Have you ever experienced a dark night of the soul? What was it like for you, and what did you learn from it? Share your story or questions below-I’d love to hear how you’re navigating your journey. Let’s support each other through this transformative process! 🙏✨
Hi Wenzes - Yes I have. Mine has been on a continuum since July 2023 when I abruptly left a 15 year toxic relationship - This past year has caused me to face myself in ways that have brought me to my knees - Purging emotion and shame and guilt that I had not allowed myself to feel or had suppressed since childhood - I am not the same woman who walked out of my family home a year and half ago - I've had some the darkest days and best days during this time - But I do not regret my decision one bit - I thought it was only about leaving a toxic person/dynamic but it as about much more than that.
Excellent and thought-provoking video, as usual! ❤ For validation to others that may feel alone, I concur with other comments that it feels like a death to ego and for me, one day at a time also helped. Sometimes, I would set a timer and just make it for one hour of "lies" that my paradigms would improve. I mean, there are many lies we believe are the truth so why not believe in a positive "lie" and see if it is the truth? This video is the first time I ever heard that anyone else played that game and it worked for them, too. Thank you for the validation and encouraging content, Wenzes. 😊
Thanks for being your authentic self and sharing your life experiences with us. I totally preesh listening to your thought patterns... It's always nice to not feel so alone.
I dont talk much, but just want to say, what an inspiration you have been for me these last few years, I started an art therapy company and have my first big convention in January. You have been an incredible guide and mentor, I was pinned in a very bad spot and have learned to turn my curses into blessings. Now I have combined the two things Im passionate about and wanted to say thank you. Youre amazing and incredible, INFJ Power !!!
All of your videos that you are releasing is resonating with my situation ❤ Thanks you a lot for giving the vision of myself from outside and explain it broadly. 🎉🎉🎉❤❤❤❤
My awakening happened around July 2024. I slammed the door on my mother. She was unhealthy ISFP and throwing trantrum on others. This behavior of her caused my childhood trauma. My two older sisters left home because of my mother. On the door slam day, I thought, If I don't do something about this issue, I have to leave home as well. My fighting spirit bursted out. My cold and unyielding side of me emerged. I'm not her emotional garbage bag anymore. I threatened her if this issue didn't resolved today, I would leave the home. She broke down into tears during family gathering during this issue. I was cold and rational during that time. Her nature dimmed down significantly after that. After that day, I realize one thing. Fear is one of out aspects that holds us back from doing anything. I have unshackled most of myself from fear. I will stand for my own wellbeing both physically and mentally. I won't be anyone's emotional garbage anymore. I will protect my boundary from everyone including my family
During my "dark" times I went to The Hague (NL), I was seeting in a beautiful park in the nearbies really f** up, swallowing my tears. A "random" elder approached and asked if I needed something, I wasn't even in the mood to speak. As he was going away he raised his hand showing a wall with a graffitti quoting, in plain english: "They took everything, even my darkest fears...". I was like 😧
You can me a professional INFJ. But without God and Jesus on your side, you will never reach your full INFJ potential without the holy spirit inside of you. This is my personal experience. We as INFJ have battles, but we can't achieve it alone. Love your videos! Keep it up!
Get real! Imaginary friends, an endless list of deities, is not living in the moment and understanding the natural world. For example, Evangelical Christianity is simply narcissism on steroids.
Strangely, I was distant from God during this time. But it was also the time I was confronted with choosing to believe in him or not. I chose to believe!
@@jumbolumps666Who are you to dismiss someone’s spiritual beliefs? No one here is forcing you to believe or dismissing your non belief. Why do you feel you have the authority to dismiss other people’s spiritually?
The teachings of the Catholic Church embody the true essence of self-development, a path that blends faith with personal growth. Yet, many fail to recognize this, despite their talk of empathy, kindness, and compassion. These individuals, focused only on themselves, cannot appreciate the profound example set by the greatest INFJ-the Lord Jesus Christ and His Blessed Mother, Mary, who have already triumphed in the battle of life. Every good thing, from the laws of nations to the culture of European societies, finds its roots in the teachings of the Catholic Church. The Church's emphasis on empathy, kindness, and love for one another revolutionized the world, as these virtues were unknown in the same way before Christ. What the world now values was first revealed through the Church's doctrine, shaping both individual lives and entire civilizations.
