You should talk about whatever you want. Everyone's opinions are valid, it's when we state them as facts that we disconnect with others. I hope everything stays well!
Ragefest 2000 I see what you are saying, but I would agree with Tay and her friends, to stay away from the political talk here and now. Especially since it’s HongKong, whatever she says, there are so many controversies that she could get herself into online, radicals from both sides would come for her, and believe me you don’t want that...I think she did the right thing to not talk about it, especially when she’s already so stressed about her personal life.
@@user-sp4iw8dn3l if its giving her anxiety to not talk about it like she says then she should. Personal views are fine if they are informed. I dont want any person to feel like they cant discuss something because they are afraid they have no right to. Everyone's allowed to voice their thoughts.
@@bmat1011 in Hong Kong she has nothing to worry about so she should talk about whatever she wants. As someone who used to live there myself it's not a place where you have to worry about some pathetic man fearing your words or where China is gonna bust down doors and snatch you. Plus fear breeds compliance. You can be afraid if you want but Tay doesn't strike me as the scared type.
wow i’m crying, throughout this i was thinking “wow i envy her life” “her life seems so much fun & great” and then was brought to reality of the last bit of this vlog, it put it into perspective that not everything is always great, everyone struggles and i feel lost and empty and it’s great to be able to relate to someone i look up to. i do come here to disconnect from the drama and stress of living in the states, but it’s nice to see a more intimate side of you, makes me feel closer. i really hope things get better for you and your rollercoaster turns into a ballon ride and you keep going up up & up! love u Tay, keep sharing xx
I always appreciate it your honesty and sharing that personal part of your life. I am also 30 years old and I feel sometimes very down emotionally, I don't have a job and can't find any. So I try to do some self made little store of selling stuff I don't use anymore. I live with my mom, and my boyfriend is basically my only income of money besides what my mom gives me, like food and a roof. I admire you for starting your own business, trying to get pregnant and make content for us. You only have to relax and enjoy, I think you are going under so much thinking and stress about the baby situation and that also affects maybe why you aren't getting pregnant. Our emotions always affects everything on our bodies. Keep always looking forward and be happy. We love you. I consider you like my sister. Been following you since your dolly times. Best wishes and luck. From Paraguay.
That’s true! How many people stop the ivf and then get pregnant? Its amazing what you state of mind does. I’m sorry you can’t find a job, I’ve been there for pretty much a year and it’s horrible, but don’t stop trying. You’ll get there! For me it took to change completely my career direction and fully commit to the decision. I think you have to really want it and give it everything. Now I look back and I realise that I didn’t know what I wanted, and maybe that’s why I did not get it.
Do a lot of volunteer work! work in a part time job, fill in your CV and eventually you'll get yourself a proper job. by the way, your boyfriend is a keeper, and your mom is by your side, so try to think out of the box, start small and the sky is your limit !
The cooking part made me feel so nostalgic for your old videos. I love all your content but don't forget that you don't always have to be doing something cool and exciting to entertain us, I think so many people are just happy to have that feeling of hanging out with someone at home during their routine life, it makes us feel calm and less lonely when we are just hanging out at home too. I'm afraid a lot of vloggers become burdened with the need to be doing bigger and better things to grow their audience and they film less and less because their own life doesn't live up to those perceived expectations, while all the viewers really care about is feeling connected. Thanks for everything you do and best wishes to you, I've been watching for three years this October!
Dear Taylor, I hope you have the strenght enough to ignore everyone who leaves ignorant comments about infertility, telling you to "relax" and "stop exercising" etc. There are a lot of misconceptions about how to get pregnant. I'm sure you have educated yourself and gone to a doctor, so you know by now that working out is actually good for getting preggers, and if you have medical/hormonal issues it doesn't matter how hard you try to "relax"- you need medical help (which it seems that you are getting. Good for you!). I know people are probably trying to offer you support, but spreading misconceptions and putting the blame on you is not the right way to do it. I am myself in the same situation as you, me and my boyfriend started trying to get pregnant during the same time as you did, and you and I are the same age. I totally understand the emotional rollercoaster you are going through, I know about getting you hopes up, thinking about how to tell your parents, what day will be the child's birthday, and then having you hopes crumble at the start of each period. I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you. In the end we will have children, not matter how it goes. But meanwhile it is totally ok to feel sad and disappointed. Sending you all my hope and love.
Over exercising, especially with something like PCOS, can make someone goes backwards. Sometimes it also depends on the type of exercises. Like someone with PCOS should focus a little more on weight training and do 30 mins of mild to med cardio a day (basically enough to get up and move) along with weight training a few times a week. You don't need anything insane.
When we're telling her to relax it doesn't mean she's stressing on purpose so it's her fault, but that she should relax about her thoughts, try not to overthink it, not obsessing about what is going wrong (because nothing is going wrong with her, she's just normal and if she's having some issues, also those are normal for a woman). None is blaming her for being the source of the stress, what causes stress are other external factors.
Your skin improved a lot from the start of the blog to the end. Would you consider going to Jessica more often for facials? My husband and I missed your vlogs! It was great to see you back.
Wow elbow sannnnn its been a while we did not hear ‘babe’ from u.. 😂😂 elbow san in video, cooking with tay tay.. this video is a christmas gift!! 😍😍💕💖💕
I always watch till the end because I enjoy your weekly vlogs. I’m glad you are talking about your fertility even though it is a very personal subject. Your openness is one of the reason I enjoy the vlogs so much xx
Thanks for addressing the current situation in Hong Kong. Whenever catching up with the news my mind wanders to you, Tom and Natalie. Take care and stay strong. Big hug.
I am so happy you talked about the situation in Hong Kong. I wasn’t expecting it and I think it is important for your viewers to know what is going on. It is a historical moment and I guess not everyone among your viewers are aware of what is happening. Thank you ! Love watching your vlogs :)
You never really get "over" a death, nor should you be expected to. You get through it, one season at a time, one week at a time, one day at a time and even when you are through the hardest part, it is something you will always carry with you. We carry the things that meant the most to us, closest to our hearts. With your journey into parent hood, you are so not alone. I have a family member that took 10 years of trying to become pregnant and she is now expecting twins, it took medical intervention and was not an easy journey but I was amazed that she kept trying, another family member of mine took a year and half to become pregnant the first time. Don't be discouraged Taylor these things happen differently for everyone. I read this quote that stuck with me "Patience is bitter but it's fruit is sweet."
36 minutes never went by so quickly! Thanks for being so honest in your videos. I am almost 30 and often feel like I have a lack of direction and confusion about where I am in life, it's not a nice feeling. Life loves to throw hurdles at us that's for sure.. but you just gotta keep jumping over them and pushing forward. I wish you all the best with your business, your pregnancy and I hope things improve for you and the people of Hong Kong.
I’m so happy you’re back on UA-cam Taylor ... I also really love when you sit down and talk to us like in the last part of the video, and it really tightens the bond you have with us. You’ve given us some information about what you’ve been doing to get pregnant, like going on medications and going to appointments and such. I don’t know if Tom is checking himself too (and maybe he is, maybe he’s doing his part of the “trying to get pregnant” greatly) but just know that it might not be something wrong with YOU. Tom should also get checked (the quality of the sperm can get weaker with age). Anyway, this is not supposed to be a hate comment, because I root so much for the both of you and I wish you all the best. Love you 💜
You are my place Tay ❤️ I am at the point of my life when my future is unsure... I spent those months between hospitals for my dad, he had a tumor, then my mom got ill recently.... I don't have a job and I can't find it...I live in Italy, big business crisis since years...it has been so bad..I am not independent and I am almost 28 years old..I feel useless to myself and as if I am loosing precious time...and seeing you working so hard to reach your goals makes me feel happy and less hopeless. I have an awesome friend and an amazing partner by my side but I feel struggling with myself no matter what...I can't find my own happiness and it makes me feel caged inside my own world. So thank you for being "my place" when I am down bringing up positive vibes and new funny/interesting news...
I'm so sorry you're not pregnant 😔 I really wish you the best! And hope you will get pregnant very very soon! Do not lose hope, I'm sure everything is going to be ok. ❤
Honestly you are the most honest and realistic youtuber I have ever seen and you should deserve more than this. Honestly I have been feeling down too and isolated and lost .
