EXACTLY! All of my friends keep asking me how it feels to not be a man or a woman and just feels like nothing. It feels normal to me. Exactly how Ashley described it.
Yeah, they suck. But I'm also non-binary and I know that you have worth and aren't alone in your feelings, so that means I do too. It's hard to accept, but it really is better to be hated for what you are than loved for what you're not. I know your comment is a year old already lol but I felt the need to reply anyway. 💛💜🖤 -Elliot
Alx I understand what you’re saying, but personally I believe that those types of comments are more harmful than positive. All it does is undermine someone’s Identity because they don’t understand, or never had the experience themselves. If they approached their beliefs differently then it wouldn’t be an issue. It’s not saving people, it’s hurting them. I wouldn’t be glad if someone told me that my identity is fake because they don’t agree or understand it. Think of it the other way around. Everyone’s logic and ideals differ, that’s what makes us unique.
Alx I definitely agree with you on staying true with your identity, and acknowledging that we’re all unique from the labels society places on us. But how we define gender is internal, regardless of how we choose to express it. You could just not fit in the roles of the stereotypical man or woman, but there are true nonbinary and trans individuals out there. It is the mind and soul that defines our being, not the external appearance of our perceived gender. Yes, there are two sexes, but there are also some intersex people who even identify as nonbinary. Gender is defined by how we see ourselves, just like a cisgender man can wear a dress, a trans man can wear a dress. We’re not adopting new identities because society won’t let us be our own version of a man or woman, but it is the fact that we do not identify exclusively as a man or woman. Not from our appearance, but our core sense of self. You’re right, labels don’t matter, so why should we have to define by one at all? Because of our sex? Telling someone to face reality is harmful, because your version of the truth is being enforced on those who believe differently. That’s great that you’re cool with yourself, so use this time to encourage others to feel the same regardless of how they identify.
First of all, ignore the haters. This comment section is full of them. Beyond that, take your time with this and learn to trust your intuitions. You're the only one who can really know your own authentic gender identity. Whatever that identity might be, know that you are valid, and that there is a lot of acceptance and support out there.
You know, the way gender non-binary is described makes it likely that almost every person in the world is non-binary. The soul has no sex or gender, only the body does. So, if you aren't constantly saying to yourself: "I'm a man, I'm a man, I'm a man," or "I'm a woman, I'm a woman, I'm a woman," you are like 99% of people in the world and you don't think your gender dictates every action of every second of your life.
I had been non-binary since August. I figured out that I wanted to wear more likely boyish clothes than girl. I’m not much a girly girl, but I am interested into cosplaying, having a life as a female, but as male it doesn’t feel right. I am a female, but not male. My 3 best friends (who are girls) are non-binary and I accept that. I’m non-binary and bisexual and I feel great about that.
Lurchipoo | Okay. Us gay people fight for our rights to get what we want. Black lives fight for rights to get what they want. You wouldn’t care because you think I am a kid when I’m not. So get yourself new ass phone you stupid android user and try again. Just sounds you’re transphobic and homophobic person. You think you’re so cool because you’re white and saying n word makes you better. So, your insults don’t effect me sweetheart. Have a nice day.
really sorry about all the hateful ignorance youve gotten on this video, but i just wanted to say i really liked it and really liked how you described that being nonbinary doesnt necessarily feel like anything, it just feels like being a person. so thank you : )
I think people were wondering more like.... what's the difference between being nonbinary and being a dude or a chick? There must be a difference or else you wouldn't feel the need to choose nonbinary over either chick or dude. What I'm curious about is, what's the difference between a gender nonconforming dude or chick and a nonbinary/agender person? Could these separate terms actually describe roughly the same phenomenon?
To the horrible people in the comments: please stop being so mean! If you're just here to spread hate, it's not okay! Just leave us alone to do our thing.
Sorry, bro. You need to use that brain of yours and just admit that you are a specific gender, male or female. I’m fine with every other LGBTQ+ out there, but not you guys because you have no logic!
Hi, I found this video because I'm trying to understand the mindset of trans/non-binary people, because I'm neither of these and therefore don't have a direct understanding of it. As a biological male, I don't really feel like I identify as any particular gender, whether that's male or female, neither, or some combination in between. I don't feel the need to identify as anything, so when people say they identify as non-binary (as in this case), I'm looking to find what they feel when they KNOW in their own identity that they are non-binary. Myself, I feel like I have a fair few feminine traits, but I can also see the masculine traits I have. I'm not very masculine for a biological male, but I wouldn't say that I'm non-binary or trans-female, I'm just a male who has some feminine traits... In short, I would say my sex is "Male", and my gender is "I don't really care?" Do non-binary people also "not really care" about their gender? And if so, why do they identify as such? Is not caring about your gender identity where the difference lies? I really want to understand this so if anyone here is non-binary or understands it better I'd love to hear what you have to say.
Everyone’s experience is different since some experience dysmorphia and/or dysphasia. Personally for me it’s a feeling of being trapped, presenting typically masculine and feminine didn’t and still doesn’t feel right. I felt and still feel trapped and when I see myself in the mirror thoughts overwhelm my head saying ‘you look like a girl’ ‘what’s wrong with your chest, it should be flat’ ‘your hands are delicate and everyone says they look like a princesses’. I talked to a friend who’s ftm (assigned female at birth and is transitioning to male) and he started to use they/them and a neutral name ‘chai’. It felt right which helped with a type of dysphasia I found to be called ‘social dysphoria’ I think it’s amazing how you want to look into these things but I feel like I need to say don’t use my experience for everyone’s. Nonbinary is an umbrella term so people experience it differently!
@@blorp444 dysmorphia is seeing a flaw and obsessing about it. Dysphagia is difficulty swallowing. The word is gender dysphoria-incongruence with ones sex assigned at birth. Trans people can have dysmorphia and dysphoria or just dysphoria or neither I guess.
For me it’s wanting to neutral. I want to be seen as a boy or a girl really. I understand that i have a biological sex, but it just doesn’t “click” with me. Like it’s just about my body parts rather than me as a person. I want to be free from the gender norms and being nonbinary is my way for that. Kinda like that
my mom just told me I am female and I can't change that and thinks I just want attention I am non binary and my mom won't except it I thought she did but apparently she doesn't and that is the hardest part cause she is the most important person to me
Yeah, my mom is toxic as all hell too. I know that it hurts. I know that you don't want it to hurt as much as it does. I mean, she's just a person. She doesn't have the power to dictate who you are. Her words are just words. But it hurts so much anyway. Her words make you question who you are, and who you want to be, and make you feel like you're maybe making it up, but you're not. You know you're not. But it affects you more than you want it to anyway. You aren't alone. You are going to be okay. Try to cultivate friends that will support and affirm you. Try to get to counseling
Saaaaaaaame. Like.. what kind of question is that, even :P I tend to just shrug and reflect the question back at them, "I don't know, how does it feel to be cis?". Not in a rude way, obviously, but it does get the message across that being non-binary isn't something you "become", it's something you've always been and perhaps only recently discovered about yourself. For people wondering, to me it was kind of like having someone dye your hair all your life without you knowing it, and without you necessarily feeling bad about the colour of your hair. Until at some point you realise that you have a different hair colour, which is also a really nice one. You're self-conscious about it for a while, and people will ask you if you've dyed your hair, but after a while it'll just become normal and people will have adjusted.
Marjan Van Esbroeck To ask "how does it feel to be CIS" You would have to explain what that was also. As most would have no clue what the fuck you are talking about. It is not an unreasonable question, "are you boy or girl?" In fact, it is the only way of knowing how you identify yourself. A better way to handle the question would be to explain it in a polite manner. Even then most will be confused. If so move on! As most don't really know about this multiple gender identity bs. Or care. If you are offended by the question "are you boy or girl?" Tuff luck, you'll have to deal with it.
As a middle aged lesbian, I find the "cis" crap a total insult. It's like you don't want to be labelled, so you then give labels to people who identify with their body. I don't want to be known as a "cis" lesbian. It's just ridiculous. What is wrong with identifying with the genitalia you've been given?? Or, if you feel the opposite sex, then transition! Sorry, but this gives me the shits. Life is already complicated enough without making it even harder for yourself and those around you.
TheViolentTeddy It is rather amazing, how these kids hate labels, yet try so desperately to identify as one. Then get the shits, when people get the "pronoun" wrong? Dress like a girl, look like a boy then get offended if some one asks for clarity? Like putting 2 shovels against a wall and tell the Irish man to take a pick.
I first saw myself as genderfluid, because I really didn't wholly connect myself with my sex. Sure, people say tomboyish, and though I rather not choose to use that word I stuck with it. I still hold on to my sex identity (female) but in a way, I didn't feel a fluidity for my gender. And I know it has nothing to do with how I present myself as a person, but I sometimes felt like i didn't belong when I was with other girls. I started hanging out with more kids in high school who were LGBT+ and discovered that by the influence of my family, I became anxious around them? I wasn't comfortable telling anyone of the same sex compliments, I didn't let any girl touch me (hug, hold hands) and I always thought of myself as coming off as gay. I'm no longer like this, as I underatand now that it's okay to compliment girls and hold hands with them and such. I didn't have feelings for any of my friends, so I passed that point. I already discovered my sexual identity. Then I started rethinking what I identified as, because after coming out to my brother as genderfluid, my mind made me second guess. I had little to no understanding of genderfluidity, but I thought it matched how I felt, when in reality it didn't. So I thought Demi-Girl matched me more. I think it does in a sense, but then I started to think about if I was on the gender spectrum at all. Sure I had my feminine features and biological parts, but in my mind and heart, i knew I wasn't "all woman". i know it hasn't anything to do with shaving or the clothes I wear, but I also didn't feel the need to be as feminine as my mind told me to be. And seeing and knowing so many enby people already, I kind of felt like I was comfortable with them more? I mean I do feel comfortable with anybody, but just being around someone enby made me feel glee. A year or so ago I would sometimes accidentally misgender someone who would say otherwise, but I always tried my best to correct myself. Now I understand a lot better even though my family are "supporters of LGBT" Now i think demi/enby fits me best because even though I "act masculine" and "look feminine" I don't feel comfortable saying I have this male presence about my self. I would rather go by she/they because even though I don't feel 100 percent like a woman, I don't think I fit with being labeled with masculine pronouns. So I don't know what I am but hopefully I can find a name for it. Or heck maybe my mind is just telling me these things to make me question myself. Hopefully I'll figure it out.
