@@dorothymcguire2105He is the textbook definition of self pity and complete emotional immaturity. If you do not see that you are probably equally as emotionally and intellectually unintelligent.
@ I would consider texting your teenage daughter emotionally manipulative messages and continuing to smoke pot despite being aware it is in violation of your court order then proceeding to complain about the court upholding the very order you agreed to to be the textbook definition of self pity
The fact that the grandma got JEAlOUS at a baby shower because the other grandma went for a quick cuddle tells me these women are petty and ridiculous. They are hurting the kids the whole lot of them
The fact that she said she was jealous says a lot.. l believe she's the one that flipped out in her jealousy.. she's done nothing but make accusations against Brad and his mother.. with no proof of anything she says. Getting jealous of a grama holding her grandchild is ridiculous.. Brad's mother is obviously upset about everything that's happened while the mother in law looks smug and very immature, slinging her accusations.
Be careful with whom you have kids with. Men or women. It’s a life long responsibility. It’s not a kitten or puppy. It’s a child that needs so much more. The sad thing about these stories is there is always a child/children caught in the crossfire and they get hurt the most.
Wise words repeated often to my granddaughters….” Choose the father of your children very carefully” and “that man comes from a family, look closely at them too, if you don’t like them, walk away”
Are ye serious? She's full blown fed up of this fool. I will tell ye now if I were her I wouldn't even be on Dr Phil I'd have those kids a thousand miles away from that mess of a man until he went away and got his act together. No excuse
Why is she constantly smiling? She's DEF going after this guy. She's going to regret keeping those kids from him. Make no mistake, he's making mistakes too
Using marijuana isn't the problem. He uses it around his children AND while operating a motor vehicle, which is a DUI. He shouldn't be using smoking anything around his kids
I think they all love the kids but divorce brings out the ugly in people....as a grandma I will say I'm always thinking about me and my grand kids and not the others....I give lots of love where they throw money so there can be some hurt feelings at time but I bite my tongue because at the end of the day the kids are blessed with both worlds.
Based on this everyone is guilty of something and neither one should parent those kids. The father has serious issues and the mother has issues. Until they both resolve them the kids will continue to suffer.
As Doctor Phil said in an episode like this “I don’t know how these two found each other, but it was a dark day”. These two people do not deserve to have the children. The grandmothers should be ashamed of themselves. And dude, get rid of the girlfriend. She is clueless.
I agree. I went out with a dopehead for seven years. He still is one twenty years later. He used to tell me that 'maybe a kid will sort him out'. I strengthened the birth control. Worst excuse for having a child. I always paid for him. I was an even more of an idiot then he was by accommodating for him. He never had his wallet when it came to dates, always had money when it came to meeting his needs. It took me years to forgive myself for being so blind and stupid.
Ats what happens when ppl are raised to be narcissistic, for generations now, schools encourage competition instead of being helpful to others more often then not. Is a shame....just shows we are in the last days.
Living with an addict is horrible. My ex stole $500 from my son’s piggy bank, pawned whatever he could get his hands on including my engagement ring. If she was angry, she had every right. It never gets better. I took my 5 year old and left…it was the best thing I ever did for my son since he grew up in a calm, substance free home. My ex is still using and lives in a shed in his sister’s yard…he doesn’t know his son, nor has he made an effort to do so. I never bad mouthed my ex, but when my son became an adult, I answered the questions he had.
That dad's texts are just pure lunacy - he's a very very dangerous man. I pity his daughters. Insulting and making sarcastic remarks to a 14 year old???!!!
Dr. Fill can be a dummy sometimes. He "acts" like he knows everything, but he really just knows some things, and he's very opinionated on some subjects he isn't as all knowing as he believes, but still entertaining, don't forget this, like Jerry Springer and all the other exploitive daytime talk shows is an entertainment show made to entertain and sell products. If Fill was really intending to help people, it wouldn't need to be public.
@@HeatherArriagaif he was doing "drugs" of course. Being that it's only weed and no erratic behavior I don't see a problem. I've worked in construction 35+ years, have hundreds of coworkers over the years that raised productive children while smoking weed at appropriate time and place with no issues.
He’s so sorry for himself. Putting his nonsense on his children. His children need a knight in shining armour their father coming on a white horse to stand up for them be responsible. Someone they can feel loved from.🇬🇧
Not justifying his bull. His behavior was abominable.... but do you really prefer the one doing vindictive backstabbing behavior and still not TAKING ANY ACCOUNTABILITY AND INSTEAD POINTING THE FINGER????? Just asking... seems to me their is enough blame to go around. These poor kids are the victims not the vindictive Mom trying to sabotage her ex's life.. and mr. "SHE STARTED IT!!!!" Has no excuse either. Shame on his dumb azz for speaking to his children that way. Kudos for taking a shred of accountability... but that's about it. Hope the help helped 4 him
well, it’s quite easy for a crowd to laugh at other people's problems as if they don’t have some of their own. it’s only entertainment for them and while they may find it hilarious I’m glad they have no issues of their own that they don’t have to share
Don't be so childish. It's actually useful feedback to those involved, that their petty arguments are ridiculous. Each side feels entitled, when they are as bad as each other. The audience provides some useful feedback, if they choose to see it, and use it.
@@diane4488 I’m going to say it again it is not useful feedback to see others Laugh at other people's situations. I understand the context of the video, but that’s not what I was talking about. Your point is not relevant to the point I made earlier from which you’re posting a comment. Have a nice day.
@@AntonShields I shall say it again. Dr Phil takes these cases very seriously, and does a lot of good, often with the participants, and also with the audience, at home. I've learned so much from watching his shows, as have millions of others. Sometimes when you are in a situation you cannot see that it's ridiculous, or irrelevant, and lose sight of the priorities. You cannot see the wood, for the trees. It should be useful to realise that you've got caught up in the drama, and forgotten for your values. You are making it out to be something that it is not. It's not Gerry Springer.