@@Everaina This is: 1. Stupid, why would anyone go through the misery of pregnancy and childbirth willingly 2. Selfish 3. Contributing to overpopulation. What's that saying? Adopt don't pop
@@Queen-qy4qc I'm sure the kid your mom could've adopted and saved from the foster system wouldn't be as happy about her decision. Oh, and btw, did you know that babies born via IVF have a high af probability of getting ovarian cancer? Thanks mom! :)
Thank you Taylor for addressing the situation in Hong Kong. I unsubscribed a few months ago because at one point I thought you were one of those rich foreigners just casually living in a "parallel universe" and turning a blind eye to the people suffering here. I was wrong. I totally understand why you feel hesitant to elaborate on this matter. The effort that you took to talk to people around here already means a lot. Stay safe and all the best! (I subscribed again because you seem like a really good person and I feel like you share the same anxious personality underneath the facade, just like me.)
I love you so much! Just the fact that you're taking into consideration your relationship with Hong Kong, rather than just pushing your opinion, is so awesome. Your drive to learn more and absorb the facts from those that have been part of the conflict their whole lives is so inspiring. Thanks for encouraging people to read and research! That being said, I'd be happy to listen to whatever you have to say. I'm here because your heart shines through your content, and I'm honored to get the chance to see it♡
I always watch to the very end! 😊 I don’t think it’s very fair that people are silencing your voice because they feel you’re not educated enough in the matter. I think that if you live somewhere, and you’re involved with the culture, you do your own research then you definitely should be able to talk about it with your peers. I believe that it would release some of your stress about the current situation in Hong Kong. I understand why you don’t voice any political subjects online it’s a smart move, but maybe if you’re really fired up or concerned make an Instagram story? Many of us use you to wind down after our days, so it’s only fair you use us to help yourself feel better too. I’d like to be able to make you feel better anyway. It sucks that this month wasn’t your month but I really liked Tom’s response. I get carried away with the excitement of things as well that I sometimes forget to enjoy the moments leading up to the big goal. I enjoyed watching your extra long vlog, it was great 🥰 and I hope you start feeling better and all the best for this months goal ❤️🎉
1GreenEmerald agreed! Especially since there are a lot of North Americans who probably don’t know about it. No matter how long you’ve lived there or even from our perspective as outsiders, it seems really scary that innocent people (including children) are being hurt and no matter what education you have, I think it’s fair to say that’s not ok and something needs to be done
I agree, telling people to sit down and shut up because they aren't "educated" enough is a coward's way out of debate and ideological gatekeeping at its worst. Dialogue should be encouraged so that ideas can be shared and tested. At what point is a person deemed "educated" enough? I'm sure those people won't be able to produce an intelligent standard to that.
Thank you so much for opening about ur personal life. As a Hong Konger I also feel anxious about the things happening in HK, but I think u are well qualified to talk about ur views regarding this. You are a part of Hong Konger as long as u have lived here. Love you and I'll be here no matter what. Thank you for giving me comfort through ur videos. :)
I've been thinking about you a lot when I hear news about Hong Kong. I understand your decision to not get into politics on your channel, and I think that's good. You can't possibly talk about it without anyone getting offended. Also, thank you for sharing a bit about your personal life. I've talked to many women who have had troubles getting pregnant, it's much more common than people think. I wish you all the best and hope that this rollercoaster will get a little less crazy soon. Love from Austria, Europe ♥️
My doctors always said it was gonna be hard for me to get pregnant. Now I have a beautiful baby boy. He is almost 1 month. There's always hope. Be patient. You'll be an amazing mom 💕
Things not to say to people dealing with i fertility 101. Just because you were able to so it doesn't mean someone else will.... I know you mean well, but others, especially ones who dealt with infertility, should consider what they say to other women struggling.
I'm surprised people think she has a perfect life, I've been fan since 2017 and always love her for her honestly and not everyone are perfect. That's what I love her for.
Well people speak in relative terms. Her life is probably more comfortable than most people's. She lives in a city known for having a huge wealth gap. 20% of people there are poor and sometimes live in horrible conditions. So yeah, Taylor's life isn't literally perfect and she's had some rough times lately (esp. family passing away which isn't easy for anyone and unavoidable) but her life seems perfect comparatively to the majority of people in the world. I have empathy for her, especially over things she can't control like her fertility and family but also you need to try to see where people are coming from. It doesn't excuse lack of empathy towards her issues but there's a flip side to it. I guess what I'm trying to say is that there's a middle ground and that's often where the balanced view comes from.
One of the reasons I love to watch your videos is because you keep it real Taylor! Life has ups and downs, and sometimes we think that we can not show the downs because it's 'normal' to only show the things that go well in your life. You make a change by sharing your emotions and it's admirable 🤍
I don't know if it will help you, but my "motto" is (rather like Cinderella's): "have faith and be kind". Very often, in the moment, I forget to have faith, but it's amazing how often things DO work out in the end, and with hindsight (and the return of faith) I often discover that it maybe wasn't the right time for whatever I was wishing for. Maybe an event (or a disaster even, god forbid) pops up that would have made it the wrong time for my hopes to come true, or maybe something better comes along. (and that is the flip-side of "faith": you have to be careful what you truly wish for, because sometimes it turns out it's not what is best for you - so that is where the faith comes in: you just have to believe that the best that can happen in the circumstances will happen, when it's the time for it to happen). I'm in my mid-fifties now, and when I look back over my life, I see that most of the things I wished for HAVE actually come true - maybe not how I envisaged them, but I do get what I needed, if not what I think I desire (and if they haven't come true, often there has been something else that gives me equal satisfaction that comes into my life instead). Think back over your life, and think of how many things you may have worried about in the past, how many things you hoped for, and how many things actually resolved themselves well in the end - and maybe that will help you have faith that equally good things are still going to come to you in the future.... Have faith. Be kind. It will happen. I know it.
I have been watching your channel for years, and you are such an inspiration. I admire your goofiness with the creative balanciaga orange boots you did, your transparency with your real life struggles about your skin and fertility, and your strength to continue to stay motivated for your viewers despite what you are going through. I have met so many people who struggled or gave up and got pregnant right after. Enjoy the self care and the moment as a couple before your little bun will be on his/her way!! in the grand scheme of things, this is a season you are going through. And I believe God has a plan for everything.
This is, by far, my most favorite vlog ever! I ordered Chinese food, sat down and ate with you. First of all, congratulations on the new business! Whatever it is, I know it will be great! Next, I must say your content and your video quality has been improving and I enjoyed every minute of it. I said to myself, Tay is so happy, she does all this things, she is in a great space, i am so happy for her. And then the end came, and I am glad you opened up on what happens behind the scenes. Everything will be fine. You put so much pressure on yourself. Just relax and enjoy it more. Be present and in the moment. It will happen. Trust me.
What a hidden treasure your vlogs are. Honestly your personality is so refreshing. It feels like you're the friend every woman at least wants to have. Love the parts where you're honest and sincere and talk about the back side of things and your not perfect life because all of us go through one of the things if not more of what you go through. I discovered your channel a few of weeks ago and I doubt on subscribing because erroneously I thought you were superficial and this couple of weeks I've found myself playing your videos when, like you said, I don't want to think about anything else. Like just turning 29 a couple of days ago, getting closer to the 30's wondering what I'm doing with my life. Anyway thank you for speaking so kindly and humbly.🇲🇽
It took me 4 years to get pregnant with my first, it happened when I decided to not stress and just let it be. Loved Rosie's new style. Excited to hear more of your business venture. xo
Babies will come. My daughter happened immediately and then my son took 7 years. Relax and things will happen I’m sure. I understand how you feel, I do. Sending you love, support and good wishes to you and Elbowsan.
Just made it to the end. You are such a kind soul. And your honesty really does make others feel not so alone in this world. The baby will come at the perfect time to two very good people who will make wonderful parents :)
Thinking about getting pregnant can cause a lot of stress which triggers many different health issues. I tried my best, just as you do, for almost a year and I ended up in the hospital. After that I decided to let it go. Just live the life. Whatever happens happens. Don't trap your mind, because it affects us physically too. And just a few months later, when I stopped pushing myself, when I gave my mind an ease, and when I did let go of all the requirements I had for myself, I got pregnant. I'm so happy now, growing my bump. You will never find true love when you are looking for it, you will never find a best friend when you're purposely trying to find it. All the good things are coming when you are not expecting them, when you are not even thinking about them. You will get everything when time is right. Just hold on!
Appreciated the way that you respect Hongkonger by not giving your political view. You are encouraged to talk to different local people as long as you wish to. Please stay safe and be happy as much as you can in Hong Kong.
