I have been going through this for a couple of years now and the battle has made me so weary, I used to walk in grace for years until a little leaven from a preacher did a number on me and bewitched me. I realized today that worrying about it being condemned is making it worse, so I will wait on the Lord and stop seeking to be justified by this or that thing I did or didn't do. Both of my parents abused me emotionally and I get it that they didn't have the best upbringing but I am the sacrificial lamb out of my brother and sister. My dad was a freemason and I told him not to join them and then he began to hate me and told me that he did, basically. He said Esau was hated and Jacob was loved and was comparing me to my sister... My mother has always undercut me and antagonized me and filled me full of self-doubt and anxiety. So now I understand why it wasn't hard for the enemy to capitalize on making me feel condemned especially since I also sought after comfort with any decent man that admired and loved me even if I was unequally yoked and fell into sin, just to feel and be loved experientially by another human. All that to say I came across your videos today when I decided to stop worrying, so I believe you are an answer to prayer. Thank you for your ministry, it is so vitally important. God bless you. 🙏😇
Lord I pray , please help me to let these guilt and condemnation thoughts just pass on by . satan , you are a liar ! I AM the Righteousness of God in Christ Jesus
"it begins to form our viewpoints on how we do life with God and then how we do life with other people" amen. if we just think how God truly is, who is a loving, gracious, merciful and faithful God, we exhibit those things to other people. (but i still struggle with this haha but yeah, it's a great reminder)
Yep, lots of demons are out there doing that to us. Condemning Someone Is Not The Same As Defending One’s Self From Someone Or Stating The Truth About Them About What They’ve Done To Us, Which Is Not The Same As Gossip.
Thank you so much for this! I have to admit I have often been the one to condemn others, but God is bringing me along. Often it seems like it is born out of fear insecurity and of course Pride.
I needed this so badly. I'm struggling so much with condemnation, from my parents. Trying to get out from under this is fearful because I'm afraid of standing up for myself when Scriptures like "Honor your mother and father" are taken out of context.
I was 40 when I was diagnosed with autism.I was blamed for a lot when I was a child and for about 9 years between 7 and 15 I even had Tourette;s .I was put into the world’s best mental hospital at age 10.People tried to change me by telling me People won’t accept you unless you stop(things I had to do to cope )In my 20’s I live in foster home hospital placed me in and the shaming continued . My father said “we criticize you because we love you” .My family was raised Catholic.and I think it pushed them all away from God.I was spared the Catholic schooling because I was in a secular environment.I hate to read the Bible because it sounds like the mean people I have known. It is hard to imagine Jesus as described being a person who would accept me unconditionally.Jesus threw Israel under the Roman’s bus and they “returned the favor”.I realize it couldn’t be that but it seemed to add insult to injury when Jesus told them to love their enemies It was like people. crying over an abusive environment and being told “:that”s tough” If I complained about how someone treated me as a child my parents approved them,and blamed me .When my parents died I felt like I lost nothing.I was told by therapist in the Hospital that I chose to be mentally ill and I was stuck with him for nearly a decade .I had been with therapist 7 years and then he said I had chosen to be mentally ill.Didn’t matter that I was born abnormal. When I got autism diagnoses at age 40.It was like being forgiven .No church experience came near to that .I ‘m thankful i met a lady who counseled autistic children in school system.She is a Christian and she loves unconditionally.I have seen other people who loved autistic people and advocated for then fighting for their rights The other people who loved unconditionally embraced autistic people but they overtly refused the Gospel when I tried to witness to them. I have noticed that the churches I went to were a lot like the mental hospital .Pressure to behave better than I was able.I did find a good church but a couple of control freaks fired the pastor .He loved unconditionally and was the kindest pastor I have ever met.I was shocked last summer when he was fired.The church was small and that’s the only reason I could handle it there .Much less noise and they believed me when I told them I had sensory issues.Other churches were too intense for me and I couldn’t function there.I was in “fight or flight “mode and couldn’t listen or learn there.Too many people call bullying” love “and try to be another person’s conscience. Firmer pastor has meetings in his home now . I preferred the church he used to be at because I could walk in and out at will.At other place I’d be trapped there until someone gave me a ride home and if I feel trapped I get anxious when I couldn’t walk away from too much noise.I don’t drive a car so I couldn’t leave if I needed to .I don’t attend any church now .I wish you’d talk about the pressure put on kids and adults with disabilities .They are held to a stricter standard than others.I know a professional who loves autistic children and it bothered her that kids in care facilities who were punished for behaviors that were OK for “normal children “ the special rules weren’t just part of my life .For decades I was shamed and punished for grinning .THE LOOK ON MY FACE.It went on so relentlessly during my teens it made me furious.Other people could laugh out loud at will but I was often punished for laughing because I laughed at different things than others did and I was nagged about grinning . The look on my face was a trigger for shaming.I never saw anyone else ever get punished for grinning or any other look on their face. This was a mainstay in my “treatment”.I never improved significantly until I was an adult living on my won and met a naturopath. He accepted me as I was and showed compassion when I had so many upsets. My treatment had caused damage I was given a med that made my anxiety and sensory issues worse and their answer for that was more pressure to behave .I was lucky to get a job after leaving school and I was respected there.I met naturopath when I was 29.He was around until I was 35. The mental health system based on shaming people and holding most captive for life.