That guy is full of it. Go get prescription anxiety medication, but he won’t do that because it matters more to him to be high than to have his kids. Also, pay your child support those are your kids and your responsibility too!
Oh he smokes pot. There’s the problem right there. This show is a good advertisement for staying single. I was married and divorced twice, #1 abandoning his two little babies and #2 became physically abusive to me and my kids. Then I worked for lawyers doing family court work for ten out of my 23 year career. That ten years in family court was a total burnout job. I wouldn’t get married again if someone put a gun to my head.
I don't trust anyone who describes someone as "She's always following the path of the devil". This was said by Kimberly's mother while talking about Brad's mother. This whole family is screwed up and unless Dr Phil has a magic wand none of them are going to change.
@@xxxx-qo9dh I do know the dangers. I studied the subject of my degree. Marijuana is an addictive substance. Lots of people use it casually, without major issues, but for many it is damaging.
15 minutes and he's been getting reamed and deservedly so but she keeps smirking like she's enjoying ever minute of it. I'm guessing she's guilty of parental alienation and neither are suitable parents. God help those kids
You are right sort of...yes it is Parental Alienation by the mother. The Father has Reactive Abuse, I totally relate...when you have your back against the wall dealing with the PA anything will and does get used against you. He is a Targeted Parent, who has no idea what just happened to his family. He is not perfect and made stupid mistakes..but She is the Narc.
Wow! Both families are toxic and trashy. Not a decent person amongst them. Moral: If your own family is trashy, try and get involved with a partner who is from a better family - or you'll be living a dreadful life, like these.
It’s definitely safe to say that the children’s ENTIRE CIRCLE of family all have some major issues they gotta work out, it’s a circle of straight toxicity. I pray it has gotten better for everyone but importantly the kids.
Im on Brads side.. I get bad vibes from Kimberly... When you know you know.. I think Brad suffers from depression yes but she does nothing for him except constantly bash and demean him... Shes 100% part of his problems...👍🏻
Using kids as pawns between each other is pure stupidity. Do not involve the kids in your arguments with each other. Kids are very bright and can make their own judgements about what is going on.
@@summerdandorf8706 both parents are! They both are fighting in front of the kids and using them as pawns. No parent has the right to do that or call the other parent names in front of them.
The mother is definitely a problem but the minute someone threatens to hit my child or bites my child, no matter how lightly, is the minute I go into beast mode.
I am 11 minutes in and I love how the mom hasn’t said a single word because Dr. Phil is covering it pretty well 😂 anyway, I don’t believe he’s only using weed. Classic signs of addiction to something other than weed.
But then she started talking and it got worse. She is a manipulative person and very controlling. She admitted to making lists and audio tapes of this guy's faults. Very weird.
Trying to figure out why the mom was crying at the end. I think part of her still loves him and is grateful he might get clean, and if she doesn’t love him, she’s glad for their children’s sake. Those were tears of relief and hope. But she needs therapy, too. So do the kids. Her mother is a huge problem. Imagine saying his mom was demonic. She’s a smug bully. His might be a problem, too, but I didn’t see it nearly as much. The jealous reaction over the baby was insane. Drugs do terrible things to people, and his children have seen it, but I’d be surprised if after all this squabbling, one of them doesn’t start using, too.
Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger by the way you treat them. Rather, bring them up with the discipline and instruction that comes from the Lord.
I hope Dr Phil is right about one parent trying to score points with their children and badmouthing the other parent will backfire. Parental alienation is extremely painful. It’s like a glowing ember on your heart, when the wind blows the ember burns harder
She gets upset and yells .... that's what she thinks is her only ownership in this? She is so self centered and truly believes that she does nothing wrong. I wouldn't be surprised if she HAS poisoned their kids against him. He's got responsibility in all of this, yes. He at least admits it. SHE is the problem.
Hey Lady it takes Evil to know Evil! Stop using your kids as a pawn! Have been in that situation & your only damaging your relationship with your children!
HEY SCOTT, this does not make him appear to be a better person. This does not work in parenthood. Be the better parent. Be a healthy influence on your children. This is all that matters.
Why are you focusing on the fact that he is smoking pot. Everyone has a bad habit. It was clearly stated that he took care of the kids, cleaned the house, took them to school and prepared meals for his wife when she came back from work… she comes home and starts nagging… she is also part of this… all he needs is help from addiction which he is about to get…
@@henry-h9g6d if stop smoking dope is what is needed to start seeing his kids again, then i hope he does that. They will grow up, become adults and then he can do whatever he wants. Now he is making it worse for himself and playing in her hand, making her look good.
This guy is more of a child than his daughters. He has chosen between pot and his kids, he chose pot. He chose between his pot smoking girl friend and his kids. He is making these choices not to be a parent, not his ex-wife. He doesn't have friends because he can't keep them. Since his choice in life is drugs, he can pretend they are his family. I have smoked pot, never as a way to relieve anxiety. Pot is a fun time, that is all it is. If you can't live life without it you have no real life., I know many people who in their adulthood who smoke pot, go to work, drive their cars and then go home and veg. At some point this becomes all they want and are happy with. Now after it has become legal in many states they are coming out with the truth about it, which is it can cause paranoia and mental illness in some people. Do you really want to take that chance. If I know someone is high I don't even want to know them or be around them, that is my choice.
It's discomfort with these 4 absurd people making absurd claims and accusations. People often laugh in discomfort. It's not disrespect . It the olden times they'd throw rotten fruit and vegetables and the stupidity. Remember also these 4 put their soap opera on stage.
@@joywebster2678 I mean but they’re adults. Keep it together! These people are exposing their most intimate things to Dr Phil and the world to get help! Not to be ridiculed! For them it’s not ridiculous!
Dear Brad. If you don't want your kids to hate you, then don't give them reason to. Those text messages are indicative of his demeanor around them. I hope he got help. And that it helped.
