Being non binary in the bathroom
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- Опубліковано 9 жов 2016
- This week I tell another story about being misgendered in public, and explain what came up for me about bathrooms and changing rooms.
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I’m non binary but I don’t feel safe in the men’s, but I am dysphoric in the women’s,
The Blue Blur oh come on, that was unneeded, let them be
Fry Senpai that's not very nice. I see someone in need of help and I help them, it's what I do
The Blue Blur k then
Fry Senpai glad you understand and I hope you might help people too one day
The Blue Blur
No, seriously, that was extremely unneeded and unnecessary.
This is one of the reasons I absolutely hate clothes shopping. I shop exclusively in the men's department, and when I go to the women's dressing rooms (for the same reasons you gave) I always get weird looks. I identify as non-binary or Agender, so neither dressing room seems fitting. (Pardon the pun)
EXACTLY! Choosing one in the first place is so frustrating, and then people go ahead and make it even more anxiety-inducing by policing my choice!
Sues BookNook Same. But my parent doesn't believe in "trans/non binary"
Same^^
Max The Human im agender and my parents don’t believe in anything lgbtq+ and wont let me change my name and pronouns in school any tips on how to deal with that. My parents said that changing my name and pronouns would confuse people
@@carolinehaws8334 talk to a student counselor.
kids nearly shit themselves when they see me in the womens bathrooms, and i get weird looks from some women. but only once have i ever had someone say "the mens bathroom is over there." its not a very pleasant feeling to have to deal with anxiety about the publics reaction every time you need to fricken pee somewhere outside your own home
You’re valid, to that uneducated idiot who called you a scum, as someone who’s nonbinary it’s okay~
But aren't bathrooms about sex and not gender? I mean the whole concept of separation to begin with assumes that LGBTQ isn't real and should be changed
Your a man. Use the man's toilet. Making women feel uncomfortable is disgusting.
I identify as non-binary but usually use the girls bathroom. I remember using the boys bathroom once with my fiancé and no one gave us weird looks which made me feel really good about being able to use the bathroom I wanted to.
Lol ur delusional
Nina Doerr im Agender (means having no gender at all) and i usually go to the bathroom
@@richardsoliwoda and you need to shut the fuck up. Its because of people like you, that we can't be open about our gender identity, and use the bathrooms, or changing rooms we think is fitting for us. And yes this is coming from someone who is nonbinary.
@@druinkail154 doesn't exist
Why are there so many transphobes here...
My fiancé hates using public restrooms because of this. People act like she doesn't know what bathroom she's going into. So when we are together we talk to eachother and walk in together. That way it makes it less akward for her and people can clearly see she knows she's in the womens bathroom. It's really sad that she has to have a plan in order to use the restroom without judgement. I've never questioned anyone walking into a fitting room or bathroom.
I call this going with a "verified female" and I think I will make a video about that as well!
Ugh, I've had this problem in the past couple months. I'm a mail carrier, and one of the places I deliver to is like an office building, basically. There are different suites with different businesses and all the bathrooms need a key. I dropped off the mail at the parole office in there, asked the lady for the key, and she gave me the one to the men's room. (I'm stealthing as a man right now, my life is easier that way.) I guess one of the men in the waiting room saw me about to unlock the door to the men's restroom and thought I was a woman, because a guy behind me asked if I was a woman (which I pretended I didn't hear properly because I had a headphone in) and his follow-up was whether I was a man, and I replied probably more rudely than I should have, with something like "I'm going into the men's room, aren't I?" I was very salty about the whole situation.
i have a problem similar to this in the restroom at school... im not out as trans so i go to the girls. and ppl who dont know me see me as a guy. i once passed these girls in the restroom and litterally as i walked by one of them said "is that a guy in the girls restroom?!" and i was like are you kidding me, i think i know where im going thank you
I feel yr pain I'm nb and go in the girls rooms at school (I go to the guys when I stay after school tho to even it out)😉
I'm out as trans and don't use the changing rooms or any usual bathrooms at all but they keep trying to force me into the girls :/
Oof same. Except I'm not trans. My hair is really short and I look a little masculine so when j walked in the bathroom the two girls in there stared at me then laughed at me
While they were walking out I heard one of them say, "was that a boy?!" Or "that was a boy omg"
@@interdimensional4288 me too 😭
Your fitting rooms are gendered? I'm so glad we don't have that here in Germany, clothes shopping makes me nervous as it is, having gendered fitting rooms would make it so much worse...
