The fact that dude said she wants to divorce you and take half of YOUR stuff says it all. He literally thinks that everything that they built together in their marriage belongs to him and that she's robbing him even though she's probably the one that did most of the work in the marriage. He thinks that she shouldn't get anything and that she's worth nothing and it's all his.
I’m always in awe at how worthless they actually see women. I’m a lesbian and don’t date men and let me tell you, nothing about men is appealing to me after what I see they do to heterosexual women. Hell naw . Y’all deserve to be cherished and respected
BINGO!!! That's why women need to leave men alone. If they don't, then women need to require a huge dowry before having sex with a man. It's all to easy for males to take what you contributed to and leave you with nothing.
lol, the first dude speaking has no concept of the world we live in today. He literally said men are spending about $100k on a house!!!!! Dude, where are they finding $100k houses after I just paid $350k for a house in the hood!!!! I can’t with these people on the internet. Nowadays a woman is moving these dusties into her home because he doesn’t have one.
@@Dannniellleeeyeah cause if I wanted to buy the house im in now it would be 780,000 something like that and its not worth the price there selling it for because it doesn't come with air conditioning or heating you have to install your own so I want to know who's selling a nice house for 100,000 too.
Men keep talking about being financially responsible for their wives. Yeah, because of the gender pay gap. Give women equal pay, and you don't have to worry about that. Women were just recently able to be fully financially independent, as the woman at 6:20 said.
It’s the men with no money alway screaming 😱 golddigger. Sir you have no gold. You should be happy someone wants to procreate with and carry on your line.
Oprah has shown women the way. Marriage, and children are optional. Keep your money, and your man separate. Your peace is everything. Maintain a place of your own that offers you sanctuary. Fall in love with animals. They give unconditional love, loyalty, and no STDs.
And all that wealth she created goes right back to the people that paid her. If you're OK with the destruction of the black race then I can see why you view her the way you do. But here's the catch and I'm hoping I'm around to see it. When she's close to one foot in the grave, you'll see her renounce everything she did in this life. Too many people has done this when one foot was in the grave.
Thank god their are smarter women than you..if they all felt that way.. humanity would eventually cease to exist... Sorry that you don't have a good man that sees enough value in you to marry you 😢
I’m glad the first guy thinks marriage is a scam. He doesn’t deserve a good woman. Let him live his entire life having relationships that go nowhere, wondering why no one will stay with him.
I hear you, but please understand that in creating Patriarchy there was an intentional hoarding of resources that women needed to then go to men for and the expectation of most men to be given a wife or a woman in his life. In nature most of these men would die virgins...at least 50% of them as women all want the most intelligent and physically virile men. This is true from a nature point of view.❤
As a side note: Some men don't even know how to make a woman c*m, not even close and then complain that she's cold and lacks a s*x drive. No my dude, her s*x drive is fine, she just doesn't want to have s*x with YOU. Why would she keep coming back to a noob like you if you've never made her finish? That's like making her eat sh*t every time and trying to convince her that it's actually good but there is something wrong with her for not liking it.
Just said exactly this on a Andrew tit type video. 3 hours long about “why she doesn’t want sex with you” and not one mention of this. I said “you’re not making her cum. Simple as that.” Got lynched in the comments of course lolz so many telling on themselves!
My mother comes from a big southern family. Her mom birth 16 kids. They lived on a farm and they needed workers. Out of 16 kids only 3 were boys. The girls did everything. School work. Farm work from 5am til 7am. Then go prepare for school. Back home from school. 4pm to 6pm go work on the farm. 6pm time to cook for the entire family. You had the daughter's who cooked well. You had the daughter's who took care of the younger siblings well. You had the daughter's who taught their siblings to read and learn math. By the time they graduated high school. They hurried up and jumped on the first greyhound bus they could get to. Only 4 married. The rest wanted nothing to do with kids or marriage. And strongly believed in birth control. They were tiered of raising their parents kids. They didn't get to be kids. My mom and aunts felt like they were treated like farm workers with no pay. A few had kids. But the majority stayed single with no kids. Even the boys had no kids. Understanding what they went through I can't personally blame them. For choosing no marriage and no kids🤔
Yeah my eldest sister was definitely a "deputy parent" to my siblings and I. She looked after us and even helped out financially to take care of us cause of circumstances. We were poor. She went on to have zero children of her own. I often wonder if having to be responsible for us influenced her decision to not have kids and I feel quite guilty about it.
@@omphilemoerane2569 i personally don't want or have children because i was made deputy parent to my sister while my mom worked and her dad was out whoring internationally. knew since i was 14 i didn't want kids and became resentful because i wasn't allowed to do track anymore, couldn't sign up for rugby, chat with friends etc because i had to rush home from school to take care of my sister. going through all of that definitely influences your decision to have kids of your own because you know how it feels to be a parent and what you lose to it. also you shouldn't feel guilty over your older sister not having children. you were just a child and didn't know what was going on at the time. all that guilt should be on your parents but they probably don't care.
No Marriage or children for ME. I was the OLDEST of Five: the last two were born when I was almost 14, and almost 16. Strong believer in CONTRACEPTION, PROTECTION (like Condoms), and Birth Control... HAPPILY SINGLE! 🎉😂
@@omphilemoerane2569 Don’t feel guilty!! The childfree life is amazing!♥️ Her eyes just got opened that motherhood wasn’t for her, so you probably saved her from making a huge mistake!! It was meant to be.
@@wilsmith3898@ 13:00 mark, a woman breaks down some of these points the original poster may be referring to as men benefit more from marriage than women.
Agreed. Dont do it. And dont let em tell you thst no man will want you after kids.. i started going to the gym and he got into an argument saying why am i “looking so good. I gotta fatten you up, you look too hot.” Ladies, this SHIT is real. They dont want you looking good. For fear other men will approach you. And they kno why men approach you. I have 20 yo-70 yo men hit on me. Im 29. The only thing i got from marriage was stress.
@@flowerpower7065EXACTLY... You are supposed to be a nanny and a domestic slave, NOT a looker - that's how men choose their future wives in the first place... Scheming scumbags... And the chicks they cheat on you with are freaking HOT...It's absolutely SICKENING...🤮🤮🤮
I'm convince men view women as slaves. This dude talking about half of his stuff. Child that women gave you kids, cooked, cleaned, obviously had sex with you,etc. You would owe her so money if she was working for you as an employee, and isn't your wife.
That is exactly what straight men want n gay men are no different, thankfully I can take care of myself n maintain a household,,I don't need a women around for anything...
It benefits these dusty pookies to be tied to a woman. Spiritually we elevate them and our energy alone is currency. Ladies be careful who you let enter your divine womb
The frustrating thing, as a woman, are the woman who keep on falling for the scam! A fully grown, mature man is hard to find! One that is remotely unselfish and doesn't have childish thinking where he is the victim ... very rare I'm telling you! I understand, women have issues, too, and thus seek men thinking they are the answers to their problems. I wish women would work on themselves and finally understand that being alone does not mean you'll be lonely.
🎯🎯 That last sentence is everything. I've been married twice: 1st husband was awful. After I finally got out of that situation, I gifted myself 9 years of singleness, restoring my mental health & self awareness, maturing & learning to enjoy my own company. I raised my standards, set boundaries & made my expectations clear. I met my husband & we've been happily married these past 17 years. I learned it's not about what kind of men are out there... It's about women realizing that WHOMEVER we attract is a reflection of US, regardless of whether it's romantically or platonically. Most women (and men) have neglected their mental health, some have never matured or even learned to appreciate alone time, so they readily ignore 🚩🚩🚩 in others in pursuit of their own instant gratification. Then, when things inevitably go south for them, they blast the idea of relationship, friendship & especially marriage. The stranger part is because of social media, a lot of people have grown accustomed to valuing commentary on life subjects, like marriage & relationships, from people who have never even had success in either department. It's like taking wealth-building advice from a welfare recipient.
It starts with un-brainwashing our daughters. Two of mine say they are never getting married..I tell them it's okay to be married but you have to vet a man for at least 5 years and if there are any red flags let him go and also never sleep with a man without protection unless you are married and vetted him properly
These men are absolutely ridiculous. I like to talk to different men and just get onto their brains and mindsets. One day I was talking to this older man in his 70s 😂 He was telling me he goes to this little club every Sunday night and meet with his friends. So I start asking questions because in my mind at 39, I couldn’t image going to a club every single weekend. My first question was , don’t you get tired of doing that every Sunday ? He responded with , if he had a woman at home he wouldn’t even go . Then I asked so what do y’all be doing or talking about ? He responded with they drink , smoke a little herb , talk about women and if a new face goes to the club they are betting who can get her ? This is their thought process. They never grow out of it , they are adult children. And for the PickMe’s that say “not everyone “ I’m not talking about every man I’m referring to MAJORITY of men.
Why be frustrated?! It took time for you to get this revelation. Respect that other women may get to the same revelation in their own time. If it's causing you that much frustration, be part of the solution instead of judging other women's journeys.
Breaks my heart when I hear women who are stay at home moms and their husband thinks they are lazy or freeloading. Then if there is a divorce and their assets are shared equally men claim that the woman is taking it from them. It's just terrible the stay at home mothers slave away and are not recognized for it.
Especially because that same woman is doing the most down to cleaning that man's dirty underwear. For some it's like having another child but worse because they make a bigger mess.
Yeah… i fell into the only red pill mano sphere trad wife rabbit hole. And while i still respect and hold on to trad wife values, men aren’t holding their end. Men today (not all) are just not worth it. I almost fell into this misery and woke up before i married the wrong guy.
Sweetheart, you don’t understand that bc men don’t hold their end, tradbwife is not NATURAL in any way shape or form. You think god designed you to wive to men who aren’t husbands. Read wife is a BRAINWASH. Period. It’s why you can easily walk away from it.
Listen, even if MEN held their end, TRAND WIFE'S still do MORE than them, you do everything excluding going to work and he doesn't do anything , but work. So be very careful,he gets to clock out for lunch,you never do, your job is , 24/7 compared to his, he will never work 24/7 ,so don't get it twisted,trad wife is never a good idea
Welcome back lol There are so many women singing these men’s praises in hopes to appease them. And for what? Like you said, they rarely hold their end of the commitment.
