if you get a hysterectomy that includes the removal of the cervix, you do not need pap smears or gyno exams. and that is indeed the type of hysto i had done. i have had a gyno exam before. theyre important for anyone with a uterus! the documentary/movie about a transman, southern comfort, shows how important it is to keep getting exams because it can be really scary to have a cancer situation and have no resources or help :[ that movie always makes me cry, id definitely check it out.
yes my friend, i do plan to make more music-videos! i actually am creating a different channel for them and will share that once i get it up and runnin (most likely in the fall since I'll be gone all of the summer away from electricity!) artwork isn't being created so much right now, just for one drawing class - but next semester i will have a lot more to show as i'll be preparing for my senior show :] thanks for askin!
i actually am not using formspring anymore because ive answered over 7000 of very similar questions.. it was good while it lasted but it hasnt been the most effective way of communicating! asking on my most recent video is the easiest way for me to answer questions at this point :]
perhaps. i would have understood if they had a problem due to legal issues of housing genders together - i had a problem with that in college in "gender neutral" and realizing it wasn't "biological sex neutral" housing. they simply legally could not allow it - i understand the boundaries laws, that does not necessarily mean i support them. i suppose that is where the majority of the importance comes from, especially involving kids.
indeed. it's important to know that there are no "required surgeries" when transitioning. all surgeries are technically elective unless medically necessary (my hysterectomy falls under the latter). assuming that someone has had a certain surgery can be taken as offensive or de-legitimatizing; if you are asking someone in the future, a good preface would be "would it be okay for me to ask you about any surgeries you've had or plan to have?" just a heads up!
probably not to be honest!discovering who i am and transitioning towards that has definitely helped me mature, and the experiences along the way have made me more comfortable with myself. i think often if i could choose to be born male, would i? my friend seth and i have talked about this a few times, and i really think i would probably still choose my journey if i had had a choice :]
I love your sense of self awareness! It's so reassuring, and inspirational. It's so hard to reach a point in your life when you are happy with yourself, and are able to accept the things about yourself that others so harshly judge, or simply do not understand. I've absolutely loved following your story, and you are truly a source of encouragement and inspiration for me! Much love! :)
hey my friend, you wouldn't need to change insurance as far as i am aware. i changed everything except my birth certificate and insurance (i could change both, but have decided not to.) my doctor says it is safest to keep insurance as female until/unless you have had top surgery and have a hysterectomy - if you switch it to male and anything goes wrong involving those two parts, you can get yourself in an extremely complicated situation!
if you have access to resources in school or in community centers - i highly recommend therapy and counseling (it also gets the ball rolling for future things if you decide to go that route.) i brought my family to therapy and that really helped, as well. being scared of doctors is legitimate, but most doctors judge people regardless if they are transgender or not - most human beings judge people in general. doctors/therapists will be good resources, and there are good ones all over :]
male. i changed my drivers license to male with a note from my therapist when i was 18. after changing my name in september of 2009 and having top surgery in december of 2009, i changed my social security and passport to male as well (it was cheaper to lump name change and gender-change in there at the same time, especially because i knew both events were going to happen so near each other.) i checked female for "sex" on everything before the above three changes, unless the box said "gender."
sky you are someone i really look at as a role model when u describe when u came out to your class it really reminded me why i told my high school art teacher i was bi in the 7th grade like it just came out. I really just want to thank you for being there and you have really helped me throughout so tuff times and u don't even know me.. thanks for being suck an amazing human being and putting yourself out there
I must say I really admire you - this video reminded me of that. You have such an open and honest way of talking about yourself that you leave me in awe. I hope people understand the value in your words (both online and off), you have a lot to give. Thank you for letting us follow your journey.
i honestly have no idea how they do it. they have a procedure called a phalloplasty that is the most similar to a cismale's penis. its a very very painful procedure and takes 6 months from what i've heard. i'm not really interested in it.
no - i started dating my current girlfriend a year ago, she identifies as straight, she does not and hasnt ever seen me as a girl - it doesnt bother her that i'm trans. when i dated my previous girlfriend(s), they thought of me as a guy too, even before hormones. they didn't identify as lesbian, but rather pansexual (attraction to people, not gender). and assumptions are no good, my friend - i don't identify as straight, but i identify as pansexual as well.
You are a BEAUTIFUL human being. You have no idea how much your existence has given me hope in humanity. I love your videos and adore seeing how you've changed and grown in to a strong man. Much love
I am so grateful that you are making these videos. I've been watching for over a year and your videos have been so information for someone (me) who didn't really have that much information or insight on people who are trans.
I've been watching your videos since the start and this video has really inspired me. I've been identifying as male for 2 years now and this video has just brought me so much comfort relating to my past. I feel like I am going through my journey of self-acceptance and I wanted to thank you for giving me more hope. Thank you for being so open!
congratulations on starting your journey :D and i used to follow "minorqback" on here (thats her username to look up :] ) for a while, she makes some really great videos and i hope they help you a bit! it would be nice to see more mtf folks documenting their transitions as well - i love hearing everyone's story, and there's definitely a lot of folks on youtube documenting ftm transitions, but not so many mtf :/
i don't wear it anymore - i havent for the last year. it was simply a necklace an ex girlfriend had made and given to me, no special meaning, i just like necklaces :P
i got a double mastectomy, and it cost roughly 7,000$ with all fees included. and i have heard of ryan cassata, we sure have a lot in common, but i've never seen or spoken to him although i'm sure we'd have some good talks :]
5'7 if i want to be greedy, but technically 5'6 and a half haha. T did not make me grow taller, but post-top surgery, i started standing up straighter which has been nice!