She is devious and calculating. She knows how to create a trap for him to fall into and I can't work out which is worse, a drug addict or a devious, scornful woman
I was young and clueless like this woman. 2 weeks after I turned 18 I married a man 10 years older than myself who hid his addiction from me. It took me 3 years to figure it out. I tried to leave 3 times by that time it had been more than 10 years and we had 4 kids. I got full custody. My ex died from cocaine use before the youngest was grown. This man does remind me of my ex.
If you are dating a single parent, I can give some useful advice. Stop acting like you have any type of parental role. If you have gotten to the point where you are expected to watch the kids, follow these simple rules: If the child is misbehaving, call the parent on the phone to deal with it in which ever way they see fit, if any. If parent is not available you simply delay the disciplinary action to when they get home. I've left my kids with a neighbour or an uncle to watch them, it is the same thing. You are a responsible adult to make sure they don't die, that's about it. You are not a parent, you don't raise them and you don't get a say, stop pretending you do and you will be so much happier. The shift towards having a more significant role in kids life is a very slow and contingent matter, which may or may not materialise, regardless of relationship status or even marriage. We are the Free Kids from Clueless Step-parents movement and these are our demands!!
This is so black and white. Being a stepmom is a complicated relationship. I left all the disciplining to my husband. His ex wife didn't have custody and she was an evil, angry woman always causing problems. Tried to manipulate her son to hate his father and me. Bottom line, it's about raising a healthy child.
"You are not a parent, you don't raise them and you don't get a say" WOW how entitled, the step-parent doesn't get a say about your child's bad behaviour when you expect them to babysit your kids. My kids and only I get a say *UNTIL* you want the step-parent to contribute to paying for YOUR brat kids. Single mothers at their finest, not looking for love looking for an ATM to fund her mistakes 🤬
@@Kelly-oe8krI couldn't agree more. Step-fathers are basically told to shut up, take the abuse, and thank the mother for allowing him to pay for it all.
@@Kelly-oe8kr let's see, I'm a happily married step mum for 20 years. My step daughter, based on our relationship, was the one who gradually let me into her life, and she is now an adult whom I adore and brings me joy with my step grandbaby. That's why I was sharing advice to other step parents. But hey, we all got your message: you really hate single mums and money determines your life decisions. Got it.
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Some people will say both sides are doing wrongdoing, and some will say I can’t believe they’re doing this to the children, however, what will hardly be said is how emotional abuse which is most often undocumented and often not believed or not credible unless it’s a woman have made men understand how valueless they are. So he’s just a drug-using husband who doesn’t love his kids because he does drugs. She’s never done anything to him emotionally or physically, and if only he got help, the situation would be completely different and everything will be a bunch of roses and petals I guess that’s the point of the video.
I’m sorry Dr Phil, but some women do not deserve respect. Respect is earned, not just because of gender. Men and women should not disrespect each other. I had a very abusive daughter in law, my son was terrified of her and after 23 years he became so ill he had to be hospitalised and she wouldn’t pay for it from his money, she didn’t work, she asked us to pay. While he was in hospital she divorced him. 8 years later he is back to the happy person he was before they met. He’s 55 !
Some ppl actually enjoy being in toxic marriages. They thrive on the drama and there's a lot of passion but it mainly comes out destructive. I'm so much happier since I'm no longer in a passionate yet drama filled marriage. I didn't thrive on it. This episode just reminded me of some ugly days. However my older brother is still in this type marriage. I can't believe they've stuck it through for decades. His wife has been threatening to poison him off and on 4ever. He laughs, but she means it. I wouldn't be surprised when she finally does. She's a shrew but he puts up with it, so I don't pity him.
I am no expert, but if I had to diagnose him, I'd definitely say he is either Bipolar, narcissistic, and possibly Bordeline Personality, or a combination of all 3. So so sad to see how a father could say those insane things and then try to justify it.
These things you speak of are all causes of demons. He has let his temple be overrun with demons and that is what you are when you do unfortunately ppl just don't see it. 😢💔
$800 is plenty. If $800 is his contribution, and $800 is hers, that's $1600 a month for three kids. That's is more than enough to support the children, she has to pay rent and utilities anyway.
It’s not supposed to be used for the bills. It’s supposed to be for the things like shoes and clothing. But the same time the other parent should Not be living above their means. If they can’t live that way without the extra money from child support they should reevaluate their budget and make better choices. 34:43
@@Spooky_pookie that's not true at all, and is something that stupid men don't seem to understand. They think that because they send child support, the kid is supposed to have new clothes and shoes all of the time.
He is a total text book narcissist. It’s all because she has drawn boundaries and will not accept his bad behavior. He blames everything. He is a narc. He thinks it’s just drugs.
See, this is why it's good to listen to both sides. These women who get the dedicated husbands drive them crazy by yelling, nagging, till she nagged him into addiction then turn around and blame him for what he becomes. Cruel. Then use the children against him, calling CPS , Horrible.
I'm also someone who grew up without any alcohol in my life because my parents rarely drank (the occasional glass at christmas) and so I also completely missed the fact my partner was an alcoholic because at first he was really good at hiding it. It *IS* a thing regardless of how Dr phil scoffs at her. I'd also say that he needs tp be kept well away from those kids. Who does the girlfriend think she is, threaning to beat the kids with a spatula?! Kids should never go there again. Supervised visutation only, permanently, full stop. And his mother - marches in the house, grabs the kid out of bed and goes downstairs to show them off....who the heck does SHE think she is?
Same here. Grew up with alcohol being rarely present in the house. Married a man who 'enjoyed a drink' so I had no frame of reference as far as excessive drinking and its effect had. Turned out he was an alcoholic. Died at age 34. Put all my efforts into raising healthy and secure children and never even considered marrying again.
