I've never been a people person, I much prefer the company of dogs. Dogs, I can understand. We can sit together beside the fire in perfect peace. I've learned a lot from dogs.
@@zxyatiywariii8 I've had a different experience with dogs. Not an entirely positive one. Dogs are like people in a sense; they are often inconsiderate. Dog lovers just like that they look cute and can't talk back. I like being able to spend time away from people and their pets.
@@barsozer155 lonlieness is feeling like you cannot bear being alone and keep needing to "do something different" no matter what you do. Solitude you cant be with yourself no matter what you are doing. It does not mean joy joy joy but you dont crave another being to help you cope with yourself... something along those lines
Even when he stutters over his words, trying to find the best way to phrase something, it's in a charming way. He's very human and relatable, in a way many try to hide, at their own loss.
At 43 I can say I agree with Bull 100%. But it also applies to relationships. You're far less likely to get trapped into a crappy relationship if you're comfortable being alone as well.
Dont depend on a woman for happiness. Be happy and live your life, if you find a girl on the same wave lenth great. Also dont change you values for a woman...that always ends terribly
“A man can be himself only so long as he is alone; and if he does not love solitude, he will not love freedom; for it is only when he is alone that he is really free.”
dayumm, YOU nailed it !! Word !! THis is exactly WHY I spend sp much of my time alone and when the retirement money finally comes in,Im moving to bum-fuk,out in da beautiful stiux even further than I am now and IM totally totally fine with that,it excites me in a quite peaceful way. Yes Im in touch and know myself. peace be with ya on all levels. Keith.
Being alone can make you strong but also can make you weak if you isolate and have no social skills . We learn so much by being alone but also by being with others, we do need a balance of both.
@@mrleafbeef634 sounds like a recipe for regret, not saying you should put all of your time into people you're not fond of, but like bjorn said in the video as you age you'll be left with few friends so pick wisely and don't give up less you want to deprive yourself of much of the human experience, keep your spirits high friend do not beat yourself down if u desire more find a way to get it
With a couple of thousand dollars in the bank and no bills I thought I would spend the summer in a cove near here , fish and play guitar to my heart's content, (that was 20 years ago) turned out about two weeks of me was all I could stand ,,,, I had to get a job. I think I'd do better now but turns out you must like yourself to be a hermit
"Nothing, to my way of thinking, is it better proof of a well-ordered mind then a man's ability to stop just where he is and pass some time in his own company" - Seneca
Agreed. I noticed we tend to let ourselves down alot because we set a high expectation of others before we come across them. When they are not of the image we made them out to be prior to meeting them, we have ourselves to blame. Much like how I lowball my paychecks, I lowball my potential experience with people. It usually works when I do meet someone pleasant or worth being around.
I humbly disagree. In my opinion (and in my experience) it is best to have no expectations at all, not only when dealing with people, but when dealing with anything at all. Allow yourself to be empty in any new experience, so you can be filled by whatever you encounter without prior judgement.
Old friends i had brought constant negativity and stress, so i isolated myself for some time. Now i only hang with positive and respectful people, and i'm doing better in most areas of my life.
I love the forest and the sea. I have bathed in the warm sea in Australia, and walked in English forests. Sometimes nature is better company than people [some people, not all].
Yes, spending time “alone”, or “with yourself” is important for a man. After all, if you don’t know your own mind, how can you know anything else? Skal
John Smith I could be wrong, but I think she was trying to say that even though she is a woman, she can understand the importance of men having time to be by ourselves.
You gain a laser focus when alone and in silence. When in the woods your hearing attunes and you become more aware. Put down the smartphones. Pull out the earphones. Just listen to the world around you.
I highly recommend periods of alone time! It strengthens self-reflection and builds character. The majority of my time I'm alone - with the exception of my husband and daughter. Most people here in Germany just don't share my mentality, so I'd rather spend my time alone than in company that irritates me. Never felt lonely. Books will teach you more than fools.
True. You should not waste your time with toxic people. But always try to be kind. Talking little and only saying what is important or necessary to say is the key.
Gregory Yankey I find myself a lot of times (learning to let this go) saying things to people, that don’t even concern them, just to start a conversation, I guess to, say lighten the mood. The thing is... they don’t care!! So now I am understanding that it makes even MORE sense not to speak to them at all, unless it is of importance, as you said.... I am now just saying stuff to myself!
Toxic people do bring us the opportunity to see 'what we don't want to become', and for this reason, teach us many valuable lessons on how to love ourselves.
@@arendmookhoek4314 ya I know its good for your mental heath, time too think alone nice place fresh air, less stress better mental heath same thing lol.
@@arendmookhoek4314 the problem in are generation is the lack of good connections and too meany bad one's, every one is drifting away threw technology no one has morals its all about money and greed or what people can get from you even family-friends, Sometimes being alone can be better but humanity as a whole has lost something of great value, Everyone is stronger together but only in the right way we have lost that way.
I am going to be completely honest and put myself out there a little. As a 17 year old male I somewhat teared up to this. Your video hit me in an area that I did not really consider delicate, but learnt I was weak there. I always thought of myself as an introvert... but in reality i stressed a lot about not having many friends. I am glad to know that i don't have to be lonely when alone, and i will try my best to use those moments to strengthen myself.
I've said it once before, but will again: I really wish I had had a dad like you, Bjorn. Down to earth, smart, good advice, teaching life skills that matter, and most importantly, a desire to teach... all the things needed to make a successful adult from a child. I had a step-dad for 12 of my first 13 years, but he paid only minimal attention to me, and for very short periods of time when he did. Toss the football with me? Sure, for about 5-10 minutes, max, never more than once in a summer. I also have 2 older brothers, but they are 9 and 10 years older, so they were never around from the age of 15 on. They were with their friends. So, for all intents and purposes, I grew up an only child from the age of 5, spending innumerable hours alone with only my imagination, and no male influence. My oldest brother tried to play the dad's role, but only when he thought it was time to discipline me. The middle brother barely ever even noticed me. Having to figure life out by yourself as you go along was a shitty way for a young man to grow into the world. I failed at nearly everything I did. I felt defeated easily after failing, since I was never taught HOW to be a man, HOW to react as a man should, or how to tame the horse of life to my whims -- as much as that is possible, anyway. I'm lucky I didn't end up in prison or a grave. Most males in a similar position have a tendency toward those two places. Just wanted to say that I'm envious of your kid(s). They are lucky to have a father such as you. And clearly yours had a good head on his shoulders as well when teaching you as a young one. We're not all so lucky out here, so cherish that. And be sure to pass it on so that future generations will be as strong and confident as they can be.
quazzie1 I wish you well too and hope that you find a good partner to love and be loved by. Maybe loving a son might be difficult for you, or it might not. I had a difficult childhood too, as had many people. Life is just hard for everyone.
