I'm over 50 and just starting this journey. I thought I was on cruise control. A helpful and caring friend referred me here. I'm a technical person by nature and education, and I literally feel like I have missed a very large chunk of important information about dealing with my own mental health. Late to the game, but starting to put some tools in the toolbox. My sincere thanks for making this information available without shouting, screaming for likes or subscribers, and *NOT* having some insane thumping bass line in the background.
I’m working on exposure therapy for Agoraphobia and Anxiety/Panic disorder as I write this comment, I’m sitting on my front porch playing my guitar. The perceived danger is the hardest part, it’s so terrifying.
It seems the common issue for me surrounding anxiety and trauma response is I've perceived avoidance and giving up as the less risky, better option. When I observe it, i realize that avoidance and giving up is actually the more risky choice. Moving on and fighting for what really matters to me while accepting the potential risk from the traumatic experience confidently is far more worth it. It seems traumatic experiences and anxiety cause our brains to tell us that running away and giving up (flight/freeze) is the better option. In reality it usually isnt because we risk loosing our job and loosing things that matter while reinforcing the anxiety putting us in a worse state of mind. So basically it's either accept and face the fear and move on for what really matters; or give in, avoid it, reinforce it, and loose everything. (Easy to say, hard to do, I know)
Thank you for your videos have been far more helpful for me then any treatment I have had over 32 years of having severe depression and acute OCD. I still worry everyday and most days spend two to three/four hours panicking about something that might happen. I feel stuck in that because my OCD is connected to highly taboo issues I am too scared to talk about them, for what if one person thinks the very worst of me Then comes the fear of what if they tell someone else, etc, etc, etc, ...what if I go to jail? i don't seem to be able to facilitate logic very well to address my OCD. My OCD is very much harm based, i,e, what if I hurt person a or person b. Then I add on additional thoughts and give them serious credit as being truly meaningful.I feel a strong need to prove myself as okay but I know that is not possible. I feel I need to test myself by doing a harmless Action A. But I know I can't win because if I was to follow through I would say to myself 'Oh my God I did this therefore I am bad ....OR alternatively I can't do Action A. because that will prove my self-doubts as having some truth and this freaks me out. So I feel trapped. I am on a high dose of medication (well I think so?). Parxotein four 25mg tablets a day, two 5mg valium and 2 quetiapine. After three attempts at suicide I have settled into what I try to feel as a safety zone. 99% of people I know have no idea about my suffering. I think about my age 52 and how I should be able to cope with my OCD for another 20 to 25 years. Basically it causes me so much stress and self-hatred I truly do think of my eventual passing as something that can't come soon enough. If this commentary could have potential dangers to other readers please let me know and I will remove it ASAP. Your videos are very informative and calm in approach. I appreciate your work and I am certain it must be helping thousands of viewers. Sadly in many places there is very little knowledge of OCD which makes your videos even more useful. I would go to psychiatrists and psychologists who had no knowledge at all. Which of course lead to a worsening of conditions. I should suggest they watch your youtube videos. Thank you with much sincerity
the sound in your videos in your anxiety list really could use redone... this one esp. i think its your hair is brushing the micraphone the entire time. the previous video #5 is sooo quiet that this video made me jump when it started playing
Please can you discuss topic of people feeling deep trust within? I recently heard that those who can tavel and take risks have a deep seeded sense of trust or at home with self. I have anxiety and often have wondered why i go into an anxious state and its because i dont trust at a core level in me. In universe maybe? Your thoughts are appreciated.
THIS. Thank you so much!! I used to like walking around the neighborhood that has no people and I feel more scared to go out and walk or even drive around. But I really miss walking. I should just practice it everyday… Its so hard why can’t I just go back to being on autopilot. Any more tips for people with Agoraphobia?
You focus on only physical danger. Nothing regarding emotional danger which is what I struggle with. Talking to someone can be difficult because there is a very real emotional danger.
It would be useful to have a long conversation with your brain about that emotional danger. It could unlock the root cause of that emotional habit. Once you know why you can discover how to overcome it.