I have just recently come to accept the fact that I'm non binary. I'm AFAB and thought I was a binary trans man and started to medically transition until that began to feel just as bad as when I was trying to be a binary woman. Allowing myself to just be me and not try to force myself into a binary box has been an absolute relief. You put it perfectly, I just feel normal now. I used to wake up every day dreading another day of being uncomfortable in the binary boxes I forced on myself. Now it's not even a thought, it's no longer a "chore" to be who I am because it comes naturally. Thanks for making this video. I know it's almost 3 years old but I appreciate coming across it exactly when I needed it most.
Yes!! I'm AFAB too and I kept trying to put myself into this binary box, where "hey if you're not a girl then you have to be a guy", and none of it felt right. I felt squished, trying to be who I'm not no matter what route I took. I'm too young (late teens) and closeted to go through transitioning, but as soon as I can I'll start properly binding rather than wearing layers of clothes and maybe have top surgery if I feel comfortable with it. It's so reassuring to find videos like this that help me feel less like some weird loner that just needs to "choose a side". I'm super happy that you feel confident with being nonbinary, and I'm hoping one day I'll be able to express myself how I want and feel comfortable in my body and identity like you, rather than forcing myself into a box for fear of outing myself.
CrankyGames Howell so glad you’re figuring stuff out too and getting more comfortable with yourself. I’m 28 and still putting it together so no stress, you have lots of time. Good luck with your journey of self love and discovery ☺️☺️☺️
Thank you for this video and thank you for simply being you. I've struggled with answering this question whenever people asked it of me and this answer really resonated with me. Thank you, Ashley!
Feeling non-binary to me: It's like I am not really a person. I'm doing person things but I don't really feel like i am. Like saying 'I am washing the dishes' its like I am but i don't feel like its me doing it. I feel like a ghost sort of in my own life. And sometimes when I wake up and I drink coffee and I get dressed and put on a dress and makeup I feel a little more real. Then about halfway through the day I go back to that ghostly existence. Then ill look at myself in the mirror and feel disgusted by being in a dress like its a costume im wearing so ill bind my chest and wear baggy clothes and ill be like okay I feel a bit more real now I feel more authentic to myself. but after a while it's back to that ghostly feeling. im living but I don't feel like a person. People know who they are, they feel comfortable being who they are. A cis person says "I am Amber, I am a cis female, I am a person" a trans person says "I am Kyle, I am a transgender ftm, I am a person" and they know that's what they are but for me it's like. "I'm Amy, no wait I'm Lyar no wait Im both no wait am I neither, I am a male and a female but im also neither but I also don't feel like I have a gender but I also feel like im completely one gender but I also feel completely the other gender but" you know? It's like how can you be a person when you feel like you are one soul trapped in one body but your one soul was made of seven other souls being forced to combine into one. And sometimes I will be talking and suddenly my voice is deeper and I cant change it back. It's almost like when a person with DID switches personalities. But I am every personality. It's very overwhelming and confusing. One minute I look down at my body and go yeah this feels right I can do this I can be normal and then a minute goes by and I look down and im like wait no this isn't right. I shouldn't have boobs, I shouldn't have long hair (which I don't anymore) this isn't how my body should be this isn't right i am trapped in a body that isn't right. (body dysmorphia) and sometimes I do think about it and I wish I was either trans or Cis because it would be easier to understand who I am. Itd be easier to explain. Itd be easier to feel like a person. But that's not how my brain is. I'm not trans. I'm not Cis. I don't even know if I am gender binary. But I am 20 years old and the first time I remember looking down at my body and thinking this isn't right. I am a boy why do people keep calling me a girl, was when I was 6 years old. I've felt this way for over 14 years of my life. But because people are just figuring out what other options there are than cis or trans, I will always be labeled as a trender because I didn't know the word for what I am until it became "popular" to be this way. It is not fun to live your life not feeling like a person. I don't know why anyone would want to be a gender that is constantly told that they aren't valid, they don't exist, they are just doing it for attention. And the only people that others focus on in the non-binary group are the crazy ones who actually are trenders. Because it isn't fun to ask somebody what being non feels like and for them to say "It feels like Im living normal life" its more ENTERTAINING to them to have the answer be "it feels like i am a cat"
I'd also like to add that she/him/them is used because i don't always feel cis or feel more male or inbetween. It changes a lot which is why its so hard to explain. Ive never been called they/them so that is very overwhelming thinking about being called it. I think its confusing for other people too. But that's just how it is for me
I really hope you find yourself and are comfortable soon. Have you tried gender therapy? They may be able to put a word on what you’re feeling and help you find yourself, if you want a label or not. Remember, you don’t always need a label to know yourself, gaining confidence will be hard but once you do you’ll be able to confidently say ‘I am -insert name-. This is how I feel and this is who I am.’
I figured out that I'm non-binary after I spent a year living as a transgender woman. It felt rather freeing at first, but as time went on, I began to realise that there were things about being a man that I liked and being the complete opposite felt just as wrong as being a man. Then my doctor suggested that I might be bigender. I think my doctor was right. Quite simply, I don't feel like I'm completely man or completely woman. And I think it's great now that I know about non-binary genders, because I can just be however I want. I don't have to fit into a stereotype. Nobody can pressure me into changing by telling me that girls do that. I just don't care. Yes girls do that. So do I. The most difficult thing for me as a non-binary person is deciding what to wear, because I could wear literally anything. Now that the weather is warming up here in Australia, I'm thinking about wearing skirts again like I did when I tried going as a woman. They are really comfortable. Honestly, I don't know why men stopped wearing them. But I want to try wearing skirts in a slightly more masculine way since I've decided against medically transitioning. I still feel mostly like I'm a woman, but a woman with a male body who has the ability to do anything a man can. I often think of it like what would a woman do if she woke up in a male body. I imagine she would still like the same things, but she might also enjoy the abilities to pee standing up and to lift heavy things and of course all the fun things that men can do. I can actually do more things that I like by not changing my body. So I guess I'm a transwoman who is happy with my male body. I'm not sure. But I know I enjoy mixing gendered things together to make my own way of life. So I'm definitely on the non-binary spectrum somewhere. I'm kinda gender fluid. sometimes I think of myself as a nonconforming man. Other times I think of myself as a woman with a male body. Nothing really changes besides my attitude. Apparently being autistic can cause people to not associate strongly with gender, which probably has a lot to do with it in my case. I was diagnosed quite late when I was 36, so I struggled my entire life. A big issue for me was when I started school and suddenly had the gender binary forced on me. I couldn't understand it and I didn't like it, but I learnt how to do it right. Literally everybody would tell me if I made a mistake with that. But now apparently society has finally caught up and figured out that not everyone wants to live like that and the world is better when everyone is happy. Well it's not quite there yet, but I'm glad it's heading that direction and I'm glad to be part of making the change.
idk about all these terms but honestly i think non-binary is not a physical thing , its more like a psychological thing.It's about our freedom to have our own preferences, whether if it's in clothes , the way we look , the type of aesthetic things we like or what type of coffee we prefer. Because honestly if you think about , the way people dress is just a thing.There's no correct way to how a person should dress for a certain event or occasion.So it's okay for someone to dress like the opposite gender because they just like it. I'm not sure if you guys get it but I'm just explaining how i really feel.
2 months ago I realized that I am non-binary, well actually I already knew for a long time but I didn’t have it that clear as I do now I always felt like there was something different about me because I never felt identified as a woman, I believed that I could be everything I wanted and get dress with anything kind of clothes that make me happy no matter if it was boy or girl
Thank you so much for this! It's like "How does it feel to be human?" I mean it's such a strange question to have asked! I was just thinking about that this morning.
Nailed it on the head.. at the end of the day, its still me.. I just turned 50 this year.. took me many years to figure out I was 'nonbinary'.. when I first started this journey of identity, these terms weren't even coined yet..
I'm trying to figure out if I'm not binary. All I know is that I was born a female, identify as a female, and I am lesbian. I am *not* feminine. And if I am transgender (non binary) maybe I can understand myself a little better. I am not feminine and I don't think him\he pronouns fit. Your videos help me understand myself a little more, and help me know the signs you and other people had, to knowing you are non binary
Mya Maola try dressing as the gender you think you may want to be or just not wearing gender oriented clothes like hoodies and things like that, if that doesn’t make you feel better it’s probably self loathing and you need to see a therapist
milkshakes and looking at your attempt to explain, clearly that's hostile rather than open and reveals that the initial comment had no point whatsoever in terms of society and/via you as an individual coming to terms with us as an existing set of people, it was just sealioning.
But it is kinda interesting why you would do that. Would you be able to outline what you were actually looking for, whether that was the point of your comments or not?
We are individuals. We don't fit into stereotypes. Creating more labels is not the solution. Insisting that people know you as an individual is the key.
This was amazing. I love how you came across in such a matter-of-fact way to simplify it for us - those of us who are expecting something big and significant - just to tell us that it feels like being who we already are, day to day. As someone who recently hatched, and exploring everything I can about being an enby, I really appreciate this video, and your content. Thank you for making me smile
I just came across your channel, and I want to thank you so much for making the videos you make. I have been going through what I thought was an identity crises for a few months now, it is getting so bad Im going back to thinking suicidal thoughts again. I wake up everyday, and I just hate myself. I hate that I have to wear a bra and put on panties, when I just want to wear boxers like my boyfriend. I hate being addressed as a girl, it makes me feel bad about myself, but it upsets me when strangers mistake me for a boy. Its all a big confusing mess, but your videos gave me something to relate to, and now I dont feel like something is wrong with me. I can understand who I am a bit more. Thank you so so so much!! Keep being you and keep being awesome!
