I think her saying "I'm sorry if I made you feel like you couldn't tell me" also relates to scenes in previous episodes where she mentions how he will find the right girl, or how he liked an actress as a kid. I think it is a reminder for parents that perhaps using gender neutral terms in talking to you kids is ideal until they tell you specifically if they have a preference. I have the most supportive family but the constant hetrosexual narrative as a kid probably impacted me more than I thought. Even supportive parents like Nick's mom can unknowingly say things that impact kids subconsciously.
i remember a tv interview about 5 or 6 mid teen boys who were up and coming actor.......the host asked each of them "do you have a girlfriend?" I was so offended....i'm sure at least one of them was bi or gay or still confused.....back then, you had to lie and pretend you were straight.
I don’t see how gender neutraI language reIates to this at all! Nor how it will make your child more comfortable unless they AS YOUR CHILDREN know that you aren’t h0m0ph0bic. A wise man once said, The subconscious is unconscious to our conscious. This leads into how the “coming out” thing is unnecessary unless it’s like some asks you. If not directly then something like “what kinda girlfriend do you like?” And you answer honestly. Because of you KNOW your parents are h0m0ph0bic then it’s not a good idea.
watching this after what happened with Kit makes me so sad... he deserved this kind of coming out. a happy and warm one, on his own terms, and not forced one that feels like fucking blackmail. I'm heartbroken.
@@jisungieluvrr Kit getting harassed for some dumb stuff, because people are being asshats. People didn't like that someone "straight" should play a bisexual character. He was forced to come out and honestly, celebrity or not: No one should be forced to come out. Apparently, common sense isn't that common anymore.
We can hope that Kit had this kind of reaction from his own family. My guess is that, given how sensitive he is as a person, he did. While I remain angry that he was bullied into coming out, I hope his own family and friends have buffered him from the injustice.
Hearing about Kit being forced to come out made me so sad. He deserved to do it on his own terms and it's nobody else's business. He did an amazing job playing Nick and that is all people should care about
I knew my son was gay before he was old enough to know himself. I always allowed a safe environment for him to talk to me about anything as a single parent. His dad and sister disowned him and I moved him 1000 miles away to have the life he wanted. I adore him and so proud of his accomplishments.
I think nick and Charlie’s conversations are probably the healthiest portrayal of communication between a couple where one has mental health issues/trauma/insecurities that I’ve ever seen portrayed in a show about teens. Not just lgbtq+ teens. Just any teens period. Respect, compassion, clear communication and zero codependency. This show really models healthy relationships and also shows what relationships can be when you don’t have that mutual respect and compassion as we see in Ben’s relationship with Charlie .
YES 100%, very well said I love how Nick and Charlie are there for each other and also how they interact with each other in general. And Kit and Joe have such good chemistry
I say this all the time! Adults I know could learn some things from how these two communicate. Such excellent modelling for all youth. Especially the lack of codependency. We also see in Season 2 what a lack of clear and honest communication does to a relationship. Ugh, I can't with how amazing this show is
Slight SPOILERS but nothing earth shattering: In the books, Charlie DOES become codependent on nick for all his struggles/mental health issues, and this takes a toll on charlie AND Nick. Nick is super stressed, doesn’t know how to help, lots of big things happening. THEN, Nicks mom sits him down and explains codependency to him, and has a heart to heart with Nick. He then can go and have a conversation with Charlie, and their relationship becomes so much stronger because of it. I love that heart stopper deals with these things, and then RESOLVES it, and even showcases the work it takes to get better in a healthy and loving way.
Coming Out is still making me anxious because as an asexual, most of the time, it's not done by just saying that I'm asexual. Most of the time, it becomes a asexuality 101 lesson which can be exhausting. And don't make me get started on the reactions I sometimes get.
Absolutely, when you want to come out as gay your fear the unnatural comments. When you want to come out as ace you fear the broken comments. Why don't you love anyone? Are you broken? Then you're stuck in a hole feeling worthless and broken because people misinterpret what you're saying
And then there’s the anxiety making it seem like the person you came out to is making a weird face or going to tell other people or just flat out judge you… coming out is hard
Fellow Ace (also pan) here, I feel you. Just in case you or any others are unaware, you may be delighted to know that Alice Oseman is herself, asexual :) She has another novel following an aro-ace character, highly recommend.
It's terrifying coming out. I had a simular conversation when I came out to my dad. First thing he said is "I feel like I failed as my job as a parent that you couldn't feel like you could tell me this." My mother told me how much better it would be if I was just a crossdresser. She told me multiple times, "you know if you were just a crossdresser it would have been better for everyone, cause at least I could accept that."
I’m glad that your dad from what I can tell had a good response and I’m so sorry that you had to go through that with your mom. I’m sure you know this but of not , know that there’s lots and lots of people who will support you.
I’m sorry to hear about your mom, and I’m glad that your Dad was accepting! Like one of the comments said earlier, there are people who will/do support and love you :) God bless you ❤️
Goodness, that admission of your mom that her lack of acceptance is the problem but somehow you're to carry the responsibility is painful to even read. So I'm glad you at least have one parent on board (kind of) doing their job here. I wish you tons if support for your future from people of your choice!
I'm stealing this from an old tweet or Tumblr post or something, but I still think about it all the time: One thing that straight people will never experience that every LGBTQ person goes through before coming out is accepting the possibility that they are about to be disowned by their family. No matter how much you think your family loves you, you still have to brace yourself for the chance you might be wrong. This scene is devastatingly beautiful, and Kit and Olivia play it perfectly. It guts me every time.
OMG YESS!!! Please please please watch the whole thing and maybe do a Cinema Therapy video about it. Believe me, you won´t regret it! Not only should it be a gold mine for content but the whole show is just SO good. Wholesome and fuzzy and heartwarming and just all-around well-made. And it´s a very quick watch, the whole series is just 4 hours long! So nothing to lose, right?
literally came to the comments to say this exact thing! It would make for a great episode of Cinema Therapy. There is so much to talk about! So many examples of good and bad communication, mental health issues, and also just such a heartwarming story!
Would love to see you react to the contrast between Ben and Charlie’s abusive/manipulative closeted relationship vs nick and Charlie’s respectful and wholesome closeted relationship
"I'm sorry if i ever made you feel like you couldn't tell me that" absolutely BREAKS me every time I hear it. One day I'll come out to my parents, but it won't be any time soon.
Coming out is literally looking over a cliff into a raging river. No matter how well you can swim and you say “you can do it, you’ll be fine.” You’re still glued to that cliff face. You can’t jump, you struggle to let go and you struggle to really trust that those around you will help keep you afloat. Nick’s face- every time he tries to tell someone- encapsulates that fear. It’s there and present and he knows they love him but it’s still a fear that you struggle with.