I'm really glad you feel so happy and confident with yourself. I really hope I can feel like that one day, but honestly as of the moment I can't see it happening.
This whole video is what I've been thinking a lot about lately. Thank you so much for posting this. It was good for me to hear my thoughts articulated.
i dont often check my inbox on youtube but if you message me on my facebook (i'll put the link to it under this video) or ask me in a comment on my most recent video, i'm most likely to get back to you! :]
You are a huge inspiration! Not only in the trans department, but as a person. I feel that everything about your personality sends off these incredibly good vibes. I truly strive to take after your optimistic outlook on life and to give off some good vibes to the people around me. Thanks for putting yourself up here on youtube. It weird, but you're starting to feel like an older brother to me, giving life advice and stuff.
I just want to hug you for the brave man you are. Like, some people are afraid of even getting out of the closet and you simply went through all that to be who you are. If I had 25% of your courage I'd feel like a better human being... I hope you know you have a Brazilian girl here that is like, 100% fan of yours.
This is really awesome. Thank you so much for being so open and articulate, you inspire me more with every update and seeing how you're constantly growing and evolving. It's really great to see you so settled and at ease :) and 15 days! Yeeeah!
you're so brave sky.i still struggle with stealth vs out. i am feeling more comfortable with myself now, and i am caring less if people find out i'm trans too. but i am not sure what will happen when i start working in the future. but you're totally right, trans people need to stay strong and positive, and help educate the public about trangenderism. keep up the good work!
Sky, you still blow me away of what an amazing person you are, I've learned so much about stuff I would of never known about otherwise. I'm really happy for you & very glad your girlfriend is coming home soon. (:
I don't know how I found you, but when I saw you the first time (I think you did a cover of a song or something) I just thought; "Oh god he's handsome!!". I was practically drooling... Then I got to know about your past and what you've been through and I just... I don't know. I guess I lost my words for how incredible you are! You're such an inspiration to everyone out there. So optimistic about whatever life brings you. Ps! You kind of look like Danny Jones from McFly! Have a nice day/night!
I think it's awesome how you guys post your journeys online. It really does help people understand better what it's like. A few years ago before I started watching these sorts of video's I was one of those people who just thought people were trans to get attention or something. But now I understand that it's actually a real thing. It's like mental and emotional and isn't a choice or fad. It's a real thing, and I wanted to think you for helping me understand that and grow in understanding of different types of people. Thanks.
So glad you posted a video like this at a point when I've been thinking about my own past a lot. I don't know if you've had to deal with much of this since you transitioned at a young age, but one stumbling block for me has been disclosing to old professors/employers/references for for new jobs. I'm early in my own transition process, but the figures in my life are pretty split between identifying me as male/female at this point. A tricky balancing act, to say the least.
i disagree - they accept gender variance there and they encourage many different types of being a guy/masculinity/etc. if anything, my experience with them shows that being honest about gender history hardly phases even an "all-boys" camp. i don't get how that is buying into societal fears - i was simply volunteering my past based off my own concerns, they didnt force me to tell them.
i'm not entirely sure there is such a thing as a "true guy" in general, so i'm not too worried about fitting into any sort of 'truth' :] pansexual is having an attraction to people of any gender or of no gender - it differs from the rigidity of bisexuality having been defined as being attracted to men and women. pansexuality is simply more fluid - i am primarily attracted to female identified individuals, but i would date someone of a different gender if i was attracted to them as a human :]
i just recently have been feeling this way. i was so concerned about being stealth that it was a constant worry. now i just dont care. this is who i am. made me feel free.
Yes! This! You are grappling with the exact same thoughts and ideas that I'm also dealing with. Maybe it's because we're the same "age" in terms of transition (my T day was April 09). But how you are thinking about your past and your identity and visibility and stuff are really close to the same as mine. I also feel good about being honest and comfortable but balancing that with my trans stuff being just a part of the whole.
this video almost made me cry. im bored on utube so i decided to try and educate myself more on trans people because honestly i never unstood them at all but ur videos are just so enlightening and i appreciate u so much for making these
Aie aie aie... a lot. But, hell, it's worth it. Thank you so much for posting these videos, by the way. These are what inspired me to tell my parents, psychologist, and friends about being/feeling transgender, and I've finally gotten things moving along. Were it not for coincidentally finding your clips, I doubt I wouldv'e said anything. Thank you so very much; you've been so helpful and inspirational in so many ways.
As mentioned in the comments here MANY times, you are a true inspiration. You're smart and articulate and fully fluent in stating your positions without being "toxic" about the trans subject and it is a pleasure to watch your videos. Cheers!
I'm glad I sat down to watch this whole video because it's kind of relevant to the thoughts I've been having lately in terms of stealth, etc. At this point in my life (being pre-everything) it was hard to conceptualise ever being happy with being trans and accepting my trans identity and how I would blend my transness with my daily life, but it seems the way you're going about it is my ideal way. I hope that when I go through body changes I'll reach the same enlightenment(= Thank you for sharing
wow, thats amazing. thanks for sharing your story, and although i cant relate at all, its nice to see someone be so open about there past, even though they can get away with not telling anyone.