@@trulovegirl he comes away from this looking like the victim. He’s had his children taken from him by a vindictive woman whose only goal is to hurt him. Yea we are on his side for sure
Riddle me this, if he is physically abusing you throwing it through walls and is such a bad man why didn't you have him arrested right then and there for abusing you? I'll wait
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He wallows in self pity and she is self righteous the most obnoxious combination. Poor kids.
I see him telling it like it is. No self pity at all.
@@dorothymcguire2105He is the textbook definition of self pity and complete emotional immaturity. If you do not see that you are probably equally as emotionally and intellectually unintelligent.
@ I would consider texting your teenage daughter emotionally manipulative messages and continuing to smoke pot despite being aware it is in violation of your court order then proceeding to complain about the court upholding the very order you agreed to to be the textbook definition of self pity
This is proof every kid deserves parents. Not every parent deserves kids.
A mother or father can apologize all they want,but to a child that pain, horror and disbelief of that parent failing them stays forever.
The fact that the grandma got JEAlOUS at a baby shower because the other grandma went for a quick cuddle tells me these women are petty and ridiculous. They are hurting the kids the whole lot of them
Right! I hate that she said it OUT LOUD.. and it wasn't addressed. But they are all in the wrong so I guess... Bigger picture. But still.
Totally agree with 100%
Agree!
The fact that she said she was jealous says a lot.. l believe she's the one that flipped out in her jealousy.. she's done nothing but make accusations against Brad and his mother.. with no proof of anything she says. Getting jealous of a grama holding her grandchild is ridiculous.. Brad's mother is obviously upset about everything that's happened while the mother in law looks smug and very immature, slinging her accusations.
And they are so self righteous
Be careful with whom you have kids with. Men or women. It’s a life long responsibility. It’s not a kitten or puppy. It’s a child that needs so much more. The sad thing about these stories is there is always a child/children caught in the crossfire and they get hurt the most.
I wish someone told me this years ago 😂
Kittens and puppies deserve the same respect.
Wise words repeated often to my granddaughters….” Choose the father of your children very carefully” and “that man comes from a family, look closely at them too, if you don’t like them, walk away”
Women when they are in charge with no man to stop them equal chaos
@@michaeljcarneyjr.6187 🤪🤪🤪
I don't think the wife is any better than him.
I can't respect any of those people. They are all unsuited for raising children.
This!!!
I concur
This is why I'm Pro-choice! 🤦♀️
@@inkybiss Yeah, baby murder is definitely preferable to acting like a mature adult, amirite?
@@Unncle_RuckusNot everyone is responsible and mature.
Most people shouldn't even have children.
This ladies smile is mocking him she isn't innocent...
Smug
She’s no angel
I think she is mostly at fault
@krymyldamacdonald4191 totally agree.
Are ye serious? She's full blown fed up of this fool. I will tell ye now if I were her I wouldn't even be on Dr Phil I'd have those kids a thousand miles away from that mess of a man until he went away and got his act together. No excuse
His messages to his child were abhorrent. He is an abuser with words, with bats, with weed, and with his hands.
Yeah, he states he's never been abusive yet right in that text he threatened to slap the taste out of his daughter's mouth
And that’s just what he told people about.
And she's so much better!
@@holliewilson4240 Who hasn't said something stupid to their kid?
What is wrong with her hes a addic grow up thats wathtthey do
Why is she constantly smiling? She's DEF going after this guy. She's going to regret keeping those kids from him. Make no mistake, he's making mistakes too
I noticed too but it could be the opposite of RBF. I’ve seen it before. Still unfortunate for her though.
Smoking drugs in the car with your kids is evil and irresponsible.
One of my aunts got into drugs and she lost custody of my 2 cousins
Weed isn't a drug. You have to do stuff chemically, to drugs. weed just grows like that
@@mylesgaines8743not anymore now that the gvmt is our dealer. Any toker knows that unless you live under a rock.
@@mylesgaines8743 💯
It’s weed, not drugs!
The love for the child must always be more than the disdain for the ex
My thoughts exactly 💯
So, so well said!!!
Single is looking better every day
Oh it is, trust me, I am single since 22 years and living my best life. Been married twice, no thank you, no more.
@@xxxx-qo9dhYou either picked wrong or know you have an opt out so don't commit or don't want children and responsibility or your Peter pan.
Couldn't Agree More!!!! 😊
@@xxxx-qo9dh10 years for me 😊 Never been happier.
There are good men out there. I married one! Keep looking and don't give up hope
Using marijuana isn't the problem. He uses it around his children AND while operating a motor vehicle, which is a DUI. He shouldn't be using smoking anything around his kids
The behavior of both these grandmothers. Omg! This is crazy. Those poor children
I think they all love the kids but divorce brings out the ugly in people....as a grandma I will say I'm always thinking about me and my grand kids and not the others....I give lots of love where they throw money so there can be some hurt feelings at time but I bite my tongue because at the end of the day the kids are blessed with both worlds.
Based on this everyone is guilty of something and neither one should parent those kids. The father has serious issues and the mother has issues. Until they both resolve them the kids will continue to suffer.
I always love when men babysit their own kids.......ugh....
Yeah,,LOLOLOLOL
Phyllis I so agree it makes me seethe
Right?!
I always love when weomen think they know what's best for the family...😂
@@WoodysOpinion101 Most do. You don't birth them.
"I've never physically hurt you!" after he just admits that he pushed her into a wall
Exactly
Ikr? He admitted he hit her.
She probably spouted off at the mouth
He admitted he pushed her back!
Look at her nasty smirk,she looks crazy AF
As Doctor Phil said in an episode like this “I don’t know how these two found each other, but it was a dark day”.
These two people do not deserve to have the children. The grandmothers should be ashamed of themselves.
And dude, get rid of the girlfriend. She is clueless.
Dads a dope but mom is very vindictive. She's trying to control him.