I can not say that I know how you feel exactly. But when I was in my 20's my fiancé at the time and I used safe guards as I knew my whole life that I had heart defects and also having a kid was something, at that time, I was not ready for. Then in my early 30's, I wanted a kid. Felt ready, and able to work with my heart doctor to make it happen as safely as I could. Then after a few months of unusual cycles, and an over active thyroid, it was discovered that I was born with a rare chromosome defect called Turners Syndrome. I have 1 to zero percent chance of having a baby. At initial diagnosis I was in deep sadness for almost a couple years. I had very few people that understood or related, and got mad or frusterated with me because I never expressed my wishes before. I am so sorry you are going through this. God has a crazy idea of how our life is meant to go, and sometimes we just don't have the answers. I am praying for you both, and for everyone in Hong Kong.
Never feel bad about sharing the tough things or being too serious; it makes you human. I appreciate your candidness. Keep your head up. Fertility can be so rough and each months is a new hope. Its so difficult when something goes wrong, but things can always get better. I miscarried at 17 weeks last fall and now I am pregnant again, due in 3.5 weeks. Of course I'm nervous that something could go wrong, but that is part of being a Mom. My first born starts preschool this week and I never thought it would hit me so hard. Your'e gonna be a great mom. Hang in there and remember how much we all love and support you. I'm so glad that you have such an amazing partner to help you through it all.
I'm so happy you've posted ! Rosie made my day !🌹My uncle was diagnosed with bone cancer and I found out this am. I knew watching was going to make me feel a little better, in remembrance of better days :') 🙏🦋❤🙏 Thanks Tay Tay!
Thank you Taylor for always showing us your real self and having honest conversations with us. Stay strong, you’ve been missed and I hope you’re taking care of yourself. 💜
Hi taylor, I am from Hong Kong please continue to do what you are doing, please be an escape from reality for us/me. Really needed to take a short break from all the news that's been going on even if its 15 minutes Thank you again
one thing i absolutely LOVE about u is that u always try ur best to look positively of anything no matter how mentally exhausting & pressuring it is and i genuinely hope that you really feel what u say bc it will certainly come to u! ✨ i’ve read it in a book about bulgarian traditions/beliefs/folklore/magic; whatever ur biggest desire (something u’ve been trying to achieve but haven’t been able to just by yourself), call it into existence: cry it out in nature be it at soil or rocks, a forest, a water spring or river; if u name it and call it by its name, it will come to u :) thought about sharing this as old as time belief with u and just anyone superstitious bc i feel safety in what i believe is magic and it brings me closer to nature & makes me understand myself better! hope it keeps u positive as well and helps u be in harmony with urself! love u tay keep brightening up my days 💖
Taylor, thank you for always being honest and sharing. No one is happy all the time and you’ve been going through a lot. I also appreciate how even though you weren’t feeling your best, you still gave some tips on how you get through those times. As for getting pregnant, I wish you the best of luck and Tom is right, when it’s time, it’ll happen. It took us about a year to get pregnant and I totally feel how heartbreaking it can be when it doesn’t happen. I wish you, Tom, and Rosie the best of health, happiness, and love!!
I feel so identified with you, my period came today ... We have 5 months trying to get pregnant, and one of my friends get pregnant without planning and I feel bad of feeling jealous 😔
Thank you Taylor. I have so much respect for you for talking about the situation without pushing your views. I do agree with what you said in the video. The situation affects me a lot too. I found myself having many sleepless nights just thinking about the situation. I'm not from HK, but seeing all the news really break my heart. I hope everyone is safe and sound. And I hope everything will be resolved soon. My heart is with HK ❤️
Taylor! Just wanted to tell you, that I just recently discovered your channel and it's already one of my favorites! I feel like your content is so unique (especially your selfmade high fashion ones and your foodie series) ok, I stop now. Love your videos. Bye.
My son is almost 6 months old and let me tell you girl WHEN you DO have a child it will be the most satisfying accomplishment. When I look down at my son while he's nursing or sleeping or even playing, tears come to my eyes with how blessed I feel. ❤❤❤❤ It's GOING to happen for you!!!!
Can completely relate to the fertility struggles. The emotional rollercoaster every month, not only hope but guilt and blame. My husband already has a child so "knew" the reason I wasnt pregnant wasnt him but me. You can really get into your own head and be really cruel to yourself. I would see other people with babies and friends have babies and although incredibly happy i would envy them so much, worrying it would never happen for me, and then feel guilty that I felt that way. Everyone kept saying "it will happen" but as every month said "not pregnant" any positive thoughts were fading away. And now I'm writing this 6.5 months pregnant. As much as I can sit here and type "it will happen for you" I know when you're in that space it doesn't help. All I can say is when you're on the other side of this situation you realise how grateful you are for a harder beginning because it teaches you how fragile and wonderful life is.
I have quite a few friends who are struggling due to pregnancy. Either they've had complications, miscarriages, infertility, or just any number of things. It is so draining on them emotionally, so I'm incredibly impressed with the grace and strength you and Elbow-san are facing this with. While my husband and I aren't trying to get pregnant, we're trying to find out what's going on with me medically as I've been very sick for a very long time. There's always hope and there's always help. Wishing you the best.
It’s okay Taylor... it’s my second year going through infertility. We will get there it’ll just take longer. I stopped my last med two months ago and I have to wait until November until I get my doctors appointment and switch to another pill. SUPER frustrating cuz I’m basically wasting 5-6 months doing nothing for a doctors appointment. I totally understand ur pain and frustration.
It's really a very sad time in Hong Kong. I used to lived in Hong Kong and work there for 20+ years. It's the city a feel most peaceful and safe and most free. Even without the label "democracy." I'm from a country who has democracy but I have witness atrocities Hong Kong people never experience. I have seen people shot dead in the street. Or dead people laying in the street. Sometimes people are so blinded with the Label "Democracy" that they lose touch of what is really important. And that is Peace. There are so many foreigners working in Hong Kong and most of them come from a democratic country. And a lot of them would even want to renounce their own country passport to get a Hong Kong one. Democracy will not solve all problems in life. But Peace will give you a good chance to your life.
although i understand why you might not want to talk about certain "downer" topics, i think it's really helpful for those of us struggling with different things to hear others talk candidly about their problems. it helps us all realize no one is perfect, and just because we see people with "perfect" lives online doesn't mean they aren't facing their own struggles privately. talk about whatever you want, and let it out if it helps! you have all these people watching your videos who might have shared experiences and new advice for you. it's just refreshing whenever someone is really real, you know? hoping things start looking up for you, girl💖
I struggled with primary infertility, too. It was a roller coaster just like you said and I have depression anyway so I didn't think I would survive it. Just remember that there are so many other people riding that same roller coaster with you and you are not alone. It just takes one lucky month and your battle is won! I now have 3 adult children, but I remember the pain like yesterday. Sending hugs and good wishes to you!
Don't be afraid to talk about things that are on your mind. Your true fans will be here to talk to you...cause we love you and miss seeing your vlogs. 💖 just stay patient and keep faith..it'll happen for you.🙏☺
So lovely to share Sunday with you Taylor. I have followed you for a few years now and watched you grow into a lovely woman. Life can get in the way sometimes can't it but these challenges we all have through life make us stronger to cope with our future life experiences. What will be, will be, just do what you can do.....what's for you will not go past you. Stay positive and dream big! x
Awh Taylor, I'm really glad you opened up to us. As someone who was a baby who was conceived with difficulties I want to give you some strength and hope. My mom was like you and struggled and had not only just me and also had my sister. I hope you can always feel like we are a support system for you and continue loving yourself
Taylor, I've been watching your vlogs for about 6 years now and from 29:12 and on I was in actual awe of you and how far you've come. It's rare that I see someone and think to myself "wow this person is the real deal." You have a way of talking and sharing that gets people caring and thinking. Keep it up, keep listening to your heart. Sometimes sharing the things that people think you shouldn't talk about is a good thing. I want to be more educated on what is happening in Hong Kong and not just scroll by when I see it come up in my Twitter feed. I hope you are well and please stay safe. ❤
Please stay safe and don’t lose hope, everyone’s journey to motherhood is different and like Tom said, the time will come. Thank you for sharing your experiences, they are a highlight in my week and remind me that there are beautiful places blossoming with creativity and hard work.
i wish you all the best tay♡♡ i always love seeing your vlogs! stay strong, youve been a place of happiness for me for a very long time. i want want to know that and be proud that youve definitely helped me through harder times when ive been feeling lost♡
I have been suffering with infertility for 4 years and it doesn't ever get easier. They always say to just relax...but that is so hard. lots of prayers for you and Tom.