Thank you so much for this video! IT helped me to realize that I am gender nonbinary. But, I noticed I have more going on than just that. I recently realized I am species non-binary. Sometimes I feel like a human, while other days I feel like one of a variety of different animals. Sometimes my species changes several times a day. For instance, this morning I woke up at and used the toilet, took a shower, brushed my teeth, and got dressed, which are all human things, so I was a human. But, then I brushed my hair while I whistled along to a song I heard on the radio, so I realized I was basically pruning myself and chirping like a bird, so I became a bird trapped in a human body. Then I ate a banana and I became an ape trapped in a human body. Then I ate some peanuts and felt bloated, and blew my nose, so I became an elephant trapped in a human body. Then I started whistling to the song from the radio that was stuck in my head again. So, once again I became a bird trapped in a human body! Once I started to think about how I was a bird I got the urge to fly, opened a window to my apartment (I live on the third floor), and I jumped out and attempted to fly. But unfortunately, I became a dense concrete block trapped in a human body and I crashed to the ground and crushed practically every bone in my body! So, currently, I'm an idiot trapped in the body of a hospitalized invalid.
I don’t understand how it my feel like to be non binary or understand it; however I respect your position and feelings. You should be treated with respect and dignity just like everyone else. Remember God loves you as well. John 3:16.
Argh! I'm trying to figure out if I'm non-binary or not! Can anyone just give me anecdotes about what they experienced that made them go "wait a second"? Cuz like, I liked girly things and swishy dresses when I was under 7 years old, and then from about 7-11 I kept saying that I wanted to be a boy, and then when I was 11 my mom wanted me to be more fem, so she complimented me, and told me I looked nicer and thinner when I dressed more fem (I never got compliments from my mom about anything, so in order to please my mom I wore fem clothes). Now I keep feeling like I'm in drag every time I get gussied up in high-fem outfits. I mean, I sometimes like putting on dresses, but it feels like a character. But I don't know if I feel like a full-on guy. What does feeling like a guy even feel like? I mean, I like some things about being a girl, but I also don't want to pretend that I care about things or am good at things that I'm simply not. Example: I like having the freedom to wear skirts or not. I don't like that I have to pretend to understand emotions, and am expected to know how to cope with other people's emotions. I like being able to compliment people of my same gender without having to say 'no homo but-' first. I would like to not be socially expected to care about my appearance. So what am I? How do I figure it out? I've already figured out I'm pansexual, but this is something that affects how I present myself, and how I understand myself. I can like guys, girls, or both and be the same person, but if I am a guy, girl, both, or neither, that changes who I am. Since gender is such a huge part of how we present ourselves to the world, this could change how I present to the outside world. Plus, people are weirdly less understanding of genderqueer folks than sexually queer folks... yikes!
I hope you’ve found yourself now but for me it kinda took a while... I always felt uncomfortable using my name as it just wasn’t right, I tried a typically masculine nickname but that didn’t feel right so I gave up (this was a long time ago). Getting older I realised what I may be feeling and as I hit puberty I began to feel trapped and had thoughts of hiding my curves so stacked up tight sports bras and hoodies, heck I had a mental breakdown when I first got measured for a bra and didn’t know why I just said it didn’t feel right and I didn’t want to look this way. I started to present stereotypically masculine but after a while that didn’t feel correct, I was on social media and was thinking, oh she’s pretty or oh he looks nice but I knew I didn’t want to look like them. I then saw a picture of someone presenting androgynous, I tried it and it felt right. I spoke to my closest friend and he’s ftm and told him how I was feeling. He started using they/them for me and ‘chai’ as a neutral name. What I’m trying to say is experimenting really helps
I am an intersex woman and this still did not answer the question I was born female and male at the same time I was assigned female at Birth and I still live as a woman but also as a man so please ask the question to an intersex person to truly understand what it feels like to be both genders at once and not a person who can only speak from one side of the gender story or the other because it degrades the experiences of inter people who have to live in this world as both genders at the same time Now to truly answer the question it feels different unique and makes it hard to speak to your parents about puberty and makes you sometimes uncomfortable peeing in a lady's room
It doesn't feel like anything to be blond or have brown eyes because these are physical characteristics a difference in pigmentation, such differences can not be felt. Gender identity is not a physical difference. If it can not be felt in an individual does it exist in that individual? if so in what form?
Can someone please help? I don’t know if I’m non-binary or not. I don’t feel comfortable being considered a girl or a boy I’m fine with she/her pronouns but I think I like they them a bit better..? I don’t know I’m just so confused
It’s weird to me, its more like either being in drive or reverse, yet i’m in neutral. I feel as if I’m in a void with no path while everyone else does, that i’m the only one on my path.
Oh, and btw @Ki the goddess . If you’re to idiotic to realize what I meant, it targets you on your fake gender and how incredibly stupid you are for choosing this.
@@andjohan You don't get to decide someone's gender based off of a username, asshole. Get a life and stopping trying to make people feel bad for who they are.
Im a trans woman and I feel like I need a whole lecture to break down the gender construct to understand non binary. I dont think i can truly appreciate the spectrum with my binary idea of gender constructs. This is extremely difficult for me to grasp.
I know I am non binary I am so sur about this but I don't know how to explain that feeling to my cis friends. When I ask them how do u know your gender they have no clear answer but still they want a clear answer or they start invalidating my identity . Can anyone here give me some better words to explain non binary / agender identity
I was born and raised in Australia, I live here but I don't identify as Australian. My passport says "Australian" but I can't tell you what it feels like to be 'Australian'
How do i come out as a nonbinary to my parents? Most of Russian people are homophobic and it's disappointing..I'm Muslim and there are no people in our nation who knows about LGBTQ+..Please help me 😔😔
Make sure you’re in a safe space, check you have somewhere to go to in risk of getting kicked out or possibly harmed by those in your town, physically or verbally. I’m not out either but I know it’ll come to us when the time is right. It might be better to wait until you can move out, Gate a job or something. As for saying it I’m useless at helping there but don’t rush into anything, maybe start to subtly bring it up in conversations or ask their opinions on it to make sure you’re safe.
I just want to say you make really awesome videos. I'm a straight male, but I've been looking at different videos about gender topics for awhile now trying to understand my sibling's situation a bit more. Your videos are literally the only ones I have found that are easy to watch and informative. Most videos I've seen have the subject complaining about society not accepting them or they have nothing but hate for the entire straight community. Your videos are a breath of fresh air. You have a positive attitude and seem to only be concerned with being a good person, which is all that matters to 99% of people. Thank you. Subscribed.
I hear you. But I reckon people want to know, how's it like to be questioned about something that is generally taken for granted? It's easier to roll with the punches than confront them. What if bringing up kids meant teaching them to question traditions and values? Wouldn't that prove wheather we're going the right way, or if we're right to question them?
Sabu Mafu It's such a sad thing people like you search te internet for things you don't even care about, things you hate, just to spread more hate in the comment sections. If you don't like what you see: that's fine, but don't bring other people down just because you can't deal with things.
Homer Actually, they do. sitn.hms.harvard.edu/flash/2016/gender-lines-science-transgender-identity/ www.psychologytoday.com/articles/201503/none-the-above I refuse to get sources from things like Huffington post or news unless it's straight up from scientist, most are opinionated. Here's some more: www.nationalgeographic.com/magazine/2017/01/how-science-helps-us-understand-gender-identity/ www.academia.edu/32095969/Are_non-binary_people_like_both_men_and_women_A_brief_study_of_semi-_structured_interviews_of_college_students_to_compare_binary_people_against_non-binary_people
How does it feel to be blonde? Funny u said that, Psychologist say the brain is wired for revelation… st least part of the feeling Of being blonde (as a woman) is the sensation of getting more attention.
I find it creepy that you already know. like, i picture you going through her youtube channel, and findign the one video, where she posted to this random person, that she pefers her/she pronouns.
I'm sorry if you've already answered this in a past video but how do you personally define your sexual orientation as a non-binary person? (I realise bi/pan could still apply so this question may not be relevant but I don't know what your orientation is so don't want to assume) or do you prefer not to use labels? How do you navigate this?
Ashley Wylde I'd love to see that video. I think identifying as non-binary suddenly puts a magnifying glass on how a lot of the labels we have for sexuality are very limiting
Well said: nobody feels like a woman or a man, we all feel like ourselves. We learn about feelings by comparing them with other feelings: one feels sick, because one knows how it feels to be OK and in comparison feeling sick feels uncomfortable, plus it is connected to the reality of experiencing physical problem and distress; one feels sad because it feels different from feeling happy or angry etc, and it happens in context of experiencing loss or another sad event. However, when it comes to feeling certain sex/gender, we do not have anything to compare our present experience to: nobody had experience of feeling like a woman and feeling like a man at some point in their life, so then they can say: "I remember how it feels to be a woman, that is the way I feel" and decide the are a woman, or the other way 'round. We do have experiences and feelings that happen due to having a body of a certain sex, so feeling as a certain sex/gender could be defined as experience of having a body of a certain sex. Hence the nonsense of a man feeling like a woman without ever experiencing a second of having a female body or function of a female body: how on earth would they know that what they are feeling is "feeling like a woman" when they never had an experience of having a female body... You call yourself "non-binary" because you are confused that you do not feel like a woman or like a man, well nobody does. However we accept the reality of being a woman or a man based on having experiences of our sexed bodies. Why is that difficult for you to accept and why do you feel like you are something different and "special" in comparison to majority of people is rahter interesting...
You don't get it don't you? It's not that we feel special... There are different undercategories of non binary. We're not confused. It's unfortunately the truth that appearance considers how we act with other people. I was treated too much like that because of my appearance.
Thank you I really need that as a nonbinary person thank you an amazing person please keep making videos I greatly appreciate it and I greatly appreciate you have an amazing day 💛🤍💜🖤
(NO HOMOPHOBIA IN MY REPLYYYYSS) I hate being a woman I hate it I hate it I hate it, but sometimes I feel more feminine. Is there a term for non binary and woman gender fluid if not I just call it “Non binfemal”
so if you look like a guy, and i say 'hey man', what would ur reaction be? if you don't think you're a man? if your gender isn't defined by the way you look/your physiology, and is in your head, is it someone else's fault if they get this wrong? after all, they can't see your thoughts. also, does sexual preference play a part in gender? some people say bisexual is a 'gender', when it's not.
newy kidude Being accidentally misgendered by someone who doesn't know your gender identity is completely fine. It's deliberate misgendering that's hurtful. Also no, sexuality and gender are not the same. Where did you find people saying this?