I’m not part of LGBTQ+ community but I really loved this show. They show to people how you can react correctly to coming out for example. And it’s beautiful and educates people like how to react and what to do to not heart anyone’s feelings ❤
I remember that moment, the precipice of “now everything changes” - I delayed it for 12, painful years of secrets and bi denial. I love seeing Nick’s bravery and comfort in his own skin. I love seeing his mom’s perfect response. I think it’s cathartic for those of us who didn’t have the experience, and maybe even a guide for those on the other end of the table in the future.
You should react to more scenes of that show - this seriously helped my so much and is just good for the soul to watch. I'm not gay and maybe a bit too old, but this is just such a wholesome and heartwarming story, not just on being queer but also just love and relationships in general. Very precious to have this out there.
Yes! 100 percent everything you said. There’s something about the characters and relationships in this show that I have never seen like this anywhere else. There’s so much kindness and love in this show. Beyond just romantic
I think Alice Oseman (the writer of the graphic novel and screenwriter for the show) gave wonderful information for kit Connor (nick’s actor) to work with for this scene. He said that Alice clarified that while nick’s self discovery journey is scary and confusing for him as is coming out, he is not upset by the fact that he likes Charlie. He’s not reluctant. He loves how much he likes Charlie. His feelings for Charlie inspire him and bring him joy. As is expressed in his facial expressions in this scene as well as when he says to Charlie “I like you so much…and I love liking you” It’s very sweet and joyful.
This is a totally beautiful tv series I chanced upon and I’m so glad I did. I’m decades beyond and straight but even then I couldn’t get my parents to take any relationship I had seriously. I am thrilled that this is the sort of show that young people get to see these days. I am definitely giving it a second watch. If you haven’t seen it, get to it! ❤️
I am a senior and I have found myself re-watching this coming out scene on UA-cam.... a lot. I was concerned a little bit that I was sort of getting obsessed. Seriously over the past few months I have probably watch this scene about 50 times and it often makes me tear up. When you said that this wholesome coming out scene is important to some people because it allows them to experience and reflect on a positive experience that they never had... it clicked with me. When I was young, it was almost impossible for anyone to expect this type of positive reaction from a parent. I also admire this series and the source graphic novel because it shows the developing language that younger people are using to discuss their sexuality. Ultimately I hope this means they will not have to keep packing up and carrying the negative bagage that my generation did.
I agree with you. I have seen to many shows of soap opera shows that have so much troubled lgbtqia scenes. I remember watching it as a teen and being older and really hating the hate and selfloathing aspect. Like being was always going to be hard or sad and you could never be happy. A show like heartstopper has healed a part of me as a 33 year old biseksual woman to see happiness. The light at the end of the tunnel. It has a road filled with troubles but there is a way foward and to be happy. I kinda knew when I was 16 like Nick, but due to circumstances did not have the time for any kind of romance. Had my first relationship at 24 and I never really made a big deal about my seksuality. I told my mom when I was 27 and some others dropping hints to the fact that I liked woman. But never big coming out. When I turned 30 I decided it was time to say it more confidently to others as I was getting asked, why are you single, kids? The right man will come. I started correcting people or woman. Now I am 33 years and alot has happend to me and I am proud now and put it out there that I am bi. There have been a few people that do not believe I am bi, like my little brother. But he and I do not have the best relationship and that is fine. I do not need his approval. It is a part of me. Also being single and happy, not lonely as some people think I am.
i totally get your comment. at least you don't have people showing pitty & saying "some day the right 'girl" will come along." I have friend who is gay & single. his mom calls him and says things like " I have an office friend, who is single & i think is gay!" "I think you should meet him!" lmao.
I absolutely love heart stopper. It is so nice to have positive accurate representation that doesn’t villainize by sexuality as well. I love it, and I do think personally as a member of the community that I like seeing positive coming out stories, as exactly what you said, an example of what it can look like, so I completely understand. Also making it clear that that’s not always reality for everybody I think love Victor does a nice job of showing what it can also look like.
Indeed it does! I love that it gives young people a healthy model for what their life can look like. (Not just lgbtq+ ppl, but teens struggling with anything.) and it also gives adults a model for healthy parenting
I really like the viewpoint of HEARTSTOPPER. is from the lgbtq+ side and the hetronormitive crowd is mostly in the background. I'm also glad that none of the characters are the stereotypical, over the top, lgbtq+ characters that you often see in other shows.
There are SO many stories about queer people being rejected and bullied, I don't know how anyone can complain just because there's finally something positive and uplifting!
beautiful analysis. Nick’s mum is a pretty minor character but such an important one because she can be a role model for how to respond to someone’s coming out. And ofc it was so well-acted. Also your jorts comment killed me 😂
I'm about to cry out of happiness, thanks for reacting to this amazing show!! Pls do more about this, we would truly, wholeheartedly love to see you react to more to this show!
omg yes! you should really watch all of Heartstopper because it is such an amazing show that teaches teens how to interact in a healthy way. we NEEDED a show like this for the LGBTQ+ community, for sure! also Jono, you should know by now that all fashion comes back around lol ❤
I loved how you paused to speak about how much it showed about her parenting that when she could see that something was up she gave him her full attention. And that face you did at 2:43 - that look of: “you have my attention but I don’t want to actually listen. I’m listening bc I’m obligated get it over with already…” vs her look of open warmth and “whatever you say I’m here to listen bc I love you and want to know what’s going on bc you are precious to me…” I was very moved by her acting choices/the direction. It really does model positive communication. Lovely to see
OMG i didn't know i needed your reaction to this!! also, the BTS of the coming out scene is just as lovely, Olivia Coleman was so moved by Kit Connors acting that she actually teared up and forgot her lines, and said "I got all overwhelmed, your little face!"
I remember growing up and NEVER seeing gay, queer, bi-sexual, poly-sexual, transgender or a-sexual characters portrayed on TV. Now I can name shows on TV that have characters just like that, and even couples. It really is nice to see.
It definitely didn't go well for me. My brother outed me at Xmas. My Mormon family proceeded to shun me. That was 21 years ago. I'm glad it's better for many Mormon kids now, but it still doesn't go well for everyone. Heartstopper has been balm for my soul. I've watched it many, many times. It's a beautiful series and has had a significant impact on me. It's important to have shows like this that model this behavior... not just the mum, but the healthy relationship between Nick and Charlie. Plus it's beautifully acted. No wonder it's had a massive impact around the world!❤️
1:16 that is EXACTLY it, i think this face is pretty much a universal experience of anyone coming out about anything ever, whether we make this face externally or internally, and you captured it perfectly.
