I 100% agree about the healthcare system. It’s horrific that mental health isn’t treated the way it should be. My husband was in the same boat with mental healthcare with our finances. It was a huge struggle to be able to afford it and it has made the biggest difference for him and for us as a family. I am so proud of you for taking care of yourself and for being so vulnerable online. The more we talk about mental health, the more the stigma can be removed. So much love to you 💜 I wish I could hug you 💜
Oh Alia, this is so sad to hear. I've been watching you for years & as strange as it is to say (because I have never actually spoken to you), I really care about you. I'll be praying for you momma. Praying that you have the courage and strength to speak with your therapist in an effective way to work your issues sooner than later - while simultaneously diminishing your feelings of guilt or resistance to getting help. I hope that you see getting help when you need it (to be the best wife and mother you can be) is something to be congratulated - especially when you have had negative connotations to it. Feel proud and strong momma that you are putting those fears aside for the greater benefit of yourself and your family. Every parent wants to be the best role model for their children and even though yours are young, I believe it still makes an impact showing them that it's okay to ask for help. The worst thing in the world is seeing a child who refuses to share their problems with others because they believe it's not acceptable. When you need to speak with your therapist, you can even tell your daughters something like "sometimes mommy feels sad and I'm going to talk to this nice lady who will help me to work through it and feel better. Anytime you are sad, know you can talk to me or daddy and we will help you feel better too." I've seen it in my 2.5 year old daughter that when I speak to her like an adult, she does understand - and at the very least the principle being instilled into her brain so she will be predisposed to believing said statements when she is old enough to make use of it. This was a bit long, but I hope you get something out of it. As a person who has been to therapists weekly for about half of my life, just know that it will take time, but the more open you are the quicker things can be dealt with. Therapists are trained to hear anything and everything without judgement. I hope you feel more at ease in the months to come. ♥
I couldn’t agree more. Disgusting is the absolute right word for our medical care-especially mental health. It seems if you fall in the in between as far resources/finances go, you’re just out of luck. I’m so sorry you had to wait so long but I’m so thankful your insurance changed this year and that resources are finally affordable for you. Thank you for your vulnerability and honesty.
Im right there with you. Im literally sobbing watching this because everyday since having my second (11mpp) has been hard... & I wish you the best mama 💗
I agree with you on everything you said.Its a good sign that you have put it out there.I am glad you are able to get the help you need.It is definitely disgusting that mental health is not taken seriously and help is not affordable because we all deserve to be here and be stable.I am also just now 6 months post partum. I hope your little one is doing great.Semding light and love from one mom to another 💛
Take care of yourself ♡ thank you for being real and you. Thank goodness that mental health is now being covered for you! Therapy always made me worse, way worse, before it got better. Sending you love ♡
It’s so unfortunate the services for mental health are not affordable/attainable when so many people could benefit from them. Glad to hear you were able to get help this time. Sending love and support your way ❤️
I know how you feel girl!! My husband had to sit me down & encourage me to reach out for help. Not only for myself but for our family. It took a lot of strength for me to go to my first appointment but I felt so great the moment I walked out & I look forward to what it will bring. I respect your honesty & appreciate your encouragement of others to get help. You are such a beautiful person. I pray that you begin to heal & that God blesses you in so may ways. 💜🤟🏻
Thank you so much❤️ I’m happy to hear that you have a partner that’s so supportive! Therapy has been hard but I’m confident in time it’ll help get me to a better place
Oh mama. You are not alone. I have struggled with depression and anxiety through out my life. I am super happy you are being taken care of. Everyone deserves access to good healthcare including mental health.