I agree. I went out with a dopehead for seven years. He still is one twenty years later. He used to tell me that 'maybe a kid will sort him out'. I strengthened the birth control. Worst excuse for having a child. I always paid for him. I was an even more of an idiot then he was by accommodating for him. He never had his wallet when it came to dates, always had money when it came to meeting his needs. It took me years to forgive myself for being so blind and stupid.
No way she is that clueless
These people are all so immature and dysfunctional. I feel so sorry for the kids- even their grannies are fighting!!
Ats what happens when ppl are raised to be narcissistic, for generations now, schools encourage competition instead of being helpful to others more often then not. Is a shame....just shows we are in the last days.
Living with an addict is horrible. My ex stole $500 from my son’s piggy bank, pawned whatever he could get his hands on including my engagement ring. If she was angry, she had every right. It never gets better. I took my 5 year old and left…it was the best thing I ever did for my son since he grew up in a calm, substance free home. My ex is still using and lives in a shed in his sister’s yard…he doesn’t know his son, nor has he made an effort to do so. I never bad mouthed my ex, but when my son became an adult, I answered the questions he had.
Poor children
Biting a child? What is she 2 years old?
@@ShivaLadiva-sb9nwAnd she thinks that is justifiable.
I agree and good on you
@@ShivaLadiva-sb9nwthat was the dads girlfriend.
That dad's texts are just pure lunacy - he's a very very dangerous man. I pity his daughters. Insulting and making sarcastic remarks to a 14 year old???!!!
Who's dictating what his daughter's saying to him? Definitely not a14 year old's words.
@@dorothymcguire2105oh I agree. Sounded like it was coming from Mom. Mom seemed stone cold B.
I'm not the biggest Dr. Phil fan but when it comes to kids in crisis this man does NOT screw around and I respect that.
Her mother is just as vindictive as her daughter.
Wife's mother admitted she got jealous of the other grandma! Says it all. They think they own the kids. Dr Phil is losing his perception
I agree. I think she is a huge problem.
@debradocekal-lusk5802 exactly. They have the attitude that they own the children. Children are entitled to 2 parents of equal rights
Dr. Fill can be a dummy sometimes. He "acts" like he knows everything, but he really just knows some things, and he's very opinionated on some subjects he isn't as all knowing as he believes, but still entertaining, don't forget this, like Jerry Springer and all the other exploitive daytime talk shows is an entertainment show made to entertain and sell products. If Fill was really intending to help people, it wouldn't need to be public.
@@jhoskins5630You’re so right. It’s all exploitative entertainment.
Normally, I wont comment on strangers, but my goodness Kimberly's entire lineage is so obnoxious
For a guy who misses kids, he sure shits on them a lot
This guy acts like a spoiled high schooler.
He behaves like a childish, spoilt brat, and the mother seems supportive of that.
The other side seem no better.
That’s why you say no to drugs
Oh come on...like she's any better?
@@HeatherArriagaif he was doing "drugs" of course. Being that it's only weed and no erratic behavior I don't see a problem. I've worked in construction 35+ years, have hundreds of coworkers over the years that raised productive children while smoking weed at appropriate time and place with no issues.
@@chrisrailson24 The ex is raising the kids alone. He is a complete deadbeat jerk.
Yeah! My stepson wasn't an alcoholic. He just had to have a pint of whiskey for anxiety
Self-medicating 🎯
The father has absolutely no accountability, it's everyone else's fault for his life, and quick to blame the mom and his children.
I think everyone but his mother is the problem and has accountability issues.
The lazy woman absolut non too
Oh please, the mother is just as bad!
@@WendyP1965 the father is abusive to the children
He’s so sorry for himself. Putting his nonsense on his children. His children need a knight in shining armour their father coming on a white horse to stand up for them be responsible. Someone they can feel loved from.🇬🇧
Not justifying his bull. His behavior was abominable.... but do you really prefer the one doing vindictive backstabbing behavior and still not TAKING ANY ACCOUNTABILITY AND INSTEAD POINTING THE FINGER????? Just asking... seems to me their is enough blame to go around. These poor kids are the victims not the vindictive Mom trying to sabotage her ex's life.. and mr. "SHE STARTED IT!!!!" Has no excuse either. Shame on his dumb azz for speaking to his children that way. Kudos for taking a shred of accountability... but that's about it. Hope the help helped 4 him
She is super self righteous! Both of them is super immature.
well, it’s quite easy for a crowd to laugh at other people's problems as if they don’t have some of their own. it’s only entertainment for them and while they may find it hilarious I’m glad they have no issues of their own that they don’t have to share
Don't be so childish.
It's actually useful feedback to those involved, that their petty arguments are ridiculous.
Each side feels entitled, when they are as bad as each other.
The audience provides some useful feedback, if they choose to see it, and use it.
@@diane4488 I’m going to say it again it is not useful feedback to see others Laugh at other people's situations. I understand the context of the video, but that’s not what I was talking about. Your point is not relevant to the point I made earlier from which you’re posting a comment. Have a nice day.
@@AntonShields
I shall say it again. Dr Phil takes these cases very seriously, and does a lot of good, often with the participants, and also with the audience, at home.
I've learned so much from watching his shows, as have millions of others.
Sometimes when you are in a situation you cannot see that it's ridiculous, or irrelevant, and lose sight of the priorities.
You cannot see the wood, for the trees.
It should be useful to realise that you've got caught up in the drama, and forgotten for your values.
You are making it out to be something that it is not.
It's not Gerry Springer.
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@@AntonShieldsyou absolutely refused to actually read what they wrote. Thats just pathetic and cowardly.
That guy is full of it. Go get prescription anxiety medication, but he won’t do that because it matters more to him to be high than to have his kids. Also, pay your child support those are your kids and your responsibility too!
His mom too!
Big pharma drugs better than cannabis?