I definitely felt this way like Nick when I came out as Non-Binary to my parents. I knew my parents love me and just want the best for me. However, I couldn’t help but feel worried they wouldn’t understand. The best way I described it to my parents was that it was like trying on pants and the one’s I got automatically were not comfortable so I tried on They/Them pants and it felt so much better for me. Like I never 100% felt comfortable in my body/gender as a kid but never understood why and I did try to fit in but the uncomfortable feeling never went away.
when i came out as genderfluid, my parents (through text) were really supportive but in person they had absoltuely no idea how to talk to or about me for the first six months. it got better but it's hard for sure
I'm 64 and cis/straight and I think the show is incredible, and that many of my peers would have had much happier lives earlier if they had this kind of show in my day!
I feel it´s important to show positive coming-out stories. Especially really lovely reactions from parents. People watching this now might be parents or become future parents. They are shown now how to be supportive and excepting.
Nick and his mom have such a beautiful relationship. I absolutely adore how Nick was able to bring up the courage to talk with his mum, and how she stopped what she was doing to really listen and realize "Okay, this feels like something really important". We do need more examples of healthy responses to someone coming out. I also really do love how Nick and Charlie do make those big decisions together! ❤️❤️❤️
I resonate very strongly with the part about the coming out scene being healing in a vicarious way. I'm in a place where I can't yet come out to my parents but this is such a beautiful moment.. it brings tears to my eyes every time!
I looooooooove Heartstopper. I read the webcomic and when they announced that Netflix was doing a series I was so apprehensive. But they put so much tender loving care and respect into the story Alice Oseman created. I beg anyone and everyone to watch and read all her works for the Heartstopper universe. It will warm any heart. 💙 💛
What I loved about the show was that I've been conditioned at this point to always expect the worst with some of the situations and instead It actually just didn't go there. Whilst awareness is obv super important it was so nice to actually see representation that wasn't trauma and misery...
you should definitely react to more scenes from heartstopper! in particular there is one scene involving charlie and his sister tori in the last episode and a scene involving one of the other couples in the show (tara and darcy) talking about the changes that have happened since they came out which is in the 6th episode :)
Man i literally just finished rewatching it for the nth time this morning and no matter how many times i watch Nick’s coming out scene to his mom i can’t stop smiling and tearing up because there’s nothing i would want more than to have had that with my mom.
One of the things I love about heartstopper is that you can watch with your children and open the doors of communication if they have questions in a way that isn’t really graphic in any of the relationships
As part of that community and not having such a beautiful reaction: the scene always makes me cry because it's just so accurate from Nick in being scared to say and gasping a bit for air, and her reaction is amazing ❤
i came out to my mom after 2-3 ish years of knowing and i knew logically that she would accept me but it was so scary in my mind because i was so young when i realized and she said the same thing “i’m sorry if i made you feel like you couldn’t tell me”
Loved your point about wholesome LGBT+ content for younger audiences. It's so kind and sweet and shows how being gay/bi doesn't automatically mean being hyper-sexualised.
I showed my little brother heartstopper and i just felt that something changed in him. He still doesnt get that much about lgbt community but i'm proud of him for trying to understand
One thing I think that particular scene does beautifully is it models for parents how to handle your child coming out to you. If you watch the rest of the show, you'll see moments where his mom assumes that he's straight and says things with that assumption without considering that he might not be, and so where she says that she's sorry that if she ever made him feel like he couldn't tell her that, I think it's those scenes that she's referring to. But it's beautifully done because she acknowledges that she might have done or said something that made it harder for him to tell her. I definitely recommend watching the entire series. It's eight half hour episodes. And I think it's strength besides being for a younger audience is that it models things like healthy, open, honest communication and the mom handling how her child is coming out to her, and I've seen a lot of comments about young people using this show as a vehicle for coming out to their parents. I think that this show really does a good job of showing us a lot of diverse experiences as well. I highly recommend the entire show.
I absolutely love Heartstopper, and your explaining the subtle points of how a parent or friend can appropriately react to a coming out is perfect and needed.
Can we just all collectively agree that Olivia Colman is just one of the loveliest humans on the planet and we must protect that women at all costs. I just see her in like interviews and stuff and I feel she has like the warmest energy about her. I feel like I would instantly feel safe and comfortable around her. Like she would make you a nice cup of tea and some toast and fetch you a blanket to make sure you are all cosy. I think she just has a pure soul.
Season 2 has just come out and there’s some interesting contrasts to this scene with Nick’s brother and dad not handling it as well as his mum, along with some general feelings of abandonment so that would be really interesting for you to watch! Episode 6 would be a good one 🙂
I love this scene! There are parents that are supportive from the start and it needs to be shown. I never got to have that experience because I was outed by my sister the same day I came out to her. She felt she couldn’t keep it a secret so she didn’t even try which led to a fight with my mom and me sobbing in our hallway. For me this scene is bittersweet and a pit cathartic. It doesn’t completely heal the wound from my coming out, I don’t think it will ever fully heal, but it helps.
@@MendedLight so excited for a full series reaction, but even more excited for a reaction to the heavier stuff to come in the coming seasons (assuming you decide to review/therapize the second season as well)
Nick's coming out always makes me tear up. It's such a beautiful scene! I came out to my parents about a year ago and let me just tell you it didn't go anywhere near as sweet and supporting as this. However, even if my experience wasn't like the one portrayed in this show, I still prefer these types of scenes. Show the love, the support, the warmth that I didn't get. I've already gone through so much trauma and hurt, I don't want to relive those things again. Scenes like these give me some hope that, at least, there's some people out there whose experiences are like that, that they got the support and the love I didn't. It makes me happy because, even if I didn't get that, at least I know there's some people out there who won't have to get hurt or go through what I went through. Absolutely love this show, the comic and your reaction on it, Jono. Love you and your vids so much! ❤❤
I LOVE this show. Some people say it's "unrealistic" or "sanitized" or whatever, and while I understand the criticism, I WISH I had this show 15 years ago! It really shows what healthy relationships (romantic, friendly, familial, etc) can be. The majority of my friends and family were generally accepting when I came out, and everyone suspected WAY before I even said anything (not to reinforce stereotypes or anything, but it was pretty obvious, and that's just my experience), but coming out was still super scary! I grew up in a fairly religious and pretty conservative environment, and the anxiety around my sexuality was a bit overwhelming at times during my young teen years. I came out to my closest friends/said I was questioning when I was 13. Then I told my mom, and she wasn't mad or anything, but just asked if I was sure... which upset me at the time, but I think it was just either her wording or my perception, because I actually wasn't sure then.... (but she was always loving and supportive, before anyone starts to hate on my mom!), Then about a year and a half later when I was sure enough, I told the rest of my friends and family, and stopped hiding it from anyone who asked, but it wasn't all daffodils and teddy bears..... luckily I had a pretty solid support network (whether I believed it at the time or not), because my friends and family loved me. Some of the people in my family may not have been entirely comfortable with it (maybe not even to this day), but they still love me and have always accepted me and welcomed my partner as a part of the family without question, just as if he were a girl. They'd also sure as hell kick someone's ass to defend/stick up for me if it came down to it, just as I would for them. Lol anyways, the point that I'm trying to make is that some people just suck, but some people don't. I was really taken aback by how accepting some of the people in my life were, and it was a huge relief for me, but not everyone has the same experience or support system. Sometimes people will surprise you, but coming out is a scary thing no matter what 🤷❤️
I was 21 when I was half forced to tell my mother that I was gay, she didn't say anything she first asked me why would I say such a bad thing and then when she understood I wasn't joking she just left the room and went in her bedroom crying. She didn't talk to me for two weeks and even then the first thing she said was "No one in our family can hear of this."; things got better, I'm now 40 years old and I grown up a lot since that day but I can still remember that the first time I opened up to one of the people that mattered most in my life I got rejection and disgust. I needed this show to give me an image of how it would have been if I had a more understanding family, I am not in the delusion that this is reality for most of the people but still a positive message even if fictional sometimes can really soothe even scars that are way past healing.