Badabooooom!!! I love your thoughts and words today! Unfortunately, the podcast listeners can't see how great your charisma is. Speaking from my own experience, I wouldn't want to do without those difficult times. I don't think the skywalks would be the way they are today without them. I realized a lot of truth for myself in the process. And also the idea that the energy you bring into the world as a human being can be relevant. This energy is unique. I'm looking forward to next year and wish you a really good one. Thank you, YOU are an enrichment for me. Red for red, so ❤️☀️
Thank you for sharing this with everyone you are very original and your perspective on this is over the top Thank you for helping me I really appreciate everything you do. God Bless you and your Family
It's a brutal world out there, especially for INJF's... "the dark night of the souls" was a hard but important learning for me. keep up the good videos they are important. Regards from Denmark. 😊
TY for addressing the importance of the Dark Night of the Soul experience. One of the things I'm passionate about in retirement after working most of 3 decades in nursing in Psych is how important those times are. It simply drives me batty that the AMA now allows front line Drs to overprescribe antidepressants to children, teens & anyone with stress who complains to their Dr. It's abuse of our souls to treat us as if a pill is the solution for every challenge, imo. They're stealing our access to soul growth to go so far medicating the population like this. TY for helping me have more compassion for my INFJ brain & personality quirks others may find too difficult.🙏❤️🔥🤷♀️❤️🔥👼
For my dark night, it was like I jumped off a cliff into a neverending void. I knew if I faltered, I wouldn't make it back. I jumped, and I was lost to even myself for a time. Eventually, I learned that I was in my correct place ALL of the time, and I found myself not in the void but within my light. Darkness is what we see when we are not focusing on the light.
This sounds allot like the end of my depression, which I felt like it was going to be forever. I was at a point I felt I had no purpose in life, and I hated, loathed, and despised myself and this was when I finally wanted to fight for myself. I wanted to learn human psychology and accidentally learned about MBTI in the process and started to learn them both side by side. I got myself to a point to learn that I had to make my own purpose and then realized that my purpose is to help those whom went through what I myself went through and pull them out of the same darkness that I had to pull myself out of. I too felt like I was in a hole that when I was lost in that darkness, and no one knew I was going through anything and never ever had a feeling, except possibly my mother. So your experience was similar, it sucks when you want to get out of that darkness, doesn't it? We were strong enough to pull ourselves out, not allot of others believe themselves to be that strong and thus aren't since they feel that way.
I think it all starts from your family environment. Your home have to be your safe fortress in order for you to grow healthy and place to teach you that you have to be good, but you never have to dry up yourself for that. You have to be surrounded by people who had understood you as a child and still understand you now. If you find yourself in a place of emptying yourself to help others it probably means that this is a culmination of a years or decades long problem.
Is it possible to have more than one dark night of the soul? I know for a fact 2016 was like the rug was ripped right out from underneath of me. I was trying so hard to deny the reality of what it was because the ripple effect on my children would be more than I could deal with at that time. It’s like reality split and I had to decide what to do! Crazy, I wasn’t depressed I was devastated and the betrayal was unfathomable!
You would appreciate garbage in garbage out. A dark night. Inlights you. From a very depressed person. Life... its always different to you and others. When its bad I'm grateful for people like you.