I went shopping in the men's section for the frst time a few weeks ago and I didn't even get any stares. I wasn't the only afab person there and it really went okay. I was so glad :)
I'm glad you had a great experience!!!The dressing rooms tend to be gendered in big stores, idk about Germany but they are for sure in France and Canada. Which leads to pretty awkward conversations and stares. I'm usually too scared to go into the men's dressing room and use the women's instead, but there was this time at Zara where the line for the women's dressing rooms was so long I decided to try my luck and ask a shop clerk if I could go to the men's dressing rooms (they seemed abandoned tbh). Usually I can pass until people hear my voice (it's pretty high pitched and even slightly more when I'm nervous), so well I got told, not in the nicest way, "No you can't miss." because of course that's what he was going to say. I should've gone in there without asking but I'm too anxious for that. Needless to say, it was a pretty bad experience. I wish shop clerks would systematically be educated to transgender issues as part of their training.
@@thatgayliengremlinp4766 where do you live in Canada (of you do) because I personally never saw any gendered changing room of big store I went to. I think gendering them is a little stupide, since you have your own little space.
@@truly_morgan6265 I used to live in Montreal, I've gone back to France since then (it was for studies) but the situation remains mostly the same. It depends on the store but I've found that most stores that have the men/women sections also have different gendered fitting rooms. In Montreal it was mainly the big multi-level stores that had different fitting rooms (H&M, Forever 21...), I've found that in France it's less the case for some reason, but I don't live in a really major city so that might be why
@@thatgayliengremlinp4766 maybe i having been in enough store in montreal (or I just didn't paid attention) but it could make sens to have fitting room near the section, but I don't think the employe would go "you can't try your clothes there"
Lucky you
Getting sick of being "warned" that I'm in the women's restroom. Getting SO sick of it that I'm starting to hold my pee in public which is something I never used to do. I mean, really, if I am standing at a public sink with 3 other people who all appear to be women and I am not acting shocked, surprised or embarrassed, it's safe to say I know what goddamn bathroom I am in. I also got directed into "the locker room for you" at the gym which, surprise, surprise, was the mens locker room. Then I had to go talk to someone about giving me a locker key for the women's locker room. (sigh)
So sorry you had to put up with that shit in the changing room, Ashley.
SE sunsetlife lol then maybe it's because you are a man?
The Blue Blur No.
I am very mysterious no? please explain
I absolutely love when places have gender neutral or family bathrooms. Female bathrooms make me feel dysphoric, but male bathrooms make me feel unsafe.
@A M. you usually only feel dysphoria for the sex you were assigned at birth, and being considered said gender, and if you're considered female for most of your life and feel it's incorrect, that's going to hurt a lot, but being considered female growing up also means you aren't used to being considered male so it doesn't really have any kind of emotional baggage to it. hence the reason many enbies don't feel that way about the opposite biological sex's bathrooms/changing rooms. hope that made some kind of sense, and i recognize your username, i've seen you being transphobic/enbyphobic on several videos, and the time duration between each time you left the comment seems to really vary, some dating back to over a year ago, do you just,, spend every waking day of your life commenting on trans/non-binary videos or?
I also hate when you ask an employee where the bathroom is and they say 'oh they're over there, ladies room is to the right'... like they feel the need to decide for me what my gender is based on whatever checklist they have in their head while looking at me. idk it doesn't seem like a big deal but when you're actually the one in these kinds of situations it is so fucking uncomfortable and can sometimes be upsetting.
mrwhopee hey, hey... no need to get frustrated
They are responding to how you look. It is not their fault.What’s wrong with you?
I always use the one for my sex and not my gender. I hope for gender neutral bathrooms!
september rose y not go into the one with the gender you were born with?
@@richardsoliwoda ok uh, that's what September is saying. your gender is what you identify as. my sex is male but im non binary. i use September's strategy so i would go to the men's room
It really bothers me when my coworkers say I'm not a woman because I identify as lesbian and expect me to join their irrespecful "locker room chatter" towards woman. I hope people where more educated, respecful and understanding about this things like this. It would make life more comfortable..