I'm 60 years old and have never been married or had kids. I have no regrets. I never wanted to be owned or to be accountable to some man. Marriage benefits men because it's often a life of servitude for the woman. I live a rich life with artistic pursuits.
As a child I hated dolls... but my mother kept trying and trying to get me to play with them. She got me this life-like baby doll with a baby carriage and real baby clothes and the whole shebang. I was not playing with it, to her great disappointment, so she tried to make things ''more appealing'' by getting me real new-born diapers for the doll... I remember looking at her incredulously and wondering ''what part of changing diapers is supposed to be fun, or even a game???''. I used to sneak in my brother's room to play with his awesome aircraft carrier toy (complete with a whole collection of small jets and helicopters)... but my mother would get angry when she caught me because, ''those are not toys meant for girls''.
Bruhhhh the same 😂😂😂😂 dolls to me were so boring. My mom would buy them I play with them 1 day and they would rot in the closet. I could never understand the excitement about pretending something could talk 😂😂😂 I went outside played basketball and baseball 😂😂😂.
My mom did this as well. Except I didn't have brothers. So the few times the boys next door accidentally threw toys in our yard I kept them! No clue how that Cobra GI joe toy got chucked over the fence but I saw that thing and hid it for years.
Well it’s a good thing you where born then and not now, now you would be told your just in the wrong body and go take some Puberty blockers… chop your bits off and remodel later on🤷🏾♀️
I liked dolls when I was growing up but those dinosaur toys were so much more appealing so when I went over to my cousins house, he had a bunch of dinosaurs. I made sure to bring my Barbie dolls so they could have their limbs torn off by the dinosaurs. 😭 I used to be a strange child.
@@Nadi-pu5lsthat’s not how transitioning works so please refrain from speaking on subjects that you don’t know anything about. I’ve gone through those procedures and am the happiest guy (ftm), ever now. My mother hates my transition cuz she thought it was a phase, but it’s been years so her abusive ass can kick rocks 🤷🏾☠️
@@kittykatz4001Nope. I've seen males of every racial/ethnic group and social class quit their jobs after marriage or become so lazy they get fired. They are banking on the woman doing everything and/or their parents helping til they die (inheritance). Males are pathetic.
In the future, hopefully soon, women will become smart enough to understand that "marriage" equals being hired to do many many many full-time jobs. Jobs that are harder than is even fathomable, like bearing children. And they will upfront negotiate a weekly wage (from their husband) that is legally enforceable.
I think we’ll get there! It’ll take awhile for all women to get there but with all this info we can share and the stories shared too through YT and TT etc it’s definitely going to be speeding that up!
Wanna why else women are not wanting children? Lets talk about being the OLDEST and being the daughter..having to nurture and care for the rest of the younger siblings. I get it, if you wanted me to help, as a child, by fetching stuff and small chores.. but to leave me in charge of feeding, changing, bathing, putting them to sleep, demanding i play with them… absolutely no. And the boys? Outside playing in the dirt.
Because women have internalized Misogyny in such a way that they, women, don't even realize it. They don't dare to question anything, as long as they are seen as: The perfect woman for...
I wish women had been aware of this back in the boomer days when I was young. We didn't know anything back then and had to learn the hard way, by actually being with a guy and struggling to make it work, whereas today, all of this wonderful info is abundant on social media. Women today got it good, whether they realize it or not.
Im a 32 yr old millennial and though we had the Internet when I was young this info was not out there and budding social media encouraged more of the same Disney princess mindset. We were still made to think the ultimate goal in life is the love of a man. I learned from experience with a couple relationships with men that there is very little good about relationships with males. I was cheated on in one and physically abused in 2 others. What did I do? Cooked, cleaned, slept with them almost every day, treated them like the greatest person on earth and that's what I got in return? No thank you. I'm teaching my babies to steer clear.
@@aurora8749As I 30 y.o. millennial, I agree that this info wasn't out 10 years ago. You were still labeled as 'can't get a male' or considered defective if you chose to be single. Now us women proudly wear the 'don't want a male' badge with pride because we realize what hell women are going through to stay in relationships with males.
@@TxHoneyBee Oh wow... I didn't know exactly when the boomer attacks on women choosing to be single began letting up. So it was less than 10 years ago. For us boomers, the biggest attacks came from our own families. A woman can't keep her legs closed unless nobody want to do her or she's mentally ill, and the answer to everything was getting d*ck bcuz most didn't see the problems with men being as bad as not having a man and getting the d. And I survived my family's relentless criticism proudly.
Marriage seemed like a scam to me from childhood. I saw the fairy tales and then looked around me like UM HELLO, absolutely not. Then I found out I could be a wife AND have a wife. We got married because we wanted a child and needed the legal protection. It's a CONTRACT. Even when you find a good one, the gal who said love is the last reason to get married is right. Love doesn't pay bills, feed kids, get the washing done, or magically restore your body to what it was bedore pregnancy. You need a partner you can work with, not work for. PS my wife and I chose our own family name. Seemed silly to create a family of two women and reuse one of our fathers' name 😂
I thought I was married to the man of my dreams. He paid all the bills, and wanted me to be a stay home wife so we could travel! I took care of his a$$ when he had several surgery's and no job. Mentally I was trying to stay in this BS. While I slaved around the home, and he sat on the couch all day playing GTA. Putting his friends and his family as his priority. I woke up! I'm getting on my feet and back into the swing of things living my single life! Good luck to those who get married!
"Love" makes for acrimonious divorces. Women don't "meet" their husbands until after they've been married for six months or so. During that dating and honeymoon period, you are with their "representatives. Use discernment and if you do not have it, get a third party to assess them for you.
The earliest I've seen motherhood being implemented on girls is 3 years old. The first thing you're given is a baby doll that has the ability to be fed water and wet the diaper. That's what I witnessed when I was a child. My mother didn't get me those things. She gave me boy toys, puzzles, board games, items for sports, and artwork.
At this point, I consider marriage a form of scab labor. Think about it: The terms are not agreeable on one side, yet the labor continues to be extracted. Until we can come to terms in a way that benefits both parties, instead of just men, then marriage will continue to be a zero-sum game. Marrying a man under these circumstances with no provisions made for the woman is akin to crossing a picket line. Many women are already on strike and happier than ever for it. For those that still want to engage: NEGOTIATE YOUR TERMS. DO NOT ENGAGE IN SELF-ABANDONMENT UNDER THE GUISE OF "LOVE".
I am a good woman who works and happens to like cooking. I also have a husband who is a good man that works and enjoys helping around the house and it’s only a scam if it’s not the right person. I will admit that the right person is not easy to find. Hell, for Gen Z it’s damn near impossible. I would not want to be dating right now.🧐
I’m glad someone said this. In fact, I was looking for a comment like this. Marrying the wrong person can make marriage feel like a scam. That’s why it’s very important to not only watch out for red flags in a person before marriage, but also seeing if the wants and values between you and your partner align before getting married.
Marrying the right person will still have obstacles bc it’s just hard with two diff people with diff likes and standards learning to live together but if both care about eachother and put in work… it’s actually pretty nice.. both people just have to benefit..
Great, but they're not talking about compatibility within someones relationship, they're talking about the institution of marriage historically being a scam that men made up to benefit themselves during our histories hardest times when marriage was the only option for women to survive. Even when our marriages are peachy, It is very common for our husband's health to be better than ours in a few decades especially If we had kids. Pregnancy breaks our body down and you risk your life, husband doesn't risk his life. Having a good relationship with YOUR husband doesn't change the fact that marriage as an institution is a scam and shouldn't be pushed as the only option.
I don't thinknthe exception disproves the rule. Most men don't actually WANT the dynamic you're explaining. They benefit from the current t state of things. If everyone keeps "choosing wrong" then at some point it's a cultural dynamic.
It's hilarious hearing the group who says act right look right or you can and will he replaced for a younger model with less baggage say marriage is a scam because she will leave you for a man who makes more money and take half your shit.🤦🏾♀️ Ummm sirs thats marital property. What you bring in is yours. So if half is taken its half of the couple's stuff also known as hers too. Men value nothing a woman does. I'm happy women are waking up.
I have to thank the Asian lady. She sparked me to do a deeper dive into marriage and it’s origins. I studied the Greek/Roman origin and the African (Nigerian) origin for balance… I have so many questions now 😩
Historically, marriage has been a necessity for a woman's survival (I do thank the Asian woman for connecting the origins of patriarchy to agriculture. She gave me the missing puzzle piece that I didn't even realize was missing from the bigger picture). And marriage was a necessity for men to continue their bloodline, pass down his wealth, and/or supply him with more hands to help him in the field. Honestly, this set up doesn't work anymore. Women survive just fine on our own in the modern era. And since most farming is outsourced to major factories, the vast majority of men don't require extra hands to help them in the field anymore. Not to mention that marriage is no longer viewed as a tool to forged political alliances anymore either. Ultimately, everything that made marriage and having children a necessity is no longer there anymore. It's no longer a necessity and is more of a psychological benefit now. Meaning that since marriage and having children are no longer necessary, society had to place an intangible benefit upon those two activities. Society turned marriage and making babies into "milestones" that would make you feel fulfilled, complete, and happy. And that was never the goal of those two things, which is why many people find themselves feeling unfulfilled when they get married or have children.
@@Geechee_Chick You hit it on the head. “Marriage as a psychological benefit” whew. I read that the concept of love wasn’t introduced until 15th century France where they would encourage men to start complimenting women. That made me wonder well what is love to men vs women? Also, I have found (and agree) that marriage does benefits those who want children for the purpose of socialization and teaching specific values. I still have more to study but I feel a little more freer and lighter. Knowledge is truly power.
@Geechee_Chick Having children for the purpose of gratifying your sense of completion is quite selfish, thats what needs to be said to those who keep saying having a family is fulfilling. lol.