You keep amazing me. You are such a strong, relatable, real and strong woman. Thank you for being raw and authentic. The mental healht stigma is a real thing and by opening up the conversation we are naming it. Im there with you, take care of yourself so you can take better care of the ones you love. Always remember that you are the best mother to your children and they are blessed to have you (yes, even in your crappies days!). You are more than enough to them, you are their world, just as they are yours.... love and tight hugs from a follower, a struggler with life, a mom, a wife and a psychotherapist from Minnesota. 💕
My mom has had a struggle with mental health for a very long time. She has extreme anxiety and depression. She’s had two collapses in the last 15 years and it got so extreme that she had to get inpatient help. NONE of it was covered by insurance. All of it was private pay. We were so thankful that we had family that was able to help financially because no one else would. It’s sad how mental health is overlooked. I’m so glad your insurance is finally covering it! Take advantage of all the resources they give you. You’re mental health matters so much 🥰🥰
Thank you so much Melissa😭❤️ I’m sorry to hear your own momma has struggled so much and I hope she’s managing better now. It really is appalling the way they brush right over it as though it isn’t a huge part of someone’s health. I hope you’re all doing well❤️
I totally relate to this, im so sorry your going through this! I had a time where when i was pregnant, I all of a sudden started to develop severe anxiety and i had to cut down my work over 50% so when it came to looking for help, even my $50 copay every week to see someone I just had such a hard time spending even though i knew i needed it... i felt so guilty because now im not bringing in half the amount i normally do so im depending on my husband even more, and then to spend $200+ per month on therapy... it was soo hard..
I’m so glad you were finally able to get the help you needed. I could never understand why it’s so difficult to get mental health services. We were fortunate to be able to use a sliding scale with our son’s therapist, but that’s not always an option. I hope your mental health journey goes well and you start to see brighter days soon.
So sorry to hear you are struggling! I agree that I am glad you're taking the needed steps and are getting the help you need. Therapy is hard like you say, peeling back the layers, been there before.
After I had my first baby I struggled with my mental health off and on for over a year. It would seem better for a few weeks and then hit me again out of nowhere. I always felt such guilt about it and shame. I never told anyone except my husband. He said I should seek help but I knew we just couldn't afford it. I won't say placating things but just know that you are not alone and I'm sure more women than just myself stand behind you and want to give you their support. ❤
I went thorough a difficult patch as well.. I’ve been thinking bout getting help, but like you said, it’s not as easy 😕 I’m glad you’re doing what’s best for you 🥰
❤😭❤😭 girl you are such an amazing person!! You are doing the RIGHT thing!!! You're literally doing the best thing possible!! And you are absolutely an encouragement for all of us moms out there just trying to survive and care for ourselves and our family! Prayers for you and your wonderful family a
I am 8 months post partum as I am typing this message. I am struggling with ppd! It is way worse with my second pregnancy then my first. During the last trimester of my second pregnancy I started to have panic attacks while driving! Never happened to me before, ever! The stress is unreal, not working and trying to exclusively pump for our 8 month old daughter who has been cutting teeth for 5 months. The screaming and crying by her is unbearable for my mental sanity, not to mention the letdown that she causes. The making sure our 7 year old gets her school work done because of this virus. She is struggling and I’m struggling to help her. In a world of uncertainty, frustration and fears I completely can relate. Yes, I agree insurance sucks in this country, what is the point of it when people can’t afford the copays or astronomical deductibles because there is only one income due to the virus and you choose to put diapers on your kids butt instead of your copay to the counselor. I feel that post partum depression in this country should be followed from birth of your child! Not the stupid questionnaire that you get at your 5 week post partum checkup! I struggled for those 5 weeks, big time. My poor hubby, seeing me struggle and doing his best to help. I hear you and I too am going thru similar situation. Sending you a hug 🤗.
Oh momma, I wish I could reach through the phone and hug you. It sounds like you’re the best mom trying to do everything she can with what she has. I hope soon things ease up and less things are on your plate so you’re able to get some help too. I completely agree. How is it okay to have one postpartum appointment when our babies 8 in their first year alone? Things need to desperately change. Sending a hug right back❤️
You are amazing. Mental health is a hard topic to talk about. I struggle with it myself. I finally started out loud that I am not okay. I need help. I am so very glad that you are getting the help you need and deserve ♡ hopefully soon I will be able to get some help myself.