I know, I mean many do have the slideshow of how they looked at the beginning and so on. Though mot don't really go through to tell us about how it is for them on their journey. Anyways I am very much excited. I started yesterday. Which that was also my birthday. So I am quit happy to see how I look in a year when it's time for me to move out C:
I think I'll take you up on that offer, my man. Sincere appreciations for your concern and willingness. I'm occationally experiencing bais disputes betwixt my mom and myself (my parents are quite hesitant about this), and that's been rather depressing, but *shrugs* I suppose it could be worse. The real issue is delving up the money for a full operation/change (upper, lower, hormones, [hopefully] phalloplasty, etc.). I doubt I'll ever have the moolah to do it all, but, eh, I hope. >.
That's great. When I've thought about transition (especially if you aren't too dysphoric), disassociating your present self from your past self seems like an awkward compartmentalization. Past, Present, and Future versions of you are all pretty much the same person with the exceptions of how you've altered how look and identify. A metamorphosis. When somewhat passing and outing myself (even as an Aspie), I sometimes wonder when I and shouldn't mention it. When applying for jobs, it's technically a form of autism, and I'm not entirely sure if noting on the application that I'm disabled (autism is included in the question)would actually boost my chances of getting a job like when companies try increasing diversity by hiring people of certain genders or cultural backgrounds.
I completely understand your stance on this as I feel the same. At the start of the hormones I felt it so necessary to be boxed into the 'male' gender however as time has gone on I have realised it is not that clear cut. Though I tend to keep that to myself mostly as I feel it can confuse others and wouldnt want them to think less of me as a male. The label just seems less important over time hey. Really love this video, its great to make people think the way you do. Thank you. Its great you
I guess what I am saying, is that in life, you will have MANY lives you lead. Whether it is about trans or not. As life goes on, changes will just be able to roll off your tongue and feel natural. Glad you are finally to that point in life where you can just be you, and not worry what people will say or think.. SOOOO proud of you!!
As for medical situations. I've decided that I'm going to order a medical ID alert dogtag or bracelet. They have some that look really great these days (wwwdotamericanmedical-iddotcom) because I am listed legally and medically as male in the Swedish system even though I still have a uterus and ovaries. I was really beginning to freak out about getting in an accident while pregnant and being given a medication that would damage the fetus because the ER docs wouldn't think to check that.
The costs really depend on where you are. Hormones usually go for $30-60 a vial which lasts for two months or so. Blood tests are about $200 every 4-6 months. Top surgery is about $6000 plus airfare and hotels and stuff. Depends on what state you're in, whether your insurance will cover anything, and who you see. Good luck.
This was super helpful. I'm trans pre-everything and I've been struggling with gender fluidity vs what i want to present as. I really appreciated everything you talked about and I completely agree with you on all of it.
Re: Gender Box Structure by Sara Crawley....the book is called "Gendering Bodies" (if you googled, it was the first link that pops up) and on Page 203 it shows the Gender feedback loop. What do you think of this?
The way that you were talking about it in the video seemed to suggest that it somehow /was/ relevant, and that it would've been okay if the camp had thought it was a problem. It could just be that your anxiety about how they might respond colored the way you approached the matter?
Ohhh my goodness.. sky. I know that I'm just a random person.. but you have no idea how big an impact you have made on my life. I'm a lesbian, but I've had a slight gender identity issue.. I used to be gender queer, but recently I've embraced my feminine side more. I'm going to college soon, and I was thinking about going by Sky, because you have inspired me so much. I just love your name. Also Lacey Roop is AMAZING! I love that you like her(: Have a WONDERFUL day!!
Hi! You give me hope. I'm in the middle of trying to figure out what I want (in terms of gender). I feel super confused and my parents are so against this. Thanks so much for giving me hope. You are SUCH an inspiration. Thank you. :) I'd love it if you reply, because I def need help. Margaret
How much did all your surgery cost? Hormones too. Ever since I was six, I've identified as male, and my psychologist finds me to be "very transgender." I'd like to make this change, as well, but I'm not sure which websites to trust and whatnot for medical/surgical costs.
I made a video on this topic recently, but all my videos are private these days (since I'm going through the process of having a baby). If you're interested I can add you to the mailing list for them or just send you that link.
You're adorable & very handsome! I became curious & watched several videos on FtMs & you're the 1st that I've came across that I find very attractive. The other FtMs look great but theres always something that reminded me of a female, most often its the tone of voice. Maybe cause they're not as long on T-meds? You seem like a real guy to me. Thanks for sharing info of your life for we naive peeps who want to learn & become un-naive!! LOVE your voice!! Best of luck for ya & I'm happy for you!!!
I would go even a little bit further. One can be genderqueer and a transperson without choosing a surgical option at all. Not that surgery is not a legitimate choice, particularly given the rigid rules governing how we are legally identified, But skylarkeleven makes a very good point about embracing gender ambiguity. I identify personally as MTF, but have never had any surgery.
My friend is a FTM transgender himself I met him as a girl in college but came out as a man trapped in a woman's body and he asked people on how to look more like a man. I was trying to help him out because I am and was born a man and I told him how to dress and helped him on how his facial hair should look to look more like a man but he rejected my help because I was a "born man". All I did was give advice being agood friend but he defriended me and is a complete jerk to me. Was I or he wrong?