One of the things i love about this show is that is shows many different queer teen perspectives. Nick's mom is accepting and that's great to see on screen and we also see different responses from family members, especially in season 2. It shows people how accepting and welcoming some people are but also doesn't shy away from portraying when things go wrong. It's a great and i think realistic balance of what can happen when you come out or just live as a queer person. Of course not every single perspective has been portrayed in this show but its characters have had probably the most diverse queer experiences i've ever seen in a show before. It's truly great to see as a person in the lgbt+ community.
I think the most important thing and why this series is so loved, (even its original comic form), is that it can be real about things that are hard while also showing that our lives aren't always about tragedy. There's this over focus on how hard it is for us in the lgbt+ community, which is true yes, however its jus so nice to see people being happy for once. Not everything is constant tragedy after tragedy and seeing lgbt ppl in the light and joy is so rare on tv. We aren't jus a tragic backstory. Lives can have tragic events but it shows us that even those lives have light. There's light left for us. We deserve happiness and support and to exist without our lives being boiled down to a fraction of what its really like. We aren't just a teaching lesson for cishets we are our own community with the right to see ourselves in media jus for the sake of it. That's what makes this show so beautiful.
My outing was like Nick my Mom was so nice & supportive my dad hates me he is French and catholic I wish every queer kid this lovely support from parent's
coming out to my family was a lot easier than for other people because my sister had come out like a few months before that and my coming out was actually accidental over dinner at a restaurant
I loved seeing you react to heartstopper. I hope we get to see more reactions from this show. There’s a lot to unpack. In the first season for sure but especially what’s to come in later seasons
I would LOVE to see you react to the whole of Heartstopper. It's beautiful and wholesome and has great examples of honest communication in relationships!
Maybe react to Heartstopper's Tao and his insecurities within his friendship group, I feel like there's a lot there. And also maybe to Nick's struggle to confront people?
Coming out I was extremely lucky. Was in my 30s and had been 'straight' until I started dating my best friend of 15 years! My families only response was 'finally!' Lol I know not everyone receives anything like this and it's terrible I can only hope it improves overtime. My daughters are OBSESSED with this series, it's very cute.
Oh, I absolutely LOVED the scene where Nick came out! The acting is genuinely showstopping, and it was incredibly healing to watch as an LGBTQ+ young adult who didn't get the same love and acceptance from their family. My mum tried her best, and I appreciate her so much for that, but even she said a lot of hurtful things that really impacted me and still have a bitter taste to this day. My father was/is worse, though. He didn't even try to put the fact that he couldn't accept who I was tactfully. He just said that it was a phase and that he loved me still BECAUSE I would eventually grow out of it and be 'normal' again. When I asked him if he would still love me if it turned out not to be a phase, he didn't answer and went to bed instead. Over the months, he still treats me as if I never even came out, and it makes me feel so angry because it took a lot of courage on my part to come out, and it feels so invalidating to have him just ignore all that because "it's just a phase" and time will "cure" me.
I think her saying "I'm sorry if I made you feel like you couldn't tell me" also relates to scenes in previous episodes where she mentions how he will find the right girl, or how he liked an actress as a kid. I think it is a reminder for parents that perhaps using gender neutral terms in talking to you kids is ideal until they tell you specifically if they have a preference. I have the most supportive family but the constant hetrosexual narrative as a kid probably impacted me more than I thought. Even supportive parents like Nick's mom can unknowingly say things that impact kids subconsciously.
i remember a tv interview about 5 or 6 mid teen boys who were up and coming actor.......the host asked each of them "do you have a girlfriend?"
I was so offended....i'm sure at least one of them was bi or gay or still confused.....back then, you had to lie and pretend you were straight.
@@roncaron8939 Yes, there's the truly cringe-y interview with a young Jodie Foster where they keep going on about whether she has a boyfriend. 😐😐😐
@@roncaron8939 you were so offended? Jeez you really need a life then
I don’t see how gender neutraI language reIates to this at all! Nor how it will make your child more comfortable unless they AS YOUR CHILDREN know that you aren’t h0m0ph0bic. A wise man once said, The subconscious is unconscious to our conscious.
This leads into how the “coming out” thing is unnecessary unless it’s like some asks you. If not directly then something like “what kinda girlfriend do you like?” And you answer honestly. Because of you KNOW your parents are h0m0ph0bic then it’s not a good idea.
@@vicky__p so?
I was sobbing when Nick came out to his Mum as Bi, and when Tori comforted Charlie. Such pure moments!
same, it was such good acting
Apparently Olivia Coleman also cried for real in rehearsal. Kit Connor was like "oh noes, I broke Academy Award winner Olivia Coleman! Help!". 😁
This scene makes me sob every time, it’s so beautiful and I wish I could have the same
Grrrrrl!! Mended light should watch that latter one you mentioned!
@@leo2364 bad*
watching this after what happened with Kit makes me so sad... he deserved this kind of coming out. a happy and warm one, on his own terms, and not forced one that feels like fucking blackmail. I'm heartbroken.
wait what happened with kit?
@@jisungieluvrr he was forced to out himself as bisexual after months of harassment
@@jisungieluvrr Kit getting harassed for some dumb stuff, because people are being asshats. People didn't like that someone "straight" should play a bisexual character. He was forced to come out and honestly, celebrity or not: No one should be forced to come out. Apparently, common sense isn't that common anymore.
We can hope that Kit had this kind of reaction from his own family. My guess is that, given how sensitive he is as a person, he did. While I remain angry that he was bullied into coming out, I hope his own family and friends have buffered him from the injustice.
Hearing about Kit being forced to come out made me so sad. He deserved to do it on his own terms and it's nobody else's business. He did an amazing job playing Nick and that is all people should care about
I knew my son was gay before he was old enough to know himself. I always allowed a safe environment for him to talk to me about anything as a single parent. His dad and sister disowned him and I moved him 1000 miles away to have the life he wanted. I adore him and so proud of his accomplishments.