Thank you for being real and letting us be part of your vulnerable moments, in the end we all have them and it’s something we shouldn’t be embarrassed of. Sending you hugs and love Taylor, I hope that just as you want to be that “safe place” for your viewers with your videos, you can find some support and love back from them through the comments. Also, big respect for you for encouraging your viewers to educate themselves on the situation in HK before stating an opinion.
watching taylor’s vlogs always put me in such a better mood. i’ve been in a bad place for a long time and every time I see that she has uploaded my mood gets instantly better. I’m sorry not everything is working out well lately tay but I'm you’ll get there!
Thank you for acknowledging what is happening in HK. I've been thinking why you never mentioned it. But I realized that saying anything about it without understanding the history of everything is irresponsible especially because of your following. I know you are not keen to talk about politics. I would just like to share what the protests in HK make me feel. As a Filipino, I envy the heart and perseverance of the people from HK. I hope my countrymen cared enough to protest against the bullying of China. It doesn't help that our government officials are all puppets. Now that I am based in SG, I am thinking to just let go. Get my family and escape everything that is happening in the Philippines. But whenever I see the news about HK, I feel that I should not lose hope and have the guts to defend the country from bullies just like HK.
I'm a year or two younger than you and in a similar boat (except that I'm not trying to have kids), so it was comforting to hear you say that you're feeling lost and then read all the comments from your viewers that feel similarly. I'm sorry you and so many others are feeling that way, but thank you for sharing that. I think that late twenties/early thirties is just a tough age. I often feel that it's because we've had our expectations built up and built up our own in a time when it's near impossible to meet all of them.
i know we often try not to talk about politics on youtube but could you possibly speak of your perspective on the current situation in hongkong right now? would love to hear your insight!
Nah. I don’t think they should. Say within 10 yrs China takes over HK. China’s government could penalize Tay and her husband’s company’s mobility for her views on UA-cam if they deem them anti-revolutionary. It’s not worth the risk.
It took me months and months to get pregnant and it literally stressed me out but once I gave up and that was longer my stress we got pregnant, I completely understand what you are going through and I know you and your husband will get through this and ur time to be a mother will come soon sending lots of love Taylor💕
Happened to my aunt too. They adopted my oldest cousin and once that was done the stress just kind of melted away. A year later without even trying she was pregnant with her second son. Sometimes it really is stress that keeps one from getting pregnant sometimes it's something more serious.
Hope you'll see this hug I really actually love you. Your humor is always fun and on point on my side lol you're amazing and happy that you're on social :)
I have PCOS and it seems like you have a lot of similar symptoms. My husband and I lost twins about three months ago and it's heartbreaking. We want so badly to conceive again but haven't been given the green light to begin trying once more. I understand your pain and it really strikes a chord for me. Your sharing makes you into a real person instead of just another youtube personality and makes me feel like i'll be a loyal viewer for as long as you're putting out content. I appreciate your genuineness and that you're not going to pretend everything is OK if it's really not. Faking happiness is the deadly trap of social media and leads to nothing but unhappiness. I'm sorry about your negative test. You are strong and you will get through this. Lean on your husband, lean on your friends. So many women have been through this too and know your pain, talk to anyone and everyone about it. It's a horrible part of life and nothing to be ashamed of.
I know exactly how you feel every month. I have been trying for almost a year now and it is very discouraging but it will happen when it is meant to. Glad to hear Tom is sooo supportive that helps a lot. Tons of women have trouble getting pregnant you are definitely NOT alone girl. We love you ❤️
What you said about getting your hopes up each cycle, I can relate soo much... My husband and I were trying for 2,5 years until I got pregnant and it would get harder every month... After about a year it got really hard for my husband too and we would get into huge fights because he started to lose hope and we were both really stressed out. After 2 years I started to take Chinese medicine (we live in Japan) and learn about the importance of sleep for your hormonal balance, especially during the first half of the cycle... I started focusing on relaxing for the first time and half a year later finally got pregnant. I know it must be really really hard for you right now but it’s so good to hear that your husband‘s staying positive and supportive. It’s okay to get stressed but please take good care of your relationship too. As long as you support each other you’re going to be fine. Love you and wish you all the best!
You probably already know this, but just in case you need to hear it today: Your worth as a person, as a UA-camr, as a wife, as a daughter and as a woman is not dependent upon having a child. Things like this take time and everyone will love you just the same regardless. 💕
I love how open and true to yourself you are. I just love your personality. A huge draw also being that I have family from Hong Kong and have affinity to the city, so seeing your life there, hearing Cantonese/seeing Chinese once in a while when you’re going about, it just makes me happy. Love you so much, take care of yourself.
You're not alone Tay, I'm in my mid 30's and hitting a couple of life bumps at once and I feel lost about where I am versus what I want to do or think I should be doing. Somedays it's really hard to get up and feel motivated, but it does help to know I'm not alone in this kind of thing and I know I've had times in my life in the past like this and got through them. Life is full of ups and downs. Take care of yourself and move forward as best you can. Stay safe!
Going through fertility is so hard. I am so glad you are talking about it so that other people don't feel so alone. I have had to deal with it as well. Its much more common than people think. Thinking positive thoughts for you.🥰
Thanks for opening up. Everyone has a lot going on, and some times are more overwhelming than others, and it's good to recognise and communicate that. It's also nice to see this side of you. Hats off to you xx take care
Thank you for sharing so much of your life with us. I think the personal parts of your vlogs are super relatable for a lot of 30ish year olds all around the world, including me. You never know when someone needs to hear what you share. Please know that you and your husband and all of Hong Kong will be in my prayers!
I'm so glad you took time to talk to us about what's going on in HK. You and Tom have been in my thoughts a lot since this started, hoping you two are staying safe. I understand how unsettling that is. I've never lived through something that intense, but I can well imagine it's quite overpowering. I think it's remarkable that you have refrained from commenting on it. While it's true you might not understand all the issues, I think it's shameful for anyone to suggest that you can't have an opinion because you've only been there for 2 years or whatever. You LIVE there. You are making a life there. You are affected by all of this and you shouldn't have to clam up and not speak when you're concerned about what's happening where you live.
Missed your chill day in my life vlogs💕💕
I miss your vlogs sharla! Is there a video in the works?:)
Sharmander agreed love day In my life vlogs! Also I’m from Victoria as well!! Love you Sharla
Aw thank you
@@sharlainjapan yay that great! I cant wait! Thank you! ❤
You should talk about whatever you want. Everyone's opinions are valid, it's when we state them as facts that we disconnect with others. I hope everything stays well!
Sometimes an outsiders perspective is necessary to make out the bigger picture of things.
Ragefest 2000 I see what you are saying, but I would agree with Tay and her friends, to stay away from the political talk here and now. Especially since it’s HongKong, whatever she says, there are so many controversies that she could get herself into online, radicals from both sides would come for her, and believe me you don’t want that...I think she did the right thing to not talk about it, especially when she’s already so stressed about her personal life.
@@user-sp4iw8dn3l if its giving her anxiety to not talk about it like she says then she should. Personal views are fine if they are informed. I dont want any person to feel like they cant discuss something because they are afraid they have no right to. Everyone's allowed to voice their thoughts.
“you should talk about whatever you want” is an assumption you should NOT make in many countries
@@bmat1011 in Hong Kong she has nothing to worry about so she should talk about whatever she wants. As someone who used to live there myself it's not a place where you have to worry about some pathetic man fearing your words or where China is gonna bust down doors and snatch you. Plus fear breeds compliance. You can be afraid if you want but Tay doesn't strike me as the scared type.
wow i’m crying, throughout this i was thinking “wow i envy her life” “her life seems so much fun & great” and then was brought to reality of the last bit of this vlog, it put it into perspective that not everything is always great, everyone struggles and i feel lost and empty and it’s great to be able to relate to someone i look up to. i do come here to disconnect from the drama and stress of living in the states, but it’s nice to see a more intimate side of you, makes me feel closer. i really hope things get better for you and your rollercoaster turns into a ballon ride and you keep going up up & up! love u Tay, keep sharing xx
I always appreciate it your honesty and sharing that personal part of your life. I am also 30 years old and I feel sometimes very down emotionally, I don't have a job and can't find any. So I try to do some self made little store of selling stuff I don't use anymore. I live with my mom, and my boyfriend is basically my only income of money besides what my mom gives me, like food and a roof. I admire you for starting your own business, trying to get pregnant and make content for us. You only have to relax and enjoy, I think you are going under so much thinking and stress about the baby situation and that also affects maybe why you aren't getting pregnant. Our emotions always affects everything on our bodies. Keep always looking forward and be happy. We love you. I consider you like my sister. Been following you since your dolly times. Best wishes and luck. From Paraguay.