Oh he smokes pot. There’s the problem right there. This show is a good advertisement for staying single. I was married and divorced twice, #1 abandoning his two little babies and #2 became physically abusive to me and my kids. Then I worked for lawyers doing family court work for ten out of my 23 year career. That ten years in family court was a total burnout job. I wouldn’t get married again if someone put a gun to my head.
@@miles-thesleeper-monroe8466pot is bad for you. Ever hear of marijuana psychosis? You potheads are unbelievable.
Prescription drugs are much much worse and a lot of times lethal. Pot is natural and much better for anxiety.
I don't trust anyone who describes someone as "She's always following the path of the devil". This was said by Kimberly's mother while talking about Brad's mother. This whole family is screwed up and unless Dr Phil has a magic wand none of them are going to change.
"I pushed you. YOU fell into the wall". OMG!!!
😂right? Always someone else’s fault 🙄
Then in the next breath he said he NEVER laid hands on her. He’s a walking 🚩🚩🚩
So stop smoking pot. Pretty simple
Pot has absolutely nothing to do with it, educate yourself about that because you don’t know a thing about it.
@@xxxx-qo9dh I do know the dangers. I studied the subject of my degree.
Marijuana is an addictive substance. Lots of people use it casually, without major issues, but for many it is damaging.
@@xxxx-qo9dhpot is a drug IF you can't do with out it!!!! Then the problem is with you.
All 4 of these people are incredibly immature.
15 minutes and he's been getting reamed and deservedly so but she keeps smirking like she's enjoying ever minute of it. I'm guessing she's guilty of parental alienation and neither are suitable parents. God help those kids
You are right sort of...yes it is Parental Alienation by the mother.
The Father has Reactive Abuse, I totally relate...when you have your back against the wall dealing with the PA anything will and does get used against you.
He is a Targeted Parent, who has no idea what just happened to his family.
He is not perfect and made stupid mistakes..but She is the Narc.
Wow! Both families are toxic and trashy.
Not a decent person amongst them.
Moral: If your own family is trashy, try and get involved with a partner who is from a better family - or you'll be living a dreadful life, like these.
It’s definitely safe to say that the children’s ENTIRE CIRCLE of family all have some major issues they gotta work out, it’s a circle of straight toxicity. I pray it has gotten better for everyone but importantly the kids.
Im on Brads side.. I get bad vibes from Kimberly... When you know you know.. I think Brad suffers from depression yes but she does nothing for him except constantly bash and demean him... Shes 100% part of his problems...👍🏻
I agree.
Using kids as pawns between each other is pure stupidity. Do not involve the kids in your arguments with each other.
Kids are very bright and can make their own judgements about what is going on.
Abuse - using children as pawns
@@summerdandorf8706 both parents are! They both are fighting in front of the kids and using them as pawns. No parent has the right to do that or call the other parent names in front of them.
The mother is definitely a problem but the minute someone threatens to hit my child or bites my child, no matter how lightly, is the minute I go into beast mode.
Did he smoke 30k
Child support
I am 11 minutes in and I love how the mom hasn’t said a single word because Dr. Phil is covering it pretty well 😂 anyway, I don’t believe he’s only using weed. Classic signs of addiction to something other than weed.
Weed can do a number on someone with untreated mental health issues.
But then she started talking and it got worse. She is a manipulative person and very controlling. She admitted to making lists and audio tapes of this guy's faults. Very weird.
As a kid who was born addicted, I know certain things. He's stumbling over his words, aka sluring, he's most likely high when this was filmed
Sometimes you have to write what theyre doing and video tape for evidence when you finally leave and need help...@sugarmagnolia1360
The mom is no angel. Pretty vindictive .
Trying to figure out why the mom was crying at the end. I think part of her still loves him and is grateful he might get clean, and if she doesn’t love him, she’s glad for their children’s sake. Those were tears of relief and hope. But she needs therapy, too. So do the kids.
Her mother is a huge problem. Imagine saying his mom was demonic. She’s a smug bully. His might be a problem, too, but I didn’t see it nearly as much. The jealous reaction over the baby was insane. Drugs do terrible things to people, and his children have seen it, but I’d be surprised if after all this squabbling, one of them doesn’t start using, too.
Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger by the way you treat them. Rather, bring them up with the discipline and instruction that comes from the Lord.
Yes!! Parents forget this all the time.
Who?
Your pseudonym speaks volumes. Say WHAT?
@@antoinettenovella1630 warns fathers, 'Do not embitter your children'
Amen🙏🙌
This step mum needs to ge VERY far away from her stepson 😢😢
Wow what a family. She said he said … Feel so sad for the kids..Hope Brad gets help but Kim does too…
Exactly.
The kids should be taken away from both of these people.
The two grandmothers are the blond and brunette version of each other.
I hope Dr Phil is right about one parent trying to score points with their children and badmouthing the other parent will backfire. Parental alienation is extremely painful. It’s like a glowing ember on your heart, when the wind blows the ember burns harder
The mothers mother is something else
Those two women, mother and daughter, are toxic and so sanctimonious it's disgusting.
She gets upset and yells .... that's what she thinks is her only ownership in this? She is so self centered and truly believes that she does nothing wrong. I wouldn't be surprised if she HAS poisoned their kids against him. He's got responsibility in all of this, yes. He at least admits it. SHE is the problem.
Hey Lady it takes Evil to know Evil! Stop using your kids as a pawn! Have been in that situation & your only damaging your relationship with your children!
HEY SCOTT, this does not make him appear to be a better person. This does not work in parenthood. Be the better parent. Be a healthy influence on your children. This is all that matters.
This wife is 💯 manipulating the system. God bless these kids they stand no chance at normal interpersonal skills with these two generations.
Wow text to the daughter was one of the most vile and disgusting things I've seen a parent say
Rule of thumb, live your children more than you hate your ex
Stop smoking pot and see your children, nope not going to stop smoking pot but its her fault cause she's withholding the kids, typical.