Thanks, everyone. It's good to know there are still those who walk among us that have empathy for a stranger and offer their advice or well wishes unbidden and with no expectation of anything in return. @Ellie Green -- becoming a parent is no longer feasible as next summer will be my 50th. I used to want to be a father very much. Since I knew what NOT to do, I felt as though I might be a good one. As far as finding a woman to share my final years with, that, too, is about as likely as the sun rising in the north. I spent many years trying to find her after losing "the one that got away," with all attempts being unsuccessful. Then came health issues that created mental issues, both of which making me feel I'd be more of a burden than a partner. I won't inflict myself on any of the few women willing to deal with such a relationship. Nowadays I've become so afraid of loss that I'd rather just isolate myself and avoid the feeling of losing someone very important to me again. I won't even get another dog solely because of how badly it hurt to lose my little fat buddy 6½ years ago -- just 5 months after losing my mother. You are right when you say life is hard for everyone. It's easier for some than for others, but most of us are in the same boat. And I also realize there are plenty that have it worse than I do, which makes me feel like I shouldn't complain; but at the same time, I also sometimes feel that if I don't vent some of the pressure, my head may pop like a balloon.
Exactly! I'm a introvert and I live in the country with my wife and pets and I work alone in the country and I like it that way. I don't need social interaction but sometimes it's necessary to get the things you need if you can't make them yourself.
Whenever I'm alone it's heaven. With people there's always movies or books or computer as an escape to find solitude. With trees n sea it's me me me me me, a happy me.
It's happened before. Usually one person will be walking in the same stretch of woods he is in. I remember he said something about a woman passing him by in that video about men in cities.
Visigoth29527 that made the video so much sweeter , so much literary gold all around him , I’ll give his books a read and see if they made it in there , as well as his person
Same here. Alot of people think they are "friends", but they aren't, they are just people who want to get something out of you, money, time, whatever. Those aren't friends.
@Paul Greening Yeah, I know those are just people you know. Not really friends. I have a few good friends, and that's all I want really. To much social time means you have less time to get shit done. Women are mostly the social creatures.
Yeah those psychic vampires that guilt you and try to drain what they can out of you and make you feel like you owe them something lol, I've cut soo many people out of my life cause I can see through the bullshit, and ultimately we all cross over to the next world alone, so it's good to make best friends with yourself, and go through this journey grounded and strong, and live a good life and die gracefully
at 39, I approve this message. As soon as I started caring about who is around me, which I did not for a long time, I've noticed my "friends" are just a menace for mental health and random things, sadly bloody all of em. Have no probs being alone so my situation improved with every old friend booted out the door
Being alone is invigorating. There are fewer and fewer places you can do so around where I live now days and every aspect of our lives people are constantly trying to make everything a "team". It is exhausting. Similar to what is talked about in Susan Cain's book "The Power of Quiet".
We live in a culture that celebrates the externalization of our minds and emotions, and encourages the constant search for approval through social-media. It weakens and effeminizes a man to constantly seek validation by other people, and being comfortable by yourself means you get to know yourself better. Your relationship with yourself is the most important, as it's the foundation of every other interaction.
No one cares about what personality he might have had. His contributions to humanity are immeasurable and only the scientifically ignorant would say otherwise.
@@SpocksBro You want to know what science and technology has done? It's destroyed our earth, our society, our health and made it easier for governments and corporations to exert all but total dominance over us. In some countries, like China with their cameras everywhere and facial recognition software, they exert TOTAL dominance. The good science has done in our modern age is on par with a physician setting a broken leg and giving us an infection that will end up killing us. It's said that man only has up to 50 years before they've all but killed themselves off. Then you have the gall to call everyone else ignorant?! Get f**ked you arrogantly sanctimonious bastard.
When I was a young Infantry soldier in the 70’s, I had a whole battalion of friends that I would jump on a hand grenade for. Now that I’m in my 60’s I have very few friends that I would do the same. Basically, most people out there aren’t worth it. I like my solitude.
There’s a difference in being comfortable in your own company and being an isolationist. I believe that those of us who crave time alone respond to others too deeply and need a break.
Good point I feel this. What I would add is I expect a lot out of human relationships, but these days everyone is "busy" or distracted. We cannot sit around a fire and chat without distraction for hours on end about the meaning of life.
I live at 10,000 ft in the rocky mountains retired and live totally off grid no neighbors, go to town once a month maybe . a couple of really great friends and love it
I'm not really into commenting, but this really touched me to some extent. Just wanna let you know, that I, myself, was completely introverted. However, being alone, I grew such confidence, such freedom that after many years now I feel like I'm just having fun in life. Going around, doing chores, working, whatever it is, always taking it light. Most times people are thinking I'm somewhat of born extrovert. But here's the catch, at least in my own experience. There's no such thing as being introverted or extroverted by definition. It's about your perspective and attitude. I mean you can always say, well people suck, I don't want to be around them. Or you can do the other thing, take it as a game, imagine them being NPC or whatever makes you feel comfy; but my point is - you decide what you wanna be.
@@jozzz222 Just like the guy said, I took this quite literally from the game, cause I see it this way. I mean, imagine yourself being the main character of the game (even though it sounds selfish). Non-playable character means you have no control over that human being, allowing yourself to actually mind nothing else but your own business. Somewhat realizing this concept made me so much more confident taking decisions and actions. Sometimes I'm even shocked how much it comes with that attitude. You simply have fun and just enjoy living, simple as it is! I hope yall having a wonderful time, and happy holidays guys!
Also sorry for not responding earlier, didn't really see the message. That's what happens I guess when you involve yourself "too much" with being right here and right, just having fun.