Mark what you share is so my wish and heart desire. Thank you for sharing your story and how these condemning thoughts - accusations are just old pathways that need to be destroyed by the new mind of Christ! In Christ ❤️
Perfect timing. I'm in a new situation where I'm experiencing a lot of this, & I feel it magnified in the rest of my situations. It seems to be snowballing & I feel like I'm failing more & more. Condemnation is a great word to describe it.
yes - the video makes sense, and I understand that we are transformed in loving relationship with the Father, but when that seems so difficult to access/experience, I lose hope. If Jesus chided His disciples for being of little faith or slow to understand or believe, I know He must feel that way about me...and all I feel is shame.
I know that feeling. What you share is the challenges that come with having a broken heart. I pray that my resources can be an encouragement and place where hope can rise with renewed desire.
This is tough for me this has been my mindset since childhood and got worse into adulthood. I am 59 years old and I come from a family of narcissistic abuse. I just put this together I would say within the last 10 years. I am fortunate however, I did forgive my mother before she passed away, and without looking for an apology from her, she did apologize to me. Then I realized, it wasn't just my mother, but my siblings as well. Learned that when I got together with them after she passed away. I was the scapegoat. It really tore me up, because I always thought one of my siblings was on my side. I think however, she had me confide in her so she could use things against me with others. I am in no contact with them since 2013 which was hard, but I see the benefit from it all now. But because of this upbringing, I destroyed my own life over the years. Relationships with my kids and former friends.
I can identify with Martin Luther, who was asked how he felt about God before he discovered His amazing grace. Luther hated God because he felt that God was a harsh and demanding taskmaster. But then Luther discovered the doctrine of Justification and he became free.
Hi. Can you please answer.. What if I'm experiencing shipwreck of the faith/ conscience and it isn't fixable anymore? Can you give me an honest answer pls of that being a possibility
A FRIEND WHO IS INTO AUTISM ADVOCACY HELPED ME WRITE MY BIO AND IT WAS PUBLISHED BY A SMALL COMPANY A COUPLE OF YEARS AGO .IT IS AVAILABLE ONLINE IN BOTH PAPER AND ELECTRONIC FORMAT . TITLE IS “HELLO STRANGER ,MY LIFE ON THE AUTISM SPECTRUM” BY BARBARA MORAN AS TOLD TO KARL WILLIAMS . I THINK THE BOOK WOULD INTEREST YOU.PLEASE LOOK IT UP.YOU CAN GET IT CHEAP .
"God does not use condemnation to speak to his children." Thank you! I really really needed to hear this! God bless you
So glad! That was a game changer for me
Thank you Mark. Those verses from 1 John are a great encouragement.
Jesus makes our life fluid, like water.
I have been going through this for a couple of years now and the battle has made me so weary, I used to walk in grace for years until a little leaven from a preacher did a number on me and bewitched me. I realized today that worrying about it being condemned is making it worse, so I will wait on the Lord and stop seeking to be justified by this or that thing I did or didn't do. Both of my parents abused me emotionally and I get it that they didn't have the best upbringing but I am the sacrificial lamb out of my brother and sister. My dad was a freemason and I told him not to join them and then he began to hate me and told me that he did, basically. He said Esau was hated and Jacob was loved and was comparing me to my sister... My mother has always undercut me and antagonized me and filled me full of self-doubt and anxiety. So now I understand why it wasn't hard for the enemy to capitalize on making me feel condemned especially since I also sought after comfort with any decent man that admired and loved me even if I was unequally yoked and fell into sin, just to feel and be loved experientially by another human. All that to say I came across your videos today when I decided to stop worrying, so I believe you are an answer to prayer. Thank you for your ministry, it is so vitally important. God bless you. 🙏😇
God is faithful even we aren't faithful. He cannot deny Himself.