Something somewhat similar happened to me. I was at the movie theater and before the movie started I went to the bathroom. As I was about to walk into the ladies' bathroom, this man (he looked about 30 years old) of whom I did not know at all was looking at me as he held open the door for the men's restroom. I shook my head and lied, "I don't have to go." The situation made me very uncomfortable and I made sure that there was no one going in or coming out of the men's or women's restrooms when I went in. Oh, and I forgot to mention that this was a movie theater in the most conservative state in the U.S., Mississippi. At least no one came into the restroom saying "You know this is the ladies' room right?"
Im nonbinary but with there issues
I go with my "assigned" gender
Q Mof if someone is non binary, then that is their real gender
@@levi6782 Tell that to the non-existent bathroom for non-binary people.
@@b.h.4249 There is gender neutral bathrooms :D
@@randompinetree Oh, I didn't know. I don't think I've ever seen one before.
@@b.h.4249 Well not in all countries
Yeah... I'm a trans guy so I prefer to use the mens bathroom, but I have a very feminine frame. So I get weird looks from the other guys in there... It really makes me just.. Loose all my confidence. Sometimes I just go into the ladies bathroom despite it being extremely uncomfortable for me.
I’m non-binary (specifically bigender, I use she/they pronouns most of the time) but I haven’t had to go to school in person since I came out. I’m terrified because on more masculine/androgynous days I feel super dysphoric having to go to a woman’s bathroom, but I basically just look like a flat girl with a pixie cut so I would definitely get some weird looks (and possibly get in trouble) if I went to the boys room. There is one gender neutral bathroom in my school but it’s usually for special Ed kids who need help going to the bathroom. Yay, non-binary issues.
so you never use the bathroom at school then???
Yikes, that sounds like a really uncomfortable situation. Personally I would love to be interpreted as a guy just once because that means that at least people don’t read me as a woman. I wish I looked more masculine, or at least more androgynous. :/
Yeah, that’s what I thought I wanted too. I’m enby AFAB and recently got my hair cut short, so when I went shopping, one of the employees thought I was a guy. It felt nice to not be seen as a girl and I was happy, but it was totally opposite when I was looked at like a guy in the girls’ bathroom.
I always feel so uncomfortable with public bathrooms. I'm a genderfluid nonbinary person, I'm afab but on testosterone so most people perceive me as a gender nonconforming amab person. I don't want to use the women's bathroom because I have a beard and low voice and I don't want to make women uncomfortable (plus using the women's room makes me uncomfortable too) but I don't feel safe using the men's room because I'm very feminine and usually wear feminine clothing. I usually just hold it or hope there's a gender neutral bathroom wherever I am
Are fitting rooms gendered in general in the US?? :o I mean besides kind of "implicit" gendering by location (ie in the men's section and the women's section..)? Also "men's" vs "ladies".. Mhpf..
bananafan yeah they are
Crazy.. :o thanks for the answer!
bananafan Wait, it's not that way everywhere?
I'm from Germany and no, I haven't seen gendered fitting rooms.. Of course, in h&m or so it's kind of implicit because you have one in the men's section and one in the women's section but it's never a must. If you happen to walk around at the men's, it's no problem to go there. And in stores for.. let's say.. sports stuff, there's no separation whatsoever because everything's organised by "field" (eg outdoors, swimming..).
I feel a sad to hear that nearly everything is gendered at least in California. I find that gendering isn't necessary most of the time. We are all humans at the core no matter what gender identity you have, which genitalia you were born with..who you love, what abilities you have and don't have...religion, age, race...etc. Fundamentals of what it means to live is NOT different for men, women and people of all gender identities. We all need shelter, clothing, food...sense of belonging, sense of purpose.. a job/career so we can take care of the finances.. Those fundamentals at core doesn't change if you think about it.
Now, I see why we have male and female bathrooms because although its not like people stare at other people's genitalia in the bathroom, majority of people would feel uncomfortable getting the business done in front of people who do not share the same genitalia. However, gendered bathrooms aren't technically necessary though, practically speaking. You don't have male and female bathrooms in most houses. Its just for practicality and efficiency that we have gendered bathrooms that we have gendered bathrooms. I don't understand why we can't have more gender neutral bathrooms tho.