Bjorn you hit the nail on the head as they say . I got my Divorce when I was 26 ( I’m 67 now ) an raised two boys of my own , the oldest my stepson . My boys chose to get married and raise a family, they both have wonderful wives and kids . I live in the country in the Missouri Ozarks by myself. I have a very nice cabin on 12 acres and enjoy living by myself . My kids do visit and I have friends that drop by or to fish and hunt with . I have a dog and two cats that I got from the local animal shelter, they make better company than most people . I chose what I want to do each day and don’t have to worry about if the “ other half “ is happy or angry with me or depressed lol . I spend my time and resources on myself and kids . I guess I’ve become MGTOW over the years , Bjorn my friend I wouldn’t want it any other way ! 😎👍
This comment speaks to me. Lol (Except I would like & love to have a young woman be my wife one day) Animals are great companions! I have a Chocolate labrador retriever and other than God, my dog is my best friend✊✊✊
Steve Ontiveros You own 10.45 acres in Greene County. Not 12. And you’re closer to Springfield than Lake Of The Ozarks. It’s a fairly rural area, but you live in a suburb. You just own land behind your house.
"When your makin yourself better person, there are gonna be people who will try to disturb you" - from my grandpops That man who fired shots just to entertain himself was an example of a person who doesnt have anything better to do, you my friend have such a strong mind to let it go and continue with your solitude, much respect to that.
Then don't. Learn to enjoy being by yourself. Build confidence through hobbies, work and improving qualities you don't like about yourself(not what other people don't like). It sounds like I'm insane, and maybe I am, but I literally joke with myself about things going on in my life. Make fun of yourself, make yourself smile.
Bjorn, you are a lovely man, and I say that as a women who wishes for her son to be a decent msn too. I tell him that in life you have different categories of friends. There are friends who you can socialise with, laugh, drink, be a bit crazy, then the real 2 or 3 friends are those you may not see for months at a time, or even a few years, but when you meet again the months or years evaporate and you pick up where you left off. Thankfully he has 2 such friends. I listen to your perpectives which both confirm the values that my late father lived by and you have insights, wisdom and observationd that are relevant 21st century. Thank you. All good wishes to you and yours.
Just curious, but if you don't see them in months, years, doesn't i mean you don't really care about each other? Like if you enjoy a friends company and time, support and feedback, you would miss them and seek out experiences together right? I think alot of people just want to be oportunistic and selective because they have narcisitic tendicies due to self deluded ideas about them beeing so great. I have experienced people like that trying to get back to me, but I always look at the story, and if it says this person cut me off or just never had time and something like that, never compromised much, then I owe nothing and reject the person. Unless there is a spirit of genuine respect and interest in the wel beeing of each other, it's not worth much
I have lived alone for over ten years now. A number of years ago I was so lonely and wanted friends that I let it closed my good judgment. I paid a hard price for that. I am alone again, though I still would like companionship but I am beginning to find peace of mind is so much more important for my good health. Giving myself the gift of my own company is a quiet joy.
Alone is when you build your own skill set up to be independent and self-reliant, while it’s OK to have a support circle you should never be dependent on other people for your own survival
Brett Pulley This is a good point you have here. I used to have that problem myself. I tried to be there more for others so intensely that I eventually realized I was neglecting my own wants and peace. While you are right, I find many people to have the opposite problem. They spend so much time around others, they can't even interpret what thoughts originated from their own consciousness vs thoughts from those around them. The more alone time you spend, the better you can understand yourself and thus be better for those around you. It's all balance (which is much harder to keep than say of course)
Actually leveraging other people is how humanity made it this far lol. Society is interdependent. The reason we don’t like being alone in the first place is a survival mechanism. The negative feelings of it, drives us to reach out to others to ensure our survival 😂.but it’s still wise to strive for self reliance.
I have chosen to be alone for the past 20 years and, I am extremely happy being alone. My family doesn’t understand this. I would rather be alone and happy than be around people and be miserable.
Being alone is wonderful. I cherish my time alone espcially when I am able to get away from the maddness of city & work life and retreat to my home on the shores of Lough Corrib in the west of Ireland with nothing but the sounds of nature around. Love it.
Been there many times ("friends", crowds etc. who made me feel alone) , however - the worst case is if your "romantic" partner makes you feel this way - worst feeling in the world! So yes, it's better to be alone than living like that, but that takes strengh and character to leave such situations and facing the unkown/loneliness, so only a few people can walk this path...
Love being alone because I get more creative making things from scratch , like arts and crafts and just working on several projects. Though ,I, like people and children, I.CHERISH MY SOLITUDE and sometimes people get in my way and distrack me. People for me are when I really want to be with them and concentrate on the company. I have lots of people who want to visit all the time and I like them ,but in short segments. Yes. You said exactly what I makes me happy, solitude. Listen to music, write or just meditate! Thank you Bjorn.
Freakin word man. One year ago I was quite social but on the brink of a mental breakdown, I was constantly drained and burned out as fuck; so I completely dropped out socially and became isolated. Over the span of the last year I've improved my psyche to a calmer and stronger state, I became a better person. No regrets bois.
Hi Bjorn, I haven't commented in a while. I must have solitude. My 2 dogs and 1 cat are the best friendships there is.. I can trust them, and I enjoy their loving, honest nature. Very nice video today, thank you. 🦉
I envy you. Most apartments in LA dont allow pets (even if it's a big place), and cat company is the only one I want now, being the one animal I'm most familiar owning. Just this fact alone reminds me that living in a city is nothing short of depressing and lonely. Can't wait until I move out in a few years. No more cities. Ever.
I saw it quite the opposite way. Liked the video, but thought that comment was rather judgemental, defeatist, maybe even hypocritical. He tells about something that does not happen every day, gets a normal amount of doubt in return (maybe not even doubt, more like a "holy crap, that really happened?") and hits the guy with an answer, showing a lack of social competence AND a lack of patience. To top it all off, a pessimistic, box-like-thinking "Some people" to end the video. Sorry brother, the message of the video was great, but - in my opinion - a poor way to end it.
I just want to tell you brother. Even when you're out there alone, and I'm alone a lot. The one thing all people need to hear Is somebody say I love you? You're a good soul. Let your light shine. I hope that brightens your day.
I just don’t enjoy the company of most people.. I prefer solitude as much as possible. I feel alive and free when I’m alone and can do whatever I want with that time
I cherish my time alone. I am my best self in solitude. This is a tremendous advantage, because you no longer NEED human interaction - it allows you to pick and choose the good people, the diamonds in the rough. Love your videos sir, we are very much alike 💪❤
I used to be a people person, then people ruined it.