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You are an amazing parent 🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼
Congratulations, you sound like such an understanding, supportive parent. Your son is very lucky to have you in his life. ❤️😘
@@robyn00xx And So Say All of Us
Seems like a waste of money considering his dad and sister did most of the work anyway lol
I think nick and Charlie’s conversations are probably the healthiest portrayal of communication between a couple where one has mental health issues/trauma/insecurities that I’ve ever seen portrayed in a show about teens. Not just lgbtq+ teens. Just any teens period. Respect, compassion, clear communication and zero codependency. This show really models healthy relationships and also shows what relationships can be when you don’t have that mutual respect and compassion as we see in Ben’s relationship with Charlie .
YES 100%, very well said
I love how Nick and Charlie are there for each other and also how they interact with each other in general. And Kit and Joe have such good chemistry
I say this all the time! Adults I know could learn some things from how these two communicate. Such excellent modelling for all youth. Especially the lack of codependency. We also see in Season 2 what a lack of clear and honest communication does to a relationship. Ugh, I can't with how amazing this show is
Slight SPOILERS but nothing earth shattering: In the books, Charlie DOES become codependent on nick for all his struggles/mental health issues, and this takes a toll on charlie AND Nick. Nick is super stressed, doesn’t know how to help, lots of big things happening. THEN, Nicks mom sits him down and explains codependency to him, and has a heart to heart with Nick. He then can go and have a conversation with Charlie, and their relationship becomes so much stronger because of it. I love that heart stopper deals with these things, and then RESOLVES it, and even showcases the work it takes to get better in a healthy and loving way.
Coming Out is still making me anxious because as an asexual, most of the time, it's not done by just saying that I'm asexual. Most of the time, it becomes a asexuality 101 lesson which can be exhausting. And don't make me get started on the reactions I sometimes get.
Absolutely, when you want to come out as gay your fear the unnatural comments. When you want to come out as ace you fear the broken comments. Why don't you love anyone? Are you broken? Then you're stuck in a hole feeling worthless and broken because people misinterpret what you're saying
Ace gang represeeent
The accuracy. Every. Damn. Time.
And then there’s the anxiety making it seem like the person you came out to is making a weird face or going to tell other people or just flat out judge you… coming out is hard
Fellow Ace (also pan) here, I feel you. Just in case you or any others are unaware, you may be delighted to know that Alice Oseman is herself, asexual :) She has another novel following an aro-ace character, highly recommend.
It's terrifying coming out. I had a simular conversation when I came out to my dad. First thing he said is "I feel like I failed as my job as a parent that you couldn't feel like you could tell me this." My mother told me how much better it would be if I was just a crossdresser. She told me multiple times, "you know if you were just a crossdresser it would have been better for everyone, cause at least I could accept that."
Sorry this was you’re experience. Hard when family doesn’t get it
I’m glad that your dad from what I can tell had a good response and I’m so sorry that you had to go through that with your mom. I’m sure you know this but of not , know that there’s lots and lots of people who will support you.
I’m sorry to hear about your mom, and I’m glad that your Dad was accepting! Like one of the comments said earlier, there are people who will/do support and love you :) God bless you ❤️
Goodness, that admission of your mom that her lack of acceptance is the problem but somehow you're to carry the responsibility is painful to even read. So I'm glad you at least have one parent on board (kind of) doing their job here. I wish you tons if support for your future from people of your choice!
I’m so sorry I hope it gets better for you
I'm stealing this from an old tweet or Tumblr post or something, but I still think about it all the time: One thing that straight people will never experience that every LGBTQ person goes through before coming out is accepting the possibility that they are about to be disowned by their family. No matter how much you think your family loves you, you still have to brace yourself for the chance you might be wrong.
This scene is devastatingly beautiful, and Kit and Olivia play it perfectly. It guts me every time.
OMG YESS!!! Please please please watch the whole thing and maybe do a Cinema Therapy video about it. Believe me, you won´t regret it! Not only should it be a gold mine for content but the whole show is just SO good. Wholesome and fuzzy and heartwarming and just all-around well-made. And it´s a very quick watch, the whole series is just 4 hours long! So nothing to lose, right?
Yes, we definitely need a cinema therapy with Alan for Heartstopper!! Pleasee
Yeah that would be so awesome! We want more!! 🥰
@Lucy Beck I would watch every single one 🤩
Will second the Heartstopper Cinema Therapy episode. It's a short series, perfect for that.
literally came to the comments to say this exact thing! It would make for a great episode of Cinema Therapy. There is so much to talk about! So many examples of good and bad communication, mental health issues, and also just such a heartwarming story!
Would love to see you react to the contrast between Ben and Charlie’s abusive/manipulative closeted relationship vs nick and Charlie’s respectful and wholesome closeted relationship
This was my favourite part of the show. The difference between keeping it a secret and keeping it a secret.
"I'm sorry if i ever made you feel like you couldn't tell me that" absolutely BREAKS me every time I hear it. One day I'll come out to my parents, but it won't be any time soon.
Coming out is literally looking over a cliff into a raging river. No matter how well you can swim and you say “you can do it, you’ll be fine.” You’re still glued to that cliff face. You can’t jump, you struggle to let go and you struggle to really trust that those around you will help keep you afloat.
Nick’s face- every time he tries to tell someone- encapsulates that fear. It’s there and present and he knows they love him but it’s still a fear that you struggle with.
I’m not part of LGBTQ+ community but I really loved this show. They show to people how you can react correctly to coming out for example. And it’s beautiful and educates people like how to react and what to do to not heart anyone’s feelings ❤
There is a gold mine of dissectable relationship content in this show both good and bad.
I remember that moment, the precipice of “now everything changes” - I delayed it for 12, painful years of secrets and bi denial. I love seeing Nick’s bravery and comfort in his own skin. I love seeing his mom’s perfect response. I think it’s cathartic for those of us who didn’t have the experience, and maybe even a guide for those on the other end of the table in the future.
You should react to more scenes of that show - this seriously helped my so much and is just good for the soul to watch. I'm not gay and maybe a bit too old, but this is just such a wholesome and heartwarming story, not just on being queer but also just love and relationships in general. Very precious to have this out there.
Yes! 100 percent everything you said. There’s something about the characters and relationships in this show that I have never seen like this anywhere else. There’s so much kindness and love in this show. Beyond just romantic
I think Alice Oseman (the writer of the graphic novel and screenwriter for the show) gave wonderful information for kit Connor (nick’s actor) to work with for this scene.