It never should have taken this long for you to get the help you were seeking. The system should be ashamed that they treat people like this. You shouldn't feel bad about yourself. You have been through so much. You are worthy of help hun. Continue being the awesome person you are.
It is really brave of you to be so vulnerable with your viewers. It is unconscionable how restricted access to mental health care is. I fully understand where you're coming from there. It's not always easy to get help regardless of how much you need it. I'm thankful that you're insurance coverage has changed to include mental health services. You are awesome. You will get healthy. You have your UA-cam friends rooting for you too.🥰
Your healthcare system seems horrific; it is so awful to hear that people are being denied essential health services, I'm so glad that you're finally able to get the help that you deserve. I feel like I relate to what you are saying in so many ways and I really admire your bravery in sharing your story with others; it is so helpful to know that we're not alone. I know it will take time but I hope that things will start to get better for you soon, you really deserve it. Sending you lots of love and positive thoughts.
I’m so glad you’re taking care of yourself! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
I 100% agree about the healthcare system. It’s horrific that mental health isn’t treated the way it should be. My husband was in the same boat with mental healthcare with our finances. It was a huge struggle to be able to afford it and it has made the biggest difference for him and for us as a family. I am so proud of you for taking care of yourself and for being so vulnerable online. The more we talk about mental health, the more the stigma can be removed. So much love to you 💜 I wish I could hug you 💜
Oh Alia, this is so sad to hear. I've been watching you for years & as strange as it is to say (because I have never actually spoken to you), I really care about you. I'll be praying for you momma. Praying that you have the courage and strength to speak with your therapist in an effective way to work your issues sooner than later - while simultaneously diminishing your feelings of guilt or resistance to getting help. I hope that you see getting help when you need it (to be the best wife and mother you can be) is something to be congratulated - especially when you have had negative connotations to it. Feel proud and strong momma that you are putting those fears aside for the greater benefit of yourself and your family. Every parent wants to be the best role model for their children and even though yours are young, I believe it still makes an impact showing them that it's okay to ask for help. The worst thing in the world is seeing a child who refuses to share their problems with others because they believe it's not acceptable. When you need to speak with your therapist, you can even tell your daughters something like "sometimes mommy feels sad and I'm going to talk to this nice lady who will help me to work through it and feel better. Anytime you are sad, know you can talk to me or daddy and we will help you feel better too." I've seen it in my 2.5 year old daughter that when I speak to her like an adult, she does understand - and at the very least the principle being instilled into her brain so she will be predisposed to believing said statements when she is old enough to make use of it. This was a bit long, but I hope you get something out of it. As a person who has been to therapists weekly for about half of my life, just know that it will take time, but the more open you are the quicker things can be dealt with. Therapists are trained to hear anything and everything without judgement. I hope you feel more at ease in the months to come. ♥
I couldn’t agree more. Disgusting is the absolute right word for our medical care-especially mental health. It seems if you fall in the in between as far resources/finances go, you’re just out of luck. I’m so sorry you had to wait so long but I’m so thankful your insurance changed this year and that resources are finally affordable for you. Thank you for your vulnerability and honesty.
Im right there with you. Im literally sobbing watching this because everyday since having my second (11mpp) has been hard... & I wish you the best mama 💗
Oh momma, I’m sorry❤️ I hope you’re able to reach out to someone for yourself. You deserve to feel better too💕
Getting help is such a brave step. I agree with all that you said about the healthcare system in the US. 💗
I agree with you on everything you said.Its a good sign that you have put it out there.I am glad you are able to get the help you need.It is definitely disgusting that mental health is not taken seriously and help is not affordable because we all deserve to be here and be stable.I am also just now 6 months post partum. I hope your little one is doing great.Semding light and love from one mom to another 💛
Take care of yourself ♡ thank you for being real and you. Thank goodness that mental health is now being covered for you!
Therapy always made me worse, way worse, before it got better.