Same here! Did you manage to resolve your perception of emotional danger? I'm constantly tense: whether I am with people (expecting to be judged/criticized any moment) or alone (feeling guilty of not working hard enough and getting judged about it later). On top of that, this fear/anxiety causes me physical symptoms, so I worry about my health as well. Don't know where to start :(
@@vickyd7541 I've come across a pretty consistent set of solutions for living with fear and anxiety. They may not sound like the sort of thing we want to hear. Things like, acceptance rather than avoidance, consistently facing of fears, and things like this. I are some of the best resources I've found on this subject: "How to 'overcome' fear" - ua-cam.com/video/xrWvPo-KaVs/v-deo.html "Turning Fear into Power: Understanding and managing anxiety" - ua-cam.com/video/KPvd0Xuib3A/v-deo.html "How to Process Emotions 1/30" - ua-cam.com/video/zoCiHlFjo04/v-deo.html (this one is a 30 part series, I'd highly recommend going through it, I did and took notes and look at my notes when dealing with emotions) Best of luck.
Without any sense of inner safety / a safe place, it's easy for people to believe you are the most ungrateful person - meanwhile, it kills you every moment that you cannot enjoy anything - coz living in shutdown, you feel like a monster (dead), and the guilt you feel for only having strength to try and be sane in the moment ...for paradoxically them .. ALWAYS falls short. No one understands how much you care, unless they've been there - unfortunately. Zombie Land, while trying to hold onto a rocket ship. Aye, i wish anyone out there that feels the same, that you find inner safety soonest. ❤
But what if the danger I fear is not "external" (like the examples you provided, earthquakes, fire etc) but comes from within? Like heart attacks, aneurysm or something...been struggling with death anxiety for a long time. I am comfortable with possible "external" dangers, but when it comes to these I realy struggle.
@@muratsaglam473 sometimes I have a very hard time regulating and processing those fears and emotions, yes. A couple of people in my circle (friends and my dad also) died young and suddendly
@@TheCicillina So sad and traumatic for you 😞 but i beleive that you can overcome. Do you know EMDR Therapy? It is so effective for post traumatic stress (anxiety) disorder.
As she said, you are fearing what 'might happen' in 'the future', and not what IS HAPPENING, now, in the Present Moment. Right now, you are 100% safe. But if you are in fact having a heart attack, aneurysm or something at this very moment, you should probably stop watching the video go and address the situation:) With that said... When you were born you came out of a state of eternal Peace, and into a world where you could experience fear of heart attacks, aneurysms and the like. When you die, the worst case scenario is that you simply return to that state of Peace. There is nothing to fear. You started from Peace, and you will end in Peace. And, if you so choose, you can also choose to experience Peace in the here and now... You simply have to choose it over the fear. But many people end up choosing the fear, because they believe that they can stop a dreaded future event from taking place by thinking about it as much as possible in the here and now. But, in doing so, they fail to realize that are simply reinforcing the underlying fear by continuously giving it their full attention in the here and now. You Are what you choose to think about. Choose Peace my friend, and enjoy it:)
I would very much like to take the course and for free because I will use it to help people . Most of the times I don’t charge them I do it because I like to help. I do a method psych- k to help people with traumas and adding this course I think will add up to my knowledge. Can I please get a code ? Thank you !
1:24 Ma'am, can u share ur profile of university degrees and other functional courses u took? Amazing Thanks, ma'am Ppl dont forgive social awkwardness easily
Thanks ! I couldn't find a clear definition of perceived danger and real danger.
manuariiv awesome! Glad you found it helpful!
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I'm over 50 and just starting this journey. I thought I was on cruise control. A helpful and caring friend referred me here. I'm a technical person by nature and education, and I literally feel like I have missed a very large chunk of important information about dealing with my own mental health. Late to the game, but starting to put some tools in the toolbox. My sincere thanks for making this information available without shouting, screaming for likes or subscribers, and *NOT* having some insane thumping bass line in the background.
" I thought I was on cruise control." - Such a great choice of words!
I’m working on exposure therapy for Agoraphobia and Anxiety/Panic disorder as I write this comment, I’m sitting on my front porch playing my guitar. The perceived danger is the hardest part, it’s so terrifying.
Now what situation dear?
It seems the common issue for me surrounding anxiety and trauma response is I've perceived avoidance and giving up as the less risky, better option.
