What to say when he is checking out other women in front of you?

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  • @WhenSerahWrites1991
    @WhenSerahWrites1991 5 років тому +16

    Amazinggg advice, I wanted to punch that guy and yell and shut down and leave him because of this attitude, but now I exactly know what to do. Thanks ❤

  • @Fitbody_bysarah
    @Fitbody_bysarah 3 роки тому +11

    Start dressing sexier and let other men check you out!

  • @abigailgarcia3599
    @abigailgarcia3599 5 років тому +45

    Thanks! I will try doing this next time. I always get annoyed when I see my husband checking out other females. Every time I mention it he denies it. I know it’s something we can’t avoid as human but yeah I don’t appreciate it. Especially when it’s a female wearing something he considers inappropriate on my skin, like something too short or too revealing. Yet, other women wearing it get his attention.

    • @HelenaSummer
      @HelenaSummer  5 років тому +7

      Yes, when husbands do it, it hurts like hell. The truth is, we can have such loving relationships if we know how to step up for our feelings, because most men will support us easily. Much love, H.

    • @Joyinthemorn
      @Joyinthemorn 5 років тому +2

      SMH I had to go back and forth with my husband for a few years and he finally admitted it. He also turned it back on me and said he'll call me out if I look at anyone....deflection. However he did say that he was embarrassed by what he does. I said just dont lie about it and call me crazy, making up things, insecure, or I cant tell what hes really looking at and its not her.

    • @fridamarlen2943
      @fridamarlen2943 4 роки тому +1

      Girl yes!!!! Ugh I can't I am dealing with the same thing with my husband

    • @pamelaclarkson6001
      @pamelaclarkson6001 4 роки тому +2

      Abigail Garcia it’s a case of I don’t want you being looked at by guys the way I look at other girls either , evil mind as evil do ,.... mind you some girls today they wear next to nothing advertise themselves then wonder why they get the wrong attention they get , even my eyes have popped out on stalks as a straight female out of shock thinking would I want my daughter wearing that ? Sometimes the first look can’t be helped , but I draw a very strong line at a guy ogling other females all night long to the point he makes you or you’re presence feel invisible or invalidated , there is a huge difference I had one boyfriend completely turn his back to me to stare at another group of girls and was flat out rude and insulting when It provoked natural insecurity in me , actions speak louder than words , trust you’re gut and if it’s making you feel less than you’ve every right as an authentic person to speak up about that and not take any blame labels for feelings you wouldn’t have had minus this behaviour xx

    • @pamelaclarkson6001
      @pamelaclarkson6001 4 роки тому +8

      LivDelicious my mother in law said to me one day , that just because a guy is on a diet doesn’t mean he can’t look in the cake shop window , my answer was , he ain’t on no diet with me he has everything on the menu and already committed to the banquet in me he wanted , therefore he should have no need for looking around he should be full and satisfied that anything else wouldn’t be appreciated or needed , if he’s not satisfied with what I bring to the table I can always find a grateful participant too and he can leave the table and go take his sorry ass back to the menu as I ain’t no running buffet for a fool , anything else should be off limits Cos that’s just being greedy and a pig lol 😂, sometimes it does call for black and white thinking when the chips are down , a wedding ring is a wedding ring means single days are over and although men and women have eyes and not blind to others they should only have those certain eyes for each other xxx

  • @EyeOvdaTiger
    @EyeOvdaTiger 4 роки тому +30

    If a man checks out other women in front of you imagine what he could be doing behind your back.
    It's rude and disrespectful! Any woman with self respect would not accept, nor address things in the way this lady did. What man will take that seriously? This goes both ways.

    • @HelenaSummer
      @HelenaSummer  4 роки тому +3

      A good man will take that seriously.
      A jerk will fight you.
      A weak man would apologize over and over, feel guilty and cry.
      Desertrose129Kazi - you are right! It's totally rude and disrespectful.... and it's the nature of life that EVERY man checks out other women. EVERY woman checks out other women.
      It's reality.
      When we deal with it in elegant, distinguished and refined ways, our life gets better.

