and can help them thats fine if they wanted to be treated diffrent then u should but just treating them diffrent u shouldnt im disabled myself imagin if u were disabled and i just treat you diffrent like less of a person
And it does make u a bad person if u treating them diffrent thats heartless of u to say u should treat everyone fair
How about like every other god damn person on the planet? Stop pretending like they need special treatment, they are people. Just like you, and just like me, and I will never treat them any differently.
Well spoken. This is why I never open a door for someone in a wheel chair. You can do it yourself for fuck's sake. I'll watch if I'm feeling generous.
Unless we ask to be treated in a different way to accommodate our disability or we ask for help. Just treat us like normal. And if you do help by doing something like hold a door for a person using a Walker, crutches or a wheelchair, don't make a a big deal about it. Just hold the door and move on. We already draw enough attention with out people making a big deal about helping us.
I'm genuinely curious about why some of these conflict with each other. Disabled people say they don't want their disabilities to be ignored but also want us to act like nothing's 'wrong' with them? I guess it's just that individual disabled people have different preferences, but it does make it difficult to know how to act around random disabled people you meet in everyday life.
Basically dont feel a need to totally tiptoe around the fact someone is disabled or avoid mentioning it at all costs, but dont act like its someones entire personality, as a lot of people will speak to disabled people like children and like we have no actual hobbies or personality traits. Whenever I meet strangers they always start by asking what happened to me, and then wehn i briefly say im disabled and then change the subject theyll bring it back to the fact im disabled with every thing, like if i tell them my job theyll say ''ooh youre so brave, its inspiring to see people liek you working'' instead of keeping regular conversation about careers. Basically just act exactly how you would with anyone else, and dont feel like its wrong to mention the disability if necesarry! And if you know someone more closely theres nothing inapropriate about asking questions!
Plus most of us have thick skins and dont mind a bit of joking at our expense among friends, and if i roast my friends for having a wierd laugh or shit hair I'll expect them to make a joke about me being 'lazy' or whatever in return
That and as a stranger dont just touch us or pick us up without asking, we're likely not struggling
I agree the video is too short not to go into more detail to clarify :)
Chartered, yes... people are different.
@@daisydrawsstuff4227 Thanks, Daisy! That's definitely helped.
@@daisydrawsstuff4227 exactly don't assume that all people with disabilities are brain dead because we are not we read just as much as people without disabilities do and we are just as capable of fending for ourselves as non disabled people are
"Dont want their disabilities to be ignored but also want us to act like nothing's wrong" Sam, what they want is to be treated with respect. They dont want to be looked down on or excluded. They want their rights but treated with dignity. You can knowledge the disability while treating them as a whole person.
Orrrr I treat you however I want or treat you based on how you treat me.
I was ignored before my disability and now it's the same but more harsh like kick her while she is down. At least it's not completely devastating I'm too busy putting myself first. AKA someone with MS I love myself!!!!!
Thank you speaking my truth being mildly challenged with birth defects from day I was born. Do have low self esteem in my personal life still working on it and came along way from when I was younger now going on 48 next year. Peace and Love
do one on mental disabilities.
Anyone who gets a driver's license is inspiration to me. I've tried three times and I could not. kkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkk
You can do it
Please don't give up
@@mrbobsshow Thank u!
@@MartellThaCool I'll try ^^
@@samychann I'm a disabled person myself who.came to show support as yourself, Ms/Mrs. Lana
I’m better now thanks. I’m crippled in my hip. I can fight an MMA fight but the couch can stun me completely. Weird.
People get weirded out when they find out I’m disabled. I have Cystic Fibrosis, which, long story short, is a genetic, very rare, very unpredictable, progressive disease that causes my body to produce too much mucus, which clogs up my lungs, liver, sinuses, pancreas, basically anything that can be surrounded by mucus is surrounded by way too much mucus in my body. Of course, I can still walk, talk, hear, see, and just go about life like anyone else. You couldn’t guess that I have a terrible disability just by looking at me.
My disability is usually only visible at home. I have several different medical devices I use to physically force mucus out of my lungs and deliver medication to my airways. I take 50 pills a day and eat 5 meals everyday. CF takes away my pancreas’s ability to function. I’ve never been able to digest my own food, and very recently it’s shut down enough that I’ll soon need insulin, despite my efforts to slow the progression by eating only lean meats and greens. 90% of my diet has been wild game and organic greens for 7 years. I’m athletic, but I carry around an inhaler and often stop in the middle to cough out mucus and catch my breath. I was severely bullied in school because I couldn’t always hide my disease. Even now, I hack up record loogies everywhere I go.