That’s true! How many people stop the ivf and then get pregnant? Its amazing what you state of mind does.
I’m sorry you can’t find a job, I’ve been there for pretty much a year and it’s horrible, but don’t stop trying. You’ll get there! For me it took to change completely my career direction and fully commit to the decision. I think you have to really want it and give it everything. Now I look back and I realise that I didn’t know what I wanted, and maybe that’s why I did not get it.
your boyfriend give u money u must be a sugar baby
@@Alicenailsart I wish!!
Do a lot of volunteer work! work in a part time job, fill in your CV and eventually you'll get yourself a proper job. by the way, your boyfriend is a keeper, and your mom is by your side, so try to think out of the box, start small and the sky is your limit !
You can’t find a job or you simply do not want to work? If a 16 years old high school student can both go to school and hold a job, so can you.
Your skin looked so much better after that magic peel!!
The cooking part made me feel so nostalgic for your old videos. I love all your content but don't forget that you don't always have to be doing something cool and exciting to entertain us, I think so many people are just happy to have that feeling of hanging out with someone at home during their routine life, it makes us feel calm and less lonely when we are just hanging out at home too. I'm afraid a lot of vloggers become burdened with the need to be doing bigger and better things to grow their audience and they film less and less because their own life doesn't live up to those perceived expectations, while all the viewers really care about is feeling connected.
Thanks for everything you do and best wishes to you, I've been watching for three years this October!
Dear Taylor, I hope you have the strenght enough to ignore everyone who leaves ignorant comments about infertility, telling you to "relax" and "stop exercising" etc. There are a lot of misconceptions about how to get pregnant. I'm sure you have educated yourself and gone to a doctor, so you know by now that working out is actually good for getting preggers, and if you have medical/hormonal issues it doesn't matter how hard you try to "relax"- you need medical help (which it seems that you are getting. Good for you!). I know people are probably trying to offer you support, but spreading misconceptions and putting the blame on you is not the right way to do it. I am myself in the same situation as you, me and my boyfriend started trying to get pregnant during the same time as you did, and you and I are the same age. I totally understand the emotional rollercoaster you are going through, I know about getting you hopes up, thinking about how to tell your parents, what day will be the child's birthday, and then having you hopes crumble at the start of each period. I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you. In the end we will have children, not matter how it goes. But meanwhile it is totally ok to feel sad and disappointed. Sending you all my hope and love.
there is truth it 'old wives tales' and I don't think any of the comments were meant maliciously
Linn W I always appreciate her honestly in every video, always ignore hate comments 👍
Over exercising, especially with something like PCOS, can make someone goes backwards. Sometimes it also depends on the type of exercises. Like someone with PCOS should focus a little more on weight training and do 30 mins of mild to med cardio a day (basically enough to get up and move) along with weight training a few times a week. You don't need anything insane.
When we're telling her to relax it doesn't mean she's stressing on purpose so it's her fault, but that she should relax about her thoughts, try not to overthink it, not obsessing about what is going wrong (because nothing is going wrong with her, she's just normal and if she's having some issues, also those are normal for a woman). None is blaming her for being the source of the stress, what causes stress are other external factors.
Your skin improved a lot from the start of the blog to the end. Would you consider going to Jessica more often for facials? My husband and I missed your vlogs! It was great to see you back.
Wow elbow sannnnn its been a while we did not hear ‘babe’ from u.. 😂😂 elbow san in video, cooking with tay tay.. this video is a christmas gift!! 😍😍💕💖💕
noorelmie seriously though! :)
I always watch till the end because I enjoy your weekly vlogs. I’m glad you are talking about your fertility even though it is a very personal subject. Your openness is one of the reason I enjoy the vlogs so much xx
Agreed - totes admire her ability to be so open
Thanks for addressing the current situation in Hong Kong. Whenever catching up with the news my mind wanders to you, Tom and Natalie. Take care and stay strong. Big hug.
36 mins? What a treat.
I am so happy you talked about the situation in Hong Kong. I wasn’t expecting it and I think it is important for your viewers to know what is going on. It is a historical moment and I guess not everyone among your viewers are aware of what is happening. Thank you ! Love watching your vlogs :)
Yes! indeed it is a historical moment - well said
You never really get "over" a death, nor should you be expected to. You get through it, one season at a time, one week at a time, one day at a time and even when you are through the hardest part, it is something you will always carry with you. We carry the things that meant the most to us, closest to our hearts. With your journey into parent hood, you are so not alone. I have a family member that took 10 years of trying to become pregnant and she is now expecting twins, it took medical intervention and was not an easy journey but I was amazed that she kept trying, another family member of mine took a year and half to become pregnant the first time. Don't be discouraged Taylor these things happen differently for everyone. I read this quote that stuck with me "Patience is bitter but it's fruit is sweet."
36 minutes never went by so quickly! Thanks for being so honest in your videos. I am almost 30 and often feel like I have a lack of direction and confusion about where I am in life, it's not a nice feeling. Life loves to throw hurdles at us that's for sure.. but you just gotta keep jumping over them and pushing forward. I wish you all the best with your business, your pregnancy and I hope things improve for you and the people of Hong Kong.
I’m so happy you’re back on UA-cam Taylor ... I also really love when you sit down and talk to us like in the last part of the video, and it really tightens the bond you have with us. You’ve given us some information about what you’ve been doing to get pregnant, like going on medications and going to appointments and such. I don’t know if Tom is checking himself too (and maybe he is, maybe he’s doing his part of the “trying to get pregnant” greatly) but just know that it might not be something wrong with YOU. Tom should also get checked (the quality of the sperm can get weaker with age). Anyway, this is not supposed to be a hate comment, because I root so much for the both of you and I wish you all the best. Love you 💜
You are my place Tay ❤️
I am at the point of my life when my future is unsure...
I spent those months between hospitals for my dad, he had a tumor, then my mom got ill recently....
I don't have a job and I can't find it...I live in Italy, big business crisis since years...it has been so bad..I am not independent and I am almost 28 years old..I feel useless to myself and as if I am loosing precious time...and seeing you working so hard to reach your goals makes me feel happy and less hopeless.
I have an awesome friend and an amazing partner by my side but I feel struggling with myself no matter what...I can't find my own happiness and it makes me feel caged inside my own world.
So thank you for being "my place" when I am down bringing up positive vibes and new funny/interesting news...
I'm so sorry you're not pregnant 😔 I really wish you the best! And hope you will get pregnant very very soon! Do not lose hope, I'm sure everything is going to be ok. ❤
So curious about your business. 😇 Wish you all the best for the future. Lots of love from Austria 🇦🇹❤️
Razorwing hi there 🤗
Honestly you are the most honest and realistic youtuber I have ever seen and you should deserve more than this. Honestly I have been feeling down too and isolated and lost .
Missed these daily vlogs!!
Great to see you active on YT again!
You should do a only speaking Cantonese with husband for 24 hours challenge!
That's her husband
Oh shit I forgot thanks
Took 7 years and 7 months of infertility treatment to have my daughter. Just keep moving forward.
Or maybe you could just adopt? Your genes ain't that special, girl
@@darkgardevoir99 some women wants to have their own babies and carry then in their bellies. Ofc adoption is one of the options, but still.
@@Everaina This is:
1. Stupid, why would anyone go through the misery of pregnancy and childbirth willingly
2. Selfish
3. Contributing to overpopulation.
What's that saying? Adopt don't pop
@@darkgardevoir99 My mom wanted her own baby so here I am, here via IVF!