18:01 quote of the century: "I kinda feel like i had a twin sister that I murdered" I really like you. I am so inspired by you and your maturing outlook on life. So many more people need to watch your vlogs and gain a better understanding of how to treat a human regardless of gender identity.
I have no idea if you've addressed this before, but what was your high school experience like? From the info that I've gathered you started going by Skylar in your junior year, correct? So being female for the two years prior and then making the transition over the summer break, did anybody ever give you a hard time? Though I don't think that would really phase you because you are very Mr. Miyagi-like. But yea, just curious.
You may not be able to relate to this comment, but here goes anyway. First, you are amazing. I've watched you from the beginning, and watched your changes. I am not trans or anything, but I have been divorced and my first husband was divorced before he met me. I am 50 yrs old. I have kids from my first marriage, that were from HIS first marriage. I had a bio child from my marriage, and now in second marriage I have more step kids. This makes me feel like I have had several lives also.
Hey, I just wanted to stop by and say you are looking amazing. You are an amazing person. I myself am a MtF. I'm 16, going to turn 17 in 2 days. Woot. I'm starting hormones and anti-androgens (for those who don't know testosterone blockers). My question is, do you know any MtF who have documented their transition like you documented yours? I see a many slide shows of MtFs of their journey, but not doing it like you did. Video by video, and as long as you have done it. I plan on doing so.
Hey man, I'm starting hormones in two weeks so I'm on my way but I have a few questions for you if you don't mind. This summer I plan on changing my name and sex marker legally for my license and passport. But I'm wondering do I have to change the gender on my insurance if I do that or? How do you go about with that? Thanks in advance and it's also really great to see a fellow bostonian doing so well :).
hey dude I got a book recommendation for you re: the "what is your 'true' sex?" question. "Hermaphrodites and the medical invention of sex" by Alice Dreger - it is about how at different points in history different metrics have been used to determine someone's "true" sex and how the idea of a "true" sex is basically really weird!
I am also an artist and I think it would be a beautiful exhibition for u to show several of your videos on large screens all in one room. (say the clips you use in your time lapse vids) You are an inspiration as a human, to all humans in my opinion, regardless of gender. would love to do a collaboration if we were ever in same part of the world!
I HOPE YOU READ THIS! D: I wanted to know what kind of masectomy you got, and how much did it costs? I'm like 15 and I'm MIGHT get a masectomy when I'm a junior. (I don't know, if my parents will be all too thrilled their lil girly daughter is actually a dude with a mask) ;_; Also, do you know Ryan Cassata?
i so agree with you! im 15 and im gonna try to be as male as possible by the time im 16(march of 2013) and im gonna try and apply at my local Dairy Queen for a job and im not gonna just randomly put on my application "Hello my name is Nolan Ronald ***** I am transgender." cause well, people dont really need to know that im transgemder cause im making ice cream or working a drive threw or regester. and yeah with the health insuramce stuff its like you never know what could happen!
I've been dating my boyfriend for about 3 in a half years and recently he came and declared that he's truly is a female by heart. I took it well because I support any of his deduction, but I didn't tell him that I support him (I said "if it makes you happy, I'm happy") but I would love to tell him I support him, but I don't know how? Any advice? Thank you. @skylerkeleven
Continued from one below only my parents and older sister know I was so afraid they wouldn't understand and fully support me but my mom and sister do my dad doesn't know yet but he'll know tonight sky you are so AWSOME for doing this I really can relate to u thank you for inspiring me to be who I was meant to be I sent you an email the other day
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I'm just wondering if you have sexual identity laws in USA, because you're such conservative society, here in Argentina we have that and it feels so fair for people going through this struggle ... hope you have that too.
yeah apparently argentina and britain (despite argentina being 90 percent roman catholic ) were the first two countries to legalize gay marriage & trans medical rights. It shows that even though a country is religous, it can be open minded in some aspects.
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if you get a hysterectomy that includes the removal of the cervix, you do not need pap smears or gyno exams. and that is indeed the type of hysto i had done. i have had a gyno exam before. theyre important for anyone with a uterus! the documentary/movie about a transman, southern comfort, shows how important it is to keep getting exams because it can be really scary to have a cancer situation and have no resources or help :[ that movie always makes me cry, id definitely check it out.
yes my friend, i do plan to make more music-videos! i actually am creating a different channel for them and will share that once i get it up and runnin (most likely in the fall since I'll be gone all of the summer away from electricity!) artwork isn't being created so much right now, just for one drawing class - but next semester i will have a lot more to show as i'll be preparing for my senior show :] thanks for askin!
i actually am not using formspring anymore because ive answered over 7000 of very similar questions.. it was good while it lasted but it hasnt been the most effective way of communicating! asking on my most recent video is the easiest way for me to answer questions at this point :]
perhaps. i would have understood if they had a problem due to legal issues of housing genders together - i had a problem with that in college in "gender neutral" and realizing it wasn't "biological sex neutral" housing. they simply legally could not allow it - i understand the boundaries laws, that does not necessarily mean i support them. i suppose that is where the majority of the importance comes from, especially involving kids.