    • @EyeOvdaTiger
      @EyeOvdaTiger 4 роки тому +3

      @@HelenaSummer
      People notice beautiful people but there's a difference between checking someone and noticing someone is good looking without crossing the line and being hurtful to the person you love. If we have to pretend that it's alright because that's what everyone does and it's the norm then we are living a lie.
      I know when someone is deeply in love with you they see only you and no one else compares.

    • @HelenaSummer
      @HelenaSummer  4 роки тому +1

      @@EyeOvdaTiger - We don't have to pretend. We have to understand. The more we get upset, the easier we are to control. So we step up and speak our truth.
      But you can do it your way. This is not a gulag, it's a free world :-)
      Much love, H.

    • @EyeOvdaTiger
      @EyeOvdaTiger 4 роки тому

      @@HelenaSummer I always do lol! Much love to you as well 😊

    • @vervideosgiros1156
      @vervideosgiros1156 27 днів тому

      What's the big deal? What is he supposed to do? Look other way? Cover his face? Why don't you look at other guys as well?! It's ridiculous to want that your partner should be isolated for everything! If I was with a guy and when a pretty woman pass by us and he felt awkward, then I would be concerned, thinking why he avoiding to look at a woman just because she's pretty?! I would think: "What is he hiding?" You don't agree that your partner has female friends, I suppose! If a guy asked me to leave my male friends just because he's immature and insecure I would tell him that it's abusive to boss me and I would never get away from dear frends just because he wanted! Era só o que mais faltava! 😂😂🤣

  • @ivyrose6644
    @ivyrose6644 4 роки тому +17

    When i catch him he'll give me a lame excuse oh " i was looking at a wall " bullllllshhhiiittt I was dead staring at you the entire time 😒 i really want to smack him I confronted him he lies later on i text him and tell him it makes me feel like shit he says " idk what to say "

    • @nourhammouri3961
      @nourhammouri3961 4 роки тому +4

      Ivy Rose Honestly, what I would do is kinda test him. If ur in the car with him and catch him checking another girl out give him a look and calmly tell him to take u home and that u obviously seem to be "boring" him so u should just leave him to check out all the girls he wants. If he's not willing to do that then just leave because those who really love u wouldn't put themselves in a situation that would potentially cause u guys to break up. Idk if this helps but this is just what I would do.

    • @luciavillasenor9096
      @luciavillasenor9096 4 роки тому +1

      Exactly my husband

    • @HelenaSummer
      @HelenaSummer  25 днів тому

      Yes, totally get you - I made a whole follow up video on this with all the denials and crazy things men say about it - ua-cam.com/users/liveZ5rUHwUg7mo?si=5QdxM1JG7EVRuuZw

  • @sandraarista3121
    @sandraarista3121 3 роки тому +10

    There is actually a difference between noticing someone's beauty and staring. When you're telling someone that it's okay when your not there, to only respect you when you're with them is pretty ridiculous. What about the woman that is being stared at "checked out" by your man, how about her feelings. I'm sure she's not always enjoying it. Come on staring at people is creepy and disrespectful.

    • @whitneymiller5139
      @whitneymiller5139 3 роки тому +1

      Yep mine is a lust addict. He loves porn, looking at IG models etc. one night we were out with his sister and his sisters friend and he flirted with that freaking friend in front of me all night and his eyes were glued to her and they kept shooting each other sexual looks. He was seriously addicted

    • @HelenaSummer
      @HelenaSummer  25 днів тому

      Exactly!
      I wass talking about that yesterday - check this out - ua-cam.com/users/liveZ5rUHwUg7mo?si=5QdxM1JG7EVRuuZw

  • @emmaalvarez1617
    @emmaalvarez1617 2 роки тому +6

    I told him what you said to do and he denied it. He said that I was paranoid, and called me a lift home. I am glad it's over. He needs to grow up! And learn to have class and respect for others. I feel sorry for the women who have men like these slobbering desperate dogs.

    • @HelenaSummer
      @HelenaSummer  Рік тому +1

      It's ok. People do what they do... and we position ourselves with class. Some women prefer the drama they get wtih these "dogs" and still want their puppies.
      How are you doing now? It's been a year since you posted this.