I got into MMA so my bullies wouldn’t bully me anymore, which worked, and it did wonders for my health. On the first day of class, my mom told my master to be careful because of my CF. After class, my master told my mom, “Sick? She isn’t sick!” and he was right. I was actually better than a lot of students. CF has made me extremely tolerant of pain, both physically and mentally. As a blue belt, I sparred with the black belts, and no matter how many times I was kicked off my feet or took a swift hit to the gut, I always got back into the fight. I’d come home limping sometimes, drenched in sweat, and sometimes severely bruised, but I enjoyed it for a time. I left MMA because I was moving towns and just lost interest in fighting. I got into endurocross, which is motocross but on trails, as well as into hunting. All of my hunting buddies who were feeding me the game the first five years had either grown old, died, or just drifted out of my life, so it was time I got my own food.
I can walk/run for several miles on the hunt. Only, I have issues in weather that is warmer than 80 degrees, colder than 35, or windy enough that there’s stuff in the air, so I’ll slow down or even stop completely for my own sake if the weather gets too bad. While I do have a permit to shoot from a vehicle, I vow to never use it. I’ll always have two hunting guides with me to help me, but I prefer to be outside with one guide while the other guide waits on standby in the heated truck. I wish I could hang out in a tent in the middle of nowhere, but I need electricity, climate control, and instant access to the civilized world if I need it. As I said, CF is very unpredictable. It’s too rare to be understood like cancer is, but thankfully, God gave my doctors and scientists enough brains to figure out how to hack my system, so I can survive.
I must count my blessings. At 17, I’m one of the healthiest CFers in the world. I’ve only been hospitalized twice in my whole life to get rid of nasty lung infections. I haven’t worn an oxygen mask for almost 12 years, and I haven’t seen a hospital bed for almost 6 years. I can pass myself off as normal as anyone else in public, but eventually, the truth does come out. A lot of times, people shower me with “I’m so sorry”, “Can I do anything for you? I’ll do anything!”, “Can I just hug you right now?”, which is understandable, but it’s not wanted. CF is all I’ve ever known, so I’m used to it, and it makes me feel weird when people give me so much sympathy and attention. I guess the best way to put it is if you told a rich friend you had a $50,000 jeep rather than a $400,000 lambo, and the Lamborghini owner was all like “omg I’m soooo sorry! I wish I could trade with you, but my parents wouldn’t be very happy if I gave you my car in exchange for your shitty jeep!”, or something like that. I know it’s dumb, but it’s the best I can come up with.
Sometimes, I invite people to my house, and they instantly gravitate to all the treatments I have. I have to run over there and stand between the people and my stuff like a dog guarding a favorite bone, because I do not, I repeat, DO NOT want their grubby fingers touching things I wrap around my body and put in my mouth. Idk why people do that, but it’s the one pet peeve I have that really gets me going. Because of my disease, I’m super territorial. I’ve been called a bitch for refusing to share my food or accept offers of food from my peers. Truth is, I’m extremely prone to illness, and a common cold often acts like pneumonia in my lungs. I don’t even share bedding with people, and I make people wash the guest bedding and disinfect room for me before I arrive. I know I’m high-maintenance, but I would be dead if I wasn’t.
To end this babbling rant, I guess I’ll just say to never take things for granted, even your own breath. Appreciate the fact that you can breathe in the morning without having to do two hours of coughing, chest pounding, pills, and inhalers just to breathe through what is the equivalent of a straw. I challenge all of y’all with normal lungs to breathe through a straw for a day. That’s just one thing CF does. On that same day, eat 5 meals of the thickest, cheapest, fiber-packed things you can find on a Taco Bell menu. The aftermath of that is what I go through if I eat a Twix bar or a few slices of bacon, or basically anything that isn’t lean or green. Put some maple syrup up your nose, and try to breathe through that. Take some non-toxic Elmers school glue, dump a bunch of salt on that, and lick it, see what it feels like to cough up mucus. Go into the ocean, let the salt dry on your skin, and don’t shower for days. That’s what CF summer skin feels like. Just because my disability is “invisible”, doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist.
Rant over.
Yay now VICE is turning into buzzfeed, just what we needed.....
Hugo Bugge )
I'm sure VICE has always been BuzzFeed's weird, edgy cousin.
Probably
don’t be a little bitch
Thanks Vice for making a video about how to treat human beings. This video ended discrimination once and for all
I can agree. I have Scoliosis and somehow my back brace looks similar to the back braces for people with back injuries. For me it makes sense why people ask me: what happened? Because of how my back brace is similar to the back injury ones.
I hate the way people try to dominate me because I’m in a wheelchair, they look down on me like I’m insignificant. Well guess what, you’re the one who’s ego is controlling your emotions. Step off before I show you what a paraplegic can do ♿️
You guys are awesome. I have disabilities. Totally get it. Live it to the max.