indeed. it's important to know that there are no "required surgeries" when transitioning. all surgeries are technically elective unless medically necessary (my hysterectomy falls under the latter). assuming that someone has had a certain surgery can be taken as offensive or de-legitimatizing; if you are asking someone in the future, a good preface would be "would it be okay for me to ask you about any surgeries you've had or plan to have?" just a heads up!
probably not to be honest!discovering who i am and transitioning towards that has definitely helped me mature, and the experiences along the way have made me more comfortable with myself. i think often if i could choose to be born male, would i? my friend seth and i have talked about this a few times, and i really think i would probably still choose my journey if i had had a choice :]
I love your sense of self awareness! It's so reassuring, and inspirational. It's so hard to reach a point in your life when you are happy with yourself, and are able to accept the things about yourself that others so harshly judge, or simply do not understand. I've absolutely loved following your story, and you are truly a source of encouragement and inspiration for me! Much love! :)
You are the only youtuber that I can watch for a 20 minute, unedited video. You're just very interesting and have a lot of good things to say.
hey my friend, you wouldn't need to change insurance as far as i am aware. i changed everything except my birth certificate and insurance (i could change both, but have decided not to.) my doctor says it is safest to keep insurance as female until/unless you have had top surgery and have a hysterectomy - if you switch it to male and anything goes wrong involving those two parts, you can get yourself in an extremely complicated situation!
if you have access to resources in school or in community centers - i highly recommend therapy and counseling (it also gets the ball rolling for future things if you decide to go that route.) i brought my family to therapy and that really helped, as well. being scared of doctors is legitimate, but most doctors judge people regardless if they are transgender or not - most human beings judge people in general. doctors/therapists will be good resources, and there are good ones all over :]
male. i changed my drivers license to male with a note from my therapist when i was 18. after changing my name in september of 2009 and having top surgery in december of 2009, i changed my social security and passport to male as well (it was cheaper to lump name change and gender-change in there at the same time, especially because i knew both events were going to happen so near each other.) i checked female for "sex" on everything before the above three changes, unless the box said "gender."
sky you are someone i really look at as a role model when u describe when u came out to your class it really reminded me why i told my high school art teacher i was bi in the 7th grade like it just came out. I really just want to thank you for being there and you have really helped me throughout so tuff times and u don't even know me.. thanks for being suck an amazing human being and putting yourself out there
I must say I really admire you - this video reminded me of that. You have such an open and honest way of talking about yourself that you leave me in awe. I hope people understand the value in your words (both online and off), you have a lot to give. Thank you for letting us follow your journey.
i honestly have no idea how they do it. they have a procedure called a phalloplasty that is the most similar to a cismale's penis. its a very very painful procedure and takes 6 months from what i've heard. i'm not really interested in it.
no - i started dating my current girlfriend a year ago, she identifies as straight, she does not and hasnt ever seen me as a girl - it doesnt bother her that i'm trans. when i dated my previous girlfriend(s), they thought of me as a guy too, even before hormones. they didn't identify as lesbian, but rather pansexual (attraction to people, not gender). and assumptions are no good, my friend - i don't identify as straight, but i identify as pansexual as well.
You are a BEAUTIFUL human being. You have no idea how much your existence has given me hope in humanity. I love your videos and adore seeing how you've changed and grown in to a strong man. Much love
I am so grateful that you are making these videos. I've been watching for over a year and your videos have been so information for someone (me) who didn't really have that much information or insight on people who are trans.
I've been watching your videos since the start and this video has really inspired me. I've been identifying as male for 2 years now and this video has just brought me so much comfort relating to my past. I feel like I am going through my journey of self-acceptance and I wanted to thank you for giving me more hope. Thank you for being so open!
congratulations on starting your journey :D and i used to follow "minorqback" on here (thats her username to look up :] ) for a while, she makes some really great videos and i hope they help you a bit! it would be nice to see more mtf folks documenting their transitions as well - i love hearing everyone's story, and there's definitely a lot of folks on youtube documenting ftm transitions, but not so many mtf :/
i don't wear it anymore - i havent for the last year. it was simply a necklace an ex girlfriend had made and given to me, no special meaning, i just like necklaces :P
i got a double mastectomy, and it cost roughly 7,000$ with all fees included. and i have heard of ryan cassata, we sure have a lot in common, but i've never seen or spoken to him although i'm sure we'd have some good talks :]
I love your story, it is so inspiring. Can't describe the feeling seeing you smiling on the videos and enjoying your new life. you totally deserve it.
5'7 if i want to be greedy, but technically 5'6 and a half haha. T did not make me grow taller, but post-top surgery, i started standing up straighter which has been nice!
I'm really glad you feel so happy and confident with yourself.
I really hope I can feel like that one day, but honestly as of the moment I can't see it happening.
This whole video is what I've been thinking a lot about lately. Thank you so much for posting this. It was good for me to hear my thoughts articulated.
i dont often check my inbox on youtube but if you message me on my facebook (i'll put the link to it under this video) or ask me in a comment on my most recent video, i'm most likely to get back to you! :]
When I get tired of explaining things to friends and family I can always fall back on your videos for some well spoken explanations :)
You are a huge inspiration! Not only in the trans department, but as a person. I feel that everything about your personality sends off these incredibly good vibes. I truly strive to take after your optimistic outlook on life and to give off some good vibes to the people around me.