    • @emmaalvarez1617
      @emmaalvarez1617 Рік тому

      @@HelenaSummer Im still single lol! Just turned 50 and focusing all the attention on self. F those people. I stopped trying to change people or make something work. I think it was the best thing I could have done, and should have done it a long time ago. How are you?

    • @HelenaSummer
      @HelenaSummer  25 днів тому

      I made a follow up video on denials, check it out, it talks exactly about your situation - ua-cam.com/users/liveZ5rUHwUg7mo?si=5QdxM1JG7EVRuuZw

  • @missmaddie241
    @missmaddie241 5 років тому +32

    Do it back lol

    • @mikkey246
      @mikkey246 3 роки тому

      Nice!
      Checking out girls with your boyfriend
      👌
      Jk

    • @emmaalvarez1617
      @emmaalvarez1617 2 роки тому +1

      He said that he wouldn't care if I did it.

    • @HelenaSummer
      @HelenaSummer  25 днів тому

      Here is a follow up video exactly on what doing it back does - ua-cam.com/users/liveZ5rUHwUg7mo?si=5QdxM1JG7EVRuuZw

  • @thechristianpsychologer3865
    @thechristianpsychologer3865 4 роки тому +3

    K. Trying this now. THANK YOU! I'm hopeful!!! I love your vibe. Great feminine energy here. This gave me the confidence to go on, stand up for my grounds in a practical, graceful, kind way... Without being a doormat or showing it upsets me, and if he doesn't meet my standard, I can walk. With my respect, and my grace. New subscriber.

    • @HelenaSummer
      @HelenaSummer  25 днів тому

      Hey dear, I had the whole live on this yesterday - check it out and tell me about your situation
      ua-cam.com/users/liveZ5rUHwUg7mo?si=5QdxM1JG7EVRuuZw

  • @Heymonda8794
    @Heymonda8794 3 роки тому +6

    I think you need to always order a cold glass of water with your drink just in case he wants to test you and when he does cool his ass off.

    • @kelliejackson8152
      @kelliejackson8152 3 місяці тому

      Ha I love this 😀 xx

    • @HelenaSummer
      @HelenaSummer  25 днів тому

      ha ha... sounds like fun... but it won't create the loving response we want. I spoke abotu that yesterday. Check it out - ua-cam.com/users/liveZ5rUHwUg7mo?si=5QdxM1JG7EVRuuZw

  • @k-fairy1869
    @k-fairy1869 Рік тому +1

    This is the best answer to this question I have ever heard! Many thanks

    • @HelenaSummer
      @HelenaSummer  Рік тому

      Thank you for your willingness to be partners with men and stand up for grace and cooperation instead of division. So happy you are here!

    • @HelenaSummer
      @HelenaSummer  25 днів тому

      Thank you.. .there is more to it I spoke about yesterday - ua-cam.com/users/liveZ5rUHwUg7mo?si=5QdxM1JG7EVRuuZw

  • @janellinell4552
    @janellinell4552 4 роки тому +8

    Checkout other men

    • @jeffreymetz2612
      @jeffreymetz2612 3 роки тому +1

      Give him a dose of his own medicine

    • @HelenaSummer
      @HelenaSummer  25 днів тому

      Yup. It sounds politically correct.. .and it creates a world in which we distance and separate ourselves from each other and love. I spoike about that yesterday. Check it out - ua-cam.com/users/liveZ5rUHwUg7mo?si=5QdxM1JG7EVRuuZw

  • @SaturnDancer10
    @SaturnDancer10 4 роки тому +13

    She actually denies she staring at a man when I’m literally
    Looking at her. Than says sorry lol doesn’t make sense

    • @HelenaSummer
      @HelenaSummer  4 роки тому +1

      Just say what I said in the video - "You have every right to do this... "
      ...and if that's your own jealousy, then we need to help it with EFT tapping. I do private coaching on the topics.