After my dark night after years of depression from numerous (all) relationships, I started getting downloads that I had no control of Like you, the dark night seemed to take me out of sheer hell and darkness to at least some light started showing up
It's a repetitive process, but if you're successful I guess it wouldn't happen as often. Idk, I'm always finding myself finding a new dimension of scalable awareness that eventually becomes integrated, but it's never been a singular occurrence. Tends to repeat across my timeline, but I guess it's different for everyone else 🤷. Avoidant of it now? Choosing to contain the emotional essence of the experiences and use a form of exposure therapy by repeating logical processing before allowing my emotional side find grounding helped significantly. Before? I was able to walk through a less than ideal existence, but I was young so choice wasn't really an option. With the previous relationship and the constraints introduced through the interactions that took place it significantly eroded my internal existence. I'm coming back to center and the integration of lessons learned has already begun shaping this new perception I'm currently nurturing. Your videos and concepts have been a great help as stepping stones to a more beneficial outlook. Thank you for taking the time to confront and transmute the experiences into a visceral tool to help others. Understanding how an INFJ operates has greatly improved my quality of life through introspection and reflection being reintroduced to my life. I had adapted too far from my original self that I was basically free-floating as a persona in my own psyche... Wasn't a simple task to come back, but it's definitely made easier through understanding myself better. Although, I still find myself flipping between INFJ and INFP in difficult times. Work in progress.
Yep happened a couple of weeks ago, not heard it called this until now. I also did suffer ego death, otherwise it would have been more permanent, glad you're able to talk about it now.
You matter! Thank you for this heartfelt truth. I can relate. When I began to be a fighter about other people’s projections dragging me down or putting me down, it was a crisis. Now I do avoid going too far for other people and hurting myself doing it. Solid pro. 😊 I realize the darkness is what will be foisted upon you without limit. We must limit it ourselves.
@Wenzes When you started fighting back in that relationship you mentioned in the video - Did you feel he/she would retaliate given the drastic change in behavior and energy?
@@DearYoungerSelf111 no I didn’t. Me fighting back just meant be stating my truth and cutting them out of my inner world. They did try to ridicule me at first but I didn‘t let that get me of course. It just felt ignorant on their part.
The teachings of the Catholic Church embody the true essence of self-development, a path that blends faith with personal growth. Yet, many fail to recognize this, despite their talk of empathy, kindness, and compassion. These individuals, focused only on themselves, cannot appreciate the profound example set by the greatest INFJ-the Lord Jesus Christ and His Blessed Mother, Mary, who have already triumphed in the battle of life. Every good thing, from the laws of nations to the culture of European societies, finds its roots in the teachings of the Catholic Church. The Church's emphasis on empathy, kindness, and love for one another revolutionized the world, as these virtues were unknown in the same way before Christ. What the world now values was first revealed through the Church's doctrine, shaping both individual lives and entire civilizations. The proof of this is the fact that you can't find a single error in what the church teaches .
"Mid-life ‘crisis’ is based on your outlook on life and how you approach changes in your life. It is not necessarily a ‘crisis’ unless you are judging it as bad. About 2/3 - 1/3 of folks actually are moved to make a change in their life somewhere close to what may be considered ‘mid’. Sometimes it is made more apparent by a close one’s death or an illness, or just finally deciding that life is short and you are not willing to put up with the same old BS." You're a phenix after being "reborn" and shedding off old beliefs. A cool new name is a marketing strategy 😅 😎.
I had 2 I think the last one I was more aware of what was happening and chose to go through so it was easier for a lack of better words after that life just started unfolding for me and got easier it's even about 4 years and I couldn't have imagined being where I am grateful and growing more every day the dark on the light are one that helped me get through rembering there is light 8n the dark and vice versa
Have you ever experienced a dark night of the soul? What was it like for you, and what did you learn from it? Share your story or questions below-I’d love to hear how you’re navigating your journey. Let’s support each other through this transformative process! 🙏✨
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Hi Wenzes - Yes I have. Mine has been on a continuum since July 2023 when I abruptly left a 15 year toxic relationship - This past year has caused me to face myself in ways that have brought me to my knees - Purging emotion and shame and guilt that I had not allowed myself to feel or had suppressed since childhood - I am not the same woman who walked out of my family home a year and half ago - I've had some the darkest days and best days during this time - But I do not regret my decision one bit - I thought it was only about leaving a toxic person/dynamic but it as about much more than that.