Thanks for putting yourself up here on youtube. It weird, but you're starting to feel like an older brother to me, giving life advice and stuff.
I just want to hug you for the brave man you are. Like, some people are afraid of even getting out of the closet and you simply went through all that to be who you are. If I had 25% of your courage I'd feel like a better human being... I hope you know you have a Brazilian girl here that is like, 100% fan of yours.
This is really awesome. Thank you so much for being so open and articulate, you inspire me more with every update and seeing how you're constantly growing and evolving. It's really great to see you so settled and at ease :) and 15 days! Yeeeah!
You inspire me. Like I can't even put this into words, I just love you
you're so brave sky.i still struggle with stealth vs out. i am feeling more comfortable with myself now, and i am caring less if people find out i'm trans too. but i am not sure what will happen when i start working in the future.
but you're totally right, trans people need to stay strong and positive, and help educate the public about trangenderism. keep up the good work!
You're a really cool person, and I really enjoy hearing your thoughts. I love how you're so open and honest.
Sky, you still blow me away of what an amazing person you are, I've learned so much about stuff I would of never known about otherwise.
I'm really happy for you & very glad your girlfriend is coming home soon. (:
I don't know how I found you, but when I saw you the first time (I think you did a cover of a song or something) I just thought; "Oh god he's handsome!!". I was practically drooling... Then I got to know about your past and what you've been through and I just... I don't know. I guess I lost my words for how incredible you are! You're such an inspiration to everyone out there. So optimistic about whatever life brings you.
Ps! You kind of look like Danny Jones from McFly!
Have a nice day/night!
I think it's awesome how you guys post your journeys online. It really does help people understand better what it's like. A few years ago before I started watching these sorts of video's I was one of those people who just thought people were trans to get attention or something. But now I understand that it's actually a real thing. It's like mental and emotional and isn't a choice or fad. It's a real thing, and I wanted to think you for helping me understand that and grow in understanding of different types of people. Thanks.
So glad you posted a video like this at a point when I've been thinking about my own past a lot. I don't know if you've had to deal with much of this since you transitioned at a young age, but one stumbling block for me has been disclosing to old professors/employers/references for for new jobs. I'm early in my own transition process, but the figures in my life are pretty split between identifying me as male/female at this point. A tricky balancing act, to say the least.
are not ashamed of your past, that is definitely something I still need to learn to overcome.
I'm a very excepting person and I really find educating myself is really important and your journey is amazing to listen too
Sky, You are such an amazing person! I am so thankful for your openness and your honesty! THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU!!!!!!
aww you are such an amazing person!! i hope that things can start changing so that EVERYONE can be happy and lead good lives!! :D
i disagree - they accept gender variance there and they encourage many different types of being a guy/masculinity/etc. if anything, my experience with them shows that being honest about gender history hardly phases even an "all-boys" camp. i don't get how that is buying into societal fears - i was simply volunteering my past based off my own concerns, they didnt force me to tell them.
i'm not entirely sure there is such a thing as a "true guy" in general, so i'm not too worried about fitting into any sort of 'truth' :] pansexual is having an attraction to people of any gender or of no gender - it differs from the rigidity of bisexuality having been defined as being attracted to men and women. pansexuality is simply more fluid - i am primarily attracted to female identified individuals, but i would date someone of a different gender if i was attracted to them as a human :]
i just recently have been feeling this way. i was so concerned about being stealth that it was a constant worry. now i just dont care. this is who i am. made me feel free.
your realization moment in the middle was adorable
Yes! This! You are grappling with the exact same thoughts and ideas that I'm also dealing with. Maybe it's because we're the same "age" in terms of transition (my T day was April 09). But how you are thinking about your past and your identity and visibility and stuff are really close to the same as mine. I also feel good about being honest and comfortable but balancing that with my trans stuff being just a part of the whole.
this video almost made me cry. im bored on utube so i decided to try and educate myself more on trans people because honestly i never unstood them at all but ur videos are just so enlightening and i appreciate u so much for making these
Aie aie aie... a lot. But, hell, it's worth it.
Thank you so much for posting these videos, by the way. These are what inspired me to tell my parents, psychologist, and friends about being/feeling transgender, and I've finally gotten things moving along. Were it not for coincidentally finding your clips, I doubt I wouldv'e said anything. Thank you so very much; you've been so helpful and inspirational in so many ways.
As mentioned in the comments here MANY times, you are a true inspiration. You're smart and articulate and fully fluent in stating your positions without being "toxic" about the trans subject and it is a pleasure to watch your videos. Cheers!
I'm glad I sat down to watch this whole video because it's kind of relevant to the thoughts I've been having lately in terms of stealth, etc. At this point in my life (being pre-everything) it was hard to conceptualise ever being happy with being trans and accepting my trans identity and how I would blend my transness with my daily life, but it seems the way you're going about it is my ideal way. I hope that when I go through body changes I'll reach the same enlightenment(= Thank you for sharing
a little taller than 5'6 :]
wow, thats amazing. thanks for sharing your story, and although i cant relate at all, its nice to see someone be so open about there past, even though they can get away with not telling anyone.
Dude. Watching you tick off the years was really awesome. Your eyes just lit up.
I know, I mean many do have the slideshow of how they looked at the beginning and so on. Though mot don't really go through to tell us about how it is for them on their journey.