I do think that we need to evolve beyond what was once what we called the "traditional" stuff. It used to work, but we're smarter and work has gotten more demanding. We don't need a leader-and-follower relationship, we need a partner now. I guess you can technically say it's a "scam", but I just think we need to evolve. And yes, men definitely need to be better. I support women having more standards now because females hold the sexual selection power, and it's the selection of what she deems the best - just like nature intended.
When men say they want a traditional woman, they don't mean it. What they mean is they want a woman who does all the housework, cooking, and child raising, sleeps with him every night, and also pays half the bills. "Traditional women" as they call it were not working full-time or paying half the bills often when they had part time jobs that was their own extra spending money and the husband still paid all the bills. If they really wanted a traditional woman they'd want a woman who doesn't work and expects them to financially support them. I dare you to say that to a man the next time you hear him say he wants a traditional woman. Lol
@@aurora8749 You know, you have something there. The thing is, I think a load of these people who preach and announce to the world they want a "traditional woman" are mostly just mediocre brokies who have nothing to show for themselves, so they project and demand women to come down to their level instead. Remember, it's more likely for people to leave a bad review than a good one, so trust and believe healthy marriages aren't usually seen because they're too busy living their best lives (found a wild happy couple in a candid interview! ua-cam.com/video/Q2ZdQZqtmgQ/v-deo.html) while the toxic ones who are unhappy with themselves or the world are out there making a whole platform or podcast to show off their narcissism, postulating and proclaiming yet another complaint about the other sex. Emptiest cans make the most noise. In this current world, in most modern living, it just will not work. A lot are dual income now. This "traditional woman" shit just needs to stop. It's not for everybody and them demanding this is just failure to evolve. Modern women need more than just money now: They can make their own money, so need help with the house and kids and men to be more empathetic and a bit more sensitive. If men fail to give those, don't get salty when women find the SAME benefits for waaaaay less effort and heartache in their dogs or cats. Yeah, I said it. I don't care. Men in current times who keep saying "traditional woman" can go find one with their measly income and chalk-grating personality or shut up.
@@aurora8749that's the prototype. In the black community the women always worked though, so these men are promoting a "tradition" in which they themselves have never been able to hold up theirnend of the bargain.
I am unmarried, single and childless and very happy I’ve decided not to go down this road, I always wondered if I’d made a mistake but now I’ve watched this I’m happy I didn’t
Even IF it was "only the woman's" job to care for the children... then even so, the man should feed himself and care for himself... the children's needs are what matter right?
I have ALWAYS known marriage was a scam. I’ve always said if I get married, some huge boundaries would be set and as soon as it doesn’t benefit me then im out. Marriage does benefit women and im glad many women are finally waking up.
Marriage is an unpaid 24 hours job. Yes, a married working woman holds 2 jobs: a normal job and as a wife. Married working mum holds 3 jobs. Will rather do normal job where I get paid for doing my 8-5 job. But I respect women’s decisions to get married. You do what you love. Just don’t get coerced into marriage. Get married at your own terms, not his.
My fiance and I were discussing what having kids might look like when he brought up children. I told him we would have to figure out how to afford my being home for 3 years because neither of us are comfortable with daycare. He agreed that it should be me because I'm a Chld Dv major. But he asked it he couldn't be the one to stay home sometimes (we both work jobs with very fexible hours, so it would be easy to take turns being the stay at home parent if we wanted to) I pointed out that 2 months prior, he fell asleep next to the doorbell because I didnt have the key. He promised and went to bed by the door. He still locked me out of the house for two hours straight 🙃 it's louder than a baby. If I were a baby, I could be dead. He apologized and dropped it. We decided that when the child is older, 3 plus, we could talk about taking turns if we are both in the same jobs 😂
Maybe talk to him and let him see some of these clips… some men are totally blind to this bc they too have been conditioned to be this way. It becomes second nature to them and they aren’t aware of it… it will also be a challange for them to change it but they can if they want to
It’s been so many marriages built on lies and delusions. Some are started with parents “advice” and bs misleading. And men always would be thinking them just being there and paying bills is what entails the formula for success in a marriage. As well as control. But takes a meeting of minds frequent check in with good communication. And the awareness of where you stand and want to go. On top that you have to have shared responsibility. Periona!!!! Lol
I have been married twice and have one child from the first marriage. I married the sperm donor because I believed that no other man would want a build in family (this was in the 80's so that was probably true). WORST decision I EVER made. He was an alcoholic, didn't help with anything and cheated. It took me almost 2 years to work up the will to leave. My second marriage was alright. Course I no longer had a child (grown up beautiful woman now with 3 beautiful babies) so there wasn't that pressure. We did what we wanted within financial means, but he left me for another woman because I wasn't NEEDY enough. So yeah, women do not NEED any man, ever. We are completely fine, wonderful, stupendous, amazing creatures on our own.
Na why be with someone I don’t love for who they are? I got my own shit so I don’t need or want a man’s shit. Granted I’m bi and just not dating men anymore but damn. That lady got bad advice. The same hand that gives can take.
It grinds my gears thta the brokest group of men statistically fix their mouths to talk abojt losing half of "their stuff". 9 times out of 10 she went 50/50 like yall request. This mindset that most men display is EXACTLY why I think more women should demand more financially. They understand everything that has a dollar sign, but as soon as you talk about doing things around they home they don't comprehend.
What boggles my mind is that marriage is usually initiated by men. Traditionally they are the ones to propose. Later those same men act like they never wanted to voluntarily stepped into this sacred union that they had no idea about. I feel like men are not taught how to be good husbands. These things are demonstrated from very young. A cursory pre-wedding counseling session is not going to prepare a man to be fundamentally different from how his preconceived notions set him up for. I really don't know how to fix that.
I agreed that back then you got married and had children to help farm the land. My grandparents had 10 children and they all did lots of farm chores before school, and definitely afterwards. Weekends were all farm chores. I get exactly what the lady is speaking of @5:25
I don’t even want all that with a man even if i were to be married. A big house? Why?? Being his house maid & his sex servant. No thanks. It’s all too much. Marry better if there is better fight over him seriously. Let the best woman win! And he won’t be saying he is a high value man. He just will be. He doesn’t need to preach it
Okay let’s not be delulu Being a single mom/dad is THE hardest job, especially if you have one of the following positions: blue collar, nursing or a teacher
I thank my mum who got me only barbies as a child in regards to girly toys etc I was a fierce tomboy which I still am (I’m the only girl I have 6bros) and the only reason why I would get married is if I got baptised due to my spiritual beliefs. However in this society, that doesn’t seem possible anymore. I wouldn’t even marry the father of my 3sons as he only wants to get married because it would be the “logical thing to do”! So I chose to be a single mum, instead of a single mum in a marriage to a man who thinks going to work is him contributing when he can’t even contribute on time. I’m glad young ladies are waking up before it’s too late x
Being a single mom is the hardest job on earth but it's also the most rewarding. Me and my daughter move around our house quietly. We both clean up after ourselves, we divide the chores equally and if I don't feel like cooking... She does. If she don't feel like cooking, I do. If neither one of us want to cook, we order out. It's hard at first but I'm the end... Lol our house is happy.
Women's Lib told women, "You can do it all," and "Lean In." I didn't want to do it all. It's exhausting. My ex-husband would yell and betittle me about housework, childcare, grocery shopping..., while he watched sports on TV all weekend and evenings.
I think it depends on the people individually and their reasons/motives for marriage. In my case, it was our love for each other, our religious beliefs and our respect for what we wanted individually as well. I think marriage can be hard in general, but if you’re not on the same page and have the right intentions it will show. There are no gender roles in my marriage, My husband puts in more than me across the board when needed, without putting any expectations on me other than to love and support him.
Never worked so hard in my life, the way I worked when I was a married woman. Assuming the wife/ mother puts in the effort, yes for many women marriage or any commited relationship is nothing but work for her. I'm sure some relationships share the workload, but many women will never have that kind of domestic assistance in the home. I see a lot of videos saying women have unrealistic expectations with respect to men. Well, if the women is expected to be the maid, cook, mother, lover, personal assistant, taxi then she will need a man who makes enough to afford the family. Proceed with caution ladies.
I’ve always saw marriage as a business arrangement. I’d be willing to do it if kids are something we’re thinking about. But if we don’t have any why get married?
Forgive me for boasting. It seems I'm quite fortunate . . . I find that my own marriage will be a bit unique in that I'm marrying a kind and gentle man who truly loves me. We have open, honest, and sincere discussions, even on difficult topics. He's emotionally available and attentive, and he's just so sweet to me. Most importantly, for us, we've both agreed to remain child free by choice. We're on the same page with no conflicting interests, which makes things relatively smooth sailing compared to many other couples. When it comes to finances, he's got his money, I've got mine, and we'll have a joint account exclusively for bills and household necessities. The tax breaks from being married are also going to be nice.
@ibabechanel It might sound like a short amount of time to some . . . Truthfully, it was only one year. We just knew we were compatible with each other far before the one year mark, but we wanted to wait and test the waters first. Thankfully, it all worked out~
The problem with marriage is that it has not properly evolved to fit our modern era. Back then, marriage was the only way a woman could survive once she became too old to live in her father's house. Back then, your only choice as a woman was to either get married or spend the rest of your life as a harlot. Becoming a priestess or a nun, working at your family's tavern forever as a single woman, or becoming maid to a wealthy family, wasnt an option for most women. And in many cases those women were still required to get married eventually (except for nuns, but in many cultures priestesses got married) For men, marriage was a necessity to provide him with legitimate heirs to his land, his title, and his wealth. Marriage was a necessity to forge political alliances between nations and warring families. Marriage was a necessity to provide a poor farmer with extra hands to help him on the field. Throughout history, marriage had never been about finding the love of your life(most spouses historically only tolerated each other, some despised one another, only a few were actually in love with each other), or becoming fulfilled. Neither was the case for having children. It was a duty. In our modern era, the many factors that existed that made getting married and having children a neccesity are no longer there. So society decided to place an emotional value on marriage. Instead of marriage being a business agreement between two merging families, it has now become something that society has told us would make us happy, fulfilled, and complete. That is why most modern marriages don't work. The goal of marriage has never been about finding love and happiness. Even though our society has changed the value on marriage (switching it from a poltiical/survival/economic necessity to that of love/happiness) the foundation of marriage has remained the same. And that foundation conflicts with modern life. So honestly there is no point to continuing to use a relic of an outdated era(s) in time. I believe within the next hundred years our globe will eventually adapt to the changing times. Our technology and politics are changing faster than our values can adapt. Since traditional values has been with us for so long(thousands upon thousands of years) it will take a long time for humanity to catch up as a whole. Rn we are in the growing pains stage. Things will continue to feel awkward, puzzle pieces will continue to not fit, until our values thoughts catch up to our changing world
I am beginning to realize, because times are not like they were (meaning women and men had a reason forcing them to work together), people have forgotten basic essentials. Women on average seem to want more from life while a large amount of men are ok with just getting by. So women have adopted ego making it harder for men, but men refuse to entertain women without selfish intentions. The divide is dividing 😭😭
Marriage is a scam when marrying the wrong person and or for the wrong reasons. I hope everyone finds happiness in life rather they choose marriage or being single.