Wenzes you are missing it
Excellent and thought-provoking video, as usual! ❤ For validation to others that may feel alone, I concur with other comments that it feels like a death to ego and for me, one day at a time also helped. Sometimes, I would set a timer and just make it for one hour of "lies" that my paradigms would improve. I mean, there are many lies we believe are the truth so why not believe in a positive "lie" and see if it is the truth? This video is the first time I ever heard that anyone else played that game and it worked for them, too. Thank you for the validation and encouraging content, Wenzes. 😊
So glad you’re back, you’ve always been genuine to me, always a generous teacher because you’re not afraid to learn as you go, such is life.
everything you believe might crumble if you read the book Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki
Thanks for being your authentic self and sharing your life experiences with us. I totally preesh listening to your thought patterns... It's always nice to not feel so alone.
I always tried to be with "friends" that wern't even deserving to be in my life !!!!
I dont talk much, but just want to say, what an inspiration you have been for me these last few years, I started an art therapy company and have my first big convention in January. You have been an incredible guide and mentor, I was pinned in a very bad spot and have learned to turn my curses into blessings. Now I have combined the two things Im passionate about and wanted to say thank you. Youre amazing and incredible, INFJ Power !!!
I have never identified myself so precisely in archetypal terms as in what you describe; it brings immense relief. Thank you.
All of your videos that you are releasing is resonating with my situation ❤
Thanks you a lot for giving the vision of myself from outside and explain it broadly. 🎉🎉🎉❤❤❤❤
My awakening happened around July 2024. I slammed the door on my mother. She was unhealthy ISFP and throwing trantrum on others. This behavior of her caused my childhood trauma. My two older sisters left home because of my mother. On the door slam day, I thought, If I don't do something about this issue, I have to leave home as well. My fighting spirit bursted out. My cold and unyielding side of me emerged. I'm not her emotional garbage bag anymore. I threatened her if this issue didn't resolved today, I would leave the home. She broke down into tears during family gathering during this issue. I was cold and rational during that time. Her nature dimmed down significantly after that.
After that day, I realize one thing. Fear is one of out aspects that holds us back from doing anything. I have unshackled most of myself from fear. I will stand for my own wellbeing both physically and mentally. I won't be anyone's emotional garbage anymore. I will protect my boundary from everyone including my family
During my "dark" times I went to The Hague (NL), I was seeting in a beautiful park in the nearbies really f** up, swallowing my tears. A "random" elder approached and asked if I needed something, I wasn't even in the mood to speak. As he was going away he raised his hand showing a wall with a graffitti quoting, in plain english: "They took everything, even my darkest fears...". I was like 😧
This is such a great video!
Wow, I was just going to ask you to address this topic, and here is this video! Crazy awesome!! ❤
You can me a professional INFJ. But without God and Jesus on your side, you will never reach your full INFJ potential without the holy spirit inside of you. This is my personal experience. We as INFJ have battles, but we can't achieve it alone. Love your videos! Keep it up!
Yes, having imaginary friends is a great source of comfort!
Get real! Imaginary friends, an endless list of deities, is not living in the moment and understanding the natural world. For example, Evangelical Christianity is simply narcissism on steroids.
Strangely, I was distant from God during this time. But it was also the time I was confronted with choosing to believe in him or not. I chose to believe!
@@jumbolumps666Who are you to dismiss someone’s spiritual beliefs? No one here is forcing you to believe or dismissing your non belief. Why do you feel you have the authority to dismiss other people’s spiritually?
The teachings of the Catholic Church embody the true essence of self-development, a path that blends faith with personal growth. Yet, many fail to recognize this, despite their talk of empathy, kindness, and compassion. These individuals, focused only on themselves, cannot appreciate the profound example set by the greatest INFJ-the Lord Jesus Christ and His Blessed Mother, Mary, who have already triumphed in the battle of life.
Every good thing, from the laws of nations to the culture of European societies, finds its roots in the teachings of the Catholic Church. The Church's emphasis on empathy, kindness, and love for one another revolutionized the world, as these virtues were unknown in the same way before Christ. What the world now values was first revealed through the Church's doctrine, shaping both individual lives and entire civilizations.