Anyways I am very much excited. I started yesterday. Which that was also my birthday. So I am quit happy to see how I look in a year when it's time for me to move out C:
Dude, you just make so much sense its amazing.
We are human beings first and foremost and everything else is just details.
AHAHA damn. you're such a natural speaker >.> and you made me snort with laughter with that part where you advertised your poem xD
I think I'll take you up on that offer, my man. Sincere appreciations for your concern and willingness. I'm occationally experiencing bais disputes betwixt my mom and myself (my parents are quite hesitant about this), and that's been rather depressing, but *shrugs* I suppose it could be worse. The real issue is delving up the money for a full operation/change (upper, lower, hormones, [hopefully] phalloplasty, etc.). I doubt I'll ever have the moolah to do it all, but, eh, I hope. >.
That's great. When I've thought about transition (especially if you aren't too dysphoric), disassociating your present self from your past self seems like an awkward compartmentalization. Past, Present, and Future versions of you are all pretty much the same person with the exceptions of how you've altered how look and identify. A metamorphosis. When somewhat passing and outing myself (even as an Aspie), I sometimes wonder when I and shouldn't mention it. When applying for jobs, it's technically a form of autism, and I'm not entirely sure if noting on the application that I'm disabled (autism is included in the question)would actually boost my chances of getting a job like when companies try increasing diversity by hiring people of certain genders or cultural backgrounds.
i don't have fallopian tubes, ovaries, a uterus, a cervix, nothin. i had the most complete/total hysterectomy that is possible.
I completely understand your stance on this as I feel the same. At the start of the hormones I felt it so necessary to be boxed into the 'male' gender however as time has gone on I have realised it is not that clear cut. Though I tend to keep that to myself mostly as I feel it can confuse others and wouldnt want them to think less of me as a male. The label just seems less important over time hey. Really love this video, its great to make people think the way you do. Thank you. Its great you
I guess what I am saying, is that in life, you will have MANY lives you lead. Whether it is about trans or not. As life goes on, changes will just be able to roll off your tongue and feel natural. Glad you are finally to that point in life where you can just be you, and not worry what people will say or think.. SOOOO proud of you!!
As for medical situations. I've decided that I'm going to order a medical ID alert dogtag or bracelet. They have some that look really great these days (wwwdotamericanmedical-iddotcom) because I am listed legally and medically as male in the Swedish system even though I still have a uterus and ovaries. I was really beginning to freak out about getting in an accident while pregnant and being given a medication that would damage the fetus because the ER docs wouldn't think to check that.
You constantly restore my faith in humanity.
Seems like it would be useful for the health insurance industry to have an intersex or similar designation.
The costs really depend on where you are. Hormones usually go for $30-60 a vial which lasts for two months or so. Blood tests are about $200 every 4-6 months. Top surgery is about $6000 plus airfare and hotels and stuff.
Depends on what state you're in, whether your insurance will cover anything, and who you see.
Good luck.
Omg you are so incredibly cute & I love how strong you are about this & how open & patient & kind you are.
This was super helpful. I'm trans pre-everything and I've been struggling with gender fluidity vs what i want to present as. I really appreciated everything you talked about and I completely agree with you on all of it.
You are such an inspiration, the world is a better place thanks to your mere existence.
Re: Gender Box Structure by Sara Crawley....the book is called "Gendering Bodies" (if you googled, it was the first link that pops up) and on Page 203 it shows the Gender feedback loop. What do you think of this?
i genuinely want to be with you. friends, neighbours, whatever, oh my god, i need you in my life
The way that you were talking about it in the video seemed to suggest that it somehow /was/ relevant, and that it would've been okay if the camp had thought it was a problem. It could just be that your anxiety about how they might respond colored the way you approached the matter?
You are an inspiration.
Ohhh my goodness.. sky. I know that I'm just a random person.. but you have no idea how big an impact you have made on my life. I'm a lesbian, but I've had a slight gender identity issue.. I used to be gender queer, but recently I've embraced my feminine side more. I'm going to college soon, and I was thinking about going by Sky, because you have inspired me so much. I just love your name. Also Lacey Roop is AMAZING! I love that you like her(: Have a WONDERFUL day!!
I really wish I could except myself like you have. It's so hard for me. I don't want anything to do with who I was. It's so hard.
Listening to your videos or how you are so comfortable with yourself is amazing. Thank you:)
Hi!
You give me hope. I'm in the middle of trying to figure out what I want (in terms of gender). I feel super confused and my parents are so against this. Thanks so much for giving me hope. You are SUCH an inspiration. Thank you. :) I'd love it if you reply, because I def need help.
Margaret
Just wanted to say: You're a great human being for sharing,and I'm sure you make an awesome counsellor as well:)
How much did all your surgery cost? Hormones too. Ever since I was six, I've identified as male, and my psychologist finds me to be "very transgender." I'd like to make this change, as well, but I'm not sure which websites to trust and whatnot for medical/surgical costs.
I made a video on this topic recently, but all my videos are private these days (since I'm going through the process of having a baby). If you're interested I can add you to the mailing list for them or just send you that link.