    • @wisdom2578
      @wisdom2578 3 роки тому +1

      How did you end up dealing with this situation man? Im on the same boat lol

    • @SaturnDancer10
      @SaturnDancer10 3 роки тому +1

      @@wisdom2578 I basically say oh your looking at that man honey no problem I will look at women too. Lol 😂

    • @HelenaSummer
      @HelenaSummer  25 днів тому

      Denial is the first thing. We spoke about it yesterday. Check it out here
      ua-cam.com/users/liveZ5rUHwUg7mo?si=5QdxM1JG7EVRuuZw

  • @sonyanicaodhagain978
    @sonyanicaodhagain978 2 роки тому +2

    Just check out others in front of him and comment on his body. Works every time.

    • @HelenaSummer
      @HelenaSummer  25 днів тому

      And creates what? You'll probably like this follow up video from yesterday :-)
      ua-cam.com/users/liveZ5rUHwUg7mo?si=5QdxM1JG7EVRuuZw

  • @karenmontgomery-wilson8944
    @karenmontgomery-wilson8944 5 років тому +6

    Couldn't agree more. It seems Manipulative to equate the behaviour with turn offs...

    • @HelenaSummer
      @HelenaSummer  5 років тому +12

      It's about being honest. To me, it's a big turn off. I am not attracted to that behavior. Just share what's honest to you.

    • @HelenaSummer
      @HelenaSummer  25 днів тому

      Hello dear, I made a follow up yesterday - check it out here - ua-cam.com/users/liveZ5rUHwUg7mo?si=5QdxM1JG7EVRuuZw

  • @alyssacastillo8717
    @alyssacastillo8717 4 роки тому +1

    Thank you ❤️

    • @HelenaSummer
      @HelenaSummer  25 днів тому

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  • @nicolecarroll9286
    @nicolecarroll9286 5 років тому +2

    I really needed to see this video

    • @HelenaSummer
      @HelenaSummer  5 років тому

      Keep me posted!

    • @HelenaSummer
      @HelenaSummer  25 днів тому

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  • @revatishinde_
    @revatishinde_ 6 років тому +1

    Love this ❤️

    • @HelenaSummer
      @HelenaSummer  25 днів тому

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  • @rosarosa7988
    @rosarosa7988 7 років тому +7

    love what you say❤❤❤

    • @HelenaSummer
      @HelenaSummer  25 днів тому

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  • @saniyahshaikh7103
    @saniyahshaikh7103 5 років тому +1

    Well said .... N ur beautiful ma'am.

    • @HelenaSummer
      @HelenaSummer  25 днів тому

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  • @hayleegraves9858
    @hayleegraves9858 5 років тому

    I love this channel

    • @HelenaSummer
      @HelenaSummer  5 років тому +1

      Me too :-)

    • @HelenaSummer
      @HelenaSummer  25 днів тому

      Hey dear, long time no see.. .how have you been these past 5 years? I made a follow up to this video yesterday - ua-cam.com/users/liveZ5rUHwUg7mo?si=5QdxM1JG7EVRuuZw

  • @catolicaapostolicayromana7614
    @catolicaapostolicayromana7614 3 роки тому +1

    Love you and thank you

    • @HelenaSummer
      @HelenaSummer  25 днів тому

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  • @Handskeepscratching
    @Handskeepscratching 4 роки тому

    Love it!

    • @HelenaSummer
      @HelenaSummer  25 днів тому

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  • @Joanne_Gillespie.
    @Joanne_Gillespie. 5 років тому +8

    What happens if he denys it even tho u seen him stare???

    • @charo8339
      @charo8339 4 роки тому

      My boyfriend looking other woman with the same girl,that woman is my neighbor so every morning he see that girl before he go to work ,, its hurt so much, so evry morning i close the door immediately before i saw him looking the same woman, even i told him whats my feeling that i was hurt about it, but he dont care

    • @charo8339
      @charo8339 4 роки тому

      @Jenny Blake thanks for ur advice, i keep on read this to remind me 😊

    • @HelenaSummer
      @HelenaSummer  25 днів тому

      I answered that very question yesterday. Check it out. Everything about denial is here - ua-cam.com/users/liveZ5rUHwUg7mo?si=5QdxM1JG7EVRuuZw