Epicki Rekinóż Exactly. Other people’s opinions or misgenderings shouldn’t hold any weight in how people identify. That’s like saying somebody with glasses who’s seen as smart due to glasses being associated with intelligence should automatically be as intelligent as others think the person is.
Here's the thing, 2 nites ago my child came out to me as nonbinary. Bravo!!! 👏🏿 But now I want to understand them for who they are and to me that means putting myself in their shoes. Do they have romantic feelings I think is the question. At least it's mine, because for me being a female is sooooo closely linked to my breasts and vagina as I've given birth and have sustained life with them and the joy they've given me!! How then does a nonbinary person feel about themselves when it come to sexual awareness, may be the better question. Do they love their parts, hate their parts or sometimes both. I mean we all pee for example, so does that feel uncomfortable for the person when they're using the bathroom or get their period or wake up with an erection? And of course you feel normal because you are. But this will be a journey for us both and I promised them I'd do my research so it's not ALL on them. Helpful constructive responses only pls.
It's so stereotypical. Okay, so if you have short hair you're a boy? If you dress like a dude you're a dude? No. Back in the day they just called it a tomboy. I wore boy shorts yesterday, am I a boy? No. I'm a girl. Okay, bye.
Emily listen non binary people simply just prefer to not be referred to as a boy or a girl. I'm non binary, as a kid I didn't really feel like a girl or a boy and now I'm neither.
Being a tomboy has NOTHING to do with your gender identity. Tomboys dont feel like males they just act or dress boyish. Im nonbinary but ALWAYS felt like I was male and female.
The only point I would have to make about this stuff is that the entire concept of "binary" in the first place is made up by those wanting to dispute the "binary". There are NO people who conform exactly to the "binary", and no one is asking anyone to do so. It has ALWAYS been this way, so all these people acting like they are in some state of "discovery" because they want to take Generalized Stereotypes of "man" and "woman" or "male and "female", then say, well I don't fit either one of those exactly, so I an "non-binary". It really is best described by a word that would trigger certain people. I see it more like you came here with a certain avatar to play this game. Now you want to "Kobayashi Maru" the game. I don't care what anyone does with themselves, be happy. But, just like children that grow up seeing and hearing domestic violence, have a bigger chance of growing up to be abusers, those that grow up with this toxic stuff being fed into their heads are more likely to THINK they are confused to an extent they do irreparable harm to themselves. Especially if you add in a healthy dose of co-morbid conditions, including a hefty dose of narcissism. So, of course, it feels like being a person, that's what being a person feels like - man or woman or whatever. You young people really, really need to go do something for those less fortunate than yourselves and put some things into perspective. You think about YOURSELVES way, way too much. Go join the Peace Corps or something and go see some stuff that will put your narcissistic musings in their place.
all it means.. is that you don't buy into the gender social roles and expectations. You're still female. And that should be okay. Your innate gender doesn't define you. your personality traits do. You seem really cool.. However you do you.. thats the most important thing.
dude, if you have gender dysphoria, it doesn't actually matter how you identify, it's logic, gender dysphoria is what impulses you to transition to any gender
So I KNOW for a fact I’m not a girl And some days I think yeah I’m totally a trans guy other days I’m like well maybe I’m not idk what I am?? And I get jealous of both genders like I look at a girl and say I want to look like her and look at a boy and say I want to look like him and I think I’m denying the fact that I’m non-binary
i strongly believe that cisgender people dont think "oh i feel male" or "oh i feel female" either tho.. they just feel like themselves! and that is why they can have a hard time understanding how a transgender person might feel. cisgender people may enjoy things that are feminine or things that are masculine, but they feel like a normal person. it is only when your gender does not match your body that you notice something is wrong and it is uncomfortable. that being said i believe in 2 genders, male and female. your body may be male, your gender may be female or vise versa, i believe transgender people exist. i believe "non-binary" is basically a cisgender person who does not want to play a gender role and would like to challenge gender beliefs. a "non-binary" person may like masculine or feminine things but they are male or female either way.
Thomas White as an agender person that isn't true. Sometimes I'll lay in bed crying because I have breasts and a vagina and it feels so wrong but I know I would also hate having a dick. I feel strongly that I am none of those things, and it doesn't have to do with people forcing gender roles on me. I do get pissed when people say stuff like "women being blah blah blah" though lol. I don't feel normal at all. TBH I've known since I was 7 that my gender didn't match my sex. I've just always either denied it or thought "well I'm always gonna be a girl so oh well".
Thomas White I just want you to understand that it's the same as wanting to be male or female except that it may be harder to figure out and understand sorry if my paragraphs are kinda loose but I'm bad at explaining things lol
@@dollardays1165 You don't mind your clitoris then? There’s nothing wrong with no liking having certain body parts. Just living your life without focusing on gender makes it easier.
I have a question that I cannot find ANYWHERE on the web. I am a biological male but I identify more as non-binary. I dont wanna transition to female, even tho im more femm leaning, but having testosterone just makes me so upset and I dont even think it should but it does. I dont want estrogen either bc I dont want boobs and I'm fine with my male parts, but would i be able to get hormone blockers? or would I not be allowed since I don't plan on transitioning to female?
Your just a feminine male and there is nothing wrong with identifying as your birth sex. A lot of feminine boys feel and have felt the same way you have and it's nothing to be ashamed of. Feminine boys are awesome and there is no need to change your body, especially when you don't want to. There's an influx lot of confusing information out there by disingenuous people. Who will make you believe your something your not. Be true to you.
Social Media Warrior I don't need to be a therapist to know this kid isn't trans. There's a lot of males who are hella feminine. That doesn't mean they are transgender. Everyone wants to be Trans these days and god forbid if your not.
Ezra Lee It's pretty arrogant to decide for someone else what they are or aren't. You're not them, Ashley or anyone else so this is all pretty weird. You are right that there are feminine men and masculine women but non binary goes deeper than that. But you don't seem to be a open minded person so all of this is probably just bullshit to you. Anyway. You do you and let others be themselves
I am no. Gender i like all genders im a lot of genders so im not a gender IM A PERSON WHO HAS FEELINGS AND CHOOSES WHAT THEY WANN BE I LIKE TO BE A PERSON FREE I DONT LIKE PEOPLE TELLING ME WHAT TO DO OR WEAR IM A NO GENDER AND IM HAPPY!!
denoting or relating to a gender or sexual identity that is not defined in terms of traditional binary oppositions such as male and female or homosexual and heterosexual.
EXACTLY! All of my friends keep asking me how it feels to not be a man or a woman and just feels like nothing. It feels normal to me. Exactly how Ashley described it.
I hate comment sections on things like these videos. They make me feel worthless.
vine queen ikr but hey I’ve got your back
Yeah, they suck. But I'm also non-binary and I know that you have worth and aren't alone in your feelings, so that means I do too. It's hard to accept, but it really is better to be hated for what you are than loved for what you're not. I know your comment is a year old already lol but I felt the need to reply anyway. 💛💜🖤 -Elliot
Don’t listen to them, always just be you ☝🏼 I know how it is though
Alx I understand what you’re saying, but personally I believe that those types of comments are more harmful than positive. All it does is undermine someone’s Identity because they don’t understand, or never had the experience themselves. If they approached their beliefs differently then it wouldn’t be an issue. It’s not saving people, it’s hurting them. I wouldn’t be glad if someone told me that my identity is fake because they don’t agree or understand it. Think of it the other way around. Everyone’s logic and ideals differ, that’s what makes us unique.
Alx I definitely agree with you on staying true with your identity, and acknowledging that we’re all unique from the labels society places on us. But how we define gender is internal, regardless of how we choose to express it. You could just not fit in the roles of the stereotypical man or woman, but there are true nonbinary and trans individuals out there. It is the mind and soul that defines our being, not the external appearance of our perceived gender. Yes, there are two sexes, but there are also some intersex people who even identify as nonbinary. Gender is defined by how we see ourselves, just like a cisgender man can wear a dress, a trans man can wear a dress. We’re not adopting new identities because society won’t let us be our own version of a man or woman, but it is the fact that we do not identify exclusively as a man or woman. Not from our appearance, but our core sense of self. You’re right, labels don’t matter, so why should we have to define by one at all? Because of our sex? Telling someone to face reality is harmful, because your version of the truth is being enforced on those who believe differently. That’s great that you’re cool with yourself, so use this time to encourage others to feel the same regardless of how they identify.
I'm not sure if I'm nonbinary, but I think I might be...
I love your username, and I support you no matter what your gender is.🙂🙂
lol don't confuse yourself
Wrenn Mitchell same :p
First of all, ignore the haters. This comment section is full of them. Beyond that, take your time with this and learn to trust your intuitions. You're the only one who can really know your own authentic gender identity. Whatever that identity might be, know that you are valid, and that there is a lot of acceptance and support out there.
You know, the way gender non-binary is described makes it likely that almost every person in the world is non-binary. The soul has no sex or gender, only the body does. So, if you aren't constantly saying to yourself: "I'm a man, I'm a man, I'm a man," or "I'm a woman, I'm a woman, I'm a woman," you are like 99% of people in the world and you don't think your gender dictates every action of every second of your life.
"Shoes I can afford" haha yes I feel ya!
I had been non-binary since August. I figured out that I wanted to wear more likely boyish clothes than girl. I’m not much a girly girl, but I am interested into cosplaying, having a life as a female, but as male it doesn’t feel right. I am a female, but not male. My 3 best friends (who are girls) are non-binary and I accept that. I’m non-binary and bisexual and I feel great about that.
Lurchipoo | nah bro. haters are gonna hate lmao
Lurchipoo | Okay. Us gay people fight for our rights to get what we want. Black lives fight for rights to get what they want. You wouldn’t care because you think I am a kid when I’m not. So get yourself new ass phone you stupid android user and try again. Just sounds you’re transphobic and homophobic person. You think you’re so cool because you’re white and saying n word makes you better. So, your insults don’t effect me sweetheart.
Have a nice day.