Ol' girl with the "love is the last thing you should think about when you want to get married" needs to go. We're done with that song and dance. Any child can rationalize the fallacy in believing someone doing things for you will cause you to grow affection for them; it absolutely does not. You become accustomed and attached to the services being provided, not the person themselves. Our domestic and labor skills are not our personalities; anyone can cook, clean, mow a lawn, work a 9-to-5, etc. You will eventually get bored with the person (bcs gender roles are boring af, a thing I don't feel is discussed enough) and boredom manifests in a number of toxic ways. If you're good with sharing your body and space with a human bot for a few creature comforts, be my guest. But I enjoy my humanity and will not allow it to hollowed out in order to uphold a made-up ideal. Because as long as we're just making things up, I can create my own little construct and live within it. Why tf do I need to bother with the patriarchal one? According to all it's disciples, just plain LIKING the person I choose isn't even one of the benefits. And can someone please tell me what the benefits are even supposed to be?
The benefits to the woman are the things he provides. I'm not quite sure of what you think man and woman's relationship is supposed to be but provision is definitely one of them. You definitely should like and love the person too, but it's definitely not in replacement of provision. But you're blessed to live in a time where women do not need men to survive, so you definitely don't need a man's companionship. I personally have no use for a man especially since they don't want to provide or respect women. Those two things are literally the only reason why a woman would put up with a male.
@@biblethumper8088 A person that doesn't love me can't provide for me in any sense of the term, even materially. And a person I don't love will never have the things he DOES provide, appreciated by me. When it comes to family, friendships, and even work besties; only when I can reach a certain level of intimacy with you can I remain in your life in any significant way. I end relationships, friendships included when they hit an intimacy wall. So the idea of provision being a priority over love is non-existent in my mind and heart. The thought of "putting up with" someone for the sake of material is wild in my eyes. Because what I require is my humanity fed. I need someone that resonates with my curiosity, creativity, humor, joy, remorse, sadness, intellect, and even my ignorance. I want someone to be a human with, that is what benefits me. Only through that can I feel a desire to share my home, body, and general life with you. That's what my love is, that's what intimacy is for me. Those are the things that move me to appreciate you. Love isn't a replacement for provision? Without love you don't have the type of provision I value anyway, so that doesn't even compute.
The lady talking about how agriculture was the point where modern relationships/ capitalism/ patriarchy started sounds like points from the book Sex At Dawn by Christopher Ryan
I’m glad that the young Asian lady made the point about marriage’s origins in agriculture. It’s true. Women were married to men as property and to create children. Children were created to work on the land.
she takes half your stuff .. no both yours stuff lol but I laughed when he said you spent almost a hundred thousand on cars and homes .. where can you find a home that fits that budget?
Personally, I never wanted marriage and I knew that at 7 years of age. Today, I truly think that getting married is selfish, narcissistic and egotistical. People just jump into it for companionship, sexual satisfaction and financial security. It is all about personal gain which is inherently selfish as hell. I have yet to hear a good reason as to why a person decided to get married because to me, there isn't a good reason at all.
I just think it's sick and twisted seeing people get used and taken advantage of for those things. It's sad to me and no human being deserves that. It's complete manipulation, in my book.
Getting married is only for people who want to have children and maintain a family lineage. It is contractual because each gender is sacrificing and needs to be compensated for that sacrifice. Unfortunately, men have created a system where only they benefit from marriage, so now there is no need for it. But, if you have no desire for a family, then you aren't missing anything by not getting married. Be free and enjoy God's beautiful earth.
Marriage is a scam, but living together is an even bigger scam. Men want her to pay 50/50 for the bills and do all the work in the home, but the woman gets nothing when he kicks her to the curb.
I think marriage should now be two autonomous people coming together in love, no changing of names, no "contracts", and having all the necessary discussions about how things will be done and expected from both within that coupling. The door will always be open for either person to leave....because when both people know they can leave at any time (not being trapped) and still decide to stay? That is real love ❤
Something happened 12,000 years ago with that global flood. Women all over the world were required because the environment changed from plenty to scarcity and people all over world had to start farming. This time period holds the answer to why women unbeknownst to themselves inadvertently subjugated themselves by pair bonding. This is when men decided they owned us, and women became first slave, first creator of personal value( children) for an individual male. He felt he owned women and decided other things could be owned as well! Men thinking they owned women and children is what had them thinking they owned the land they started farming too. Yes, the beginning of all of this began when women pair bonded with men.
The ideal marriage for me if i ever have one... needs be resemble Hank and Peggy's marriage in king of the hill. Hank has good values. Works on building a relationship with his soon. And providing a decent life for his family. Of course, they both make mistakes. But, at the end of the day, they are equals. That is the only type of marriage i am interested in. Nothing less will do❤
She is right but sleeping with many people??????? Well,not many people are aware that emotional trauma you have when sleeping with people who are unhealed,also others' people karma,mental parasites and spiritual stagnation.Does anyone think that sleeping around with multiple people is something admirable? Think the consequeces of that.
The fact that dude said she wants to divorce you and take half of YOUR stuff says it all. He literally thinks that everything that they built together in their marriage belongs to him and that she's robbing him even though she's probably the one that did most of the work in the marriage. He thinks that she shouldn't get anything and that she's worth nothing and it's all his.
Many men think this.
I’m always in awe at how worthless they actually see women. I’m a lesbian and don’t date men and let me tell you, nothing about men is appealing to me after what I see they do to heterosexual women. Hell naw . Y’all deserve to be cherished and respected
And many women actually don't feel entitled to these men's "wealth" They project their selfishness all the time
Bingo! You nailed it.
BINGO!!! That's why women need to leave men alone. If they don't, then women need to require a huge dowry before having sex with a man. It's all to easy for males to take what you contributed to and leave you with nothing.
Marriage benefits the man when he’s alive and benefits the woman when he’s dead. Period
Damn
This 🤌🏽😂
And that’s on Mary had a lil lamb 😂
If that’s true why are men avoiding marriage then???? 🤦🏾♂️
@@Slow-Rolling because he might die accidentally. Lol 😂
lol, the first dude speaking has no concept of the world we live in today. He literally said men are spending about $100k on a house!!!!! Dude, where are they finding $100k houses after I just paid $350k for a house in the hood!!!! I can’t with these people on the internet. Nowadays a woman is moving these dusties into her home because he doesn’t have one.
I thought he said the same thing, but I think he meant $100k on a wedding.
Not just nowadays. I grew up watching my mother do this dumb shyt.
@@Dannniellleeeyeah cause if I wanted to buy the house im in now it would be 780,000 something like that and its not worth the price there selling it for because it doesn't come with air conditioning or heating you have to install your own so I want to know who's selling a nice house for 100,000 too.
The first problem is you buying a house to live in rather buy a duplex or triplex and rent out
Men keep talking about being financially responsible for their wives. Yeah, because of the gender pay gap. Give women equal pay, and you don't have to worry about that. Women were just recently able to be fully financially independent, as the woman at 6:20 said.
It’s the men with no money alway screaming 😱 golddigger. Sir you have no gold. You should be happy someone wants to procreate with and carry on your line.
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Same ones who think they deserve an instagram model as gf, who'll stay skinny, attractive, cook and clean and pay 50/50 of course.
@@cloudypolly22 yup while they have a bear belly 😂
😂😂😂😂
Right? Gold digger for his 40k a year as job? Lol
Being single and child free sounds delicious 😂❤
Oprah has shown women the way. Marriage, and children are optional. Keep your money, and your man separate. Your peace is everything. Maintain a place of your own that offers you sanctuary. Fall in love with animals. They give unconditional love, loyalty, and no STDs.
And all that wealth she created goes right back to the people that paid her. If you're OK with the destruction of the black race then I can see why you view her the way you do.
But here's the catch and I'm hoping I'm around to see it. When she's close to one foot in the grave, you'll see her renounce everything she did in this life. Too many people has done this when one foot was in the grave.
Agree!
@@dbig48d there’s literally a continent of black people, the black race will be fine.
@@dbig48dI doubt it. She's always been clear headed about what she's doing. She could've adopted if she wanted to.
Thank god their are smarter women than you..if they all felt that way.. humanity would eventually cease to exist... Sorry that you don't have a good man that sees enough value in you to marry you 😢
I’m glad the first guy thinks marriage is a scam. He doesn’t deserve a good woman. Let him live his entire life having relationships that go nowhere, wondering why no one will stay with him.
I agree. You can tell he doesn’t have anything and he doesn’t take care of himself.
Men who need a bra like women should truly stfu.
I hear you, but please understand that in creating Patriarchy there was an intentional hoarding of resources that women needed to then go to men for and the expectation of most men to be given a wife or a woman in his life. In nature most of these men would die virgins...at least 50% of them as women all want the most intelligent and physically virile men. This is true from a nature point of view.❤
He downgraded all the wife would give him from xes to children to cooking and cleaning.