Sending you love ♡
It’s so unfortunate the services for mental health are not affordable/attainable when so many people could benefit from them. Glad to hear you were able to get help this time. Sending love and support your way ❤️
I know how you feel girl!! My husband had to sit me down & encourage me to reach out for help. Not only for myself but for our family. It took a lot of strength for me to go to my first appointment but I felt so great the moment I walked out & I look forward to what it will bring. I respect your honesty & appreciate your encouragement of others to get help. You are such a beautiful person. I pray that you begin to heal & that God blesses you in so may ways. 💜🤟🏻
Thank you so much❤️ I’m happy to hear that you have a partner that’s so supportive! Therapy has been hard but I’m confident in time it’ll help get me to a better place
I'm so happy you are able to get the help you need. 💕 You deserve to be happy
So proud of your transparency. Big hugs and prayers friend
Thank you so much❤️
Sending you lots of strength and love. Thank you for being so open.
Oh mama. You are not alone. I have struggled with depression and anxiety through out my life.
I am super happy you are being taken care of. Everyone deserves access to good healthcare including mental health.
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You keep amazing me. You are such a strong, relatable, real and strong woman. Thank you for being raw and authentic. The mental healht stigma is a real thing and by opening up the conversation we are naming it. Im there with you, take care of yourself so you can take better care of the ones you love. Always remember that you are the best mother to your children and they are blessed to have you (yes, even in your crappies days!). You are more than enough to them, you are their world, just as they are yours.... love and tight hugs from a follower, a struggler with life, a mom, a wife and a psychotherapist from Minnesota. 💕
😭😭😭😭❤️❤️❤️ thank you so much. Your guys support means so much💕
My mom has had a struggle with mental health for a very long time. She has extreme anxiety and depression. She’s had two collapses in the last 15 years and it got so extreme that she had to get inpatient help. NONE of it was covered by insurance. All of it was private pay. We were so thankful that we had family that was able to help financially because no one else would. It’s sad how mental health is overlooked. I’m so glad your insurance is finally covering it! Take advantage of all the resources they give you. You’re mental health matters so much 🥰🥰
Thank you so much Melissa😭❤️ I’m sorry to hear your own momma has struggled so much and I hope she’s managing better now. It really is appalling the way they brush right over it as though it isn’t a huge part of someone’s health. I hope you’re all doing well❤️
I totally relate to this, im so sorry your going through this! I had a time where when i was pregnant, I all of a sudden started to develop severe anxiety and i had to cut down my work over 50% so when it came to looking for help, even my $50 copay every week to see someone I just had such a hard time spending even though i knew i needed it... i felt so guilty because now im not bringing in half the amount i normally do so im depending on my husband even more, and then to spend $200+ per month on therapy... it was soo hard..
It’s so hard to look at ourselves as a priority😔
I’m so glad you were finally able to get the help you needed. I could never understand why it’s so difficult to get mental health services. We were fortunate to be able to use a sliding scale with our son’s therapist, but that’s not always an option. I hope your mental health journey goes well and you start to see brighter days soon.
So sorry to hear you are struggling! I agree that I am glad you're taking the needed steps and are getting the help you need. Therapy is hard like you say, peeling back the layers, been there before.
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After I had my first baby I struggled with my mental health off and on for over a year. It would seem better for a few weeks and then hit me again out of nowhere. I always felt such guilt about it and shame. I never told anyone except my husband. He said I should seek help but I knew we just couldn't afford it. I won't say placating things but just know that you are not alone and I'm sure more women than just myself stand behind you and want to give you their support. ❤
You are a rockstar hang in there! 😍
I went thorough a difficult patch as well.. I’ve been thinking bout getting help, but like you said, it’s not as easy 😕 I’m glad you’re doing what’s best for you 🥰
I hope you’re able to reach out and get help momma. It’s uncomfortable and it’s been hard but I know in time that’ll help it get better❤️
Hugs!! Praying 🙏 💜
I'm in the process of weaning off of Buproprion...it has been a slow process...I was on it for postpartum depression.