Just confirms that dogs are far better than people for company.
Tell me about it.
Yep they do that .
I've never been a people person, I much prefer the company of dogs. Dogs, I can understand. We can sit together beside the fire in perfect peace. I've learned a lot from dogs.
@@zxyatiywariii8 I've had a different experience with dogs. Not an entirely positive one. Dogs are like people in a sense; they are often inconsiderate. Dog lovers just like that they look cute and can't talk back. I like being able to spend time away from people and their pets.
The worst feeling is being alone while you are with someone. Thank you for these words of wisdom, brother.
"Loneliness is poverty of the self; solitude is richness of the self" - May Sarton
How can you describe the difference?
@@barsozer155 lonlieness is feeling like you cannot bear being alone and keep needing to "do something different" no matter what you do. Solitude you cant be with yourself no matter what you are doing. It does not mean joy joy joy but you dont crave another being to help you cope with yourself... something along those lines
I like that.
Loneliness isn’t a choice, solitude is.
Sarton's "Journal of a Solitude" is one of the best books I've ever
read.
“If you're lonely when you're alone, you're in bad company.”
― Jean-Paul Sartre
Wdym
smart phillosopher
@@juancastanos7685 the best indeed.
Zero Cool r u homeless?
"If you're bad company when you're lonely, you're in alone" - Harambe 1723
"The real cause of stress is daily interaction and contact with idiots."
albert einstein
I doubt he called some people idiots
Oh man! I love that one it is so true😂
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"Wife, I'm leaving you so I can be with my cousin" - Albert Einstein
@@yamelysaeteros5640 i don't
All of humanity’s problems stem from man’s inability to sit quietly in a room alone. -Blaise Pascal
Great quote!
If one cannot be happy in one,s own room. Where can you be?
Sitting is the problem, I have tons of books, but would rather be getting work done.
Everyone needs to Google "Pascal's Wager" and adopt it as their personal religion! (or a GREAT LAUGH:)
@@kayakdan48 Pascals wager is a Poor argument What if you Believe in the Wrong God?Sometimes its Good to be alone and not inflicted yourself on others
"Whoever is delighted in solitude is either a wild beast or a god"
- Aristotle
Aristotle thought fly has 8 feet...
Have you just called me a wild beast?
right, wild beast it is
I put that quote up in my locker 2 years ago, didn't help much.
Extraterrestrial Horse because solitude isn’t for everybody
i'm only lonely when in a room full of people.
Yes !
Same
Agreed
Listen to some Anathema
me2 ... except with good friends :)
This man is like having a chat with your dad when you go out for a walk.
Even when he stutters over his words, trying to find the best way to phrase something, it's in a charming way. He's very human and relatable, in a way many try to hide, at their own loss.
Really well put. I think that's what I like about his channels, as well.
Now I understand why my grandfather told me that one or two friends are enough. This video remind me of my grandfather alot and I miss him so much. 😔😭
Melanie-Datcher Hernandez Bless you and your grandfather ❤️
@@泰勒-u1h Thank you! You too. 😊
Yes. I have one best friend. We talk 4 times a year, we get together twice a year. I live by myself the rest of the year
A lot
@@melanie-datcherhernandez5467 This video☝️
At 43 I can say I agree with Bull 100%. But it also applies to relationships. You're far less likely to get trapped into a crappy relationship if you're comfortable being alone as well.
Deteschmode So true, when a girl knows you aren’t going to just stay around after she behaves terribly she’s way more likely to behave.
@@UA-camSucksEggs Damn right. Kind of made that mistake with my slut of an ex!
Deteschmode Indeed
Those desperate for love always end up in bad relationships. Those who can happily live with themselves find true companions.
Dont depend on a woman for happiness. Be happy and live your life, if you find a girl on the same wave lenth great. Also dont change you values for a woman...that always ends terribly
Common sense is like deodorant: Those who need it most, hardly ever use it...
you sir has won the internet today.
This is really good🤣🤣
Yo straight FACTS🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Well they need it because they hardly ever use it.
lol
“A man can be himself only so long as he is alone; and if he does not love solitude, he will not love freedom; for it is only when he is alone that he is really free.”
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dayumm, YOU nailed it !! Word !! THis is exactly WHY I spend sp much of my time alone and when the retirement money finally comes in,Im moving to bum-fuk,out in da beautiful stiux even further than I am now and IM totally totally fine with that,it excites me in a quite peaceful way. Yes Im in touch and know myself. peace be with ya on all levels. Keith.
Where is that from?? I like that 1!!
Being alone can make you strong but also can make you weak if you isolate and have no social skills . We learn so much by being alone but also by being with others, we do need a balance of both.
Id rather be alone forever
@@mrleafbeef634 sounds like a recipe for regret, not saying you should put all of your time into people you're not fond of, but like bjorn said in the video as you age you'll be left with few friends so pick wisely and don't give up less you want to deprive yourself of much of the human experience, keep your spirits high friend do not beat yourself down if u desire more find a way to get it
Being alone is so great, I can't stop talking to people about it!
Its not for everybody.
LOL!
Hahah alone... Together!
I always been talking to myself everytime I'm alone.
With a couple of thousand dollars in the bank and no bills I thought I would spend the summer in a cove near here , fish and play guitar to my heart's content, (that was 20 years ago) turned out about two weeks of me was all I could stand ,,,, I had to get a job. I think I'd do better now but turns out you must like yourself to be a hermit
"Nothing, to my way of thinking, is it better proof of a well-ordered mind then a man's ability to stop just where he is and pass some time in his own company" - Seneca
Well said
Great quote
His Stoicism is a wonderful philosophy for those who prefer being alone...along with Existentialism.
Dan O'Connell going to read Marcus Aurelius meditations after I finish the bool I am on looking forward to it so much
"A clean garage is the sign of a dirty mind"
I’m not always around people, but when I am, I prefer not to be, stay lonely my friends
LOL, funny and true at the same time 👍
Alone is positive
lonely is negative
Here! Here!
😂😂😂 lol.
Said the most interesting man in the world. Good job!
When dealing with people, set your expectations low.
You will be less disappointed
Better yet, have no expectations at all.
But they will call you “snobby” ? Sometimes... or a lot of the time
lol
Agreed. I noticed we tend to let ourselves down alot because we set a high expectation of others before we come across them. When they are not of the image we made them out to be prior to meeting them, we have ourselves to blame.