How is your fashion sense part of your gender? I am kinda confused
I like your pfp :D
So feel this I wanna be a girl but I wanna be a guy but I wanna be nothing and I am all of it at the same time
The love for Pokemon is one thing every letter in LGBTQ can agree on.
I'm not particularly fond of Pokemon lol
really sorry about all the hateful ignorance youve gotten on this video, but i just wanted to say i really liked it and really liked how you described that being nonbinary doesnt necessarily feel like anything, it just feels like being a person. so thank you : )
spazzrazkid thank you for being a good person 😇
I think people were wondering more like.... what's the difference between being nonbinary and being a dude or a chick? There must be a difference or else you wouldn't feel the need to choose nonbinary over either chick or dude.
What I'm curious about is, what's the difference between a gender nonconforming dude or chick and a nonbinary/agender person? Could these separate terms actually describe roughly the same phenomenon?
To the horrible people in the comments: please stop being so mean! If you're just here to spread hate, it's not okay! Just leave us alone to do our thing.
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Thank you!
Thank you for being a good person hope you have a lovely life 😇
Sorry, bro. You need to use that brain of yours and just admit that you are a specific gender, male or female. I’m fine with every other LGBTQ+ out there, but not you guys because you have no logic!
Hi, I found this video because I'm trying to understand the mindset of trans/non-binary people, because I'm neither of these and therefore don't have a direct understanding of it.
As a biological male, I don't really feel like I identify as any particular gender, whether that's male or female, neither, or some combination in between. I don't feel the need to identify as anything, so when people say they identify as non-binary (as in this case), I'm looking to find what they feel when they KNOW in their own identity that they are non-binary.
Myself, I feel like I have a fair few feminine traits, but I can also see the masculine traits I have. I'm not very masculine for a biological male, but I wouldn't say that I'm non-binary or trans-female, I'm just a male who has some feminine traits...
In short, I would say my sex is "Male", and my gender is "I don't really care?"
Do non-binary people also "not really care" about their gender? And if so, why do they identify as such? Is not caring about your gender identity where the difference lies?
I really want to understand this so if anyone here is non-binary or understands it better I'd love to hear what you have to say.
SAME, you just put all my questions into words.
Everyone’s experience is different since some experience dysmorphia and/or dysphasia.
Personally for me it’s a feeling of being trapped, presenting typically masculine and feminine didn’t and still doesn’t feel right. I felt and still feel trapped and when I see myself in the mirror thoughts overwhelm my head saying ‘you look like a girl’ ‘what’s wrong with your chest, it should be flat’ ‘your hands are delicate and everyone says they look like a princesses’. I talked to a friend who’s ftm (assigned female at birth and is transitioning to male) and he started to use they/them and a neutral name ‘chai’. It felt right which helped with a type of dysphasia I found to be called ‘social dysphoria’
I think it’s amazing how you want to look into these things but I feel like I need to say don’t use my experience for everyone’s. Nonbinary is an umbrella term so people experience it differently!
@@blorp444 dysmorphia is seeing a flaw and obsessing about it. Dysphagia is difficulty swallowing. The word is gender dysphoria-incongruence with ones sex assigned at birth. Trans people can have dysmorphia and dysphoria or just dysphoria or neither I guess.
For me it’s wanting to neutral. I want to be seen as a boy or a girl really. I understand that i have a biological sex, but it just doesn’t “click” with me. Like it’s just about my body parts rather than me as a person. I want to be free from the gender norms and being nonbinary is my way for that. Kinda like that
my mom just told me I am female and I can't change that and thinks I just want attention I am non binary and my mom won't except it I thought she did but apparently she doesn't and that is the hardest part cause she is the most important person to me
Fortunately shes is telling you the truth and trying to help you.
Luckily, self-dependency in the future means her opinion and/or acceptance of your gender identity will remain perfectly irrelevant.
C a m that isn't true. Nonbinary people including myself are valid.
Yeah, my mom is toxic as all hell too. I know that it hurts. I know that you don't want it to hurt as much as it does.
I mean, she's just a person. She doesn't have the power to dictate who you are. Her words are just words. But it hurts so much anyway.
Her words make you question who you are, and who you want to be, and make you feel like you're maybe making it up, but you're not. You know you're not. But it affects you more than you want it to anyway.
You aren't alone. You are going to be okay. Try to cultivate friends that will support and affirm you. Try to get to counseling
i support you 100%
the hate on this is shit. power to you fellow nb human bean
Siv Greyson I was also waiting for a nice comment in this hating shitstorm that this comment section under the vid is :)
Saaaaaaaame. Like.. what kind of question is that, even :P I tend to just shrug and reflect the question back at them, "I don't know, how does it feel to be cis?". Not in a rude way, obviously, but it does get the message across that being non-binary isn't something you "become", it's something you've always been and perhaps only recently discovered about yourself. For people wondering, to me it was kind of like having someone dye your hair all your life without you knowing it, and without you necessarily feeling bad about the colour of your hair. Until at some point you realise that you have a different hair colour, which is also a really nice one. You're self-conscious about it for a while, and people will ask you if you've dyed your hair, but after a while it'll just become normal and people will have adjusted.
I LOVE the hair dying metaphor!!! Beautiful!
Ashley Wylde Glad you like it! It's worked for me when trying to explain this sort of thing to cis people and binary trans people :)
Marjan Van Esbroeck To ask "how does it feel to be CIS" You would have to explain what that was also. As most would have no clue what the fuck you are talking about. It is not an unreasonable question, "are you boy or girl?" In fact, it is the only way of knowing how you identify yourself. A better way to handle the question would be to explain it in a polite manner. Even then most will be confused. If so move on! As most don't really know about this multiple gender identity bs. Or care. If you are offended by the question "are you boy or girl?" Tuff luck, you'll have to deal with it.
As a middle aged lesbian, I find the "cis" crap a total insult. It's like you don't want to be labelled, so you then give labels to people who identify with their body. I don't want to be known as a "cis" lesbian. It's just ridiculous. What is wrong with identifying with the genitalia you've been given?? Or, if you feel the opposite sex, then transition! Sorry, but this gives me the shits. Life is already complicated enough without making it even harder for yourself and those around you.
TheViolentTeddy It is rather amazing, how these kids hate labels, yet try so desperately to identify as one. Then get the shits, when people get the "pronoun" wrong? Dress like a girl, look like a boy then get offended if some one asks for clarity? Like putting 2 shovels against a wall and tell the Irish man to take a pick.
I first saw myself as genderfluid, because I really didn't wholly connect myself with my sex. Sure, people say tomboyish, and though I rather not choose to use that word I stuck with it. I still hold on to my sex identity (female) but in a way, I didn't feel a fluidity for my gender. And I know it has nothing to do with how I present myself as a person, but I sometimes felt like i didn't belong when I was with other girls. I started hanging out with more kids in high school who were LGBT+ and discovered that by the influence of my family, I became anxious around them? I wasn't comfortable telling anyone of the same sex compliments, I didn't let any girl touch me (hug, hold hands) and I always thought of myself as coming off as gay. I'm no longer like this, as I underatand now that it's okay to compliment girls and hold hands with them and such. I didn't have feelings for any of my friends, so I passed that point. I already discovered my sexual identity.
Then I started rethinking what I identified as, because after coming out to my brother as genderfluid, my mind made me second guess. I had little to no understanding of genderfluidity, but I thought it matched how I felt, when in reality it didn't. So I thought Demi-Girl matched me more. I think it does in a sense, but then I started to think about if I was on the gender spectrum at all. Sure I had my feminine features and biological parts, but in my mind and heart, i knew I wasn't "all woman". i know it hasn't anything to do with shaving or the clothes I wear, but I also didn't feel the need to be as feminine as my mind told me to be. And seeing and knowing so many enby people already, I kind of felt like I was comfortable with them more? I mean I do feel comfortable with anybody, but just being around someone enby made me feel glee. A year or so ago I would sometimes accidentally misgender someone who would say otherwise, but I always tried my best to correct myself. Now I understand a lot better even though my family are "supporters of LGBT"
Now i think demi/enby fits me best because even though I "act masculine" and "look feminine" I don't feel comfortable saying I have this male presence about my self. I would rather go by she/they because even though I don't feel 100 percent like a woman, I don't think I fit with being labeled with masculine pronouns.
So I don't know what I am but hopefully I can find a name for it. Or heck maybe my mind is just telling me these things to make me question myself. Hopefully I'll figure it out.
I have just recently come to accept the fact that I'm non binary. I'm AFAB and thought I was a binary trans man and started to medically transition until that began to feel just as bad as when I was trying to be a binary woman. Allowing myself to just be me and not try to force myself into a binary box has been an absolute relief. You put it perfectly, I just feel normal now. I used to wake up every day dreading another day of being uncomfortable in the binary boxes I forced on myself. Now it's not even a thought, it's no longer a "chore" to be who I am because it comes naturally. Thanks for making this video. I know it's almost 3 years old but I appreciate coming across it exactly when I needed it most.
Yes!! I'm AFAB too and I kept trying to put myself into this binary box, where "hey if you're not a girl then you have to be a guy", and none of it felt right. I felt squished, trying to be who I'm not no matter what route I took. I'm too young (late teens) and closeted to go through transitioning, but as soon as I can I'll start properly binding rather than wearing layers of clothes and maybe have top surgery if I feel comfortable with it. It's so reassuring to find videos like this that help me feel less like some weird loner that just needs to "choose a side". I'm super happy that you feel confident with being nonbinary, and I'm hoping one day I'll be able to express myself how I want and feel comfortable in my body and identity like you, rather than forcing myself into a box for fear of outing myself.
CrankyGames Howell so glad you’re figuring stuff out too and getting more comfortable with yourself. I’m 28 and still putting it together so no stress, you have lots of time. Good luck with your journey of self love and discovery ☺️☺️☺️
Awh, I’m happy you found yourself and are now feeling better! I wish you the best confidence and validation because you deserve it hun
Thank you for this video and thank you for simply being you. I've struggled with answering this question whenever people asked it of me and this answer really resonated with me. Thank you, Ashley!