Other than that, I don't think gendering everything, even to the smallest stuff like pens and soaps are necessary. So what...will restaurants now have male dining area and female dining area? Female and male sidewalks..male grocery store and female grocery store? Male and female houses because 'we are different''? Come on...now, thats too much gendering. We are not placed to separates parts of the world because of our genitalia.
Ashley I am a middle aged woman. I was born with female genitalia, grew up identifying as a female and as such, fit easily into a society that wants to believe that gender and sex are the same thing. I subscribed to your channel (which I love by the way) so that I can become better informed and perhaps in some small way help fight a battle that needs to be fought. You raise so many issues that I have just NEVER had to think about. Forgive my ignorance please because both heart and mind are listening to you. It does take time to understand AND I am finding I have a LOT to learn. Additionally, the shoes I walk in will never travel the same roads as yours. I often read the comments after watching one of your videos. Today I struggled with the concept that a six year old child would be berated for looking at someone, seeing (at least in their mind) a male, and telling them that they were in the wrong line. Children are remarkably candid are they not? I won't pretend that I can imagine how humiliating it would be to be "called out" by a six year old nor how impossible it would be to try and explain why it was right to be standing in that line. I think there is such need for open and respectful dialogue. How does one parent a child so that they don't immediately identify an individual as male or female in a society that is still so filled with hate and denial? Anyway, I applaud your efforts to increase awareness and I will continue to watch your videos and recommend your channel to anyone who will listen. You are a very gifted and quite remarkable individual.
No day passes without I‘m hating myself for being non-binary but looking like an inordinary girl.
There is to much fear to say to my teachers and classmates that I am non-binary and want to be called Eden instead of Maren.
I‘d love to look such genederneutral like you.
Even if you disagree with someone about the existence of nonbinary people, there is no need for you to say anything. All you're doing is hurting people.
@@sspu4669 No. The lack of global warming is a conspiracy theory and global issue with potential for improvement. Gender is a personal experience that cannot be changed. Besides, don't you think they've heard this all before (every day of their lives)?
@@xbduf4gb I'm all for differing opinions- I'm not all for factual inaccuracy. The sky is blue. The grass is green. Nonbinary people exist.
your perfect just the way u are, and remember there's no such thing looking non-binary
I am non-binary. I would prefer to use the family bathroom but when there’s only men and women’s, I go in which ever one I can pass better as that day. When I’m in the men’s bathroom I am to feminine and when I’m in the women’s bathroom I’m two masculine! can’t I just pee?
It's like some people never read "Everybody Poops". Everyone pees. Just let people pee. Most people who go into a bathroom, just want to pee, wash their hands, and leave.
I really appreciate your videos. This shit happens to me a lot. Not every day, but often. I'm a female with short hair, a lesbian, and a wife. I married my best friend last month. It really hurts me when people call me sir, or look at me weird in the women's bathroom. I'm not trans, or anything other than a woman. From watching your videos, you clearly know the feeling. It's embarrassing, sad, it makes me hate society, and it makes me mad. I wish I could see it the way you do, but it's hard for me. I shouldn't have to dress different, or grow my hair out, for this to stop happening. I don't know what to do, I just wish this never happened. A lot of people who aren't a part of the lgbtq community, or old people, or men... just don't get it.
I'm AMAB and visually female, every time I go in a men's bathroom there's always someone telling me I'm in the wrong one. One time I was taking number 2 in a stall and heard 2 guys who worked there saying how they just let a girl in and that they should kick her out, I legit got a bit scared and sneaked out quickly once I was done😥
What I do nowadays is to always take a hoodie with me, surprisingly no one bats an eye at someone with their hoodie on even in the summer.
I'm moving to a way more trans-friendly place soon, hope things get easier😉
I’ve been into the men’s bathroom several times. As a child not really seeing the signs, in high school accidentally, on a school trip with 300 other kids. On the school trip the girls used the men’s bathroom cause for 20 men it took only a few minutes to go to the bathroom. In a restaurant in New Orleans. I went to the men’s room , and this man was told I was in there, said okay, and came in and peed, I was in the stall still. I’m honestly glad this guy was like that. But I was embarrassed.
Okay, I didn't even know fitting rooms are gendered in the US...