Much like how I lowball my paychecks, I lowball my potential experience with people. It usually works when I do meet someone pleasant or worth being around.
I humbly disagree. In my opinion (and in my experience) it is best to have no expectations at all, not only when dealing with people, but when dealing with anything at all.
Allow yourself to be empty in any new experience, so you can be filled by whatever you encounter without prior judgement.
Why have any expectations?
Old friends i had brought constant negativity and stress, so i isolated myself for some time. Now i only hang with positive and respectful people, and i'm doing better in most areas of my life.
I love the forest and the sea. I have bathed in the warm sea in Australia, and walked in English forests. Sometimes nature is better company than people [some people, not all].
Countryside disappearing in England ……devoured by grey windowless , sinister massive units and millions of yellow Lego houses .
Yes, spending time “alone”, or “with yourself” is important for a man.
After all, if you don’t know your own mind, how can you know anything else?
Skal
I’m a woman, and I wholeheartedly agree!
SkeptLite 👍🏻
John Smith I could be wrong, but I think she was trying to say that even though she is a woman, she can understand the importance of men having time to be by ourselves.
I am a loner by nature. I need my solitude. The more people that are around me, the more uncomfortable I get.
You gain a laser focus when alone and in silence.
When in the woods your hearing attunes and you become more aware.
Put down the smartphones. Pull out the earphones.
Just listen to the world around you.
I highly recommend periods of alone time! It strengthens self-reflection and builds character. The majority of my time I'm alone - with the exception of my husband and daughter. Most people here in Germany just don't share my mentality, so I'd rather spend my time alone than in company that irritates me. Never felt lonely. Books will teach you more than fools.
I’m the same in the U.K. ……books and writing and painting are freedom
I've been alone most my life. All I need is my dog and I'm happy.
Nice, hello to you :) voff
My dog is my best friend too.
You can depend on and trust your dog or cat. I've been alone most of my life too. I wouldn't have it any other way now.
True. You should not waste your time with toxic people. But always try to be kind. Talking little and only saying what is important or necessary to say is the key.
Gregory Yankey I find myself a lot of times (learning to let this go) saying things to people, that don’t even concern them, just to start a conversation, I guess to, say lighten the mood. The thing is... they don’t care!! So now I am understanding that it makes even MORE sense not to speak to them at all, unless it is of importance, as you said.... I am now just saying stuff to myself!
Well said Gregory
Toxic people do bring us the opportunity to see 'what we don't want to become', and for this reason, teach us many valuable lessons on how to love ourselves.
A wise man once said nothing.
@@musingsfromthewoodlands if the person involved learns from it
The less people you chill with the less stress you have to deal with.
That's not exactly what he is saying.
@@arendmookhoek4314 ya I know its good for your mental heath, time too think alone nice place fresh air, less stress better mental heath same thing lol.
@@GreenGino yeah, I think being as connected as we are also makes us much weaker because we never truly get away from others like that.
@@arendmookhoek4314 the problem in are generation is the lack of good connections and too meany bad one's, every one is drifting away threw technology no one has morals its all about money and greed or what people can get from you even family-friends, Sometimes being alone can be better but humanity as a whole has lost something of great value, Everyone is stronger together but only in the right way we have lost that way.
@@arendmookhoek4314 when one man can beat a army but that army could beat anything. Just a little daily bread a play on words too think on.
"The strongest man in the world is he who stands most alone" - Henrik Ibsen (another brilliant Norwegian author).
I disagree. Men are strongest when they work together. The key is balance between solitude and socialization.
I agree with both sides. The strongest men will stand alone until they find others who don't.
I’m so grateful that people like you exist. I’m grateful that you’re putting this message and all your other very important messages out there.
Thank you.
I am going to be completely honest and put myself out there a little.
As a 17 year old male I somewhat teared up to this. Your video hit me in an area that I did not really consider delicate, but learnt I was weak there. I always thought of myself as an introvert... but in reality i stressed a lot about not having many friends. I am glad to know that i don't have to be lonely when alone, and i will try my best to use those moments to strengthen myself.
I've said it once before, but will again:
I really wish I had had a dad like you, Bjorn. Down to earth, smart, good advice, teaching life skills that matter, and most importantly, a desire to teach... all the things needed to make a successful adult from a child.
I had a step-dad for 12 of my first 13 years, but he paid only minimal attention to me, and for very short periods of time when he did. Toss the football with me? Sure, for about 5-10 minutes, max, never more than once in a summer.
I also have 2 older brothers, but they are 9 and 10 years older, so they were never around from the age of 15 on. They were with their friends. So, for all intents and purposes, I grew up an only child from the age of 5, spending innumerable hours alone with only my imagination, and no male influence. My oldest brother tried to play the dad's role, but only when he thought it was time to discipline me. The middle brother barely ever even noticed me.
Having to figure life out by yourself as you go along was a shitty way for a young man to grow into the world. I failed at nearly everything I did. I felt defeated easily after failing, since I was never taught HOW to be a man, HOW to react as a man should, or how to tame the horse of life to my whims -- as much as that is possible, anyway. I'm lucky I didn't end up in prison or a grave. Most males in a similar position have a tendency toward those two places.
Just wanted to say that I'm envious of your kid(s). They are lucky to have a father such as you. And clearly yours had a good head on his shoulders as well when teaching you as a young one. We're not all so lucky out here, so cherish that. And be sure to pass it on so that future generations will be as strong and confident as they can be.
I wish you well on your journey here and onwards. Dont run away from your path of solitude. Namaste
+quazzie1
It's better to not have a father, than to have a shitty, abusive father, who always yells at you and beats you.
I don't know you but I was touched by your story man and I'm gald you here with us and wish you the best !!
quazzie1 I wish you well too and hope that you find a good partner to love and be loved by.
Maybe loving a son might be difficult for you, or it might not.
I had a difficult childhood too, as had many people.
Life is just hard for everyone.
Thanks, everyone. It's good to know there are still those who walk among us that have empathy for a stranger and offer their advice or well wishes unbidden and with no expectation of anything in return.
@Ellie Green -- becoming a parent is no longer feasible as next summer will be my 50th. I used to want to be a father very much. Since I knew what NOT to do, I felt as though I might be a good one.