  • @mariestel6148
    @mariestel6148 4 роки тому +7

    But sometimes my husband cannot understand my feelings, when i open up about how i feel when he does staring at others girls, he denied it and he got angry he makes me feel im making up stories in my mind, that im the one who has problem. Sometimes it depends on a guy, maybe some guys can control to stare so that no issue with their partner, some guys doesnt care our feelings as long as they enjoy the scanning at other girl’s body. I cannot enjoy going to the beach with husband if this happen everytime

    • @shineeamber7126
      @shineeamber7126 3 роки тому +1

      Tell ur husband that u r not complaining not jealous not trying to blame him for doing it tell him thats how u FEEL!!! Ur feelings r urs and it shouldnt be judged if he started getting mad and offensive tell him these r my feelings and u have no right to judge u just listen!!! I hate the feeling so much u have no idea!!! But guess what?! There is always someone who is gonna be better looking than ur husband and than any of us. I know i am beautiful and thats all it matters! U r probably beautiful and gorgeous!!!

    • @rosemariemerzlak8692
      @rosemariemerzlak8692 Рік тому

      Then they shouldn't be with someone if they behave that way

    • @HelenaSummer
      @HelenaSummer  25 днів тому

      I hear you.. .so here is a lot about that denial. And let me know what'sup with you two 3 years later... ua-cam.com/users/liveZ5rUHwUg7mo?si=5QdxM1JG7EVRuuZw

  • @paigek7798
    @paigek7798 5 років тому +7

    I hope this works. I will be trying this, later tonight, I will reply once I do it. Because I am sick of feeling lot good enough for him.

    • @HelenaSummer
      @HelenaSummer  5 років тому +3

      It works! And you have to present it with kindness and Class. Boundary has to be there, like a Tigress, not like a scardy cat.
      If you are sick of feeling not good enough, it means that he already considers you "less than", so make sure your attitude is firm, classy, elegant and calm. Don't be a little girl. Be a woman.
      Report back!

    • @paigek7798
      @paigek7798 5 років тому +6

      Oh I tried lol, he didn’t take it to kindly.. but 🤷🏼‍♀️ we talked it through, I guess. I am 22, and extremely insecure, half the time I feel like I am easily replaceable. I even asked him if thought he could easily replace me.
      I am typically the type of person that is vocal about my feelings or I will tell you if there is an issue...
      😔 ugh it just makes me drained to deal with these issues.

    • @JADESWASTED
      @JADESWASTED 5 років тому +4

      @@paigek7798 don't worry you aren't alone. I'm 17 my boyfriend is 18 and I constantly see him looking at every girl in sight. It makes me so upset. I don't think I'm ugly or the prettiest girl on the planet but I have recently been feeling good about myself and then when I see him looking at someone I automatically think I'm not good enough. No matter what I say or how many times i confront him he denies it and just gets pissed off.. I don't know what to do..

    • @Joanne_Gillespie.
      @Joanne_Gillespie. 5 років тому +2

      JADE JADE JADE I’m dealing with the same issue!!!! It’s so frustrating as I’ve physically seen him stare at other women, and when he Denys it I feel hurt and lied too. It puts me off , and makes me have trust issues. Although I could never leave him as I love him too much. I’d prefer him to be honest and say yes he looked and then I could just tell him that if he carry’s on I’ll end up leaving bc I don’t want to be disrespected like that

    • @JADESWASTED
      @JADESWASTED 5 років тому +1

      @@Joanne_Gillespie. me too..he's my best friend and my baby. I could never leave him but when I catch him, it completely loweres my self esteem. I feel like a worthless piece of shit at times and when I confront him he gets so angry. I also dont want someone that doesn't only look at me :/

  • @aniavanessian3385
    @aniavanessian3385 3 роки тому +4

    lol easy answer just say goodbye

    • @HelenaSummer
      @HelenaSummer  25 днів тому

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    • @aniavanessian3385
      @aniavanessian3385 3 дні тому

      @@HelenaSummer not interested in watching that and like I said, the answer is easy. I didn't say life is easy.