Alx wow, you literally comment your bigotry on every single response. Congratulations my dude 👍🏼
Jeff Miller hey man, always be yourself 😊
Feeling non-binary to me: It's like I am not really a person. I'm doing person things but I don't really feel like i am. Like saying 'I am washing the dishes' its like I am but i don't feel like its me doing it. I feel like a ghost sort of in my own life. And sometimes when I wake up and I drink coffee and I get dressed and put on a dress and makeup I feel a little more real. Then about halfway through the day I go back to that ghostly existence. Then ill look at myself in the mirror and feel disgusted by being in a dress like its a costume im wearing so ill bind my chest and wear baggy clothes and ill be like okay I feel a bit more real now I feel more authentic to myself. but after a while it's back to that ghostly feeling. im living but I don't feel like a person. People know who they are, they feel comfortable being who they are. A cis person says "I am Amber, I am a cis female, I am a person" a trans person says "I am Kyle, I am a transgender ftm, I am a person" and they know that's what they are but for me it's like. "I'm Amy, no wait I'm Lyar no wait Im both no wait am I neither, I am a male and a female but im also neither but I also don't feel like I have a gender but I also feel like im completely one gender but I also feel completely the other gender but" you know? It's like how can you be a person when you feel like you are one soul trapped in one body but your one soul was made of seven other souls being forced to combine into one. And sometimes I will be talking and suddenly my voice is deeper and I cant change it back. It's almost like when a person with DID switches personalities. But I am every personality. It's very overwhelming and confusing. One minute I look down at my body and go yeah this feels right I can do this I can be normal and then a minute goes by and I look down and im like wait no this isn't right. I shouldn't have boobs, I shouldn't have long hair (which I don't anymore) this isn't how my body should be this isn't right i am trapped in a body that isn't right. (body dysmorphia) and sometimes I do think about it and I wish I was either trans or Cis because it would be easier to understand who I am. Itd be easier to explain. Itd be easier to feel like a person. But that's not how my brain is. I'm not trans. I'm not Cis. I don't even know if I am gender binary. But I am 20 years old and the first time I remember looking down at my body and thinking this isn't right. I am a boy why do people keep calling me a girl, was when I was 6 years old. I've felt this way for over 14 years of my life. But because people are just figuring out what other options there are than cis or trans, I will always be labeled as a trender because I didn't know the word for what I am until it became "popular" to be this way. It is not fun to live your life not feeling like a person. I don't know why anyone would want to be a gender that is constantly told that they aren't valid, they don't exist, they are just doing it for attention. And the only people that others focus on in the non-binary group are the crazy ones who actually are trenders. Because it isn't fun to ask somebody what being non feels like and for them to say "It feels like Im living normal life" its more ENTERTAINING to them to have the answer be "it feels like i am a cat"
I'd also like to add that she/him/them is used because i don't always feel cis or feel more male or inbetween. It changes a lot which is why its so hard to explain. Ive never been called they/them so that is very overwhelming thinking about being called it. I think its confusing for other people too. But that's just how it is for me
I really hope you find yourself and are comfortable soon. Have you tried gender therapy? They may be able to put a word on what you’re feeling and help you find yourself, if you want a label or not. Remember, you don’t always need a label to know yourself, gaining confidence will be hard but once you do you’ll be able to confidently say ‘I am -insert name-. This is how I feel and this is who I am.’
thank u for that. I struggle with the answer of this question anytime 😂 it feels like idk, I'm a human..nothing special 😂
“Probably lretty much the same as it feels to be you”
Excellent answer. Thank you for this video
I figured out that I'm non-binary after I spent a year living as a transgender woman. It felt rather freeing at first, but as time went on, I began to realise that there were things about being a man that I liked and being the complete opposite felt just as wrong as being a man. Then my doctor suggested that I might be bigender. I think my doctor was right. Quite simply, I don't feel like I'm completely man or completely woman. And I think it's great now that I know about non-binary genders, because I can just be however I want. I don't have to fit into a stereotype. Nobody can pressure me into changing by telling me that girls do that. I just don't care. Yes girls do that. So do I. The most difficult thing for me as a non-binary person is deciding what to wear, because I could wear literally anything. Now that the weather is warming up here in Australia, I'm thinking about wearing skirts again like I did when I tried going as a woman. They are really comfortable. Honestly, I don't know why men stopped wearing them. But I want to try wearing skirts in a slightly more masculine way since I've decided against medically transitioning. I still feel mostly like I'm a woman, but a woman with a male body who has the ability to do anything a man can. I often think of it like what would a woman do if she woke up in a male body. I imagine she would still like the same things, but she might also enjoy the abilities to pee standing up and to lift heavy things and of course all the fun things that men can do. I can actually do more things that I like by not changing my body. So I guess I'm a transwoman who is happy with my male body. I'm not sure. But I know I enjoy mixing gendered things together to make my own way of life. So I'm definitely on the non-binary spectrum somewhere. I'm kinda gender fluid. sometimes I think of myself as a nonconforming man. Other times I think of myself as a woman with a male body. Nothing really changes besides my attitude. Apparently being autistic can cause people to not associate strongly with gender, which probably has a lot to do with it in my case. I was diagnosed quite late when I was 36, so I struggled my entire life. A big issue for me was when I started school and suddenly had the gender binary forced on me. I couldn't understand it and I didn't like it, but I learnt how to do it right. Literally everybody would tell me if I made a mistake with that. But now apparently society has finally caught up and figured out that not everyone wants to live like that and the world is better when everyone is happy. Well it's not quite there yet, but I'm glad it's heading that direction and I'm glad to be part of making the change.
idk about all these terms but honestly i think non-binary is not a physical thing , its more like a psychological thing.It's about our freedom to have our own preferences, whether if it's in clothes , the way we look , the type of aesthetic things we like or what type of coffee we prefer.
Because honestly if you think about , the way people dress is just a thing.There's no correct way to how a person should dress for a certain event or occasion.So it's okay for someone to dress like the opposite gender because they just like it.
I'm not sure if you guys get it but I'm just explaining how i really feel.
2 months ago I realized that I am non-binary, well actually I already knew for a long time but I didn’t have it that clear as I do now I always felt like there was something different about me because I never felt identified as a woman, I believed that I could be everything I wanted and get dress with anything kind of clothes that make me happy no matter if it was boy or girl
Me, who is pretty sure they never felt gender in their entire life at this point:
Thank you so much for this! It's like "How does it feel to be human?" I mean it's such a strange question to have asked! I was just thinking about that this morning.
Currently accepting this about myself and learning how to understand it. ❤️
I've been through the LGBTQ rollercoaster of questioning my gender and I know now I feel most comfortable with nonbinary.
Nailed it on the head.. at the end of the day, its still me.. I just turned 50 this year.. took me many years to figure out I was 'nonbinary'.. when I first started this journey of identity, these terms weren't even coined yet..
I'm trying to figure out if I'm not binary. All I know is that I was born a female, identify as a female, and I am lesbian. I am *not* feminine. And if I am transgender (non binary) maybe I can understand myself a little better. I am not feminine and I don't think him\he pronouns fit. Your videos help me understand myself a little more, and help me know the signs you and other people had, to knowing you are non binary
Its crazy how similar we look. With brown hair, grey eyes.
How do I know the difference between severe body hatred/self loathing vs gender dysphoria?
Mya Maola try dressing as the gender you think you may want to be or just not wearing gender oriented clothes like hoodies and things like that, if that doesn’t make you feel better it’s probably self loathing and you need to see a therapist
That explained nothing tbh.
I'd like to see you try then.
Here: It has no meaning because its a nonsense result of post modernism.
milkshakes maybe there's nothing more to explain: go ask a mountain why it is.
milkshakes and looking at your attempt to explain, clearly that's hostile rather than open and reveals that the initial comment had no point whatsoever in terms of society and/via you as an individual coming to terms with us as an existing set of people, it was just sealioning.
But it is kinda interesting why you would do that. Would you be able to outline what you were actually looking for, whether that was the point of your comments or not?
We are individuals. We don't fit into stereotypes. Creating more labels is not the solution. Insisting that people know you as an individual is the key.
This was amazing. I love how you came across in such a matter-of-fact way to simplify it for us - those of us who are expecting something big and significant - just to tell us that it feels like being who we already are, day to day.
As someone who recently hatched, and exploring everything I can about being an enby, I really appreciate this video, and your content. Thank you for making me smile
I just came across your channel, and I want to thank you so much for making the videos you make.
I have been going through what I thought was an identity crises for a few months now, it is getting so bad Im going back to thinking suicidal thoughts again.
I wake up everyday, and I just hate myself. I hate that I have to wear a bra and put on panties, when I just want to wear boxers like my boyfriend. I hate being addressed as a girl, it makes me feel bad about myself, but it upsets me when strangers mistake me for a boy. Its all a big confusing mess, but your videos gave me something to relate to, and now I dont feel like something is wrong with me. I can understand who I am a bit more.
Thank you so so so much!!
Keep being you and keep being awesome!
Which Spanish translation of nonbinary would you like to go by? No binaria or no binario? Masculine or feminine? I'll wait...
Feels like im both a boy and girl at the same time and it's very conflicting. 🙄
Hey, @A. Wylde thank you for the smile, the support and kindness
Hope your week goes well and stay safe amd healthy!
Thank you so much for this video! IT helped me to realize that I am gender nonbinary. But, I noticed I have more going on than just that.
I recently realized I am species non-binary. Sometimes I feel like a human, while other days I feel like one of a variety of different animals. Sometimes my species changes several times a day.
For instance, this morning I woke up at and used the toilet, took a shower, brushed my teeth, and got dressed, which are all human things, so I was a human. But, then I brushed my hair while I whistled along to a song I heard on the radio, so I realized I was basically pruning myself and chirping like a bird, so I became a bird trapped in a human body. Then I ate a banana and I became an ape trapped in a human body. Then I ate some peanuts and felt bloated, and blew my nose, so I became an elephant trapped in a human body. Then I started whistling to the song from the radio that was stuck in my head again. So, once again I became a bird trapped in a human body! Once I started to think about how I was a bird I got the urge to fly, opened a window to my apartment (I live on the third floor), and I jumped out and attempted to fly. But unfortunately, I became a dense concrete block trapped in a human body and I crashed to the ground and crushed practically every bone in my body! So, currently, I'm an idiot trapped in the body of a hospitalized invalid.
