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I like your work Jordan but Anti-depressant have fucked this world over. You yourself have struggled with drugs this is not your area to preach to others.
Anti- depressant dont put food on the table or pay the bills. Some of us just deal with it. You are wealthy telling others how to live their life but our life differs from you financially. All said I respect your work minus the crap pharma you continue to push..
This is my summary. If you're depressed, do these 3 things: 1. Clean up your room (Don't let your environment hypnotizes you into thinking your life is a mess) 2. Stick to a schedule (Bring a sense of control back into your life) 3. Create list of small tasks/goals & hold yourself accountable to complete them within a fixed time frame (Create a sense of accomplishment to encourage yourself to keep moving forward) Let's do it together. Don't give up, fellow strangers. 🙂 Love and bless you. ❤️
@@chickedee1085 Don't think. Just do. Do it regardless. Whether you think you got the energy or not. I just lost a job and I had to drag myself out of bed to get my things sorted out every morning. 😃
@@chickedee1085 It is. It's not easy. It wasn't easy for me either, and it's still not. But I would stop thinking about whether it is easy or hard to do, I just do it. Even it's just a small effort of getting myself out of bed. If I can move a step then I move a step, if I can move an inch then I'll move an inch. I will move forward, doesn't matter if I have to crawl. Taking that first step is all that matters. 🌞 Through the darkest night, eventually the sun will rise.
Hey Donnacarr I completely understand how you are feeling, I’m in the same place at the moment and each day is hard but I sincerely hope you are alright ❤️ you are not alone in this ❤️💖
I had to basically reinvent myself at 40 to get out of that hole. Moved to a different city, new job, working out like an animal, no alcohol, good diet, back in college to finish that degree I should have finished 15 years ago , no dating, I'm alone but not lonely. Its amazing how my life changed for the better in less than a year. Attach your happiness to a goal, not to people, money, or things. When you focus on yourself,the whole world focus on you. Start with the little things like cleaning your place and keep it clean, make.your bed every morning, wake up 30 minutes earlier and have some breakfast at home before work, once you build the discipline with those small things it will give you a small sense of accomplishment, and the rest just falls Into place faster than what you could believe.
@ dubon that might have been hard finishing your degree u could have done 15 years ago, how u mustered that courage to keep going. How u used to buckle up in hard times. What was the learning and how u r now after making diligent desicion...
Well we still need people. I'm only here to try to understand a friend dealing with depression. In hopes to help bring her out of the home she's found herself buried into.
I've slipped in and out of depression my whole life. I can only imagine how it would be to not want to completely isolate myself from the world and just not exist. Then my uncle, cousin and brother all took their own lives in the course of my lifetime. It gets harder and harder every year to get back up but I've been fighting more than ever this year.the progress is very small but it's something and I'm not giving up.
😢wow this is heart breaking to hear...So many lost family members...For you the important thing is you still have a burning flame inside you that helps you bounce back ~Hugs & prayers your way ❤
The strongest souls fight the most difficult battles. Depression is like an angry dragon that fights us. To master depression, you have to go through it. One does not defeat the angry dragon. Because you are the dragon and the depression. You slowly become one with the dragon and the depression and gain strength in going through it. I have depression since my childhood trauma and while being bullied for many years. And some years later I was diagnosed with a different Illness. Paranoid scizophrenia. But back to depression, at some point I chose it. Really choosing to go through it. Becoming one with the dragon and its anger. I don't know if the point is to overcome the dragon and the depression. Because that very intent is trying to get rid of it and this doesn't work. So wearing it gladly. About suicide. I had a Girlfriend from america back then. I used to send her money every month. My doctor saw this critical as he thought im being manipulated by this woman. Then my doctor wanted a legal assistant in my life. Somebody who handles my finances. I was so afraid that this act would Sabotage my relationship and I thought i would lose her. So i said ok i go. I had a suicide attempt in 2022. I overdosed on my Medication. I went unconscious the same night. Although i still woke up, fell around, puking, shitting myself, broke things accidentally. I wasnt eating or drinking for 4 - 5 days. At one point i just layed there unconscious. My mom and two friends rescued me 4 days after I attempted suicide. I was brought into a Hospital with kidney failure and a sitting and laying trauma. Because I was on the hard ground in uncomfortable positions for over 100 hours. Some time after in the Hospital i came back to consciousness. Luckily I survived. I drink alot and my kidney is working again. But due to my pain in the back, from the suicide attempt, I had to quit my old Job. Suicide is not the solution to anything and I don't recommend it
Hey everyone. From one internet stranger, and countless more who I know believe similarly, we love you. We want you to live in this world with us. We believe in you. You got this. Please continue fighting. Not only for yourself, but for us. I know it can feel like the world is against you, or those you've loved have abandoned you, but I am with you. I love you, and hope you will see the happiness or lessened pain that you desire come to reality in the future ❤
« You got this » I don’t think I do, no. Thank you for your message though, I know it comes from a very good place, that’s very nice and generous of you to try to share your sunshine
At 70, I have a daily fitness program and I have the goals of guitar and singing daily. I try to make progress on the music. I recently started clogging (tap dance for hicks). I do zoom with alcoholics anonymous in the evenings. It keeps the demons at bay.
So cool. I am 66. I just had my right hip replaced in September,then in January 5th I had my left hip replaced. I have a severe bout of depression, lasting a couple weeks. I am sure it is becauseI was layed up, my circadian rhythms were off, we have just very cold weather here in the north & my husband has COPD, my neighbor has a blood disease we found out. Boy, my worries got out of control. So I will keep your ideas in mind.
Staying on a schedule is very beneficial for depression. My depression has benefited from having to take care of my diabetic dog. She has to eat and have her insulin every 12 hours, and needs exercise every day. This requires I get up at 6am every day and take her for walks. Just taking her for an hour long walk each day, especially when it's sunny, makes us both feel better.
@@susanleatherbarrow2495 Thank you. I've enjoyed the company of animals my whole life. I've cried on many an animal shoulder, and never had one turn away. Not even a horse or cow. Best wishes to you.
@@susanrogers6815 Thank you, sweetheart. All the best. At the moment we are proud owners of two elderly black cats, a slightly younger black and white one and a bonkers Jack Russell who cleans the cats fur for them!!!
Start Praying & Asking Holy Father to Heal Your Depression, while Counting your Blessings: 1) The New Day: Rain or SunShine; 2) the Songs of the Birds; 3) Your Bed, blankets… Food; 4) The Smile the Cashier gave you; 5) Cries, or Giggles of Babies; The simple things… Then FOCUS on These Good Tasks & Take Action… A Walk, Clean your Closet, or, One Drawer; Have Toast & Herbal Tea! Keep Growing in Positivity… Ask This 6 Words Phrase when Stressed (Mel Robbins): “WHAT IF EVERYTHING WORKS OUT PERFECTLY?” Remember 94.?% of the Time… All will be just Fine! Smile & Say, “Hi!” To Someone! X’s 5 when you go Out! Don’t feel Like ‘IT’ ~ Do it Anyway… pick a Few of those! = Feelings Don’t Have to be ‘The Boss!’ 🙏🏻🕊☀️🌸
I’ve been suffering in and out for so many years and this year it hit me hard. Everything feels so meaningless. I feel like life is slowly slipping away from me. Like I am slowly becoming useless. Nothing I do will ever go right. I ended up here this morning to find something. And probably its going to help me… I hope it will.
Imagine saying “find friends” to someone who is trapped in one of the darkest and loneliest places possible in their mind 🤦🏻♀️ finding people that actually want to be around and support you when you’re in a depression is incredibly difficult.
I recovered from severe clinical depression on a level where i was in hospital unable to remember my name or put my socks on and I can tell you JP is on the right track, there is more deep understanding of the situation in this one video than the entire mental health care system .
How did you do it? I have a close friend suffering from severe clinical depression, she knows she isnt right and she goes to therapy, doing everything she can. yet she cant get out of it. any pieces of advice you might be able to share?
@@Lapislightning Not a cure but do some voluntary work or some good, have an exercise regime even if it's just walking but try to incorporate something that exercises your upper body too. Seek support groups and /or supportive people. Try to get rid of negative people and situations from your life. Remind yourself everyday how amazing we all are that we cope with this sometimes very difficult life. If that negative voice in your mind was your friend, you would get rid of it so override your negative voice with positive rebuttals. I hope something helps a bit.
I was a very depressed child, and the only time it lifted was when my adored older brother spent one on one time with me. I felt so good. I think all I needed was love. It just wasn’t there most of the time.
Grew up in an abusive alcoholic home. Inner chaos, lack of purpose, lack of intimate relationship, substance abuse, I had them all. Won't bore you with the details of the effects of all that. Just that I was clinically depressed. But I had an epiphany! And it was this: I made myself a cup of tea. And felt good about it as I drank it. I realized that that simple thought made into a reality by my actions was the key. And I began expanding the scope of what I thought about and my actions to make the thought a reality. It was so simple yet powerful. I did not always succeed in what I had sought out to do. But that did not erase the truth and power of what started with that cup of tea. Reader's Digest version of my life after that: was able to work my way through college and get a master's degree. Which led to a successful professional career. And I learned about what I wanted and did not want in people relationships. Which allowed me to be happy. Long journey, small steps. If you're depressed, try taking some satisfaction in doing things you CAN do. Hopefully, that can become a base from which to reasonably, tangibly expand your successes. Peace.
This lecture was very good. Having suffered from depression myself, I know he’s right when he says you have to want to get better and be willing to do whatever it takes to get better. He’s right when he says these changes have to be made in small steps, that it’s the accumulative effect of these regular small steps that helps bring about change. You are depressed BECAUSE your life needs to change. The old way isn’t working for you. Living the way you have been is making you ill. Think about something small you could do- even if it takes a lot of effort- that will make a difference. Be proud of yourself for doing that small thing. Later on, do another small thing that will make a difference. All these small acts will eventually make a big difference. Believe me, I’ve been there and I’m better now.
@@johnwheeler9186 dear Mr Wheeler, thank you for your reply. It sounds as if you have been depressed for a long time. I can only pass on information from my own experience that I hope may be of help to someone. I remember that when I accepted the fact that I may never be exactly the same person I was before, this was a big step forward for me. I realised I could stop fighting to get back to how I was and relax as I started moving forward towards a new and hopefully improved version of me. I was curious as to what the new me would be like. This realisation made me feel a lot less stressed, which gave me a good starting point for my gradual recovery. No, it wasn’t easy, but each time I managed to DO something beneficial ( instead of just lying there thinking about how bad I felt ), I patted myself on the back, sometimes literally, and felt proud of myself. I began to realise I had an inner strength that I could build up and make stronger. I did this by taking advantage of every bit of help I could get, such as regular Counselling, reading self-help books, praying ( even though at times I didn’t know what to say, but trusted that God knew how I felt and didn’t need words at that moment ), going out for that gentle walk with the family member that suggested it, planting up that tub with flowers that cheered me every time I saw them and looked after them, visiting that friend who was also going through trials to let them know I loved and cared about them despite my own problems, etc etc. Find out what works for you in a healthy way. Yes it’s hard to do, BUT YOU CAN DO HARD THINGS. I wish you all the best on your journey to recovery.
@@DihelsonMendonca Do just one thing. Something that will be good for you. Like, take a bath/shower, wash your hair or just brush it. Just one thing. Go outside and look up at the sky. Put your favourite piece of music on. Read a few verses of the Bible. Pray. Call a family member or friend. Go for a walk down a pleasant street or a park. JUST ONE THING. I know it’s hard. But you can do that one hard thing. Each time you make up your mind to do just one thing and then do it, is one small step towards recovery. May not feel like it at the time, but every journey starts with one step.
@@verenamaharajah6082 Thank you very much. You're right, every long journey begins with one single step. I'll try to do it. It's like only way possible. 🙏👍❤️
I was stuck in a never-ending loop. I finally accepted that nothing would change if I kept doing the same thing. So I chose the approach of faking it 'til I make it, and turning off the brain as much as I could. It's not perfect but it led me to a state of mind that was better than where I had been for so long.
@Rainingblueee I would say so. There are good days and bad, but trying things differently were steps to changing my mindset. Meds also have been helping.