  • @imagicarolinavlogs
    @imagicarolinavlogs 7 років тому +2

    Beautiful

    • @HelenaSummer
      @HelenaSummer  25 днів тому

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  • @dollyshrimali6311
    @dollyshrimali6311 3 роки тому +1

    Haha so nice really liked the video 😂😂😂😂

    • @HelenaSummer
      @HelenaSummer  25 днів тому +1

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    • @dollyshrimali6311
      @dollyshrimali6311 25 днів тому +1

      @@HelenaSummer yup 😃

  • @AlicitySherie
    @AlicitySherie 5 років тому +1

    A+

    • @HelenaSummer
      @HelenaSummer  25 днів тому

      Hey dear, it's been 5 years... If you loved this, Then you'd love this follow up from yesterday even mroe! ua-cam.com/users/liveZ5rUHwUg7mo?si=5QdxM1JG7EVRuuZw

  • @swapnareddy5550
    @swapnareddy5550 4 роки тому +1

    What to do if hes

  • @chelseagallegos5462
    @chelseagallegos5462 4 роки тому +1

    I love you lol best advice

    • @HelenaSummer
      @HelenaSummer  25 днів тому

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  • @ibeensaidthat7178
    @ibeensaidthat7178 3 роки тому +1

    find a man of the opposite stature and stare with a smirk and turn ya head to keep checking him out too lol and make eyre contact with the other man too lol

    • @wisdom2578
      @wisdom2578 3 роки тому

      My girl does the same thjng. Would i be exagerating if i left her over this? Lol

    • @HelenaSummer
      @HelenaSummer  25 днів тому

      I just spoke about how this works in real life and how to deal with their denial... it's here ua-cam.com/users/liveZ5rUHwUg7mo?si=5QdxM1JG7EVRuuZw

  • @brokegirl1452
    @brokegirl1452 4 роки тому +2

    Niether of them seem to work when your honest how you feel about. He has every right to do that single lolol have fun lol

    • @HelenaSummer
      @HelenaSummer  25 днів тому

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  • @supriyamondal5542
    @supriyamondal5542 4 роки тому +5

    Thank you so much dear.. I m from India.. I also suffering from anxiety, jealousy which makes my my relation worse day by day.. I have lost trust on him.. I started believe my own imagination.. When ever his phone is busy I feel he is taking with other girl.. I do checks his phone and social media.. I really don't want to do all this I want to overcome from this.. Please help me

    • @nayelynunez6753
      @nayelynunez6753 3 роки тому +1

      Well I say focus on yourself. In the end of the day its about you and what makes you comfortable. You should retrain yourself from looking at his stuff because usually wont won't like what he has on it. You can't control what he does or do.. in the end if you keep on checking you just going to get obsessive over what does or look and you never going to be calm. Find someone that doest make you feel this way, because this guy sound like a waste of time and he is harming your health.

    • @HelenaSummer
      @HelenaSummer  25 днів тому

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  • @spiderlady7256
    @spiderlady7256 Місяць тому +1

    I do'nt handle with bs, i have no time for crappy men and i do'nt play games.

    • @HelenaSummer
      @HelenaSummer  Місяць тому

      Yes, I totally understand this frustration. The deal is that the moment we call a man "crappy" we are playing games. That's how we fall on the same level. But if you elevate by speaking your truth and telling him you don't feel comfortable and don't respect his action, you elevate and he gets the chance to step up too.

    • @HelenaSummer
      @HelenaSummer  25 днів тому

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  • @sagek7949
    @sagek7949 25 днів тому +1

    He has every right to do that? 🤷‍♀️

    • @HelenaSummer
      @HelenaSummer  24 дні тому

      Yes. He has legal rights. You can't call the police and say "Hello 911, my man is looking at other women, help!"
      So when you acknowledge his right, you establish a connection. Then you say how you feel and ask for the behavior change. Thats how people bond.
      You also have a right to leave, if you so desire