Badabooooom!!! I love your thoughts and words today! Unfortunately, the podcast listeners can't see how great your charisma is.
Speaking from my own experience, I wouldn't want to do without those difficult times. I don't think the skywalks would be the way they are today without them. I realized a lot of truth for myself in the process. And also the idea that the energy you bring into the world as a human being can be relevant. This energy is unique.
I'm looking forward to next year and wish you a really good one. Thank you, YOU are an enrichment for me. Red for red, so ❤️☀️
Thank you for sharing this with everyone you are very original and your perspective on this is over the top Thank you for helping me I really appreciate everything you do.
God Bless you and your Family
It's a brutal world out there, especially for INJF's...
"the dark night of the souls" was a hard but important learning for me.
keep up the good videos they are important.
Regards from Denmark.
😊
Beautiful!
TY for addressing the importance of the Dark Night of the Soul experience. One of the things I'm passionate about in retirement after working most of 3 decades in nursing in Psych is how important those times are. It simply drives me batty that the AMA now allows front line Drs to overprescribe antidepressants to children, teens & anyone with stress who complains to their Dr. It's abuse of our souls to treat us as if a pill is the solution for every challenge, imo. They're stealing our access to soul growth to go so far medicating the population like this. TY for helping me have more compassion for my INFJ brain & personality quirks others may find too difficult.🙏❤️🔥🤷♀️❤️🔥👼
For my dark night, it was like I jumped off a cliff into a neverending void. I knew if I faltered, I wouldn't make it back. I jumped, and I was lost to even myself for a time. Eventually, I learned that I was in my correct place ALL of the time, and I found myself not in the void but within my light.
Darkness is what we see when we are not focusing on the light.
Much love 💚 Happy Holidays
Thank for this video.
This sounds allot like the end of my depression, which I felt like it was going to be forever. I was at a point I felt I had no purpose in life, and I hated, loathed, and despised myself and this was when I finally wanted to fight for myself. I wanted to learn human psychology and accidentally learned about MBTI in the process and started to learn them both side by side. I got myself to a point to learn that I had to make my own purpose and then realized that my purpose is to help those whom went through what I myself went through and pull them out of the same darkness that I had to pull myself out of. I too felt like I was in a hole that when I was lost in that darkness, and no one knew I was going through anything and never ever had a feeling, except possibly my mother. So your experience was similar, it sucks when you want to get out of that darkness, doesn't it? We were strong enough to pull ourselves out, not allot of others believe themselves to be that strong and thus aren't since they feel that way.
I think it all starts from your family environment. Your home have to be your safe fortress in order for you to grow healthy and place to teach you that you have to be good, but you never have to dry up yourself for that. You have to be surrounded by people who had understood you as a child and still understand you now. If you find yourself in a place of emptying yourself to help others it probably means that this is a culmination of a years or decades long problem.
Is it possible to have more than one dark night of the soul? I know for a fact 2016 was like the rug was ripped right out from underneath of me. I was trying so hard to deny the reality of what it was because the ripple effect on my children would be more than I could deal with at that time. It’s like reality split and I had to decide what to do! Crazy, I wasn’t depressed I was devastated and the betrayal was unfathomable!
You would appreciate garbage in garbage out.
A dark night. Inlights you.
From a very depressed person.
Life... its always different to you and others.
When its bad I'm grateful for people like you.
After my dark night after years of depression from numerous (all) relationships, I started getting downloads that I had no control of
Like you, the dark night seemed to take me out of sheer hell and darkness to at least some light started showing up
It's a repetitive process, but if you're successful I guess it wouldn't happen as often. Idk, I'm always finding myself finding a new dimension of scalable awareness that eventually becomes integrated, but it's never been a singular occurrence. Tends to repeat across my timeline, but I guess it's different for everyone else 🤷. Avoidant of it now? Choosing to contain the emotional essence of the experiences and use a form of exposure therapy by repeating logical processing before allowing my emotional side find grounding helped significantly. Before? I was able to walk through a less than ideal existence, but I was young so choice wasn't really an option. With the previous relationship and the constraints introduced through the interactions that took place it significantly eroded my internal existence. I'm coming back to center and the integration of lessons learned has already begun shaping this new perception I'm currently nurturing.