This reminds me of the episode in The Office where Michael Scott wrongfully has pitty of Billy, the building manager and makes a scene off it 😂
and if you have a friend with a disability and he makes a joke about it just laugh if you think it is funny or ask him why he's saying that if it is not fun for u. treat theam as you treat all people.
tbh even if I saw someone in a cast I would ask what happened.. even someone with a scar I would ask what happened? Doesnt mean Im entitled, just treating you equally
people often judge people with disabilities with preconceived thoughts without being aware about how their actions may affect them... people need to be aware about how their actions may negatively affect the disabled. the way we talk, the way we act or behave around them shouldn't be any different from the way we behave, act, or talk around people without disabilities...
honestly my biggest question is like if they got joint pain? like I got it from just sitting in a chair cause of office stuff. How do they handle that? I know the conventional exercise can't really help because of limitations but I've been curious on how they handle that.
I am a wheelchair user, and yes, i get arthritis and especially bursitis. Due to other disabilities i cannot take oral medications for arthritis like ibuprofren, naproxen, or steroids. I depend on heat (pads, baths), anti inflammatory gel, and herbal medication such as linament and kratom. I have also has cortisone injections.
Most people, wheelchair or not, would be able to simply take NSAIDS. Physical therapy is important for pain from sitting in a wheelchair, but it doesnt really help arthritis. Some pain just has to be lived with.
I agree with every word, and want to add one more thing: I don’t hold anything against drug addicts, but please, don’t mistake us for one another in countries where drugs are illegal.
My dad was a PBR at age 18 and one rodeo tournament he got bucked off and kick in his head, despite doctors warning he went and rode the next night with the same result being kicked in the head. So on alcohol and pain pills he began his 15 miles drive home. Fell asleep right at a bridge, hit the guard rail and was ejected forward out of the car into the road where his own car then ran him over pulling him around the tire where the tire well ripped one leg off completely and the other was mangled. He laid there for aprx 1 hour before help arrived. (It was 2 in the morning) he survived as a double amputee. He then met my mother 8 years later and had 3 beautiful children and has worked for the city for 20+ years now. He doesn’t need help, he does more than some people with both legs. Going through something that makes you disabled brings out the strongest version of yourself. Always be kind and respectful of people who are different or have disabilities, some are stronger than you are. My dad was recently diagnosed with stage 3 lung cancer that spread to his liver but after some experimental treatments it’s gone from his liver and he’s able to work and feel normal again. He really is my hero
Doesn't seem like the sharpest knife in the drawer
Very cool.
@Preston Steele 😂😂😂
Misfit Graves obviously you’re talking about yourself.
Thank you for sharing that. Any other opinion can f*** off.
I'm a disabled person with post polio wear leg braces walk with a high platform Walker. We the disabled is the largest minority group in the country. We disabled people need to get United. Because our civil rights bill The American With Dissabilities Act is being violated every single day in this country. I'm mad about the ADS will be 29 years old this July. We disabled still aren't mainstreamed into society. The discrimination and bigotry happens to us everyday in this country. President Obama was correct when he said we are second citizens. We need to March on Washington DC for our Rights.Lets do it.
It’s not a disability it’s a disadvantage ❤
So avoid disabled people cuz they are super high maintenance, got it. It’s actually a big help, cuz without the visible cue you’d have to talk to someone for 10 sec to realize that they are a pita.
"How to Treat a Person with Disabilities", oh, I don't know, how about treating them like people. I hate having to work twice as hard to accomplish half as much, only to be told I need to try harder.
I have 2 disabilities one is physical ( I walk using crutches ) & the other is developmental ( I have short term memory loss) so I have made the personal choice to not bother dating anyone simply because I feel like I'm unworthy & therefore don't want to waste my time or anyone else's
I have Balo's Concentric Sclerosis and i fucking hate it when people say i am brave...perception, man, it's all about perception
I have literally been sitting in my wheelchair in my van after loading it at walmart and had a man stick his head INSIDE MY VAN to ask if I needed help because "I saw you had something in your hands and thought maybe you needed help". I work as a chaplain at a hospital which is NOT very accessible at all...and have to struggle to open doors all day long as I go from one ward to another, and I swear people ask if I need help at every door, half the time when I say no, I am OK they are fine with it, half the time they help anyways...I really wish they wouldn't because once someone did that and I couldn't see their feet and their toes got ran over. My permobil is HEAVY. Ugh.