I got out of depression once I was given a purpose. Sounds opposite but I felt happier once I became a mom. Taking the negative attitude I had about myself and focused on the little sweet boy I was now taking care of changed me
I relate to your comment..I just had my first child a baby girl and I can’t express with words the feelings that I have now..I’m just happy and feel whole..I have a purpose to live and it’s for my daughter…
man the fact none of you women find purpose in being a good partner to your husband adds on to my depression of feeling alone. and the fact women take relationships for granted makes me wanna die even more
I would say to people to get active if they are depressed. Try cut out toxic people in your life. Lift weights, run, swim, join a martial arts gym and most importantly get a dog. You can’t underestimate the bond and love between man and his dog. My jack Russell took me out of some dark places
Sixteen years ago I spent 30 days in the hospital for severe depression. My brother thought I would never get out. I had electroconvulsive therapy four times! I slowly started to recover and go back to work. My family support was essential in my recovery. Thank you, Dr. Petersen for giving me hope.
I could remember several years ago, I suffered severe depression. Was also diagnosed with BPD. Not until my mom recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly. 8 years totally clean. Never thought I would be saying this about mushrooms.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Germany. Really need!
YES very sure of Dr.alishrooms. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
I wish they were readily available in my place. Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac. He's constantly talking about killing someone. He's violent. Anyone reading this Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.
They've helped me alot as well. I'm a war vet diagnosed with ptsd. Alot of issues spun out of control when i came home. This is something i looked up and tried after trying the roller-coaster of antidepressants. Day and night difference
My life is challenging right now but I have a plan. Even though I’m not currently working, I have a schedule every day. A job is in my future but not possible right now. I strive for a balanced life daily and don’t allow time for negativity. I focus on productivity every day. Thank you Dr Peterson for your inspirational videos. God bless you!🙏🏼❤️
I loved it. He totally said in one sentence what I've been feeling. "I don't want to live, I don't want to be here, I don't want to be me. But for them, I cannot not bare to leave. They're worth the fight to be happier, they're worth my struggle to love myself, they're worth not ending it all. Life sucks. But I will be there for them no matter what, because they deserve me."
When I came home from the Marine Corps I struggled with depression and felt hopeless when I came home. It took 9 years of non-stop IOP programs, psychiatry, residential programs and one thing I never did was give up. I grew up in an abusive alcoholic family where I was abused everyday for 20 years plus. Not having a purpose is the worst and I kept trying to find it by going to college for something I thought I wanted to do, but later realized it was what my parents wanted me to do instead. The only way I can live the best life for me is to have structure, goals, working out 6 days a week with a group I go to, and having healthy support around me. I get a pension for being retired, but there's no way I can sit doing nothing! It feels just wrong to sit and do nothing. Even while working cleaning bathrooms was better than sitting doing nothing. I ended up pursing another career with my veteran benefits after taking a short break. Thanks Jordan for having all your videos for us to watch! I take away many valuable usable lessons from your videos that helped save my life!
Thank you for your service. I was married to military and one of the reasons people join the military is the structure that is offered and the routine and a goal and brotherhood and family especially if a person's upbringing and childhood was chaotic. When the person leaves the military it's a drop into that world of chaos. Even though there are transitioning services etc offered now one must find a way to function in that world again with a different mind set and then the added challenges of possible ptsd. I am currently daring a veteran and I can see a structure and pattern in his behavior and although most experiences are not the same, you can pretty much draw conclusions on the similarities. I love him a whole lot and he just lost his father...the mother of his children suffers at home in chaos with bi polar depression because she has no goals in life and motherhood kinda happened on her and it's not fulfilling to her especially since it didn't keep him around. It's just a big toxic swamp. If you change one component in an equation, it changes the entire outcome. Not sure if we will stay together if she puts on the thumbscrew about the kids, but that's not my objective here. I serve my higher purpose in utilizing my time on earth to make a change and love is what opens the door into peoples hearts and minds. Love changes things for the better. I just want to give him a different perspective on life and if he can manage to embrace a different view he may even bring that back into his own family dynamic like a torch, but first he must find to light his own fire because if he cannot manage, then their darkness will also extinguish his light. I have gone through my own trauma and generational curses and toxic cycles. I see clearly. Make a small change one person at a time and also let people change you as long as it's a positive influence. Life is so much more than depression and keeping demons at bay. One day you will invite your demons in and find that they have to obey you. That is the power and authority of Christ.
Psychedelic are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough.it's fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety..it saved my life
Please does anyone know where I can get them? I put so much on my plate and it really affects my stress and anxiety level .I would love to try to shrooms.
This one video made so much sense than any of the bullshit my therapists told me , all they did was neglect the fact that I've been living in misery in the past 3 years Thank you so much sir
it is true that people do suffer , we dont understand there situation. YOu have depression, it not the prittiest thing. All I have to tell you do chorse, everyday, god loves and want to help you achive does goals . remember to fight something you have to accept that you have depression, figure if it it you falut or things that were outside you control. Journal you thought. when you have a diifucluty ask for help, tell ohter if they can teach you how to do it and try it ,
I am not sure whether or not I ever suffered from clinical depression because I never talked to anyone. All I know is that I spent ten years trying to figure out how to remove myself from this planet without hurting those who wanted me on this planet. Then I read Kierkegaard and decided to follow his lead and make a blind leap of faith. Changed my life. Neither religious nor spiritual but that blind faith in a creator has allowed me to absolutely embrace life and that decade of suicidal thoughts (from about 1984 to 1994) is such a distant memory as to be foreign. Moral of the story is to try and hang in there in the hope that there is hope. Believe me when I tell you that I came so close on many occasions to pulling the plug and my life has been so rich since then. So filled will life. Life truly is fantastic if you allow it to be.
@@urex1717 thanks -that's very generous . I'm stable but definitely not experiencing a "fantastic" life as you are. Could you describe what makes it so for you?
It took me years and years to realize my own mother was envious of every thing I owned and every small accomplishment I made as an adult. When it finally sunk in on my brain, I was hurt and then angry. I was conceived in 1942 by a man and woman who had no intention of starting a family and were not married. That’s where it all began.
You are not alone. Emotionally immature parents everywhere and many chose to have a family. These people are unable to see their children as a separate entity from themselves and/or feel painful jealousy if their own child exceeds their own accomplishments
It's pretty crazy to be that this is so common. I think one of the most basic duties we have as humans is to love our own family and support them however we can
My heart goes with all my brothers and sisters struggling with their my and circumstances. Life seems unmotivating, mean less, scary, unfair or just put of grasp but we are gonna make it and those that have lived it will try to help carry their close ones struggling as well out of this confusing fast paced mess we created. Light each other's torches and cause together we will cross this darkness.
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I love listening to Jordan talk. He’s absolutely right about the rewards of not getting better as well as learned helplessness. You can’t help anyone who will not take the first step.
About depression: Yea, they speak about our brain`s unbalance, just to keep subscribing the pills. They call it mental health, so why they treat it physical? And don`t they know? it is not our brain unbalanced, just our lungs which caving in - suffocating us. Hurting every time we breathe. It`s not the brain unbalanced, just the pain inside our chest. Hurting us so bad, make us want to give up life. Then we`re taken to “doctors” who calls us insane and give us pills. What about our souls? - for whom are not cared for. Why it`s the brain they care, if it`s our soul whom hurting bad?. Manifesting the pain in our hearts and in our lungs. It is not brain unbalanced, just the hurting soul, who facing the darkest time in their lives. So why they subscribing the pills and not healing the soul? Why they poisoning us further and keeping us “ill”?
I hope you’re not equating learned helplessness with those who choose not to help themselves. It’s not the same thing. An example of learned helplessness is the dogs who were severely shocked every time they tried to escape an electrified cage. They were taught not to help themselves. They were punished for trying to help themselves over and over again to the point where they would just stand no matter what. And when they finally opened the door, what did you expect? They were punished so severely for trying to get out for so long, of course they won’t try again! It’s not their fault at all! This happens to people too. People who are trying their best to do the right thing and they keep getting punished again and again and again. It’s not that they’re not trying.
@@lemunbalm3731Absolutely agree with you. Some people does not seem to understand what it is like to fight for years for something, always going at a 150% only to get "punished" at the end. Its not matter what you try, how hard you try, there are some things around us we can't change. The hardest part is to accept it. Accepting the fact that all of your tries are never going to pay off.
@@lemunbalm3731100% agree with this. This video made me feel I'm not doing enough to recover. Which is totally a symptom of depression already. Cheers for that guilt Mr Peterson on top of my already debilitating irrational guilt.
56, no jobs for almost 2 years straight after another, no friend, bad mariage, but no alcohol, no drugs, not being really ill, but I reckon everything he mentioned. Great to see this video content as a hard lesson, this might help me to get out of my cycle of depression. Thank you so much Jordan Peterson. You're a master.
I tried micro-dosing yesterday for the first time, and I had wonderful experience. I'm someone who suffers from chronic depression, and I was simply happy, not overly ecstatic, but genuinely happy and active with my friends and family. I was even excited to get out of bed this morning.
Psilocybin saved my life. I was addicted to heroin for 15 years and after Psilocybin treatment I will be 3 years clean in September. I have zero cravings. This is something that truly needs to be more broadly used in addiction treatment.
Psychedelic’s definitely have potential to deal with mental health symptoms like anxiety and depression, I would like to try them again again but it’s just so hard to source out of there.
I was having this constant, unbearable anxiety because of university stress. Not until I came across bergwilly11_, a very intelligent mycologist.He saved my life honestly
A lot of people have testified about this and I really want to give it a shot. I put so much on my plate and it definitely affects my stress and anxiety levels
From personal experience, working as an adult is like going to school as a child. There are just as many things there that you will enjoy just as much as you will dislike. The one major thing that really kept me going were the people I met along the way. Life long friendships and connections can be made. Shout out to all my Sam's club people out there.
I've had 2 anxiety attacks (my first as far as I can recall) in the last 24hrs, after which point my car broke down (again in the last month) after the fact. I needed to hear this again. Thank you Dr Peterson
I have found that a specific Bible verse covers this as well. Philippians 4:8 - Finally, brethren, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is of good repute, if there is any excellence and if anything worthy of praise, dwell on these things. This verse instructs us to remove negative thought from our lives. Be positive. It can be exhausting in the beginning but well worth your time to keep that negativity pushed out of your mind.
God helped me out of depression. It was a very difficult process but I didn't give up. My depression lasted 5 years. I couldn't even move. I was always crying, sleeping and eating. I was ashamed to go to the supermarket, etc. BUT finally I began to pray and asked God for help and he helped me. I'm really grateful for everything🙏🏻♥️
God also raised me from a very dark place. Like you, I was paralyzed and cried everyday. The day I was lifted up, I saw the Lord on the throne. Jesus is alive, and working for those who believe and receive.❤
I wish I could say the same. I’ve been a Christian my whole life and went to a Private School for my whole childhood. I’m currently 19 and just dropped out of trade school and planning on starting community college in the following months. However, I’m so lost. My brain always feels so foggy and I have barely any sense of direction.
I’ve always tried to seek peace and happiness through God, but don’t know how. What does that statement even mean! - “seek peace through God” It sounds so vague and it seems insane to me at times that people just pray and things magically get better even though their individual circumstances haven’t changed at all. They just suddenly find some inner peace given from God? I wish I could understand.
From the first few videos I have seen, Jordan Peterson is a brilliant person. He really understands things and has a talented ability to communicate inspiration. I'm all ears for him
I watch you every now and then I start a new job tomorrow because I had 3 systems of what you coached in this video . Thank you. Watched your videos but today I listened.
I don't think this is Jordan's channel but I really needed to hear this. Thank you for sharing this with all that need it and may only have the internet as a resource for getting help in their own way. You have tilted the world a little more towards healing with just this one video. May your life be enriched by your own generosity.
The idea that every decision you make is meaningful and holds actual weight is such an amazing motivator. I think I'll clean up my dorm room now and make a schedule for tomorrow haha
The thing that really helped me out of depression was actually ending a (more or less) intimate relationship. Sometimes the root cause for depression is somewhere else then expected.
Feeling hopeless about the situation in the material world can be an impetus for beginning a rewarding spiritual journey that will uncover another more beautiful spiritual reality.