@@toscadonnaAnd I'm sure the wife has a job too.
As a side note: Some men don't even know how to make a woman c*m, not even close and then complain that she's cold and lacks a s*x drive. No my dude, her s*x drive is fine, she just doesn't want to have s*x with YOU. Why would she keep coming back to a noob like you if you've never made her finish? That's like making her eat sh*t every time and trying to convince her that it's actually good but there is something wrong with her for not liking it.
You mean most men? Considering that a good number of women have never orgasmed before while laying with the man
Just said exactly this on a Andrew tit type video. 3 hours long about “why she doesn’t want sex with you” and not one mention of this. I said “you’re not making her cum. Simple as that.” Got lynched in the comments of course lolz so many telling on themselves!
That part
And majority of women don't come anyway
@@anonymousanonymous870 exactly
My mother comes from a big southern family. Her mom birth 16 kids. They lived on a farm and they needed workers. Out of 16 kids only 3 were boys. The girls did everything. School work. Farm work from 5am til 7am. Then go prepare for school. Back home from school. 4pm to 6pm go work on the farm. 6pm time to cook for the entire family. You had the daughter's who cooked well. You had the daughter's who took care of the younger siblings well. You had the daughter's who taught their siblings to read and learn math. By the time they graduated high school. They hurried up and jumped on the first greyhound bus they could get to. Only 4 married. The rest wanted nothing to do with kids or marriage. And strongly believed in birth control. They were tiered of raising their parents kids. They didn't get to be kids. My mom and aunts felt like they were treated like farm workers with no pay. A few had kids. But the majority stayed single with no kids. Even the boys had no kids. Understanding what they went through I can't personally blame them. For choosing no marriage and no kids🤔
Yeah my eldest sister was definitely a "deputy parent" to my siblings and I. She looked after us and even helped out financially to take care of us cause of circumstances. We were poor. She went on to have zero children of her own. I often wonder if having to be responsible for us influenced her decision to not have kids and I feel quite guilty about it.
@@omphilemoerane2569 i personally don't want or have children because i was made deputy parent to my sister while my mom worked and her dad was out whoring internationally. knew since i was 14 i didn't want kids and became resentful because i wasn't allowed to do track anymore, couldn't sign up for rugby, chat with friends etc because i had to rush home from school to take care of my sister. going through all of that definitely influences your decision to have kids of your own because you know how it feels to be a parent and what you lose to it.
also you shouldn't feel guilty over your older sister not having children. you were just a child and didn't know what was going on at the time. all that guilt should be on your parents but they probably don't care.
@@redonyx5428 my mom was a very GOOD SINGLE mom. Like I said, it was circumstances that caused things to be the way they were.
No Marriage or children for ME. I was the OLDEST of Five: the last two were born when I was almost 14, and almost 16. Strong believer in CONTRACEPTION, PROTECTION (like Condoms), and Birth Control... HAPPILY SINGLE! 🎉😂
@@omphilemoerane2569
Don’t feel guilty!! The childfree life is amazing!♥️ Her eyes just got opened that motherhood wasn’t for her, so you probably saved her from making a huge mistake!! It was meant to be.
Lmao the men thinking marriage is a scam is actually hilarious when they benefit the most from the institution 😂
How do men benefit the most?
@@wilsmith3898let's see. You get a built in maid, nanny, cook, therapist, accountant , surrogate, personal assistant, etc
@@wilsmith3898@ 13:00 mark, a woman breaks down some of these points the original poster may be referring to as men benefit more from marriage than women.
😂 They want more benefits than even that! 🤣🤦🏽♀️
@wilsmith3898 married men get more respect in society, they' get more employment, they live longer than single men,they look more cleaner and more
Married woman here ✋🏾 marriage is a SCAM 😂🤷🏾♀️
Same. Don’t do it ladies!!!
Then why are you still married...sounds like you're scamming yourself
😂😂😂 gurl you out here telling on yourself
Agreed. Dont do it. And dont let em tell you thst no man will want you after kids.. i started going to the gym and he got into an argument saying why am i “looking so good. I gotta fatten you up, you look too hot.” Ladies, this SHIT is real. They dont want you looking good. For fear other men will approach you. And they kno why men approach you. I have 20 yo-70 yo men hit on me. Im 29. The only thing i got from marriage was stress.
@@flowerpower7065EXACTLY... You are supposed to be a nanny and a domestic slave, NOT a looker - that's how men choose their future wives in the first place... Scheming scumbags... And the chicks they cheat on you with are freaking HOT...It's absolutely SICKENING...🤮🤮🤮
I'm convince men view women as slaves. This dude talking about half of his stuff. Child that women gave you kids, cooked, cleaned, obviously had sex with you,etc. You would owe her so money if she was working for you as an employee, and isn't your wife.
The actual etymology of the word "wife" means slave....go look it up 🤷🏾♀️
That is exactly what straight men want n gay men are no different, thankfully I can take care of myself n maintain a household,,I don't need a women around for anything...
😂That first man is complaining about DIVORCE… not marriage. 🤦🏾♀️Lawd.
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It benefits these dusty pookies to be tied to a woman. Spiritually we elevate them and our energy alone is currency. Ladies be careful who you let enter your divine womb
Hahaha... wait! You right! Lolol
The frustrating thing, as a woman, are the woman who keep on falling for the scam! A fully grown, mature man is hard to find! One that is remotely unselfish and doesn't have childish thinking where he is the victim ... very rare I'm telling you! I understand, women have issues, too, and thus seek men thinking they are the answers to their problems. I wish women would work on themselves and finally understand that being alone does not mean you'll be lonely.
🎯🎯 That last sentence is everything. I've been married twice: 1st husband was awful. After I finally got out of that situation, I gifted myself 9 years of singleness, restoring my mental health & self awareness, maturing & learning to enjoy my own company. I raised my standards, set boundaries & made my expectations clear. I met my husband & we've been happily married these past 17 years. I learned it's not about what kind of men are out there... It's about women realizing that WHOMEVER we attract is a reflection of US, regardless of whether it's romantically or platonically. Most women (and men) have neglected their mental health, some have never matured or even learned to appreciate alone time, so they readily ignore 🚩🚩🚩 in others in pursuit of their own instant gratification. Then, when things inevitably go south for them, they blast the idea of relationship, friendship & especially marriage. The stranger part is because of social media, a lot of people have grown accustomed to valuing commentary on life subjects, like marriage & relationships, from people who have never even had success in either department. It's like taking wealth-building advice from a welfare recipient.
It starts with un-brainwashing our daughters. Two of mine say they are never getting married..I tell them it's okay to be married but you have to vet a man for at least 5 years and if there are any red flags let him go and also never sleep with a man without protection unless you are married and vetted him properly
These men are absolutely ridiculous.
I like to talk to different men and just get onto their brains and mindsets.
One day I was talking to this older man in his 70s 😂
He was telling me he goes to this little club every Sunday night and meet with his friends.
So I start asking questions because in my mind at 39, I couldn’t image going to a club every single weekend.
My first question was , don’t you get tired of doing that every Sunday ? He responded with , if he had a woman at home he wouldn’t even go .
Then I asked so what do y’all be doing or talking about ? He responded with they drink , smoke a little herb , talk about women and if a new face goes to the club they are betting who can get her ?
This is their thought process. They never grow out of it , they are adult children.
And for the PickMe’s that say “not everyone “ I’m not talking about every man I’m referring to MAJORITY of men.
Why be frustrated?! It took time for you to get this revelation. Respect that other women may get to the same revelation in their own time. If it's causing you that much frustration, be part of the solution instead of judging other women's journeys.
Im mentally not stable for marriage and /or children so i stay in my lane😂😂😂😂
I prize my solitude...I don't mind dying alone at all....
@@ieattofu68 true to that my sister 💓💓💓💓
Self-awareness wins everytime loooooool
Same boat 🚢⛵
Breaks my heart when I hear women who are stay at home moms and their husband thinks they are lazy or freeloading. Then if there is a divorce and their assets are shared equally men claim that the woman is taking it from them. It's just terrible the stay at home mothers slave away and are not recognized for it.
Especially because that same woman is doing the most down to cleaning that man's dirty underwear. For some it's like having another child but worse because they make a bigger mess.
Yeah… i fell into the only red pill mano sphere trad wife rabbit hole. And while i still respect and hold on to trad wife values, men aren’t holding their end. Men today (not all) are just not worth it. I almost fell into this misery and woke up before i married the wrong guy.
No trad wives are happy.
Did you marry or no?
Sweetheart, you don’t understand that bc men don’t hold their end, tradbwife is not NATURAL in any way shape or form. You think god designed you to wive to men who aren’t husbands. Read wife is a BRAINWASH. Period. It’s why you can easily walk away from it.
Listen, even if MEN held their end, TRAND WIFE'S still do MORE than them, you do everything excluding going to work and he doesn't do anything , but work. So be very careful,he gets to clock out for lunch,you never do, your job is , 24/7 compared to his, he will never work 24/7 ,so don't get it twisted,trad wife is never a good idea
Welcome back lol There are so many women singing these men’s praises in hopes to appease them. And for what? Like you said, they rarely hold their end of the commitment.
I'm 60 years old and have never been married or had kids. I have no regrets. I never wanted to be owned or to be accountable to some man. Marriage benefits men because it's often a life of servitude for the woman. I live a rich life with artistic pursuits.
As a child I hated dolls... but my mother kept trying and trying to get me to play with them.
She got me this life-like baby doll with a baby carriage and real baby clothes and the whole shebang. I was not playing with it, to her great disappointment, so she tried to make things ''more appealing'' by getting me real new-born diapers for the doll... I remember looking at her incredulously and wondering ''what part of changing diapers is supposed to be fun, or even a game???''.
I used to sneak in my brother's room to play with his awesome aircraft carrier toy (complete with a whole collection of small jets and helicopters)... but my mother would get angry when she caught me because, ''those are not toys meant for girls''.
Bruhhhh the same 😂😂😂😂 dolls to me were so boring. My mom would buy them I play with them 1 day and they would rot in the closet. I could never understand the excitement about pretending something could talk 😂😂😂 I went outside played basketball and baseball 😂😂😂.