When I observe it, i realize that avoidance and giving up is actually the more risky choice. Moving on and fighting for what really matters to me while accepting the potential risk from the traumatic experience confidently is far more worth it.
It seems traumatic experiences and anxiety cause our brains to tell us that running away and giving up (flight/freeze) is the better option. In reality it usually isnt because we risk loosing our job and loosing things that matter while reinforcing the anxiety putting us in a worse state of mind.
So basically it's either accept and face the fear and move on for what really matters; or give in, avoid it, reinforce it, and loose everything.
(Easy to say, hard to do, I know)
Damn! You words resonate with me deep to my bones.
Perceived,
'safe mental space' ,
a welcomed challenge,
in time, will create thx.
Very valuable information to cope with gen Z problems. Thank you.
thanks!
m having a though situation with anxiety over the month and I cant think of a solution and these videos help me a lot...
Thank you, Emma!
thank you so so so much. I got to identify my problem with the help of your videos. Thanks a million. Thank you so much.
This changed my life
I never feel safe-I don’t even think about what could happen or entertain thoughts of danger. I just feel unsafe.
Thank you for your videos have been far more helpful for me then any treatment I have had over 32 years of having severe depression and acute OCD. I still worry everyday and most days spend two to three/four hours panicking about something that might happen. I feel stuck in that because my OCD is connected to highly taboo issues I am too scared to talk about them, for what if one person thinks the very worst of me Then comes the fear of what if they tell someone else, etc, etc, etc, ...what if I go to jail? i don't seem to be able to facilitate logic very well to address my OCD.
My OCD is very much harm based, i,e, what if I hurt person a or person b. Then I add on additional thoughts and give them serious credit as being truly meaningful.I feel a strong need to prove myself as okay but I know that is not possible. I feel I need to test myself by doing a harmless Action A. But I know I can't win because if I was to follow through I would say to myself 'Oh my God I did this therefore I am bad ....OR alternatively I can't do Action A. because that will prove my self-doubts as having some truth and this freaks me out. So I feel trapped.
I am on a high dose of medication (well I think so?). Parxotein four 25mg tablets a day, two 5mg valium and 2 quetiapine. After three attempts at suicide I have settled into what I try to feel as a safety zone. 99% of people I know have no idea about my suffering. I think about my age 52 and how I should be able to cope with my OCD for another 20 to 25 years. Basically it causes me so much stress and self-hatred I truly do think of my eventual passing as something that can't come soon enough.
If this commentary could have potential dangers to other readers please let me know and I will remove it ASAP.
Your videos are very informative and calm in approach. I appreciate your work and I am certain it must be helping thousands of viewers.
Sadly in many places there is very little knowledge of OCD which makes your videos even more useful. I would go to psychiatrists and psychologists who had no knowledge at all.
Which of course lead to a worsening of conditions. I should suggest they watch your youtube videos.
Thank you with much sincerity
am i crzy or are there brushing sounds in the audio?
Yep, hair brushing against the microphone
the sound in your videos in your anxiety list really could use redone... this one esp. i think its your hair is brushing the micraphone the entire time. the previous video #5 is sooo quiet that this video made me jump when it started playing
Awesome! Thank you, this is helpful.
Please can you discuss topic of people feeling deep trust within? I recently heard that those who can tavel and take risks have a deep seeded sense of trust or at home with self. I have anxiety and often have wondered why i go into an anxious state and its because i dont trust at a core level in me. In universe maybe? Your thoughts are appreciated.
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Wow this video is great but man I wish that sound was better !! Ha ha love your channel. Thanks 👍🏻
THIS. Thank you so much!! I used to like walking around the neighborhood that has no people and I feel more scared to go out and walk or even drive around. But I really miss walking. I should just practice it everyday… Its so hard why can’t I just go back to being on autopilot. Any more tips for people with Agoraphobia?
I don’t think crazy shit like that but I do feel a subtle sensation like something is off
I really like your videos. Could you possibly re-upload with clearer audio?
These videos also have subtitles available. That's actually very helpful if you can't hear clearly
You focus on only physical danger. Nothing regarding emotional danger which is what I struggle with. Talking to someone can be difficult because there is a very real emotional danger.
It would be useful to have a long conversation with your brain about that emotional danger.