Wow.. I truly believe what JBP says on “your actions matter”. If you do something wrong you tilt the world towards evil. I am encouraged to not act out of anger and vengeance today as I don’t want to contribute to something which will tilt the world towards evil. An eye for an eye will leave whole world blind. But I also don’t want to stop myself from speaking the truth and standing up straight with my shoulders back. Thank you Jordan.❤
When i was depressed about a year ago, before i got myself out of that sitaution i felt worthless , my life had no direction and i was close to edge. But something changed and i decided to do something about it and not surrender to my own damaging thought processes, got a job a schedule, had to cut ties with the toxic individuals who were dragging me down too. All i can say is if you are feeling that way , its not the end of the world and you can get yourself out of it. Regards
Dear Sir Jordan, You are so correct in your perspective on depression. I’ve dealt with episodes of major depression all of my life. You gave me practical advice today. Thank You 🙏
Just a question, is it trigger from thoughts? And if it is, is it thoughts of things you went through? Or thoughts of things may go through? Or thinking what you’re going through? Thanks
*Positive Emotion* 2:18 ... It will be a consequence of seeing that things are working as you proceed towards a goal you value 2:52 Most of your positive emotion is goal pursuit emotion
I suffered from severe clinical depression 31 years ago. The scary thing about depression is that one doesn't know one's depressed until he/she is in it right over his/her head. I thought i was going crazy with the mood swings, like swinging on a pendulum back and forth from rage to guilt, then back and gorth. Thank God that I went for professional help when I did. I'm turning 70 years soon.
I am beyond depressed, I just don't physically or mentally care anymore. Each time I discover new pain, I just add it to the list of other pain I already have. I have reasons, I have purpose but it doesn't change the empty void I have in my heart.
When we are hungry (empty stomach), only food can satisfy. Same way, the spiritual void can only be filled by Spiritual Food. Jesus said "I am the bread of life". May you feed on the Bread of Life
My grandfather, a hard working Fantastic Father of 8 and a Fantastic Grandfather of about 25 Grandchildren taught us that "you don't need an employer to have a job," hence, work and produce. There is always something to do.
Good point! You may instead have structure/schedule to your day. For retired people, it is such a blessing to be present in your grandkids' lives (if you have them.) That is a wonderful 'job substitute.' So is tending a garden, woodworking, or volunteering in the community.
I had 3 severe depression episodes and now in 4th which lasts over the year. And it’s very very severe. Yes, to have structure is the key. And perhaps the faith, or God. Or something what gives you believe and strength…however honestly me struggling with this very much. I live one day at the time. Everyone who is struggling with these demons (depression/ apathy/ anxiety I wish to get better soon. Amen.
I’m depressed because the only thing I do in life is work. But I’m startling right now making little steps. This was a very good video. We all can manage to help ourselves; just focus on small goals.
It’s okay to feel overwhelmed by work. Maybe what you need is to find something else to do after work like a hobby or meet up with a friend. I to used to be sad because I felt like work was the only thing I did but then I started to change my routine after work like read a book, talked with a friend, cooked something. Even if you don’t have a lot of time dedicating at least 30 minutes to some sort of hobby could help even writing about your day.
This might work for some. I know 2 people with a history of lifelong depression. One had a successful business and lots of friends, no drug or alcohol issues and was a keen motorcyclist and gym goer. the guy was clean and going places. Hung himself in 2013. The other struggles to keep the black dog at bay but soldiers on. Fights it with everything she has. Antidepressants, exercise, positive distractions, the rare and occasional drink. Charity work. Art. Nothing really takes it away. I think these people have seen something in life that cant be unseen and there is no amount of motivational speaking that will ever undo their pain. Like viewing a sunny day through a black veil. Every day. Its commendable that Mr Peterson tried to help though.
However erudite or specialised in his field,the fact is that Peterson is mostly talking about those with reactive depression. For those with that as well as innate ,its about coping. I have bipolar,big highs followed by chronic lows where just getting out of bed is a huge effort,mentally &physically. Medication helps me stay here but if only I could find a way not to feel the way I do; for me there are no rewards for being as I am,with the exception of sometimes seeing the absolute wondrous I agree with your sentiments &wish you well
That's a good way to put it. That's how it is too .like looking at buetiful day threw a dark foggy window. I beleive depression goes much deeper then just mental health. It's a spiritual matter. If you ain't right with Jesus your spirit is dead literally. Jesus is the only one who can give us living waters.
@@samirshukir3262 I am not making light of your situation, but anyone's life can be improved by focusing on basic things like: getting good sleep; exercising, particularly if combined with getting outside; limiting screen time/escapism; eating a healthy diet; cutting out drugs/alcohol. I know, I know: it feels nearly impossible when your legs feel like you are encased in concrete in the depths of the lows. But little steps can help. I find the "5 minute timer" trick helps a lot, where I set a timer and work on a task (cleaning out a junk drawer, putting away some laundry, pulling weeds) for just 5 mins. When that time is up, I can keep on going if I like, but even if I stop, I feel so good that I accomplished my goal. I hope your medication is helping somewhat. My sister has bipolar and has lived her life refusing meds, and has lived a life of hell -- and put her family through hell also.
I thought I was depressed so I went in and saw my doctor. She explained to me there's two kinds, one, situational depression where it's your life circumstances getting you down and two clinical depression which is a whole nother thing! I seen both types experienced. One of them and clinical depression is orders of magnitude above the other. For that clinically depressed person, any presence are really the first course of action. Getting those tuned to where you can have a regular life is a game changer! What he says about dying is really true because I know somebody who died from clinical depression as well so it's entirely possible. Also, if you're in a marriage with somebody is clinically depressed, you will become situationally depressed from them being clinically depressed and it is not a happy time.
This video has actually, hopefully, saved me. Post COVID, I lost my residency in a country I had spent a lot of time in. I watched my wife and kids get on a plane and travel there, leaving me behind. What I had looked forward to for four years was suddenly not there anymore. The feeling of abandonment has been overwhelming. Many people might say that one shouldn’t depend on someone emotionally like that; my world got very small over the last four years and all I cared about left on a plane. I just wanted to say thanks to Jordan for this. I’ll try and use your advice and steps, come out of this, and live.
Yes we all need some type of structure in life and we all get down time to time. I always used jogging to help with depression,now as I get older I walk and go swimming. I also started working on my poetry after all these years and have 3 books 📚 published now.The pleasure 🙏 writing ✍️ gives touches my very soul and helps me unlock my inner most thoughts.But we all need to find baby steps out of our darkness ❤️. There is hope,there is light. The Belfast poet Andrew Beattie 😉.
My Job was the reason i almost end it all... i was working in a short staff , high preasure job and was burning out. The first sign was trouble sleeping , i would wake up at 1 or 2 in the morning troubled about what lies ahead. And during the day i was not able to keep up with my work. Secondly my eating changed... wasnt hungry , always sick and throwing up a lot due to preasure. Then my body gave in , i was in hospital more than i would like to remeber and the doctors just couldn`t find a cure .... Untill one doctor eventally suggested i should consider seeing a psychiatrist and im currently on meds and learning to live with depression... I dont think you will ever be cured from depression , you just lurn to live with it every day...
You sound smart Your job was killing you and you had way too much work for 1 person Sounds like they did not care about their staff You should find a job you love Somewhere they appreciate you and where your skills are valued
I can definitely Understand this yes. I am sorry to you but I am very happy that you're still here alive & you're telling your story, it's so good to talk about what you go through. Never bottle up any emotions or experiences or issues. Sadly, many workers get depressed, anxious, etc from their jobs & employers., it's a sad reality that many workers are overworked underpaid, exploited & burntout. Having a job is definitely not the only main "solution" to helping your mental health though, so I hope u can find nice helpful hobbies and interests for yourself soon ❤
@@jermaenjoyer yes it’s not always the job it’s self..it’s the nasty bossy people who run them..talking to workers how they like ,treading them like dirt..picking on and bullying is no different from a house wife who’s suffering at the hands of her narc husband. There should be stronger or tighter rules in the workplace to compact this..no one has a right to make your life a misery ,just so u can make a living…I’ve been there under this problem before..and in the end I had to leave,it was just too stressful every day .
The circadian connection with depression is so important. So many in our society don't have a job to give them a routine, namely all the retired people. Many of these have no family either. So retired, or jobless having a routine, having order is very important. It's like you don't have time to dwell on yourself when you have other responsibilities besides yourself. Not having a job usually also means less money which means fewer choices and certainly no pampering of self. Retirees also are on meagre pensions in many cases - recall how older people were buying canned pet food to get more nutrients. The external environment does affect the mind and spirit.
I'm tired of my friends calling me self centered because I reached out when I felt suicidal. All they've done is convinced me never to reach out again. I've watched to video so many times with tears in my eyes and a blade to my wrist.
If friends aren't helping, you might need a therapist or counselor to talk to. Potentially a psychologist. Don't be afraid to reach out!! Sometimes its easier to talk to a stranger than a friend. ❤ your friends can't fix you, they can just support you and encourage you to get the professional help you need. If they aren't encouraging you to get help, I will!! ❤
Speak to someone you can trust. You need to find help from a heath care professional and may need antidepressants. Focus on improvements to yourself and your room and life.
Came here to get better then when he said if you have “3 of these problems it’s impossible to help you” thanks a lot for making my depression worse, feels amazing to know from w psychologist that 25 year severely suicidal manic depressive has no hope.
Start by going back to school get your ged then do more school so you can get yourself some skills you can do it brother it feels really good to learn I have experience this graduated at 51. Good luck my friend thanks for your service I’m deeply grateful for people like you that put your self that take risk knowing the consequences.
That was really motivating for me as I joined uni after a break two year I really wasn't being productive 😭 did u feel weird among the young 18yos ?? Like I joined at 21
I find all these things true for me, without routine I am v down within a week, I submitted my PhD thesis and had a real downer for 2 weeks (over Christmas and new Year), so this video reinforced my own ideas about what I need to avoid depession, and what to work on if it rose up around and within me...
congrats on your PhD. I'm in my third year now and starting to have depression already. I started to read different topics about psychology before I go to bed just to help me forget the stress and anxiety of doing PhD. Well done on your achievement.
My first depression was in 2020. Tried medication and therapy. Therapy worked partly. Never fully healed though. I'm now since a few months in a second depression. Waiting for my therapy. My depressions aren't clinical, but I'm more vulnerable to situational depressions due to autism.
I can’t believe my brain 🧠 has been self-correcting yourself everything he talked about I have been doing naturally to get away from depression, anxiety omg I’m actually on the right past Ty so much Dr Peterson. It Took me 10ys to figure it out an a loss of a Family member to really push me over the edge to wake myself Up.
My dad and best friend died in May last year, and ive been completely lost since. For the first time in my life, I feel like the things I usually find fun doing isn't fun anymore because I can't share the experience with him or tell him about it. I feel sad and lost like never before. I'm only 34 but it feels like I'm done with life.
No man, you are not done.. Don't give up. I am sorry for your loss. But remember your dad has to die one day and before you. Because das have the life it is. I lost my dad when I was 17 years old. And I have to look after my family too because I lot of brothers and sisters and they were younger than me. But I never give up. Now I am almost 40, and single, and now I am a bit depressed to say at least, but I have to get through this too. So you have to do the same. Be strong 💪💪
I just lost my dad too. He was my best freind as well. Believe me I know exactly how you feel. I feel like there's nothing to enjoy or look forward to anymore and the person who I shared with is gone. It's tough ain't it.
Severely depressed, looking for a job after losing one months ago due to a mental breakdown. I was medicating with alcohol and I stopped after being hospitalized, but it's only been 22 days without alcohol after years of self medicating. I only got out of bed today to feed my animals. Finally made some coffee and I'm going to try to go out, but I have no desire or will to do anything.
Depression needs a lot of energy to maintain within you. It might want you to save all your energy for it self. Like no appetite, feel like staying in the bed whole day, not doing any activities. Just try doing the opposite what it wants you to do. Don't let it have its way. When your depression say don't eat have a nice meal, when it says just stay in bed get out of the bed and keep your self active.
After being on many different antidepressants over the years I am considering psilocybin therapy. I tried to get into a research study but they had so many volunteers I didn’t get in. Back to your advice, I lack most of what you have recommended. I’m retired, have no close friends and my house is very chaotic. I try to exercise, practice my faith, do meditation, tapping but I’m still in the hole.
I relate to you! I’ve been on many antidepressants and I do not really see any change. I’ve been to therapy for years. I have a very loving husband. I’m retired and we are very comfortable. But I still feel this extreme darkness. I am not sure about the mushrooms, I feel scared they could really make things worse. Anyway I just relate to your story
Watching videos like this is a good start. Even if that's all you can do right now. When you're listening to and reflecting on things and then doing it again and again, there is rewiring going on-you're learning, i.e., changing. Watch Dr. K (from HealthyGamerGG) video "I Watch Your Videos But Never Change My Life," he does a good explanation about it. Obviously, if you can manage to force yourself to exercise, get on a regular sleep schedule, and all of that, it's more effective, but I know I've been in spots where that was impossible; I was incapable of anything along those lines. If all you can manage is to watch some positive videos that resonate with what you WANT to be, start there.