My mom did this as well. Except I didn't have brothers. So the few times the boys next door accidentally threw toys in our yard I kept them!
No clue how that Cobra GI joe toy got chucked over the fence but I saw that thing and hid it for years.
Well it’s a good thing you where born then and not now, now you would be told your just in the wrong body and go take some Puberty blockers… chop your bits off and remodel later on🤷🏾♀️
I liked dolls when I was growing up but those dinosaur toys were so much more appealing so when I went over to my cousins house, he had a bunch of dinosaurs. I made sure to bring my Barbie dolls so they could have their limbs torn off by the dinosaurs. 😭 I used to be a strange child.
@@Nadi-pu5lsthat’s not how transitioning works so please refrain from speaking on subjects that you don’t know anything about. I’ve gone through those procedures and am the happiest guy (ftm), ever now. My mother hates my transition cuz she thought it was a phase, but it’s been years so her abusive ass can kick rocks 🤷🏾☠️
Why is a job a normal thing to have for single guys, but as soon as a woman is attached it’s the greatest burden ever conceived?
Bcz they are the biggest burden a woman can ever have that’s why they are mad that she didn’t waste her time taking care of these losers asses
This is funny 😂
True! A lot of males get married and quit their jobs (or get themselves fired).
@@TxHoneyBeeNot “a lot of males,” but rather a specific demographic of males.
@@kittykatz4001Nope. I've seen males of every racial/ethnic group and social class quit their jobs after marriage or become so lazy they get fired. They are banking on the woman doing everything and/or their parents helping til they die (inheritance). Males are pathetic.
the first woman with the glasses, dropped the BOMB...she was completely and totally correct. THANK YOU, ma'am.
In the future, hopefully soon, women will become smart enough to understand that "marriage" equals being hired to do many many many full-time jobs. Jobs that are harder than is even fathomable, like bearing children. And they will upfront negotiate a weekly wage (from their husband) that is legally enforceable.
Yes! I want to normalize pre-birth contracts like their are pre-nuptual contracts.
I think we’ll get there! It’ll take awhile for all women to get there but with all this info we can share and the stories shared too through YT and TT etc it’s definitely going to be speeding that up!
just tell him that you’re not doing shit, so he knows what the hell he signing up for😂😂😂
The man who said marriage is a scam for MEN? LMAOOOOOOOO
Oh that’s nothing! There’s a lot of them in youtube , and trying to warn guys from marriage lmao, good for us tho, we don’t want to marry them xD
Half of zero is zero my guy 😂🤦🏾♀️
Wanna why else women are not wanting children? Lets talk about being the OLDEST and being the daughter..having to nurture and care for the rest of the younger siblings. I get it, if you wanted me to help, as a child, by fetching stuff and small chores.. but to leave me in charge of feeding, changing, bathing, putting them to sleep, demanding i play with them… absolutely no. And the boys? Outside playing in the dirt.
Relateable
I never understand why they give a kid the fathers name when they pretty much do nothing apart from 2 seconds. That is a form of abuse.
Because women have internalized Misogyny in such a way that they, women, don't even realize it. They don't dare to question anything, as long as they are seen as: The perfect woman for...
Patriarchy, ownership.
I don’t understand it either specially since we hear so many cases of the father not being the actual blood father to begin with
Facts!!! I remember asking this when I was a kid and the response was “we belong in the patriarchy” i hate patriarchy ever since.
I have my mom's name ❤
I wish women had been aware of this back in the boomer days when I was young. We didn't know anything back then and had to learn the hard way, by actually being with a guy and struggling to make it work, whereas today, all of this wonderful info is abundant on social media. Women today got it good, whether they realize it or not.
Im a 32 yr old millennial and though we had the Internet when I was young this info was not out there and budding social media encouraged more of the same Disney princess mindset. We were still made to think the ultimate goal in life is the love of a man. I learned from experience with a couple relationships with men that there is very little good about relationships with males. I was cheated on in one and physically abused in 2 others. What did I do? Cooked, cleaned, slept with them almost every day, treated them like the greatest person on earth and that's what I got in return? No thank you. I'm teaching my babies to steer clear.
@@aurora8749 Right on!
@@aurora8749As I 30 y.o. millennial, I agree that this info wasn't out 10 years ago. You were still labeled as 'can't get a male' or considered defective if you chose to be single. Now us women proudly wear the 'don't want a male' badge with pride because we realize what hell women are going through to stay in relationships with males.
Exactly, more of us are learning about this now
@@TxHoneyBee Oh wow... I didn't know exactly when the boomer attacks on women choosing to be single began letting up. So it was less than 10 years ago. For us boomers, the biggest attacks came from our own families. A woman can't keep her legs closed unless nobody want to do her or she's mentally ill, and the answer to everything was getting d*ck bcuz most didn't see the problems with men being as bad as not having a man and getting the d.
And I survived my family's relentless criticism proudly.
Marriage seemed like a scam to me from childhood. I saw the fairy tales and then looked around me like UM HELLO, absolutely not. Then I found out I could be a wife AND have a wife. We got married because we wanted a child and needed the legal protection. It's a CONTRACT. Even when you find a good one, the gal who said love is the last reason to get married is right. Love doesn't pay bills, feed kids, get the washing done, or magically restore your body to what it was bedore pregnancy. You need a partner you can work with, not work for.
PS my wife and I chose our own family name. Seemed silly to create a family of two women and reuse one of our fathers' name 😂
Omg I love that you both chose your names.❤❤ Wishing you both many happy years 😊
Hurts to see others living your dream lol. That's so nice to hear and restores my Faith in humanity. Happiness to you both❤️
I thought I was married to the man of my dreams. He paid all the bills, and wanted me to be a stay home wife so we could travel! I took care of his a$$ when he had several surgery's and no job. Mentally I was trying to stay in this BS. While I slaved around the home, and he sat on the couch all day playing GTA. Putting his friends and his family as his priority. I woke up! I'm getting on my feet and back into the swing of things living my single life! Good luck to those who get married!
"Love" makes for acrimonious divorces. Women don't "meet" their husbands until after they've been married for six months or so. During that dating and honeymoon period, you are with their "representatives. Use discernment and if you do not have it, get a third party to assess them for you.
The earliest I've seen motherhood being implemented on girls is 3 years old. The first thing you're given is a baby doll that has the ability to be fed water and wet the diaper. That's what I witnessed when I was a child. My mother didn't get me those things. She gave me boy toys, puzzles, board games, items for sports, and artwork.
I dont even think it's only marriage per se but longterm relationships overall. It is a scam for women.
why any long term relationship? because of the dedication that is usually not the same generally?
At this point, I consider marriage a form of scab labor. Think about it: The terms are not agreeable on one side, yet the labor continues to be extracted. Until we can come to terms in a way that benefits both parties, instead of just men, then marriage will continue to be a zero-sum game. Marrying a man under these circumstances with no provisions made for the woman is akin to crossing a picket line. Many women are already on strike and happier than ever for it. For those that still want to engage: NEGOTIATE YOUR TERMS. DO NOT ENGAGE IN SELF-ABANDONMENT UNDER THE GUISE OF "LOVE".
I am a good woman who works and happens to like cooking. I also have a husband who is a good man that works and enjoys helping around the house and it’s only a scam if it’s not the right person. I will admit that the right person is not easy to find. Hell, for Gen Z it’s damn near impossible. I would not want to be dating right now.🧐
I’m glad someone said this. In fact, I was looking for a comment like this. Marrying the wrong person can make marriage feel like a scam. That’s why it’s very important to not only watch out for red flags in a person before marriage, but also seeing if the wants and values between you and your partner align before getting married.
Marrying the right person will still have obstacles bc it’s just hard with two diff people with diff likes and standards learning to live together but if both care about eachother and put in work… it’s actually pretty nice.. both people just have to benefit..
Great, but they're not talking about compatibility within someones relationship, they're talking about the institution of marriage historically being a scam that men made up to benefit themselves during our histories hardest times when marriage was the only option for women to survive. Even when our marriages are peachy, It is very common for our husband's health to be better than ours in a few decades especially If we had kids. Pregnancy breaks our body down and you risk your life, husband doesn't risk his life. Having a good relationship with YOUR husband doesn't change the fact that marriage as an institution is a scam and shouldn't be pushed as the only option.
I don't thinknthe exception disproves the rule. Most men don't actually WANT the dynamic you're explaining. They benefit from the current t state of things. If everyone keeps "choosing wrong" then at some point it's a cultural dynamic.
So basically saying most women need to choose better. Makes sense
It's hilarious hearing the group who says act right look right or you can and will he replaced for a younger model with less baggage say marriage is a scam because she will leave you for a man who makes more money and take half your shit.🤦🏾♀️
Ummm sirs thats marital property. What you bring in is yours. So if half is taken its half of the couple's stuff also known as hers too. Men value nothing a woman does. I'm happy women are waking up.
I just love the fact that women are coming forward about these things
I have to thank the Asian lady. She sparked me to do a deeper dive into marriage and it’s origins. I studied the Greek/Roman origin and the African (Nigerian) origin for balance… I have so many questions now 😩
Historically, marriage has been a necessity for a woman's survival (I do thank the Asian woman for connecting the origins of patriarchy to agriculture. She gave me the missing puzzle piece that I didn't even realize was missing from the bigger picture).
And marriage was a necessity for men to continue their bloodline, pass down his wealth, and/or supply him with more hands to help him in the field.
Honestly, this set up doesn't work anymore. Women survive just fine on our own in the modern era. And since most farming is outsourced to major factories, the vast majority of men don't require extra hands to help them in the field anymore. Not to mention that marriage is no longer viewed as a tool to forged political alliances anymore either.
Ultimately, everything that made marriage and having children a necessity is no longer there anymore. It's no longer a necessity and is more of a psychological benefit now. Meaning that since marriage and having children are no longer necessary, society had to place an intangible benefit upon those two activities. Society turned marriage and making babies into "milestones" that would make you feel fulfilled, complete, and happy. And that was never the goal of those two things, which is why many people find themselves feeling unfulfilled when they get married or have children.