@ Sabatonya me either that is crazy, what is the point?
@@Milosssish American toilet stalls are crap, I assume fitting room stalls are equally bad. That's probably why.
I'm genderfluid and it's easy to go to the bathrooms when I identify me as binary, but when I'm non-binary I prefeer go to the girl's bathroom only because I don't feel safe in the mens one unless I'm a boy, thing that makes me a huge dysphoria, we should implement non-binary bathrooms to garantize 0% dysphoria to all non- binary comunity :D
I had someone direct me to the women’s bathroom recently which was awkward especially because that’s where I was going.
Edit: I always feel really bad for using the family/disabled bathrooms even though I’m nonbinary. I feel like I’m taking up space that could be used for a family or a disabled person. I just wish there were more single stall all gender bathrooms.
I just came up with a good gender neutral replacement for little names like "sweetie" "honey" and other names like these that sound more feminine. "cub" or "bear cub" and stuff like that. I just think it's cute as well
This is a total mood. On one hand, when someone looks at me weird in the ladies room, yay, I pass ( as masculine or androgynous), but in the other hand, oh shit. I really hate that bigots tell us to use the bathroom that our sex matches, and then when someone who passes walks into the bathroom they asked us to go in they freak out. I just wanna pee goddamit. This is why I sick to online and Hottopic (lol)
As a nonbinary pal, I usually use the family or unisex bathroom if a public place provides one. Otherwise I use the ladies room though I always glance at the men's before walking in.
OH man! That would be so embarrassing! I don't think that would happen to me but I do wear men's clothing styles a lot so never know! I feel for you on this!
Surprisingly I’ve never had a problem with which bathroom or dressing room I should go in. I always knew to go in the women’s because I’m afab. And I also don’t feel safe in the men’s bathroom or dressing room. But there have been times where I was passing as male and would go into a women’s bathroom or dressing room and ppl told me that it was not the men’s room. But I’ve never rly cared which bathroom I go in bc it’s just a bathroom, a place, some materials like tile and ceramic and plastic and whatever other materials you need to make a bathroom
I’m AFAB nonbinary, and I hate trying on clothes in public or using the bathroom in public for this exact reason, and because of anxiety a little bit. I don’t really wanna go in the men’s room, even though I’m trying to present more masc, but I don’t want anything to happen to me. But I also don’t want to go in the women’s room, because it kinda feels awkward.
just go into the bathroom you were assigned at birth at
I'm dumb. I'm living in the United States, but rarely shopping for clothes. Either I have no time or just hate clothes shopping since childhood.
I went to New Hampshire and was called out for using the female restroom. She was upset that a man was using the restroom. My fiance went off on her and I just laughed it all off. I know where I belong and where I need to be. I'm sorry I make others feel uncomfortable but I'm physically female so i use the female restroom even though i dress and act like a man. My fiance was upset and I told her don't sweat it. It doesn't bother me. Its her ignorance or lack of understanding. I don't let these things bother me like my fiance does. I often wish she would stop wasting her energy on these petty arguments. I know who I am and where I belong. My feelings aren't hurt if they call me sir, or ma'am, or whatever. I just smile and go about my day. If given the chance I'll use a "family" restroom.
I don't understand this even being an issue. There are plenty of stores where they have only one set of fitting rooms, and no gendering to any of it. And nothing bad happens. So what's with the divide at all? I just don't get it. An attendant is important, but having separate sections for genders just feels like a waste of energy... :/
I'm bigender and I tend to just go to whichever fitting room is closer to where I'm currently at in the store. I've never had weird looks/remarks, but I'm in a liberal area and half the time there's no one else in or near the dressing room cause I tend to shop on off hrs anyway.
Sydd Linden because men tend to look over and peek into were the women is
What? I live in Germany where the gendering on fitting rooms doesn't exist at all and that just really doesn't happen.
how hideous this stuff is. we as people have much to learn.
It happened to me that I was told that I violated the rules when I went out of the feeting rooms and that I probably slipped by the people in charge "otherwise we'd not have let you in" which is not the case as I was given the number plate and by another (more open) attendant. There was no sign saying the changing rooms were even gendered, they just happened to be those in the floor selling the colothes for women while I'm amab. This was years ago to me in France at a Zara.