I have treated hundreds of cases of depression and that which works is to stop eating something. Wheat isn't tolerated we'll by ninety percent of the people, bread, at least what its become is a massive concern, and cutting this out helps. If that doesn't get you out of depression right away what happens next will. Exercise, not walking, running, weight exercise. Do these two for us and you will be well.
Ok. I left my job coz of the covid the company has shut down then I was at home doing nothing for a year. Then I found a job in the supermarket but one day when I was just sitting at home had this very very bad feeling. A stress hit me from no where then I've started sweating, then got anxious then had a the anxiety kicked in then got into a depression then I've fainted when I woke up I new I was unconscious for like 2 hours. I whent to hospital and all my results come out positive and the doctors told there was nothing wrong with me. They said go home and have a good sleep for at least 8 hours then I will be ok. I've done what they told me but when I woke up I was worser. I was still sweating stressed heart beat depressed I didn't know what the hell was going on with me. It was like this person is not who I was. I didn't have no feelings didn't want to do nothing at all. I didn't even wanted yo come out of my house and this whent on for a year. Then I had the bad thoughts came into my mind. I was thinking to commit suicide coz I was not enjoying anything that I use to love doin. No excitement no hobbies didn't want to see anyone. I didn't even wanted to come out of my bed. And one day I've said go out and just kill yourself. At that moment the devil and demons took over my mind I was looking at everything like it was the last time I was lookin at them. I was going for suicide. When I stepped outside my house I saw one of my cousin and she looked at me and said what's wrong with you your looking like a man that's like someone took your soul out of your body. And I've told her what I've been going through. Then thanks God she new what it was coz she has been trough the same situation is well just hold my hand and said wait with me then she made a phone calls to the professionals, doctors and the help line. She said look your going through a anxiety depression and your having a panic attacks. And your deep into depression. We waited for like an hour then a 2 doctors with a cycaytrist came over. They talked to me and they give me a antidepressants and I was on meds for like a year and a half. Now I feel better some times I still get attacks but I am much more stronger then I was to handle this. Always thinking positive and never thinking about the negativity things in the life. All I want to say is anyone and everyone can get into this situation it does not matter if your have a good job and your working. It doesn't matter if your a social guy that have houndreds of friends. It doesn't matter if you're rich or poor, if your married or single any one can get into this situation. You need to get help from the right people otherwise you won't be able to make it.
I experienced something similar one weekend , don't know what triggered it, felt as though l was imprisoned in my own head. I have never felt so alone. Nothing in my life had changed except l had a job l did n't care for very much. Had great parents, good friends. Weird beyond words , then about a fortnight later it just lifted but l never forget how l felt, never, and this happened over 30 years ago.
It actually sounds like an attack of black magic to be honest. Very few people know about this kind of craft and how much it messes peoples lives up in a spiritual way. Maybe someone who want to revenge, are jealous, whatever a twisted mind can come up with to justify ruining a persons life, can be the cause. Demons and darkness doesn´t come into your life without any kind of invitation. Most people doesn´t believe or understand these kind of things, but they do believe in their mental anguish as it is very real to them even though no-one else sees it. There are powerful ways to deal with this though, and must be dealt with, as it won´t leave unattended. These things can´t be medicated away, unless you take pills so strong it annuls you. Wich is a reality for alot of people to date. I speak of experince in both fields, the medical and spiritual, and know what a talk about. I hope everyone with these kind of problems find a solution, as it is devastating to be stricken with these kind of event.
I wish more people realized that RETIREMENT can be devastating. That's essentially, hello, UNEMPLOYMENT. It absolutely ruined my life. Now I have no job, no purpose, no reason to get up in the morning, no friends, no family, nowhere to go, nothing to do, nothing to aspire to or work toward. In short, I'm that three-strike person he says can't be helped. Retirement is not what it's cracked up to be, and society should address this instead of propagating the myth that it's absolutely amazing. What's "amazing" about sitting around doing nothing or just frantically running around trying to keep busy with meaningless hobbies or tasks? Once you retire, you're out of the mainstream of life and just waiting to die.
A part time easy job may help. I was also thinking about volunteering which would add more meaning to my life. Environmental to help save the planet? or volunteer in a hospital, soup kitchen, or community pantry, or even wild animal rehabilitation centers.
OMG Skeptigal! Are you serious? If you're interested, I might be able to help you. We could do it over e-mail. Let me know if you're interested. It's worth a try. YOU are worth it.
I totally agree it’s taken me two years of depression to come to terms with retirement … everyone suggests oh get a part time job … no one wants an old person to work for them … volunteer uhg I have no desire to clean up other peoples messes hate animals and am ocd so helping homeless who smell or kids who equally make mess and germs are not an option for a 30 year professional … then those who make suggestions walk away and think you’re too hard too fussy … I was a fully functioning professional making a difference in people’s lives … so that leaves ????
Hard daily drunk for just shy of a decade. Peterson might not be a winner on every topic but his core beliefs and advice and perspectives got me sober. 2 years and going strong. My whole life is in so much more of an order, got a dog who is extremely loved and healthy, a home, a productive hobby and my health is great going into my mid 30s. Thanks Mr Peterson
This is so true, I’m the happy living proof of it, had to find this out completely on my own, and it took me years but knowing myself, I really had to take that road, it most probably would not have worked if someone told me back then. Kind of scary that Dr. Peterson mentioned every single example I’ve had to battle through, but very proud to be able to have come so far! Great mind, Dr. Peterson and always a joy to listen to.
OMG I am SO happy someone finally called out the toxicity of super positive people. I think those people don't understand what life really is, are being fake, or both.
Personally and I didn’t realize it at the time was that sunshine and nature and then digs then diet and exercise - pulling back from human beings helped me and then adding a religion or spirituality - in my case Buddhism and openness to all forms of spirituality
Personally and I didn’t realize it at the time was that sunshine and nature and then digs then diet and exercise - pulling back from human beings helped me and then adding a religion or spirituality - in my case Buddhism and openness to all forms of spirituality
trying to do all those things and failing at them has brought me to this place of deep depression. really only one way out for me at this point. Just need to figure out the path I need to take to get out of here.
Got cancer at 36 and spent the next 10 years fighting it. Lost my wife, business and home because of it. 47 now and I beat cancer but im more depressed than I've ever been.
@NyMarcell yeah. Should be one of the best moments of my life but sometimes I wish it would just have gotten me in the beginning. I know I shouldn't take life for granted but it took everything I ever loved.
@ I understand my friend. Hopefully everything you loved comes back around in the future. I'm fighting my own battles every day. Know you have my support young warrior 💪✌️
That's absolutely true! The ONLY source of happiness is the belief that you are moving towards what you desire. And the ONLY reason you ever feel bad is because you don't feel you are moving towards your desires. It doesn't matter how fast you let your dreans manifest, only that you are pointed and moving in the direction of them. (You can tell whether you are in opposition to moving towards your dreams by how bad you feel...and on the flip side you can tell how much you are beliving in and moving in the direction of what you want by how good it feels :) )
we are so tuned in with the way we organize ourselves, especially when we are doing it for years. when something changes it can throw you completely off. I realized this, when my Todo App stopped working the way I wanted to. the automatisms in our brain help us to make our lives easier and relearning takes a lot of time.
In my personal opinion....I would never start dating while depressed. Simply because if you date the wrong person, it can absolutely worsen ur depression
To take it further, I don’t think you should even have sex will depressed if you are single b/c you are likelier to have risky sex , especially if you’re already on a antidepressant that decreases sensation.
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Wow, there is so much to unpack in a short 10 min video! Great stuff, but it's only for those who want to better their lives.
I like your work Jordan but Anti-depressant have fucked this world over. You yourself have struggled with drugs this is not your area to preach to others.
Anti- depressant dont put food on the table or pay the bills. Some of us just deal with it. You are wealthy telling others how to live their life but our life differs from you financially. All said I respect your work minus the crap pharma you continue to push..
This is my summary. If you're depressed, do these 3 things:
1. Clean up your room (Don't let your environment hypnotizes you into thinking your life is a mess)
2. Stick to a schedule (Bring a sense of control back into your life)
3. Create list of small tasks/goals & hold yourself accountable to complete them within a fixed time frame (Create a sense of accomplishment to encourage yourself to keep moving forward)
Let's do it together. Don't give up, fellow strangers. 🙂 Love and bless you. ❤️
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@@chickedee1085 Don't think. Just do. Do it regardless. Whether you think you got the energy or not. I just lost a job and I had to drag myself out of bed to get my things sorted out every morning. 😃
@@KyranSparda it’s hard I’m getting older
@@chickedee1085 It is. It's not easy. It wasn't easy for me either, and it's still not. But I would stop thinking about whether it is easy or hard to do, I just do it. Even it's just a small effort of getting myself out of bed.
If I can move a step then I move a step, if I can move an inch then I'll move an inch. I will move forward, doesn't matter if I have to crawl. Taking that first step is all that matters. 🌞 Through the darkest night, eventually the sun will rise.
Everything feels so heavy and the chest hurts . Anyone struggling you're not alone keep going 💕🙏💕
You will get better ❤️🩹
Hey Donnacarr I completely understand how you are feeling, I’m in the same place at the moment and each day is hard but I sincerely hope you are alright ❤️ you are not alone in this ❤️💖
Same here. It really hurts.
@@imeiprezime345 I promise you hang in there it will get easier hugs for you and keep hanging on ❤🙏
I’m trying to find the words, but i cannot. But we need to keep going. It is hard, and I’m tired.
I had to basically reinvent myself at 40 to get out of that hole. Moved to a different city, new job, working out like an animal, no alcohol, good diet, back in college to finish that degree I should have finished 15 years ago , no dating, I'm alone but not lonely. Its amazing how my life changed for the better in less than a year. Attach your happiness to a goal, not to people, money, or things. When you focus on yourself,the whole world focus on you. Start with the little things like cleaning your place and keep it clean, make.your bed every morning, wake up 30 minutes earlier and have some breakfast at home before work, once you build the discipline with those small things it will give you a small sense of accomplishment, and the rest just falls Into place faster than what you could believe.
Love your story ! so motivating❤👏👏
@ dubon that might have been hard finishing your degree u could have done 15 years ago, how u mustered that courage to keep going. How u used to buckle up in hard times. What was the learning and how u r now after making diligent desicion...
We have a sick care system, not a get better system. You have to ask for permission to get help. Screw them.
Well we still need people. I'm only here to try to understand a friend dealing with depression. In hopes to help bring her out of the home she's found herself buried into.
I've slipped in and out of depression my whole life. I can only imagine how it would be to not want to completely isolate myself from the world and just not exist. Then my uncle, cousin and brother all took their own lives in the course of my lifetime. It gets harder and harder every year to get back up but I've been fighting more than ever this year.the progress is very small but it's something and I'm not giving up.
😢wow this is heart breaking to hear...So many lost family members...For you the important thing is you still have a burning flame inside you that helps you bounce back ~Hugs & prayers your way ❤
Praying for you, it always gets better hang in there you got this 👊
You go girl ,you have that fighter energy .❤
The strongest souls fight the most difficult battles. Depression is like an angry dragon that fights us. To master depression, you have to go through it. One does not defeat the angry dragon. Because you are the dragon and the depression. You slowly become one with the dragon and the depression and gain strength in going through it. I have depression since my childhood trauma and while being bullied for many years. And some years later I was diagnosed with a different Illness. Paranoid scizophrenia. But back to depression, at some point I chose it. Really choosing to go through it. Becoming one with the dragon and its anger. I don't know if the point is to overcome the dragon and the depression. Because that very intent is trying to get rid of it and this doesn't work. So wearing it gladly. About suicide. I had a Girlfriend from america back then. I used to send her money every month. My doctor saw this critical as he thought im being manipulated by this woman. Then my doctor wanted a legal assistant in my life. Somebody who handles my finances. I was so afraid that this act would Sabotage my relationship and I thought i would lose her. So i said ok i go. I had a suicide attempt in 2022. I overdosed on my Medication. I went unconscious the same night. Although i still woke up, fell around, puking, shitting myself, broke things accidentally. I wasnt eating or drinking for 4 - 5 days. At one point i just layed there unconscious. My mom and two friends rescued me 4 days after I attempted suicide. I was brought into a Hospital with kidney failure and a sitting and laying trauma. Because I was on the hard ground in uncomfortable positions for over 100 hours. Some time after in the Hospital i came back to consciousness. Luckily I survived. I drink alot and my kidney is working again. But due to my pain in the back, from the suicide attempt, I had to quit my old Job. Suicide is not the solution to anything and I don't recommend it
And I want to say: stay strong guys. I believe in you all. Were all gonna make it. All the best to you guys
Hey everyone. From one internet stranger, and countless more who I know believe similarly, we love you. We want you to live in this world with us. We believe in you. You got this. Please continue fighting. Not only for yourself, but for us. I know it can feel like the world is against you, or those you've loved have abandoned you, but I am with you. I love you, and hope you will see the happiness or lessened pain that you desire come to reality in the future ❤
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I don’t think I do, no.