@@Queen-qy4qc I'm sure the kid your mom could've adopted and saved from the foster system wouldn't be as happy about her decision. Oh, and btw, did you know that babies born via IVF have a high af probability of getting ovarian cancer? Thanks mom! :)
Thank you Taylor for addressing the situation in Hong Kong. I unsubscribed a few months ago because at one point I thought you were one of those rich foreigners just casually living in a "parallel universe" and turning a blind eye to the people suffering here. I was wrong. I totally understand why you feel hesitant to elaborate on this matter. The effort that you took to talk to people around here already means a lot. Stay safe and all the best! (I subscribed again because you seem like a really good person and I feel like you share the same anxious personality underneath the facade, just like me.)
I love you so much! Just the fact that you're taking into consideration your relationship with Hong Kong, rather than just pushing your opinion, is so awesome. Your drive to learn more and absorb the facts from those that have been part of the conflict their whole lives is so inspiring. Thanks for encouraging people to read and research! That being said, I'd be happy to listen to whatever you have to say. I'm here because your heart shines through your content, and I'm honored to get the chance to see it♡
I'm glad that she has fans like you. I love the way you worded that. and I feel that same way.
@@LOLWeRCoolLikeThat aw, thanks!!! Happy you're a fan, too♡
Yeah I also love that she advised us to go research about it, it is a very hard topic to talk about. Well said Shay
I always watch to the very end! 😊
I don’t think it’s very fair that people are silencing your voice because they feel you’re not educated enough in the matter. I think that if you live somewhere, and you’re involved with the culture, you do your own research then you definitely should be able to talk about it with your peers. I believe that it would release some of your stress about the current situation in Hong Kong. I understand why you don’t voice any political subjects online it’s a smart move, but maybe if you’re really fired up or concerned make an Instagram story? Many of us use you to wind down after our days, so it’s only fair you use us to help yourself feel better too. I’d like to be able to make you feel better anyway.
It sucks that this month wasn’t your month but I really liked Tom’s response. I get carried away with the excitement of things as well that I sometimes forget to enjoy the moments leading up to the big goal.
I enjoyed watching your extra long vlog, it was great 🥰 and I hope you start feeling better and all the best for this months goal ❤️🎉
1GreenEmerald agreed! Especially since there are a lot of North Americans who probably don’t know about it. No matter how long you’ve lived there or even from our perspective as outsiders, it seems really scary that innocent people (including children) are being hurt and no matter what education you have, I think it’s fair to say that’s not ok and something needs to be done
Omg, you said everything I wanted to say! Sending you love Taylor!!! 🌟💖🌟 Jia You !!!
I agree, telling people to sit down and shut up because they aren't "educated" enough is a coward's way out of debate and ideological gatekeeping at its worst. Dialogue should be encouraged so that ideas can be shared and tested. At what point is a person deemed "educated" enough? I'm sure those people won't be able to produce an intelligent standard to that.
Thank you so much for opening about ur personal life. As a Hong Konger I also feel anxious about the things happening in HK, but I think u are well qualified to talk about ur views regarding this. You are a part of Hong Konger as long as u have lived here. Love you and I'll be here no matter what. Thank you for giving me comfort through ur videos. :)
I've been thinking about you a lot when I hear news about Hong Kong. I understand your decision to not get into politics on your channel, and I think that's good. You can't possibly talk about it without anyone getting offended.
Also, thank you for sharing a bit about your personal life. I've talked to many women who have had troubles getting pregnant, it's much more common than people think. I wish you all the best and hope that this rollercoaster will get a little less crazy soon. Love from Austria, Europe ♥️
My doctors always said it was gonna be hard for me to get pregnant.
Now I have a beautiful baby boy. He is almost 1 month.
There's always hope. Be patient. You'll be an amazing mom 💕
I have a miracle baby too❤️
Don’t give up on your dreams to be a mom.
Things not to say to people dealing with i fertility 101. Just because you were able to so it doesn't mean someone else will.... I know you mean well, but others, especially ones who dealt with infertility, should consider what they say to other women struggling.
tay: i'm unstoppable!
*sees a cow (?)*
tay: *stops*
@@mtewc38 i'm glad it did! :)
I'm surprised people think she has a perfect life, I've been fan since 2017 and always love her for her honestly and not everyone are perfect. That's what I love her for.
Well people speak in relative terms. Her life is probably more comfortable than most people's. She lives in a city known for having a huge wealth gap. 20% of people there are poor and sometimes live in horrible conditions. So yeah, Taylor's life isn't literally perfect and she's had some rough times lately (esp. family passing away which isn't easy for anyone and unavoidable) but her life seems perfect comparatively to the majority of people in the world. I have empathy for her, especially over things she can't control like her fertility and family but also you need to try to see where people are coming from. It doesn't excuse lack of empathy towards her issues but there's a flip side to it. I guess what I'm trying to say is that there's a middle ground and that's often where the balanced view comes from.
One of the reasons I love to watch your videos is because you keep it real Taylor! Life has ups and downs, and sometimes we think that we can not show the downs because it's 'normal' to only show the things that go well in your life. You make a change by sharing your emotions and it's admirable 🤍
I don't know if it will help you, but my "motto" is (rather like Cinderella's): "have faith and be kind". Very often, in the moment, I forget to have faith, but it's amazing how often things DO work out in the end, and with hindsight (and the return of faith) I often discover that it maybe wasn't the right time for whatever I was wishing for. Maybe an event (or a disaster even, god forbid) pops up that would have made it the wrong time for my hopes to come true, or maybe something better comes along. (and that is the flip-side of "faith": you have to be careful what you truly wish for, because sometimes it turns out it's not what is best for you - so that is where the faith comes in: you just have to believe that the best that can happen in the circumstances will happen, when it's the time for it to happen). I'm in my mid-fifties now, and when I look back over my life, I see that most of the things I wished for HAVE actually come true - maybe not how I envisaged them, but I do get what I needed, if not what I think I desire (and if they haven't come true, often there has been something else that gives me equal satisfaction that comes into my life instead). Think back over your life, and think of how many things you may have worried about in the past, how many things you hoped for, and how many things actually resolved themselves well in the end - and maybe that will help you have faith that equally good things are still going to come to you in the future.... Have faith. Be kind. It will happen. I know it.
I have been watching your channel for years, and you are such an inspiration. I admire your goofiness with the creative balanciaga orange boots you did, your transparency with your real life struggles about your skin and fertility, and your strength to continue to stay motivated for your viewers despite what you are going through. I have met so many people who struggled or gave up and got pregnant right after. Enjoy the self care and the moment as a couple before your little bun will be on his/her way!! in the grand scheme of things, this is a season you are going through. And I believe God has a plan for everything.
This is, by far, my most favorite vlog ever! I ordered Chinese food, sat down and ate with you. First of all, congratulations on the new business! Whatever it is, I know it will be great! Next, I must say your content and your video quality has been improving and I enjoyed every minute of it. I said to myself, Tay is so happy, she does all this things, she is in a great space, i am so happy for her. And then the end came, and I am glad you opened up on what happens behind the scenes. Everything will be fine. You put so much pressure on yourself. Just relax and enjoy it more. Be present and in the moment. It will happen. Trust me.
What a hidden treasure your vlogs are. Honestly your personality is so refreshing. It feels like you're the friend every woman at least wants to have. Love the parts where you're honest and sincere and talk about the back side of things and your not perfect life because all of us go through one of the things if not more of what you go through. I discovered your channel a few of weeks ago and I doubt on subscribing because erroneously I thought you were superficial and this couple of weeks I've found myself playing your videos when, like you said, I don't want to think about anything else. Like just turning 29 a couple of days ago, getting closer to the 30's wondering what I'm doing with my life. Anyway thank you for speaking so kindly and humbly.🇲🇽
It took me 4 years to get pregnant with my first, it happened when I decided to not stress and just let it be. Loved Rosie's new style. Excited to hear more of your business venture. xo
Babies will come. My daughter happened immediately and then my son took 7 years. Relax and things will happen I’m sure. I understand how you feel, I do. Sending you love, support and good wishes to you and Elbowsan.
"it feels like you're trying so hard"
"I AM!"
100% can relate lol
Just made it to the end. You are such a kind soul. And your honesty really does make others feel not so alone in this world. The baby will come at the perfect time to two very good people who will make wonderful parents :)
Thinking about getting pregnant can cause a lot of stress which triggers many different health issues. I tried my best, just as you do, for almost a year and I ended up in the hospital. After that I decided to let it go. Just live the life. Whatever happens happens. Don't trap your mind, because it affects us physically too. And just a few months later, when I stopped pushing myself, when I gave my mind an ease, and when I did let go of all the requirements I had for myself, I got pregnant. I'm so happy now, growing my bump.