What.... the.... fuck? Please tell me you are joking. Please
I don’t understand how it my feel like to be non binary or understand it; however I respect your position and feelings. You should be treated with respect and dignity just like everyone else. Remember God loves you as well. John 3:16.
Argh! I'm trying to figure out if I'm non-binary or not! Can anyone just give me anecdotes about what they experienced that made them go "wait a second"?
Cuz like, I liked girly things and swishy dresses when I was under 7 years old, and then from about 7-11 I kept saying that I wanted to be a boy, and then when I was 11 my mom wanted me to be more fem, so she complimented me, and told me I looked nicer and thinner when I dressed more fem (I never got compliments from my mom about anything, so in order to please my mom I wore fem clothes). Now I keep feeling like I'm in drag every time I get gussied up in high-fem outfits. I mean, I sometimes like putting on dresses, but it feels like a character. But I don't know if I feel like a full-on guy. What does feeling like a guy even feel like?
I mean, I like some things about being a girl, but I also don't want to pretend that I care about things or am good at things that I'm simply not.
Example: I like having the freedom to wear skirts or not. I don't like that I have to pretend to understand emotions, and am expected to know how to cope with other people's emotions. I like being able to compliment people of my same gender without having to say 'no homo but-' first. I would like to not be socially expected to care about my appearance.
So what am I? How do I figure it out? I've already figured out I'm pansexual, but this is something that affects how I present myself, and how I understand myself. I can like guys, girls, or both and be the same person, but if I am a guy, girl, both, or neither, that changes who I am. Since gender is such a huge part of how we present ourselves to the world, this could change how I present to the outside world. Plus, people are weirdly less understanding of genderqueer folks than sexually queer folks... yikes!
I hope you’ve found yourself now but for me it kinda took a while...
I always felt uncomfortable using my name as it just wasn’t right, I tried a typically masculine nickname but that didn’t feel right so I gave up (this was a long time ago). Getting older I realised what I may be feeling and as I hit puberty I began to feel trapped and had thoughts of hiding my curves so stacked up tight sports bras and hoodies, heck I had a mental breakdown when I first got measured for a bra and didn’t know why I just said it didn’t feel right and I didn’t want to look this way. I started to present stereotypically masculine but after a while that didn’t feel correct, I was on social media and was thinking, oh she’s pretty or oh he looks nice but I knew I didn’t want to look like them. I then saw a picture of someone presenting androgynous, I tried it and it felt right. I spoke to my closest friend and he’s ftm and told him how I was feeling. He started using they/them for me and ‘chai’ as a neutral name.
What I’m trying to say is experimenting really helps
seeing people say "I just get to be me" confuses me
Because they are people who got hung up on gender and don't actually live life.
I am an intersex woman and this still did not answer the question I was born female and male at the same time I was assigned female at Birth and I still live as a woman but also as a man so please ask the question to an intersex person to truly understand what it feels like to be both genders at once and not a person who can only speak from one side of the gender story or the other because it degrades the experiences of inter people who have to live in this world as both genders at the same time
Now to truly answer the question it feels different unique and makes it hard to speak to your parents about puberty and makes you sometimes uncomfortable peeing in a lady's room
It doesn't feel like anything to be blond or have brown eyes because these are physical characteristics a difference in pigmentation, such differences can not be felt. Gender identity is not a physical difference. If it can not be felt in an individual does it exist in that individual? if so in what form?
Can someone please help? I don’t know if I’m non-binary or not. I don’t feel comfortable being considered a girl or a boy I’m fine with she/her pronouns but I think I like they them a bit better..? I don’t know I’m just so confused
It’s weird to me, its more like either being in drive or reverse, yet i’m in neutral. I feel as if I’m in a void with no path while everyone else does, that i’m the only one on my path.
I'm bi/pan and I think that i'm non binary
No, sorry. When your username is entirely feminine, you don’t even get to say this. I’m sorry, but it’s true.
@@andjohan what do you want me to change it to???? One of my OC's? (If i sound very mean im very sorry)
@@andjohan and btw your username is very masculine and your profile picture is very feminine. Thats the truth
Oh, and btw @Ki the goddess . If you’re to idiotic to realize what I meant, it targets you on your fake gender and how incredibly stupid you are for choosing this.
@@andjohan You don't get to decide someone's gender based off of a username, asshole. Get a life and stopping trying to make people feel bad for who they are.
Im a trans woman and I feel like I need a whole lecture to break down the gender construct to understand non binary. I dont think i can truly appreciate the spectrum with my binary idea of gender constructs. This is extremely difficult for me to grasp.
I know I am non binary I am so sur about this but I don't know how to explain that feeling to my cis friends. When I ask them how do u know your gender they have no clear answer but still they want a clear answer or they start invalidating my identity . Can anyone here give me some better words to explain non binary / agender identity
I was born and raised in Australia, I live here but I don't identify as Australian. My passport says "Australian" but I can't tell you what it feels like to be 'Australian'
#nonbinarypower
This was strangely reassuring. Thank you
I look like a typical ciswoman but still feel non-binary emotionally.
How do i come out as a nonbinary to my parents? Most of Russian people are homophobic and it's disappointing..I'm Muslim and there are no people in our nation who knows about LGBTQ+..Please help me 😔😔
Make sure you’re in a safe space, check you have somewhere to go to in risk of getting kicked out or possibly harmed by those in your town, physically or verbally. I’m not out either but I know it’ll come to us when the time is right. It might be better to wait until you can move out, Gate a job or something.
As for saying it I’m useless at helping there but don’t rush into anything, maybe start to subtly bring it up in conversations or ask their opinions on it to make sure you’re safe.
@@blorp444 thanks for advice ^^
I really appreciate it
No genders have a feeling how can you say I don’t feel like a boy or a girl when you never where one
This was a great video tbh, made me feel happy for some reason :D So thanks!
I just want to say you make really awesome videos. I'm a straight male, but I've been looking at different videos about gender topics for awhile now trying to understand my sibling's situation a bit more. Your videos are literally the only ones I have found that are easy to watch and informative. Most videos I've seen have the subject complaining about society not accepting them or they have nothing but hate for the entire straight community. Your videos are a breath of fresh air. You have a positive attitude and seem to only be concerned with being a good person, which is all that matters to 99% of people. Thank you. Subscribed.
I hear you. But I reckon people want to know, how's it like to be questioned about something that is generally taken for granted? It's easier to roll with the punches than confront them. What if bringing up kids meant teaching them to question traditions and values? Wouldn't that prove wheather we're going the right way, or if we're right to question them?
I think they mean how can you tell, not how does it feel.
I like you 100x better than Milo Stewart, thanks for sharing your perspective.
Liking piss more than turds is an accurate description, I guess
Well im a transguy.......But I dont feel quite right getting called he probaly because ive been called she my whole life :(
same, I feel so irritated. I don't know anymore what I should think.
If it doesn't "feel like anything" then how do you KNOW?
You know because “woman” and “man” feel like something, and that something is bad and doesn’t fit right.
Beautiful video! Loved every bit. 😁
How being non-binary feels to me? Wear a straitjacket for 20 years and then take it off. Nonbinary for me feels like life without that jacket
Ashley you're such an inspiration!
beau devisser for retarded people.
Sabu Mafu It's such a sad thing people like you search te internet for things you don't even care about, things you hate, just to spread more hate in the comment sections. If you don't like what you see: that's fine, but don't bring other people down just because you can't deal with things.
We are not retarted. It's just that our opinions are diffrent from yours. So don't be confused
Homer Actually, they do.
sitn.hms.harvard.edu/flash/2016/gender-lines-science-transgender-identity/
www.psychologytoday.com/articles/201503/none-the-above
I refuse to get sources from things like Huffington post or news unless it's straight up from scientist, most are opinionated.
Here's some more:
www.nationalgeographic.com/magazine/2017/01/how-science-helps-us-understand-gender-identity/
www.academia.edu/32095969/Are_non-binary_people_like_both_men_and_women_A_brief_study_of_semi-_structured_interviews_of_college_students_to_compare_binary_people_against_non-binary_people
Sabu Mafu fuck off
PREACH! this is so great!!
For the people who are fed up with Milo Stewart and think non binary is a myth... Please watch this lovely Person right here !
this does not answer it ...sorry to be a negative but as someone who truly trying to understand it ...."it feel normal"dont help?
Because its people thinking that gender limits you. When it doesn't. They are the only ones getting hung up on gender.
it feels like not understanding how X and Y chromosomes fucking work
How does it feel to be blonde? Funny u said that, Psychologist say the brain is wired for revelation… st least part of the feeling Of being blonde (as a woman) is the sensation of getting more attention.
I am Paramasculine, so I feel mostly Male and partially nonbinary. Specifically 80% M and 20% NB. Not genderfluid
What are your preferred pronouns?
Ashley's preferred pronouns are she/her
+Addison Parker thank you 😊
Thank you Addison!
I find it creepy that you already know. like, i picture you going through her youtube channel, and findign the one video, where she posted to this random person, that she pefers her/she pronouns.
Queerboy/ *~Snowflake~* / tumblr
I'm sorry if you've already answered this in a past video but how do you personally define your sexual orientation as a non-binary person? (I realise bi/pan could still apply so this question may not be relevant but I don't know what your orientation is so don't want to assume) or do you prefer not to use labels? How do you navigate this?
I identify as queer :] I might make a video in the future about this decision. It's a question I get often actually.
Ashley Wylde I'd love to see that video. I think identifying as non-binary suddenly puts a magnifying glass on how a lot of the labels we have for sexuality are very limiting
Fine point!
snapbacks suit you, Ash 😍❤️
Thank you!
Well said: nobody feels like a woman or a man, we all feel like ourselves.
We learn about feelings by comparing them with other feelings: one feels sick, because one knows how it feels to be OK and in comparison feeling sick feels uncomfortable, plus it is connected to the reality of experiencing physical problem and distress; one feels sad because it feels different from feeling happy or angry etc, and it happens in context of experiencing loss or another sad event.