Thank you for your message though, I know it comes from a very good place, that’s very nice and generous of you to try to share your sunshine
At 70, I have a daily fitness program and I have the goals of guitar and singing daily. I try to make progress on the music. I recently started clogging (tap dance for hicks). I do zoom with alcoholics anonymous in the evenings. It keeps the demons at bay.
So cool. I am 66. I just had my right hip replaced in September,then in January 5th I had my left hip replaced. I have a severe bout of depression, lasting a couple weeks. I am sure it is becauseI was layed up, my circadian rhythms were off, we have just very cold weather here in the north & my husband has COPD, my neighbor has a blood disease we found out. Boy, my worries got out of control. So I will keep your ideas in mind.
Thanks TrishCanyon.
Ill do the Zoom in the Evening to Fight my Demons ❤
I love it!
"tap dance for hicks"
Now, *that* was 🤣 funny
Thanks for sharing your willingness
Friend of bill w
Staying on a schedule is very beneficial for depression. My depression has benefited from having to take care of my diabetic dog. She has to eat and have her insulin every 12 hours, and needs exercise every day. This requires I get up at 6am every day and take her for walks. Just taking her for an hour long walk each day, especially when it's sunny, makes us both feel better.
Its important to help others if you feel depression. 😊🥰💓
@@jennieeklov You are absolutely right. My husband is a great help with that. LOL
I wish you well. Animals can be a great benefit for many people.
@@susanleatherbarrow2495 Thank you. I've enjoyed the company of animals my whole life. I've cried on many an animal shoulder, and never had one turn away. Not even a horse or cow. Best wishes to you.
@@susanrogers6815 Thank you, sweetheart. All the best. At the moment we are proud owners of two elderly black cats, a slightly younger black and white one and a bonkers Jack Russell who cleans the cats fur for them!!!
"If they die, you cant help them"
Hit me hard.
I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.
yup, it hit hard 😂
Lmao 🤣
@@Guys_Love_Each_Other it's hardly funny is it.
Start Praying & Asking Holy Father to Heal Your Depression, while Counting your Blessings: 1) The New Day: Rain or SunShine; 2) the Songs of the Birds; 3) Your Bed, blankets… Food; 4) The Smile the Cashier gave you; 5) Cries, or Giggles of Babies; The simple things… Then FOCUS on These Good Tasks & Take Action… A Walk, Clean your Closet, or, One Drawer; Have Toast & Herbal Tea! Keep Growing in Positivity…
Ask This 6 Words Phrase when Stressed (Mel Robbins): “WHAT IF EVERYTHING WORKS OUT PERFECTLY?” Remember 94.?% of the Time… All will be just Fine! Smile & Say, “Hi!” To Someone! X’s 5 when you go Out! Don’t feel Like ‘IT’ ~ Do it Anyway… pick a Few of those! = Feelings Don’t Have to be ‘The Boss!’ 🙏🏻🕊☀️🌸
I’ve been suffering in and out for so many years and this year it hit me hard. Everything feels so meaningless. I feel like life is slowly slipping away from me. Like I am slowly becoming useless. Nothing I do will ever go right. I ended up here this morning to find something. And probably its going to help me… I hope it will.
Surely it will♥️ You are not alone. It will change one day... I believe in you
Hugs
Bless you
I am praying for you!
Imagine saying “find friends” to someone who is trapped in one of the darkest and loneliest places possible in their mind 🤦🏻♀️ finding people that actually want to be around and support you when you’re in a depression is incredibly difficult.
💯💯
I think you misunderstood the core message of the video. It's not find friends, period. It's find someone to help you.
I think getting more spiritual is best way to handle depression
Exactly! Telling a lonely person to “find a friend“ is like telling a poor person to “just get a million dollars”!
@@SmokeNeckRecordsno it’s not. It’s more like asking a poor person to get a better job. Something very achievable.
I recovered from severe clinical depression on a level where i was in hospital unable to remember my name or put my socks on and I can tell you JP is on the right track, there is more deep understanding of the situation in this one video than the entire mental health care system .
How did you do it? I have a close friend suffering from severe clinical depression, she knows she isnt right and she goes to therapy, doing everything she can. yet she cant get out of it. any pieces of advice you might be able to share?
@@Lapislightning everyone has to find their own way out is the harsh truth, you can't cure it you can only manage it.
That's really hard to do when you live in a negative house or a negative environment your whole life 😭
this is amazing that you still held on ❤❤
@@Lapislightning Not a cure but do some voluntary work or some good, have an exercise regime even if it's just walking but try to incorporate something that exercises your upper body too. Seek support groups and /or supportive people. Try to get rid of negative people and situations from your life. Remind yourself everyday how amazing we all are that we cope with this sometimes very difficult life. If that negative voice in your mind was your friend, you would get rid of it so override your negative voice with positive rebuttals. I hope something helps a bit.
I was a very depressed child, and the only time it lifted was when my adored older brother spent one on one time with me. I felt so good. I think all I needed was love. It just wasn’t there most of the time.
Love and attention and recognition of you as a person, things that were missing...
I understand 😢 sending you love ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
I love you. So does your spiritual higher power.
Love…. The one thing I need that I never had….
Thank you for sharing this. Very powerful. Have you found a way to deal with the depression now?
Grew up in an abusive alcoholic home. Inner chaos, lack of purpose, lack of intimate relationship, substance abuse, I had them all. Won't bore you with the details of the effects of all that. Just that I was clinically depressed. But I had an epiphany! And it was this: I made myself a cup of tea. And felt good about it as I drank it. I realized that that simple thought made into a reality by my actions was the key. And I began expanding the scope of what I thought about and my actions to make the thought a reality. It was so simple yet powerful. I did not always succeed in what I had sought out to do. But that did not erase the truth and power of what started with that cup of tea. Reader's Digest version of my life after that: was able to work my way through college and get a master's degree. Which led to a successful professional career. And I learned about what I wanted and did not want in people relationships. Which allowed me to be happy.
Long journey, small steps.
If you're depressed, try taking some satisfaction in doing things you CAN do. Hopefully, that can become a base from which to reasonably, tangibly expand your successes.
Peace.
❤Profoundly simple and doable.. thank you 🙏
Nice
Thank you for this.
@@joannwhite5341
You are most welcome, sister.
@@marilynBgood
You're welcome, Marilyn.
This lecture was very good. Having suffered from depression myself, I know he’s right when he says you have to want to get better and be willing to do whatever it takes to get better. He’s right when he says these changes have to be made in small steps, that it’s the accumulative effect of these regular small steps that helps bring about change. You are depressed BECAUSE your life needs to change. The old way isn’t working for you. Living the way you have been is making you ill. Think about something small you could do- even if it takes a lot of effort- that will make a difference. Be proud of yourself for doing that small thing. Later on, do another small thing that will make a difference. All these small acts will eventually make a big difference. Believe me, I’ve been there and I’m better now.
@@johnwheeler9186 dear Mr Wheeler, thank you for your reply. It sounds as if you have been depressed for a long time. I can only pass on information from my own experience that I hope may be of help to someone. I remember that when I accepted the fact that I may never be exactly the same person I was before, this was a big step forward for me. I realised I could stop fighting to get back to how I was and relax as I started moving forward towards a new and hopefully improved version of me. I was curious as to what the new me would be like. This realisation made me feel a lot less stressed, which gave me a good starting point for my gradual recovery. No, it wasn’t easy, but each time I managed to DO something beneficial ( instead of just lying there thinking about how bad I felt ), I patted myself on the back, sometimes literally, and felt proud of myself. I began to realise I had an inner strength that I could build up and make stronger. I did this by taking advantage of every bit of help I could get, such as regular Counselling, reading self-help books, praying ( even though at times I didn’t know what to say, but trusted that God knew how I felt and didn’t need words at that moment ), going out for that gentle walk with the family member that suggested it, planting up that tub with flowers that cheered me every time I saw them and looked after them, visiting that friend who was also going through trials to let them know I loved and cared about them despite my own problems, etc etc. Find out what works for you in a healthy way. Yes it’s hard to do, BUT YOU CAN DO HARD THINGS. I wish you all the best on your journey to recovery.
It comes to a point where you don't care of wanting to be better anymore. Too much struggle, stress. 🎉
@@DihelsonMendonca Do just one thing. Something that will be good for you. Like, take a bath/shower, wash your hair or just brush it. Just one thing. Go outside and look up at the sky. Put your favourite piece of music on. Read a few verses of the Bible. Pray. Call a family member or friend. Go for a walk down a pleasant street or a park. JUST ONE THING. I know it’s hard. But you can do that one hard thing. Each time you make up your mind to do just one thing and then do it, is one small step towards recovery. May not feel like it at the time, but every journey starts with one step.
@@verenamaharajah6082 Thank you very much. You're right, every long journey begins with one single step. I'll try to do it. It's like only way possible. 🙏👍❤️
I’m suffering in Depression well do you have a job no I don’t 😢
I was stuck in a never-ending loop. I finally accepted that nothing would change if I kept doing the same thing. So I chose the approach of faking it 'til I make it, and turning off the brain as much as I could.
It's not perfect but it led me to a state of mind that was better than where I had been for so long.
How are you now? Is it better?
@Rainingblueee I would say so. There are good days and bad, but trying things differently were steps to changing my mindset.
Meds also have been helping.
"don't sacrifice your stability' - words I wish I'd heard 25 years ago.
Me too.:-)
Yeah for me too, started fixing it 3 months ago.. Enough is enough, still have 50% of my life ahead
Jesus loves you
Word
I agree that life isn’t to be happy I’m tired of being lonely 😞
I got out of depression once I was given a purpose. Sounds opposite but I felt happier once I became a mom. Taking the negative attitude I had about myself and focused on the little sweet boy I was now taking care of changed me
Why should that "sound opposite"? We all need a purpose.
I missed out on having children. That's the source of my depression. You have been blessed and I'm happy for you.
@@dieselbourbon3728You can still adopt? It’s never to late!
I relate to your comment..I just had my first child a baby girl and I can’t express with words the feelings that I have now..I’m just happy and feel whole..I have a purpose to live and it’s for my daughter…
man the fact none of you women find purpose in being a good partner to your husband adds on to my depression of feeling alone. and the fact women take relationships for granted makes me wanna die even more
I would say to people to get active if they are depressed. Try cut out toxic people in your life. Lift weights, run, swim, join a martial arts gym and most importantly get a dog. You can’t underestimate the bond and love between man and his dog. My jack Russell took me out of some dark places
I've heard it all before--blah blah blah nothing new here.
@@taroman7100 that's right on point. Better than your lame psychiatrist's ideas
So true
This really worked for me till I got arthritis bad knees, back surgery etc.
@@taroman7100 Sounds like someone who doesn't want to negotiate because being a victim pays off well.
Sixteen years ago I spent 30 days in the hospital for severe depression. My brother thought I would never get out. I had electroconvulsive therapy four times! I slowly started to recover and go back to work. My family support was essential in my recovery. Thank you, Dr. Petersen for giving me hope.
Any idea what caused it
I could remember several years ago, I suffered severe depression. Was also diagnosed with BPD. Not until my mom recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly. 8 years totally clean. Never thought I would be saying this about mushrooms.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Germany. Really need!
YES very sure of Dr.alishrooms. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
How do I reach out to him? Is he on insta
I wish they were readily available in my place. Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac. He's constantly talking about killing someone. He's violent. Anyone reading this Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.
They've helped me alot as well. I'm a war vet diagnosed with ptsd. Alot of issues spun out of control when i came home. This is something i looked up and tried after trying the roller-coaster of antidepressants. Day and night difference
My life is challenging right now but I have a plan. Even though I’m not currently working, I have a schedule every day. A job is in my future but not possible right now. I strive for a balanced life daily and don’t allow time for negativity. I focus on productivity every day. Thank you Dr Peterson for your inspirational videos. God bless you!🙏🏼❤️
Thank you for this I'm in the same place but not doing what I need to
Me too
Yes !!!! That's the Key !!! Always be Positive and life will turn out fine !!!!!
Jesus Christ is coming soon.
Be a Child of Him!