Lord I pray , please help me to let these guilt and condemnation thoughts just pass on by . satan , you are a liar ! I AM the Righteousness of God in Christ Jesus
"it begins to form our viewpoints on how we do life with God and then how we do life with other people" amen. if we just think how God truly is, who is a loving, gracious, merciful and faithful God, we exhibit those things to other people. (but i still struggle with this haha but yeah, it's a great reminder)
Thank you Mark :) I’ve listened so much to condemnation. Punishment based relationship is what I’ve had. Thank you
Yep, lots of demons are out there doing that to us. Condemning Someone Is Not The Same As Defending One’s Self From Someone Or Stating The Truth About Them About What They’ve Done To Us, Which Is Not The Same As Gossip.
Thank you so much for this! I have to admit I have often been the one to condemn others, but God is bringing me along. Often it seems like it is born out of fear insecurity and of course Pride.
I hear ya. I can relate. Thanks for being open for the change.
I needed this so badly. I'm struggling so much with condemnation, from my parents. Trying to get out from under this is fearful because I'm afraid of standing up for myself when Scriptures like "Honor your mother and father" are taken out of context.
I feel condemned, fear/anxious all the time, seems like my heart is numb like I can't feel the love of the father that I so desperately need
I was 40 when I was diagnosed with autism.I was blamed for a lot when I was a child and for about 9 years between 7 and 15 I even had Tourette;s .I was put into the world’s best mental hospital at age 10.People tried to change me by telling me People won’t accept you unless you stop(things I had to do to cope )In my 20’s I live in foster home hospital placed me in and the shaming continued .
My father said “we criticize you because we love you” .My family was raised Catholic.and I think it pushed them all away from God.I was spared the Catholic schooling because I was in a secular environment.I hate to read the Bible because it sounds like the mean people I have known.
It is hard to imagine Jesus as described being a person who would accept me unconditionally.Jesus threw Israel under the Roman’s bus and they “returned the favor”.I realize it couldn’t be that but it seemed to add insult to injury when Jesus told them to love their enemies It was like people. crying over an abusive environment and being told “:that”s tough” If I complained about how someone treated me as a child my parents approved them,and blamed me .When my parents died I felt like I lost nothing.I was told by therapist in the Hospital that I chose to be mentally ill and I was stuck with him for nearly a decade .I had been with therapist 7 years and then he said I had chosen to be mentally ill.Didn’t matter that I was born abnormal.
When I got autism diagnoses at age 40.It was like being forgiven .No church experience came near to that .I ‘m thankful i met a lady who counseled autistic children in school system.She is a Christian and she loves unconditionally.I have seen other people who loved autistic people and advocated for then fighting for their rights The other people who loved unconditionally embraced autistic people but they overtly refused the Gospel when I tried to witness to them. I have noticed that the churches I went to were a lot like the mental hospital .Pressure to behave better than I was able.I did find a good church but a couple of control freaks fired the pastor .He loved unconditionally and was the kindest pastor I have ever met.I was shocked last summer when he was fired.The church was small and that’s the only reason I could handle it there .Much less noise and they believed me when I told them I had sensory issues.Other churches were too intense for me and I couldn’t function there.I was in “fight or flight “mode and couldn’t listen or learn there.Too many people call bullying” love “and try to be another person’s conscience.
Firmer pastor has meetings in his home now . I preferred the church he used to be at because I could walk in and out at will.At other place I’d be trapped there until someone gave me a ride home and if I feel trapped I get anxious when I couldn’t walk away from too much noise.I don’t drive a car so I couldn’t leave if I needed to .I don’t attend any church now .I wish you’d talk about the pressure put on kids and adults with disabilities .They are held to a stricter standard than others.I know a professional who loves autistic children and it bothered her that kids in care facilities who were punished for behaviors that were OK for “normal children “ the special rules weren’t just part of my life .For decades I was shamed and punished for grinning .THE LOOK ON MY FACE.It went on so relentlessly during my teens it made me furious.Other people could laugh out loud at will but I was often punished for laughing because I laughed at different things than others did and I was nagged about grinning .