However, when it comes to feeling certain sex/gender, we do not have anything to compare our present experience to: nobody had experience of feeling like a woman and feeling like a man at some point in their life, so then they can say: "I remember how it feels to be a woman, that is the way I feel" and decide the are a woman, or the other way 'round. We do have experiences and feelings that happen due to having a body of a certain sex, so feeling as a certain sex/gender could be defined as experience of having a body of a certain sex. Hence the nonsense of a man feeling like a woman without ever experiencing a second of having a female body or function of a female body: how on earth would they know that what they are feeling is "feeling like a woman" when they never had an experience of having a female body...
You call yourself "non-binary" because you are confused that you do not feel like a woman or like a man, well nobody does. However we accept the reality of being a woman or a man based on having experiences of our sexed bodies. Why is that difficult for you to accept and why do you feel like you are something different and "special" in comparison to majority of people is rahter interesting...
You don't get it don't you? It's not that we feel special... There are different undercategories of non binary. We're not confused. It's unfortunately the truth that appearance considers how we act with other people. I was treated too much like that because of my appearance.
Whoops, I just accidentally came out as a lesbian to some people in my class who will probably bully me for the rest of my life
I always wondered about this. You have explained it very well, thank you!
Thank you I really need that as a nonbinary person thank you an amazing person please keep making videos I greatly appreciate it and I greatly appreciate you have an amazing day 💛🤍💜🖤
Is expecting a wildly longer video. Wow
(NO HOMOPHOBIA IN MY REPLYYYYSS) I hate being a woman I hate it I hate it I hate it, but sometimes I feel more feminine. Is there a term for non binary and woman gender fluid if not I just call it
“Non binfemal”
[ *_Puppi Toga 12_* ] Demigirl, maybe.
so if you look like a guy, and i say 'hey man', what would ur reaction be? if you don't think you're a man?
if your gender isn't defined by the way you look/your physiology, and is in your head, is it someone else's fault if they get this wrong? after all, they can't see your thoughts.
also, does sexual preference play a part in gender?
some people say bisexual is a 'gender', when it's not.
newy kidude Being accidentally misgendered by someone who doesn't know your gender identity is completely fine. It's deliberate misgendering that's hurtful.
Also no, sexuality and gender are not the same. Where did you find people saying this?
Epicki Rekinóż Exactly. Other people’s opinions or misgenderings shouldn’t hold any weight in how people identify. That’s like saying somebody with glasses who’s seen as smart due to glasses being associated with intelligence should automatically be as intelligent as others think the person is.
*why do you look like danTDM lmao*
Here's the thing, 2 nites ago my child came out to me as nonbinary. Bravo!!! 👏🏿 But now I want to understand them for who they are and to me that means putting myself in their shoes. Do they have romantic feelings I think is the question. At least it's mine, because for me being a female is sooooo closely linked to my breasts and vagina as I've given birth and have sustained life with them and the joy they've given me!! How then does a nonbinary person feel about themselves when it come to sexual awareness, may be the better question. Do they love their parts, hate their parts or sometimes both. I mean we all pee for example, so does that feel uncomfortable for the person when they're using the bathroom or get their period or wake up with an erection? And of course you feel normal because you are. But this will be a journey for us both and I promised them I'd do my research so it's not ALL on them. Helpful constructive responses only pls.
It's so stereotypical. Okay, so if you have short hair you're a boy? If you dress like a dude you're a dude? No. Back in the day they just called it a tomboy. I wore boy shorts yesterday, am I a boy? No. I'm a girl. Okay, bye.
Emily listen non binary people simply just prefer to not be referred to as a boy or a girl. I'm non binary, as a kid I didn't really feel like a girl or a boy and now I'm neither.
Being a tomboy has NOTHING to do with your gender identity. Tomboys dont feel like males they just act or dress boyish. Im nonbinary but ALWAYS felt like I was male and female.
how do you feel male/female?
kuroichan101 So today I identify as a coffee
It doesn't matter what you felt like ; lawl. You are either a male or female biologically
You are such a great public speaker omg
A "great public speaker" describng normal life. No label or fuss needed.
The only point I would have to make about this stuff is that the entire concept of "binary" in the first place is made up by those wanting to dispute the "binary". There are NO people who conform exactly to the "binary", and no one is asking anyone to do so. It has ALWAYS been this way, so all these people acting like they are in some state of "discovery" because they want to take Generalized Stereotypes of "man" and "woman" or "male and "female", then say, well I don't fit either one of those exactly, so I an "non-binary". It really is best described by a word that would trigger certain people. I see it more like you came here with a certain avatar to play this game. Now you want to "Kobayashi Maru" the game. I don't care what anyone does with themselves, be happy. But, just like children that grow up seeing and hearing domestic violence, have a bigger chance of growing up to be abusers, those that grow up with this toxic stuff being fed into their heads are more likely to THINK they are confused to an extent they do irreparable harm to themselves. Especially if you add in a healthy dose of co-morbid conditions, including a hefty dose of narcissism. So, of course, it feels like being a person, that's what being a person feels like - man or woman or whatever. You young people really, really need to go do something for those less fortunate than yourselves and put some things into perspective. You think about YOURSELVES way, way too much. Go join the Peace Corps or something and go see some stuff that will put your narcissistic musings in their place.
So I searched on Google what it means when you're a girl and boy both but I got no results. :(
bi-gen·der
adjective
adjective: bigender
denoting or relating to a person whose sense of personal identity encompasses two genders.
all it means.. is that you don't buy into the gender social roles and expectations.
You're still female.
And that should be okay.
Your innate gender doesn't define you.
your personality traits do.
You seem really cool.. However you do you.. thats the most important thing.
I still don’t understand 😞
dude, if you have gender dysphoria, it doesn't actually matter how you identify, it's logic, gender dysphoria is what impulses you to transition to any gender
i was wondering what your girlfriend/boyfriend would refer to you as?
This is a pain to be honest, but mostly I use "partner" for this purpose
Ashley Wylde actually you can use Enbyfriend, Enby meaning NB for nonbinary
shes(they are lesbian)
So I KNOW for a fact I’m not a girl
And some days I think yeah I’m totally a trans guy other days I’m like well maybe I’m not idk what I am?? And I get jealous of both genders like I look at a girl and say I want to look like her and look at a boy and say I want to look like him and I think I’m denying the fact that I’m non-binary
From your answer it seems like you just don’t care about your gender in your daily life, not sure why would that be a non-binary.
i strongly believe that cisgender people dont think "oh i feel male" or "oh i feel female" either tho.. they just feel like themselves! and that is why they can have a hard time understanding how a transgender person might feel. cisgender people may enjoy things that are feminine or things that are masculine, but they feel like a normal person. it is only when your gender does not match your body that you notice something is wrong and it is uncomfortable. that being said i believe in 2 genders, male and female. your body may be male, your gender may be female or vise versa, i believe transgender people exist. i believe "non-binary" is basically a cisgender person who does not want to play a gender role and would like to challenge gender beliefs. a "non-binary" person may like masculine or feminine things but they are male or female either way.
Thomas White as an agender person that isn't true. Sometimes I'll lay in bed crying because I have breasts and a vagina and it feels so wrong but I know I would also hate having a dick. I feel strongly that I am none of those things, and it doesn't have to do with people forcing gender roles on me. I do get pissed when people say stuff like "women being blah blah blah" though lol. I don't feel normal at all. TBH I've known since I was 7 that my gender didn't match my sex. I've just always either denied it or thought "well I'm always gonna be a girl so oh well".
Thomas White I just want you to understand that it's the same as wanting to be male or female except that it may be harder to figure out and understand sorry if my paragraphs are kinda loose but I'm bad at explaining things lol
Lee Valentine YEESSSS.
There's no such thing as agender xd Biologically you are either male or female
Face the facts
@@dollardays1165 You don't mind your clitoris then? There’s nothing wrong with no liking having certain body parts. Just living your life without focusing on gender makes it easier.
I have a question that I cannot find ANYWHERE on the web. I am a biological male but I identify more as non-binary. I dont wanna transition to female, even tho im more femm leaning, but having testosterone just makes me so upset and I dont even think it should but it does. I dont want estrogen either bc I dont want boobs and I'm fine with my male parts, but would i be able to get hormone blockers? or would I not be allowed since I don't plan on transitioning to female?
Your just a feminine male and there is nothing wrong with identifying as your birth sex. A lot of feminine boys feel and have felt the same way you have and it's nothing to be ashamed of. Feminine boys are awesome and there is no need to change your body, especially when you don't want to. There's an influx lot of confusing information out there by disingenuous people. Who will make you believe your something your not. Be true to you.
Matt 도경수 and you won't be able to stay on blockers forever even if they let you which I doubt.
Ezra Lee omg are you a gender therapist?
Social Media Warrior I don't need to be a therapist to know this kid isn't trans. There's a lot of males who are hella feminine. That doesn't mean they are transgender. Everyone wants to be Trans these days and god forbid if your not.
Ezra Lee It's pretty arrogant to decide for someone else what they are or aren't. You're not them, Ashley or anyone else so this is all pretty weird. You are right that there are feminine men and masculine women but non binary goes deeper than that. But you don't seem to be a open minded person so all of this is probably just bullshit to you. Anyway. You do you and let others be themselves
I am no. Gender i like all genders im a lot of genders so im not a gender IM A PERSON WHO HAS FEELINGS AND CHOOSES WHAT THEY WANN BE I LIKE TO BE A PERSON FREE I DONT LIKE PEOPLE TELLING
ME WHAT TO DO OR WEAR IM A NO GENDER AND IM HAPPY!!
Biological genders: female male intersex it’s ok to change or be a boy/girl and non-binary is like being intersex so why isn’t that ok?
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Yessssss! Thank you! I always have to explain this to people and I have to use the eye color example, or height, or fingernail type . Lol
what does nonbinary mean?
Sabu Mafu lol
Clair Escobar I'm sorry for those two but nonbinary means you feel that you are not male or female
Clair Escobar nonbinary means you don't identify with any of the genders, not male, not female, and not both; basically genderless
@@sabumafu59 no it doesn't look it up 🤣
denoting or relating to a gender or sexual identity that is not defined in terms of traditional binary oppositions such as male and female or homosexual and heterosexual.
I think I might be nonbinary idk tho