Keep going. Study your profession and don’t stop learning. Put in the work and the results will come !!
"Life can be meaningful enough to justify the suffering". Man that one hit me hard.
It's such a great statement to unpack, makes for great homework all on its own.
Only thing keeps me here.
This is untrue for many people. What a glib statement.
I loved it. He totally said in one sentence what I've been feeling.
"I don't want to live, I don't want to be here, I don't want to be me. But for them, I cannot not bare to leave. They're worth the fight to be happier, they're worth my struggle to love myself, they're worth not ending it all. Life sucks. But I will be there for them no matter what, because they deserve me."
@@jesseturay1421 KEEP THE FAITH, JESSE. YOU'RE RIGHT
When I came home from the Marine Corps I struggled with depression and felt hopeless when I came home. It took 9 years of non-stop IOP programs, psychiatry, residential programs and one thing I never did was give up. I grew up in an abusive alcoholic family where I was abused everyday for 20 years plus. Not having a purpose is the worst and I kept trying to find it by going to college for something I thought I wanted to do, but later realized it was what my parents wanted me to do instead. The only way I can live the best life for me is to have structure, goals, working out 6 days a week with a group I go to, and having healthy support around me. I get a pension for being retired, but there's no way I can sit doing nothing! It feels just wrong to sit and do nothing. Even while working cleaning bathrooms was better than sitting doing nothing. I ended up pursing another career with my veteran benefits after taking a short break. Thanks Jordan for having all your videos for us to watch! I take away many valuable usable lessons from your videos that helped save my life!
I relate so much to this. Thanks for sharing.
Thank you
Good for you man
Thank you for your service.
I was married to military and one of the reasons people join the military is the structure that is offered and the routine and a goal and brotherhood and family especially if a person's upbringing and childhood was chaotic.
When the person leaves the military it's a drop into that world of chaos. Even though there are transitioning services etc offered now one must find a way to function in that world again with a different mind set and then the added challenges of possible ptsd.
I am currently daring a veteran and I can see a structure and pattern in his behavior and although most experiences are not the same, you can pretty much draw conclusions on the similarities.
I love him a whole lot and he just lost his father...the mother of his children suffers at home in chaos with bi polar depression because she has no goals in life and motherhood kinda happened on her and it's not fulfilling to her especially since it didn't keep him around.
It's just a big toxic swamp.
If you change one component in an equation, it changes the entire outcome.
Not sure if we will stay together if she puts on the thumbscrew about the kids, but that's not my objective here.
I serve my higher purpose in utilizing my time on earth to make a change and love is what opens the door into peoples hearts and minds. Love changes things for the better. I just want to give him a different perspective on life and if he can manage to embrace a different view he may even bring that back into his own family dynamic like a torch, but first he must find to light his own fire because if he cannot manage, then their darkness will also extinguish his light.
I have gone through my own trauma and generational curses and toxic cycles.
I see clearly.
Make a small change one person at a time and also let people change you as long as it's a positive influence.
Life is so much more than depression and keeping demons at bay.
One day you will invite your demons in and find that they have to obey you.
That is the power and authority of Christ.
Keep punching my friend your not alone.
Psychedelic are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough.it's fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety..it saved my life
When you've experienced psilocybin,the visions,the feeling that others feel become relatable and real,but when you haven't they could sound weird
Please does anyone know where I can get them? I put so much on my plate and it really affects my stress and anxiety level .I would love to try to shrooms.
@@hazeemakhan5301how do I find him?
Is he on inSta?
Saw some reviews about Myco_louiis checked him out and I must recommend he is good at what he does
@@sherrimandel6983yes, he is myco_louiis
good to know that some of us just cant be helped.
Very inspirational
This one video made so much sense than any of the bullshit my therapists told me , all they did was neglect the fact that I've been living in misery in the past 3 years
Thank you so much sir
it is true that people do suffer , we dont understand there situation. YOu have depression, it not the prittiest thing. All I have to tell you do chorse, everyday, god loves and want to help you achive does goals . remember to fight something you have to accept that you have depression, figure if it it you falut or things that were outside you control. Journal you thought. when you have a diifucluty ask for help, tell ohter if they can teach you how to do it and try it ,
I am not sure whether or not I ever suffered from clinical depression because I never talked to anyone. All I know is that I spent ten years trying to figure out how to remove myself from this planet without hurting those who wanted me on this planet.
Then I read Kierkegaard and decided to follow his lead and make a blind leap of faith.
Changed my life.
Neither religious nor spiritual but that blind faith in a creator has allowed me to absolutely embrace life and that decade of suicidal thoughts (from about 1984 to 1994) is such a distant memory as to be foreign.
Moral of the story is to try and hang in there in the hope that there is hope.
Believe me when I tell you that I came so close on many occasions to pulling the plug and my life has been so rich since then. So filled will life.
Life truly is fantastic if you allow it to be.
The sickness unto death?
Thanks for this
@@bellavia5 I am available if you want a soundboard or perhaps something more. Who knows, you may be doing us both a favor.
Praying the direction of our God..be with you. God bless you...
@@urex1717 thanks -that's very generous . I'm stable but definitely not experiencing a "fantastic" life as you are. Could you describe what makes it so for you?
About family members wanting you to fail. This is very true for many people.
Yes, really related to that. Glad to learn it’s not just MY family.
It took me years and years to realize my own mother was envious of every thing I owned and every small accomplishment I made as an adult. When it finally sunk in on my brain, I was hurt and then angry. I was conceived in 1942 by a man and woman who had no intention of starting a family and were not married. That’s where it all began.
You are not alone. Emotionally immature parents everywhere and many chose to have a family. These people are unable to see their children as a separate entity from themselves and/or feel painful jealousy if their own child exceeds their own accomplishments
It's pretty crazy to be that this is so common. I think one of the most basic duties we have as humans is to love our own family and support them however we can
They want or need you to fail because your success is proof that they are a failure! Or thamey fear you will outgrow them and leave them behind.
My heart goes with all my brothers and sisters struggling with their my and circumstances. Life seems unmotivating, mean less, scary, unfair or just put of grasp but we are gonna make it and those that have lived it will try to help carry their close ones struggling as well out of this confusing fast paced mess we created. Light each other's torches and cause together we will cross this darkness.
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I love listening to Jordan talk. He’s absolutely right about the rewards of not getting better as well as learned helplessness. You can’t help anyone who will not take the first step.
About depression:
Yea, they speak about our brain`s unbalance, just to keep subscribing the pills. They call it mental health, so why they treat it physical? And don`t they know? it is not our brain unbalanced, just our lungs which caving in - suffocating us. Hurting every time we breathe. It`s not the brain unbalanced, just the pain inside our chest. Hurting us so bad, make us want to give up life.
Then we`re taken to “doctors” who calls us insane and give us pills.
What about our souls? - for whom are not cared for.
Why it`s the brain they care, if it`s our soul whom hurting bad?.
Manifesting the pain in our hearts and in our lungs.
It is not brain unbalanced, just the hurting soul, who facing the darkest time in their lives.
So why they subscribing the pills and not healing the soul?
Why they poisoning us further and keeping us “ill”?
I hope you’re not equating learned helplessness with those who choose not to help themselves. It’s not the same thing. An example of learned helplessness is the dogs who were severely shocked every time they tried to escape an electrified cage. They were taught not to help themselves. They were punished for trying to help themselves over and over again to the point where they would just stand no matter what. And when they finally opened the door, what did you expect? They were punished so severely for trying to get out for so long, of course they won’t try again! It’s not their fault at all!
This happens to people too. People who are trying their best to do the right thing and they keep getting punished again and again and again. It’s not that they’re not trying.
@@lemunbalm3731Absolutely agree with you. Some people does not seem to understand what it is like to fight for years for something, always going at a 150% only to get "punished" at the end. Its not matter what you try, how hard you try, there are some things around us we can't change. The hardest part is to accept it. Accepting the fact that all of your tries are never going to pay off.
@@davidracz9881Yes. We need to accept what we can't control. 🎉🎉❤
@@lemunbalm3731100% agree with this. This video made me feel I'm not doing enough to recover. Which is totally a symptom of depression already. Cheers for that guilt Mr Peterson on top of my already debilitating irrational guilt.
I have been told that you feel better about your life if you can work to an old purposeful life. Having a purpose is important.
Yes to release from depression i applied for a master degree program. Its truly inspiring and gives purpose.🧡🧡🧡
56, no jobs for almost 2 years straight after another, no friend, bad mariage, but no alcohol, no drugs, not being really ill, but I reckon everything he mentioned.
Great to see this video content as a hard lesson, this might help me to get out of my cycle of depression. Thank you so much Jordan Peterson. You're a master.
r u okey now?it has been two years sinse ilost my job too i feel so bad
I tried micro-dosing yesterday for the first time, and I had wonderful experience. I'm someone who suffers from chronic depression, and I was simply happy, not overly ecstatic, but genuinely happy and active with my friends and family. I was even excited to get out of bed this morning.
Psilocybin saved my life. I was addicted to heroin for 15 years and after Psilocybin treatment I will be 3 years clean in September. I have zero cravings.
This is something that truly needs to be more broadly used in addiction treatment.
Psychedelic’s definitely have potential to deal with mental health symptoms like anxiety and depression, I would like to try them again again but it’s just so hard to source out of there.
Yes, bergwilly11_
I was having this constant, unbearable anxiety because of university stress. Not until I came across bergwilly11_, a very intelligent mycologist.He saved my life honestly
A lot of people have testified about this and I really want to give it a shot. I put so much on my plate and it definitely affects my stress and anxiety levels
From personal experience, working as an adult is like going to school as a child. There are just as many things there that you will enjoy just as much as you will dislike. The one major thing that really kept me going were the people I met along the way. Life long friendships and connections can be made. Shout out to all my Sam's club people out there.
I've had 2 anxiety attacks (my first as far as I can recall) in the last 24hrs, after which point my car broke down (again in the last month) after the fact. I needed to hear this again. Thank you Dr Peterson
I have found that a specific Bible verse covers this as well.
Philippians 4:8 - Finally, brethren, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is of good repute, if there is any excellence and if anything worthy of praise, dwell on these things.
This verse instructs us to remove negative thought from our lives. Be positive. It can be exhausting in the beginning but well worth your time to keep that negativity pushed out of your mind.
💗💗💗💗💗 it can be very hard to do but it’s worth every moment of effort!
Thanks for sharing!👍
It’s funny, the two before it are a couple of my favorites as well.
Thank you for this.
Such good advice
God helped me out of depression. It was a very difficult process but I didn't give up. My depression lasted 5 years. I couldn't even move. I was always crying, sleeping and eating. I was ashamed to go to the supermarket, etc.
BUT finally I began to pray and asked God for help and he helped me. I'm really grateful for everything🙏🏻♥️
Nice of you to give God the recognition for what He has done.
God also raised me from a very dark place. Like you, I was paralyzed and cried everyday. The day I was lifted up, I saw the Lord on the throne. Jesus is alive, and working for those who believe and receive.❤
@@fromthewrath2come God bless you Amen🙏🏻❤️
I wish I could say the same. I’ve been a Christian my whole life and went to a Private School for my whole childhood. I’m currently 19 and just dropped out of trade school and planning on starting community college in the following months. However, I’m so lost. My brain always feels so foggy and I have barely any sense of direction.
I’ve always tried to seek peace and happiness through God, but don’t know how. What does that statement even mean! - “seek peace through God” It sounds so vague and it seems insane to me at times that people just pray and things magically get better even though their individual circumstances haven’t changed at all. They just suddenly find some inner peace given from God? I wish I could understand.
From the first few videos I have seen, Jordan Peterson is a brilliant person. He really understands things and has a talented ability to communicate inspiration. I'm all ears for him
I watch you every now and then I start a new job tomorrow because I had 3 systems of what you coached in this video . Thank you. Watched your videos but today I listened.
I don't think this is Jordan's channel but I really needed to hear this. Thank you for sharing this with all that need it and may only have the internet as a resource for getting help in their own way. You have tilted the world a little more towards healing with just this one video. May your life be enriched by your own generosity.
The idea that every decision you make is meaningful and holds actual weight is such an amazing motivator. I think I'll clean up my dorm room now and make a schedule for tomorrow haha
The thing that really helped me out of depression was actually ending a (more or less) intimate relationship. Sometimes the root cause for depression is somewhere else then expected.
It's funny how he says to start a intimate relationship 😅.
Sometimes that would bring even more problems
@@voutespancar Yeah, I caught that too. Has Jordan even _seen_ the modern dating world?