It could unlock the root cause of that emotional habit. Once you know why you can discover how to overcome it.
@@iwonaroslonek I'm grateful for the reply, thank you
Same here! Did you manage to resolve your perception of emotional danger? I'm constantly tense: whether I am with people (expecting to be judged/criticized any moment) or alone (feeling guilty of not working hard enough and getting judged about it later). On top of that, this fear/anxiety causes me physical symptoms, so I worry about my health as well. Don't know where to start :(
@@vickyd7541 I've come across a pretty consistent set of solutions for living with fear and anxiety. They may not sound like the sort of thing we want to hear. Things like, acceptance rather than avoidance, consistently facing of fears, and things like this. I are some of the best resources I've found on this subject:
"How to 'overcome' fear" - ua-cam.com/video/xrWvPo-KaVs/v-deo.html
"Turning Fear into Power: Understanding and managing anxiety" - ua-cam.com/video/KPvd0Xuib3A/v-deo.html
"How to Process Emotions 1/30" - ua-cam.com/video/zoCiHlFjo04/v-deo.html (this one is a 30 part series, I'd highly recommend going through it, I did and took notes and look at my notes when dealing with emotions)
Best of luck.
Hey... was this a workshop with Dr. J. Eric Gentry? I loved those workshops! Just curious.
Without any sense of inner safety / a safe place, it's easy for people to believe you are the most ungrateful person - meanwhile, it kills you every moment that you cannot enjoy anything - coz living in shutdown, you feel like a monster (dead), and the guilt you feel for only having strength to try and be sane in the moment ...for paradoxically them .. ALWAYS falls short. No one understands how much you care, unless they've been there - unfortunately. Zombie Land, while trying to hold onto a rocket ship. Aye, i wish anyone out there that feels the same, that you find inner safety soonest. ❤
Very wonderful lecture I gain alot from you thanks
I got a guy playing Russian Roulette with me as I'm watching this video.
I gave you 500 th like, am your subscriber
We need to be in the moment right now to get rid of anxiety. Am I right?
But what if the danger I fear is not "external" (like the examples you provided, earthquakes, fire etc) but comes from within? Like heart attacks, aneurysm or something...been struggling with death anxiety for a long time. I am comfortable with possible "external" dangers, but when it comes to these I realy struggle.
Do you have health anxiety and panic disorder?
@@muratsaglam473 sometimes I have a very hard time regulating and processing those fears and emotions, yes. A couple of people in my circle (friends and my dad also) died young and suddendly
@@TheCicillina So sad and traumatic for you 😞 but i beleive that you can overcome. Do you know EMDR Therapy? It is so effective for post traumatic stress (anxiety) disorder.
I have the same exact problem. It's so hard to deal with. Everyday is a struggle.
As she said, you are fearing what 'might happen' in 'the future', and not what IS HAPPENING, now, in the Present Moment. Right now, you are 100% safe. But if you are in fact having a heart attack, aneurysm or something at this very moment, you should probably stop watching the video go and address the situation:)
With that said... When you were born you came out of a state of eternal Peace, and into a world where you could experience fear of heart attacks, aneurysms and the like. When you die, the worst case scenario is that you simply return to that state of Peace.
There is nothing to fear. You started from Peace, and you will end in Peace. And, if you so choose, you can also choose to experience Peace in the here and now... You simply have to choose it over the fear. But many people end up choosing the fear, because they believe that they can stop a dreaded future event from taking place by thinking about it as much as possible in the here and now. But, in doing so, they fail to realize that are simply reinforcing the underlying fear by continuously giving it their full attention in the here and now.
You Are what you choose to think about. Choose Peace my friend, and enjoy it:)
What about during a fight with a loved one...are triggers real or perceived??
Could you do vid about anxiety in a plane pleaseeeeeee
I would very much like to take the course and for free because I will use it to help people . Most of the times I don’t charge them I do it because I like to help. I do a method psych- k to help people with traumas and adding this course I think will add up to my knowledge. Can I please get a code ? Thank you !
The way she just started the video lol
1:24
Ma'am, can u share ur profile of university degrees and other functional courses u took?
Amazing
Thanks, ma'am
Ppl dont forgive social awkwardness easily
Immune system fragility is being attacked at all times daily. Consistently..day in night out.