  • @emeliahsookram1270
    @emeliahsookram1270 4 роки тому +1

    Hi my boyfriend is a fitness trainer and he is 24 yrs older than me i have depression and my confidence level is low *he looks at other women talks about their shape and i told him i feel uncomfortable and he says that he is a thats his job so he has to do it, tells me some thing is wrong with me and i feel bad. * there was a time a lady invited us (me and my boyfriend) to go to a latin party with her (her alone) and three of us was sitting down. I was right next to him and one of his friend, a lady came up to him. He was sitting with his legs open and she wine and touch his legs and stretched out his legs like she was asking him to dance and he was normal i was became sad when i saw that i felt like i just got stabbed in my chest i wanted to cry and the lady who we came with saw and she made a kinda joke but i did not smile ...i just couldnt i felt hurt. I told him about it when he was finish dancing with he r and he said something is wrong with me, he didnt atleast apologise or anything. The day after when i vwas with him i told him about it and he said again that something wrong with me like i not supposed to have a problem with it * he was one time when i was younger we went a latin party and a man asked me to dance so i danced with him then i didnt know what the hell he was doing. He started to pull me closer i was uncomfortable and i was the kinda person to speak out i was very quiat i didnt know what to do i was feelin really bad i was tryna pull away slowly but i couldnt because he was holding me tight i felt like i was being raped. My boyfriend saw and he was really angry i didnt know what kinda dance he was doin only afterwards when my boygriend told me it was kizomba that scared my heart then and even now i feel bad and depressed i wasnna know if something is really wrong with me or what .....thank you

    • @vagarnaldcoochischmidt1910
      @vagarnaldcoochischmidt1910 3 роки тому +2

      Girl nothing is wrong with you at all. This kind of behavior would make anyone self conscious and he’s preying on how you’re feeling rn. You deserve so much better there are respectful men out there they’re few and far between but you absolutely deserve it. If he doesnt agree that’s fine, if he says he has to talk about other women’s shape whatever. That’s his bag. But it disrespects your boundaries at the end of the day and he has to go. Much love to you!!

    • @jessaminedeyson7592
      @jessaminedeyson7592 3 роки тому +1

      Been there... There's nothing wrong with you. If he doesn't respect you then respect yourself enough to walk away, he won't do any good anyway.

    • @HelenaSummer
      @HelenaSummer  25 днів тому

      od darling... how are you two now? Still together 4 years later?
      I made a follow up video on this yesterday - check it out and let me know. ua-cam.com/users/liveZ5rUHwUg7mo?si=5QdxM1JG7EVRuuZw

  • @videoplan5023
    @videoplan5023 2 роки тому +1

    I hope my girlfriend thinks the same way you think that's the most beautiful thing to say..!! ♥️

    • @HelenaSummer
      @HelenaSummer  Рік тому

      Hey dear, it has been a year since you wrote this... how is your girlfriend?

    • @HelenaSummer
      @HelenaSummer  25 днів тому

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  • @Cs-mu3ub
    @Cs-mu3ub 3 роки тому +1

    will tell you a situation you just tell me what should I do bcz I am totally fed up. My husband never appreciates me but if I do a little wrong he scolds me like hell. He always compare me with someone else tell me that I should b like her. He just needs a reason to look other girls. Once I wnt out with him and I was looking out for some candies so that he should not face travelling sickness, He took me to a shop and when I asked him which candy should I take he didnt responded so i asked again, eventhough he didnot respond so i turnback and seen him watching the girls wearing shorts/skirts. Another time we went out and this time again he was watching girls wearing shorts and whenever I catches him he denies and gives all kinds of rubbish excuses. I told him once its okay if a girlcomes in front of u i know any1 will look at them but dont stare continuously/turn back to see again which makes me feel as he is disrespecting me. Next time we went to disneyland and he repeats d same, when I ask him anything he starts fighting by saying I doubt him. He always make me to sit/stand in a angle from where he can watch them properly, he even tells me if I watch any1, u also watch some1.

    • @HelenaSummer
      @HelenaSummer  25 днів тому

      Ouch!
      How are you two now, 3 years later?
      I made a this follow up video yesterday. Let me know what you think and how you two are ua-cam.com/users/liveZ5rUHwUg7mo?si=5QdxM1JG7EVRuuZw

  • @emmaalvarez1617
    @emmaalvarez1617 2 роки тому

    Her husband was there noticing also. She was with her kids.