@@Geechee_Chick You hit it on the head. “Marriage as a psychological benefit” whew. I read that the concept of love wasn’t introduced until 15th century France where they would encourage men to start complimenting women. That made me wonder well what is love to men vs women? Also, I have found (and agree) that marriage does benefits those who want children for the purpose of socialization and teaching specific values. I still have more to study but I feel a little more freer and lighter. Knowledge is truly power.
At least Asian and Eu women have been living better than bw. Wifes in africa are still slaving for nothing a** men-children 😞
This conversation is so exhaustingz
@Geechee_Chick Having children for the purpose of gratifying your sense of completion is quite selfish, thats what needs to be said to those who keep saying having a family is fulfilling. lol.
I do think that we need to evolve beyond what was once what we called the "traditional" stuff. It used to work, but we're smarter and work has gotten more demanding. We don't need a leader-and-follower relationship, we need a partner now. I guess you can technically say it's a "scam", but I just think we need to evolve. And yes, men definitely need to be better. I support women having more standards now because females hold the sexual selection power, and it's the selection of what she deems the best - just like nature intended.
When men say they want a traditional woman, they don't mean it. What they mean is they want a woman who does all the housework, cooking, and child raising, sleeps with him every night, and also pays half the bills. "Traditional women" as they call it were not working full-time or paying half the bills often when they had part time jobs that was their own extra spending money and the husband still paid all the bills. If they really wanted a traditional woman they'd want a woman who doesn't work and expects them to financially support them. I dare you to say that to a man the next time you hear him say he wants a traditional woman. Lol
@@aurora8749 You know, you have something there. The thing is, I think a load of these people who preach and announce to the world they want a "traditional woman" are mostly just mediocre brokies who have nothing to show for themselves, so they project and demand women to come down to their level instead. Remember, it's more likely for people to leave a bad review than a good one, so trust and believe healthy marriages aren't usually seen because they're too busy living their best lives (found a wild happy couple in a candid interview! ua-cam.com/video/Q2ZdQZqtmgQ/v-deo.html) while the toxic ones who are unhappy with themselves or the world are out there making a whole platform or podcast to show off their narcissism, postulating and proclaiming yet another complaint about the other sex. Emptiest cans make the most noise.
In this current world, in most modern living, it just will not work. A lot are dual income now. This "traditional woman" shit just needs to stop. It's not for everybody and them demanding this is just failure to evolve. Modern women need more than just money now: They can make their own money, so need help with the house and kids and men to be more empathetic and a bit more sensitive. If men fail to give those, don't get salty when women find the SAME benefits for waaaaay less effort and heartache in their dogs or cats.
Yeah, I said it. I don't care. Men in current times who keep saying "traditional woman" can go find one with their measly income and chalk-grating personality or shut up.
@@aurora8749that's the prototype. In the black community the women always worked though, so these men are promoting a "tradition" in which they themselves have never been able to hold up theirnend of the bargain.
@aurora8749 then they call a woman who expects him to pay all the bills a gold digger....digging gold from trash😂😂
I am unmarried, single and childless and very happy I’ve decided not to go down this road, I always wondered if I’d made a mistake but now I’ve watched this I’m happy I didn’t
Even IF it was "only the woman's" job to care for the children... then even so, the man should feed himself and care for himself... the children's needs are what matter right?
I have ALWAYS known marriage was a scam. I’ve always said if I get married, some huge boundaries would be set and as soon as it doesn’t benefit me then im out. Marriage does benefit women and im glad many women are finally waking up.
Marriage is an unpaid 24 hours job. Yes, a married working woman holds 2 jobs: a normal job and as a wife. Married working mum holds 3 jobs.
Will rather do normal job where I get paid for doing my 8-5 job.
But I respect women’s decisions to get married. You do what you love. Just don’t get coerced into marriage. Get married at your own terms, not his.
My fiance and I were discussing what having kids might look like when he brought up children. I told him we would have to figure out how to afford my being home for 3 years because neither of us are comfortable with daycare. He agreed that it should be me because I'm a Chld Dv major. But he asked it he couldn't be the one to stay home sometimes (we both work jobs with very fexible hours, so it would be easy to take turns being the stay at home parent if we wanted to)
I pointed out that 2 months prior, he fell asleep next to the doorbell because I didnt have the key. He promised and went to bed by the door. He still locked me out of the house for two hours straight 🙃 it's louder than a baby. If I were a baby, I could be dead. He apologized and dropped it. We decided that when the child is older, 3 plus, we could talk about taking turns if we are both in the same jobs 😂
We're middle aged with no children (by choice) and I still deal with many of the situations described. Marriage is a total scam.
Maybe talk to him and let him see some of these clips… some men are totally blind to this bc they too have been conditioned to be this way. It becomes second nature to them and they aren’t aware of it… it will also be a challange for them to change it but they can if they want to
Plz think deeply about your situation and assess it. You live one life and please make YOURSELF happy
It’s been so many marriages built on lies and delusions. Some are started with parents “advice” and bs misleading. And men always would be thinking them just being there and paying bills is what entails the formula for success in a marriage. As well as control. But takes a meeting of minds frequent check in with good communication. And the awareness of where you stand and want to go. On top that you have to have shared responsibility. Periona!!!! Lol
I have been married twice and have one child from the first marriage. I married the sperm donor because I believed that no other man would want a build in family (this was in the 80's so that was probably true). WORST decision I EVER made. He was an alcoholic, didn't help with anything and cheated. It took me almost 2 years to work up the will to leave. My second marriage was alright. Course I no longer had a child (grown up beautiful woman now with 3 beautiful babies) so there wasn't that pressure. We did what we wanted within financial means, but he left me for another woman because I wasn't NEEDY enough. So yeah, women do not NEED any man, ever. We are completely fine, wonderful, stupendous, amazing creatures on our own.
The blk lady with the glasses and the asian woman hit the nail perfectly
You cannot eat love. You cannot wear love and you can't spend it either. You think you can? Love yourself out of an eviction, go and try it.🧐💯
Na why be with someone I don’t love for who they are? I got my own shit so I don’t need or want a man’s shit.
Granted I’m bi and just not dating men anymore but damn. That lady got bad advice. The same hand that gives can take.
It has been traumatic and disappointing for me. Motherhood and being a wife. I'm considering divorce because I feel like a single parent.
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I don't believe it's a scam if it's done correctly. Not everyone will let their partner struggle. It's more of who is best for marring you.
That first man… anyone notice he seems to think everything they own as a couple is his? Yeah… he’s a walking red flag store
What fo men get our of marriage?
Social capital, a longer life, promotions and pay rises.
It grinds my gears thta the brokest group of men statistically fix their mouths to talk abojt losing half of "their stuff". 9 times out of 10 she went 50/50 like yall request. This mindset that most men display is EXACTLY why I think more women should demand more financially. They understand everything that has a dollar sign, but as soon as you talk about doing things around they home they don't comprehend.
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I have to rewind this video and take notes... especially on the Asian lady talking.
What boggles my mind is that marriage is usually initiated by men. Traditionally they are the ones to propose. Later those same men act like they never wanted to voluntarily stepped into this sacred union that they had no idea about.
I feel like men are not taught how to be good husbands. These things are demonstrated from very young. A cursory pre-wedding counseling session is not going to prepare a man to be fundamentally different from how his preconceived notions set him up for. I really don't know how to fix that.
That first guy in the stitches is a scam 😅
I agreed that back then you got married and had children to help farm the land. My grandparents had 10 children and they all did lots of farm chores before school, and definitely afterwards. Weekends were all farm chores. I get exactly what the lady is speaking of @5:25
I have so much respect for these mothers, I know I'm not up for it.
What do you get out of this? YOUR CHILDREN!!! And if shes not STAYING HOME....that woman is working!!! Make yourself a damn sandwich
I don’t even want all that with a man even if i were to be married. A big house? Why?? Being his house maid & his sex servant. No thanks. It’s all too much.
Marry better if there is better fight over him seriously. Let the best woman win! And he won’t be saying he is a high value man. He just will be. He doesn’t need to preach it
Okay let’s not be delulu
Being a single mom/dad is THE hardest job, especially if you have one of the following positions: blue collar, nursing or a teacher
I thank my mum who got me only barbies as a child in regards to girly toys etc I was a fierce tomboy which I still am (I’m the only girl I have 6bros) and the only reason why I would get married is if I got baptised due to my spiritual beliefs. However in this society, that doesn’t seem possible anymore.
I wouldn’t even marry the father of my 3sons as he only wants to get married because it would be the “logical thing to do”! So I chose to be a single mum, instead of a single mum in a marriage to a man who thinks going to work is him contributing when he can’t even contribute on time. I’m glad young ladies are waking up before it’s too late x
Being a single mom is the hardest job on earth but it's also the most rewarding.
Me and my daughter move around our house quietly. We both clean up after ourselves, we divide the chores equally and if I don't feel like cooking... She does. If she don't feel like cooking, I do. If neither one of us want to cook, we order out.
It's hard at first but I'm the end... Lol our house is happy.
It’s the most rewarding job TO YOU.
Women's Lib told women, "You can do it all," and "Lean In." I didn't want to do it all. It's exhausting. My ex-husband would yell and betittle me about housework, childcare, grocery shopping..., while he watched sports on TV all weekend and evenings.
The first guy couldn’t even explain his thoughts in complete, well thought out form. Clearly he’s not meant for marriage
Women are told "Oh, baby....I'll take care of you!" .....when it's _the exact opposite._
It is a scam. Who exactly is pushing to get married?
We ain’t having children the way we used to because they can’t marry us at the age of 12 anymore
creepy af, funny, and true all at the same time 😅
Destiny's face absolutely cracked at the Asian woman's rant LOL.