I really likes this and it makes sense, I think depression is like feeling stuck. I try so hard and its so hard to change things
Feeling hopeless about the situation in the material world can be an impetus for beginning a rewarding spiritual journey that will uncover another more beautiful spiritual reality.
Wow.. I truly believe what JBP says on “your actions matter”. If you do something wrong you tilt the world towards evil. I am encouraged to not act out of anger and vengeance today as I don’t want to contribute to something which will tilt the world towards evil. An eye for an eye will leave whole world blind. But I also don’t want to stop myself from speaking the truth and standing up straight with my shoulders back. Thank you Jordan.❤
*every family has a person who breaks the chain of poverty. I hope you will be that person!*
Amen
Not when inflation in my country is at %200 maybe even %300 if goverment is not hiding evidence
When i was depressed about a year ago, before i got myself out of that sitaution i felt worthless , my life had no direction and i was close to edge. But something changed and i decided to do something about it and not surrender to my own damaging thought processes, got a job a schedule, had to cut ties with the toxic individuals who were dragging me down too. All i can say is if you are feeling that way , its not the end of the world and you can get yourself out of it. Regards
am at tat state homeless ad no hope death is the best way
Dear Sir Jordan,
You are so correct in your perspective on depression.
I’ve dealt with episodes of major depression all of my life.
You gave me practical advice today. Thank You 🙏
Just a question, is it trigger from thoughts? And if it is, is it thoughts of things you went through? Or thoughts of things may go through? Or thinking what you’re going through? Thanks
@@MalikDualIt’s probably thoughts about what could go wrong and how much worse things could get.
*Positive Emotion*
2:18 ... It will be a consequence of seeing that things are working as you proceed towards a goal you value
2:52 Most of your positive emotion is goal pursuit emotion
This. Purpose and working towards it reduces depression and bring happiness
I suffered from severe clinical depression 31 years ago. The scary thing about depression is that one doesn't know one's depressed until he/she is in it right over his/her head. I thought i was going crazy with the mood swings, like swinging on a pendulum back and forth from rage to guilt, then back and gorth. Thank God that I went for professional help when I did.
I'm turning 70 years soon.
this is such a hopeful story 💕 I'm glad you stayed strong. can I ask what were some things you did that helped?
I am beyond depressed, I just don't physically or mentally care anymore. Each time I discover new pain, I just add it to the list of other pain I already have.
I have reasons, I have purpose but it doesn't change the empty void I have in my heart.
You have to fill it ❤
When we are hungry (empty stomach), only food can satisfy. Same way, the spiritual void can only be filled by Spiritual Food. Jesus said "I am the bread of life". May you feed on the Bread of Life
You aren’t alone keep it going
My grandfather, a hard working Fantastic Father of 8 and a Fantastic Grandfather of about 25 Grandchildren taught us that "you don't need an employer to have a job," hence, work and produce. There is always something to do.
Good point! You may instead have structure/schedule to your day. For retired people, it is such a blessing to be present in your grandkids' lives (if you have them.) That is a wonderful 'job substitute.' So is tending a garden, woodworking, or volunteering in the community.
I had 3 severe depression episodes and now in 4th which lasts over the year. And it’s very very severe. Yes, to have structure is the key. And perhaps the faith, or God. Or something what gives you believe and strength…however honestly me struggling with this very much. I live one day at the time.
Everyone who is struggling with these demons (depression/ apathy/ anxiety I wish to get better soon.
Amen.
Sorry to hear this. How are you feeling now? X
I’m depressed because the only thing I do in life is work.
But I’m startling right now making little steps.
This was a very good video.
We all can manage to help ourselves; just focus on small goals.
What if you're too ill to work? Thats a blessing that you can work,.
It’s okay to feel overwhelmed by work. Maybe what you need is to find something else to do after work like a hobby or meet up with a friend. I to used to be sad because I felt like work was the only thing I did but then I started to change my routine after work like read a book, talked with a friend, cooked something. Even if you don’t have a lot of time dedicating at least 30 minutes to some sort of hobby could help even writing about your day.
I’m always lonely and when I look at my life I want to yell so bad I hate my life
This might work for some. I know 2 people with a history of lifelong depression. One had a successful business and lots of friends, no drug or alcohol issues and was a keen motorcyclist and gym goer. the guy was clean and going places. Hung himself in 2013. The other struggles to keep the black dog at bay but soldiers on. Fights it with everything she has. Antidepressants, exercise, positive distractions, the rare and occasional drink. Charity work. Art. Nothing really takes it away. I think these people have seen something in life that cant be unseen and there is no amount of motivational speaking that will ever undo their pain. Like viewing a sunny day through a black veil. Every day. Its commendable that Mr Peterson tried to help though.
However erudite or specialised in his field,the fact is that Peterson is mostly talking about those with reactive depression. For those with that as well as innate ,its about coping. I have bipolar,big highs followed by chronic lows where just getting out of bed is a huge effort,mentally &physically. Medication helps me stay here but if only I could find a way not to feel the way I do; for me there are no rewards for being as I am,with the exception of sometimes seeing the absolute wondrous
I agree with your sentiments &wish you well
That's a good way to put it. That's how it is too .like looking at buetiful day threw a dark foggy window. I beleive depression goes much deeper then just mental health. It's a spiritual matter. If you ain't right with Jesus your spirit is dead literally. Jesus is the only one who can give us living waters.
@@samirshukir3262 I am not making light of your situation, but anyone's life can be improved by focusing on basic things like: getting good sleep; exercising, particularly if combined with getting outside; limiting screen time/escapism; eating a healthy diet; cutting out drugs/alcohol. I know, I know: it feels nearly impossible when your legs feel like you are encased in concrete in the depths of the lows. But little steps can help. I find the "5 minute timer" trick helps a lot, where I set a timer and work on a task (cleaning out a junk drawer, putting away some laundry, pulling weeds) for just 5 mins. When that time is up, I can keep on going if I like, but even if I stop, I feel so good that I accomplished my goal. I hope your medication is helping somewhat. My sister has bipolar and has lived her life refusing meds, and has lived a life of hell -- and put her family through hell also.
I thought I was depressed so I went in and saw my doctor. She explained to me there's two kinds, one, situational depression where it's your life circumstances getting you down and two clinical depression which is a whole nother thing! I seen both types experienced. One of them and clinical depression is orders of magnitude above the other. For that clinically depressed person, any presence are really the first course of action. Getting those tuned to where you can have a regular life is a game changer! What he says about dying is really true because I know somebody who died from clinical depression as well so it's entirely possible. Also, if you're in a marriage with somebody is clinically depressed, you will become situationally depressed from them being clinically depressed and it is not a happy time.
This video has actually, hopefully, saved me. Post COVID, I lost my residency in a country I had spent a lot of time in. I watched my wife and kids get on a plane and travel there, leaving me behind. What I had looked forward to for four years was suddenly not there anymore. The feeling of abandonment has been overwhelming. Many people might say that one shouldn’t depend on someone emotionally like that; my world got very small over the last four years and all I cared about left on a plane. I just wanted to say thanks to Jordan for this. I’ll try and use your advice and steps, come out of this, and live.
You can tell that he said something meaningful because ever single comment is meaningful.
Yes we all need some type of structure in life and we all get down time to time. I always used jogging to help with depression,now as I get older I walk and go swimming. I also started working on my poetry after all these years and have 3 books 📚 published now.The pleasure 🙏 writing ✍️ gives touches my very soul and helps me unlock my inner most thoughts.But we all need to find baby steps out of our darkness ❤️. There is hope,there is light. The Belfast poet Andrew Beattie 😉.
Although there may be difficult or dark times, taking time to be grateful and reflect on things that are good can lift your spirits.
wow!! I had depression too and you inspired me
My Job was the reason i almost end it all... i was working in a short staff , high preasure job and was burning out. The first sign was trouble sleeping , i would wake up at 1 or 2 in the morning troubled about what lies ahead. And during the day i was not able to keep up with my work. Secondly my eating changed... wasnt hungry , always sick and throwing up a lot due to preasure. Then my body gave in , i was in hospital more than i would like to remeber and the doctors just couldn`t find a cure .... Untill one doctor eventally suggested i should consider seeing a psychiatrist and im currently on meds and learning to live with depression... I dont think you will ever be cured from depression , you just lurn to live with it every day...
You sound smart
Your job was killing you and you had way too much work for 1 person Sounds like they did not care about their staff
You should find a job you love
Somewhere they appreciate you and where your skills are valued
I can definitely Understand this yes. I am sorry to you but I am very happy that you're still here alive & you're telling your story, it's so good to talk about what you go through. Never bottle up any emotions or experiences or issues. Sadly, many workers get depressed, anxious, etc from their jobs & employers., it's a sad reality that many workers are overworked underpaid, exploited & burntout. Having a job is definitely not the only main "solution" to helping your mental health though, so I hope u can find nice helpful hobbies and interests for yourself soon ❤
@@jermaenjoyer yes it’s not always the job it’s self..it’s the nasty bossy people who run them..talking to workers how they like ,treading them like dirt..picking on and bullying is no different from a house wife who’s suffering at the hands of her narc husband.
There should be stronger or tighter rules in the workplace to compact this..no one has a right to make your life a misery ,just so u can make a living…I’ve been there under this problem before..and in the end I had to leave,it was just too stressful every day .
Meds and structure work for me.
You should be like the mouse running toward the cat in the Kafka parable: You should change your direction.
That last minute of his speech is pure gold
Psychotic depression since I was 13. 26 now. No life no job no friends. God help me
Stay strong im strugglin myself. X
Don’t give up; I care. People out there do care. Feel the love I’m sending you. I also am struggling. We all need each other. Hugs to you❤️❤️❤️
The circadian connection with depression is so important. So many in our society don't have a job to give them a routine, namely all the retired people. Many of these have no family either. So retired, or jobless having a routine, having order is very important. It's like you don't have time to dwell on yourself when you have other responsibilities besides yourself. Not having a job usually also means less money which means fewer choices and certainly no pampering of self. Retirees also are on meagre pensions in many cases - recall how older people were buying canned pet food to get more nutrients. The external environment does affect the mind and spirit.
But what if you truly hate working and it makes you miserable?
Well shit, I was looking forward to retirement.
Depression makes you very self absorbed. You need to understand that before you can get better.
Yes to help others you need to know thats ego relief 💖
@@jennieeklov That barely helps most days
I'm tired of my friends calling me self centered because I reached out when I felt suicidal. All they've done is convinced me never to reach out again. I've watched to video so many times with tears in my eyes and a blade to my wrist.
Hang on dear…take one step at a time…make a small goal…forget those who don’t care about u…
You are valuable to this world and absolutely NOT self centered. Hang on and pray🙏.
If friends aren't helping, you might need a therapist or counselor to talk to. Potentially a psychologist. Don't be afraid to reach out!! Sometimes its easier to talk to a stranger than a friend. ❤ your friends can't fix you, they can just support you and encourage you to get the professional help you need. If they aren't encouraging you to get help, I will!! ❤
i’m really sorry that happened your friend should’ve been supportive. Ppl can be so selfish
Speak to someone you can trust. You need to find help from a heath care professional and may need antidepressants. Focus on improvements to yourself and your room and life.
This makes a lot of sense. I want to put this advice into practice. I am in a dark depression right now.
Came here to get better then when he said if you have “3 of these problems it’s impossible to help you” thanks a lot for making my depression worse, feels amazing to know from w psychologist that 25 year severely suicidal manic depressive has no hope.
Prove him wrong!
Start by going back to school get your ged then do more school so you can get yourself some skills you can do it brother it feels really good to learn I have experience this graduated at 51. Good luck my friend thanks for your service I’m deeply grateful for people like you that put your self that take risk knowing the consequences.
That was really motivating for me as I joined uni after a break two year I really wasn't being productive 😭 did u feel weird among the young 18yos ?? Like I joined at 21
I find all these things true for me, without routine I am v down within a week, I submitted my PhD thesis and had a real downer for 2 weeks (over Christmas and new Year), so this video reinforced my own ideas about what I need to avoid depession, and what to work on if it rose up around and within me...
congrats on your PhD. I'm in my third year now and starting to have depression already. I started to read different topics about psychology before I go to bed just to help me forget the stress and anxiety of doing PhD. Well done on your achievement.
"If you are going through hell, keep going!"
(Winston Churchill)
My first depression was in 2020. Tried medication and therapy. Therapy worked partly. Never fully healed though. I'm now since a few months in a second depression. Waiting for my therapy.
My depressions aren't clinical, but I'm more vulnerable to situational depressions due to autism.