As far as finding a woman to share my final years with, that, too, is about as likely as the sun rising in the north. I spent many years trying to find her after losing "the one that got away," with all attempts being unsuccessful. Then came health issues that created mental issues, both of which making me feel I'd be more of a burden than a partner. I won't inflict myself on any of the few women willing to deal with such a relationship.
Nowadays I've become so afraid of loss that I'd rather just isolate myself and avoid the feeling of losing someone very important to me again. I won't even get another dog solely because of how badly it hurt to lose my little fat buddy 6½ years ago -- just 5 months after losing my mother.
You are right when you say life is hard for everyone. It's easier for some than for others, but most of us are in the same boat. And I also realize there are plenty that have it worse than I do, which makes me feel like I shouldn't complain; but at the same time, I also sometimes feel that if I don't vent some of the pressure, my head may pop like a balloon.
I have always preferred my own company.
Being an introvert I'm most comfortable with my own company, or that of a dog or a cat.
Exactly! I'm a introvert and I live in the country with my wife and pets and I work alone in the country and I like it that way. I don't need social interaction but sometimes it's necessary to get the things you need if you can't make them yourself.
I work with the public but when im not at work a perfer the company of my dog . More loyal than any human and he would die for me.
Same, human noise annoys me.
Pathetic tbh
Yes I love animals and their company way more than a person.
Whenever I'm alone it's heaven. With people there's always movies or books or computer as an escape to find solitude. With trees n sea it's me me me me me, a happy me.
"Being alone can make you stronger" ... my powers must be immeasurable
Alone doesnt equal with being lonly
OVER NINE THOUSAND!!!!
The irony that a video on being alone is the only one I can remember where he was interrupted by someone else...
LOL True that ......
IKR..LOL 😂
He proves his point that it's better to be alone than to waste time on idiots who'd rather not know anything.
It's happened before. Usually one person will be walking in the same stretch of woods he is in. I remember he said something about a woman passing him by in that video about men in cities.
Visigoth29527 that made the video so much sweeter , so much literary gold all around him , I’ll give his books a read and see if they made it in there , as well as his person
I prefer to be alone most the time cause people annoy me
Same here. Alot of people think they are "friends", but they aren't, they are just people who want to get something out of you, money, time, whatever. Those aren't friends.
@Paul Greening Yeah, I know those are just people you know. Not really friends. I have a few good friends, and that's all I want really. To much social time means you have less time to get shit done. Women are mostly the social creatures.
Yes,I agree they certainly do
My Sentiments Exactly!!!
Yeah those psychic vampires that guilt you and try to drain what they can out of you and make you feel like you owe them something lol, I've cut soo many people out of my life cause I can see through the bullshit, and ultimately we all cross over to the next world alone, so it's good to make best friends with yourself, and go through this journey grounded and strong, and live a good life and die gracefully
I realize I am lonely only when there are people around me. In my mind I am never alone.
Abhijeet Sharma hello from France, brother !
at 39, I approve this message. As soon as I started caring about who is around me, which I did not for a long time, I've noticed my "friends" are just a menace for mental health and random things, sadly bloody all of em. Have no probs being alone so my situation improved with every old friend booted out the door
I’m alone cause I just can’t deal with other people’s stupidity, lack of loyalty and betrayal.
Andrew OBrien dude I lost faith in humanity a long time ago.
@@carlingas666 be alone bro its good that way but when you encounter someone be kind you will truly enjoy that trust me
Everyone has a part to play in the relationships they create/maintain/destroy. I hope you work things out my friend!
In other words: you don't want to get hurt.
They don't taught us that in schools
I always ask myself when was the last time I heard the wind in the trees, if I can't remember then I need to be alone in the woods.
🤣
I not only like what you said, but I like the way you said it. Taking that line to the bank. Lol
When I was a teenager my uncle told me that a person has very few friends, maybe many associates, but very few friends.
yeah...very true ...we may have lot of friendly associates,, but very few friends
0:36 bjorn with the beanie on: looks 43 years old
0:38 bjorn without beanie: looks 27 years old
I prefer to be alone. I have always felt the most clear headed and centered when alone.
Being alone is invigorating. There are fewer and fewer places you can do so around where I live now days and every aspect of our lives people are constantly trying to make everything a "team". It is exhausting.
Similar to what is talked about in Susan Cain's book "The Power of Quiet".
Try to find the place of balance between self and team.
We live in a culture that celebrates the externalization of our minds and emotions, and encourages the constant search for approval through social-media. It weakens and effeminizes a man to constantly seek validation by other people, and being comfortable by yourself means you get to know yourself better. Your relationship with yourself is the most important, as it's the foundation of every other interaction.
@Meta Man I'm actually working on one, at the moment... Planning to self-publish...
@J G bullshit
"I never said half of the shit people quote me as saying." ~Albert Einstein
Einstein left his wife for his cousin, while their daughter was dying. Then left his cousin for her daughter. I think he needed to be alone!
@Franz Klein Agreed
No one cares about what personality he might have had. His contributions to humanity are immeasurable and only the scientifically ignorant would say otherwise.
Nice job, dumbass. You killed your own point....because he never said that.
@@SpocksBro You want to know what science and technology has done? It's destroyed our earth, our society, our health and made it easier for governments and corporations to exert all but total dominance over us. In some countries, like China with their cameras everywhere and facial recognition software, they exert TOTAL dominance. The good science has done in our modern age is on par with a physician setting a broken leg and giving us an infection that will end up killing us. It's said that man only has up to 50 years before they've all but killed themselves off. Then you have the gall to call everyone else ignorant?! Get f**ked you arrogantly sanctimonious bastard.
I used to have fun with crowds, nowadays I am a loner or an introvert when everything changed since 2016 for me, man do I not regret that decision.
When I was a young Infantry soldier in the 70’s, I had a whole battalion of friends that I would jump on a hand grenade for. Now that I’m in my 60’s I have very few friends that I would do the same. Basically, most people out there aren’t worth it. I like my solitude.
There’s a difference in being comfortable in your own company and being an isolationist. I believe that those of us who crave time alone respond to others too deeply and need a break.
You said it! The very thing that just happened to me-again!
Good point I feel this. What I would add is I expect a lot out of human relationships, but these days everyone is "busy" or distracted. We cannot sit around a fire and chat without distraction for hours on end about the meaning of life.
@@noglobo The only meaning in life is that which you Give it
@Luke Lemmon So why are YOU here?