😀😀😄
I think it depends on the people individually and their reasons/motives for marriage. In my case, it was our love for each other, our religious beliefs and our respect for what we wanted individually as well. I think marriage can be hard in general, but if you’re not on the same page and have the right intentions it will show. There are no gender roles in my marriage, My husband puts in more than me across the board when needed, without putting any expectations on me other than to love and support him.
i agree with the females 💯
Never worked so hard in my life, the way I worked when I was a married woman. Assuming the wife/ mother puts in the effort, yes for many women marriage or any commited relationship is nothing but work for her. I'm sure some relationships share the workload, but many women will never have that kind of domestic assistance in the home. I see a lot of videos saying women have unrealistic expectations with respect to men. Well, if the women is expected to be the maid, cook, mother, lover, personal assistant, taxi then she will need a man who makes enough to afford the family. Proceed with caution ladies.
Marry for a lifestyle NOT love……when yall gonna learn
Always has been 🧑🏿🚀
But marriage does not have to be a scam. It is what ever the couple getting married put into it.
Exactly. I’m the reason women still believe in marriage. 😁🤷🏽♀️💕
Unfortunately, most marriages only have 1 person pouring into the marriage.
I’ve always saw marriage as a business arrangement. I’d be willing to do it if kids are something we’re thinking about. But if we don’t have any why get married?
Fellas... Choosing to Marry is Like Turning Your Self into the Police Department for a Crime You Didn't Commit
Forgive me for boasting.
It seems I'm quite fortunate . . .
I find that my own marriage will be a bit unique in that I'm marrying a kind and gentle man who truly loves me. We have open, honest, and sincere discussions, even on difficult topics. He's emotionally available and attentive, and he's just so sweet to me. Most importantly, for us, we've both agreed to remain child free by choice. We're on the same page with no conflicting interests, which makes things relatively smooth sailing compared to many other couples. When it comes to finances, he's got his money, I've got mine, and we'll have a joint account exclusively for bills and household necessities. The tax breaks from being married are also going to be nice.
How long have you been married ?
@@ibabechanel
Oh, we aren't married quite yet! He's my fiancée. We'll be married early next year, though.
@@hsm1908 Awww, how long did you guys date for before the engagement ?
@ibabechanel
It might sound like a short amount of time to some . . . Truthfully, it was only one year. We just knew we were compatible with each other far before the one year mark, but we wanted to wait and test the waters first. Thankfully, it all worked out~
Poor thing. I hope your fairytale becomes reality.
He’s never seen 100 thousand dollars😂😂😂
The problem with marriage is that it has not properly evolved to fit our modern era.
Back then, marriage was the only way a woman could survive once she became too old to live in her father's house. Back then, your only choice as a woman was to either get married or spend the rest of your life as a harlot. Becoming a priestess or a nun, working at your family's tavern forever as a single woman, or becoming maid to a wealthy family, wasnt an option for most women. And in many cases those women were still required to get married eventually (except for nuns, but in many cultures priestesses got married)
For men, marriage was a necessity to provide him with legitimate heirs to his land, his title, and his wealth. Marriage was a necessity to forge political alliances between nations and warring families. Marriage was a necessity to provide a poor farmer with extra hands to help him on the field.
Throughout history, marriage had never been about finding the love of your life(most spouses historically only tolerated each other, some despised one another, only a few were actually in love with each other), or becoming fulfilled. Neither was the case for having children. It was a duty.
In our modern era, the many factors that existed that made getting married and having children a neccesity are no longer there. So society decided to place an emotional value on marriage. Instead of marriage being a business agreement between two merging families, it has now become something that society has told us would make us happy, fulfilled, and complete.
That is why most modern marriages don't work. The goal of marriage has never been about finding love and happiness. Even though our society has changed the value on marriage (switching it from a poltiical/survival/economic necessity to that of love/happiness) the foundation of marriage has remained the same.
And that foundation conflicts with modern life. So honestly there is no point to continuing to use a relic of an outdated era(s) in time.
I believe within the next hundred years our globe will eventually adapt to the changing times.
Our technology and politics are changing faster than our values can adapt. Since traditional values has been with us for so long(thousands upon thousands of years) it will take a long time for humanity to catch up as a whole.
Rn we are in the growing pains stage. Things will continue to feel awkward, puzzle pieces will continue to not fit, until our values thoughts catch up to our changing world
I am beginning to realize, because times are not like they were (meaning women and men had a reason forcing them to work together), people have forgotten basic essentials. Women on average seem to want more from life while a large amount of men are ok with just getting by. So women have adopted ego making it harder for men, but men refuse to entertain women without selfish intentions. The divide is dividing 😭😭
GOD GAVE EVERYBODY COMMAN SENSE.
The first dude shouldn't ever get married. Spare the woman her sense of self worth...
Marriage is a scam when marrying the wrong person and or for the wrong reasons.
I hope everyone finds happiness in life rather they choose marriage or being single.
Ol' girl with the "love is the last thing you should think about when you want to get married" needs to go. We're done with that song and dance. Any child can rationalize the fallacy in believing someone doing things for you will cause you to grow affection for them; it absolutely does not. You become accustomed and attached to the services being provided, not the person themselves. Our domestic and labor skills are not our personalities; anyone can cook, clean, mow a lawn, work a 9-to-5, etc. You will eventually get bored with the person (bcs gender roles are boring af, a thing I don't feel is discussed enough) and boredom manifests in a number of toxic ways. If you're good with sharing your body and space with a human bot for a few creature comforts, be my guest. But I enjoy my humanity and will not allow it to hollowed out in order to uphold a made-up ideal. Because as long as we're just making things up, I can create my own little construct and live within it. Why tf do I need to bother with the patriarchal one? According to all it's disciples, just plain LIKING the person I choose isn't even one of the benefits. And can someone please tell me what the benefits are even supposed to be?
The benefits to the woman are the things he provides. I'm not quite sure of what you think man and woman's relationship is supposed to be but provision is definitely one of them. You definitely should like and love the person too, but it's definitely not in replacement of provision. But you're blessed to live in a time where women do not need men to survive, so you definitely don't need a man's companionship.
I personally have no use for a man especially since they don't want to provide or respect women. Those two things are literally the only reason why a woman would put up with a male.
@@biblethumper8088 A person that doesn't love me can't provide for me in any sense of the term, even materially. And a person I don't love will never have the things he DOES provide, appreciated by me. When it comes to family, friendships, and even work besties; only when I can reach a certain level of intimacy with you can I remain in your life in any significant way. I end relationships, friendships included when they hit an intimacy wall. So the idea of provision being a priority over love is non-existent in my mind and heart. The thought of "putting up with" someone for the sake of material is wild in my eyes. Because what I require is my humanity fed. I need someone that resonates with my curiosity, creativity, humor, joy, remorse, sadness, intellect, and even my ignorance. I want someone to be a human with, that is what benefits me. Only through that can I feel a desire to share my home, body, and general life with you. That's what my love is, that's what intimacy is for me. Those are the things that move me to appreciate you. Love isn't a replacement for provision? Without love you don't have the type of provision I value anyway, so that doesn't even compute.
The lady talking about how agriculture was the point where modern relationships/ capitalism/ patriarchy started sounds like points from the book Sex At Dawn by Christopher Ryan
I’m glad that the young Asian lady made the point about marriage’s origins in agriculture.
It’s true.
Women were married to men as property and to create children. Children were created to work on the land.
she takes half your stuff .. no both yours stuff lol but I laughed when he said you spent almost a hundred thousand on cars and homes .. where can you find a home that fits that budget?
Personally, I never wanted marriage and I knew that at 7 years of age. Today, I truly think that getting married is selfish, narcissistic and egotistical. People just jump into it for companionship, sexual satisfaction and financial security. It is all about personal gain which is inherently selfish as hell. I have yet to hear a good reason as to why a person decided to get married because to me, there isn't a good reason at all.
What's wrong with companionship, sexual satisfaction and financial security? Sincere question.
I just think it's sick and twisted seeing people get used and taken advantage of for those things. It's sad to me and no human being deserves that. It's complete manipulation, in my book.
Getting married is only for people who want to have children and maintain a family lineage. It is contractual because each gender is sacrificing and needs to be compensated for that sacrifice. Unfortunately, men have created a system where only they benefit from marriage, so now there is no need for it. But, if you have no desire for a family, then you aren't missing anything by not getting married. Be free and enjoy God's beautiful earth.
Marriage is a scam, but living together is an even bigger scam. Men want her to pay 50/50 for the bills and do all the work in the home, but the woman gets nothing when he kicks her to the curb.
Yes it is! If u want marriage to work don’t register with the government and if the man doesn’t see u as a equal don’t marry him
I think marriage should now be two autonomous people coming together in love, no changing of names, no "contracts", and having all the necessary discussions about how things will be done and expected from both within that coupling. The door will always be open for either person to leave....because when both people know they can leave at any time (not being trapped) and still decide to stay? That is real love ❤
Stuff like this just further shows I dont want or need to get married. It sounds like a scam to both sides to me. But everybody do you
Iv known women who if they had to give back everything that was given to them for free or stolen by courts they would be destitute
Something happened 12,000 years ago with that global flood. Women all over the world were required because the environment changed from plenty to scarcity and people all over world had to start farming. This time period holds the answer to why women unbeknownst to themselves inadvertently subjugated themselves by pair bonding. This is when men decided they owned us, and women became first slave, first creator of personal value( children) for an individual male. He felt he owned women and decided other things could be owned as well! Men thinking they owned women and children is what had them thinking they owned the land they started farming too. Yes, the beginning of all of this began when women pair bonded with men.
The ideal marriage for me if i ever have one... needs be resemble Hank and Peggy's marriage in king of the hill. Hank has good values. Works on building a relationship with his soon. And providing a decent life for his family. Of course, they both make mistakes. But, at the end of the day, they are equals. That is the only type of marriage i am interested in. Nothing less will do❤
The Western world is crazy iam happy married a village woman from Africa ,she is my life saver
She is right but sleeping with many people???????
Well,not many people are aware that emotional trauma you have when sleeping with people who are unhealed,also others' people karma,mental parasites and spiritual stagnation.Does anyone think that sleeping around with multiple people is something admirable?
Think the consequeces of that.
When some of these men starts talking 🤪🤯