He said that Alice clarified that while nick’s self discovery journey is scary and confusing for him as is coming out, he is not upset by the fact that he likes Charlie. He’s not reluctant. He loves how much he likes Charlie. His feelings for Charlie inspire him and bring him joy. As is expressed in his facial expressions in this scene as well as when he says to Charlie “I like you so much…and I love liking you”
It’s very sweet and joyful.
This is a totally beautiful tv series I chanced upon and I’m so glad I did. I’m decades beyond and straight but even then I couldn’t get my parents to take any relationship I had seriously. I am thrilled that this is the sort of show that young people get to see these days. I am definitely giving it a second watch. If you haven’t seen it, get to it! ❤️
I am a senior and I have found myself re-watching this coming out scene on UA-cam.... a lot. I was concerned a little bit that I was sort of getting obsessed. Seriously over the past few months I have probably watch this scene about 50 times and it often makes me tear up. When you said that this wholesome coming out scene is important to some people because it allows them to experience and reflect on a positive experience that they never had... it clicked with me. When I was young, it was almost impossible for anyone to expect this type of positive reaction from a parent. I also admire this series and the source graphic novel because it shows the developing language that younger people are using to discuss their sexuality. Ultimately I hope this means they will not have to keep packing up and carrying the negative bagage that my generation did.
I agree with you. I have seen to many shows of soap opera shows that have so much troubled lgbtqia scenes. I remember watching it as a teen and being older and really hating the hate and selfloathing aspect. Like being was always going to be hard or sad and you could never be happy. A show like heartstopper has healed a part of me as a 33 year old biseksual woman to see happiness. The light at the end of the tunnel. It has a road filled with troubles but there is a way foward and to be happy.
I kinda knew when I was 16 like Nick, but due to circumstances did not have the time for any kind of romance. Had my first relationship at 24 and I never really made a big deal about my seksuality. I told my mom when I was 27 and some others dropping hints to the fact that I liked woman. But never big coming out. When I turned 30 I decided it was time to say it more confidently to others as I was getting asked, why are you single, kids? The right man will come. I started correcting people or woman. Now I am 33 years and alot has happend to me and I am proud now and put it out there that I am bi.
There have been a few people that do not believe I am bi, like my little brother. But he and I do not have the best relationship and that is fine. I do not need his approval.
It is a part of me. Also being single and happy, not lonely as some people think I am.
i totally get your comment. at least you don't have people showing pitty & saying "some day the right 'girl" will come along." I have friend who is gay & single. his mom calls him and says things like " I have an office friend, who is single & i think is gay!" "I think you should meet him!" lmao.
I absolutely love heart stopper. It is so nice to have positive accurate representation that doesn’t villainize by sexuality as well. I love it, and I do think personally as a member of the community that I like seeing positive coming out stories, as exactly what you said, an example of what it can look like, so I completely understand. Also making it clear that that’s not always reality for everybody I think love Victor does a nice job of showing what it can also look like.
Indeed it does! I love that it gives young people a healthy model for what their life can look like. (Not just lgbtq+ ppl, but teens struggling with anything.) and it also gives adults a model for healthy parenting
I really like the viewpoint of HEARTSTOPPER. is from the lgbtq+ side and the hetronormitive crowd is mostly in the background.
I'm also glad that none of the characters are the stereotypical, over the top, lgbtq+ characters that you often see in other shows.
There are SO many stories about queer people being rejected and bullied, I don't know how anyone can complain just because there's finally something positive and uplifting!
beautiful analysis. Nick’s mum is a pretty minor character but such an important one because she can be a role model for how to respond to someone’s coming out. And ofc it was so well-acted.
Also your jorts comment killed me 😂
I'm about to cry out of happiness, thanks for reacting to this amazing show!! Pls do more about this, we would truly, wholeheartedly love to see you react to more to this show!
This entire series is worth watching. They way these people communicate is exemplary
the coming out scene makes me cry because i know that i won’t get a response like that from my parents and it’s all i really want from them :(
omg yes! you should really watch all of Heartstopper because it is such an amazing show that teaches teens how to interact in a healthy way. we NEEDED a show like this for the LGBTQ+ community, for sure!
also Jono, you should know by now that all fashion comes back around lol ❤
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My whole family- parents & 5 kids 7-16 watched this series together. It is absolutely excellent. We cried and cheered. Can't wait for season 2.
*Watching Nick and Charlie hugging on the beach
Jono: "Are jorts back in?"
Love you Jono!
I loved how you paused to speak about how much it showed about her parenting that when she could see that something was up she gave him her full attention.
And that face you did at 2:43 - that look of: “you have my attention but I don’t want to actually listen. I’m listening bc I’m obligated get it over with already…” vs her look of open warmth and “whatever you say I’m here to listen bc I love you and want to know what’s going on bc you are precious to me…”
I was very moved by her acting choices/the direction. It really does model positive communication. Lovely to see
OMG i didn't know i needed your reaction to this!!
also, the BTS of the coming out scene is just as lovely, Olivia Coleman was so moved by Kit Connors acting that she actually teared up and forgot her lines, and said "I got all overwhelmed, your little face!"
I remember growing up and NEVER seeing gay, queer, bi-sexual, poly-sexual, transgender or a-sexual characters portrayed on TV. Now I can name shows on TV that have characters just like that, and even couples. It really is nice to see.
It definitely didn't go well for me. My brother outed me at Xmas. My Mormon family proceeded to shun me. That was 21 years ago. I'm glad it's better for many Mormon kids now, but it still doesn't go well for everyone.
Heartstopper has been balm for my soul. I've watched it many, many times. It's a beautiful series and has had a significant impact on me. It's important to have shows like this that model this behavior... not just the mum, but the healthy relationship between Nick and Charlie. Plus it's beautifully acted. No wonder it's had a massive impact around the world!❤️
I'd definitely love to see you guys react to Heartstooper in its entirety, it really is a phenomenal show (based on a phenomenal comic)
1:16 that is EXACTLY it, i think this face is pretty much a universal experience of anyone coming out about anything ever, whether we make this face externally or internally, and you captured it perfectly.
I definitely felt this way like Nick when I came out as Non-Binary to my parents. I knew my parents love me and just want the best for me. However, I couldn’t help but feel worried they wouldn’t understand. The best way I described it to my parents was that it was like trying on pants and the one’s I got automatically were not comfortable so I tried on They/Them pants and it felt so much better for me. Like I never 100% felt comfortable in my body/gender as a kid but never understood why and I did try to fit in but the uncomfortable feeling never went away.
when i came out as genderfluid, my parents (through text) were really supportive but in person they had absoltuely no idea how to talk to or about me for the first six months. it got better but it's hard for sure
@@catjenkins9679 Felt this 🥲 glad things are better, sending a virtual hug 🤗❤ it’s difficult but definitely needed
This is such a good description I’m going to use it
I'm almost 40, and I loved this show. It leaves you with that happy warm smiley feeling. I think it's a great show for any age.