You will never find true love when you are looking for it, you will never find a best friend when you're purposely trying to find it. All the good things are coming when you are not expecting them, when you are not even thinking about them. You will get everything when time is right. Just hold on!
Appreciated the way that you respect Hongkonger by not giving your political view. You are encouraged to talk to different local people as long as you wish to.
Please stay safe and be happy as much as you can in Hong Kong.
I can not say that I know how you feel exactly. But when I was in my 20's my fiancé at the time and I used safe guards as I knew my whole life that I had heart defects and also having a kid was something, at that time, I was not ready for. Then in my early 30's, I wanted a kid. Felt ready, and able to work with my heart doctor to make it happen as safely as I could. Then after a few months of unusual cycles, and an over active thyroid, it was discovered that I was born with a rare chromosome defect called Turners Syndrome. I have 1 to zero percent chance of having a baby. At initial diagnosis I was in deep sadness for almost a couple years. I had very few people that understood or related, and got mad or frusterated with me because I never expressed my wishes before. I am so sorry you are going through this. God has a crazy idea of how our life is meant to go, and sometimes we just don't have the answers. I am praying for you both, and for everyone in Hong Kong.
Never feel bad about sharing the tough things or being too serious; it makes you human. I appreciate your candidness. Keep your head up. Fertility can be so rough and each months is a new hope. Its so difficult when something goes wrong, but things can always get better. I miscarried at 17 weeks last fall and now I am pregnant again, due in 3.5 weeks. Of course I'm nervous that something could go wrong, but that is part of being a Mom. My first born starts preschool this week and I never thought it would hit me so hard. Your'e gonna be a great mom. Hang in there and remember how much we all love and support you. I'm so glad that you have such an amazing partner to help you through it all.
I'm so happy you've posted ! Rosie made my day !🌹My uncle was diagnosed with bone cancer and I found out this am. I knew watching was going to make me feel a little better, in remembrance of better days :') 🙏🦋❤🙏 Thanks Tay Tay!
Thank you Taylor for always showing us your real self and having honest conversations with us. Stay strong, you’ve been missed and I hope you’re taking care of yourself. 💜
Hi taylor, I am from Hong Kong
please continue to do what you are doing, please be an escape from reality for us/me. Really needed to take a short break from all the news that's been going on even if its 15 minutes
Thank you again
one thing i absolutely LOVE about u is that u always try ur best to look positively of anything no matter how mentally exhausting & pressuring it is and i genuinely hope that you really feel what u say bc it will certainly come to u! ✨ i’ve read it in a book about bulgarian traditions/beliefs/folklore/magic; whatever ur biggest desire (something u’ve been trying to achieve but haven’t been able to just by yourself), call it into existence: cry it out in nature be it at soil or rocks, a forest, a water spring or river; if u name it and call it by its name, it will come to u :) thought about sharing this as old as time belief with u and just anyone superstitious bc i feel safety in what i believe is magic and it brings me closer to nature & makes me understand myself better! hope it keeps u positive as well and helps u be in harmony with urself! love u tay keep brightening up my days 💖
I've been through some bad times lately and seeing you stay so positive is inspiring ❤stay strong ❤
Taylor, thank you for always being honest and sharing. No one is happy all the time and you’ve been going through a lot. I also appreciate how even though you weren’t feeling your best, you still gave some tips on how you get through those times. As for getting pregnant, I wish you the best of luck and Tom is right, when it’s time, it’ll happen. It took us about a year to get pregnant and I totally feel how heartbreaking it can be when it doesn’t happen. I wish you, Tom, and Rosie the best of health, happiness, and love!!
I feel so identified with you, my period came today ... We have 5 months trying to get pregnant, and one of my friends get pregnant without planning and I feel bad of feeling jealous
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Thank you Taylor. I have so much respect for you for talking about the situation without pushing your views. I do agree with what you said in the video. The situation affects me a lot too. I found myself having many sleepless nights just thinking about the situation. I'm not from HK, but seeing all the news really break my heart. I hope everyone is safe and sound. And I hope everything will be resolved soon. My heart is with HK ❤️
Taylor! Just wanted to tell you, that I just recently discovered your channel and it's already one of my favorites! I feel like your content is so unique (especially your selfmade high fashion ones and your foodie series) ok, I stop now. Love your videos. Bye.
My son is almost 6 months old and let me tell you girl WHEN you DO have a child it will be the most satisfying accomplishment. When I look down at my son while he's nursing or sleeping or even playing, tears come to my eyes with how blessed I feel. ❤❤❤❤ It's GOING to happen for you!!!!
I absolutely love you vlogging around Hong Kong and showing us wonderful places to explore ourselves one day hopefully. Love you!!!
Can completely relate to the fertility struggles. The emotional rollercoaster every month, not only hope but guilt and blame. My husband already has a child so "knew" the reason I wasnt pregnant wasnt him but me. You can really get into your own head and be really cruel to yourself. I would see other people with babies and friends have babies and although incredibly happy i would envy them so much, worrying it would never happen for me, and then feel guilty that I felt that way. Everyone kept saying "it will happen" but as every month said "not pregnant" any positive thoughts were fading away.
And now I'm writing this 6.5 months pregnant. As much as I can sit here and type "it will happen for you" I know when you're in that space it doesn't help. All I can say is when you're on the other side of this situation you realise how grateful you are for a harder beginning because it teaches you how fragile and wonderful life is.
Yayy a new weekly vlog I’ve missed these so badly !
Me tooooo! Always looking out for it! Finally!
I have quite a few friends who are struggling due to pregnancy. Either they've had complications, miscarriages, infertility, or just any number of things. It is so draining on them emotionally, so I'm incredibly impressed with the grace and strength you and Elbow-san are facing this with. While my husband and I aren't trying to get pregnant, we're trying to find out what's going on with me medically as I've been very sick for a very long time. There's always hope and there's always help. Wishing you the best.
Natalie is looking good! Love her esthetic lately 👍🏼💜
Yea I noticed too! Really picked up from her fashion guru boss. ehhehe
It’s okay Taylor... it’s my second year going through infertility. We will get there it’ll just take longer. I stopped my last med two months ago and I have to wait until November until I get my doctors appointment and switch to another pill. SUPER frustrating cuz I’m basically wasting 5-6 months doing nothing for a doctors appointment. I totally understand ur pain and frustration.
It's really a very sad time in Hong Kong. I used to lived in Hong Kong and work there for 20+ years. It's the city a feel most peaceful and safe and most free. Even without the label "democracy." I'm from a country who has democracy but I have witness atrocities Hong Kong people never experience. I have seen people shot dead in the street. Or dead people laying in the street. Sometimes people are so blinded with the Label "Democracy" that they lose touch of what is really important. And that is Peace. There are so many foreigners working in Hong Kong and most of them come from a democratic country. And a lot of them would even want to renounce their own country passport to get a Hong Kong one. Democracy will not solve all problems in life. But Peace will give you a good chance to your life.
although i understand why you might not want to talk about certain "downer" topics, i think it's really helpful for those of us struggling with different things to hear others talk candidly about their problems. it helps us all realize no one is perfect, and just because we see people with "perfect" lives online doesn't mean they aren't facing their own struggles privately. talk about whatever you want, and let it out if it helps! you have all these people watching your videos who might have shared experiences and new advice for you. it's just refreshing whenever someone is really real, you know? hoping things start looking up for you, girl💖
You're back with a new video. I'm excited to watch. 🙌 You're just my favourite person to see on screen 😍
I struggled with primary infertility, too. It was a roller coaster just like you said and I have depression anyway so I didn't think I would survive it. Just remember that there are so many other people riding that same roller coaster with you and you are not alone. It just takes one lucky month and your battle is won! I now have 3 adult children, but I remember the pain like yesterday. Sending hugs and good wishes to you!