You're adorable & very handsome! I became curious & watched several videos on FtMs & you're the 1st that I've came across that I find very attractive. The other FtMs look great but theres always something that reminded me of a female, most often its the tone of voice. Maybe cause they're not as long on T-meds? You seem like a real guy to me. Thanks for sharing info of your life for we naive peeps who want to learn & become un-naive!! LOVE your voice!! Best of luck for ya & I'm happy for you!!!
Sky, that was amazing to listen to, mate. You sound very much at peace with yourself and where you are now. Hurray! :-)
I just want to say that I admire your honesty so much.
I would go even a little bit further. One can be genderqueer and a transperson without choosing a surgical option at all. Not that surgery is not a legitimate choice, particularly given the rigid rules governing how we are legally identified, But skylarkeleven makes a very good point about embracing gender ambiguity. I identify personally as MTF, but have never had any surgery.
My friend is a FTM transgender himself I met him as a girl in college but came out as a man trapped in a woman's body and he asked people on how to look more like a man. I was trying to help him out because I am and was born a man and I told him how to dress and helped him on how his facial hair should look to look more like a man but he rejected my help because I was a "born man". All I did was give advice being agood friend but he defriended me and is a complete jerk to me. Was I or he wrong?
18:01 quote of the century: "I kinda feel like i had a twin sister that I murdered"
I really like you. I am so inspired by you and your maturing outlook on life. So many more people need to watch your vlogs and gain a better understanding of how to treat a human regardless of gender identity.
I have no idea if you've addressed this before, but what was your high school experience like? From the info that I've gathered you started going by Skylar in your junior year, correct? So being female for the two years prior and then making the transition over the summer break, did anybody ever give you a hard time? Though I don't think that would really phase you because you are very Mr. Miyagi-like. But yea, just curious.
I feel like hes talking right at me. best conversation i've had in a long time : )
You may not be able to relate to this comment, but here goes anyway. First, you are amazing. I've watched you from the beginning, and watched your changes. I am not trans or anything, but I have been divorced and my first husband was divorced before he met me. I am 50 yrs old. I have kids from my first marriage, that were from HIS first marriage. I had a bio child from my marriage, and now in second marriage I have more step kids. This makes me feel like I have had several lives also.
Hey, I just wanted to stop by and say you are looking amazing. You are an amazing person. I myself am a MtF. I'm 16, going to turn 17 in 2 days. Woot. I'm starting hormones and anti-androgens (for those who don't know testosterone blockers).
My question is, do you know any MtF who have documented their transition like you documented yours? I see a many slide shows of MtFs of their journey, but not doing it like you did. Video by video, and as long as you have done it. I plan on doing so.
Hey man, I'm starting hormones in two weeks so I'm on my way but I have a few questions for you if you don't mind. This summer I plan on changing my name and sex marker legally for my license and passport. But I'm wondering do I have to change the gender on my insurance if I do that or? How do you go about with that? Thanks in advance and it's also really great to see a fellow bostonian doing so well :).
you're absolutely fantastic :) your confidence is so inspirational!!
hey dude I got a book recommendation for you re: the "what is your 'true' sex?" question. "Hermaphrodites and the medical invention of sex" by Alice Dreger - it is about how at different points in history different metrics have been used to determine someone's "true" sex and how the idea of a "true" sex is basically really weird!
I am also an artist and I think it would be a beautiful exhibition for u to show several of your videos on large screens all in one room. (say the clips you use in your time lapse vids) You are an inspiration as a human, to all humans in my opinion, regardless of gender. would love to do a collaboration if we were ever in same part of the world!
I HOPE YOU READ THIS! D:
I wanted to know what kind of masectomy you got, and how much did it costs?
I'm like 15 and I'm MIGHT get a masectomy when I'm a junior.
(I don't know, if my parents will be all too thrilled their lil girly daughter is actually a dude with a mask) ;_;
Also, do you know Ryan Cassata?
i so agree with you! im 15 and im gonna try to be as male as possible by the time im 16(march of 2013) and im gonna try and apply at my local Dairy Queen for a job and im not gonna just randomly put on my application "Hello my name is Nolan Ronald ***** I am transgender." cause well, people dont really need to know that im transgemder cause im making ice cream or working a drive threw or regester. and yeah with the health insuramce stuff its like you never know what could happen!
I've been dating my boyfriend for about 3 in a half years and recently he came and declared that he's truly is a female by heart. I took it well because I support any of his deduction, but I didn't tell him that I support him (I said "if it makes you happy, I'm happy") but I would love to tell him I support him, but I don't know how? Any advice? Thank you. @skylerkeleven
Such an amazing person, you have a strong heart and a positive attitude. :D I really enjoyed this video :)
Have you ever uploaded any pictures of you before you started talking t? Like did you ever have long hair? (:
Continued from one below only my parents and older sister know I was so afraid they wouldn't understand and fully support me but my mom and sister do my dad doesn't know yet but he'll know tonight sky you are so AWSOME for doing this I really can relate to u thank you for inspiring me to be who I was meant to be I sent you an email the other day
I'm just wondering if you have sexual identity laws in USA, because you're such conservative society, here in Argentina we have that and it feels so fair for people going through this struggle ... hope you have that too.
yeah apparently argentina and britain (despite argentina being 90 percent roman catholic ) were the first two countries to legalize gay marriage & trans medical rights. It shows that even though a country is religous, it can be open minded in some aspects.
Isaac The Dragon Whisperer If school taught me anything it's that lol