I have a permobil too. Much better than jazzy that gets stuck on tic tacs
Just be comprehensive, treat them with respect, and don't give a fuck about their disability, unless they ask for your help or you see they really need
I have hemiparesis where I can’t use my left hand to pick up things and do daily tasks and I feel like a freak because of the way people look at me and treat me. It’s fucked up
It's tricky sometimes. You're damned if u dont ask, but also damned if u ask.. Sometimes they think we dont care, sometimes they think we are nosy.. Every disable person is different, the best is just see how open they are first bout their disability and look at the body languages
This is true, we’re each different. I think reading these comments is helpful for some basics, other than that just do the best you can. I love kids’ approach because they’re fascinated by my wheel chair and aren’t shy about showing it. For myself, I prefer to be asked if I need help, not just suddenly pushed along by a well meaning person. I’ve practiced saying, “Thanks, I’d like to wheel myself.”
Not at all inspirational video. It is the facts. Thanks for putting it out in public for them to understand.
2023 and we are still invisible to our govts including the elderly also invisible
Yeah I'm still gonna ask seemingly stupid questions cause it's better than ignoring the situation. Reminds me of the time i was at the train station and a lady in a wheelchair who wouldn't stop looking at me seemed to be having trouble with the key to the special bathroom so i asked if i could help. She replied saying she was wondering if i needed help. I'm heavily tattooed, have stretched ears, shaved head, and happened to be laying on the ground stretching my back after work. Good laugh :D
I actually expected to be helped without asking. Thank you and big hugs to everyone who has helped me.
I wish this wasn't just about physical disabilities. If you wanted to do that, it would have been nice for the title to specify it wasn't disabled people in general.
Yes yes yes yes yes!!! ‘What happened?’ And the like are my most hated questions, nothing ‘happened’ and I don’t want to delve into my medical history right now, I normally say something like ‘it’s just life” or “nothing, this is just the way it is” and my most hated statement is ‘you’re so inspirational, so brave and stoic, I could do it!’ Oh please stop, I’m just doing my best to live day to day, do you want me to just sit there and wail about how unfair it is? You couldn’t do it you say, what does that mean? If you had my problems you would end your life? That’s a shitty thing to say it really is!
You are imagining they are talking about you. They are talking about themselves. Stop being a child!!!!
Don't ask people personal questions that are none of your business.
"I don't think disabilities are bad."
That's just plain bs. Of course they're bad, but you can adapt and overcome. If other people are no assholes, you're totally free to just live your life.
Yeah... Ppl often over react, and disabilities often arent as bad as ppl make out, but yeah... if i had a choice i would chose not to be disabled. It makes everything harder, not just for me. Denying that is invalidating our struggles. The struggles are real... they just arent EVERYTHING.
Do you have an accident that Fraser has had time breathing?
The same as everyone else,Saved you 3:44
I’m glad these people have confidence in themselves and each other, only a little disappointed that they don’t recognize our input as a society..
not all disability are visually identifiable. Something like 1 in 5 Americans has a disability of some sort.
i agree with the woman wearing the blue jacket i hate when people assume that they know what i'm capable of too
"I would prefer people didn't pretend like my disability doesn't exist... (1:20)", yet "don't make assumptions about what I can and can't do... (2:12)" ... To interact with those individuals, it would be like balancing on a tight rope ...
I am so-called able-bodied. I feel disabled only because I cannot fly, yet I fly through my other abilities. I admire and love the soaring birds, but I know I can do things that they cannot. I feel this as an artist inspired by my own flying, metaphorically. I would so love to be able to share with the birds about this creativity. We all have disabilities and abilities. Why not focus on ability; no 'dis'. Respect and congratulations.
Such a vice kind of video
just subscribed to vice because this video!
💖 love and respect from my heart to people with disability .
I really enjoyed this post. I've got a syndrome that has fused about a third of my spine & yes I have a disability, but I'm quite capable of taking care of myself. My real issue in life is the over-helpers - the coat issue reminded me of an incident recently. I too have a special way of putting my coat on & I was out for dinner and when leaving I was putting on my coat & this person tried to help & I said I'm ok & I could see her struggling with that - but there's nothing wrong with my arms. If she had helped me it would have been terrible & I wouldn't have been able to drive home & I would have gone out of the restaurant on a freezing day, take off the coat & put it on again properly.
Then the people who ask do I need help to get somewhere - but they know I have a car & I drive it everywhere.
The worst was someone, who I had no idea was next to me, grabbed my bag whilst I was going down long steep stairs at a railway station. The situation almost made me fall & as I was nowhere near the bottom I could have fallen & Iiterally could have been killed. Then she argued with me about helping me by holding my bag, I was so upset, I just wanted her to go away & leave me alone. She hasn't spoken to me since, which is a blessing.
Then there are the people that treat a physical disability as an intellectual disability & see the need to give you advice on everything.
Having a bit of a vent today. Those people are rare to have to deal with, but disturbing when they appear.