Don't be afraid to talk about things that are on your mind. Your true fans will be here to talk to you...cause we love you and miss seeing your vlogs. 💖 just stay patient and keep faith..it'll happen for you.🙏☺
So lovely to share Sunday with you Taylor. I have followed you for a few years now and watched you grow into a lovely woman. Life can get in the way sometimes can't it but these challenges we all have through life make us stronger to cope with our future life experiences. What will be, will be, just do what you can do.....what's for you will not go past you. Stay positive and dream big! x
I missed your weekly vlogs so much !! love from germany and thanks for being such a great role model and motivation 💛
Liebe Grüße aus Berlin 😍
Awh Taylor, I'm really glad you opened up to us. As someone who was a baby who was conceived with difficulties I want to give you some strength and hope. My mom was like you and struggled and had not only just me and also had my sister. I hope you can always feel like we are a support system for you and continue loving yourself
Oh damn, I'm to early here, I cannot even watch her video in full quality yet. :(
Taylor, I've been watching your vlogs for about 6 years now and from 29:12 and on I was in actual awe of you and how far you've come. It's rare that I see someone and think to myself "wow this person is the real deal." You have a way of talking and sharing that gets people caring and thinking. Keep it up, keep listening to your heart. Sometimes sharing the things that people think you shouldn't talk about is a good thing. I want to be more educated on what is happening in Hong Kong and not just scroll by when I see it come up in my Twitter feed. I hope you are well and please stay safe. ❤
I hope things pick up for you soon
Please stay safe and don’t lose hope, everyone’s journey to motherhood is different and like Tom said, the time will come. Thank you for sharing your experiences, they are a highlight in my week and remind me that there are beautiful places blossoming with creativity and hard work.
i wish you all the best tay♡♡ i always love seeing your vlogs! stay strong, youve been a place of happiness for me for a very long time. i want want to know that and be proud that youve definitely helped me through harder times when ive been feeling lost♡
I have been suffering with infertility for 4 years and it doesn't ever get easier. They always say to just relax...but that is so hard. lots of prayers for you and Tom.
Recent new subscriber and I’m so pumped you uploaded a long vlog!! ❤️ sending love your way and to all of Hong Kong
Thank you for being real and letting us be part of your vulnerable moments, in the end we all have them and it’s something we shouldn’t be embarrassed of. Sending you hugs and love Taylor, I hope that just as you want to be that “safe place” for your viewers with your videos, you can find some support and love back from them through the comments. Also, big respect for you for encouraging your viewers to educate themselves on the situation in HK before stating an opinion.
Rosie's sleeping face 😭😭😭 this kills the man
watching taylor’s vlogs always put me in such a better mood. i’ve been in a bad place for a long time and every time I see that she has uploaded my mood gets instantly better. I’m sorry not everything is working out well lately tay but I'm you’ll get there!
Thank you for acknowledging what is happening in HK. I've been thinking why you never mentioned it. But I realized that saying anything about it without understanding the history of everything is irresponsible especially because of your following.
I know you are not keen to talk about politics. I would just like to share what the protests in HK make me feel. As a Filipino, I envy the heart and perseverance of the people from HK. I hope my countrymen cared enough to protest against the bullying of China. It doesn't help that our government officials are all puppets. Now that I am based in SG, I am thinking to just let go. Get my family and escape everything that is happening in the Philippines. But whenever I see the news about HK, I feel that I should not lose hope and have the guts to defend the country from bullies just like HK.
I'm a year or two younger than you and in a similar boat (except that I'm not trying to have kids), so it was comforting to hear you say that you're feeling lost and then read all the comments from your viewers that feel similarly. I'm sorry you and so many others are feeling that way, but thank you for sharing that. I think that late twenties/early thirties is just a tough age. I often feel that it's because we've had our expectations built up and built up our own in a time when it's near impossible to meet all of them.
i know we often try not to talk about politics on youtube but could you possibly speak of your perspective on the current situation in hongkong right now? would love to hear your insight!
nothing to say - its all fake news
You should check asianboss
Nah. I don’t think they should. Say within 10 yrs China takes over HK. China’s government could penalize Tay and her husband’s company’s mobility for her views on UA-cam if they deem them anti-revolutionary. It’s not worth the risk.
the ironic caption in thumbnail, parallel world i guess
It took me months and months to get pregnant and it literally stressed me out but once I gave up and that was longer my stress we got pregnant, I completely understand what you are going through and I know you and your husband will get through this and ur time to be a mother will come soon sending lots of love Taylor💕
Happened to my aunt too. They adopted my oldest cousin and once that was done the stress just kind of melted away. A year later without even trying she was pregnant with her second son. Sometimes it really is stress that keeps one from getting pregnant sometimes it's something more serious.
Hope you'll see this hug
I really actually love you. Your humor is always fun and on point on my side lol you're amazing and happy that you're on social :)
I have PCOS and it seems like you have a lot of similar symptoms. My husband and I lost twins about three months ago and it's heartbreaking. We want so badly to conceive again but haven't been given the green light to begin trying once more. I understand your pain and it really strikes a chord for me. Your sharing makes you into a real person instead of just another youtube personality and makes me feel like i'll be a loyal viewer for as long as you're putting out content. I appreciate your genuineness and that you're not going to pretend everything is OK if it's really not. Faking happiness is the deadly trap of social media and leads to nothing but unhappiness. I'm sorry about your negative test. You are strong and you will get through this. Lean on your husband, lean on your friends. So many women have been through this too and know your pain, talk to anyone and everyone about it. It's a horrible part of life and nothing to be ashamed of.
Even with 360p she’s a queen 👸
I know exactly how you feel every month. I have been trying for almost a year now and it is very discouraging but it will happen when it is meant to. Glad to hear Tom is sooo supportive that helps a lot. Tons of women have trouble getting pregnant you are definitely NOT alone girl. We love you ❤️
Love having you back
What you said about getting your hopes up each cycle, I can relate soo much... My husband and I were trying for 2,5 years until I got pregnant and it would get harder every month... After about a year it got really hard for my husband too and we would get into huge fights because he started to lose hope and we were both really stressed out.
After 2 years I started to take Chinese medicine (we live in Japan) and learn about the importance of sleep for your hormonal balance, especially during the first half of the cycle... I started focusing on relaxing for the first time and half a year later finally got pregnant.
I know it must be really really hard for you right now but it’s so good to hear that your husband‘s staying positive and supportive. It’s okay to get stressed but please take good care of your relationship too. As long as you support each other you’re going to be fine.
Love you and wish you all the best!
You probably already know this, but just in case you need to hear it today: Your worth as a person, as a UA-camr, as a wife, as a daughter and as a woman is not dependent upon having a child. Things like this take time and everyone will love you just the same regardless. 💕
I love how open and true to yourself you are. I just love your personality. A huge draw also being that I have family from Hong Kong and have affinity to the city, so seeing your life there, hearing Cantonese/seeing Chinese once in a while when you’re going about, it just makes me happy. Love you so much, take care of yourself.
I proper thought for one sec you paid 35 US dollar for a bubble tea ahah
Oceane same! I was so shocked for a second 😅 like I commented wondering too! That’s some expensive tea!
Oceane That’s HK dollars I guess, so not that expensive actually lol
HK dollars
You're not alone Tay, I'm in my mid 30's and hitting a couple of life bumps at once and I feel lost about where I am versus what I want to do or think I should be doing. Somedays it's really hard to get up and feel motivated, but it does help to know I'm not alone in this kind of thing and I know I've had times in my life in the past like this and got through them. Life is full of ups and downs. Take care of yourself and move forward as best you can. Stay safe!
When you're so early, HD hasn't kicked in yet
Lol I thought there was something wrong with my connection or my UA-cam app lol
Going through fertility is so hard. I am so glad you are talking about it so that other people don't feel so alone. I have had to deal with it as well. Its much more common than people think. Thinking positive thoughts for you.🥰
Notification squad, where you at?!
Colin John here!
Thanks for opening up. Everyone has a lot going on, and some times are more overwhelming than others, and it's good to recognise and communicate that. It's also nice to see this side of you. Hats off to you xx take care
Yes! Just what I needed before bed ❤️
Thank you for sharing so much of your life with us. I think the personal parts of your vlogs are super relatable for a lot of 30ish year olds all around the world, including me. You never know when someone needs to hear what you share. Please know that you and your husband and all of Hong Kong will be in my prayers!
With everything that is happening there, I hope you and Tom are doing well.
I'm so glad you took time to talk to us about what's going on in HK. You and Tom have been in my thoughts a lot since this started, hoping you two are staying safe. I understand how unsettling that is. I've never lived through something that intense, but I can well imagine it's quite overpowering. I think it's remarkable that you have refrained from commenting on it. While it's true you might not understand all the issues, I think it's shameful for anyone to suggest that you can't have an opinion because you've only been there for 2 years or whatever. You LIVE there. You are making a life there. You are affected by all of this and you shouldn't have to clam up and not speak when you're concerned about what's happening where you live.