I mean, why does it matter with fitting rooms. If the stalls actually were good this shouldn’t be a problem at all.
I pass as female whatever I'm wearing, but always went to the unisex disabled cubicle when I worked at the cinema, years before I figured out why it felt more appropriate. Screw how most places have it locked! I can get the point of having it available for people in wheelchairs and if more people than just me did that the system would no longer function, but I feel the solution is to have more unisex loos accessible.
I've long been a proponent of making every single occupant public loo gender neutral, and adding more such restrooms to places that only have large stall restrooms. I just wanna pee, I don't care who used that loo before me or who's going to use it after me.
I’m non-binary but in still in school and the only person who knows is my friends and my teacher so my teacher allows me to use any restroom I choose but I usually use the women’s one because I want to stay with my friends
but then arent you technically using the wrong bathroom since it does not correlate with your gender.That would be the equivalent of a male using the female bathroom since well the male is not a female and since a non binary is not a female they cannot use either men or women restrooms
Y’all have separate fitting rooms? Damn that must suck
thankfully where I live we have unisex fitting rooms theres not one for women or one for men theres just a few for anyone. but it depends on the shop i think
Hi, thank you for sharing! I have a question; would it be better if there were a gender-neutral fitting room available? I mean of course, but I'm thinking that are non-binery people ok with themselves using a gender-neutral fitting room/bathroom together?
im non binary and I only go in to stores with unisex changing rooms because people have been so rude when I go in to the ladies. i can't get myself to go in them anymore or I shop online.
That’s been my experience too and it’s really disheartening.
y'all's dressing rooms are separated?? like all the clothing stores i've ever been in have just. a bunch of fitting rooms clumped together
When I think about it, I haven't had many situation where someone actually said, "are you in the wrong bathroom?" Instead it is just weird looks or double takes that I get, which makes me feel just as badly as I might feel if someone ever said their thoughts out loud.
I am a female with short hair who is masculine looking so yeah, I get read as male at least 50% of the time. I agree with you though, that people should just assume that you're in the correct bathroom. It's so odd that that woman would be like, "is there a man in here!?" What happened when you left the fitting room? Was that woman out there and did she look at you or say anything?
This is why I hate the gym and bathrooms in my school
oh my god the changerooms are the worst. i just lock myself in a stall and change as quick as possible, or use the neutral bathroom beside the gym
I really like how they talked, they were really nice like they said it was fine that the woman who asked if there was a guy, and they said that itwas ok because maybe she didnt know and stuff and they were really nice
Where do you live? Cus these things dont happen where im from
As an FtM trans guy, that's why I don't use fitting rooms...or any gendered space for that matter (try not to).
I agree with everything that's being said here obviously. I havent ever disagreed with a single thing ashley wilde has said lol.
I'm just thinking about my own experiences with public bathrooms. When I go into the "womens" I get very uncomfortable and try to like walk a little more "femininely" and clearly show my face to people I pass and go as quickly as possible in and out.
I've never been in the "mens" but I think it would make me feel a lot better about myself. I'm a bit afraid of being called out if I go in there though. Ultimately I'd like to just go into either bathroom about 50/50. But listen, if they always had an all gender bathroom or something of the sort I'd use it 100% of the time. I've used family restrooms a few times but I always feel bad because I worry I'm making life harder for someone else who needs it since only one person can use it at a time.
I'm just not sure if I should risk going into whatever bathroom I feel comfortable using on that particular day or if I should just use the "womens" and always feel uncomfortable. Should I try going in the "mens" just once or twice?
Please no hate. Clearly I mean well.
i try to go into the handicapped one room restroom whenever I can cus it's 🚻
Some people have this really bad, I’m glad that I am currently not worried yet as I still look like my AGAB since I’m unable to look how I want yet. (Still living with my parents rn.) Maybe when I look how I want to, I’ll understand. Haha.
Im ftm, and i pass too well to use a womens restroom, while i dont pass enough to use a mens restroom.
The world needs to be more thoroughly educated about many things, including the existence of non binary individuals. So, I love Ashley's videos which shine light regarding this subject. Superb job.