The look on my face was a trigger for shaming.I never saw anyone else ever get punished for grinning or any other look on their face.
This was a mainstay in my “treatment”.I never improved significantly until I was an adult living on my won and met a naturopath.
He accepted me as I was and showed compassion when I had so many upsets.
My treatment had caused damage I was given a med that made my anxiety and sensory issues worse and their answer for that was more pressure to behave .I was lucky to get a job after leaving school and I was respected there.I met naturopath when I was 29.He was around until I was 35. The mental health system based on shaming people and holding most captive for life.
Im talking about the freedom I needed and dental i could have had as a kid.
Thank you brother this was.me all the way,please pray for me and my wife.God bless
Mark what you share is so my wish and heart desire. Thank you for sharing your story and how these condemning thoughts - accusations are just old pathways that need to be destroyed by the new mind of Christ! In Christ ❤️
Thank you Tommaso!
Great stuff
Perfect timing. I'm in a new situation where I'm experiencing a lot of this, & I feel it magnified in the rest of my situations. It seems to be snowballing & I feel like I'm failing more & more. Condemnation is a great word to describe it.
Great to hear Sarah! Keep receiving the freedom.
Mark, man, I couldn’t explain well enough how much this is helping me.
Yes, thank-you, I was trying to think of a way of expressing that, also! I think he deserves so many more likes!
I would love to start looking at my life as an exciting journey
Yes!
AMEN!
this was really good. and yes, , unfortunately, we always go back to performance, don't we?
Thanks John. Agreed, we tend to fall back right into performance if we are not discerning.
Bro you really understand. May Jesus bless you
Thanks Mark!
Appreciate it!
yes - the video makes sense, and I understand that we are transformed in loving relationship with the Father, but when that seems so difficult to access/experience, I lose hope. If Jesus chided His disciples for being of little faith or slow to understand or believe, I know He must feel that way about me...and all I feel is shame.
I know that feeling. What you share is the challenges that come with having a broken heart. I pray that my resources can be an encouragement and place where hope can rise with renewed desire.
This is tough for me this has been my mindset since childhood and got worse into adulthood. I am 59 years old and I come from a family of narcissistic abuse. I just put this together I would say within the last 10 years. I am fortunate however, I did forgive my mother before she passed away, and without looking for an apology from her, she did apologize to me. Then I realized, it wasn't just my mother, but my siblings as well. Learned that when I got together with them after she passed away. I was the scapegoat. It really tore me up, because I always thought one of my siblings was on my side. I think however, she had me confide in her so she could use things against me with others. I am in no contact with them since 2013 which was hard, but I see the benefit from it all now. But because of this upbringing, I destroyed my own life over the years. Relationships with my kids and former friends.
I hope Mark will reach out to you and offer some help. Watch all of his material. It will be helpful to you. I have a similar past and can relate.
That’s a sad story, has the situation gotten any better?
Performance performance performance that's what 95% of churches teach!!!!!!!!
I can identify with Martin Luther, who was asked how he felt about God before he discovered His amazing grace. Luther hated God because he felt that God was a harsh and demanding taskmaster. But then Luther discovered the doctrine of Justification and he became free.
Hi. Can you please answer..
What if I'm experiencing shipwreck of the faith/ conscience and it isn't fixable anymore? Can you give me an honest answer pls of that being a possibility
What makes you think it’s not fixable?
A FRIEND WHO IS INTO AUTISM ADVOCACY HELPED ME WRITE MY BIO AND IT WAS PUBLISHED BY A SMALL COMPANY A COUPLE OF YEARS AGO .IT IS AVAILABLE ONLINE IN BOTH PAPER AND ELECTRONIC FORMAT .
TITLE IS “HELLO STRANGER ,MY LIFE ON THE AUTISM SPECTRUM” BY BARBARA MORAN AS TOLD TO KARL WILLIAMS .
I THINK THE BOOK WOULD INTEREST YOU.PLEASE LOOK IT UP.YOU CAN GET IT CHEAP .
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