I live at 10,000 ft in the rocky mountains retired and live totally off grid no neighbors, go to town once a month maybe . a couple of really great friends and love it
I’m late in life and prefer to be alone. Being alone means you don’t have to listen to stupidity. It’s great to have thoughts that are mine alone.
"Acquaintances are many; Friends are few." - My Dad
this is a video about why being introverted has its benefits.
I'm not really into commenting, but this really touched me to some extent. Just wanna let you know, that I, myself, was completely introverted. However, being alone, I grew such confidence, such freedom that after many years now I feel like I'm just having fun in life. Going around, doing chores, working, whatever it is, always taking it light. Most times people are thinking I'm somewhat of born extrovert. But here's the catch, at least in my own experience. There's no such thing as being introverted or extroverted by definition. It's about your perspective and attitude. I mean you can always say, well people suck, I don't want to be around them. Or you can do the other thing, take it as a game, imagine them being NPC or whatever makes you feel comfy; but my point is - you decide what you wanna be.
chbts what does NPC mean
@@jozzz222 lol, non playable/player characters,
@@jozzz222 Just like the guy said, I took this quite literally from the game, cause I see it this way. I mean, imagine yourself being the main character of the game (even though it sounds selfish). Non-playable character means you have no control over that human being, allowing yourself to actually mind nothing else but your own business. Somewhat realizing this concept made me so much more confident taking decisions and actions. Sometimes I'm even shocked how much it comes with that attitude. You simply have fun and just enjoy living, simple as it is! I hope yall having a wonderful time, and happy holidays guys!
Also sorry for not responding earlier, didn't really see the message. That's what happens I guess when you involve yourself "too much" with being right here and right, just having fun.
"The more powerful and original a mind, the more it will incline towards the religion of solitude" - Aldous Huxley
I feel like Uncle Bjorn has probably wrestled many bears, and won.
He would probably run away then make an 11 min youtube video about how the bears lacked integrity and proper testosterone levels.
@@SwitchingRooskies i could totally see that
@Caramel Johnson Yikes. Go spend some time outdoors.
He can take Russia in the winter
Uncle Bjorn doesn't play tennis and he doesn't read the comments. He's too busy playing solitaire.
Bjorn you hit the nail on the head as they say . I got my Divorce when I was 26 ( I’m 67 now ) an raised two boys of my own , the oldest my stepson . My boys chose to get married and raise a family, they both have wonderful wives and kids . I live in the country in the Missouri Ozarks by myself. I have a very nice cabin on 12 acres and enjoy living by myself . My kids do visit and I have friends that drop by or to fish and hunt with . I have a dog and two cats that I got from the local animal shelter, they make better company than most people . I chose what I want to do each day and don’t have to worry about if the “ other half “ is happy or angry with me or depressed lol . I spend my time and resources on myself and kids . I guess I’ve become MGTOW over the years , Bjorn my friend I wouldn’t want it any other way ! 😎👍
This comment speaks to me. Lol (Except I would like & love to have a young woman be my wife one day) Animals are great companions! I have a Chocolate labrador retriever and other than God, my dog is my best friend✊✊✊
We were fairly close neighbors. I lived in Lincoln Missouri for many years.
Charles Harper yes I know where Lincoln is , my stepson lives is Warsaw and my youngest lives in Branson ! 👍
@@steveontiveros5425 My pop is buried in Warsaw, and my great grandma used to live in Fristoe.
Steve Ontiveros You own 10.45 acres in Greene County. Not 12. And you’re closer to Springfield than Lake Of The Ozarks. It’s a fairly rural area, but you live in a suburb. You just own land behind your house.
"When your makin yourself better person, there are gonna be people who will try to disturb you" - from my grandpops
That man who fired shots just to entertain himself was an example of a person who doesnt have anything better to do, you my friend have such a strong mind to let it go and continue with your solitude, much respect to that.
"you're trying to straighten out a wiggly world, and no wonder you're in trouble" - Alan Watts
I don't mind being alone, I just don't what to be lonely.
@Dianne Higo same here, there is a lot of strength to gain from this
Then don't. Learn to enjoy being by yourself. Build confidence through hobbies, work and improving qualities you don't like about yourself(not what other people don't like). It sounds like I'm insane, and maybe I am, but I literally joke with myself about things going on in my life. Make fun of yourself, make yourself smile.
@Dianne Higo Jesus is a character from some fake desert religion... search your ancestors religion and heritage to get in touch with yourself ..
@@Horrordelic ah yes let me look into my fake forest religion..
@@DarkCrusade Nature is fake for you ?
"It is better to be alone than to be in bad company."
- George Washington
I love being alone. I don’t enjoy it all the time, but on the times I choose to be alone and take time away from society I feel that it refreshes me.
This man is very wise. He should be a youth mentor.
so what you're saying is that home alone was a good movie
ahahahha nice
I literally just finished the Home Alone films from Disney+ and now I'm here cus it's my first day alone in a while...I'm 23 lol
SET I just watched the first one today! 😂🤘🏽
LMFAO🤣😂
well in the end Kevin had company, the wet guys, you know...so he wasn't truly alone
Bjorn, you are a lovely man, and I say that as a women who wishes for her son to be a decent msn too. I tell him that in life you have different categories of friends. There are friends who you can socialise with, laugh, drink, be a bit crazy, then the real 2 or 3 friends are those you may not see for months at a time, or even a few years, but when you meet again the months or years evaporate and you pick up where you left off. Thankfully he has 2 such friends. I listen to your perpectives which both confirm the values that my late father lived by and you have insights, wisdom and observationd that are relevant 21st century. Thank you. All good wishes to you and yours.
Just curious, but if you don't see them in months, years, doesn't i mean you don't really care about each other?
Like if you enjoy a friends company and time, support and feedback, you would miss them and seek out experiences together right?
I think alot of people just want to be oportunistic and selective because they have narcisitic tendicies due to self deluded ideas about them beeing so great.
I have experienced people like that trying to get back to me, but I always look at the story, and if it says this person cut me off or just never had time and something like that, never compromised much, then I owe nothing and reject the person.
Unless there is a spirit of genuine respect and interest in the wel beeing of each other, it's not worth much
I'm a introvert and I feel most alive when I am by myself .
I have lived alone for over ten years now. A number of years ago I was so lonely and wanted friends that I let it closed my good judgment. I paid a hard price for that. I am alone again, though I still would like companionship but I am beginning to find peace of mind is so much more important for my good health. Giving myself the gift of my own company is a quiet joy.