I’m agender so if there’s gender neutral bathroom I use that but if not I tend to use the female one because I just feel safer there
I don't disagree however as a cis female if a person who looks like a man, like very little ambiguity (imo you look androgynous so I wouldn't be concerned) walked into a female bathroom I would feel uncomfortable its a female safe space (I would consider this to be the same for mens bathrooms but im a girl so id rather speak on that) if I don't speak up and that person is in fact a man who either hasn't noticed or who has some malicious intent I would feel awful, gender neutral options are obviously the fix but we cant act for the minority. im sorry that it is uncomfortable but I would not expect someone who has doubts to not speak up because in that situation keeping someone safe vs keeping someone feeling comfortable takes priority.
My local swimming bath's changing rooms are worse.
As a non-binary person, this sucks.
You'll see why.
Girls Changing Rooms - I would be a non-binary person walking into a girls changing room looking like a guy(I'm a non-binary that looks like a boy)
Boy's changing rooms - People in there get changed without any walls. Literally the boys are able to stare at each other whilst changing, that's how bad it is. I was born a female and I haven't got surgery. ; - ;
I can’t wait till my hair is down my back and then I’ll feel comfortable dressing feminine and wondering what kinda looks or reactions I’ll get in the men’s bathroom
Isn't that what the handycap restroom is for?
That’s fucking hilarious
My friend told me to just use the bathroom I feel the most comfortable in.
*So I used my own.*
Hahaha this is one of the reasons my agender self never uses the bathroom in public (I use the bathroom 3 times a day and I’m concerned)
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you guys have gendered fitting rooms?
Some days I’ll go in the boys bathroom or sometimes the girls people have up at my school
🤮🤮🤮your parents must be proud. Why don't u put it up on billboards so the whole world can see how great you are
I’m non-binary and I feel like I’m not make or female so I don’t have gender so I use they them pronounce so I don’t know what to do
just use the bathroom according to the gender you were assigned at birth with
If you're a female, use the women's bathroom. Easy.
if you look like a woman, go to the women fitting room. if you look like a man go the the men fitting room
I'm non-binary but school doesn't allow me to use the men's BC of our gendered uniforms
There's this sporting goods place by my house thats called "academy" and they have gender nuteral bathrooms and fittingrooms😌
I just end up using women things because that’s what people always assume so I don’t get into situations like that.
100% relate
I personally don’t like to be in the women’s restroom because I’m Afab I so will use the men’s if there isn’t a gender neutral bathroom
that is illegal
You got a sub your are so cool
I go im the bathroom how my body is but im nb but its hard
Just like go to family bathroom's or wait until you get home to use bathrooms if it pains you that much to use the girls restroom
many places just have a men's room and a women's room.
Wait family bathrooms exist
who the fuck cares anyway changing rooms are closed stalls???
I totally agree!!
🙌preach🙌
I like to go to the girls bathroom but when it comes to dressing I’m a guy so I like being classified as a boy and a girl
I’m not none binary but my friend is
Personally I just go to the handicap fitting room
are you handicapped tho
one time i had touse the mens at maciedees cos they thought i was a guy but i was to shy to say andalso my mate is a guy and it was a big moment for himusing the mens for the first time cos hes trans he also wouldnt doit alone lol
Personally im agender and find it stupid that toilets are gendered but i will go into whichever i want (the mens 99% of the time because i was born a boy and i look like a boy)
U r a boy and forever will be a boy. Wake up to reality
ima male
Why are you lecturing people about fitting rooms?
When want to buy my own clothes I want to buy woman clothes and no one said anything to me so I came out with a happy smell I feel happy that people don't say anything to me I'm non-binary person sometime I say I'm gay that mean I love guys but that day make me happy that I want to buy my own woman clothes (✿^‿^)
so your nonbinary but also gay? if you love guys (which i am assuming means men) then you can't be gay since you do not Identify as a man
I’m non-binary and I am in 6th grade ima just stick with the girls room
is that your gender assigned at birth???
@@olilondonisabum7170 no, I do not identify as my gender assigned at birth
@@Sammy_Wammy_ so then why would you go into a girls bathroom wouldn't you technically be going into the wrong bathroom
@@olilondonisabum7170 My school doesn’t allow transgender kids to go into the bathroom that they are comfortable going in
Also I call non binary he/him or she/her based on what bathroom they go in
Plz adopt me
Jesus is coming soon🙏
amen