I'm 64 and cis/straight and I think the show is incredible, and that many of my peers would have had much happier lives earlier if they had this kind of show in my day!
Please react to more heartstopper. There is so many good depictions of mental struggles and healthy relationships 🥰
I feel it´s important to show positive coming-out stories. Especially really lovely reactions from parents. People watching this now might be parents or become future parents. They are shown now how to be supportive and excepting.
THANK GOD YOURE FINALLY WATCHING THIS. ITS SO GOOD
i love heartstopper sm
Nick and his mom have such a beautiful relationship. I absolutely adore how Nick was able to bring up the courage to talk with his mum, and how she stopped what she was doing to really listen and realize "Okay, this feels like something really important". We do need more examples of healthy responses to someone coming out. I also really do love how Nick and Charlie do make those big decisions together! ❤️❤️❤️
I resonate very strongly with the part about the coming out scene being healing in a vicarious way. I'm in a place where I can't yet come out to my parents but this is such a beautiful moment.. it brings tears to my eyes every time!
That's actually one of the most precious show he'll ever watch. So wholesome.
That scene is so beautiful and so beautifly acting these two giants actors.
Speaking as another therapist, your reactions are spot-on. I love this show and look forward to next seasons. Beautiful acting.
Omg, saw the notification and heartstopper yeah!! Let's go. I love this series and comics🥰❤️
Such a great scene❤️ she is a good mum.
Would LOVE to see a full reaction to the series :)
I looooooooove Heartstopper. I read the webcomic and when they announced that Netflix was doing a series I was so apprehensive. But they put so much tender loving care and respect into the story Alice Oseman created. I beg anyone and everyone to watch and read all her works for the Heartstopper universe. It will warm any heart. 💙 💛
She wrote the show too! Which is why it’s all done so well, because it’s her vision
What I loved about the show was that I've been conditioned at this point to always expect the worst with some of the situations and instead It actually just didn't go there. Whilst awareness is obv super important it was so nice to actually see representation that wasn't trauma and misery...
you should definitely react to more scenes from heartstopper! in particular there is one scene involving charlie and his sister tori in the last episode and a scene involving one of the other couples in the show (tara and darcy) talking about the changes that have happened since they came out which is in the 6th episode :)
I've seen this scene dozens of times and when she says "Oh baby" it gets me every time.
Please do more heartstopper! So much wonderdful goodness here.
Knowing the Heartstopper graphic novels, do a review on season 2 once it comes out. Lot's of stuff for a therapist to react to there!
Pleeeeease watch the whole show because the entire show is just this AMAZING, wholesome wonderfulness. It's just...amazing.
Man i literally just finished rewatching it for the nth time this morning and no matter how many times i watch Nick’s coming out scene to his mom i can’t stop smiling and tearing up because there’s nothing i would want more than to have had that with my mom.
Nick’s mom is the model parents should aspire to be.
One of the things I love about heartstopper is that you can watch with your children and open the doors of communication if they have questions in a way that isn’t really graphic in any of the relationships
As part of that community and not having such a beautiful reaction: the scene always makes me cry because it's just so accurate from Nick in being scared to say and gasping a bit for air, and her reaction is amazing ❤
i came out to my mom after 2-3 ish years of knowing and i knew logically that she would accept me but it was so scary in my mind because i was so young when i realized and she said the same thing “i’m sorry if i made you feel like you couldn’t tell me”
Loved your point about wholesome LGBT+ content for younger audiences. It's so kind and sweet and shows how being gay/bi doesn't automatically mean being hyper-sexualised.
You should react to Charlie and Nick's relationship as well..... That's so healthy you'll love it
I showed my little brother heartstopper and i just felt that something changed in him. He still doesnt get that much about lgbt community but i'm proud of him for trying to understand
I can't tell you how much I love this show. If only I were 35 years younger, I could have grown up in a world where this show existed.
One thing I think that particular scene does beautifully is it models for parents how to handle your child coming out to you. If you watch the rest of the show, you'll see moments where his mom assumes that he's straight and says things with that assumption without considering that he might not be, and so where she says that she's sorry that if she ever made him feel like he couldn't tell her that, I think it's those scenes that she's referring to. But it's beautifully done because she acknowledges that she might have done or said something that made it harder for him to tell her. I definitely recommend watching the entire series. It's eight half hour episodes. And I think it's strength besides being for a younger audience is that it models things like healthy, open, honest communication and the mom handling how her child is coming out to her, and I've seen a lot of comments about young people using this show as a vehicle for coming out to their parents. I think that this show really does a good job of showing us a lot of diverse experiences as well. I highly recommend the entire show.
I absolutely love Heartstopper, and your explaining the subtle points of how a parent or friend can appropriately react to a coming out is perfect and needed.
I also think it’s good for parents (or future parents) to see a scene where a parent reacts lovingly and warm to their child coming out.
As a parent I think that this is a great show for all teens and tweens with how it models a variety of different situations young people experience.
Can we just all collectively agree that Olivia Colman is just one of the loveliest humans on the planet and we must protect that women at all costs. I just see her in like interviews and stuff and I feel she has like the warmest energy about her. I feel like I would instantly feel safe and comfortable around her. Like she would make you a nice cup of tea and some toast and fetch you a blanket to make sure you are all cosy. I think she just has a pure soul.
I was hoping you could react to Heartstopper! This show also models healthy communication and consent so well.
Yea it’s a really beautiful show and Olivia Coleman is superb as always. I just love her 😊
Omg I really need you to react to the whole show please! I'd love to hear your input!!!
Season 2 has just come out and there’s some interesting contrasts to this scene with Nick’s brother and dad not handling it as well as his mum, along with some general feelings of abandonment so that would be really interesting for you to watch! Episode 6 would be a good one 🙂
I love this scene! There are parents that are supportive from the start and it needs to be shown. I never got to have that experience because I was outed by my sister the same day I came out to her. She felt she couldn’t keep it a secret so she didn’t even try which led to a fight with my mom and me sobbing in our hallway. For me this scene is bittersweet and a pit cathartic. It doesn’t completely heal the wound from my coming out, I don’t think it will ever fully heal, but it helps.
This show is the sweetest thing I've seen in a long time. Nick and Charlie are so wholesome. :)
There is definitely more to see when it comes to this show, so pls consider reacting to more scenes of Heartstopper. 💕
Planning on reviewing the whole series soon!