Why are you focusing on the fact that he is smoking pot. Everyone has a bad habit. It was clearly stated that he took care of the kids, cleaned the house, took them to school and prepared meals for his wife when she came back from work… she comes home and starts nagging… she is also part of this… all he needs is help from addiction which he is about to get…
@@henry-h9g6d if stop smoking dope is what is needed to start seeing his kids again, then i hope he does that. They will grow up, become adults and then he can do whatever he wants. Now he is making it worse for himself and playing in her hand, making her look good.
The wife’s smile. Creepy
These are toxic people. Poor children😳
His wife used his kids against him in a bad way. I feel sorry for him
OH YES, POOR HIM, HE DID NOT CONTRIBUTE AT ALL TO HOW THEY FEEL ABOUT HIM
Im only half way through but im not entirely sure its all the guys fault, he’s no saint by any means but I dont think its 100% his fault
This guy is more of a child than his daughters. He has chosen between pot and his kids, he chose pot. He chose between his pot smoking girl friend and his kids. He is making these choices not to be a parent, not his ex-wife. He doesn't have friends because he can't keep them. Since his choice in life is drugs, he can pretend they are his family. I have smoked pot, never as a way to relieve anxiety. Pot is a fun time, that is all it is. If you can't live life without it you have no real life., I know many people who in their adulthood who smoke pot, go to work, drive their cars and then go home and veg. At some point this becomes all they want and are happy with. Now after it has become legal in many states they are coming out with the truth about it, which is it can cause paranoia and mental illness in some people. Do you really want to take that chance. If I know someone is high I don't even want to know them or be around them, that is my choice.
The audience being encouraged to laugh is very disrespectful
It's discomfort with these 4 absurd people making absurd claims and accusations. People often laugh in discomfort. It's not disrespect . It the olden times they'd throw rotten fruit and vegetables and the stupidity. Remember also these 4 put their soap opera on stage.
@@joywebster2678 I mean but they’re adults. Keep it together! These people are exposing their most intimate things to Dr Phil and the world to get help! Not to be ridiculed! For them it’s not ridiculous!
@paxsmile didn't say it's ridiculous, said the audience is uncomfortable and don't know what to do. And you claimed they are encouraged to laugh.
@@joywebster2678 but they are being ridiculed and yes, they are being encouraged to laugh. Very unbecoming of a Doctor.
Dear Brad. If you don't want your kids to hate you, then don't give them reason to.
Those text messages are indicative of his demeanor around them.
I hope he got help.
And that it helped.
Everyone is toxic and dysfunctional. Poor kids.😢
She is devious and calculating. She knows how to create a trap for him to fall into and I can't work out which is worse, a drug addict or a devious, scornful woman
I feel so bad for the kids. They are the ones suffering.
I feel Phil didn't go hard enough with the mom. He pulled up a lot of stuff she did to him that was wrong, and Phil didn't address a single one.
Sad and heartbreaking
I was young and clueless like this woman. 2 weeks after I turned 18 I married a man 10 years older than myself who hid his addiction from me. It took me 3 years to figure it out. I tried to leave 3 times by that time it had been more than 10 years and we had 4 kids. I got full custody. My ex died from cocaine use before the youngest was grown. This man does remind me of my ex.
If you are dating a single parent, I can give some useful advice. Stop acting like you have any type of parental role. If you have gotten to the point where you are expected to watch the kids, follow these simple rules: If the child is misbehaving, call the parent on the phone to deal with it in which ever way they see fit, if any. If parent is not available you simply delay the disciplinary action to when they get home. I've left my kids with a neighbour or an uncle to watch them, it is the same thing. You are a responsible adult to make sure they don't die, that's about it. You are not a parent, you don't raise them and you don't get a say, stop pretending you do and you will be so much happier. The shift towards having a more significant role in kids life is a very slow and contingent matter, which may or may not materialise, regardless of relationship status or even marriage. We are the Free Kids from Clueless Step-parents movement and these are our demands!!
Or better yet DONT date till your kids are 18. Deadliest thing for a child is a step parent.
This is so black and white. Being a stepmom is a complicated relationship. I left all the disciplining to my husband. His ex wife didn't have custody and she was an evil, angry woman always causing problems. Tried to manipulate her son to hate his father and me. Bottom line, it's about raising a healthy child.
"You are not a parent, you don't raise them and you don't get a say" WOW how entitled, the step-parent doesn't get a say about your child's bad behaviour when you expect them to babysit your kids. My kids and only I get a say *UNTIL* you want the step-parent to contribute to paying for YOUR brat kids. Single mothers at their finest, not looking for love looking for an ATM to fund her mistakes 🤬
@@Kelly-oe8krI couldn't agree more. Step-fathers are basically told to shut up, take the abuse, and thank the mother for allowing him to pay for it all.
@@Kelly-oe8kr let's see, I'm a happily married step mum for 20 years. My step daughter, based on our relationship, was the one who gradually let me into her life, and she is now an adult whom I adore and brings me joy with my step grandbaby. That's why I was sharing advice to other step parents. But hey, we all got your message: you really hate single mums and money determines your life decisions. Got it.
This is a classic example of why men leave the ol wore out whiny relationship and find someone fresh and not judgmental.
You can tell that his ex loves to push his buttons she really loves it and her mother loves being in the center of it and start it as well
NEWSFLASH … kids need and want BOTH THEIR PARENTS ..!get it together folks
Many grow up very well with none, others 1 some 3 or 4. Families are complicated no one size fits all and not all parents deserve children
@cg9616 please stop. The reason it takes 2 to make one is because it's better for 2 to raise one also. Biologically and developmentally
The whole lot of adults will never growup. Pity the kids who have to grow up amongst such poor role models!
My grandparents weren’t good parents to my father or his 3 siblings when they were kids. But my father was never anything like to me or my mother.
Divorce doesn’t have be messy. Put your pettiness aside and co-parent your children. My parents did it and I am blessed to have had it.