❤😭❤😭 girl you are such an amazing person!! You are doing the RIGHT thing!!! You're literally doing the best thing possible!! And you are absolutely an encouragement for all of us moms out there just trying to survive and care for ourselves and our family! Prayers for you and your wonderful family a
Thank you so much😭❤️
This too shall pass Momma, hang in there.
Thank you❤️
I am 8 months post partum as I am typing this message. I am struggling with ppd! It is way worse with my second pregnancy then my first. During the last trimester of my second pregnancy I started to have panic attacks while driving! Never happened to me before, ever! The stress is unreal, not working and trying to exclusively pump for our 8 month old daughter who has been cutting teeth for 5 months. The screaming and crying by her is unbearable for my mental sanity, not to mention the letdown that she causes. The making sure our 7 year old gets her school work done because of this virus. She is struggling and I’m struggling to help her. In a world of uncertainty, frustration and fears I completely can relate. Yes, I agree insurance sucks in this country, what is the point of it when people can’t afford the copays or astronomical deductibles because there is only one income due to the virus and you choose to put diapers on your kids butt instead of your copay to the counselor. I feel that post partum depression in this country should be followed from birth of your child! Not the stupid questionnaire that you get at your 5 week post partum checkup! I struggled for those 5 weeks, big time. My poor hubby, seeing me struggle and doing his best to help. I hear you and I too am going thru similar situation. Sending you a hug 🤗.
Oh momma, I wish I could reach through the phone and hug you. It sounds like you’re the best mom trying to do everything she can with what she has. I hope soon things ease up and less things are on your plate so you’re able to get some help too. I completely agree. How is it okay to have one postpartum appointment when our babies 8 in their first year alone? Things need to desperately change. Sending a hug right back❤️
You are amazing. Mental health is a hard topic to talk about. I struggle with it myself. I finally started out loud that I am not okay. I need help. I am so very glad that you are getting the help you need and deserve ♡ hopefully soon I will be able to get some help myself.
Sending love your way Mama! ❤
I’m so sorry you are going through this. Mental health for mommas is important.
Thank you Brittania❤️
I’ve been there..feel better momma we love ya💕
I hope you feel better! If it’s therapy you’re speaking of I would look around! I’ve gotten sessions for $100 and just do one a month.
Thank you❤️
It's so disgusting how getting help for mental health issue is such a costly matter. This is something that should be more in reach for all of us.
It never should have taken this long for you to get the help you were seeking. The system should be ashamed that they treat people like this. You shouldn't feel bad about yourself. You have been through so much. You are worthy of help hun. Continue being the awesome person you are.
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That's awesome that you're getting help! Others opinions don't matter. It's great to know that these services are finally getting paid for.
It is really brave of you to be so vulnerable with your viewers. It is unconscionable how restricted access to mental health care is. I fully understand where you're coming from there. It's not always easy to get help regardless of how much you need it. I'm thankful that you're insurance coverage has changed to include mental health services. You are awesome. You will get healthy. You have your UA-cam friends rooting for you too.🥰
Thank you😭❤️
I’m so glad you are able to get help- I hope it has and continues to heal you. You’re awesome no matter what ❤️
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Your healthcare system seems horrific; it is so awful to hear that people are being denied essential health services, I'm so glad that you're finally able to get the help that you deserve. I feel like I relate to what you are saying in so many ways and I really admire your bravery in sharing your story with others; it is so helpful to know that we're not alone. I know it will take time but I hope that things will start to get better for you soon, you really deserve it. Sending you lots of love and positive thoughts.
I couldn’t agree more. The system should be ashamed and needs a desperate overhaul. I hope you’re doing well and thank you so much❤️❤️
So happy you are getting the therapy finally
And sending you lots of love in your journey to feeling better 💕💕💕💕
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You’re in my prayers 💕
Sending love, light, and positivity your way 💞💞
Sending hugs ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Thank you🤍🤍
You’re your own worst critic. Good for you for getting the help you need. You can’t pour from an empty cup.
Take care of yourself mama. We are here for you ❤️