@@MendedLight That's amazing. Thank you. 💕
@@MendedLight so excited for a full series reaction, but even more excited for a reaction to the heavier stuff to come in the coming seasons (assuming you decide to review/therapize the second season as well)
I love the jorts rant in the end :D
Nick's coming out always makes me tear up. It's such a beautiful scene! I came out to my parents about a year ago and let me just tell you it didn't go anywhere near as sweet and supporting as this. However, even if my experience wasn't like the one portrayed in this show, I still prefer these types of scenes. Show the love, the support, the warmth that I didn't get. I've already gone through so much trauma and hurt, I don't want to relive those things again. Scenes like these give me some hope that, at least, there's some people out there whose experiences are like that, that they got the support and the love I didn't. It makes me happy because, even if I didn't get that, at least I know there's some people out there who won't have to get hurt or go through what I went through. Absolutely love this show, the comic and your reaction on it, Jono. Love you and your vids so much! ❤❤
I haven't even started watching yet and I already know I would love to see more reaction videos of this show
Would love to see your reaction to the whole series💗
this scene makes me cry every time, just beautiful
I LOVE this show. Some people say it's "unrealistic" or "sanitized" or whatever, and while I understand the criticism, I WISH I had this show 15 years ago! It really shows what healthy relationships (romantic, friendly, familial, etc) can be. The majority of my friends and family were generally accepting when I came out, and everyone suspected WAY before I even said anything (not to reinforce stereotypes or anything, but it was pretty obvious, and that's just my experience), but coming out was still super scary! I grew up in a fairly religious and pretty conservative environment, and the anxiety around my sexuality was a bit overwhelming at times during my young teen years. I came out to my closest friends/said I was questioning when I was 13. Then I told my mom, and she wasn't mad or anything, but just asked if I was sure... which upset me at the time, but I think it was just either her wording or my perception, because I actually wasn't sure then.... (but she was always loving and supportive, before anyone starts to hate on my mom!), Then about a year and a half later when I was sure enough, I told the rest of my friends and family, and stopped hiding it from anyone who asked, but it wasn't all daffodils and teddy bears..... luckily I had a pretty solid support network (whether I believed it at the time or not), because my friends and family loved me. Some of the people in my family may not have been entirely comfortable with it (maybe not even to this day), but they still love me and have always accepted me and welcomed my partner as a part of the family without question, just as if he were a girl. They'd also sure as hell kick someone's ass to defend/stick up for me if it came down to it, just as I would for them. Lol anyways, the point that I'm trying to make is that some people just suck, but some people don't. I was really taken aback by how accepting some of the people in my life were, and it was a huge relief for me, but not everyone has the same experience or support system. Sometimes people will surprise you, but coming out is a scary thing no matter what 🤷❤️
I was 21 when I was half forced to tell my mother that I was gay, she didn't say anything she first asked me why would I say such a bad thing and then when she understood I wasn't joking she just left the room and went in her bedroom crying. She didn't talk to me for two weeks and even then the first thing she said was "No one in our family can hear of this."; things got better, I'm now 40 years old and I grown up a lot since that day but I can still remember that the first time I opened up to one of the people that mattered most in my life I got rejection and disgust. I needed this show to give me an image of how it would have been if I had a more understanding family, I am not in the delusion that this is reality for most of the people but still a positive message even if fictional sometimes can really soothe even scars that are way past healing.
One of the things i love about this show is that is shows many different queer teen perspectives. Nick's mom is accepting and that's great to see on screen and we also see different responses from family members, especially in season 2. It shows people how accepting and welcoming some people are but also doesn't shy away from portraying when things go wrong. It's a great and i think realistic balance of what can happen when you come out or just live as a queer person. Of course not every single perspective has been portrayed in this show but its characters have had probably the most diverse queer experiences i've ever seen in a show before. It's truly great to see as a person in the lgbt+ community.
Oh wow I've just finished watching the show for the first time yesterday so this video came out at the perfect time
Everyone deserves wholesome representation too, so I'm happy that there's something like this! 😊
I had no idea this show existed! Makes my bi heart so happy! 💙💜💗
omg please watch the whole show! it's so good and has such perfect bi representation!
IT'S ORIGINALLY A WEBTOON. PLEASE READ IT.
2:44 another 100% accurate face, my parents on a daily basis about pretty much anything.
I'm so glad you did a video on heartstopper, its so amazing
Also please react to gravity falls or the owl house
I think the most important thing and why this series is so loved, (even its original comic form), is that it can be real about things that are hard while also showing that our lives aren't always about tragedy. There's this over focus on how hard it is for us in the lgbt+ community, which is true yes, however its jus so nice to see people being happy for once. Not everything is constant tragedy after tragedy and seeing lgbt ppl in the light and joy is so rare on tv. We aren't jus a tragic backstory. Lives can have tragic events but it shows us that even those lives have light. There's light left for us. We deserve happiness and support and to exist without our lives being boiled down to a fraction of what its really like. We aren't just a teaching lesson for cishets we are our own community with the right to see ourselves in media jus for the sake of it. That's what makes this show so beautiful.
My outing was like Nick my Mom was so nice & supportive my dad hates me he is French and catholic I wish every queer kid this lovely support from parent's
coming out to my family was a lot easier than for other people because my sister had come out like a few months before that and my coming out was actually accidental over dinner at a restaurant
I loved seeing you react to heartstopper. I hope we get to see more reactions from this show. There’s a lot to unpack. In the first season for sure but especially what’s to come in later seasons
i would love to see more raw reactions from u about heartstopper!! i’d like to see ur reaction to charlie dealing with the bullying.
I would LOVE to see you react to the whole of Heartstopper. It's beautiful and wholesome and has great examples of honest communication in relationships!
Maybe react to Heartstopper's Tao and his insecurities within his friendship group, I feel like there's a lot there. And also maybe to Nick's struggle to confront people?
@@RaineInChaos yep, I agree!
i’ve seen this scene so many times before and i still tear up. so beautifully done
Coming out I was extremely lucky. Was in my 30s and had been 'straight' until I started dating my best friend of 15 years! My families only response was 'finally!' Lol
I know not everyone receives anything like this and it's terrible I can only hope it improves overtime.
My daughters are OBSESSED with this series, it's very cute.
Oh, I absolutely LOVED the scene where Nick came out! The acting is genuinely showstopping, and it was incredibly healing to watch as an LGBTQ+ young adult who didn't get the same love and acceptance from their family.
My mum tried her best, and I appreciate her so much for that, but even she said a lot of hurtful things that really impacted me and still have a bitter taste to this day. My father was/is worse, though. He didn't even try to put the fact that he couldn't accept who I was tactfully. He just said that it was a phase and that he loved me still BECAUSE I would eventually grow out of it and be 'normal' again. When I asked him if he would still love me if it turned out not to be a phase, he didn't answer and went to bed instead. Over the months, he still treats me as if I never even came out, and it makes me feel so angry because it took a lot of courage on my part to come out, and it feels so invalidating to have him just ignore all that because "it's just a phase" and time will "cure" me.
You all must watch the whole show!! You both will cry and laugh and cheer!!
I really do hope you take the time to watch the entire series. Its absolutely lovely.