I hate it when it's the mother won't let the father see or the Father won't let the mother see they're both equal parents only a judge can decide that
He isn;t passing his drug tests, and it is court ordered that he must pass them to see his kids.
There is alot more wrong with this man than drugs..
Urgent emergency please join me in prayer for all those affected families children animals suffering hurting all around the world having all medical problems having difficult situations paying rent bills evictions hungry prayer for the lost to get saved facing all difficult situations fighting to survive keep the faith God will show you the way in the end we will be victorious with the Lord praise God praying for everyone Everyday God bless you all....
Amen
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Get over it
Amen
You dont need demons & devils & sadists when you have the " lord" with You!😅
Some Lord indeed!
Some people will say both sides are doing wrongdoing, and some will say I can’t believe they’re doing this to the children, however, what will hardly be said is how emotional abuse which is most often undocumented and often not believed or not credible unless it’s a woman have made men understand how valueless they are.
So he’s just a drug-using husband who doesn’t love his kids because he does drugs. She’s never done anything to him emotionally or physically, and if only he got help, the situation would be completely different and everything will be a bunch of roses and petals I guess that’s the point of the video.
I’m sorry Dr Phil, but some women do not deserve respect. Respect is earned, not just because of gender. Men and women should not disrespect each other. I had a very abusive daughter in law, my son was terrified of her and after 23 years he became so ill he had to be hospitalised and she wouldn’t pay for it from his money, she didn’t work, she asked us to pay. While he was in hospital she divorced him. 8 years later he is back to the happy person he was before they met. He’s 55 !
Some ppl actually enjoy being in toxic marriages. They thrive on the drama and there's a lot of passion but it mainly comes out destructive. I'm so much happier since I'm no longer in a passionate yet drama filled marriage. I didn't thrive on it. This episode just reminded me of some ugly days. However my older brother is still in this type marriage. I can't believe they've stuck it through for decades. His wife has been threatening to poison him off and on 4ever. He laughs, but she means it. I wouldn't be surprised when she finally does. She's a shrew but he puts up with it, so I don't pity him.
I am no expert, but if I had to diagnose him, I'd definitely say he is either Bipolar, narcissistic, and possibly Bordeline Personality, or a combination of all 3. So so sad to see how a father could say those insane things and then try to justify it.
These things you speak of are all causes of demons. He has let his temple be overrun with demons and that is what you are when you do unfortunately ppl just don't see it. 😢💔
“I have a problem with an addiction. I smoke marijuana.” The HEIGHT of ignorance right there 😳
$800 /month.. is not enough for 3 kids..rent, utilities, food, clothes….stop buying marijuana and spend it on the kids 🎉
$800 is plenty. If $800 is his contribution, and $800 is hers, that's $1600 a month for three kids. That's is more than enough to support the children, she has to pay rent and utilities anyway.
It’s not supposed to be used for the bills. It’s supposed to be for the things like shoes and clothing. But the same time the other parent should Not be living above their means. If they can’t live that way without the extra money from child support they should reevaluate their budget and make better choices. 34:43
I don't think it's just marijuana he's smoking in front of the kids 😢
@@Spooky_pookie that's not true at all, and is something that stupid men don't seem to understand. They think that because they send child support, the kid is supposed to have new clothes and shoes all of the time.
He is a total text book narcissist. It’s all because she has drawn boundaries and will not accept his bad behavior. He blames everything. He is a narc. He thinks it’s just drugs.
See, this is why it's good to listen to both sides. These women who get the dedicated husbands drive them crazy by yelling, nagging, till she nagged him into addiction then turn around and blame him for what he becomes. Cruel. Then use the children against him, calling CPS , Horrible.
I'm also someone who grew up without any alcohol in my life because my parents rarely drank (the occasional glass at christmas) and so I also completely missed the fact my partner was an alcoholic because at first he was really good at hiding it. It *IS* a thing regardless of how Dr phil scoffs at her. I'd also say that he needs tp be kept well away from those kids. Who does the girlfriend think she is, threaning to beat the kids with a spatula?! Kids should never go there again. Supervised visutation only, permanently, full stop. And his mother - marches in the house, grabs the kid out of bed and goes downstairs to show them off....who the heck does SHE think she is?
Same here. Grew up with alcohol being rarely present in the house. Married a man who 'enjoyed a drink' so I had no frame of reference as far as excessive drinking and its effect had. Turned out he was an alcoholic. Died at age 34. Put all my efforts into raising healthy and secure children and never even considered marrying again.
I also didn't know", I knew he had some beers" ..but my parents didn't drink so I didn't know. Thankfully he was never mean, just sorry.
Lived this battle with my grandkids for years. Kids missed so much
I dont trust that woman one bit. She seems very vindictive
The way that father spoke to his daughter, no matter what, when or where.......
Deal breaker!
Agreed
Agree
BUT YOU TRUST HIM
@@trulovegirl he comes away from this looking like the victim. He’s had his children taken from him by a vindictive woman whose only goal is to hurt him. Yea we are on his side for sure
I am so thankful and feel so blessed that my family and friends don't even think of insulting each other insuch a way.🙏🙏🙏🙏
MARIJUANA IS NOT DOPE!!!!!! METH IS DOPE!!!!!!
Any drug can be considered dope. Fyi
Marijuana is legal in most states for a reason. It's medicinal. It's probably working for him in a good way. It's better than prescription pills!
Driving and smoking isn't legal though, I got a DUI for it lol
Way better but when at home, when no kids are around and definitely not while operating any kind af machinery.
I would never leave my plants alone with that girlfriend let alone my kids
Did you see the look of total disappointment when Dr. Phil said he would put them in family counseling together? She did not look happy at all.
Riddle me this, if he is physically abusing you throwing it through walls and is such a bad man why didn't you have him arrested right then and there for abusing you? I'll wait