I can’t believe my brain 🧠 has been self-correcting yourself everything he talked about I have been doing naturally to get away from depression, anxiety omg I’m actually on the right past Ty so much Dr Peterson. It Took me 10ys to figure it out an a loss of a Family member to really push me over the edge to wake myself Up.
Can 100% relate to this..
My dad and best friend died in May last year, and ive been completely lost since. For the first time in my life, I feel like the things I usually find fun doing isn't fun anymore because I can't share the experience with him or tell him about it. I feel sad and lost like never before. I'm only 34 but it feels like I'm done with life.
Sorry for your loss. I hope you will find the strength to carry on. Take care.
One day or hour at a time. Only constant is change. You can come out the other side. X
No man, you are not done.. Don't give up. I am sorry for your loss. But remember your dad has to die one day and before you. Because das have the life it is. I lost my dad when I was 17 years old. And I have to look after my family too because I lot of brothers and sisters and they were younger than me. But I never give up. Now I am almost 40, and single, and now I am a bit depressed to say at least, but I have to get through this too. So you have to do the same. Be strong 💪💪
I just lost my dad too. He was my best freind as well. Believe me I know exactly how you feel. I feel like there's nothing to enjoy or look forward to anymore and the person who I shared with is gone. It's tough ain't it.
Severely depressed, looking for a job after losing one months ago due to a mental breakdown. I was medicating with alcohol and I stopped after being hospitalized, but it's only been 22 days without alcohol after years of self medicating. I only got out of bed today to feed my animals. Finally made some coffee and I'm going to try to go out, but I have no desire or will to do anything.
Hang in there! Don't give up! 🙏💚
Depression needs a lot of energy to maintain within you. It might want you to save all your energy for it self. Like no appetite, feel like staying in the bed whole day, not doing any activities. Just try doing the opposite what it wants you to do. Don't let it have its way. When your depression say don't eat have a nice meal, when it says just stay in bed get out of the bed and keep your self active.
Every day is a new opportunity to work on healing. Keep going, and know you’re doing your best. 💪💙
''If youre suffering you are obligated to hold on to whatever rope someone throws you''
After being on many different antidepressants over the years I am considering psilocybin therapy. I tried to get into a research study but they had so many volunteers I didn’t get in. Back to your advice, I lack most of what you have recommended. I’m retired, have no close friends and my house is very chaotic. I try to exercise, practice my faith, do meditation, tapping but I’m still in the hole.
No children I assume?
I relate to you! I’ve been on many antidepressants and I do not really see any change. I’ve been to therapy for years. I have a very loving husband. I’m retired and we are very comfortable. But I still feel this extreme darkness. I am not sure about the mushrooms, I feel scared they could really make things worse. Anyway I just relate to your story
I'm out of work and depressed. I understand everything what JP says but it's so difficult to get out of the vicious circle...
Don't be afraid to ask for help. You are NOT alone. Have you ever listened to Gary Gullman's comedy album "The Great Depresh"? Check it out.
🙏 for you. Don't give up.
@@kevinshay5810 ❤️
@@kasiakot3284 you're welcome ❤️
Watching videos like this is a good start. Even if that's all you can do right now. When you're listening to and reflecting on things and then doing it again and again, there is rewiring going on-you're learning, i.e., changing. Watch Dr. K (from HealthyGamerGG) video "I Watch Your Videos But Never Change My Life," he does a good explanation about it. Obviously, if you can manage to force yourself to exercise, get on a regular sleep schedule, and all of that, it's more effective, but I know I've been in spots where that was impossible; I was incapable of anything along those lines. If all you can manage is to watch some positive videos that resonate with what you WANT to be, start there.
I have treated hundreds of cases of depression and that which works is to stop eating something. Wheat isn't tolerated we'll by ninety percent of the people, bread, at least what its become is a massive concern, and cutting this out helps. If that doesn't get you out of depression right away what happens next will. Exercise, not walking, running, weight exercise. Do these two for us and you will be well.
That is 100% true for me. Bread brings me down immediately. Sugar had to go too.
This is one of the most inspirational videos I have ever seen about overcoming depression. Thank you for sharing it.
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This man is incredible! Such talent & passion.
Stone cold, informed logic-as usual from Professor Peterson.
Sad that even the truth will end up with people takeing there own lives we all go someday theres a thousand diff ways to die this is just one of them
Ok. I left my job coz of the covid the company has shut down then I was at home doing nothing for a year. Then I found a job in the supermarket but one day when I was just sitting at home had this very very bad feeling. A stress hit me from no where then I've started sweating, then got anxious then had a the anxiety kicked in then got into a depression then I've fainted when I woke up I new I was unconscious for like 2 hours. I whent to hospital and all my results come out positive and the doctors told there was nothing wrong with me. They said go home and have a good sleep for at least 8 hours then I will be ok. I've done what they told me but when I woke up I was worser. I was still sweating stressed heart beat depressed I didn't know what the hell was going on with me. It was like this person is not who I was. I didn't have no feelings didn't want to do nothing at all. I didn't even wanted yo come out of my house and this whent on for a year. Then I had the bad thoughts came into my mind. I was thinking to commit suicide coz I was not enjoying anything that I use to love doin. No excitement no hobbies didn't want to see anyone. I didn't even wanted to come out of my bed. And one day I've said go out and just kill yourself. At that moment the devil and demons took over my mind I was looking at everything like it was the last time I was lookin at them. I was going for suicide. When I stepped outside my house I saw one of my cousin and she looked at me and said what's wrong with you your looking like a man that's like someone took your soul out of your body. And I've told her what I've been going through. Then thanks God she new what it was coz she has been trough the same situation is well just hold my hand and said wait with me then she made a phone calls to the professionals, doctors and the help line. She said look your going through a anxiety depression and your having a panic attacks. And your deep into depression. We waited for like an hour then a 2 doctors with a cycaytrist came over. They talked to me and they give me a antidepressants and I was on meds for like a year and a half. Now I feel better some times I still get attacks but I am much more stronger then I was to handle this. Always thinking positive and never thinking about the negativity things in the life. All I want to say is anyone and everyone can get into this situation it does not matter if your have a good job and your working. It doesn't matter if your a social guy that have houndreds of friends. It doesn't matter if you're rich or poor, if your married or single any one can get into this situation. You need to get help from the right people otherwise you won't be able to make it.
God bless you.
I experienced something similar one weekend , don't know what triggered it, felt as though l was imprisoned in my own head. I have never felt so alone. Nothing in my life had changed except l had a job l did n't care for very much. Had great parents, good friends. Weird beyond words , then about a fortnight later it just lifted but l never forget how l felt, never, and this happened over 30 years ago.
It actually sounds like an attack of black magic to be honest. Very few people know about this kind of craft and how much it messes peoples lives up in a spiritual way. Maybe someone who want to revenge, are jealous, whatever a twisted mind can come up with to justify ruining a persons life, can be the cause. Demons and darkness doesn´t come into your life without any kind of invitation. Most people doesn´t believe or understand these kind of things, but they do believe in their mental anguish as it is very real to them even though no-one else sees it. There are powerful ways to deal with this though, and must be dealt with, as it won´t leave unattended. These things can´t be medicated away, unless you take pills so strong it annuls you. Wich is a reality for alot of people to date. I speak of experince in both fields, the medical and spiritual, and know what a talk about. I hope everyone with these kind of problems find a solution, as it is devastating to be stricken with these kind of event.
I wish more people realized that RETIREMENT can be devastating. That's essentially, hello, UNEMPLOYMENT. It absolutely ruined my life. Now I have no job, no purpose, no reason to get up in the morning, no friends, no family, nowhere to go, nothing to do, nothing to aspire to or work toward. In short, I'm that three-strike person he says can't be helped. Retirement is not what it's cracked up to be, and society should address this instead of propagating the myth that it's absolutely amazing. What's "amazing" about sitting around doing nothing or just frantically running around trying to keep busy with meaningless hobbies or tasks? Once you retire, you're out of the mainstream of life and just waiting to die.
A part time easy job may help. I was also thinking about volunteering which would add more meaning to my life. Environmental to help save the planet? or volunteer in a hospital, soup kitchen, or community pantry, or even wild animal rehabilitation centers.
One way to have purpose, make friends is volunteer
OMG Skeptigal! Are you serious? If you're interested, I might be able to help you. We could do it over e-mail. Let me know if you're interested. It's worth a try. YOU are worth it.
If you can afford it, try a motorcycle
I totally agree it’s taken me two years of depression to come to terms with retirement … everyone suggests oh get a part time job … no one wants an old person to work for them … volunteer uhg I have no desire to clean up other peoples messes hate animals and am ocd so helping homeless who smell or kids who equally make mess and germs are not an option for a 30 year professional … then those who make suggestions walk away and think you’re too hard too fussy … I was a fully functioning professional making a difference in people’s lives … so that leaves ????
Jordan Peterson im straight but i love this guy!!! im one of the millions that do im sure he really is life changing
Hard daily drunk for just shy of a decade. Peterson might not be a winner on every topic but his core beliefs and advice and perspectives got me sober. 2 years and going strong. My whole life is in so much more of an order, got a dog who is extremely loved and healthy, a home, a productive hobby and my health is great going into my mid 30s.
Thanks Mr Peterson
Alcohol was a big one for me too. Years of heavy drinking. Only 22 days sober, but I'm trying to dig myself out of the hole I dug.
This is so true, I’m the happy living proof of it, had to find this out completely on my own, and it took me years but knowing myself, I really had to take that road, it most probably would not have worked if someone told me back then.
Kind of scary that Dr. Peterson mentioned every single example I’ve had to battle through, but very proud to be able to have come so far! Great mind, Dr. Peterson and always a joy to listen to.
Exercise. Eat well. Have a structered day.
Sleep with regular times. Avoid toxic people, including the super positive ones.
Sleep with regular times 😹 Some of us have to stay up all hours of the night for work.
that might work if youre mildly depressed but not for severe depression i assure you
OMG I am SO happy someone finally called out the toxicity of super positive people. I think those people don't understand what life really is, are being fake, or both.
What do you do if your significant other is the toxic person.
Exercise as a depressed person, sure. Why not just say "stop being depressed" 😂
Personally and I didn’t realize it at the time was that sunshine and nature and then digs then diet and exercise - pulling back from human beings helped me and then adding a religion or spirituality - in my case Buddhism and openness to all forms of spirituality
Personally and I didn’t realize it at the time was that sunshine and nature and then digs then diet and exercise - pulling back from human beings helped me and then adding a religion or spirituality - in my case Buddhism and openness to all forms of spirituality
trying to do all those things and failing at them has brought me to this place of deep depression. really only one way out for me at this point. Just need to figure out the path I need to take to get out of here.
I'm too overwhelmed with losses, that caused severe depression. I don't want to exist anymore.. depression is so inhumane
Got cancer at 36 and spent the next 10 years fighting it. Lost my wife, business and home because of it. 47 now and I beat cancer but im more depressed than I've ever been.
Keep going my friend , you beat cancer . Many people we lost to Cancer can't say that. You got bigger things ahead. Day by Day
@NyMarcell yeah. Should be one of the best moments of my life but sometimes I wish it would just have gotten me in the beginning. I know I shouldn't take life for granted but it took everything I ever loved.
@ I understand my friend. Hopefully everything you loved comes back around in the future. I'm fighting my own battles every day. Know you have my support young warrior 💪✌️
@NyMarcell stay ready so you don't have to get ready
@@davegordon6943 👍✌️💪
This is the best advice I have ever heard!
This was a fantastic video. The imagery, the music and of course Jordan's wisdom made for an excellent experience.
That's absolutely true! The ONLY source of happiness is the belief that you are moving towards what you desire. And the ONLY reason you ever feel bad is because you don't feel you are moving towards your desires. It doesn't matter how fast you let your dreans manifest, only that you are pointed and moving in the direction of them. (You can tell whether you are in opposition to moving towards your dreams by how bad you feel...and on the flip side you can tell how much you are beliving in and moving in the direction of what you want by how good it feels :) )
we are so tuned in with the way we organize ourselves, especially when we are doing it for years. when something changes it can throw you completely off. I realized this, when my Todo App stopped working the way I wanted to. the automatisms in our brain help us to make our lives easier and relearning takes a lot of time.
Never ever watching qnything related to this respectful author who once had my full compassion .
In my personal opinion....I would never start dating while depressed. Simply because if you date the wrong person, it can absolutely worsen ur depression
To take it further, I don’t think you should even have sex will depressed if you are single b/c you are likelier to have risky sex , especially if you’re already on a antidepressant that decreases sensation.