    • @HelenaSummer
      @HelenaSummer  25 днів тому

      Hey dear, it's been 2 years since you said that. Tell me the details. I spoke more about it yesterday - Check it out here ua-cam.com/users/liveZ5rUHwUg7mo?si=5QdxM1JG7EVRuuZw

  • @SaturnDancer10
    @SaturnDancer10 4 роки тому +1

    My girlfriend always checking out other men and I show her respect and I show her attention and I don’t stare at other women in front of my girlfriend. How do I fix this issue?
    Knowingly she does love me but doesn’t put
    More into it.

    • @ryandosremedios4818
      @ryandosremedios4818 4 роки тому +3

      Leave her

    • @HelenaSummer
      @HelenaSummer  25 днів тому

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  • @luzpadilla9775
    @luzpadilla9775 3 роки тому +1

    Me???? I just do the same and check out the cute Men see if he like IV

    • @HelenaSummer
      @HelenaSummer  25 днів тому

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  • @rosemariemerzlak3856
    @rosemariemerzlak3856 2 роки тому

    Check out other guys

    • @HelenaSummer
      @HelenaSummer  Рік тому

      Hello darling... you posted this 11 months ago and today you posted the same.... I'm having a feeling you are having experiences with it all. Do you want to have a little Love & Connection assessment with me?
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    • @HelenaSummer
      @HelenaSummer  25 днів тому

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  • @lorenajules4651
    @lorenajules4651 3 місяці тому +1

    Do it back to him and make sure you absolutely don't care that he is next to you or care how he feels!

    • @HelenaSummer
      @HelenaSummer  2 місяці тому

      What good would that do?

    • @snehab7676
      @snehab7676 Місяць тому

      ​@@HelenaSummermake him understand how you feel

    • @HelenaSummer
      @HelenaSummer  25 днів тому

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  • @jimyost2585
    @jimyost2585 4 роки тому +1

    What to say when she starts bitching at you for looking at another woman:
    "Just because I'm on a diet doesn't mean I can't read the menu."
    Or...
    "Aw c'mon honey, I had to look at her long enough to give her a grade." :O)

    • @nourhammouri3961
      @nourhammouri3961 4 роки тому +7

      Jim Yost What's wrong with you. Don't analogize your relationship with a woman to a diet and reading a menu. Women shouldn't be given grades either, they are HUMAN BEINGS. Men don't like it when women look at better looking guys so why should women have to put up with that. It's apparent that your relationship would fail.

    • @jimyost2585
      @jimyost2585 4 роки тому +1

      @@nourhammouri3961 ~ Dear Nour, some people simply cannot take a joke.

    • @nourhammouri3961
      @nourhammouri3961 4 роки тому +4

      Jim Yost Jokes are meant to be funny.

    • @jimyost2585
      @jimyost2585 4 роки тому +2

      @@nourhammouri3961 ~ Dear Nour, I think most men would think it to be funny, especially men who have wives or girlfriends who tend to be jealous, usually due to personal insecurity. But I can see how it wouldn't be funny to very many women, especially women who have insecurity issues.
      I'm 73 years old now. About thirty five years ago I was in a five year relationship with a woman who was a solid 9 on the 1-10 scale, yet she was about as jealous a woman as I ever met, I think because she was insecure because she never had a loving relationship with her dad. He was a doctor (a pediatrician) and he was so busy with his job that he never had time for her when she was a kid.

    • @rosemariemerzlak8692
      @rosemariemerzlak8692 Рік тому

      @@jimyost2585 I love being single

  • @jackwu9148
    @jackwu9148 4 роки тому

    I can't understand your English.

    • @emmaalvarez1617
      @emmaalvarez1617 2 роки тому +1

      Her English is perfect.

    • @HelenaSummer
      @HelenaSummer  25 днів тому

      @@emmaalvarez1617 Thank you... I appreciate your support of my Angleesh 🙂
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  • @rosemariemerzlak8692
    @rosemariemerzlak8692 Рік тому +1

    A dose of his own medicine

    • @HelenaSummer
      @HelenaSummer  Рік тому

      Why?
      Eye for an eye makes the whole world blind.
      As a classy woman, you can stand up for your values the way I speak in the video, you don't need to fall for petty behavior.

    • @HelenaSummer
      @HelenaSummer  25 днів тому

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