Solitude is in itself a reward of immense depth and proportions!
I believe this... I am 42 years old and spent most of it alone. And it has made me stronger...
Alone is when you build your own skill set up to be independent and self-reliant, while it’s OK to have a support circle you should never be dependent on other people for your own survival
You will never be 100% self sufficient just more self sufficient than others
Brett Pulley This is a good point you have here. I used to have that problem myself. I tried to be there more for others so intensely that I eventually realized I was neglecting my own wants and peace. While you are right, I find many people to have the opposite problem. They spend so much time around others, they can't even interpret what thoughts originated from their own consciousness vs thoughts from those around them. The more alone time you spend, the better you can understand yourself and thus be better for those around you. It's all balance (which is much harder to keep than say of course)
Actually leveraging other people is how humanity made it this far lol. Society is interdependent. The reason we don’t like being alone in the first place is a survival mechanism. The negative feelings of it, drives us to reach out to others to ensure our survival 😂.but it’s still wise to strive for self reliance.
I have chosen to be alone for the past 20 years and, I am extremely happy being alone. My family doesn’t understand this.
I would rather be alone and happy than be around people and be miserable.
I agree. People have a habit of disappointing you.
Lucky.
I have been alone since being divorced 8 years sometimes it is tough but it has made me so strong solitude teaches you how to cope better
Married with family that I adore but my rare times alone are like gold to me.
Being alone is wonderful. I cherish my time alone espcially when I am able to get away from the maddness of city & work life and retreat to my home on the shores of Lough Corrib in the west of Ireland with nothing but the sounds of nature around. Love it.
Having a dog along can be a very nice asset when alone.
Thats because dogs dont talk
I don't like being alone but on one hand, I'll rather be alone then being with somebody who would make me feel alone.
Been there many times ("friends", crowds etc. who made me feel alone) , however - the worst case is if your "romantic" partner makes you feel this way - worst feeling in the world! So yes, it's better to be alone than living like that, but that takes strengh and character to leave such situations and facing the unkown/loneliness, so only a few people can walk this path...
@Chuck Robinson The picture is in black & white. The picture is probably from 50 years ago.
Of course you don't like being alone. You're a female that derives all your self worth from the shallow attention of men.
@@godofgoddesses872 Of course you don't like being alone. You're ogre that derives all your self loathing from the lack of attention from women.
@@godofgoddesses872 it is true, Women don't enjoy solitude as easily as men!
..."you shouldn't care about your friends"......"they won't be here anyway"....
Love being alone because I get more creative making things from scratch , like arts and crafts and just working on several projects. Though ,I, like people and children, I.CHERISH MY SOLITUDE and sometimes people get in my way and distrack me. People for me are when I really want to be with them and concentrate on the company. I have lots of people who want to visit all the time and I like them ,but in short segments. Yes. You said exactly what I makes me happy, solitude. Listen to music, write or just meditate! Thank you Bjorn.
This video identifies me completely. Nothing better then going out to the forest and be alone now and then.
Common sense is not so common anymore these days.
-Voltaire
Common sense is the least common of all the senses.
Agree totally. There is no need to get involved when in most cases those people will utterly disappoint you anyway.
Yes, I find myself doing less and less "disappointment" as I get older, and wiser.
Freakin word man. One year ago I was quite social but on the brink of a mental breakdown, I was constantly drained and burned out as fuck; so I completely dropped out socially and became isolated. Over the span of the last year I've improved my psyche to a calmer and stronger state, I became a better person. No regrets bois.
"And there is no one to TRUST"!!
This is very true, the OLDER i get the more Selective i GET with what Friends i choose.
Hi Bjorn, I haven't commented in a while. I must have solitude. My 2 dogs and 1 cat are the best friendships there is.. I can trust them, and I enjoy their loving, honest nature. Very nice video today, thank you. 🦉
I'd like a dog but I don't think I could devote the time to one.
I envy you. Most apartments in LA dont allow pets (even if it's a big place), and cat company is the only one I want now, being the one animal I'm most familiar owning.
Just this fact alone reminds me that living in a city is nothing short of depressing and lonely. Can't wait until I move out in a few years. No more cities. Ever.
The ending to this video was just the best. “Some people” sums it up.
Hell is other People But YOU'RE the other People
I saw it quite the opposite way. Liked the video, but thought that comment was rather judgemental, defeatist, maybe even hypocritical. He tells about something that does not happen every day, gets a normal amount of doubt in return (maybe not even doubt, more like a "holy crap, that really happened?") and hits the guy with an answer, showing a lack of social competence AND a lack of patience. To top it all off, a pessimistic, box-like-thinking "Some people" to end the video.
Sorry brother, the message of the video was great, but - in my opinion - a poor way to end it.
Being a lone wolf is where my power lies.
I just want to tell you brother. Even when you're out there alone, and I'm alone a lot. The one thing all people need to hear Is somebody say I love you? You're a good soul. Let your light shine. I hope that brightens your day.
I just don’t enjoy the company of most people.. I prefer solitude as much as possible. I feel alive and free when I’m alone and can do whatever I want with that time
Bjorn, while growing up and camping outdoors in the Arizona mountains, we expressed a saying about the campfire: "Smoke follows beauty!"
That's what the adults used to tell me when their cigarette smoke followed me around the kitchen table! Lol! But Bjorn is better looking than I am !
you have become a father figure to many; that is a great accomplishment.
"In solitude & silence I find my true self." D. Chopra. A little mantra which is close to my heart. 🌺🙏
Agree 100%. Although I'm not "young" - love being alone and never feel lonely.
As an artist, I need that solitude. My inner voice is very shy, so without the silence, it doesn’t speak to me.
“I don’t need friends, they disappoint me”
Carla shaw
I agree totally. I am much more comfortable on my own than in the presence of lots of people. Good stuff. Thanks for sharing.
I cherish my time alone. I am my best self in solitude. This is a tremendous advantage, because you no longer NEED human interaction - it allows you to pick and choose the good people, the diamonds in the rough. Love your videos sir, we are very much alike 💪❤
I second that Robin Williams quote!
Quote of the year:"It's wonderful..........the silence." I enjoy that in estonian forests too when i'm roaming.
It always amazes me how wise Bjorn is.