Your videos and concepts have been a great help as stepping stones to a more beneficial outlook. Thank you for taking the time to confront and transmute the experiences into a visceral tool to help others. Understanding how an INFJ operates has greatly improved my quality of life through introspection and reflection being reintroduced to my life. I had adapted too far from my original self that I was basically free-floating as a persona in my own psyche... Wasn't a simple task to come back, but it's definitely made easier through understanding myself better. Although, I still find myself flipping between INFJ and INFP in difficult times. Work in progress.
Yep happened a couple of weeks ago, not heard it called this until now. I also did suffer ego death, otherwise it would have been more permanent, glad you're able to talk about it now.
You matter! Thank you for this heartfelt truth. I can relate. When I began to be a fighter about other people’s projections dragging me down or putting me down, it was a crisis. Now I do avoid going too far for other people and hurting myself doing it. Solid pro. 😊 I realize the darkness is what will be foisted upon you without limit. We must limit it ourselves.
Victory!
Great Victory!
Who won?
On what level and is it real?
I love Victory
@@Natalie-lf7hb the victory over one‘s own battles
These are terms used from John of the cross awesome suffering in home prison
they don’t want you to read the book Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki because it sets you free
@Wenzes When you started fighting back in that relationship you mentioned in the video - Did you feel he/she would retaliate given the drastic change in behavior and energy?
@@DearYoungerSelf111 no I didn’t. Me fighting back just meant be stating my truth and cutting them out of my inner world. They did try to ridicule me at first but I didn‘t let that get me of course. It just felt ignorant on their part.
society would change overnight if more people read the book Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki
the book Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki is what everyone avoids because it’s too real
The teachings of the Catholic Church embody the true essence of self-development, a path that blends faith with personal growth. Yet, many fail to recognize this, despite their talk of empathy, kindness, and compassion. These individuals, focused only on themselves, cannot appreciate the profound example set by the greatest INFJ-the Lord Jesus Christ and His Blessed Mother, Mary, who have already triumphed in the battle of life.
Every good thing, from the laws of nations to the culture of European societies, finds its roots in the teachings of the Catholic Church. The Church's emphasis on empathy, kindness, and love for one another revolutionized the world, as these virtues were unknown in the same way before Christ. What the world now values was first revealed through the Church's doctrine, shaping both individual lives and entire civilizations. The proof of this is the fact that you can't find a single error in what the church teaches .
I don't feel stuck. I am discerning.❣️
Do you incorporate the wisdom of the Enneagram to any degree, dear lady?
I hear you describing the Type 2 ego archetype quite lucidly.
✨🕯️🌀💫✨
I missed u❤
More and more people are talking about it. I am starting to think it's a global thing. Many people are awakening.
I've been in the dark night of the soul for over 30 years and have no idea when it will come to an end.
"Mid-life ‘crisis’ is based on your outlook on life and how you approach changes in your life. It is not necessarily a ‘crisis’ unless you are judging it as bad. About 2/3 - 1/3 of folks actually are moved to make a change in their life somewhere close to what may be considered ‘mid’. Sometimes it is made more apparent by a close one’s death or an illness, or just finally deciding that life is short and you are not willing to put up with the same old BS." You're a phenix after being "reborn" and shedding off old beliefs. A cool new name is a marketing strategy 😅 😎.
I had 2 I think the last one I was more aware of what was happening and chose to go through so it was easier for a lack of better words after that life just started unfolding for me and got easier it's even about 4 years and I couldn't have imagined being where I am grateful and growing more every day the dark on the light are one that helped me get through rembering there is light 8n the dark and vice versa
My dark night started in 2014 as well 😅. The coincidence !!!
Didn't expect this topic from you. Interesting 😊 if ur life is so meaningless, why are Romany people interested in it is a question to ask
the truth feels dangerous, and that’s why the book Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki is ignored